Your Money Trauma Starts at Childhood
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- Опубліковано 24 січ 2020
- Part 3 of Tim's Healthy Tools series.
Many people coming from addiction and Complex Trauma do not have a healthy relationship with money, and it causes them much stress and many problems. We want to understand what causes this unhealthy relationship and learn how to have a healthy relationship with money.
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This man is the first person to actually describe what happens to us properly. I've watched so many videos on CPTSD, but I have never felt so validated as I feel now. Thank you, Tim.
I can’t get enough of Tim and his wisdom ; he’s got such a talent in expressing things surrounding trauma. Better than years of therapy.
Depends on the therapist. There are a brilliant few. Took me 10 years of searching before I found the one who could facilitate healing for my severe C-PTSD 50 minutes at a time for only a year. 😊
Tim's explanation of complex trauma is so accurate and he delivers the message with compassion. Its nice to hear the Christian relevance at the end of each video. The Bible should be a reference for everyday life. I have never in my life heard any pastor, priest, church leader etc. relate stories in the Bible with trauma. Church always doubled down on my shame most of the time. This information is priceless. Thank you Tim Fletcher!!!!
I have been binge watching Tim's videos.
Not good for my sleep but it sure has been amazing to learn all of this.
God bless you.
Would love more videos on financial insecurity stemming from childhood trauma. My issue with spending is that I feel like I never should. I always move the goal post of the amount in savings and act like if it dips below said number, we will lose everything. Not healthy. Unsure how to heal from this.
Financial insecurity due to the childhood complex trauma can show up as hoarding as well. Or inability to earn own money, not knowing or believing how to , not being able to plan and budget correctly. There's soome Indian guy in America who wrote a book and has his show on Netflix about how to live your rich life on whatever budget you have, spending money first on what you really care for. It's good but sometimes people with CT don't feel like they deserve anything they like so they don't even know what they like and deserve and as you said are often afraid to spend money at all and allow themselves to actually live the life, or the opposite they spend too much on things that numb them down like drugs or whatever the addiction is.
I’ve got a unique experience here. I’m CPTSD but with money. Not a ton, but my net worth is >$1M and I’ve got enough rental homes to have retired this year at 37.
I used to spend $ like crazy. Now my wife has is spending like college students. So glad I got control of my addiction spending $. 🇺🇸
I really like the way this guys separates church and state, thank you for giving me the opportunity to learn without having to compromise my own spiritual belief system. I wish all people took this approach.
this guy is so good
This is the most healing talk I’ve ever heard. I’m just realizing the source of my gambling addiction and alcohol problem was my dad’s attitude towards money; yelling at my mom about spending and being miserly. My parents made good money too. Now, I bond with my dad over retirement funds and economic news. Wow, this really helped.
Thank you Tim for this. I'm currently going through some financial struggles. Hearing you speak about this opened up a sense of hope and clarity about where it's possible to be in terms of health. Although I'm not a Christian, I appreciated the lessons from hearing your stories from Christianity and the healing through a relationship with God and your self. Thanks very much.
Wow. This was incredible. What an eye opening and God-filled message. Gonna be leaning into more of Tim’s teachings for sure.
I praise God thank him for this man's wisdom an understanding he is blessed there have been so many chains broken off me an I'm sure for many more so many of us have spent yrs not knowing what was wrong with us thank you Lord for all these I binge watch them praise God thank you Father I keep him in my prayers his family all who have found these teachings an I pray many more find them I'm sharing every one I can Glory be to God
Oh my goodness. I did not realize that this anger inside me ,is actually bitterness toward the golden child. And the alcoholics in my life. God Bless you and yours. 😁😍😎
A wise man 🙂
My mother couldn't show me love and affection. All she did was spend on me, to make it look like she loved me. Set me up for a lot of issues down the line, on top of having 10 surgeries, and a bunch of other health issues. Its so difficult.
That sounds better than the neglect and abuse I got. I know it's not but it's one less Shame situation or I at least hope so for your sake. Best of health and healing to you.
I was like your mother. I didn't know how to be there emotionally for my daughter only giving stuff instead of my attention. I thought that was how you showed love. My greatest mistake. She was 32 when she went " no contact"😭😞. I'm heartbroken... Devastated... knowing I caused her such tremendous emotional pain... And now I won't have that chance to repair it sadly . I loved/ love her with ALL my heart and soul. I just didn't know
I so much can relate to that story. Used to live in a communist regime country. People wanted and fought hard about democracy and freedom, but as there were no laws or power to keep some order in the country, lots of people went wild with criminal activities, doing their best to grab whatever they could put their hands on... others had to face absolute poverty, hunger, suicide...so many people became nostalgic for the regime, just because they knew that they had the minimum at least of some food guaranteed, roof over their heads, and some perceived safety... that was when the phrase "Who needs freedom on empty stomach and no money to live of?" born...
