CHILDFREE BY CHOICE & BABYSITTING: Did it make me change my mind?
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- Опубліковано 8 січ 2020
- ♥ In today's video, I talk about my first ever babysitting experience. This weekend I watched my 2-year-old niece for a few hours while her parents went to a party nearby. It was... interesting to say the least. But all is well that ends well. I returned her to her parents and I have never been more sure about my choice not to have children haha! (And don't take this video tooooo seriously haha. As I said, I do not dislike my niece whatsoever, she's great. But that doesn't mean I love babies!)
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CHILDFREE BY CHOICE & BABYSITTING: Did it make me change my mind?
Hey guys! Just posted a new video where I answer 20 of your questions about being childfree: ua-cam.com/video/ksnKy3E8slQ/v-deo.html
“i watch a lot of kid content - it’s kind of like a scary movie to me” LOL well put😂
I watch documentaries on children that have killed their parents to remind me why lol 😂😂😂
@@sarahvand3628 Hahahaha same... having a psychopathic child is just too big of a risk!!
My nephew threw the tv remote, and it hit my pom right in her face. She held back her cry, surprisely, but hearing her tight-lipped whimper broke my heart. Really wish my brother taught his kids not to throw things in animals' faces, but he's the kind of guy that thinks animals are objects and not living creatures that feel pain.
I would have killed my brother!! In all seriousness though, he and his kid wouldn't be welcome at my house anymore until they can be trusted to not hurt your poor dog.
In the end, it is far better to regret not having children than regret having children. Live your life however will make you happiest!
110% agree with that!
How's it better?
@@Anonymous-uw4sr Imagine growing up knowing your parents resented you, how you took all their time, money, and energy, and wished you were never born. When someone regrets not having children, the only person it effects is themselves. Regretting having children affects everyone involved and can have life long problems for the child brought into the situation. The fewer people that are injured the better.
Exactly. Life is hard enough even for those whose parents have not regretted becoming a parent, let alone those who grew up knowing that their parents regret having them.
There are many people wishing not to exist, but there is no non-existent people wishing to exist.
@@moiraaoibheane Fair point
I never wanted kids, but I always loved kids. So I decided to have one child and when I was young (21). Naively thinking that I would still be in my 30s when she was grown and I could still have "a life" after I finished raising her. Tip #1: The raising and guiding NEVER end. In fact, it got more intense as she got older (can we say boyfriend problems?) If I could do it again, I would have waited until I was older and wiser and spent lots more time googling how to do it better. lol You are very wise to say "no" to having children with how you feel because even when you do want them, it is the hardest job in the world. The saying "As hard as you think it will be, in the end, you will wish it was that easy." applies. BUT, for me, the rewards of doing it successfully far outweigh the negatives. It is not for everyone. Producing a full-functioning, caring, thoughtful, mindful, educated and loving person is a life-long commitment and not even close to easy. I totally respect your decision. Birth control exists for a reason, like you, millions of women were tired of not having control of their own lives. And every woman has the right to say no.
I can't help but as "so what'? why all this fuss, stress etc.? continue the cycle so that what exactly?
In my case I don’t have any problem with kids in general, I communicate with them easily, they understand me and we get along BUT I absolutely DONT want kids of my own! You have to be prepared 100% mentally, physically AND financially to make a human. You are responsible for their upbringing (and poopy diapers eww) So yeah despite what society tells us it is up to us what we do with OUR bodies and life. Period.
Zozzy i a 100% agree. My parents absolutely couldn’t take care of my emotionally and financially. That affected me so much they dont even know.
Absolutely true! I like kids, I've worked with them and done a lot of babysitting, just don't want one for myself haha
Zooey no one's never in a perfect financial or emotional situation for kids! But u make do! And in the end it all works out!
