Dealing With A Narcissist’s False Allegations & Accusations In Court

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  • @NewBeginnings413
    @NewBeginnings413 Рік тому +98

    1. Don't react, respond 3:09
    2. Document (in real-time) 3:46
    3. Don't get sucked into the mud 5:55
    4. Become like Teflon when it comes to guilt trips 6:57
    5. Use one method for communication 9:05
    6. Try not to be alone with the narcissist 10:36
    Judge Lynn Toler 12:22
    Relationship w/ your lawyer 25:03
    Getting ready to go to court 34:38
    1: Keep everything in writing 35:07
    2. Use video for depositions 37:59
    3. Focus on your own case 39:50
    4. Document, Document, Document 43:06
    5. Do thorough research 44:37
    6. Keep your cool 46:17
    Dr. Ramani Durvasala 48:31
    Feels like “Narcissist always get their way” 1:03:46

    • @Anonymous-vq7rt
      @Anonymous-vq7rt 10 місяців тому +2

      I take care of myself

    • @christinecarr4110
      @christinecarr4110 9 місяців тому +6

      Because the judges usually try to rush litigants, the process is not fair. The frustrated judge, the pride, ego, beats down the innocent usually. The fast talker usually can manipulate the case..

    • @claudiamargaretedamm3161
      @claudiamargaretedamm3161 6 місяців тому

      Hab you so much for you work. I will stay cool and be working on facts at the Court. . He is a maligne Narc, A messiah psychopath, who think himself God or Jesus ( or just both) and tried to kill me, when I left the house. Take take all nice peoples

    • @cathleenburton-noble418
      @cathleenburton-noble418 4 місяці тому +1

      This so helpful.

    • @mikeoxgoode1532
      @mikeoxgoode1532 4 місяці тому

      Married for 4 months and out of the blue she says I want a divorce I would have NEVER made the financial decisions I Meade of if I would have known she would bail on me after only 4 months . . That's my case. Can't afford a lawyer here In Nevada . Any suggestions .

  • @jessica_saxton
    @jessica_saxton Рік тому +129

    I have a judge that doesn't hate liars. My attorney caught my ex in so many lies, but for some reason the judge doesn't seem to care.

    • @joe7665
      @joe7665 Рік тому +23

      This is my biggest fear going through my divorce.
      So far the judge believed everything my ex accused me of

    • @joe7665
      @joe7665 Рік тому +4

      Was your ex the bread winner of the family?

    • @kelseyperez6670
      @kelseyperez6670 11 місяців тому +21

      This is EXACTLY what happened to me with my DV case. Now I am onto the child custody and I’m really hoping the judge changes this time. My girls rely on me and I have been their sole caretaker and now my ex thinks he deserves one week on one week off. The time he did have to spend with them, HE NEVER WANTED IT. He always prioritized his fun life over spending time with the girls. I really hope things are different this second go round

    • @jessica_saxton
      @jessica_saxton 11 місяців тому

      @@joe7665 It's disgusting!!! Mine has a history of abuse. I PROVED domestic violence with picutres and rape with a RECORDING!....and she didn't even care!!! He also lied to her about putting my son in kindergarten. It's half days and 4 days a week. That's not kindergarten. No big deal... he gets my son and 50% of my daughter. Believe me....the community will know all of this during the upcoming election.

    • @jessica_saxton
      @jessica_saxton 11 місяців тому +1

      @@joe7665 Mine was...yes. I worked from home and kept the kids there with me.

  • @azulcelestepatty
    @azulcelestepatty 5 місяців тому +10

    You are God send.. for many months I didn’t defend my self I took and took and even went to jail for his false accusations and I thought if I just plead out he would see I didn’t want to fight . But enough is enough now I’m fighting back . I have all the tools to defend my self . Even listening to you I cried. But I will be listening to you until my court date . I’m not standing by I’m fighting back .

    • @tonirossetti7928
      @tonirossetti7928 5 місяців тому +1

      Find a good lawyer senior money control

    • @azulcelestepatty
      @azulcelestepatty 4 місяці тому

      @@tonirossetti7928 please explain

    • @megdhd
      @megdhd 4 місяці тому +2

      Good luck, don’t forget the “you” part of slay. You can do everything else right, but if you lose your cool or appear overly emotional, you may end up screwing yourself. It’s so important to be the mature, calm, and reasonable one.

    • @letitiamarrow5974
      @letitiamarrow5974 3 місяці тому +3

      Amen….With God ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE plus, GOD DID NOT GIVE US THE SPIRIT OF FEAR.. I Stand with You in Agreement with God in the Midst You Will Be Victorious just Be Mindful of Keeping a Pure Heart in Jesus Name Amen 🙏🏾

  • @baybay92h
    @baybay92h Місяць тому +4

    SPOT ON!!! Thank you for this video!

  • @MrREDPILLhimself
    @MrREDPILLhimself 10 місяців тому +8

    I really needed to find you videos. I have been put through hell and had my 5 kids taken from me by a lying narcissist. I haven't seen them in almost 10 months and i am desperate for anything that can help. Thank you so for making this video. I wish Id found this a long time ago. ❤

  • @christinecarr4110
    @christinecarr4110 10 місяців тому +7

    Rebecca You are the most generous Attorney I ever encountered!!!! You sincerely care!!! Are not greedy! Are helping sooooooo many people. God bless you. Thank you!!!!!! So S. M. A. R. T. 🕊️🗽🕐⚖️👍

  • @lrichardson8743
    @lrichardson8743 Рік тому +21

    You are spot on Rebecca! I've had 2 hearings so far and everything you talk about has happened. They make lousey witnesses if you're diligent with providing information your attorney needs. Thanks Rebecca! SLAY!

