The painful part is he deleted it all, just to say a typical response, it’s so accurate and hurts so much that this is truly how it goes, there’s so much you wanna say but…you just feel like you can’t say it because you could cause problems, so you turn back on it
I’m in this same situation. I feel stuck I want to break up with this girl but every time I start breaking up with her I second guess myslef and decide not to. I think I have an attachment issue of some sort but I don’t want to spend any time with them. How can I get out of this?
My girlfriend and I broke up a few weeks ago after 3 amazing years together. Idk why I’m typing this and putting it in a UA-cam comment but I am. I’m not one to talk about my problems unless it’s with someone close to me, but here I am. Crying as I type this , letting the internet know. Not once in those 3 years did we ever raise our voice at each other. Not once did we argue. Not once did we go to sleep angry at the other person. Not once. 3 beautiful years that I’ll always remember and cherish. Unfortunately, I always had this gut feeling that for some reason we weren’t meant to be for each other. I don’t know why, but it’d be in the back of my mind, I’d never let it affect the way I loved her and treated her though. I loved her passionately and gave her every part of me, and vice versa. Towards the tail end of things, for the past few months , I felt things begin to change. I kept trying and trying and trying , and doing new things to keep the excitement and get the sparkle back but I could slowly see it dwindling away. Our anniversary was 2 days after Christmas , and even then it felt like the last one we might share together. One of the worst feelings of all time is knowing you’re doing everything you can but it isn’t working. Fast forward to January and she tells me she wants a break for a month or so. I don’t believe in breaks but I loved her so I decided to give it a shot. At first I kept telling myself I would do whatever she wants, but as the time went on I realized that I kept denying what it is I felt was the best thing to do. Best thing for her, but also the best thing for myself. I tend to neglect myself and my happiness and feelings for other people and always put people before myself. There’s no worse feeling than knowing that what is the best for you , isn’t what you want. I felt us growing apart for a while, and I realized I was never going to be able to meet the expectations she wanted of me and fulfill the things she wants in life, especially if I couldn’t even do it for myself. It breaks my heart knowing that she’s crying because of me, that I hurt her. But it isn’t any easier for me. I want her to be happy, and that happiness might be with someone else, and that’s okay with me. Idk how long it’ll take me to figure myself out and for me to learn self love and value, but just like the video said. It sucks , but it’s for the better. I believe I made the right choice , even though neither one of us can see it now. It’s for the better. If you read this thank you, you definitely didn’t have to but it feels good to finally let this out. Thank you
I was on the receiving end of a devastating breakup several months ago and in case it's any consolation to you, it sounds like you're handling it beautifully. Reading your comment actually made me tear up a little. Seems to me that you're giving her empathy and appreciation at a distance, and I think that's the best gift you can give her now.
"Not once in those 3 years did we ever raise our voice at each other. Not once did we argue. Not once did we go to sleep angry at the other person." As much as I would hope these three years were as amazing, I wonder if this might be exactly the reason why things went downhill... always putting up a smile and neglecting one's own emotions, in hope that the other is "happy", is the worst thing in a relationship, since even little nuances can grow into insurmountable unhappiness if no one is willing to speak up about them. Still, would like to give my best wish for you.
You are me. And I am you. The only difference is I feel I am nearing the receiving end of this. It’s scary and it may not actually even be about to happen. but right now it’s painful and hurt a lot. So thank you for being someone I know has gotten through my crisis
Thanks a lot for sharing. I can definitely relate with you and it's just painful. I learned that it's important to think about myself more and not put others first always and then talk about it. ❤ If you are not happy with who you are in the relationship, it won't work probably. All the best ✌️❤
there's something beautiful about being brutally and vulnerably honest. to be authentic, to be real, to be human. it feels very earthy and yet charming.
you are worth the blood of Jesus! More valuable than any silver or Gold! Jesus died for u! He died so we can be with him! And he came back!! He loves u! Come to Christ today❤ believe! And Recieve! For God so loved the world that he gave his only son that who so ever believes in him will not die but have eternal life-John 3:16 Today can your day of salvation ❤❤❤
@@aviksblog8145 Society. That goddamn collective ego who is constantly judging us. Or at least that we perceive is judging us. Should it matter? Maybe not.
The problem with romantic relationships is the way that media portrays it to be, it seems to always be “the honeymoon phase”, always with that butterfly feeling in your stomach, nervous and giggly. However a relationship is not linear, there’s the beginning, then after that is when it truly gets tested, how will you feel once the love has settled and it becomes your normal. Will it be enough? Are they enough? I realized that you don’t always have to feel this infatuated feeling, you can be in love with somebody that’s not necessarily extra ordinary to others. After the beginning, you’ll grow together and that is what is truly the most beautiful, supporting one another, making each other laugh but also being able to stand on your own. I’m glad I figured this out early on, love is different for everyone so don’t subject yourself and please don’t compare yourself, you’re amazing
The first love is always so explosive and dynamic and visceral. My wife is the true love of my life, but after 3 years of marriage the electricity and butterflies are only occaisonal. And that is perfectly fine. Love matures, it grows in depth. And that is a normal thing.
I just broke up from a relationship like this. He didn't say much apart from he doesn't know why he doesn't love me, and that he'd wish he does, but he just can't. He says I'm perfect for him, objectively speaking, but he doesn't know why the feeling isn't there. The problem is though, I loved him with all my heart. This video brought me the consolation he never did; it was as if you said the thoughts he had but was unable to formulate into words. Thank you.
@@bloomnbury7387 Thank you for taking the time to read and reply, Rudranni. I'm still not sure what his thought process was like, but hopefully he is happy now.
I read once that love for the first 13 months or so isn’t love It is the honeymoon phase Because your brain produces chemicals that make you feel in love and think that this person is “the one” for you After this phase your heart and mind think about the other and if you really love him/her Maybe he wasn’t in live with you, maybe his mind made him think so Sorry that you had to live that
this is the second time i come back to this video. I had to end a 3-year relationship at the beginning of this year. I loved her with all of my heart, but i eventually realized she did not. It was a strange relationship, our first one too. We were young, we went trough so much together. But i fell in love with someone that wasnt actually ''real''. I realized i have been spending 3 years with a completely different person, someone that drained my life and energy bit by bit. When i realized what kind of a person she really was, and what she was doing to me, i had to end it all. It was the most difficult decision of my life. Then came some really difficult months. I thinked about her, i remembered our moments together, but none of that was real, and none of that could came back. I became frustrated, i hurt myself out of anger more than one time. I wasnt angry with her, but with myself. I still loved her, and that crushed me even more, day by day. Im better now (relatively), and i started to realize that, as sisyphus says, ''it's for the better''. Im not happy it ended, im happy it happened, and that those few, real, good, pure moments in our past will stay there, eternally. In both our memories they're there, and i hope other pure and good moments can be created in the future with someone else. This whole comment is probably gonna get buried under countless others under this video, but even so if someone's reading this i wish you the best of happiness and love in your life. And if she is reading this, i loved you sunshine. I really did
it’s insane how this resonates with so many people, or maybe it isn’t that insane. We’re all just living the same lives in different vessels. Whoever reads this, you’re really not that alone.
shit. one of my biggest fears is what if my boyfriend and i will come to this point. everything's perfect now. but it's so perfect it's suspicious. and i've always been an overthinker.
That’s the scary thing that keeps your love alive and exciting. You never know when the last day will be, or when your last date will be. So for now, you just have to cherish every moment.
wtf man I want my distant troubled greek dudes and european past century bohemians that had way too much time to think about life, I wasnt expecting a perfectly relatable modern day love struggle being lived right now by my man Sisiphus 55 :( shit hits too hard damn, hope we all get better and be happy somehow
I like to think the feeling is the same, but the circumstances surrounding it almost always seem to be so deeply personal it makes the feeling get applied to something personal.
This has to be one of the most relatable videos I've ever watched. Not only does it make me feel better and reliefed of my daily struggles, it also reflects the oh so perfect times I once had and still wish I'd have to only then come to the conclusion that everything that I loved so much only made everything more problematic. I love this video.
Seeing the Daughters album cover in your pfp under this video only a week after i discovered the band, hits differently. "The road is dark, the road is long, remember these are just the words to somebody else's song."
Anyone else legitimately write like this in a relationship trying to be deep in thought and articulate your emotions and your partner just sends back "ok"
bro i say "ok" to my friends a lot now you're gonna make me not want to but i'll still have nothing else to say which is why i say "ok" in the first place
@@UwU-ok2jr "Okay, I understand" "Thank you for taking the time to tell me that" "I genuinely don't know what to say" "I need time to think this over" Are all way better options than just saying "ok". That can make you come off as disinterested. I'm an essay-texter myself, and to me length signifies effort. It's like you saw someone taking the time to expose their heart to you, and responded with no interest or emotion (bc of lack of emojis, signifiers or punctuation). Just showing that you've seen someone's text isn't enough, actually say something. We want to know how you feel. If you don't know how you feel, then say that. Anything other than a vague "ok".
U don’t understand how precious your comment is to me. I’ve been searching every single day, I never knew what was that feeling, and your comment made me realize this is exactly how I felt. I broke up with my gf 1 week ago and there was this feeling that it hurted so much but I finally understand it, I love the feeling of loving her, of having someone to dish out all that love, but deep down I knew we weren’t gonna work
I had watched this before, and I am watching it again. This feels so deeply personal, as if you are speaking my mind. The feelings, the texts at the end, the absence of closure from ones own self, even our perceptions about love,.. everything were the same. Thank you for creating this, Sisyphus ♥️.
Yeah I was going to make a comment as well asking if it was suppose to be a private video. That being said he liked your comment so it's probably fine.
@@leamubiu I mean, to be fair, many pieces of art have been made in private, with privacy and intimacy in mind. But I believe Sisyphus just wanted to make a video on looking back at the first love
Rarely, if ever, do I watch a video on UA-cam more than once. It's just been 9 hours since this was uploaded and I've watched it 6 times already. Hits too deep. Never take it down, man. This was incredibly beautiful.