@@oldfogey3272 "it all works out in the end"
Hardly. If you absolutely believe that it works out in the end every time, you are being very very naïve. Because there are many factors and different situations in which you cannot change and which do not necessarily improve so easily or that you can do anything about, which results in things being chaotic and not ending well. In some cases, it is so bad that parents may give kids up to relatives to be taken proper care of, or even worse in fewer instances, give them to adoption, all because the situation does not end well, as most people with kids are unprepared for bringing a tiny human into the world and dealing with the consequences.
@@oldfogey3272 sometimes it does, sometimes it doesn't and none of the kids talk with the parents anymore after fleeing the nest at the earliest possible opportunity.
My parents were the pillar of their community. They were however not at all the kind of people who ever should have had children. My mother did excellent work with kids in a professional capacity as a teacher, but she was completely unable to deal with the stresses of having actual children 24/7. Not being able to sleep properly for the first year fucks you up badly, especially with an equally workaholic partner. The lack of the constant daily adult socializing that is unrelated to taking care of your kids can drive you mad. If you thrive on routines then the instability of kids can be too much.
For a lot of people, having kids turns out just fine. But for a lot of others, it doesn't. Additionally, you are not guaranteed to have healthy children so even if you are well mentally equipped to have healthy kids, having sick kids can break you. My father died a few years ago, and the biggest feeling I had was relief. I still to this day sometimes have nightmares about my parents' meltdowns, rage, and resentment. Resent, at the kids you brought into life for existing?! It is not like we had any choice about being born, but they had.
TL;DR: don't be a pushy jerk. If someone says they don't want kids, then believe them.
"You know how to make them stop doing things". I'm a parent and no, we don't know!
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I'm not a parent but a nanny and all my kids are in check. You just need consistent discipline
You legit appear slightly traumatised 😂😂 it's OK I get it. I have a three year old. She feeds directly off my soul.
Honestly the only thing that traumatized me was the stroller hahaha! I could never have imagined how incredible difficult it was to deal with! Props to all parents who wield it around like it's nothing!
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I applaud you for knowing what you want. Some people have children because they are made to feel like they are supposed to and I believe a lot of abuse and neglect can come from that.
Absolutely. I think if more people knew they had a choice, less unwanted children would have to be born and perhaps a little less suffering would take place. 'Cause all children born deserve to be loved and cared for!
"I can't imagine a more depressing life than having to care for a child"
Except for the fact that I am black, we could be twins! 😂🙌🙌
Everythingggg you have said is something I have thought. I'm so glad I came across your channel. Thank you for sharing your experience (and strengthening my resolve to never *EVER* have kids)
Here's to a child free life people. 🥂🥂🥂🥂🥂
Down with babies!!!!!!
Nah you a Oreo so y’all can be twins lol
my sister had a baby boy 9 months ago. so I'm now an aunt. but I told my whole family that I do not want to babysit ever. I played a bit with my nephew on Christmas when we all met at my parents place, but that's all I can deal with. I could deal with it because my sister with her husband and my parents were there so any time I could just hand him over to someone else. I do not want kids, period. As I said on your previous video on the topic, it would not be safe for my health to be pregnant because of thyroid disease and uterus deformation, so even if in some way I would end up pregnant, I would get an abortion because I don't want to put my life on a line for a fertilised egg.
Everytime I spend time with young humans, I am so happy I don't want any for myself. The idea of fabricating a being with my uterus is deeply disturbing to me (no judgement on those who find it ok for them). And even though my niece and nephews *look* absolutely adorable, the mere idea of spending time with them tires me enormously. I think a kid becomes interesting when they're around 10-12 years old, when they start forming actual opinions. That's when being an auntie will sound kind of cool. And I also really like my niece and nephews, that doesn't mean I'd want to be a parent.
Exactly that!
Funny, I actually hate that age range. Lol I find kids to be so boring during that time. Love them from about a year and a half to about 6. They're like little sponges, learning and evolving everyday, so interesting to watch them grow. Then I start liking them again about 17. When they've started becoming much more their own person. Still don't want any though. Lol
@@natnuss98 How can an opinion be rude? That's how she feels for herself, not her running around saying it to pregnant women.
