Yes. I was stressed non stop for a year, without realizing. There was literally a knot in my stomach. I would really have died if I stayed with her. I wonder if she poisoned me. I'm not joking. How many times. Within a month or two my health returned.
I've gone from being enmeshed to absolutely hating her guts, I look forward to the day I stop thinking about her, never again will I let someone else control my happiness
I'm 9 months out of 20 yr relationship. That was me I adored her all the way up till I woke up out the fog. Now I can't stand to look at her. . The thoughts of her are getting less and less as the days go on. The peace in my has greatly increased! . Freedom
@@ets5697 this is 100% accurate. I’m about eight months out of a very disastrous divorce from a female covert, destructive narcissist. She was not only destroyed me, but two out of the three kids were all going through the process together take that pain also, and use it to improve you and self-love yourself i’m to the point where I have my confidence back still have light rumination. I am enjoying myself for the first time in probably 12 years turn that pain into your power and you have to do the work though. It takes an enormous amount of work you just can’t go to therapy once a week find an excellent therapist who specializes in it if you can but the aforementioned is extremely accurate love yourself love healing love what you’ve learned and take your time and follow the process you gotta do self-care. I found it very helpful to organize and clean and Declutter my physical spaces as wellspend time in the present and be present with yourself for the first time in a long time
The comment you made about us being broken as well isn't mentioned enough. What I went through was awful and I don't wish on anyone. I feel without that experience I wouldn't of awoken to who I am and what I've endured and found boundaries ! you're extremely insightful. I'm glad I found you. Thank you.
Amen, Lisa! Our previous codependency and flaws had to be brought to light. I personally have zero regrets, and it's good not having to explain that to anyone. Yet, I sure as heck will not be returning to living low vibe as I've seen what that attracted. Wishing you a peaceful & joyful Christmas Day! 🎄 Blessings from Austin. 🌟
Well I gotta say, I love the line about how they need other people to service their "Oompa Loompa". That was hilarious! And I'm not even really sure exactly what it means, or if I even want to know! Great stuff!!😮😊😅
Not difficult for me! I ignore him! When he speaks me , I picture him as the invisible man. Outta my sight, outta my mind!!!😂😂😂😂 Glad I never had a child with that jackass, but he tried though!😂😂😂
My ex tricked me into moving across the country with him under false pretenses (he promised he wasn’t gonna do drugs anymore, but he was doing them on the way up there) and then when confronted and given an ultimatum, he refused to change, so I moved out because I was not gonna move my kids up there with a drug addict who lies all the time. This man is still playing the victim, even after he put his hands on me after this. These people are absurd. Just avoid them at all costs. If you see a red flag, believe it.
It's been literally YEARS...but I congratulate myself today...I officially, literally...don't give a damn. The whole 'family' deal...is imho 'up for question'.
My narc ex discarded me and immediately jumped on the Richard Carousel of three different dudes. I know that I am healing because when I learned that information I accepted it as is with no anger in my heart. Folks... Prayer and meditation works. Doing the work to heal yourself works. Forgiveness and acceptance works. The good news is that she gave me three more reasons to leave her in the dust. The better news is that I know what lies in her future. Gonorrhea! HaHa!
We had a beautiful walk in closet with shelves for certain clothing items. I never liked it. I also had a small chest of drawers in there. One day I took all my clothes on the shelves and put them in drawers. I was sitting in our living room and my wife came out of the bedroom looking like she had seen a ghost. I figured out why immediately and felt bad for her. Knowing what I know now, I should have put that clothes in suitcase and hauled ass.
He discarded me in the worst way,left me destitute, hungry,no tires to buy food once a month never took me to pick up my medication... Took almost 2 years for him to call ne....he didn't give one care I was texting him begging him for rides.totally blocked on SOCIAL media and phone. He did not think of me at all
Two years? Your shiny and new again to Narky. Your repaired and ready to be abused again. Your an empath you forgive. Narky's thinks your ready for another abuse cycle maybe to finish you off..
Healing from becoming non- existence for last 5 years. I'm doing it lol by myself with zero support. Also though I've had lots of help from couple channels I follow and read 2 books on covert narscasists. Never finished 3rd called worthy of Love 💞... Seems like things take time. I've got so much time on my hands except real life time. Life is short. But thank for asking
@@robinwyersYes, you’re right. Healing requires time and patience, I would add, is not a destination but a beautiful at times hard but very worth journey.. ❤ You’re doing great job 🫂 You’re doing the best as you can with the tools that you have Be proud of yourself ❤ I wish you a Merry Christmas 🎄 God Bless you!
