it takes the sting out of them turning their back. it makes me feel better to know that it was there all along. cuz now i can see the signs and like the who said ' we wont get fooled again"
Good evening Andrew and everyone. For all of the new empaths, believe me, you WILL be fine. Keep coming to this room, (like i did) and you will feel better everyday. You are in control of your own feelings, and you know right from wrong. FOLLOW YOUR GUT FEELING ALWAYS. When you know something is wrong, it is wrong. BE CAREFUL OUT THERE and follow your ❤heart. VERY GOOD TOPIC, ANDREW. ❤❤
Hi sweet Jann, i hope you are well i have been a little quiet these days because i am on vacations but i am reading the comments. Take care of yourself my friend. Have a wonderful evening ❤🤗🌺
I was in a narc relationship before i knew what it was, ɓut now i know bc of having gone thru many of the signs you have described. The secretive behavior, lies, gaslighting, disappearing acts, lack of intimacy, lack of interests in my interests. All he cared about was his interests and needs. He wanted me to give him my all and in exchange he gave me nothing but stress, frustration, mental anguish and pain. I will NEVER repeat this mistake again. Trust MUST from this point on be EARNED.
They want it all.... To own everything about us,...our thoughts, our time ,our hearts, our attention, our loyalties, our ideas, to talk at us & listen to them as they go on & on ...BECAUSE THEY ARE NARCISSISTS & THEY DON'T GIVE A DAMN & THEY NEVER WILL!!! 🎀😘
@janniewandowski5540 Hey Jann...yes I've gone NO CONTACT.& have come to realize that I don't have to make everyone ok & now I know what their all about (thank God!)
My experience has been that narcissists thrive in long term relationships. It gives them a huge sense of security: financially (even a little money is more money than they're making being single) and their spouse (the victim) and children are toys for as long as the marriage lasts. I think the marriage boosts the narcissist's ego and confidence to mentally screw with anyone in their path.
Your words sound almost like what my life has been. I can say from experience, living with a narc is hell. Peace and heeling be with you and all of us who have experienced this abuse. 🙏
My God yes. As long as the mask stays intact, they could go on as long as they want. Once caught though, all bets are off - that's when you see the monster in full bloom
Its difficult to understand they never loved you, it was all a game to them. When you realise this you also know that they played the game with you and they lost. Stay no contact. True love will find you in the end.
True love is already there. We just need to love ourselves more than we ever loved the narc. Be first, second and third. Like Andrew always says. Blessings to you!❤
They believe you cannot function without them. They wanted you to see you suffer while they are having fun with the 3rd party. They will make sure you know that they are better without you. The damage was so hard to mend takes alot of effort to stand again but believe me you will rise and heal in time. 🙏
narcissism is based on self loathing. they hated their weak inner child (who was overwhelmed by unhealthy caregiver) and so killed it off and the protective false self was created. their core wound is usually shame. because of the way the false self works, approaching the core shame wound triggers defence. meaning that they cant really get in touch with those shame based emotions because it triggers the self loathing and pain. this is what prevents them from inteosepcting and growing in most not all cases. they arent “doing better,” its a facade. the narcissist is a tormented soul that cannot have peace or contentment. they can only exogenously enmesh with their environment to attempt to coregulate their near chronic dysregulation.
I am so grateful for your content Andrew, I never imagined that knowing narcississm is endless. My Ex is BPD/NPD, My Mom is BPD/NPD and I have been alienated by my Children for the last 5 years. Everything you say are all true...
My mother and my ex are narcissistic. My mother is very angry at me now when I am in heeling proces, hers tretman is now demonic. I am unfortunately in house with her and can't go from because financial.
@jannlewandowski5540 have you achieved a lot and gotten a grip and are winning since finding this channel? It's amazing. No other therapists or channel seems to guide and help and educate like Andrew for me.
The narcissist used to gaslight me all the time w you don’t remember things correctly or that’s not what happened . It was very confusing and frustrating Thank you Andrew
She: I said that to you. Me: Really? I can't remember. She: You promised that to me. Me: When did I say that? Sometimes I was really questioning my memories. Even though she was the one who was drunk all the time. When I told her something, it could be, that she already forgot it the next day. What's the point of a conversation, when the other can't even remember it the next day.
JustDance, everything you said also happened to me. We both met someone one time, and the next day I made a nice remark about her. He said "what and WHO are you talking about?" I said "the girl we met yesterday." He said I DID NOT MEET ANYONE YESTERDAY. He tried to make me think I was nuts! I'm the gal that LOVES your screen name. I sing. Anyway, gaslighting is horrible, and he pulled a few on me. 🌺💪💪👍😉 Don't believe it!
My late stepfather did not want me to improve, grow, and develop myself. He opposed it. He just wanted me to be a‘servant’ to him and to everyone else. He did not want to me grow up and own my own life. He wanted me to be a yes man and a people pleaser.
Indeed. He didn’t mind that his last thing made me sick. I said I hated him. He was unconcerned it seems. I rode it out so he was never alone with the kids until they were of age. It sucked but he had showed his hand. I knew he could dress up and fool a lot of people.
The dreams 😮 yes, after one of the many rage n then discards i have dreams of the narcissist and the flying monkeys trying to hurt me. It was hideous. Never thought others got this too 😢
Your videos serve as a reminder of how horrible my relationship was and that I made the right decision to block her almost 4 months ago. I initially decided in April that I would only talk to her if she reaches out first but then I realized how triggering that was so I blocked her in June. I don’t think she thought I’d commit since I played the blocking and unblocking game twice. I haven’t seen her social media in months but given how “happy” she looked last time I saw her page just to find out she reached out to my mom (and got ignored) tells me that she’s likely putting on a front. Her life got better by being with me and mine got worse. Now my life got better without her and now I suspect that hers got worse. Whether it did or not is not of my concern now. She could become the richest person in the world tomorrow, as long as she keeps her rich ass away from me, I’m good 😎
Glad your Mom has your back. I come here to this channel ( for last 10 months) nearly every day, because it improves mental health. Without a healthy mind, it's harder to have a vitality to push on and enjoy...... everything. Carrying around a sack of fake love bomb moments were a big drag.
@@jordanmadaley The sooner you stop, the BETTER you will feel. I know about videos and social media and they will only HURT you more. PLEASE, for your own good, stop watching them. We all love you...❤❤
After five years of no contact, I do have a peaceful life, moving at my own pace and not dodging eggshells/land mines. I lost a lot of sleep over those forty years and I need a twenty minute nap every day. Guess it takes a lot of energy healing from all that trauma. Just going with the flow. I still have thoughts of him each day, memories of the person he pretended to be. I love my freedom now and I hope our paths never cross again. I forgive his despicable duplicity, but I will never forget it. I totally believe that these experiences are lessons to be learned by us, to become higher vibrational beings. I still have love in my heart, I have never hated anyone, no matter how angry I feel towards them. I think that's the difference between us and narcs - we just walk away from toxic energy, they hate and plot to destroy. They never forgive.
You nailed every item. That drain on emotional/mental energy is a major hindrance for trying new things, enjoying the simple things that are in front of you, etc. The upside of healing- rays of sunlight breaking through and shining on your being.I wouldn't trade having an empathic nature for _________ fill in the blank.😉👍
3 words that best describe a narcissist: -Manipulation -Deception -Chaos They only share the appearance of a human but really they're more like tormented demons in human form.