@@natnuss98 I have a kid and growing a human IS disturbing 🤷 a lot of women get PTSD. A huge number of women die during birth, and due to pregnancy complications. It isn't rude to think something is disturbing.
@@natnuss98 sorry if you find it rude, it is absolutely not my intention, and please keep in mind that I am not a native English speaker. I truly mean disturbing in relation to my body, the idea of something (someone) growing inside of it makes me very, very, very uncomfortable on various levels, and I do believe that in that case disturbing, in relation to my own body, applies. I am not at all "disturbed" at the sight of pregnant women, it's the thought of pregnancy applied to me that I find disturbing. I hope that explains that there is no judgement. When ppl in my family and friends get pregnant and it is what they truly wanted, I am nothing but delgihted for them, and happy that these kids will come into this world and be loved and cared for.
Also, I just want to add that I had once something grow inside of me: a thyroid malignant tumor, that had to be removed. I completely changes your relation to your body, even though it knew I did not want kids at the time, it added a layer of trauma.
"Her mom's name is Elsa, so she thinks Kristoff is her dad"
But... It's not... oh dear xD
I cannot agree with you more -- everything you said is EXACTLY me 100%. I don't care what other people do if they decide to have kids, I just choose not to because it is NOT the life for me. I don't judge other people for having kids, so they shouldn't judge me (or anyone else) for choosing NOT to have kids. Simple as that.
Parenthood is not for everyone, and I wish that deciding to be child free wasn't so scrutinized. Thank you so much for using your platform to help educate everyone about the stance of being child-free by choice, it helps people like me better explain myself when they come down on me. I don't attack them for having kids - what makes me any different?
Thank you so much for this, Katrin. Love you!
Great to hear! Thanks for watching! ❤️
Thank you for being awesome.
I pass zero judgment on those who are childfree by choice. Everyone should have the right to choose whether or not they want children. It's really disheartening when people in that category choose to refer to those who want kids as "breeders" and talk about how disgusting and selfish we are. Have kids or don't have kids. Don't shame others for the choice they have made.
So again, thank you for not being one of those people. ❤
You have said it all Jack and i am on the same page.
Thnx Katrin for doing this and sharing this. I feel less alone.
Fun fact: You are the person who made me realise I liked girls. Proper fancy you lol
Aw thank you! ❤️
I thought I was the only one. She’s so beautiful 😍😩
Good video, I believe in being honest, children are not for everyone. Parenting is a big responsibility.
Indeed! And it's as if some people glamorize that responsibility and think that responsibilities are somehow Pokémon and the we gotta catch 'em all to be seen as "real adults". Hell, if someone doesn't want responsibilities in their life, that's up to them! There is no prestige in collecting as many responsibilities as possible. 😄😂
@@Katrinberndt "There's no prestige in collecting as many responsibilities as possible"
My gosh. Thank you SO SO much for saying this. I wish you could tell people around where I live, this statement. You are inspiration to me to live well and enjoy your life. Thank you and much love ❤
Me when I see a cat: *OH MY GOD YOU ARE SO CUTE AWW LOOK AT THOSE CHEEKS*
Me when I look at a cow: *AWWW BIG GRASS DOGGO, WHAT A CUTIE*
Me when I see a child: *keep that shit away from me*
😂😂😂
this is me 😂
Did you just compare a person to shit? I don't get why people would think it's okay to dehumanize and disrespect another person like, no matter how old they are
It's disgusting and spiteful behavior and because of sentiments like that so many people think childfree people are shitty human beings when it's only a section of them that is
I think that parents are lying to the rest of us happy child free people... 😂😂
Hahahah some part of me believes the same.
yellowflower8 They most certainly are 😂😂
I am a parent and I’m always thinking other parents are lying. I never wanted kids but I ended up married with kids and I deeply regret it. It’s miserable.
