How Yelling at Kids Could Harm Them

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  • @t3jf
    @t3jf 3 роки тому +262

    My dad smashed my head against a window, spat in my face, chocked me, hit me with metal spoon, gave me a bloody nose but yelling at me everyday is what gave me anxiety as an adult.

    • @bayoutapes
      @bayoutapes 3 роки тому +31

      so sorry to hear that.

    • @itsmaddy-owodennis1435
      @itsmaddy-owodennis1435 3 роки тому +30

      BRO WHAT KIND OF FATHER WOULD DO THAT

    • @jasont9169
      @jasont9169 3 роки тому +24

      That's abuse

    • @rusve1828
      @rusve1828 3 роки тому +7

      Am it same for me but he only shout at me everyday

    • @rusve1828
      @rusve1828 3 роки тому +3

      It louder than a car...

  • @henkverhaeren3759
    @henkverhaeren3759 5 років тому +195

    What many parents forget after they yelled to a child, is to make it up afterwards by saying 'sorry, I've lost control, and I was angry because of so and so. But everything is ok now.' than the kid can relax, otherwise there system stays in a state of alert and keeps tensed. With all sad results as a follow-up...

    • @uncliamedcoin4165
      @uncliamedcoin4165 4 роки тому +13

      I can say I approve this

    • @pragyatalks
      @pragyatalks 4 роки тому +17

      Ahh....this did'nt helped me....cz it was often...so the blame was mostly on me ....rather than recognizing .... frequent yelling was there concern too...which needs attention!....& Yes it helped the parent an easy target of all that guilt ...& With that comes ....ignorantly defensive deafness to the matter

    • @metra8604
      @metra8604 3 роки тому +16

      yep. my parents NEVER apologise for yelling. on the rare occasions it's too much, i scream at them, telling them it's enough and it's really harming me. but they don't listen. I'm pretty sure she's sadistic. my mum.

    • @rosemarycrafting1202
      @rosemarycrafting1202 3 роки тому +3

      As someone who's mom actually did apologize after yelling almost every time...I'm 18 and still dealing with a ton of trauma and mental effects. I've been out of her house for 8 months now and I personally am still not okay. I agree with your sentiment because if it only happens, say once a year, then apologize and the kid will be fine. But at least for me, it was almost worse that my mother would recognize what she was doing to me on a daily basis, apologize, expect everything to go back to normal, and then yell at Mr again the next day.

    • @windows-kx1of
      @windows-kx1of 3 роки тому +4

      My dad does
      "Sorry I yelled I was _________..."
      It doesn't help me feel better about you or anything It annoys me if you try to justify what you did admit you were wrong please....

  • @Jiafeibubbles
    @Jiafeibubbles 2 роки тому +37

    My parents never yell at me, my brother, or our dog. But my aunts yell at Their kids. My mom learned that communication is the key. She was a nurse at a Pediatrics office so she was always with kids. Yelling at your kids doesn’t do anything good for them. For example, if your 10 year old son was to spill water and you yell at them, they most likely will get anxiety. But if you communicate with them and say,”It’s ok, get a paper towel and clean it up”, that will make things easier for you and the child. And if you think yelling at your kids makes them behave, you’re wrong. My younger cousin is VERY immature for her age. She’s 7 and acts like a 2 year old. That’s because of her mom yelling. But if her mom didn’t yell, she would be more mature and act like a 7 or 8 year old.

  • @LiftRider24
    @LiftRider24 3 роки тому +71

    I wish I could show this to my parents but this would only make them scream louder

    • @bedtimestories9971
      @bedtimestories9971 2 роки тому +8

      Feel That

    • @dezavlog
      @dezavlog 2 роки тому +8

      Serach about Narcisistic parents

    • @Yuki.starler
      @Yuki.starler Рік тому +6

      God I can relate

    • @PraveenSrJ01
      @PraveenSrJ01 Рік тому +1

      Whoa 🤯

    • @European_mess
      @European_mess 10 місяців тому

      Exactly it’s horrible dealing with an emotionally immature parent. They’ll never fix themselves so my advice is try to fix yourself and not to try to reason with them because it’ll go nowhere.

  • @michellehollensteiner3624
    @michellehollensteiner3624 2 роки тому +27

    I have heard lots of kids yell right back at their parents. Some kids have gotten in their faces and yelled no. I’ve seen kids swat their parents back when the parents swat them first. It wasn’t pleasant to see. It made me sad. My parents hardly ever yelled at me. They didn’t believe in yelling. My mom passed away in October. I’m glad I still have my dad

  • @ranaeid2390
    @ranaeid2390 Рік тому +10

    So, true!
    I am not a parent myself. However, I am an elementary school teacher. Not yelling at my students is my new goal. I always apologize if I yell and I try to explain why. I never liked it when my parents yelled at me when I was younger. It made me feel weak, scared, and unsafe. I don't want my students to feel that way because of my actions.

    • @KingCharles3000
      @KingCharles3000 10 місяців тому +3

      Me too, getting yelled at always stole the strength out of my body and made me feel unsafe and uncared for

    • @bismaibraheem6554
      @bismaibraheem6554 4 місяці тому

      Thats good unlike some teachers eho r so strict and harsh I have been scolded by teachers and I felt really scared and helpless and I think it also effected me the times I got in big trouble like that 😢 You are a really nice and understanding teacher.

