Addict of over 20 years. I've had multiple brief periods of sobriety all ending in relapse. My brother passed away at 38 years of age in 2017 of natural causes and it sent me into an even more dangerous spiral because I was laden with so much guilt. Why him and not me? My drug use became out of control. I have seen things no one should have to see, experienced scary situations, scary people, scary people with weapons threatening my life....shit you literally see in movies. Shit that many other souls have not been fortunate enough to walk away from alive. Fast forward to today and I am 97 days sober from the drugs I once thought I couldn't live without. I haven't been sober this long in about 10 years. Once I was ready, that was it. I said , fuck it , no substance is going to control me anymore so I took it another step further and quit smoking cigarettes as well and I'm 39 days without the cancer sticks controlling my days anymore. I feel great. Since December 15, 2023 when I weighed about 100lbs, to weighing 124 lbs today. I can breathe, eat, enjoy my family, my kids, my friends. I am gaining trust back, making amends for past wrongs I did to people I care about. Life is finally starting to feel normal, rewarding and happy. I don't hate what I see in the mirror today. It is possible. You can do it. Don't be ashamed to get the help you need. And if you are someone struggling today know this....I love you!❤ I may not know you, but I love you and am rooting for you all!!❤❤❤❤
love this song. found out our neighbour is fighting a damn hard battle. alcohol and others, working like a motherfucker but lost his wife and children. best mate in intensive care. hitting at least a litre of vodka a day(both of them). now his mts in intensive care-dying, hes struggling. also love this band. cant believe the lead singer has had his demons and wants to be a chic. wtf life is a struggle for all of us, not judging, just struggling with it. i dont agree with pronouns, but i respect each persons struggles and identity... holy sheet. any way... against me still finnnnnn rocks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Been clean since 2013. IT'S WORTH IT. I have everything I dreamed of and alot of things I didn't think possible. Please keep going. its worth every moment.
@@alexanderharrell8780look at you go! You are definitely an inspiration to me to keep on going! People like you prove that it is possible for anyone facing addiction to get the help they need to live clean and sober. Thank you!!❤❤
i remember when my dad was on hospice in the living room in front of me, 5 months, 2017, and he cut off all my scared family who was bickerin n shit, "would yall shut up, id like to listen to what nicks got playin." ill never forget that. bless what you do, mad love fr.
@@wasabi9695 why is my comment not showin up, fuck you ya piece of garbage, the shit happened, is there a damn messaging thing on youtube would you fuckin message me right now please? ya. fuckin. cunt.
I remember when I got out of rehab like five year ago, I drove over two hours by myself to go to an Against Me show alone in Buffalo. I cried the hardest ever in my life when they played this song. Recovery is so incredibly hard, but so totally worth it.
I think you earned every drop of those tears. Be well and don't stop...starting is the hardest part and you're past it. I'm actually moving to Buffalo from Phoenix next month. I would consider myself fortunate to bump into you sometime, but you take care of yourself, you have a good heart. with love.
You and me both. My family wasn't exactly supportive, telling me I wasn't welcome to stay to flat-out calling for my suicide. Still not in a stable frame, but slowly doing better. We got this shit called life down together, as long as we support each other there IS another side to the bridge.
I'm 10 years sober and I just teared up reading your comment. I forgot I was actively using when I first heard this song. Whoa, what a ride life can be.
When I come back to this song and seeing my comments... 6 years back.. 4 years... 3.... Commenting about addiction, getting clean, and love for this song. Welp, here's another comment to see after another few! Thank you for this song- I could not have gone through without it.
Laura let me enter the Against Me! concert in my hometown because I was broke and didn't have a dime to pay for the ticked. I respect her so much... WONDERFUL human being!
I went to see Against Me on the Fat Wreck Tour years ago, around the Cavalier Eternal era. The show was sold out and they hung out in the parking lot giving kids bits of their equipment to take in so they could sneak in to the show. Did it till they had no more gear. Giving kids like one cymbal and shit haha.
Shows they are really in it for the music and their fans and not just the money. Small things like that shows who they really are. They are not that well known, or huge money makers but have huge hearts for the little guy. Always makes me happy when I hear when my idols are truly good people I loved against me! For the past 13 years I hope they never lose there fighting spirit now more then ever. I'd love to here the thoughts on 2020...?
when i first heard this song i got misty eyed, made my mind click "time to wake up dude, your daughter is 10 and you dont have a career". Now things are wonderful, i still listen and love this song. thank you so much for publishing this masterpiece.
Anyone else here from Laura Jane Grace's NPR Tiny Desk concert? I will always love Against Me! and LJG's music. Y'all have made a huge difference for more people than you believe ❤
30, single, regularly high or drunk, still sometimes making it home while the sun is coming up. Yeah this song really hits harder over time. Hope they tour again. Lost my voice the last time I saw them and would love to do that again.
GOD!!! I grew up in Gainesville Florida and saw Against Me once there. Hearing this takes me back to a much sweeter time in life. I hope all of you out there are well. I love you ALL.
I remember hearing this song played on KROQ back in like 2007-08ish. Was only in Jr High. Never looked into the lyrics, and Holy hell what a song this is.
I remember seeing them at a show in Seattle when I was 21… 17 years ago. It was a first date with one of my favorite people. We were in this crowd of thousands, but he still managed to pull me in and do this crazy mashed up ballroom dancing with me through this whole song. One of the best moments of my life. Will never forget it.
thought I'd drop in and say I made it! I got better after 2 or 3 months and I no longer want to go back and start again with the shit. im so glad that I survived the horrible addiction without the desire to go back. thank u Laura Jane grace for this amazing and awesome song and thank u for everything you've done to my chaotic world and putting everything into a way out for me. I now live with the knowledge of how to be happy.
I remember them playing this in 08, opening for Foo in Winnipeg! I thought the drummer looked like a crazy, drunk Amish dude and he held a groove like nobody else! Awesome!
