Okay, yes, he messed up, but it's not true that no man would want her now because she's got children. My aunt had two children, by two different guys, and my uncle still married her. My daughter's father just got married to a woman who's got 3 children from a previous relationship. His ex-wife also had four children from her previous marriage. So, not all men are created equal.
Men come make their mess then run off. If you do have kids. As I did with my ex husband. Have only one. My ex wanted 3. I was like hell no. He was a monster. He ended up cheating on me. Fighting me for custody. Then marrying his affair partner. 3 years after our divorce he killed himself. Save yourself!!
Him too. 😢 they both hurt so bad. Regardless of whose wrong, or if nobody’s wrong. If they’re both equally as wrong. Her and him hurt so much. And it’s so sad. I’m not trying to lift one sex above the other in this comment. In my observation, they were just two beautiful people, and it just didn’t work.
To me, this statement (and the context of their conversation and what was said on both sides) suggests that he lacked/lacks integrity of character, because if he sees things the same way as her, it would be nice for him to have the courage to live it through authentically and without wavering.
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That loneliness where she says she felt single... That's how I feel in my marriage. It's hard. Eventually you do have to give up if the other person refuses to be a partner.
Think that was just bad wording on his part. Immediately after he said “I self sabotaged the whole way.”. So she had no chance because the way he acted didn’t allow her to have one regardless of how great she was in the relationship.
I agree, I felt he actually had a humble attitude towards the situation. He took personal responsibility... its sad though that they didn't just get therapy. seems that would have helped.
He said “my” children...... She said “our” children....... That is all I needed to hear , to fully understand why this partnership didn’t work . She is looking for we .....and he sees things as me .
Sounds like he was fine having her be the mother to his children because she has positive motherly qualities (in his opinion) but he never saw or imagined her as his wife. Some men don't see motherly qualities AND wife qualities in the same woman. I'm sorry she ended up as that role. She deserves to be more than someone's temporary incubator & eternal babysitter. She deserves a husband who loves and cherishes her as his wife & life partner. I hope she finds that.
Gallardo 5Million Wait, I'm confused. What does that misogynistic, incorrect statement have to do with what I originally said? Where in the video did he say he had children with multiple women? 🤔 My statement said (I'll summarize it for you to make it easier): This man was okay with having children with this (1) woman, but had no intentions of marrying her. In his opinion, she was maternal enough to be a mother but lacked qualities of a wife. Tbh, I think if she knew that beforehand, she wouldn't have had his children. She deserves to find someone who desires her as a life partner; a wife.
Gallardo 5Million That is utter BS! LUST is what you're talking about ul and lust was not in Nature's design it was created by Society. God created man and woman to be with one person and one person only and that is their spouse. My fiance is proof of that. You cannot tell me otherwise.
kiersten ellis Yes you are right! As I was saying to him last is a societal Man created thing and is not natural. Men and women were designed by God to be with one person and one person only. I am 33 years old and I never ever knew that until I finally found my match. There is literally one person out there for each person and we were designed to only be intimate with that one person who is our twin.
@@Amy_Nicole_Sabas It means Claire (and maybe you?) is hoping that they will get back together because she's the one that brought him children but I don't think that is going to happen. He seems confused and not ready to make up with her.
If she watches this, I don’t see how she could be friends with him. At least it would take a long time to get over the overwhelming resentment that she’d undoubtedly feel.
There's nothing worse than feeling alone when the person you love is sitting right next to you. That's how my 1st marriage was. I finally decided that if I was gonna feel alone I may as well BE alone. Thankfully, not for long. I soon met my current husband and life is great. To think I was blocking my blessings all of those years😍
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If I stuck with my ex and we got married, I’d imagine this is how it would’ve ended up. So glad that I left him. He’s so much like this guy. He blamed me for things going on in his life and he depended on me to carry him, but when I needed someone he wasn’t there for me.
That's exactly how my ex is... We just broke up so it's still fresh but I know now nothing would be better unless he learns to believe in himself and stop blaming others.
Lena F yeah, people like that aren’t gonna get far. They have to learn to take responsibility for themselves and not take their anger out on those around them. I remember once my ex blamed me for how he felt about his job. He told me that I wasn’t being supportive enough when I was literally trying everything I could to make him happy. It took me a long time to realize that it wasn’t my fault. I’m still pretty messed up from the relationship though. He tore me down a lot and some of the things he said to me have made me very insecure and left me feeling pretty damaged. I hope that he realizes his faults, and realizes how much I did for him. Not that that would change my mind about the relationship, but it would be nice if he at learned something from being with me.
It happened with my gf of 10 years, but the reverse where she was the one who wasn't connected with me anymore. She pretty much insulted my successes and even my weight loss and progress in my career.
I went through the exact same thing , I was constantly blamed for her problems and when I would express how I feel. I’d get shut down. She would basically make me feel like her issues were more important than mines because her problems were worst than mines. Glad I left. I’m so much happier now.
my first impression of them two when they came to sit down was that the female is still into him but the male is trying his best not to look at her in the eyes
Daisy B friendship needs to be a part of the relationship prior to marriage but the marital relationship is sacred, so therefore more important. Friendship is a cornerstone of that though. These two need "Retrouvialle"
That's very possible. And sad to see. But we all make mistakes, and there is so much beauty and love in seeing how these two could talk about the past like this without any resentment or anger towards one another.
When he said "she had no shot" he meant he was self sabotaging the whole relationship and even if she tried to make it work, she wouldn't have a chance because she pretty much checked out from the beginning.
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You could tell he wasn't and isn't in love with her . Loving someone and being in love are two different feelings. They confused friendship and feeling loved with being in love.
I think the reason why she said about confusion about being in love and loving someone. Its whent he guy admitted how some of the things he regretted. Like being more committed to their partner. People love someone because of the IDEA of the person of how good they are, and he admitted how hes one foot in and out. At least he admitted the mistake, they are okay now and good friends now..
thesupergreenjudy Hi, Are you referring that people are obsessed on how they felt at the beginning. For me, yes relationships takes work. Coz it’s for adult. But people need to understand that some people wants that feeling coz once people started being together for a long time, they loose that spark.. Coz I believe that feeling should last coz when u love someone truly, if doesn’t go away.. even if there are arguments it will never go away
virtuallyglorious dream girl/wife us an on going thing. You can't see the future. The person you are not isn't the person you'll be in 10 years. We pray we grow together. But sometimes that's not the case. Obviously it's easy to bring kids in while times are good.
Its not that simple. Guys do want both from the same person. Motherhood is hard and its easy to put all your energy into one thing and forget your partner. Then you grow apart.
i don't understand how she had to be the mother of his kids, but yet he doesn't think he should have married her... how can you be ready for a huge commitment like having kids, but not marriage?
Parenting is different then marriage though, cause everyone walks into parenting with knowing nothing. Marriage is having someone by your side to stand with, it's a title that's over rated and "must be done"
When he said “she didn’t have a real shot”....😢😢 He will never know the hurt of carrying a mans child that never loved you to begin with. I pray no one does that to his daughters.
He might have loved her. I interpret him saying “she didn’t have a real shot” as meaning having the marriage work. Sometimes two people can love each other, but they’re just a toxic couple for whatever reason (baggage, differing attachment styles, etc.)
He's always talking about her being a mother but never being a wife. Plus, she said their communication was very poor and she felt lonely. I think the reason it failed is that he wanted a nanny and didn't reciprocate her love.
@@AwesomesMan A lot of men just want the convenience of a marriage. Marriage benefits men more than women. Which is why women are miserable in marriage and initiate 70% of divorces. Go look up the psyche studies and stats on marriage. Most men admit afterwards that they were the problem.
