ONCE THEY HAVE YOU THEY DON’T WANT YOU

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  • @CreativeCCookies
    @CreativeCCookies Рік тому +5

    Narcissists never wanted an authentic relationship with you. They wanted to take advantage of you.

  • @heatherwagar5868
    @heatherwagar5868 Рік тому +119

    After the narcissistic relationship was over, I dog sat for my family. I was so depressed. The dogs never left my side. When I cried, they comforted me because they had empathy that the narc couldn’t show me

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Рік тому +3

      😌😌🙏🐶

    • @hongtruong4576
      @hongtruong4576 Рік тому +8

      Thank You Andrew for all the life, mental saving 🙏Animals are the best. They like you or they don’t. I’m very fortunate that they love me. Stay Strong my Brother and Sister. Namaste 🙏😇

    • @judyyates2763
      @judyyates2763 Рік тому +13

      Dogs are wondrous. They are healers.❤️

    • @tjfSIM
      @tjfSIM Рік тому +11

      Animals often display more compassion than humans do, it's incredible (and ironic) really. I have a cat who sits next to me and puts his paw on my arm when I'm down. The narcissist who used to be in my life, and told me so many times how much she loved me, never once showed such empathy or compassion. I hope you're doing better now and emerging on the other side. Your time is precious - spend it on the people, and animals, who deserve it :)

    • @annieb8521
      @annieb8521 Рік тому +15

      I can relate,my ex had no reaction or emotion if I cried but my dog kisses me like crazy when I cry.

  • @michelleleigh3739
    @michelleleigh3739 Рік тому +6

    Literally was kicked to the curb - pure evil

  • @stellar52
    @stellar52 Рік тому +9

    The problem is: They don't want us, but they need us. That's where the abuse gets even worse

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Рік тому

      💯💯😌

    • @helenmcclay2622
      @helenmcclay2622 Рік тому +1

      I think he just wanted me to to want & need him, loves adulation and not just from me.
      They dont want or need us, or only up until discard/new supply.
      . I got strung along after the initial two wks for over 3 mnths. I think he was using me for sexual means only, he never even discarded me... I did myself but I think he wanted it and can tell since hes not bothered about it and he was a couple months back... hes found new supply during that time... I just knew he was losing interest.

    • @stellar52
      @stellar52 Рік тому

      @@helenmcclay2622 Yep. They exen expect people to love them though they don't give anything at all. Mine didn't even buy me Coke while I payed 90 percent of his stuff. He said: I deserve to be loved and expect to be admired

  • @sinjinmonsoon9055
    @sinjinmonsoon9055 Рік тому +11

    We empaths never think anyone is out to hurt us. Especially on purpose. Very hurtful.

  • @eagleeye2300
    @eagleeye2300 Рік тому +23

    So absolutely true...I was a "catch" for the narcissist ...He showed up at an event that he knew I'd attend, (because I was new to the area, and "fresh meat." ) He love bombed me, and BEGGED ME to love him. He told me he'd been waiting for the "Lady of the House." He had a lovely home and acres of property ...I fell for it, thinking this was great. Long story short...Of course, NOT great. The excellent thing is that I refused to just live with him, and we were married. That gave me protection, which he is now stewing about. Too bad. He damaged me brutally...And I am completely cool with anything that I get from him as compensation. I experienced things that would make anyone not spiritually equipped with the strength of God, insane. Man oh man. These "people" are demonically possessed. Actually demonically possessed. I experienced it first hand. It's taken me seven years to come back to a semblance of normalcy. Still healing.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Рік тому +2

      Thank you for sharing this 😌🙏🙌💯💯

    • @eagleeye2300
      @eagleeye2300 Рік тому +4

      @@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone We truly love and thank you, Andrew.

    • @stephaniehall6309
      @stephaniehall6309 Рік тому +4

      They have many demons that are around them , I experienced it first hand and have one on film

    • @sjla2009
      @sjla2009 Рік тому +1

      Yes, demons. I think the main one I have finally unearthed and now seen 👀 plain as day..is actually the Devil himself.

  • @rubyjet9513
    @rubyjet9513 Рік тому +82

    I read that 30% of victims suffer from a codependency. Everyone emphasizes codependency.
    What is overlooked is the chronic cognitive dissonance the victim suffers from.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Рік тому +4

      😌😌🙏

    • @JH-td4mn
      @JH-td4mn Рік тому +10

      Absolutely. Cognitive dissonance is responsible for people staying in abusive relationships just as much as trauma bonds.

    • @rubyjet9513
      @rubyjet9513 Рік тому +11

      @@JH-td4mn
      👍
      Psychologists forget to include cognitive dissonance in the treatment process. It is an internal conflict that is deeply buried. It is not on the surface.

    • @BeTheLight624
      @BeTheLight624 Рік тому +3

      Thank you for sharing this information RubyJet and JH
      ❤️🙏🏻

    • @rubyjet9513
      @rubyjet9513 Рік тому +2

      @@BeTheLight624 🙏🙏

  • @mariefrancebourget1749
    @mariefrancebourget1749 Рік тому +39

    Once the narc got you, it was a done deal. You were there for the use of the narc only. That's how it works. Andrew what a beautiful location. I love the autumn colours. Have a great afternoon and evening ❤❤😊

  • @juliamarie1309
    @juliamarie1309 Рік тому +60

    Sad but so 100% true with these individuals. It seems like the chase is the biggest part of it for them and once they realize they have their so-called "dream girl" they don't know what to do with you or how to treat you properly. It is so disheartening. Thank you for being such an inspiration!

