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"The judge under his seat." Is literally a reference to a specific revolver as well. The Taurus Judge was the gun that helped Taurus build their brand as a reliable gun.
It’s so crazy, as when I was a young kid me and my dad were driving down the road in his truck and on the street a guy and his girlfriend were arguing and the guy hit the girl right there. My dad saw it, pulled straight over - told me to wait in the truck - and went over proceeding to whoop that guys ass. I’ll never forget it and it has always stuck with me… then this song came out and I knew exactly what it was about.
I think the simple thank you spoke volumes, as well as the fact that it's been five years and when she leaves the prison you see she's still waiting in his truck. Such a powerful and beautiful song.
My wife played this for me the first time I heard it. She talked about all the times she'd been worried about how far I'd go protecting someone or intervening in an incident. The next day, my CNA played it at the office, talked about how it reminded her of the day I'd stepped between a patient and her abuser and told him he was leaving "out the door or the window but the cops won't be here soon enough to keep me from stomping your ass" One of my old ER buddies texted me the same day asking me if I'd heard it, saying it reminded her of me. I can't stand an abuser, makes my demons want to play. I have no empathy, sympathy, or concern for anyone who will abuse another person. My wife calls it "flipping the switch" when I get protective. If a man will hit you once, he will beat you until he kills you. Never rationalize or excuse abuse. Leave before you're trapped. Never accept or tolerate abuse. If you have to defend yourself commit to do as much damage as you can as fast as you can as loudly as you can. Use everything you can pick up as a tool, and don't stop until they can no longer hurt you. Never accept, tolerate, rationalize, or excuse abuse. It's not your fault if they hit you, it's not something you did, you do not deserve to be abused, and NO you can NOT change them. Abusers abuse because it's what they are. You can do better, you deserve better, you deserve love not abuse.
Yeah, but it looks like he took his own gun just in case, went in to beat the guy up, and only pulled his when the guy went for the shotgun. Also, you never know how stable he is, past trauma, maybe recent trauma and he lost a loved one yesterday to abuse and just snapped.
My little southern heart swelled with pride when your eyes lit up when she said “I never thought my day of justice Would come from a judge under a seat”, and you knew exactly what she meant! The fact you knew what a Judge pistol is was great. We’re not far apart in how and where we grew up, and sometimes those roots run real deep! Keep going with it! Love your stuff!
I’m British, and I loved seeing your eyes light up when Lainey spoke about the Judge under the seat. There may not be many guns on the British isles, but I knew exactly what she meant.
The whiplash of seeing pink cat ear headphones girl who speaks like a therapist drop the most gangster "I pulled a gun on someone twice in my life" bomb was wild
This world needs more roll models like the character in this video. If people knew they would have tough consequences for crime they may not commit that crime.
I love how abusers can get away with the things they do but when someone comes to the defense of the abused, they end up in prison. Sad when people have to become a vigilante because the law is lacking.
Yes, a wife or girlfriend being beat to a pulp and threatened with death by various means has been a catch and release, if that, for as far back as I can recall. If he does the same thing to a stranger, he gets some prison time. 😢
my favorite line in the song, "i smoked one of his ciggerrettes on the porch waiting for the cops" think that is so good, and good for you helping your friend
Love this song. I was living in Vegas for awhile with one of my best friends. She came home from work in tears n hugged me so hard I thought she was gonna break my back and she finally thanked me and then showed me their video. I chuckled a little once I realized why she had been crying. We dated when we were kids and I used to step in a lot when her mother n sister would beat her. Her mom only pulled a gun on me once and it was the last time she ever did because I told her she'd better use it and hope I'm dead, because if I wasn't she'd be the only woman I'd ever lay my hands on. I moved to Vegas to help her with a stalker problem, and once everything was good, I moved back home to help my parents put with bills due to some personal family issues. But once everything here is good, Im gonna move back out there with her and keep an eye on her a little longee until I know she's perfectly ok without me around.
@carolw24 Thank you. Personally, I just try and be there for those who have no one. The world would be a much better place without all this, "Me! Me! Me!", mentalities we see now a days.
I was mentally and emotionally abused for many years. At the time, I didn't even realize it was abuse. When my thoughts kept turning to suicide, I knew it was time to get out. After I finally left, God sent me a true Angel. I was lucky enough to have him for 9 years before he passed away. He was able to help me build myself back up after being torn down for so long.
I am so proud of you for leaving and happy that you found love 💖 When someone we love passes, the only thing we can do is share their love and wisdom with the world so they can live on.
The key to life is dogs. They love you unconditionally. They give you a reason to wake up every morning. They comfort you with no questions asked. They snuggle.
It took me a long time to get my identity back. He stripped me of it emotionally and physically. It came down to the fact that it was either going to be me or him, I’d had enough. I really didn’t want to do time for taking that scumbag out. Always glad my brother lived in another state and didn’t know because if he did they would have never found the body.
I absolutely loved watching your very expressive face as you went through the emotions in your reaction. I too was disappointed that he does significant time, but that same justice system that puts the abuser back on the street is the justice system that punishes people for doing the job of a very corrupt system...I too love that after five years she's still waiting in the truck...just wait in the truck.
Leaving an abusive situation is hard for those being abused, some times they do not realize the extent of their abuse until someone outside steps in. It took me physically standing between my lovely bride of 22 years now and her abuser to get her out of that situation, even today she still struggles with the lingering effects of that abuse.
So happy you discovered and reacted to this song Amanda! Seeing both Hardy/Lainey perform this live together this summer left me speechless. It was one of the greatest live performances I have witnessed, and Hardy is a songwriting genius. Keep spreading the positive message 🤘
Nothing brings out the rage in me more than seeing others hurt. Especially when they are loved ones. I can stand pain against me more than watching others in pain.
The abuse you discuss is what I watched my mom go through. Finally she found the strength to get out. She suffered for way too long. She is an amazing woman. Super happy/proud of her strength to finally get out. She’s 71 and I’m 47 but all these years later I’m so thankful she got out.
The subtle things that were there... the abuse was wearing a "wifebeater" shirt. It was putting rain when he went into the trailer... when he came out the rain had stopped. .. An amazing song
I get chills every time I hear this song. I know it's fiction, but there's a good man, gone to prison for doing the right thing. It happens far too often in real life.
I love the glee you express in the kind of justice delivered before the cops coming...so gleeful in a man doing the right thing to a man who did the wrong thing...too bad the justice system doesn't do its job
That was a powerful song and message. You don't need to apologize for anything. You've been in that situation and you know how it felt. My wife was in a toxic marriage and that's exactly what she went through. I've been listening to what she went through for the last 39 years. I'm so grateful to have her in my life. Don't get me wrong, I love her just the way she is. I'm not trying to change her. Just love her for her. Trying to show her that she is loved. Thank you for sharing this video.
