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My Domestic Violence Story | The Ending No One Expected.
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- Опубліковано 16 лют 2023
- Today I am opening up about my domestic violence story for the first time in 10 years. I never had a bruise or a hospital visit. Domestic Violence looks so much different than we see in the media.
Thank you all so much for watching and I really hope this video helped inspire you to start your own journey WHATEVER that may be!
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I would wait until my husband was asleep and then would pack a box. Every night (and take it to storage on my work lunch hour the next day after hiding it in my trunk). Knowing that I was packing was the only way I could breathe.
I packed my whole house and he never noticed. And then I rented a house and called him and told him I was gone. He had been so so so emotionally abusive.
It was 15 years ago and I still wake up every morning with a grin on my face and joy in my heart. I left. I left. I left!!!!!
Your joy at your freedom is palpable. I am so happy for you and proud of you ❤❤❤❤❤❤😊😊😊😊😊
I can hear yr freedom. So well done
Great job, your secretive packing then moving. The 'rule' is, never tell the abuser you are leaving, because things can go very bad, really quickly.
Beautiful, moving in silence.
I had to wait 3 months to get my pay out before I could afford to leave my abusive husband. I was terrified the whole time but had no where to go. He had been breaking my possessions so I was afraid to go to a shelter because all of my belongings would be destroyed if I left them behind. So I bought 2 key locked door knobs and installed them on to the doors of 2 rooms and moved all my belongings in to those 2 rooms. I also slept there. Husband was furious and threatened to kick the door down. NONE of his possessions were in either room. I told him to go ahead and kick the door in and I would photograph the damage and present it in court and the judge would surely give me a much better settlement than what I had agreed to. It worked, and I got through those months and got my financial settlement. Seven years since I left and I would NEVER go back!!!!
What's even worse is when everyone else thinks the guy is so sweet and loving and takes such good care of you and you just want to scream out...how is everyone so blind. 😢
Exactly the same thing that happened to my dsughter. He was liked by everyone and nobody believed her. Even though seperated he still treats her very bafly
this was me with my ex, he is a very social person so when we broke up all his friends and everyone assumed I was at fault bc they didn't know what he put me through behind closed doors.
Exactly
@@outroseok same here
So true.
Verbal abuse leaves no physical marks but leaves behind the kind of marks that last long after the person is gone!
I was married for 13 years to an emotionally abusive man. We married when I was 19. In 13 years we lived in 11 places and he had 9 different jobs. We screamed at each other every single day. I brought him to the ER more than once to have wall plaster dug out of his fists. No one knew and they all thought we were the perfect couple. I was so insecure that I thought he was the best I deserved. He shoved me onto the bed hard and I hit my head on the footboard hard enough to cause a large lump. That was it. Somehow I knew that would have been the start of more. I’m now 67 years old and I remember the abuse like it was yesterday. Thankfully at 35 I found a man who treats me like gold. We’ve been married for 32 very happy years!
Let's take a moment for all the women & children devastated by men's violence. Especially those who were murdered 😢
Also women who are violent as well!
😢😢😢
Abuse can look so different than bruises. I struggled with that too.
When the people who love you tell you that the person you're about to make a commitment to is not what you think; listen to them.
That's a big problem. All too often they don't listen.They can't hear you.
I never realized that DV could be emotional abuse until I was out of the relationship. No bruises either, just a decade of emotional abuse,gaslighting, and manipulation. Thankfully I’m in a much better place now ❤️
I am also a DV survivor. I don’t know if you will actually see this but I want to tell you with all of my being that I am SO SORRY THIS HAPPENED TO YOU. People don’t know what to say when they hear these types of things… they don’t want to believe that it is possible. They secretly want us to be lying or exaggerating… because nobody wants to hear the truth. I hear you, I see you and I believe you ❤.
@ninijellybeanie6853, I agree with you 100%, coming from a dv survivor myself. Libby, I hear you in every way!! God bless you both.
@@LoriPlourde-vb1xs hugs to you!! ❤️
Violence is not only physical, psychological violence is even more destructive...
Controlling behavior, insults that are thinly veiled become more open, your sense of self gets bruised and they take advantage of that. Thank God I got out
@@chrissy24-7 Me too
Don't forget financial abuse
We are all vulnerable to abuse. If it happens, tell someone right away. Do not hide it! Proud of you.