This is a prime example of how difficult marriages are. Honeymoon stages fade and real life kicks in like finances, children, lack of sleep, job stress etc.. It's easy to forget how easy things once were once we start to face these challenges. Marriage is hard work but rewarding if two people are on the same page and willing to sacrifice for each other. I seriously thought they were going to reconsider at the end but I'm happy they are mature enough not to disrespect each other on the past and focus on coparenting for the sake of their children.
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Wow. After Reading the comments and watching the video, I realized that the guy I'm in love with will probably never be my significant other. And I guess that's okay.
Definitely. I was in love with someone who held secrets I found out about within a couple of months of dating. I left him still loving him but relieved God showed me his hidden life. There's nothing wrong with not getting serious with or ever dating the one you love. It could be a blessing in disguise.
So dramatic. You can be in love more than once in your life. If the person you are "in love" with right now doesn't want you or you're not compatible, then there is always someone else that you fit better with.
Sal Blasker they can't save the marriage because he never was in love with her and I don't believe he loved her. He was one foot out the entire time they were married.
Why? Judging by their answers they were never a good match to begin it. It's not surprising that they ended up divorcing, they should have never been married.
What's the solution though in he case of an in-compatibility? Religion, that says: no divorce, un-less one or both "parties" are in-fidel? Or, just: single forever?
Some times your soulmates doesn't have to be your significant other, it can just be a friend. But man, this was sad... but they have a special relationship that none of us will never really get.
He literally admitted that they argued during the wedding because of him. She deserved so so much better. I want to hug her. I hope she grows without him.
Their whole relationship was a rollercoaster tho. Thts enough to know tht they shouldnt have married or had kids. If she was suffering that bad, leave the dude! Tf!?
@@skyedge3407 he LITERALLY said she had no shot bc he self sabotaged the entire way, and that he wished he were kinder to her. How did you pick up that SHE way the selfish one?
Hopefully, she seems so involved in her kids and still has attachments with him.. l wish she could venture out and find a man who cherishes her more, she deserves it!!
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I feel like couples should do this, on a regular, or yearly basis just to stay connected. Especially married couples with kids because in the chaos of working to provide for those kids, you can totally forget these little moments of joy. Stopping to appreciate them keeps them alive.
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Sometimes, people are better off as friends. They truly embody that. They clearly still have love for each other but aren't in love. I'm glad they realized they are better off this way and I know their daughters will benefit from a peaceful relationship between their parents instead of anger.
fatima the giant Your comment is so true and I wish most people realized this! I've seen many couples try to stick it out and "stay together for the kids" only to end up fighting every night. That's not healthy for the parents or the kids.
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I really value the friendship they were able to build again instead of the hatred that usually builds against the other person. They understood that their marriage wasn't going to work, and the strong bond they have as friends now is probably better for them than a marriage would be. Where they are now is perfect, and they don't need to change a thing. Really loved this video! :)
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“I knew we shouldn’t have been married to begin with, so it wasn’t like I knew the marriage was ‘over.’ On top of that, I had pressure from my family. It wasn’t fair to her. And looking back, she had no shot (to be honest) with me.” Ouch. This poor woman fell victim to his selfish desire to conform to societal norms and now she is a divorced single mother.
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Trust me, as a Chinese Canadian born child of mule headed stubborn third world Chinese immigrants, this family pressure to marry is so much more hard than you can ever realize Which is exactly why I REFUSE to relent in my conviction NOT to marry regardless of what they try. For the sake of EVERYONE INCLUDING the Woman I’ll be with at whatever time in my life.
Well I'm sure you don't want to be left in in debt, life savings gambled and flirted with , in my next relationship I won't subscribe to the idea of setting up a joint account, I've learnt the hard way. The private investigator that helped me with evidences for my divorce settlements later confirmed to me that my credit score has taken a huge hit as a result of series of late payments and over drawn bank accounts. Y3llowl4bs agents offered me secured cards with a simple way to keep up with the payments and credit reporting to the major agencies so as to get my credit back up...2 months in and I'm saying its all good from this side .
I'm married and my husband and I have 2 little ones. We've been together 14 years. This is powerful to watch. Their story... it's so incredibly kind of them to share. It's also very vulnerable. They start and you know that they didn't stay together and then they speak about their feelings for one another, and memories, while the other is staring back at them. And then they get up and go on with their lives. I think I'd be lying in bed with heavy thoughts after all that. Very interesting, very moving.
Im surprised im the first one asking this or maybe just the bravest but what tips do you have for being with someone for 14 years? I feel like this couple didn't do a better job of communicating their feelings to each other.
Hi Abraham! *Communication is so important. Communication means talking about the good, bad, and ugly and working through it all. *If there are wounds, dig them out so the wound can heal. *Animosity is like an infection. Clean up the animosity. Really clean it up. *Anger is just a way of shielding something vulnerable, hurt. Remember that when arguing and it'll be easier to work through things. *If you say sorry, do not say it while angry. *Try not to go to bed angry. *While arguing, it's good to tell the other, "You're still my best friend or I still want to grow old with you, even though you suck right now." Humor makes a world of difference.
+Abraham Hassan - Please watch the music video on UA-cam, rise up by andra day. Being with someone after 14 years... the feeling that you get from that music video, that love. Through sickness, through tough times, through health, that's what I promised and that's what I mean. If you can get passed the silly bickering, the "picture" of what love "should" or "shouldn't" look like. There's no jealousy, no judgement, no winners or losers in love. Love doesn't come across to people like that these days. Ya, there are fights and ugly days but those pass, love doesn't and it's a mindset.
Im divorced and remarried, bout to be divorced again in all likelihood. If i could offer one piece of advice to anyone from my many mistakes, never forget your partner doesnt NEED you nor do you NEED them. Life goes on without them. But if you truly want it to work, be honest in most things, kind in all things and loyal always. And work as hard to keep the relationship together as you can. Cause divorce is easier than marriage any day.
She was right to move on. He would have made her life miserable and neither one of them would have been happy. He wasn't really in love with her but I'm glad that the divorce happened in order to salvage a good relationship between the two of them from their kids. Thanks for sharing this!
I think he loved her but not deeply. He might not know how to properly love so she deserves to find someone who is able to show his love as much as she does. The worst is being married and lonely.
Just Ash I also think so too. Now because of the distance, they both can think more clearly with some perspective and introspection rather than being stuck and having little of their, more so for her case, needs met.
He honestly doesn't seem like someone who would really want to be married until maybe later in life. I have a feeling that the culture his parents are came into play. Left to his own devices I doubt he would have married anyone.
They saw the red flags...they were just too young to recognize what would happen down the road. People never ask themselves if they are emotionally mature enough and can work well with others...before they go into a HUGE partnership.
I think its okay this way.... like my parents, they are better friends and not married... I am sure their children appreciate that they are good friends.. And any future partners will have to adapt.... because of the children the ex-wife will always be in the picture and its just healthier to include any new partners into the family.... I like that they appreciate each other still... and they have reflected on the event and explored the why..... very mature thinking....
Because of love. They had it once, why couldn’t they have it again. You can see it from her that she is still in love with him, its like forbidden love, they can’t go back because it didn’t work but there’s something there that gives us looking in, hope
mangomadness Because there is enough there that makes it seem plausible if they both wanted it and worked at it. They have matured and understand their faults. Once you have that, you just need to come up with solutions and put the work in.
He actually said that he is single, because other women don't understand his relationship with her now. That tells me that hes grown up alot and they probably have more of what she wanted the whole time, but hes not willing to give up the relationship they currently have for a woman who doesn't understand.
As I see it, SHE is keeping him strung along. She left him but is fine with him not saying other women because of his friendship with her. He never wanted the divorce. He takes responsibility for what went wrong. He isn't dating. So it looks to me like he wants to reconcile and she's fine with keeping him emotionally attached. I found the video appalling, to be honest.