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Рік тому +5

      Welcome 💯🙏😌🙌

    • @juliamarie1309
      @juliamarie1309 Рік тому +8

      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone I pray for the day I reach indifference but breaking the trauma bond is so difficult for me. I am proud that I ended the relationship with him at the beginning of August and have remained no contact, although it is challenging. At times I think of something I want to say for all the horrible things he put me through, but I know nothing good would come of it. However, it's still tempting. I can't say thank you enough for your videos, they help me every day. ❤️🤗🙏🙏

    • @GinaDurbin
      @GinaDurbin Рік тому +1

      💯💯💯💡🥁

    • @Crave88evarC
      @Crave88evarC Рік тому

      @@juliamarie1309 I could be you Julia. I did just the same last year with my then girlfriend. The relationship was just horrible but I was so inlove or traumabonded. It was pure hell to have her leave my system. It felt like I was almost going insane. Thinking about her all the time. ALL THE TIME. But somewhere I knew I could never go back. I regreted my decition many times. I missed her. I hated the world. Everything seemed like a never ending cycle of hell. But believe me. With time the bond will fade. Your energy will return and you will understand and thank yourself for leaving. Stay on course. Keep listening to videos like this. Always remember that the bad shit he put you through would not ever end. Me leaving my ex is the best thing ive ever done but at the time I felt like dying.

  • @mickcrovo5238
    @mickcrovo5238 Рік тому +43

    I was definitely in the trauma bond. I didn't realize that until well after the discard. She wasn't my type, didn't share my values, was avoidant and childish, was hot and cold, and was not a person I would want. But I loved her and couldn't shake my feelings for her. Two years later, I finally overcame the bond. I still think about her, but I feel repulsed by who I now know she is.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Рік тому +3

      Thank you for sharing this..💯😌🙏💪🙌

    • @gtrmarv333
      @gtrmarv333 Рік тому +1

      Yep
      sounds like my situation.
      I may CARE for her .
      She wants to CHANGE me ..
      But totally DENIES it !!@

    • @MattyNelson-rs3ik
      @MattyNelson-rs3ik Рік тому

      Funny,we cannot change an adult we can modify our behavior if We want too but for ourselves

    • @Ourtimeispast
      @Ourtimeispast Рік тому +1

      I think I dated her too haha. I'm the same situation. The love haze is finally passing and I'm seeing her for her real self.

  • @JH-td4mn
    @JH-td4mn Рік тому +16

    I just didn't understand - there are people out there who make you love them by pretending to love you, so that they can systematically DESTROY you. They're not afraid of love, they're not short of people who have shown them love, they simply don't feel it and resent you for feeling it. The normal rules don't apply. Absolutely mind boggling. 🤯

  • @cryptoroseaz
    @cryptoroseaz Рік тому +12

    It hurts so much to realize i was targeted, gas lit, and used.

  • @annamariehewitt3173
    @annamariehewitt3173 Рік тому +40

    If they didn't appreciate us, Then they didn't deserve us..The only real mistake is the one from which we learn Nothing....

  • @lizzierose007
    @lizzierose007 Рік тому +4

    They think the grass is greener... Its not.

  • @niaholder9168
    @niaholder9168 Рік тому +38

    he’s speaking absolute facts

  • @flightydancer
    @flightydancer Рік тому +8

    Wow, you really described what I went through. Once they know you are in love with them, they create scenarios where they destroy you inside and out so you have no choice but leave. Afterward, they blame you for abandoning and betraying them. But all you want is to survive. Twisted mentality these people have. They are nothing but a facade so don't be fooled by sweet words and good appearances. They are poisonous inside.

  • @Patricia_Stewart337
    @Patricia_Stewart337 Рік тому +7

    The conquest, right!
    They check the victory box.
    That’s it, for them.

  • @flowerpower4944
    @flowerpower4944 Рік тому +13

    He was a man Child,,they live on thrills and Drama,lies ,deceit,,, Now we can identify them,,thanks to Andrew,,,👉🌟💖🌟💖✨

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Рік тому +3

      😌🙏💯💯

    • @emilywilson7308
      @emilywilson7308 Рік тому

      Hi Flower! Hope you are well!❤

    • @donnahalsted7718
      @donnahalsted7718 Рік тому

      Bless you, Flower, you said it! We're wiser for knowing NOW what it was, and yes, thankful for Andrew's wisdom and caring heart.

  • @jacquelinelenarz3267
    @jacquelinelenarz3267 Рік тому +2

    Animals are best! Dogs and cats! They love you unconditionally!❤

  • @jenniferflynn7168
    @jenniferflynn7168 Рік тому +24

    I had to move 3k miles away from an abusive ex that attached to a family member and turned my family on me. I like listening to these videos because it encourages me I made the right decision.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Рік тому +4

      💯💯😌🙏

    • @marieeakin8534
      @marieeakin8534 Рік тому +7

      They sure know how to latch on to people don't they?
      Blessings for a better life 🌈
      🎀😘

    • @sjla2009
      @sjla2009 Рік тому +2

      I want to move far away!
      But I have pets and I rent so not very likely.
      I want to live near the sea 🌊 🇬🇧 The other side of the country! There sure are no people here that I would miss, that's for sure. I'm done.

