Closure happens right after you accept that letting go and moving on is more important than projecting a fantasy of how the relationship could have been”
Each of us lives dependent and bound by our individual knowledge and our awareness. All that is what we call reality. However, both knowledge and awareness are equivocal. One’s reality might be another’s illusion. We all live inside our own fantasies. - Itachi Uchiha
Cas, these kinds of videos that you make are probably my favourite. Seeing you be vulnerable and speaking on these experiences and giving what knowledge and advice you have, I don’t even know how to describe it as anything but validating, heartwarming and educating. Thank for these videos, truly!
im a guy and have had a pretty shitty love life as well. hell, my last “talking stage” started on bumble, lasted for months, and had me convinced she wanted a relationship with me too just for me to make a playlist for her to tell her how i felt and ended up getting ghosted. i deleted all my dating apps and convinced myself over and over again that i deserved it and that i wasn’t worthy of love, let alone self love. this video is making me reconsider. thanks a bunch, cascina. Take care
It's hard, it's really hard not to let that "I deserved it" feeling set in. When someone mistreats and ghosts you, in real life or on dating apps, it's an indictment on them, not you. Take care of yourself dude. At the very least you deserve to be able to love yourself. Without knowing you, I'd bet you're worthy of the love you're looking for, too.
@@N0ts0H0tT0ddy sure, maybe. regardless, my point was that id like to know and have some sense of closure lmao. it’s pretty cowardly to completely drop out of someone who you’ve been talking to for months’ life
My pisces rising and I really needed to hear this. Smh. I admire your growth, and how much introspection you have. I'm 19, mentally ill, and idk what I'm doing anymore. I've put up with a lot of emotional abuse in my life and I'm working hard on building self respect. Your videos have helped me a lot. So thank you. ❤
@@smashy1806 I'm so sorry you're going through that. It's really difficult. To be honest, it does take a lot of work, gentleness, and patience. Don't beat yourself up over not progressing "fast". Also, stuff like this isn't linear. I mean, I'm still learning as I go, and sometimes I fall back into old habits or mindsets. But i'm getting a lot better at recognizing them, and pulling myself out of those thought processes which is honestly one of the most important things you can do. What helped me a lot was finding the right therapist, and making sure I was surrounding myself with people that help me grow. Learn to set boundaries, and practice taking care of yourself too! Even the little things make a difference. Hang in there. You're doing great, and things will work out. ❤
Sorry to hear that guys. I went through some stuff this year. I think it’s important to take as much time to yourself as you need, and to learn about yourself, what makes you happy, what brings you joy, what you’re passionate about. You’re both young, so stay patient and keep love and respect for yourself. You’ve gotta have your own back. Also, going a hike or being outdoors and getting off the internet for a while always helps :)
@@smashy1806 of course, I’m experiencing the same thing like many others. If you can do it safely I encourage you to find more time outside, or go for a nature walk. I always feel that I get too much in my head if I stay on the internet, worry about social media, or what’s going on in the news. It’s all so overwhelming if you are invested in it 100% of the time. And when you do step out into nature, you realize none of that stuff really matters. And it’s quiet, and you feel at peace. I live in Denver, and nothing makes me happier than finding myself in the mountains. It’ll work out my friend, just do things that make you happy, and almost more importantly, start to recognize the things that don’t make you happy, that aren’t adding any value to your life. Time is precious my friend. I imagine you’re a very interesting, creative person (and you’re definitely cool if you like The Last of Us 😉), maybe just gotta discover it more for yourself. God bless
As a 19 year old pisces myself, I've come to the conclusion that we aren't supposed to know what to do right now, that is kinda crappy, but at the same time, it gives us a chance to find things we never though we would, in time of course. We as humans drift towards things we enjoy, try to follow that direction, for example, if you are a creative person who likes creative things, go in the direction of creative things, but other than that direction, we will have no clue for a time I believe, personally I don't feel bad about not knowing, maybe if you do, try to find it in you to accept that you don't know... Yet. You don't know yet
I really can't put into words like how much I feel seen for ONCE in my whole ass life and like-- I know everyone say the same shit over and over but when I hear you, Cascina, is like hearing myself, my own thoughts in someone else's voice or life if you will. Seriously, thank you for taking your time and doing this. You heal me in some way. 🙌🏼✨🖤
i truly dislike that when it comes to self love , some days you can absolutely adore yourself and other days you could just absolutely resent yourself. I wonder what’s the key to finding that perfect balance.
Me a 21 year old who has always been single because I always psych myself out of crushes so I can focus on my studies and stay in control. I have no experience with heartbreak or love. Still gonna watch this video. Basically people get rejected by their crushes, and I reject myself before there even is a chance for the crush to develop.
Literally you’re my favorite person on the planet. You definitely didn’t have to do this video, but being vulnerable and honest enough to delve deep and critique this subject literally was so heartwarming to see you do Cascina. Keep on, keeping on babygirl. Walk good, take care. 🌺❤️🌺
I’d like to see Cascina read a children’s book and then basically rewrite it to be this profound psychological book, her take on things just amazes me every time (I mean this in a good way)
My perception of you was spot on which is a good thing. Only 22 but you're talking about he right things, so I think you"ll be fine. Just never kid yourself again and keep strengthening your heart from within.
When your love for yourself is so great that you no longer need your crush to like you back, that is what creates genuine attraction. The one who seems like they could leave you or love you in any given moment is who we desire most.. You cannot truly love another until you love yourself. You must love your physical flaws, your past mistakes, your sexuality, your loneliness, your quirks, your weaknesses. When you have nothing to hide, you are free to be your true self. You attract people of the same level of consciousness or development which you are at.