Even with family, let them go. My ex- family showed themselves when they stole my part of ny mom's life insurance money. I was completely offended but i knew the money wouldn't last. I also knew at that point, i would let them die. They are begging for housing now and i couldn't care less. Never should have stolen from me. Good luck, hunger games are here and you no longer have my mother or me in your supply matrix. They even trued to use thier kids...like ai would give a fk about their offspring after what they did😂😂😂😂. And they better not show up at my door as child services will be called. I use to think they were inept, they Thought I was emotionally attached. Guess we both learned the truth, but only one of us can take care of ourselves without human help.
You explain it well.i just broke my narcassist completely.. c9nverted her family and all monkeys. She ran into a rock. I felt bad doing it but it had to be done.
When i stop waiting for more videos, Joe posted three new ones 😯‼and now i enjoy a cup of joe with Joe again ☕☕! Its is always nice to see more of magic of Joe B House. Thank you ! 🤗❤
Well, i don't fully share that perpective, but what he probably means is that a "healthy" person (whatever this is in last consequence) wouldn't accept in the first place what we are willing to overlook or accept. That our boundaries, self-confidence and self-worth must have been shattert by traumatic experiences of rejection, failure, loss or misfortune in our past. So now we are willing to pay each price just to have somebody in our lifes. There might be some truth in that - but it is in my opinion not the full perspective. My own theory is more spiritual. Look at JESUS. HE as well was defeated in each possible worldly way - but does this mean HE was broken?? Of course not. In a spiritual perspective, HE was the greatest and strongest of all times. My theory is that true empaths/genuinely good people who are very rare, are more persecuted than others. I literally do believe that Satan does send the Narcs into our lifes to destroy us. But he does it in vain. We will resurrect from this as JESUS did : )
@SandraUkleja-op6fw that's absolutely spot on! Have this deep intuition about it too. Like they know everything I'm doing. Where I'm at. Who I'm with. Freaking me out!!!!😂😂😂😂😢
When my ex narcissist realized I didn’t want anything else to do with her that mut was thinking she was going to get Negative narcissistic supply from me! I wish I would ever mentally dead inside disrespect me without me putting that bum in her place
I love you videos Joe, thank you🙏🥰 I need to practice the art of not giving a f…k it’s not natural for me. No it’s not a compliment to have empathy for a snake. Or to be deceived.
I believe what you are saying but at times it's hard to believe they give a f after the discard. I guess that's just their goal maybe to make you think they don't care.
Their goal is to meet their needs. Control: That is their « prime aims», of getting control over the victims mind/emotions ( control). Narcissistic supply: They need control over the victims mind so they can harvest narcissistic supply in the form of 1: validation 2: reasureance 3: attention 4:power 5: Feeling of superiority 6: feeling that they can fool the victim ( the enjoyment of the scam) 7: Sadism ( feeling of tormenting their victim), bullying, trolling, nagging, complaing, harassing In their mind we belong to them in the same way a child play with a video game. When they are bored they find a new game ( shiny new object fallacy). They panic when they feel bored, and blame the victim. If they get tired of the new toy they can go back to the old toy ( hoover). But not soon the process starts again. They are like a toddler. With zero empathy, and are sadistic. In their mind we belong to them forever. They can do a hoover after 10-15 years if their needs are not meet with their new supply. Google H.G Tudor also he is a diagnosed narcissistic psychopat that tells the story from their point of view. Their insanity and selfishness as far greater than most victims understand at first, but when you connect the dots you see the truth. That they are fucking crazy
I know that he has no money in the bank, no teeth in the back to chew meat, no car, his daughter bought a place for him to live, he thinks we are all God and he gets special communication from God to help others, pot 24 hours a day……..I’m done.
Thank you Joe once again, you are always right on top of things and 💯 truth. Thank you for all your hard work and time...I have been watching and reading your post for 4 years now(quora) and very blessed to be able to hear you now on UA-cam. Keep up the good fight, I know people are listening and YOU ARE MAKING A DIFFERENCE!! Thank you so much
I d like to give an example why its not so easy to escape work relations like that especially in Germany. If an employee wants to resign because of abuse and has no new job lined up, he risks his existence if there are not enough savings. Another reason is that the unemployment agency punishes an employee by not paying funds for three months. In that time you will already loose your home or make debt. So whats the solution if folks have no freedom to decide when to leave.