Again..... dont watch the music video, watch Amanda, the emotion is real!!!!! I love this girl, i would love a meet and greet because I'd be the first one there, amazing inspiration ❤️
I just discovered your channel and want to say that I really like the fact that you imbue your reactions with personal information. You're not the only reactor to talk about mental health awareness, but most don't talk about their own struggles. I have a couple of music suggestions for you, both in your wheelhouse, and both with two key versions, the original and a cover that overshadows it. First is Suicide Is Painless by Johnny Mandel for the film M*A*S*H (1970). There are several well known covers, but Marilyn Manson's version from 2000 is the big one. Second is Hurt by Trent Reznor. Originally a Nine Inch Nails song from 1994, Johnny Cash covered it in 2002 and even Reznor has said "the song isn't mine anymore". I'm looking forwards to watching more of your back catalogue. Keep up the good work!
As someone who has been in an abusive relationship leaving is not always as easy as it should be they isolate you, they limit your ability to communicate with outside resources or have resources available and they threaten your children and family
After years of my friend hiding her bruises and cuts, I was with her when her boyfriend started belittling her relentlessly. I pulled him aside and asked him to stop. He continued. I was wearing pointed toe heels. I kicked him as hard as I could between the legs. He had surgery a short time later. She went on to marry him. The abuse continued. She no longer considered me a friend. She went on to divorce him and marry yet another guy who beat her. She had been my best friend since we were 9 years old. I would not change what I did. Once free from an abuser do your utmost to not pick another.
I've been lucky to have had four men in my life who would step in a situation. My father and my mother's brother are two. My late husband and current fiance would also. I'm blessed to have four men like that in my life.
This song is a great example of the role of men. Men defend women. So long as the woman isn't crazy. Over 28 years I took pride in arresting abusive men. It's not easy.
Something the song doesn't directly explain is whether he was originally going to shoot him or just rough him up, because it mentions the shot once the guy is reaching for his own gun, plus in the video he does grab him some first, but the guy quickly panicks and reaches for the gun.
Wow. Thank you so much for sharing your story with all of us. If I could apologize for all those #@!)(*&@#!)(* out there that think they have some sort of right to abuse women. I don't care what a woman could possibly do, it would never be her fault. I would like to believe I would be the real man to step in and do what needed to be done. Thank you.
Being raised in the south we were raised understanding "wait in the truck" or "get in the car". You don't argue, you dont ask questions, you just do it cause you don't need to know. So many women in this situation pray for someone like this also The Judge under the seat is the name of that particular revolver. It's a 45 colt that also holds .410 shotgun shells.
Good day Amanda ......... at timestamp 11:00 you are so so so correct that it is not as easy as to just leave an abusive relationship ......... there are so many reason that factor into why you are in that relationship as it never started out abusive ...... the abuse came in over time and now you feel that it is your fault and you just take it over and over until you are gone or you break and take them out ......... If you happen to be strong enough to leave then they come bake all sweet and pouring you with kindness until you come back and then slowly the abuse restarts until you are broken and think it is your fault...........
That single question he asked her: "Where's he at?" When my best friends little sister told me and her brother, my best friend, the story of what her ex did that was our first and only question. In unison. It was all we wanted to know. Way before this song came out. She refused to say and that's probably for the best. She had just managed to escape and police were already involved. Justice was served, but I would've loved to have been a part of it. This song just hits different even if I wasn't the one getting abused. I can't imagine I'd ever regret it if I got to him first.
I used to be the first person in line to do this to anyone who hurt any female. I’ve been successful most of the time but not always. I am not that person anymore but I’d like to think I’d still be first in line to help as best I can. Not a big country fan anymore but this song touches me and I tear up every time I hear it.
Be careful. You can get your ass sued. I've had cops tell me the worst situation they could be involved in is domestic disputes. No matter who is at blame, the other person will attack the cop. One cop told me he and his partner would drive around and drink, and shoot out street lights. Anything to avoid domestic calls. Houston. 80's.
The first time I have watched you. I know the video well. Your reaction is great. Your personal story was moving as well. I will watch more to see where you go.
I first learned of this song from a facebook clip and when i heard the line about the Judge under the seat i had a rough idea where it was going with the reference to the Taurus Judge revolver. In fact it was that lyric i used to search it up on google and landed on the song. But that said seeing this reaction vid came around at the right time as a means of discovering your channel as well. The moment you mentioned having a side that was like dexter i chuckled knowing full well that part of you would be satisfied with how the story went.
Ass a country boy we were raised take care of all wemon in your family and the wemon that may need you. Love the song and what it says. He got what he had coimg to him great reaction.
I know my husband would do the same thing if he knew me back then when I was going thru abuse. And I had an ex boyfriend recently that was diagnosed with a tumor & messaged me to know the names of the men that attacked me to serve justice. Yes 2 different situations. I was abused then attacked my 3 men. I told him I didn’t want to dig up the past & they would meet their maker. This song is powerful.
To add to the other comments... he was not a bad man, he was not an evil man... perhaps he grew up in a house of abuse.... as he knew what had happened to her without asking... he was a man who saw a need, saw an evil and acted on that need and evil. He was a man of faith (evidenced by the court scene bridge (Oh Lord have mercy on me was not asked to the court system... it was a plea to God) and visibly evidenced by the cross hanging on his rear view mirror... was his action legal, obviously not based on the trial, was it morally just.... that is up to each individual for you cannot legislate morality... but for every victim of DV, he would be an answered prayer... and for every man... the story forces the question... "what would I do?" I recently picked up on another aspect of the acting...you can see the transfer of 'weight' from the weight on her as a DV victim... to him, as the reality of what he did sank in looking at the body on the floor... she has her weight lifted as she no longer has to live that life... and the weight of the decision he made settles onto his shoulders, heart and mind.
Holy crap! Your reaction says a lot about your life. I’m so glad you got the help you needed. Most importantly I hope your abuser got what he deserved.
Thank you so much. I am grateful that I was able to find safety and even find love after the pain. As far as my abuser goes, I don't want to give him power by keeping tabs on him. I hope somehow he found healing of his own, but if I heard tomorrow that he ceased to exist, I wouldn't lose sleep over it.
Powerful song and story line! Hardy is an amazing talent But she is absolutely fantastic,, such raw, pure talent! Years ago a person i know was beating his girl friend up when i went to visit a good friend of mine. I asked what the hell was going on he said, "Bob" is beating her up again. i walked into the house and told her to go to the car, then proceeded to show him what it was like to have someone whip you like a dog and there is nothing you can to stop it. Told him ,"touch her again and I'll come back and finish the job". they broke up , he never touched her or any other female again,, i just took her to her parents house..was the last time i ever saw her.. so yeah there are still a few of us left,,
My husband like to hit me and throw me around. I went to bootcamp. He tried it once when I got back. I can still see him sitting on the couch, holding his face and screaming you broke my jaw. I didn’t but he never did it again. This guy in the video seems to have had nothing to lose except his truck. My friends always wondered why I would stay with the guy that hit me. It was an upgrade from my parents. They beat me daily and he only hit me once every month. I did a lot of therapy to make sense of it all. We divorced because I couldn’t forgive him. I have forgiven him now that he’s died, it’s easier.