It’s incredible how almost identical our stories are! IDENTICAL! from talking keys, purse, phone, making threats, abuse in a way with no proof. Always had to be out, the pushing too hard.. getting pregnant when you were thinking of ending it. Almost everything!
I’m 66 years old and grew up with abusive parents. I was frequently bruised, but no one noticed. I will never understand how people can not notice.
Im 58 and your story was my story 35 years ago. I had 3 children and stayed 15 years. He went to prison for domestic violence against me and the kids and i left for good. I eventually got remarried and we never looked back. Your story resonated so much with me. You’re so strong. Thank you for sharing your story and letting people know these situations are more common than most people know❤
There are ALWAYS SIGNS at the beginning….job loss, dragging you around/moving around, asking you to do sign a loan, etc are all signs of instability.
I used to work in a domestic violence shelter. It was so frustrating and difficult to witness women, with their children and some
without, still be in contact with their abusers, while seeking shelter away from them, only to return to them later. I’m so happy for your peace and willingness to be honest with the world, as other men and women need to be educated and see by your example that they can survive without that so called loving partner, and be 100 percent better off without the fear, conditional love and financial support. You did it and they too can do it. So happy for you and your child to be safe and free and learn that any kind of abuse is not be an acceptable way to live. Keep telling your story.❤
You dodged a bullet from him. I was there and I am so proud of you facing it all!
My friend lives with an abuser and that just breaks my hart. Every time I remind her that she can take her 2 kids and come live with me for a while, but she's not ready to do that:( I hope, she will at some point. I'm so proud of you, girl. I know how difficult it was to leave him.
I hope she will do that too, but when she feels safe. She's lucky for a patient friend like you. Some people give up. There are DV agencies that will help you help her make a plan for emergencies (of course, calling 911 is first if it's an absolute emergency.)
@@carenlissner454 thank you so much. At the country where I live it's more complicated to get help, but I'll look up the options.
I'm so glad you have found a partner who loves you. My childhood was traumatic because my mother remarried a narcissistic b@*$t@rd and never left him.😢
He was a sociopath with narcissistic traits as narcissism is part of the sociopathic makeup. My dad is a professionally diagnosed sociopath who has abused his way through 3 wives and gone to prison for sexual abuse of a minor twice. I was his first daughter and victim, but back in the 70s the police simply said it was a domestic affair, thus did nothing. Laws changed by the time he exploited a step daughter in 1990.
Being charming and mirroring his victim of choice is a part of the oackage. Once they have properly caught and secured their victim then they begin breaking them down. I believe this is why the abuse ramps up once we are pregnant.
My mom has BPD with covert Narcissistic traits.
I grew up an emotional train wreck thus rejected all opportunities for a relationship with non abusive young men (they felt boring to me) and thus married a guy and experienced a relationship similar to the one described in this video, sans the obvious cheating. I'm confident my ex spouse did cheat but not in the blatant manner of this guy. But the abuse cycle hits very close to home.
My escape came after a 7 year path of emotional healing on myself. I first had to grieve the pain and trauma of my childhood and continue on a path of becoming independent with some self confidence until I was emotionally self secure enough to leave.. I made my final escape after 17 years of marriage.
It seems that it’s that break from each other that allows you to step back and see what you have been accepting, without realizing how ugly things have become.
Do NOT feel sad about his suicide! I went through something similar, although , as far as I know, he’s still alive. It’s been 38 years and I still have nightmares. I had two sons from a previous marriage and he took advantage of how bad I felt about myself from the divorce. We had a son together who he used as a weapon when I didn’t do what he wanted me to do. I finally had enough and went to a community college to get a better education so I could get a good job. Obviously, my being independent didn’t go over very well. He would use his middle finger and poke me in the middle of my breasts where no one could see. I moved out with my 11 year old son(my other sons had joined the service and were gone). I got a good job and put my son through college. We are strong and resilient!
Your husband taking his life wasn't your fault! He was a narcissist
He was a sociopath with narcissistic traits as narcissism is part of the sociopathic makeup. My dad is a professionally diagnosed sociopath who has abused his way through 3 wives and gone to prison for sexual abuse of a minor twice..
I’m so glad you shared this. Being bruised isn’t the only thing that means you’re abused. I’m sorry for your loss but thankful you are safe now.
Thank you for your courage in sharing your story.
It amazes me people think DV is only physical. I survived verbal, emotional and mental/psychological abuse. As a writer, you understand the impact of words, tone of voice, even the looks from your partner.