Basking in the sunlight of permanent no contact of several years, I cannot imagine anything more disrespectful that you could do to yourself by not getting enough knowledge about the experience and more importantly how you got there. That you must discern honestly and completely. You have then put on heavy duty armor that is light as a feather. Carrying weight pulls you down, carrying wisdom keeps you light and ready if need be.
Exactly, Andrew. Subtle Hoovers coming my way... I am still healing, and it appears they know how deep the cut was... so bad I self sabotaged myself out of the workplace where I would see her. It got way too painful. The loss was so intense. So it seems pretty apparent how the narcissist how toxic they really are. Trying to remain calm. Not quite there, still grieving. One day at a time. Sometimes its one foot in front of the other.
I take it one moment at a time. Minutes can sometimes be too long. Though I'm a good stretch on healing, I think it may take the rest of my life. But that's OK! I recognize the pathologies now. It's not just behavior that can be corrected or modified in any way. It's all out of my ability to do anything about, because, in spite of what I've been told and believed, it's NOT I ! I just have wounds that need healing. Healing will happen for both of us - after a lot of work! But the wisdom, having passed the test, is PRICELESS! You are doubtlessly doing very well. You see your fragile humanity and your indomitable strength! Accept them both as precious reality!! Blessings to you!
Actually, they DONT have a life. That's why they sap (find supply) off other people constantly. I was just dwelling on this fact this morning. It's really sad, perhaps deplorable is more likely, that they have nothing to live for but duping and manipulating others. Their only kicks, I can't call it joy, is making others miserable - any way they can. I know this is a fact even though the reality of that fact doesn't compute! I can only pity them for the life they haven't got, never will have, and will die regretting that their only "accomplishment" was making this world a more obnoxious place for all on the planet. You WON'T have that regret. You LIVE on a high plane of wholesome self-love and service to those who veritabley need it. How very beautiful! Blessings dear one!
They will bait you until they draw their last breath. Literally, on her deathbed in hospice, my mother still believed she had some weird power over me, "You know that I can never visit your home again", as if that would be a terrible blow. That boat had already sailed, years ago by then, when I finally "got" that she acted as if, but no connection had ever been there for her. Everything was transactional for her, to create a simulated experience for others without actually being there emotionally herself. She was trying to plug up gaps in her armor, caused by her father leaving the family and depriving her of financial and parenting resources when she was 6, forever striving to regain what she'd lost.
That's so understandable. I, too, have lost so much, and years of work that the Narc destroyed, as well as stollen savings and my credit card number! To focus on it all, and that which I find on nearly a daily basis, would kill me, literally. For months I was so useless, in a fog, physically unable to move. But I was also determined to be whole again. I went on a search to find out what was wrong with me. I discovered that I had PTSD! From there I found Andrew. He showed me what was wrong. It was he, the Narc, not I. I was just trashed as was my home and all my tools, farm equipment.... I needed to slow myself down, take care of myself, continue to meditate in spite of the foggy mind, journal and BE GRATEFUL! Listening to this channel and taking what I need for the day has been an education and so therapeutic. It's been hard work. I'm doing well, healed in many ways, getting physically and mentally stronger by the day. He left me, as Andrew often says, like a crumpled up piece of paper thrown out on the freeway! But I AM alive! That's whare the victory starts! Isn't it great to be alive? Isn't it great that we are able to face a new frontier full of promise? We may have to leave a lot behind to embrace what's on the horizon! It's there before us, for the fresh adventure. We can do it! Humans were not created to grovel in toxicity, walking on eggshells and tiptoing through one's own home so as not to bump into a rage fit, tantrum, borage of "words" and put downs, and more! Life is to be lived fully as we are each called to live it and share it with others. We can't do that unless we leave the past behind. We mustn't forget what we experienced. It serves as a billboard to warn us on the road ahead. But we mustn't relive the past or it becomes a living destructive nightmare. Past is done, we have this moment, which will prepare us for a magnificent future! It gets better. The losses are very real and perhaps necessary for us to become who we were created to be. We WILL make it with the grace of God! Celebrating the tiny victories of each day helps take the focus off the fallout, and makes us more joyful. Celebrating the goodness we find each day helps us be more grateful, empowered and wise! The Lord promised us our daily bread. I am thankful for that. I'm also grateful you're here on Andrew's channel where this loving family is eager to help and encourage one another. I hope what I've shared is that to you. Blessings, dear sister!
You know I don´t mind what such a person wants. Just happy that the person is far away from me. I sure never go back to this hell again. I am much better without that individuum. I am not interested in drama anymore. I just want a peaceful life whether it is alone or not - at least it is peaceful ...
I’m going threw the bullying and flying monkeys she has a pet team against me and I just filed a restraining order but I’m waiting to proceed thank you for sharing your experience and knowledge is been very helpful
The hoovers up to now have been like that cheap bazooka bubble gum bits that he throws out to test the water. Kid games. Trick or treat. I don't open doors to gools.
They have their game and I have my game of life. The checkmate game is over because I'm not playing with a pig mindset. Do not cast your precious pearls to swine. A pig is like playing in the mud and will eat you alive. 💃🏾💃🏾🗣
It’s so true about them not having to heal; my narc was ready to move on so fast it made my head spin and that was very painful for me, a person who had to go through normal healing.
Time in itself DOES NOT HEAL....It is WHAT WE DO WITH OUR TIME that makes the difference. Time can pass and decades can go by without progress unless we do the work. ♥
You're brilliant on re-stating PRIORITIES. One can't absorb this info. deeply or efficiently "on the fly." Slowing Down is the only way to understand and see things for what they are, were, etc. and how they affected you. The majority of problems in dealing with Narcs happened in my relative haste ( for one- 'too quick a conclusion I knew the person' ) . There is no Con Artist alive that will say, "Take all the time you need to make your decision ... " Another Gem of a Video, Andrew!👁
Absolutely true . They want to have all power & control over you with or without them . They will keep their children or family pets & they become the pawns. I’m healing very slowly but surely . You have been a great source to my progress . Thank you Andrew ❤ You look so handsome . God bless you.
Yes! This! I have gone through the divorce, but some days it is difficult dealing with the hoovering, testing, etc. I am avoiding the toxicity and finding new strength. I am not quite there. I am working on my “mountain of work”. Be strong everyone! Thank you, Andrew for encouraging us every single day! May we all thrive! 🥰🙏🪷
Hitting your channel again. Still winning battles with the narcissist! Single mom with my own business that narcissist feels for some reason he has say over... smh. Got blocked again today because I put in a 60 hour week into my own business and have no time to talk this Saturday with this bulls&it. You are winning friends and influencing people/ Keep it up! We need you!
What a beautiful sunset video message for helping people through the healing ❤️🩹 process. The blocking and unblocking games feed the narcissists of attention they so badly need. Starve them. Thank you Andrew 🙏❤️🦋
I have a narcissit at work, flirting with me until I confronted her about it and I said I was interested. I knew, she was not interested in me. I was just trying to get her to reject me so she would stop what she was doing and she went to management, saying I made her feel uncomfortable by saying I was interested. I was told to stay away from her except for work-related duties. After all that, she proceeded to still flirt with me until I posted on my Facebook-Page that I knew, she was reading „We are not friends on there", that, if she did keep it up, I was going to take it to management, that stopped it. But I know deep down, she is out to get me. I need to keep on my toes around her, I am work-friendly to her and that is it.
