I actually cried for him at the end of the show and when he was at the reunion. I didn’t know the sweet, intelligent guy he was until this interview but I absolutely knew all along that he didn’t deserve the harsh way she treated him. I’m sure he wasn’t perfect behind the scenes, but still nobody deserves the harshness that she unleashed on him. She could have handled that so much better.
My brother is very honest to a fault. He reminded me so much of him. He doesn’t want to hurt anybody but he won’t lie either. A lot of the time he is misunderstood because of it. I felt for him all season. I never thought he was mean. I thought he tried to prove he could be fun and sweet and it wasn’t enough for her.
I've heard Cole being described as golden retriever energy... he absolutely is. I am quite of fond of how he presents himself wholly and honestly. He seems to have a secure ego, one that does not need to prove itself or demean others. Way to go Cole! I am rooting for you. On another note, he is totally right, Zanab came into this with those insecurities then projected them onto everything else. She wanted to destroy him but it backfired.
It’s so clear to see how broken Zaynab is. Cole wants to grow and learn . I bet zay will never be in a happy marriage , she will pick apart every man who comes into her life. I hope she sincerely works on her issues.
@@raquelr8775 how did he demean her? He made comments, they both said they were ok with taking jabs at each other jokingly. If anything, Zanab had a problem with her delivery, very condensing and deceptive. She clearly needs to grow and love herself before seeking a new relationship.
Cole wasn't perfect.... no one is. Zanab literally lived in a world created inside her own head. Through her skewed perspective. I'm glad they played that clip at the end of the reunion. Unfortunate she still couldn't admit that she may have made a mistake.
I agree but I also think that people like that KNOW the evil crap they do, that’s why they plan it. There are many people who are insecure, I used to be when I was young but I’ve learned to love my self and defend my self. But she’s just evil, in my opinion she wanted the poor her attention but she knew what she was doing and just wanted to hurt him and humiliate him ugh!
I don't think Zanab planned anything, I think unconsciously her mind operated conspiring against her to make her feel not enough, because of her childhood. So she can only see signs of her being not enough in other people. She needs therapy for sure and I believe one day she will understand that many of her problems are because of her
This ladies is your proof that there are absolutely 100% still good men out there. Respect to Cole. I hope he finds someone as genuine as him to be happy with.
You can tell that Cole even took this experiment serious bc he’s trying to become a better person because of it and in general. The way he speaks matches his energy, it’s sad someone tried to ruin that for him.
Cole is spot on. Insecurity clouded Zanab's vision and she's used those feelings to manipulate how everyone looked at Cole. Manipulation and gaslighting. I feel so sorry for what he went through.
@@krisa6580 how did he manipulate her? The dude kept folding over to please her. He def shouldn't have answered the questions about rating her and he shouldn't have made those comments to Colleen, but that makes him stupid in that moment, not manipulative.
@@krisa6580 Go rewatch from the very beginning Zay herself said she was insecure. She told the cameras that she had an "old dark side" that said "she didn't deserve to be this happy". Through the whole season she says it. By the way the producers ask everyone to rate everyone.
I felt so bad for Cole in the reunion, even before they exposed Zanab's lies. Everyone ganging up on him when Bartisse was way worse. He did not deserve the treatment he was getting & I hope that the other castmates apologized to him. He's got golden retriever energy for sure lol. He seems so sweet & sincere.
I couldn’t even finish watching it…I was so disgusted by it & everyone’s actions towards him. As if he was the only guy that a problem. Yeah Cole wasn’t perfect & he made his mistakes, do i think he’s a genuine guy? Yes! I just don’t think he deserved to be the ONLY one in the hot seat.
That pissed me off. I expected bartise to be the one people came after but i guess all of them were too afraid to go after him. They all came after cole. So annoying
hearing Cole's new perspective on relationships is so heartbreaking! he seems like such a sweet, cute guy and deserves love. especially since you can tell he learned so much from the show and has really matured
This man will make a woman very happy someday; as long as he choose wisely! His intellect and ability to be insightful and grow is very beautiful. Every interview he does makes me like him even more.
Cole is such a genuine guy, I really hope he finds someone, someday that treats him right. Personally, I feel like Zanab walked into that show bitter and insecure, then put all that on Cole. He didn't deserve any of that, a simple "this isn't going to work out long-term" would've sufficed, she didn't need to brutally tear him apart. That says so much more about her character than it does his 🤷🏼♀️
I’m so glad he’s getting the opportunity to show who he really is and tell the truth. Zanab’s insecurities make her borderline abusive in my opinion. So glad that marriage did not happen.
He still looks sad imo. I don't agree that he looks better than ever, you can tell he's still processing that shit and it really impacted him. I wish him well!
Cole is a doll and a catch. I am SOOOOOOOOO happy that he is now free to be himself and that he will find someone who loves and accepts him for exactly who he is.
