He used to say that he had to help me mow the lawn, bring me a present, or help me w anything I needed to get done bc he was wired that way. Meanwhile, I was pouring vast amounts into that leaky bucket. It was quid pro quo for him and soothed his conscience. What a waste of time. Relieved he’s out of my life.
@@caligirl9403 I’m sorry. I hope you are recovering. I probably had it too. It took a long time, lots of introspection and time alone, w authentic friends and most importantly GOD. He healed me.
your pacing and interpretation of the crucial nuances that are suffered / understood by our collective, commands attention for the depth, heart and simplicity that you bring to it then there’s the tone of your voice which has a comfy, cool confidence that somehow makes reliving the horror with you a bit gentler and that solace is possible
My ex used to tell me "I'm always at peace when I'm here with you." Whether it was true or not doesn't matter anymore. In Dec it will be 4 yrs since we broke up & he STILL tries to reach out occasionally even though he has a child now with the person he got with after me! I pity her - she's stuck with him forever now bcuz of the child! I thank God every day that I'm free & loving life again!
Well they suit themselves with drinking lots of alcohol to knack themselves out and porn, when they have no woman to suit them, but there will be always a new unsuspecting victim, just like we were once. Thank you Joe, beautiful video ! 🤗❤
And they still won’t teach about it in schools and even if they did, say, sex-ed and partner abuse, they still won’t give it the medical name so that people can look it up and understand that they can’t change. One of the biggest cons is: I’m just moody or, I have anxiety, I didn’t mean that, it’ll never happen again. They put on a mask of sanity. They gaslight and the world gaslights too, protecting them.
Before the final discard she said she felt emotionally secure and safe with me. She said that I taught her and showed her that love is patient. She said for the first time she felt unconditionally loved. Four days later before a trip she ghosted me. This was after celebrating her birthday all weekend. This was only a few weeks ago and it absolutely gutted me.
I doubt my nemesis even thinks about it. The quickest new supply or using up a current one is at the forefront always. She probably does miss all the previous targets cognitive dissonance and supply. With this multimorbid cluster b I bet they all figured it out and are ecstatic they're out. Bit there's always the kindred of affliction mutually using each other. But that doesn't last as the competition for dominance dissipates that union made in psycho land. Hoovers are only a manipulation.
Thank you for your excellent videos, you know your subject well. Please keep them coming. Have been on a year long healing journey but need "refresher" videos to keep me on course to remain grateful that the narc is history
We gave them an incredible gift, especially if hoovers ever worked. They are just too delusional and entitled to realize it, until we have nothing left for them. Excellent video Joe. Thank you
That’s me low low needy self esteem after he took advantage of my sons death n my health issues my anger has nowhere to go but to myself n I hit n cut myself for relief n punishment
Joe a real question here..... At one point we're you a narcissist? And does everybody have narcissistic tendencies? I battle back-and-forth with my old relationship and how we treated each other and how it ended. My initials are JB as well.. 😉 ☮️🕊️🙏
Joe is extremely well versed in this subject. He shares his wisdom regardless of how he attained it with us for knowledge and power. It’s an amazing ability he has to really zero in on the reality of our pain and suffering. We should all adhere to his prospective and embrace it. He changed my life, for the better.
Chiming in here If you were or are attracted to a toxic person you possess a control issue too. You just acknowledge it and want to be better. You are are positive force/vibe. The toxic is the opposite. Dark and empty. One must look at our broken selves. Painful. The family of origin is generally where it started. Not our fault. I have been blaming my relationship failures on others. My codependency tendencies are definitely a reason for why things end up how they do. I am trying to heal at 59 years. I wished I possessed this information 40 years ago.
But therein lies the problem...and always will be. For most people, you typically have that one person that can kind of soothe your soul. Kind of like your best friend. Them....many or several can do it. It wasn't anything special about you. Always the problem...a narcassists way of thinking is....yes, you can soothe their soul but so can many other. Yes, you look good in a pair of lulu lemons, but so do many others. Yes, they enjoy sex with you, but so does any any other warm body. There is and never will be for the them....that special one, 'the one', for them. Sad but true. To them, you really are replaceable and interchagable. Like a toaster.....they want to toast, as long as they get their toast, any toaster will do.