@@Laura-kv7bl why did you have them if you never wanted them
@@Laura-kv7bl that is it. I won't be like you. Thanks for being honest
Thank you for reminding me why I'm never having children 😂. Just hearing you talk about your babysitting experience made me exhausted! I love my childfree life.
"I'm sure if you have kids you know how to get them to stop doing what they're doing"
BAHAHAHAHAHA no.
Hahaha 😂
Came here to see if anyone else said this! I just yell commands and hope one sticks 😂😂
“I can’t imagine a more depressing life than having to care for a child”😂😂😂
COULDN’T AGREE MORE!👌🏻
@krs krs Probably your partner, friends, family will give a 💩 about your existence. Hope you're not having kids because you desperately need someone to give a crap about you. Also kids move out when they grow up. They might call once a week or visit for a few hours, but that's it. So you'll sit around alone most of the time anyway.
@krs krs and enjoy your kids. See you again in the foster home. 😁
@krs krs foster homes are a thing in your country. You should know. That is the possibility for you too. Sure kids are important to you but you are disrespecting people choice. Poor kids.. What if they choose to be childfree?
Believe me. I don't need pillows because i won't be crying. I will not celebrate christmas. Why should i? We celebrate childfree day with other childfree people.
Believe me when i say it. Friends have lives.. But don't forget my friends are childfree people too.
I pray that your daughters or sons don't die before you or abandon you when you're old.
I will never be lonely.
@krs krs no one is miserable if they make the right choice for them and everyone has the right to make that choice. I am young and have 0 cats but just do not see myself having children, though if you are happy having children then that is also great. But just appreciate everyone has a different view.
Everytime I spend time with young humans, I am so happy I don't have any of my own
I’m 19 and never liked kids, since I was actually one. My mom was a nanny while I was growing up and I started hating them because they were always around me bothering me. Now when I see kids I’m scared and it even gives me anxiety !! People especially my family are telling me that I’m young and that I’ll change my mind etc. But the fact is that, even if changing opinions is possible, I never liked them and never will, and for sure will not be sad living my life without one.
I feel exactly the same way. Some people would be unhappy without kids, but a lot of us would be unhappy with kids.
I was forced to watch my baby cousins when I was younger. I had no interest in young children and am quite introverted so my patience for children's behaviors was (and still is) really low. I never made a conscious decision to be childfree, because to me it never felt like a choice, but was just the lifestyle I naturally was attracted to and lived by. That being said, I'm pretty sure those endless babysitting summers and my uncle's attitude (That it was a given that I would loooooove to sacrifice my own free time to watch his kids the entire day aka every parent on this planet) were huge influences on how I regard parenthood and children. It's not for me. It never was, and probably never will be.
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I am 31 and child free by choice. I like children, I like to babysit for friends. I love my best friend's daughter Victoria who I was babysitting since she was a couple of months old (currently 4), I love my other friend's daughters who are 2 and 4. When I was 14 I was babysitting my younger cousin who was just born and her younger brother later on. Those kids are now 17 and 14 :D Hell I even worked in a nursery with toddlers for some time. And I say all of this just to show you that none of those things ever made me want to have my own baby. I love kids, I just don't want to be a mom. I am glad that I can just hand them back to their parents. When I was younger, like 18-20 a thought crossed my mind that I'm going to get married, have children. But I was single at that time and later on my mindset changed, I just grown to enjoy my life as it was and at this point I can't imagine it being thrown upside down by a child.
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Yeah, I‘m the same. I just moved cross country, to be able, to spent time with my little nephew (and my brother and sister in law) on a regular basis...but I don’t regret my decision, to not have kids of my own, one bit. I feel, that I‘m having the best of both worlds, this way. With being a very much appreciated help for my family as an added bonus. I mean, let’s face it, raising a kid without very involved grandparents and or aunts/uncles is incredibly hard. The lack of sleep and free time takes such a toll on a couple.