When I got into a DV survivors’ group; the internal work within ourselves when things started to escalate was so helpful (and you mentioned that at points) and shifted the focus from him (narcissistic) to myself. I could not change him, but over time I began to change my response to him. I worked on me.
I eventually did get out with my son in a safe & non-violent manner. His behaviour towards me worsened in that he tried to maintain control, but he didn’t succeed.
Our son still loves us both and is grown now. It was tough for a while, but the more I saw my ex’s behaviour towards me, the better I felt about my decision to leave, so my son wasn’t exposed to a toxic home environment any more.
No ones ever talked about it like this before. My ex too knew exactly how to hurt and terrify without ever leaving a mark. The eye contact. Daring me to leave…. Big hug from one survivor to another. I see you. ❤️
You just told my story. To a tee!! All the way to the self harm! Except, my ex lived and tormented us for the next 12 years!! The ONLY reason he has stopped is because he lost one of his legs. These personality disorders are no joke!! They are scary, violent, vindictive and harmful!!! I’m so glad you and son didn’t have to endure anymore than you did. ❤
Having been on the receiving end of both types of abuse, I can tell you a million years later, the words have stayed with me. You’re worth so much more, getting out can seem impossible, but you can do it. Even if you pack one item at a time, make a plan to get away. Even if you have to leave with nothing but the clothes on your back ❤️ There’s organisations that can help you 🙏
Thank you for this. More people need to be aware that abuse and violence can also be psychological in nature. Psychological abuse is waaay more insidious than physical abuse is.
I met my late hubby via a dating agency. Yes - he job hopped - a lot. We had 2 sons in 1990 & 1992. Our youngest son, born in 1992, got diagnosed as being on the autistic spectrum in 1998 when he was in grade 2. During this process, my hubby admitted that he, too, was like our son when he was a kid.
Hubby's abuse - & now our son's abuse - took the form of making me responsible for their weaknesses. I've had to become my son's Financial Administrator & Guardian because of the strength of his disability. While my son recognises a need to make some changes, he doesn't think he can. I have advice from his psychologist that he can, but that it could take 10 years.
It's the constant stepping over my personal boundaries that I find the most problematic. My son recognises he does this. Even after he's been warned, he's getting close to a boundary because of his insecurities he has to physically touch the boundary. I can remember my hubby making a big deal over the fact I'd left my house shoes - neatly - in a corner. Another time, he was pissed because when I went into our air-conditioned bedroom for 30 seconds to grab something and left the door open - I was letting the cold air escape.
Today, I had an argument with my son over my way of navigating while driving in a strange environment I was not familar with. I had another one over his habit of disappearing on me - which he did twice in two days. He also regularly does the same thing with his support worker but refuses to accept the premise that the behaviour is the same, albeit for different reasons.
I got widowed in 2010. But when you leave a psychologically abusive relationship, you don't necessarily leave the abuse behind like you do in a physically abusive one. What changes is the person doing the abuse - to the random person in a call centtre who doesn't know the answer to your query but also doesn't connect you up with someone who can answer your query. To the person doing an intake interview who "forgets" to alert you to the presence of a policy of the agency that's kinda vital to you. To someone who lets you apply for a tennancy you have no chance of getting because you don't fit their entry criteria. To the medical specialist who can't be bothered to adequately read a medical history they should have access to before they engage with you regarding decisions you need to make about your health. To a support worker who complained to my younger son about his older brother's dog, threatening to report us. ALL this stuff has happened to me since I lost my hubby in 2010. It's also why I've developed c-PTSD.
We need to change people. We need to start thinking of the effect we have on others - if I wouldn't like it done to me, I have no right to do it to you.
You poor girl. What a terrible experience. Most of us have no idea what's going on behind other closed doors. Well done for speaking out. Well done for getting through it all and still having a beautiful smile for the world.
Back in the early 60's my neighbor had been enduring abuse from her husband for years when one time he beat her in front the 4 kids. They were small and ran for cover under the dining room table. That night when he went to sleep she tied him up in the sheets and took a ball bat to him and with every crack of the bat she told him: you will do this and you won't do that. She took the bat to every part of him but his head. He never hit or argued with her again. Why don't women who get abused take advantage of sleep and the good ole ball bat. Why don't men realize that at some point they are going go to sleep. She straightened her husband out for the better. She was an Italian Catholic and wouldn't get a divorce.
