10 Signs You're Nailing Life on Your Own
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- Опубліковано 11 чер 2024
- Are you wondering if you're truly excelling at living alone? In this video, we dive into the top 10 clues that indicate you're mastering solo life! From crushing psychological hierarchies to enjoying your own company, these signs show that you're not just surviving, but thriving on your own.
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1) Go to the movies alone, art galleries
2) You’re super creative
3) You feel the freedom to walk around your house naked
4) You feel safe and secure in your home. You know your house noises.
5) You decline invitations when you want. No explanation necessary
6) You haven’t asked anyone for help with home repairs in 6 months.
7) You have one or more gadgets you have installed yourself.
8) You just booked a solo trip.
9) You don’t feel lonely alone.
10) You are confident.
I do all this, except house repairs
Love it ❤️
I like how you’re not hiding from or apologising for your individualism.
And if you’re out alone and you hate the event, you can leave and nobody’s feelings get hurt!
After my divorce I went to a huge Dog Show in Chilliwack.I decided I had to leave and was doing so when I thought WHY SHOULD I LEAVE NOW ? So I stayed and was thrilled.
No one saying this so boring lets GO !
I stay as long as I.want.
I want to add walking alone because that way, i really appreciate my surroundings. With a companion i tend to focus so much on the conversation i see nothing and might as well be in a room
My sixtieth birthday present to me was a set of free weights. Using them faithfully is one reason I'm still doing well in my late eighties. This was a great move for me.
Good to know. I have been procrastinating at doing this because I have never enjoyed going to a gym. I will do hard work ie gardening, walking up hills, whatever furniture moving I must do, but I just find weights so boring and monotonous 🙄
💪🧓 🎉
awesome! 🌺
Couple of times a week, about 20-30 minutes. You can do this. I never set foot in a gym, need my own pace and surroundings. I did get good advice about form when I started, from trainer friends. Every task is easier when you're stronger.
@@lizadams7662 Thanks ❣️ I have just researched some different exercise videos to try. We’ll see if it sticks this time?
I remember the first time I went to a movie by myself after my husband passed. It was a movie I really wanted to see and could not get anyone to go..So I just went. And I ordered a popcorn and pop( my husband never wanted to pay extra for popcorn) I loved it. I'm an extra vert. I love people, but I also have learned to love myself and I actually enjoy being alone. I think I'm nailing it!
Even before my husband died, I went to movies alone whenever I thought it would be something he wouldn’t care to see. I was always the one putting things together because he refused to read the instructions. I once moved a heavy organ from inside my home to the garage using an old blanket. A neighbor saw it in the garage and asked if he could have it. He and his son grabbed it and struggled to take it away. I grew up in a small home with six siblings, and I’ve treasured alone time ever since.
Congratulations on your upcoming 60th Birthday! I will be 70 this year and I have been doing the solo life since I was 21 years old when my parents died. I went to college I worked at the same job for 34 years, bought my own home and my own cars. Who the Hell needs a man anyway? Here’s to the solo life and enjoy! Oh I have traveled alone and enjoy celebrating the holidays in my own home alone.❤️
When I go out alone, I love being able to do exactly what I want spontaneously, not coordinating with anyone else. If I want to go left, I go left. Right, right.
So precisely put!
Yup! You’re your own boss 😊
I lived as the single adult with my kids for 5 years when my ex moved out and the most empowering part was learning home maintenance. UA-cam videos helped me so much! I installed a faucet, wired a ceiling light, replaced hinges…. Things I would have never tried before! Grateful for that time in my life that stretched my idea of what I could do! 💪💪
Yay for UA-cam videos!
I’ll add:
1) efficient
2) effective
3) focused
4) discernment
5) no need for ‘permission’ to be granted to you (from someone else) to do something.
These qualities I recognize in you.
Stalwart
I will add that she is a great motivator for women 50+. I also started my UA-cam channel from Africa ( one more silver UA-camr on this planet) 😊
@@my_warm_Africa Congratulations on your new channel! Yes, Jen is inspiring!
It’s fun to begin a new venture!
I just subscribed to your channel. Love the African fabric prints!