Great video. I could tell by the body language that there's still an emotional distance between them, but I'm glad to hear that they've found a way to be friends--whatever level that may be. I'm sure they, as is the case with most divorced people with kids, did their best to be supportive for their kids and that is the threat that keeps them connected. It's nice that they found a way to open up about what went wrong. That level of introspection may not bring them back together, but it will benefit them greatly in their future relationships.
He doesn't care about her, probably isn't even sexually attracted to her anymore. There were positive things he liked about her personality, but how much of her did he like and love? Their relationship seemed one-sided.
Kaliym well how long were you married for ? I don’t take marriages of 5 years seriously so ... after 20 years it’s pretty devastating specially when it’s a massive financial downgrade
8:09 "I... I wish I was kinder to you. I wish I was more understanding. I wish I was more authentic. I wish I was there more." Her smile afterward killed me.
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When she talked about the end of her life and their amazing journey, gosh that hit me pretty hard. To have that kind of love/connection is such a blessing.
It seems like he wasn't really ready to be married to her or any one else. A lot of things keep a person from fully committing regrets of things not done, deal breakers like substance abuse and or being a workaholic. What he did was find a good woman who would fit what lifestyle he thought he should living or what his parents thought he should be living.
It's crazy how often once/when the marriage is over the couples start to be themselves with one another again. In this 10 min video, it felt like they were being that college couple they once were. I feel like often time people get weighed down by the "being married" tag and forget to live and share the journey. I bet if they got together now without getting married, the results would be a lot better. They'd just be living, not being married to one another.
TheTrippleTKA but you have to remember they have children. Even if they got back together without any marriage certificate attached to them, they might still have to deal with the complexities of living together as a couple, with all of the compromises and possibilities of a lifestyle crash, and also taking care of the kids if they are still a minor. But I do agree that they seem to be more like themselves.
"I wish I was kinder to you. I wish I was there more. I wish I was more authentic" omg. my heart. This couple is so beautiful and it's so hard to watch their divorce xx
These two have a relationship almost exactly like I have with me ex-husband now. We were best friends when we were married, and now we're best friends with a platonic relationship because the friendship never went away even when the romance did. I think it's safe to say he's my soulmate. It just turns out soulmates aren't always romantic partners.
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I'm currently married to my best friend and I have the same feelings that she had when they called for the divorce. I feel like I'm a single mom. I'm lonely and I feel forgotten. I know there is a better life, out there, waiting for me. Right now I'm hoping it's just a phase. Especially since I've told my husband all of these feelings.
When she’s asked “is there any part of you that wanted to make it work”? She answers “no” but her head shook “yes”, she was lying there. I need more tissues brb.
Been with my fiancé for 3 years, we’re expecting our first baby. I love him with every cell of my body. He is a great man. I couldn’t finish watching this. Soo sad. This is literally my nightmare, she is so strong. Being able to talk about your good memories and your feelings while facing your ex that you loved, to me is very hard.
I have a boyfriend and we're in a long distance relationship. He's such a wonderful guy and I love everything about him- good and bad. But there's always a part of me that can't imagine us getting married and raising children. Of course, I am still young and I do not need to worry about that, but I hope that even if we do drift apart (God forbid), we will remain close friends because I've truly, truly never met such a great guy.
It seems like she loved him deeply she seems a very deep personality and longs for that depth in her partner who was present but absent !! When she said she wanted to walk together when together and not feel like she’s walking by herself even when he was with her! She was alone with him next to her ! I’ve been feeling the same in my marriage So I get her !!
I'd love to hear a follow up with these two. When there is acknowledgement and genuine accountability as well as obvious respect and love there is always a chance at a round two. Without them, no hope. But I see hope here.
He said that? I thought he said he just wished to be kinder and more committed. Just because she wasn't displaying her faults, doesn't mean she was innocent either! She was saying how she could have spoken up more to get her needs met. He's no mind reader after all!
This is so hard. I think she deserved more all along than to be 'the mother of his children'. It's almost like he hired her for a job! I hope she finds the love of her life soon!
The way they still laugh together is just everything. This made me realize you can find someone through friendship and trust and looking forward to what you can make real
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Loved the maturity in this video...but for some reason i thought the lady will get emotional and might cry..but i like her strength she seems really over it
They couldve made it work if they truly wanted to. I think he has a messed up view of what love and life partnership is. Watch him get into all these different relationships just to find out he's going to end up in the same or worse position than his first marriage. He's the problem, not her.
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@@lared0tx no they COULD both be the problem but in this case it looks like HE was the problem. He even said himself he wish he were nicer to her and she was his wife and you say they both were the problem? Lmao
I can’t even get my parents in the same rooms. Even at a funeral they act like they don’t see each other. But my dad will travel and bring back stuff and tell me to make sure I give a pack to my mom. However, my mom won’t do that. But she reprimand if I say something disrespectful about my dad and he will do the same if I act rudely to my mom. Once in a blue they each ask me how the other one doing.
PrincessAfrica3 I never saw them hug, hold hands or kiss. I could tell they didn’t really care for one another. It was always stressful. Years after the divorce I was really learned how their upbringing damaged them and definitely played a role in how they treat each other and others in adulthood. It still boggles my mind how I even exist.
this hurt to watch. :( i'm 33 and the product of a dating relationship. My dad left my mom as i was told he wasn't ready for a baby. she did the best she could, and wanted him to get to know me. looking at them both i wonder how they even get along. they don;t talk, and he was not super involved in my life because of the lady he ended up marrying. it sucks toi grow up with your parents not talking, not getting the full story. I moved in with my b/f and barely talk to either parent, and both barely talk to me. :(
Can I say something that you might not like? Don't repeat the pattern, don't have a child with a girlfriend and find out you're not ready. Have one with your (future) wife, could be your gf or not I don't know. But commit first. Might not be a 100% guarantee, but it changes the dynamics of the relationship 90% of the time. Create the family you wish you had. I'll pray for you, your parents and your love life. In Jesus' name.
go and see Tony Robins on fixing a guys marrage in 7 minutes. he asks some awesome questions when answered honestly deliver some fantastic results. Sounds corny but its only 7 minutes so what do you have to loos you have just spent 20 watching this video. Good luck . therre is a way out for both of you.
I'm sorry you're going through that. I'm a wife with depression, it almost broke my marriage before I found adequate treatments that took my depression down from 100% to 50%. It transformed our relationship so much. I hope your wife finds the help she needs so that she can come back to you ❤
A relationship blossoms (lasts) when both people let go of their ego and admit when they were wrong and say sorry to each other, especially if they see that they hurt the other person or the other person expresses being hurt. Just LOVE each other and be honest to each other, communicate with each other and acknowledge and appreciate each other. It doesn’t matter who is right and who is wrong its about understanding each other and wanting to grow and growing comes with accepting things and if one cant do that then how does one expect a relationship to last or work???
From my perspective, almost 12 years ago, I was separated from my wife, and we came so close to Divorce. Something happened, and we dug in to give it one last shot in reconciliation. Miraculously it survived, and were still together, coming up on 26 years. Honestly, if we had signed those papers, each of us would be different people. It was also affecting our children to where they needed counseling. This couple to me presents as being redeemable, their marriage even salvageable or reboot-able. Just my two pennies.
I am glad your marriage survived with your wife. I truly believe that this is the ultimate goal and the best out come for children. ( as long as it is a happy loving marriage ) For a marriage to work you need 2 people who are committed to each other. Unfortunately the bloke in this video seems like a self centred child. He is not ready to be married to anyone. I hope the lady meets a proper grown up man one day.
She looks like she's been through an incredible amount of pain yet she's putting on a brave and smiling face.
jh s 😢
Okay, yes, he messed up, but it's not true that no man would want her now because she's got children.
My aunt had two children, by two different guys, and my uncle still married her.
