Green Flags in Relationships
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- Опубліковано 30 жов 2022
- We always talk about red flags to be aware of in relationships. But what about green flags to look out for even before you start seriously seeing someone? Leave a comment with green flags that you also look out for in current or potential partners and let's get chatting!
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Jules, Lornzie, Ivy x - Розваги
🎊A hearty CONGRATULATIONS to you Lornzie!!!🎊 May motherhood be everything you wished for and more🙏🏾!! Also want to acknowledge the dedication you've showed to this channel during your pregnancy👏🏾👏🏾!!! You've not missed any episode🙌🏾!!! You've worked even in the last trimester and we see it and appreciate it💐💐💐💐!!! Ata time ya wedding you didn't miss an episode!!! You're the epitome of dedication girl
Green flags💚
True that!
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We love you Lornzieeeee ❤❤❤❤❤❤
We love u mama. She's flames
A green flag for me is an affectionate man. There’s nothing sexier than a guy who gets back home and wants to hug me for a couple of minutes, hold my hands on the street, kiss my forehead when I’m tired. Affection is absolutely everything
I'm with you girl ✅
same!!
Lornzie l will always love you for your commitment.....of all the girls you are the only one who has never been too busy for this.....never missed an episode and for that we appreciate you
She is committed, although the absence of others is not a sign of a lack of commitment!
She is one of the people among them that initiated the need for over25 as a youtube channel
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I used to compromise on financial stability. Not again. The world revolves around money.
I used to compromise on sex, NEVER EVER again. I starved for two years, it drove me mad.
I used to compromise on distance, not again. If you are not in the same city as me, date people from your city. Leave me alone.
Date people from your city 😂
Wow
Love this
Girl can we friends yessssss
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Ivy has come such a long way with her style. Her look is BANGING!!
In love with Ivy's outfit!!!
The question might not be "WHY ARE YOU IN THERAPY" coz that might come off as intrusive. But coz you also want to know who you are dealing with. The way to phrase that would be, "WOULD YOU MIND TELLING ME ABOUT IT". OR "WOW WHAT IS THERAPY LIKE?". they will tell you sth that will give you a hint of what it's about.
I previously compromised on my importance in the relationship. Like it didn't really matter what I wanted,as long as my partner was happy,but I've learnt how to place value on my own wants and expectations,and it's honestly amazing to have someone place as much value on me as I do on them.
Please introduce that chicken... It's officially the other member of Over 25 🤗😄
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I love Lornize’s work ethic never misses an episode 😊
Totally with Lonzie on not being able to fight. Expressing when I am angry is so hard coz the emotion would overwhelm me and I would just give up on my stand and let the other person take the day. BUT, I am learning to express myself even in hard conversations. Even though it means waiting just a little to get my thoughts in order. So that I can express without the blockage of emotions.
Gai🙊 me too🥴
The emotions overtake me n am either balling my eyes out or yelling my tiny head off until I loose direction n run over anything n everything 🙈
I get you Lornzie on not being able to express yourself in an intense conversation😩. I have that weakness.
Me 3.
My red flag: The moment I feel hurt, I become someone else..I forget that we need to preserve the relationship..I go for the jugular, I’ll say anything and everything to hurt them back. And then I end up regretting because I didn’t mean anything I said.
Try silence babe🤐
@@Anyango31 Yeah exactly we don’t start it, we get provoked. But tbh it is a problem, we need to self reflect and maybe find out why we feel the need to exert revenge or fight with no end in mind. Maybe we have childhood traumas and we didn’t learn healthy conflict management. I am seriously working on it; these days I catch myself doing it and I have to talk myself down.
I love this episode soo much.... a different vibe from the normal conversation of red flags always....its always great to listen to you ladies....Great insights ❤️❤️💯💯💯
A suggestion,,could you ladies do Your OOTDs just at the beginning of your episodes?
One of my red flags is that I hold grudges 😭..I don't let things slide unless you apologize and most of the time it's the little things being said or done and that person is unaware
Awareness is the first step to healing
What Lornzie said about being unable to articulate yourself in a fight is also true for me. I'd rather not talk about it, but I also want to solve the issue there and then, but if I try to, I'll most likely cry and I don't want to be seen as weak. So I postpone to when we're not together I text the issue. So far it has been working, but its because I don't live with my partner, I have to work on it though, for the long run.
