My narcissist manipulated me for 25 years of marriage. He manipulated me and kept me waiting that he would maybe become human. But it never happened!!!
I finally told him to leave. We are now apart for 1 1/2 years and he will be getting served asap. I had therapy with Andrew and this is why now I am a different person. I have no contact , an attorney and he has no idea. I see through all of his evil behavior. Thanks I appreciate everyone good comments. I am so done I am a different person.
Waiting for the first msg Waiting for the last msg Waiting for them to arrive Waiting for them to leave Waiting for them to be quiet Waiting for them to talk Waiting for them to be ready Waiting for them to grow Waiting for them to see Waiting for them to stop taking Waiting for them to give Waiting for them to understand Waiting for them to apologise Waiting for them to forgive Waiting for them to love Waiting for them to have insight Waiting for my opportunity to escape….
I finally stopped Waiting, Regretting, Worrying, Feeling guilty, Forgiving, giving chances, believing blindly, suffering... I finally understood, that's about ME, my Future, my Life. Thank you Andrew and stay safe everyone! 🍃🌻🍃🌷🍃❤🍃🌼🍃
They want to spoil your day, especially Christmas, birthday's etc, best you believe it and find yourself someone better. This description is just spot on.
When they are getting ready to discard you, this behavior becomes more apparent. Looking back, I knew that things were going wrong but I had no way of knowing how evil these people are. It all seems so obvious now. My whole world has blown up!!! 💔 Now that I’m out of the fog, I realized I have been surrounded by narcissists my entire life. 😢😢😢
He told me that we would grow old together while he spent all the money I made. He ran around in our 43 foot sailboat, not working while I worked 24/7. He took everything and when I could no longer work - he discarded me.
Sorry to hear that, they are so evil but it's never too late to still enjoy life, in peace with no stress because that's what you get being free from a narcissist. So it was actually a blessing in disguise for you to enjoy the rest of your life!! God got you, sending prayers your way!🙏🏽💜
Thank you sooo soo much. I am doing really well. I found Andrew and he saved my life. I am a doctor, I thought I was smart but I got duped just like everyone else. I did and still do 1:1 therapy with Andrew. I am separated, no contact ( peace is amazing) and he is getting served soon, very soon). He thinks I am “ dumb”. He has no idea I have changed. I tell him nothing because he will use it against me later on. While he is out drinking I have been home journaling , writing pages every day , watching Andrew’s videos, doing 1:1 sessions. I know the monster he is. This is why I don’t use my real name. Every day new memories come up where I realize how he manipulated me. It’s ok. I am so strong , so much better, I am a completely different person. Thanks guys. I so appreciate it.
I waited from 2017-2021 with manipulation and future faking. He convinced me to leave my job, and promised to take care of me financially. I have grown children with him. I guess my job helped to coat the pain in being with him. When he deceptively took that away, in order to isolate me I was lost and sad. I really thought he would do the right thing in the end. But I’m awakened now,, thank God,,, and not waiting anymore!!! I was asleep for a long time.
Honestly I am stunned by how deep and accurate you describe & uncover the reality of living with a narcissist, I am just laughing now while listening thinking of all what I went through and I didn't understand how could someone hurt me just as much as I love and support them, now I know
I finally went no contact, filed for divorce, filed the paperwork and now it’s been almost a full year since the papers were served to her. At first she was “too busy” then it was “I’ll do it next week” then I went back to no contact and am going to start the process over so I don’t need a signature
@@caroleminke6116 Thank you. It went from being harassed non stop that the paperwork was taking too long once I caught her cheating (I was rushing everything I could) to once she got the papers, total silence. I’ve learned so much since then, thanks to channels like this. It’s all making sense finally!
@@Cy-bz9jh Thanks man, I appreciate it. Legal zoom took all the money to file upfront, but hasn’t done a thing to that end. They even claim they don’t have the documents I filled out and sent back to them. I asked for copies so I could file everything locally and wanted all the info to be exactly the same (it’s been over a year and my memory isn’t that good lol) I just wish they told me what the process was if I couldn’t get her to sign, or that they wouldn’t be able to help me if she didn’t. Not a single call or email from them all year telling me anything. It would have saved me over $1,000 and from having to do all the paperwork twice. Oh well, live and learn!
Yes the narcissist wants you to wait for them even though they have a very low tolerance waiting for you in any given situation. When a narcissist phones you they expect you to answer their call immediately even if your hands are full while your calls to them are never a priority. Narcissist's are extremely impatient they hate waiting for anything, when they want something they want it now regardless of what you or anyone else thinks. The narcissist is in the brazen habit of hoovering their ex partner's even after they have ghosted them, the reason the narc does this is because they expect you to be waiting for them with open arms. Good video Andrew, worth waiting for.👍😉
The video had deep and needed insight, and this comment reveals more! Yes, the narcissist is EXTREMELY impatient and doesn't want to wait for anything unless it serves their purpose for some reason. It doesn't matter what we have going on or even if it's almost impossible to do what they request in the moment-- to them there's no excuse and there'll be h*ll to pay with a rageful scene which could go on for hours. And they think it's fine to meet privately with an ex-partner, but if we did it even for business reasons the consequences would be horrible! They want the other party to wait for and on them hand & foot, never the other way around.
Having the knowledge is like a suit of armor. Just went on my 4th date with an individual. I was seeing all the red flags but being lonely I put up with it again until tonight. As soon as I set a boundary, they flipped their lid. Told me I wasn’t a man, told me to leave the restaurant. They told me as soon as I get up, they will have another man in my seat. I said I know you will, and I left. I feel so alive and invigorated knowing I don’t have to spend my time and energy on someone who is bossy and greedy, manipulative. I’ll chose my peace instead of your company 1000 times over.
Every word is the truth. I am so grateful that I have found Andrew, who is keeping me sane with his words of wisdom and genuine care. It's sad when you can't trust your own family/partner to look after you mentally, but I trust Andrew. 🙏
I know what you mean all I ever heard was "just get over it" Here we understand each other. Help each other. Not everyone is an empath. I found that out. 💖
Same here but the second part of my life I will be living not just existing in that toxicity w that fake nonhuman being that made a mess of the first half of my life! Stay strong, focused and safe everyone….
This is DEFINITELY true… living with TWO narcissists, as someone with autism and other health issues, my parents RAISED me to be dependent upon THEM. Growing up I never questioned it. I never questioned it until I found this channel. So for roughly 43 years, I’ve had to depend on 2 NARCISSISTS for EVERYTHING, unable to get a job, unable to drive, unable to have any real independence. That has given them the opportunity to control EVERYTHING about my life, from how much money I have to making impossible for me to make new friends (in real life), and keeping me from dating or getting married 😔😔
Don’t waste your life!Run,run,away!Get the right person 👍No worries,the narcissist is very afraid ✌️not courageous at all!Just live this person for ever 😡✌️🙏
If they share information about themselves, mostly lies, they would need to remember them and if they mix up their stories and you noticed it, which I did, but they would gaslight me and make me doubt myself for a while until I would go back and double check their texts. Which opened my eyes. I can't abide being lied to and I would end the association and block them on my social media account. Now, I avoid specific social media sites. Life is more peaceful since I have been staying off those toxic environments. 😊
@flowerpower4944 Thank you. Good days and bad days, but I am trying to be positive and praying for physical healing and laying everything down at the foot of the cross ✝️ ... surrendering and believing that God will do what is best for me... His will be done.
Gosh, the more I listen to your videos ding ding ding , ringing bells. Mine promised me marriage and has had me waiting since 2018, waiting for him to show me some real true genuine feelings. The only time I hear something true is when he tells me the most hurtful things. He can never say anything good to me, it's always too hurt me. I guess it makes him feel better about himself, a little ego boost for him, I've been dealing with a family of narcissist for 10 years. It's the most exhausting job I've ever had, no matter how good I am or how loving i am or how much I do for people is never enough.