Best Regards,
Stalwart
I go to restaurants, movies and art galleries alone without giving it a second thought. I'm comfortable with my own company.
Same
TY! I am just like you, except 74yrs old. I do everything, but keep telling myself to go SLOWLY. Doesn't matter how long the job takes! Putting up rails and other senior friendly equipment NOW, preparing for future. Take 2 sessions over 2 days now to mow lawn. I complain about how difficult this house is and then you inspire me. Don't like alternative choices so stay grateful! Today rebuilding front steps!
Proud of you.
At 73 also tackling jobs as best I can.....Just Do It ......😂😂🌞🌞
Same here at 73. Sometimes get pity for being alone and that is hard because you think something is wrong with you. But this is exactly how I feel too
I am age 75 and caregiver for my husband. Bladder Cancer.
For 5 years on this ‘journey’ now I’m doing it all. Last 3 days took 54 screws out of old rotted picnic table. Now disassembled. Boards will be discarded. Base is a plastic and I’ll donate this. Someone else can build a table.
He now has more walking room on patio to get around. Limited exercise, but it will help him.
We will be married 56 years this coming August. In our marriage vows, I took out the word ‘obey’. 1968.
Obedience belongs to God, I told the minister. Not to spousal man. Needless to say, the minister’s jaw dropped!
Instead I wrote: love, honor, and ‘agree to disagree’.
I also tell all new friendships this: we must ‘agree to disagree’ at times. No argument is worth ruining a friendship (or marriage).
I was 18 going to summer university classes after high school graduation when we met. He was 23 out of Viet Nam War. After 2 dates he proposed. I said ‘no’. I wanted my degree.
We married 14 months later.
I did get the undergrad degree. And MBA.
He told me, when he proposed, that I was the most focused person he had ever met. He said that I knew precisely what I was doing. And he wanted ‘that’.
We ‘obey’ God’s law; obey the rule of law in our country. Children obey their parents. Military obey commands from superiors to get military functions completed.
But must one spouse obey the other. I say ‘no’. We don’t live in the 14th century.
Words have intention. Power. Saying ‘no’ sets boundaries. Saying ‘yes’ can open doors to a different path.
We all are solo at the end of life. Only one goes through that portal called ‘death’. The rest are left behind to continue for their remaining journey.
So in essence, we ALL are solo. As children, we partner with parents, extended family, then teachers. Later it can be with one person. And always we have friendships to some degree.
This phrase means:
I accept what you said as ‘your logic and personal truth’.
I have my own. Let us recognize each other’s differences. You don’t have to ‘buy into’ my belief system. I don’t have to ‘buy into’ yours.
Move forward to the next topic.
If the other person keeps bringing it up, this is when I initiate my ‘exit strategy’.
They are trying to persuade me to be like them, agree with them. They do not recognize me.
No. I am me. I don’t have to agree. I don’t have to justify who I am. And neither does anyone else.
I grew out of getting permission by age 10. At that point, I was in negotiating tactics.
How did I learn this? From my father. He raised me.
Little children soak up a lot of what goes on. I was ‘that’ little girl.
Stalwart
You are my people! 72 years old and loving being alone. I have been married more than once, but am only happy alone. Heaven. 😊
I’m married but live much like a solo life, due to a spouse that is unwilling to be available for me…..I’ve been going to movies, concerts, etc, etc, alone for years. 😊
Same.
Ditto! @@KathyDuncan9
I think this actually takes more courage than simply doing things alone because you're alone. Brava!
I never married or had kids couse I didn't want to be a housewife. No stress of a relationship.
I am 77 and a caregiver to my 83 year old husband who just sits and watches tv all day and half the night. To me it’s like I am living alone but I don’t mind it. I do many things to keep me busy and being an introvert enjoy cooking, canning, reading and projects around our home excluding watch your videos. The content of your videos can be for solo or individuals enjoying alone time.
I use magic moving sliders instead of a blanket. That way you can push and not pull. I have fixed things on my own for years but I finally was defeated by an IKEA box shelf. It went to the dump. 😂😂
Its the going straight to the point at the beginning of the video for me.