I was in an abusive relationship and tried to run one day when I saw a cop outside our apartment I went to him for help he gave me a disturbing the peace ticket because “I should keep private matters in the house” and my boyfriend was yelling so me coming outside was a disturbance and I felt that maybe I was wrong because the cop basically said I should stay home and accept my beating I stayed for two more months one day he came home made and attacked me before he shut the door and he had a knife this time I thought it was the ending yelled for help and a man came running into the apartment and beat up my boyfriend he looked at me and saw my bruises his eyes were so sad and all he said was “you are better than this” and walked away once the shock wore off I went to the court house and got a restraining order and filed a complaint he evidently found out and took off I have never seen him again or the man who helped me I wish I could thank him tell him I got away I got therapy I healed I met a wonderful man who treats me like a queen I will never be able to thank my angel enough
This woman was me for nearly five years... and on the final night with that man a friend stepped up and travelled to where he was, forced his way into our apartment saw my condition and beat the shit out of that man. Every time I hear this song I am taken back to 30 years ago... you never forget.
Due to what i went through i have ended up living in a nursing home for the rest of my life and my abuser has their freedom and his in hiding. It took me passing out and not responding for the jerk to get scared enough to call for help. I have a disability so leaving after being isolated from people was difficult, i have severe PTSD and can't sleep due to fear of reoccurring nightmares of the disgusting things my abuser did to me. 😢 That song is great.
I felt that little exclamation when it ended. You try to gather your scattered emotions and thoughts, with too many feelings to just instantly put into words. When you've been in that situation, it just hits so hard...
I've been wanting to hear you react to this one for a while now. I was excited to see on your Patreon that it was coming up. I very much believe in giving a chance for people to heal as well, but I'm very much a "Dexter Morgan" type of person who wants to see someone stopped if they're not going to change. I LOVE this song! One of my favorite parts is when he says he sat on the porch smoking one of HIS cigarettes and waited for the cops to come, as if he's saying "I did it, he deserved it, do what you need to do." It brings out the protector in me. I've entered a strangers apartment before to pull a girl out and hold the guy who was beating her in front of the window in there until the cops showed up. She was escorted through the apartment by the police the next day to get her things. Another country song I like that's similar to this one is "Baby who hurt you" by David Morris.
I know I've left you books on previous videos, one was Metallica's One if I remember correctly, and this video is another one that really hit home and made me break down so I apologize ahead of time for another book. I've heard this song many times on the radio and do enjoy it. However I've never seen the video or someone's reaction to it. Every time I hear this song, all I see is my wife and the pain and suffering she went through with her ex husband and how amazing it must have felt to have someone stand up for you when you couldn't. For years he mentally and physically abused her and one day beat her for nearly three hours and actually tried to strangle her to death. All with their three children in the house, which I'm happy to say I have adopted and are MY kids and I love them more than anything in this world! And it was all because she asked him not to do drugs in front of their kids the night before. He only received 18 months in jail then got out and did it again with his new gf. He has continued to haunt us both knowing he's still out there and we are going on 9 years later. He is still always in the back of our minds. So the story and meaning of this song really hits close! I would give anything! Including my life and freedom to have been there to give that scum of the earth what he really deserved like in this song! Regardless if I knew her or their situation or not! This is something that I, and everyone should never see acceptable or as a maybe he can change and blah blah thing. Absolutely zero tolerance for these disgusting acts! And to have a legal system that doesn't appropriately punish these monsters is just as disgusting! It took 3 years for the system to finally approve their divorce and another 4 for me to adopt them. So yeah...again thank you for making me cry like a baby and end up share more of my life story than I probably should have. But, we all have our demons in this crazy messed up thing we call life and sometimes need to let it out.
Survived barely 8 months by a guy. My child's father. I had him on video admitting to attempting to burn me,threatened to unalive me,I had pictures of bruises,videos of SA and medical documents of him putting windex in my food when I was pregnant....out of all of this.....he got a year of probation. He then stalked me for almost a full year after. It's been 2 years now since I got away but I'm still suffering the after effects. The justice system did more then fail me. Didn't read my impact statement despite asking for it,didn't do a psychological evaluation despite me asking for it....only thing I'm thankful for is he gave me my son. I was single mom for the first year and a half of my son's life. Now he calls my fiancé dad....I'm healing slowly and realizing love shouldn't hurt. But again....I wish he wasn't alive....I'm not the first or the last girl he will hurt and that haunts me daily. The justice system betrayed me. Failed me. Failed my son.
The song is the embodiment of what real masculinity is for a society!! Real men will stand and protect anyone who has been harmed and wont think twice about it, or cry when the repercussions come.
A very very small % can. But most women in this situation will feel stuck not knowing what to do or how to get out of it. Not saying that this is the only way out either. @@MentalAmanda
Hahaha 80% that is BS, I was a Marksmanship instructor in the Marine Corps and I would only say about 35% of the the people that volunteered to serve had ever touched a weapon, let alone be ready to take a life with one.
@@bobreighnheart5071 As I said, depends on the area. I grew up in Missouri which is very much hunting country. Myself and many of my friends were taught to shoot young (though myself always with targets - I would never hunt.)
I have lived this in a way. Been locked up for defending a female Friend. This song meanings more to me than others know. I been abused. I won't let others go through what I have been through. Keep the channel going
Glad im not the only one who struggled with how to feel about this song. My aunt was beaten to death by her partner after years of abuse that we were only made aware of after her death, So I have strong feelings about abuse. I struggle because I know in my head that we should let the law handle pass judgement and punishment, but I lost a lot of faith in our legal system when my aunt's murdered was never even arrested because "they didn't have enough evidence to secure a conviction in court." Forget the fact that the detective on the case stated that in 20 years he had never seen a body that brused and scarred, forget that her 21 year old daughter and 17 year old son both gave statements describing how he would grab her by the hair and throw her out of chairs he wanted to sit in, or how any time she would pick up the phone to call someone he would stand over top of her and watch her until she hung up, or how he would hit and belittle her if she did something he didn't like. No, because his story is she fell down the stairs and hit her head because she was drunk and because nobody else was home at that time it was his story against hers, only problem is she was dead. So yeah, my feeling's side says, you hurt someone, especially a woman or a child, there's a wood chiper out back I'd like to introduce you to. To be clear, I'm not advocating killing abusers in vigilantly justice. I know and believe that it is wrong. I believe that even if the abuser gets off Scott Free in this life they will pay for their actions in the next.