My daughter's father just got married to a woman who's got 3 children from a previous relationship. His ex-wife also had four children from her previous marriage. So, not all men are created equal.
Gio Simmer Your daughter’s father? You?
I don't consider fakeing a smile as brave
Men come make their mess then run off. If you do have kids. As I did with my ex husband. Have only one. My ex wanted 3. I was like hell no. He was a monster. He ended up cheating on me. Fighting me for custody. Then marrying his affair partner. 3 years after our divorce he killed himself.
Save yourself!!
“i wish i was kinder to you” broke me
same
So I guess he was a bit of a douche. Not to say she wasn't but when he said he was non committed just says it all.
@@Metalpazallteway
Or maybe he just has a better sense of responsibility for his part.
@@AZ-kr6ff So how exactly is that supposed to make any sense?
@@Metalpazallteway
What about it don't you understand?
It seems pretty straightforward to me.
You could tell it still hurts her
Him too. 😢 they both hurt so bad. Regardless of whose wrong, or if nobody’s wrong. If they’re both equally as wrong. Her and him hurt so much. And it’s so sad. I’m not trying to lift one sex above the other in this comment. In my observation, they were just two beautiful people, and it just didn’t work.
Who wouldn’t hurt...
especially since she aged in dog years and he still looks young
she created humans in her body cut her slack
stashem89 que tendrá que ver . Eso es subjetivo . El que la veas vieja no quiere decir que tenga que estar peor por la separación .
“We see the world the same way, we just don’t live in the world the same way.” WOW.
well duh
I know 🤯
They are both right but they can't make it work😄
To me, this statement (and the context of their conversation and what was said on both sides) suggests that he lacked/lacks integrity of character, because if he sees things the same way as her, it would be nice for him to have the courage to live it through authentically and without wavering.
I don't think any two people live in the world exactly the same that's why it takes communication to bridge those gaps in understanding.
Why does there always have to be music in videos like that. I would like to hear what they have to say without getting my mood manipulated
Johann agree 10000%
Let’s have a really sad video but have somewhat uplifting music. /:
No music whatsoever
At least it wasn't too loud...but yeah sometimes just plain old silence is refreshing
Some American Pie movie scene
I think this is what happens when people push themselves into deeper relationships before they've taken the time to get to know themselves.
Victoria Ngo very true
Exactly my thoughts about him, but he said he was dealing with family influence.
Victoria Ngo i
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Welcome to the comment section where everyone is a psychological expert
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Hahaha u know
Hey. Don't you go reading my mind!😁
Lmao!
No its just that people can relate.
That loneliness where she says she felt single... That's how I feel in my marriage. It's hard. Eventually you do have to give up if the other person refuses to be a partner.
How about the other way around?
Wow. Same.
Sorry but we're you a child bride? You look all of 12 years old. Maybe that was the issue. You married too young.
Free yourself 🍃
I feel ya. I hope it works out.
Pretty sure him saying ‘she had no shot’ is him saying it never would’ve worked because he had issues, not that it was a reflection on her
maybe yes.
Think that was just bad wording on his part. Immediately after he said “I self sabotaged the whole way.”. So she had no chance because the way he acted didn’t allow her to have one regardless of how great she was in the relationship.
I agree, I felt he actually had a humble attitude towards the situation. He took personal responsibility... its sad though that they didn't just get therapy. seems that would have helped.
@@prashanthb6521 Not maybe, moron, he plainly said it in English.
That's what I got out of it too
He said “my” children......
She said “our” children.......
That is all I needed to hear , to fully understand why this partnership didn’t work .
She is looking for we .....and he sees things as me .
Well said.
Powerful
She was looking for me when she decided to leave while playing with their children.
True to the core
Tyson that makes no sense?
Sounds like he was fine having her be the mother to his children because she has positive motherly qualities (in his opinion) but he never saw or imagined her as his wife. Some men don't see motherly qualities AND wife qualities in the same woman. I'm sorry she ended up as that role. She deserves to be more than someone's temporary incubator & eternal babysitter. She deserves a husband who loves and cherishes her as his wife & life partner. I hope she finds that.
Men were designed to spread their seed with multiple women.
Gallardo 5Million "Designed", no. "Desire" is more the word. Just desire, and greed.
Gallardo 5Million Wait, I'm confused. What does that misogynistic, incorrect statement have to do with what I originally said? Where in the video did he say he had children with multiple women? 🤔 My statement said (I'll summarize it for you to make it easier): This man was okay with having children with this (1) woman, but had no intentions of marrying her. In his opinion, she was maternal enough to be a mother but lacked qualities of a wife. Tbh, I think if she knew that beforehand, she wouldn't have had his children. She deserves to find someone who desires her as a life partner; a wife.
Gallardo 5Million
That is utter BS! LUST is what you're talking about ul and lust was not in Nature's design it was created by Society. God created man and woman to be with one person and one person only and that is their spouse. My fiance is proof of that. You cannot tell me otherwise.
kiersten ellis
Yes you are right! As I was saying to him last is a societal Man created thing and is not natural. Men and women were designed by God to be with one person and one person only. I am 33 years old and I never ever knew that until I finally found my match. There is literally one person out there for each person and we were designed to only be intimate with that one person who is our twin.
I really hope their daughters hear their dad say he wouldn't wish anyone else to be their mother
Clare Hill Hope is all we have in this life my child, hope is all we have.
You're a very (too much) of a romantic person!
@@svasianfilipiname6603 what a useless comment. wtf does that have to do with romance
@@Amy_Nicole_Sabas It means Claire (and maybe you?) is hoping that they will get back together because she's the one that brought him children but I don't think that is going to happen. He seems confused and not ready to make up with her.
@@svasianfilipiname6603 show me where she said anything about wanting them to get back together. lmao
“She had no shot” ...that was the saddest part of this entire video
- - completely agree, women can be so giving to their family and put them selves last then we get left in the dust.
Wow 😮,truly a sad statement
Tiana Love I know, terrible to say “you have no shot with me, will you marry me?!?”
bouncyshak I know. She could have had kids with someone who would have loved her as a wife and not just a mom
If she watches this, I don’t see how she could be friends with him. At least it would take a long time to get over the overwhelming resentment that she’d undoubtedly feel.
There's nothing worse than feeling alone when the person you love is sitting right next to you. That's how my 1st marriage was. I finally decided that if I was gonna feel alone I may as well BE alone. Thankfully, not for long. I soon met my current husband and life is great. To think I was blocking my blessings all of those years😍
Leslie Pressley amen
Leslie Pressley I just left someone and feel very alone now. I’m hoping I can have what you have in my life
Sometimes I couldn't help but to ask how did you come out of such
@@davidmarcus3145 you decide that you just want MORE for yourself and that you deserve it.
Maybe you can also ask for help, maybe getting to know a reason behind the person's actions too might help ease the pains, u can hack into their devices
If I stuck with my ex and we got married, I’d imagine this is how it would’ve ended up. So glad that I left him. He’s so much like this guy. He blamed me for things going on in his life and he depended on me to carry him, but when I needed someone he wasn’t there for me.
That's exactly how my ex is... We just broke up so it's still fresh but I know now nothing would be better unless he learns to believe in himself and stop blaming others.
Lena F yeah, people like that aren’t gonna get far. They have to learn to take responsibility for themselves and not take their anger out on those around them. I remember once my ex blamed me for how he felt about his job. He told me that I wasn’t being supportive enough when I was literally trying everything I could to make him happy. It took me a long time to realize that it wasn’t my fault. I’m still pretty messed up from the relationship though. He tore me down a lot and some of the things he said to me have made me very insecure and left me feeling pretty damaged. I hope that he realizes his faults, and realizes how much I did for him. Not that that would change my mind about the relationship, but it would be nice if he at learned something from being with me.