Exactly how you described it is exactly how I am. I'm also working on it, really trying
major green flags for me or what I found in my partner is being focused, disciplined, respectful and secure.
My own personal red flag is that I shut down emotionally when I feel hurt, and if I have to articulate that hurt I instead respond and explain the anger instead of the pain I’m actually feeling. I’m working on it though😅. Lord knows I’m trying 😅
Liked before watching ❤❤❤ Lonzie praying for your safe delivery and that’s a green flag perrriiiooodddttttt 😊
Jules not understanding how someone can’t fight (from Lornzie) is how you know she’s just that girl 😂😂😂😂😂😭
I love the mood in this video, Idk the circumstances behind it being like this but I love it. Really shows how important and serious the issue of GREEN FLAGS are and we need to look out for them.
Dating in different financial brackets is very difficult. I couldn't do it and straight up told him "it's because you don't have money". Yo! I was planning to buy a house, and he was planning to fix his 14k phone. No, ah ah no. Sharing problems is hard, one time I needed 245k to solve a problem all I got was "wueh, sorry babe". It's hard to even think of going for simple drinks because you have to factor in their financial muscle. No, lasted 3days. I couldn't do it.
So, how do you deal with this in a poor country like Kenya where they are so few men with money?
you needed 245k in 3 days?
@@ngusalearnold8044 hehe not the takeaway bruh
This confirms women can't date down, a rich woman cant tolerate a poor man but a rich man can tolerate a poor lady. Thats why men should be ruthless once they get cash.
@@honeststranger1070 yes. Very true & I actually think it’s biological. Based on the theory of survival of the species. Men with less look weaker - physically, intellectually & mentally
I was just watching your former videos waiting on this upload. Love you!!!
I'm I the only one that thinks chivalry is such a green flag... when done in kindness and honest emotion?😅😅
No, it really is. I love chivalrous men. I can also tell the fakers, they stress the small details and fail at big things like making sure you got home safe and planning a thoughtful date.
Like you have put it ladies, a man with a solid sense of self is priceless. In touch with his emotions and season in life, along with a sense of humour.
I relate with Lornzie so much . I hate confrontations so much I'd rather not articulate my feelings even when I really should ,it sometimes gives avoidant enery but am so overwhelmed by the emotions and how hurt I am., I'd just rather sweep it under the rug or leave all together. I hate it 😩
Having good relationships with their own family members is a green flag.
Someone who lets me be and make my own mistakes(because I'm not a child!) is a green flag...
Me too someone with pride and ego, that's enough to push me away from a guy....I can really really relate...
A green flag for me is someone who let's you express yourself, let's you be yourself and gives you the space and freedom to grow and learn especially from the mistakes we make, as your biggest cheerleader.
Red flag that I overcame is putting my happiness and others before myself, thinking I was being selfless, whereas I just wasn't loving myself knowing and appreciating my worth.
Your red flag is my recent red flag thought I was alone on this
@@mwangievelyn1173 mwangi and wangare on one thread talking about putting themselves first... not surprised ..only luo men can handle you..mimi njuguna nili give up..😅
Great Green flags 🇲🇴 that are important to know & identify, thanks for this talk ladies! 👏🏾💕
It's about time we discuss the green flags.
Being open to talk about this, is a green flag already 😊
TO me its honestly, I dated my current husband for 2 years ,one year in long distance and 1 together and now I have been married for one year but I haven't noticed anything new apart from positive changes, I don't know how this dude managed to tell me almost everything
Lucky 🍀 you❤️
One thing I love about every episode is I get to learn something new, for this specific episode, I've learnt about money seasons 😊
I have learnt attachment types
Yaaay early gang😄💃🏿. Monday made😊. Nawapenda❤️. Shikie feel better you are missed.
For me my green flags are; 1-a man who is intentional and knows exactly what he wants with me. 2-Puts in the effort and keeps his word. A man who keeps his promise on whatever he said. That's attractive I cannot deal with boys who tell lies. I used to compromise dating avoidant men and yet I was an insecure person according to my attachment style
Ivy has a great mind👌💯... definitely a mentor in so many aspects 💕
What Ivy is describing is a high EQ, self-driven and self-disciplined person
You look good ladies😍, excited to watch this episode ❤️
eish, these episodes streak have just been the -ish for me. This entire video is a green flag for my relationship with the channel. The uncomfortable conversations thing, yhooo!!! Very key.
