Let's talk about 5 positive traits of OCPD (Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder)
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- Опубліковано 8 чер 2024
- OCPD isn't all bad. We're pretty good with a few things. I think the thing that makes it awful is the crippling need for perfection.
So if you're having a bad day and you're feeling lousy (and you have OCPD), here are 5 things that make you awesome.
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She is terrific! Described me in detail. 65 yr old diagnosed with OCPD 12 years ago. The upside of my experience is, after escaping from alcoholic and abusive parents was able to my fulfill dreams transitioning from construction worker to scientist then business manager to corporate executive. Published a number of peer reviewed papers, lectured at universities and instutions around the world, all without attending a university. The degrees came later LOL. Loved participating in think tanks where I would be the only one without a Ph.D., and end up winning the consulting gigs. Piloted my own aircraft with lots of IMC IFR time, a rush. Love the positive aspects of OCPD. The downside really sucks if there are forced career changes. Took me some time and therapy to adapt. To all those wrestling with this wonderful personality disorder- You have gift to excel at whatever you set you mind on to accomplish. Grow your empathy! Remember to love yourself, love your family and especially love the wonderful Creator of all things.
Another Positive Trait - People with OCPD are VERY responsible/reliable. I can always be sure my friend with OCPD will take care of things. He will never be flaky or not should up if he said he were going to do something. Another great trait - They are not over-reactive. They can hold everything in (which can be good and bad...) and respond calmly during arguments or uncomfortable conversations. That is such a blessing for people who are more emotional/reactive!
This is a fantastic comment, and very true too! It's great hearing about positive OCPD traits from the perspective of a close friend or family member. Thank you for posting this, I really appreciate it :)
Thank you for making me smile on a hard day, I am 30 years old and just learned I have OCPD. This was beautiful, and I know my brain is beautiful too. I am an EXCELLENT planner. I have planned some amazing trips for my husband and I. Its my obsession with research and knowledge, I research the hell out of everything and find the best deals!
Same but I didnt realize it was related to a pathology! LOL I just thought it was passion but idk anyone doing 50 hours of travel research & writing daily itineraries with every restaurant planned😂
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You have no idea how this video helped me today. I'm a scientist and I work in a technology company and my dedication and passion for learning, and even motivation makes me a kind of crazy childish freak. I'm even crying. Thanks, thanks, thanks!!!
this is the best ocpd channel I ever seen 👏 because the examples💪 the other channels just repeat the dms 5 symptoms with no examples..examples are very important because improve our capacity to identify the symptoms.thanks eden 🙏God bless you and hello from Puerto Rico 🇵🇷
I’ve been trying to understand my brain and came upon this. Not all, but a lot of these points fit me. I have some aspects of my life that I obsess about, my art, fitness, different cultures for example. The problem is I find it hard to regulate and when I obsess over one thing, the others tend to disappear. This seems to happen in a 3-6 month pattern. I just want consistency in the things that are important to me.
Diagnosed today. Your videos are the only ones that I enjoy and can focus on. Absolutly love your 1st hand life proof not read from a book. Please keep up with these videos. HUGE HELP
I am very dependable. If I say I'm going to do something, I will. I'm also very honest. I rather be honest and face whatever consequences because lying makes me feel like I am a bad person
The learning thing.... oh. My. God. THIS IS WHAT CAUSES IT 🤣🤣🤣 💀 damn.
OMFG what is this video! I just had a talk with my psychiatrist today who after 2 years introduced me to the idea not to look into "avoiding" my problems but to find ways to embrace my personality. This is me! I am not the smartest person but I am addicted to researching and learning just like you described. I just got a negative remark in my rehab facility for trying to fix their plotter problem and figuring out their IT was blocking updates - "wasting time". You rock Lady!
Thank you very kindly for this video. I am so tired of those around me pointing out the negatives of OCPD. I always believed everything you are saying in this video. We have HUGE advantages that we should be using for our benefit. We have many traits that others just do not possess and are very much in a positive light. Thank you again, I really enjoyed this, and needed this reminder. I'm going to keep it on file to remind me of the good stuff. God bless you in all your endeavors!
I really needed that! Couldn't agree with you more, Eden. In my life the biggest obstacle is just that I don't get GOOD ENOUGH OPPORTUNITIES to SHOW all this! Super high personal standards you know...