I feel just as hurt and healed after watching this. Hurt because it's exactly how it feels to miss her, but healed because at least I know someone out there understands the pain I could never put into words. Thank you
My girlfriend, who has been in the military for the last half-year, recently left me after realizing that her feelings for me weren't there anymore. The distance that came with my time at uni and hers at "the edge of the world" in the military, became too much to handle -- and she fell out of love with me. I remember seeing this video previously, thinking it was cute and heartbreaking. But now, on a re-watch in my current state, I sit broken. It was never easy for her when it came to being apart, I'm not mad and I can't blame her for it either - because somehow I'm not surprised that it went this direction. I'm just sad that I didn't *know* before it was to late. She had known it for a few months, even the week where we got to meet up, but couldn't say it before we were again separated by a countrys worth of distance. I miss you, and I'm not sure I'll ever stop missing you either. You're on your journey where you must do what you must to be the person you want to be, and I'll be on mine trying to understand what went wrong and blaming myself because its easier to have something to get mad at. I loved you, even when you stopped saying it back, as much as I do now
It’s so painful being the person on the receiving end of this!! I can see him fading away and I know there’s absolutely nothing I can do and I keep searching for signs that he loves me even though I know they’re not there!!
It is painful especially when you are confused if you want him or you want the idea of him. I started looking for signs even if it wasn't meant to be! Made it all more confusing. It's hard since you want him but also you don't want him to see you as the one liking him if it makes sense! I feel you PS hope you do well❤❤
It's also really painful and difficult being on the initiating end. I felt like the biggest asshole in the world after breaking up. It was the first relationship for both of us and she really loved me but I somehow was never able to feel the same way about her.
The ending made my heart sink, because I think it’s fair to say that we’ve ALL had that one moment where we deeply want to say something to the person we love(d), but in the last moment we doubt if it matters or if they will care, and say something generic or vague to seem less hurt from the fallout of a relationship that felt perfect but realistically was not. This video was great, and very relatable. Thank you for making this
funny how i felt so isolated and alone when i was in this exact situation, then just watching my favourite youtuber and finding out he also has gone through the same shit, this makes me feel a lot better, thank you sisyphus55
I started watching this video a bit ago and had to pause it. I’ve come back to it after a few months of growing and have finally finished it. It’s honestly so beautiful and made me cry.
for anyone reading this: If you think you're falling out of love with someone, don't panic! First off, you were already dating for a long time before you fell in love, so obviously loving someone isn't a requirement to date, and not loving someone (on it's own) is not a good enough reason to stop dating! A lack of love can be caused by many things including mental health! If you think you might be depressed, then yeah, no shit, there's gonna be periods where you don't love anybody, or anything! Love comes and goes, but it doesn't mean you should panic and cut things off. As long as you're still having fun with someone then there's no reason you should gatekeep yourself from a relationship with them! Obvious caveats: You start to find them unbearable. You love someone else (this is a bit tricky)? You don't like them at all and discovered the relationship was / is solely about something else like infatuation, evading loneliness, or just sex. You think they are abusive / manipulative These are valid reasons to break up with someone once you stop loving them. Losing "love" by itself is not a good enough reason to pull yourself away from a good friend!
Heed these words fr, I made that mistake (5 years ago) and I'm still catching myself wanting to text her. Don't date your best friends, its too risky. One conversation and you'll never see them again
Exurb1a once said, "Nothing can ever ruin this." Edit: 4k likes in three weeks and an interesting discussion about rape. The best UA-cam comment I've ever posted. Not proud.
@@isaimtz-cmcho688 man he is not a shity perseon nonebody is perfect and all there is are alegations so nothing is proven and he is free until proven guilty
i had a good, long relationship during the pandemic and this video speaks to me on such a personal level. it's been 2 years and i still feel like this. i always ask myself if it is, indeed, for the better. i dream of her sometimes, remembering those times when we were in bed together or cooking pasta or singing together really fuckin terribly. the nights i spent after we broke up were really painful and the silence does become too much. we split up because of personal issues and we ended up hurting each other so goddamn much. thank you for making this video. i hope we all get better and cherish the first love we've ever had.
This is very relatable and I am relieved to know that I am not the only one who feels this way. Days ago I ended a relationship just because of this situation and since then I have felt very bad because I didn't understand what was happening to me and I couldn't find the right words to express it. I'm glad the youtube algorithm showed me this, it's what I needed.
I’m in love with this girl, and as per usual, she doesn’t feel the same way, and the only thing that hurts more than knowing that she doesn’t feel the same way, is the fact that I know eventually I probably won’t feel the same way either, even though it hurts to love her, I never want to stop loving her
aww that's so sad. :'( I feel you. There's this girl and she is awesome and I like her very much. But she has her plans to go and eventually well lose contact and it hurts very much.
@✧ Shroomi ✧frankly idk what love is. I think I fall on the aro spectrum but like maybe it's this care for a person and u want to be with them and you love their vibe maybe. That's that for ME.
I love the idea of you sysiphus. I may not ever know you or meet you, hell if we saw eachother on the street we may not get along, but the you that this video and the rest of your channel creates in me is wonderful, caring, and authentic. I don't and can't really love you over the internet, but the idea of you is something to behold
This gave me chills throughout my whole body the second you started talking, I got the weird feeling in my gut and my chest felt just got ran over. From the visuals to the music to your voice and the title. Absolutely beautiful sadly I dont think I am going to be able to watch this whole video. I bet it's as beautiful the whole way through just as it is in the first 10 seconds.
That really does hurt because I feel like we exchanged those words to each other, and now it feels like we're miles apart, it didn't take long for her words to mean nothing to her, yet I still about them from time to time, still wanting to love her.
This video seems to be the key I've been looking for to get over my last break up, it allowed me to kind of have an understanding on why he left- and literally everything thank u sm
stumbled upon your channel due to chance, butit feels like i needed to see this. Its so hard to put my feelings into words but this video really helped me feel some closure, thank you & i hope if youre still struggling mentally its over sooner rather than later.
People don't realize that love is not a feeling. The feeling is simply infatuation with some other feelings sprinkled in. After about 6 months to a year sometimes longer that feeling starts to really dwindle. Sometimes things like the attention safety and pleasure of sex can even displace the infatuation. Love is choosing to stay with them. Love is when you choose someone even when you have negative feelings for them. Thats what marriage is all about. Going past feelings. The feelings can even return actually. Its just it takes literally no effort to make them in the beginning. They are just there. Literally the moment you see each other. You are flooded with infatuation for them and they are for you. That is not love. A common goal in life. A mission to reach. Loving that person better. Making a better life together. Having a vision that stretches to the grave. Those keep love strong. The feelings come back. They come and go. My wife and I have lost feelings but gained them back over and over. But the most powerful intimacy a person can give is shared when you make it through those moments and reunite the feelings you once had. Staying loyal despite the hardship. Fighting regardless of the feelings. These really show the mark of true love.
I've already cried watching the video where he said that he wants to love her, and reading your comment makes me in tears even more. I really appreciate that you write this all down and I wish for the best to both of you. I hope that I can keep these in mind and continue to mature in the relationship.
he sent this video to me, before we broke up, and watching it made me start to think too hard about our relationship. he said he didn’t mean it as him feeling this way too, but why would he send this one to me if he didn’t? i slowly began to pull away. i’d force myself to not text him all day, and didn’t tell him things i wanted to tell him. i started to think i wasn’t enough, and like we weren’t meant for each other, even though before watching it, i thought we were soulmates. we haven’t spoken to each other at all in weeks. i’m sorry things ended that way. i hope you’re happy, and aren’t sad about it anymore. thanks for being so good to me, andre
it's been another one of those silent nights, and maybe it's worse since we reopened the hurt between us. i find myself coming back to this video and thinking about everything that happened. i had told you i watched this channel before and when the video came out soon after i immediately shared it with you. there are many things here that resonated with me at the time. after i rewatched it with you, you asked if we were drifting apart and i promised i didn't feel that way. the distance didn't help and it gave you a reason to doubt that could have been avoided. we talked about infatuation and love and i couldn't explain the fears i had whether you would accept me as i was when it came down to it. yet being together you let me be the child i couldn't be when i was younger brought me so close to you, and these are the memories i hold most dear: reading picture books at the library on a sunny day, eating cinnamon pretzels with nacho cheese at the mall, making crazy scenarios of how many cats we could possibly have in the house, going to the park and being scared to fall off scooters and bikes, holding me close as we would take a nap. meeting you 8 years ago has been the best thing to happen, it took me away from things going on at home. i was amazed with the familiarity i felt with you, and i even began to trust you. trust was something new to me, maybe it was for you too. as we grew old enough, i knew i had to do everything i could to set up a life for ourselves, away from the past. it feels strange now being here without you. i truly wanted to get through our hardships and start a new chapter with you. i don't know where to go from here, i get too scared to move on and leave you behind. on these nights where things get too quiet and i'm left in my own head, i really do scream. scream every feeling that i can feel so i don't drown. we were so close we felt like we were the same person, we matched together perfectly. i don't know what to do without you, but maybe that's exactly what it is. you wanted to be your own person, and maybe i need to be my own person too. i can't say that i am happy, and that i'm not sad about it anymore, but i'm glad for the time we spent together, and for the opportunity to have you in my life. thank you for letting me be a part of yours, courtney
@@TheLightningpenguin thank you for helping me be who i am today, for always being there for me, and for being the best person i know. i’m sorry for reopening things. i know it was wrong, but i just needed to know what would happen, if you would be there. i’m sorry. i’m sorry for hurting you. i know a comment apology isn’t enough, but it’s what i’ve got. i’m sorry. thank you for everything, andre
Holy shit this was literally the most relatable video I’ve ever seen everything was so accurate and it just explained so many feelings that I didn’t know how to comprehend
I just had a mental breakdown and I was crying waterfalls and thinking about *it* every 2 minutes. When I finally stood up and checked youtube, this was the first video recommended by to me. I immediately clicked on it and half-way through watching this... It comforted me so much, I felt like someone was telling me their own story about their heartbreak and somehow felt some empathy coming from this guy. I don't know if this is just purely a coincidence, or some miracle type shit...but holy fuck, I was stunned. I haven't dated anyone, nor had a heartbreak. I have my own different issues but this video gave off the same feeling of comfort I needed to have. I was crying and biting onto the pillows so my parents wouldn't hear me for 2 hours straight...... Thank you, whoever you are.. Seriously.
@@mickelamanuel7330 agree completely on the phone eavesdropping part. It's funny how we've just taken this device, that is connected to the internet, literally spying on us for granted. Fuck cyberpunk, we're already goddamned androids man!