Sometimes navigating relationships, romantic and otherwise, feels like I’m in a dark warehouse sobbing, trying to untangle the longest headphone cable ever made. Made all the worse by me transferring my own insecurities and faults onto others, subconsciously. With you on good taste in music though. That’s a must.
I feel like the best way to get over somebody is to disgust yourself from that person. I've personally got over some ppl because i told myself that they were bad persons, that they've done things without caring whether or not i'd get hurt afterwards. Sadly enough, time is great factor too but your own will is what also makes a difference
Two years of inexplicable pain and misery that no one seems to understand, let alone the values and things you mentioned, including accepting my own faults in all of it and my part and pain I potentially and definitely caused (because I'm only human and FAR from perfect) and finally, FINALLY someone hits it all right on the head. Yes, I'm behind in commenting and this is probably technically "old news" status but whatever. This is so on point and accurate and applies to myself and so much of the world. I love this. I wish I had come across your videos a long time ago because you have reignited something in me that I was terrified was going to die out completely. I have hope again. And I'm going to stop this mushy, sad comment and just say I wish I knew you in person or even people like you. As always, you're my absolute favourite human and I'm SO happy you exist! 🙃
Not only are you becoming my therapy but in a past video when you said ‘if your confused and completely unsure about a decision. Just make one, one that you think should be the best one. Make a decision’ now! This video coming up! OH MY GOD I RELATE TO YOU LIKE 90%
Sometimes you just gotta stop lying to yourself, the whole picture might be bad for you and you just cling to the little things that make you feel good, but at the end it aint worth it, love yourself and then you can be loved by someone else
Cascina talking for 20mins is all I need and makes my day 10x better🥰❤️❤️also I love her expressions when she plays video games(I'm also excited for part 2 become human!)❤️❤️
I gotta say, I’m super surprised that you’d say you’re not too good with communication - this was so comprehensive! Thanks for the words and the time; this sort of awareness and expression of ✨values✨ is gonna bring you far. Off to the moon!
Yeah. Your short visit in the group chat had quite a funny impact. 😊 Your advice is imho a very healthy and important one. And the dynamic between the sexes is quite universal and not only in your bubble. But people like you help exposing it and hopefully break it down by time. Thank you 🙏
I can't believe anyone would reject you. From just your videos I and I'm sure many others have seen just how nice, compassionate, and caring of a person you are. Just goes to show how selfish people can be I guess.
My guy, just because someone says things that make sense to you or says things that you admire or relate to, doesn’t mean they’re perfect, or that others are selfish.
I’m 23 and never been in a relationship 🤣 I’m not even interested in finding love as I’m happy with where I am right now, is that weird? 😅 but I will watch anything you post, Tuesdays are my highlights haha ☺️ Hope you are doing okay Cascina ✨
It's not weird it's great, we should normalize being single and happy. My last relationship ended 6 months ago, I've been single ever since and it feels great, I'm 20 and with no intention to jump in another relationship. It's great to take time for yourself and love yourself. I never feel lonely because I love being by myself, maybe because I've always been an introvert 😭 but my friends are enough and it feels great to just focus on myself. I'm thriving
Values and principles are what I live for, too. No matter what's going on, I've always tried to make sure I hold myself to my values. It's incredible how this changes your life, and those around you. My story with relationships is much different from yours in some ways, but so similar in other ways. I love your videos and I hope you keep making ones like this~ It's hard to look at yourself, acknowledge your good and bad, and begin to heal and love yourself. It really is life-changing. I'm still trying to figure out my place in this world, in relationships, and within myself, but I know I'll figure it all out eventually because I believe in myself first and foremost. It took a long time to realize that, but it's powerful. On that note, when it comes to relationships, or even just friendships, I need to wait for people that are more like me (in terms of values, principles, etc) instead of continually trying to fit completely different, unreasonable, and disrespectful people into my life. It's been so hard to come to terms with that, but I'm now starting to fully accept this and make steps towards having a happier, healthier life in terms of friendships and the people I want in my future. I don't know if any of this makes sense. I hope it does. I do want to say thank you, Cascina. Your videos on these more personal, life topics are so valuable to me. You always have great insight into these things because of your past experiences. We all have a lot of similarities in our pasts, but not all of us are able to put it into such good, meaningful words to reflect on it ourselves and especially to help other people deal with it, too. It's a gift. It's also so great to see someone so passionate about their values, knowing how hard it was for me to get to that place myself, where I could put my values before (most) anything else.
Whenever I think I'm over my ex dating someone else, I suddenly get that feeling that I truly missed out on "The One" and it hurts to think that. I can't help it. But then there's periods where I feel so confident and great. I'll get there but it just sucks everyone once in a while. Can't help but feel like I lost already. Gearing up for college so we'll see.
going back and watching all your videos again is probably one of the best decisions I have made in a while, you have no idea how much they are helping me rn bro
Seriously though, thank you. I wish I had this wisdom at 22. All because of one woman I met when I was 20, still naive to the ways of the world , got jerked around, spent the rest of my life feeling absolutely worthless. It didn't just have an effect on future relationships, but all future interactions with everybody. It feels like I wasted my 20s, and much of my 30s too. And I'm still trying to look at myself in the mirror, learning to like myself again, and feel like I'm worth it; to feel like there's a point to getting out of bed in the morning, going to the gym etc. This video really hit home with me.
This is the realest and most relatable video I have ever seen. The part where distancing yourself from the person, and things that reminded you of them helped you cope with heartbreak, inspired me to delete the last photo in my gallery of me and the person together. I feel the more I accept the reality of the situation, and take advantage of the new space I've been put in to grow better, I'm starting to feel ok.