  • @ShottaBoyzz
    @ShottaBoyzz 3 роки тому +23

    I’m 24 single father I have twins a boy and girl, they are my pride and joy I can’t even lie I yell a lot they are only 3 I don’t even mean to yell but sometimes I get frustrated and yell and feel like shit I honestly just want to be a great father and I feel like I’m failing

    • @paulbell3682
      @paulbell3682 2 роки тому +2

      Just remember that no parent is perfect. I'm 21 & don't have kids myself but when I eventually do, I know thatvI won't be perfect but I'll continue with trying to do my best no matter if I'm in a pissed off mood or not.

    • @jmnm7019
      @jmnm7019 2 роки тому +9

      Single father with twins? Dude. You are already a hero

    • @Kawayoporu
      @Kawayoporu 6 місяців тому

      And what about your twins's mother?

    • @dmoney141414
      @dmoney141414 5 місяців тому

      Prayers up for you. Need to take it one day at a time.

    • @Kawayoporu
      @Kawayoporu 5 місяців тому

      Did you get my reply shottaboyzz?

  • @PhilMante
    @PhilMante Рік тому +8

    This is why you see so much drug addiction, alcoholism, obesity and promiscuity in people. Drugs, alcohol, food, and simps never yelled or screamed at a person and made them feel shitty about themselves.

  • @GoldenPink-fv5uh
    @GoldenPink-fv5uh 11 місяців тому +8

    I hear voices screaming at me with the same rage my mom has. SO DONT YELL AT YOUR KIDS FOR 23 YEARS N COUNTING

    • @myalykles1903
      @myalykles1903 7 місяців тому +1

      You are old enough to set boundaries.

  • @dawoof256
    @dawoof256 2 роки тому +8

    i know this is old but i was yelled at by teachers and staff all through out elementary school and i still never understood why. Am 20 now and luckily i never grew up to be bitter from those years

  • @jasont9169
    @jasont9169 3 роки тому +54

    My dad always raises his voice then shouts and yells so unbelievably loud at me or my mum whenever something doesn't go his way. He makes us dine together everyday but me and my brother never say a word, just silent eating with parents everyday. :(

    • @rosemarycrafting1202
      @rosemarycrafting1202 3 роки тому +12

      Life gets better when you move out I promise, it's hard but you can get through it. When you turn 18 find a new place to live and a good therapist.

    • @jasont9169
      @jasont9169 3 роки тому +4

      @@rosemarycrafting1202 I'm almost 21 still in the same situation with my parents. Thing is I need to get someone to live with or else the constant isolation would be insane so then I'd rather stay here.

    • @jediskunk67
      @jediskunk67 3 роки тому +2

      When I was little, if my dad yelled, I would yell back.

    • @bqtterflys6865
      @bqtterflys6865 3 роки тому

      O

    • @flops3740
      @flops3740 2 роки тому +2

      I can't yell back.. no matter how hard I try... One time I did he hit me.

  • @elywananda
    @elywananda 2 роки тому +9

    That point at 3:11 was weird as heck! So it's okay to yell at children because people will yell at them elsewhere and they need to get used to it. I mean, the same point applies to hitting too! But that doesn't justify anything.

    • @TMac473
      @TMac473 Рік тому +1

      Agree, and the fact that she’s a paediatrician saying this on a television show. Unbelievable.

    • @Your_Boy_is_Here323
      @Your_Boy_is_Here323 6 місяців тому

      WROOOOOOONG!!!!!!

  • @bayoutapes
    @bayoutapes 3 роки тому +28

    I'm asian american (cambodian to be exact) I was born in 1992 . My dad always yelled at me for no reason, he would call me the F word for no reason, he would threaten me with a knife and all kind of stuff for absolutely nothing, when I got older all these things still built up inside me and I said you know what, screw my parents and I started doing drugs and screwing hookers, now I got an std and probly wont be able to have children due to complications it would have on my partner and the baby. So I would say yes yelling could harm children and cause them to self destruct instead of to self love and do better for there parents.

    • @jctt96554
      @jctt96554 3 роки тому +4

      im sorry for you man, i and my brother are also in the same situation and I wish to escape this

  • @sanyyy2.0
    @sanyyy2.0 2 роки тому +14

    my mother thinks its our fault her adult hood is miserable but she is clearly just saying that when I do nothing she compares me to first graders. Yelling is like a drug for her she likes yeling at me.

  • @DanneyTanner
    @DanneyTanner Рік тому +9

    Here's the thing about yelling . There's different types of yelling . Not everybody can yell all the same. When my mom yelled it didn't bother me a lot. When my babysitter yelled at me it gave me chills up and down my spine that I'll never forget for the rest of my life. She had like this evil sound in her voice👹

    • @littlehtxgirly
      @littlehtxgirly Рік тому +2

      😂😂😂 this made me laugh cuz my daughter yells at her big bro and it’s just like this evil sound and all 😩

  • @Josh12877
    @Josh12877 11 місяців тому +3

    I had had a dad that yelled at me every day during my teenage years (not exaggerating) and it changed me as a person and In the end I have been desensitised by it causing me to yelled back. But also scared to leave my room at night due to him being angry about me being awake to late, even though I was just enjoying what an average teenager does staying up late .

