The dudes in question move on fast because they are emotionally unavailable and were never all in to begin with. Like Derrick said they were already checked out before the relationship ended. We gotta stop going all in with dudes who ain't going all in (emotionally) with us.
Holding on to hope and belief, that's never gonna happen especially if he's not in it for the same reasons you are.... Stop holding on to something that was already broken before it even started....
There are too many who are unable to properly identify broken. Too many who are clueless on how to fix it and ashamed to admit or how / who to ask for help...Jehovah is always just a prayer / thought away - plain and simple. Be careful what you ask for because you'll get it.
My ex would say “all these girls that dodged me before come up to me now and give me attention” during our relationship while I cringed inside. Fast forward I threw his ass away. My thank you note must have gotten lost in the mail. 🤔😷😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Question, who Taught men to internalize their pain? Second, when does or how does a man know he is self destructive? Third, do men expect good results or think they are getting good results operating in this behavior?
Constance Reynolds I think it’s natural for a man to take his pain out on others (unconsciously). We have to be taught to “feel” what we are going through. Most men are ridiculed if they express their hurt, as if our feelings aren’t validated.
Constance Reynolds no. I’m not saying that. But hurt people hurt people. Sometimes whoever hurt us is the very thing we become (consciously or unconsciously).
Elizabeth Noir yes. That’s why men need mentors & someone who’s going to keep it real with them. I wouldn’t be who I am today without men who mentored me growing up
Momma always told me " you could have nothing and people will ALWAYS want what you got" when I was younger I took that as material things and as I have gotten older I see the statement as having no material things but people wanting your strength, compassion, tenacity and insight, etc. That was hard earned, more than a purse or a car! Be safe, Be well. Love to Derrick.
@@detrelllevert2457 Non factor ......Dusty. How bald head is your Mama???? Put a dog for your profile picture, you ugly. And sure, you the broke type. I will have someone explain to you, what you spend on your kids, pray you ain't got none, people spend on their dogs. Bye broke bastard.
@bigjayking24 picture a man waking up with superpowers picture a man having the ability to read minds and picture him reading Minds for years then ask yourself is there anything new Under the Sea do they have the same Minds so what will be the reaction to a man who's been reading Minds do you think he would have to use his gift nope cuz once you master it you don't need to use it but hey I'm the bad guy you have a good night big Jay King
This is good Derrick! Just to add my 2 cents, we as women fear the loss of the situation. Meaning not only fearing losing the guy, but also the attention, affection, friendship whether good or bad. We have to snatch the bandaid off, put on our big girl panties and let go.
@@tarus0430 Hi. Trust me, I can relate. I experienced this as well. I was able to overcome this experience. I would love for us to talk. I am here to support you.
@@thelaw2348 you're absolutely correct. Men are not exempt from being manipulated as well. I would love to talk and support you in overcoming this experience.
Someone told ME if YOU are going from one relationship to another and YOU'RE doing the SAME THING expecting better results that's considered to be INSANE. Therefore YOU WILL have to do something DIFFERENT to get the results YOU WANT when it comes to relationships.
Very insightful. I thought the main reason was that men don’t know how to process emotions the way women do. They realize what they lost when it’s too late.
I'm a woman who seems to always let go first. I know my worth and not settling for no men nonsense. I've took so many lost in my life the easy thing for me to do is wash my hands with unworthy men today. Can't trust most men & not into wasting my time. My love, heart, & body isn't to be played with period. So guess I'm label as an heart 💔 breaker.
So true sis....me personally...not having a sexual attachment.... makes it easier to cut them off......any woman that "knows her worth" knows that sex is for a committed situation with a man that's proven himself.... only
I’m just curious about something the phrase “I know my worth” how is that calculated is it financially emotionally, spiritually. Is that the worth to your partner or what you believe your worth. Is there any responsibility to compensate for your partners worth IE Are you just saying I’m worth this so give it to me or, I have some sort of proof what I actually provide is worth what I want in return.
For me its....spritually, mentally, and emotionally balanced and healthy in my body....as well as having financial freedom.... recognizing what's healthy, and what's toxic... knowing who you are...self acceptance and self love....worth is never measure by something outside of yourself...lol...or money....I'd rather bless others who are less fortunate with mine❤️
How you gonna talk about zodiac signs and God in the same sentence? Your “sign” has nothing to do with your heart and personality. We hold on because we’re women and we’re emotional beings and usually want to give the benefit of the doubt. It has nothing to do with how the stars align and whatever sign you were born under. I’m glad you found your soulmate, I hope things go great for you. 💜
I recently let a guy go because he kept bringing up his ex and I knew his heart wasn’t in his chest. After I called him out he told me he don’t know where his heart is AFTER he tells me he loves me ⁉️ Big red flag 🚩‼️ so I told him go find it without me because he knew he didn’t have him heart/All to give! No more Captain Save a Bum‼️💯👌🏾
Why Derrick speaks some real shit! Damn 12yrs I wasted bc I believe in loyalty and respect and where does that get me? Nothing but heartbreak! Derrick speaks some real shit for realz!
hazeleyezluv wow 9yrs...that’s a long term relationship..oh honey I can’t tell you how you should handle your relationship with your partner bc at the end of the day you know what’s best for you. If everything is going well and strong then be happy hun. If you both going in the same direction in life and building life together with you then you’re all good. As for me, 12yrs he just didn’t love me anymore. He wanted out and he wanted to be a teenager again meaning he wanted to be a fuckboi and wanted to be with other women! Honestly he just wanted to fuck around and that broke me to the core! I’m just in the process of healing it’s going to take time for me bc is women we take longer to heal! I’m wishing you the best and happiness in your relationship! :)
hazeleyezluv remember you know what is best for you and your love life and your relationship. Do you want to get married with your partner? If so it doesn’t hurt to ask your partner as well....and remember never never beg anything...you are worth it !!!and you deserved so much! Know your worth! You got this! :)
@@Itsacamlife Yea we have been married for 5 yrs together for almost 9 yrs. I'm scared to make a move right now bcuz of a lot of reasons. I plan on taking me into account more often than my fears.