Genuinely, Cole is the type of man I have been patiently waiting to find. I'm 28 and been single for years because I CANT find someone with a heart and personality like his. It gives me hope that there is good men out there. And I hope it can give him hope that I truly would be a woman who loves the quirky Cole things.. we exist! Peace and love always 💕
Well I hope you find someone like Cole then and yeah I agree I think for the most part he is a good catch. Plus I'm sure he seasons his chicken now 😂😂, wasn't that his major flaw?.. No but seriously I do hope you find that person bc I also think someone who is honest and silly and has a sense of humor and is sweet is definitely good bf/SO material.
another commenter referred to Cole as being like Mr. Peanut Butter (golden retriever on Bojack Horsman. & i agree). it’s funny that you’re Ms. Banana’s, because PB & Banana sandwiches go together like PB & Jelly sandwiches.
Cole is amazing. A phenomenal guy. Cole… God took her out of your path as your wife is out there waiting to meet you. Please don’t let her color your future relationship or how you open up. You deserve the world and you will get it. Your energy is everything.
So happy to see Cole get a platform where he can speak freely about his experience. They did him dirty. It hurts to hear this experience hurt him to the point he's not as excited to find his person.
I hated seeing Cole cry out like that in front of the world while everyone on that stage was either silent or bashing him. I really felt for Zey because of her parents but sista girl needs therapy, she is a liar and a manipulator. That cutie scene was the opposite of what she said it was, he had even asked her earlier if she wanted a poke bowl.
And he’s absolutely right, she’s projecting her own insecurities and she’s unaware of her behavior. In Zay’s mind it felt bigger to her than what it actually was because she’s battling with herself mentally.
Cole reminds me of Mr.Peanut Butter from Bojack Horseman. His personality truly gives golden retriever but in such a positive way. It’s really cool to see him grow more and really take away something from this experience. It’s really cool how he’s realized he might’ve been in the wrong for certain things and that truly takes a lot of growth to realize things like that. Glad he’s doing good and he’s happy in life cause he deserves it.
Cole did NOT deserve how he was painted. For Z to say he was controlling is just bananas, legit she wanted to make him look as bad as possible. I hope he finds someone awesome 💛
I adore Cole. He was simply himself throughout. The clapping at the wedding after Zanab's speech was classless. Easy way to get over everything is knowing her behaviour has nothing to do with you.
Watching Zays treatment of him was painful. I’ve been gaslit before in a relationship and you just lose that instinct you have inside when you know something is right or wrong. You feel crazy and you believe you are the problem. It was so sad to watch! I’m glad he got out and I’m glad people are starting to see he was not the one at fault.
It’s very serious! You are so confused and everything is always your fault. It’s like am i going crazy? This didn’t happen that way. What’s happening...
Third season was so good, especially being in Dallas! Cole was awesome. Zanab internalized everything and I think she had some things to work out within herself. I hate how everyone ganged up on him at the end. So cool Elvis to bring Cole to your talk show 😁
He also brought Zanab- I think they’re both sweet people but Cole was too attractive for her and she was insecure about it from the beginning. I also thought she was a bit chubby first and she can thank Cole that she lightened her hair and lost weight and had a massive improvement in how she looks now. But I didn’t think he did it maliciously
EXACTLY!! Even her posture at the reunion was completely different than on the show. You could see she had confidence issues when she kept asking if she really looked different without makeup. Forgetting that she was the one who said it first. I think it was not only his appearance, which she described as a male Megan Foxx, but the age difference. I’ve dated younger and the thoughts do creep in. She was broken and tried to break him to make herself feel better.
@@YSANROCHEOfficialUA-cam there’s no such thing as being “too attractive for someone”. There is such a thing as feeling so insecure because you’re partner is attractive that you act out of character.
@@alexvukasin9769 Sorry, but if a short fat, bald man is dating a Supermodel, she is clearly too attractive for him and it will create all sorts of problems in their lives, just as he always thinking she might use him for money or she might be interested in other guys. Society might ask why their together and label her a gold digger. Men will approach her although she is with him and this will create friction. He will start arguments because his self esteem will suffer by the problems in society that will happen sooner or later. Therefore, it is proven that people of similar attractiveness, similar income and similar values do better because those problems will simply not occur - so the relationship will be less problematic. Especially men, do not want to realize that Dating women out of their league is a bad idea and will cause self esteem issues for them in the long run - and they will blame it on the woman
I was friends with someone like Zay and I still struggle to understand what the fuck would possess someone to act this way. I really think the girls of the cast are being manipulated by her and some of them will eventually see her for what she really is and break away. It’s really a wild experience to be played by someone like this because they are SO convincing in the good times. I will never forget the day that the vail was pulled down and I saw this “friend” for what she was which was a fraud who I also had shared some great memories with. 😢
What's crazy is they have released the After the Alter episodes (a year later) and everyone (the girls and Brennan) still seems to believe her and not like him. It's so weird! Did they watch the same show that we watched? Did Cole pay someone off to not show all the bad stuff? My mind is blown. They need to redeem themselves and give him his own show. The only thing he did that was sus, was his interaction with Colleen... (was that he name?)... and if we are all being real... they meet someone and propose in a week... and then get to interact with other people they were interested in. After a week, naturally you might not 100% in with the person you chose. Also, he seems to be just a guy who is radically honest to a fault... he operates and answers in truth... but he didn't consider how his answers might affect other people... like the interaction with Colleen or when he rated the other girls beauty higher that Zanabs. All in all #TeamCole
I hate that ppl throw around the term narcissist for ppl who only have very slight tendencies (we all do), but I watched a few vids on why Zanab is a clinical narcissist. At first I thought it was her trauma but hearing a professional talk @ it was really interesting
Cole!! I totally understand what you are saying... My husband is JUST like you in so many ways.. He loves to joke and be playful, and is always himself. Like my husband, you are a sweet man of God, and have no intention of hurting anyone... Someday, the Lord will bring a girl into your life who is going to love you for exactly who you are, and just let you be who you are!!!!
