Don't cry you a great person! Those people who are your so called friends don't value a real friend like you! Know that you are not alone and god will bless you with some real friends in your life. Stay encouraged!
Jacob you are a sweet, wonderful guy. Friendships work both ways, and you can't be the one doing all the work if they're not texting/calling you back. God has your back & will introduce you to people that will reciprocate and appreciate friendship the way you do. Stay strong! Peace & blessings to you.
Don't take things personally. You seem like a genuine good person and you deserve the world and the right people will come along and love you & care about you just for the way you are. Love and concern from people dont measure your worth. I have been where you are I will just ask you to keep strong & spend time investing more into yourself till the right people come along. Wish you the best in life 💜
Dude you're great....we need more people like u in this world...if somebody doesn't appreciate your efforts, u need to save ur energy nd let them miss u
I feel you completely people like us need to be friends. Also another thing is to let go of friends too. Just know your not the only one and millions of people go through this. I love when people check up on me or say they been thinking about me. Don’t get too attached and have your own life but everyone deserves to have great friends who are there for them.
Noah, you are a nice caring person and you should always stay that way. We have no control over other people's actions, only our own and how we react to others actions. Don't feel bad if you reach out to some people and they do not respond back. Maybe you like them more than they like you. There is nothing wrong with that. Just accept that and try not to take their non response personally. I think you care about others and like to help others. That is a good thing. You don't want to allow others actions, which you have no control over, put you into feeling so many negative, destructive emotions. The way you act says a lot about you. The way they act says a lot about them.
Be encouraged, I know the feeling. Sometimes we are our worst enemy. Hope you find peace, joy and most importantly that you find yourself and KNOW THAT YOU ARE ENOUGH AND LOVED BY GOD.
I'm in the same boat feeling the same way. You're not alone. I do hope things have changed since your post. Trying to stay positive is hard when you have no one in your life on a daily basis that's positive to be around.
if your friends are too busy for you, then you should be too busy for them, start living your life, discover what you love to do, hobbies, in your spare time, and cut off these fake friends, it sounds like they're aquaintances only not true friends
Honestly, I don't buy the bullshit when somebody says they are "too busy". THEY have the choice of what to be busy with. Sure, there are times when they HAVE to do something else, but if that time goes for longer than brief periods and they always say that anytime you want to engage with them then they are making a lame excuse. Friendship doesn't just sit on a shelf collecting dust for 8 months for when it's convenient, especially when you are in the same state within driving distance. These people can choose to include you in their "busy" lives. It does smack of a kind of narcissism that a person thinks you should just sit around and wait for when they feel like bestowing their presence on you, as if they think their time is more important than yours. It's not. All of us deserve better. We deserve to have friends that want to maintain the friendship with us and value us, believe in us, and want to be a regular part of our lives. I feel your pain. I have run into a situation like that with a friend who used to reciprocate and want to spend time with me and now she doesn't and has withdrawn everything to the point where she really is no more than an acquaintance I talk to on Facebook messenger. Ever since her and her husband have been getting along better she has only done things with her family and when I asked to get together with her recently she said that her weekends are precious to her (in other words that I'm not worth her time) and along with that after my 14 year old dog died (who was more emotional support to me than she was) and I decided on another one to get she went on this long diatribe saying she didn't think I could handle it (even though she hasn't seen me in 8 months, so has no idea what I can or can't handle). She proceeded to naysay everything I'm doing to prepare and it became clear she would only help me if I pick the breed SHE wants me to have. She has barely spoken to me other than a few superficial words on messenger for 8 months, most of my messages go unanswered and then chooses to pick a fight over something that brings me happiness that is not her decision to make in the fist place. When I tried to talk to her about it she just doubled down, got more aggressive, as if I owed it to her to obey her (and I'm older than she is). I asked her if something was wrong and she said no, that things have been going well. I am going to take her word for it and now can only assume that she thinks she is above me and that she believes she is better than me and that I was just a spare tire to her to fill a void in her life when she did not have her husband's emotional support. Now she feels she doesn't need me, so she is shutting me out.
Wow, I just discovered your channel and I have to tell you are a wonderful person and people should feel lucky to know you and have you as their friend. You have such a beautiful heart and your feelings are totally understandable. I sometimes feel the same way. You should never have to defend your feelings. You are an amazing person with a big heart.
Friendships go both ways. Pretty much each should make efforts to do contacting. People do get busy but if they are that busy give them space but watch that people aren’t taking advantage of you when they do finally connect with you. That is people….get other interests and. Work on you and get interests that make you happy. You aren’t the only one that has experienced these things….just keep in mind you are a good person and work on things that benefit you. Chasing and focusing on friendships is a waste of time. I have learned the hard way. Sometimes sending time with yourself is better than wasting time on being with people that don’t value you. You are complete without friends so focus on what improves your life and if others fall into your life great if they don’t great too!!