It's the damage years later After Narcissistic abuse Even when you can't see it physically, it's still with you Yes ,who's life is it ,I often wonder that's the bad joke 🤔
Oh yes, all true, but give yourself time. Everything Andrew shares with us is TRUE! It may take time to comprehend it all. But it comes little by little when we work at the bits we do conceptualize. Be happy with your baby steps - and celebrate them! Give yourself latitude to slip back now and again. Just know it's normal. WE'VE ALL DONE IT. The only fault you are allowed to "dis" yourself over is giving up! No, no, no! You are TOO PRECIOUS A PERSON to slide into that unforgiving pit! This channel is a family! We're all in this together! We truly love each other. ❤ Blessings, brother!
The stuff ( damage) that lingers is a big drag. Learning from Andrew and others, that "lingering" slowly started evaporating. I put it a bag of lessons learned, in with countless toxic weirdos I've crossed paths with. It's YOUR life, now! You've paid your dues!
The hovering: To me = s The narcissist gets boredom symptoms easily! When they are out of supply. Then they run after you again.🙈 Please block and Stay blocked! ❤️🙏🏼🗡👌
Hahaha! I met my Great nephew on my narc’s side of the family and he hovered me asking if I enjoyed seeing him but HE hasn’t seen him in 9 months! Really!! NO CONTACT! It’s the only way! Healing! Love my X’s family is reaching out to me! I am Free to be Me!Thank you Andrew! Namaste!🤗💫🐘
That's SO GREAT! My family "adopted" my Narc Brothers first wife. I've never met his second wife but those in the family who know her shower her with love. Only two of my siblings have met his third wife and stay close to her by email and Facebook. It's really a wonderful support! I am planning the 1200 mile trip to see wife #2. Having had her X live with me for eight months, I have nothing but admiration for her making it through 18 years and bringing up his seven children so beautifully without his help. What a woman! Her sons told their dad, "Dad, you need to leave. You're not welcome here." They were protecting their mother. Bravo for them! I'm sure the in-laws have a like admiration for you. You certainly deserve it. Blessings!
Thank you for the video, Andrew, and always providing a beautiful background of nature.🌳 Nothing is worth bringing any of that narc garbage back into our lives. Whether it was in the time we were involved with them or not, so true Andrew, they want to ruin everything good for us because they try to put themselves above us. We will always rise to the top by the grace of God. This time we rise higher and brighter than before. The narc is toxic and not getting back in. Have a beautiful evening Andrew and everyone. Stay Strong! ✝️🙏🏻🕊️☀️😎🌸🌳🌎❤️
I’m going to ask for a video topic because I’ve been asking myself this, what was our -art in the attraction to narcissist? The only way to heal is to see our part. I know the Bible says can’t two walk together unless they be agreed. What was I looking for in the narcissist? Why was I attracted to that?
The narc was attracted to you because he saw you as a target, an opportunity to exploit. We don't pick them. They pick us. You were love bombed. We all get love bombed.
On social I didn't block her. I have been sharing a lot of these videos and I want her and her family to see that I haven't accepted defeat. The last letter that I got from her was to accuse me and my friend for her teeth crumbling apart when her dentist removed her braces. 😂😂😂 Like how on earth is that even possible? 😂😂😂 It took me over a year to open the letter and I had to laugh. I still do.
@Greenleafroad Damage to who? I just spent the past ten years in absolute darkness because I had no one to talk to and I was alienated by my oldest daughter because of the lies about what happened between her mother and I. The gaslighting that either of my children never heard because their mother made sure that they didn't. I was the villain. I shouldered all of shame, guilt, and responsibility because 1- I didn't know what in the world happened or why. 2- I was made to believe that it was all me. 3- I lost everything. So, please tell me who is in danger?
Excellent video. I grew up in Colorado and have always loved spending time in the mountains. After ex narc I have had to heal to enjoy this love again because of time spent with the narc in the mountains. I also wondered why don't I want to be in my house anymore? I'm blessed to have a wonderful house. It's because I spent time here with the narcissist and was abused. As I heal I am slowly getting what I love and enjoy back. Thank you for you detailed videos. It's so complicated this healing journey and you are breaking it down so it's doable and we are healing. Thank you 😊
Can you relocate? Perhaps to another area near mountains? You’ll still have all the gunk inside to deal with ie. upsetting, confusing memories but you’ll be starting a new (narcless) free life making new experiences and memories for yourself. Best wishes on the healing path. ❤
The narcissist doesn't want you to heal because they don't want to heal.,.... I gave my narcissist so many videos on ways for him to overcome his childhood...... He would rather use his victimhood to keep doing what he's doing sadly..
Honey. that's all he knows! It's the way they are raised. My ex was spoiled rotten! Some narcs are brought up in a violent environment. Take care of YOU..❤❤
Hi everyone, Things to fill the voight, things to keep your mind busy… I bought an old fashioned crossword puzzle magazine and start with one puzzle a day Reading, the art of not giving a ****, read 30 min every day. Meditation, do it 10 min every morning. The journaling is still not imbedded every day for me. Do you guys have tips on creating meaningful things to do? Cheers from a place in the Netherlands 🇳🇱🇳🇱🪷🪷
I journal some of the comments from members here in the community that I find helpful and inspiring! I want back to doing my water color painting and do a long 2 hour hike on the weekends . Also have a routine for daily meditation and listen to at least one podcast on subjects that I am interested in. Hope some of the suggestions help . Blessings to you! Sending you a virtual hug and positive energy! 😘♥
It’s only a simple thing but when I was constantly ruminating (like an obsessively) I started doing jigsaws. You can’t ruminate when your brain is engaged in this logical, mathematical thinking. Also singing gives some release. ❤
Thank you,for once again describing exactly how these people are acting. Once you realize it, it's terrifying,how it could be possible to ignore the signs from the beginning.
❤❤❤❤ I’ve healed 😁😁 And many of my friends here have too, including _you_ Andrew! 😉 I’m so HAPPY and proud of us!!! 🤩🩷🤩🩷🤩 GREAT video, Andrew, thank you! You’re looking very handsome today, btw! 😍😍😍 Have a WONDERFUL Saturday evening! ❤️❤️❤️❤ My friends, I hope you all are having a LOVELY weekend! Get out there and live your best life… WITHOUT narcs! Love y’all!!! ❤❤❤❤
It's a great feeling to know that we have healed! Time, patience, and visiting Andrew's room for 2 years is what helped me. Now we have ALL our control back, and being such great empaths, we can help others. This is another great topic. 👍🌺💗💗💗💗💗💗🫠 Keep rockin' with that great music. 🎼🎶🎺
Amen to that statement; social media is a Narcissists playground... You have that right. What's so horrible, is I can block THEM, but some other distant family members...post pictures with them... I guess I block them all. It is definitely a mountain of work! Ty Andrew ❤
Omggggg, I was hoovered! His new supply called me and said he drugged her and kidnapped her. Asked me to come help her. Of course I said yes. However I was 7 hours away. I felt in my gut that I was being set up. The last call she made to me was something is going to happen to her and I'll never hear from her again. I have not heard from her again and her number goes to voicemail. Kinda eerie 😮
Been listening to your videos for a year...I am stunned...I KNOW my ex was a Narcassist...and I knew it at the time, but I never knew EXACTLY what it meant or researched the condition. What I am stunned about & keep asking my therapist, is I THINK I AM Narcissistic also! She insists I'm not. BUT I'm the one that was hoovering (even after 13 months now), sending never ending text messages, showing up at his work & his home. I rationalize this because he left me after 10 yrs for another woman (I'm 59), I lost my SHIT because he didn't even TELL ME...he just blocked me and changed his phone number after I used text apps to get a hold of him to demand closure. So maybe overall, I am not a Narcassist....but 100% for this particular relationship ....I feel I was also a Narcissist (maybe my real self) in the relationship with him, because I couldn't be myself with others?...I can also be grandiose and loud and rude (female) & that is what drew me to him was he was not afraid of "confrontation".... Either way, your videos help me a lot - thanks for reading.