Go with the solid: "There are NO perfect people!" By that conclusion, that makes you no less than anyone. You don't have to feel less, prove you're worthy of basic Respect ! I was just like you. No more. Draw the line.
How many times did I sit around "waiting" for the phone to ring or for a text to come in from the Narcs in my life? I can't even count. I had one friend who, if we were on the phone having a conversation and she got another call, would say, "I'll call you right back." She never did. And there I was...waiting. This went on for decades! Her behavior of also making me feel like I was the "lesser person," (someone more important is on the other line), I should have never tolerated. But, there I was, a people pleaser. I knew her for over 20 years and this was her pattern. I finally told her to just not SAY that to me anymore that it was disrespectful. I think she may have tried to comply, but if she didn't, I would call her out in the moment. I had actually had been through some counseling and learned about "boundaries." Needless to say, we are no longer friends. The discard happened during the pandemic. I won't go into all of that now, but it had to do with her putting her elderly mother's life at risk! Don't even get me started on the can of worms of divorce! Anyway, thanks Andrew! Have a great weekend everyone. Namaste.
🙏🌸The love bomb stage. Didnt last long .I fell hard and fast inlove with the narc.Looking at it now i was the only one in the relationship with a heart soul spirit but i was so manipulated i was blind to his venomous potions.🪱👺Im over the moon im out of the waiting game it was all torcher to my soul.🙏💫beautiful spot you have there Andrew.🌲🌳⚘🌻
We also end up waiting to take care of ourselves mentally and physically in big and small ways. Something as simple as basic hygiene can become a challenge.
I was going to marry one but he only backed out because I confronted him on his tactics and may be he realised that I cannot be controlled. All the while in a relationship with him, I never truly felt happy and excited, I always felt something was off.
Even ruminating years after is wasted energy. Thoughts of being conned and burned is still connected to emotional energy, even in minute amounts of drainage.The good part- I've been taking in these sagacious words and they work--- like throwing a bucket of water on smouldering ashes. I ain't "waiting" for any of it to go away on its own. Thanks, Andrew and community ... I'm always learning. The latest words from a comment here-- " People Smarts." I enrolled in the life long course, it was something I was missing.
Right on! Make your footprints go the way you want them to go!! Something I keep seeing pop up on my feed is that Everytime you ruminate, you are turned around, reflecting on the past. Keep looking and moving forward, that's where your focus is! I had another dream about the narc I left, last night. Nightmare, I should say. Still trying to get in my head. I normally have no focus, no thought of him. But now he's popping up in my sleep giving me nightmares. Won't work. I'll still call the cops soon as he decides to make his presence physically in front of me again. We win this time!!! Stay focused and strong!! ❤❤🙏🏻🙏🏻🕊️🕊️
Honestly these videos are the only thing getting me thru this...I could write pages of terrible things she's done..still playing the victim when I bring receipts and facts to the table...always turning it on me....truly sad I sometimes think she can change but my heart knows she cant
Bringing the receipts and facts is for your sanity and the lawyers, not theirs. Even when there is a paper trail of evidence, they will always twist it back on what you did wrong and how they did everything that was required. They live in upside-down world. And they love the power they get keeping you waiting… being non responsive. Dragging out the divorce, freezing the assets, flipping their poor behavior on you, and turning others against you. It’s a sick sick world they live in. The fact that it is intentional is eye-opening. But once you know the playbook, they are so stupid bc they are unoriginal. You can see their moves coming. They are mimics. It’s sad really.
You are definitely right Andrew 💯✅️.. My ex husband made me eat dinner with our kids, made me wait for him to sign our separation /divorce papers, and now he is making me wait for us to share what we have together as properties. He is so pushing me to burst into tears and frustration, but i won't do that. Though it's very tough and painful 💔, but i won't give him that pleasure.
@caroleminke6116 He is your child, and not the other way round. You are a parent to teach him how to react in different situations, whether happy, angry, and so on. You are there to guide him in the way he should go, which is right for him. You sit him down and talk to him that one doesn't throw temper tantrums for any reason. He's still a child. He doesn't know what is right or wrong for him. You teach him now before it's too late. He will blame you when he's grown in the future if you let him ruin your futures.
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone thank you so much for teaching me how to be aware of all his doings. I appreciate you so much for that, and continue the good work ❤️. God bless you 🙏 ❤️.
Has anyone else experienced in a romantic relationship that narcissists get "professional" with you at times? Their manner of relating to you, their manner of speaking and their words? I have noticed this when they are likely seeking new supply and you have lost your place as primary supply. The discard usually comes soon after. In retrospect, every relationship with a narc that I've had has had this dynamic in common.
This is so true that the narcissist keeps us waiting. Even when we got engaged my narcissist husband pretended that we weren't going to buy engagementrings. He came late when he was supposed to pick me up from my workplace etc. I left him 3 months ago and I'm filing for divorce. That was the most difficult decision I had to do in my life, but I'm glad I did it. I feel so much better now. Nobody is putting me down. Nobody is critizing me all the time. It's better to live alone in your own company, than to feel alone being married to a narcissist. I,m healing now and looking forward to a bright future. Lot's of love to you all and thank you again Andrew for an educating and great video🥰❤🍁🍂🌻🍀
To anyone with an autoimmune disease like lupus or rheumatoid arthritis- once you dump the Narcissist your disease will get better. I know what I speak of. Behind my false UA-cam name is an md ( me) with lupus which is so much better since I told him to leave a year and a half ago. I still take my meds but they just work so much better.
Absolutely 💯 They want us waiting but they won’t have that 😉 👎 it’s interesting how we can empathize and understand why someone might be late and offer plenty of grace but when the tables are turned? Watch out. I wait on myself now. ❤🙏💪
Hi Andrew and my amazing family! I feel it was more like they thought we will never leave them!! But your right the only thing we was waiting on, was for them to change back to the person we fell in love with! Which was a false person that they created. How could they even think you can treat a person that bad and horrible...an think we will wait or never leave! But guess who's waiting now the fog as clear!! Take care family💜 namaste 🙏
Whether narcissist or not i will never give a second chance to anyone who hurt me emotionally.Life is too short and too good for them to suffer because of them.I never and will never wait for them to come back.Disgusting even to remember the past toxic people.
There are some people I know I would never agree to a specific time to meet.....I call there bluff by telling them to send me a text whenever they are ready as I need to finish the sleeve I’m busy knitting...That takes away their jumped up feelings of self-importance and thinking you have nothing else to than to hang about waiting for them for hours on end.
Or They Won’t Give Notice Knowing They’re Trying To Make Plans. They’ll Spring It On You Just To Rush You So They Can Be ‘waited on’ And Catered To By You. Gaslighting You That You’re Late Or ‘took long’ To Arrive.
I recently ended an online communication with a man who, I think, was probably a narcissist. At the beginning of our communication, he shared a lot about himself and messaged me regularly. Towards the end, his messages were few and far in between. I ended our communication after I went a week without hearing from him. Just a few days prior to his radio silence we’d had a misunderstanding, which I’d apologized profusely for. He was angry with me but we’d seemed to make up. But his final message to me was curt and dismissive. He was shocked when I told him I was ending things. He was dismissive of my feelings when I explained how his silence made me feel. He then said he wanted to take a break and then one day one of us would “just show up to say hi.” When I told him I didn’t like the sound of that, he accused me of dismissing his feelings and not accepting my role in the misunderstanding that was the reason for why he needed a break. Needless to say, it’s over, narcissist or not.