Cascina, you’re welcome to join the convo on that gc 😂 it’s more than Glass Animals 🤐🤐 but seriously being part of the family has been the greatest thing. The people I’ve met specially in those GC are super welcoming
I am glad that you have acquired these self-realizations and are learning/striving to self-love. It's an important thing to remember in a relationship; if you don't love yourself, or if you get your love from other's acceptance of you, then you will never find that love that you're searching for. Self-love is the first step to finding love with others. Side note: as a man I will 100% say that men are more selfish than women. That's why misogyny is recognized as a societal struggle, and that behavior plays into that fault. If you can't find men that are willing to overcome the hurdles of sexist attitudes and selfishness that they might have, then you should reconsider what you're looking for and what you value in order to avoid men like that. They're a dime a dozen, but there are also plenty of men that do care about others and are empathetic too. That's a good starting point, and though it's not everything it's something one should look for in any partner.
Honestly when this video came out, i didnt watch it. I added it to my watch later and waited until i needed it. I consciously do this when i see talking videos like this and I always stumble apon them the moment i need it. Like the universe aligned so that I could relate to this video in order for me to understand my experiences to move on. Thanks love x
To everyone out there that has been in a situationship & is now out of it, you are PERFECT. Don’t let that toxic relationship make you feel as if you’re never going to be good enough for the next person. Because there is someone out there that will love you unconditionally🥰❤️ Sometimes you have to let go of something that is holding you down in order to receive blessings.
Your only 22 tho. I mean, truly your ONLY 22! The universe hasn't even noticed you yet. And your already forever legend cause of a video game! Love can wait til your 30+ 🌠🥰😇
I didn't think I needed this, until I watched the video and was like ' ya I totally needed this' lol. A couple months back I broke up with this girl, who I still talk too as friends but it is a bit weird. Especially since she started dating a mutual friend me and her know and I had randomly started to catch feelings again for her since the beginning of the year. But seeing how happy she is makes me really happy tbh. I don't have feelings for her anymore, but my dating life at the moment is a really mess ( pretty much not getting any girls attention atm ), however this video really helped me and was like therapy honestly. I wish I could meet a girl like you cause you're so down to earth, funny, honest, goofy, and just all around an awesome person! I definitely needed this video even if I didn't know I did.
this video helped me feel better. i've had a hard time going through my first heartbreak, dealing with a lot of thoughts and feelings i've never had to deal with before. and watching this video, it was like cascina was talking to me personally. i felt every word in my soul 🙏
yup. for me I fell deeply "in love" with this boy and I also envisioned us together forever, and we were mad about each other I thought he was perfect but unfortunately as time went on he revealed himself to be a really shady person, he lied to me a lot, gaslighted me any time i shared a concern with him or expressed my feelings about something i didn't like that he was doing , and because of that every insecurity I have now as a full grown adult i owe to him
These videos hurt me. Especially this one. It's because I see my past self in what you're saying, and I know the suffering you're headed for, and there's nothing I can do to help.
crazy failed relationship stories you say? hold my beer... also, think I’ll send the therapist payment straight to you instead. didn’t realize this was UA-cam premium 🖤
I dont use social media because i dont like it. It it always so negative and you care to much of what people think. But i feel like in this social media era you have to have it because people want/expect you to have it? I dunno
I just started studying English, it aroused great intrigue in me since I saw you for the first time on this platform, I had never felt so identified with someone, life is beautiful and it is even more so for people like you, you have all my respect and admiration, I like your way of thinking and your values. Love comes when you least expect it It crosses our hearts and makes us feel things that we never thought would happen to us. We feel all this thanks to that person who takes our breath away, with whom we dream and who becomes our first thought in the morning. You have an "I don't know what" that I like, a charm that is difficult to explain.
I think its super important how you're being aware of this and i hope that talking about it helps you to learn to love yourself or at least to know that you deserve it.
The fact that shes a pisces (And me coming from a pisces) Makes it so difficult to fall in love because we literally IMAGINE things in our head and our brains just imagine and wanna make us do the most insane things😂😟
One thing... Whatever people will say you, you are a good person! And you know things about life that nobody knows because you had live difficult things. That makes you someone that know the real world! You have to know that you help a lot of people Cascina!
I was about to commit suicide when I realized I was the toxic one in the relationship and caused all of that unnecessary pain. And I'm still dealing with it, it's hard
Heyy, just got the chance to watch this honest confessional entirely today. I believe the pain caused by any love relationship can only be healed by another love relationship. It is the interim period in which we are alone is the most difficult one. Not saying the very next guy/girl will be perfect but for sure pain lessens. Nothing else works. Love is the only medicine for illness called love. And lets not forget we all are very greedy inside. We want everything and in this want of everything we often forget about honesty. I am no sage/saint but whatever good that I once cherished in relationships with opposite gender was lost or hampered because of this greed to have everything. Its too complicated, too painful, too unexplainable until we find the right one. With the right one also, we will again have all the bad situations but just lets make sure that If this happens keep honesty as the main carving tool for life and beyond. Or else nothing works.
This was a great video! So much good stuff to digest here and it's so relatable. One thing she didn't mention here was self improvement. She mentioned focusing on a passion, and I agree with that. But what about someone like me who works 55 hours a week and is just not sure what his passion is anymore. I've thought about this a lot and that's when I decided to make self improvement my passion. Limit social media intake to 10 minutes a day, and workout for at least an hour. 14 months ago I had a 5 year relationship end, since then I've graduated with a masters, put in place a budget and a plan to move across country, visited 2 places I've always wanted to go, worked out everyday since the breakup, went to therapy every week, and bought my dream car. Work hard, improve yourself, watch your life change the for the best. Relationships do not make you happy, you make you happy. Great video Cascina! Take care!