@@raraavis7782 it takes a village to raise a child
This saying exists for a reason
Me too! I can't imagine anything worse than having to raise a child!
This whole video is a mood 🖤
I feel exactly the same way as you do.
28, childfree by choice & it's staying that way.
I wasn't even 10 when I became an aunt for the first time and it didn't take long before we were forced to babysit all the time and it drove me nuts... I remember that shortly after I started thinking: "I don't want this". Now I'm 32 and I still have absolutely NO desire to have kids, to me it would feel like being tortured 24/7.
I love my children and am happy with my decision to have them. But I can totally understand your point and thank you for this very entertaining video I giggled the whole time. 😂😘
Omg I am laughing SO hard. I have two children, ages 6 and 2. And this is all so true. I appreciate your honesty and there is nothing “wrong” with not wanting children of your own. I enjoyed this video :)
I am childfree by choice and I worked in kindergarden for 2 years and babysat a 18 mth old girl for a year right after that. I also took care of my younger siblings. I could talk for hours about my experience with poopy diappers (stuff all over my hands...), the screaming, nagging, tantrums... It pretty much sealed the deal for me. I was never really into having kids prior to this, but having experienced 8 hours a day with children from 18mths to 5 years, I know for a fact, I don't want any of this for myself. I am glad someone sees it the same way. Especially when you said you cannot imagine more depressing life. Same. Saaaaame.
Yeah this further confirms my wanting to be child free. I mean sometimes it crosses my mind and I love my niece, nephew and little cousins so much and they're well-behaved. But after spending a week with my mum's friend and her kids (aka destructive unruly hellspawn) + looking after my niece when she was a toddler I know that the reality of it is that im happy with my cats, my dog and that life just aint for me😂
This is the best video I've seen in a while. You explained what I feel so well. I'm going to share this with everyone who doesn't get my childfree-ness.
Nice to see you this year Katrin! Ready to watch your videos.
Yay! Hope you like them!
I babysat my nephew when he was probably 9 months old and I had to hold him the whole night, or he would cry. I couldn't even clean his tray and filling the water pitcher seemed like a big accomplishment. I was shocked at the amount of energy and attention (100%) that went into caring for a child. I love spending time w him, but am very happy for my 2-dog, no kids life.
I love every single second of this video 👏👏👏👏 I'm so happy to see such a strong woman being so confident in this decision and opinions on the topic!!! You're an inspiration to women all over the world! ❤
Idk how I got here but I’m so happy I found a child free you tuber!
My love language is touch. When I really love someone (my boyfriend, my pets) I just want to touch them, hug them, hold them, kiss them, nibble on them, etc all the time. I find it very difficult to not cuddle them to death all together. And I don’t feel the need to touch a baby or kid. I just don’t. I rather feel an aversion. This is only one of the thousands of reasons why I shouldn’t have kids and why I don’t want to have them.
Same, my love language is affection too, I love hugs, kisses, etc. And don't get me wrong I do like when little kids hug me and want me to hold them, it's pretty cute. But by no means does that make me want to pop one out of my vagina like a Pez dispenser lol
Wow I relate to that. My love language 100% is also touch, and while I never thought about it, I have never wanted to hug/hold/touch a child in any way let alone have a child touch me. I find it gross when they do, but of course want to be respectful if they’re family & hugging me.
I've been raising a puppy for a little over a year now and that is exhausting and enough sacrifice for me. This is rewarding for me, and yes I have to give some things up but I can bring him mostly everywhere. Can't bring kids to the office... never have to drop my dog off at primary school and pick them up for lunch and again early afternoon like my mom used to. Having my dog made it even more clear that I never want children. For me I just don't see how kids are rewarding... it's not for me either. I'll be a dog mom for life, that's it.