Too many of us have had abusive partners!! Thank you for sharing your story, it was very brave of you!! I was young and dumb, but got out and now have a wonderful husband of 34 years.
I’m so sorry for what you went through. Sharing your story will help others.
I agree Jane. I felt so alone going through it & I was out of state from my family. When I did come back to my state, it got worse & the police didn't believe me... You are right. Thanks, take care.
It's not your fault in any way. He chose to do what he did. He must have spun such a web of lies and deceit that he trapped himself, and decided there was no way out because he couldn't live up to being an adult with normal behavioural standards. You did the right thing.
I'm so happy to hear that you now have a good man in your life. All the best 😀
I am so sorry you went through that. You were manipulated so much. It’s a lot to take in.
I’m really glad you’re here to tell everybody about it
Me too! thank you! ♥
@@SimplyLibbyt you’re most welcome. Best luck to you and your future hopefully it’s brighter than the past.
Thank you Libby for sharing this. Abuse is abuse. You were physically, emotionally, socially, financially, abused. Bruises or no, physical harm or no, abuse is abuse.
Also please forgive me for saying so, but if you never went to a memorial service for your abuser, never saw an obituary, etc., wouldn't it be possible his friend lied that he died? In my experience suicidal threats from the likes of him are empty threats and they are there to make the victim feel guilty and responsible for the other person's happiness. When you told your story, i couldn't help but wonder if this was a lie to get him out of being a father to your child. And an attempt to make you feel bad for not complying with his unreasonable demands. A parting shot. But also a way to hurt you even worse if he shows up again later demanding anything like custody or visitation. Again, forgive me. I've simply seen some crazy shit out here and wanted to clue you in to the idea just in case. You may have direct evidence of his death which would make this speculation ridiculous.
Regardless of all that paranoid nonsense of mine, you are a strong person and a survivor. Plus you are a fun and vibrant person. Dont give up - you are worth it all!
First, congratulations for being brave enough to share. Second, I’m so proud of you for putting Kelly first.
You are NEVER, NEVER responsible for another persons actions. When someone you love so deeply hurts you so deeply it does something to the love you thought you shared. I was in an abusive relationship for 12 years. We never had children. We moved a lot. He even went to prison and I would go every Sunday to visit, like a good little girl. But, one day I just walked away. Years later I ran into him at McDonald’s. I was with my now husband and two children. He told me he had cancer. I felt nothing. Later, when he died, I felt nothing. I didn’t go to the funeral. Didn’t give condolences to his family. Nothing. This was my very first love. I gave up everything for him. But, after 12 years I came to realize he didn’t give up anything. He didn’t love me. I’m sorry you had to live through this. Im sorry Kelly will never know his biological father. I never knew my biological father, either. But my Daddy that did love me, that gave me his last name, that raised me to be a strong independent woman was the best Daddy ever. And, I believe if Kelly gets the love and nourishment he needs from his father figure he will not become a statistic. Love and prayers to you both. ❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏
Thank you for sharing your story with me! 12 years is a long time, and I am beyond happy that you had the strength to walk away. That takes so much! Feeling nothing when your abuser passes is so normal. I felt so much shame for that, but it is incredibly valid.
I am glad that you had someone step in as a father and raise you. Watching kelly and colton bond just makes my heart so happy.
Hugs and love!! ❤️
So sorry for what you went through, but very happy that you’re okay now..
I'm so sorry that you went through this. Thank you for not giving all the brutal details. God bless you, sweetheart. ❤
I'm working to heal my insecure attachment style, and so many people who don't get out of these situations also struggle to believe they are worthy of love.
I'm sending prayers that you will continue to find healing.❤🙏🏻
In my short marriage I didn't have visual bruises. All my bruises were hidden or not seen because he was mentally and emotionally abusive and controlling. Happy I got out of it within 2 years.
Thankyou for sharing your brave,,I had an abusive first husband,, controlling and making you feel your not enough,it was mental and physical,and also had affairs,, fortunately I had no children with him, Eventually I left him thank goodness,,,that was over 40 years ago,but you never forget that feeling of fear,I've been married to my 2nd husband now for many years and have 2 grown up children,He is a man ,no proper men abuse women they are just bullies and cowards,I'm glad you are ok now keep strong ❤❤❤
Praise the Lord you got your son safe
I'm so sorry you went through this and so glad you got out, especially when your child was so young. I wish I hadn't waited so long trying to get help and counselling for us. He just manipulated me and the counsellors. It's been 25 years since I finally left. I remember feeling like I was crazy that I seemed to know the days that the abuse would happen. I never had bruises either, he'd been a military interrogator and knew what he was doing. Through counselling I learned that we do end up developing a "sixth sense" that it was going to happen, even when it seemed like everything was ok. Never doubt that intuition. Sadly, no one hears because no one wants to think that that could be happening.