I hope you feel better eventually and I want to share some advice in case it might help you because it helped me somewhat: “Tell the people that you know care. If you know your parents or a good friend care then tell them. They will try and help you don’t hesitate on it or it might get worse”
I caught myself in a state of idealizing a potential relationship recently. When I realized things weren't going to turn out the way I hoped I was devastated with the consequences of looking stupid or at least feeling I did. But more so I was frustrated with allowing myself back into that self sabatoging cycle of believing I can exert my perception of someone onto them and it will somehow not be selfish and ultimately beneficial for both of us. I was thankful I could catch myself being wrong soon enough to quell the hurt but your video came out just in time to fully affirm how I felt. Thank you so much, buddy. You always come to bat for us.
I can’t describe how much I relate your comment, man. I’ve been in the exact same situation, idealizing a possibility. It’s ALL in my head yet it feels so bad
I was somehow always put off watching your videos and somehow always they find me at the perfect time, completely aligning with what I need to hear, with what makes me feel seen. it makes me feel not wrong for feeling things the way I do
I NEEDED to see this thank you so much for such a beautiful video,I thought I felt alone going through it,that no one else has been through the same struggles that I have,but now that I've seen this I know I'm not alone,and I guess the only way I can see if things get better is time
This hit me right in the heart. I'm trying not to weep in front of my family. This pretty much encapsulates my feelings right now. I'm trying to move on, seeing other people but I'd be lying if I didn't think about her during silent nights or when I pass our favorite hangout spots. We broke it off last July in the middle of the pandemic after three years of mostly good times, trips and experiences. Anyway, love the video, wasn't expecting to feel this hard today.
OMFG STOP. I was so invested and so involved and when the end hit. And all those sweet words and meaningful thoughts, got deleted to type a shorter less personal message. I FELT that in every way I think i ever could. This video explains so much strangely relatable stuff. It’s comforting almost.
My exact words said in a random video i decided to click and ended up leaving me in tears, its so heartbreaking that we wish we didn’t have that thing in us that stops us from being brave and allows us to express our emotions to whom where the first people that we would run to for emotional support. Hopefully for the better
this was beautiful. i think i sometimes forget that love actually happens. theres so much representation of superficial infatuation and it's rare for me to see people who care about someone because they are the way they are rather than what they do for you. i hope one day i can have a connection like this with someone even if there isn't a "happily ever after"
It’s one of the worst pains, being so connected to someone and when it ends you think you’ll never be able to find someone like that again. It’s made me believe that marriage is a bit of a hoax too
This video got me crying rn because my relationship screams so eerily alike with the only difference being I love this girl with everything, both of us having bad childhoods the word love holds no significant meaning to her other than a word used to express how she or I likes something more than usual, we’ve never exchanged the word but that’s just me not wanting to make her feel trapped or like saying it makes everything more serious from then on, I care for her more than anyone I’ve cared about in a way that makes me profound, of course she’s beautiful but I feel a human connection that I try to compare to other experiences I’ve had and none of them match up. I’ve thought about telling her honestly and dealing with the consequences or giving it with the preface that it can be a one-off thing that is solely for her to know how I feel and make of it what she will, but this girl is so meaningful to me without her even knowing it and whenever I look her in the eyes I say the words I love you and I don’t know what follows that besides her gaze and the fact nothing else seems more important to me at this moment like she’s building highways in my head that I’ll hopefully never see bare of cars driving through, although if I did I would understand it was of my own fault somehow because there’s no way her unknowing complexity could ever waver my thoughts about her, she’s perfect
It does happen.. i never believed in love and marriage scares me cuz of my childhood.. but what happened is that , once i decided that i no longer want to complicate life ,i just want a peaceful life doing what makes me happy,in fact I've never been in a relationship even though i want to cuz i know that i don't love them i just want to love them cuz of what they can offer me..then last years, out of nowhere, i fell in love , i was worried cuz it happens so quickly and it's a person i found online.. and for someone who have never been in love ,it was both magical and terrifying.. after a while, i noticed some changes in my thought patterns.. I don't think about what she can offer me, instead, i think about what i can do to support her dreams and passion, how I can make her smile , basically what i can do in order to make her feel loved and appreciated.. what makes it better is that, that's the first time i found someone who's similar to me but also the opposite of me .. we have similar passions and mindset, but unlike me , she's confident and fearless where I'm more timid and insecure..my 10yr friendship was over cuz one of us want to move on and be happy while the other one only feels more connected when we're miserable together,it was bonded out of shared painful experiences.. so the fact that me and my girl bond over those positive things instead of our negative sides does make a difference..
The fact that so many people relate to this, and not in some "deep-fake" way, just shows you how humans are similar, no matter the race, and horoscopes are just B.S. no offence.
The worst thing is when you feel like it’s a personal failure because someone else doesn’t love you. You know it’s not their fault or yours, it’s a combination of a million different factors out of your control, but you still can’t help but think you weren’t enough. Not enough to keep their attention, not enough to satisfy them, not deserving. On the flip side of the coin, if you’re the one falling out of love, things are just as painful, too real. I need to remember this feeling.
This opened all the vulnerable parts. The part that you try and hide and for the life of you don't know why. Putting into words the things your heart wants to say but just don't know how to say it. Thank you for this ):(
I like to revisit this every once in awhile. Every time it hurts less and less, and recently I've come to remember you with a smile rather than tears. I'd like to think that, in another life, in a different timeline we'd still be friends. I Hope wherever you are, you're safe and happy. I miss you, stranger.
Wanting to love someone, to escape the emptiness and suffocating isolation, and to find pleasure in the possibility of liberating someone else from that too, that's just my experience. This video reminded me of such a continuing pattern in my mind. Hoping to find a feeling of being loved in trying to be someone who is that person for someone else. Thing is, nobody is bettered that way, and truthfully, no one wanted it to be that way.
Just commit to love, don't question it and you will see that you are able to love anybody if they give their love back. The thing is if you live in denial and have clogged up feelings that will tranfer to your partner aswell. So just fuck your second thoughts and go for it.
This is a beautiful, love is so beautiful, i feel like you summarized it even though no can could ever possibly summarize it, this is a work of art and I hope you both stay friends
this was so beautifully vulnerable to experience. definitely made me understand some people who i'm no longer in contact with that i thought left to hurt me. no. sometimes they leave to be better and do better for us. love is such an enigmatic concept.
Hey man, just because you dont feel some fuzzy feeling in your belly after a couple months doesn’t mean you don’t love her. Love is about the ability to grow together. Not the romanticized idealistic shit you see on media that may be influencing you to think its about some kinda feeling. And that once you stop feeling that feeling you ‘don’t belong’ with this person anymore. That ain’t it imo.
@@hero9402 ok fair enough. He did also say she suffered from anxiety, and unfortunately sometimes these things can complicate relationships, if the other person isn’t getting the help and support they need as well. But i’m just making assumptions. The term “ just wasn’t feeling it anymore “ just sounds so vague to me. But it’s not for me to understand anyway.
@@Yoyozo663 yeah I get it I thought the same thing as you too that maybe they have Idea that love is perfect and where expecting the impossible. But then I was like but He is too smart for that he does understand everything. And things would have been really bad (I mean like emotionally not connecting and things like that) between them and there wasn't any chance of it getting better. So yeah I understand what you mean.
I think it's idealistic to think that you can just continue to love someone forever and that clinging to this thought will just end up damaging your relationship with the other person
"You were perfect, compassionate, accepting, weird in a uniquely beautiful way. You were mycompanion to so many adventures and memories: moments that I'll revisit with a certain tinge of sweet and bitter." Hit me like a truck
Hey, Sisyphus, idk if you'll ever see this message, but to sum up all that I want to say is... Thank you. This video was all too relatable to me and bought me some strange sort of closure. I've never thought someone else could feel the exact thing I was. This struck a place in my soul, and I'm so thankful that you created this masterpiece. Thank you. Never delete this chief.
It feels weird to watch this after breaking up with my girlfriend, i don’t know anybody would even care to read this but i feel like my heart pierced and its for this exact reason. I think she just lost her love for me after not seeing eachother for 2 months. But how can one lose love? I may be saying these in sadness but i can’t stop loving her.
@Sakurr Because sometimes you find that person who sticks with you for life, and it's worth going through the pain to find that. Personally I had just one breakup in highschool which probably catalyzed a seemingly permanent depression in me. I haven't dated anyone 12 years since then as I felt every relationship wouldn't work out if I was even worth a relationship to begin with. So I'd avoid flirty situations. I even found someone who was a really great match for me around 5 years ago, got her number, and ghosted her like a moron thinking she deserved better and it wouldn't work out anyways. I got stuck in a cycle of learned helplessness, and also had this idea in my head that I shouldn't date anyone unless I was happy all the time. I would hear things online like if you cant make yourself happy, how can you make others? Well now I know all of that is stupid. While I can see the benefits of staying single, growing up, learning what you want, and avoiding potential relationships that would have caused heartbreak, it gets a lot harder to meet people when you get older. You also eventually might get to the point where you feel the heartbreaking loneliness which can be just as emotional as a breakup. So go out there and date, but be smart about it. There are plenty of people who are interesting in their own ways, and thinking other relationships are bound to go as sour as your previous one is a delusion.
@@Angela-vm3kc infatuation has always been so interesting to me. I've dated a total of 2 people, and the first one was absolutely infatuated with me. Until it turned out I was human, and my flaws were too much. Infatuation doesn't last, and isn't love and a lot of people don't know that I think. I'm worried the same thing might happen with the person I'm currently dating. I see love differently from my ex, and it takes more time to form for me. My current partner adores me but I'm afraid that when those rose-tinted glasses fall off he'll realize I'm not good enough anymore, like my ex did. I'm not actually, perfect. But, it's worth a try, isn't it? To find someone who can maybe see things the way you do, to find safety and comfort in someone. To change and to change someone, for better and for worse. Love is really just an interesting topic
This happened to me too. We broke up about a month ago, and we were going long distance. I was completely fine with it and I even felt like I grew closer to her, even if I saw her every 2 weeks at the most. We broke up and said that she lost the connection about a month before she brought it up. It hit hard because I know she suffered through being with me just because she didn’t want me to hurt, but all I wanted was for her to be happy even if it means hurt for me. Ive been in relationships before her, but nothing really hit harder than this break up. Idk why, she’s not the first person I loved, but all I think about is how she just hung up on me, saying “I’ll see ya when I see ya”. The last thing I ever heard her say. I hope you’re doing ok now man, I understand how it feel. But we get through it
When they leave it’s crazy to see how much they really left behind, the ideas that maybe even separated you is now the ideas you choose to believe in subconsciously.
