I know that not everybody can afford an online course, but I hope that the fifteen videos in the Shadow Work Playlist will support the next steps of your shadow integration journey. I created this free playlist to function like a crash-course on shadow psychology with the intention of being as accessible and actionable as possible. I didn't want to stash the basics behind a paywall or email signup - I would rather you keep learning right here on UA-cam. You can instantly access over five hours of beginner-to-advanced shadow work exercises and lectures with the free playlist linked in the description. Make sure to take your time with the guided exercises, and don't forget to buy the golden books. Jordan P. S. I want to say a heartfelt thank you to this comments section community. My channel is niche, and you've seen the Inner Work Library slowly expand over the last two years. I feel fortunate to receive such deep and genuine connections online, and UA-cam recently told me that there have been more than 4000 unique commentors across my entire channel. Thank you for showing up, I appreciate you. If you want more depth, we can meet inside the library: courses.jordanthornton.com/shadow-work-library/
This is the technique/exercise my pricey , my brilliant therapist taught me. It works crazy well..i do have it in my "The Best Of Cathy" spiral notebook. Yeah, the "I Should " ruled my world from age 4 to age 60. It works with rough health situations and challenges .
Personally I found reframing with unconditional self-love felt immediately gratifying, but as it had no stable foundation, always fell hollow. Your detached reality perspective / neutral self talk is far more useful, actionable and achievable as a first step for people changing their negative self talk in the long term, and not a short-lived feel good. This is the kind of reframing that can give long term real changes. Also appreciate your mention of noting healthy negativity and toxic positivity 🙏🏼
Thank you, brother. I'm proud of this course and the many long days required to understand the material and put together videos like this! Consider getting involved in the library if you want the full experience. I designed the curriculum to shortcut your learning journey and streamline the process to hopefully save you a couple thousand hours of unstructured reading / content consumption so you can focus your willpower elsewhere - keep crushing it with your consistency, my man.
@@jordanthornton I appreciate the effort you put into your content and your ability to articulate complex concepts. As someone striving for excellence, I find your dedication admirable. I want to express my gratitude for helping me in comprehending and addressing my own challenges, while also inspiring me to word harder on my own journey. my current financial situation prevents me from purchasing the course at the moment. However, as it improves, I will invest in it, I have no doubt that the course is full of value. Thank you for your encouraging words, Jordan. Keep up the good work mate!
Totally understand your situation, brother - make sure to keep stacking the simple habits on a weekly basis, as I’m sure you’re already doing. This is in both terms of healing intentions and personal ambitions, and also the space in-between. Great to see you on your path.
About a year ago I made a huge step forward in my therapy and since then my inner critic went from being very noisy to almost quiet (which was very irritating at first, because I wasn’t used to my head being this quiet). I still hear my inner critic from time to time, although I don’t give that talk that much power over me anymore (also shifting it to neutral/positive when it happens) but hearing from you that it is possible to get to a point where I might even forget how that negative self talk sounded - that sounds really awesome. I hope I’ll get to that point as well one day. Thanks for the video.
This video is very helpful and very well explained. Sometimes it is the self talk that isn’t necessarily overtly negative and harsh but a little closer to neutral with a slant towards the negative that can go undetected and therefore subtly undermine my ability to really embrace the positive and encouraging self talk. I appreciated your examples and the way you explained the sliding scale between negative-neutral-positive. It helped me to put a finger on the less obvious self criticism that drags down my mood. I’ll keep working on this. Thanks for exposing the subtleties Jordan. Very helpful!
You’ve absolutely got it. I like your phrase ‘slant towards the negative’ - nicely put, and it really does add up over time. I think the greatest gains are to be made from finding a way to reliably slant towards the positive (without becoming delusional, of course!) Reading comments like yours make me happy to have shared this journal exercise in UA-cam - not the full depth of a module, but good to know it was useful for you in particular, Pamela!