Oh gosh, such a good conversation! I used to compromise on faith, like that is not something I can do at all right now. I do not compromise on people that do not believe in God, atheists. It works for some but definitely not me. I tried and it was just sad all the time. Kept thinking the person would come around. No compromise on rudeness, alcohol, smoking, or any drug-related things. It is a downward spiral I never want to go through again.🙂
Me too sunshine 🌞
I pray for that Jules get a good man or a son/daughter soon ☺️such a beautiful soul you deserve lots of happiness 🥰
Leo mmetuweka sana priss!!! 🙃
Great episode , we love you
Things I don't compromise in friendships and relationships
1-Poor hygiene
2-Poor character and not wanting to improve on their character
3-Saying 'this is who I am, like me or leave'
4-Pride and arrogance
5-Lack of empathy to animals and people
6-Laziness
7-Spirituality or my relationship with God
8-Toxic masculinity or toxic feminism
Inability to recognize wrong or apologize
9-Reciprocity
10- Jealousy and Malice
11-Kindness
Laziness is relative..
@@sallyjunewendo9509 yea it is
Yaaaas lets keep it positive for once. Great episode ladies!
I used to be anxious. Now I am an avoidant from fear of opening up.
Great show, as always!! Jules Ioove your hair. 😍😍
Ivy's outfit today 😻😻😻😻
Already liked the video before watching it cause I know it's some good stuff
Me too
Much love ladies ♥️ I'm always glued to this channel and have got no regrets. May I get to know the name of Jules' hair? Kindly. I love it
Best UA-cam Channel ever 💜💜.... May Shikie feel better
Ivy, those colours make you look even 🔥🔥
“Not good at articulating my thoughtd when upset “- Lucky you Lonzie …. Because me I have to hold myself back from talkong
My green flag is a kind man. My husband is so kind it is almost unnatural. However, his kindness has seen us through some difficult moments. Every woman needs a kind man/woman.
My other green flag is Lornzie's level of commitment on this channel. On that you're a total 12/10 because I can't remember you ever missing an episode even when pregnant. Hats off to you for giving it the seriousness it deserves.
Safe delivery Lornzie ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Congratulations Lorna ❤️
Loved the conversation ladies wah the money thing so true juls.
The mmmh...while listening to each other is cute!😊
You people are serving us looks. Flames flames
This is so enlightening! Thanks guys🤍🤍
wooowww Lornzieeee I freaking have the same red flag, I CANNOT talk when arguing
With you all on the kindness, watching how one interacts with people around them can tell a lot.
Are people happy to see them? Even when they don't deserve it, are they good to people they aren't bedding?
Learnt not to compromise on: a lack of ambition, a sense of curiosity, reliability.
Red flags: Consistent money problems, poor body hygiene and no purpose/direction in their career.
Green flag, Kenyanness (the sense of humour + the 'enjoyment' spirit this comes with), socio-economic progress.
I love how live this conversations are...like this is just not a recording.....the reflections....the realness...i mean over 25,30 ...35 anyday anytime....tuendelee hadi 70
This is the best video have watched from this channel. Chaos free and vibess.. I wish I knew more abbout this avoidant and insecures stuff.. but babes this was such a peaceful video that really synced with my vibrations.. sina maneno❤️
They have a video on attachment styles.
@@bumblebee4280 thanks alot😊
I love, I love the conversation, so enligtening♥♥👏
I love ivy's outfit
I saw a joke somewhere 'one thing bout me is I like to see how red the flags can get'
It's nice checking out the green flags too tho..
Loved what Jules said bout pros cancelling cons...they don't necessarily have to but if they wld..why not
Wow I can't be in agood connection with you and we are broke awill be so sad 🤣🤣😂😂you guys are everything I asked God thanks for this deep wisdom darlings I can relate 🙏30s are amazing Iam enjoying the part of communicating clearly , self awareness and not compromising on anything with anyone without fear or fevour ❤️❤️❤️❤️yet looking out for the best in every thing and every one while I work on self to be my best version.
I believe in this ladies more than I believe in myself plis 🙂 thank you for being the big sisters I don't have in my surroundings
missed you girls❤️❤️❤️
I like this twist!
Great topic even for me in my late 40s good question on how to keep partners super interested...is it sustainable or fake
The conflict avoidance Lorna is talking about is a freeze response.