Damn hadnt teared up like this in a while.. it's crazy how we as humans tend to follow almost the same path in everything.. especially regarding feelings and the way we react to them. But yeah, its conforting to know wveryone goes through the same shit and that itll eventually get better but at the same time its kinda scary to feel all that pain and loneliness.. anyway.. wish you the best and yeah, txs for the video 😢😊
Broke up with my my gf two days ago. Relationship lasted two years and it was special. Feeling lost and anxious now. Vid didn't help with that but thanks for sharing.
This is so true. I've seen a lot of married couples who didn't really act too lovey dovey all the time and after being exposed to such both in real life and on TV far too much I came to a conclusion: the perfect romantic partner is just a best friend who you fuck with from time to time. It's kind of why the idea of having a "female best friend" while being married or my wife having a "male best friend" while married to me sounds off to me.
I can't agree completely. Love is an action, sacrifice, patience, care, selflessness, everything that gets your out of your comfort for the comfort of someone else. I have loved but idk. I can't explain. It feels as if I have imagine a life w every girl I have loved and I would s
it's one of those nights where the silence becomes too much. i miss her so much it's almost unbearable. i miss our conversations and how she'd comfort me during one of the darkest times of my life. now she's gone, not completely gone, but she's not really here anymore, living her own life and dealing with her own problems, and im also living my own life and dealing with my own stuff and having fun with other people, but when it's dark at night, i can't help but remember her and how talking to her used to be the most exciting part of my whole day, and i just miss her so much. i wish i could turn back time and enjoy everything again. it just hasn't hit me that we're not part of each other's daily routine anymore
Oh my god. This is so jarringly similar to a situation I'm currently in, and it only became eerily more similar as you expressed your internal monologue. From the idealism to the disheartenment and regret. Are our experiences uncannily similar, or are some aspects of love and our feelings surrounding it human universals? I suspect somewhere in-between... Anyway, video was a banger, lol
Not just you! Me too! My guy moved far away temporarily. Loss of passion. There wasnt even anything wrong in the relationship. Hell things were perfect and maybe too perfect. That idealized relationship felt empty. the distance from covid dwindled that utopia into a dystopia.
Most human experiences are shared by everyone around us. We get so wrapped up in our lives and stories, we forget that there are eons and eons of civilizations filled with people who have been through the same. We forget that there are people right next to us who share our pain and pleasures.
Watching this brought up a lot of emotions for me. I can really relate to trying hard to move on and see other people but then the thoughts of the one you are trying to move on from still come back. While the loss of the relationship is heartbreaking, I am forever grateful to her for the memories I got to make with her. I wish I could thank for helping me want to be better but I am too scared to know what her response would be. HB I doubt you'll see this but thank you and I'm sorry
this is actually the first time i went through the whole video and watched and _listened._ i've come across too many times to remember, and always clicked off. i don't know why. but i finally watched it. and i cried. it's beautiful, it hurts.
this is so raw and really captures all the emotions of a breakup beautifully. it really brought me to the realization that we don’t fear being in pain, we fear being alone in pain (at least for me)
I have been ugly sobbing for way too long after watching this. This feels so similar to what my ex told me. “I loved you for as long as I could,” and “you know you deserve better, though.” It’s been seven months and it hurts as much as the day after he left. He thinks it’s for the better, and he might be right. I am still barely handle the loss
@Sakurr I’m so sorry for that, to you both. It will get better, I swear. This may not be the best advice.. But I will say this. You don’t have to jump up and try to re-discover what life truly is/means to you just yet. Take a resting period, as it’s okay to rest a little. Eventually however, bring yourself back whenever you feel ready to. Find your balance, your ground, and water those plants in your mind again. Things will be better! If you struggle to do so, seek professional help. I’m a she, and I had my first heartbreak in June of 2021, which things got a lot better for me eventually. Trust in the process, and I can really understand you. I hope you feel better soon. Good luck :)
Hey man I just wanted to say thank you for these videos. I recently just got pushed away by a girl I really cared about. It never was official because the night I asked her she laughed it off playfully and later said she realized then that she still liked her ex and ended it a few days later. We only talked for a little over a month and I fell way to quickly but being with her really made it feel like my sense of what love feels like feel real for the first time. I loved everything about being with her, I even loved spending time with her family. So the day she ended I immediately felt so empty knowing it was all over, not just with her but also my relationship with her family and dog. I gotta say your videos have hit spot on the feelings I felt initially and the weekend alone that followed. I think what hurts the most about it all was that I knew all along that it wouldnt last, I dreamed about spending my life with her but the truth was I knew it had an expiration date, I leave for basic training with the Army next july, so the knowing that even if she somehow decided she wanted me back I would have to feel this again crushed me. Anyway sorry for the rant and again thank you for these videos, they’ve really truly helped me process it all and work through it.
"the coziness of a relationship makes it easy to forget the piercing sensation of solitude" - jesus
I don't remember jesus saying this
@@add852 underrated comment
@@add852 Because it was written in baeble, not in bible.
Damn jesus that hit different
I don’t remember this in the Bible
The realization of not loving someone you want to love is such an awful feeling
i agree :(
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And when being told they've stopped loving you even tho your madly in love is an awful feeling too
@@cufomocha8850 this kills
@@cufomocha8850THIS omg
this feels like one of those voice memos you record at 3am out of angst and then forget the next day
Wow- this is so true
Except that you never forget it. It's always there. Not in you phone. But somewhere in the corner of your heart.
Out of angst? 😂 k begrijp je wel tho
@@39deflect83 wdym, angst is also an english word if you meant that
I walk into the another room and just forget..
The painful part is he deleted it all, just to say a typical response, it’s so accurate and hurts so much that this is truly how it goes, there’s so much you wanna say but…you just feel like you can’t say it because you could cause problems, so you turn back on it
I hate how that works. I'm in a position where I just want to send it. Maybe I'll cause problems, but what do I have to lose? It's already bad :(
@@zacharyh1407 how are you doing
@@zacharyh1407 Hope it went well
I’m in this same situation. I feel stuck I want to break up with this girl but every time I start breaking up with her I second guess myslef and decide not to. I think I have an attachment issue of some sort but I don’t want to spend any time with them. How can I get out of this?
So fucking true that it pains me just reading this
my takeaway:
even the monotone philosophy youtuber still managed to have a relationship during the pandemic
OOF
😂😂
😭😭😭
lmao
But you couldn't
I'm dead. Help me
Really similar vibe to a Pablo Neruda poem I read once.
"I loved her and sometimes, she loved me too"
What's the poem called?
@@treyebillups8602 "Tonight I can write"
Pablo Neruda is a horrible human being. Just know that
Neruda funeke
@@treyebillups8602 "Poem 20" from 20 love poems and a desperate song by Pablo Neruda
My girlfriend and I broke up a few weeks ago after 3 amazing years together.
Idk why I’m typing this and putting it in a UA-cam comment but I am. I’m not one to talk about my problems unless it’s with someone close to me, but here I am. Crying as I type this , letting the internet know.
Not once in those 3 years did we ever raise our voice at each other. Not once did we argue. Not once did we go to sleep angry at the other person. Not once. 3 beautiful years that I’ll always remember and cherish.
Unfortunately, I always had this gut feeling that for some reason we weren’t meant to be for each other. I don’t know why, but it’d be in the back of my mind, I’d never let it affect the way I loved her and treated her though. I loved her passionately and gave her every part of me, and vice versa.
Towards the tail end of things, for the past few months , I felt things begin to change. I kept trying and trying and trying , and doing new things to keep the excitement and get the sparkle back but I could slowly see it dwindling away. Our anniversary was 2 days after Christmas , and even then it felt like the last one we might share together.
One of the worst feelings of all time is knowing you’re doing everything you can but it isn’t working. Fast forward to January and she tells me she wants a break for a month or so. I don’t believe in breaks but I loved her so I decided to give it a shot.
At first I kept telling myself I would do whatever she wants, but as the time went on I realized that I kept denying what it is I felt was the best thing to do.
Best thing for her, but also the best thing for myself.
I tend to neglect myself and my happiness and feelings for other people and always put people before myself.
There’s no worse feeling than knowing that what is the best for you , isn’t what you want.
I felt us growing apart for a while, and I realized I was never going to be able to meet the expectations she wanted of me and fulfill the things she wants in life, especially if I couldn’t even do it for myself.
It breaks my heart knowing that she’s crying because of me, that I hurt her.
But it isn’t any easier for me.
I want her to be happy, and that happiness might be with someone else, and that’s okay with me.
Idk how long it’ll take me to figure myself out and for me to learn self love and value, but just like the video said.
It sucks , but it’s for the better. I believe I made the right choice , even though neither one of us can see it now. It’s for the better.
If you read this thank you, you definitely didn’t have to but it feels good to finally let this out.
Thank you
I was on the receiving end of a devastating breakup several months ago and in case it's any consolation to you, it sounds like you're handling it beautifully. Reading your comment actually made me tear up a little. Seems to me that you're giving her empathy and appreciation at a distance, and I think that's the best gift you can give her now.
This is so beautiful, thank you for sharing ❤
"Not once in those 3 years did we ever raise our voice at each other. Not once did we argue. Not once did we go to sleep angry at the other person." As much as I would hope these three years were as amazing, I wonder if this might be exactly the reason why things went downhill... always putting up a smile and neglecting one's own emotions, in hope that the other is "happy", is the worst thing in a relationship, since even little nuances can grow into insurmountable unhappiness if no one is willing to speak up about them. Still, would like to give my best wish for you.
You are me. And I am you. The only difference is I feel I am nearing the receiving end of this. It’s scary and it may not actually even be about to happen. but right now it’s painful and hurt a lot. So thank you for being someone I know has gotten through my crisis
Thanks a lot for sharing. I can definitely relate with you and it's just painful. I learned that it's important to think about myself more and not put others first always and then talk about it. ❤ If you are not happy with who you are in the relationship, it won't work probably. All the best ✌️❤
there's something beautiful about being brutally and vulnerably honest. to be authentic, to be real, to be human. it feels very earthy and yet charming.
you are worth the blood of Jesus! More valuable than any silver or Gold! Jesus died for u! He died so we can be with him! And he came back!! He loves u! Come to Christ today❤ believe! And Recieve!