Thank you so much for these kind words, I have been suffering with PTSD for just under a year now, through therapy and treatment I've discovered there's certainly a lot more wrong with me than just my anxiety reaction to the trauma, I had been wracking my brain and doing an unhealthy amount of research into other MH conditions when I stumbled upon OCPD. I thought I might be ASD, I thought I might have OCD, I was "trying on all the shoes" to see which one fit. OCPD is literally my entire life, everything all these videos talk about is me as a person inside and out, constantly getting called a Grammar N**i, Getting told I'm way too obsessed with details (in a nice or mean way) and so on and so forth, it's finally liberating to know this is a developed behavioural disorder and I'm not just this anal insufferable person that everyone hates to be around. I am valued by some, I do have positive traits, it's not all negative. Hopefully I can find some treatment and support to mitigate the negative aspects and I have no problem at all identifying and keeping the positive aspects. Thank you so much again.
OCPD'ers go ahead and find at least 3-5 spelling and grammatical mistakes in this comment, it's probably quite easy because I was excited to express my appreciation for this video.
The thing is, properly written sentances just look nicer. I honestly don't see what's wrong with pointing out really glaring grammar errors like when people say their or there or even they're in the wrong way! actually hurts to look at lol
While some of the traits she mentions are indeed true (at face value), the way she explains them is incredibly simplistic and needs far more context. For example, in my case, my perfectionism and need to over-analyze and over-research everything is one of the most crippling traits of my personality, specially at work and in an academic setting. I spend sooo much time researching every new thing that comes my way, that I end up lagging behind my peers, because I don't have common sense telling me to stop and move on to the next thing. I keep doubting myself when making choices (if the one I picked is the most correct or profitable either in terms of time and/or money) that I end up getting stuck in small tasks that one should be able to resolve quickly. And even worse is that I never develop a "work method" because since I keep second guessing my decisions, the next day I'll try doing the same task differently, to make sure there isn't a better way to do things. And it's a never ending cycle. While my peers are moving on to more complex and larger concepts, I'm stuck in the small details I noticed in the beginning, never going further. Like she said, people with OCPD do indeed notice the smaller details that others might not (which might cause attritions), but at the cost of missing the bigger picture, many times. It's despairing and makes it very difficult to work with others (and to keep up with others' pacing). I wish it was as advantageous as she makes it sound like, but all I want is to get rid of this sickening, never satiable perfectionism.
I really appreciate where you're coming from with your thoughts. I struggled with perfectionism for years before I worked to understand the reasons behind my perfectionism and strategies to push through the barriers I would create for myself. If you are struggling with your perfectionism, working with a professional therapist is a much, much better option than a random video of mine on youtube. A psychologist who specialised in Dialectical Behaviour Therapy or Cognitive Behaviour Therapy could be very helpful for you in understanding and overcoming your perfectionism. Best of luck to you for the future and I hope you succeed!
It's exactly the same here for me: I have a tendency to get fired because I'm perceived as being a slow worker - meanwhile I'm researching/experimenting to improve their processes, of which they are unable to perceive the small but compounding inefficiencies.. If only they gave me just a little more time, I could save them a huge amount of time and unnecessary (frequently repeated, effort.
Yes yes yes! I work as a barber and I'm always getting in trouble for being too slow. I obsessed every single night about the best way to do things.
I am textbook case of OCPD except for the collecting/hoarding trait. On the contrary having too many things distracts me and I am extremely minimalistic and frugal (with a list of my possessions of course!). I even have an everyday checklist of things I want to do for my self-improvement (like gym, learning-courses and skills, house order, beauty appointments etc). All these are egosyntonic as mentioned in the video. The downside to it is that it is hard to coexist with other people (except if they have OCD traits as well) because they are so messy and disorganised and frankly incompetent at times. Also social gatherings feel like a waste of time especially if they don't serve a purpose. Relationships and major decisions and risks like buying a car or house is a problem too because of the underlying perfectionism.
I feel called out! Ha ha!! Love love this and all the frank candor. Thank you for making these for everyone. Diversity is natural and showing the realness of humanity is refreshing! Thanks again!
Eden, thank you so much for your video! ☺️ I'm still undiagnosed but thanks to you I can *at last* pinpoint my disorder... Alleluia!! 😇
Also, thank you for your encouragement at the end of the video! Keep up the great work 💖