It's very sad that men don't know what they want in a partner or relationship or life by time they're 30. What a waste of life. Why don't they do the work on themselves for themselves?
Enough said, Derrick. You're right on point. I just rid of one. A grown immature boy trapped inside of a man's body and don't know what to do with himself. 😌
I met a psychopath and because he looked good on paper i didnt even think it was possible for him to be my worst nightmare. He defined a good relationship based on how much a woman can do for him and withstand from him. By the time i figured that out i was so blinded by what i imAgined him to be. Worst experience of my life! But it lead me to this place of real strength. I would rather be healthy and at peace alone than crazy with a good looking man with a good resume who is narcissistic. MARK ME ABSENT 😳
Thanks Derrick #3 is all me. But the thing is EVENTUALLY that man will REALIZE that he dropped the REAL WOMAN for the fake copycat NARCISSITIC woman. In other words he dropped the diamond for the cubic zirconia and JUST figured it out 😂🤣😂🤣😂 When he FINALLY WAKES UP the real woman will have found a BETTER MAN. He will be STUCK with the plastic rock🤣😂🤣😂 God is good Derrik. He saved me from the pilot. Because the pilot is probably unemployed and if he is NOT he will be when the government bailout expires in September. I mean the list goes on. I'm not even going to go through Everyman. But you know this Rona showed who REALLY GOT IT and WHO'S FAKING🤣😂🤣😂 God is GOOD. I will worship him daily. Amen🙏🏾
Wow, you just nailed my ex from a few yrs ago. Makes perfect sense. Unfortunately for him though, I finally gave up on him. It definitely was a struggle getting over him. But thanks to your videos, I saw and worked through it then actually gave other guys a chance. I'm happily married to a man that will straighten up my crown if it ever tips.. Keep up the great work! I recommend your videos to my friends and family that are having these types of relationship issues..
Yessss....I always go through this in my relationships situations...They want him now..But when i let him go.. now he see it was only "Envy& Jealously " who hurting..NOT ME🙏🙏🙏❤❤❤😇😇😇💯💯💯
Thank you, beautiful.💕 As always, you’re spot on.👌🏽💕 ....💭 Emotional Vampire using a woman as a ‘catalyst’, for who or what he truly wants. A Narcissist.💕👍🏽 Love Australia 🖤💛❤️
😞😞I wish I had a memories lost or something to get over my breakup honestly cause my heart is just tired of giving chances and keep getting hurt over and over by just one guy that I been with over years 😞😞
@@xgs9051 I'm busy right now I have two boys facts I have two boys to cater to can you please leave me alone Satan see I don't have a girl like Derrick jaxn because he didn't deserve a boy he has a girl he reaps what he sows see I have two boys and he got the same birthday as my sister see I deserve boys That's why nothing a woman can say can cut me but it cut y'all I feel sorry for you Harvest coming soon have you noticed by now
The answer is super simple to this question lol... it has nothing to do with what a "man" does or typically does. If you find yourself in a position more than a few times were you're the one still holding on. It's not him your holding on to, its that there may be something missing within yourself that you're looking to fulfill through another person. Often times we look for people to connect to, than working on ourselves to be the person to connect with. 2 people in a relationship complement each other. No man or woman can fullfill or make you a whole person. When you realize this, what isn't for you, you'll accept it and be capable of moving on from any situation easier
It's not that I won't be able to let go, it's about me having the last word!!!!! I'm selfish when it comes for the ability to have the last word is very important to me!!!!! Then I get to walk away very satisfied yes indeed y. It's all about respect you a player, I'm the coach and I know all the games and I'm good at it
Exactly envy! This woman tried my man. I had to cut her off calling herself a friend! She wanted to be just like me. Going behind my back but he told me
Yeap he let me go I was the last too go and got hurt and used he moved on so I guess I'll move on no rush God will send him to me !!! Amen, Amen, Amen, I'm 52 and just praying that thing's get better for our people stay safe Derrick and thanks again!!!😚😚🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🍸🍸
@@kendraprioleau2942 hey girlfriend I know how you feel these men are not going to change sorry they will cheat and lie hide secrets from on their cellphone know that they are talking to other women all these men want is sex that's all I was lovers with some one and I trusted him he was so good to me I knew that he had ladies as friends that what he say !!!!!! But he kept on texting me over,and over, every night and next thing I know I saw a red car over his house I asked him about it he said that was his niece bullshit don't know body stay at your home all night and mornings she was over there!!!!!! Girlfriend I'm so tried it hurt's a lot that I drink and cry myself to sleep and pray thing's get better for me I will pray for you to God see what happens they will pay for their guilt and lies karma is a bitch he will get what's coming too him watch !!!!!!! Amen, Amen, Amen, thank you jesus God is good all the time!!!!!🤗🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🍸🍸🍸
@@tinawells3661 u have me in 😪. I am so sorry boo. I feel like we have the same similarities. These men are something else I swear like my heart can't take no more. Sleepless nights, tears throughout the day, just beating myself daily bcuz i feel like a failure another relationship that didn't work. But i ask God to get me through this one and for comfort. This one just hit me hard unfortunately i hsvr not cry so hard and feel so heartbroken since my dad pass away but this too shall pass and like u say unjust don't prosper and they shall reap what u sow. Once again I will keep u uplifted in pray one queen to another😔 🙌😍 We gotta be strong and know that God is with during this process..........peace and love!!!