    • @debbievoss3496
      @debbievoss3496 11 місяців тому +1

      I just want my money he owes me.

    • @debbievoss3496
      @debbievoss3496 11 місяців тому +1

      He has such a faulty memory. I can document very well. 😊

    • @debbievoss3496
      @debbievoss3496 11 місяців тому +1

      I'm a good observer.

    • @debbievoss3496
      @debbievoss3496 11 місяців тому

      I'm just too sick to do much...

  • @ScorpioWawaMom
    @ScorpioWawaMom 9 місяців тому +2

    WOW! NOT EVEN 5 MINUTES IN AND I JUST RELAIZED...... WOW THIS IS SO VALIDATING!!!! 100X BETTER THAN MY ASTROLOGY VIDEOS I STARTED GETTING INTO WHEN WE SPLIT. 😊THANKS FOR YOUR HARD WORK, AND YUP I WAS AT THE COURTHOUSE TWO DAYS AGO.... $400 TO FILE AND I THINK 10 TO SERVE THE PARTIES IN THE CASE ... THANK YOU! WEVE BEEN SPLIT SINCE JUNE 1ST 2022...
    I am now 38 years old aa of.. before midnight, and now today the 28th one year without a sip of alcohol 🎉❤ we do recover!!!!!

  • @kerritrouble3473
    @kerritrouble3473 Рік тому +14

    Some people have been through so much and they are scared and their fear mechanism is their downfall because they come across loud and the Judge can’t understand why.

  • @swordsmith3785
    @swordsmith3785 11 місяців тому +13

    None of this matters if they make a report to police and press charges.... none of it. #NoManIsSafe

    • @jenamirgholi6004
      @jenamirgholi6004 2 місяці тому

      what type of police, again there are really terrible ones in this industry too.

  • @johnathonmitchell3317
    @johnathonmitchell3317 9 місяців тому +4

    It’s time to expose the lies with the light of the truth

  • @debseglund5377
    @debseglund5377 9 місяців тому +5

    Thank you for all the great advise! I kicked my accuser right in the butt. I didn’t need to do anything the judge saw all the overwhelming evidence that I took the time to find and presented to her.

    • @carpathianken
      @carpathianken 5 місяців тому +1

      That's all judges can do Is be guided by the evidence & facts. It's literally the only way we can mute out & invalidate the narcissists lies & manipulation, by presenting the factual documentation & evidence. Really good people lose their cases because they don't make the effort to do the homework of gathering data to support your side of the story

  • @dianepuga3933
    @dianepuga3933 9 місяців тому +1

    Spot on! I am sharing this with someone who needs to see your video, thank you for doing this

  • @petergriffiinbirdistheword
    @petergriffiinbirdistheword 11 місяців тому +30

    My lawyers want me to let my narcassist lie about me because the lies he is telling is irrelevant to my case BUT I am talking with them about why its important that I confront and correct his lies. I've been abused for 20 years and have been lied on and lied about relentlessly. I never had the strength to stand up for myself and now that I do, I cannot allow him to continue tarnishing my name or painting me out to be the the type of person he is. Even though I feel its obvious to the courts he is unstable, I still find it important (for my health and well-being) that I use my voice. I haven't had a voice in so long and now that I've found it, I feel an urgency to set the record straight and hold him accountable for his behavior and his lies. He is a monster and I am scared of him, but I won't let him take me out without standing up for myself first.

    • @susanparker9877
      @susanparker9877 11 місяців тому +4

      It sounds like you HAVE found your voice! Rebecca suggested practicing what we will say with someone, and even a practice run with being examined by the opposition. That could add to the confidence needed to make your voice strong. Blessings and success to you.

    • @Rabswood296
      @Rabswood296 9 місяців тому +6

      Focus on the facts, judges don't care about hurt feelings. Get evidence to prove the lies are lies, there won't actually be evidence for most things they have lied about but there will be for some. Also put together a timeline of events you might find some interesting things pop up as I did.

    • @Stubbornclarity
      @Stubbornclarity 4 місяці тому +1

      Rooting for you!! They are cowards hiding behind a mask! I'm so sorry that you're going through this. Don't react in an angry way. Like I did. He turned around and used it against me. I can't deal with these creatures anymore. I have decided not to care so much about what others think so much. The truth about them will hopefully come out eventually when they expose themselves as vindictive. Wishing you all the luck! Prayers!

  • @cindyjohnson4378
    @cindyjohnson4378 9 місяців тому +4

    Now with AI they even change recordings etc. Narcissist are very good at hiding the truth and being very deceitful with the truth.

  • @elizabethkeppis5892
    @elizabethkeppis5892 7 місяців тому +2

    I’m getting really ready for this battle with your advice.

  • @olayandfriend37
    @olayandfriend37 8 місяців тому +1

    Spot on ,everything you're saying is absolutely true . I truly truly agree thank you for this I just stumbled across your video .I wasn't even looking and you're saying exactly what I needed to hear!!❤

  • @johnathonmitchell3317
    @johnathonmitchell3317 9 місяців тому +1

    Spot on!
    You hit it right on the nail.