Quick Summary
1. Need to learn. Research all the time. Learn fast.
2. Perfect workers. Very dedicated to our jobs and our work.
3. Very organized.
4. Very good at noticing detail.
5. Very dedicated.
Eden, I am so happy to have found you! Your videos have helped me understand my condition so much. I'm a 65 YO woman in the US, and I recently self-diagnosed as OCPD using Dr Troscair's list on his blog and am working with his book Healthy Compulsive. I just left an unhappy relationship and l really needed to see this video. The breakup is making me feel hopeless to find a healthy, loving relationship with a partner despite my disorder. I am seeing an awesome therapist. Thank thank thank you! JB
I just found your videos today. I watched the one about the niche traits of those with ocpd first and now this one. I have to say that this all resonates with me so completely. Your videos make me feel like it's ok to accept myself as I am instead of feeling like I need to change (I'm constantly trying to improve myself). I felt like the only thing you mentioned that was a but different for me is the response to change. I did used to really hate change, but if I feel in control of the change- I feel better. I change several things rather frequently, like my hairstyle, dress, and household furniture. I keep seeking the perfect arrangement of things. It is very hard for me to leave things alone because I constantly see where things can be improved (good trait for engineers and those who work in tech where efficiency is valued!)
I'm going to talk to my psychiatrist about this tomorrow morning and see what she says. As you might have guessed, I'm constantly searching for the perfect diagnosis 😅
Great video and content, but I did find the music a bit distracting. I tend to like very cut and dry information, but that is just personal preference.
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I really appreciate you sharing your honest thoughts and feedback with me, thank you! I can definitely relate to the constant search for perfection, and I'm also the type to feel good about change if I am the one in charge of it. My music for example, I've switched from chiptune (the kind in this video) to lo-fi instrumental in my later videos. I personally love chiptune, but these videos are for you, not for me, and others have also mentioned that it can be distracting. I hope your discussion with your psychiatrist was productive :)
This video gives me hope. Thank you!
True, i just recently discover that I have OCPD.
I always thought that there was something about me, if an idea gets Into my mind deep enough, I can put an insane amount on energy until I get it. When I visualize something I want bad enough I know sooner or later I’ll make it happen.
At the same time I struggle to get negative ideas out of my head and in the heat of the moment I’ll take my weird ideas to their last consequence once on a while.
Is my gift and my burden
Thanks so much for this! It’s exactly what I needed to hear today. 🦋
I love seeing this in another light ♥️
Wow really glad I stumbled across this video today. This is exactly what I need to hear today. Thank you so much. ☺️
Bingo! Good at noticing the small details! So true!
Found you on Reddit r/ocpd and your videos are so helpful. OCPD is a recent discovery for me and this video helped so much. Thank you
Glad I could help! :) Also nice to hear that we connected over Reddit, I practically live there some days.
Hell yeah Eden!
Congrats on the 109 subs! ❤
This was what I needed to hear, thank you so much!
I just found this channel. Thank you ❤😌
So glad that I found this! Diagnosed with OCPD. I understand what it means but haven't been able to process it very well. Really helpful.
So much truth in this! When tasked to update standards at the dental office . I read the complete O.S.H.A compliance manual front to back.
Loved the positive focus of your video
I love editing other peoples work. I find it cathartic... though less so when they become quite upset with how I've entirely changed their work....
Great video topic, I definitely strive to find the good or best in everything, it can be EXTREMELY difficult sometimes though.
It was great to hear you cover some of the positive aspects and share them, I hope someone in a rut or stressing about the other side can be enriched from your video.
But food & colors flowing sure, but its forbidden for one food to touch another. 😉
Take Care.
Thank you so much for the Video 💚🌱
I really appreciate this.
Im in love with someone who has OCPD. Those are really a big chunck of why I like him. Although he is pushy and contorling but it does help me improve in many aspects. Also mostly of the time, he actually has great points and probably right, tho impossible to agree to disagree with him lol.
Love your OCPD videos, thank you!
Thanks I really needed to hear this 😊
You are more than welcome, I hope you are feeling better! :)
I really enjoyed this video :) Agreed with you on the Editor note....when I'm watching tv - CONTINUITY! I see every misplaced or moved item, a door that was closed is now open...etc.
Yes! Nothing worse than noticing a continuity error in a movie. If there's enough of them they can completely ruin it for me. Spelling mistakes I can forgive, we're all human and make mistakes ;)
Thank you very much for this video. I don't know if I have OCPD, but I'm sure I have some traits. Just turning 29 and I beat myself up very often for my character flaws. This video brought a smile to my face and some tears, particularly the part about being good friends.
I made this video to remind us all that we have so many amazing traits that make us important to so many people. We all have flaws, we're human- but it's difficult accepting this idea when you have OCPD. Our need to be perfect can be chronically debilitating. I'm really glad to hear it was a useful video for you :) (sorry it took me so long to get back to you!)
Thank you. So helpful
You're always doing great job 🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹
Also I love the new backdrop.. are you going to make the little wooden man change positions with each episode?