Hello Jordan! May I share my feelings 🌲 This video was so helpful, I felt so inspired, saying to myself he gave me somewhere to start I know what I can do to begin I feel inspired by your neutral way. And I find myself doing that unconsciously And I felt so happy that this video brought me awareness. I also can relate with your feelings as well. Especially the workouts and sleepy eyes Thank you so much, for making these videos. They help me feel not so alone on this journey, and that I have someone to go back to and learn more from. You have helped me become aware to a lot of things inside me. I feel so grateful I hope you have a wonderful day 🌙
I feel like this video missed an opportunity to be a lot more hard-hitting. It's been a long time since I've had issues with negative self talk, but I remember my own negative self talk would be viciously cruel. I think that somebody caught in the grip of that might not resonate with the example of "I look tired today". The video is great and has excellent advice, but I think that if you want to really inspire people to work on this part of themselves - then you might need to give them a little more that they can truly relate to
You're right, you need to remember that these exercises are taken out of context from entire modules where I spend about 3 hours breaking down certain issues. This particular exercise immediately follows two different lectures on Inner Critic psychology and toxic shame, and is then followed up by lessons relating to depression, self-harm and addiction (all shooting off from the Inner Critic!) - tried my best to share what I could, but always further to go.
@@jordanthornton yeah you're right. I was completely discounting the fact that this video is a snippet of a larger (and very emotionally charged) whole.
This idea resemble many others such as the tree of life. It is extremely hard to think logical when you haven't learned to tame the emotional.I feel like It all boils down to the trinity within us all. Mind, body and soul. Once we have them aligned with our highest potential, we will feel beyond amazing. Then for the days which are rough we will know how to deal and cope in healthy ways. However this is my opinion thru my experience, no extensive research on the population haha ..still love this video as I do all the ones I view. Thank you 💜
16:00 I hit that mentality this year, if anything I lean positive, which is crazy having grown up in a critical and even somewhat neglectful house. Honestly it's probably down to a couple years rooting around in the shadow and finding some version of presence I can practice. My mind used to fucking brutalize me.
Thanks Jordan! Been watching a bunch of your videos lately. Very valuable and insightful stuff. Do you happen to have anything on or similar to Non violent communication?
Not something I’ve made a video on, but the principles certainly inform my teaching work at times. My apologies I haven’t got a driver suggestion here - NVC is great!
I can relate with this Jordan. Actually I felt weak in today's workout ;) My mind process went short and was obvious for me - I didn't eat enough before workout, I went kinda hungry, not well fueled. I know my body well to know that I need to eat before to have energy for the whole 2,5h monday workout. I think it's neutral response.
Yeah, even remembering that todays workout is fuelled significantly by the previous night’s dinner (carb load overnight works well) - it’s a logical process, but the inner critic can still arise. I’m glad you’ve got more of that neutral detachment - something to be proud of 🌲
Hi Jordan , thanks for the video . I suffer a lot from negative self talk particularity negative self image /body dysmorphia issues . I have neurotic behaviour where I constantly check myself in the mirror . No matter how much I go to gym and bulk up I always feel I’m scrawny .. I can reframe things all I want but bottom line is my body feels a certain way when I look in mirrors or pictures of myself . It’s really badly affecting my life .. I won’t lie , it’s hell mate .. any resources or pointers to perhaps help in some way ? Thanks a lot mate
Screenshotted your question here brother, and will do my best to make a full video response as soon as I can. I likewise can relate to something similar which affected me between ages 17-22 when I started lifting.