  • @tommynicz1432
    @tommynicz1432 11 місяців тому +5

    Spot on. I'm dealing with this in court now. Been going on for months.

  • @DinaBurns2000
    @DinaBurns2000 Рік тому +44

    one of my mistakes (representing by myself). I trusted that Judges were wise and can recognize this type of people. Battling with 2 lawyers from the other party and not knowledge of law. Makes me rethink if courts really care the best interest of the children or who pays more.

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  11 місяців тому +1

      Stay strong! ❤
      Join me in my free webinar - icanslay.com

    • @Bike4Life231
      @Bike4Life231 10 місяців тому +8

      The family court system cares about parental rights, not protecting the kids from abuse.

    • @thechosenone1868
      @thechosenone1868 10 місяців тому +1

      ​​​@@Bike4Life231- Agreed. The UK legal system is failing the true victims. I have spent a shed loads on webinars, counselling and legal fees. Experienced emotional and physical exhaustion. Unfortunately until the courts and associated organisations are trained in domestic abuse and narcissistic personality disorder then they will continue to place children and mostly mother's at serious risk from the real abuser. No one is listening.

    • @Karlarchaga
      @Karlarchaga 10 місяців тому +5

      Same thing happened to me. The law says that what matters is the best interests of the children and that is the biggest lie. Justice is for the ones who can pay for it.

    • @princesskitkat7061
      @princesskitkat7061 10 місяців тому

      ​@@KarlarchagaYes that's what my son's father told me it's about who pays more doesn't give to fs about his son

  • @Virg77teachsped
    @Virg77teachsped 5 місяців тому +2

    Spot on! Thank you for this. Going to court Thursday with the NARC. Wish me luck!

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  4 місяці тому

      Stay strong! ❤ Join me in my free webinar - www.rebeccazung.com/cert-workshop

  • @bofargo9471
    @bofargo9471 8 місяців тому

    SPOT ON !!! I LITERALLY LOVE THIS VIDEO !! I just wish I would have watched it a year ago lol !! I am Applying your advice from.this day moving forward! Its all about the long game !!

  • @TheMoonRain
    @TheMoonRain 9 місяців тому +2

    This is great stuff! Love how you had a judge speak on their perspective. ❤ Thanks so much! Great videos and content.

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  5 місяців тому

      Check this out - www.rebeccazung.com/cert-workshop Keep slaying!

  • @Thegamehhh449
    @Thegamehhh449 Рік тому +9

    Thank you so much this is so helpful, me going for a divorce and custody battle with my covert ex and I just have to say everything you have said is on point, my lawyer has been a blessing and her lawyer has just used her and racked up a huge bill and expects me to pay for it smh.

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  Рік тому +2

      How are you doing now? Hope you're feeling well and getting your power back! 💪
      This might help - slay.rebeccazung.com/

  • @Dolphin260354
    @Dolphin260354 4 місяці тому +3

    Hi Rebecca. Ive got to thank you for your many articles. I used your tactics of presenting undeniable facts of the narc's behaviour in court to get an Apprehended Violence Order (AVO in Australia). My neighbour could not deny his actions as we used security video that he didn't realise we had. It was legally recorded.. The judge totally berated him. He called him a liar, a bully, aggressive and juvenile. He said his actions were appalling. It took 12 years but it was worth it. That was a week ago. He is still trying little niggling things, but it really hit him hard.

    • @Stubbornclarity
      @Stubbornclarity 4 місяці тому

      Good! Great! So proud of you! Exposed him.😅 Good for you!

    • @lesliethen1935
      @lesliethen1935 3 місяці тому

      Wish I could get details!!!! I am going to court with narc neighbor in 7 days. Our problem is that he is a cop and being protected by his cop friends. Please pray for us that this harassment stops.

    • @Dolphin260354
      @Dolphin260354 3 місяці тому

      @@lesliethen1935 hi Lesli. You have to have solid irrefutable proof. Video is good. After showing the video the judge didn't even let my lawyer cross examine the defendant. He'd made up his mind on the evidence.
      Rebecca said once you've got him cornered he can't do anything else. Just speak your truth and stay calm. You'll be ok! I'm thinking of you and wish you all the best.
      Ive made the mistake in the past of easing off him, forgiving him, but now if he steps out of line I'll pounce on him.
      I'm in Newcastle Australia.

    • @sbfabtfc1
      @sbfabtfc1 2 місяці тому

      The fact that you say your neighbor is still trying little things means he was not hit hard enough and has not learned his lesson. Stay vigilant because now you've got an even angrier neighbor who's probably going to try to get revenge any way he can. Stay safe.

  • @SabrinaNaumanuf-dt8wt
    @SabrinaNaumanuf-dt8wt Рік тому +5

    I wish I heard this 11 years ago... I am fixing to go to divorce court... This man has lied not complied....

  • @3rotic_glitch3s
    @3rotic_glitch3s 7 місяців тому

    Brilliant! Thank you soooo much for this! I wish more lawyers truly understood the psychology of narcissism like you 🙏

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  5 місяців тому +1

      Check this out - www.rebeccazung.com/cert-workshop Keep slaying!

  • @heathersoper6923
    @heathersoper6923 5 місяців тому +1

    I'm doing my papers, I want to make it easy for the Judge, I'm going to show the lies with the evidence and contradictions.