I’m genuinely impressed by you Cole - just the fact that you are able to self evaluate & recognise your faults in the view of bettering yourself is a clear sign of how intelligent you are. Beautiful too that you were deeply upset at the thought of hurting someone even without intent. I hope you find the lucky lady who deserves you -she’s out there somewhere, just waiting for a cool man like you! Don’t give up on love because you truly deserve it 💕
I’m glad Cole can be self-reflective, but I don’t think he should be so hard on himself. I was shocked and then appalled by her behavior pretty much the entire time. I wish the best for everyone involved but the person who should be apologizing and doing interviews and introspection is Zanab.
This is honestly one of the biggest blessings for him that he didn’t end up marrying her. She was absolutely awful! Someone who loves someone as much as she said he did they either work it out or break it up. What she did was super super evil imo. It was to feed her ego. Poor dude. He wasn’t perfect absolutely not, but he for sure had a hard go of it
I remember several times they argued because she got mad and he was like "what is happening?". She was internalizing and overexamining everything then took out everything on him. Rather than speak to Cole about the issues she had.
Can we just talk about how dreamy Coles eyes are 😩 FYI: Zanab has been doing this her entire life. Without therapy perhaps and not taking accountability for how she goes about these things. Unfortunately, she won’t ever be happy until she fixes that part of her and finds what deeper issues contribute to it. The only thing she did was humiliate Cole and got a few seconds of an ego boost. I think it was a blessing in disguise for him..
As a therapist and behavior specialist I can professionally say, I would have assessed Zanabe for “Bi-polar” disorder. - but then I watched the reunion and thought Omigosh? Maybe Cole’s manipulation is why Zanabe acted like a rude cold hearted roller-coaster B! Then they showed the truth about her tangerine (Cuties) story where she made Cole out to be a monster - the “TRUTH” was that she LIED about that story and was waaay off … she was a roller coaster of emotions and constantly gaslighted him and Constantly Gaslighted him!. Cole - thank God your friends prayed for you before the wedding - God saved you from a terrible mistake!.
Excellent interview I know that Cole is truthful and he is in a different vibration than Zanab he owned up to his mistakes and is choosing to grow from it and shows truly he is a good person and he will definitely find the right person when he is ready ❤
Zanab is a textbook Narcissist! Cole deserves better. Although there is a reason why this narc came into Cole’s life and usually it’s for self awareness. Everyone needs to do their own healing and reflection and eventually by discovering ourselves we discover how to no longer be magnets to Narcissists. Self love equal finding true love. ❤ DiscoverSelfLove!❤
What a beautiful soul loved his interview 🤩 can see a lot of growth in him sounds mature ..he will be blessed with true love..I hope he eventually finds it yes take it slow next time don't rush.
He seems like the absolute sweetest! I felt so bad for him throughout the season then the reunion omg that broke my heart. The pool party thing I get the emotional connection just didn't disappear 2 or 3 days later and then you see them physically and you have to deal with that connection even being engaged that would be difficult.
I have so much respect for cole seeing him really try to control himself and his words when he was addressing Zanab at Alexa’s birthday. It showed so much maturity. So many people would not have handled that situation that well and lash out or fight back
Cole, you are a solid, genuine guy Focus not on the lack of love right now but the potential inside you. Your effervescent, passion for life and compassionate will bring beautiful things into your world. 🙏🙌
For Cole...."Rejection is God's protection!!" So glad to see he is flourishing and growing instead holding grudges like Zayab. This was such a great interview! The interviewer asked all the right questions! Cole has learned a lot from this experience for sure!
So glad he had this avenue to explain his side of the story. They were clearly a mismatch, he had this fun/joking demeanor and she couldn’t hear his comedy and lighthearted nature.
I can’t even stand to listen to Zanab’s interviews, she won’t take an ounce of accountability, and although Cole had some learning to do, he seems very earnest and wanting to learn and grow. I hope the best for him, he is a good man deep down.
She did you dirty Cole. She will reap what she sows. You've handled this amazingly considering how savage it was. You have such a genuine heart and good character. I hope that you meet the sweet and genuine woman that you need and vise versa. Chin up! #teamcole ❤️
I already loved Cole before even starting this video, but as SOON as he said "I don't like the phrase 'Fake it till you make it'. I think if you're faking it, you're not making it anywhere", I was in bliss. THANK YOU! I've always hated how people keep saying that phrase like it's a good thing to live by, although I respect their opinion, I 1000% agree with Cole!