Thank you for telling your story. Im glad you are safe.
My ex threatened to end himself. ( he stopped when I told him not to leave a mess. He later tried the same threat on my child. Sadly, he is still alive) I endured many of those same behaviors that you spoke about. I was also naive, and trapped by pregnancy and motherhood.
I hated keeping up appearances, putting up a good front, pretending. But I got strong, learned, and got rid of him. Youre lucky yours ended himself, because he would have tormented your son.
I was beaten so bad for years by my ex the last time he kicked my teeth out with steel toe boots he left me for dead in front of our children I had to learn how to walk talk and eat again, I’m so glad we got out ❤
That’s awful, I’m so sorry! I’m glad you left. I hope things are better now! Prayers for you and your kids. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
❤I am glad you got out too!
From a survivor who is not currently being physically abused but has been in the past and is currently living with a narsasistic abusive person and can't find a way out due to financial reasons.
@@AngieGryszan-gw9gzFinance is no reason too stay. Be brave and it wil turn out fine in the end !
Hi from Australia. I know this was a year ago but I just found it, and I hope so many people find it. Here in Australia right now there are so many women suffering because of DV. It’s awful.
Oh Libby. I just watched your video 😢. I want to give you a big hug. I admire your strength.
I am 4 and a half years out of a narcissistic marriage. We don't see the red flags in the beginning because they are so good at what they do but they can't keep the facade up forever, that is when we start seeing the red flags but their manipulation has you questioning your own sanity. Whenever I questioned my husband about his cheating, I also got the response "you've been having another one of your bad dreams".
So yes, I felt your pain. Keep your videos coming, you are amazing ❤️
You are a strong amazing woman. I also survived domestic violence. It's been 6 years now . I will Pray for you and your son.
Thank you, Libby, for sharing your difficult experience and abuse from your partner.
Libby, you need to look at where you are now. See how strong you are. Never go back. Repair yourself. It may take a longtime. You need to value yourself. I stayed in a relationship, believed in marriage. My mother passed comment to me one day, when she was visiting. She told me he was so charming, but if you think he’s fooling me, or I don’t see what you’ve become, you are mistaken. It was like I needed permission to get the hell away from him. She said my sons were learning this is acceptable for men to treat women like this. My daughter would think his behaviour was right. Having children will not help you with a narcissistic psychopathic personality.
This so describes my first marriage, he was not emotionally abusive, but could not definitely keep a job and we moved soooooo much. If it wasn't for my 2 kids, I would have left him much sooner. Instead he cheated on me, so thare's that and my way out. Ugh! Hugs to you my sister!
I am so glad you are here to tell your truth. I watched my daughter go through it. Oh she would not tell me or confirm but i felt something was very wrong. It escalated to him having a gun to her head. And he was a correctional officer. Well he screwed up and is serving 9 years in prison. She is now very happy and married to a good man. It took time but she is doing great. I pray that for you
Sending peace and prayers to all men and women who face now and did face abuse from their partners.
I’m so sorry you had to go through that. I wish you peace and healing
May your healing be rapid and lasting.
You just told the story of my life... I am so happy in my new life, and I am so happy you're free of your nightmare as well 💜
What amazing courage you had to tell your story. You're not alone and I'm so grateful you and your son are safe and in a healthy relationship. Just because you didn't have bruises that showed or had to go to the hospital does not mean you were not physically and mentally abused. You're a survivor and the choices he made were his own. Unfortunately if he was a traumatized child he doesn't know what a normal relationship is nor can he do one. It's no excuse but it can explain why he could not function normally. Now you get to raise your son what's appropriate how to treat others appropriately and give him a positive life. I'm so sorry for everything you had to go through but it's awesome that you're okay now!
Thank you so much for telling us your story. The more you talk about it, the less effect it has on you over time, plus you're helping other women that are going through the same thing!!
Thank you for being so brave and sharing your story. You are wonderful and beautiful and your son is very lucky to have such a wonderful Mom! lotsa love. xoxo
Thank you soo much for being so kind!! ❤️❤️
I'm glad you're free. You can pray for him. There's all kinds of abuses.