  • @manadziveasv2418
    @manadziveasv2418 Рік тому +4

    I will add also to be prepared when narcissist is pretending to be upset or even cry. He is recording you. He has set up recordings prior to even pretend to cry because they know you will go after them because you feel so bad for them even after they gaslighted you all day long?

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  Рік тому

      How are you doing now? Hope you're feeling well and getting your power back! 💪
      This might help - slay.rebeccazung.com/

  • @AA-cw7ql
    @AA-cw7ql 4 місяці тому +1

    Spot On! Excellent Video!! ❤

  • @reycfd7753
    @reycfd7753 10 місяців тому

    Great! Thanks, Atty!

  • @khepri906
    @khepri906 28 днів тому

    Hi Rebecca I so appreciate you and your videos. Although this video says “Don’t let a narcissist lie in court.” in its headline,.. I’d like to suggest there are often times you DO want to let them lie in court.
    Because if they DON’T lie in court, the judge will not have the opportunity to catch them lying.
    My attorney encouraged me to let my ex lie. She got caught, and once the judge caught her lying,.. I won
    Thank you again for everything you do ❤

  • @mariag.magallanes2330
    @mariag.magallanes2330 9 місяців тому +3

    It takes time for judge to notice be patient. It could speed up if what the narcissist says in court is fact checked. Narcissist lie about everything they can’t help it!

  • @timpotter6332
    @timpotter6332 3 місяці тому

    Spot on, I have been sucked into the mud in the past. I will definitely do my best to remember these tips.... Thank you

  • @cyndiapasillas1137
    @cyndiapasillas1137 8 місяців тому +1

    I am sooo grateful i found your channel is amazing ❤

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  5 місяців тому

      You got this! ❤ Join me in my free webinar - www.rebeccazung.com/cert-workshop

  • @susanparker9877
    @susanparker9877 11 місяців тому +3

    So lovely to see two of my favourite ladies in this video. Great content.
    My ex stalked me until he got arrested. It seems he has left town, (which is what I have encouraged him to do for two years, so that he could be near his family and support system). Maybe now the year and a half of harassment will end.

    • @carpathianken
      @carpathianken 5 місяців тому +1

      It's an unnerving feeling when the narcs in our life think that it's reasonable & appropriate to start a stalking campaign towards us just because we're not willing to be their doormats any longer

  • @idid138
    @idid138 4 місяці тому

    Rebecca, thank you, thank you, thank you! You are such a blessing to me. You give me a lot of hope, that some day I can get strong enough to start a better life & get through this.

  • @user-mu7zj9wp7d
    @user-mu7zj9wp7d 6 місяців тому

    I take care of myself. Thank you Rebecca.

  • @joe7665
    @joe7665 Рік тому +3

    My lawyer told me your wife acts just like a narcissist.
    She said, I'm not saying women can't be narcissists or have narcissistic patterns. But she shows every sign.
    Then my lawyer told me she has to feel like she has won in order to settle and she will be difficult through the whole process.
    Asked for discovery got 20% of what we asked for.
    She has 3 more days before we request subpoenas for her work records.
    Now the ex is trying to get under my skin..... bad

  • @Mrjones-ed7hi
    @Mrjones-ed7hi 9 місяців тому +3

    31:29 Why are you getting offended when the client that hires you asks you questions? Because any decisions and choices that are made are the client's choice. The lawyer is supposed to explain and talk things out with the client. Not just say "well I have been doing this for 20 years, so I know best." it's condescending. And if you don't know something, you ask. If you are swamped with work them don't take on so much work that you can't handle. Because nobody cares about your feelings if you're hired to do a job, we expect you to do your job.

  • @ddolly531
    @ddolly531 10 місяців тому

    Spot on , absolutely correct and yes u are right in all

  • @johnathonmitchell3317
    @johnathonmitchell3317 9 місяців тому +2

    Awesome.
    Thank you for this and the videos I will commence watching.
    I wish you were my lawyer, though I highly doubt I could afford your services!
    4 years post pro-se against a lawyered up narcissist tends to leave very little coin in the purse😅
    That being said, thank you for the free education here and for the clearly guided path, should one be truly willing to embark.
    ❤️‍🔥

  • @lisam4013
    @lisam4013 8 місяців тому

    Amen! HalleluYAH! Mrs. Zung. Truly you were heaven sent to me. It was a though God gave you the exact words I needed to hear, because you said (excluding the Divorce topic) is exactly what I am dealing with with my landlord and their attorney doing my (wrongful) "Unlawful Detainer-Eviction" Case and Jury Trial. I am currently sick mentally and physically as a result of dealing with their very stressful; bullying; intimidating; controlling; manipulative; unprofessional; dishonest; and deceptive behaviors. God bless you for blessing people like myself. We need more legal professionals who will help us with their gifted and educated legal knowledge and empathic heart. I pray that God will continue to bless you and your professional work/services, and life in everyway possible. I will view all of your appropriate videos as needed or necessary and share them with others when given any opportunity to do so (God willing). Two thumbs up, a smile and many thanks for your thoughtful and informative legal help and professional video(s). You are AMAZING! Take care and keep up the EXCELLENT work you're doing; it's very helpful and needed. Amen. :).

  • @samanthahollingsworth6162
    @samanthahollingsworth6162 9 місяців тому +9

    Been doing this for 12 years and going into debt over lawyer bills! Wish I found this 12 years ago to help me! He’s gotten my daughter to choose to live with him now and I have minimal contact with her. Lots of lawyers have no idea how to handle this!!