  • @lios583
    @lios583 Рік тому +19

    Once they have you, mission accomplished. The relationship will never deepen. It's actually over, before it begins, nothing is good enough. The Narcissist always needs action, like a small child with attention deficit order.
    It's not YOU, who's boring, it's him. He's empty and needs the thrill, the dopamine from outside, that he can feel s.th.
    No thank you, not anymore do I need this chaotic circus, which is a massive personality disorder.
    Thank you Andrew for this video in your beautiful autumn forest!
    😊🍂🍁☘🌲🐞🍂🌳🍁❤

  • @Divinely_Guided444
    @Divinely_Guided444 Рік тому +12

    Did anyone say "player"? That's exactly what many are. The thrill of the cat and mouse chase excites these shallow beings. I'm so thankful I did not meet the last narc in person...I lost enough of myself trusting this toxic individual online.

  • @marieeakin8534
    @marieeakin8534 Рік тому +15

    Relationships with narcs are like walking thru a swinging revolving glass door....
    Entering with no problems & then getting unexpectedly hung up & stuck until you can safely make your way out.....or find yourself stumbling...when suddenly being pushed out! 🎀😘

  • @dcg31free
    @dcg31free Рік тому +8

    I love how you didn't want to disrespect the spiders by comparing them to the narc! ❤

  • @mekalove8174
    @mekalove8174 Рік тому +23

    Hi Andrew and my beautiful family💜 why would a person want to get someone in a situationship to play with their feelings, heart and emotions, just to discard them!! Only an evil, cold-hearted Souless person can do something like that... that's why I say they are pure evil!! I hope everyone have a wonderful evening namaste 🙏

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Рік тому +2

      💯💯🙏😌

    • @tiamarie1226
      @tiamarie1226 Рік тому +2

      I'm Right there with you
      .....situationship and all !!!! I could have written this myself

    • @sjla2009
      @sjla2009 Рік тому +1

      This is the thing, isn't it. It's incomprehensible to us. How they just see life as a game, we are the playthings and they usually win. We are the collateral damage of their evil fun and games 😢

  • @SilentFigure1
    @SilentFigure1 Рік тому +30

    No matter what is on the table for them they will disgard U.
    It becomes part of their story to impress other lesser supply to how much better they can do then them.

  • @jennifernewton4637
    @jennifernewton4637 Рік тому +15

    EXACTLY… this was the case with my narc ex. NOT my type AT ALL, but he lovebømbed me and I fell for it. When he was done with me, he said and did DESPICABLE things to me to get rid of me. When I began the healing journey, I reminded myself that he wasn’t my type in the first place, and that helped a lot. I didn’t have to try and appease some løsėr I was never really attracted to to begin with. So I set out to discover what would make ME happy in life. Turns out that’s a lot of things… but NONE of them are him 😬🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️😆🧘‍♀️🙏😌❤❤❤

  • @jp-rs6ns
    @jp-rs6ns Рік тому +17

    These relationships are finding yourself in the middle of a nightmare. I agree that they change immediately after the wedding ceremony. It's not small changes. It's not gradual changes. It's immediate changes & it's drastic changes. Sometimes 360° changes. I remember realizing this early on & wondering what in the world am I supposed to do. You feel trapped. They did trap you. They offered you something, you accepted, and you were given the opposite. You were given what you did not want & would not have signed up for. I agree & resonate with everything you are saying here. Great & insightful video as always🙂. I love the wooded background. You can hear the wind blowing, the tree limbs are gently swaying, random leaves are falling behind you. Very peaceful 🙂🙂💓💓. Have a good evening, God's blessings to you 🙂🙂🐦 ☀️🌲🌳 🌬🌳🍁🍂

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Рік тому +3

      Thank you for sharing this 🍁🌳🥶😊🌲🙌❤️

    • @marieeakin8534
      @marieeakin8534 Рік тому +2

      My story as well.
      So strange that it's really REAL!!!
      Blessings
      🎀😘

    • @jp-rs6ns
      @jp-rs6ns Рік тому

      @@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone 🥶😲😲....👉☕👆...😁😊

    • @jp-rs6ns
      @jp-rs6ns Рік тому

      @@marieeakin8534 Thank you. Blessings to you as well 🙂

    • @angelachildress100
      @angelachildress100 Рік тому +2

      ❤ TRUTH 💔

  • @sassysid100
    @sassysid100 Рік тому +12

    All true. The demon pursued me for 4 years. So not my type. Once I gave him a chance all hell. He kept going over how I didn’t like him to begin with and punished me for having pursued me so long😂. Sick people

  • @nothingbutme1150
    @nothingbutme1150 Рік тому +8

    It’s ironic because my narc gave me a dog in order to control me but now that the narc is out of my life forever, my dog is the best thing that happened to me and gives me so much love and support, something narcs can’t give go figure huh ?!

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Рік тому +2

      😌💯🙏🙌

    • @marieeakin8534
      @marieeakin8534 Рік тому +4

      Dogs are GOOD ANGELS from Heaven wearing fur costumes!
      🎀😘

    • @brendawarner5415
      @brendawarner5415 10 місяців тому

      I love my dog so much. He has g8ven me so much unconditional love. I have told him many times,Dexter,if you were a man,I'd marry you.

  • @michelleleigh3739
    @michelleleigh3739 Рік тому +4

    I will never ever understand, truly a wolf in sheep’s clothing . 💔

    • @michelleleigh3739
      @michelleleigh3739 Рік тому

      @@Harmonious-jm3sy thank you , guess I want to know somewhere deep within ( when he seemed genuine and it was real and healthy for awhile ) but as the past 2 years have gone by , it doesn’t matter , what matters is me ( all of us moving forward and encouraging and loving ourselves and not to beat up one’s self . As someone once told me : when someone shows you who they are , you best believe them . I’m thankful you responded to me , it truly means a lot . It has been and I know a slow heal ( at my pace right , we all have our own grief journey) thank you again for reaching out . 😇💔

  • @jessismall1381
    @jessismall1381 Рік тому +7

    Once they have you they don't want you. That is all I've experienced no matter how long I dated them first to make sure they were serious. Are there men out there that are not like that?

