I know that not everybody can afford an online course, but I hope that the fifteen videos in the Shadow Work Playlist will support the next steps of your shadow integration journey. I created this free playlist to function like a crash-course on shadow psychology with the intention of being as accessible and actionable as possible. I didn't want to stash the basics behind a paywall or email signup - I would rather you keep learning right here on UA-cam. You can instantly access over five hours of beginner-to-advanced shadow work exercises and lectures with the free playlist linked in the description. Make sure to take your time with the guided exercises, and don't forget to buy the golden books. Jordan P. S. I want to say a heartfelt thank you to this comments section community. My channel is niche, and you've seen the Inner Work Library slowly expand over the last two years. I feel fortunate to receive such deep and genuine connections online, and UA-cam recently told me that there have been more than 4000 unique commentors across my entire channel. Thank you for showing up, I appreciate you. If you want more depth, we can meet inside the library: courses.jordanthornton.com/shadow-work-library/
I had tears listening to you describing those parenting styles. I am 61 years old and just about ruined the rest of my life. I am working like a furry to reverse the damage done. My childhood was i the shadow of schizophrenic, alcoholic, violent father, and it cough up with me this year. It is so hard to even imagine a better life forwhatever i have remaining.
It's not over. I've seen people turn things around in their 60's and 70's - there are many beautiful decades ahead if you choose to take life that way.
12:17 The story of the little girl saying to herself 'I can do it..." And then celebrating when she's able to do it, saying "woohoo, I did it!" is so precious & heart-warming. I'm so glad her parents put those narratives in her self-image. Really beautiful stuff.😊
I grew up feeling like I was “too much”. From home to school, my insatiable curiosity overwhelmed the adults and peers in my life. Recognising how I learned to shrink to fit my environment to avoid extracation from the tribe was a pivotal breakthrough. As the video started, I immediately thought of the little girl on the snowboard! 🥰
Sounds like you were surrounded by boring dummies 🥶 Jokes aside, I can truly relate to the soft and hard repressions growing up from poor mirroring / understanding in the environment. Thanks for sharing here 🌲
"You can't expect the old voice to dissipate when there are plenty of examples around you of why it's true." How delightfully confronting in the usual "Jordan" style 🤣 Thank you! I'm holding this idea with me as I continue moving forward ☺🤝💪🙌
@@jordanthornton Absolutely! Gentle & honest, as usual 😊 I meant this very positively! Beautiful delivery... you have a gift for presenting, in a very safe & non-confrontational way, ideas that would typically be difficult to hear & actually receive 😌 You are so appreciated, Jordan 🙏
I am currently working on overcoming the recent betrayal and also working with self-esteem due to exposure to criticism when I was a child. Intrusive thoughts were a painful part of my daily life for years... Your video is spot on! Exactly what I needed. Thank you so much ❤ 💕
I've been experiencing intrusive thoughts about sucide for about 6 years. Tried every life style change I could, tried ssris, tried counseling. They got so bad they where causing me to go into psychosis. Now I'm on quetiapine and 3 weeks clear, I'm so much sharper and feel like I'm in control of my mind again Edit: potentially they are auditory hallucinations rather than intrusive thoughts
I’m sorry to hear this, and am glad you’ve found some stability in what you need for now. I hope this video also provides some insights into possible deeper undercurrents?
the idea about affirmations is an interesting one b/c that was exactly what I developed myself in childhood to combat the intrusive thoughts which plagued me to the extent of full OCD. Weirdly I feel dependent on or almost prisoner to the affirmations, and weirdly I'm enough to 'see' duality of it all, to see the negative thoughts the affirmations were supposed to shield me from inside the affirmations themselves as each affirmation is a kind of opposite or antithesis. I've come to see all of life like that. Pursuing health for example is not some transcendence of sickness and death. I actually feel most free when I somehow manage to..ngaf, basically. If all bliss contains despair then it should work the other way round too.But I'm in my 30s and rarely achieve that still.