I feel you, I try to engage with family and friends to actually have a relationship and it's all me reaching out. It's exhausting to be the only one interested in having the relationship. I however seem to be someone that is asked for help doing physical labor, or babysitting when it is convenient for them which I sometimes turn down so they get the message. It's painful as I want to have relationships with people, and what I'm supposed to just be ok with having no connection with anyone? :/
Im Glad that this video just randomly came up on Yt recommendations.Let me tell you my friend you will be fine:) dont think too much put that all negative energy in doing something you like and focus on yourself. Dont expect anything from anyone.JESUS has a Plan for You. Stay Blessed my friend.
I don't feel as strongly as you do, but I actually needed to hear a little bit of what you're saying. Thank man. You seem like a cool dude. We have some stuff in common. Hope things got better for you.
your happiness isn't dependent on anyone, especially these so called friends who don't have time for you, time to make new friends or enjoy life on your own
I hope you are doing well 3 years later. I actually sat down and watched your video 7 minutes long without doing anything else. If a person can not do that in real life when a random person on Internet can, then they don’t deserve the ** out of you.
Thank you very much for the kind comment. It's been years and I have grown a lot. But seeing comments like this are so welcoming and reassuring. Thank you
Hey Jacob, I'm so sorry that those whom you genuinely care for have not been kind enough to even let you know that they appreciate and care about you. that can be difficult, I felt your tears and the pain. You're not alone, one day you're going to meet people who will love and appreciate you because you are enough and you're special. You are a handsome young man, the behavior of these so call friends does not take away your value and your right to be appreciated. Give yourself the permission to rise above this feeling. I love you my brother. You're going to be alright. I promise
@@akeimreid4787 I can't really give out my email, but you can contact me through any of my socials linked on my channel. Thank you so much for caring though, ita a blessing
i deal with the same stuff. they are busy for two years straight. people make time for what is important to them. Go find you a video club, or library book club, or computer class for ceu units at the small college. go find you a girl friend and you will have a friend. you have to see the value in your self. some to the jew first, then to the gentile stuff. offer to be a friend, if they take it fine, if not go else where. im dealing with the same stuff.
your self worth, self confidence, self respect doesn't come from anyone but jesus christ, once you understand that, you won't give a shit about these fake friends who willfully aren't choosing to make time for you
No offense but how old are you to be caring about this? I understand being lonely can be isolating which causes depression but if you’re desperate for being liked and friends I’m just wondering how old you are because the older you get the busier adults get in the real world and a friend will probably be like their last priority.
Hi ! I think I was around 23 when this was recorded. I was very much a battle between my logical self( knowing the feelings were silly) and this emotional thing I had going on at the time. Since then I've definitely grown from this, but at the time, I let my depression and anxiety get to me like that :/
@@NoahGarcia I understand your feelings. I am 25 now and I have acquaintances but no real friends I can count on like ppl that will celebrate my birthday and personal stuff like that. I hang out when bored but there’s no attachment. The last time I had a best friend I was 18. In college I didn’t make any new friends and felt really alone and had self doubt. I don’t care anymore though. I’m more interested in going back to school and focusing my energy on attracting the right person to have a family with someday. So I don’t really care for my ex best friend who left me for someone else and forgot about me anymore lol. I don’t know if things will get better for me socially especially with the pandemic but I’m fine by myself right now and I also made new online friends which helps the loneliness.
That's sad and the wrong way to think. With that logic nobody would ever get married or have a partner and children. People are as busy as they want to be and the issue is what they're busy with. If you do not cultivate friendships they die, and if your whole life is your job then at the end of the day what do you really have? Most of us as we age realize that at some point that human relationships are the MOST important thing in life. You can earn billions of dollars but you can't take it with you when you die.
It all boils down to people make time for who they wanna make time for.
Don't cry you a great person! Those people who are your so called friends don't value a real friend like you! Know that you are not alone and god will bless you with some real friends in your life. Stay encouraged!
Thank you! I means alot
I can totally relate . I just block everyone and isolate myself
Same here
In the end it’s probably the best advice
Jacob you are a sweet, wonderful guy. Friendships work both ways, and you can't be the one doing all the work if they're not texting/calling you back. God has your back & will introduce you to people that will reciprocate and appreciate friendship the way you do. Stay strong! Peace & blessings to you.