    • @sashaclarke2749
      @sashaclarke2749 8 місяців тому +2

      They do! But can’t handle a case, based on emotions!
      Only facts! So, with that in mind…” The more evidence (that you can prove), the better!
      It’s Chess, not Checkers!

  • @rikkigratrix3386
    @rikkigratrix3386 3 місяці тому

    Thank you judge and attorney ZUNG

  • @mariag.magallanes2330
    @mariag.magallanes2330 Рік тому +8

    Started doing this and false allegations stopped! Also every lie, insult and refusal to follow motion has been placed in front of the judge. The narc is now quiet and I finally found peace! 😁 Triangulation has stopped as all are included in every communication, transparency extremely important.

  • @stargazer8818
    @stargazer8818 Рік тому +1

    Spot on!

  • @susanbahadurian-vogel218
    @susanbahadurian-vogel218 Рік тому +4

    Thank you, i wish i knew this 15 yrs ago, my evil ex who has all the money stolen spent last 15 yrs dragging me into court lying cheating ignoring court orders all the way, has financially temp ruined me but really lost , all you say is true they are evil cruel and dispicable they keep you overwhelmed with caos, omg

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  11 місяців тому

      Stay strong! ❤
      Join me in my free webinar - icanslay.com

  • @wilmenkeiko
    @wilmenkeiko 9 місяців тому

    Spot on!!
    Thank you for your videos.. it helps a lot..

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  5 місяців тому

      Check this out - www.rebeccazung.com/cert-workshop Keep slaying!

  • @DOT368ER
    @DOT368ER 7 місяців тому

    SPOTTTT ONNN! Thanks got some unpleasant comrades.

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  5 місяців тому

      You got this! ❤ Join me in my free webinar - www.rebeccazung.com/cert-workshop

  • @eprofengr6670
    @eprofengr6670 10 місяців тому +2

    What can be done when the judge is.... making false claims ? ... not following the law? ... not following his / her own court order ? .... is ignoring bad actions of one side and infering blame unto the messenger about the bad actions ? ..... is not as allowing you to give a rebuttal to allegations from judge or others ?

  • @leslacez
    @leslacez Рік тому +2

    looking in 3rd person is spot on 💥

  • @chrisla2736
    @chrisla2736 6 місяців тому

    Dealing with a narcissist trying to sue me for outrageous allegations and accusations.
    Leading into discrimination defamation of character and tort. Cam not find a lawyer who deals with all of those playing fields, so I have spent the last 4 months, brushing up on laws in my states going pro se. Also watching every video I can watch about conquering a narcissist in court.
    I feel fairly confident about my stance in court, yet, it is up to the judge. Wording, holding it together, and I truly believe that her colors will shine bright, and the judge will be disgusted by her behaviour.

  • @lauramonica1
    @lauramonica1 6 місяців тому

    Mega smart video 👏👏👏
    25:18
    Thank you again Rebecca 🥰
    Greatly appreciated ❤

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  4 місяці тому

      Check this out - www.rebeccazung.com/cert-workshop Keep slaying!

  • @chrismartinus2622
    @chrismartinus2622 9 місяців тому

    Miss-Zung in action!😄
    Excellent advice and insight. Use it!

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  4 місяці тому

      Check this out - www.rebeccazung.com/cert-workshop Keep slaying!

  • @laschell59
    @laschell59 9 місяців тому +3

    May I update you on texts and emails? a female had 10k in text messages on a man's phone. He murdered her son and many texts were indicators that this man wanted her son dead! Dallas TX had a forensic dept. they retrieved the messages from his cell phone after 6ish years. Yes, she was just found guilty of tampering and lying about the texts!😥

  • @carlynnserrano3653
    @carlynnserrano3653 8 місяців тому +1

    ❤YOUR ABSOLUTELY RIGHT IN EVERYTHING YOU SAY❤ my ex she still tries to get at me but I tell her she's never going to change she does her patterns she was trying to ruin my life saying I stabbed her when she did it herself so much lies tried making me look bad would cut her wrists take pills and hide like she was leaving horrible people I know everyone has some kind of narsasist in them but wow the true ones get away because they are the devil

  • @SigMaQuint
    @SigMaQuint 11 днів тому

    You are just teaching us fair fighting. Very un-narcissistic.

  • @johnoneill2661
    @johnoneill2661 9 місяців тому +1

    Any relationship between couples will soon figure out how to push the buttons that make the others blood boil. What do you do when it's not a married couple, and one acts like you actually were? Sick. My sister even tries using my son to trigger me. Doesn't work, but she is so low, she'll try anything. Unbelievable.

  • @DilBegay-nj9wz
    @DilBegay-nj9wz 3 місяці тому

    Spot on so far

  • @a.b.2850
    @a.b.2850 11 місяців тому +3

    My 15yo son and I have filed against my ex (of 7y!) for ☠️ threats he made in front of both of our children (13-15).
    He’s f#cked and I’m glad he is. Will he dare to say our sons are both lying? I can’t wait to see how he’ll play it this time, as the law in my country is pretty firm about those threats and doesn’t let pple off the hook with bs like “I didn’t really mean it” or “but I didn’t do anything” (physically), but I’m SURE he will not plead guilty and take a deal.
    After *everything* he’s done, it’s finally criminal, and I won’t let this one go.