  • @victoralex7757
    @victoralex7757 Рік тому +4

    UPDATE! After 20+ years of marriage to a narcissist, I just had my final divorce hearing today and I'm OFFICIALLY rid of her! NO WAY I could have made it to this point without (#1) GOD ALMIGHTY (#2) A puppy to raise as a distraction, and last , but CERTAINLY not least THIS channel! Thank you so much, Andrew!

  • @gratefultobehere
    @gratefultobehere Рік тому +31

    This shift in a toxic relationship stinks. May anyone still inside of this world with a narc find their way out quickly 🙏.
    What a beautiful windy background 😍💨 🍂 🍃 🍁 🌳
    Thank you Andrew ❤🙏

  • @marieeakin8534
    @marieeakin8534 Рік тому +8

    Put Ons to let down......mastering in jiving the innocent to have usage at their disposal.
    No respect, no concern, no truth in any of it....when it comes to you, your heart or your well-being. IT'S ALL ABOUT THEM! 🎀😘

  • @lizh6420
    @lizh6420 Рік тому +6

    The trauma bond is truly awful. It is possible to break it. When I was in the middle of the disastrous relationship I believed that I could not escape. Breaking that trauma bond was the hardest thing ever. I believe narcissists brainwash you and it's like you're put into invisible shackles. Escaping was the most difficult thing I have ever done, but it is possible. I want to say to anyone that feels stuck - please never give up, you're worth far more than you have been given credit for.

  • @carolineash1104
    @carolineash1104 Рік тому +11

    I fell in love with myself what a beautiful woman I am ❤

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Рік тому

      😌🙌❤️

    • @donnahalsted7718
      @donnahalsted7718 Рік тому

      You probably went through HELL to discover YOU!
      Surely to find yourself as BEAUTIFUL, without being enamored with all that you are, and humbly acknowledging the gifts God gave you to love and enjoy is truly a discovery that is hidden in the ash heap he left behind!
      It sounds as if you've been blessed as I have been!
      Joy ahead!

  • @mekaelaknodt2021
    @mekaelaknodt2021 Рік тому +9

    It's downright hilarious in a very sad way when someone pursues someone like myself considering the circumstances that I am currently in and dealing with, as well as my income because there is absolutely nothing luxurious or glamorous about it. Since narcissists have a very fragile ego and sense of self, they wouldn't last a day in my shoes. The hardest part about my circumstances is the psychological toll it takes on a person and there are many people who don't make it through, sadly.

  • @Mista_Paaarka
    @Mista_Paaarka Рік тому +17

    I'm finding that I have to watch these videos at least three times in a row (on average) because... I still can't believe the accuracy of them!
    It's as if, he (Andrew) was "there"........just watching us, all those (13+) years. 🙏🏼😣💔

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Рік тому +2

      😌💯🙏💯🙏

    • @lauramytunes
      @lauramytunes Рік тому +1

      Same. I rewind alot AND play most atleast 2 to 4 times depending on what I know i need to hear repeated like repetition compulsion on repeat. The denial was(is) thick. ❤

  • @susansacco7583
    @susansacco7583 Рік тому +9

    It’s breathtaking! The sincerity. But I didn’t see him when I looked into his eyes. I couldn’t see his essence. Wasn’t there. I paid attention.
    I thought that I was safe because I didn’t fall in love with him or have intimate relations with him. The cruelty that comes out of nowhere is astonishing. Calculated.
    He dropped off a sweater that I left in his car. I asked him to leave it on my patio table. The sweater was all crumbled up on the table. That’s how he treated me. No care but pretending to care.
    It’s all about the energy like you’ve said. Being in it. Staying in it.
    Projective identification?
    I’m so much stronger than him.
    Thank you! So appreciate you.💕🌸

  • @IzabelaWaniek-i1x
    @IzabelaWaniek-i1x Рік тому +4

    I agree with everything you said Andrew. If you are in a relationship with a narcisist, you are betrayed with other source of supply or cheated on emotionally or otherwise from day one. That is why those relationships feel so fake, unreal and you feel so terribly lonely. There is nobody home when it comes to the narcisists and nobody knows what is behind the mask - the narcisist included.

  • @melisherwood5300
    @melisherwood5300 Рік тому +4

    As soon as I told him I loved him, he started pulling back and things went downhill from there.

  • @kathleencondit1660
    @kathleencondit1660 Рік тому +11

    That was my relationship with my siblings. I'd say something, and they would stare back at me. They never attacked me verbally in person. To pull off their verbal attacks, they had to work together, and get lawyers to relay their words.

  • @rubyjet9513
    @rubyjet9513 Рік тому +11

    I'm fall in love with the forest and nature behind you 🥰

  • @nvbccjb
    @nvbccjb Рік тому +7

    Thank you, Andrew. True, I am always a positive person and the narcissist was always negative. He thrived on it.