Don't take things personally. You seem like a genuine good person and you deserve the world and the right people will come along and love you & care about you just for the way you are. Love and concern from people dont measure your worth. I have been where you are I will just ask you to keep strong & spend time investing more into yourself till the right people come along. Wish you the best in life 💜
Dude you're great....we need more people like u in this world...if somebody doesn't appreciate your efforts, u need to save ur energy nd let them miss u
Thanks jain , and hopefully we get more people like you leaving nice comments :)
I feel you completely people like us need to be friends. Also another thing is to let go of friends too. Just know your not the only one and millions of people go through this. I love when people check up on me or say they been thinking about me. Don’t get too attached and have your own life but everyone deserves to have great friends who are there for them.
Noah, you are a nice caring person and you should always stay that way. We have no control over other people's actions, only our own and how we react to others actions. Don't feel bad if you reach out to some people and they do not respond back. Maybe you like them more than they like you. There is nothing wrong with that. Just accept that and try not to take their non response personally. I think you care about others and like to help others. That is a good thing. You don't want to allow others actions, which you have no control over, put you into feeling so many negative, destructive emotions. The way you act says a lot about you. The way they act says a lot about them.
Nicely written 👍
Be encouraged, I know the feeling. Sometimes we are our worst enemy. Hope you find peace, joy and most importantly that you find yourself and KNOW THAT YOU ARE ENOUGH AND LOVED BY GOD.
Thank you
I'm in the same boat feeling the same way. You're not alone. I do hope things have changed since your post. Trying to stay positive is hard when you have no one in your life on a daily basis that's positive to be around.
We love you Jacob Knight!
This is so relatable.. it made me cry thank you for sharing your thoughts hope your doing okay ❤️
Sorry I made you cry haha . I'm ok , hope you're well
Jacob Knight- in a good way Lol hope life is going great for you now🤗
if your friends are too busy for you, then you should be too busy for them, start living your life, discover what you love to do, hobbies, in your spare time, and cut off these fake friends, it sounds like they're aquaintances only not true friends
Honestly, I don't buy the bullshit when somebody says they are "too busy". THEY have the choice of what to be busy with. Sure, there are times when they HAVE to do something else, but if that time goes for longer than brief periods and they always say that anytime you want to engage with them then they are making a lame excuse. Friendship doesn't just sit on a shelf collecting dust for 8 months for when it's convenient, especially when you are in the same state within driving distance. These people can choose to include you in their "busy" lives. It does smack of a kind of narcissism that a person thinks you should just sit around and wait for when they feel like bestowing their presence on you, as if they think their time is more important than yours. It's not. All of us deserve better. We deserve to have friends that want to maintain the friendship with us and value us, believe in us, and want to be a regular part of our lives. I feel your pain.
I have run into a situation like that with a friend who used to reciprocate and want to spend time with me and now she doesn't and has withdrawn everything to the point where she really is no more than an acquaintance I talk to on Facebook messenger. Ever since her and her husband have been getting along better she has only done things with her family and when I asked to get together with her recently she said that her weekends are precious to her (in other words that I'm not worth her time) and along with that after my 14 year old dog died (who was more emotional support to me than she was) and I decided on another one to get she went on this long diatribe saying she didn't think I could handle it (even though she hasn't seen me in 8 months, so has no idea what I can or can't handle). She proceeded to naysay everything I'm doing to prepare and it became clear she would only help me if I pick the breed SHE wants me to have. She has barely spoken to me other than a few superficial words on messenger for 8 months, most of my messages go unanswered and then chooses to pick a fight over something that brings me happiness that is not her decision to make in the fist place. When I tried to talk to her about it she just doubled down, got more aggressive, as if I owed it to her to obey her (and I'm older than she is). I asked her if something was wrong and she said no, that things have been going well. I am going to take her word for it and now can only assume that she thinks she is above me and that she believes she is better than me and that I was just a spare tire to her to fill a void in her life when she did not have her husband's emotional support. Now she feels she doesn't need me, so she is shutting me out.
I can totally relate..it's very hurtful. Move on..you deserve better. I know.. easier said than done..but she will never change.. ugh
never doubt yourself
Wow, I just discovered your channel and I have to tell you are a wonderful person and people should feel lucky to know you and have you as their friend. You have such a beautiful heart and your feelings are totally understandable. I sometimes feel the same way. You should never have to defend your feelings. You are an amazing person with a big heart.
Friendships go both ways. Pretty much each should make efforts to do contacting. People do get busy but if they are that busy give them space but watch that people aren’t taking advantage of you when they do finally connect with you. That is people….get other interests and. Work on you and get interests that make you happy. You aren’t the only one that has experienced these things….just keep in mind you are a good person and work on things that benefit you. Chasing and focusing on friendships is a waste of time. I have learned the hard way. Sometimes sending time with yourself is better than wasting time on being with people that don’t value you. You are complete without friends so focus on what improves your life and if others fall into your life great if they don’t great too!!
what's the point of being friends with people who are busy, i just won't understand cause i get bored too easily.