Love you girl!!! Stay strong. I'm 7 weeks pregnant, and the guy I was with didn't stick around. Relationships suck ass. I'd rather stay single especially now, my main focus is my work as a medical receptionist and my unborn baby. Mad love and respect to you.
Just remember that your past does not equal your future. Its great that you love yourself first before loving anyone else, but leave room for that significant other. No one likes to be 2nd to anything when matters of the heart are concerned. But I am a big believer in "watch what they do, not what they say".... those are indicators of what the person is gonna be like or do in the immediate future. I wish you nothing but luck in finding what you deserve. Someone that knows how to communicate first and then appreciates you for who you really are. ~Maj.
My ex left me April of last year. Unfortunately it took me almost 10 solid months to get over it, but now I've never felt better. The pain a person is forced to go through after a breakup makes you better in every way once you get through it. Your self-image, confidence, the way you interact with others in general. Everything like that is improved in every way. Stay strong friends 🙏 & of course, Thanks for sharing your experiences Dina! 😊
i am literally in the same exact boat as cascina and watching this made me feel so much better, I felt like I was the only one with a past like that but I love this and ilysm, thank you for posting this
Thank you for sharing your thoughts Cascina, I really needed to hear stuff like this. I’m a 20 y/o guy in college rn and I’ve got that same feeling of being scared/excited for my future. What I loved the most is your thoughts about sticking to your values and being the best person you can. It’s important to love yourself, but also not waste your time and energy loving someone who you know is bad for you. All the best and I’m so excited to see where your career goes.
Sometimes it's great just to listen (no questions in hand, no critiques, not even praising... Just to listen, to see and hear another's perspective). So thank you for sharing that and being open on it. Just wanted to say that.
Honest, real, and genuine! I love the way your brain works Cascina, always saying what’s on your mind is so refreshing to listen to. Thankyou for being real with us.
Cascina, you're advice videos about self-worth and self-love are really the best thing ever, thank you, you really have helped me to finally go and ask for help. keep your amazing, positive platform and person
She needs her own podcast cause this is great!
YES PLEASE
Facts actually
I would love to be on that podcast I feel like I'd have LOTS to share
Cascina talking for 20 minutes straight is all I needed today
Cascina: Heartbreak veteran
Joel: you have no idea what loss is
Closure happens right after you accept that letting go and moving on is more important than projecting a fantasy of how the relationship could have been”
Each of us lives dependent and bound by our individual knowledge and our awareness. All that is what we call reality. However, both knowledge and awareness are equivocal. One’s reality might be another’s illusion. We all live inside our own fantasies. - Itachi Uchiha
@@Dsenju 👏🏾
Says the guy that murdered his entire clan
@@nickharris8205 This particular individual @Tobi also known as Obit.... I mean Madara uchiha could enlighten you about such a matter.
@@nickharris8205 yes 🤣😂 indeed I was the chosen uchiha to kill everyone
Can we pls appreciate that she is the only youtuber, who never asks for likes and subs..
Just giving us the best content.
This is fucking amazing!
This is why i love her so much tbh, she’s so honest and humble 😌❤️
@@tiberiuderevlean9203 oh yes haha
@@tiberiuderevlean9203 yea shes amazing who evey rejects her is blind
@@enclave6982 honestly
That’s why she makes less money then men do
One of if not the most thoughtful and genuine creators on UA-cam ☯️
I would love to meet her but sadly I'm in the uk
'Everyone i had a crush on i got rejected by'
ayo she's just like me.
ok buddy
pro tip: u dont get rejected if u dont let them know u have a crush on them
I never knew Cascina would be my therapist. How did you make this video without getting emotional? I cried watching it. Thank you.
The way Cascina summarised what took me and my therapist 8 weeks to land on, in only 20 minutes
Your therapist was in it for money of course it took 8 weeks
I’m British mate, didn’t pay a penny ✌️
@@lauraj7808 I never said you did. You do realize your therapist still gets paid right?
@Fuck UA-cam wow thank u for that groundbreaking information, even after both my psychology degrees I had no idea ! ! Have a good day mate ✌️
@@lauraj7808 So you needed a therapist even though you’re a psychologist? Dawg, that’s like calling the police when you’re an officer yourself. 😭😭
Man I love these sit down videos so much
Cas, these kinds of videos that you make are probably my favourite. Seeing you be vulnerable and speaking on these experiences and giving what knowledge and advice you have, I don’t even know how to describe it as anything but validating, heartwarming and educating. Thank for these videos, truly!
When i saw the tittle "Wow perfect for me, that’s what i really needed !!"
Don’t be scared to completely rid yourself of social media. Literally the most liberating thing I’ve done.
im a guy and have had a pretty shitty love life as well. hell, my last “talking stage” started on bumble, lasted for months, and had me convinced she wanted a relationship with me too just for me to make a playlist for her to tell her how i felt and ended up getting ghosted. i deleted all my dating apps and convinced myself over and over again that i deserved it and that i wasn’t worthy of love, let alone self love. this video is making me reconsider. thanks a bunch, cascina. Take care
It's hard, it's really hard not to let that "I deserved it" feeling set in. When someone mistreats and ghosts you, in real life or on dating apps, it's an indictment on them, not you.
Take care of yourself dude. At the very least you deserve to be able to love yourself. Without knowing you, I'd bet you're worthy of the love you're looking for, too.
all mine last no more than 3 days, idk what i do wrong bruh
Awww ;( I appreciate you! If someone did that for me I think I would melt in happiness. You’ll find your person. I pinky promise
She rejected you because you got too attached and because the way you went about it.