I suffered from the same body-dysmorphia in my teenage and early youth. As my weight increased with little bit of exercise and conscious eating, the thought pattern changed gradually. Now I am a middle-aged person, a bit overweight, and trying to be lighter. 😂 With progressing age, the metabolism will slow down, and you will increase both muscle and fat, even if you do nothing exercise-wise. I think if you take exercise As a process-goal and not as an end-goal, and celebrate and enjoy the improvement ( say, every 6 months ) , that might perhaps shift your thinking a bit. Bodily exercise is a fantastic thing, a lifelong good company. Were you at any time ridiculed by your friends for being scrawny ? Were you ever rejected by any significant other saying something like " No, you are scrawny, I am not interested in you." Teenage people are , unknowingly, remarkably insensitive to others, all because of proving smart to themselves ( and I , when I was a teenager, no exception ) . So, do their judgments and snide remarks have much value ? You think for a moment. Ask any person who have crossed their youth, most of them would say being healthy and energetic is much more important than being scrawny or overweight. Who sets the standard of an ideal weight or ideal figure anyway ? Besides, you ( or 'I' ) are not that important. There are almost billion people in this world. Thousand times more trees, animals, birds and insects. The galaxy is infinite. Your scrawny or overweight matters little or none. On a fun note, are you scrawnier than Mick Jagger? That chap always hooks up with beautiful woman. I don't think he feels ashamed for being scrawny. He has remarkable energy though, even at this age. Shouting for two hours onstage while on feet , sweating, with stage lights all on him, with crowds in front😂, it is remarkable for sure. Focus on your energy, not on being scrawny or overweight. I have seen many muscular people, losing their breath after half an hour of easy walking.
I know that not everybody can afford an online course, but I hope that the fifteen videos in the Shadow Work Playlist will support the next steps of your shadow integration journey.
I created this free playlist to function like a crash-course on shadow psychology with the intention of being as accessible and actionable as possible. I didn't want to stash the basics behind a paywall or email signup - I would rather you keep learning right here on UA-cam.
You can instantly access over five hours of beginner-to-advanced shadow work exercises and lectures with the free playlist linked in the description.
Make sure to take your time with the guided exercises, and don't forget to buy the golden books.
Jordan
P. S. I want to say a heartfelt thank you to this comments section community. My channel is niche, and you've seen the Inner Work Library slowly expand over the last two years. I feel fortunate to receive such deep and genuine connections online, and UA-cam recently told me that there have been more than 4000 unique commentors across my entire channel.
Thank you for showing up, I appreciate you.
If you want more depth, we can meet inside the library:
courses.jordanthornton.com/shadow-work-library/
This is the technique/exercise my pricey , my brilliant therapist taught me. It works crazy well..i do have it in my "The Best Of Cathy" spiral notebook. Yeah, the "I Should " ruled my world from age 4 to age 60. It works with rough health situations and challenges .
Personally I found reframing with unconditional self-love felt immediately gratifying, but as it had no stable foundation, always fell hollow.
Your detached reality perspective / neutral self talk is far more useful, actionable and achievable as a first step for people changing their negative self talk in the long term, and not a short-lived feel good. This is the kind of reframing that can give long term real changes.
Also appreciate your mention of noting healthy negativity and toxic positivity 🙏🏼
Such a wonderful and insightful comment, thank you for your continued support - I hope you enjoy the course!
Thank you. Its divine synchronicity for me to find your channel.
Welcome, you're in great company here. Enjoy stacking your shelves with new books.
Ten years, my I am an infant at this just began this journey I just want to heal
best content on UA-cam. love you work Jordan.
Thank you, brother. I'm proud of this course and the many long days required to understand the material and put together videos like this!
Consider getting involved in the library if you want the full experience. I designed the curriculum to shortcut your learning journey and streamline the process to hopefully save you a couple thousand hours of unstructured reading / content consumption so you can focus your willpower elsewhere - keep crushing it with your consistency, my man.
@@jordanthornton I appreciate the effort you put into your content and your ability to articulate complex concepts. As someone striving for excellence, I find your dedication admirable. I want to express my gratitude for helping me in comprehending and addressing my own challenges, while also inspiring me to word harder on my own journey.
my current financial situation prevents me from purchasing the course at the moment. However, as it improves, I will invest in it, I have no doubt that the course is full of value.
Thank you for your encouraging words, Jordan. Keep up the good work mate!
Totally understand your situation, brother - make sure to keep stacking the simple habits on a weekly basis, as I’m sure you’re already doing. This is in both terms of healing intentions and personal ambitions, and also the space in-between. Great to see you on your path.
thanks and love again. Grateful for you putting out these series all while also launching your product.
Giving away as much as I can, cheers!
You're looking particularly handsome today, Jordan . Thank you for the videos 🎉
Maybe not the comment I expected on an inner critic healing video...