You are a beautiful soul
I feel you, I try to engage with family and friends to actually have a relationship and it's all me reaching out. It's exhausting to be the only one interested in having the relationship. I however seem to be someone that is asked for help doing physical labor, or babysitting when it is convenient for them which I sometimes turn down so they get the message. It's painful as I want to have relationships with people, and what I'm supposed to just be ok with having no connection with anyone? :/
Im Glad that this video just randomly came up on Yt recommendations.Let me tell you my friend you will be fine:) dont think too much put that all negative energy in doing something you like and focus on yourself. Dont expect anything from anyone.JESUS has a Plan for You. Stay Blessed my friend.
I don't feel as strongly as you do, but I actually needed to hear a little bit of what you're saying. Thank man. You seem like a cool dude. We have some stuff in common. Hope things got better for you.
Yeah they have other friends that they make time for
you don't need anyone to complete you, you're already complete in jesus christ, amen!!!!
your happiness isn't dependent on anyone, especially these so called friends who don't have time for you, time to make new friends or enjoy life on your own
I hope you are doing well 3 years later. I actually sat down and watched your video 7 minutes long without doing anything else. If a person can not do that in real life when a random person on Internet can, then they don’t deserve the ** out of you.
Thank you very much for the kind comment. It's been years and I have grown a lot. But seeing comments like this are so welcoming and reassuring. Thank you
Hey Jacob, I'm so sorry that those whom you genuinely care for have not been kind enough to even let you know that they appreciate and care about you. that can be difficult, I felt your tears and the pain. You're not alone, one day you're going to meet people who will love and appreciate you because you are enough and you're special. You are a handsome young man, the behavior of these so call friends does not take away your value and your right to be appreciated. Give yourself the permission to rise above this feeling. I love you my brother. You're going to be alright. I promise
Thank you
I really hope that where ever you are , people are treating you right and that you're happy and healthy
Thank you. Let us talk some more what's your email address
@@akeimreid4787 I can't really give out my email, but you can contact me through any of my socials linked on my channel. Thank you so much for caring though, ita a blessing
Ok Jacob i understand.
i deal with the same stuff. they are busy for two years straight. people make time for what is important to them. Go find you a video club, or library book club, or computer class for ceu units at the small college. go find you a girl friend and you will have a friend. you have to see the value in your self. some to the jew first, then to the gentile stuff. offer to be a friend, if they take it fine, if not go else where. im dealing with the same stuff.
the wolf of wall street said to deal with your problems, by becoming rich.
Crying has a positive impact on your health, do it more.
your self worth, self confidence, self respect doesn't come from anyone but jesus christ, once you understand that, you won't give a shit about these fake friends who willfully aren't choosing to make time for you
hope your doing well now!
I'm trying ! Thank you . I hope that your doing well yourself .
so whether you have one friend or a dozen one must be content with who they are on their own
:)
having friends has nothing to do with appearance
who isn't busy?
Lol. I know right?
Jacob your taking it the wrong way
How do I message you my number? I will be your frienf
No offense but how old are you to be caring about this? I understand being lonely can be isolating which causes depression but if you’re desperate for being liked and friends I’m just wondering how old you are because the older you get the busier adults get in the real world and a friend will probably be like their last priority.
Hi ! I think I was around 23 when this was recorded. I was very much a battle between my logical self( knowing the feelings were silly) and this emotional thing I had going on at the time. Since then I've definitely grown from this, but at the time, I let my depression and anxiety get to me like that :/
@@NoahGarcia I understand your feelings. I am 25 now and I have acquaintances but no real friends I can count on like ppl that will celebrate my birthday and personal stuff like that. I hang out when bored but there’s no attachment. The last time I had a best friend I was 18. In college I didn’t make any new friends and felt really alone and had self doubt. I don’t care anymore though. I’m more interested in going back to school and focusing my energy on attracting the right person to have a family with someday. So I don’t really care for my ex best friend who left me for someone else and forgot about me anymore lol. I don’t know if things will get better for me socially especially with the pandemic but I’m fine by myself right now and I also made new online friends which helps the loneliness.
It really is the time to work on ourselves huh. We can do it !
That's sad and the wrong way to think. With that logic nobody would ever get married or have a partner and children. People are as busy as they want to be and the issue is what they're busy with. If you do not cultivate friendships they die, and if your whole life is your job then at the end of the day what do you really have? Most of us as we age realize that at some point that human relationships are the MOST important thing in life. You can earn billions of dollars but you can't take it with you when you die.
@@IAMGiftbearer Thank you! Yes! Except some people are too stupid to ever realize these things!👏👏👏