For God so loved the world that he gave his only son that who so ever believes in him will not die but have eternal life-John 3:16
Today can your day of salvation ❤❤❤
true
The ending was beautiful, a lot of the times we don't say as much as we really want out of fear of what the other person will say..
Or society. That ending pulled on the strings to my waterfall !
Not to mention, I would never be able to let go of her sweater.
@@aviksblog8145 Society. That goddamn collective ego who is constantly judging us. Or at least that we perceive is judging us. Should it matter? Maybe not.
@@zaidsada6841 probably not, and yet it still does cause we are social animals
i’d say it’s more out of fear of what the other person will think, and how it can affect how they will view and treat you...
The problem with romantic relationships is the way that media portrays it to be, it seems to always be “the honeymoon phase”, always with that butterfly feeling in your stomach, nervous and giggly. However a relationship is not linear, there’s the beginning, then after that is when it truly gets tested, how will you feel once the love has settled and it becomes your normal. Will it be enough? Are they enough? I realized that you don’t always have to feel this infatuated feeling, you can be in love with somebody that’s not necessarily extra ordinary to others. After the beginning, you’ll grow together and that is what is truly the most beautiful, supporting one another, making each other laugh but also being able to stand on your own. I’m glad I figured this out early on, love is different for everyone so don’t subject yourself and please don’t compare yourself, you’re amazing
too true, said well
I love this comment
I think this is the best top comment there could be. I appreciate your words so much.
well said 💙
I think Lala Land handles this really well. It totally shows the ups and downs in any relationship
The first love is always so explosive and dynamic and visceral. My wife is the true love of my life, but after 3 years of marriage the electricity and butterflies are only occaisonal. And that is perfectly fine. Love matures, it grows in depth. And that is a normal thing.
Stay happy brother!
"because i wanted to love you", "i dont know why i couldnt love you" "and i dont think ill ever stop wanting to" is the realest thing rver
"Especially in those nights where the silence becomes all too much."
God, the dread.
@@murpledeer What song is this?
i HATE the dread so much, after breaking up I started dreading every single night so incredibly much for weeks straight, i never want to feel it again
I just broke up from a relationship like this. He didn't say much apart from he doesn't know why he doesn't love me, and that he'd wish he does, but he just can't. He says I'm perfect for him, objectively speaking, but he doesn't know why the feeling isn't there. The problem is though, I loved him with all my heart. This video brought me the consolation he never did; it was as if you said the thoughts he had but was unable to formulate into words. Thank you.
you know maybe he thought you were his aspiration.
Like you were perfect and he thought he could be yours but it is a thought and not a reality.
@@bloomnbury7387 Thank you for taking the time to read and reply, Rudranni. I'm still not sure what his thought process was like, but hopefully he is happy now.
@@celinehosea oh yeah my pleasure ✨
but this is just my opinion. Okay peace✌️
I read once that love for the first 13 months or so isn’t love
It is the honeymoon phase
Because your brain produces chemicals that make you feel in love and think that this person is “the one” for you
After this phase your heart and mind think about the other and if you really love him/her
Maybe he wasn’t in live with you, maybe his mind made him think so
Sorry that you had to live that
@@Hi-ub1gl did you mean 3 months or you meant to put 13?
this is the second time i come back to this video. I had to end a 3-year relationship at the beginning of this year. I loved her with all of my heart, but i eventually realized she did not. It was a strange relationship, our first one too. We were young, we went trough so much together. But i fell in love with someone that wasnt actually ''real''. I realized i have been spending 3 years with a completely different person, someone that drained my life and energy bit by bit. When i realized what kind of a person she really was, and what she was doing to me, i had to end it all. It was the most difficult decision of my life. Then came some really difficult months. I thinked about her, i remembered our moments together, but none of that was real, and none of that could came back. I became frustrated, i hurt myself out of anger more than one time. I wasnt angry with her, but with myself. I still loved her, and that crushed me even more, day by day. Im better now (relatively), and i started to realize that, as sisyphus says, ''it's for the better''. Im not happy it ended, im happy it happened, and that those few, real, good, pure moments in our past will stay there, eternally. In both our memories they're there, and i hope other pure and good moments can be created in the future with someone else. This whole comment is probably gonna get buried under countless others under this video, but even so if someone's reading this i wish you the best of happiness and love in your life. And if she is reading this, i loved you sunshine. I really did
I'm wishing you peace homie
The ending broke me 😭
i come back to this like a tradition every month. "i wanted to love you and i dont think I'll ever stop wanting to love you." hits home
it’s insane how this resonates with so many people, or maybe it isn’t that insane. We’re all just living the same lives in different vessels. Whoever reads this, you’re really not that alone.
Can confirm
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thank you
Thanks, maybe most of us experience this at one point but for some reason we don't even tell friends about it
i really do too
This video hits home. I needed to see this without knowing beforehand.
Yes
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this is honestly beautiful. reminds me of “perks of being a wallflower” the way it’s written.
Is that a book or something
@@izzyjp_it’s a film I’m not sure if it was a book before though.
@@dollphobicc1947 it was originally a book, then it got turned into a film.
shit. one of my biggest fears is what if my boyfriend and i will come to this point. everything's perfect now. but it's so perfect it's suspicious. and i've always been an overthinker.
Good luck, but honestly I would talk to him about it may help:)
Update?
Enjoy it while it lasts
That’s the scary thing that keeps your love alive and exciting. You never know when the last day will be, or when your last date will be. So for now, you just have to cherish every moment.
better to love and lose than to never lose at all
The love isn’t the passion, the love is the bond.
love has many names and should ultimately be used in all walks of form.
passion drives a person, both people having wonderful passion for each other is what makes them want each other and want to try.
I heavily agree with this. A relationship is not built on passion.
Jesus is love❤
Love is a lot of things. It's a big blob of a word of many different types that English I explicable refuses to have words for
wtf man I want my distant troubled greek dudes and european past century bohemians that had way too much time to think about life, I wasnt expecting a perfectly relatable modern day love struggle being lived right now by my man Sisiphus 55 :(
shit hits too hard damn, hope we all get better and be happy somehow
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Snap back to reality
stuck between wishing we were still together or whishing we had never met
"but i did it and you said it back"
that hit hard...
i miss you sana, you were something special.
It’s absurd how personal heartbreak feels yet we can relate so deeply.
I like to think the feeling is the same, but the circumstances surrounding it almost always seem to be so deeply personal it makes the feeling get applied to something personal.
This has to be one of the most relatable videos I've ever watched. Not only does it make me feel better and reliefed of my daily struggles, it also reflects the oh so perfect times I once had and still wish I'd have to only then come to the conclusion that everything that I loved so much only made everything more problematic. I love this video.
IS THERE SOMETHING BURNING HERE OR IS IT MEEEEEEE
Seeing the Daughters album cover in your pfp under this video only a week after i discovered the band, hits differently.
"The road is dark, the road is long, remember these are just the words to somebody else's song."
This city is an empty glass
I like your pfp
Maybe the sun waits for you to be told what to do
Who’s here from that reel?
Yeah
Me
Yea
which reel ...I forgot the person's insta id
..
Your mom
Who came from instagram reel?
Wsp
not me, what instagram reel
Whats a instagram reel
Oops 🤡
Same
Anyone else legitimately write like this in a relationship trying to be deep in thought and articulate your emotions and your partner just sends back "ok"
Same here bro you’re not alone
bro i say "ok" to my friends a lot now you're gonna make me not want to but i'll still have nothing else to say which is why i say "ok" in the first place
@@UwU-ok2jr ok
yep....
@@UwU-ok2jr "Okay, I understand" "Thank you for taking the time to tell me that" "I genuinely don't know what to say" "I need time to think this over" Are all way better options than just saying "ok". That can make you come off as disinterested.
I'm an essay-texter myself, and to me length signifies effort. It's like you saw someone taking the time to expose their heart to you, and responded with no interest or emotion (bc of lack of emojis, signifiers or punctuation). Just showing that you've seen someone's text isn't enough, actually say something. We want to know how you feel. If you don't know how you feel, then say that. Anything other than a vague "ok".
“I didn’t love you, I loved the feeling of loving you.” sounds like the way to put it.
U don’t understand how precious your comment is to me. I’ve been searching every single day, I never knew what was that feeling, and your comment made me realize this is exactly how I felt. I broke up with my gf 1 week ago and there was this feeling that it hurted so much but I finally understand it, I love the feeling of loving her, of having someone to dish out all that love, but deep down I knew we weren’t gonna work
he kept the sweater 🥹
I had watched this before, and I am watching it again. This feels so deeply personal, as if you are speaking my mind. The feelings, the texts at the end, the absence of closure from ones own self, even our perceptions about love,.. everything were the same.
Thank you for creating this, Sisyphus ♥️.
This was beautifully heart wrenching, but I felt like we weren't supposed to see this.
Yeah I was going to make a comment as well asking if it was suppose to be a private video. That being said he liked your comment so it's probably fine.
@@abbatrombonelol imagine the headlines: "Dude takes the trouble of animating 7 minutes worth of scripted video, only to keep it private" XD
@@leamubiu I mean, to be fair, many pieces of art have been made in private, with privacy and intimacy in mind.
But I believe Sisyphus just wanted to make a video on looking back at the first love
have you thought this about lovesongs?
@@asu8570 this is WAY more relatable and deeply touching than any love song to be honest. (Or any commercial one at least)
Rarely, if ever, do I watch a video on UA-cam more than once. It's just been 9 hours since this was uploaded and I've watched it 6 times already. Hits too deep. Never take it down, man. This was incredibly beautiful.
This is sweet
It is beautiful
fully agreed
Exactly how I feel
I feel just as hurt and healed after watching this. Hurt because it's exactly how it feels to miss her, but healed because at least I know someone out there understands the pain I could never put into words.
Thank you
My girlfriend, who has been in the military for the last half-year, recently left me after realizing that her feelings for me weren't there anymore. The distance that came with my time at uni and hers at "the edge of the world" in the military, became too much to handle -- and she fell out of love with me.