@@kendraprioleau2942 yes girl let God take care of him you're beautiful inside and out and you can find someone else better then him once you get out again when this virus goes away start going out you'll find someone else better God will bless you!!!!! I know I think about him too I know he thinks about me but he doesn't know what to say to me because he's so guilty and know that he is sleeping with other woman he picks her up every night so I can't see her but I can hear car at night all hes do is fucks her then take her back home he not looking for a relationship or marriage just sex and any woman that let's him in he do her see he doesn't think about aids or STDs or other diseases behind other women he doesn't care just as long as he get his dick off!!!!! I fell for this man I trusted him he used me and hurt me bad hes on Facebook with alot of women his name is Kenneth that's all I can say I stay 4 houses down from him I can see every woman that comes over he gets mad at me and say tina I'm not your man and your not my woman ok I understand that but I can't stand a liar for him to say he's a grow man he can lie hard that's what hurt's me other than that now I get mad because he will get his soon watch and see what comes around goes around and he time will come he'll either have a baby on the way or get aids watch he don't use condoms!!!!!!!
@@kendraprioleau2942 just keep praying on it girl!!!! The guy I was seeing hes on Facebook alot with a lot of women he will get his and your friend he loves you too but he doesn't know what to say to you or how to come back to you because he's cheating on you I know it hurt's I cry and pray and drink myself to sleep every night!!!! One time I text him and ask him does he miss me he said yes but it's going too be too late because if he can move on so can I!!!!!!! I'm going out more with my cousin's have ladies night out go to casino's have drinks and laughing you'll meet men you're beautiful!!!!!😚🤗🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🍸🍸🍸🍸🍺🍺🍺🍷🍷🍷
Not all women are bad. I used to have the same mentality especially growing up with boys and struggling to have girl friends. But as i mature i realize both men and women have something positive to contribute.
That's so right, this has happened to me so many time most my life, it's sad, cant trust woman or men I just stay to myself and never let woman know my moves
My goodness. You just told me with # 2 EXACTLY WHAT I HAVE BEEN PRAYING TO HEAR!! I can’t , almost can’t believe this. I have got to thank you. This is exactly what’s been happening from the very beginning. Thank you!!!
Yeah I hear you. She’s keeping it real while the he has been deceitful convincing her he is into her (fronting) while in denial about his past woundedness
Man i love you❤️ you always helping a girl out in understanding why some things be happening. You a real one. I’ve been in a relationship where it was all cool at first then he started gaining attention from females that always disliked me, this was new to him and it got to his head 🤦🏻♀️ but I do remember praying to God about helping us out in our relationship and to always help us get through any arguments so we can last together and have a strong and healthy relationship. But it always seemed like every time I would pray about it , something bad always had to happen, like if God was letting me know that he wasn’t the one at all. So Ladies listen to your intuition, save yourself time from being with the wrong one.❤️
Sweetest 5 mins! However, wouldn't recommend "full speed ahead" for anything, unless u already "been there done that" and totally up on about high EQ...learn how to identify strength and stay away from the weak. Love this man! Blessings.
And no matter what he went through nothing changed my feelings for him I accepted him just as he was I knew what I was signing up for the longer I stayed I gave my all. But all that is our the window now.
What is it you expect to get from a healthy relationship? Thats the question.... Happiness, respect, positivity, growth, healthy challenges its a small amount of words that are so strong they go very far, especially RESPECT✊
My boyfriend doesnt won't me to watch anymore of Derrick Jaxn videos. I started questioning the way he treats me. He told my mom he loves me enough to let me leave are house. But doesn't love me enough that he will leave.
Can’t raise a boy to be a man; He has to come fully equipped prior to the relationship; if not... he should be working on himself & doesn’t deserve to be in a relationship! Period!!!🤨😉
Derrick I just want to say that i think you are such a wonderful beautiful soul for doing what you do in shedding light on these kinds of things for women. Thank you for your time, effort, and emotional/psychological intelligence. The world needs more understanding of this so that they can heal ❤
When you leave one relationship after another and you continue to have the same results . You need to stop and ask yourself why you continue to attack the same spirit of men? You need to take the time to clear your mind, set your standards to what you know you can put into a healthy relationship. Stop dating for a while a work on you, start hanging out in areas of your hobbies and goals. Start going to places outside your comfort zone. Think about the things you want and need in a relationship and don't settle. Don't get your heart into an unhealthy relationship. Sometimes you have to say no, this isn't what I want. Study him, ask him what is his short and long term plans. If they don't align with what you want and where you see yourself. Walk away and don't give up your power.