Hello Jordan. I hope all is well in your life. May I ask a question. What if you didn’t have a parent like that? That was abusive or harsh in anyway. Never put down. And never really expected much from you. Unless I have blocked it out somewhere. But from my memory My parents have always been kind And never shaming or hurtful And I really didn’t remember ever hearing harsh words from anyone to me. Unless somewhere it is buried and needs to be uncovered. My inner self critic Seems to be all me… My parents have never spoken to me in harsh ways. But I really struggle with my negative inner critic. May I ask, where does it come from? How did I create this, and did it actually come somewhere from childhood that I don’t remember and now it haunts me in the form of my own voices? I would really love help with this. Because I feel lost at times and overwhelmed with all this negativity that seems to come out on no where. Thank you so much for the gift of your time 🌲🌧️
You'll get a lot from Embracing Your Inner Critic by Hal and Sidra Stone, if you haven't read it already. I think it's the best advice I can give in a comment here, and I hope it helps.
5:23 I've never heard of something like a "Positive intrusive thought". I didn't even know people can experience that. Edit: I'm really interested in this because I realized recently that I internally talk to myself in a way that I wouldn't dare talk to another person. I'm wondering about how to self-reprimand or discipline, without resorting to abusive language.
I know that not everybody can afford an online course, but I hope that the fifteen videos in the Shadow Work Playlist will support the next steps of your shadow integration journey.
I created this free playlist to function like a crash-course on shadow psychology with the intention of being as accessible and actionable as possible. I didn't want to stash the basics behind a paywall or email signup - I would rather you keep learning right here on UA-cam.
You can instantly access over five hours of beginner-to-advanced shadow work exercises and lectures with the free playlist linked in the description.
Make sure to take your time with the guided exercises, and don't forget to buy the golden books.
Jordan
P. S. I want to say a heartfelt thank you to this comments section community. My channel is niche, and you've seen the Inner Work Library slowly expand over the last two years. I feel fortunate to receive such deep and genuine connections online, and UA-cam recently told me that there have been more than 4000 unique commentors across my entire channel.
Thank you for showing up, I appreciate you.
If you want more depth, we can meet inside the library:
courses.jordanthornton.com/shadow-work-library/
I had tears listening to you describing those parenting styles. I am 61 years old and just about ruined the rest of my life. I am working like a furry to reverse the damage done. My childhood was i the shadow of schizophrenic, alcoholic, violent father, and it cough up with me this year. It is so hard to even imagine a better life forwhatever i have remaining.
It's not over. I've seen people turn things around in their 60's and 70's - there are many beautiful decades ahead if you choose to take life that way.
@@jordanthornton heat full thank you
12:17 The story of the little girl saying to herself 'I can do it..." And then celebrating when she's able to do it, saying "woohoo, I did it!" is so precious & heart-warming. I'm so glad her parents put those narratives in her self-image. Really beautiful stuff.😊
I grew up feeling like I was “too much”. From home to school, my insatiable curiosity overwhelmed the adults and peers in my life. Recognising how I learned to shrink to fit my environment to avoid extracation from the tribe was a pivotal breakthrough.
As the video started, I immediately thought of the little girl on the snowboard! 🥰
Sounds like you were surrounded by boring dummies 🥶 Jokes aside, I can truly relate to the soft and hard repressions growing up from poor mirroring / understanding in the environment. Thanks for sharing here 🌲
I can relate in some cultures being an outspoken intelligent woman makes you very unpopular.
Wow! When intrusive thoughts happen to me, I meditate, but it did take me awhile to find mediation. This is important work, Jordan. Keep breathing.
For sure, this is a powerful topic. Good to know
hey can I ask what sort of meditation do you do?
"You can't expect the old voice to dissipate when there are plenty of examples around you of why it's true." How delightfully confronting in the usual "Jordan" style 🤣 Thank you! I'm holding this idea with me as I continue moving forward ☺🤝💪🙌
Always gentle 😬
@@jordanthornton Absolutely! Gentle & honest, as usual 😊 I meant this very positively! Beautiful delivery... you have a gift for presenting, in a very safe & non-confrontational way, ideas that would typically be difficult to hear & actually receive 😌 You are so appreciated, Jordan 🙏
This is so valuable to me right now. I feel I can breathe more easily just listening to you explaining these mechanisms.