Listening to this I can understand what you mean when you say you don't know how to communicate with kids😂😂
But I admire you for trying even though you were out of your comfort zone, you could've said no to your brother and instead helped him out💞
I had to take care of my brothers a lot as I grew up and also I had a lot of responsibilities because I was a girl and I was the oldest. I realized I didn't want to live like this. My mother got disappointed she wasn't having grandchildren, but it's not my responsibility to breed just because someone else wants me to
Everything you said resonated with me so much. I can not comprehend what draws people to want to spend time with them if they don’t have to. I get literally nothing out of interacting with them.
To put it very simple, it's about producing hormones alot which in the majority of people would be the case, but for some it's not the case, they just don't produce that hormone in their brain while interacting
This was hilarious! As a mother of 4 'darlings' I've never looked at childcare from that viewpoint.. Thankfully mine are almost all grown up now!! Great vid Katrin x
Your face at the sticky messy kid hands and face, I'm CRACKING up :D
Side note, your hair looks phenomenal
I LOVED this video, me and my husband have been married 6 years and I don't think I want kids but when I say it to people they immediately think I'm missing out on life...but I love my life with just me,my husband and my dogs. I work with kids as my job and that's enough for me. I related to everything you said and it refreshing to hear someone openly talk about live child free 😊
Two years ago I was asked to watch my two nieces a few days a week (who were 6 months and 2.5 years old at the time). I wanted some easy money while I was going to college so I agreed to do it. I did that for two years with summers off. Before ever babysitting, I wasn't really sure if I was going to want kids or not in my future. I quickly learned after starting to watch them between 4-8 hours a day, several days a week that I most likely will not be having kids. I was always told I would be a great mother and have the qualities to be a mother, but when I had to be tough with my nieces and tell them 'no' I found that I had a really hard time communicating with toddlers. I would get frustrated really easily and definitely cried a couple times lol. I love those girls to pieces but I would much rather just be a cool aunt than a mom.
Love that you normalize living a child free life by choice:)!!!!
You’re really funny, love your videos 💗
"their limitations...." this craked me up :D i love you
I'm a parent of 3 adult children. I had my children very young. I am so glad they are grown up now. Life is so much easier for me. I am so glad that at least you know you don't want children. To each their own. No judgment here.
heyy and positive energy to u all!♥️
Right back at you!
This reminds me of me when I had to take care of my 4 year old nephew for the first time.
Him: "I need to poo."
Me:" oh ok ok...omg its finally happening. Ok ok stay calm, we're going!! You know how to use the bathroom right?!"
Him: "yes."
*kid goes into bathroom and closes door. I anxiously wait outside.*
Me:" you doing ok there buddy?"
Him: "yes."
*long silence*
Me:"you still doing ok in there?
Him: "I'm done."
Me: " ok (pfew!) good!! Did you wipe yourself?
*Silence*
Me:" if you know how to use the bathroom, then you know how to wipe yourself, right??"
*long silence*
*me starting to sweat profusely* "oooooooh for the love of everything that's holly, please tell me my effing sister taught you how to wipe yourself!!!"
Him: "yes."
Me: *lets out huge moan of relief*
I never get tired of your content and I can relate so much to 90% of ur videos.
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Last year I ended up sharing my house for a month with someone who has 2 kids ages 4 and 6. It was definitely an intense experience and an insight to how a life with kids would look like. After that experience I was more sure than ever that I will never want or have children. It was pretty much your experience lived every day but with 2 kids that fight between each other on top of everything. I am grateful I remained sane and that it’s over.
Omg! Thank you for this! I totally agree 100% it’s so amazing that you share this so us other women who feel the same way do no feel alone.