@@MentalAmanda Thank you, it's been particularly difficult for my Mom (her sister). Growing up they were incredibly close and even into adulthood they remained very close. When my aunt met this guy and divorced her husband to move in with him it really hurt their relationship. My aunt was afraid that Mom would judge her very harshly so she cut off communication with my Mom, or at least that's what we thought. In talking with her kids they told us part of the reason she stopped responding to my mom was because her abuser wouldn't let her. My Mom is torn up inside with false guilt thinking that she could have and should have done more. She mentally knows it's not her fault, but she struggles to believe it.
I have watched a number of reactions to this video and your insight was one of the best, also you are the guest to mention the strong meaning behind “judge under the seat”
I just hung on to hear the part about "she should just have left". No, I agree with you completely. It's just a power trip for those men. The women need to STOP having to feel guilty for what has been, or is being, done to them. Again, it saddens me that manhood has become so twisted. Do not apologize for your words in your reaction, at all. Stay strong.
Amanda, to start, your reference to Dexter, lol, I love you on many levels... I've done verbatim what your spoke about confronting an abuser who, bad on his part, happened to abuse one my girls... God bless, or good for you on your courage to stand up for what your believe and doing the right thing. I just subbed btw...
To add to the idea that it's not so easy for the abused to "escape", but also, even if he had taken her far away AND the guy couldn't find her- though there's no guarantee of that!- the guy could still just find another to abuse, and very likely he's not so great for other people in the community. Vigilantism isn't a good answer, because innocent people can accidentally be targeted, but it's hard for me to have a problem with a violent abuser being removed from the world!!!
What a great reaction so good I subscribed to your channel and I always give a thumbs up. At one point you reminded me of a little mouse in the corner waiting. I understand how you feel because I too detest it. It made me want to subscribe to your channel. That's how much I understand how it made you feel. God Bless You
She is still waiting in the truck she drive away from the Visit in his truck many years ago I physically stopped some jerk that was beating his wife who was my good freind.. I gave her my car so she could go back to her parents home to escape the abuse.
Im so THANKFUL that you get it! I was abused by my ex husband for years. My parents were elderly and lived close by so my ex threatened to hurt them if i told or left. Plus, he knew EVERYWHERE i could have gone to so i was easy to find. I didnt tell my father because he was a crack shot and i would have been waiting in his truck. I coyldnt see my elderly father going to prison for me. My ex anally raped me 3x. So bad i was bleeding and could barely sit. He told me i deserved it and WANTED it! I went to the sheriff and a lawyer and they both said law at the time, didnt protect me because we were married! I was trapped. My ex had affair and his side chick gave me my freedom! Now shes married to him and hes controlling HER! Thank god its not me anymore! But i actually do feel sorry for her because he charmed her like he did me and then once he had her, the real him came out. Folks on outside asked why i didnt just leave. Like its so easy. My answer was the easy one. I simply said, "And go where?" My life, parents, home, career, my childs school and friends, were all in one place. And my house was a family home. MY family! Lawyer told me if i left, it was considered abandonment and id lose everything and if i took our child to protect him, THAT was considered KIDNAPPING! So i was SO STUCK! So to whoever reads this, if you have a friend or relative being abused, help them find counseling, legal help and protection from professionals equipped for this. Dont ask the stupid question of "Why dont you just leave?" Youll never understand until youve lived it.
Thank you so much for sharing your story. You never deserved that treatment. I hope you find the healing and love you deserve and I hope his new partner finds strength to see her worth.
@@MentalAmanda Thank you. Yes, I met a wonderful man and we were married. But I was very gun shy to begin with and I made it clear that my son and I were a pair so love me, love him too or it would never work. My son was my world. But it all worked out fine. God heard my prayers.
I was worried you were gonna say "he didn't have to kill him.. bla.. bla.. bla.." so happy you feel the way you did! I guess us women think alike!! And I'm loving the comments men leave!!!! Makes me feel a little bit better!!!!!
💖No matter where you are in your journey, you have a safe place here to share your struggles and accomplishments without judgment, but please make sure you are having that same respect and non-judgment for others too. This is how we shatter the mental health stigma.💖
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I have request All I ever know by Clan of Xymox its a pretty positive song from across the pond .
"The judge under his seat." Is literally a reference to a specific revolver as well. The Taurus Judge was the gun that helped Taurus build their brand as a reliable gun.
I'm sure it's a great process but I'm pretty content my my family life and I'm sure others are grateful for your input..
Everyone misses the symbolism at the end…She is still waiting in the truck for him, after 5 years!!
I didn't miss it 😊
Wow! Good one. I didn't see it that way 'til u mentioned 😊
Yes omg
As a man of the south ,this response is expected by and from every man or boy ! Always protect women ,children and elderly.
Amen
Damn strait brother
I AGREE IM FROM THE SOUTH ALSO .....
Hell yes, touch my wife or my family...I would go to jail to protect my friends and family.
Keep it up👌
It’s so crazy, as when I was a young kid me and my dad were driving down the road in his truck and on the street a guy and his girlfriend were arguing and the guy hit the girl right there. My dad saw it, pulled straight over - told me to wait in the truck - and went over proceeding to whoop that guys ass. I’ll never forget it and it has always stuck with me… then this song came out and I knew exactly what it was about.
Made me tear up. So cool. I was born in California but I moved here 42 years ago. And I felt home.
You have an awesome dad
@@doloreswilby8181 I surely did. He’s been gone a long time and they surely don’t make that many like him any longer.
I think the simple thank you spoke volumes, as well as the fact that it's been five years and when she leaves the prison you see she's still waiting in his truck. Such a powerful and beautiful song.
My wife played this for me the first time I heard it. She talked about all the times she'd been worried about how far I'd go protecting someone or intervening in an incident.
The next day, my CNA played it at the office, talked about how it reminded her of the day I'd stepped between a patient and her abuser and told him he was leaving "out the door or the window but the cops won't be here soon enough to keep me from stomping your ass"
One of my old ER buddies texted me the same day asking me if I'd heard it, saying it reminded her of me.
I can't stand an abuser, makes my demons want to play. I have no empathy, sympathy, or concern for anyone who will abuse another person. My wife calls it "flipping the switch" when I get protective.
If a man will hit you once, he will beat you until he kills you. Never rationalize or excuse abuse. Leave before you're trapped. Never accept or tolerate abuse. If you have to defend yourself commit to do as much damage as you can as fast as you can as loudly as you can. Use everything you can pick up as a tool, and don't stop until they can no longer hurt you.
Never accept, tolerate, rationalize, or excuse abuse. It's not your fault if they hit you, it's not something you did, you do not deserve to be abused, and NO you can NOT change them. Abusers abuse because it's what they are. You can do better, you deserve better, you deserve love not abuse.