Laura jane is so inspirational to me. I remember listening to this song a decade ago and feeling a connection immediately and then listening to the other Against Me catalog
I saw them for the first time 2 weeks ago at the GWARBQ in RVA. During this song this guy a few years older than me grabbed me and pulled me into a bear hug and we both screamed these lyrics while tearing up. At the end of the song we both gave each other a huge hug and I never saw him the rest of that day. If you see this sir, you smelled like sweat but you gave one amazing hug. This band does beautiful beautiful things.
Many many years ago I saw against me when they opened for alkaline trio and as with most opening bands most people weren't that into them. But me and a small group were there for against me and I remember one dude in particular who sounds just like that we were arm in arm singing at the top of our lungs to every song and at the end we gave each other an embrace that I'm not ashamed has me tearing up right now. This music and you people mean alot to me. Be strong and healthy and know you are loved.
When i got home from the middle east after 11 months, this was my jam to cope with my PTSD. The song just painted a picture that was simplistic and pulls at those strings everybody has of not being wanted and being ok with being alone. Band is awesome and frome naples FL which is 30 minutes from me
Congratulations! Don't give up the fight, it eventually gets easier. Take motivation and inspiration from whatever you can, this song is a great one! 6 years, 3 months as of tomorrow here :)
after reading Laura's book and how much she and the whole band fuckin hated this music video, shooting it and everything, it made me want to come watch it out of curiosity
It’s so cool to see all of the positive things said about this band. My uncle used to manage e band before it got super big and when I was a baby I was on the tour bus for them. I don’t know much about them, so it’s super cool to see their pretty awesome people haha!
Man, I just discovered this band today after watching Ben Lee play an acoustic cover of it on Australian radio (Like a version). I cant get the tune out of my head (nor the lyrics). Killer recording.. like a wall of sound and angst that just smashes head first into you.
This song means so much to me, as a struggling heroin addict of 11 years... it hurts me to hurt my family knowing what I am and lets face it, it's possible but must of don't get out alive... love you guys, you're an inspiration
Nothing will ever stear me away from how amazing this song is! I've heard it live once before I appreciated as to how amazing it actually is. Recovery is possible! Seen it first hand! You're not alone
@@hubtubby so you are saying he should have just dressed the part of female rather than feel the person he wants to be? For the sake of others? That’s the point, he wasn’t happy who he was. He was in turmoil. You try having some turmoil in which it consumes you until you can’t take it any longer and you need to be free!Some people have to physically change. Good for him to break free and to be who she became! Like Laura said on interview with George Strombolopolis “I don’t have to compartmentalize who I am” That must feel so liberating! Rock on Laura you deserve much support and love and respect as before this transformation!
@@sweetlady6059 What are the things that only females can do, that made him want to go through all that? Did he want to wear makeup and think only women can wear makeup? Is he actually being sexist? Did he just want to sit when he pees? Did he just want to wear a bra or have long hair? Did he just want someone to put a cock in him? For someone who had such great songs like stop! It really seems he didnt take the time to think. Money and surgery shouldn't be the answer. This is just a "faux punk" version of a spoilt woman filled with plastic.
Have you ever discovered music you loved, and then realized that you just couldn't stand the sound of it? Some of you willbe able to follow that this band reminds me of someone who I love, but don't speak to anymore.
This band has helped me so much. I discovered them just after I came out - around 2 years ago - and they help me so much with their lyrics and I couldn't express enough love for this band
I can't stop thinking about laura, not being out (I think) and Just like,,,, hiding her pain and all this..... I know the feeling. It's really awful and painful. She has really come a long way! and I'm happy for her :)
I have a loved one who struggles with addiction and I don’t how to handle it it all, but this song has been helping getting me through everything. Thank you.
i thought this was rise against for years lol, great band and great song core memories hearing this on the radio station that no longer exsists, rip x103.9.
My neighbor was blasting this song late one night. I got up & went over there and said, “What is that SONG”??? It’s like my life story and I LOVE it!!!” They invited me in and we’ve been friends ever since
i saw her live last sunday, and she is awesome. She seems so much more happy on stage and it just makes for a better show. Thats Right! Against Me! Just Got Better!!!!
you missed some amazing music in the early 80's....Adolescents, Descendents, Circle Jerks, X, The Dickies, by 84 it started turning and not in a good way
I have listened to this song over 1000 times in the last 6 months. Ive been a college student & stay at home dad to our 4 kids. My wife hadnt given me much thought or attention in over a year (sexless marriage), and I felt used & unwanted. I made it through a suicide attempt in October. My wife asked for a divorce 6 days after I was released from the hospital. Then she cheated on me with my friend, and accused him of rape. Then she took my kids through CPS, because of my mental illnesses. (PTSD, ADHD, GAD & OCD). Laura Jane Grace is revolutionary and speaks to my pain and gives it a safe place to go. Thank you, Against Me!, for keeping me here. Thrash Unreal, Black Me Out, & FML666 are constantly playing for the energy I need. All of "Against Me!" Is my anthem now, and has been for almost a decade.
@@southpawdj Thank you for the kind words, fellow Mike. I have gotten loads of surprisingly good news recently.. so you were right! Continue being awesome, my dude!
@@Arkangelz87 figured I'd join in on the Mike fest here and echo Mr Crockett's sentiment, for you to hold on, wishing you all the best! And after reading your subsequent reply, I'm quite pleased to hear things have seemingly started to take a step in the right direction for you as of recent! Very nice!