You are 100% correct, as always, Andrew. One good thing about narcissist, is they all do the exact same things, making them easy to spot. My horrific discard by the narcissist was in January . I have finally reached the pinnacle of indifference! If you are suffering, still with a narcissist, or in the fog.. please believe Andrew and follow all of his advice! You will get through it, and you absolutely will be stronger, smarter, and have the love for yourself that you have been giving to others. I will continue to watch your videos, Andrew, to ensure I avoid these creatures in the future. Thank you, for your tireless work and helping so many others get through something that is just now being understood.❤
Andrew every video you do is 💯💯💯it's true facts,your doing a wonderful job here,,,you have walked in our Shoes,and know every Detail,,much Gratitude ❤️❤️
Hi Flower!! We are a big unknown familiar family! Good leaders create alot of healing! Yep, 👐👐 for Andrew! Now get back inside Andrew, where it's warm! ❤🌲🌲🌻🌻
Thank you. I am trying to separate. My narc lives down the hall and triangulates the other women in this apartment building. He did make a move on my finances but it appalled me. He has devalued me in a number of ways but will put a compliment in there to keep me coming back but I still feel I need his approval. You are right it is manipulation and I even told him he was full of games and didn't want it.
He wanted to borrow money . He said he owed it because he'd paid off his ex girlfriends gambling bills. He said if he didn't pay the money that "some people might hurt him." What a cornball scam ! 🧐
Or - you get the "investment" type scam... or they want to move in with you & then take half your house six months later...or they just lift money out of your handbag ...or they need money for their car.. or money for a new car....or its for their dental....or its for for their kids - from their last sexcapade(s)...or...money for their 70yr old mother ....who is also a narc & in on the entire scam ! 🤡
Oh! The airport! I remember always striving to be timely for a smooth and seamless pick up when it was her turn. She'd still be picking up luggage from the belt and I'd either already be circling or just about to arrive to pick her up. However, when I was coming in from a flight, I'd use the restroom, pick up luggage, get outside, send yet another text, and wait, wait, wait, and wait. If I said anything about it in protest... Nastiness, projection, how dare I protest the wait... THAT was ALWAYS a rotten experience. Ay! &Now, thank you Andrew, I'm reminded that I'm free of that garbage forever! Hallelujah!
Exactly we planned so many things together future faking and they never followed through with 1 of them. I played the waiting game for several years , hoping for things to change . They love isolating and destroying you. They want to fill you with hate instead of being peaceful and happy
Very true. They let us wait in so many ways & their words dont match their actions. They want us to wait on them, but they can take off whereever whenever they feel like. Egoists & takers at their core.
It must be really difficult to have been in a romantic relationship or marriage with one of these Ieeches. I have only ever had to deal with them at jobs or among relatives. Much easier to refuse to play their waiting games and simply walk away.
My ex tried to got merried and was lying and tricking me till i discovered after 8 months and simple removed myself been 3 month's almost of no contract
Brilliant video Andrew. You described my experience with the ex Narc exactly. Never realised these people existed. Sad fact is they try to ruin so many people. I don't think you can ever forget the experience and sometimes still continue to question their behaviour towards you but have to keep reminding yourself, it's the disorder. Thank you Andrew for your much needed help. x
My conclusion is that 'narcissism' and 'evil' are synonymous words for the same moral affliction, whatever reason causes such affliction (with the exception of brain damage as a child or adult). Often a troubled childhood, trauma at home, or even being spoilt by one's parents are the psychological explanations given. This will not do - EVIL IS EVIL! Of this I am certain!
My ex narc ghosted me sexually 10 years into our "marriage" and very the last time I tried to bring up the subject he just yelled "reLAX.... it'll HAPPEN!!" I considered myself free that day... That was 2013! I celebrate my freedom from a self constructed prison every year on the anniversary of that date and THIS year he finally wanted to talk about it... "what happened?" 🤣🤣🤣
Its now my life, my way. Totally selfish. Done it all for everyone else, all my life. What time i have left on this earth, I'm doing it my way. No more hiding, no more excuses & taking full responsibility. Its about me!
Good Suzi! Only, the description using the word "Selfish" is out of context. It's not "selfish" to stop and re-balance using all out "self preservation." I had to accept, generosity of time, energy or resources wasn't appreciated by half or more of recipients. Yes, it's pleasing to give without expecting anything in return, but to be stabbed in the back down the line? It was time to reel in the giving and do so with with careful discernment. Been there got the tire tracks across my back.
An excellent movie(if you can deal with the Italian, use English subtitles): The Nights of Cabiria. A gentle-hearted prostitute is taken in(love-bombed) by a con-artist hypnotist. The ending of the movie heart-breaking, but heart-warming at the same time. It's a long movie, directed by Fellini I believe.
Mine was expecting me to text with him in every break at work. If I wasn't there in time because I had something to do, I got already in trouble. But if I was there in time and had to wait an hour for his reply, I was not supposed to complain. Also later on he used to use texting as our only communication and didn't want to talk to me in person anymore. No word at home. And he used texting to start an argument by gaslighting me and then blaming me for being a bad person, sick in my mind and in a bad mood like always. Every single time. I was just waiting for it. I knew exactly what was coming. Thanks for bringing this topic up. That is one of hundreds of things they do to destroy you. And how good hearted must a person be to put up with all that for years without even thinking they are abused.
I ABSOLUTELY LOVE THIS CHANNEL!!! Thank you ❤😂🎉 love and light to all!!!! I have a “church narcissist” and EVERY SINGLE thing you are saying is TRUE!!! I am so thankful to be in my peaceful space now and understand how to live in joy and bliss - it took me 2 years though!!!!!! And finally selling my home next week!!! ❤
Wow Andrew! You’re describing so much of my experience w/narc! You’re giving great advice! I’m waiting to move out of this complex where he is! I don’t want to be near him ever! I must keep listening to you and take your great advice! I waited and waited for narc to change! Never did; he got worse like you said! Appreciate you& your wisdom!
I love this channel!!!!!! Love and light to you! I had a “church narcissist” whew 2 years and just now coming out of it - i am STILL WAITING on the 1/2 of stock- I am ao happy to bw FREE!!!!
Remember there is a GOD and KARMA will comeback to these people. You have the GOD given POWER of sharing LIGHT only problem you gave it to the WRONG people. Just heal by KNOWING and LEARNING the difference between WOLF in SHEEP clothing. GOD already is on YOUR SIDE. You WILL WIN. You will SUCCEED. GOD is with you forever. NO MATTER WHAT these people do & even if they pray to GOD he knows what they are INSIDE. Such people will NEVER be FORGIVEN by the BOATMAN either in their after life 🎉🎉 YOU have the LIGHT of GOD within YOU ❤❤ and it is BURNING 🔥 BRIGHT will all its MIGHT thats why you TRULY FEEL things within YOU including the PAIN. Read these words and if they send a chill down your spine or make your eyes filled with GLEE you know you HAVE GOD’s LIGHT within you. You are SPECIAL & GOD always shines ✨ his LIGHT 💡 through YOU. ❤❤❤🎉
I’ve seen some people actually try to justify these people by saying “hurt people hurt people.” I call BS. Lots of us have been hurt. We don’t all turn into monsters. That’s an excuse you can’t use. And an excuse that keeps you WAITING. Another excuse is they don’t know any better. That’s BS too. If they change when they’re around other people, they absolutely know the behavior is unacceptable. They just choose to mistreat you. Don’t let people or yourself make excuses for these people. They know exactly what they’re doing, and they don’t care. In fact I’d be willing to bet there are friends they brag to about their misdeeds and laugh about it. Stop waiting! Life is too short for people who absolutely waste your time!
Please, if you have the time, please do another video on casualties / collateral damage which focuses on animals and people left behind .. especially animals who might be bonded to you and it’s hard to leave them behind.. or to even be told to leave by the narc yet you know certain animals are more bonded to you than the narc which makes it difficult .. I’ll never get over not spending the rest of their lives with them if that’s what happens for me.. I’ll get over the narc easily.. but not them.. I also want to say thank you for this video.. especially towards the end .. you made some useful comments there.. I am waiting.. I don’t know what it is that I’m waiting for though.. not for the narc to change.. I know he won’t.. maybe I’m waiting for a miracle.. so that I can save myself and also some of the birds here.. i also know that halfway through the video you mentioned that narcs aren’t always looking for supply every second.. but I actually believe they are .. even when they aren’t physically looking.. they’re THINKING about sources of supply and responses from sources of supply and how they’ll get more sources supply.. I believe this is what consumes their brain. Supply supply supply.. the word gives me a headache now.. thank you again for this informative video.