  • @mariageaney2362
    @mariageaney2362 Рік тому +7

    Absolutely 💯💪 so true!!
    ✨🙏🕊️✨🙏🕊️✨🙏🕊️
    May we all celabrate our beautiful bright light...now!
    ✨🙏🕊️✨🙏🕊️✨🙏🕊️
    Trauma bond ...broken, no super glue required!!💖✨
    Stupendous location, i love to see the woods and forests.
    ✨💖✨💖✨💖✨💖✨

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Рік тому +2

      🌳🥶🌲😊❤️🙌🍁

    • @emilywilson7308
      @emilywilson7308 Рік тому +2

      Hi sweet, beautiful Maria G!❤💕🌸🥰

    • @mariageaney2362
      @mariageaney2362 Рік тому

      @@emilywilson7308 hello my beautiful light soul sister of rainbow magic. Thank you for your presence in my life.✨🙏🤍🌹💕🕊️💪❤️💯

  • @janicehill5605
    @janicehill5605 Рік тому +4

    Who said I want him?😂 it was never a relationship as a relationship should be.

  • @Ken1Isis
    @Ken1Isis Рік тому +4

    Facts but I don’t want them either… feeling mutual… that’s an entire 3-9 years saved!!!

  • @judyyates2763
    @judyyates2763 Рік тому +12

    I never could understand it. I think its a control thing. Games and manipulations. Its not normal behavior.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Рік тому

      😌😌🙏

    • @mariojanaf5474
      @mariojanaf5474 Рік тому

      Basically, they live in now moment and don't think long-term.
      Lots of work, but no results that last.
      Like all life painting walls every Saturday, never to be satisfied with color.
      Childish, stupid, useless, energy consuming, not evolving, not to be satisfied till grave...

  • @BeTheLight624
    @BeTheLight624 Рік тому +7

    Thank you for this beautiful truth sharing video, Andrew! Yes, ONCE THEY HAVE YOU THEY DON’T WANT YOU. It seems like part of the time once they have you/conquered you, they put you on hold, like a security blanket to keep them feeling good about themselves, while searching for and compiling other supply in the interum. Very sick, twisted behavior and thought patterns.
    I so enjoy the beautiful accent of nature you bring to every video, very soothing. I enjoyed this spot and the sound of the wind rustling in the trees. Thank you so much, Andrew! May God continue to richly bless you.
    ✝️🙏🏻🕊️☀️🐶🥶🍁🌳🌲❤️ Namaste

  • @heatherroberson1648
    @heatherroberson1648 Рік тому +3

    Im feeling the extreme sadness from this abuse and processing these feelings in order to heal. Its so hard.

  • @Mariposa62196
    @Mariposa62196 Рік тому +3

    I thought he were a gift for me,after caring for my old father such a long time. It was to good to be true,it was. I thought I deserve a little Happiness.

  • @GoogleUser-kl7qu
    @GoogleUser-kl7qu 11 місяців тому +1

    Very true Andrew now don’t let them get you.

  • @limitedtime5471
    @limitedtime5471 Рік тому +10

    It's a little different for family narcs but i like these videos to better understand what happened to my brother in law and sister in law😢

  • @helenmcclay2622
    @helenmcclay2622 Рік тому +1

    I had a reverse discard recently as I was suspicious 3 mnths in.
    I have had silent treatment, stonewalled & two hoovers, back to silent treatment again. We used to talk everyday.

  • @lolochild3477
    @lolochild3477 Рік тому +18

    Thank you so much, Brother Andrew! You hit the nail on the head with this one. 💯🔥🙌

  • @chazbickel4518
    @chazbickel4518 Рік тому +6

    Great video Andrew!
    Wishing everyone clarity and peace...

  • @chrismurray8483
    @chrismurray8483 Рік тому +1

    And it's because of Andrew. Not only has he saved me much more importantly HE SAVED MY SON

  • @SpringRiverHollar
    @SpringRiverHollar Рік тому +8

    Good afternoon everyone

  • @rogerwhoareyou
    @rogerwhoareyou Рік тому +4

    Your words about the wedding is so true. She got drunk at the reception and I had to carry her and put her in the hotel room bed as she was already passed out. I spent the night in the adjacent room watching television.
    Now she claims that she wasn't really that drunk and was just pretending so she wouldn't have to have sex.
    I now realize that her devaluation of me started as soon as the rings were on our the fingers. She lost her's a few months later but still expected me to wear mine. To which I did, with the exception of when I was at work as my job place considered the wearing of rings and watches to be a safety violation due to hazards. She never could understand why I didn't wear it even then; I guess maybe she just wanted me to lose a finger or a hand on the job. She of course, didn't care to replace her ring after she lost it for several years and always had an excuse to not get a new one.
    Now, one of the many things that she complains about while she is gaslighting, deflecting, accusing, projecting, etc. Is that I would always take my ring off and put it in my pocket while I was at work. She tries to ignore and deflect the fact that she didn't wear one for years because she didn't even have one.
    She now complains that we weren't intimate sex wise, when 80% of the time she didn't want to. Had a headache, didn't feel well, hurt down there or what ever reason. But loves to brings up how we never had sex for a few months prior to and after each time that I had spine surgeries (4 seperate surgeries over the years) and disc fusions due to injuries.
    Its amazing how they never take accountability for anything. How their apologies are "I'm sorry you feel that way" or other similar phrases.
    I wish I would have payed attention to the red flags while we were dating. But I wrote them off and mostly ignored them as I just didn't have good, solid boundaries at the time and loved her.
    Couples therapy didn't help as she decided the therapist was taking my side so she quit. I thought the therapist was asking us both hard questions. I thought the therapist was making suggestions aimed at both of us and also as a couple.
    Now, I'm going to therapy and trying to break the trauma bond. I still love her and wish that I could have done something, whatever, to keep her happy. But I simply was not good enough.