Exactly. Well said. (Regarding the guy part. I don't understand woman to woman psychology yet) But the biggest that I find is some women are more willing to play the part but not attempt to know who the guy is. What's in that man heart. That last question is the perfect question. Let him think and vent or rant. And listen and ask non judgemental questions and converse. Don't dictate the conversation and if you do just make sure you he is connected to the topic when having the conversation. A man being heard is just rare. Also find the right man to hear out. Anyway, I'll move on. Nice points in the video.
Mine to i think by me being a Christian - I built got the opposite of me to a better person- which it wasn't easy at all in the end - got them believing in God - which they tried to destroy me - but my spiritual growth cause me to help them see God is real - but it wasn't easy.
D!!! How do you know all this shit? How did I get so wise. You killin it. Did u grow up with sisters? Lol... thank you for this. We need more men like you.. so many more
Hey bro I just wanted to stop by and tell you I don't like all of your commentary but I also understand that we as men have a role to play and we better start stepping up
I think it depends on how long it took to identify with emotions because i found in myself personally, that if you never did, you never really held anything to let go of.
Friend of mine said once a man begins a relationship, other women see him as being "proven" for couple status, so naturally look more attractive, evolutionary she says 😆 I got a good man, even if he drive me crazy some days 🤗
Hey Derrick. I'm a woman and not all women are jealous of other women. I don't think it's right to assume that this is how women think. But I still appreciate your videos. Many of them are very helpful
The dudes in question move on fast because they are emotionally unavailable and were never all in to begin with. Like Derrick said they were already checked out before the relationship ended. We gotta stop going all in with dudes who ain't going all in (emotionally) with us.
Yassss💪💯💯💯
I always question my worth when we separated the 1st time and he had someone else 3 days later
Agreed
BAM 💥
I swear I would love it if you had a podcast! You are so intelligent and easy to listen to. Always killing it with advice! Thank you!
OMG! That would be so dope his line would be ringing off the charts ☎️📈
Alison King yea. I mention that in another video comment. We need a post cast
Omg brilliant idea! I would def listen! I love podcasts
I'd listen
@@booklover2.0G stop commenting
Always the last one to let go because she invested more in the relationship then he did.
Thank you!
So Tru
@Double R truth coming from a man! Thank you!
That'll never happen again!!
The one who cares least holds the power in the relationship unfortunately! The more you care the harder it is to let GO (JS)
Holding on to hope and belief, that's never gonna happen especially if he's not in it for the same reasons you are.... Stop holding on to something that was already broken before it even started....
There are too many who are unable to properly identify broken. Too many who are clueless on how to fix it and ashamed to admit or how / who to ask for help...Jehovah is always just a prayer / thought away - plain and simple. Be careful what you ask for because you'll get it.
That’s it
Yep
Just silently moved away from a man who ain’t ready to love or to trust
Me too
I'm doing the same thing right now....silently walking away, no drama....coz he thought he had me exactly how he wanted it.....think again lol
That's what I do disappear on that Ass 💪🏾💨
I just did what men do...I slowly stopped calling....texting and returning phone calls.
@@felishapittman2778 YES! I learn that, too. I use their tricks on them. Then I do something that's not like me to confuse them even more lol.
My ex would say “all these girls that dodged me before come up to me now and give me attention” during our relationship while I cringed inside. Fast forward I threw his ass away. My thank you note must have gotten lost in the mail. 🤔😷😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Women internalize their pain. Men take their pain out on others
Question, who Taught men to internalize their pain? Second, when does or how does a man know he is self destructive? Third, do men expect good results or think they are getting good results operating in this behavior?
Constance Reynolds I think it’s natural for a man to take his pain out on others (unconsciously). We have to be taught to “feel” what we are going through. Most men are ridiculed if they express their hurt, as if our feelings aren’t validated.
@@ScaryToRemarry ARE you stating that it's ok to HURT someone because YOU are hurting. HOW does that behavior produce a HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP?
Constance Reynolds no. I’m not saying that. But hurt people hurt people. Sometimes whoever hurt us is the very thing we become (consciously or unconsciously).
Elizabeth Noir yes. That’s why men need mentors & someone who’s going to keep it real with them. I wouldn’t be who I am today without men who mentored me growing up
Momma always told me " you could have nothing and people will ALWAYS want what you got" when I was younger I took that as material things and as I have gotten older I see the statement as having no material things but people wanting your strength, compassion, tenacity and insight, etc. That was hard earned, more than a purse or a car! Be safe, Be well. Love to Derrick.
When he said "she still trying to get her appetite back he out here just living his best life" I felt that lol
Same
I am out. Men ain't worth all the drama. I bow out gracefully.
Get the f*** out of here trick stay out there Jackson Channel if you done with men move around clown
@@detrelllevert2457 Non factor ......Dusty. How bald head is your Mama???? Put a dog for your profile picture, you ugly. And sure, you the broke type. I will have someone explain to you, what you spend on your kids, pray you ain't got none, people spend on their dogs. Bye broke bastard.
@bigjayking24 picture a man waking up with superpowers picture a man having the ability to read minds and picture him reading Minds for years then ask yourself is there anything new Under the Sea do they have the same Minds so what will be the reaction to a man who's been reading Minds do you think he would have to use his gift nope cuz once you master it you don't need to use it but hey I'm the bad guy you have a good night big Jay King
This is good Derrick! Just to add my 2 cents, we as women fear the loss of the situation. Meaning not only fearing losing the guy, but also the attention, affection, friendship whether good or bad. We have to snatch the bandaid off, put on our big girl panties and let go.
Damn sis, this hit me hard with my current situation.