Yes she got right to it.
Believe it or not, you can be an introvert and married. My husband and I like a lot of the same things, and we are both introverts. We spend a lot of time separate ( he is a night owl and I'm a morning person) and we respect each other's space. He worked second shift and I always worked 9-5.
We've been married 40 years... I love my own company. Because of that, people know when I choose to be with them, I truly want to.😊
This sounds ideal and the sort of relationship I'm looking for. No misunderstandings and looking into it deeper than simply wanting some alone time which has always happened in past relationships, my partner thinking I don't like them, but we just had different needs, they wanted to be with me constantly, I needed to have alone time. Sounds like you found your perfect match in that way
Omg! How perfect! I’m sincerely very happy for both of you.
I live alone in my van and travel, and always get asked "aren't you lonely?" Not a bit! I love my own company - I can do what I want, when I want; eat what I want; go where where I want, and leave when I'm ready. As a fellow introvert, I have way too many conversations going on in my head to ever get lonely 😆
I’m so glad I’ve found your Channel. Being a new widow is hard and I’m still finding my solo way. You inspire me! Thank you!
I’ve almost always lived alone. In my 20s I worked 2 jobs so I could afford rent without a roommate.
I retired at 58 and now, at 61, I just returned from a 2.5 month road trip, living in my FJ Cruiser that I converted to a micro camper.
I can’t imagine any other life would be so wonderful.
I am 60 and have been fighting the urge to go to a weekend senior women’s van life meetup in my Honda Pilot - would love tips on how you were able to stay comfortably in an FJ Cruiser as a 60-something! I am somewhat of a minimalist, but if I could actually sleep in my car for even a night - thinking of just doing it in my driveway to see how it goes! What kind of “bed” do you have in your Cruiser?
@@melanieg284don’t fight it, enjoy it! I’m going to rebuild my vehicle to make it more comfortable for evenings before bed, after learning that being stuck inside during endless rain is no fun, but sleeping in it has never been a problem.
I bought a 3-inch thick memory foam sleeping pad that’s on a plywood base. I’m on the smaller side, which might make a difference, but I don’t often feel the plywood under the mattress. It’s 24 inches wide x 70 inches long. I make it up like a normal bed and use a normal bed pillow.
My goal with my next rendition it looks lower the bed and make the storage all accessible from inside the vehicle. As I have it now, I need to open the back to access many things. No fun in the rain!
Lowering the bed from its current position near the roof will make it usable as a couch.
I use a 1000 Jackery for power and have solar panels for it for sunny days if I don’t want to drive all day. I need it to power a refrigerator. I’m also planning to look for a smaller fridge.
Art Galleries always on my own for the same reasons!!!
I like shopping by myself, both grocery as well as general shopping. I can truly evaluate and contemplate my choices.
Once went to outlet store with someone I knew, and hour after she dragged me around her likes, hard ready to explode,,never, ever again, I am enough forusrlf thankfully
❤❤❤ i totally agree. I love being responsible for my own emotions not someone elses.
I've always been by myself so it feels most natural to me. I would freak out if I heard a key in the door, or someone walking down the hall, or another voice in the house. I love the silent calm in my home and the noise I can make when I want to. I don't need to tiptoe around so as not to disturb someone else, nor do I feel compelled to make conversation or explain my actions.
I am 66yo and have been living alone for many years, after raising my sons. Even when I became a single parent, my sons were used to me moving furniture using their skateboard, or removalist’s hessian sacks. In one home, we inherited a lot of rocks, and the boys rolled them into place to form garden beds. For a woman, being solo, provides an opportunity to develop her masculine-side…..the energy of survival and coping/solving physical tasks. Some might think ‘too independent’, but I think becoming a whole person.
I can’t wait to hear about your solo travel destination!!
I cherish both,
solitude and togetherness
Thank you for sharing. It's good to we are not alone in liking being alone 😂
What is hard is being an introvert married to an extrovert. Some people do that thinking they're completing themselves. Wrong. My former husband would ridicule me repeatedly for being off in my own head (which is one of the reasons he's my former husband). Fortunately my forever husband and I are so on the same track we repeatedly finish each other's sentences. After 21 years he is still the person I most want to have a conversation with. He's still interesting, and has interesting things to say. But we spend hours every day working on our own projects or reading or off doing things by ourselves. Being similar personalities is crucial, as is allowing the other person to be different - if that makes sense..