@@joebhouse thank you, I numbed emotions for a view years and got very sick. I cant recommend anybody to do this, unless for a very short time. You have to get out
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Like being with a petulant child…. Mixed with a heavy sprinkle of pure insanity
Yes! The “petulant child!” Taps into their innate lack of maturity- their arrested development.
Pure insanity and pure evil!
💯
a lost, butt hurt, psychotic. 3yr old.
your very correct with that statement.
My physical health improved tremendously when i walked away and have no contact at all, access is also denied to the dark energy by all who know me.
Yeah same here. 4 weeks no contact and i feel amaizing..i can see my positive energy shifting. Luv that feeling.
Yes!
no contact is the only cure. like he said in vid, wish them the best from a distance, but have nothing to do with them. never hate.
Yes!! 💯💯💯
Yes. I was stressed non stop for a year, without realizing. There was literally a knot in my stomach.
I would really have died if I stayed with her. I wonder if she poisoned me. I'm not joking. How many times.
Within a month or two my health returned.
I've gone from being enmeshed to absolutely hating her guts, I look forward to the day I stop thinking about her, never again will I let someone else control my happiness
You will heal! ❤️🩹
I'm 9 months out of 20 yr relationship. That was me I adored her all the way up till I woke up out the fog. Now I can't stand to look at her. . The thoughts of her are getting less and less as the days go on. The peace in my has greatly increased! . Freedom
I feel you to a T my friend..
What’s funny is mine was 23 years long I’ve been about six months out and I can’t picture her face in my mind’s eye
@@ets5697 this is 100% accurate. I’m about eight months out of a very disastrous divorce from a female covert, destructive narcissist. She was not only destroyed me, but two out of the three kids were all going through the process together take that pain also, and use it to improve you and self-love yourself i’m to the point where I have my confidence back still have light rumination. I am enjoying myself for the first time in probably 12 years turn that pain into your power and you have to do the work though. It takes an enormous amount of work you just can’t go to therapy once a week find an excellent therapist who specializes in it if you can but the aforementioned is extremely accurate love yourself love healing love what you’ve learned and take your time and follow the process you gotta do self-care. I found it very helpful to organize and clean and Declutter my physical spaces as wellspend time in the present and be present with yourself for the first time in a long time
No longer the ex narc s fuel! No flow...no pipeline!
The more healthy noble cause is yourself!
The comment you made about us being broken as well isn't mentioned enough. What I went through was awful and I don't wish on anyone. I feel without that experience I wouldn't of awoken to who I am and what I've endured and found boundaries ! you're extremely insightful. I'm glad I found you. Thank you.
Amen, Lisa! Our previous codependency and flaws had to be brought to light. I personally have zero regrets, and it's good not having to explain that to anyone. Yet, I sure as heck will not be returning to living low vibe as I've seen what that attracted. Wishing you a peaceful & joyful Christmas Day! 🎄 Blessings from Austin. 🌟
Figure out who initially groomed you to tolerate this shit. Often times it's not the current narcissist/egopath
Well I gotta say, I love the line about how they need other people to service their "Oompa Loompa". That was hilarious! And I'm not even really sure exactly what it means, or if I even want to know! Great stuff!!😮😊😅
Wow! This one is the key. Thanks!
Yes take your word for it. Ignore them is great advice. I'll regret answering them. It's difficult but necessary to ignore them. Thanks Joe!
I like your use of the word “necessity.” Agreed!
Not difficult for me! I ignore him! When he speaks me , I picture him as the invisible man. Outta my sight, outta my mind!!!😂😂😂😂 Glad I never had a child with that jackass, but he tried though!😂😂😂
Thank you. This is helping me get through a tough time.
education is key to understanding.
Emotional intelligence helps us.
My ex tricked me into moving across the country with him under false pretenses (he promised he wasn’t gonna do drugs anymore, but he was doing them on the way up there) and then when confronted and given an ultimatum, he refused to change, so I moved out because I was not gonna move my kids up there with a drug addict who lies all the time. This man is still playing the victim, even after he put his hands on me after this. These people are absurd. Just avoid them at all costs. If you see a red flag, believe it.