I’d weak gullible self I feel pathetic every day sick n angry sad n distraught n pointless knowing he kicked my arse because he felt I was better than him puke 😊
Why does my ex photoshops his pictures really bad he even put other teeth in his mouth. He bought the same shoes as me. I know this because I grey rock him we share a child and he changes his profile pic on WhatsApp
They take and take and take until their fake breaks. They know, they knew from day one.
He used to say that he had to help me mow the lawn, bring me a present, or help me w anything I needed to get done bc he was wired that way. Meanwhile, I was pouring vast amounts into that leaky bucket. It was quid pro quo for him and soothed his conscience. What a waste of time. Relieved he’s out of my life.
While they try to make you believe they are giving, they only take.
Thanks for your comment 🙏
@@caligirl9403 I’m sorry. I hope you are recovering. I probably had it too. It took a long time, lots of introspection and time alone, w authentic friends and most importantly GOD. He healed me.
Why were you doing the lawn at all? A lil boy pretending to be a man.
your pacing and interpretation of the crucial nuances that are suffered / understood by our collective, commands attention for the depth, heart and simplicity that you bring to it
then there’s the tone of your voice which has a comfy, cool confidence that somehow makes reliving the horror with you a bit gentler and that solace is possible
I’m sitting listening to this nodding my head. We soothe. They destroy. Enough said.
They will look at "hope" n shit in it's face.😊😅😂
Your videos are excellent. You get into how our brains work both narcissist and the victim with depth.
My ex used to tell me "I'm always at peace when I'm here with you." Whether it was true or not doesn't matter anymore. In Dec it will be 4 yrs since we broke up & he STILL tries to reach out occasionally even though he has a child now with the person he got with after me! I pity her - she's stuck with him forever now bcuz of the child! I thank God every day that I'm free & loving life again!
My ex said the same.
Birds of a Feather.. FLOCK 2gether!
I have a child by him 😢😢😢😢
11 years out 11 years no contact. He tries hoovering - i think not!!
This is like narcissist ghost stories!!!!!!!
Mine sending me emails on how much he regrets everything 4 years later 😂😂 and how much I mean. Yeah ok bs. No ty
They are users, abusers, losers.
🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯
The more you give them chance, the worse their behavior gets
@@humbleugoo8306 💯 don’t give these ppl any chance they just take more advantage of your kindness
They want to come back to finish their evil job.
@@lanamorelli6480 totally agree. They are sick.
Loving yourself is the key it's such a small thing to say but with such big significance
Seems obvious, trite but it's not. Wrote your comment down in all the notes I'm making. Thank you!
Well they suit themselves with drinking lots of alcohol to knack themselves out and porn, when they have no woman to suit them, but there will be always a new unsuspecting victim, just like we were once. Thank you Joe, beautiful video ! 🤗❤
And they still won’t teach about it in schools and even if they did, say, sex-ed and partner abuse, they still won’t give it the medical name so that people can look it up and understand that they can’t change. One of the biggest cons is: I’m just moody or, I have anxiety, I didn’t mean that, it’ll never happen again. They put on a mask of sanity. They gaslight and the world gaslights too, protecting them.
@@bonnielee316 🤗
My Nex used to frequently tell me she didn't need me, lol I feel terrible for her new emotional punching bag, rejecting her Hoover felt sweet
What a mess they are.
Before the final discard she said she felt emotionally secure and safe with me. She said that I taught her and showed her that love is patient. She said for the first time she felt unconditionally loved. Four days later before a trip she ghosted me. This was after celebrating her birthday all weekend. This was only a few weeks ago and it absolutely gutted me.