I will add that your videos are making me appreciate my single life- all the benefits.
I'm definitely winning the single and solo life 😊
I scored 9/10. I love the Solo life. Next year, will be a special Birthday year for me too. I am planning on traveling to an area, I haven't been to yet. It will be a camping trip with my 50 lb dog as my companion.
Like you, I don't care with other people think.
Went on a 7 day Caribbean cruise by myself, and felt so empowered and enjoyed myself immensely! People at dinner that I ended up sitting with at tables of six or eight were always flabbergasted that I traveled alone. One woman told me on her way out after sitting with her husband, who didn’t say a word to her through an entire dinner, whispered to me… I wish I had your gumption!
You can be in a relationship and still be more lonely than if you were single... You're taking care of you, and that's the most important thing in the world! Keep killing it!
Married for many years and I solo travel sometimes. There are people who just don’t understand and I don’t care anymore. There’s nothing like it! Enjoying your videos -
I have also always gone to movies alone since I was in college in 1960.
I love it. I get so much more from the film plus if I don’t like the movie, I can leave.
I don't like to go places with others. I love to travel alone!
Yes to staying home when you want to! That's a plan.
I’d most likely say can’t make it this time but maybe best time and thanks for the invite. Learning to ditch the word sorry. Too many years being unnecessarily sorry.
I’m a “Solo” again in my 60’s. By choice. I love the peace and self reliance. I’m new to your channel, and I’m so impressed with your life lessons, so I’ve subscribed. Can’t wait to go back and watch your previous shows. Thank you!
I don't live alone BUT I am very good at finding ways to be alone, even in the house where everyone else is.
Easy to snag an excellent single seat at a concert or show. I’ve gotten several first or 2nd row seats, even at last minute. The thrill of experiencing Michael Flatley dance right in front of my face. Walked into NYC box office empty handed, got last free seat in the house, right up front saw my idol right before he retired.
I agree 100 percent. Even in my late 60’s I’m still learning.
Great content. I'm nailing down the solo life. I do things according to my own schedule. After a shower, I would parade around naked. There, I said it. I fix stuff, manage my own finances and if I feel like a trip to the big city, I'm gone. I call it my "Eat, shop and gamble trip". Sometimes, I get a hair-cut. And, I do feel safe around the house, (with 3 long rifles).😁
Consider a road trip in the US for 6-8 days. Visit places that you are interested in, art museums, national parks, memorials, etc.
"i don't disrespect my friends and family by making excuses" for not attending this or that - i love how you put that. as i'm being my own version of silver&solo, i feel the need to give justification for not being available for socially normative stuff. no more. excuses really do disrespect - friends/family and me.
I had a wonderful solo holiday in northern France for my 50th. Thoroughly enjoyed myself - luxury hotel room to myself and no compromises! My dining partner was a good book! 😄
I nailed all 10 signs. I’m also a Jackson Pollack fan. I’m 60 and thinking of doing a solo trip with a tour group next year. I love going to movies and shopping alone. However, I’m not too comfortable going to restaurants alone, although I’ve done it a few times. Instead I just order food to go and enjoy it at home, and also go to restaurants with friends and family.
I lived on my own for a decade in a different state from all my family. I learned how to change a bike tire, repair garbage disposal, fix vacuum, and on and on.. I'm so glad I had this opportunity to figure out that everything is figureoutable and to know truly know myself at a young age as opposed to getting divorced or widowed in my 50 or 60's never having been on my own before
You nailed it!!!! Love my independence in doing what makes me happy and going places on my own.
I remember a snow storm coming right during rush hour. It would have taken me 3 hours to get home - so I went to the movies instead and drove home well after rush hour and after the snow plows cleaned the streets. LOVED it! It felt like playing hookie and so much better than sitting in the car in a snow storm. Thus began my love affair with going to movies alone. 🙂
I try to do as much as possible but sometimes I need a plumber or electrician!