Men want that too that’s how thots win
Michelle Cotton truth it can be all of those things
@@tarus0430 Hi. Trust me, I can relate. I experienced this as well. I was able to overcome this experience. I would love for us to talk. I am here to support you.
@@thelaw2348 you're absolutely correct. Men are not exempt from being manipulated as well. I would love to talk and support you in overcoming this experience.
Someone told ME if YOU are going from one relationship to another and YOU'RE doing the SAME THING expecting better results that's considered to be INSANE. Therefore YOU WILL have to do something DIFFERENT to get the results YOU WANT when it comes to relationships.
@Elizabeth Noir I'm talking to WHOEVER RECEIVES IT!!!!
@Elizabeth Noir I also want to add THIS GOES TO WHO PRACTICES THIS BEHAVIOR!!!
Sometimes it’s just plain ol codependency 🤷🏻♀️
Valerie very much so!
Yup and this will go over a lot of people’s heads !
Facts, and people like that can be co dependent on anyone and get thier emotional fix from anyone
Yea😞
Very insightful. I thought the main reason was that men don’t know how to process emotions the way women do. They realize what they lost when it’s too late.
"What is it that you expect to get from a healthy relationship?
How do you feel that it could add value to your life?"
On point questions!
I'm a woman who seems to always let go first. I know my worth and not settling for no men nonsense. I've took so many lost in my life the easy thing for me to do is wash my hands with unworthy men today. Can't trust most men & not into wasting my time. My love, heart, & body isn't to be played with period. So guess I'm label as an heart 💔 breaker.
Me too sis...smh❤️
@Ms. Nelson that is great that you can let go quick but having sex with these males and then letting go is still damaging to females! Ijs. 😓
So true sis....me personally...not having a sexual attachment.... makes it easier to cut them off......any woman that "knows her worth" knows that sex is for a committed situation with a man that's proven himself.... only
I’m just curious about something the phrase “I know my worth” how is that calculated is it financially emotionally, spiritually. Is that the worth to your partner or what you believe your worth. Is there any responsibility to compensate for your partners worth IE Are you just saying I’m worth this so give it to me or, I have some sort of proof what I actually provide is worth what I want in return.
For me its....spritually, mentally, and emotionally balanced and healthy in my body....as well as having financial freedom.... recognizing what's healthy, and what's toxic... knowing who you are...self acceptance and self love....worth is never measure by something outside of yourself...lol...or money....I'd rather bless others who are less fortunate with mine❤️
I'm a cancer!! I'll still be holding on when that nicca been let go. 🤷🏽♀️Thank God I found my love tho.
MISS KC I’m a cancer too and honey I am the same way 😫
How you gonna talk about zodiac signs and God in the same sentence? Your “sign” has nothing to do with your heart and personality. We hold on because we’re women and we’re emotional beings and usually want to give the benefit of the doubt. It has nothing to do with how the stars align and whatever sign you were born under. I’m glad you found your soulmate, I hope things go great for you. 💜
@@KrysDlite yep. Signs is spiritism which is NOT in alignment with God
@@KrysDlite first of all it's not that deep!!! I said what I said, u could have kept your 1 cent to yourself🤷🏽♀️.... And you👇🏽....thank you!!!
Me too. That's a cancer for sure. I have the same problem.
I recently let a guy go because he kept bringing up his ex and I knew his heart wasn’t in his chest. After I called him out he told me he don’t know where his heart is AFTER he tells me he loves me ⁉️ Big red flag 🚩‼️ so I told him go find it without me because he knew he didn’t have him heart/All to give! No more Captain Save a Bum‼️💯👌🏾
Yep definitely dont wanna be a rebound sis
Why Derrick speaks some real shit! Damn 12yrs I wasted bc I believe in loyalty and respect and where does that get me? Nothing but heartbreak! Derrick speaks some real shit for realz!
What happened? 12 years? Maybe you can save me. It's been almost 9 years for me. I'm scared to invest more time.
hazeleyezluv wow 9yrs...that’s a long term relationship..oh honey I can’t tell you how you should handle your relationship with your partner bc at the end of the day you know what’s best for you. If everything is going well and strong then be happy hun. If you both going in the same direction in life and building life together with you then you’re all good. As for me, 12yrs he just didn’t love me anymore. He wanted out and he wanted to be a teenager again meaning he wanted to be a fuckboi and wanted to be with other women! Honestly he just wanted to fuck around and that broke me to the core! I’m just in the process of healing it’s going to take time for me bc is women we take longer to heal! I’m wishing you the best and happiness in your relationship! :)
@@Itsacamlife Thank you so very much. That really helps.
hazeleyezluv remember you know what is best for you and your love life and your relationship. Do you want to get married with your partner? If so it doesn’t hurt to ask your partner as well....and remember never never beg anything...you are worth it !!!and you deserved so much! Know your worth! You got this! :)
@@Itsacamlife Yea we have been married for 5 yrs together for almost 9 yrs. I'm scared to make a move right now bcuz of a lot of reasons. I plan on taking me into account more often than my fears.
It's very sad that men don't know what they want in a partner or relationship or life by time they're 30. What a waste of life. Why don't they do the work on themselves for themselves?
Some men are almost 40 & still in this mess. God help us.
That’s young 30 is a 10 year old boy three time or does he act like a15 yo times 2
He’s a teenage boy twice LOLOLLL
@@graceibelegbu189 Ain't no age limits for hurting.