I doubt my nemesis even thinks about it. The quickest new supply or using up a current one is at the forefront always. She probably does miss all the previous targets cognitive dissonance and supply. With this multimorbid cluster b I bet they all figured it out and are ecstatic they're out. Bit there's always the kindred of affliction mutually using each other. But that doesn't last as the competition for dominance dissipates that union made in psycho land. Hoovers are only a manipulation.
That ageing narc knows i dont open the door to the Dead Thanks for this lv ya💙
i call them ghosts .. empty
God damn Joe you really do get it bro
Thank you for your excellent videos, you know your subject well. Please keep them coming. Have been on a year long healing journey but need "refresher" videos to keep me on course to remain grateful that the narc is history
Only soothe to destroy...
That's them...
What a gr8 memorable line...
They leave you wondering....why???
Good stuff champ. Keep it rölin
It’s not my obligation for her regulation.
Thank you Joe, very spot on, as usual 👏🏻🌹✨
Can you make a video on narcs and substance abuse?
We gave them an incredible gift, especially if hoovers ever worked. They are just too delusional and entitled to realize it, until we have nothing left for them.
Excellent video Joe. Thank you
I wish I can snap my fingers n be over the memory
She will never get my address.
Thank you so much for your videos. I really appreciate them. They are so clear.
Soothe to Destroy!
Ty 🕊️✨🙏🪽🫶🤯
Thank you so much Joe
You have just described 99.9% of the Human Species.... Therefore I should act as if everyone is either a Narcassit or Normal ?
That’s me low low needy self esteem after he took advantage of my sons death n my health issues my anger has nowhere to go but to myself n I hit n cut myself for relief n punishment
I only want sadly that he is going to hurt more than me
They will knock on our doors????
The last 2 mins … dinger
Cheers
I’m not an evil person n it’s made me turn into the worst parts of myself which is death
thamks
Joe a real question here..... At one point we're you a narcissist? And does everybody have narcissistic tendencies? I battle back-and-forth with my old relationship and how we treated each other and how it ended.
My initials are JB as well.. 😉 ☮️🕊️🙏
I think everyone has some narcissistic traits.
Love your initials 💖
Joe is extremely well versed in this subject. He shares his wisdom regardless of how he attained it with us for knowledge and power. It’s an amazing ability he has to really zero in on the reality of our pain and suffering. We should all adhere to his prospective and embrace it. He changed my life, for the better.
Watch enough videos and then really watch people u meet you'll start to do the same. Joe is eloquent is his words.
Chiming in here
If you were or are attracted to a toxic person you possess a control issue too. You just acknowledge it and want to be better. You are are positive force/vibe. The toxic is the opposite.
Dark and empty. One must look at our broken selves. Painful.
The family of origin is generally where it started. Not our fault.
I have been blaming my relationship failures on others.
My codependency tendencies are definitely a reason for why things end up how they do.
I am trying to heal at 59 years.
I wished I possessed this information 40 years ago.
New people yes
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❤
Misses abusing the f out of you more like!
True
But therein lies the problem...and always will be. For most people, you typically have that one person that can kind of soothe your soul. Kind of like your best friend. Them....many or several can do it. It wasn't anything special about you. Always the problem...a narcassists way of thinking is....yes, you can soothe their soul but so can many other. Yes, you look good in a pair of lulu lemons, but so do many others. Yes, they enjoy sex with you, but so does any any other warm body. There is and never will be for the them....that special one, 'the one', for them. Sad but true. To them, you really are replaceable and interchagable. Like a toaster.....they want to toast, as long as they get their toast, any toaster will do.
I’d weak gullible self I feel pathetic every day sick n angry sad n distraught n pointless knowing he kicked my arse because he felt I was better than him puke 😊
🙏🧐🙄🤕💯🙏🤠
It’s not a Hoover it’s bloody dirt devil way stronger as a vacuum
Why does my ex photoshops his pictures really bad he even put other teeth in his mouth. He bought the same shoes as me. I know this because I grey rock him we share a child and he changes his profile pic on WhatsApp