Live your life.
My bruises don't show up until the next day or day after. He also pinned me to the floor with his forearm and used his elbow on my head and knocked me out. I have no memories for the next couple days. But the cops wouldn't believe me. Now I don't trust cops.
I really admire you. You have suffered so much. You have an inner strength that you don't realize you have. You are ready to actually enjoy the ride. The uphill climb is over.
Bless your heart, I'm so glad you and your son are safe. Love and prayers for you precious ❤
You are so brave 👏🏻👏🏻👍 and no doubt you help people by sharing. This is the second video of yours I’ve watched, I do hope you are still happy with your friend.
I went through something very similar. The love bombing, the gas lightening, the emotional abuse, the financial abuse and the mental abuse. Physical abuse did happen but all the other abuse had a last effect on my mental health. I already had CPTSD and BPD I left with dependent personality disorder. I barely remember anything. It's a big blur. Longest 4 and half years ever.
Recognized a lot of stuff from my first marriage. My current husband I remember when I was trying to juggle so many thing and get dinner made. He called me when I was picking up my daughter and I told him I was in my way home then I could get dinner started. He said “I can start dinner “ I just posed I think my mouth literally fell open. I had to tell him I guess you can boil water for the noodles. I didn’t mean to insult him I just never had help only criticism or if I did have “help” it came with so much emotional distress and energy it was just easier to juggle it all myself. Even asking him to take out the trash after I literally did everything else he was ask why I couldn’t do it. My husband now takes out the trash not only do I not have to break down crying, but I don’t even have to ask😮. It sounds sad when you say it out loud, but that was my life for years. And like you it was good in the beginning and I never had any physical bruises.
I am so happy that you got out of that marriage and found who you are with now! The whole narrative of your everyday life changes when they are gone. Not to mention, when you get into a healthy relationship, it is literally SHOCKING. You deserve someone who makes you feel less stressed, and you dont have to ask things of. I am so proud of you and i know out kiddos are happy to see us thriving in healthy relationships ❤️❤️
So sorry you had to go through all of that....I wish you all the best that life and love have to offer.
I just found your channel. Oh boy, I am so sorry what you went through. I am so glad you are safe and happy. Just by the way you speak, you seem a beautiful soul. Love and best wishes to you and your family💞
I was in the same toxic kind of relationship with my spouse who gas lighted me and manipulated my family to eventually have me place in a psychiatric hospital to control me and my assets. When I did finally have the courage to leave the house to escape his physical emotional and mental abuse he donated everything I owned to the thrift store and killed himself leaving our 12 year old son to find him. I had actually called the police because he was sending me messages threatening self harm as well as calling me to come over because he had something to give to me. He told the police I was crazy had my father-in-law there saying the same things so they left my son went into his room the next morning and found him deceased. He left a suicide letter. We had a closed family service but got a call from the mortuary asking if one of the women he used drugs and cheated on me with could come in for a private viewing that she had called several times and just needed a private moment with him. I declined the request.
This is SUCH an important video. Thank you.
So much love and respect for you! ❤
I've just come across your channel, and i love it. You are a beautiful person both inside and out with such a kind soul. Thank you for sharing your story x
When i met my ex he had a story about how he did have his kids due to an accident that left him in the hospital for days. And he was trying to get them back especially after we got together cause i could help with the kids. I got pregnant and he was still using his other kids to manipulate me into being with him. One day when i was about 6wks he left for the day and my parents came to get me. When i got home he was messaging me saying he would use my depression to get custody of the baby when it was born. I couldnt bond with my child because i was afraid of losing this baby to him. I was around 4mos when i learned the abuse "his ex-girlfriend/kids mom" did to the kids was actually him confessing. And when i say it was bad i mean i dont know how hes not in jail. I also found out beside the 2 kids i knew about he had at least 3 others he was not involved with. My daughter is 7yo and im still terrified he will come around to try and take her.
Thank you for sharing your story. I can hardly take in what you went through. You're very brave. ❤️
You are amazing! Thank you for giving a voice to things that most think will never come to light but it always will! Thank you for being vulnerable and honest and I respect the hell out of you! Thank you all!
You are very brave. And admire the way you can talk about your story. I watched it until the end, and you kept me interested to the end. I am so happy that you have a good life now. It is normal to feel relieved when you do not have to experience terrible things happen to you.