I had to make another comment My ex made me wait seven years to finalize the divorce. I didn’t know his long game, which was to retire, and then leave me with nothing by telling the court that he was broke. He enjoyed torturing me in divorce court. My nickname was water boarded. This is so painful 😣 but at least I see through the fog now I feel like Alice in Wonderland who fell down the rabbit hole and only just landed.
The hardest and most painful part for me is the 2 yr old boy doesn't know why I'm not around anymore. He looked up to me with joy and excitement. But because of her bad behavior and delusions, I removed myself from her abuse. I don't like the feeling like I abandoned the innocent child because I don't want to be around his toxic mother. It's heavy
You didn’t abandon him. I had to leave a horribly toxic situation when my son was 12. Waited til my daughter was 18. They use children as pawns. They become the model parent for everyone else’s eyes, and it took many years to get the courage, and outside helpers. Others helped connect my son and I until the situation cooled off (the horrible temper) so that there was peace in transition. Carried guilt for many years - I can’t tell you how to feel, but please don’t carry that. The children know the real story. You don’t have to say a word to them about the other one. They know. Build yourself strong and that boy will see it eventually. Children want and need to see their parents healthy - or at least moving toward healthy (even if that’s done separated). Best wishes to you and anyone else who’s dealing with this. Feels like your heart is being torn out of your chest. God bless you.
The responsibility to the kids was what kept me from drawing the line, only to fall deeper into the fog. No one wants to be labeled as the one who abandoned the children. The more I deal with understanding how society is quick to prejudge, the more I build a tolerance for it and expect the worst.No one will understand any of it. I accept that and "we" push on.🤝
No DOUBT .. meetin at a restaurant , park , waitin on a REPLY to a text. MINE said to me when confronted about texting " My TIME. ... is MY. TIME. ... but as we all know That doesnt apply to US. .......
I accepted the Hoover and found it was bad news! Saw social media posts of her and her new boy toy! A lesson learned, with pain! Life goes on and I will heal, a very small lesson that I must learn!!! Thank you for your wisdom!!!
This is the best of the best of your videos, could not have said it , or explain this much better!!! Thank you from the bottom of my heart!!!! All you explained did happen.
I just got "shelved" for the 3rd time. Great time then ghosted! He knows I'm waiting...but I'm not this time! I've blocked...blocked...blocked! DONE!!! Thank you Andrew! ❤️
Over 40 years ago, my now ex narc, told me in a seething voice that I would have my freedom someday. I was crying because he wouldn’t spend any time with me, nor his children. But let someone outside of me ask him to go, and do he would. So the day came when I decided to divorce him, and of course he was trying to convince me that he was going to change, and I reminded him of what he said that day years ago. And I said to him, “ Little did you realize what you were saying that day about me having my freedom . “ Yes, his words came back to haunt him.
@@Harmonious-jm3sy I just passed my 35th year being married to him. Left BEFORE the anniversary, tho, we are still married. I left with no place to lay my head, except in my car. I was parked at a friend's place...she lived in a little rv trailer. I got fed up with the narcissists swarming my car and creating trouble for me, so I went into town, and got a motel room. I spent all the money I had to do so. It was the best thing I've done because now I live in same motel, and clean rooms to stay here. I could live just like that the rest of my life, and never have bills, so long as I am trading my labor for my stay. I don't wish to do that, but it got me a secure place away from all the narcs. It was ...or it seemed pure chance. But in fact, a few doors down is another motel where I know 2 other people doing the same thing. There are 3 others here in this motel living this way. And another motel across the street where I know a man has lived there for 17 years, just cleaning rooms and doing maintenance. There are avenues. Churches will help you get into a motel. Thing is, you can't look back. Make that determined move, and don't digress! You can do it!!! And your health...all the things that have been waiting just for you, will come to you!!! Much love to you, and ...best of luck!!! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️🕊️
When we first started. She told me she couldn’t wait to treat me like a king, to show me the treatment I deserved. Only lasted a couple months, I told her to just show up as she could.
I still kick myself for not being stronger sooner with the narc. I eventually won, kicked her out but even now I have those think backs to when they were so full of it and I didn't see it. from day one it was all bs even the last words from her was all lies. It was like dealing with a demonic entity than a person.
Yep! Dreamed of the evil narc all night last night. That evil grin on his face as he rounded my car on his bike. Let him show up!!! He will meet some new aquaintances quickly, though, he won't be about it. But I'll be SURE not to make him wait!!!! 😁😁🙏🏻❤🕊️
My narcissist manipulated me for 25 years of marriage. He manipulated me and kept me waiting that he would maybe become human. But it never happened!!!
Never does im😮on 30 year's hope you have a counselor
We can't hope nor wait.❣️
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I finally told him to leave. We are now apart for 1 1/2 years and he will be getting served asap. I had therapy with Andrew and this is why now I am a different person. I have no contact , an attorney and he has no idea. I see through all of his evil behavior.
Thanks I appreciate everyone good comments. I am so done I am a different person.
This made me laugh. Become human. 😂 ❤
Waiting for the first msg
Waiting for the last msg
Waiting for them to arrive
Waiting for them to leave
Waiting for them to be quiet
Waiting for them to talk
Waiting for them to be ready
Waiting for them to grow
Waiting for them to see
Waiting for them to stop taking
Waiting for them to give
Waiting for them to understand
Waiting for them to apologise
Waiting for them to forgive
Waiting for them to love
Waiting for them to have insight
Waiting for my opportunity to escape….
Covered that pretty well 👍
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Don't wait another minute! Take that step into your abundant blessings just waiting for you!!! ❤❤❤🙏🏻🙏🏻🕊️🕊️
Will waiting forever if it’s a narcissist. Great list 🙌💯
This is powerful and I can relate. I hope your opportunity to escape comes sooner rather than later. ❤❤
I finally stopped Waiting,
Regretting, Worrying, Feeling guilty, Forgiving, giving chances, believing blindly, suffering...
I finally understood, that's about ME, my Future, my Life.
Thank you Andrew and stay safe everyone!
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Never have any problem solving just bad thinking.when he is the worst.
Your content has helped me so much. I’m 7 months away from that evil woman. These videos really do help me heal. Thank you for the content Andrew. ❤
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Been 4 months and I think of them daily still. Does that ever go away?
Can you imagine being thrilled because you think it's fun to abuse others? RUN!❣️Golden Girl
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Truly bizarre!😮
This WAS MY LIFE!! so glad I'm 2 years out!! Still healing, but I have come such a long way!
You're doing great! "The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step" Sending strength and positive energy your way! Blessings♥
,,What the narcissist loves more than money,...is Your Money!"...You are brilliant!!! Exactly!!!
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They want to spoil your day, especially Christmas, birthday's etc, best you believe it and find yourself someone better. This description is just spot on.
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The last 10 years with him, I was left alone😢
Christmas and my birthday was the worst.
@@Donnahodgins very sad you don't deserve it
Trying to erase you & replace you with them 😂 it’s a two year olds dream but you’re the only adult in this manipulationship
Could be two hours late or not show up for two days.
When they are getting ready to discard you, this behavior becomes more apparent. Looking back, I knew that things were going wrong but I had no way of knowing how evil these people are. It all seems so obvious now. My whole world has blown up!!! 💔
Now that I’m out of the fog, I realized I have been surrounded by narcissists my entire life.
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone I love your Content
He told me that we would grow old together while he spent all the money I made. He ran around in our 43 foot sailboat, not working while I worked 24/7. He took everything and when I could no longer work - he discarded me.