  • @richardhall6279
    @richardhall6279 Рік тому +8

    Spot on ! Save and copy all emails / text messages. Also keep a detail list of your expenses ( yes its a pain in neck ) including any confirmation numbers detail what bought. I did it for 20years. In the end it was all worth it. She had no defense against who own printed words. I thank God for all the guidance.

    • @nathanmciver6496
      @nathanmciver6496 9 місяців тому

      Narcissists! Why show people this solves nothing and then promote this again? Wow, the science of slick sounding asshole's because people don't want to be honest or grow up to mind thier own buisness and be kind! It's about what role keeps them safe as a group because they are cowards to move on with thier own life yet weasel thiet way into other's playing nice until they get what they want or use props to play the game! Nice life! Should be about healing not court because it benifits other's or dosen't because they lie! Wow I have a house and people have taken over time and time again and I have delt with it!!!! Did anyone ever have kind and intelligent thought that maybe some people are discusted by these languages or lack of because they affect the quality of life and don't care for court room talk such as "appeal" "crown" this and that because they want a life of value and are beyond fed up with the abuses that have stuck around from the damage caused? This isn't to be rude, infact it is to level with minds that understand and possibly want more than pretending to please other's on a language they might not have of liked at one time until they where sucked into the sick arena of hero's that has solved nothing on the streets and within people's house's and yet we all have the answer's

  • @mollysilverman6803
    @mollysilverman6803 Рік тому +9

    When he acts normal, something is going on. Guilt trips ALL the time.
    Why are people so mean? 😢 I just don’t get it.
    Spot on so far!!

  • @serapf.9768
    @serapf.9768 11 місяців тому +1

    Spot on! Dealing w this. Court tomorrow again. Custody battles. Divorced since 2016 still ongoing he uses my kids against me. Now he is stalking me now lies that I left him home alone before school. 🤦‍♀️

  • @abboy72
    @abboy72 2 місяці тому

    Spot on. Unfortunately I am being alienated from my daughter by gaslighting techniques. False allegations of abuse, manipulation, and mental health accusations. It’s incredibly dishonest and disheartening. All I want to do is be my daughter’s father.

    • @5675421
      @5675421 Місяць тому

      Stay strong brother. I'm there with you. It's a painful reality and I'm sorry you're going through it.

  • @laladamac
    @laladamac 2 місяці тому

    The “G spot “ right on the g spot 😅

  • @phoenixangelascensiontarot5840

    I don't even have a Lawyer, and Attorney Yet at all whatsoever Rebecca Zung Love !!!🥰💜💯

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  Рік тому +1

      Proud of you! You got this ❤

    • @phoenixangelascensiontarot5840
      @phoenixangelascensiontarot5840 Рік тому +1

      @@RebeccaZungEsq So are You now My Attorney beautiful young Rebecca Zung Love or what, because the physical evidence that I currently have in My personal possession is flawless by leaps, and bounds Rebecca Love !!!🥰💜💯

  • @sheriwahinekapu7033
    @sheriwahinekapu7033 2 місяці тому

    spot on!

  • @syr79021
    @syr79021 11 місяців тому

    Very true! Thanks

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  5 місяців тому

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  • @ReginaldRuff
    @ReginaldRuff 2 місяці тому

    Spot on!!

  • @heidirausch9735
    @heidirausch9735 10 місяців тому +2

    I have a life to live and it's upsetting for me to write down the finely ground bits and pieces of the narc's conspiracies. It's. Convoluted Mess

    • @Rabswood296
      @Rabswood296 9 місяців тому

      Yes but do it. You need evidence.

  • @janesasinek4829
    @janesasinek4829 10 місяців тому +2

    Oh yes the ex narc just babbled on and on about everything else but the real reason as to why we were in court. The judge finally got tired and told him to be quiet. Now, the narc is in contempt of court and is stalking me. I have my documentation for the hearing, plus am filing for another order of protection again.

    • @carpathianken
      @carpathianken 5 місяців тому

      We've got to try to stay safe.
      Those toxic a-holes do stalk us to snoop & intimidate. My ex boss that I took to small claims court in an attempt to get my final last 2 months wages drives up my street for seemingly no other reason than to stalk & intimidate me since I live in a dead end street.

  • @joanjackson1054
    @joanjackson1054 7 місяців тому

    SPOT ON!