I remember seeing this video previously, thinking it was cute and heartbreaking. But now, on a re-watch in my current state, I sit broken. It was never easy for her when it came to being apart, I'm not mad and I can't blame her for it either - because somehow I'm not surprised that it went this direction. I'm just sad that I didn't *know* before it was to late. She had known it for a few months, even the week where we got to meet up, but couldn't say it before we were again separated by a countrys worth of distance.
I miss you, and I'm not sure I'll ever stop missing you either. You're on your journey where you must do what you must to be the person you want to be, and I'll be on mine trying to understand what went wrong and blaming myself because its easier to have something to get mad at. I loved you, even when you stopped saying it back, as much as I do now
I hope you heal❤
You will be alright brother , the pain will slowly fade away
It’s so painful being the person on the receiving end of this!! I can see him fading away and I know there’s absolutely nothing I can do and I keep searching for signs that he loves me even though I know they’re not there!!
It is painful especially when you are confused if you want him or you want the idea of him. I started looking for signs even if it wasn't meant to be! Made it all more confusing. It's hard since you want him but also you don't want him to see you as the one liking him if it makes sense! I feel you
PS hope you do well❤❤
Same, i keep asking why? I just can’t stop thinking about texting her or meeting with her. I miss hugging her so much
It's also really painful and difficult being on the initiating end. I felt like the biggest asshole in the world after breaking up. It was the first relationship for both of us and she really loved me but I somehow was never able to feel the same way about her.
The ending made my heart sink, because I think it’s fair to say that we’ve ALL had that one moment where we deeply want to say something to the person we love(d), but in the last moment we doubt if it matters or if they will care, and say something generic or vague to seem less hurt from the fallout of a relationship that felt perfect but realistically was not. This video was great, and very relatable. Thank you for making this
funny how i felt so isolated and alone when i was in this exact situation, then just watching my favourite youtuber and finding out he also has gone through the same shit, this makes me feel a lot better, thank you sisyphus55
I started watching this video a bit ago and had to pause it. I’ve come back to it after a few months of growing and have finally finished it. It’s honestly so beautiful and made me cry.
for anyone reading this: If you think you're falling out of love with someone, don't panic!
First off, you were already dating for a long time before you fell in love, so obviously loving someone isn't a requirement to date, and not loving someone (on it's own) is not a good enough reason to stop dating!
A lack of love can be caused by many things including mental health! If you think you might be depressed, then yeah, no shit, there's gonna be periods where you don't love anybody, or anything!
Love comes and goes, but it doesn't mean you should panic and cut things off. As long as you're still having fun with someone then there's no reason you should gatekeep yourself from a relationship with them!
Obvious caveats:
You start to find them unbearable.
You love someone else (this is a bit tricky)?
You don't like them at all and discovered the relationship was / is solely about something else like infatuation, evading loneliness, or just sex.
You think they are abusive / manipulative
These are valid reasons to break up with someone once you stop loving them. Losing "love" by itself is not a good enough reason to pull yourself away from a good friend!
thank you
I don't think I am, I'm just scared I will. and I'm still panicking.
but thank you a lot
Well said
Heed these words fr, I made that mistake (5 years ago) and I'm still catching myself wanting to text her. Don't date your best friends, its too risky. One conversation and you'll never see them again
@@lysergidedaydream5970 i feel this so much… i am so scared that i won’t want this anymore some day that i forget whether i want it now
love is a daily choice, if you love based off how youre feeling then youre not ready for a ltr trust me!!!
Exurb1a once said, "Nothing can ever ruin this."
Edit: 4k likes in three weeks and an interesting discussion about rape. The best UA-cam comment I've ever posted. Not proud.
DON'T REMIND USSSSS
exurb1a’s a shitty person :/
i loved his old videos but nothing hits the same after hearing about the allegations against him
@@isaimtz-cmcho688 what are the allegations against him/where can i find the source of them? just curious bc i watch a lot of his videos
@@isaimtz-cmcho688 man he is not a shity perseon nonebody is perfect and all there is are alegations so nothing is proven and he is free until proven guilty
@@tomparker2310 thank you! will be reading thru her site
i had a good, long relationship during the pandemic and this video speaks to me on such a personal level. it's been 2 years and i still feel like this. i always ask myself if it is, indeed, for the better. i dream of her sometimes, remembering those times when we were in bed together or cooking pasta or singing together really fuckin terribly. the nights i spent after we broke up were really painful and the silence does become too much. we split up because of personal issues and we ended up hurting each other so goddamn much.
thank you for making this video. i hope we all get better and cherish the first love we've ever had.
This is very relatable and I am relieved to know that I am not the only one who feels this way. Days ago I ended a relationship just because of this situation and since then I have felt very bad because I didn't understand what was happening to me and I couldn't find the right words to express it. I'm glad the youtube algorithm showed me this, it's what I needed.
I’m in love with this girl, and as per usual, she doesn’t feel the same way, and the only thing that hurts more than knowing that she doesn’t feel the same way, is the fact that I know eventually I probably won’t feel the same way either, even though it hurts to love her, I never want to stop loving her
Maybe she's not the one for u
U gotta move on bro . That's the way it is sometimes !
aww that's so sad. :'(
I feel you. There's this girl and she is awesome and I like her very much. But she has her plans to go and eventually well lose contact and it hurts very much.
@✧ Shroomi ✧frankly idk what love is. I think I fall on the aro spectrum but like maybe it's this care for a person and u want to be with them and you love their vibe maybe. That's that for ME.
same here i dont think i can
I love the idea of you sysiphus. I may not ever know you or meet you, hell if we saw eachother on the street we may not get along, but the you that this video and the rest of your channel creates in me is wonderful, caring, and authentic. I don't and can't really love you over the internet, but the idea of you is something to behold
Who needs therapy, when you have funny stickman on the Internet, amirite?
@525 But I like Captain America :(
@@empty_set_ exactly
If i ever meet him in a street, our RESONANCE will break the road and destroy the city.
This gave me chills throughout my whole body the second you started talking, I got the weird feeling in my gut and my chest felt just got ran over. From the visuals to the music to your voice and the title. Absolutely beautiful sadly I dont think I am going to be able to watch this whole video. I bet it's as beautiful the whole way through just as it is in the first 10 seconds.
I don't know how or why, but your videos are uncannily relatable
it is heartwarming to know someone else has experienced something like I have.
Wtf, I came here for philosophy videos and now I’m leaving crying
If philosophy doesn’t make you weep, you’re doing it wrong
Me too 😂😂
I thought there was gonna be a meme
Right
😂😂
"And I don't think I'll ever stop wanting to love you."
that hit hard. ima go cry now.
Ps.
I miss you Dani.
Wait for me!!
@@maxd0898 yay now im not alone :)
I literally started crying when he said that
ive really wanted to fall out of love from this person i love so much but no matter how much i try i cant
That really does hurt because I feel like we exchanged those words to each other, and now it feels like we're miles apart, it didn't take long for her words to mean nothing to her, yet I still about them from time to time, still wanting to love her.
This video seems to be the key I've been looking for to get over my last break up, it allowed me to kind of have an understanding on why he left- and literally everything
thank u sm
stumbled upon your channel due to chance, butit feels like i needed to see this. Its so hard to put my feelings into words but this video really helped me feel some closure, thank you & i hope if youre still struggling mentally its over sooner rather than later.
People don't realize that love is not a feeling. The feeling is simply infatuation with some other feelings sprinkled in. After about 6 months to a year sometimes longer that feeling starts to really dwindle. Sometimes things like the attention safety and pleasure of sex can even displace the infatuation. Love is choosing to stay with them. Love is when you choose someone even when you have negative feelings for them. Thats what marriage is all about. Going past feelings. The feelings can even return actually. Its just it takes literally no effort to make them in the beginning. They are just there. Literally the moment you see each other. You are flooded with infatuation for them and they are for you. That is not love. A common goal in life. A mission to reach. Loving that person better. Making a better life together. Having a vision that stretches to the grave. Those keep love strong. The feelings come back. They come and go. My wife and I have lost feelings but gained them back over and over. But the most powerful intimacy a person can give is shared when you make it through those moments and reunite the feelings you once had. Staying loyal despite the hardship. Fighting regardless of the feelings. These really show the mark of true love.
Well said man
TRUTH
I've already cried watching the video where he said that he wants to love her, and reading your comment makes me in tears even more.
I really appreciate that you write this all down and I wish for the best to both of you. I hope that I can keep these in mind and continue to mature in the relationship.
thank you, peanut butter. i will remember this comment :)
Peanut Butter... I've finally found you...
he sent this video to me, before we broke up, and watching it made me start to think too hard about our relationship. he said he didn’t mean it as him feeling this way too, but why would he send this one to me if he didn’t? i slowly began to pull away. i’d force myself to not text him all day, and didn’t tell him things i wanted to tell him. i started to think i wasn’t enough, and like we weren’t meant for each other, even though before watching it, i thought we were soulmates. we haven’t spoken to each other at all in weeks. i’m sorry things ended that way. i hope you’re happy, and aren’t sad about it anymore. thanks for being so good to me, andre
it's been another one of those silent nights, and maybe it's worse since we reopened the hurt between us. i find myself coming back to this video and thinking about everything that happened. i had told you i watched this channel before and when the video came out soon after i immediately shared it with you. there are many things here that resonated with me at the time. after i rewatched it with you, you asked if we were drifting apart and i promised i didn't feel that way. the distance didn't help and it gave you a reason to doubt that could have been avoided.
we talked about infatuation and love and i couldn't explain the fears i had whether you would accept me as i was when it came down to it. yet being together you let me be the child i couldn't be when i was younger brought me so close to you, and these are the memories i hold most dear: reading picture books at the library on a sunny day, eating cinnamon pretzels with nacho cheese at the mall, making crazy scenarios of how many cats we could possibly have in the house, going to the park and being scared to fall off scooters and bikes, holding me close as we would take a nap.
meeting you 8 years ago has been the best thing to happen, it took me away from things going on at home. i was amazed with the familiarity i felt with you, and i even began to trust you. trust was something new to me, maybe it was for you too. as we grew old enough, i knew i had to do everything i could to set up a life for ourselves, away from the past. it feels strange now being here without you. i truly wanted to get through our hardships and start a new chapter with you. i don't know where to go from here, i get too scared to move on and leave you behind.
on these nights where things get too quiet and i'm left in my own head, i really do scream. scream every feeling that i can feel so i don't drown. we were so close we felt like we were the same person, we matched together perfectly. i don't know what to do without you, but maybe that's exactly what it is. you wanted to be your own person, and maybe i need to be my own person too. i can't say that i am happy, and that i'm not sad about it anymore, but i'm glad for the time we spent together, and for the opportunity to have you in my life. thank you for letting me be a part of yours, courtney
@@TheLightningpenguin thank you for helping me be who i am today, for always being there for me, and for being the best person i know. i’m sorry for reopening things. i know it was wrong, but i just needed to know what would happen, if you would be there. i’m sorry. i’m sorry for hurting you. i know a comment apology isn’t enough, but it’s what i’ve got. i’m sorry. thank you for everything, andre
@@courtguerra2002 don’t give up on each other :(
🙁🙁
you guys :((( !!!! i cried reading this thread of comment. i wish my ex was like this to me. I'll never know, I'll never know..