Well said❤
As a southern boy, wait in the truck, means we going to take care of business. I have been in fights for this reason myself
Yeah but you wouldn't kill a stranger for another stranger. This song is good, well performed, but ridiculously unrealistic.
I did into some bloody fights for strangers because of that cowardly shit!
Fighting and KILLING someone you don't know...FOR someone you don't know, are ENTIRELY two different things.@@Bu3pratt73
Yeah, but it looks like he took his own gun just in case, went in to beat the guy up, and only pulled his when the guy went for the shotgun. Also, you never know how stable he is, past trauma, maybe recent trauma and he lost a loved one yesterday to abuse and just snapped.
Not "ridiculously unrealistic".... Believe me...
The double meaning of "Justice from a judge under his seat" is masterful
Yes, it’s a great double entendre
Ya.... most people have no idea what that means.
Pistol in the video wasn't a judge though
growing up, the term "wait in the truck" was well understood by us kids. it meant dad was going to handle it. what "it" was could vary.
My little southern heart swelled with pride when your eyes lit up when she said “I never thought my day of justice
Would come from a judge under a seat”, and you knew exactly what she meant! The fact you knew what a Judge pistol is was great. We’re not far apart in how and where we grew up, and sometimes those roots run real deep!
Keep going with it! Love your stuff!
I’m British, and I loved seeing your eyes light up when Lainey spoke about the Judge under the seat. There may not be many guns on the British isles, but I knew exactly what she meant.
The final scene where she is walking out of the visitor center is what really gets me. He may be in chains, but she has her freedom because of him.
The whiplash of seeing pink cat ear headphones girl who speaks like a therapist drop the most gangster "I pulled a gun on someone twice in my life" bomb was wild
This world needs more roll models like the character in this video. If people knew they would have tough consequences for crime they may not commit that crime.
I love how abusers can get away with the things they do but when someone comes to the defense of the abused, they end up in prison. Sad when people have to become a vigilante because the law is lacking.
Yes, a wife or girlfriend being beat to a pulp and threatened with death by various means has been a catch and release, if that, for as far back as I can recall. If he does the same thing to a stranger, he gets some prison time. 😢
my favorite line in the song, "i smoked one of his ciggerrettes on the porch waiting for the cops" think that is so good, and good for you helping your friend
He picked it up from the ashtray. It was already lit.
Love this song. I was living in Vegas for awhile with one of my best friends. She came home from work in tears n hugged me so hard I thought she was gonna break my back and she finally thanked me and then showed me their video.
I chuckled a little once I realized why she had been crying.
We dated when we were kids and I used to step in a lot when her mother n sister would beat her. Her mom only pulled a gun on me once and it was the last time she ever did because I told her she'd better use it and hope I'm dead, because if I wasn't she'd be the only woman I'd ever lay my hands on.
I moved to Vegas to help her with a stalker problem, and once everything was good, I moved back home to help my parents put with bills due to some personal family issues.
But once everything here is good, Im gonna move back out there with her and keep an eye on her a little longee until I know she's perfectly ok without me around.
You are a wonderful friend and man. I hope you find your happiness soon
@carolw24 Thank you. Personally, I just try and be there for those who have no one. The world would be a much better place without all this, "Me! Me! Me!", mentalities we see now a days.
Good man
It's a powerful song. A powerful story. I get chills every time I hear it.
One of the best reactions to any song I have ever seen. You bring an empathetic and intellectual facets to this song, well done!
I was mentally and emotionally abused for many years. At the time, I didn't even realize it was abuse. When my thoughts kept turning to suicide, I knew it was time to get out. After I finally left, God sent me a true Angel. I was lucky enough to have him for 9 years before he passed away. He was able to help me build myself back up after being torn down for so long.
I am so proud of you for leaving and happy that you found love 💖 When someone we love passes, the only thing we can do is share their love and wisdom with the world so they can live on.
The key to life is dogs. They love you unconditionally. They give you a reason to wake up every morning. They comfort you with no questions asked. They snuggle.
@@broncobra Yeah, my Piper saved me many times. Whenever my thoughts got too dark I'd see her and knew I couldn't leave her.
It took me a long time to get my identity back. He stripped me of it emotionally and physically. It came down to the fact that it was either going to be me or him, I’d had enough. I really didn’t want to do time for taking that scumbag out. Always glad my brother lived in another state and didn’t know because if he did they would have never found the body.
Out of all the reactions I have listened to on this song yours is by far the best. Honest, real, reasoned and heartfelt. Have a great day Amanda
Never apologize for who you are!!
They'll like you or they wont!
If they don't, you don't need them in you're life!!
HARDY is going to go down as one of the greatest artists ever....you have got to check out more
I absolutely loved watching your very expressive face as you went through the emotions in your reaction. I too was disappointed that he does significant time, but that same justice system that puts the abuser back on the street is the justice system that punishes people for doing the job of a very corrupt system...I too love that after five years she's still waiting in the truck...just wait in the truck.
I think the “thank you” scene was summoning up their conversation.
One of if not the smartest reaction to a video i’ve seen. I love the way you think.
Thank You for your reaction . From a Survivor .
Leaving an abusive situation is hard for those being abused, some times they do not realize the extent of their abuse until someone outside steps in. It took me physically standing between my lovely bride of 22 years now and her abuser to get her out of that situation, even today she still struggles with the lingering effects of that abuse.
So happy you discovered and reacted to this song Amanda! Seeing both Hardy/Lainey perform this live together this summer left me speechless. It was one of the greatest live performances I have witnessed, and Hardy is a songwriting genius. Keep spreading the positive message 🤘
live it is really good I can agree with that
Nothing brings out the rage in me more than seeing others hurt. Especially when they are loved ones. I can stand pain against me more than watching others in pain.
The abuse you discuss is what I watched my mom go through. Finally she found the strength to get out. She suffered for way too long. She is an amazing woman. Super happy/proud of her strength to finally get out. She’s 71 and I’m 47 but all these years later I’m so thankful she got out.
The subtle things that were there... the abuse was wearing a "wifebeater" shirt.
It was putting rain when he went into the trailer... when he came out the rain had stopped. ..
An amazing song
I never noticed the rain stopping before! Wow! Layers on top of layers.
I think another aspect often overlooked is how it could be a trauma response on the male’s part.
I get chills every time I hear this song. I know it's fiction, but there's a good man, gone to prison for doing the right thing. It happens far too often in real life.
Nice opening statement kiddo. Damn Straight. It seems many want to beat us down, yet the ones that hate , need, or needed love at one point.
I love the glee you express in the kind of justice delivered before the cops coming...so gleeful in a man doing the right thing to a man who did the wrong thing...too bad the justice system doesn't do its job
He save more than just her. He save all that follows.