    • @cherylvisconti
      @cherylvisconti Рік тому +1

      Stop wasting your time and move on. Things will never change.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Рік тому +1

      Thank you for sharing this insight 😌🙏💯💯💪

    • @rogerwhoareyou
      @rogerwhoareyou Рік тому +1

      ​@cherylvisconti3774
      Thank you. During moments of clarity, I know that you are definitely right. It's just so hard to stop ruminating. I go from confused to numb, to mad at myself to deeply sad, to feeling just plain lost and on and on. Life just seems to be really hard at times.

    • @cherylvisconti
      @cherylvisconti Рік тому

      @@rogerwhoareyou I know!! Do not prolong your pain any longer!! You have to start healing yourself!!!

  • @marybarton5651
    @marybarton5651 Рік тому +5

    I really dislike drama. It gets on my last raw nerve. I am at an age where I just desire to have and cultivate peace in my life. Lol... I guess I have become boring😂 I haven't had a single hoover since the legal paperwork arrived and I discovered that I am not responsible for his being forced to take care of the debts incurred in the marriage and decreed in the divorce 21 years ago. I am thankful and no longer have to wonder if and when the other shoe is going to drop. It dropped on him... I don't wish him and his wife any ill will. I have forgiven and moved on with my life.
    Beautiful Forrest Andrew. I love how the wind sounds rushing through the trees.🌲🌲🌲🌲🌲🌲🌲🌲🌲😊🙏💚💛💥

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Рік тому +1

      Thank you for sharing 💯🙏🥶🌳🌲🍁❤️

    • @marieeakin8534
      @marieeakin8534 Рік тому +2

      So glad it all worked out for your favor.Rejoicing in your VICTORY!
      God is good 👍👍👍👍👍
      🎀😘

    • @marybarton5651
      @marybarton5651 Рік тому +1

      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone you are welcome, Andrew 😊

    • @marybarton5651
      @marybarton5651 Рік тому +3

      @marieeakin8534 Thank you. I prayed long and hard about this situation, and God came through, again 🙏 I am so grateful and amazed at how my creator God loves me, flawed and undeserving as I am, but for the amazing grace 🙏 ❤️ 💜 ✝️💥🙏

    • @donnahalsted7718
      @donnahalsted7718 Рік тому

      Thank you, Mary. You always have a wise comment coupled with a peaceful spirit!
      Blessings.

  • @KarinStrong-k4j
    @KarinStrong-k4j Рік тому +1

    They just want the sprinkles and icing , not the whole cupcake. Not unlike children. They often just eat the sprinkles and lick the icing leaving the cupcake.

  • @brightpage1020
    @brightpage1020 Рік тому +12

    Gorgeous background! Loving your content and that the beauty of nature all around seems to be helping to support you and carry you through.

  • @vickipacheco9787
    @vickipacheco9787 Рік тому +3

    Thank You Andrew. 🌿You are a beacon of Light in every way on a very dark & Evil disorder, on many levels.
    Knowledge about the Sick Cycles narcissist's take people through, was The Key 🔑 of exposure of the narcissist's intent. Kill,Steal & Destroy.
    Why a person would CHOOSE
    a path like this is diabolic!!!
    But, that's what they CHOOSE.
    Life is short , sooner or later every single person shows what they are made of.
    narcissist's know Exactly what they are doing, Cycling people on the Hampster Wheel from Hell.1. Love bombing 2.Demean,Devalue You, 3.Discard you,throw you away like trash,4 Hoover you try to get you back!!! With the goal of finishing you off.
    Wash,rinse repeat.
    What an insidiously EVIL destructive way to live a life.
    The end will not be good for the narcissist's.
    Thank You Andrew for the Trumpet of Truth and the way of Healing from these Monsters.🌿🙏🌿

  • @stefaniadiamond
    @stefaniadiamond Рік тому +6

    It's not the partner got used up they blame them for not being able to fulfill them (the narcissist) they pass pain on hoping someone can cure it

  • @selinaogorman8380
    @selinaogorman8380 Рік тому +3

    It’s so heartbreaking but it’s the truth what is strange to when a narcissist wants you they realize toxic as they are they never really wanted you at all it’s like salt it lost its flavor so this tells you break it off immediately because they will mess with you manipulative towards you exactly they can’t love you like a real human being no unconditional love this is a evil wicked person still on the healing path I hope everyone can break free from this toxic person they don’t change and never will! Thank you again Andrew I appreciate you always keep this wisdom going much love to you bless you.🕊💕🙏❤️😇

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Рік тому +1

      Thank you for sharing 🙌❤️🙏😌💯

    • @selinaogorman8380
      @selinaogorman8380 Рік тому

      @@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone your welcome thank you for allowing me to share it means a lot.❤️🙏🕊💕😊

  • @ruffraff1059
    @ruffraff1059 8 місяців тому

    The narcissist is truly an inhuman creature. Everything true. The never ending insults about the colours you wear, your tone of voice, minimising your skills in work, creativity or academic pursuits. Your friends and family are their enemy. Mine, even though I had danced (flamenco), ice skated, played volleyball and softball, tried to make out I was clumsy and dropped and broke many things. None of which were true but he tried to convince me of the truth of his words. Challenged him and said "Just because you say it, it doesn't make it truth nor fact". His reply, "Yes, it does". THAT'S the mentality of these creatures.