Struggled with alcohol and substance problems from my late teens to my early twenties... Been clean now for the last ten years. Always a fight every day
As someone who very nearly fell into addiction via opioid use, I have nothing but respect for those who have to fight this. I know you are much stronger than you think you are. Keep fighting
you know what? when I was an addict and 28 years old I swore this song was my life. And now when I hear it it still is a part of my life that I will cherish because it got me through that, made me feel I was more than what I felt. Thank you Against me. I am better now, and I have a husband who asks for the privilege. I can still hear the rebel yell as loud as it was in 1983. When I was born. This was my anthem when I was sick, and still I cared about myself because of your lyrics and got out. I am better, healthy and loving myself completely now. You know what I mean. 7 years.
The first time I heard this it affected me so much. It reminded me of someone that I always felt left this world too early. I called the radio station the next to find out the title. It took a minute because this was before all the phone apps. I'm telling this story because grief is real. It's a process. It's okay. Do your best not to let it suck you into the void. Music heals❤
I remember going to their shows every time they had one before they broke out, always had respect for them and from them. When fat mike signed them everyone was happy for them, they’re true southern punks
so much hate for Laura- when i got into punk i thought it was full of open minded people and full of people against the powers that be in our society- seems nowadays, or outside of the scene i was part of, there's no less bigotry and idiocy in the punk scene than in general society- it's depressing how uncapping and vitriolic and aggressive people can be against things they don't understand
well yeah. we will forever deal with bigotry in every scene of every society. I don't dress punk so people might say I'm a poser let's say, but what moved me to punk was nov. 30 1999 so the dress has nothing to do with it for me. it's ideals. but that is a form of bigotry. I didn't like the change but I support his decision and against me was once my favorite all time punk band...so the music is great. I think everyone as well as said tom/laura should quit fucking talking about it at all. you don't want to make it a big deal, then stop making it a big deal.
i always thought the opposite. punks being the most closedminded aholes. never made friends with punks at my school. the only one i hung around got kicked out of school tried to pin what he did on me. also even most of the self proclaimed punks i met have unvaried shit taste in music too. all the reasons why i would be embarassed to attach myself to that label. but pretty much thats what i am. its the music i always come to and i love most of it. musically punk is such a broad open thing.
+Toby B I agree. mostly it is a bunch of people willing to yell "stick it to the man!!" or "overthrow the government" but not align themselves with the feminist movement, or address/acknowledge racism/sexism/homophobia etc... like what are you rebelling against then?? lol bunch of (mostly) white male "anarchists" without a cause.
WTF why have I never heard of this band in this song this is the most incredible uplifting song and energetic t that I've ever heard how did this not get put on airway.
I'm 29, been drinking roughly 15-18 beers every day for six years. I have a nice house, two paid off vehicles & great paying job yet I can feel so miserable sometimes. I'm not suicidal, just bored with drinking every day but can not picture being sober long term. I could accomplish so much more if I didn't depend on booze. Day 1 sober, hopefully I have it in me to continue. I need a healthier/more positive release. I hope any one struggling stays strong. 🙏 ✌️.
lol you must be too if youre seeing me! haha my love for this band cannot be contained to one comment :P my fav band is angels and airwaves and atom used to be their drummer. i was so happy when he said hed be drumming for AM! and laura is my role model so im passionate about it haha!
When new wave come out, I was so disgruntled by Against Me! changing their sound that I never gave it a fair shake, but now that I'm older and wiser I can really appreciate it. This song is so powerful. RAR is still the epitome of feels for me, but damn this hits too.
"You reach a point where there's not a lie in the world that you could use to make the boys believe you're still in your twenties." The flow and pulse of that line is so hard hitting and infectious. You can't NOT love this song.
by the way this relates to me so well because I'm a trans man and I grew up being a junkie. I still am only difference now is I been off the pain pills two weeks and I'm now recovering from the withdrawals. this song helped alot. I only smoke the grass now and drink some. giving up the pills is so hard I cry almost everyday since 2 weeks ago saying to myself any day now I won't be hurting and a lifetime of pills will only bring more pain than true happiness. every time if I didn't have a pill I got sick as hell. so why even bother? u can't always have it and many times Ur dealer gets arrested or there's always a big ass crowd wanting pills too. there's not always enough for everybody. so my conclusion is "fucked it" either be sick for only a few weeks or be sick here and there for the rest of ur life never knowing if today will be good or not because u just don't know what the folks are selling.
Dude, I send you my support and I hope you're doing alright. I am a trans man who struggles with alcoholism as a means to escape reality... Been working real hard to improve myself. There is always hope.
Thrash Unreal Against Me! If she wants to dance and drink all night Well, there's no one that can stop her She's going till the house lights come up or her stomach spills onto the floor This night is gonna end when we're damn well ready for it to be over Worked all week long, now the music is playing on our time Yeah, we do what we do to get by, and then we need a release You get mixed up with the wrong guys You get messed up on the wrong drugs Sometimes the party takes you places that you didn't really plan on going When people see the track marks on her arm, she knows what they're thinking She keeps on working for that minimum As if a high school education gave you any other options, you know They don't know nothing about redemption They don't know nothing about recovery Some people just aren't the type for marriage and family No mother ever dreams that her daughter's gonna grow up to be a junkie No mother ever dreams that her daughter's gonna grow up to sleep alone No mother ever dreams that her daughter's gonna grow up to be a junkie No mother ever dreams that her daughter's gonna grow up to sleep alone She's out of step with the style She don't know where the action's happening You know the downtown club scene ain't nothing like it used to be You reach a point where there's not a lie in the world That you could use to make the boys believe you're still in your twenties But they keep getting younger, don't they, baby? She's not waiting for someone to come over and ask for the privilege She can still here that rebel yell just as loud as it was in 1983, you know There ain't no Johnny coming home to share a bed with her, and she doesn't care No mother ever dreams that her daughter's gonna grow up to be a junkie No mother ever dreams that her daughter's gonna grow up to sleep alone No mother ever dreams that her daughter's gonna grow up to be a junkie No mother ever dreams that her daughter's gonna grow up to sleep alone No mother ever dreams that her daughter's gonna grow up to be a junkie And if she had to live it all over again, you know she wouldn't change anything for the world
@@Astrochronic you're entitled to your personal perception though i guess. Just cause that's how you perceive doesn't actually make it so for everyone though.