The one who cares the least wins. Men almost always care the least, so they almost always win.
Shut yo almost ass up
Wtf
Enough said,
Derrick. You're right on point. I just rid of one. A grown immature
boy trapped inside of a man's body and don't know what to do with himself. 😌
Just ended 2yr relationship and I’m definitely the one the last one to let go. Crappy feeling knowing or feeling like i wasn’t worth being fought for.
You know how to get to it and explain things so damn well. No blame, no pointing fingers just being real!
I’ve never clicked on a video so fast 😅
Buahahaha I did the same thing lol
@@ashtianag86 move around clown
Right! he is just always speaking to me... I love his content.
I met a psychopath and because he looked good on paper i didnt even think it was possible for him to be my worst nightmare. He defined a good relationship based on how much a woman can do for him and withstand from him. By the time i figured that out i was so blinded by what i imAgined him to be. Worst experience of my life!
But it lead me to this place of real strength. I would rather be healthy and at peace alone than crazy with a good looking man with a good resume who is narcissistic.
MARK ME ABSENT 😳
It was definitely because he had somebody else... theses men or lil boys are for everybody...fr
We have to learn to command our hearts not the other way around. Our love should have to be earned.
Thanks Derrick
#3 is all me.
But the thing is EVENTUALLY that man will REALIZE that he dropped the REAL WOMAN for the fake copycat NARCISSITIC woman.
In other words he dropped the diamond for the cubic zirconia and JUST figured it out 😂🤣😂🤣😂
When he FINALLY WAKES UP the real woman will have found a BETTER MAN. He will be STUCK with the plastic rock🤣😂🤣😂
God is good Derrik. He saved me from the pilot. Because the pilot is probably unemployed and if he is NOT he will be when the government bailout expires in September.
I mean the list goes on. I'm not even going to go through Everyman. But you know this Rona showed who REALLY GOT IT and WHO'S FAKING🤣😂🤣😂
God is GOOD. I will worship him daily. Amen🙏🏾
I couldn't click on this video fast enough!!! Damn thats me. I'm always being dumped. Ghosted. And getting the Dear joanna letters!!
@Eternity With Christ which title are you refering to Sister? I would love to see it myself.
You are the best friend every woman needs in their life 😂 unreal, no bs... real talk love it!!
It's a complex issue. These men don't know what they want. Move on.
Its not complex at all. Women just think there the prize and thats not how it work
I am
Women don't realize that we are saving alot of these dudes!!!👏👏👏
Wow, you just nailed my ex from a few yrs ago. Makes perfect sense. Unfortunately for him though, I finally gave up on him. It definitely was a struggle getting over him. But thanks to your videos, I saw and worked through it then actually gave other guys a chance. I'm happily married to a man that will straighten up my crown if it ever tips.. Keep up the great work! I recommend your videos to my friends and family that are having these types of relationship issues..
I needed this video 3yrs ago. I swear I'm done with relationships 🤦🏾♀️😔
Duh-amnnnn Derrick! You killed this one!
Yessss....I always go through this in my relationships situations...They want him now..But when i let him go.. now he see it was only "Envy& Jealously " who hurting..NOT ME🙏🙏🙏❤❤❤😇😇😇💯💯💯
Thank you, beautiful.💕
As always, you’re spot on.👌🏽💕
....💭 Emotional Vampire using a woman as a ‘catalyst’, for who or what he truly wants.
A Narcissist.💕👍🏽
Love Australia
🖤💛❤️
😞😞I wish I had a memories lost or something to get over my breakup honestly cause my heart is just tired of giving chances and keep getting hurt over and over by just one guy that I been with over years 😞😞
Shut your blank up don't know body want to hear that clown
detrell levert lol take your miserable bitter ass on and go see a therapist, because clearly you have some undisputed issues you need to work through.
@@xgs9051 I'm busy right now I have two boys facts I have two boys to cater to can you please leave me alone Satan see I don't have a girl like Derrick jaxn because he didn't deserve a boy he has a girl he reaps what he sows see I have two boys and he got the same birthday as my sister see I deserve boys That's why nothing a woman can say can cut me but it cut y'all I feel sorry for you Harvest coming soon have you noticed by now
detrell levert you need to be feeling sorry for yourself, because you’re a very negative person.