It happened with my gf of 10 years, but the reverse where she was the one who wasn't connected with me anymore. She pretty much insulted my successes and even my weight loss and progress in my career.
I went through the exact same thing , I was constantly blamed for her problems and when I would express how I feel. I’d get shut down. She would basically make me feel like her issues were more important than mines because her problems were worst than mines. Glad I left. I’m so much happier now.
I just left a relationship like this
my first impression of them two when they came to sit down was that the female is still into him but the male is trying his best not to look at her in the eyes
emilypark109 I saw that too
5:20ish
He's texting lol
It seemed as if he couldn't look at her. Like it was just too hard.What that means, only he knows.
emilypark109 same
Ikr omg!!!!!
literally, friendships can be stronger and this video has shown me that.
Daisy B yup. That's what I'd thought.
Daisy B friendship needs to be a part of the relationship prior to marriage but the marital relationship is sacred, so therefore more important. Friendship is a cornerstone of that though. These two need "Retrouvialle"
Some people work better as just friends.
I agree Maxine...but do you know that is the hardest thing to do? So sad though.
Friends with beneficiaries.
I think he wanted to love her but didnt
Ravenous youth yup. Keyword: wanted. Or maybe he did but not as much as she feels she deserves.
he couldn't because he didn't love himself. He got married even when he knew he shouldn't... he lived his life for everybody but himself
And that's okay, putting a value on your own self is very important.
That's very possible. And sad to see. But we all make mistakes, and there is so much beauty and love in seeing how these two could talk about the past like this without any resentment or anger towards one another.
Well, he's gay. Duh
When he said "she had no shot" he meant he was self sabotaging the whole relationship and even if she tried to make it work, she wouldn't have a chance because she pretty much checked out from the beginning.
What courageous people to put themselves out there, self-analyzing a painful journey. Koodos to them.
Amen!!! That was a display of true courage and vulnerability...brought me to tears.
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You could tell he wasn't and isn't in love with her . Loving someone and being in love are two different feelings. They confused friendship and feeling loved with being in love.
Carl Logan 😂😂😂
Dead on
Cynthia Ramos bullshit.
I think the reason why she said about confusion about being in love and loving someone. Its whent he guy admitted how some of the things he regretted. Like being more committed to their partner. People love someone because of the IDEA of the person of how good they are, and he admitted how hes one foot in and out. At least he admitted the mistake, they are okay now and good friends now..
thesupergreenjudy
Hi,
Are you referring that people are obsessed on how they felt at the beginning. For me, yes relationships takes work. Coz it’s for adult. But people need to understand that some people wants that feeling coz once people started being together for a long time, they loose that spark.. Coz I believe that feeling should last coz when u love someone truly, if doesn’t go away.. even if there are arguments it will never go away
The funny thing is guys will choose you to be the mother of their children but not their dream girl/wife.
virtuallyglorious dream girl/wife us an on going thing. You can't see the future. The person you are not isn't the person you'll be in 10 years. We pray we grow together. But sometimes that's not the case. Obviously it's easy to bring kids in while times are good.
Its not that simple. Guys do want both from the same person. Motherhood is hard and its easy to put all your energy into one thing and forget your partner. Then you grow apart.
With that attitude of yours, just good luck meeting men. 😂
virtuallyglorious dream girls aren’t always mother material
Bc they're usually not the same woman.
i don't understand how she had to be the mother of his kids, but yet he doesn't think he should have married her...
how can you be ready for a huge commitment like having kids, but not marriage?
Sounded like his parents really pressured him to get married.
Parenting is different then marriage though, cause everyone walks into parenting with knowing nothing. Marriage is having someone by your side to stand with, it's a title that's over rated and "must be done"
As a Man I have that attitude of spreading my seed and not wifing
+Britt Whalen Awww poor thing without a brain....can't make his own decisions....😏
+Britt Whalen Awww poor thing without a brain....can't make his own decisions....😏
When he said “she didn’t have a real shot”....😢😢 He will never know the hurt of carrying a mans child that never loved you to begin with. I pray no one does that to his daughters.
Interracial can never "love" each other, it's tribalism. You can pretend but never feel real love for someone outside your race.
Violenza Fantastica What are you talking about? That is insane, what is the logic in your argument?
Violenza Fantastica lol what?
He might have loved her. I interpret him saying “she didn’t have a real shot” as meaning having the marriage work. Sometimes two people can love each other, but they’re just a toxic couple for whatever reason (baggage, differing attachment styles, etc.)
@@skyedge3407 read a book on what you're talking about before acting like you understand it
“Can you hear me?”
“No”
Ikr... It makes no sense
Lip reading.
Lip reading
Poignant
She cried in her car after this
And he just drove away.
fascinatinglist the guys doesnt seem to like her but she does and they look good together
I doubt it. I hate how people always view women as being weak. She looks like she has moved on and is probably dating someone else.
Dude, im crying now.
They both most likely felt sad after this after all these memories
He's always talking about her being a mother but never being a wife. Plus, she said their communication was very poor and she felt lonely. I think the reason it failed is that he wanted a nanny and didn't reciprocate her love.
macent- I noticed that. She was not his type although it was the other way around.
He already had a mother. He needed a wife. He's not blameless but she's definitely the type of women every man would divorce.
😢
I swear some men just want nanny’s and maids
@@AwesomesMan A lot of men just want the convenience of a marriage. Marriage benefits men more than women. Which is why women are miserable in marriage and initiate 70% of divorces. Go look up the psyche studies and stats on marriage. Most men admit afterwards that they were the problem.
This is a prime example of how difficult marriages are. Honeymoon stages fade and real life kicks in like finances, children, lack of sleep, job stress etc.. It's easy to forget how easy things once were once we start to face these challenges. Marriage is hard work but rewarding if two people are on the same page and willing to sacrifice for each other.
I seriously thought they were going to reconsider at the end but I'm happy they are mature enough not to disrespect each other on the past and focus on coparenting for the sake of their children.
Lola S. marry me
Lola S. is not hard work for some.
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That's why Americans shouldn't get married.
Even if neither is willing, if they continue in marriage, that’s better than divorce and remarriage.
Wow. After Reading the comments and watching the video, I realized that the guy I'm in love with will probably never be my significant other. And I guess that's okay.
Those feelings and intuitions should be trusted...your time is a gift ....be picky and open at the same time know your deal breakers
That happens to a lot of people and that’s ok. You’re feelings of love are still valid, but still listen to that voice inside of you.
Definitely. I was in love with someone who held secrets I found out about within a couple of months of dating. I left him still loving him but relieved God showed me his hidden life. There's nothing wrong with not getting serious with or ever dating the one you love. It could be a blessing in disguise.
Awe thank you all. I’m glad to say that I’m finally over him and wow I’m so happy and proud of me. We all deserve the best love we can get
So dramatic. You can be in love more than once in your life. If the person you are "in love" with right now doesn't want you or you're not compatible, then there is always someone else that you fit better with.
When she said “A partnership. Just to walk next to each other.” I instantly teared up. Good luck to the both of them
god this is so hard to watch. so heartbreaking
Sal Blasker they can't save the marriage because he never was in love with her and I don't believe he loved her. He was one foot out the entire time they were married.
Why? Judging by their answers they were never a good match to begin it. It's not surprising that they ended up divorcing, they should have never been married.
What's the solution though in he case of an in-compatibility? Religion, that says: no divorce, un-less one or both "parties" are in-fidel? Or, just: single forever?
Video Games and Protein Shakes I
Going thru mine now... sad is the word... divorce is very sad
"Asian Jesus" 😂
AHAHAHAHAHAH
Well Jesus was asian so...
The Light Asian or African?