Great Interview! Thank you! Cole, I just wanna say you are what I call a man of my dreams. I love your energy and mindset, not to mention how good you look. Thank you for your being :) From experience I know that deep pain inside can lead to a behavior like Zanabs. Cole knows that, that’s why he forgives her. Zanab needs compassion for her emotional struggle but clear boundaries to set her straight. Cole, thank you for walking away in such a strict though loving way. hugs from Vienna, Austria *
Cole is the best!! I hate how she acted like he was a bad person! 10 mins watching this you can tell the kind of person he is! Some women just wanted to tear down people because of their own issues! I think a lot of women have self confidence issues but don’t put that on some one else that hasn’t treated or made those issues in the 1st place! I wish Cole all the happiness!
I love Cole. He seems so genuine and fun. Zanab complained about everything he did and was never happy with him. IDK what she was expecting but it doesnt suprise me that she is single. Who would actually want a nagging partner like that??
cole has such a sweet personality. he reminds me a lot of my husband in both looks and personality. i felt so much for him with zay and still do. (i can see my own insecurities in her and the way she seems unable to let her own femine energy show, and i know growth will happen for her eventually but man was she toxic).
How Zanab behaved towards Cole was unacceptable. There are so many helpful lessons for the viewers and the show participants to take away from this season of Love is Blind. In support of Coles continued growth I hope that he will come to understand why the "pool incident" was uncalled for. Being prompted and plied with alcohol by the producers is no reason to lose focus on your fiance. Treating a relationship as sacred and for both parties to whole each others hearts with care is integral. In our attempt to rebalance the scales in the on-going narrative between Zanab and Cole let us not deny him the opportunity to fully blossom by placating him and not asking him the difficult and necessary questions regarding the choices he made.
Agree, we don't need to paint one or the other as the baddie, Cole definitely did things that were wrong, the difference is that Zay wasn't will to acknowledge any wrongdoing.
God literally saved Cole from years of abuse! #justiceforcole
#cutiegate
What’s the cutie scene?
Lol, #cutiegate !!!! Love it!
Rejection is God protection, seriously he have the sweet soul , bless him
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I actually cried for him at the end of the show and when he was at the reunion. I didn’t know the sweet, intelligent guy he was until this interview but I absolutely knew all along that he didn’t deserve the harsh way she treated him. I’m sure he wasn’t perfect behind the scenes, but still nobody deserves the harshness that she unleashed on him. She could have handled that so much better.
I also cried when he cried..
Same!!!!
I cried my eyes out for him too😢
What you witnessed is a victim of Narcissistic Abuse. As a man even I had tears in my eyes it was heartbreaking to see
My brother is very honest to a fault. He reminded me so much of him. He doesn’t want to hurt anybody but he won’t lie either. A lot of the time he is misunderstood because of it. I felt for him all season. I never thought he was mean. I thought he tried to prove he could be fun and sweet and it wasn’t enough for her.
I've heard Cole being described as golden retriever energy... he absolutely is. I am quite of fond of how he presents himself wholly and honestly. He seems to have a secure ego, one that does not need to prove itself or demean others. Way to go Cole! I am rooting for you.
On another note, he is totally right, Zanab came into this with those insecurities then projected them onto everything else. She wanted to destroy him but it backfired.
Golden retriever 😂
He did demean Zaynab. Stop siding with him just because you find him attractive, and just say it as it is.
It’s so clear to see how broken Zaynab is.
Cole wants to grow and learn . I bet zay will never be in a happy marriage , she will pick apart every man who comes into her life.
I hope she sincerely works on her issues.
No but fr, now that you point it out, he really does remind me of Mr. Peanut Butter from Bojack lol
@@raquelr8775 how did he demean her? He made comments, they both said they were ok with taking jabs at each other jokingly. If anything, Zanab had a problem with her delivery, very condensing and deceptive. She clearly needs to grow and love herself before seeking a new relationship.
Cole wasn't perfect.... no one is. Zanab literally lived in a world created inside her own head. Through her skewed perspective. I'm glad they played that clip at the end of the reunion. Unfortunate she still couldn't admit that she may have made a mistake.
I agree but I also think that people like that KNOW the evil crap they do, that’s why they plan it. There are many people who are insecure, I used to be when I was young but I’ve learned to love my self and defend my self. But she’s just evil, in my opinion she wanted the poor her attention but she knew what she was doing and just wanted to hurt him and humiliate him ugh!
I don't think Zanab planned anything, I think unconsciously her mind operated conspiring against her to make her feel not enough, because of her childhood. So she can only see signs of her being not enough in other people. She needs therapy for sure and I believe one day she will understand that many of her problems are because of her
Zanab is a narcisist
So glad that he mentioned she planned the speech and told her friends about it. It was so obvious.
Z was a total headcase. I always got the sense that Cole was a good dude dating a very broken person. Great interview!
This ladies is your proof that there are absolutely 100% still good men out there. Respect to Cole. I hope he finds someone as genuine as him to be happy with.
Zay probably thought she was having a “Deepti moment” but she totally wasn’t. She was being straight up malicious!
Their wedding was a week after deeptis wedding. That wedding didn’t air at that point and they wouldn’t have even known the season 2 cast.