@@christopherbradley899 Reality is reality. A rose is a rose is a rose. Change the names and pronouns, the truth does not change. Put a man in a dress, or lipstick on a pig. Truth remains all you have added is extra salt and a dash of crazy.
@@christopherbradley899 I see through the glamour to the truth. its not really that hard, actually. We all have this super power. Some people get stuck in the glamour and then get mad at those who try to draw them out of it. This indicates that the problem is not intelligence, but character. They simply want to wallow in the glamour and the only thing that can possibly free them is undeserved love from someone willing to sacrifice what it takes to pull them out. I personally, lack the patience.
Pushing 45 now and puts the kids ( 8/12 ) in my new volvo suv like a real surban dad in Sweden. Then i crank the stereo up with Trash Unreal and every time the kids scream please turn it down when we arrive no other parents play music like you ... Well im not another parent im yours and i bet the other parents just doesnt dare but maybe want to 😊
When people see the track marks on her arm, she knows what they’re thinking... addiction is real!! I’ll keep fighting to stay sober tho, people don’t know how hard it is unless you’ve lived it.
This song hit when I was 14, it hits just as hard 2 days before my 24th birthday, and it hits harder everytime I rediscover it
I hope it hits just as hard on your 25th! 🎉
This and I was a Teenage Anarchist. I still am a teenage anarchist but even when I’m no longer a teen I’ll still be a teenage anarchist.
Addict of over 20 years. I've had multiple brief periods of sobriety all ending in relapse. My brother passed away at 38 years of age in 2017 of natural causes and it sent me into an even more dangerous spiral because I was laden with so much guilt. Why him and not me? My drug use became out of control. I have seen things no one should have to see, experienced scary situations, scary people, scary people with weapons threatening my life....shit you literally see in movies. Shit that many other souls have not been fortunate enough to walk away from alive. Fast forward to today and I am 97 days sober from the drugs I once thought I couldn't live without. I haven't been sober this long in about 10 years. Once I was ready, that was it. I said , fuck it , no substance is going to control me anymore so I took it another step further and quit smoking cigarettes as well and I'm 39 days without the cancer sticks controlling my days anymore. I feel great. Since December 15, 2023 when I weighed about 100lbs, to weighing 124 lbs today. I can breathe, eat, enjoy my family, my kids, my friends. I am gaining trust back, making amends for past wrongs I did to people I care about. Life is finally starting to feel normal, rewarding and happy. I don't hate what I see in the mirror today. It is possible. You can do it. Don't be ashamed to get the help you need. And if you are someone struggling today know this....I love you!❤ I may not know you, but I love you and am rooting for you all!!❤❤❤❤
love this song. found out our neighbour is fighting a damn hard battle. alcohol and others, working like a motherfucker but lost his wife and children. best mate in intensive care. hitting at least a litre of vodka a day(both of them). now his mts in intensive care-dying, hes struggling. also love this band. cant believe the lead singer has had his demons and wants to be a chic. wtf life is a struggle for all of us, not judging, just struggling with it. i dont agree with pronouns, but i respect each persons struggles and identity... holy sheet. any way... against me still finnnnnn rocks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thank you, i ugh really needed to hear that
Keep going! You can do it!
Been clean since 2013. IT'S WORTH IT. I have everything I dreamed of and alot of things I didn't think possible. Please keep going. its worth every moment.
@@alexanderharrell8780look at you go! You are definitely an inspiration to me to keep on going! People like you prove that it is possible for anyone facing addiction to get the help they need to live clean and sober. Thank you!!❤❤
I'm a hospice nurse and had a dance party with a dying man to this song today and I think it will go down as one of the best moments of my life.
i remember when my dad was on hospice in the living room in front of me, 5 months, 2017, and he cut off all my scared family who was bickerin n shit, "would yall shut up, id like to listen to what nicks got playin." ill never forget that. bless what you do, mad love fr.
@@nickjackson7131 I really needed that today thank you - love to you too
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@@nickjackson7131 makin shit up for attention 😂
@@wasabi9695 why is my comment not showin up, fuck you ya piece of garbage, the shit happened, is there a damn messaging thing on youtube would you fuckin message me right now please? ya. fuckin. cunt.
I remember when I got out of rehab like five year ago, I drove over two hours by myself to go to an Against Me show alone in Buffalo. I cried the hardest ever in my life when they played this song. Recovery is so incredibly hard, but so totally worth it.
Stay strong Sari
I think you earned every drop of those tears. Be well and don't stop...starting is the hardest part and you're past it. I'm actually moving to Buffalo from Phoenix next month. I would consider myself fortunate to bump into you sometime, but you take care of yourself, you have a good heart. with love.
Keep at it! We're proud of you.
You and me both. My family wasn't exactly supportive, telling me I wasn't welcome to stay to flat-out calling for my suicide. Still not in a stable frame, but slowly doing better. We got this shit called life down together, as long as we support each other there IS another side to the bridge.
I'm 10 years sober and I just teared up reading your comment. I forgot I was actively using when I first heard this song. Whoa, what a ride life can be.
Just got out of treatment yesterday and I have 29 days sober! Somehow this song just happened to play on my streaming service. So glad it did!
Congrats, buddy! You can do it❤
Random person listening
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I hope you're doing well still!
@@Kira-mj8ug Over 2 years sober!
When I come back to this song and seeing my comments... 6 years back.. 4 years... 3....
Commenting about addiction, getting clean, and love for this song.
Welp, here's another comment to see after another few!
Thank you for this song- I could not have gone through without it.
Keep it going
It's ridiculous when ya think about it 😑
10 years later and it still feels so good to just scream this song out on a ride home!!