That was a powerful song and message. You don't need to apologize for anything. You've been in that situation and you know how it felt. My wife was in a toxic marriage and that's exactly what she went through. I've been listening to what she went through for the last 39 years. I'm so grateful to have her in my life. Don't get me wrong, I love her just the way she is. I'm not trying to change her. Just love her for her. Trying to show her that she is loved. Thank you for sharing this video.
I’ve seen many reactions to this video and you surprised me with this one… I cried.
I wish your channel great growth. You deserve it. Mental health attention is very important.
You are loved more than you know Amanda. God has extraordinary plans for you! Your best days are just ahead! Blessings!
I love your reaction. You know what is right.
Again..... dont watch the music video, watch Amanda, the emotion is real!!!!! I love this girl, i would love a meet and greet because I'd be the first one there, amazing inspiration ❤️
I have watched at least 50 reactions to this video. Yours is by far my favorite! You don't hit a woman!
Yeah, I watched a few as well, and this one wasn't lazy like most of the others seemed to be.
Her "Thank you" is so heartfelt
I just discovered your channel and want to say that I really like the fact that you imbue your reactions with personal information. You're not the only reactor to talk about mental health awareness, but most don't talk about their own struggles.
I have a couple of music suggestions for you, both in your wheelhouse, and both with two key versions, the original and a cover that overshadows it.
First is Suicide Is Painless by Johnny Mandel for the film M*A*S*H (1970). There are several well known covers, but Marilyn Manson's version from 2000 is the big one.
Second is Hurt by Trent Reznor. Originally a Nine Inch Nails song from 1994, Johnny Cash covered it in 2002 and even Reznor has said "the song isn't mine anymore".
I'm looking forwards to watching more of your back catalogue. Keep up the good work!
As someone who has been in an abusive relationship leaving is not always as easy as it should be they isolate you, they limit your ability to communicate with outside resources or have resources available and they threaten your children and family
Best reaction to this song I’ve seen! Thank you
After years of my friend hiding her bruises and cuts, I was with her when her boyfriend started belittling her relentlessly. I pulled him aside and asked him to stop. He continued. I was wearing pointed toe heels. I kicked him as hard as I could between the legs. He had surgery a short time later. She went on to marry him. The abuse continued. She no longer considered me a friend. She went on to divorce him and marry yet another guy who beat her. She had been my best friend since we were 9 years old. I would not change what I did. Once free from an abuser do your utmost to not pick another.
I've been lucky to have had four men in my life who would step in a situation. My father and my mother's brother are two. My late husband and current fiance would also. I'm blessed to have four men like that in my life.
Great reaction and comments Amanda!
This song is a great example of the role of men. Men defend women. So long as the woman isn't crazy. Over 28 years I took pride in arresting abusive men. It's not easy.
Thanks for taking them in.
Something the song doesn't directly explain is whether he was originally going to shoot him or just rough him up, because it mentions the shot once the guy is reaching for his own gun, plus in the video he does grab him some first, but the guy quickly panicks and reaches for the gun.
Wow. Thank you so much for sharing your story with all of us. If I could apologize for all those #@!)(*&@#!)(* out there that think they have some sort of right to abuse women. I don't care what a woman could possibly do, it would never be her fault. I would like to believe I would be the real man to step in and do what needed to be done. Thank you.
I believe that this is a true story he did 20 years and got out and they got married and have children together now you Rock
Being raised in the south we were raised understanding "wait in the truck" or "get in the car". You don't argue, you dont ask questions, you just do it cause you don't need to know. So many women in this situation pray for someone like this also The Judge under the seat is the name of that particular revolver. It's a 45 colt that also holds .410 shotgun shells.
Good day Amanda ......... at timestamp 11:00 you are so so so correct that it is not as easy as to just leave an abusive relationship ......... there are so many reason that factor into why you are in that relationship as it never started out abusive ...... the abuse came in over time and now you feel that it is your fault and you just take it over and over until you are gone or you break and take them out ......... If you happen to be strong enough to leave then they come bake all sweet and pouring you with kindness until you come back and then slowly the abuse restarts until you are broken and think it is your fault...........
That single question he asked her: "Where's he at?"
When my best friends little sister told me and her brother, my best friend, the story of what her ex did that was our first and only question. In unison. It was all we wanted to know. Way before this song came out. She refused to say and that's probably for the best. She had just managed to escape and police were already involved. Justice was served, but I would've loved to have been a part of it.
This song just hits different even if I wasn't the one getting abused. I can't imagine I'd ever regret it if I got to him first.
We’re badly in need of a return to frontier justice. The crimes are vicious, the criminals are animals, and the justice system couldn’t care less.
I used to be the first person in line to do this to anyone who hurt any female. I’ve been successful most of the time but not always. I am not that person anymore but I’d like to think I’d still be first in line to help as best I can. Not a big country fan anymore but this song touches me and I tear up every time I hear it.
Be careful. You can get your ass sued. I've had cops tell me the worst situation they could be involved in is domestic disputes. No matter who is at blame, the other person
will attack the cop. One cop told me he and his partner would drive around and drink, and shoot out street lights. Anything to avoid domestic calls. Houston. 80's.
Don't know if you noticed in the end. She is still waiting in the truck. That's his truck she's driving off on.
The line “judge under the seat in a reference to a kind of pistol” so it’s pretty creative line
The first time I have watched you. I know the video well. Your reaction is great. Your personal story was moving as well. I will watch more to see where you go.
Very well said young lady.
I first learned of this song from a facebook clip and when i heard the line about the Judge under the seat i had a rough idea where it was going with the reference to the Taurus Judge revolver. In fact it was that lyric i used to search it up on google and landed on the song. But that said seeing this reaction vid came around at the right time as a means of discovering your channel as well. The moment you mentioned having a side that was like dexter i chuckled knowing full well that part of you would be satisfied with how the story went.
Even getting into forensics! 😊
Ass a country boy we were raised take care of all wemon in your family and the wemon that may need you. Love the song and what it says. He got what he had coimg to him great reaction.
Love you, love your reaction and comments. Keep it up !!
Judge under the seat is a great line!
Notice at the end, she is still "waiting in the truck".
as a dv survivor myself, I find it a blessing that this song is written, no matter how you judge someone, he saved a life
I know my husband would do the same thing if he knew me back then when I was going thru abuse. And I had an ex boyfriend recently that was diagnosed with a tumor & messaged me to know the names of the men that attacked me to serve justice. Yes 2 different situations. I was abused then attacked my 3 men. I told him I didn’t want to dig up the past & they would meet their maker. This song is powerful.
You're a warrior! Proud of you!
Idk if you noticed, at the end of the video, she drives away in his truck, symbolizing she will continue to “wait in the truck”
In this story he did the morally right thing. It was illegal but he knew it. Morals over laws is the right way to live.
