WHY THE NARCISSIST WANTS TO TALK
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- Опубліковано 9 лют 2025
- Why the narcissist wants to talk..
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I don't think I'll ever talk to the narcissist again. He triangulated me in the end with the new supply, and then blamed me for ruining his life... so I gave him what he wanted ! Freedom !
I wipe my hands clean and never looking back! 🦋
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Yep,,he will never figure it out..
They want to serve you their word salad so that you get confused. Don't fall in the trap !
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Absolutely
It is truly like talking with a toddler. They make the rules, they enforce their ever-changing & self-serving rules. I left my narc on NYD, not knowing what a narcissist was. I went 2 YT & watched many videos, finding 'covert narcissist ' and went No Contact. It's easy 2 get pulled n2 their web, but knowing what their mental dysfunction is & knowing there's no winning, I'm not setting myself up 2 b in his games anymore.
I appreciate ur videos. Thank you!!
Hoover, I fell for many times. Nothing changed.
The only voices I want to hear right now are yours and those beautiful birds … calm and powerful. Thank you 🙏🏻💜
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The narcissist only comes back if they think it's to their advantage..they will NEVER be accountable for their past actions.
Who do we know whose in our face each day now, with new actions,and new lies,,and many continue to believe the lies,and the man
We are done with evil. Period.
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Amen ❤
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I'm 1 year no contact & I worked hard to be "unhooverable"! Thnx for your advice Andrew. He lost me foever.
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7 months in with my elderly mom ! Trying hard
JADE - justify, apologize, defend, explain. Do none of these with the narcissist.
Hoover proof. Cold as ice.
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Love it! So true.
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Dealing with them is painstaking. All they do is talk berate you and desperately need to be the centre of attention. They have no self awareness or capacity to just think. All they do is criticize,put you down,control you,manipulate, and drain you. Any second away from them is a second of peace.
Don't let the behaviour of others destroy your inner peace ✨️ 🙏
My narc never wanted to talk. Just silence. I can never trust again.❣️
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Whatever comes out of the narcissist mouth just remember they're 🐍 and you can't trust a 🐍
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Booking an appointment with Andrew really was the best thing I did, I am in the process of healing - it is so devastating.
Wow, one on one. That sounds great. Good for you buddy. ❤
We all need healing.
This guy is the boss when it comes to Narcissistic " motives" psychology, he has lived through it, or seen it, like I have, you can see it in him, he knows what he is talking about. I love the psychology, but this guy knows his shit, and so do I, smart man
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Andrew's head is screwed on straight.
Andrew is the best ❤
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Great topic today… every time they open their mouth, it is calculated and there is an agenda… and they love to keep you stuck…and punished…thank you for this message today… have a great evening!
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Truth and great advice!
BTW, I quit Facebook in 2020 because of an increase in incivility and the 3 B's - bragging, begging, and bullying! Toxic!
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They pop up because they realize what they lost.. but make sure that door is closed. That’s why you should journal. To look at where you were and where you are and if they pop up, don’t even think about going back. The lock and key to you is not available anymore
I came from a whole family of narcissists and our family is very dysfunctional it started at the beginning and we're in our 60s now and it never got any better they are 100% narcissist.. we've never had each other's back and that's exactly what our parents were to each other...😊
Trapped in a mental prison. ouch.
No Happy or Fun, too many Rules and Judges
Someone needs to make a move.
No moves No change.
Good luck. Raise your inner spirits energy Peace be with you
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My family was and is the same.
Same.
Same.
The narcissist always has an agenda
"So why the narcissist wants to talk? It's for self serving reasons"
"Do not explain or do not defend anything.. "
This is a great video Andrew. Well explained. To the point. Truth. Thank you. God bless ☀️
Stay strong everyone
Listen to those birds! Those are some happy birds around you. They are chirping away the entire video 🙂🌿
I almost fell for a hoover 😢
I'm so grateful for your wisdom 🙏🏾
Admittedly, I still struggle with feeling like things "coulda, shoulda, woulda" been alright with my ex who is absolutely an NPD. Then I constantly have to remind myself how totally insufferable and impossible he is once the mask slips - and the tendency he has towards violence.
I wish I were the type of person who could see no good in what he had. I know now that I was being misled, but that doesn't make forgetting any easier.
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Stay on this path you are on now. Stay strong.
You don't need a narcissist in your life with all that he brings.
They are evil people, and the tendency towards violence is also dangerous for your physical survival.
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@Tanja-g3f thank you!