Agree with everything you said. I’ve been on many epic trips, most memorable IMO was to Antartica. I own a small travel trailer and have made many solo trips touring the US (all 49 states), did a caravan guided tour of Alaska last year, including Alberta, BC and Yukon. Planning a trip next to tour the Eastern provinces.
In Nov 2012, I went on a Caravan guided tour to Panama and got to watch the LOCKS operate from on land and on a boat going through them. I loved the “adult field trip” feel. Had plenty of solo relaxing time also. Perhaps, I’ll go to Alaska with them soon.
I spent a day at Middleton Place in South Carolina from 8am to 8pm. I had lunch at their restaurant and visited every single point of interest on the estate. I had the best time alone.
I used to be lonely when i was solo since i was 18. I made lots of bad decisions on relationships that left me lonlier and sad. Ive been alone more un my life than with someone. Ive learned how to accept myself and i have good friendss. I have gone on my vacations sole, had a horse transport business solo, now living on my family farm solo, take care of my horses solo. I too qalk around the house nude too. 😂 So ive learned to enbrace soli and im not lonely or afraid. 🐴🐕
Yes I 60 was a big number for me also but now I’m 73 so time goes by fast I have my health and I try to keep walking and doing what I can. I don’t wanna end up with somebody having to take care of me I meant to say how old I was before, have a good trip again❤
About five years ago, I traveled from the U.S. to Australia by myself. I loved every minute of it.
❤❤❤❤❤ Yippi… 1st
Hey Jen! Greetings from Germany to the S & S Gang💖
Yes, I just did my first solo road trip at 63, it was so empowering. If your epic trip has you passing through Minnesota, I’ll invite you to dinner!
I was on only child for 11 years, living on a farm & attending a one room elementary school. There were 5 of us in my graduating class.
I am quite comfortable alone.
I read an article on how unique it is that some people have the "confidence" to eat in a restaurant alone.! I don't get it. When I want to be with people, I do so, but I enjoy my own company.
Solitude is very peaceful & zen.
I would also add: keeping up with medical appointments. I have a calendar planner and a "To Do" list. Even as a healthy (to my knowledge) person, within a few weeks I went to /or are going to several routine or follow-up appointments: dentist, cleaning/checkup, vision specialist, dermatologist, podiatrist and gastroenterologist (colonoscopy). Those are a nuisance, but on the other hand, I'm grateful to live in an area when I don't have to go far to have these procedures. It isn't all about have fun. Of course, people living with others have these type of appointments as well, but we have to be our own "nag".
Welcome to sixty, Jen. I’m already there. St Louis welcomes you. If you want to stop over for a weekend let me know. We have a great art museum, zoo, and biking paths.
Walking around naked one day I suddenly thought "wait, if I fall and can't get up, my neighbor will find me like this". lol (now I don a nightie) Would LOVE to visit an art museum ALONE. For the same reason I enjoy shopping alone. I can linger as long/little as I wish.
I went to the cinema on my own for the first time recently. I was nervous but then had a great time watching a movie that I was interested in but my husband was not. Will certainly be doing that again!!
You hit the nail on the head for me with what you said about confidence. I would absolutely love to be as self-sufficient as you someday, but in the meantime confidence is a major struggle for me. Past experiences have filled me with so much self-doubt that it's going to take some time and effort for me to get to a place where I feel confident enough to give this a try. I have at least gone to movies and eaten out at restaurants on my own, so I can claim to have done that much.
Go Jen, great video. At 76 I go most places alone and just love it!
I think part of what you’re getting at is you learn to figure things out for yourself. Something comes up, there’s no paralysis, just an “okay, does this need fixing and how do I figure it out”. Also the connections outside the home are important, not taken for granted, and cared for - even though I’ve chosen solo I also want some social.
Thank you for these signs. Especially the creative one. This year I made an atelier room in my house because my eldest son left the house. I love to go there and dont need to clean everything because i get visitors 😇
I am the same with going to antique shops. I only like to go alone. I use to go to 6 in row and packed snacks and drinks and stopped when I wanted. Would not enjoy when going with others. Like my own company.💕
I think I was lonelier when I was married. I enjoy my own company and also enjoy occasionally doing things with friends or my Dad who is still independent at 90.