To all the people that tell me how they feel about me, and all the kind words that are spoken mean a lot to me and other people. We are all in this together and we are against a MONSTER called a NARCISSIST. We should all be kind to each other and acknowledge when an empath says hello to you. We are in this together. ❤❤
Everything you share a so TRUE and helpful 😊🙏💙 I am healing and doing things I did for others to myself 💙 I like being by myself because it's peaceful I almost got in a unhealthy friendship I need this time to grieve and and heal and learn I do have healthy friends I talk to Most people don't see it Thanks 😊❤️💙🍀🙏 I am taking a day at a time
Yep I had to give them back their sweater since it was getting cold..you are right they used that to start gaslighting…I could not go back he literally had me car towed and called the bank to have them sell it…
Thank you Andrew literally this channel has saved my life and saving my soul and heart and energy in many many ways…because there are many forms of NPD in many types of people with it. Some people have a large reach and that is hard to come back from people love to believe bad things flying monkeys love laughing at their targets hurting the target bullying and paying people to do things that harms…learned so much and now I’m done studying them time to study myself.
This video is absolutely true. When I was divorced 23 years ago I went into real estate and my ex-husband was so upset that I was doing well. Then he regretted not trying to get more from me in our settlement. I had worked with him in our family business for 15 years and he expected me to walk away with nothing. He wanted mediation because he didn't want to spend money on an attorney at the end we agreed on all things we hugged I started to cry and then for 4 years he harassed me about my success he is still a bitter old man. He is not doing well lost most of his business that we built for 15 years after we split up.These people are just incorrigible.
It's important to say that you do reach a point where it no longer matters. There will be times that after blocking them, they jump through hoops to get in touch...speak to them if you want and don't if you dont want. You know what they are and you know who you are. I think that's what you mean when you describe the point of indifference. They cannot hurt you any longer!!! That is BIG!!!! Namaste Andrew and thank you!!!!
I was doing so well until he called me at 2.15am and hung up on me - when I responded WTF? He said pocket dial and what do you want? I didn’t call him - he was on what’s app - I call BS - I’m working on breaking the trauma bond it’s tough after 27 years though
I went no contact weeks ago and my ex called me at 4:52 am. Didn't answer...you know she would have said pocket dial. They are sick. My trauma bond was 12 years.
It’s a lonely and terrible place to be. When you get so low down only way is up. You are at the point where your soul is telling you have to do something to save yourself. Please try to think of different options. Do it quietly and plan an escape. Keep posting here so you are not alone, as Andrew says. ❤
Can you get to a therapist's appointment and plan a safe exit with the therapist's help? Sending you prayers, strength, peace, and hope! You can leave the abusive home environment and make a better life for yourself! 🙏
When you said "it's not a game, it's your life" that helped so much.
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Follow your heart..👍💕
@nolaparker9574, it’s a game for the narcissists.
Like a 2D video game in their flatlining zombie life
“There’s nothing for them to heal” this is vital for us to learn
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it takes the sting out of them turning their back. it makes me feel better to know that it was there all along. cuz now i can see the signs and like the who said ' we wont get fooled again"
Years later a narcissist can come back, shut the door , end it. They will never change , they only get better at manipulating.
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Good evening Andrew and everyone. For all of the new empaths, believe me, you WILL be fine. Keep coming to this room, (like i did) and you will feel better everyday. You are in control of your own feelings, and you know right from wrong. FOLLOW YOUR GUT FEELING ALWAYS. When you know something is wrong, it is wrong. BE CAREFUL OUT THERE and follow your ❤heart. VERY GOOD TOPIC, ANDREW. ❤❤
Hi precious Jann....wishing you a wonderful weekend.
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Hi sweet Jann, i hope you are well i have been a little quiet these days because i am on vacations but i am reading the comments. Take care of yourself my friend. Have a wonderful evening ❤🤗🌺
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You enjoy your weekend too, my sweetie!"👍💕
@@marieeakin8534you also marieeakin85.😉🙏🌞👍💕💕
I always look forward to your positive ( reality-based) posts.😊👍
Narcissists are a piece of work.
I was in a narc relationship before i knew what it was, ɓut now i know bc of having gone thru many of the signs you have described. The secretive behavior, lies, gaslighting, disappearing acts, lack of intimacy, lack of interests in my interests. All he cared about was his interests and needs. He wanted me to give him my all and in exchange he gave me nothing but stress, frustration, mental anguish and pain. I will NEVER repeat this mistake again. Trust MUST from this point on be EARNED.
They want it all....
To own everything about us,...our thoughts, our time ,our hearts, our attention, our loyalties, our ideas, to talk at us & listen to them as they go on & on ...BECAUSE THEY ARE NARCISSISTS & THEY DON'T GIVE A DAMN & THEY NEVER WILL!!! 🎀😘
Ignore them! They hate when you Grey rock them..👍👍
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Hey Jann...yes I've gone NO CONTACT.& have come to realize that I don't have to make everyone ok & now I know what their all about (thank God!)
@@marieeakin8534GREAT FOR YOU. 👍👍💗😍
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My experience has been that narcissists thrive in long term relationships. It gives them a huge sense of security: financially (even a little money is more money than they're making being single) and their spouse (the victim) and children are toys for as long as the marriage lasts. I think the marriage boosts the narcissist's ego and confidence to mentally screw with anyone in their path.
Your words sound almost like what my life has been. I can say from experience, living with a narc is hell.
Peace and heeling be with you and all of us who have experienced this abuse. 🙏
My God yes. As long as the mask stays intact, they could go on as long as they want. Once caught though, all bets are off - that's when you see the monster in full bloom
Wow great points..so sad
You are Loved Andrew…. A beacon of light in this dark subject
Amen!!!
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When I searched in yt I pulled up 10 red flags you might be dating a narc . She had 9 and I figured she was saving the 10th one for later. 😮
Sounds like you got a good heads up......high five!!!
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Its difficult to understand they never loved you, it was all a game to them. When you realise this you also know that they played the game with you and they lost. Stay no contact. True love will find you in the end.
So true 😅
True love is already there. We just need to love ourselves more than we ever loved the narc. Be first, second and third. Like Andrew always says. Blessings to you!❤
Great perspective. That puts us in the winner spot no matter how hard it’s all been. Thanks. ❤
Financial instability ties me to my Narc...
Many Years!
I finally found a place of peace in all of the cruel chaos...
SILENCE!
Have a plan. You can't give your life away to a narc. Just my view. Blessings to you!♥
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They believe you cannot function without them. They wanted you to see you suffer while they are having fun with the 3rd party. They will make sure you know that they are better without you. The damage was so hard to mend takes alot of effort to stand again but believe me you will rise and heal in time. 🙏
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Yes WE WILL....they will never rise!