Sorry to hear that, they are so evil but it's never too late to still enjoy life, in peace with no stress because that's what you get being free from a narcissist. So it was actually a blessing in disguise for you to enjoy the rest of your life!! God got you, sending prayers your way!🙏🏽💜
That's what they do and it is pure evil! I'm so sorry this happened to you. I hope you are still young and have gotten the wisdom! Namaste.
Thank you sooo soo much. I am doing really well. I found Andrew and he saved my life.
I am a doctor, I thought I was smart but I got duped just like everyone else.
I did and still do 1:1 therapy with Andrew. I am separated, no contact ( peace is amazing) and he is getting served soon, very soon).
He thinks I am “ dumb”. He has no idea I have changed.
I tell him nothing because he will use it against me later on.
While he is out drinking I have been home journaling , writing pages every day , watching Andrew’s videos, doing 1:1 sessions. I know the monster he is. This is why I don’t use my real name.
Every day new memories come up where I realize how he manipulated me.
It’s ok. I am so strong , so much better, I am a completely different person.
Thanks guys. I so appreciate it.
😔 sorry you were terribly mistreated
I knew one that had a boat - one person cautioned me never to go out on it with him. Remember - the narc is also into ins fraud...
They give false hopes
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I waited from 2017-2021 with manipulation and future faking. He convinced me to leave my job, and promised to take care of me financially. I have grown children with him. I guess my job helped to coat the pain in being with him. When he deceptively took that away, in order to isolate me I was lost and sad. I really thought he would do the right thing in the end. But I’m awakened now,, thank God,,, and not waiting anymore!!! I was asleep for a long time.
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Thank God your eyes opened!!! Take care dear.
Honestly I am stunned by how deep and accurate you describe & uncover the reality of living with a narcissist, I am just laughing now while listening thinking of all what I went through and I didn't understand how could someone hurt me just as much as I love and support them, now I know
I finally went no contact, filed for divorce, filed the paperwork and now it’s been almost a full year since the papers were served to her. At first she was “too busy” then it was “I’ll do it next week” then I went back to no contact and am going to start the process over so I don’t need a signature
Good luck!
@@caroleminke6116 Thank you. It went from being harassed non stop that the paperwork was taking too long once I caught her cheating (I was rushing everything I could) to once she got the papers, total silence. I’ve learned so much since then, thanks to channels like this. It’s all making sense finally!
@@ChrisPyle some States must have some antiquated divorce laws. A year and have to start over is crazy! So sorry man. Good luck!
@@Cy-bz9jh Thanks man, I appreciate it. Legal zoom took all the money to file upfront, but hasn’t done a thing to that end. They even claim they don’t have the documents I filled out and sent back to them. I asked for copies so I could file everything locally and wanted all the info to be exactly the same (it’s been over a year and my memory isn’t that good lol) I just wish they told me what the process was if I couldn’t get her to sign, or that they wouldn’t be able to help me if she didn’t. Not a single call or email from them all year telling me anything. It would have saved me over $1,000 and from having to do all the paperwork twice. Oh well, live and learn!
Yes the narcissist wants you to wait for them even though they have a very low tolerance waiting for you in any given situation. When a narcissist phones you they expect you to answer their call immediately even if your hands are full while your calls to them are never a priority. Narcissist's are extremely impatient they hate waiting for anything, when they want something they want it now regardless of what you or anyone else thinks. The narcissist is in the brazen habit of hoovering their ex partner's even after they have ghosted them, the reason the narc does this is because they expect you to be waiting for them with open arms. Good video Andrew, worth waiting for.👍😉
The video had deep and needed insight, and this comment reveals more! Yes, the narcissist is EXTREMELY impatient and doesn't want to wait for anything unless it serves their purpose for some reason.
It doesn't matter what we have going on or even if it's almost impossible to do what they request in the moment-- to them there's no excuse and there'll be h*ll to pay with a rageful scene which could go on for hours.
And they think it's fine to meet privately with an ex-partner, but if we did it even for business reasons the consequences would be horrible!
They want the other party to wait for and on them hand & foot, never the other way around.
Hurry up and wait is their motto
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Narcissism is in effect a complete rejection of good, the 10 Commandments, and the adoration of self to the detriment of others.
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Satan - the original narcissist.
Having the knowledge is like a suit of armor. Just went on my 4th date with an individual. I was seeing all the red flags but being lonely I put up with it again until tonight. As soon as I set a boundary, they flipped their lid. Told me I wasn’t a man, told me to leave the restaurant. They told me as soon as I get up, they will have another man in my seat. I said I know you will, and I left. I feel so alive and invigorated knowing I don’t have to spend my time and energy on someone who is bossy and greedy, manipulative. I’ll chose my peace instead of your company 1000 times over.
You dodged a bullet.
Man, her mouth must have dropped. When u said, " I know you will"
Thirty three years of future faking. RUN!❣️
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36 for me, I met him at 16 he was a predator looking back.
Andrew, you do an amazing job articulating what so many of us experienced. Thank you so much for being our voice and for your positive energy.🌺🥰
Every word is the truth. I am so grateful that I have found Andrew, who is keeping me sane with his words of wisdom and genuine care. It's sad when you can't trust your own family/partner to look after you mentally, but I trust Andrew. 🙏
I know what you mean all I ever heard was "just get over it"
Here we understand each other. Help each other.
Not everyone is an empath.
I found that out. 💖
He is amazing!
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My marriage right there! No more!
I was waiting half of my life,believed in change ,believed in ilusion of person who never exist
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Same here but the second part of my life I will be living not just existing in that toxicity w that fake nonhuman being that made a mess of the first half of my life! Stay strong, focused and safe everyone….
This is DEFINITELY true… living with TWO narcissists, as someone with autism and other health issues, my parents RAISED me to be dependent upon THEM. Growing up I never questioned it. I never questioned it until I found this channel. So for roughly 43 years, I’ve had to depend on 2 NARCISSISTS for EVERYTHING, unable to get a job, unable to drive, unable to have any real independence. That has given them the opportunity to control EVERYTHING about my life, from how much money I have to making impossible for me to make new friends (in real life), and keeping me from dating or getting married 😔😔
Save yourself now that your eyes are open! Me too have been too tied to my parent. Not good at all.
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You are so appreciated and loved here in this community 🫂❤️🤗 - it must be so miserable 😭 to deal with them.
Jennifer, you are so strong and I believe in you!❤
I am sorry you are/have been going through that . ❤
Don’t waste your life!Run,run,away!Get the right person 👍No worries,the narcissist is very afraid ✌️not courageous at all!Just live this person for ever 😡✌️🙏
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If they share information about themselves, mostly lies, they would need to remember them and if they mix up their stories and you noticed it, which I did, but they would gaslight me and make me doubt myself for a while until I would go back and double check their texts. Which opened my eyes. I can't abide being lied to and I would end the association and block them on my social media account. Now, I avoid specific social media sites. Life is more peaceful since I have been staying off those toxic environments. 😊
Hope your keeping well Mary👉❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏⭐
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@flowerpower4944 Thank you. Good days and bad days, but I am trying to be positive and praying for physical healing and laying everything down at the foot of the cross ✝️ ... surrendering and believing that God will do what is best for me... His will be done.
Gosh, the more I listen to your videos ding ding ding , ringing bells. Mine promised me marriage and has had me waiting since 2018, waiting for him to show me some real true genuine feelings. The only time I hear something true is when he tells me the most hurtful things. He can never say anything good to me, it's always too hurt me. I guess it makes him feel better about himself, a little ego boost for him, I've been dealing with a family of narcissist for 10 years. It's the most exhausting job I've ever had, no matter how good I am or how loving i am or how much I do for people is never enough.
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Go with the solid: "There are NO perfect people!" By that conclusion, that makes you no less than anyone. You don't have to feel less, prove you're worthy
of basic Respect ! I was just like you. No more. Draw the line.