Their reasons after the split...is to keep tabs on you to see if you can't live without them to perhaps keep you on a further string!
Prior split... they are known to hijack conversations & talk excessively, being enthralled with themselves..... SO EXHAUSTING!
Be Well, Be Wise 🌈🎀😘
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Once, in an delusional romantic trance, I mentioned to the Narc that Cardinals mate for life. A couple of years after my discard ( like a piece of chewing gum spat to the curb), the ex sends me a card with 2 Cardinals. Yup, it worked to keep me fuzzy in feelings. They know how to ruthlessly push your emotional buttons. I see the Cardinals now as just another lovely bird that has nothing to do with my previous experience in the demolition derby in Hell's mud pit.
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They are so slick. Masters at love bombing..
They know how to charm to get what they want. They've been doing it since they were children. Thanks for sharing. I'm sorry you had to experience what you have.
Narcs are Narcs....they'll always be! 👍😘
Narcs think hearts are toys that "THEY" can play with...when it suits them. Masters at love bombing... they've been doing so since children. They know how to charm to get what they want...they're no dummies. Evil...but no dummies!
Thanks for that personal share & so sorry for what you have experienced. A narc is a narc...they'll never change. 👍☕☕💥😘
The beautiful birds in the background express my new found joy peace and strength
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It's all about control, their hurt ego, & it is still dishonest. He used to write: i just wanna be friends...sadly they have no clue what a real friend is about. Ty
Recently blocked a family member. She wanted to talk and I knew from past experience that it would not be healthy FOR ME! Flying monkeys ensued. Had to block them all. I shipped a borrowed item back to one of the flying monkeys b/c they wanted to meet up. Nope! I'm feeling a bit lost but free. Drama free!
To talk you out of seeing what you have seen and know that is the truth.... The great liar within THE ENDLESS TRAP OF DECEIT
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Never ever wait for an apologize. You will get none. Never 😢.
THANK YOU, 🎀 Andrew.
You’re so right. He wants to talk via email. I’m too aware and I can’t unsee. I gave short answers because he thinks I got some mail that’s his. Nothing but BS
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You can block emails as well as texts. ❤
Last communication: “can you give me a call” LMFAO….hell no creepo - go away. Don’t need to hear the passive aggressive insults. Thank for the video!! 💙
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Perfect reminder…..stay strong..they only come back to use and or abuse…thank you Andrew great words of wisdom…heal and strengthen your heart and soul to just say NO
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They also "want to talk" when they first meet you to suck you in and will fashion the topic of conversation according to their plan for you, testing your reactions along the way. Then they will create talking points based on your reactions that will hook you in. Trust your gut. Resist their advances during conversation if anything they say or do is overly intrusive or makes you feel uncomfortable. I learned this lesson the hard way.
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This is why it’s hard to find a partner that cares, because everyone seems so caring at first.
This is so crazy, you have just described the behavior of every girlfriend I've ever had😮
If it's "every gf you've ever had", then you're doing something to beacon new narcs towards you. If you're inbetween relationships atm, slow down, take action to unlock the trauma you've clearly got before you get in another relationship.
That's not to sound like it's a "you problem" in some uncomplimentary way, but yes, you are repeatedly not only failing to push narcs away or see the red flags, you're "probably" offering yourself up on a platter to SPECIFICALLY narcs, a sort of deep psychology thing. You can totally correct this, it's totally within your power. You just need to confront it head-on and seek out the help you need.
Videos like this is a great, GREAT start. But, it's not all you need. These videos are great to get started and for maintenance, but they're not "the primary treatment" or cure. Like, part of a portfolio of various personal-empowerment and overall treatment. It's also a great community of supportive interaction with people in the same/similar boat. Don't take this as a downer, but the opposite. Take this as a lifeline, the chance to get off that crazytrain at the next depot. This is a good revelation.
Anyway, your comment screams out that you are in need of a behavioral change that will help you naturally and comfortably repel these narcs instead of draw them in like flies.
Good luck!
I love ❤️ how we all can come together thankyou so much Andrew we appreciate you I can finally see the light at the end of the tunnel just about 💪 staying strong 💪 🙏🏽
In my experience he was dangerous, to my health, to my life in everyway. That door is jammed tight shut.
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Good for you!!
Threw the garbage out and leaving it there.