  • @greg9069
    @greg9069 9 місяців тому +4

    Really screwed me up.. now as an adult the tables have turned and I yell at them. 🤦‍♂️

  • @jediskunk67
    @jediskunk67 3 роки тому +9

    Yelling is even worse if you're a parent with a child that is autistic.

  • @flops3740
    @flops3740 2 роки тому +8

    My dad yelled at me for not going to bed early enough at the age of 6 and he did it WAY TO LOUD. It was only a simple problem and could of been fixed without the yelling. He yelled at my whole family today my mom. My sister, and me. I don't understand do you think they behave because they like you when they yell? No. They do it out of FEAR. Do you think yelling will get your kids to be quiet or stop crying? LIKE I DONT UNDERSTAND!

  • @jeannieboivin2849
    @jeannieboivin2849 2 роки тому +5

    This is what happens to my nephew. My sister and borhter in law constantly yell NO! to their 1 year old son and always have...I dont know anything about having children but I honestly think that's not what to do when your child cries. I could be wrong but when they yell NO at him, it makes him cry even more.

  • @คเคภค
    @คเคภค 4 роки тому +28

    my step mom needs to see this video. my little sister is 2. Only 2. And she’s going through her “terrible twos” I guess you could call it. When she doesn’t get her way, and cries and throws a fit, etc. but when she’s fighting taking a nap and just crying in her bed my step mom will yell at the TOP of her lungs for her to shut up, and when she doesn’t, she gets a spanken, I don’t understand it at all. Like y e l l i n g at a kid is gonna get it to be quiet and stop crying?

    • @alipali
      @alipali 3 роки тому +2

      Oh my gosh... I'm so sorry to hear that. I really hope your step mum realises that what she's doing is wrong, she shouldn't hurt a 2 year old neither yell. That's just damaging her health. I really hope things get better for you. 💖

    • @miguelquazar883
      @miguelquazar883 3 роки тому +1

      Well stepmoms can be the evilest of cunts. They cannot ever truly have the maternal bond that the real Mother can have. Calling your Dad's wife 'Mom' is crazy in itself. She got with him. Not because he had children. This is very sad to hear. I spent 7 years of my childhood hearing my cunt step mother scream and bitch all the time, she put on a show until the marriage was complete. She was an absolutely evil person. Things got better when she was gone but I feel I have issues that I'm unaware of 20+ years later that create struggles with getting along with certain people.

    • @FatFetus37
      @FatFetus37 3 роки тому +2

      Happened to me a lot too, actually. My dad yelled at me for drinking juice when I said I was going to put shoes on and forgot to mention the juice bit

    • @flops3740
      @flops3740 2 роки тому +1

      Happened to me a LOT like bro when your getting yelled at it breaks trust so much.

    • @juliastinson2049
      @juliastinson2049 Рік тому +3

      when ur angry and u feel disrespected 24/7 by a child and are a stay at home single mom it gets overwhelming.

  • @Ryan-bh9jp
    @Ryan-bh9jp 3 місяці тому +1

    Every kid is different, talking sweet and calm to my 3 year old doesn’t work. I could speak sweet loveliness to him for 3 hours but he would still keep screaming and crying in a constant repetitive soul destroying way! Now after 10 minutes of trying the sweet kind lovely method and it doesn’t work, I lose my cool. I shout at him, it makes him jump, he then stops crying and begins to calm down instantly. He then comes and apologises to me, we have a big cuddle. I tell him well done for saying sorry, I apologise also. We say ‘I love you’ to each other, and then a kiss!
    This works best for my son. I welcome anyone to try the “nice” technique with him, 3 hours later you will be begging me to step in!!!

  • @mariestephens9290
    @mariestephens9290 2 місяці тому +1

    Yelling, or even screaming at your children at home, or worse in public, is demeaning to them makes them feel worthless, and most likely unloved.

  • @xavierstewart4086
    @xavierstewart4086 3 роки тому +9

    I never got hit but always got yelled at and whenever I to say anything back I always got told I was going to get my teeth knocked out my mouth or other bad stuff it never happened because I always stoped talking but I always cried Everytime I got yelled at and got told to shut up and stop being a baby even when I was actually hurt from breaking an arm or scrapping my knee I mean if your like 13 or something you can kinda control yourself and not cry over that stuff but when your 6 or 7 like I was it's not easy but now I'm 14 and I won't cry over anything I just laugh cause crying makes me feel like a loser.