@@N0ts0H0tT0ddy sure, maybe. regardless, my point was that id like to know and have some sense of closure lmao. it’s pretty cowardly to completely drop out of someone who you’ve been talking to for months’ life
I love how she added time stamps in the description, AS IF I wasn’t gonna watch the whole video anyway 😆
In my opinion, everyone will find their love sooner or later, and all unsuccessful relationships are a lesson for the future.
My pisces rising and I really needed to hear this. Smh.
I admire your growth, and how much introspection you have. I'm 19, mentally ill, and idk what I'm doing anymore. I've put up with a lot of emotional abuse in my life and I'm working hard on building self respect. Your videos have helped me a lot. So thank you. ❤
@@smashy1806 I'm so sorry you're going through that. It's really difficult. To be honest, it does take a lot of work, gentleness, and patience. Don't beat yourself up over not progressing "fast". Also, stuff like this isn't linear. I mean, I'm still learning as I go, and sometimes I fall back into old habits or mindsets. But i'm getting a lot better at recognizing them, and pulling myself out of those thought processes which is honestly one of the most important things you can do. What helped me a lot was finding the right therapist, and making sure I was surrounding myself with people that help me grow. Learn to set boundaries, and practice taking care of yourself too! Even the little things make a difference. Hang in there. You're doing great, and things will work out. ❤
Sorry to hear that guys. I went through some stuff this year. I think it’s important to take as much time to yourself as you need, and to learn about yourself, what makes you happy, what brings you joy, what you’re passionate about. You’re both young, so stay patient and keep love and respect for yourself. You’ve gotta have your own back.
Also, going a hike or being outdoors and getting off the internet for a while always helps :)
@@Sam-ho1xp Thank you, that's really sweet.
I hope you're doing better now ❤
@@smashy1806 of course, I’m experiencing the same thing like many others. If you can do it safely I encourage you to find more time outside, or go for a nature walk. I always feel that I get too much in my head if I stay on the internet, worry about social media, or what’s going on in the news. It’s all so overwhelming if you are invested in it 100% of the time. And when you do step out into nature, you realize none of that stuff really matters. And it’s quiet, and you feel at peace. I live in Denver, and nothing makes me happier than finding myself in the mountains. It’ll work out my friend, just do things that make you happy, and almost more importantly, start to recognize the things that don’t make you happy, that aren’t adding any value to your life. Time is precious my friend. I imagine you’re a very interesting, creative person (and you’re definitely cool if you like The Last of Us 😉), maybe just gotta discover it more for yourself. God bless
As a 19 year old pisces myself, I've come to the conclusion that we aren't supposed to know what to do right now, that is kinda crappy, but at the same time, it gives us a chance to find things we never though we would, in time of course. We as humans drift towards things we enjoy, try to follow that direction, for example, if you are a creative person who likes creative things, go in the direction of creative things, but other than that direction, we will have no clue for a time I believe, personally I don't feel bad about not knowing, maybe if you do, try to find it in you to accept that you don't know... Yet. You don't know yet
It is literally insane how you explained what I tried to explain for YEARS to a lot of people in 20 minutes, I genuinely fell in love with your mind
I love this girl so much she’s so precious and must be protected at all costs 🥺
I really can't put into words like how much I feel seen for ONCE in my whole ass life and like-- I know everyone say the same shit over and over but when I hear you, Cascina, is like hearing myself, my own thoughts in someone else's voice or life if you will. Seriously, thank you for taking your time and doing this. You heal me in some way. 🙌🏼✨🖤
i truly dislike that when it comes to self love , some days you can absolutely adore yourself and other days you could just absolutely resent yourself. I wonder what’s the key to finding that perfect balance.
i think that balance comes with time, like everything
Me a 21 year old who has always been single because I always psych myself out of crushes so I can focus on my studies and stay in control. I have no experience with heartbreak or love. Still gonna watch this video.
Basically people get rejected by their crushes, and I reject myself before there even is a chance for the crush to develop.
When Cascina drops a vid, I instantly feel the need to make a cup of tea.
Literally you’re my favorite person on the planet.
You definitely didn’t have to do this video, but being vulnerable and honest enough to delve deep and critique this subject literally was so heartwarming to see you do Cascina.
Keep on, keeping on babygirl.
Walk good, take care.
🌺❤️🌺
I’d like to see Cascina read a children’s book and then basically rewrite it to be this profound psychological book, her take on things just amazes me every time (I mean this in a good way)
I’m not gonna lie this is something I really needed
That’s crazy. Can’t imagine any guy rejecting her. She’s intelligent, funny and physically flawless.
You deserve all the love in the world!
@UpwardNinja i also deserve for love and now i lts time to selle down.
Just here to let you know that your videos are wholesome and make my day🥰
My perception of you was spot on which is a good thing. Only 22 but you're talking about he right things, so I think you"ll be fine. Just never kid yourself again and keep strengthening your heart from within.
Haven’t watched the video yet but I already know she spitting knowledge 😭
When your love for yourself is so great that you no longer need your crush to like you back, that is what creates genuine attraction. The one who seems like they could leave you or love you in any given moment is who we desire most..
You cannot truly love another until you love yourself. You must love your physical flaws, your past mistakes, your sexuality, your loneliness, your quirks, your weaknesses. When you have nothing to hide, you are free to be your true self. You attract people of the same level of consciousness or development which you are at.
Sometimes navigating relationships, romantic and otherwise, feels like I’m in a dark warehouse sobbing, trying to untangle the longest headphone cable ever made. Made all the worse by me transferring my own insecurities and faults onto others, subconsciously.
With you on good taste in music though. That’s a must.