Holy shit this was literally the most relatable video I’ve ever seen everything was so accurate and it just explained so many feelings that I didn’t know how to comprehend
This brought out emotion I didn’t think I had in me. Thank you for being venerable with us, and putting so many feelings into words.
I just had a mental breakdown and I was crying waterfalls and thinking about *it* every 2 minutes. When I finally stood up and checked youtube, this was the first video recommended by to me. I immediately clicked on it and half-way through watching this... It comforted me so much, I felt like someone was telling me their own story about their heartbreak and somehow felt some empathy coming from this guy. I don't know if this is just purely a coincidence, or some miracle type shit...but holy fuck, I was stunned. I haven't dated anyone, nor had a heartbreak. I have my own different issues but this video gave off the same feeling of comfort I needed to have. I was crying and biting onto the pillows so my parents wouldn't hear me for 2 hours straight...... Thank you, whoever you are.. Seriously.
Everything will get better, i promise ❤️ stay strong
yeah, your phone is listening to you. Not even a joke, same thing happened to me.
@@mickelamanuel7330 agree completely on the phone eavesdropping part. It's funny how we've just taken this device, that is connected to the internet, literally spying on us for granted. Fuck cyberpunk, we're already goddamned androids man!
I hope you feel better eventually and I want to share some advice in case it might help you because it helped me somewhat: “Tell the people that you know care. If you know your parents or a good friend care then tell them. They will try and help you don’t hesitate on it or it might get worse”
This, shall pass too. It's time anyways
I caught myself in a state of idealizing a potential relationship recently. When I realized things weren't going to turn out the way I hoped I was devastated with the consequences of looking stupid or at least feeling I did. But more so I was frustrated with allowing myself back into that self sabatoging cycle of believing I can exert my perception of someone onto them and it will somehow not be selfish and ultimately beneficial for both of us. I was thankful I could catch myself being wrong soon enough to quell the hurt but your video came out just in time to fully affirm how I felt. Thank you so much, buddy. You always come to bat for us.
I can’t describe how much I relate your comment, man. I’ve been in the exact same situation, idealizing a possibility. It’s ALL in my head yet it feels so bad
Bro. I feel you. I have to constantly catch myself on this aswell.
I was somehow always put off watching your videos and somehow always they find me at the perfect time, completely aligning with what I need to hear, with what makes me feel seen. it makes me feel not wrong for feeling things the way I do
I NEEDED to see this thank you so much for such a beautiful video,I thought I felt alone going through it,that no one else has been through the same struggles that I have,but now that I've seen this I know I'm not alone,and I guess the only way I can see if things get better is time
you can love someone and not end up with one another - it’s the kind of love story we rarely talk about, and also the one that i, too, am enduring
This hit me right in the heart. I'm trying not to weep in front of my family. This pretty much encapsulates my feelings right now. I'm trying to move on, seeing other people but I'd be lying if I didn't think about her during silent nights or when I pass our favorite hangout spots. We broke it off last July in the middle of the pandemic after three years of mostly good times, trips and experiences.
Anyway, love the video, wasn't expecting to feel this hard today.
it's ok to weep. this is now an official sisyphus 55 crying sesh
:')
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@@Sisyphus55 i'd say it's important to weep
@@bill8383 beauty.
@@seatyourself7082 I guess beauty is both momentary and forever in a sense ..
OMFG STOP. I was so invested and so involved and when the end hit. And all those sweet words and meaningful thoughts, got deleted to type a shorter less personal message. I FELT that in every way I think i ever could. This video explains so much strangely relatable stuff. It’s comforting almost.
My exact words said in a random video i decided to click and ended up leaving me in tears, its so heartbreaking that we wish we didn’t have that thing in us that stops us from being brave and allows us to express our emotions to whom where the first people that we would run to for emotional support.
Hopefully for the better
I feel like a lot of us been in the same situation, that "u deserve to be happy" really hurts like a bullet
this was beautiful. i think i sometimes forget that love actually happens. theres so much representation of superficial infatuation and it's rare for me to see people who care about someone because they are the way they are rather than what they do for you. i hope one day i can have a connection like this with someone even if there isn't a "happily ever after"
It’s one of the worst pains, being so connected to someone and when it ends you think you’ll never be able to find someone like that again. It’s made me believe that marriage is a bit of a hoax too
well are you interviewing every couple you see? I would hope it's not too rare that would be sad
This video got me crying rn because my relationship screams so eerily alike with the only difference being I love this girl with everything, both of us having bad childhoods the word love holds no significant meaning to her other than a word used to express how she or I likes something more than usual, we’ve never exchanged the word but that’s just me not wanting to make her feel trapped or like saying it makes everything more serious from then on, I care for her more than anyone I’ve cared about in a way that makes me profound, of course she’s beautiful but I feel a human connection that I try to compare to other experiences I’ve had and none of them match up. I’ve thought about telling her honestly and dealing with the consequences or giving it with the preface that it can be a one-off thing that is solely for her to know how I feel and make of it what she will, but this girl is so meaningful to me without her even knowing it and whenever I look her in the eyes I say the words I love you and I don’t know what follows that besides her gaze and the fact nothing else seems more important to me at this moment like she’s building highways in my head that I’ll hopefully never see bare of cars driving through, although if I did I would understand it was of my own fault somehow because there’s no way her unknowing complexity could ever waver my thoughts about her, she’s perfect
you will have it, you will have it; but it will make you shallow if it doesn't last, you know?
It does happen.. i never believed in love and marriage scares me cuz of my childhood.. but what happened is that , once i decided that i no longer want to complicate life ,i just want a peaceful life doing what makes me happy,in fact I've never been in a relationship even though i want to cuz i know that i don't love them i just want to love them cuz of what they can offer me..then last years, out of nowhere, i fell in love , i was worried cuz it happens so quickly and it's a person i found online.. and for someone who have never been in love ,it was both magical and terrifying.. after a while, i noticed some changes in my thought patterns.. I don't think about what she can offer me, instead, i think about what i can do to support her dreams and passion, how I can make her smile , basically what i can do in order to make her feel loved and appreciated.. what makes it better is that, that's the first time i found someone who's similar to me but also the opposite of me .. we have similar passions and mindset, but unlike me , she's confident and fearless where I'm more timid and insecure..my 10yr friendship was over cuz one of us want to move on and be happy while the other one only feels more connected when we're miserable together,it was bonded out of shared painful experiences.. so the fact that me and my girl bond over those positive things instead of our negative sides does make a difference..
i’ve watched this at least 8 times and everytime i rewatch it’s a new feeling it’s beautiful and sad relatable though
Man your videos really provide a perspective I’ve needed.
thank you
Everybody talking about their ex...then there's me who's always been single lol
Don't feel bad for being single. Find individual happiness, and then you'll meet others who share similar interests/passions!
@@swimmyricky Hey man don't worry. I don't feel bad about being single. Appreciate the comment though.
@@mr.darkside35 just take the compliment god damn it
@@futuristiccat5636 it wasn’t a compliment-
YES
"especially in those nights where the silence becomes too much. that's when i'll think of you and regret it all." i am sobbing.
Had to crying at 4 am 😭😭
You sir helped me go thru my depression and problems,thank you for making this kinds of videos and existing
damn the timing of this video with personal events is scary
Thought I was the only one 😳
Yep
yeahhh this is so weird bc it got recommended to me at like… the perfect worst time
you have no idea man
The fact that so many people relate to this, and not in some "deep-fake" way, just shows you how humans are similar, no matter the race, and horoscopes are just B.S. no offence.
The worst thing is when you feel like it’s a personal failure because someone else doesn’t love you. You know it’s not their fault or yours, it’s a combination of a million different factors out of your control, but you still can’t help but think you weren’t enough. Not enough to keep their attention, not enough to satisfy them, not deserving. On the flip side of the coin, if you’re the one falling out of love, things are just as painful, too real. I need to remember this feeling.
This opened all the vulnerable parts. The part that you try and hide and for the life of you don't know why. Putting into words the things your heart wants to say but just don't know how to say it. Thank you for this ):(
I like to revisit this every once in awhile. Every time it hurts less and less, and recently I've come to remember you with a smile rather than tears. I'd like to think that, in another life, in a different timeline we'd still be friends. I Hope wherever you are, you're safe and happy. I miss you, stranger.
Could feel the love through the screen, thank you
Wanting to love someone, to escape the emptiness and suffocating isolation, and to find pleasure in the possibility of liberating someone else from that too, that's just my experience. This video reminded me of such a continuing pattern in my mind.
Hoping to find a feeling of being loved in trying to be someone who is that person for someone else.
Thing is, nobody is bettered that way, and truthfully, no one wanted it to be that way.
Just commit to love, don't question it and you will see that you are able to love anybody if they give their love back. The thing is if you live in denial and have clogged up feelings that will tranfer to your partner aswell. So just fuck your second thoughts and go for it.
@@IndicatedGoodLife hell yea
@@IndicatedGoodLife All hail our lord and saviour!
This is a beautiful, love is so beautiful, i feel like you summarized it even though no can could ever possibly summarize it, this is a work of art and I hope you both stay friends
this was so beautifully vulnerable to experience. definitely made me understand some people who i'm no longer in contact with that i thought left to hurt me. no. sometimes they leave to be better and do better for us. love is such an enigmatic concept.