Saying no to social gatherings. This resonates with me so much. As an introvert, there is often a high cost in energy when I say yes. As I get older, I find it takes more time than it used to for me to recover. So, I'm learning to be more comfortable saying no but also keeping in touch with friends I value. Love this video, you help me feel more "normal" and less alone in my need to be alone. : )
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Welcome!!
Totally agree. Love my alone time. Am an introvert so it is so ok for me.
Finally a UA-cam channel for people like us! Loving your channel.
Wow, I stumbled across your channel and I agree with ALL you talked about. I just turned 72. I still work part time (because I want to) Years back I went to school for carpentry. I own my own home and do my own work and what I can’t do I hire out. I can identify the good from not so good contractors. I LOVE my alone time. I love working in textiles. Who needs the gym, I do all my work on my property (I live in the country). Who knew that my older self would wind up in such an enjoyable life. I too enjoy going out and doing things and traveling on my own. I pay attention for safety sake. All in all, life is what you make of it. Thank you for up lifting points of view.
I love your videos ❤ I'm 57 I been alone for a very long time...I don't have the patience or time to put up with anyone Idiocracy but mine, plus I don't like anyone telling me what I can and cannot do and most of all how to be. I understand every word you're saying and 💯 behind you ❤❤❤❤😊and I'm a subbie😊
Interesting. I’m married and no one tells me what to do either. You can allow others to control you or not. It’s always your decision.
The introvert part you spoke about I really relate too. I think it's great enjoying time alone. I am happy and married but my wife gets me. I am very lucky ❤
This was lovely! Last night, as a 40-something solo girl, I had a few pangs about being alone. This was very reassuring; thank you! ❤
You're so welcome!
Thanks for the mention in the description! 💗We're super happy to support your journey and be a part of this community! We're busy with last-minute edits to today's video, but as soon as it's up, we'll be watching yours and subscribing to everyone else on the list! 😀 #GenXersFTW
I love this comment and will be heading to subscribe to your channel💜💜💜
@@doricetimko5403 Thank you, see you there 💝
Ang here (one half of Mostly Mindful) - I just subscribe to everyone. Back to work for now, but I'm planning on making time to interact with everyone's videos as often as possible. Let's grow together! 😁
Yay! Thank you!
I'm "nailing" life on my own! 😊
I've always done things on my own, museums, movies, etc. I'm a misantheope as it is, so this has always been when I'm most comfortable. Maslow’s Hierarcy of Needs has been my back pocket map to feeling self-sufficient. Winning at the solo life is living our best life! 100% #6 - Use those leg sliders to move the heavy objects!😂
😂😂 It puts the lotion on its skin. True crime and psych thrillers/mysteries for me. Strangely “relaxing” to me. I still struggle a bit with DIY or home repair etc but the rest…all good. Although I’ve done a lot of creative DIY things to get by, there are a few that make me feel like I’m in over my head.
But toxic family ya know. You were always alone and on your own the whole time anyways. All that was left to do was to simply acknowledge it and then embrace it.
I LOVE going to the movies alone for many of the same reasons you do. But I don't go to scary movies alone--for that I need my husband and his hand! (You are brave seeing them alone). So there are elements of your life I appreciate!
I recognised most of those and am doing them already. When it comes to something that I've never done before, I just get on with it and tell myself, 'Well, if you don't do it then no-one else is going to'. 😊
I am an introvert and was depended greatly on my husband.
Then one unexpected day, I was alone.
Solo trips gave me the push I needed to start a new life alone with confidence.
The transition got easier and easier as I kept the pace to overcome. Traveling was fun and exciting. It waa very much a learning experience.
Then the year 2000 came along and brought me back to isolation.
I got used to it again. It was my comfy zone.
Now it's harder for me to go out and do things alone.