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narcissism is based on self loathing. they hated their weak inner child (who was overwhelmed by unhealthy caregiver) and so killed it off and the protective false self was created. their core wound is usually shame. because of the way the false self works, approaching the core shame wound triggers defence. meaning that they cant really get in touch with those shame based emotions because it triggers the self loathing and pain. this is what prevents them from inteosepcting and growing in most not all cases. they arent “doing better,” its a facade. the narcissist is a tormented soul that cannot have peace or contentment. they can only exogenously enmesh with their environment to attempt to coregulate their near chronic dysregulation.
Yep, they really don't want you to do well. They only *appear* to. It's kinda like future faking.
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They scavenge upon the wounds they inflicted on you. When the wound is healed, they starve.
That's the WORST part to face. It took me 20 plus years to face this truth
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Time will heal almost everything, incase if time doesn't heal you acceptance will do
Time does NOT heal anything in itself. It is WHAT WE DO IN THAT TIME that makes the difference in the healing process. Blessings to you! ♥
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So true. Letters or texts...not worth reading!
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They don't want you finding love again, indeed. Namaste 🙏
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I am so grateful for your content Andrew, I never imagined that knowing narcississm is endless. My Ex is BPD/NPD, My Mom is BPD/NPD and I have been alienated by my Children for the last 5 years. Everything you say are all true...
I found Andrew about 2 years ago. He is the BEST
We all love him..🙏💞💗
My mother and my ex are narcissistic. My mother is very angry at me now when I am in heeling proces, hers tretman is now demonic. I am unfortunately in house with her and can't go from because financial.
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@jannlewandowski5540 have you achieved a lot and gotten a grip and are winning since finding this channel? It's amazing. No other therapists or channel seems to guide and help and educate like Andrew for me.
Same. Not my mom though.
Neither do the flying monkeys or general gossips want you to heal. Sigh.
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The narcissist used to gaslight me all the time w you don’t remember things correctly or that’s not what happened . It was very confusing and frustrating Thank you Andrew
She: I said that to you.
Me: Really? I can't remember.
She: You promised that to me. Me: When did I say that?
Sometimes I was really questioning my memories. Even though she was the one who was drunk all the time.
When I told her something, it could be, that she already forgot it the next day. What's the point of a conversation, when the other can't even remember it the next day.
JustDance, everything you said also happened to me. We both met someone one time, and the next day I made a nice remark about her. He said "what and WHO are you talking about?" I said "the girl we met yesterday." He said I DID NOT MEET ANYONE YESTERDAY. He tried to make me think I was nuts!
I'm the gal that LOVES your screen name. I sing.
Anyway, gaslighting is horrible, and he pulled a few on me. 🌺💪💪👍😉 Don't believe it!
My late stepfather did not want me to improve, grow, and develop myself. He opposed it. He just wanted me to be a‘servant’ to him and to everyone else. He did not want to me grow up and own my own life. He wanted me to be a yes man and a people pleaser.
Sickening....A common thread with these narcs!
Blessings 🎀😘
Divorcing one now. We really need a place to go to detox from their abuse. Preferably tropical 🌸
Agree...hugs & blessings on your healing path!
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If you want some company, I'll go...👍❤️ Best of luck to you...🖐🖐😉
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Y'all make me laugh!
Indeed. He didn’t mind that his last thing made me sick. I said I hated him. He was unconcerned it seems. I rode it out so he was never alone with the kids until they were of age. It sucked but he had showed his hand. I knew he could dress up and fool a lot of people.
Andrew speaks from the heart!❤
Always follow your heart❤
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Hi Jann, how are you?
@emilywilson7308 I have Bronchitis. I'm on Amoxicillin. Hope you're fine Emily. 🖐🌺
So sorry you are sick!❤
@@emilywilson7308it's a pain in the ass, bcse I have to take antibiotics for 10 days days. I'm getting there! Thank you for asking. 😘🫂✌️
The dreams 😮 yes, after one of the many rage n then discards i have dreams of the narcissist and the flying monkeys trying to hurt me. It was hideous. Never thought others got this too 😢
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Your videos serve as a reminder of how horrible my relationship was and that I made the right decision to block her almost 4 months ago. I initially decided in April that I would only talk to her if she reaches out first but then I realized how triggering that was so I blocked her in June. I don’t think she thought I’d commit since I played the blocking and unblocking game twice. I haven’t seen her social media in months but given how “happy” she looked last time I saw her page just to find out she reached out to my mom (and got ignored) tells me that she’s likely putting on a front. Her life got better by being with me and mine got worse. Now my life got better without her and now I suspect that hers got worse. Whether it did or not is not of my concern now. She could become the richest person in the world tomorrow, as long as she keeps her rich ass away from me, I’m good 😎
Keep coming back here. You will get better.👍💕💗
I can’t seem to stay away from his videos. I found his channel a few months ago and just can’t seem to stop watching his video 😎
Glad your Mom has your back. I come here to this channel ( for last 10 months) nearly every day, because it
improves mental health. Without a healthy mind, it's harder to have a vitality to push on and enjoy...... everything.
Carrying around a sack of fake love bomb moments were a big drag.
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The sooner you stop, the BETTER you will feel. I know about videos and social media and they will only HURT you more. PLEASE, for your own good, stop watching them. We all love you...❤❤
After five years of no contact, I do have a peaceful life, moving at my own pace and not dodging eggshells/land mines.
I lost a lot of sleep over those forty years and I need a twenty minute nap every day. Guess it takes a lot of energy healing from all that trauma.
Just going with the flow.
I still have thoughts of him each day, memories of the person he pretended to be.
I love my freedom now and I hope our paths never cross again.
I forgive his despicable duplicity, but I will never forget it. I totally believe that these experiences are lessons to be learned by us, to become higher vibrational beings.
I still have love in my heart, I have never hated anyone, no matter how angry I feel towards them. I think that's the difference between us and narcs - we just walk away from toxic energy, they hate and plot to destroy. They never forgive.
Nice....enjoy sweetie!
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You nailed every item. That drain on emotional/mental energy is a major hindrance for trying new things,
enjoying the simple things that are in front of you, etc. The upside of healing- rays of sunlight breaking through
and shining on your being.I wouldn't trade having an empathic nature for _________ fill in the blank.😉👍
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Kerryann, your the BEST!
Memories of the person he pretended to be. Great phrase. Yes, like you, I can’t bring myself to feel hate. We rise above them. ❤
3 words that best describe a narcissist:
-Manipulation
-Deception
-Chaos
They only share the appearance of a human but really they're more like tormented demons in human form.
YES, YES, AND YES!!! Blessings to you!❤
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Basking in the sunlight of permanent no contact of several years, I cannot imagine anything more disrespectful that you could do to yourself by not getting enough knowledge about the experience and more importantly how you got there. That you must discern honestly and completely. You have then put on heavy duty armor that is light as a feather. Carrying weight pulls you down, carrying wisdom keeps you light and ready if need be.
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Exactly, Andrew. Subtle Hoovers coming my way... I am still healing, and it appears they know how deep the cut was... so bad I self sabotaged myself out of the workplace where I would see her. It got way too painful. The loss was so intense. So it seems pretty apparent how the narcissist how toxic they really are.
Trying to remain calm. Not quite there, still grieving. One day at a time. Sometimes its one foot in front of the other.