Mollie Hayes that’s what I’m doin now!!
Laura let me enter the Against Me! concert in my hometown because I was broke and didn't have a dime to pay for the ticked. I respect her so much... WONDERFUL human being!
That's just fuckin AWESOME!!!
I went to see Against Me on the Fat Wreck Tour years ago, around the Cavalier Eternal era. The show was sold out and they hung out in the parking lot giving kids bits of their equipment to take in so they could sneak in to the show. Did it till they had no more gear. Giving kids like one cymbal and shit haha.
Shows they are really in it for the music and their fans and not just the money. Small things like that shows who they really are. They are not that well known, or huge money makers but have huge hearts for the little guy. Always makes me happy when I hear when my idols are truly good people I loved against me! For the past 13 years I hope they never lose there fighting spirit now more then ever. I'd love to here the thoughts on 2020...?
Cool! But it's still "he" and "him"
@@ROCKaholic and what gives you the right to decide?
when i first heard this song i got misty eyed, made my mind click "time to wake up dude, your daughter is 10 and you dont have a career". Now things are wonderful, i still listen and love this song. thank you so much for publishing this masterpiece.
I still find myself listening to this song on repeat every now and then. Ever since its release just a great tune
1:47 is that Butch Vig tipping over that vat of wine?
it is! he produced their albums New Wave and White Crosses
@@edgarcalderon2128 awesome! from nirvana to against me
Anyone else here from Laura Jane Grace's NPR Tiny Desk concert? I will always love Against Me! and LJG's music. Y'all have made a huge difference for more people than you believe ❤
still a dude lol
30, single, regularly high or drunk, still sometimes making it home while the sun is coming up. Yeah this song really hits harder over time. Hope they tour again. Lost my voice the last time I saw them and would love to do that again.
A year sober today, and boy does this song mean more to me than ever. The energy of Against Me! is eternal
GOD!!! I grew up in Gainesville Florida and saw Against Me once there. Hearing this takes me back to a much sweeter time in life. I hope all of you out there are well. I love you ALL.
I remember hearing this song played on KROQ back in like 2007-08ish. Was only in Jr High. Never looked into the lyrics, and Holy hell what a song this is.
Best punk band ever. Laura is a legend.
I remember seeing them at a show in Seattle when I was 21… 17 years ago. It was a first date with one of my favorite people. We were in this crowd of thousands, but he still managed to pull me in and do this crazy mashed up ballroom dancing with me through this whole song. One of the best moments of my life. Will never forget it.
thought I'd drop in and say I made it! I got better after 2 or 3 months and I no longer want to go back and start again with the shit. im so glad that I survived the horrible addiction without the desire to go back. thank u Laura Jane grace for this amazing and awesome song and thank u for everything you've done to my chaotic world and putting everything into a way out for me. I now live with the knowledge of how to be happy.
BACKSTABBED TO THE FRONT proud of you ❤
hey dude, I hope you're still doing well.
I remember them playing this in 08, opening for Foo in Winnipeg! I thought the drummer looked like a crazy, drunk Amish dude and he held a groove like nobody else! Awesome!
Laura jane is so inspirational to me. I remember listening to this song a decade ago and feeling a connection immediately and then listening to the other Against Me catalog
I saw them for the first time 2 weeks ago at the GWARBQ in RVA. During this song this guy a few years older than me grabbed me and pulled me into a bear hug and we both screamed these lyrics while tearing up. At the end of the song we both gave each other a huge hug and I never saw him the rest of that day. If you see this sir, you smelled like sweat but you gave one amazing hug.
This band does beautiful beautiful things.
Try going to a Japandroids show :D
Many many years ago I saw against me when they opened for alkaline trio and as with most opening bands most people weren't that into them. But me and a small group were there for against me and I remember one dude in particular who sounds just like that we were arm in arm singing at the top of our lungs to every song and at the end we gave each other an embrace that I'm not ashamed has me tearing up right now. This music and you people mean alot to me. Be strong and healthy and know you are loved.
I’m so fuckin late but Eyy live in rva and I love seeing ppl from my city having dope experiences like this I wish I could’ve been there
Isn't the lead singer a tranny now?
Sounds gay
"they dont know nothing about recovery.." chills everytime
They really don't doe.
James and Laura's vocal harmonies are one of the best parts of Against Me. I absolutely love James vocal style.
Sam Warren does she sing the same way now
yes she does.listen to transgender dysphoria blues
DirtyGhettoKids
When i got home from the middle east after 11 months, this was my jam to cope with my PTSD. The song just painted a picture that was simplistic and pulls at those strings everybody has of not being wanted and being ok with being alone. Band is awesome and frome naples FL which is 30 minutes from me
96 days clean and this song is what's keeping me going.
Congratulations! Don't give up the fight, it eventually gets easier. Take motivation and inspiration from whatever you can, this song is a great one! 6 years, 3 months as of tomorrow here :)
Congrats man. I'm trying to get through it now and this song has been on repeat
Keep going both of you I believe in you ❤
I hope you're all still staying strong and doing good. I got just over 6 months myself. Fight the good fight. I believe in you. ANYONE can get clean.
Pulling for all of you. You got this!
I’m watching this around 15 years after this song and video came out. Still an absolute fucking banger.
after reading Laura's book and how much she and the whole band fuckin hated this music video, shooting it and everything, it made me want to come watch it out of curiosity
I am 60 yrs old and i grew up with punk real punk.. and this as real as it gets Cheers to my punk family
STFU
This is the happiest drummer I've ever seen. Also this song makes me feel sad for feeling good and vice versa. Love them so much.
Haha it's Warren I knew him in high school he's super funny!
It’s so cool to see all of the positive things said about this band. My uncle used to manage e band before it got super big and when I was a baby I was on the tour bus for them. I don’t know much about them, so it’s super cool to see their pretty awesome people haha!