  • @justedith9196
    @justedith9196 3 роки тому +4

    my mom yells at me and when she does i get extremely scared i cant move or speak i shake intesly to the point its visible to the least attentive person i cry so much my resting face is often looks like im unintrested but im not but my mom dosent know that she forces me to be cheerful and i told her calmly it was my resting face im fine and out of nowhere she yelled at me to die i got super scared this isnt the first time but its the 3rd time she told me very hurtful things then when she does good things to me i just dont know if to forgive her or not

  • @DeadRaymanWalking
    @DeadRaymanWalking 5 місяців тому +2

    As a woman on the autistic spectrum, NOBODY should ever yell at children. I'm 38 (almost 39), and dealing with my father yelling and cussing his head off while playing Vega Conflict (which he no longer plays) is best described by me as if he's AVGN doing more than just drinking Rolling Rock beer while reviewing a crappy game done by LJN. Or worse, it would happen when he drives and he cusses at bad drivers. This has often caused a "fight or flight" response, and it has often caused me to panic and escape from the vehicle my father has driving. The last time it happened, the police got involved. While the donut lords didn't slap the silver bracelets on my father (or even myself), I was left hurt and angry for the whole day - I did nothing but crying, crying, and more crying. There's been more than a few times when I've wanted to commit suicide and in my suicide note that the cops would find on my dead body, I would have my parents arrested for not being generous and doting - and for hurting my feelings at times. I've dealt with so many teachers raising their voices while I was at school that I wanted to make like a Mortal Kombat character and dismember them to ludicrous gibs. Sometimes when my dad is driving, I feel as if I need to keep some sort of noisemaking device (possibly an electronic whistle) to alert my dad if he starts having acid tongue like he's Mr. Resetti from fucking Animal Crossing.

  • @t.m.8618
    @t.m.8618 5 років тому +10

    Even before listening to the video I SAY NO YELLING!!!!

  • @aviator278real
    @aviator278real 9 місяців тому +2

    I told my mom I was watching this and she yelled at me saying think about how I act 😑

  • @jmnm7019
    @jmnm7019 2 роки тому +5

    I’m asian and parents sometimes yell and physical discipline was common. American kids are really soft and spoiled to be honest. Look at the comments. You cannot blame your parents “yelling” a few times a year for your drug addiction and low life. They are human and you probably did something that my Asian mom would have beaten the crap out of you.

  • @shaquitaunderwood83
    @shaquitaunderwood83 6 місяців тому +1

    Communication should go as far as parent gives directions and the child follows such order. The only way my kids hear me if I yell. They play nice and then act as if I never told them anything which cause me to yell. It's called children need to pay attention better. It's not abuse because I need to be heard.

  • @FruityHachi
    @FruityHachi 3 роки тому +14

    they'll put the toy down when you raised your voice OUT OF FEAR, because they fear you
    instead, the parent should EXPLAIN to the kid why you want them to put the toy down, talk to the kids and explain to them why you want something from them instead of giving commands
    that is, if you want to raise a family and not a military squad

    • @flops3740
      @flops3740 2 роки тому +3

      My father needs to hear this

  • @DukeTerraria
    @DukeTerraria 8 місяців тому +6

    unfortunately for me. i get yelled at so often so much to the point where ive developed Idgaf anger issues.

  • @mzsweetshoes3261
    @mzsweetshoes3261 3 місяці тому

    My mom threw a glass at my forehead, and I started to bleed a lot. My step-dad called 911 and I was rushed to the hospital. As an adult, I still felt anxiety.

  • @kdd9887
    @kdd9887 10 місяців тому

    My parents and teachers yelled at me a ton when I was 3 4 and 5, and for my teachers and dad, over the smallest reasons. I was also made fun of and violated a ton in that time. Plus, my dad clearly only was fully in my life when I was 3 and younger. Now I have been suffering from waves of depression, autistic burnout, I used to have anger issues when I was younger, I have been suffering from anxiety, betrayal and I have wanted to go back to being a born.
    I remember before that time, I remember being a normal loving toddler, I rarely had tantrums besides ones in the smallest form, I liked hugs and affection, and back then, school and stuff were something I actually enjoyed. But when I was 5, i remember several times screaming and yelling, being mean to other kids, and even more.

  • @WinterKing6
    @WinterKing6 17 днів тому

    I’m still feeling the same way I would get yelled at consent in the past and still fell the same way

  • @melissaaa1121
    @melissaaa1121 2 роки тому +2

    I fear my mom I am 10 AND SHE YELLS AT ME ALL THE TIME IM SO TIERD OF IT I ALWAYS CRY

  • @Your_Boy_is_Here323
    @Your_Boy_is_Here323 6 місяців тому +2

    If someone yells at me I just go to bed

  • @RambleOfficial
    @RambleOfficial 3 роки тому +3

    Im a nice teen i try to be respectful when i try to tell them the reason something happend they think its an excuse when in reality im trying to tell them what happened its annoying and it makes no sense you tell me what happened then i tell you what happened then you think its a lie or an excuse its making me depressed

    • @myalykles1903
      @myalykles1903 7 місяців тому

      You can't be reasonable with unreasonable people. Just hear them out. Do your best to keep the peace and continue finding yourself until you can be free of their control. You know right from wrong so keep giving yourself the love they struggle to give. It's horrible to know you are having to care for yourself because someone else can't so it kindly. But the world is full of these types and only you can set your safety boundaries.

  • @CristinaAlcaraz94
    @CristinaAlcaraz94 3 роки тому +5

    What about a child who is very disobedient & get angry in rage. Typically toddlers.