@@Perennial1997 wow no kidding the timing was like that? but yes good comparison because that was empowering and classy but this was just mean
She is evil.
You can tell that Cole even took this experiment serious bc he’s trying to become a better person because of it and in general. The way he speaks matches his energy, it’s sad someone tried to ruin that for him.
She just took revenge for the way he treated her and the pain and humiliation changed him a bit that's all.
Cole is spot on. Insecurity clouded Zanab's vision and she's used those feelings to manipulate how everyone looked at Cole. Manipulation and gaslighting. I feel so sorry for what he went through.
He was manipulative and cruel. He’s really good at it too. Not to say he’s completely evil, but to put all blame on Zanab is creepy.
@@krisa6580 how did he manipulate her? The dude kept folding over to please her. He def shouldn't have answered the questions about rating her and he shouldn't have made those comments to Colleen, but that makes him stupid in that moment, not manipulative.
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Seems like you don't understand what any of those words mean.
And she wonder why she’s Single ??? Whew she NEEDS therapy BAD she’s scary
@@krisa6580 Go rewatch from the very beginning Zay herself said she was insecure. She told the cameras that she had an "old dark side" that said "she didn't deserve to be this happy". Through the whole season she says it. By the way the producers ask everyone to rate everyone.
I felt so bad for Cole in the reunion, even before they exposed Zanab's lies. Everyone ganging up on him when Bartisse was way worse. He did not deserve the treatment he was getting & I hope that the other castmates apologized to him. He's got golden retriever energy for sure lol. He seems so sweet & sincere.
I couldn’t even finish watching it…I was so disgusted by it & everyone’s actions towards him. As if he was the only guy that a problem. Yeah Cole wasn’t perfect & he made his mistakes, do i think he’s a genuine guy? Yes! I just don’t think he deserved to be the ONLY one in the hot seat.
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That pissed me off. I expected bartise to be the one people came after but i guess all of them were too afraid to go after him. They all came after cole. So annoying
They had to save Bartise for the other show
Especially that super judgemental guy Brennan...
hearing Cole's new perspective on relationships is so heartbreaking! he seems like such a sweet, cute guy and deserves love. especially since you can tell he learned so much from the show and has really matured
“Cole!!! They did you dirty! SHE WAS NOT NICE!!!” Lmbooooo I love it for him 😂😂😂😂
This man will make a woman very happy someday; as long as he choose wisely! His intellect and ability to be insightful and grow is very beautiful. Every interview he does makes me like him even more.
Cole is such a genuine guy, I really hope he finds someone, someday that treats him right. Personally, I feel like Zanab walked into that show bitter and insecure, then put all that on Cole. He didn't deserve any of that, a simple "this isn't going to work out long-term" would've sufficed, she didn't need to brutally tear him apart. That says so much more about her character than it does his 🤷🏼♀️
Cole should be the next bachelor!
Oh yes, I'd LOVE that
Omg amazing idea!!
Exactly! They need to give him, his own show!
I’m so glad he’s getting the opportunity to show who he really is and tell the truth. Zanab’s insecurities make her borderline abusive in my opinion. So glad that marriage did not happen.
He still looks sad imo. I don't agree that he looks better than ever, you can tell he's still processing that shit and it really impacted him. I wish him well!
Cole is a doll and a catch. I am SOOOOOOOOO happy that he is now free to be himself and that he will find someone who loves and accepts him for exactly who he is.
Honestly he is so sweet and I feel bad for how they portrayed him.
Genuinely, Cole is the type of man I have been patiently waiting to find. I'm 28 and been single for years because I CANT find someone with a heart and personality like his. It gives me hope that there is good men out there.
And I hope it can give him hope that I truly would be a woman who loves the quirky Cole things.. we exist!
Peace and love always 💕
Well I hope you find someone like Cole then and yeah I agree I think for the most part he is a good catch. Plus I'm sure he seasons his chicken now 😂😂, wasn't that his major flaw?.. No but seriously I do hope you find that person bc I also think someone who is honest and silly and has a sense of humor and is sweet is definitely good bf/SO material.
Sounds like you need attention
@@joycedominguez8997 So does Cole. You give what you get. Sounds like a good match.
another commenter referred to Cole as being like Mr. Peanut Butter (golden retriever on Bojack Horsman. & i agree). it’s funny that you’re Ms. Banana’s, because PB & Banana sandwiches go together like PB & Jelly sandwiches.
@@joycedominguez8997 May I know your basis on how you concluded that she needs attention?
Cole is amazing. A phenomenal guy. Cole… God took her out of your path as your wife is out there waiting to meet you. Please don’t let her color your future relationship or how you open up. You deserve the world and you will get it. Your energy is everything.
So happy to see Cole get a platform where he can speak freely about his experience. They did him dirty. It hurts to hear this experience hurt him to the point he's not as excited to find his person.
I hated seeing Cole cry out like that in front of the world while everyone on that stage was either silent or bashing him. I really felt for Zey because of her parents but sista girl needs therapy, she is a liar and a manipulator. That cutie scene was the opposite of what she said it was, he had even asked her earlier if she wanted a poke bowl.
She forgot to mention he offered her food!!