Man, I just discovered this band today after watching Ben Lee play an acoustic cover of it on Australian radio (Like a version). I cant get the tune out of my head (nor the lyrics). Killer recording.. like a wall of sound and angst that just smashes head first into you.
13 years. My God. I remember watching this video thinking the "old girl" in this was so old. Now she looks so young.
This song means so much to me, as a struggling heroin addict of 11 years... it hurts me to hurt my family knowing what I am and lets face it, it's possible but must of don't get out alive... love you guys, you're an inspiration
Keep on man .
Some people need a run-in with real trial and tribulation before they realize Heroin is one of the easiest substances in the world to quit.
Stay strong brother
Me too...
@Zdiddy7
Clesrly he hasnt
Sometimes a party takes you places that didn't really plan on going........love it and lived it
Nothing will ever stear me away from how amazing this song is! I've heard it live once before I appreciated as to how amazing it actually is. Recovery is possible! Seen it first hand! You're not alone
Pre Luara days are so punk because you could feel that anger and punk attidude pouring through every word. You're a legend Girl
I prefer the Tom days, i think people should be happy how they are without having to transform
@@hubtubby so you are saying he should have just dressed the part of female rather than feel the person he wants to be? For the sake of others?
That’s the point, he wasn’t happy who he was. He was in turmoil. You try having some turmoil in which it consumes you until you can’t take it any longer and you need to be free!Some people have to physically change. Good for him to break free and to be who she became! Like Laura said on interview with George Strombolopolis “I don’t have to compartmentalize who I am” That must feel so liberating! Rock on Laura you deserve much support and love and respect as before this transformation!
@@sweetlady6059 What are the things that only females can do, that made him want to go through all that?
Did he want to wear makeup and think only women can wear makeup? Is he actually being sexist? Did he just want to sit when he pees? Did he just want to wear a bra or have long hair? Did he just want someone to put a cock in him?
For someone who had such great songs like stop! It really seems he didnt take the time to think. Money and surgery shouldn't be the answer. This is just a "faux punk" version of a spoilt woman filled with plastic.
@@sweetlady6059 way to be on the wrong side of science
@@hubtubby why exactly are your preferences relevant to how other people live their lives?
listened to this band since the start, didnt give a shit when he became Laura, still an amazing front woman and vocalist! still one of my fav bands
When she became Laura (idk if it was just a mind fuck, happens to the best of us)
Laura always was, sometimes the best approach is to stop talking
This helps me stop drinking.i can't explain it it just does.almost 2yrs sober.ty guys.
Have you ever discovered music you loved, and then realized that you just couldn't stand the sound of it? Some of you willbe able to follow that this band reminds me of someone who I love, but don't speak to anymore.
Damn! 😢
i just discovered this band recently on Spotify and im liking everything ive heard so far!
Just started listening to them recently myself, awesome awesome band.
Spotify is a gr8 way to find new music 😎👍
this has been my favorite band for about 5 years, i love that so many people are joining their fanbase, makes me a happy fangirl
This is a badass song that's all there is to it. One of my favorite songs of all time
I remember getting to open for these guys at a house show in Gainesville and it's still my favorite show I've ever been a part off
there are too much memories and great moments to recovery !
This band has helped me so much. I discovered them just after I came out - around 2 years ago - and they help me so much with their lyrics and I couldn't express enough love for this band
I can't stop thinking about laura, not being out (I think) and Just like,,,, hiding her pain and all this..... I know the feeling. It's really awful and painful. She has really come a long way! and I'm happy for her :)
I have a loved one who struggles with addiction and I don’t how to handle it it all, but this song has been helping getting me through everything. Thank you.
One year sober as of yesterday. This song kind of brings my mind to the past in a really great way. I love it so much
1:42 Butch Vig, the album's producer is one of the dudes tipping the large wine vat/barrel. Whoa.
I love you Laura!!!!
Love the band the lead singer is amazing and love the yelling way of singing makes you listen. Rock on girl! 🤘🏻
Its a guy.
@@Astrochronic but the singer is a girl?
@@XtremeDestroyer no, he is a guy.
@@Astrochronic I only see a girl singing! Idk who this guy you're talking about?
@@XtremeDestroyer I love you
Geez... This song brings back LOTS of memories...
Anyone else catch a glimpse of producer Butch Vig in the video. You can really see him when they pour the giant vase of wine out.
Amazing song. One of my favorite songs of all time.
Wow holy fuck. What a voice. First time listening to them, this is beast.
i thought this was rise against for years lol, great band and great song core memories hearing this on the radio station that no longer exsists, rip x103.9.
My neighbor was blasting this song late one night. I got up & went over there and said, “What is that SONG”??? It’s like my life story and I LOVE it!!!” They invited me in and we’ve been friends ever since
That's such a lovely story.
i saw her live last sunday, and she is awesome. She seems so much more happy on stage and it just makes for a better show. Thats Right! Against Me! Just Got Better!!!!
Emily Is Away 3 Brought Me Here And I'm Forever Grateful!!!!
I'm turning 50 this year but I can still hear the rebel yell just as loud as it was in 1983....
Happy late birthday for last year, and happy early/late birthday for this year!
you missed some amazing music in the early 80's....Adolescents, Descendents, Circle Jerks, X, The Dickies, by 84 it started turning and not in a good way
I have listened to this song over 1000 times in the last 6 months.
Ive been a college student & stay at home dad to our 4 kids.
My wife hadnt given me much thought or attention in over a year (sexless marriage), and I felt used & unwanted.
I made it through a suicide attempt in October.
My wife asked for a divorce 6 days after I was released from the hospital.
Then she cheated on me with my friend, and accused him of rape.
Then she took my kids through CPS, because of my mental illnesses. (PTSD, ADHD, GAD & OCD).
Laura Jane Grace is revolutionary and speaks to my pain and gives it a safe place to go.
Thank you, Against Me!, for keeping me here.