To add to the other comments... he was not a bad man, he was not an evil man... perhaps he grew up in a house of abuse.... as he knew what had happened to her without asking... he was a man who saw a need, saw an evil and acted on that need and evil. He was a man of faith (evidenced by the court scene bridge (Oh Lord have mercy on me was not asked to the court system... it was a plea to God) and visibly evidenced by the cross hanging on his rear view mirror... was his action legal, obviously not based on the trial, was it morally just.... that is up to each individual for you cannot legislate morality... but for every victim of DV, he would be an answered prayer... and for every man... the story forces the question... "what would I do?"
I recently picked up on another aspect of the acting...you can see the transfer of 'weight' from the weight on her as a DV victim... to him, as the reality of what he did sank in looking at the body on the floor... she has her weight lifted as she no longer has to live that life... and the weight of the decision he made settles onto his shoulders, heart and mind.
Awesome reaction.
Holy crap! Your reaction says a lot about your life. I’m so glad you got the help you needed. Most importantly I hope your abuser got what he deserved.
Thank you so much. I am grateful that I was able to find safety and even find love after the pain. As far as my abuser goes, I don't want to give him power by keeping tabs on him. I hope somehow he found healing of his own, but if I heard tomorrow that he ceased to exist, I wouldn't lose sleep over it.
Powerful song and story line! Hardy is an amazing talent But she is absolutely fantastic,, such raw, pure talent! Years ago a person i know was beating his girl friend up when i went to visit a good friend of mine. I asked what the hell was going on he said, "Bob" is beating her up again. i walked into the house and told her to go to the car, then proceeded to show him what it was like to have someone whip you like a dog and there is nothing you can to stop it. Told him ,"touch her again and I'll come back and finish the job". they broke up , he never touched her or any other female again,, i just took her to her parents house..was the last time i ever saw her.. so yeah there are still a few of us left,,
My husband like to hit me and throw me around. I went to bootcamp. He tried it once when I got back. I can still see him sitting on the couch, holding his face and screaming you broke my jaw. I didn’t but he never did it again. This guy in the video seems to have had nothing to lose except his truck.
My friends always wondered why I would stay with the guy that hit me. It was an upgrade from my parents. They beat me daily and he only hit me once every month.
I did a lot of therapy to make sense of it all. We divorced because I couldn’t forgive him. I have forgiven him now that he’s died, it’s easier.
I was in an abusive relationship and tried to run one day when I saw a cop outside our apartment I went to him for help he gave me a disturbing the peace ticket because “I should keep private matters in the house” and my boyfriend was yelling so me coming outside was a disturbance and I felt that maybe I was wrong because the cop basically said I should stay home and accept my beating I stayed for two more months one day he came home made and attacked me before he shut the door and he had a knife this time I thought it was the ending yelled for help and a man came running into the apartment and beat up my boyfriend he looked at me and saw my bruises his eyes were so sad and all he said was “you are better than this” and walked away once the shock wore off I went to the court house and got a restraining order and filed a complaint he evidently found out and took off I have never seen him again or the man who helped me I wish I could thank him tell him I got away I got therapy I healed I met a wonderful man who treats me like a queen I will never be able to thank my angel enough
I am so happy that you got away and found the love you deserve 💖
This woman was me for nearly five years... and on the final night with that man a friend stepped up and travelled to where he was, forced his way into our apartment saw my condition and beat the shit out of that man. Every time I hear this song I am taken back to 30 years ago... you never forget.
Due to what i went through i have ended up living in a nursing home for the rest of my life and my abuser has their freedom and his in hiding. It took me passing out and not responding for the jerk to get scared enough to call for help. I have a disability so leaving after being isolated from people was difficult, i have severe PTSD and can't sleep due to fear of reoccurring nightmares of the disgusting things my abuser did to me. 😢 That song is great.
I truly hope you find the peace and healing that you deserve. 💖
I felt that little exclamation when it ended. You try to gather your scattered emotions and thoughts, with too many feelings to just instantly put into words. When you've been in that situation, it just hits so hard...
I've been wanting to hear you react to this one for a while now. I was excited to see on your Patreon that it was coming up. I very much believe in giving a chance for people to heal as well, but I'm very much a "Dexter Morgan" type of person who wants to see someone stopped if they're not going to change. I LOVE this song! One of my favorite parts is when he says he sat on the porch smoking one of HIS cigarettes and waited for the cops to come, as if he's saying "I did it, he deserved it, do what you need to do." It brings out the protector in me. I've entered a strangers apartment before to pull a girl out and hold the guy who was beating her in front of the window in there until the cops showed up. She was escorted through the apartment by the police the next day to get her things. Another country song I like that's similar to this one is "Baby who hurt you" by David Morris.
I know I've left you books on previous videos, one was Metallica's One if I remember correctly, and this video is another one that really hit home and made me break down so I apologize ahead of time for another book. I've heard this song many times on the radio and do enjoy it. However I've never seen the video or someone's reaction to it. Every time I hear this song, all I see is my wife and the pain and suffering she went through with her ex husband and how amazing it must have felt to have someone stand up for you when you couldn't. For years he mentally and physically abused her and one day beat her for nearly three hours and actually tried to strangle her to death. All with their three children in the house, which I'm happy to say I have adopted and are MY kids and I love them more than anything in this world! And it was all because she asked him not to do drugs in front of their kids the night before. He only received 18 months in jail then got out and did it again with his new gf. He has continued to haunt us both knowing he's still out there and we are going on 9 years later. He is still always in the back of our minds. So the story and meaning of this song really hits close! I would give anything! Including my life and freedom to have been there to give that scum of the earth what he really deserved like in this song! Regardless if I knew her or their situation or not! This is something that I, and everyone should never see acceptable or as a maybe he can change and blah blah thing. Absolutely zero tolerance for these disgusting acts! And to have a legal system that doesn't appropriately punish these monsters is just as disgusting! It took 3 years for the system to finally approve their divorce and another 4 for me to adopt them. So yeah...again thank you for making me cry like a baby and end up share more of my life story than I probably should have. But, we all have our demons in this crazy messed up thing we call life and sometimes need to let it out.
prayers for you and your family. Beauty from the ashes.
@@valhenning1504 Thank you, and the same to you and yours as well.
Thank you for sharing and thank you for showing them all LOVE!
Survived barely 8 months by a guy. My child's father. I had him on video admitting to attempting to burn me,threatened to unalive me,I had pictures of bruises,videos of SA and medical documents of him putting windex in my food when I was pregnant....out of all of this.....he got a year of probation. He then stalked me for almost a full year after. It's been 2 years now since I got away but I'm still suffering the after effects. The justice system did more then fail me. Didn't read my impact statement despite asking for it,didn't do a psychological evaluation despite me asking for it....only thing I'm thankful for is he gave me my son. I was single mom for the first year and a half of my son's life. Now he calls my fiancé dad....I'm healing slowly and realizing love shouldn't hurt. But again....I wish he wasn't alive....I'm not the first or the last girl he will hurt and that haunts me daily. The justice system betrayed me. Failed me. Failed my son.