Mini Mi your heart will heal and the right man will find you and you will be certain
The answer is super simple to this question lol... it has nothing to do with what a "man" does or typically does. If you find yourself in a position more than a few times were you're the one still holding on. It's not him your holding on to, its that there may be something missing within yourself that you're looking to fulfill through another person. Often times we look for people to connect to, than working on ourselves to be the person to connect with. 2 people in a relationship complement each other. No man or woman can fullfill or make you a whole person. When you realize this, what isn't for you, you'll accept it and be capable of moving on from any situation easier
It's not that I won't be able to let go, it's about me having the last word!!!!! I'm selfish when it comes for the ability to have the last word is very important to me!!!!! Then I get to walk away very satisfied yes indeed y. It's all about respect you a player, I'm the coach and I know all the games and I'm good at it
Exactly envy! This woman tried my man. I had to cut her off calling herself a friend! She wanted to be just like me. Going behind my back but he told me
You got real one🥇
Shaimaa Habib well he is a back stabber! I hope you got rid of him! 🙏🏾
Yeap he let me go I was the last too go and got hurt and used he moved on so I guess I'll move on no rush God will send him to me !!! Amen, Amen, Amen, I'm 52 and just praying that thing's get better for our people stay safe Derrick and thanks again!!!😚😚🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🍸🍸
I feel used as well 42 yrs old now and still going through high school BS i swear 😪
@@kendraprioleau2942 hey girlfriend I know how you feel these men are not going to change sorry they will cheat and lie hide secrets from on their cellphone know that they are talking to other women all these men want is sex that's all I was lovers with some one and I trusted him he was so good to me I knew that he had ladies as friends that what he say !!!!!! But he kept on texting me over,and over, every night and next thing I know I saw a red car over his house I asked him about it he said that was his niece bullshit don't know body stay at your home all night and mornings she was over there!!!!!! Girlfriend I'm so tried it hurt's a lot that I drink and cry myself to sleep and pray thing's get better for me I will pray for you to God see what happens they will pay for their guilt and lies karma is a bitch he will get what's coming too him watch !!!!!!! Amen, Amen, Amen, thank you jesus God is good all the time!!!!!🤗🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🍸🍸🍸
@@tinawells3661 u have me in 😪. I am so sorry boo. I feel like we have the same similarities. These men are something else I swear like my heart can't take no more. Sleepless nights, tears throughout the day, just beating myself daily bcuz i feel like a failure another relationship that didn't work. But i ask God to get me through this one and for comfort. This one just hit me hard unfortunately i hsvr not cry so hard and feel so heartbroken since my dad pass away but this too shall pass and like u say unjust don't prosper and they shall reap what u sow. Once again I will keep u uplifted in pray one queen to another😔 🙌😍
We gotta be strong and know that God is with during this process..........peace and love!!!
@@kendraprioleau2942 yes girl let God take care of him you're beautiful inside and out and you can find someone else better then him once you get out again when this virus goes away start going out you'll find someone else better God will bless you!!!!! I know I think about him too I know he thinks about me but he doesn't know what to say to me because he's so guilty and know that he is sleeping with other woman he picks her up every night so I can't see her but I can hear car at night all hes do is fucks her then take her back home he not looking for a relationship or marriage just sex and any woman that let's him in he do her see he doesn't think about aids or STDs or other diseases behind other women he doesn't care just as long as he get his dick off!!!!! I fell for this man I trusted him he used me and hurt me bad hes on Facebook with alot of women his name is Kenneth that's all I can say I stay 4 houses down from him I can see every woman that comes over he gets mad at me and say tina I'm not your man and your not my woman ok I understand that but I can't stand a liar for him to say he's a grow man he can lie hard that's what hurt's me other than that now I get mad because he will get his soon watch and see what comes around goes around and he time will come he'll either have a baby on the way or get aids watch he don't use condoms!!!!!!!
@@kendraprioleau2942 just keep praying on it girl!!!! The guy I was seeing hes on Facebook alot with a lot of women he will get his and your friend he loves you too but he doesn't know what to say to you or how to come back to you because he's cheating on you I know it hurt's I cry and pray and drink myself to sleep every night!!!! One time I text him and ask him does he miss me he said yes but it's going too be too late because if he can move on so can I!!!!!!! I'm going out more with my cousin's have ladies night out go to casino's have drinks and laughing you'll meet men you're beautiful!!!!!😚🤗🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🍸🍸🍸🍸🍺🍺🍺🍷🍷🍷
Honey you don't have to tell me about these other women. That is why it is hard for me to roll with women.
Not all women are bad. I used to have the same mentality especially growing up with boys and struggling to have girl friends. But as i mature i realize both men and women have something positive to contribute.
Ladenna Young me too
Lol me three
Love is nothing but a game you just have to be a real good hunter 😲😲😆😆😍😍
That's so right, this has happened to me so many time most my life, it's sad, cant trust woman or men I just stay to myself and never let woman know my moves
We appreciate your wisdom 🤴 ❤️
Thanks Derrick. If he doesn't know then the interaction stops there. I get it now.
My goodness. You just told me with # 2 EXACTLY WHAT I HAVE BEEN PRAYING TO HEAR!! I can’t , almost can’t believe this. I have got to thank you. This is exactly what’s been happening from the very beginning. Thank you!!!
Feels immaculate to connect with my divine counterpart
This message was right on time!!!! Thank you Derrick for sharing your wisdom.
Oh my days i love to start my morning with a bit of team Jaxn, keep speaking the truth, love it!
I DONT FEEL LIKE ITS MY JOB IN THE RELATIONSHIP TO RUN INTERFERENCE FOR HIM WHEN IM BLOCKING THE THINGS THAT COMING MY WAY .
Yeah I hear you. She’s keeping it real while the he has been deceitful convincing her he is into her (fronting) while in denial about his past woundedness
Always hitting the nail smack on the head. That answered my question perfectly. Thank you Derrick!
I just broke up with my bf like 30mins ago.
Marilyn Torres RRT good! stick to it
Marilyn Torres RRT don’t trip girl garbage day is tomorrow, he’ll be gone 🤗💯👑
It'll be hard, but stay strong!
Lol😂😂😂😂😂🤷♀️
Know you are worthy
Man i love you❤️ you always helping a girl out in understanding why some things be happening. You a real one. I’ve been in a relationship where it was all cool at first then he started gaining attention from females that always disliked me, this was new to him and it got to his head 🤦🏻♀️ but I do remember praying to God about helping us out in our relationship and to always help us get through any arguments so we can last together and have a strong and healthy relationship. But it always seemed like every time I would pray about it , something bad always had to happen, like if God was letting me know that he wasn’t the one at all. So Ladies listen to your intuition, save yourself time from being with the wrong one.❤️
On point!!! I'm sooo done! Know yourself...sometimes the haters are gonna win. I concede the loss...HIS LOSS.