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Narcissists are just big bags of wind. They just blather on talking in their word salad nonsense
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I love the bird song.🎶❣️
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I've found that the main reason narcs want to talk is in order to get new info on you, so they can exert greater control and coercion. 🎉
Thank you. I never seem to over analyse the behaviours anymore, cause everything they do is so draining. ❤
I retired in Cambodia . I stopped outside a temple to listen to the Buddhist monks chanting while on my bike . I closed my eyes and began to meditate . I was immediately told every narc in sight will be drawn to you while you stay here listening . Opened my eyed to see a USA ICE deportee moving in to target me . Spoke very good English for a no deportee , at a native speaker level . Yet stank of alcohol and insect bites on his legs from being asleep drunk on the riverbank opposite . As he began his pitch on loving the UK , while trying to sound like a Cambodian and not a deported American , a local fisherman looked back to me and gestured towards his own eyes to warn me . Its the light in your eyes they can see . That day I went out without my normal polaroid glasses. Got rid of him in an instant and rode off.
YES SIR....DON'T "EVER" GO BACK!❤
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Thank you Andrew for sharing your knowledge.
Keep up the important work you are doing.
Watching 2 narcissists talk to each other is hilarious. They talk over each other and nothing of any substance is said. They don't listen and talk over each other. I do my best to stay far away from 2 narcissists. Double trouble!
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Right...too funny! 👍👍👍
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...unless they're talking about a victim they share in common.
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@Cre80s they bond with a common enemy...
Classic narcs talks a lot, they burn your ears out to steal your energy. And if you listen carefully they always repeat the same things over and over again. It is stupid things. Covert narcs don't talk as much but they ruminate a lot. And when they are done ruminating they lash out at you all their insatisfactions. That's why it is very important to stay away from them. Have a great afternoon Andrew ☺️🫶💜✨️
I don't know how many times I'd cringe from the none stop going on!!!
Sending ❤ Enjoy Marie
@@marieeakin8534thank you ❤sending love and hugs your way my friend 🫂💞✨️
True! They lack self-awareness, so they’ll sometimes inadvertently slip up and reveal what their true intentions are!
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Yep, they sure do@@Deborah-ts4vn
Thank you Andrew. I have healed. I am no longer emotionally attached. Narcissistic husband over 30 years, now has dementia. Thank you for this video, everything you said is true.👍💯🕊️🙏💐🌟
Not the first time this has happened Andrew, but I woke up today to a text from my narcissist "just wanting to talk" and "why won't you talk to me" and on and on like that. Sometimes it's spooky how matched your videos are to my escape (recovery and healing) process. Pretty cool. Like my own customized karma. The perfect touchup video for me today. Thanks.
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Do not talk to them, they are just trying to be nosy and abuse you again.
If they "loved" you, they wouldn't be playing games like this. Period. They wouldn't have abused you and left, they are Evil, Cruel, and Selfish. You don't deserve that, you deserve better!
They aren't Solid, and have zero Intergrity.
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Yes, plain & simple! 👍👍👍
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You know what's up
🖥In computer/internet language,
the narcissist's interest in talking is all data-mining. 🔎🧠
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Thank you Andrew. You are a solid source of reality in relationships with a Narcissist. When my narcissist wants to talk it is to put blame on me and make me feel guilty, it is never to understand me or my feelings. I really feel sorry for this person. I have to withdraw and become the grey rock as you have taught me. Stay strong Andrew.
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These videos are always great, but this particular one is EXCELLENT.
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ever notice how some books just disappear? Vibrations of Manifestation by Alex Lane isn’t easy to find, and now i understand why. the things it reveals about energy and attraction? insane. i thought i was just “unlucky” until i applied what it teaches. within weeks, my finances flipped, and i stopped chasing things-now they come to me
Not enough fingers to count the times my X called to tell me he'd "had an epiphany.. I'm like, 'OK you did a bunch of cocaine and your epiphany was that you thought you did too much of it!" I can read between the lines in his stray thought bubbles.✨
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Thank you Andrew and tribe. We are being called to higher ground as we work and learn together.❣️
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Thank you for another encouraging video dear Andrew. As you say healing path isn't linear. Yesterday I wasn't feeling well. I couldn't sleep and eat. But after watching you made me powered. This will happen again and again until I get stronger to reach the level when that narcissist will not matter to me at all. Thank you ❤. And this video has many small important topics that made me remind of the things that I don't deserve and what to do to protect myself.
You are so welcome, I am glad I could help. 🌸😊💜
Hi again! The process sucks...just know you are not going backwards. You are experiencing grief. Google it to understand the stages.
Hang in there, sending hugs ❤👍
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@@marieeakin8534 hello and thank you I've received your hugs 😊 and I'm sending hugs from my side also. Have a great day.