  • @michelleleigh3739
    @michelleleigh3739 Рік тому +3

    Thank you Andrew for sharing so real and raw and so we’ll explained- you are a blessing

  • @cleolabella3963
    @cleolabella3963 Рік тому +5

    Good evening Andrew,I had to move to another country so I can get my identity back,I was completely lost and confused,has been 1 year,with zero contact,but …,,telling you it’s not easy,I left everything behind, I meant to say my whole house business my car and I left with carry-on. This is it. I was just trying to save my life and I did it.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Рік тому

      😌😌🙏🙏💯🙌

    • @donnahalsted7718
      @donnahalsted7718 Рік тому +1

      Cleo, you're a brave and strong woman! Yes, it comes down to survival. You have your life, even if you're as naked as a newborn. But your beautiful future is in front of you.
      May your blessings be abundant, full of beauty, joy, love and peace! 💖

    • @freebird968-wg4ye
      @freebird968-wg4ye Рік тому +1

      👏👏👏🎉🎇

    • @cleolabella3963
      @cleolabella3963 Рік тому

      Thank you so much,and God continue to guide us on this journey

  • @cherylvisconti
    @cherylvisconti Рік тому +3

    I was never valued. I wasted so much time on him. I can’t believe how stupid I was.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Рік тому +1

      😌😌🙏

    • @donnahalsted7718
      @donnahalsted7718 Рік тому

      Cheryl, I think we can all FEEL stupid looking back. No, we were not stupid.
      We were ignorant of these beings and how they think, if they actually do, I can't tell; how they act, and all the dishonest, sneaky, underhanded ... manipulation and gaslighting they utilize to trap their prey!
      Did Andrew say "spider"?
      You are a beautiful person who was just a tasty morsel, sucked dry, a carcass left in the corner of the den, to be vacuumed away and dumped in the dustbin!
      That's what we all were to the Narcs.
      But we struggled to live. Searched for answers, found this beautiful family of "Andrewans", and are growing in wisdom, age and grace.
      It's a loving family that is here to learn from and share learning with.
      Thank you for your post! Blessings.

  • @archiehendricks6093
    @archiehendricks6093 Рік тому +4

    Bot so long ago I ended a yearly fishing trip. I had not heard of a narssist.
    The person kept acting helpless, I was in need of an aortic valve, was hard to walk very far, hard to breath.not the case now.
    We fish 3 days night and day, thats how we figured what the fish were doing and when.
    So driving three hundred miles for that trip one way. My fuse was stretch thin.
    We were talking and him and his wife came up, when he said , what goes on between me and my wife is none of you bussiness.
    I said , oh yea , then why is your wife tellin me and my wife about you and her sex life, his mouth drop, his jaw drop.
    He was getting worse and worse and i ended the fishing, i flat out told him, i done with you, caught him hoovering.
    But now i relize i greyrock him with out knowing about these empathic stoic skills.
    But now i feel great, i had a extreamly calcified aortic valve. AHard Heart.
    Now i have a great heart and not weak, able to send thenm down road.

  • @PatBlack-sj7tg
    @PatBlack-sj7tg Рік тому +3

    Yes they love the chase..but remember dogs chase cars but they can’t drive..😆🤡
    Love the woods the breeze through the trees..🌲🌳🍂

  • @elyssian6015
    @elyssian6015 Рік тому +5

    Excellent Creative Presentation. Thank you Andrew 😊

  • @ruffraff1059
    @ruffraff1059 8 місяців тому

    They get a huge amount of support from their family. ALL of whom know exactly the abuses inflicted on you and your children. They do nothing for you nor your kids. They cover up by doing nothing.

  • @skulpzilla2051
    @skulpzilla2051 Рік тому +4

    I like the background setting. Peaceful.

  • @kellywalsh4596
    @kellywalsh4596 Рік тому +1

    From your first sentence I got tears in my eyes.

  • @ekobrain3331
    @ekobrain3331 Рік тому +1

    This info is so spot on , nail in a sure place … I knew what was happening , seen the red flags right off the bat but denied my own instinct/ gut feeling. I was so deeply vulnerable at the time she targeted me … I am super disappointed in my own choice and how I let go of my stoic values. Thinking the relationship was a “God” thing ! I have to confess it was not a gift from God but a learning experience in the depths of grief I really was trying to avoid. Thank you for the content you continue to share it is important and very life affirming. God bless you always and “Namaste”.

  • @MichelleMM-e8j
    @MichelleMM-e8j Рік тому +4

    Hi Andrew, Thank you for another great video 🙏🏻 I ❤ the back drop behind you. This time of year is just beautiful as it transfers it's colours from summer to autumn. Another beautiful from God. Xx

  • @nancydowling4049
    @nancydowling4049 Рік тому

    The narcissist cannot fall in love, I felt that one in my gut It's so true that's a revelation for me after 30 years

  • @rubyjet9513
    @rubyjet9513 Рік тому +8

    True 😅. So weird 🥴

  • @jhavajoe3792
    @jhavajoe3792 Рік тому +4

    Listening to any video of yours, sets off tiny led lights in details of Narc interactions recent and past ( including the higher wattage bulbs). I wondered if this was good to go back in time to re-evaluate? Yes it is and was. I find myself getting more upbeat and energized. Tons of self-doubt was hauled away by the noble refuse workers. 🚮🚚Thanks, Andrew! A Pleasant Evening for You! 🌖

  • @Marsha22May
    @Marsha22May Рік тому +1

    Whoa❗️Dog lovers understand the bone analogy perfectly 🤣(American bones are really good! Actually, difficult to purchase in Japan😂)
    If I really have a good chance, I really want to relocate and get away from that person’s area🥹🚗💨

  • @MEL2theJ
    @MEL2theJ Рік тому +2

    Thank you again NARCDAILY 🙏

  • @williampicton7072
    @williampicton7072 Рік тому +5

    100% correct!! Thank you Andrew!😊

  • @Mara_143
    @Mara_143 Рік тому +2

    🩶💎🩶💎Narcs are sinister as hell.