Sweetest 5 mins! However, wouldn't recommend "full speed ahead" for anything, unless u already "been there done that" and totally up on about high EQ...learn how to identify strength and stay away from the weak. Love this man! Blessings.
I can definitely relate..
Yeah you can relate to be an a****** delete your comment trick
And no matter what he went through nothing changed my feelings for him I accepted him just as he was I knew what I was signing up for the longer I stayed I gave my all. But all that is our the window now.
What is it you expect to get from a healthy relationship? Thats the question.... Happiness, respect, positivity, growth, healthy challenges its a small amount of words that are so strong they go very far, especially RESPECT✊
This man said she still trying to get her appetite back😭😭😭😭😭 im rollin
This is real real serious! I respect this so much and can relate 100%
My boyfriend doesnt won't me to watch anymore of Derrick Jaxn videos. I started questioning the way he treats me. He told my mom he loves me enough to let me leave are house. But doesn't love me enough that he will leave.
thank you so much, derrick. sometimes all we need is a mind shift to win.
I'm hurt and pissed off.
I don’t know how this video dropped in my algorithm but Lord knows I needed to hear it!
Everything you just said is so true.
Can’t raise a boy to be a man; He has to come fully equipped prior to the relationship; if not... he should be working on himself & doesn’t deserve to be in a relationship! Period!!!🤨😉
Derrick I just want to say that i think you are such a wonderful beautiful soul for doing what you do in shedding light on these kinds of things for women. Thank you for your time, effort, and emotional/psychological intelligence. The world needs more understanding of this so that they can heal ❤
Every word you said is true for my experience esp about other women!
When you leave one relationship after another and you continue to have the same results . You need to stop and ask yourself why you continue to attack the same spirit of men? You need to take the time to clear your mind, set your standards to what you know you can put into a healthy relationship. Stop dating for a while a work on you, start hanging out in areas of your hobbies and goals. Start going to places outside your comfort zone. Think about the things you want and need in a relationship and don't settle. Don't get your heart into an unhealthy relationship. Sometimes you have to say no, this isn't what I want. Study him, ask him what is his short and long term plans. If they don't align with what you want and where you see yourself. Walk away and don't give up your power.
Thanks so true for me ,
Please bring Don't Forget Your Crown to Audible!
You are so right. My question is her exact question. You answered it for me too thank you.
Such a explainable language, for anyone to understand. First and only guy who does speak how it really is. Love to listen your advices/ answers! 💪
Exactly. Well said. (Regarding the guy part. I don't understand woman to woman psychology yet) But the biggest that I find is some women are more willing to play the part but not attempt to know who the guy is. What's in that man heart. That last question is the perfect question. Let him think and vent or rant. And listen and ask non judgemental questions and converse. Don't dictate the conversation and if you do just make sure you he is connected to the topic when having the conversation.
A man being heard is just rare.
Also find the right man to hear out.
Anyway, I'll move on. Nice points in the video.
Good content D...thanks for the knowledge 💯
I feel ya!❤☮ & blessings
Derrick ur just simply God Sent😇🙌. There is no other explanation as to why your always on point😂
My guys always come back and I don't understand this at all 😭 I want to be left alone
Mine to i think by me being a Christian - I built got the opposite of me to a better person- which it wasn't easy at all in the end - got them believing in God - which they tried to destroy me - but my spiritual growth cause me to help them see God is real - but it wasn't easy.
Lawd! I wish you would have post this video a year ago. 🤦🏽♀️
You might not have appreciated it.
Experience helps us learn our lessons the best way.
@@graceibelegbu189 Very True, Very True 🙌🏽
Both of y'all need to shut up think y'all grown will see how grown y'all will be soon when the government strike y'all in these next plagues
D!!! How do you know all this shit? How did I get so wise. You killin it. Did u grow up with sisters? Lol... thank you for this. We need more men like you.. so many more
Hey bro I just wanted to stop by and tell you I don't like all of your commentary but I also understand that we as men have a role to play and we better start stepping up
Well said I agree with every point you made.
My escape was reading.
Gaining knowledge about the whole world I didn’t see because i been blind by wanting to be loved so bad was my escape.
I think it depends on how long it took to identify with emotions because i found in myself personally, that if you never did, you never really held anything to let go of.
Every time you post I be like wowww I needed that 😂
She needs to start watching Sheraseven1..... Keep emotions at bay
Yes
Look for an Evolved man
What do you expect for a healthy relationship?
Identify it to keep it
Friend of mine said once a man begins a relationship, other women see him as being "proven" for couple status, so naturally look more attractive, evolutionary she says 😆 I got a good man, even if he drive me crazy some days 🤗
Damn! Clear cut. So good! 🙏 Thank you.
Wooooo chile!!!! That closing remark had me hands to God!
I needed to hear this 💆🏾♀️
Thank you, this was excellent, and it is the story of my life.
Real talk always giving good advice
Thank for sharing that you are really honest an that helps
I like da way we sing rap etc
Hey Derrick. I'm a woman and not all women are jealous of other women. I don't think it's right to assume that this is how women think. But I still appreciate your videos. Many of them are very helpful
U killed that!!! Story of my life😔