    • @gusieppikaratekid418
      @gusieppikaratekid418 3 роки тому

      Watch Elmo or Barney lol

    • @rosemarycrafting1202
      @rosemarycrafting1202 3 роки тому +6

      Im sorry I don't know, but from my experience as a kid with one parent who yelled and one didn't. I "respected" the one who yelled out of fear, now that I'm an adult i never speak to her. I respect my dad genuinely out of love and it's because he treats me with the same respect. There are some great parenting youtube and tiktok accounts with great examples though.

    • @FruityHachi
      @FruityHachi 3 роки тому

      if someone deals with a toddler by yelling, there's something wrong with them
      it'll just make the toddler think the caregiver is a potential threat and feel unsafe and if the yelling is repeated, the toddler may develop anxiety

  • @godsgirl4950
    @godsgirl4950 2 місяці тому

    My mother would yell at me since I was born. I hadn't done anything wrong. I remember getting a startle reflex, crying and feeling terrified. She yelled at me when I hadn't done anything wrong. I am destroyed now as an adult.

  • @NorthBay43
    @NorthBay43 Рік тому +2

    My grandmas yell is deadly

  • @juanitatachiquin3395
    @juanitatachiquin3395 4 місяці тому

    What do you do when you have a sister in law that yells all the time at her kids and then she starts to yell at my kids. Trying to understand how to deal with that without getting an argument with her.

  • @Mentos6
    @Mentos6 Рік тому +6

    My parents yelled at me, spanked me and slapped me. I am a better, more respectful and less self entitled person for it.

  • @hienienguyen6766
    @hienienguyen6766 Рік тому +2

    Asian parents are yelling and screaming. When you have parents that are overbearing. I stood up to my father because he isnt going to tell me how to raise my son. I do both at times sometimes kids dont listen regardless of what you do. . be patient and be aware of how it affects your child

  • @paulkramer9666
    @paulkramer9666 7 місяців тому +2

    Good parents do not harm their children. The do not shout at them and, they never strike them.

  • @oleggeraschenko4932
    @oleggeraschenko4932 Рік тому +7

    Sometimes children just won't bother themselves to do as they're told until they're yelled at, even after you’ve explained it nicely 100 times already. I had a case where I was teaching a 6-year old to say “there is/there are” instead of the “there have” which she kept saying. I tried all the games I possibly could with her, but she just wouldn’t bother herself to actually make an effort. Then her nanny told me to stop outside and she raised her voice at the child and it finally got the message to the girl that she is to stop ignoring what she is being told. And, unbelievably, turned out she actually could remember to say “there is/there are” if she got herself to do it. So, how would you then deal with the girl after having tried all nice explanations and games and still been ignored? I'd love to know what the magic method of dealing with a child who just won't bother is

  • @charlesshepherd2004
    @charlesshepherd2004 3 роки тому +3

    We all drove out parents insane. Ain't no one perfect 👏👊

  • @madebytimburton
    @madebytimburton 5 років тому +28

    "Don't yell at your children, don't swat their butts. Let them run all over you, be disrespectful, and do as they please." What a joke. My Dad yelled far more often than he spanked us and we are just fine. I'm thankful that he used his drill Sargeant voice, as opposed to his hands.

    • @joddo1991
      @joddo1991 5 років тому +17

      And not every single individual can take that. I was both beaten and yelled at, while my sister was yelled at. My sister now grows up with anxiety and she used to have depression, I grew up (I’m 23) anger and being nervous. Now I yell at my parents when they yell at me at this age for stupid shit, they cause me so much stress that why I have so much anger issues

    • @fancyweasel8924
      @fancyweasel8924 4 роки тому +3

      I think the problem is the rate of yelling and cause of it

    • @Luxiedee13
      @Luxiedee13 4 роки тому +3

      @@joddo1991 let me guess, you still live with your parents? You’re an adult. If you don’t like being yelled at, move out. Yelling at your parents is disrespectful.

    • @joddo1991
      @joddo1991 4 роки тому +7

      @@Luxiedee13 I love on my own and barely talk to my mother. You’re not in my position kid

    • @t3jf
      @t3jf 3 роки тому +7

      @@joddo1991 Some parents are more toxic than others. It can be a tough reality when we realize they aren't the heros or perfect people we want or hope them to be. Your mental health is very important never let them control your life.

  • @jamesevans3830
    @jamesevans3830 Рік тому +4

    I yelled at my kid the other day. I get mad at him probably once a month. Usually just a build of being over tired. Working crazy hours and just being very very cranky. I always feel guilty about it for a few days after until i feel like things have smoothed out between us. Any advice on how to revound after getting mad at your kid. He just turned 5 i dont like getting mad at him.

    • @myalykles1903
      @myalykles1903 7 місяців тому

      Apologize. And tell him what was actually wrong. Tell him it was not okay for you to do what you did and that you will keep trying to do better.

    • @myalykles1903
      @myalykles1903 7 місяців тому

      Then comfort him.

  • @sami_slammi7741
    @sami_slammi7741 5 місяців тому

    I love my dad dearly, but his anger, while he IS getting better, is a problem. I cant ask him anything without being fearful of an annoyed response and/or being yelled at, or condescendingly talked down to. I often find myself not doing something because I think he will put me down in some way. His yelling makes me scared. I know he loves me and would do anything for me, but that unfortunately doesn't take away the mental effect of being constantly worried about doing something wrong. God forbid if I do. I notice when I DO mess up, i immediately shut down and dont know what to do. I freak out like it's the end of the world, and it's taken me a long time to realize that isn't normal and why it's happening. Even worse, I find myself mimicking those same behaviors to my friends and partner. I'm far from what he is yet I'm still perpetuating that cycle of hurt in subtle ways. It's truly frustrating.