I prefer going to the movies on my own
I love doing things by myself. Going to the movies was the first thing I tried alone and it was so nice and a whole lot cheaper. Two years ago I went to Florida for a week by myself. It was the absolute best vacation I’ve ever had. I spent a few days at a friends house in her travel trailer and then went to Disney for a few days. Being at my favorite place alone was amazing, as I was listening to crying/wining children and spouses arguing over plans, I was SO happy to be able to do my own thing without my husband’s complaints. I think it’s time for another vacation 😂
@5:00ish, I'm glad you made this point. I was wondering if I was becoming too complacent about noises and just feeling calmer on my own. So really, thank you.
I love going to museums alone. I spent a day in museums in Washington DC last year. I would love to go back and spend the week doing more of the museums. I didn't have to worry about anyone's comfort. Same with traveling solo - I can stop when I want, where I want and change my mind at any time. Re: moving furniture - there are things called "moving men furniture sliders" that you put under the furniture. My mother is in her late 80's and uses them a lot.
If you can find a large cardboard box, it will do the same thing. Flatten the box, place the object on the box and push. I learn this from an 80 year old man, who works part time doing deliveries.
I’ve been single since 2008. It was hard at first until it finally hit me that if I wanted to continue doing what I love, I would need to love doing things by myself sometimes. Fast forward to now, I mastered it! I especially relate with you about traveling alone. I too will be turning 60 soon and am planning an EPIC solo trip. I’m planning an Antarctica adventure. Ha, I can’t think of anybody in my life that would want to go anyway, L O L! But most importantly, I want to go by myself and I want everything to go the way I want it to go. My own agenda. I enjoy a very close and healthy relationship with my two grown daughters. We do a lot of things together. They are also quite self-assured and do a lot of things on their own, And I love that. I sure do appreciate your channel and everything that you share, thank you so much.
I’m 38 and I have been going to the movies and restaurants alone for years. I’m am only child and I thrive doing things alone and on my OWN TIME!! Next I hope to go on a solo trip with me and my dog 🙂
I have been going to movies out to eat and visiting galleries and attending sports events, theater alone. Very comfortable going on vacation by myself. I like painting, and have been keeping a journal for years. My confidence is at an all time high. I never realized how flying solo is such a source of freedom 6:24
Love, love ❤️ Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs! Also feeling safe and secure and grateful too! Such important reminders of the power of introversion! Thanks for bringing all of this up!
Good on you Jen, I was great as a solo for a long time - and now with a partner, we are both good together and solo. Never thought I'd find someone like that, but it was a nice surprise.
I really enjoy going to movies by myself.
I feel like I am talking through you. I have same thoughts. Listening from you is so relaxing and now i feel like I am not the only one who thinks this way. After listening to you I get my confidence. So now I know for sure that it is ok to live alone, going to the restaurant alone, walking alone.
I am 64. I have lived alone all my life. I like people but not all the times.
Holy crap! I'm nailing it! 🙌 Thank you for the encouragement! My one exception might be the household repair thing... isn't it OK to hire someone to do something I just don't want to DIY, even if I could? I think making that decision for myself (if I know I can afford it) should count. Also doing the Ikea thing -- nope. I buy readymade.
Oh, hiring out is absolutely fine! You're killing it!
You are always SO confident in your solo life choice Jen. I wish I was like that more of the time. Although I shouldn't care what people think it's not easy to stand fast when I live in a small town with expat syndrome with too many people where drinking alcohol and talking about other people is the mainstay. That's not my style as I am a lightweight with booze and get bored in that environment within minutes 🙃and feel I am frowned upon for not joining in. I really am trying not to care about that now.
I'm 50/50 on going to art exhibitions solo. I enjoy doing that hugely but find the experience goes deeper when you have someone to compare ideas and reactions with, particularly contemporary art.
As for 60th birthdays that was a massive step towards solo confidence for me because I chose to walk the Camino de Santiago from the french Pyrenees across Spain (1000km in 6 weeks) on my own. It was an incredible experience in so many ways including much self discovery.
I can't wait to hear what you choose for your big trip.
My husband passed away 3 months ago. In august i plan my first solo trip to Verona to attend 3 operas. I am proud of myself
Condolences on your loss, and also, yay you!