Beautiful response, thank you for being here and receiving these words. I'm happy you've had this feeling.
I am currently working on overcoming the recent betrayal and also working with self-esteem due to exposure to criticism when I was a child. Intrusive thoughts were a painful part of my daily life for years...
Your video is spot on! Exactly what I needed. Thank you so much ❤ 💕
Happy to have helped, and glad you’re enjoying this playlist so far - keep going ✌🏻
thank you for your incredible words
Thank you for being here in the shadow work playlist!
Brillant showcase of the possible path. Thank you Jordan.
It's what I aim for - thank you!
"Preemptively Self-punish". Dang.
You’re an amazing teacher! Thank you!
You're very welcome! Thanks for the support 🌲
I've been experiencing intrusive thoughts about sucide for about 6 years. Tried every life style change I could, tried ssris, tried counseling. They got so bad they where causing me to go into psychosis. Now I'm on quetiapine and 3 weeks clear, I'm so much sharper and feel like I'm in control of my mind again
Edit: potentially they are auditory hallucinations rather than intrusive thoughts
I’m sorry to hear this, and am glad you’ve found some stability in what you need for now. I hope this video also provides some insights into possible deeper undercurrents?
the idea about affirmations is an interesting one b/c that was exactly what I developed myself in childhood to combat the intrusive thoughts which plagued me to the extent of full OCD. Weirdly I feel dependent on or almost prisoner to the affirmations, and weirdly I'm enough to 'see' duality of it all, to see the negative thoughts the affirmations were supposed to shield me from inside the affirmations themselves as each affirmation is a kind of opposite or antithesis. I've come to see all of life like that. Pursuing health for example is not some transcendence of sickness and death.
I actually feel most free when I somehow manage to..ngaf, basically. If all bliss contains despair then it should work the other way round too.But I'm in my 30s and rarely achieve that still.
I’m glad that this landed, the positive intrusion potential is often missed in these kinds of chats.
Thanks for the tips :) xo, Aurora
Here to help, thanks for being here this week.
thank you for this!!❤
Truly my pleasure, glad you’re enjoying the playlist - make sure to get involved with the journal exercises 🌲
Thank you!
You're welcome! Really enjoyed filming this entire series so far.
Thank you...
Truly welcome, hope this shadow work playlist is helping you 🌲
I appreciate this so much.
Great to see you here, and happy to have created something that speaks to you, Laura. Always wishing you the best 🌲
Always! So proud of you!
Does this have any correlation - the way people fight with themselves is how they fight with others?
Yes, for sure - shadow boxing right there. Explored in this playlist too!
Hello Jordan. I hope all is well in your life.
May I ask a question.
What if you didn’t have a parent like that?
That was abusive or harsh in anyway.
Never put down.
And never really expected much from you.
Unless I have blocked it out somewhere.
But from my memory
My parents have always been kind
And never shaming or hurtful
And I really didn’t remember ever hearing harsh words from anyone to me.
Unless somewhere it is buried and needs to be uncovered.
My inner self critic
Seems to be all me…
My parents have never spoken to me in harsh ways.
But I really struggle with my negative inner critic.
May I ask, where does it come from? How did I create this, and did it actually come somewhere from childhood that I don’t remember and now it haunts me in the form of my own voices?
I would really love help with this.
Because I feel lost at times and overwhelmed with all this negativity that seems to come out on no where.
Thank you so much for the gift of your time 🌲🌧️
You'll get a lot from Embracing Your Inner Critic by Hal and Sidra Stone, if you haven't read it already. I think it's the best advice I can give in a comment here, and I hope it helps.
Often some type of emotional neglect can be the culprit when it's an invisible form of trauma appearing regularly.
❤
Thank you!
5:23 I've never heard of something like a "Positive intrusive thought". I didn't even know people can experience that.
Edit: I'm really interested in this because I realized recently that I internally talk to myself in a way that I wouldn't dare talk to another person.
I'm wondering about how to self-reprimand or discipline, without resorting to abusive language.