  • @lilac1055
    @lilac1055 7 місяців тому +1

    I have all the evidence in the world and no one wants to look at it. It’s just what I say versus what my narcissist ex says which are constant lies and he flips and twists everything. What he says is not reality. He makes stuff up as he goes. The judge dismissed my trial w no explanation, I have not been given due process, I’ve been trying to work with my attorney, I’m on my 3rd, the first 2 have lawsuits against them already and have already been in prison for things and corruption, so it’s hard to find an attorney whom I could trust, but, I’m trying to keep my emotions at bay the best I can but, it just seems like no matter what, everyone is biased and already has in their heads what they want to do. No one wants to see actual evidence of anything. this is devastating and defeating and exhausting. I know people say it takes time for narcissists to be outed, but, no one is biting, and so far and it seems like everyone continues to get manipulated by him, either that or they realize what’s going on but don’t want to put an end to or address any conflict because it stops them all from getting paid. It’s all custody for cash and I’m at the end of my rope already. I’m a good person, live a healthy life, never did anything to hurt anyone, but my ex has issues that I have nothing to do with, he needs his own personal therapy for that, as I’m trying to do the same for myself trying to deal with all of this, but the financial burden, the invisible handcuffs and ankle bracelet not being allowed to do anything without being threatened punishment, my poor son being used a pawn and feeling the effects of all of this, I have no idea how to live like this. I’m so worried about my poor son. He’s only 2. I’ve kept my emotions at bay best I could and stayed focused and factual, continue to document as things happen so I don’t have to backtrack, but what good is it if no one looks at anything? I’ve placated since day one, I’ve done everything everyone has told me to do, I never broke a court order, I’ve been more than overly accommodating, and because of my ex, when things get quiet for a little bit he digs up ways to stir the pot again and make up lies that end up backfiring on me somehow thru forced coparenting counseling with someone in the “circle” and I literally have nothing to do with any of his lies. I’m hopeless at this point but I try to listen to your videos for support and hope to see a light at the end of the tunnel at some point, unless I have a stroke or heart attack which I’m hoping doesn’t happen. My ex only gets quiet when he thinks he’s going to get in trouble for something and then when nothing happens, he doubles down because he knows the more he’s allowed to get away with things, the more he continues to abuse and harass me and this is ultimately very damaging to his own child. I’m in survival mode right now and don’t know how much longer I’m going to last.

  • @shanninbetz
    @shanninbetz 2 місяці тому

    i screwed up the first time, they reeled me in and I was like a fish out of water on the stand, in complete shock over the lies. I didn't know anyone COULD lie in court, yeah I'm stupid.

  • @joe7665
    @joe7665 Рік тому +2

    All of this has helped me aaaa ton.
    My ex is still trying to get me alone with her, invited me over with the daughter.
    Nope.... i'm good

  • @user-rp9qo2gx7v
    @user-rp9qo2gx7v 14 годин тому

    Spot On!!

  • @phoenixangelascensiontarot5840

    What's also important Rebecca Zung Love is that I alway's have a tendency to alway's get suckered into the mud with the drama, conflict, stress, and strife, and blow up, and get angry, and upset, because this narcissistic abuse, and gaslighting has gotten worse over the year's NOW, and gotten out of hand, and has been out of control far way MORE than ever before in My personal private real true life Rebecca Zung Love !!!🥰💜💯

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  Рік тому +1

      How are you doing now? Hope you're feeling well and getting your power back! 💪
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  • @user-rc4lh3jf2o
    @user-rc4lh3jf2o 3 місяці тому

    Spot on I don't know what I would do without you. You are the best God gi want to learn.
    All about them and I will educate people out there in this world. Cause they need to be shut down, they're evil. There's a bunch of evil people. I know I've been on the serve 52 years. In this man, I If you told me. He was a narcissist and that he was. I would say you're crazy. I never knew they existed. But I do now. I'm going to everybody know that I couldn't contact with about them. I wish I had you here in Rogersville. Because I am at a point in my life. I'm 52 Bypoler I have mental issues already and I'm having some problems getting my self to figure out how to do all this I wish I had help in getting my life back because I'm struggling please help

  • @brettlarsen
    @brettlarsen 11 місяців тому

    Sounds like very solid advice

  • @johnathonmitchell3317
    @johnathonmitchell3317 9 місяців тому +1

    Break free!
    🎉

  • @sherridungan6449
    @sherridungan6449 Рік тому +2

    I have a huge issue with a Narcissist filing for an "Anti Harassment" Order in the state of Washington and I HAVE NEVER BEEN To that state, i live in the State of Indiana!!
    THE BIGGEST ISSUE by Far is that I was DELIBERATELY DENIED the right to DUE PROCESS OF LAW!!
    This essentially makes the proceedings EX-PARTE’!!!
    Ex parte orders are only valid for 14 Days!!
    The judges have FLAT OUT REFUSED to give me Any form of DUE PROCESS RIGHTS and the OPPORTUNITY TO BE HEARD!! This is not only a Complete Kangaroo court, but it is OUT AND OUT FRAUD and there is something SERIOUSLY AMISS with the entire case and THIS is A FACT!!
    ALL OF my DOCUMENTS/Pleadings have gone Totally ignored or essentially dismissed OUTRIGHT by the JudgeS in the Matter Despite the fact that i have raised a number of serious Legal issues in my Motions/Pleadings.
    NO Judge, in his or her RIGHT MIND Is Going to believe that a man who has a HISTORY OF VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN Needs to be “Protected” from a woman some 2,000 miles away, it is ABSOLUTELY LUDICROUS!!
    There WERE NO THREATS Articulated against the Plaintiff/Petitioner under the RCW Definiton of Harassment!!
    PLEASE HELP!! I DO NOT have the money for an Attorney but i have Studied law and this is Absolutely Insane!!
    This man has even filed False Police reports no less than 2 weeks after the Order was "Granted" and demanded that i be arrested and extradited to the State of Washington to face charges for violating an order that HAS NOT EVEN BEEN SERVED on me!!
    Thank you
    Shalom
    Sherri D.