She was straight up lying to that man’s face
And he’s absolutely right, she’s projecting her own insecurities and she’s unaware of her behavior. In Zay’s mind it felt bigger to her than what it actually was because she’s battling with herself mentally.
So relieved to see this and that Cole is seemingly his happy self from the start of the show.
He’s such a beautiful person, inside and out
Cole reminds me of Mr.Peanut Butter from Bojack Horseman. His personality truly gives golden retriever but in such a positive way. It’s really cool to see him grow more and really take away something from this experience. It’s really cool how he’s realized he might’ve been in the wrong for certain things and that truly takes a lot of growth to realize things like that. Glad he’s doing good and he’s happy in life cause he deserves it.
100%
I think right now, he's evolving into Todd's character arc
Cole did NOT deserve how he was painted. For Z to say he was controlling is just bananas, legit she wanted to make him look as bad as possible. I hope he finds someone awesome 💛
As a fellow Taurean i instantly guessed Cole was a Taurus. His pureness but at the same time he's real af it's just beautiful
Cole is such a great speaker I love his authenticity
He literally kill them with kindness 🤧 #teamcole ❤️❤️
Cole did nothing wrong. He dodged a huge bullet. Poor guy this is traumatic, hope he heals.
Yea, Cole was always so considerate of how Zanab was feeling. In the cuties scene even, he was trying to figure out how to celebrate with her family.
The way this 39 minute video i found in my suggested was 100x better than the reunion
Giving a prayer before tearing a person down is something a lunatic will do!
I’ve been waiting for him to get his time to shine and speak out! Now my day is complete ! 🙌🏽💛
I adore Cole. He was simply himself throughout. The clapping at the wedding after Zanab's speech was classless. Easy way to get over everything is knowing her behaviour has nothing to do with you.
This is like the most genuine dude I’ve listened to. Glad to see he’s moving on from that experience
Best interview of Cole that I’ve seen thus far!!!👏🏼
Definitely!! I actually get to hear Cole and his thoughts. It’s about him not the interviews opinion or point of view.
Cole is adorable. He will have no problem finding Love. Everything about him is precious. I’m so glad Evil didn’t break him 🖤
The truth always comes out. Let the universe do it’s thing and speak your truth. Good for you Cole. You will heal ⭐️
REALLY proud of you too Cole! You have total self awareness. Continue to stay positive and true to yourself!
Watching Zays treatment of him was painful. I’ve been gaslit before in a relationship and you just lose that instinct you have inside when you know something is right or wrong. You feel crazy and you believe you are the problem. It was so sad to watch! I’m glad he got out and I’m glad people are starting to see he was not the one at fault.
It’s very serious! You are so confused and everything is always your fault. It’s like am i going crazy? This didn’t happen that way. What’s happening...
Spot on
Third season was so good, especially being in Dallas! Cole was awesome. Zanab internalized everything and I think she had some things to work out within herself. I hate how everyone ganged up on him at the end. So cool Elvis to bring Cole to your talk show 😁
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He also brought Zanab- I think they’re both sweet people but Cole was too attractive for her and she was insecure about it from the beginning.
I also thought she was a bit chubby first and she can thank Cole that she lightened her hair and lost weight and had a massive improvement in how she looks now. But I didn’t think he did it maliciously
EXACTLY!! Even her posture at the reunion was completely different than on the show. You could see she had confidence issues when she kept asking if she really looked different without makeup. Forgetting that she was the one who said it first. I think it was not only his appearance, which she described as a male Megan Foxx, but the age difference. I’ve dated younger and the thoughts do creep in. She was broken and tried to break him to make herself feel better.
@@YSANROCHEOfficialUA-cam there’s no such thing as being “too attractive for someone”. There is such a thing as feeling so insecure because you’re partner is attractive that you act out of character.
@@alexvukasin9769 Sorry, but if a short fat, bald man is dating a Supermodel, she is clearly too attractive for him and it will create all sorts of problems in their lives, just as he always thinking she might use him for money or she might be interested in other guys. Society might ask why their together and label her a gold digger. Men will approach her although she is with him and this will create friction. He will start arguments because his self esteem will suffer by the problems in society that will happen sooner or later. Therefore, it is proven that people of similar attractiveness, similar income and similar values do better because those problems will simply not occur - so the relationship will be less problematic. Especially men, do not want to realize that Dating women out of their league is a bad idea and will cause self esteem issues for them in the long run - and they will blame it on the woman
I was friends with someone like Zay and I still struggle to understand what the fuck would possess someone to act this way. I really think the girls of the cast are being manipulated by her and some of them will eventually see her for what she really is and break away. It’s really a wild experience to be played by someone like this because they are SO convincing in the good times. I will never forget the day that the vail was pulled down and I saw this “friend” for what she was which was a fraud who I also had shared some great memories with. 😢
I know what you mean :(
What's crazy is they have released the After the Alter episodes (a year later) and everyone (the girls and Brennan) still seems to believe her and not like him. It's so weird! Did they watch the same show that we watched? Did Cole pay someone off to not show all the bad stuff? My mind is blown. They need to redeem themselves and give him his own show. The only thing he did that was sus, was his interaction with Colleen... (was that he name?)... and if we are all being real... they meet someone and propose in a week... and then get to interact with other people they were interested in. After a week, naturally you might not 100% in with the person you chose. Also, he seems to be just a guy who is radically honest to a fault... he operates and answers in truth... but he didn't consider how his answers might affect other people... like the interaction with Colleen or when he rated the other girls beauty higher that Zanabs. All in all #TeamCole
@@kaydee7679 they hadn't seen the cuties scene yet, after the alter was filmed before the reunion was released
@@tlangeeful1747 OK, it makes a little more sense. I thought they filmed the reunion shortly after the show and THEN After the Altar.