@@jordanthornton now be kinder to yourself and see through this comment 🤣
About a year ago I made a huge step forward in my therapy and since then my inner critic went from being very noisy to almost quiet (which was very irritating at first, because I wasn’t used to my head being this quiet). I still hear my inner critic from time to time, although I don’t give that talk that much power over me anymore (also shifting it to neutral/positive when it happens) but hearing from you that it is possible to get to a point where I might even forget how that negative self talk sounded - that sounds really awesome. I hope I’ll get to that point as well one day. Thanks for the video.
This is excellent news, and inspirational for anybody scrolling the comments. Thank you for sharing some of your story - something to be proud of 🌲
This video is very helpful and very well explained. Sometimes it is the self talk that isn’t necessarily overtly negative and harsh but a little closer to neutral with a slant towards the negative that can go undetected and therefore subtly undermine my ability to really embrace the positive and encouraging self talk. I appreciated your examples and the way you explained the sliding scale between negative-neutral-positive. It helped me to put a finger on the less obvious self criticism that drags down my mood. I’ll keep working on this. Thanks for exposing the subtleties Jordan. Very helpful!
You’ve absolutely got it. I like your phrase ‘slant towards the negative’ - nicely put, and it really does add up over time. I think the greatest gains are to be made from finding a way to reliably slant towards the positive (without becoming delusional, of course!)
Reading comments like yours make me happy to have shared this journal exercise in UA-cam - not the full depth of a module, but good to know it was useful for you in particular, Pamela!
Hello Jordan!
May I share my feelings 🌲
This video was so helpful, I felt so inspired, saying to myself
he gave me somewhere to start
I know what I can do to begin
I feel inspired by your neutral way.
And I find myself doing that unconsciously
And I felt so happy that this video brought me awareness.
I also can relate with your feelings as well.
Especially the workouts and sleepy eyes
Thank you so much,
for making these videos.
They help me feel not so alone on this journey, and that I have someone to go back to and learn more from.
You have helped me become aware to a lot of things inside me.
I feel so grateful
I hope you have a wonderful day
🌙
Always appreciate your considerate and detailed comments here - glad you’ve been enjoying the channel and we’re learning together
@@jordanthornton I really have, thank you!
This comment makes me feel so happy.
I look forward to watching more of your videos.
🌲🌙
I feel like this video missed an opportunity to be a lot more hard-hitting. It's been a long time since I've had issues with negative self talk, but I remember my own negative self talk would be viciously cruel. I think that somebody caught in the grip of that might not resonate with the example of "I look tired today". The video is great and has excellent advice, but I think that if you want to really inspire people to work on this part of themselves - then you might need to give them a little more that they can truly relate to
Agree completely.
You're right, you need to remember that these exercises are taken out of context from entire modules where I spend about 3 hours breaking down certain issues. This particular exercise immediately follows two different lectures on Inner Critic psychology and toxic shame, and is then followed up by lessons relating to depression, self-harm and addiction (all shooting off from the Inner Critic!) - tried my best to share what I could, but always further to go.
@@jordanthornton yeah you're right. I was completely discounting the fact that this video is a snippet of a larger (and very emotionally charged) whole.
Gratitude 🙏
I love that you offer tools.
Of course - I hope you found value here, check out the playlist too for more!
This idea resemble many others such as the tree of life. It is extremely hard to think logical when you haven't learned to tame the emotional.I feel like It all boils down to the trinity within us all. Mind, body and soul. Once we have them aligned with our highest potential, we will feel beyond amazing. Then for the days which are rough we will know how to deal and cope in healthy ways. However this is my opinion thru my experience, no extensive research on the population haha ..still love this video as I do all the ones I view. Thank you 💜
Thanks for these reflections, and yes - it's hard to access the logic when ever the emotional has its disruptions.
Great presentation!
Upon human mindfulness
The mind is the receiver to the universe ✨
Very nicely said! Thanks 🌲
thank you Jordan
My pleasure! Happy to help.
Thank you! What a wonderful exercise with helpful explanation.
It’s simple, but powerful. Thanks for taking part.