everyone who knows katrin woulld be: "the title is definitely a clickbait" hahahaha
Hahah well everyone says I’ll change my mind, so that’s why I added it. In case they’re curious. 😂😂
@@Katrinberndt That's so freaking stupid with telling someone she will change mind about having children or anything :/ If she does that's perfectly fine, if she doesn't that's perfectly fine too! I will never understand why people want to engeage in other's lifes so badly :(
I'm a mum and I love your point of view and the way you express your feelings and opinions. Its beautiful👌
I never wanted kids, and I don't have them. Now as an adult the idea of pregnancy is terrifying. So, no kids for me. Fortunately, my partner doesn't want them either. Growing up, I was the oldest child in my family. My parents had me when they were fairly young, so I was always the oldest kid at any gathering -- either between family or their friend group. So, it always fell to me to watch the younger ones... my sister, cousins, or the other kids of my parents friends. Eventually, I was old enough to actually babysit while the adults went out. They would offer to pay me, but these attempts always ended up with the kids crying and me unable to figure out what they wanted/needed, and having to have the parents come home early. Ugh, terrible for me and everyone involved. I stopped agreeing to babysit for people once I realized I had that choice!
I felt the exact same way while watching my goddaughter. She's a lovely girl, very cheerful and easily entertained... But man, all the attention she needs. I really salute mothers who actually get stuff done while also taking care of their children, including my goddaughters mom, who even has two. 😅
Loved this storytime!!
Grateful for my tubal ligation while watching this video. I’ve been feeling like a monster lately for my choices thanks to society & my mom’s response to me getting this surgery recently. But I couldn’t be happier about it & this video made me feel less dehumanized - since you’re in the same boat & obviously not a monster.
This is me every day for the past 9 years with my daughter 🙈😅 But I love her.
I absolutely stay clear from other kids as much as I can though!
But you did so good! And you do you! ♥️
Was an Au pair for a year. Loved those kids so much. Didn't change my mind.
I'm really loving your hair like this wow 😍
Katrin, your distress just talking about the poop diaper had me belly laughing. I feel you!
Oh dear, you're precious! Also 100% agree with everything you said 😆
Girl as someone pregnant with baby number 3 I completely understand why people don’t want kids! And that is 100% okay! I’m glad you know:) its better then having kids and then realizing it! I am so happy I had kids and it’s all I ever wanted but I definitely understand!
I am proudly child free by choice! 💖💖💖
I'm so glad you made this video. I feel this so hard.
I have two kids and still enjoy watching this content because even when you HAVE kids people still try to invalidate your family choices “oh don’t you want just one more” “oh doesn’t your kid need a playmate” “don’t you want to try for a boy”
And it’s worse for people who choose to not have kids.
Edit: listening to your experience with a two year old has me laughing a bit because you’re so traumatized and it’s refreshing to hear about kids from someone with no real experience with them. It’s easier when they are your kids because you’ve been with them since they are a baby and you learn it along the way. I have two and can’t deal with other people’s kids honestly.
Omg im so relating to this video . Finally someone spoke up 🙌🏻
I love how articulate you are on the subject.
I wished I could have your level of articulation when I tried to explain to my family why I don't want to have kids.
I am so thankfull for you makeing this video . For the longest I related to being a child free person and I still don't feel as having one is the best option but know I'm think about it. But loved to see your point of view
THIS! + adding that I am genuinely AFRAID of babies and the responsibility they bring with them :o
2 year olds are so funny, and such hard work, well done.
You talk from my soul when you say "... Never ever..". Just life without children is so much carefree which I love! I always get tense when around kinds and specially toddlers 😣
32 and child free, I'm all for more cats!
Three cats and no children here!
Melissa Larigan best way!!!
Omg I love your honesty so much 😁😁
I love your videos on this topic x
Love this theme ❤️
This sounds exactly how I am w kids lmao wow what an experience. And I love that you said “babysitting assignment” lol
I love the thumbnail!!
Do you have any tips to helping keep lower ankle/ foot tattoos from fading quickly? I could really use come advice on it as I’ve already had to get it retouched for a 3rd time (so far it’s healing really well and I also switched my moisturiser to bepanthan)
I love this!! Im so happy to know its normal! To be a woman that doesn’t want, that doesn’t like kids 💞
I came by your channel by accident and I noticed we had the same surname. I do want my own family at some point but I lack a partner. I'm sure that will change but seeing this content actually makes me feel happier.