I hate that ppl throw around the term narcissist for ppl who only have very slight tendencies (we all do), but I watched a few vids on why Zanab is a clinical narcissist. At first I thought it was her trauma but hearing a professional talk @ it was really interesting
Cole!! I totally understand what you are saying... My husband is JUST like you in so many ways.. He loves to joke and be playful, and is always himself. Like my husband, you are a sweet man of God, and have no intention of hurting anyone... Someday, the Lord will bring a girl into your life who is going to love you for exactly who you are, and just let you be who you are!!!!
I’m genuinely impressed by you Cole - just the fact that you are able to self evaluate & recognise your faults in the view of bettering yourself is a clear sign of how intelligent you are. Beautiful too that you were deeply upset at the thought of hurting someone even without intent. I hope you find the lucky lady who deserves you -she’s out there somewhere, just waiting for a cool man like you! Don’t give up on love because you truly deserve it 💕
Cole will totally find the girl of his dreams!! He seems like such a great man and he is such a catch in every way 🥰🥰🥰
Yay, finally! I have been waiting for this. I love Cole
Cole is such a dreamboat 😍
Cole is the BEST!!! Thanks y'all 🙌🏽
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That shed some unexpected light not only on their story, but life in general. Excellent dialogue, thank you both!
Best interview! As a mom, it would had been hard to watch some female do this to my son, if it was my son on this show.
I’m glad Cole can be self-reflective, but I don’t think he should be so hard on himself. I was shocked and then appalled by her behavior pretty much the entire time. I wish the best for everyone involved but the person who should be apologizing and doing interviews and introspection is Zanab.
This is honestly one of the biggest blessings for him that he didn’t end up marrying her. She was absolutely awful! Someone who loves someone as much as she said he did they either work it out or break it up. What she did was super super evil imo. It was to feed her ego. Poor dude. He wasn’t perfect absolutely not, but he for sure had a hard go of it
I remember several times they argued because she got mad and he was like "what is happening?". She was internalizing and overexamining everything then took out everything on him. Rather than speak to Cole about the issues she had.
I adore Cole.
Can we just talk about how dreamy Coles eyes are 😩
FYI: Zanab has been doing this her entire life. Without therapy perhaps and not taking accountability for how she goes about these things.
Unfortunately, she won’t ever be happy until she fixes that part of her and finds what deeper issues contribute to it.
The only thing she did was humiliate Cole and got a few seconds of an ego boost. I think it was a blessing in disguise for him..
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He seems such a good guy. I believe he is just a honest, truly good soul.
I'm so damn proud of you Cole you've grown so so much throughout this process. I love your heart. You're strong.
As a therapist and behavior specialist I can professionally say, I would have assessed Zanabe for “Bi-polar” disorder. - but then I watched the reunion and thought Omigosh? Maybe Cole’s manipulation is why Zanabe acted like a rude cold hearted roller-coaster B! Then they showed the truth about her tangerine (Cuties) story where she made Cole out to be a monster - the “TRUTH” was that she LIED about that story and was waaay off … she was a roller coaster of emotions and constantly gaslighted him and Constantly Gaslighted him!. Cole - thank God your friends prayed for you before the wedding - God saved you from a terrible mistake!.
I think she is deeply traumatized
She doesn’t have bipolar. Beinh a manipulative narcissist is not a bipolar trait
As a therapist and behavior specialist, you should know you can’t diagnose someone you’ve never met even once in real life…
You're no therapist. You can't diagnose anyone. She isn't bi-polar.
This man is so mature, so clever, so sensitive… and, gosh, so cute 😇
Excellent interview I know that Cole is truthful and he is in a different vibration than Zanab he owned up to his mistakes and is choosing to grow from it and shows truly he is a good person and he will definitely find the right person when he is ready ❤
Zanab is a textbook Narcissist! Cole deserves better. Although there is a reason why this narc came into Cole’s life and usually it’s for self awareness. Everyone needs to do their own healing and reflection and eventually by discovering ourselves we discover how to no longer be magnets to Narcissists. Self love equal finding true love. ❤ DiscoverSelfLove!❤
Cole is A good dude.
What a beautiful soul loved his interview 🤩 can see a lot of growth in him sounds mature ..he will be blessed with true love..I hope he eventually finds it yes take it slow next time don't rush.