    • @umbreon-wn2to
      @umbreon-wn2to 2 місяці тому

      Hope.you filed one against him so you can ask for a court appointed lawyer

  • @devinbarker9285
    @devinbarker9285 Рік тому +9

    So I won full custody of my kids a year ago. The judge labeled my ex as a master manipulator and a terrible human being. My case just closed this week and my ex keeps threatening to take me back to court blah blah. I'm really good at ignoring her but she still continúes to turn my 13 year old autistic daughter against me and says stuff like you can choose who you want to stay with and it causes conflict when it's time for me to pick them up. And It triggers me to get really pissed and my ex taunts me with her phone saying she is recording me. I over react because she just won't stop and continues to mess up a relationship with my kids. So if she did take me back to court and uses the recordings of me over reacting can she get in trouble for manipulative behavior and messing a relationship with my kids? Even though I have over reacted? I accidentally called her a cunt and pos mom. It slipped out of my mouth on accident. It's exactly why I try my best not to ever talk to her because she mentally tortured me over the years so some of that trauma gets triggered when ever she keeps on trying to come up with a twist to use against me.

    • @danyaloyo5935
      @danyaloyo5935 10 місяців тому +1

      I know its hard but you can't stoop down to their level, you know? She knows exactly what buttons to push don't let it affect you. The court might box you both up as problematic. You have full custody don't risk it over trying to defend yourself against her. Only the judges opinions matter. Be present for your kids. I also recommend the book "BIFF: tips for coparents your guide to difficult texts, emails, and social media posts"

    • @JSmith-np7zg
      @JSmith-np7zg 9 місяців тому +1

      My suggestion would be to bring a person with you every time you pick up your children from her visitation. It will keep her on her best behavior since you have a witness with you (your Mom or sister would be great) so that she hesitates to act out in front of someone who she might be embarassed to show her true colors in front of.

    • @CatsMeow-jk6ir
      @CatsMeow-jk6ir 6 місяців тому +1

      Someone on another post suggested to arrange exchanges in front of the local police station. I thought that was a brilliant idea.

  • @ninaborovsky9992
    @ninaborovsky9992 Рік тому

    Spot On!

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      @RebeccaZungEsq  4 місяці тому

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  • @mollysilverman6803
    @mollysilverman6803 Рік тому +5

    Documenting is important. My narc comes into my room and steals things. I have to carry my prescriptions with me and keep my puse by my head when I sleep. He took my w-2 and threw it in the garbage. I’m going to get a copy so I can file taxes for two years, one as a non working person. Any money that comes from my w-2 is going into two savings accounts. One for my daughter and mine. It’s going to be how I can get a car and an apartment. That’s why he did it. He knows I’m over it. He’s 78, has health issues, and I have to call the hospital. His own people don’t show up to see him. 😂Six weeks ago, he screamed at me called me everything but a white woman, and 40 minutes later his sugar was over 500 and he was half dead with seizures. I made the emergency call. Two days after he got out of the hospital he broke into my room, and left his phone. He’s done that twice in a three week period. I don’t feel the need to return things left at the scene of the crime by the perpetrator. The police don’t return evidence. Let him freak. I asked him where he was maybe that he shouldn’t have been and left his phone? He didn’t admit stealing my w-2. Said he might have lost it in the yard. He doesn’t get the phone back.
    I guess he expected me to go look for it. I told him he needed to retrace his steps and look for it. I walked away.
    I can’t wait to walk away for good. This is the most horrible person I’ve ever been around and I’m trapped. He keeps me like a prisoner; times my drives or store shopping time at Winn Dixie. 🤢

  • @rikkigratrix3386
    @rikkigratrix3386 3 місяці тому

    THANK YOU. I am suing my mother, sister, nephew for the filing false reports and court documents for DVPO was on ankle monitor for a year then case DROPPED. Found out they were lying. I’m taking them to court bc no lawyer would take my case😂 THIS HELPS

  • @Yepper111
    @Yepper111 6 місяців тому

    SPOT ON!!!

  • @WatchmanTuttle
    @WatchmanTuttle 22 дні тому

    They sure do! My son lied about everything!

  • @johnathonmitchell3317
    @johnathonmitchell3317 9 місяців тому

    I do. I take care of myself:)
    These stages become easier the more we Work it❤

  • @alishab8943
    @alishab8943 День тому

    SPOT ON 😊

  • @keyzfimi271
    @keyzfimi271 6 місяців тому

    Spot on! . ! . ! . !

  • @joanjackson1054
    @joanjackson1054 7 місяців тому +2

    BREAK FREE!!!

  • @joanjackson1054
    @joanjackson1054 7 місяців тому +1

    Thank you

  • @gregmaughan2448
    @gregmaughan2448 8 місяців тому +1

    Spot on

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  4 місяці тому

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  • @kaciehersh3342
    @kaciehersh3342 5 місяців тому

    Spot on.

  • @sharlettaevans7647
    @sharlettaevans7647 9 місяців тому

    Spot On 😊

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  5 місяців тому

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  • @lorrigilbertson3114
    @lorrigilbertson3114 9 місяців тому

    Spot ON!

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  5 місяців тому

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  • @phoenixangelascensiontarot5840

    Spot on !!!🥰💜💯

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  Рік тому

      Thank you! ❤ Care to share what you like the most?

    • @chebrubin
      @chebrubin 10 місяців тому

      @@RebeccaZungEsq this sounds like a infomercial.

  • @rachaeltobias4710
    @rachaeltobias4710 9 місяців тому +1

    Spot on ❤

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  5 місяців тому

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  • @alishab8943
    @alishab8943 День тому

    BREAK FREE!!!! 🤝