Well He came from the continent of Asia and lived there. Whether he was african looking or not is not the mater.
lana J LOL
Some times your soulmates doesn't have to be your significant other, it can just be a friend. But man, this was sad... but they have a special relationship that none of us will never really get.
Poetic Just Less true. I also thought about that when I was watching the video.
*none and *never are double negatives together just saying
chisom elizabeth Touche! I actually meant to write "ever" instead of "never". Didn't even realize it until you pointed it out.
No such thing as Soul Mate. Never has been. Never will be.
dude wtf... this is deep...never thought of this
He literally admitted that they argued during the wedding because of him. She deserved so so much better. I want to hug her. I hope she grows without him.
He never said they fought because of him. Why do you assume its his fault? Maybe she was cold and not a loving wife. She was the selfish one
What a toxic mindset you have, They argued but why do you think it was about him?
Their whole relationship was a rollercoaster tho. Thts enough to know tht they shouldnt have married or had kids. If she was suffering that bad, leave the dude! Tf!?
@@skyedge3407 he LITERALLY said she had no shot bc he self sabotaged the entire way, and that he wished he were kinder to her. How did you pick up that SHE way the selfish one?
I think he just had more growing to do at the time
Props to him for being honest. This is heart breaking. Praying she finds someone who returns her love 🙏🏾
Hopefully, she seems so involved in her kids and still has attachments with him.. l wish she could venture out and find a man who cherishes her more, she deserves it!!
I don't give him props for using her to have kids, then being "honest" after dumping her. It's hard to watch her face.
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I feel like couples should do this, on a regular, or yearly basis just to stay connected. Especially married couples with kids because in the chaos of working to provide for those kids, you can totally forget these little moments of joy. Stopping to appreciate them keeps them alive.
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Sometimes, people are better off as friends. They truly embody that. They clearly still have love for each other but aren't in love. I'm glad they realized they are better off this way and I know their daughters will benefit from a peaceful relationship between their parents instead of anger.
fatima the giant Your comment is so true and I wish most people realized this! I've seen many couples try to stick it out and "stay together for the kids" only to end up fighting every night. That's not healthy for the parents or the kids.
Yes. 100x Yes! They are both a beautiful example.
Elizabeth if they fight every night then they should stop talk to someone about that. If you want it to work, then you should make it work.
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I really value the friendship they were able to build again instead of the hatred that usually builds against the other person. They understood that their marriage wasn't going to work, and the strong bond they have as friends now is probably better for them than a marriage would be. Where they are now is perfect, and they don't need to change a thing. Really loved this video! :)
Keren Choi yup. I totally agree! Sometimes staying in a marriage isn't the best way to raise kids if the marriage isn't working out.
Keren Choi Divorce is never where you want to be
My Ex came back to me few days ago
I got
help from a Relationship Restore Dr Kayode
Who was able to mend back my broken relationship and make my ex to come back and
beg for a second chance.He can bring your
ex back,and he also do a lot of work also like
Financial problem,and court case, lottery spell etc....
“I knew we shouldn’t have been married to begin with, so it wasn’t like I knew the marriage was ‘over.’ On top of that, I had pressure from my family. It wasn’t fair to her. And looking back, she had no shot (to be honest) with me.”
Ouch.
This poor woman fell victim to his selfish desire to conform to societal norms and now she is a divorced single mother.
The very heartless man had no considerations for her feelings because he was busy being a narcissist
He equally was victim to society and the pressure to conform. And they co-parent sooo they are equal in Single parenthood.
My Ex came back to me few days ago
I got
help from a Relationship Restore Dr Kayode
Who was able to mend back my broken relationship and make my ex to come back and
beg for a second chance.He can bring your
ex back,and he also do a lot of work also like
Financial problem,and court case, lottery spell etc....
Trust me, as a Chinese Canadian born child of mule headed stubborn third world Chinese immigrants, this family pressure to marry is so much more hard than you can ever realize Which is exactly why I REFUSE to relent in my conviction NOT to marry regardless of what they try. For the sake of EVERYONE INCLUDING the Woman I’ll be with at whatever time in my life.
I don't want to be in a relationship where I'm alone and lonely.
Well I'm sure you don't want to be left in in debt, life savings gambled and flirted with , in my next relationship I won't subscribe to the idea of setting up a joint account, I've learnt the hard way. The private investigator that helped me with evidences for my divorce settlements later confirmed to me that my credit score has taken a huge hit as a result of series of late payments and over drawn bank accounts. Y3llowl4bs agents offered me secured cards with a simple way to keep up with the payments and credit reporting to the major agencies so as to get my credit back up...2 months in and I'm saying its all good from this side .
Alone and lonely? Isn’t that the same thing
@@shellylopez214 no, they aren't the same.
I'm married and my husband and I have 2 little ones. We've been together 14 years. This is powerful to watch. Their story... it's so incredibly kind of them to share. It's also very vulnerable. They start and you know that they didn't stay together and then they speak about their feelings for one another, and memories, while the other is staring back at them. And then they get up and go on with their lives. I think I'd be lying in bed with heavy thoughts after all that. Very interesting, very moving.
Im surprised im the first one asking this or maybe just the bravest but what tips do you have for being with someone for 14 years? I feel like this couple didn't do a better job of communicating their feelings to each other.
Hi Abraham! *Communication is so important. Communication means talking about the good, bad, and ugly and working through it all. *If there are wounds, dig them out so the wound can heal. *Animosity is like an infection. Clean up the animosity. Really clean it up. *Anger is just a way of shielding something vulnerable, hurt. Remember that when arguing and it'll be easier to work through things. *If you say sorry, do not say it while angry. *Try not to go to bed angry. *While arguing, it's good to tell the other, "You're still my best friend or I still want to grow old with you, even though you suck right now." Humor makes a world of difference.
+Abraham Hassan - Please watch the music video on UA-cam, rise up by andra day. Being with someone after 14 years... the feeling that you get from that music video, that love. Through sickness, through tough times, through health, that's what I promised and that's what I mean. If you can get passed the silly bickering, the "picture" of what love "should" or "shouldn't" look like. There's no jealousy, no judgement, no winners or losers in love. Love doesn't come across to people like that these days. Ya, there are fights and ugly days but those pass, love doesn't and it's a mindset.
i love the last HUMOUR part--i will definitely try to remember to use it in the future haha
tiffany vogt u and him have been together for ig 15 years now and I'm 15
I'm in a happy relationship... This video scares me.
extrovertedthinker best advice is don’t get married.
Stupid advice. The real advice is the key to a good relationship and marriage is good communication.
Im divorced and remarried, bout to be divorced again in all likelihood. If i could offer one piece of advice to anyone from my many mistakes, never forget your partner doesnt NEED you nor do you NEED them. Life goes on without them. But if you truly want it to work, be honest in most things, kind in all things and loyal always. And work as hard to keep the relationship together as you can. Cause divorce is easier than marriage any day.
extrovertedthinker it should
extrovertedthinker i feel you. 😶
She was right to move on. He would have made her life miserable and neither one of them would have been happy. He wasn't really in love with her but I'm glad that the divorce happened in order to salvage a good relationship between the two of them from their kids. Thanks for sharing this!
I think he loved her but not deeply. He might not know how to properly love so she deserves to find someone who is able to show his love as much as she does. The worst is being married and lonely.
Just Ash I also think so too. Now because of the distance, they both can think more clearly with some perspective and introspection rather than being stuck and having little of their, more so for her case, needs met.
Life tobelived Well said. I think so too.
He honestly doesn't seem like someone who would really want to be married until maybe later in life. I have a feeling that the culture his parents are came into play. Left to his own devices I doubt he would have married anyone.
Life tobelived and
She has a spark to her. "i knew we shouldnt have been married to begin with" was very painful to hear. Hope she finds the love she aims for
She still loves him
They saw the red flags...they were just too young to recognize what would happen down the road.