Thrash Unreal, Black Me Out, & FML666 are constantly playing for the energy I need.
All of "Against Me!" Is my anthem now, and has been for almost a decade.
Keep moving forward brother. It does get better.
@@southpawdj Thank you for the kind words, fellow Mike.
I have gotten loads of surprisingly good news recently.. so you were right!
Continue being awesome, my dude!
@@Arkangelz87 figured I'd join in on the Mike fest here and echo Mr Crockett's sentiment, for you to hold on, wishing you all the best!
And after reading your subsequent reply, I'm quite pleased to hear things have seemingly started to take a step in the right direction for you as of recent! Very nice!
@@mikematheson6206Checking back in to say that my life has been gradually transforming for the better.
Thanks for being a bro, Mike.
-Mike C. ✊️
Before being trans was a thing being widely talked about, Laura made me aware. Love this person. Love this band.
Struggled with alcohol and substance problems from my late teens to my early twenties... Been clean now for the last ten years. Always a fight every day
In my opinion the best punk band ever....i love their sound so much...so much power!!
i love this song man!
very much
yay
As someone who very nearly fell into addiction via opioid use, I have nothing but respect for those who have to fight this. I know you are much stronger than you think you are. Keep fighting
Some of the best nights of my life are when I didn’t feel like going out and “ the party took me places that I didn’t really plan on going” MAGICAL!!
This song is timeless
i feel so bad and ashamed for failing and becoming an addict. This song always helped, thanks laura
I was an addict and now i'm a hospice nurse. Every day you wake up is another chance to start your whole life over. If you can breathe you can fight.
you know what? when I was an addict and 28 years old I swore this song was my life. And now when I hear it it still is a part of my life that I will cherish because it got me through that, made me feel I was more than what I felt. Thank you Against me. I am better now, and I have a husband who asks for the privilege. I can still hear the rebel yell as loud as it was in 1983. When I was born. This was my anthem when I was sick, and still I cared about myself because of your lyrics and got out. I am better, healthy and loving myself completely now. You know what I mean. 7 years.
The first time I heard this it affected me so much. It reminded me of someone that I always felt left this world too early. I called the radio station the next to find out the title. It took a minute because this was before all the phone apps. I'm telling this story because grief is real. It's a process. It's okay. Do your best not to let it suck you into the void. Music heals❤
Love all of Laura's work and revisiting this song. I came out as trans a few years back and belting this back thing helped with frustration.
As an addict, this song cuts through me so much- it applies to so much of me. I get goosebumps listening to this- always.
I like how u commented on this song 6 years ago. And then again 4 years ago. Well, now it’s been 4 years, care to say something again?
I forgot how much I loved this song until I heard it this morning, I fucking love this song.
I remember going to their shows every time they had one before they broke out, always had respect for them and from them. When fat mike signed them everyone was happy for them, they’re true southern punks
This song is so uplifting but saddening at the same time and I can’t get enough of it today for some reason
I know what you mean. It's a weird contrast.
so much hate for Laura- when i got into punk i thought it was full of open minded people and full of people against the powers that be in our society- seems nowadays, or outside of the scene i was part of, there's no less bigotry and idiocy in the punk scene than in general society- it's depressing how uncapping and vitriolic and aggressive people can be against things they don't understand
freedomwrench - nice comment- in that case, i'm still punk , and always will be :)
+Toby B and that's probably why she wrote the bridge in "Teenage Anarchist".
well yeah. we will forever deal with bigotry in every scene of every society. I don't dress punk so people might say I'm a poser let's say, but what moved me to punk was nov. 30 1999 so the dress has nothing to do with it for me. it's ideals. but that is a form of bigotry. I didn't like the change but I support his decision and against me was once my favorite all time punk band...so the music is great. I think everyone as well as said tom/laura should quit fucking talking about it at all. you don't want to make it a big deal, then stop making it a big deal.
i always thought the opposite. punks being the most closedminded aholes. never made friends with punks at my school. the only one i hung around got kicked out of school tried to pin what he did on me. also even most of the self proclaimed punks i met have unvaried shit taste in music too. all the reasons why i would be embarassed to attach myself to that label. but pretty much thats what i am. its the music i always come to and i love most of it. musically punk is such a broad open thing.
+Toby B I agree. mostly it is a bunch of people willing to yell "stick it to the man!!" or "overthrow the government" but not align themselves with the feminist movement, or address/acknowledge racism/sexism/homophobia etc... like what are you rebelling against then?? lol bunch of (mostly) white male "anarchists" without a cause.
WTF why have I never heard of this band in this song this is the most incredible uplifting song and energetic t that I've ever heard how did this not get put on airway.
It gives me comfort to know that there are still some heartful people out there. Thnx! I am a teenage anarchist oldtimer
Heard at a hospital after losing my first kid at 18. Im 31 and still here 🔥
Sorry about your child. I lost a child too in my younger days. Hang in there!
🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
I'm 29, been drinking roughly 15-18 beers every day for six years. I have a nice house, two paid off vehicles & great paying job yet I can feel so miserable sometimes. I'm not suicidal, just bored with drinking every day but can not picture being sober long term. I could accomplish so much more if I didn't depend on booze. Day 1 sober, hopefully I have it in me to continue. I need a healthier/more positive release. I hope any one struggling stays strong. 🙏 ✌️.
You can do it man! I believe in you!
@@louisthedonothing69 Thank you!! Holding strong so far!
@@arbin.m.5089 Keep going bro, my dad went sober last year and he said time flies. I believe in you
@@arbin.m.5089,hope things are still going your way, pal 👍
i love this song so much because she so obviously wrote it about herself. it gives me the chills.
you are on like all their fucking video comments man xD
lol you must be too if youre seeing me! haha my love for this band cannot be contained to one comment :P my fav band is angels and airwaves and atom used to be their drummer. i was so happy when he said hed be drumming for AM! and laura is my role model so im passionate about it haha!
so many of her lyrics are like this.. hinting or even outright telling us.
yep every record including the demos
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This song is about a friend and her follow up song is sad in the next album. "Because of the Shame"
Just got back from their concert! She's so awesome live!!!