Yeah & If they give you a ring it can be stolen or fake.
How many times did I sit around "waiting" for the phone to ring or for a text to come in from the Narcs in my life? I can't even count. I had one friend who, if we were on the phone having a conversation and she got another call, would say, "I'll call you right back." She never did. And there I was...waiting. This went on for decades! Her behavior of also making me feel like I was the "lesser person," (someone more important is on the other line), I should have never tolerated. But, there I was, a people pleaser. I knew her for over 20 years and this was her pattern. I finally told her to just not SAY that to me anymore that it was disrespectful. I think she may have tried to comply, but if she didn't, I would call her out in the moment. I had actually had been through some counseling and learned about "boundaries." Needless to say, we are no longer friends. The discard happened during the pandemic. I won't go into all of that now, but it had to do with her putting her elderly mother's life at risk! Don't even get me started on the can of worms of divorce! Anyway, thanks Andrew! Have a great weekend everyone. Namaste.
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The waiting is the hardest part
Every day you see one more card
You take it on faith, you take it to the heart
The waiting is the hardest part.
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We wait for no one !
🙏🌸The love bomb stage. Didnt last long .I fell hard and fast inlove with the narc.Looking at it now i was the only one in the relationship with a heart soul spirit but i was so manipulated i was blind to his venomous potions.🪱👺Im over the moon im out of the waiting game it was all torcher to my soul.🙏💫beautiful spot you have there Andrew.🌲🌳⚘🌻
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❤To draw your enegry out of you and keep you any way they can❤
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It's better to watch paint dry than be around the narc. 🧐
We also end up waiting to take care of ourselves mentally and physically in big and small ways. Something as simple as basic hygiene can become a challenge.
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I think that is a sign of depression.😢
Nailed this - when too busy cleaning, cooking and even bathing them (yep) - you don’t have time for yourself.
@@emilywilson7308 Yes. The narc is like a dark cloud over a persons life.
I was going to marry one but he only backed out because I confronted him on his tactics and may be he realised that I cannot be controlled. All the while in a relationship with him, I never truly felt happy and excited, I always felt something was off.
Even ruminating years after is wasted energy. Thoughts of being conned and burned is still connected to emotional energy, even in minute amounts of drainage.The good part- I've been taking in these sagacious words and they work--- like throwing a bucket of water on smouldering ashes. I ain't "waiting" for any of it to go away on its own. Thanks, Andrew and community ... I'm always learning.
The latest words from a comment here-- " People Smarts."
I enrolled in the life long course, it was something I was missing.
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@@Betulaaah Thanks, OG! 🙌
Right on! Make your footprints go the way you want them to go!! Something I keep seeing pop up on my feed is that Everytime you ruminate, you are turned around, reflecting on the past. Keep looking and moving forward, that's where your focus is!
I had another dream about the narc I left, last night. Nightmare, I should say. Still trying to get in my head. I normally have no focus, no thought of him. But now he's popping up in my sleep giving me nightmares. Won't work. I'll still call the cops soon as he decides to make his presence physically in front of me again. We win this time!!! Stay focused and strong!! ❤❤🙏🏻🙏🏻🕊️🕊️
Honestly these videos are the only thing getting me thru this...I could write pages of terrible things she's done..still playing the victim when I bring receipts and facts to the table...always turning it on me....truly sad I sometimes think she can change but my heart knows she cant
Bringing the receipts and facts is for your sanity and the lawyers, not theirs. Even when there is a paper trail of evidence, they will always twist it back on what you did wrong and how they did everything that was required. They live in upside-down world. And they love the power they get keeping you waiting… being non responsive. Dragging out the divorce, freezing the assets, flipping their poor behavior on you, and turning others against you. It’s a sick sick world they live in. The fact that it is intentional is eye-opening. But once you know the playbook, they are so stupid bc they are unoriginal. You can see their moves coming. They are mimics. It’s sad really.
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You are definitely right Andrew 💯✅️.. My ex husband made me eat dinner with our kids, made me wait for him to sign our separation /divorce papers, and now he is making me wait for us to share what we have together as properties. He is so pushing me to burst into tears and frustration, but i won't do that. Though it's very tough and painful 💔, but i won't give him that pleasure.
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Would you let your two year old run your life or ruin your future because he’s threatening to throw another temper tantrum?
@caroleminke6116 He is your child, and not the other way round. You are a parent to teach him how to react in different situations, whether happy, angry, and so on. You are there to guide him in the way he should go, which is right for him. You sit him down and talk to him that one doesn't throw temper tantrums for any reason. He's still a child. He doesn't know what is right or wrong for him. You teach him now before it's too late. He will blame you when he's grown in the future if you let him ruin your futures.
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone thank you so much for teaching me how to be aware of all his doings. I appreciate you so much for that, and continue the good work ❤️. God bless you 🙏 ❤️.
His new supply stalks me on his behalf and her friends and the police do nothing
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The airplane trip part. Holy shit. Radio silence the minute you say goodbye
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Has anyone else experienced in a romantic relationship that narcissists get "professional" with you at times? Their manner of relating to you, their manner of speaking and their words? I have noticed this when they are likely seeking new supply and you have lost your place as primary supply. The discard usually comes soon after. In retrospect, every relationship with a narc that I've had has had this dynamic in common.
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Oh yes...the fake formality is such a freaking joke.
Yes I think it's a devaluation tactic to make someone feel inferior & them feel superior.
@@Pegasus77753 oh absolutely.
Nope. I walked away. Am not waiting on someone who refused to change. Good riddance
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This is so true that the narcissist keeps us waiting. Even when we got engaged my narcissist husband pretended that we weren't going to buy engagementrings. He came late when he was supposed to pick me up from my workplace etc. I left him 3 months ago
and I'm filing for divorce. That was the most difficult decision I had to do in my life, but I'm glad I did it. I feel so much better now. Nobody is putting me down. Nobody is critizing me all the time. It's better to live alone in your own company, than to feel alone being married to a narcissist. I,m healing now and looking forward to a bright future. Lot's of love to you all and thank you again Andrew for an educating and great video🥰❤🍁🍂🌻🍀
To anyone with an autoimmune disease like lupus or rheumatoid arthritis- once you dump the Narcissist your disease will get better. I know what I speak of. Behind my false UA-cam name is an md ( me) with lupus which is so much better since I told him to leave a year and a half ago. I still take my meds but they just work so much better.
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Blessings dear one!
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Fantastic!🎉
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Right on!! ❤❤🙏🏻🙏🏻
Yes,also I had gall bladder pain symptoms,that completely disappeared when I left the Covert N exH .
This was what I just went through. Luckily I noticed it one month into the relationship and walked away.
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They want us waiting but they won’t have that 😉 👎 it’s interesting how we can empathize and understand why someone might be late and offer plenty of grace but when the tables are turned? Watch out. I wait on myself now. ❤🙏💪
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Hi Andrew and my amazing family! I feel it was more like they thought we will never leave them!! But your right the only thing we was waiting on, was for them to change back to the person we fell in love with! Which was a false person that they created. How could they even think you can treat a person that bad and horrible...an think we will wait or never leave! But guess who's waiting now the fog as clear!! Take care family💜 namaste 🙏
So glad we now know! 👍
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Whether narcissist or not i will never give a second chance to anyone who hurt me emotionally.Life is too short and too good for them to suffer because of them.I never and will never wait for them to come back.Disgusting even to remember the past toxic people.
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You're the only one I watch now you tell it like it is, thank you!
I have looked at other sites.
Now I mostly just come here.
Andrew has incredible insight.
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@@Donnahodgins I second that!
There are some people I know I would never agree to a specific time to meet.....I call there bluff by telling them to send me a text whenever they are ready as I need to finish the sleeve I’m busy knitting...That takes away their jumped up feelings of self-importance and thinking you have nothing else to than to hang about waiting for them for hours on end.