  • @v.a8530
    @v.a8530 3 роки тому +2

    im so mad my mother in law screamed to my three month baby today becose he was crying and she hated im so frustrating i dont know how stupid she is i didnt know how to react im so disepointed ,

  • @sklkelaart9069
    @sklkelaart9069 Рік тому +1

    I really get stressed out whe my kid won't do what he is asked to do and also if he start to cry for u nwanted things. So I have kinda pulled his arm and yelling at him bit I feel so bad and apologies but hiw am I to control this

    • @Diyanibeats
      @Diyanibeats Рік тому

      Walk away, deep breaths, pray, tell your child you need a 5 min time out

  • @ricardohepburn9707
    @ricardohepburn9707 Місяць тому

    I’m glad that I was yelled at as a child, it helps me to be the man I am today. No wonder why some of these men are so soft in today’s world because they were grown soft by people who afraid to yelled when they doing wrong

  • @traceyj2765
    @traceyj2765 Рік тому +2

    This show NEVER FINALIZES AN ANSWER.
    Thanks again for being NOT HELPFUL

  • @iamstarphile
    @iamstarphile 6 місяців тому

    my mother yells on my 6 months old baby when she is unable to sleep she scolds her in very loud voice which I don't like is it safe for my baby brain and her development

  • @mommyAA224
    @mommyAA224 3 місяці тому

    I can yell at my kids when I'm super frustrated and still have to repeat the same thing I yelled at them about. But my husband can speak with a firm tone once and that's all it takes. I believe yelling isn't effective when teaching kids. Being stern and firm works best in my opinion

  • @adriannefluet5980
    @adriannefluet5980 3 місяці тому

    Oh but God forbid someone else yells at there kid!

  • @mattmonteith2175
    @mattmonteith2175 Рік тому

    My dad would say if I don't stop crying I give you something to cry about

  • @johnsonsharon81
    @johnsonsharon81 6 місяців тому

    Yelling destroys mental health and emotional balance. Why are some parents so slow

  • @josephgrahm4713
    @josephgrahm4713 2 роки тому

    Wow who would've known certainly not my mother fantastic video!

  • @marialunsford8308
    @marialunsford8308 Місяць тому

    Put the door down, put the toy down put the toy down PUT THAT TOY DOWN. It’s like teaching your dog, the commands improperly they’re not supposed to listen to you say it so many times only once and wait until they do the right thing or get them to do the right thing over them. You only training them to listen to you over and over and over and over again until you threaten

  • @animeslayer6817
    @animeslayer6817 3 роки тому +2

    So when my kid breaks a vase I ain't gonna yell? Make it make sense

    • @char9458
      @char9458 3 роки тому +5

      you do realize there are other ways to discipline children right 😐

    • @CandyBoot
      @CandyBoot 3 роки тому +2

      Your kid likely broke the vase by accident. Getting all angry makes you a terrible role model for your child. You also indirectly tell them that human error is not okay, & that if they accidentally break something, there’s something seriously wrong with them.

  • @CalQwax
    @CalQwax 4 місяці тому

    Yelling is like going straight to the F word every time.
    Use the levels so kids know where you are really at.
    What the:
    __ 1) Heck are you doing?
    __ 2) Hell are you doing?
    __ 3) F are you doing?

  • @zacharykim5596
    @zacharykim5596 3 роки тому +3

    Just have robots talk to kids instead

  • @kingPigify
    @kingPigify 5 років тому +12

    Lol my mom😂

    • @uncliamedcoin4165
      @uncliamedcoin4165 4 роки тому

      Ha ha same its like every minute she yells like a banshee

    • @nothinghere_00
      @nothinghere_00 3 роки тому

      This isn't really funny...this harms children.

  • @BridgetteStadler-gg2bo
    @BridgetteStadler-gg2bo 9 місяців тому

    It's mental abuse plus if you tell at your kids that's all they will know what to do when your angry that yelling is okay
    . As why now that Iam adult I was never taught not to yell . And as why I yell still..

  • @itxsouldeout
    @itxsouldeout Рік тому +5

    If you got yelled at its because you failed to listen with multiple warnings being given to you. I give my nephews multiple warnings before yelling. Sometimes he listens to those warnings, other times he will ignore them and continue doing XYZ, when yelled at he cries but he will eventually go back to playing and running around whilst avoiding the decisions that got him in trouble and made him feel that way. There's not a lot of talking involved because he may have Adhd and cant focus on listening to every word you say, will try to run off and play disregarding your calm nature of explaining. All kids are different.

    • @mihailkirev7244
      @mihailkirev7244 Рік тому +1

      My dad doesn't give me warnings he just yells for my accidental mistake and mistakes as a kid then he grounds me today he said: your a kiddo you stay in your room and do all day nothing "why dont you tell me what you want to do as an adult" i dont want to because im scared of him this is summer break remember and im 12

    • @itxsouldeout
      @itxsouldeout Рік тому

      @@mihailkirev7244 does he drink alcohol? that just means ur dad doesn't have patience and that's unfortunate because you have to have enough patience to be able to guide your kids... I think he is worried about your future tho, as most parents should.