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Awe....thanks!!! ❤
No mercy. Period.
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This is why I need reminders ❤
Hello 👋🏾 Andrew
There is no more talk for them Narcs 🤫🫢
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Yes your so spot on Andrew.
He contacted me after 2 years on a old email to see where I was at in my life. By wishing me a merry Christmas. Why? Was my thought? I get it now, to keep you stuck in the cycle .
Hi Andrew! Your major fan and follower Alka. 🙂! Messaging you from Canada 🇨🇦! With narcissism and toxicity on the rise in the world, it’s a gift to have your channel to come to for valuable advice and learning. Especially when none of this information is in any books or taught in any educational institutions. THANK YOU ❤!
Thank you so much for your kind words! 😊🙏
It's OK to talk with a Narc if you don't mind the Narc twisting your words, talking to a Robot that's filtering what you say to remember your vulnerabilies, see a smirk, a fake smile, fake concern, fake, fake, fake!
My replys are vanishing & its making me crazy 🙃 I'll try again later.👍☕☕😘
@@marieeakin8534Zonky. Sometimes, there's likes that vanish. Still I don't need likes.
They are unsafe on every level.They have a field day exalting themselves on your vulnerablites. I do believe they opened a door to evil & pure wickedness wants to pull us down in with them. Only they choose to use people as they do. We are mere toys to their game. I don't care how attractive,,, how much money they have, what the title is they hold...A narc is a narc & I won't sell my śoul!
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Can a person who has done so much harm, can really change enough, hell no.
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I know why the narcissist wants to talk they want to ruin your plans like I'm going to do today by watching the super Bowl when my phone rings there is no way I'm picking up the phone and missing the super Bowl
Boy Steve...that narc just won't leave you alone. Sounds like a fatal attraction. Yes, ignore them!!!
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Good for you. You are mighty.
Everything you say is so true!
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This came 2 hours after my narc ex has literally emailed me . After mentally and sexual abuse I needed this video.
Thank you 🙏🏼 stay strong i have risen above the abuse and not going to respond as he’s trying to claw me back in and already I can see he is a parasite who wants to take his anger out on me because he has no one still.
I’m so sorry you are going through that. You are worth more. You can make it through ❤
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For supply.
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🤯 This was interesting. Unfortunately, I’m still in it. My mum asked me to go to shopping with her tomorrow, I wanted to say no, but instantly found myself blurting out yes. I have things to do and want to have a day to myself; it’s like she knew that. So weird!
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Perfect timing. He started texting last night and more today. I am on guard. I am learning so it's on me if i screw up. No more mulligans.
They only want to reel you back in to their games again... if you are the one that left, then they probably just want to hurt you, or, they burned through their new supply and want to hoover you. It's all just a game... every single word. Don't fall for it.
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Great message ❤ I expect when my daughter hoovers me and knocks on my door that she will say, can we talk? I will say no and walk away
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Strong, empowering words Andrew. Three years out .......looking after myself now.....and you're right when they want to talk, it's all of the above like you said. It's usually when they want something from you......I told him, what he does with his life is none if my concern anymore. I suspect the grass wasnt greener on the other side.......not going back there. Three decades of lessons learnt for me is enough in any life time.
It is so true Andrew. We should have nothing to do with those narcisists who are driven by evil energy.
So true. Hope you are well Andrew. I love your videos kind sir, thnx much. Take care, be well & God bless. Namaste
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Figure out exit strategy!! They will NEVER CHANGE.
Thank you Andrew!
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This is why I would never go to therapy with them, they would just use the info against you.
The same with psychopaths, never go to therapy with them either, the therapy themselves is another form of supply for them, they get to lie to a therapist and see your reaction 😢
Brilliant work andrew ❤
Great video full of solid vision. I am almost on autopilot on refusing to accept a hoover of any kind. However I always keep my guard up, never underestimating a narc’s ability to manipulate me into responding. Stay strong 💪 tribe! Thanks Andrew! 🙏💜😌
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Narc ex phoned when my mum died and then hoovered me and talked about herself. Not a word about mum surprise surprise. Didn't bother to phone when dad died. Even though she knew.
Looking forward to this
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I feel like I’ve done this before to my ex, in a way. I wanted to see if she ever cared. It was her birthday after we agreed to breakup. It was perfectly discouraging. I was disgusted. She wanted to be friends. I was so sad for her that she had no feelings. It was awful. I gave her a huge hug, I didn’t say a thing. She backed out of the hug. It broke my heart. She misinterpreted again. I can’t be friends with someone incapable of ever caring, plus being her friend would be horrible because when we were close she would tell me awful things about her friends. So sad. I did love her.