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Or They Won’t Give Notice Knowing They’re Trying To Make Plans. They’ll Spring It On You Just To Rush You So They Can Be ‘waited on’ And Catered To By You. Gaslighting You That You’re Late Or ‘took long’ To Arrive.
I recently ended an online communication with a man who, I think, was probably a narcissist. At the beginning of our communication, he shared a lot about himself and messaged me regularly. Towards the end, his messages were few and far in between. I ended our communication after I went a week without hearing from him. Just a few days prior to his radio silence we’d had a misunderstanding, which I’d apologized profusely for. He was angry with me but we’d seemed to make up. But his final message to me was curt and dismissive. He was shocked when I told him I was ending things. He was dismissive of my feelings when I explained how his silence made me feel. He then said he wanted to take a break and then one day one of us would “just show up to say hi.” When I told him I didn’t like the sound of that, he accused me of dismissing his feelings and not accepting my role in the misunderstanding that was the reason for why he needed a break. Needless to say, it’s over, narcissist or not.
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You are 100% correct, as always, Andrew. One good thing about narcissist, is they all do the exact same things, making them easy to spot.
My horrific discard by the narcissist was in January . I have finally reached the pinnacle of indifference! If you are suffering, still with a narcissist, or in the fog.. please believe Andrew and follow all of his advice! You will get through it, and you absolutely will be stronger, smarter, and have the love for yourself that you have been giving to others. I will continue to watch your videos, Andrew, to ensure I avoid these creatures in the future. Thank you, for your tireless work and helping so many others get through something that is just now being understood.❤
This one was a game changer for me- I felt like you were describing my last relationship piece by piece. Appreciate your insight
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Andrew every video you do is 💯💯💯it's true facts,your doing a wonderful job here,,,you have walked in our Shoes,and know every Detail,,much Gratitude ❤️❤️
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Hi Flower!! We are a big unknown familiar family! Good leaders create alot of healing! Yep, 👐👐 for Andrew! Now get back inside Andrew, where it's warm! ❤🌲🌲🌻🌻
Thank you. I am trying to separate. My narc lives down the hall and triangulates the other women in this apartment building. He did make a move on my finances but it appalled me. He has devalued me in a number of ways but will put a compliment in there to keep me coming back but I still feel I need his approval. You are right it is manipulation and I even told him he was full of games and didn't want it.
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He wanted to borrow money . He said he owed it because he'd paid off his ex girlfriends gambling bills. He said if he didn't pay the money that "some people might hurt him." What a cornball scam ! 🧐
Or - you get the "investment" type scam... or they want to move in with you & then take half your house six months later...or they just lift money out of your handbag ...or they need money for their car.. or money for a new car....or its for their dental....or its for for their kids - from their last sexcapade(s)...or...money for their 70yr old mother ....who is also a narc & in on the entire scam ! 🤡
Oh! The airport! I remember always striving to be timely for a smooth and seamless pick up when it was her turn. She'd still be picking up luggage from the belt and I'd either already be circling or just about to arrive to pick her up. However, when I was coming in from a flight, I'd use the restroom, pick up luggage, get outside, send yet another text, and wait, wait, wait, and wait. If I said anything about it in protest... Nastiness, projection, how dare I protest the wait... THAT was ALWAYS a rotten experience. Ay! &Now, thank you Andrew, I'm reminded that I'm free of that garbage forever! Hallelujah!
Exactly we planned so many things together future faking and they never followed through with 1 of them. I played the waiting game for several years , hoping for things to change . They love isolating and destroying you. They want to fill you with hate instead of being peaceful and happy
"Devaluation Street & Destructionville" LMAO!!!
Hi Andrew ,Hi everyone hope you all have a great Weekend ✨✨❤️❤️❤️❤️
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Very true. They let us wait in so many ways & their words dont match their actions. They want us to wait on them, but they can take off whereever whenever they feel like. Egoists & takers at their core.
Exactly Andrew, I know why I stay single.
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It must be really difficult to have been in a romantic relationship or marriage with one of these Ieeches. I have only ever had to deal with them at jobs or among relatives. Much easier to refuse to play their waiting games and simply walk away.
My ex tried to got merried and was lying and tricking me till i discovered after 8 months and simple removed myself been 3 month's almost of no contract
Brilliant video Andrew. You described my experience with the ex Narc exactly. Never realised these people existed. Sad fact is they try to ruin so many people. I don't think you can ever forget the experience and sometimes still continue to question their behaviour towards you but have to keep reminding yourself, it's the disorder. Thank you Andrew for your much needed help. x
My conclusion is that 'narcissism' and 'evil' are synonymous words for the same moral affliction, whatever reason causes such affliction (with the exception of brain damage as a child or adult).
Often a troubled childhood, trauma at home, or even being spoilt by one's parents are the psychological explanations given. This will not do - EVIL IS EVIL!
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Including recent research-- a percentage may be genetic. More reasons why they
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Hey there Andrew! Looks cold and rainy there! ❤❤❤ it! Hope you’re having a WONDERFUL Friday! BTW, you look GREAT in red!!! 😉😍☺️❤️❤️❤️
What a terrible life to live. Very sad. Thanks Andrew.
This is crazy making! They are nuts!
Agree...they're so good at it!
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what a sad way to live. Not feeling sorry for them but damn what a curse.
My ex narc ghosted me sexually 10 years into our "marriage" and very the last time I tried to bring up the subject he just yelled "reLAX.... it'll HAPPEN!!" I considered myself free that day... That was 2013! I celebrate my freedom from a self constructed prison every year on the anniversary of that date and THIS year he finally wanted to talk about it...
"what happened?" 🤣🤣🤣
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Its now my life, my way. Totally selfish. Done it all for everyone else, all my life. What time i have left on this earth, I'm doing it my way. No more hiding, no more excuses & taking full responsibility. Its about me!
Good Suzi! Only, the description using the word "Selfish" is out of context. It's not "selfish" to stop and re-balance using all out "self preservation." I had to accept, generosity of time, energy or resources wasn't appreciated by half or more of recipients. Yes, it's pleasing to give without expecting anything in return, but to be stabbed in the back down the line? It was time to reel in the giving and do so with with careful discernment. Been there got the tire tracks across my back.
An excellent movie(if you can deal with the Italian, use English subtitles): The Nights of Cabiria. A gentle-hearted prostitute is taken in(love-bombed) by a con-artist hypnotist. The ending of the movie heart-breaking, but heart-warming at the same time. It's a long movie, directed by Fellini I believe.
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Mine was expecting me to text with him in every break at work. If I wasn't there in time because I had something to do, I got already in trouble. But if I was there in time and had to wait an hour for his reply, I was not supposed to complain. Also later on he used to use texting as our only communication and didn't want to talk to me in person anymore. No word at home. And he used texting to start an argument by gaslighting me and then blaming me for being a bad person, sick in my mind and in a bad mood like always. Every single time. I was just waiting for it. I knew exactly what was coming. Thanks for bringing this topic up. That is one of hundreds of things they do to destroy you. And how good hearted must a person be to put up with all that for years without even thinking they are abused.
An insecure, controlling child using a digital "leash." The silent treatment- one of the most cruel. One of hundreds of abuses- not hard to believe.
I ABSOLUTELY LOVE THIS CHANNEL!!! Thank you ❤😂🎉 love and light to all!!!!
I have a “church narcissist” and EVERY SINGLE thing you are saying is TRUE!!! I am so thankful to be in my peaceful space now and understand how to live in joy and bliss - it took me 2 years though!!!!!! And finally selling my home next week!!! ❤
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Wow Andrew!
You’re describing so much of my experience w/narc!
You’re giving great advice!
I’m waiting to move out of this complex where he is!
I don’t want to be near him ever!
I must keep listening to you and take your great advice!
I waited and waited for narc to change!
Never did; he got worse like you said!
Appreciate you& your wisdom!
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Waiting: being on standby.