This breaks my heart, but I'm so happy that you are getting the love and compassion you and your son deserve now.
The song is the embodiment of what real masculinity is for a society!! Real men will stand and protect anyone who has been harmed and wont think twice about it, or cry when the repercussions come.
Excuse me! Women can pull triggers too!
A very very small % can. But most women in this situation will feel stuck not knowing what to do or how to get out of it. Not saying that this is the only way out either. @@MentalAmanda
@@bobreighnheart5071 I think it depends on upbringing and cultural differences between areas. About 80% of women I know can shoot.
Hahaha 80% that is BS, I was a Marksmanship instructor in the Marine Corps and I would only say about 35% of the the people that volunteered to serve had ever touched a weapon, let alone be ready to take a life with one.
@@bobreighnheart5071 As I said, depends on the area. I grew up in Missouri which is very much hunting country. Myself and many of my friends were taught to shoot young (though myself always with targets - I would never hunt.)
I have lived this in a way. Been locked up for defending a female Friend. This song meanings more to me than others know. I been abused. I won't let others go through what I have been through. Keep the channel going
Glad im not the only one who struggled with how to feel about this song.
My aunt was beaten to death by her partner after years of abuse that we were only made aware of after her death, So I have strong feelings about abuse. I struggle because I know in my head that we should let the law handle pass judgement and punishment, but I lost a lot of faith in our legal system when my aunt's murdered was never even arrested because "they didn't have enough evidence to secure a conviction in court." Forget the fact that the detective on the case stated that in 20 years he had never seen a body that brused and scarred, forget that her 21 year old daughter and 17 year old son both gave statements describing how he would grab her by the hair and throw her out of chairs he wanted to sit in, or how any time she would pick up the phone to call someone he would stand over top of her and watch her until she hung up, or how he would hit and belittle her if she did something he didn't like. No, because his story is she fell down the stairs and hit her head because she was drunk and because nobody else was home at that time it was his story against hers, only problem is she was dead. So yeah, my feeling's side says, you hurt someone, especially a woman or a child, there's a wood chiper out back I'd like to introduce you to. To be clear, I'm not advocating killing abusers in vigilantly justice. I know and believe that it is wrong. I believe that even if the abuser gets off Scott Free in this life they will pay for their actions in the next.
That is heartbreaking 💔 I genuinely hope karma reigned down on her abuser and I hope she found peace beyond this place.
@@MentalAmanda Thank you, it's been particularly difficult for my Mom (her sister). Growing up they were incredibly close and even into adulthood they remained very close. When my aunt met this guy and divorced her husband to move in with him it really hurt their relationship. My aunt was afraid that Mom would judge her very harshly so she cut off communication with my Mom, or at least that's what we thought. In talking with her kids they told us part of the reason she stopped responding to my mom was because her abuser wouldn't let her. My Mom is torn up inside with false guilt thinking that she could have and should have done more. She mentally knows it's not her fault, but she struggles to believe it.
I have watched a number of reactions to this video and your insight was one of the best, also you are the guest to mention the strong meaning behind “judge under the seat”
Honestly if i were to show up at my dad's house, any of my brother's, or my parents beat up like that, they would do and say the same.
I just hung on to hear the part about "she should just have left". No, I agree with you completely. It's just a power trip for those men. The women need to STOP having to feel guilty for what has been, or is being, done to them. Again, it saddens me that manhood has become so twisted. Do not apologize for your words in your reaction, at all. Stay strong.
God bless you!
How many people noticed she is driving his truck at the end.
Amanda, to start, your reference to Dexter, lol, I love you on many levels... I've done verbatim what your spoke about confronting an abuser who, bad on his part, happened to abuse one my girls... God bless, or good for you on your courage to stand up for what your believe and doing the right thing. I just subbed btw...
To add to the idea that it's not so easy for the abused to "escape", but also, even if he had taken her far away AND the guy couldn't find her- though there's no guarantee of that!- the guy could still just find another to abuse, and very likely he's not so great for other people in the community. Vigilantism isn't a good answer, because innocent people can accidentally be targeted, but it's hard for me to have a problem with a violent abuser being removed from the world!!!
What a great reaction so good I subscribed to your channel and I always give a thumbs up. At one point you reminded me of a little mouse in the corner waiting. I understand how you feel because I too detest it. It made me want to subscribe to your channel. That's how much I understand how it made you feel. God Bless You
She is still waiting in the truck she drive away from the Visit in his truck many years ago I physically stopped some jerk that was beating his wife who was my good freind.. I gave her my car so she could go back to her parents home to escape the abuse.
Im so THANKFUL that you get it! I was abused by my ex husband for years. My parents were elderly and lived close by so my ex threatened to hurt them if i told or left. Plus, he knew EVERYWHERE i could have gone to so i was easy to find. I didnt tell my father because he was a crack shot and i would have been waiting in his truck. I coyldnt see my elderly father going to prison for me. My ex anally raped me 3x. So bad i was bleeding and could barely sit. He told me i deserved it and WANTED it! I went to the sheriff and a lawyer and they both said law at the time, didnt protect me because we were married! I was trapped. My ex had affair and his side chick gave me my freedom! Now shes married to him and hes controlling HER! Thank god its not me anymore! But i actually do feel sorry for her because he charmed her like he did me and then once he had her, the real him came out. Folks on outside asked why i didnt just leave. Like its so easy. My answer was the easy one. I simply said, "And go where?" My life, parents, home, career, my childs school and friends, were all in one place. And my house was a family home. MY family! Lawyer told me if i left, it was considered abandonment and id lose everything and if i took our child to protect him, THAT was considered KIDNAPPING! So i was SO STUCK! So to whoever reads this, if you have a friend or relative being abused, help them find counseling, legal help and protection from professionals equipped for this. Dont ask the stupid question of "Why dont you just leave?" Youll never understand until youve lived it.
Thank you so much for sharing your story. You never deserved that treatment. I hope you find the healing and love you deserve and I hope his new partner finds strength to see her worth.
@@MentalAmanda Thank you. Yes, I met a wonderful man and we were married. But I was very gun shy to begin with and I made it clear that my son and I were a pair so love me, love him too or it would never work. My son was my world. But it all worked out fine. God heard my prayers.
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I was worried you were gonna say "he didn't have to kill him.. bla.. bla.. bla.." so happy you feel the way you did! I guess us women think alike!! And I'm loving the comments men leave!!!! Makes me feel a little bit better!!!!!