People never ask themselves if they are emotionally mature enough and can work well with others...before they go into a HUGE partnership.
She still loves him.......... :(
How can you tell?
The way she said that 'NO' at 5:04, I doubt it.
I doubt it. Im sure shes done picking up his boxers from the floor.
Billionairess they still both love each other. The dude stays single because for him she and his kids are priorities.
Vivian Chebet but 2:03 she was holding back her tears
why do people want them to get back together? they're better as friends.
mangomadness I share the same sentiment. I don't think they are right for each other. I feel like the relationship they have now is healthier.
Omg y'all talk as if you know them 😂 that's empathy I guess
I think its okay this way.... like my parents, they are better friends and not married...
I am sure their children appreciate that they are good friends..
And any future partners will have to adapt.... because of the children the ex-wife will always be in the picture and its just healthier to include any new partners into the family....
I like that they appreciate each other still... and they have reflected on the event and explored the why..... very mature thinking....
Because of love. They had it once, why couldn’t they have it again. You can see it from her that she is still in love with him, its like forbidden love, they can’t go back because it didn’t work but there’s something there that gives us looking in, hope
mangomadness Because there is enough there that makes it seem plausible if they both wanted it and worked at it. They have matured and understand their faults. Once you have that, you just need to come up with solutions and put the work in.
What's crazy is they found the key to marriage through their divorce
She needs distance! She is holding on while he moved on already!
And his using her to babysit his offspring, he got everything he wanted.
@@irisdutra5033 not really, still gotta pay child support and raise kids who know Mommy and Daddy don't love each other
He actually said that he is single, because other women don't understand his relationship with her now. That tells me that hes grown up alot and they probably have more of what she wanted the whole time, but hes not willing to give up the relationship they currently have for a woman who doesn't understand.
As I see it, SHE is keeping him strung along. She left him but is fine with him not saying other women because of his friendship with her. He never wanted the divorce. He takes responsibility for what went wrong. He isn't dating. So it looks to me like he wants to reconcile and she's fine with keeping him emotionally attached. I found the video appalling, to be honest.
That moment when the comment section is more interesting that the video itself
True 🙂
Obviously! We get to see other people's opinions on the video!
Great video. I could tell by the body language that there's still an emotional distance between them, but I'm glad to hear that they've found a way to be friends--whatever level that may be. I'm sure they, as is the case with most divorced people with kids, did their best to be supportive for their kids and that is the threat that keeps them connected. It's nice that they found a way to open up about what went wrong. That level of introspection may not bring them back together, but it will benefit them greatly in their future relationships.
Matthew Lyons well said. I totally agree.
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Ha ha appropriate typo!
she doesn't look 41
Setyawati Putri where are you from 😍
Neither does he
Elisa Margret yeah he looks younger she looks a lot older
Asian don't raisin
DUMBEEZY hi thereee
He doesn't care about her, probably isn't even sexually attracted to her anymore. There were positive things he liked about her personality, but how much of her did he like and love? Their relationship seemed one-sided.
Gallardo 5Million Wow
Why is this surprising? They are divorced.
lavinder11 basically that in a nut shell. He never wanted to be married to her. He found a "motherly" wife and settled.
you just summed up everything that he said, do you repeat people often?
facts
Divorce is literally the worst . Wouldn’t wish it on anyone
Some would say the same about marriage
jason deaver well at least there’s an out of that
Mine was pretty easy.
Sign the dotted line and move on with life. I did let her borrow money that I’ve never gotten back though.
Kaliym well how long were you married for ? I don’t take marriages of 5 years seriously so ... after 20 years it’s pretty devastating specially when it’s a massive financial downgrade
Anna Lee Lol 5 years almost exactly. At what point do they become serious?
8:09 "I... I wish I was kinder to you. I wish I was more understanding. I wish I was more authentic. I wish I was there more."
Her smile afterward killed me.
this is really sad tho, i'm crying forreal man
good sad, right?
me too
joy never fails to amaze me me too! 😭
I can see your tears
It is so depressing to me when people get divorced. But it happens. I think sometimes people aren't actually in love, they think they are but are not.
I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone, all i did was to share his phone number with (geniustracker) without touching his phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact him to help he is a genius. You can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) don't forget to thank me later...
You can be in love and then fall out if it. Maybe that's what happened to them.
These videos are so well done! Really thought-provoking...love this channel!
thought provoking......lmfaooooo
lilclipps really lol
The end of this where they say "Nice to meet you"... made me tear up...
When she talked about the end of her life and their amazing journey, gosh that hit me pretty hard. To have that kind of love/connection is such a blessing.
It seems like he wasn't really ready to be married to her or any one else. A lot of things keep a person from fully committing regrets of things not done, deal breakers like substance abuse and or being a workaholic. What he did was find a good woman who would fit what lifestyle he thought he should living or what his parents thought he should be living.
Life tobelived True.
It's crazy how often once/when the marriage is over the couples start to be themselves with one another again. In this 10 min video, it felt like they were being that college couple they once were. I feel like often time people get weighed down by the "being married" tag and forget to live and share the journey. I bet if they got together now without getting married, the results would be a lot better. They'd just be living, not being married to one another.
TheTrippleTKA but you have to remember they have children. Even if they got back together without any marriage certificate attached to them, they might still have to deal with the complexities of living together as a couple, with all of the compromises and possibilities of a lifestyle crash, and also taking care of the kids if they are still a minor. But I do agree that they seem to be more like themselves.
You can tell that they love each other, but in the friend way. They're best friends but they mistook it for needing to get married.
Lindsay Miller, you are absolutely right 🤙
True...
6:05 "a partnership" is girl code for "i wanted your love"
really?
nope.
@@LSSYLondon then why the other person say it are u being sarcastic?
"I wish I was kinder to you. I wish I was there more. I wish I was more authentic" omg. my heart. This couple is so beautiful and it's so hard to watch their divorce xx
These two have a relationship almost exactly like I have with me ex-husband now. We were best friends when we were married, and now we're best friends with a platonic relationship because the friendship never went away even when the romance did. I think it's safe to say he's my soulmate. It just turns out soulmates aren't always romantic partners.
Thank you Morgan. That's exactly where I'm at and yes we are soulmates. We still trust each other as good friends.
Are you gay? You look like a man.
I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone, all i did was to share his phone number with (geniustracker) without touching his phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact him to help he is a genius. You can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) don't forget to thank me later...
This is hard to watch. I know just how she feels.
Can you elaborate?
I said the same exact thing. It's painful to watch because you know that exact feeling in your gut.
I'm currently married to my best friend and I have the same feelings that she had when they called for the divorce. I feel like I'm a single mom. I'm lonely and I feel forgotten. I know there is a better life, out there, waiting for me. Right now I'm hoping it's just a phase. Especially since I've told my husband all of these feelings.
Jessi Wynn hey, is everything okay?
@@jessiwynn1563 hey I hope everything worked out well for you
For me, my ex fell out of love. I'm still very much in love with her. But she's moved on...
TyrantWarlord im sorry to hear that, must be hard for u at times.
張雅婷 It is hard. Every single day I think about her and what we could of been. It sucks to love her and to see her love someone else.
TyrantWarlord find someone who will love u back the same way, you deserve better and be treated better.:)
張雅婷 thanks. 😊
TyrantWarlord all the very best my friend!😉
When she’s asked “is there any part of you that wanted to make it work”? She answers “no” but her head shook “yes”, she was lying there.
I need more tissues brb.
Yes. I think you are right. If he had been willing to work on the relationship then I think she would have tried hard to save it.
Where are you my soul mate, I am asking from you universe.....where are you!!!
She needs to pull an Adele and get her another man.
They both look so good for being 40/41!
Katie L I was thinking they were both 30 to 35
you talk like 40 is old ....