Thats the one credit I give to communism and socialism is that shelter should be guaranteed a society that accepts homelessness is ridiculous
@@leahflower9924 Not that simple. Many are homeless as a result of doing hard drugs. But for those who are clean, I agree, more could be done, even if it meant temporarily living in a shed with electricity, sanitation and water.
@@leahflower9924other than the fact that both socialism and communism come with the guarantee of starvation and poverty.
Money its paper made everyday. It is not our land our water our way of life. It is not our children our home or our love . 🙏
money behaves as if you are not supposed to accumulate it
why....because money is a psyop and behaves as permission slips to be yourself
valuable content. Thanks for sharing this. 🙏🏻
Funny (not funny at all actually). I had to check myself into a Toronto hospital after the death by suicide of my little brother. The head psychiatrist there told me to "man up" and "take that job offer for a different view." I could barely think. I could not in fact work for another year due to the traumatic loss and grief. I numbed it further with alcohol. This is also what led to the dissolution of my relationship right around that time so didn't get that empathic witness or safe landing spot for the trauma part. Learned about that later and now school is covering it.
Thanks for making this video. It explains the financial scenario I found myself in, along with addiction driving it. I see where it all comes from now. It's so clear to me. I wonder why mental health professionals could not ask the right questions. I was labeled with bipolar disorder (which was later dismissed by a forensic psychologist). This western medical model for mental health has to go. It doesn't work. Clearly.
I'm not that religious but.... This and a few of your videos are actually really helpful! I've listened to so many other people and it felt like they were trying to teach me advanced algebra and I can only do basic math
I'm struggling with spending money - I've been struggling to bring my spending under control. Thank you, I watched the Christian part and it felt like my grandmother was reaching out again
I'm thankful for all of Tims talks, it's put into words where there was none before. I noticed in the beginning of the foot notes, d & e are missing. I like taking screenshots for quick references & sharing with others.
I'm taking this to the bank ! Thank you sir 🎉
omg im so happy i found your videos
Thank you for sharing this enlightening and valuable information
Thank you so much for this 😢
I've been watching these for months , its all.good its all right .i just don't know how to get it permanently .in my brain ..i wish i cold buy cds and watch them on my big tv .or on a cd and listen on my car radio .
It's a process .As God reveals He walks along with us to help us heal. All the best.
Record it on your phones voice recorder, can listen to it anywhere then 😊
Christy was here
Hi Christy! I'm glad you were. Hope things are good wherever you are.💚
Shopping is therapy for me 😀
Yes, I've realized this too. I received such bad counseling that I told myself I would do better using my co pays to do what I want versus the endless poor counseling that didn't help me but wasted my money
Unfortunately me too. I hate it.
Payday SO TRUE
Could you elaborate pls on perhaps a different approach to shame... I can relate to many points here about money, but I think due to my some of mother's anger be so tied to money... when little my plan was to have money to gain her approval, but at same hand I was used for money and I feel like I self sabotage my potential ( fear of success) to no disappoint her. Or to be use by my family. ... as normally they only contact me for money.
You might find my 6-Part series on Shame helpful. Part 1 is here: ua-cam.com/video/IOQTfqUdypc/v-deo.html
can i translate this in my language and write this in blog, because people in my country didn't aware and doesn't understand english. thank you for share i really help me knowing root all of my problem
I wish I could get a condensed 15 min version of his talks
Nope. That's not how healing works. It takes effort. Challenge your attention span, or miss out. Your call.
This is the problem ghis I need to escape phisically then how I need is to escape mentally😢
Tim do you do online counselling .... I live in Australia I have a couple of questions
Check out his website. There are programs.
I just need about tree fiddy
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Love of money I disagree is the root of all evil I LOVE money and if I had the means I would make more of it. I feel unrestrained lust of money is what can be the danger when wine turns into poison.
🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️❤️❤️
Money exactly finnaly someone telling me this
Nothing comes remotely close to money as a means to go against God's decrees of lack, shame, adversity and despair for your destiny. Even he has to bow to the power of money.
That was an interesting statement but God doesn't bow to anything or anyone. People do the bowing and He sits back and allows us to wallow in our consequences until we turn to Him and say......I am choosing to bow to You now versus Monday. I believe God understands the hurts and pains of living in this very broken world and Hi grace and mercy follows us when we are His and desire better
Don't bow to Monday @@ladyj5682
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Noises all night can't work noises the day I have nightmares with them i m sick of their voices all day
🦄 Dolt by John Rickel 🦄
alive tree brought death, dead tree brought life
"Money shows what you value."
Me: *looks at bank statements and sees that groceries is where my money goes.* *Looks down at my overweight body.*
Me: "Welp....🫤"
Same 😮