Great interview. I really like Cole as a person and I hope he finds his person so much :)
Congrats for this interview! Good questions, thoughtful listening, letting the guest feel comfortable…
He seems like the absolute sweetest! I felt so bad for him throughout the season then the reunion omg that broke my heart. The pool party thing I get the emotional connection just didn't disappear 2 or 3 days later and then you see them physically and you have to deal with that connection even being engaged that would be difficult.
I have so much respect for cole seeing him really try to control himself and his words when he was addressing Zanab at Alexa’s birthday. It showed so much maturity. So many people would not have handled that situation that well and lash out or fight back
Cole, you are a solid, genuine guy Focus not on the lack of love right now but the potential inside you. Your effervescent, passion for life and compassionate will bring beautiful things into your world. 🙏🙌
Cole is moving forward in the right direction. Don't look back just learn from what you have experienced. California is lovely.
Much more intelligent than he was given credit for - cute as can be also......
Proud of him, legitimately.
This was a good conversation, good to see him moving forward, he really did get treated so unfairly, wishing him all the best.
For Cole...."Rejection is God's protection!!"
So glad to see he is flourishing and growing instead holding grudges like Zayab. This was such a great interview! The interviewer asked all the right questions! Cole has learned a lot from this experience for sure!
i really like this interview. the way that you talk about everything ask questions, i really enjoy!
So glad he had this avenue to explain his side of the story. They were clearly a mismatch, he had this fun/joking demeanor and she couldn’t hear his comedy and lighthearted nature.
I can’t even stand to listen to Zanab’s interviews, she won’t take an ounce of accountability, and although Cole had some learning to do, he seems very earnest and wanting to learn and grow. I hope the best for him, he is a good man deep down.
Literally same
Exactly she needs to seek help and actually self reflect and take responsibility. Cole made mistakes he’s human but she was conniving
She did you dirty Cole. She will reap what she sows. You've handled this amazingly considering how savage it was. You have such a genuine heart and good character. I hope that you meet the sweet and genuine woman that you need and vise versa. Chin up! #teamcole ❤️
This is genuine honesty!
Team Cole.
Cole was my favorite. I get his personality. He’s just blunt lol ❤️ also, his parents not attending the wedding is called DISCERNMENT
He is very emotionally mature!
Great job Cole!! So happy you had this opportunity to tell your truth! We believe you!! You deserve the save love that you give!!
I already loved Cole before even starting this video, but as SOON as he said "I don't like the phrase 'Fake it till you make it'. I think if you're faking it, you're not making it anywhere", I was in bliss. THANK YOU! I've always hated how people keep saying that phrase like it's a good thing to live by, although I respect their opinion, I 1000% agree with Cole!
I love this man
imagine having to relive the worst moments of your life continuously in these interviews sheesh. strong man.
aww, Cole is literally the type of guy I've been looking for, and seeing him being treated that way during the show broke my heart
Great Interview! Thank you! Cole, I just wanna say you are what I call a man of my dreams. I love your energy and mindset, not to mention how good you look. Thank you for your being :)
From experience I know that deep pain inside can lead to a behavior like Zanabs. Cole knows that, that’s why he forgives her. Zanab needs compassion for her emotional struggle but clear boundaries to set her straight. Cole, thank you for walking away in such a strict though loving way.
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Cole is the best!! I hate how she acted like he was a bad person! 10 mins watching this you can tell the kind of person he is! Some women just wanted to tear down people because of their own issues! I think a lot of women have self confidence issues but don’t put that on some one else that hasn’t treated or made those issues in the 1st place! I wish Cole all the happiness!
The host couple should apologize to Cole for not stopping the bulling.
I love Cole. He seems so genuine and fun. Zanab complained about everything he did and was never happy with him. IDK what she was expecting but it doesnt suprise me that she is single. Who would actually want a nagging partner like that??
Cole went from the most unlikeable man on the show to the most genuine and loved!!! He did not deserve the treatment he got from that insecure woman!
Bariste was the most unlikable guy to me.
Yep! Agreed zaynab was so abusive
i love Cole. i want to be his friend. I really wish he is past all of this and gets the most out of his life! He deserves it
cole has such a sweet personality. he reminds me a lot of my husband in both looks and personality. i felt so much for him with zay and still do. (i can see my own insecurities in her and the way she seems unable to let her own femine energy show, and i know growth will happen for her eventually but man was she toxic).
How Zanab behaved towards Cole was unacceptable. There are so many helpful lessons for the viewers and the show participants to take away from this season of Love is Blind. In support of Coles continued growth I hope that he will come to understand why the "pool incident" was uncalled for. Being prompted and plied with alcohol by the producers is no reason to lose focus on your fiance. Treating a relationship as sacred and for both parties to whole each others hearts with care is integral. In our attempt to rebalance the scales in the on-going narrative between Zanab and Cole let us not deny him the opportunity to fully blossom by placating him and not asking him the difficult and necessary questions regarding the choices he made.
Agree, we don't need to paint one or the other as the baddie, Cole definitely did things that were wrong, the difference is that Zay wasn't will to acknowledge any wrongdoing.
You absolutely should feel yourself with your partner, nobody gets in a relationship to walk on the egg shells. So, Cole dodged the bullet
Team Cole!!! ❤
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Cole keep your head up and stay positive. Get things are happening. 🙏🏽💫