I don't know about you guys, but I'm very good at designing and perfecting procedures. I also have an amazing mind for numbers.
Ty for saying I'm awesome ❤️
I'm just being honest :D
Thank you ❤
This is great thank you
I love everything you comment on the videos. I want to recommend a book that helps me to understand more about OCPD. It is really nice - "The Healthy Compulsive: Healing Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder and Taking the Wheel of the Driven Personality". I don't know if you already read it, but this is it in case anyone is interested =)
This is a fantastic book and I'm really glad that someone else is recommending it too! Thanks for being so awesome :D
Love this OCPD channel. I don’t suffer from this. But a close fiend of mine does.
I have this thing I do.
I am continuously changing and editing my social media bio's. Each time thinking I have the perfect one but later come back to change it
Thank you for these videos. We miss you and would like to know what you are working on now?
Thank you so much for this. At the moment I'm not friends with my ocpd 🙈
When I was six years old my stepmother left me in a doorway with a note saying not wanted......
The other positive trait is that mind-set and mentality that you can do and learn anything like being limitless, just give me the resources and let me put that task in my anxiety loop then watch me.
Please more OCPD content. I’m worried about my dad. Your approach is great and so much of what what you say is so real.
Agreed, my OCPD dad is awesome but I’ve moved back in with him and apart from him stressing out over ever detail in the house he’s a bloody legend.
Side note/question. I was diagnosed with ocd. Is there a genetic link at all? I’m thinking my grandmother had ocd (worked as a newspaper editor whole life raised my suspicions), dad ended up OCPD and me pure/toreutic ocd.
Lucky me, my mum had BPD but that’s another story.
Thoughts?
Your Dad sounds awesome, but I agree that living with someone with OCPD can be very stressful. Unfortunately there's not much you can do to help him, but you can absolutely work with him to find out what his boundaries (eg house rules) are and what boundaries you can establish (eg, your bedroom is your space to control, not his).
OCD is a very interesting disorder as there is a strong genetic component passed down through parents to children, however there is also an environmental component that can trigger it too. Sometimes parents with OCD can have kids without it, and sometimes parents without OCD (but with a chaotic home life) can have kids with it. OCD can also be triggered later in life too.
OCPD and OCD also have a very strong comorbidity rate (around 20%). While I do discourage outwardly diagnosing friends/family yourself (that's why we have psychiatrists/psychologists), having this kind of insight into your family is super useful in understanding your own behaviour and learning about ways you can manage yourself with your loved ones.
I really appreciate your sharing your family situation with me. It sounds like your family is quite colourful! I can relate, I have a pretty... let's say, dynamic, family myself. Thank you for watching and supporting my content too, it really means a lot to me :)
Good video - thank you for shedding light on OCPD. BTW - crickets are cool insects. Please don't kill them, they are little worker bees that eat annoying insects like mosquitoes.
Is there a reason to treat it? Like how does it severely neg affect the patient themselves?
My likely OCPD-ex-girlfriend was the only person willing to stick with me for such a long time, even though we had major relationship problems for a long time already. Yes, you guys can be so dedicated that you do things you hate just out of sheer feelings of responsibility. But how much does it help you sticking to doing something that you don't actually like to do? Wouldn't it be better if you could let go of people and things you don't actually like?
When my ex finally decided to break up with me, I felt like she had finally allowed herself some freedom and happiness.
Poor cricket 😔
Is therapy must to cure OCPD?
Hi Sammie, good question! Therapy in my opinion is one of the best options for managing OCPD. You can do a lot of extra self-work, but when it comes to OCPD we're often unaware of our behaviours and the motivations behind those behaviours. Therapy helps us unlock the reasons why we do things and helps us manage them. Thanks for watching my video :)
@@EdenV Thank you so much for the reply :) Your videos are amazing🤩. I subscribed to your channel.
The only good trait of OCPD is that those people are really productive. Everything else is just annoying. Those are very productive yet very annoying people.
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Sense of humour?
Really awful people you should avoid at all cost.
😂😂😂 I wonder if both spouse had OCPD, it would be a laugh... Unfortunately it seldom is the case..they are a form of vampires😢😢😢
I have a critical eye, it makes me sound like a snob if I vocalize it… but once I taste, smell, see, or hear an imperfection I remember it and can point it out. It’s so bad. So many restaurants I cross off my “good takeout” lists because of the poor changes and it takes me a few months before I will consider trying it again. Also when I have a good movie or song I will fixate on it, of course it’s all subjective to my tastes and perceptions.
I thought all people where like this but I am apparently hyper critical. 🥲
Thank you ❤