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It can be brutal, hang in there. 👃
Hugs & blessings in your healing!
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I take it one moment at a time. Minutes can sometimes be too long. Though I'm a good stretch on healing, I think it may take the rest of my life. But that's OK! I recognize the pathologies now. It's not just behavior that can be corrected or modified in any way. It's all out of my ability to do anything about, because, in spite of what I've been told and believed, it's NOT I ! I just have wounds that need healing.
Healing will happen for both of us - after a lot of work! But the wisdom, having passed the test, is PRICELESS!
You are doubtlessly doing very well. You see your fragile humanity and your indomitable strength! Accept them both as precious reality!!
Blessings to you!
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Donna, that's a beautiful message!❤
It's just not only my life, it's Thier life that we have to live with
Actually, they DONT have a life. That's why they sap (find supply) off other people constantly. I was just dwelling on this fact this morning. It's really sad, perhaps deplorable is more likely, that they have nothing to live for but duping and manipulating others. Their only kicks, I can't call it joy, is making others miserable - any way they can.
I know this is a fact even though the reality of that fact doesn't compute! I can only pity them for the life they haven't got, never will have, and will die regretting that their only "accomplishment" was making this world a more obnoxious place for all on the planet.
You WON'T have that regret. You LIVE on a high plane of wholesome self-love and service to those who veritabley need it. How very beautiful! Blessings dear one!
Two years out. Broke the bond yes. Healing yes. Lonely yes. Trying to get back yes. Working my ass off yes. Is this easy no.
They will bait you until they draw their last breath. Literally, on her deathbed in hospice, my mother still believed she had some weird power over me, "You know that I can never visit your home again", as if that would be a terrible blow. That boat had already sailed, years ago by then, when I finally "got" that she acted as if, but no connection had ever been there for her. Everything was transactional for her, to create a simulated experience for others without actually being there emotionally herself. She was trying to plug up gaps in her armor, caused by her father leaving the family and depriving her of financial and parenting resources when she was 6, forever striving to regain what she'd lost.
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Those facts helps us to be more understanding without being enabling and abused. Your statement has so much balance. Blessings.
What they want they wont get im.nobodys puppet
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True and I’m still grappling with the fallout years later. From all the losses
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That's so understandable.
I, too, have lost so much, and years of work that the Narc destroyed, as well as stollen savings and my credit card number! To focus on it all, and that which I find on nearly a daily basis, would kill me, literally.
For months I was so useless, in a fog, physically unable to move. But I was also determined to be whole again. I went on a search to find out what was wrong with me. I discovered that I had PTSD!
From there I found Andrew. He showed me what was wrong. It was he, the Narc, not I. I was just trashed as was my home and all my tools, farm equipment.... I needed to slow myself down, take care of myself, continue to meditate in spite of the foggy mind, journal and BE GRATEFUL!
Listening to this channel and taking what I need for the day has been an education and so therapeutic. It's been hard work. I'm doing well, healed in many ways, getting physically and mentally stronger by the day.
He left me, as Andrew often says, like a crumpled up piece of paper thrown out on the freeway! But I AM alive! That's whare the victory starts! Isn't it great to be alive? Isn't it great that we are able to face a new frontier full of promise? We may have to leave a lot behind to embrace what's on the horizon! It's there before us, for the fresh adventure. We can do it!
Humans were not created to grovel in toxicity, walking on eggshells and tiptoing through one's own home so as not to bump into a rage fit, tantrum, borage of "words" and put downs, and more!
Life is to be lived fully as we are each called to live it and share it with others.
We can't do that unless we leave the past behind. We mustn't forget what we experienced. It serves as a billboard to warn us on the road ahead. But we mustn't relive the past or it becomes a living destructive nightmare. Past is done, we have this moment, which will prepare us for a magnificent future!
It gets better. The losses are very real and perhaps necessary for us to become who we were created to be. We WILL make it with the grace of God! Celebrating the tiny victories of each day helps take the focus off the fallout, and makes us more joyful. Celebrating the goodness we find each day helps us be more grateful, empowered and wise!
The Lord promised us our daily bread. I am thankful for that. I'm also grateful you're here on Andrew's channel where this loving family is eager to help and encourage one another. I hope what I've shared is that to you. Blessings, dear sister!
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You know I don´t mind what such a person wants. Just happy that the person is far away from me. I sure never go back to this hell again. I am much better without that individuum. I am not interested in drama anymore. I just want a peaceful life whether it is alone or not - at least it is peaceful ...
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I’m going threw the bullying and flying monkeys she has a pet team against me and I just filed a restraining order but I’m waiting to proceed thank you for sharing your experience and knowledge is been very helpful
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The hoovers up to now have been like that cheap bazooka bubble gum bits that he throws out to test the water. Kid games. Trick or treat. I don't open doors to gools.
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Luv it.....high five!!!
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Yes I agree, I block and I unblock yet I’m more in control of not wanting to be in a relationship.
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i unblocked and reblocked her for the third time. im with you, i dont want the relationship or her in my life, but i have moments of weakness
They have their game and I have my game of life. The checkmate game is over because I'm not playing with a pig mindset. Do not cast your precious pearls to swine. A pig is like playing in the mud and will eat you alive. 💃🏾💃🏾🗣
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It’s so true about them not having to heal; my narc was ready to move on so fast it made my head spin and that was very painful for me, a person who had to go through normal healing.
Time in itself DOES NOT HEAL....It is WHAT WE DO WITH OUR TIME that makes the difference. Time can pass and decades can go by without progress unless we do the work. ♥
Wise words.🤔👍🙂❤
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I love the warm porch vibe. The Carolina’s look charming. Love these messages they are so healing brother Andrew. Thank you 🙏
We ignore our gut feelings at our peril. That was and is our inner Christ....warning...!!!
You're brilliant on re-stating PRIORITIES. One can't absorb this info. deeply or efficiently "on the fly." Slowing Down is the only way to understand and see things for what they are, were, etc. and how they affected you. The majority of problems in dealing with Narcs happened in my relative haste ( for one- 'too quick a conclusion I knew the person' ) . There is no Con Artist alive that will say, "Take all the time you need to make your decision ... "
Another Gem of a Video, Andrew!👁
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You got THAT!!
We are much more entertaining the more broken-hearted their antics produce.
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Today is my 73rd birthday, and I am alone. I wish I had a friend like me.❣️
They can all keep their ugly love😂. It's all fake .thanks for the nug. Of wisdom .❤
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Absolutely true . They want to have all power & control over you with or without them . They will keep their children or family pets & they become the pawns. I’m healing very slowly but surely . You have been a great source to my progress . Thank you Andrew ❤ You look so handsome . God bless you.
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Yes! This! I have gone through the divorce, but some days it is difficult dealing with the hoovering, testing, etc.
I am avoiding the toxicity and finding new strength. I am not quite there. I am working on my “mountain of work”.
Be strong everyone!
Thank you, Andrew for encouraging us every single day! May we all thrive!
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you described my sister. she does not want me to exist
By existing , the narc hates that. Ha ha...Live a long life. Your sister has a LOT of problems. At least you can be happy. SHE CAN'T!! 😢😢😮
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Hi Andrew..I came down with Bronchitis. Taking antibiotics for 10 days. I'm still here.