16:00 I hit that mentality this year, if anything I lean positive, which is crazy having grown up in a critical and even somewhat neglectful house. Honestly it's probably down to a couple years rooting around in the shadow and finding some version of presence I can practice. My mind used to fucking brutalize me.
I know what you mean, and it does take the time to get to the root of these moments. Thanks for sharing here again, Ben.
Thank you, Jordan! This is useful.
Always welcome, enjoy!
Thank you Jordan 🌝
You're so welcome!
Thanks Jordan! Been watching a bunch of your videos lately. Very valuable and insightful stuff. Do you happen to have anything on or similar to Non violent communication?
Not something I’ve made a video on, but the principles certainly inform my teaching work at times. My apologies I haven’t got a driver suggestion here - NVC is great!
@@jordanthornton no worries, appreciate the quick response!
I can relate with this Jordan. Actually I felt weak in today's workout ;) My mind process went short and was obvious for me - I didn't eat enough before workout, I went kinda hungry, not well fueled. I know my body well to know that I need to eat before to have energy for the whole 2,5h monday workout. I think it's neutral response.
Yeah, even remembering that todays workout is fuelled significantly by the previous night’s dinner (carb load overnight works well) - it’s a logical process, but the inner critic can still arise. I’m glad you’ve got more of that neutral detachment - something to be proud of 🌲
What do you make of holographic breathing to increase dmt production maybe a little tall on that would help
Not something I’ve done or care about, I’m afraid. Not my area of expertise 😅
Hi Jordan , thanks for the video . I suffer a lot from negative self talk particularity negative self image /body dysmorphia issues . I have neurotic behaviour where I constantly check myself in the mirror . No matter how much I go to gym and bulk up I always feel I’m scrawny .. I can reframe things all I want but bottom line is my body feels a certain way when I look in mirrors or pictures of myself . It’s really badly affecting my life .. I won’t lie , it’s hell mate .. any resources or pointers to perhaps help in some way ? Thanks a lot mate
Screenshotted your question here brother, and will do my best to make a full video response as soon as I can. I likewise can relate to something similar which affected me between ages 17-22 when I started lifting.
@@jordanthornton thanks mate please let me know when you get a chance to address . I will look out also .. thanks again
@@stephen7724 Seeing your comment now as I'm planning videos for 2024 - expect this in January, thanks for the follow up prompt.
@@jordanthornton thanks a lot mate . Have a nice break
I suffered from the same body-dysmorphia in my teenage and early youth. As my weight increased with little bit of exercise and conscious eating, the thought pattern changed gradually. Now I am a middle-aged person, a bit overweight, and trying to be lighter. 😂
With progressing age, the metabolism will slow down, and you will increase both muscle and fat, even if you do nothing exercise-wise.
I think if you take exercise As a process-goal and not as an end-goal, and celebrate and enjoy the improvement ( say, every 6 months ) , that might perhaps shift your thinking a bit. Bodily exercise is a fantastic thing, a lifelong good company.
Were you at any time ridiculed by your friends for being scrawny ? Were you ever rejected by any significant other saying something like " No, you are scrawny, I am not interested in you." Teenage people are , unknowingly, remarkably insensitive to others, all because of proving smart to themselves ( and I , when I was a teenager, no exception ) . So, do their judgments and snide remarks have much value ? You think for a moment.
Ask any person who have crossed their youth, most of them would say being healthy and energetic is much more important than being scrawny or overweight. Who sets the standard of an ideal weight or ideal figure anyway ?
Besides, you ( or 'I' ) are not that important. There are almost billion people in this world. Thousand times more trees, animals, birds and insects. The galaxy is infinite. Your scrawny or overweight matters little or none.
On a fun note, are you scrawnier than Mick Jagger? That chap always hooks up with beautiful woman. I don't think he feels ashamed for being scrawny. He has remarkable energy though, even at this age. Shouting for two hours onstage while on feet , sweating, with stage lights all on him, with crowds in front😂, it is remarkable for sure.
Focus on your energy, not on being scrawny or overweight. I have seen many muscular people, losing their breath after half an hour of easy walking.