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1 year post discard the narc reached out I went to lunch she was all smiles then ended it quickly tried to get me to be her platonic friend I put down my boundaries she was all frowns . I'm getting better it took 3 days to get out of the fog. I'm having a great time it helped me be in the moment and see where I need to work on myself
My problem was and is me verbally telling them NO, I was thinking if she did not hear me say it she would not know for sure. Better to just say NOTHING. total block , NO CONTACT
Happy Sunday 😊 🌞 🌟 💛
Happy Sunday to you too!😊
Here's a good one. I cut off the narc in my life, moved out of the state and didnt bother to say goodbye. Family member. Had to go to a family funeral in November. I was cordial and did not engage. And at the end she sidled up to me, tried to hug me, and said "As long as you are happy I'm happy". I shrugged her off and caught the microexpression on her face was hurt and confused. Oh well. My happiness is not about her. It didnt work. Thanks Andrew! No quarter given!
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Great point! My experience 2yrs later wanted "belts" left behind with entire closet and kids. Just nuts! Actually chuckled a bit!😅
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All true Andrew. Thank you for the reminder of what I have escaped & healing.
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Almost 2 years since I went block/no contact with the narcissist and thankfully so far have not gotten hoovered although I do worry in the back of my mind that at some point I may run into him. During the relationship he had nothing to do with me unless he wanted something & I realize that if now he did want to talk to me it would be because he wanted something. No thanks….🙂↔️ not interested. My life has improved greatly since I rid myself of the parasite and no way am I going back. Not yet at the pinnacle of indifference but I am getting closer.
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Thanks Andrew…and the birds singing today in the video 😍🥰❤️
Good Morning Andrew🦋🇫🇷🙏🐦🐦🐦🐦I love waking up to the CHOIR BOYS!! BIRDS!! FREE concert & good for the soul!! The Narc's all stay in their tiny little world!! With their Big ego on top!! WE all know what is important in life ,, once you have witness a Narc/ mindset! Evil , toxic & dark!! Keep up moving forward and listen to the birds!!!🇫🇷🙏🐦
You said it right talk to you not with you
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They want to see if they can still control you and even if you went no contact with them they will act like they are nice enough to give YOU another chance because they're too arrogant to think they were ever the actual problem.
Hi Andrew , I wish l could understand why these narcissist do what the do ? when there is know need
to destroy the person that is loving you and supporting in your life . I lost my first wife she died at 50 years
old we where married for 30 years . I thought I had been through hell!!! then , but this relationship i had
with this women narcissist only for 2 years and the hurt and damage this person ??? has done to me.
I don't think I will ever recovery and stop thinking about this terrible evil !!! this women put into my life
that has changed my life forever !, and the way I think now about people on this earth that we have to live with.
All I can say now is God !! help us all, if this evil is real.
God bless you Andrew. I hope you read this message. Laurie Australia. 🙏🙏🙏🙏❤😈😈😭😭
The perfect video for where I am on this journey and needed to hear. Listened to it twice. Thank you Andrew
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Thank you for another week of beautiful flowers, words of wisdom and great videos. Enjoy the rest of your evening. 🤗
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The narcissist texts me and I don't respond. There is no need to respond since he is only trying to mess with me. I am done. Done is done.
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In my case, she reverted back to a former car that apparently got refueled.
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Yes, this "hoovering" i know from my mother now. I cut the contact in July 2022. Until than the Birthday Cards always arived in November (my Birthday is mid October), last year the was a Parcel at this time, with a card in ot ad plain as a card, you might get from a boss, etc. who hardly knows you. I gave the stuff in it away, it was sweets. So, some neighbors where happy do try Austrian Snacks. I do not move, because i live in the Republic of Ireland and you are glad, tl have a home. So i throw the stuff (cards, letters) away. The first one i opened and well, it was not a good idea, so i never opened them again. It felt awkward at the beginning, but then it was getting better. Thanks for your videos Andrew. ❤
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You and Dr rahmani are both the best when it comes to N. The actual knowing.
Thank you Andrew. I am unhooverable! Thanks be to GOD.
happy to see you on this sunday evening
Wow you are telling me where I am at? I have a kids with her , I feel sorry for my kids I have to talk to her to talk to my kids
Phil. 1:21,2:13,3,4; Gal.2:16-20; 1 Corinth. 2:13; Col. 3:11. KJV
THANK YOU Andrew for Your Good Wisdom. Bruce.