I feel like the best way to get over somebody is to disgust yourself from that person. I've personally got over some ppl because i told myself that they were bad persons, that they've done things without caring whether or not i'd get hurt afterwards. Sadly enough, time is great factor too but your own will is what also makes a difference
Honestly, the most perfect video I and a lot of other people need rn, thank you Cascina ❤️
Two years of inexplicable pain and misery that no one seems to understand, let alone the values and things you mentioned, including accepting my own faults in all of it and my part and pain I potentially and definitely caused (because I'm only human and FAR from perfect) and finally, FINALLY someone hits it all right on the head. Yes, I'm behind in commenting and this is probably technically "old news" status but whatever. This is so on point and accurate and applies to myself and so much of the world. I love this. I wish I had come across your videos a long time ago because you have reignited something in me that I was terrified was going to die out completely. I have hope again. And I'm going to stop this mushy, sad comment and just say I wish I knew you in person or even people like you. As always, you're my absolute favourite human and I'm SO happy you exist! 🙃
Next time someone asks me why I’m not actively going out of my way to get into a relationship, imma yeet them in the direction of this video 🌞
Not only are you becoming my therapy but in a past video when you said ‘if your confused and completely unsure about a decision. Just make one, one that you think should be the best one. Make a decision’ now! This video coming up! OH MY GOD I RELATE TO YOU LIKE 90%
Dina with a broken heart when Ellie left her.
Bro. I need a dlc of them reuniting
@@noquemacuhh1967 we need
@@Matwiisports yes
@@noquemacuhh1967 TLOU2 isn’t getting dlc. You gotta hope there’s a third game.
@@Zarathustr yea. In 6 years
Sometimes you just gotta stop lying to yourself, the whole picture might be bad for you and you just cling to the little things that make you feel good, but at the end it aint worth it, love yourself and then you can be loved by someone else
Cascina talking for 20mins is all I need and makes my day 10x better🥰❤️❤️also I love her expressions when she plays video games(I'm also excited for part 2 become human!)❤️❤️
Man where do I find a girl as wise and musically on point as Cascina? Asking for myself
I can’t believe I found someone who loves glass animals as much as me
no one loves glass animals as much as Cascina.
@@clavius8182 nobody likes glass animals.
@@makeway3080 why did you even bother? it's rhetorical. I don't need an answer.
@@clavius8182 I just don’t get why ppl like the band.
thank you, my day is a complete catostrophe, i really need this
Cascina: I am further from a relationship than I have ever been
me: So you’re saying there’s a chance.. 👁👄👁
bit sad that
Just a classic Dumb and Dumber reference fellas take it easyyyy lol
I'm here for those dumb and dumber reference man. For the other folks who didn't get it...
You guy wanna hear the most annoying sound in the world 😂?
@Akash He’s joking. Don’t cry
@Akash Your goofy ass can’t even spell 😭🤦🏾♂️
as a guy, this vid actually helped me out a lot, appreciate it
I obviously haven’t watched the video yet, but I love all of your videos Cascina! I can’t wait to watch this one after school!
I gotta say, I’m super surprised that you’d say you’re not too good with communication - this was so comprehensive! Thanks for the words and the time; this sort of awareness and expression of ✨values✨ is gonna bring you far. Off to the moon!
Yeah. Your short visit in the group chat had quite a funny impact. 😊
Your advice is imho a very healthy and important one. And the dynamic between the sexes is quite universal and not only in your bubble.
But people like you help exposing it and hopefully break it down by time. Thank you 🙏
Most importantly i love these type of videos where Cas talks it makes me feel more connected
I can't believe anyone would reject you. From just your videos I and I'm sure many others have seen just how nice, compassionate, and caring of a person you are.
Just goes to show how selfish people can be I guess.
My guy, just because someone says things that make sense to you or says things that you admire or relate to, doesn’t mean they’re perfect, or that others are selfish.
@@alvaradoac21 finally someone said it
@@mattlikeshistory6419 PS I’m not saying that to try and say Cas is a bad person or something. I’d say humans generally operate in a grey area!
@@alvaradoac21 People don’t understand that you don’t really know a person until you meet them. Even then you still might not KNOW them.
I NEED more videos like these, like Cascina uploads these kind of videos when I need to hear shit the most. THANK U
After my bad share of relationships I found. That it’s best to not look for a relationship. Let it come naturally. :D
recover your love nobody deserve it ,move on , never be concerned about moving on , deeeeepppp words
I’m 23 and never been in a relationship 🤣 I’m not even interested in finding love as I’m happy with where I am right now, is that weird? 😅 but I will watch anything you post, Tuesdays are my highlights haha ☺️ Hope you are doing okay Cascina ✨
Literally me lmao
My therapist would say that you're repressing some stuff, hahaha. Good luck hope you doing well.
It's not weird it's great, we should normalize being single and happy. My last relationship ended 6 months ago, I've been single ever since and it feels great, I'm 20 and with no intention to jump in another relationship. It's great to take time for yourself and love yourself. I never feel lonely because I love being by myself, maybe because I've always been an introvert 😭 but my friends are enough and it feels great to just focus on myself. I'm thriving
I ENVY YOU :(
Maybe you're asexual?
Values and principles are what I live for, too. No matter what's going on, I've always tried to make sure I hold myself to my values. It's incredible how this changes your life, and those around you. My story with relationships is much different from yours in some ways, but so similar in other ways. I love your videos and I hope you keep making ones like this~ It's hard to look at yourself, acknowledge your good and bad, and begin to heal and love yourself. It really is life-changing. I'm still trying to figure out my place in this world, in relationships, and within myself, but I know I'll figure it all out eventually because I believe in myself first and foremost. It took a long time to realize that, but it's powerful. On that note, when it comes to relationships, or even just friendships, I need to wait for people that are more like me (in terms of values, principles, etc) instead of continually trying to fit completely different, unreasonable, and disrespectful people into my life. It's been so hard to come to terms with that, but I'm now starting to fully accept this and make steps towards having a happier, healthier life in terms of friendships and the people I want in my future.