    • @mihailkirev7244
      @mihailkirev7244 Рік тому

      @@itxsouldeout yes

  • @gusibrahim6961
    @gusibrahim6961 2 роки тому

    Hitting a child is late harmful!!! Shouting is the worst!!!!

  • @-Korizimi-
    @-Korizimi- 2 роки тому

    “I can apologize to my kid for yelling” excuse me? You can’t say sorry after you yelled at the child you can’t do anything after you yelled at them like you can’t ever make a person eat a stem of a pumpkin and after you do that most of the time it takes a long time to get rid of the trauma it takes time not just one sorry then go back to yelling you just can’t and even if you spank them they might bring on that behavior onto school and other things they do and this will cause a lot of troubles for the kid

  • @nuclearnugget2294
    @nuclearnugget2294 2 роки тому

    No wonder I'm so fxxked up in the head.

  • @jackwillis680
    @jackwillis680 3 роки тому +9

    Spanking and yelling is necessary. If my parents never spanked or yelled at me I would have no discipline or respect for adults. There has to be some form of punishment, I was such a little shit that timeout never really worked for me

    • @jfbrko290
      @jfbrko290 3 роки тому +4

      This assertion you make has been proven false in behavioral studies. Spanking and yelling actually makes things worse.

    • @jackwillis680
      @jackwillis680 3 роки тому +1

      @@jfbrko290 there’s obviously a balance to it. If you yell and spank unprovoked or in a situation where it isnt warranted then it will obviously make things worse. But in my experience being a kid, my parents could not sit me down and talk to me. I just wouldn’t understand or care to right my wrongs, when I received spankings I associated my bad actions with pain and I didn’t do it again.

    • @jfbrko290
      @jfbrko290 3 роки тому +3

      @@jackwillis680 no, there really isn't. What those things do is teach children that those are acceptable ways to solve problems. When said children become adults they can exhibit symptoms like chronic anxiety, depression, aggression, they can become abusive as adults, emotionally dissociated, etc. Pick your poison, the only reliable/predictable effect of spanking/yelling is that something bad DOES happen in the process and leaves its mark on children.
      If you child does something wrong, then talk to them. If they keep doing the wrong thing, violence still isn't the answer. Either way, people need to quit hitting kids. If it isn't acceptable for two adults to hit each other, then why the fuck is it acceptable for a kid to get hit by an adult, right? (Maybe, just maybe, it's because all adults were once kids who were taught that violence is an acceptable way to teach lessons to others.)

    • @jfbrko290
      @jfbrko290 3 роки тому +5

      @@jackwillis680 our personal note, if you didn't understand your rights and wrongs and how the hell was hitting going to help anything? Sorry to burst your bubble but children understand violence and abuse even less than reasoning at any level. Hitting and yelling doesn't solve anything. I'm sorry that you seen to have an emotional disconnect from yourself in regards to this part of your childhood to the point where you actually think nothing's wrong. It is a common response for abuse victims. One of many possible common responses. It's taken me decades to even become aware, let alone admit to myself, that I was abused and that it wasn't right no matter how much wrong I did as a child. If we can't teach children with reasoning and leading by example, then yelling and hitting makes no meaningful difference.

    • @SocksThePup
      @SocksThePup 2 роки тому +1

      You do realize that there are other ways of disciplining children right? 😐

  • @cosmicreef5858
    @cosmicreef5858 Рік тому +1

    Why do we need to "do research" on the MOST OBVIOUS AND COMMON SENSE RELATED things?
    If you got yelled at/threatened with your safety basically and ESPECIALLY from someone you should trust how the duck that is not OBVIOUSLY harmful?
    people use your brains please!

  • @GardensoftheAncientsHerbal
    @GardensoftheAncientsHerbal 2 роки тому +2

    When it's demeaning then no.... Otherwise use in extreme moments. Sometimes kids just need a Sargeant, rarely but some kids need a firm no crap person. Gotta be able to Guage it.

  • @joyceadegboyega8524
    @joyceadegboyega8524 11 місяців тому +1

    Joyce Adegboyega it is a hard problem. ❤ ❤ ❤

  • @cutekittymeow2569
    @cutekittymeow2569 2 роки тому +1

    I am 7 my mom doesn’t scream at me!

  • @themanager10yearsago29
    @themanager10yearsago29 3 роки тому

    yell at spoiled kids not kids who ar just idiots cause that will affect their perspective

  • @CarlosLopez2320.
    @CarlosLopez2320. 4 місяці тому

    Ok before all you give me hate just think about this . We have more snowflakes this generation then ever

  • @antionejones1374
    @antionejones1374 Місяць тому

    Its consequences to your actions

  • @phish_1
    @phish_1 Рік тому

    If a normal employee lost control of themselves it is because they are normal employees! They need to be trained on how to be professional! Someone who is in a management position must not yell! 😂😂😂
    But if someone in a management position will yell at work in front of customers it is very questionable! It is very unprofessional and look like you are a nagging wife! You are not at home where you feel so comfortable yelling at your employees!!!
    Yelling is a sign of rudeness! It is not power! It shows how you can’t control on yourself that you have to yell 😂😂😂
    Don’t yell at work like you are at your home! Don’t bring your attitude at work! Workplace is a professional environment where you have to respect😂😂😂

  • @gusieppikaratekid418
    @gusieppikaratekid418 3 роки тому

    Put on Elmo and Barney and they are calm toddlers

  • @szia7104
    @szia7104 9 місяців тому

    This wasn't helpful, lots of assumptions, lots of past hurts and even the "experts" miss the mark. Shame truth is not here.