How old do you think 40 year olds look? Lmao
Life got to them haha. Joking... I don't want to get harrassed/bombared with hate comments!
They look their age fyi
They seem to have it sorted now, sad that it didn't work out for them.
Been with my fiancé for 3 years, we’re expecting our first baby. I love him with every cell of my body. He is a great man. I couldn’t finish watching this. Soo sad. This is literally my nightmare, she is so strong. Being able to talk about your good memories and your feelings while facing your ex that you loved, to me is very hard.
When he said "I wish I was there more"
I felt that 💔
I have a boyfriend and we're in a long distance relationship. He's such a wonderful guy and I love everything about him- good and bad. But there's always a part of me that can't imagine us getting married and raising children. Of course, I am still young and I do not need to worry about that, but I hope that even if we do drift apart (God forbid), we will remain close friends because I've truly, truly never met such a great guy.
"Can you hear me"
"Shakes head" ?
Lip reading
She responded to lots of things he said
It seems like she loved him deeply she seems a very deep personality and longs for that depth in her partner who was present but absent !! When she said she wanted to walk together when together and not feel like she’s walking by herself even when he was with her! She was alone with him next to her !
I’ve been feeling the same in my marriage
So I get her !!
Didnt even watched the video, went straight for the comments.
I am not disappointed.
Same here
"We see the world the same way but live it differently " was so touching.
Very therapeutic! Maybe this should be a step... before the big divorce.
Agreed!! Thinkin the same think 👍
Right, this is basically marriage counseling, all options and should be considered and tried before divorce.
Best comment I have read; great idea.
"he looked like an asian jesus" IM YELLING LMAOO
I'd love to hear a follow up with these two. When there is acknowledgement and genuine accountability as well as obvious respect and love there is always a chance at a round two. Without them, no hope. But I see hope here.
His eyes say it all that he is emotionally shallow easy going person whereas woman need deeper emotional connection in a relationship.
In other words, its the mans fault?
@@Japan705 Yes, Brandon. Yes, it is. According to the actual man in this video who said it was his fault yes it is.
He said that? I thought he said he just wished to be kinder and more committed. Just because she wasn't displaying her faults, doesn't mean she was innocent either! She was saying how she could have spoken up more to get her needs met. He's no mind reader after all!
liza za you literally don’t know that, maybe he has a deep need for love but is just avoidant
liza za you’re a psychologists all of a sudden?
This is so hard. I think she deserved more all along than to be 'the mother of his children'. It's almost like he hired her for a job! I hope she finds the love of her life soon!
I don't think my parents would be this calm and cool if they had to do this
The way they still laugh together is just everything. This made me realize you can find someone through friendship and trust and looking forward to what you can make real
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Loved the maturity in this video...but for some reason i thought the lady will get emotional and might cry..but i like her strength she seems really over it
They couldve made it work if they truly wanted to. I think he has a messed up view of what love and life partnership is. Watch him get into all these different relationships just to find out he's going to end up in the same or worse position than his first marriage. He's the problem, not her.
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I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone, all i did was to share his phone number with (geniustracker) without touching his phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact him to help he is a genius. You can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) don't forget to thank me later...
its a relationship they are both the problem.
@@lared0tx no they COULD both be the problem but in this case it looks like HE was the problem. He even said himself he wish he were nicer to her and she was his wife and you say they both were the problem? Lmao
He's honest.
Love when grown ups act like grown ups...... So much respect for those two
I love these too much like honestly, it's such a good concept. Really well done, great video!
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I can’t even get my parents in the same rooms. Even at a funeral they act like they don’t see each other. But my dad will travel and bring back stuff and tell me to make sure I give a pack to my mom. However, my mom won’t do that. But she reprimand if I say something disrespectful about my dad and he will do the same if I act rudely to my mom. Once in a blue they each ask me how the other one doing.
It's so sad they put their grudges before your best interest too, I'm so sorry too
Classy
PumpkinEskobarr they are still hurt. Mom especially
PrincessAfrica3
I never saw them hug, hold hands or kiss. I could tell they didn’t really care for one another. It was always stressful. Years after the divorce I was really learned how their upbringing damaged them and definitely played a role in how they treat each other and others in adulthood.
It still boggles my mind how I even exist.
PumpkinEskobarr childhood trauma usually explains distractive behavior. I pray they will both heal in Jesus name. God bless you
this hurt to watch. :( i'm 33 and the product of a dating relationship. My dad left my mom as i was told he wasn't ready for a baby. she did the best she could, and wanted him to get to know me. looking at them both i wonder how they even get along. they don;t talk, and he was not super involved in my life because of the lady he ended up marrying.
it sucks toi grow up with your parents not talking, not getting the full story. I moved in with my b/f and barely talk to either parent, and both barely talk to me. :(
Azazura Azura stay strong and get stronger. Past is past! You got this 😊
Can I say something that you might not like? Don't repeat the pattern, don't have a child with a girlfriend and find out you're not ready. Have one with your (future) wife, could be your gf or not I don't know. But commit first. Might not be a 100% guarantee, but it changes the dynamics of the relationship 90% of the time. Create the family you wish you had. I'll pray for you, your parents and your love life. In Jesus' name.
My wife is depressed. I very frequently feel like a single parent.
I was in the same situation before my divorce. When I would seek out friends and play sports so I would be less lonely she would resent it.
go and see Tony Robins on fixing a guys marrage in 7 minutes. he asks some awesome questions when answered honestly deliver some fantastic results. Sounds corny but its only 7 minutes so what do you have to loos you have just spent 20 watching this video. Good luck . therre is a way out for both of you.
Get into her world in a gentle wat
I'm sorry you're going through that. I'm a wife with depression, it almost broke my marriage before I found adequate treatments that took my depression down from 100% to 50%. It transformed our relationship so much. I hope your wife finds the help she needs so that she can come back to you ❤
Go find out why? if you are the cause, fix it...if it's self love she lacks..giver her distance, she might drain you!
Totally have peed in a coffee cup out of desperation.
L. P. Iiiiiiii
how do you do that as a woman though 🤔
Same
Was waiting for a .."and then..."
Sure better than the alternative! It's weird how when you don't love someone, you shame them for being human. Sad.
Such a great video! I'm glad that they've built a good relationship even after their divorce.
A relationship blossoms (lasts) when both people let go of their ego and admit when they were wrong and say sorry to each other, especially if they see that they hurt the other person or the other person expresses being hurt. Just LOVE each other and be honest to each other, communicate with each other and acknowledge and appreciate each other. It doesn’t matter who is right and who is wrong its about understanding each other and wanting to grow and growing comes with accepting things and if one cant do that then how does one expect a relationship to last or work???
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I feel the same way.
Imo, the ego is one of the main reasons relationships don't last and/or don't end amicably.
Wow it was so hard to watch her, it seems like she was in so much pain... I really wish her well, my god
From my perspective, almost 12 years ago, I was separated from my wife, and we came so close to Divorce. Something happened, and we dug in to give it one last shot in reconciliation. Miraculously it survived, and were still together, coming up on 26 years. Honestly, if we had signed those papers, each of us would be different people. It was also affecting our children to where they needed counseling. This couple to me presents as being redeemable, their marriage even salvageable or reboot-able. Just my two pennies.
I am glad your marriage survived with your wife. I truly believe that this is the ultimate goal and the best out come for children. ( as long as it is a happy loving marriage ) For a marriage to work you need 2 people who are committed to each other. Unfortunately the bloke in this video seems like a self centred child. He is not ready to be married to anyone. I hope the lady meets a proper grown up man one day.
Baby Albatross Music your message gives my marriage of 19 years hope. Thank you for sharing
Tears. They just weren't ready to be married. His honesty about his actions and regrets got me. I hope they get back together.