That’s a good way to articulate it- as a assembly line.
Redirect your focus on your life, your happiness, and your healing...
Been there, done that … thank God I will love all people as Jesus showed, no attachment no trauma… see them as broken…
And Jesus can fix them,not me!
It's been literally YEARS...but I congratulate myself today...I officially, literally...don't give a damn. The whole 'family' deal...is imho 'up for question'.
My soon ex husband could care less what i do or i go through, his focus is on his shiny new secretary from his work where he has lived since May
My narc ex discarded me and immediately jumped on the Richard Carousel of three different dudes. I know that I am healing because when I learned that information I accepted it as is with no anger in my heart.
Folks...
Prayer and meditation works.
Doing the work to heal yourself works.
Forgiveness and acceptance works.
The good news is that she gave me three more reasons to leave her in the dust.
The better news is that I know what lies in her future.
Gonorrhea! HaHa!
I left the narc and filed divorce he can self destruct outside for all I care no contact
i learned this lil trick going threw my divorce to keep my sanity, and many situations since. not caring, properly applied can be a beautiful thing
We had a beautiful walk in closet with shelves for certain clothing items. I never liked it. I also had a small chest of drawers in there. One day I took all my clothes on the shelves and put them in drawers. I was sitting in our living room and my wife came out of the bedroom looking like she had seen a ghost. I figured out why immediately and felt bad for her. Knowing what I know now, I should have put that clothes in suitcase and hauled ass.
Such wise and incredibly important information. Thank you 🙏
I must have been good supply
The family, the neighbors, the police , the children ,the friends ,
Everyone is involved and it’s been five years now
He discarded me in the worst way,left me destitute, hungry,no tires to buy food once a month never took me to pick up my medication... Took almost 2 years for him to call ne....he didn't give one care I was texting him begging him for rides.totally blocked on SOCIAL media and phone. He did not think of me at all
Two years? Your shiny and new again to Narky. Your repaired and ready to be abused again. Your an empath you forgive. Narky's thinks your ready for another abuse cycle maybe to finish you off..
How are you doing now? 🫂 ❤
Healing from becoming non- existence for last 5 years. I'm doing it lol by myself with zero support. Also though I've had lots of help from couple channels I follow and read 2 books on covert narscasists. Never finished 3rd called worthy of Love 💞... Seems like things take time. I've got so much time on my hands except real life time. Life is short. But thank for asking
@@robinwyersYes, you’re right.
Healing requires time and patience, I would add, is not a destination but a beautiful at times hard but very worth journey.. ❤
You’re doing great job 🫂
You’re doing the best as you can with the tools that you have
Be proud of yourself ❤
I wish you a Merry Christmas 🎄
God Bless you!
Your content is excellent and you have a great delivery. Thank you so much.
Even with family, let them go. My ex- family showed themselves when they stole my part of ny mom's life insurance money. I was completely offended but i knew the money wouldn't last. I also knew at that point, i would let them die. They are begging for housing now and i couldn't care less. Never should have stolen from me. Good luck, hunger games are here and you no longer have my mother or me in your supply matrix. They even trued to use thier kids...like ai would give a fk about their offspring after what they did😂😂😂😂. And they better not show up at my door as child services will be called. I use to think they were inept, they Thought I was emotionally attached. Guess we both learned the truth, but only one of us can take care of ourselves without human help.
Karma
They won’t move on
You explain it well.i just broke my narcassist completely.. c9nverted her family and all monkeys. She ran into a rock. I felt bad doing it but it had to be done.
When i stop waiting for more videos, Joe posted three new ones 😯‼and now i enjoy a cup of joe with Joe again ☕☕! Its is always nice to see more of magic of Joe B House. Thank you ! 🤗❤
It would be interesting to listen more about your perspective about the victims. In Which ways are they broken and how can they actually heal.
Well, i don't fully share that perpective, but what he probably means is that a "healthy" person (whatever this is in last consequence) wouldn't accept in the first place what we are willing to overlook or accept. That our boundaries, self-confidence and self-worth must have been shattert by traumatic experiences of rejection, failure, loss or misfortune in our past. So now we are willing to pay each price just to have somebody in our lifes. There might be some truth in that - but it is in my opinion not the full perspective.