  • @kidzunechan7113
    @kidzunechan7113 3 роки тому +3

    Only in west 😅 you're lucky if yelling is the only thing they did 😂
    Best way my parents use to do, they just put belt, bamboo, pvc pipe, rubber pipe and lot more so I can choose which "weapon" I want them to use to hit me with 😂 it's like choosing your own way to die, but in a good way 😂

    • @donmcdonalds9093
      @donmcdonalds9093 3 роки тому

      Raising your children to have healthy coping mechanisms and not in a toxic household does not make them weak. Likewise, raising them with a metal fist doesn’t make them strong. You were raised in a toxic culture.

  • @jpierce8148
    @jpierce8148 Рік тому

    That is some bs. Yelling is not the equivalence to spanking. We can't use spanking nowadays, so the only thing we have as adults is yelling. Otherwise, the little demons will do whatever they want and become extremely entitled. Such a stupid argument.

    • @annayosie
      @annayosie Рік тому +1

      Or maybe parents are just to stupid and impatient to actually tell their kids right from wrong and result to yelling and whoopings will eventually won’t work,then when they hit back or try to kill their parent everyone looks stupid💀

    • @atriumph-ic5jz
      @atriumph-ic5jz Рік тому

      It depends on the child and the parent on how they discipline them, but yelling is damaging. Every time I get yelled at I feel like banging my head against an object until I bleed out and every time I even think of getting yelled at my skin randomly crawls, Yelling is also is the reason why I hate my freaking name

  • @kilurz8629
    @kilurz8629 5 років тому +4

    1

  • @anthonywright6237
    @anthonywright6237 Рік тому +1

    I see things genuinely quiet simple. If I didn't do anything wrong then I wouldn't be punished. My old man never raised a hand without cause. Infact ill go as far as saying i appreciate the way he went about my upbringing. I honestly believe i deserved the action he took.. at 39 . For years I hated i was chucked in life's deepened. It's only with time I understand his motivates. He is KNOW WAY ON GOD'S GREEN EARTH A BAD MAN or individual. If i was allowed to carry on being the selfish petulant little bastard i was. I wouldn't be where I am today.

  • @joyceadegboyega8524
    @joyceadegboyega8524 11 місяців тому +1

    But what if kid is yelling at someone and they don't think but they think they just want to raise there hands and hit and slap the person .

  • @MarylnBowan-vg7te
    @MarylnBowan-vg7te Рік тому +1

    (FACTS OVA FEELINGS). Children. Ollwaves Set Us Unintentionally to Make Us Feel the Exact Same Wave that Wee Have Been Making Them Feel That They r a Mirror Focus On Watt Eu Can Do Differently to Change the Wave Tha Eu Now KNOE Tha Eu r Making Them Feel Instead Of Asking The Reflection In the Mirror to Change

  • @kerenhumphreys43
    @kerenhumphreys43 Рік тому

    I've never heard such nonsense. Too many snowflakes in the 21st century. Now they are saying that yelling at your kid is as bad as sexual abuse. I did not like being shouted at as a kid but as an adult I rarely think about it. My Friend on the other hand was sexually and physically abused and even to this day he is in a total mess. He's on the streets, on drugs. Cant form normal relationships, has terrible flashbacks. Shouting at your kid is not at all good, but to say its as bad as physical and sexual abuse is abhorrent.

  • @jackrobb8765
    @jackrobb8765 Рік тому +1

    Kids need discipline mate. You need to raise your voice.. but you need to be calm after and explain why ect ect.. never hit your kid.. but always discipline.. this generation is soft.. our parents and grandparents had alot more then yelling and they were much better then the generation these days.. pfft

  • @spydertactical
    @spydertactical 3 роки тому +1

    This country is soft now, yelling is part of parenting.. I got screamed at on a daily basis and I'm fine. I don't need to hide in a safe space. Parent your kids how you want to.

    • @juniperburton7693
      @juniperburton7693 Рік тому

      You aren't fine.

    • @spydertactical
      @spydertactical Рік тому

      @@juniperburton7693 I disagree highly..

    • @controlman7490
      @controlman7490 Місяць тому

      ​@@spydertacticalThey're not wrong. You're clearly damaged if you think yelling at children on a daily basis is healthy. And you shouldn't parent your kids how you want if it's harming them.

  • @latifahscurlock5437
    @latifahscurlock5437 Рік тому

    White people and Black people have different perspectives because where was all this “no yelling” during slavery? Further more I’m with the Black doctor, do more research scientifically then just going by opinion.

  • @marclabrie6027
    @marclabrie6027 2 роки тому

    No not hurtful