Love you..❤️❤️😍
Hitting your channel again. Still winning battles with the narcissist! Single mom with my own business that narcissist feels for some reason he has say over... smh. Got blocked again today because I put in a 60 hour week into my own business and have no time to talk this Saturday with this bulls&it. You are winning friends and influencing people/ Keep it up! We need you!
you encouraged me.. Two little girls need my time more than this jacka$$,,, thank you! Keep the fire!
Blessings sweetheart!
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What a beautiful sunset video message for helping people through the healing ❤️🩹 process. The blocking and unblocking games feed the narcissists of attention they so badly need. Starve them.
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I have a narcissit at work, flirting with me until I confronted her about it and I said I was interested. I knew, she was not interested in me. I was just trying to get her to reject me so she would stop what she was doing and she went to management, saying I made her feel uncomfortable by saying I was interested. I was told to stay away from her except for work-related duties. After all that, she proceeded to still flirt with me until I posted on my Facebook-Page that I knew, she was reading „We are not friends on there", that, if she did keep it up, I was going to take it to management, that stopped it. But I know deep down, she is out to get me. I need to keep on my toes around her, I am work-friendly to her and that is it.
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It's the damage years later
After Narcissistic abuse
Even when you can't see it physically, it's still with you
Yes ,who's life is it ,I often wonder that's the bad joke 🤔
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Oh yes, all true, but give yourself time.
Everything Andrew shares with us is TRUE! It may take time to comprehend it all. But it comes little by little when we work at the bits we do conceptualize. Be happy with your baby steps - and celebrate them!
Give yourself latitude to slip back now and again. Just know it's normal. WE'VE ALL DONE IT. The only fault you are allowed to "dis" yourself over is giving up! No, no, no! You are TOO PRECIOUS A PERSON to slide into that unforgiving pit!
This channel is a family! We're all in this together! We truly love each other. ❤ Blessings, brother!
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Thankyou for yr thoughts
Somedays I forget
I'm still precious 😌 ✨️
The stuff ( damage) that lingers is a big drag. Learning from Andrew and others, that "lingering" slowly started
evaporating. I put it a bag of lessons learned, in with countless toxic weirdos I've crossed paths with. It's YOUR
life, now! You've paid your dues!
Wow, what an amazing video. Thank you for another week of awesome videos. Enjoy the rest of your weekend.
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The hovering: To me = s The narcissist gets boredom symptoms easily! When they are out of supply. Then they run after you again.🙈 Please block and Stay blocked! ❤️🙏🏼🗡👌
Hahaha! I met my Great nephew on my narc’s side of the family and he hovered me asking if I enjoyed seeing him but HE hasn’t seen him in 9 months! Really!! NO CONTACT! It’s the only way! Healing! Love my X’s family is reaching out to me! I am Free to be Me!Thank you Andrew! Namaste!🤗💫🐘
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Andrew you have taught me a lot about my situation and it’s working for me. Thank you Sir Andrew. 🤗💫🐘
That's SO GREAT!
My family "adopted" my Narc Brothers first wife. I've never met his second wife but those in the family who know her shower her with love. Only two of my siblings have met his third wife and stay close to her by email and Facebook. It's really a wonderful support!
I am planning the 1200 mile trip to see wife #2. Having had her X live with me for eight months, I have nothing but admiration for her making it through 18 years and bringing up his seven children so beautifully without his help. What a woman!
Her sons told their dad, "Dad, you need to leave. You're not welcome here."
They were protecting their mother.
Bravo for them!
I'm sure the in-laws have a like admiration for you. You certainly deserve it. Blessings!
Thank you for the video, Andrew, and always providing a beautiful background of nature.🌳
Nothing is worth bringing any of that narc garbage back into our lives.
Whether it was in the time we were involved with them or not, so true Andrew, they want to ruin everything good for us because they try to put themselves above us. We will always rise to the top by the grace of God. This time we rise higher and brighter than before. The narc is toxic and not getting back in.
Have a beautiful evening Andrew and everyone. Stay Strong! ✝️🙏🏻🕊️☀️😎🌸🌳🌎❤️
Excellent... BRAVO!!!!
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NEVER TAKE BACK A NARCISSIST! 👍👍
☮️❤️😁 and other highest forms of abundance all 🙌! Thank you beautiful soul Andrew, we 🙏 appreciate you 😁!
Back at ya Jody!!! 👍
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I’m going to ask for a video topic because I’ve been asking myself this, what was our -art in the attraction to narcissist? The only way to heal is to see our part. I know the Bible says can’t two walk together unless they be agreed. What was I looking for in the narcissist? Why was I attracted to that?
The narc was attracted to you because he saw you as a target, an opportunity to exploit. We don't pick them. They pick us. You were love bombed. We all get love bombed.
have you looked into childhood trauma and attachment style?
On social I didn't block her. I have been sharing a lot of these videos and I want her and her family to see that I haven't accepted defeat.
The last letter that I got from her was to accuse me and my friend for her teeth crumbling apart when her dentist removed her braces. 😂😂😂 Like how on earth is that even possible? 😂😂😂 It took me over a year to open the letter and I had to laugh. I still do.
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That is crazy 😆 🤣 but, we are dealing with crazy 😆 🤣
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Was she in an episode of the TWILIGHT ZONE?????
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Damage to who? I just spent the past ten years in absolute darkness because I had no one to talk to and I was alienated by my oldest daughter because of the lies about what happened between her mother and I. The gaslighting that either of my children never heard because their mother made sure that they didn't. I was the villain. I shouldered all of shame, guilt, and responsibility because
1- I didn't know what in the world happened or why.
2- I was made to believe that it was all me.
3- I lost everything.
So, please tell me who is in danger?
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My life became the Twilight Zone.
Beautiful background, the Narcissist wanted to keep me stuck but luckily moved on.
Thank you, Andrew! You are so authentic.
Excellent video. I grew up in Colorado and have always loved spending time in the mountains. After ex narc I have had to heal to enjoy this love again because of time spent with the narc in the mountains. I also wondered why don't I want to be in my house anymore? I'm blessed to have a wonderful house. It's because I spent time here with the narcissist and was abused. As I heal I am slowly getting what I love and enjoy back. Thank you for you detailed videos. It's so complicated this healing journey and you are breaking it down so it's doable and we are healing. Thank you 😊
Can you relocate? Perhaps to another area near mountains? You’ll still have all the gunk inside to deal with ie. upsetting, confusing memories but you’ll be starting a new (narcless) free life making new experiences and memories for yourself. Best wishes on the healing path. ❤
Thank you! Best wishes to you.
The narcissist doesn't want you to heal because they don't want to heal.,.... I gave my narcissist so many videos on ways for him to overcome his childhood...... He would rather use his victimhood to keep doing what he's doing sadly..
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Honey. that's all he knows! It's the way they are raised. My ex was spoiled rotten! Some narcs are brought up in a violent environment. Take care of YOU..❤❤
I finally found the novel that had the biography written between the lines. The embellishments and redactions in his account became vividly clear!
The unblocking is purely about idle curiosity.
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Hi everyone,
Things to fill the voight, things to keep your mind busy…
I bought an old fashioned crossword puzzle magazine and start with one puzzle a day
Reading, the art of not giving a ****, read 30 min every day. Meditation, do it 10 min every morning.
The journaling is still not imbedded every day for me.
Do you guys have tips on creating meaningful things to do?