Thank you for sharing this. I love you. I love your courage. So many of us hide our stories because we feel embarrassed or ashamed. And we aren't to blame for what happened to us.
❤️ thank you so much! I was so ashamed of my story for so long. But they hold so much power.
Thank you for sharing your experience I wish I had heard this many years ago. It would have saved a lot of heartache for me and my kids. Wishing you every happiness for the future ❤
What an amazing human you are for sharing your story, this will help so many people, myself included! Much love
God bless you and your son. You survived and thrived! I relate, and applaud you! Take a deep breath, and go forward! 🙏🦋🙏
These videos are more helpful than you know! Thanks for sharing.
Sister, sister, I can so much relate. Take care of yourself and regain your joy.
This is obv an old video, but I just find your channel and this one popped up. I can relate to so much of this, minus the physical part! I definitely wish I’d have gotten out sooner, but I’m grateful to be out. I know this video will help others going through similar situations! ❤
Well I'm relieved he's gone out of the picture. The trajectory for this scenario was that you and the baby would be killed. The man was truly insane, thank your lucky stars he turned on himself rather than you. Nice girls often end up with these types of guys, its like the men have a radar for picking out vulnerable women. At least you have a lovley little boy so thats absolutely wonderful.
I’m sorry you had to go through this. I’m glad you have a normal loving relationship now. Your son deserved a loving stable home, all children do. No one deserves to be subjected to physical or emotional abuse. Tell your parents, tell someone GET OUT! I have seen abuse in my own family.
I'm so glad you got out. Thank you for sharing your story.
When you said your thoughts were
"I'm a single mom, what am I supposed to do ?"
" You're supposed to LEAVE !
That's what you're supposed to do."
That made me cry. I didn't have a job, '"What am I supposed to do?" And I was too embarrassed to tell anyone what was happening. I stayed partly out of embarrassment. Dumb reason to stay.... I always pretended everything was fine, because if we ended up staying together, I didn't want everyone to hate him..... So dumb
When I went to a friend's house, he literally showed up and took my car keys and dragged my suitcase and all of my stuff back to his car and to his apartment.... Ugh anyway too many triggery stories from DV to tell.
( I'm glad he was rude to you at delivery because it helped your decision to end it. )
It took me several times of trying to leave, and him gaslighting me to give another chance, before I stayed out for good.
I'm so proud of you and glad you have a kind person to be with now ! ❤❤❤
Thank you for sharing your story. Its so hard to revisit those memories.
Im so glad that is not your life anymore. Theres no dumb reasons to why you did what you had to do to survive. ❤️❤️
I hope you've had counseling it will really help you. Im so glad you survived it all❤
Wow Ty I needed to hear this
Thank you for sharing this 🙏🏼
Thank you for listening❤️
Thank you for sharing 💕
My parents divorced when I was young and grew up without a father, it sets a girl up to find a loser. When your mom is also emotionally abusive, you have no basis for comparison. Lots of trauma and frog kissing later I have a real keeper.
You have helped me soo much with your story. J hope I can find a real loving relationship after my narcissistic abusive marriage ❤
you're so strong girl!
Thank you so much ❤️
You and your son are ao blessed to have survived this. I'm so hlad you have a good relationship now. ❤
Thank you for sharing ❤
You are sooo strong! I'm so happy that you are now in a great relationship :) *Hugs* ❤
Thank you!! ❤️ i appreciate that!
I have been through situations in my past that were considered abuse. Being older now and a joyfully married woman, I remember back when I was so insecure and needy also. My total trust is in the Lord, and I thank the Lord that He washed my sins away and taught me to trust in Him. As women, we need to be more responsible with the people we allow in our life. For instance, we need to pray and ask God what is His best will for us, waiting for God’s timing, and not allowing warnings to slip on by because we want to feel wanted. The most important thing is to wait, pray, and fall in love with Jesus. Remember, not every man abuses, and that women abuse men also. Now it's your time to hold onto Christ and realize that your worth comes from Him. Most important, forgive so you can move on and get healing. He took His life because he was out of control and did not have hope. You have a wonderful home now and your beautiful child. Enjoy and allow God to lead you. Hugs. I’m praying for you.
Im happy i watched this video. Because i also have been abused but learned another warning sign such as the calling out from work. I would have never thought about that. I'm happy we both survived.
Your very brave young lady x x keep going ❤