My own theory is more spiritual. Look at JESUS. HE as well was defeated in each possible worldly way - but does this mean HE was broken?? Of course not. In a spiritual perspective, HE was the greatest and strongest of all times.
My theory is that true empaths/genuinely good people who are very rare, are more persecuted than others. I literally do believe that Satan does send the Narcs into our lifes to destroy us.
But he does it in vain. We will resurrect from this as JESUS did : )
@SandraUkleja-op6fw that's absolutely spot on! Have this deep intuition about it too. Like they know everything I'm doing. Where I'm at. Who I'm with. Freaking me out!!!!😂😂😂😂😢
Joe YOU ARE WONDERFUL
I AM SO GRATEFUL
I’m so glad i found you!
When my ex narcissist realized I didn’t want anything else to do with her that mut was thinking she was going to get Negative narcissistic supply from me! I wish I would ever mentally dead inside disrespect me without me putting that bum in her place
That’s when they get a mistress or two
They always have a mistress or 2. They see humans to be used and abused...
You are GREAT!!:))!! Thank You!!:))!!👍🌞✨🌍💯%!!🌷💐!!
I love you videos Joe, thank you🙏🥰 I need to practice the art of not giving a f…k it’s not natural for me.
No it’s not a compliment to have empathy for a snake. Or to be deceived.
I believe what you are saying but at times it's hard to believe they give a f after the discard. I guess that's just their goal maybe to make you think they don't care.
Their goal is to meet their needs.
Control: That is their « prime aims», of getting control over the victims mind/emotions ( control).
Narcissistic supply: They need control over the victims mind so they can harvest narcissistic supply in the form of
1: validation
2: reasureance
3: attention
4:power
5: Feeling of superiority
6: feeling that they can fool the victim ( the enjoyment of the scam)
7: Sadism ( feeling of tormenting their victim), bullying, trolling, nagging, complaing, harassing
In their mind we belong to them in the same way a child play with a video game. When they are bored they find a new game ( shiny new object fallacy). They panic when they feel bored, and blame the victim. If they get tired of the new toy they can go back to the old toy ( hoover). But not soon the process starts again.
They are like a toddler. With zero empathy, and are sadistic.
In their mind we belong to them forever. They can do a hoover after 10-15 years if their needs are not meet with their new supply.
Google H.G Tudor also he is a diagnosed narcissistic psychopat that tells the story from their point of view. Their insanity and selfishness as far greater than most victims understand at first, but when you connect the dots you see the truth.
That they are fucking crazy
Exactly this is ❤
your videos are the best resource I have come across . so accurate and insightful and beautifully narrated and presented .
Smear campaign central a year later!
I know that he has no money in the bank, no teeth in the back to chew meat, no car, his daughter bought a place for him to live, he thinks we are all God and he gets special communication from God to help others, pot 24 hours a day……..I’m done.
Thank you Joe once again, you are always right on top of things and 💯 truth. Thank you for all your hard work and time...I have been watching and reading your post for 4 years now(quora) and very blessed to be able to hear you now on UA-cam. Keep up the good fight, I know people are listening and YOU ARE MAKING A DIFFERENCE!! Thank you so much
Morning Joe! ☕️
Too true.😂
When you stop caring , he leaves
I d like to give an example why its not so easy to escape work relations like that especially in Germany. If an employee wants to resign because of abuse and has no new job lined up, he risks his existence if there are not enough savings. Another reason is that the unemployment agency punishes an employee by not paying funds for three months. In that time you will already loose your home or make debt. So whats the solution if folks have no freedom to decide when to leave.
Boundaries, boundaries, numbing your emotional existence to not feed any toxicity
@@joebhouse thank you, I numbed emotions for a view years and got very sick. I cant recommend anybody to do this, unless for a very short time. You have to get out
@@jilross4892 perhaps you answered your own question. Get that new job lined up as soon as possible.
@@TheCanyonCritter folks are unfit for something new at that point but thx for your contribution
Good lecture
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THE REAL GOSPEL 💯
Not enough
Till death do you part
I moved everything
What happens when narc get an enheratence
Oh ive been a dumb bitch
It s 😂
How am I broking bez of someone else’s actions I have 0 experience dating a narcissist? That’s complete offensive
Love your voice side note
You're awesome....PERIOD. THANKS FOR BEING ON UA-cam, Joe! 😁