I don't know if any of this makes sense. I hope it does. I do want to say thank you, Cascina. Your videos on these more personal, life topics are so valuable to me. You always have great insight into these things because of your past experiences. We all have a lot of similarities in our pasts, but not all of us are able to put it into such good, meaningful words to reflect on it ourselves and especially to help other people deal with it, too. It's a gift. It's also so great to see someone so passionate about their values, knowing how hard it was for me to get to that place myself, where I could put my values before (most) anything else.
Whenever I think I'm over my ex dating someone else, I suddenly get that feeling that I truly missed out on "The One" and it hurts to think that. I can't help it. But then there's periods where I feel so confident and great. I'll get there but it just sucks everyone once in a while. Can't help but feel like I lost already. Gearing up for college so we'll see.
Me too girl! Going through the same.
I keep having that same feeling it does indeed suck
going back and watching all your videos again is probably one of the best decisions I have made in a while, you have no idea how much they are helping me rn bro
2 years ago: oh look she has dina's face haha
today: oh look another vid from my spiritual life coach
Seriously though, thank you. I wish I had this wisdom at 22. All because of one woman I met when I was 20, still naive to the ways of the world , got jerked around, spent the rest of my life feeling absolutely worthless. It didn't just have an effect on future relationships, but all future interactions with everybody. It feels like I wasted my 20s, and much of my 30s too. And I'm still trying to look at myself in the mirror, learning to like myself again, and feel like I'm worth it; to feel like there's a point to getting out of bed in the morning, going to the gym etc. This video really hit home with me.
I’m just sitting here flabbergasted that so many dudes rejected Cascina
The timing of this video is beyond PERFECT... I'm in the "ghosting" part, and that sh** really hurts.. I really needed to hear this. Best video ever
3:13 the part you looking for
This is the realest and most relatable video I have ever seen. The part where distancing yourself from the person, and things that reminded you of them helped you cope with heartbreak, inspired me to delete the last photo in my gallery of me and the person together. I feel the more I accept the reality of the situation, and take advantage of the new space I've been put in to grow better, I'm starting to feel ok.
Cascina, you’re welcome to join the convo on that gc 😂 it’s more than Glass Animals 🤐🤐 but seriously being part of the family has been the greatest thing. The people I’ve met specially in those GC are super welcoming
What GC?
I am glad that you have acquired these self-realizations and are learning/striving to self-love. It's an important thing to remember in a relationship; if you don't love yourself, or if you get your love from other's acceptance of you, then you will never find that love that you're searching for. Self-love is the first step to finding love with others.
Side note: as a man I will 100% say that men are more selfish than women. That's why misogyny is recognized as a societal struggle, and that behavior plays into that fault. If you can't find men that are willing to overcome the hurdles of sexist attitudes and selfishness that they might have, then you should reconsider what you're looking for and what you value in order to avoid men like that. They're a dime a dozen, but there are also plenty of men that do care about others and are empathetic too. That's a good starting point, and though it's not everything it's something one should look for in any partner.
Sometimes it's girls who don't speak up or make a relationship continue or end.
They just want it be as it is. Which is not good and it's hurtful.
Honestly when this video came out, i didnt watch it. I added it to my watch later and waited until i needed it. I consciously do this when i see talking videos like this and I always stumble apon them the moment i need it. Like the universe aligned so that I could relate to this video in order for me to understand my experiences to move on. Thanks love x
i can't believe the fact that dina is much more stronger emotionally than cascina 😂
Dina just grows in apocalypse
To everyone out there that has been in a situationship & is now out of it, you are PERFECT. Don’t let that toxic relationship make you feel as if you’re never going to be good enough for the next person. Because there is someone out there that will love you unconditionally🥰❤️ Sometimes you have to let go of something that is holding you down in order to receive blessings.
Your only 22 tho.
I mean, truly your ONLY 22!
The universe hasn't even noticed you yet. And your already forever legend cause of a video game!
Love can wait til your 30+
🌠🥰😇
It’s you’re 😐
I didn't think I needed this, until I watched the video and was like ' ya I totally needed this' lol. A couple months back I broke up with this girl, who I still talk too as friends but it is a bit weird. Especially since she started dating a mutual friend me and her know and I had randomly started to catch feelings again for her since the beginning of the year. But seeing how happy she is makes me really happy tbh. I don't have feelings for her anymore, but my dating life at the moment is a really mess ( pretty much not getting any girls attention atm ), however this video really helped me and was like therapy honestly. I wish I could meet a girl like you cause you're so down to earth, funny, honest, goofy, and just all around an awesome person! I definitely needed this video even if I didn't know I did.
This video just popped out the moment I needed it the most 😆
Edit : thanks to you I just unfollowed someone, I couldn't do it in 2 years..
this video helped me feel better. i've had a hard time going through my first heartbreak, dealing with a lot of thoughts and feelings i've never had to deal with before. and watching this video, it was like cascina was talking to me personally. i felt every word in my soul 🙏
Funny how the first relationship looks like being the best one for a lot of people
yup. for me I fell deeply "in love" with this boy and I also envisioned us together forever, and we were mad about each other I thought he was perfect but unfortunately as time went on he revealed himself to be a really shady person, he lied to me a lot, gaslighted me any time i shared a concern with him or expressed my feelings about something i didn't like that he was doing , and because of that every insecurity I have now as a full grown adult i owe to him
These videos hurt me. Especially this one. It's because I see my past self in what you're saying, and I know the suffering you're headed for, and there's nothing I can do to help.