  • @PanelsWainio
    @PanelsWainio Рік тому +1

    My love, Roy, who the ex Narc deserted but technically the dog chose me. I also had a legal document giving me the home. A quick search turns up he's at assisted living. He's old enough but he is just lazy.

  • @empressboateng7098
    @empressboateng7098 Рік тому +4

    Thanks so much Andrew ❤❤💪👍👋👋👋👋👋👋👋

  • @lailaa6662
    @lailaa6662 Рік тому +2

    Great video.. it is truth.. the examples are spot on.. once they get certain things .. they’re done but because they are child like .. they’ll tear you down after that.. I gave 99.9%.. and he’ll always remember that and he knows it too .. i was never good at listening to my instincts .. otherwise I wouldn’t have endured this for 15 years.. but sometimes I did and when my instincts told me not to do certain things.. I listened .. and he’ll always remember what I didn’t give him.. and I’m glad when I didn’t .. I still give in a financial manner .. but not directly to him at all.. only when it concerns animals and their livelihood.. I’m not sure if he’s smeared me.. I don’t think so yet .. he probably will when I get out though.. the important people know the truth though.. I’ve realised I’ve been triangulated in the past though.. I don’t think he had to even say anything or smear me.. he could just sigh at the sound of my name from someone else and that’s his smearing or triangulation.. this was a great video.. it’s important to know that once they have you or receive certain things from you.. they won’t want you anymore .. sometimes it can take years for that to happen too.. I feel this is especially true for womanising or men-nising narcs.. thank you again.

  • @nancydowling4049
    @nancydowling4049 Рік тому

    He's been out of my life for 6 months and he finally went out and got insurance for me I told him you accomplished more in 10 months than you accomplished in the 10 years since you had come back to me after the divorce My word you're speaking my truth!

  • @nancydowling4049
    @nancydowling4049 Рік тому +1

    My word Andrew you are on fire That was my sister-in-law getting married and needlessly eliminating me from the wedding even though she's sabotaged mine as a maid of honor imagine that you are on fire tonight at least for me, 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

  • @hannastrack4310
    @hannastrack4310 Рік тому +6

    Great video❤🙏

  • @feliciareichbart7625
    @feliciareichbart7625 Рік тому +2

    this is great. i definitely believe this... what about the narcs that dont love bomb you..those are the ones that hurt me the most...

  • @mariescott9853
    @mariescott9853 Рік тому +1

    Thank you. You are so inspiring. Working on getting rid of my 80-year-old brother who has been taking advantage of me for a long time.

  • @Tahiti_Mae
    @Tahiti_Mae Рік тому +4

    Amazing Autumn🍁

  • @darmac8519
    @darmac8519 Рік тому +1

    Hi andrew and the channel,i have experienced this type of scum my entire life,even right now,because of this i sometimes think i am one myself .but when i listen to think about what i have been through i believe i have only been protecting myself ..3 months ago when this was happening i went after a particular person with a shoulder length sledgehammer and was prepared to put it through his head,he came to my family home and visit my father (a narcissist) i was going to bring him to visit my mother too and lucky i didnt because i believe i would have killed him if he entered my mothers home after the lies and deception i was put through.
    I still have to put up with this everyday,but when it happens now..today for instance, the anger only lasted momentarily and its usually listening to calming music gives me inner peace..
    Narcissism is evil....i have been guilty of it in the past and forgiveness is the only way.
    Thank you for these videos and the channel .
    Peace and love ❤

  • @marylou3166
    @marylou3166 Рік тому

    HELP. Fell to the bathroom floor crying, the cat came in to help me. I hate myself because I'am weak. He is right.

    • @freebird968-wg4ye
      @freebird968-wg4ye Рік тому +1

      NO…he’s not right! (I don’t know what he said but I can tell by how you’ve written this that there’s something not right about these words that have been put together.) You sound like me many years ago. I was on the kitchen floor in a collapsed heap. During the relationship I ended up feeling hopeless and helpless. (There is a thing called ‘learned helplessness’ Google it.) I felt I was weak and couldn’t stand up for myself. In his altercations I knew I wasn’t those things that he said I was but I doubted myself. This is what happens when someone gaslights you for a long time. You lose who you are/were/your sense of self. It’s also easier to blame self than accept the truth (ie you’re in an abusive relationship).
      At this point, your inner self (soul?) is telling you this situation is not good for you. (It’s hell!) Please find a way to take your cat and get out. It is not worth the continued anguish and effects on your mental (and over time, physical) health. I got out! You can too! ❤🌸🦋

  • @JudithMacdonald-u3b
    @JudithMacdonald-u3b Рік тому +1

    Right on again Andrew

  • @davidstills
    @davidstills Рік тому +1

    Hey brother. You have really helped me to understand what I experienced for a year, how lowly I felt and why. But I can feel your pain in your videos. And continuing to do these videos must be impacting you, having to relive the trauma. Just free advice. Do what you will. Peace out ❤

  • @jazstar4622
    @jazstar4622 Рік тому +3

    Post Narcissit, I always think ? what did I fall in love with ? this person was mimicking me in the love bombing? then they got bored ,with acting like me !!!
    I should appreciate & love myself more , stay authentic and loyal to me
    I dont need another Narcissist just to fall in l❤With myself .

  • @PanelsWainio
    @PanelsWainio Рік тому +1

    Oh and the dumbstruck look, I'm certain he knew I was intending to end things bc I'd at least figured something was insincere. I decided I didn't need to know, he just had to go.