Cheers from a place in the Netherlands 🇳🇱🇳🇱🪷🪷
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I journal some of the comments from members here in the community that I find helpful and inspiring! I want back to doing my water color painting and do a long 2 hour hike on the weekends . Also have a routine for daily meditation and listen to at least one podcast on subjects that I am interested in. Hope some of the suggestions help .
Blessings to you! Sending you a virtual hug and positive energy! 😘♥
It’s only a simple thing but when I was constantly ruminating (like an obsessively) I started doing jigsaws. You can’t ruminate when your brain is engaged in this logical, mathematical thinking. Also singing gives some release. ❤
Thank you,for once again describing exactly how these people are acting. Once you realize it, it's terrifying,how it could be possible to ignore the signs from the beginning.
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Your channel found me at the right time and space !
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Great info! The wind sounded so cool in the background. Thanks, Andrew! ✨️🌟⭐️
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Thank god for restraining orders ❤
❤❤❤❤ I’ve healed 😁😁 And many of my friends here have too, including _you_ Andrew! 😉 I’m so HAPPY and proud of us!!! 🤩🩷🤩🩷🤩
GREAT video, Andrew, thank you! You’re looking very handsome today, btw! 😍😍😍 Have a WONDERFUL Saturday evening! ❤️❤️❤️❤
My friends, I hope you all are having a LOVELY weekend! Get out there and live your best life… WITHOUT narcs! Love y’all!!! ❤❤❤❤
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Yes to all you said. No narcs allowed 🚫 ❤️🤗❤️🤗❤️
Love you too, Jennifer!❤
Wishing the best in everyone's life.
It's a great feeling to know that we have healed! Time, patience, and visiting Andrew's room for 2 years is what helped me. Now we have ALL our control back, and being such great empaths, we can help others. This is another great topic. 👍🌺💗💗💗💗💗💗🫠
Keep rockin' with that great music. 🎼🎶🎺
don't minimize abuse.
They want you to stay in the fog. You must escape the fog.🌫🌬🌫🌪☁️⛅️🌞🌞🌞🌞🌞
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Thank you Andrew. You look great and your environment does too! So happy you are thriving, I hope to do the same. God bless and love you ❤
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Amen to that statement; social media is a Narcissists playground...
You have that right. What's so horrible, is I can block THEM, but some other distant family members...post pictures with them...
I guess I block them all. It is definitely a mountain of work! Ty Andrew ❤
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Al-Anon 12 step work and meetings helped me greatly get through this to the other side to the light.
Omggggg, I was hoovered! His new supply called me and said he drugged her and kidnapped her. Asked me to come help her. Of course I said yes. However I was 7 hours away. I felt in my gut that I was being set up. The last call she made to me was something is going to happen to her and I'll never hear from her again. I have not heard from her again and her number goes to voicemail. Kinda eerie 😮
It's that empath reflex. I wish you'd have called the cops . It sounded like a set up.
Did you called emergency?
Been listening to your videos for a year...I am stunned...I KNOW my ex was a Narcassist...and I knew it at the time, but I never knew EXACTLY what it meant or researched the condition.
What I am stunned about & keep asking my therapist, is I THINK I AM Narcissistic also! She insists I'm not.
BUT I'm the one that was hoovering (even after 13 months now), sending never ending text messages, showing up at his work & his home. I rationalize this because he left me after 10 yrs for another woman (I'm 59), I lost my SHIT because he didn't even TELL ME...he just blocked me and changed his phone number after I used text apps to get a hold of him to demand closure.
So maybe overall, I am not a Narcassist....but 100% for this particular relationship ....I feel I was also a Narcissist (maybe my real self) in the relationship with him, because I couldn't be myself with others?...I can also be grandiose and loud and rude (female) & that is what drew me to him was he was not afraid of "confrontation"....
Either way, your videos help me a lot - thanks for reading.
Good morning, beautiful lights of the world, thank you for the topic today, spot on for my info needed, x
To all the people that tell me how they feel about me, and all the kind words that are spoken mean a lot to me and other people. We are all in this together and we are against a MONSTER called a NARCISSIST. We should all be kind to each other and acknowledge when an empath says hello to you. We are in this together. ❤❤
Yes! Beautifully said! Agree with every word. ❤
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Everything you share a so TRUE and helpful 😊🙏💙 I am healing and doing things I did for others to myself 💙 I like being by myself because it's peaceful I almost got in a unhealthy friendship I need this time to grieve and and heal and learn I do have healthy friends I talk to Most people don't see it Thanks 😊❤️💙🍀🙏 I am taking a day at a time
Thank you for sharing.
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Thank you. Thank you so so much. ❤
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Yep I had to give them back their sweater since it was getting cold..you are right they used that to start gaslighting…I could not go back he literally had me car towed and called the bank to have them sell it…
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Thank you Andrew literally this channel has saved my life and saving my soul and heart and energy in many many ways…because there are many forms of NPD in many types of people with it. Some people have a large reach and that is hard to come back from people love to believe bad things flying monkeys love laughing at their targets hurting the target bullying and paying people to do things that harms…learned so much and now I’m done studying them time to study myself.
Thank you Andrew. Spot on!
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I'm going to deal with the root problem. It's still breathing, some will not stop until you stop them
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This video is absolutely true. When I was divorced 23 years ago I went into real estate and my ex-husband was so upset that I was doing well. Then he regretted not trying to get more from me in our settlement. I had worked with him in our family business for 15 years and he expected me to walk away with nothing. He wanted mediation because he didn't want to spend money on an attorney at the end we agreed on all things we hugged I started to cry and then for 4 years he harassed me about my success he is still a bitter old man. He is not doing well lost most of his business that we built for 15 years after we split up.These people are just incorrigible.
Thank You Andrew❤
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You are the lesson I had to learn --Madonna
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Thanks for another great video Andrew, and a great learning experience for myself and many others. 💯
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Yes, Amen!!!
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It's important to say that you do reach a point where it no longer matters. There will be times that after blocking them, they jump through hoops to get in touch...speak to them if you want and don't if you dont want. You know what they are and you know who you are. I think that's what you mean when you describe the point of indifference. They cannot hurt you any longer!!! That is BIG!!!! Namaste Andrew and thank you!!!!
ty sir for the vid👍
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YES, they would be glad to wish really good even once when they wanted to but they can not... Thank You!!👍💐🌷🌞🌈⚓!!✨
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I was doing so well until he called me at 2.15am and hung up on me - when I responded WTF? He said pocket dial and what do you want? I didn’t call him - he was on what’s app - I call BS - I’m working on breaking the trauma bond it’s tough after 27 years though
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I went no contact weeks ago and my ex called me at 4:52 am. Didn't answer...you know she would have said pocket dial. They are sick. My trauma bond was 12 years.
More great education!
The divorce is so much work. He doesn’t want to be empty handed with his mistress 😞
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I'm in a terrible situation. I being slowly destroyed
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David, you are not alone. We are here for you. Also, it gets better...🙏💗❤️💪💪
Think about your exit plan. Start thinking right this minute.
It’s a lonely and terrible place to be. When you get so low down only way is up. You are at the point where your soul is telling you have to do something to save yourself. Please try to think of different options. Do it quietly and plan an escape. Keep posting here so you are not alone, as Andrew says. ❤
Can you get to a therapist's appointment and plan a safe exit with the therapist's help? Sending you prayers, strength, peace, and hope! You can leave the abusive home environment and make a better life for yourself! 🙏