Huh????
crazy failed relationship stories you say? hold my beer...
also, think I’ll send the therapist payment straight to you instead. didn’t realize this was UA-cam premium 🖤
I’m really sorry that you had to struggle through all that hardship Cascina. I’m glad you seem at least somewhat better now.
I dont use social media because i dont like it. It it always so negative and you care to much of what people think. But i feel like in this social media era you have to have it because people want/expect you to have it? I dunno
There’s also a bunch of positivity on social media.
I just started studying English, it aroused great intrigue in me since I saw you for the first time on this platform, I had never felt so identified with someone, life is beautiful and it is even more so for people like you, you have all my respect and admiration, I like your way of thinking and your values. Love comes when you least expect it
It crosses our hearts and makes us feel things that we never thought would happen to us. We feel all this thanks to that person who takes our breath away, with whom we dream and who becomes our first thought in the morning. You have an "I don't know what" that I like, a charm that is difficult to explain.
Cascina your teeth are so god damn white, what’s your secret?
I think its super important how you're being aware of this and i hope that talking about it helps you to learn to love yourself or at least to know that you deserve it.
The fact that shes a pisces (And me coming from a pisces) Makes it so difficult to fall in love because we literally IMAGINE things in our head and our brains just imagine and wanna make us do the most insane things😂😟
One thing... Whatever people will say you, you are a good person! And you know things about life that nobody knows because you had live difficult things. That makes you someone that know the real world! You have to know that you help a lot of people Cascina!
I was about to commit suicide when I realized I was the toxic one in the relationship and caused all of that unnecessary pain. And I'm still dealing with it, it's hard
Heyy, just got the chance to watch this honest confessional entirely today.
I believe the pain caused by any love relationship can only be healed by another love relationship. It is the interim period in which we are alone is the most difficult one.
Not saying the very next guy/girl will be perfect but for sure pain lessens. Nothing else works. Love is the only medicine for illness called love.
And lets not forget we all are very greedy inside. We want everything and in this want of everything we often forget about honesty. I am no sage/saint but whatever good that I once cherished in relationships with opposite gender was lost or hampered because of this greed to have everything.
Its too complicated, too painful, too unexplainable until we find the right one. With the right one also, we will again have all the bad situations but just lets make sure that If this happens keep honesty as the main carving tool for life and beyond. Or else nothing works.
i felt like i needed to give this girl a hug throughout the entirety of the video
This was a great video! So much good stuff to digest here and it's so relatable. One thing she didn't mention here was self improvement. She mentioned focusing on a passion, and I agree with that. But what about someone like me who works 55 hours a week and is just not sure what his passion is anymore. I've thought about this a lot and that's when I decided to make self improvement my passion. Limit social media intake to 10 minutes a day, and workout for at least an hour. 14 months ago I had a 5 year relationship end, since then I've graduated with a masters, put in place a budget and a plan to move across country, visited 2 places I've always wanted to go, worked out everyday since the breakup, went to therapy every week, and bought my dream car. Work hard, improve yourself, watch your life change the for the best. Relationships do not make you happy, you make you happy.
Great video Cascina! Take care!
Love you girl!!! Stay strong. I'm 7 weeks pregnant, and the guy I was with didn't stick around. Relationships suck ass. I'd rather stay single especially now, my main focus is my work as a medical receptionist and my unborn baby. Mad love and respect to you.
Just remember that your past does not equal your future. Its great that you love yourself first before loving anyone else, but leave room for that significant other. No one likes to be 2nd to anything when matters of the heart are concerned. But I am a big believer in "watch what they do, not what they say".... those are indicators of what the person is gonna be like or do in the immediate future. I wish you nothing but luck in finding what you deserve. Someone that knows how to communicate first and then appreciates you for who you really are. ~Maj.
My ex left me April of last year. Unfortunately it took me almost 10 solid months to get over it, but now I've never felt better. The pain a person is forced to go through after a breakup makes you better in every way once you get through it. Your self-image, confidence, the way you interact with others in general. Everything like that is improved in every way. Stay strong friends 🙏
& of course, Thanks for sharing your experiences Dina! 😊
i am literally in the same exact boat as cascina and watching this made me feel so much better, I felt like I was the only one with a past like that but I love this and ilysm, thank you for posting this
Thank you for sharing your thoughts Cascina, I really needed to hear stuff like this. I’m a 20 y/o guy in college rn and I’ve got that same feeling of being scared/excited for my future. What I loved the most is your thoughts about sticking to your values and being the best person you can. It’s important to love yourself, but also not waste your time and energy loving someone who you know is bad for you. All the best and I’m so excited to see where your career goes.
Sometimes it's great just to listen (no questions in hand, no critiques, not even praising... Just to listen, to see and hear another's perspective). So thank you for sharing that and being open on it. Just wanted to say that.
5:15 goddamn I totally feel you
I was doing the same shit and I didn't even realize it. Not until you put it together like this.
Honest, real, and genuine! I love the way your brain works Cascina, always saying what’s on your mind is so refreshing to listen to. Thankyou for being real with us.
Cascina, you're advice videos about self-worth and self-love are really the best thing ever, thank you, you really have helped me to finally go and ask for help. keep your amazing, positive platform and person
the Yin Yan necklace was too appropriate for this vid
also, perfect timing i really needed this
My favorite part of my day is when I get to sit in my bed and watch your videos on my TV thank you for make videos like these ❤
Pisces tend to do that, they have visions on their mind and they plan to achieve it as much as possible.