Me reading the title: omg am I blushing?
Also me: a stranger and a man xd
got some news for ya
@@theprogrammer32 the Block Of Wood speaks axiomatic truths
@@theprogrammer32 would’ve been better off with a noose but thanks anyway
@@freiabereinsam- dont worry Im right there with ya buddy
@@theprogrammer32 much obliged pal
Hey man, just because you dont feel some fuzzy feeling in your belly after a couple months doesn’t mean you don’t love her. Love is about the ability to grow together.
Not the romanticized idealistic shit you see on media that may be influencing you to think its about some kinda feeling. And that once you stop feeling that feeling you ‘don’t belong’ with this person anymore. That ain’t it imo.
I think that he is smart enough to understand it. And I think he was talking about actually being able to love someone.
@@hero9402 ok fair enough. He did also say she suffered from anxiety, and unfortunately sometimes these things can complicate relationships, if the other person isn’t getting the help and support they need as well. But i’m just making assumptions.
The term “ just wasn’t feeling it anymore “ just sounds so vague to me. But it’s not for me to understand anyway.
@@Yoyozo663 yeah I get it I thought the same thing as you too that maybe they have Idea that love is perfect and where expecting the impossible. But then I was like but He is too smart for that he does understand everything. And things would have been really bad (I mean like emotionally not connecting and things like that) between them and there wasn't any chance of it getting better.
So yeah I understand what you mean.
I think it's idealistic to think that you can just continue to love someone forever and that clinging to this thought will just end up damaging your relationship with the other person
For real, I thought this video was bullshit and it’s what happens when you watch too much romance movies
"You were perfect, compassionate, accepting, weird in a uniquely beautiful way. You were mycompanion to so many adventures and memories: moments that I'll revisit with a certain tinge of sweet and bitter." Hit me like a truck
Factss
you never will truly forget your first love. when that love is real, its so hard to let go.
Hey, Sisyphus, idk if you'll ever see this message, but to sum up all that I want to say is...
Thank you. This video was all too relatable to me and bought me some strange sort of closure. I've never thought someone else could feel the exact thing I was. This struck a place in my soul, and I'm so thankful that you created this masterpiece. Thank you. Never delete this chief.
It feels weird to watch this after breaking up with my girlfriend, i don’t know anybody would even care to read this but i feel like my heart pierced and its for this exact reason. I think she just lost her love for me after not seeing eachother for 2 months. But how can one lose love? I may be saying these in sadness but i can’t stop loving her.
its infatuation like fall out of love one day waking up u dont love the person
@Sakurr Because sometimes you find that person who sticks with you for life, and it's worth going through the pain to find that. Personally I had just one breakup in highschool which probably catalyzed a seemingly permanent depression in me. I haven't dated anyone 12 years since then as I felt every relationship wouldn't work out if I was even worth a relationship to begin with. So I'd avoid flirty situations. I even found someone who was a really great match for me around 5 years ago, got her number, and ghosted her like a moron thinking she deserved better and it wouldn't work out anyways. I got stuck in a cycle of learned helplessness, and also had this idea in my head that I shouldn't date anyone unless I was happy all the time. I would hear things online like if you cant make yourself happy, how can you make others?
Well now I know all of that is stupid. While I can see the benefits of staying single, growing up, learning what you want, and avoiding potential relationships that would have caused heartbreak, it gets a lot harder to meet people when you get older. You also eventually might get to the point where you feel the heartbreaking loneliness which can be just as emotional as a breakup. So go out there and date, but be smart about it. There are plenty of people who are interesting in their own ways, and thinking other relationships are bound to go as sour as your previous one is a delusion.
@@Angela-vm3kc infatuation has always been so interesting to me. I've dated a total of 2 people, and the first one was absolutely infatuated with me. Until it turned out I was human, and my flaws were too much. Infatuation doesn't last, and isn't love and a lot of people don't know that I think. I'm worried the same thing might happen with the person I'm currently dating. I see love differently from my ex, and it takes more time to form for me. My current partner adores me but I'm afraid that when those rose-tinted glasses fall off he'll realize I'm not good enough anymore, like my ex did. I'm not actually, perfect. But, it's worth a try, isn't it? To find someone who can maybe see things the way you do, to find safety and comfort in someone. To change and to change someone, for better and for worse. Love is really just an interesting topic
This happened to me too. We broke up about a month ago, and we were going long distance. I was completely fine with it and I even felt like I grew closer to her, even if I saw her every 2 weeks at the most. We broke up and said that she lost the connection about a month before she brought it up. It hit hard because I know she suffered through being with me just because she didn’t want me to hurt, but all I wanted was for her to be happy even if it means hurt for me. Ive been in relationships before her, but nothing really hit harder than this break up. Idk why, she’s not the first person I loved, but all I think about is how she just hung up on me, saying “I’ll see ya when I see ya”. The last thing I ever heard her say. I hope you’re doing ok now man, I understand how it feel. But we get through it
When they leave it’s crazy to see how much they really left behind, the ideas that maybe even separated you is now the ideas you choose to believe in subconsciously.
Damn hadnt teared up like this in a while.. it's crazy how we as humans tend to follow almost the same path in everything.. especially regarding feelings and the way we react to them.
But yeah, its conforting to know wveryone goes through the same shit and that itll eventually get better but at the same time its kinda scary to feel all that pain and loneliness.. anyway.. wish you the best and yeah, txs for the video 😢😊
Broke up with my my gf two days ago. Relationship lasted two years and it was special. Feeling lost and anxious now. Vid didn't help with that but thanks for sharing.
Take care of yourself
Much love friend, we'll get out of this alive, cheers
Things will get better eventually.
When one door closes, another door opens.
Stay strong bud, I believe in ya
That's why your romantic partner needs to be your best friend first
A true friendship never fades, even when the romantic feelings do
for real.
Nah bruh you made me sad
Still is, and hope she will
This is so true. I've seen a lot of married couples who didn't really act too lovey dovey all the time and after being exposed to such both in real life and on TV far too much I came to a conclusion: the perfect romantic partner is just a best friend who you fuck with from time to time. It's kind of why the idea of having a "female best friend" while being married or my wife having a "male best friend" while married to me sounds off to me.
It fades as well, we were best friends, it didn’t stop her to leave me
I can't agree completely. Love is an action, sacrifice, patience, care, selflessness, everything that gets your out of your comfort for the comfort of someone else. I have loved but idk. I can't explain. It feels as if I have imagine a life w every girl I have loved and I would s
it's one of those nights where the silence becomes too much. i miss her so much it's almost unbearable. i miss our conversations and how she'd comfort me during one of the darkest times of my life. now she's gone, not completely gone, but she's not really here anymore, living her own life and dealing with her own problems, and im also living my own life and dealing with my own stuff and having fun with other people, but when it's dark at night, i can't help but remember her and how talking to her used to be the most exciting part of my whole day, and i just miss her so much. i wish i could turn back time and enjoy everything again. it just hasn't hit me that we're not part of each other's daily routine anymore
Oh my god. This is so jarringly similar to a situation I'm currently in, and it only became eerily more similar as you expressed your internal monologue. From the idealism to the disheartenment and regret.
Are our experiences uncannily similar, or are some aspects of love and our feelings surrounding it human universals? I suspect somewhere in-between... Anyway, video was a banger, lol
Not just you! Me too!
My guy moved far away temporarily. Loss of passion. There wasnt even anything wrong in the relationship. Hell things were perfect and maybe too perfect. That idealized relationship felt empty. the distance from covid dwindled that utopia into a dystopia.
Most human experiences are shared by everyone around us. We get so wrapped up in our lives and stories, we forget that there are eons and eons of civilizations filled with people who have been through the same. We forget that there are people right next to us who share our pain and pleasures.
me too
HUMANITY
M O R P H I C R E S O N A N C E
This is like a youtubers version of a breakup song. Fucking masterpiece.
Watching this brought up a lot of emotions for me. I can really relate to trying hard to move on and see other people but then the thoughts of the one you are trying to move on from still come back. While the loss of the relationship is heartbreaking, I am forever grateful to her for the memories I got to make with her. I wish I could thank for helping me want to be better but I am too scared to know what her response would be.
HB I doubt you'll see this but thank you and I'm sorry
this is actually the first time i went through the whole video and watched and _listened._ i've come across too many times to remember, and always clicked off. i don't know why. but i finally watched it. and i cried. it's beautiful, it hurts.
this is so raw and really captures all the emotions of a breakup beautifully. it really brought me to the realization that we don’t fear being in pain, we fear being alone in pain (at least for me)
I have been ugly sobbing for way too long after watching this. This feels so similar to what my ex told me. “I loved you for as long as I could,” and “you know you deserve better, though.” It’s been seven months and it hurts as much as the day after he left. He thinks it’s for the better, and he might be right. I am still barely handle the loss
@Sakurr
I’m so sorry for that, to you both. It will get better, I swear. This may not be the best advice.. But I will say this. You don’t have to jump up and try to re-discover what life truly is/means to you just yet. Take a resting period, as it’s okay to rest a little. Eventually however, bring yourself back whenever you feel ready to. Find your balance, your ground, and water those plants in your mind again. Things will be better! If you struggle to do so, seek professional help. I’m a she, and I had my first heartbreak in June of 2021, which things got a lot better for me eventually. Trust in the process, and I can really understand you. I hope you feel better soon. Good luck :)
Hey man I just wanted to say thank you for these videos. I recently just got pushed away by a girl I really cared about. It never was official because the night I asked her she laughed it off playfully and later said she realized then that she still liked her ex and ended it a few days later. We only talked for a little over a month and I fell way to quickly but being with her really made it feel like my sense of what love feels like feel real for the first time. I loved everything about being with her, I even loved spending time with her family. So the day she ended I immediately felt so empty knowing it was all over, not just with her but also my relationship with her family and dog. I gotta say your videos have hit spot on the feelings I felt initially and the weekend alone that followed. I think what hurts the most about it all was that I knew all along that it wouldnt last, I dreamed about spending my life with her but the truth was I knew it had an expiration date, I leave for basic training with the Army next july, so the knowing that even if she somehow decided she wanted me back I would have to feel this again crushed me. Anyway sorry for the rant and again thank you for these videos, they’ve really truly helped me process it all and work through it.
this is so well expressed
and so beautiful
made me remind of someone
This made me cry