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I love this channel!!!!!! Love and light to you! I had a “church narcissist” whew 2 years and just now coming out of it - i am STILL WAITING on the 1/2 of stock- I am ao happy to bw FREE!!!!
This was incredibly true for me
Remember there is a GOD and KARMA will comeback to these people. You have the GOD given POWER of sharing LIGHT only problem you gave it to the WRONG people. Just heal by KNOWING and LEARNING the difference between WOLF in SHEEP clothing. GOD already is on YOUR SIDE. You WILL WIN. You will SUCCEED. GOD is with you forever. NO MATTER WHAT these people do & even if they pray to GOD he knows what they are INSIDE. Such people will NEVER be FORGIVEN by the BOATMAN either in their after life 🎉🎉 YOU have the LIGHT of GOD within YOU ❤❤ and it is BURNING 🔥 BRIGHT will all its MIGHT thats why you TRULY FEEL things within YOU including the PAIN. Read these words and if they send a chill down your spine or make your eyes filled with GLEE you know you HAVE GOD’s LIGHT within you. You are SPECIAL & GOD always shines ✨ his LIGHT 💡 through YOU. ❤❤❤🎉
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I’ve seen some people actually try to justify these people by saying “hurt people hurt people.” I call BS. Lots of us have been hurt. We don’t all turn into monsters. That’s an excuse you can’t use. And an excuse that keeps you WAITING. Another excuse is they don’t know any better. That’s BS too. If they change when they’re around other people, they absolutely know the behavior is unacceptable. They just choose to mistreat you. Don’t let people or yourself make excuses for these people. They know exactly what they’re doing, and they don’t care. In fact I’d be willing to bet there are friends they brag to about their misdeeds and laugh about it. Stop waiting! Life is too short for people who absolutely waste your time!
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You hit the nail on the head.
He abused and hurt me.
I am not going to hurt someone else.
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Every single word is so so true! Every example you mention i experienced🤦🏻♂️ More and more each year (11)!
Please, if you have the time, please do another video on casualties / collateral damage which focuses on animals and people left behind .. especially animals who might be bonded to you and it’s hard to leave them behind.. or to even be told to leave by the narc yet you know certain animals are more bonded to you than the narc which makes it difficult .. I’ll never get over not spending the rest of their lives with them if that’s what happens for me.. I’ll get over the narc easily.. but not them.. I also want to say thank you for this video.. especially towards the end .. you made some useful comments there.. I am waiting.. I don’t know what it is that I’m waiting for though.. not for the narc to change.. I know he won’t.. maybe I’m waiting for a miracle.. so that I can save myself and also some of the birds here.. i also know that halfway through the video you mentioned that narcs aren’t always looking for supply every second.. but I actually believe they are .. even when they aren’t physically looking.. they’re THINKING about sources of supply and responses from sources of supply and how they’ll get more sources supply.. I believe this is what consumes their brain. Supply supply supply.. the word gives me a headache now.. thank you again for this informative video.
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Actually we are not waiting for anyone because there is nothing behind that mask....
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I had to make another comment
My ex made me wait seven years to finalize the divorce. I didn’t know his long game, which was to retire, and then leave me with nothing by telling the court that he was broke.
He enjoyed torturing me in divorce court. My nickname was water boarded.
This is so painful 😣 but at least I see through the fog now
I feel like Alice in Wonderland who fell down the rabbit hole and only just landed.
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone I’m a mess 😔
The hardest and most painful part for me is the 2 yr old boy doesn't know why I'm not around anymore. He looked up to me with joy and excitement. But because of her bad behavior and delusions, I removed myself from her abuse. I don't like the feeling like I abandoned the innocent child because I don't want to be around his toxic mother. It's heavy
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You didn’t abandon him. I had to leave a horribly toxic situation when my son was 12. Waited til my daughter was 18. They use children as pawns. They become the model parent for everyone else’s eyes, and it took many years to get the courage, and outside helpers. Others helped connect my son and I until the situation cooled off (the horrible temper) so that there was peace in transition. Carried guilt for many years - I can’t tell you how to feel, but please don’t carry that. The children know the real story. You don’t have to say a word to them about the other one. They know. Build yourself strong and that boy will see it eventually. Children want and need to see their parents healthy - or at least moving toward healthy (even if that’s done separated). Best wishes to you and anyone else who’s dealing with this. Feels like your heart is being torn out of your chest. God bless you.
The responsibility to the kids was what kept me from drawing the line, only to fall deeper into the fog. No one wants to be labeled as the one who abandoned the children. The more I deal with understanding how society is quick to prejudge, the more I build a tolerance for it and expect the worst.No one will understand any of it. I accept that and "we" push on.🤝
No DOUBT .. meetin at a restaurant , park , waitin on a REPLY to a text.
MINE said to me when confronted about texting
" My TIME. ... is MY. TIME. ... but as we all know
That doesnt apply to US. .......
I accepted the Hoover and found it was bad news! Saw social media posts of her and her new boy toy! A lesson learned, with pain! Life goes on and I will heal, a very small lesson that I must learn!!! Thank you for your wisdom!!!
This is the best of the best of your videos, could not have said it , or explain this much better!!!
Thank you from the bottom of my heart!!!! All you explained did happen.
They're pure evil.
Oh yeah 100% keep me waiting in a fake reality alone for years now (Rick) 2015-2023
I just got "shelved" for the 3rd time. Great time then ghosted! He knows I'm waiting...but I'm not this time! I've blocked...blocked...blocked! DONE!!! Thank you Andrew! ❤️
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Michael Tucci waits for absolutelyyyyyy Nobodyyyyyyyy.
Over 40 years ago, my now ex narc, told me in a seething voice that I would have my freedom someday. I was crying because he wouldn’t spend any time with me, nor his children. But let someone outside of me ask him to go, and do he would.
So the day came when I decided to divorce him, and of course he was trying to convince me that he was going to change, and I reminded him of what he said that day years ago. And I said to him, “ Little did you realize what you were saying that day about me having my freedom . “
Yes, his words came back to haunt him.
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I wonder what a real relationship is. I've never had one. 🤷🏼
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@@Harmonious-jm3sy I just passed my 35th year being married to him. Left BEFORE the anniversary, tho, we are still married.
I left with no place to lay my head, except in my car. I was parked at a friend's place...she lived in a little rv trailer. I got fed up with the narcissists swarming my car and creating trouble for me, so I went into town, and got a motel room. I spent all the money I had to do so. It was the best thing I've done because now I live in same motel, and clean rooms to stay here. I could live just like that the rest of my life, and never have bills, so long as I am trading my labor for my stay. I don't wish to do that, but it got me a secure place away from all the narcs. It was ...or it seemed pure chance. But in fact, a few doors down is another motel where I know 2 other people doing the same thing. There are 3 others here in this motel living this way. And another motel across the street where I know a man has lived there for 17 years, just cleaning rooms and doing maintenance.
There are avenues. Churches will help you get into a motel.
Thing is, you can't look back. Make that determined move, and don't digress! You can do it!!! And your health...all the things that have been waiting just for you, will come to you!!! Much love to you, and ...best of luck!!! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️🕊️
Me neither ~ All narcs so far.
When we first started. She told me she couldn’t wait to treat me like a king, to show me the treatment I deserved. Only lasted a couple months, I told her to just show up as she could.
Relocated, supported, waited for the fake future that never came
I still kick myself for not being stronger sooner with the narc. I eventually won, kicked her out but even now I have those think backs to when they were so full of it and I didn't see it. from day one it was all bs even the last words from her was all lies. It was like dealing with a demonic entity than a person.
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I understand the demon, even his face changed.
Yep! Dreamed of the evil narc all night last night. That evil grin on his face as he rounded my car on his bike. Let him show up!!! He will meet some new aquaintances quickly, though, he won't be about it. But I'll be SURE not to make him wait!!!! 😁😁🙏🏻❤🕊️