YES!!!! To everything you said!!! 🤗♥️☺️
I love that you compared watching a child to watching horror movies I know you didn’t mean it in that children are horror shows but it’s still hilarious 😂
I can totally understand you. My boyfriend and I are 99% sure we do not want children. He is just not good with kids, I seem to be a natural but fail to get that "aww" feeling every time I am around kids. Babysitting my niece's son has just confirmed that. Recently a lot of youtubers that I follow have been getting pregnant/married/talking about babies. I really enjoy watching people be super happy about it, but to me all these videos do is just confirm my desire to live a child free life. It's like you pointed out. In the least offensive way, watching these videos is like watching a horror movie for me and at the end of every video I always feel super glad that neither my SO nor my parents will ever expect us to have children and put that pressure on us. In a previous video you talked about the anxious feeling that comes along when someone asks you: 'So when are you going to have babies?'
I have had the feeling that it was expected of me to have children for about 20 years of my life, yet getting pregnant has been my worst fear for all these years. Some of your videos have really helped put that idea out of my head and made me stand my ground when people asked me about having kids. So thanks for that. Thanks for your rational and down to earth way of explaining your wishes and reasoning begind it to other people.
To be honest comparing kids videos with horror movies made me laugh, but it really explains how I feel when watching these videos. Hearing you make that comparison made me feel like I'm not alone!
Haha I relate to everything you write! 😂
Your face in the ice cream pic cracked me up! Hahaha!
I’m a child free by choice gal who recently started babysitting my friend’s almost two year old, and I love it! I adore the little girl and get excited every time I’m asked to babysit
HOWEVER the experience has made me more sure than ever that I don’t want children. I think I feel more certain knowing that even loving and enjoying spending time with a child, it doesn’t make me want one. I’m more than happy to give her back at the end! But I’m glad she’s in my life and I can’t wait for my siblings to have kids
I have been very lucky on the nappy/diaper front though, I’ve done wet ones but no more. I don’t know how I’d handle a proper dirty nappy, I’m VERY sensitive to smells....
Thank you for this kind of content ✌🏻
I'm the one who kinda likes children (speaking mostly of my friends kids and my brothers kids) but still think same as you that it's ok to be around for short amount of time and then I'm exhausted and happy I don't have one at home to deal with. 🙈
Also don't know how to talk to little kids who can't properly talk yet.
Well on your other video about this I already stated my feelings and at 70 I never ever changed my mind. YET I am sure you would be the same way................ taking care of a child infant like animal is a total different feeling. I can not tell you how many orphaned animal babies I have hand raised. Kittens dogs calves even an abandoned foal YES for a time in my kitchen. Brought her home tied into a gunny sack with head out for safety for her in the back seat of my car well strapped in. I worked 25 years for veterinarians and they were forever bringing me orphans to raise. Fish and Game in USA also brought me animals to raise or care for while mending from injuries. I suppose I was some what considered a one woman rescue. I adored them still do.
I can not imagine why 59 thumbs down. We all have our rights as individuals to do with our lives as we choose.
I live to serve! That's what I said for the first 6 weeks of my baby's life😂 I am happy that so many women now have the freedom to choose their lives💓
It’s refreshing that you know yourself well enough to make decisions that work best for you. We could all learn this in that we all try to chase exactly what we want🤔
When I was a teeanger I used to babysit my cousins babys a lot and familt friends kids too, and I've had some pretty terrible, stressful experiences that no amount of money is worth dealing with. I had one experience that was the cherry on top and then I had to quit babysitting, my mom luckily completely understood and didnt pressure me to continue. But it really made me not enjoy children or want children. Now I spend time with my nieces and nephews but I get to give them back at the end of the day. I still think I want kids some day, but not for a long time, no rush for sure.
Lol this was hilarious 😂 you bring up some good points
Kids can be fun to be around, but that doesn't make me want them! When I can give a kiddo back to their parents I know it's the right fit for me:)