When new wave come out, I was so disgruntled by Against Me! changing their sound that I never gave it a fair shake, but now that I'm older and wiser I can really appreciate it. This song is so powerful. RAR is still the epitome of feels for me, but damn this hits too.
"You reach a point where there's not a lie in the world that you could use to make the boys believe you're still in your twenties."
The flow and pulse of that line is so hard hitting and infectious. You can't NOT love this song.
My favorite album of the last ten years.
Small world lol.
One of my favorite songs of all time. Just hits so hard and so close to home for me. Love it.
I feel so proud of this band!
They don't know nothing about redemption
They don't know nothing about recovery
Thanks Laura for all of your inspiration! Thank you for helping my brother and I though some tough times
I love this song for everything it is.
by the way this relates to me so well because I'm a trans man and I grew up being a junkie. I still am only difference now is I been off the pain pills two weeks and I'm now recovering from the withdrawals. this song helped alot. I only smoke the grass now and drink some. giving up the pills is so hard I cry almost everyday since 2 weeks ago saying to myself any day now I won't be hurting and a lifetime of pills will only bring more pain than true happiness. every time if I didn't have a pill I got sick as hell. so why even bother? u can't always have it and many times Ur dealer gets arrested or there's always a big ass crowd wanting pills too. there's not always enough for everybody. so my conclusion is "fucked it" either be sick for only a few weeks or be sick here and there for the rest of ur life never knowing if today will be good or not because u just don't know what the folks are selling.
You can do this man! It's really great that your working through it, good luck !
+Danny Stevenson thank u it means alot
So im curious... are you still off the pills?... and how are you doing now?
Dude, I send you my support and I hope you're doing alright. I am a trans man who struggles with alcoholism as a means to escape reality... Been working real hard to improve myself. There is always hope.
Thrash Unreal
Against Me!
If she wants to dance and drink all night
Well, there's no one that can stop her
She's going till the house lights come up or her stomach spills onto the floor
This night is gonna end when we're damn well ready for it to be over
Worked all week long, now the music is playing on our time
Yeah, we do what we do to get by, and then we need a release
You get mixed up with the wrong guys
You get messed up on the wrong drugs
Sometimes the party takes you places that you didn't really plan on going
When people see the track marks on her arm, she knows what they're thinking
She keeps on working for that minimum
As if a high school education gave you any other options, you know
They don't know nothing about redemption
They don't know nothing about recovery
Some people just aren't the type for marriage and family
No mother ever dreams that her daughter's gonna grow up to be a junkie
No mother ever dreams that her daughter's gonna grow up to sleep alone
No mother ever dreams that her daughter's gonna grow up to be a junkie
No mother ever dreams that her daughter's gonna grow up to sleep alone
She's out of step with the style
She don't know where the action's happening
You know the downtown club scene ain't nothing like it used to be
You reach a point where there's not a lie in the world
That you could use to make the boys believe you're still in your twenties
But they keep getting younger, don't they, baby?
She's not waiting for someone to come over and ask for the privilege
She can still here that rebel yell just as loud as it was in 1983, you know
There ain't no Johnny coming home to share a bed with her, and she doesn't care
No mother ever dreams that her daughter's gonna grow up to be a junkie
No mother ever dreams that her daughter's gonna grow up to sleep alone
No mother ever dreams that her daughter's gonna grow up to be a junkie
No mother ever dreams that her daughter's gonna grow up to sleep alone
No mother ever dreams that her daughter's gonna grow up to be a junkie
And if she had to live it all over again, you know she wouldn't change anything for the world
so evil how this song romanticizes a woman destroying her life as if it is rebellious somehow.
@@Astrochronic that's really what you took from this?
@@Astrochronic you're entitled to your personal perception though i guess. Just cause that's how you perceive doesn't actually make it so for everyone though.
@@christopherbradley899 Reality is reality. A rose is a rose is a rose. Change the names and pronouns, the truth does not change. Put a man in a dress, or lipstick on a pig. Truth remains all you have added is extra salt and a dash of crazy.
@@christopherbradley899 I see through the glamour to the truth. its not really that hard, actually. We all have this super power. Some people get stuck in the glamour and then get mad at those who try to draw them out of it. This indicates that the problem is not intelligence, but character. They simply want to wallow in the glamour and the only thing that can possibly free them is undeserved love from someone willing to sacrifice what it takes to pull them out. I personally, lack the patience.
Pushing 45 now and puts the kids ( 8/12 ) in my new volvo suv like a real surban dad in Sweden. Then i crank the stereo up with Trash Unreal and every time the kids scream please turn it down when we arrive no other parents play music like you ...
Well im not another parent im yours and i bet the other parents just doesnt dare but maybe want to 😊
Parenting the right way
Such an incredible band 🎉
I've been clean for so long I can't even count the days anymore but this song still makes me cry so fucking much
Good job
Always been a Against Me! fan, always will, whether its Tom or Laura. Keep the music coming!
thank you Evelyn
54 years old and still love this band!
When people see the track marks on her arm, she knows what they’re thinking...
addiction is real!! I’ll keep fighting to stay sober tho, people don’t know how hard it is unless you’ve lived it.
Evelyn, you still got a great taste, girl! If you weren't just my imaginay friend from a computer game.
i love evelyn omg i just finished playing
I thought I'd be the only one to come here because of that game!
What game are you referring to? Also isn't Lauras daughter named Evelyn?
@@Snandra66 emily is away, emily is too, and the recent one emily is away
@@doromate Oh thanks! I've actually played the first game, never got around to the other two, guess I better do it now!