I think bembela is cajole, persuade, coax in english?
Good afternoon ladies and welcome here🤗
This was great! Please bring in the men to talk about the green flags. Thanks
Ivy I love your outfit!
Thanks for the video.Kindly share the title of the book your therapist commended.
Loving this topic ladies! I think After Benjamin Zulu chat, you all seem more contemplative?
As always, thanks for the gems ladies!
What are you talking about this episode was shot on the same day as that of zulu ,just give them their flowers zulu has nothing to do with this
@@Faith-er2ri yes it was the same day. I’m just guessing that the Zulu one was filmed before this one. They seem a bit more quiet than usual. Am i not allowed to comment? Or they hired you to vet the chat.
@@Jojo-pv3uf the bouncers of the comment section of this channel will pounce on you for simply complimenting the ladies without licking their behinds. Take heart , I’ve been there 😂
Ivys style evolution should be studied 😊...gorgeous.😍
Out of topic but can you guys have an episode on having kids in the modern day and the phobia on the new generation.because am 25,and i've been so anti kids like i genuinly can't get a single beneficial reason to why people should get kids.ppl look at me weird when i say i don't like kids and don't see why i should have them,and i hate that they try to change my mind but this is how i feel.from what i see kids just take from you for the rest of your life and all you get is some giggles.i strongly believe it's solely for procreation and that alone.and only those who have a strong tolerance, will to fight and perseverence can do it.this other reasons people give don't make sense at all.
Apparently the benefit is the kids themselves but I'm still not sold. Childfree for life. People's opinions don't faze me anymore, I'm always like what will you benefit from "changing" my mind? You want us to be miserable together? Lol.
I share the same sentiments. As of now I don't want kids. Maybe past 30 when I'm sure I have the capacity to give my babies a wholesome life I might change but sahi staki
@@itsme_Andi how though?or it's the old tale of they'll help you in the future?But do they?is it really their responsibility because from my own experience parents be trying to live through their kids.ounce they get of age they struggle to get a life for themselves but at the same time parents expect them to take care of them something i find so selfish.
me tooooooo
@@okum5092 That's what baffles me too. I think some are just in love with the aesthetic of having a family and never really think through the whole idea of parenthood so they can decide if that's what they truly want. I think it's selfish to bring someone to this earth just because you don't want to be lonely in your old age. But then, their choices don't affect me so I try to respect that. There are awesome parents out there though who are doing an amazing job and it warms my CF heart to see them give their kids a non-toxic childhood.
Y'all are looking sooo niiiiceee in this episode🥰🥰🥰🥰...... love Jules' dress, Lornzie's jacket and Ivy is looking so yummy🥰🥰🥰🥰
Mine: consistency and effort.
am addicted to your channel i think you should have podcast
green flag just as red flag is more of a personality,character and habits. For me an accountability, empathethy, kindness and honesty.are some of the green flags I appreciate in a person and a big turn on,whether in intimate relations or otherwise.
Money seasons❤️Ivy!!!
take home
be mysterious that keeps the fire burning
If you have to pressurize someone to do something that relationship will not work
What were pple talking about avoidant, insecure asif personalities. i understand the words but i think there is something bigger i don't know here.
I love just ivy
You are Goodnesses!
In the same vein ,could you do an episode on your toxic traits.
There's a fine and thin line btw being confident and arrogant
I Love this episode soooo much!
As a counsellor and as a person who goes to therapy, its inappropriate to ask why someone is in therapy. Just my opinion. I cant imagine telling someone what i am working on with my therapist. Its just weird. Life coach maybe, but iiisshhh😆😆😆😅😅😅
Hi Guys, I have an issue I feel I needto know whether its a green or red flag.
May partner is proposing to me to let her have her time out for like a week then come back. She wants leave me behind with our child during that period.
What can I do. It's really troubling me soooo much. I thought as a family we are a priority during that time out.
I suggest you talk and ask her why she feels she needs time out. Be very open and receptive and ask from a place of wanting to understand not fight.
Jules hair 🔥
I used to bit myself thinking about money issues in rship. I have been vindicated. True:no romance without finance
what is the name of Jules hair? somebarry help
She usually has a highlight on her IG for every hairdo she does, please check, hope it helps... Thanks.
Been a while since I kept up with my online big sisters.....
Another videos for my archives...🔥🤟🏽 Gracias Over 25...