When I started to seriously consider marrying a Filipina that I had met, I went to a Filipino pastor for counseling. After discussing it with him for some time, he told me that he had just one piece of advice for me: Don't bring her to the United States; instead, live with her in her country. He explained that in his experience, he had seen Filipinas easily become westernized and lose the characteristics that the man was attracted to in the first place. He had seen two Filipinas just in his tiny congregation of less than a dozen Filipina and Fil-Am couples, divorce their American husbands, one after five years and one after two. Marriage is of course difficult at times and if you have an escape option from it, you may be tempted to take it. But since divorces aren't legal in the Philippines, that won't happen. So, I decided to take his advice and my now wife is happy to still be near her family, which means everything to her.
If an American weds filipina they can divorce in the US. Why? Bcuz divorce is legal in the US it's possible for them to get a divorce. All the husband has to do is inform the Philippine government and the Philippines 🇵🇭 will accept the divorce. The filipina can legally remarry.
Honestly can they? Filipinas have a horrible rep in Europe. Unless they are really hot they will just be short brown girls who got a visa into the country via an old guy.
After living in the Philippines for 15 years and loving my Filipina faithfully, I brought my Filipina wife and our children to the USA to live. A few months after she got her US citizenship, she divorced me. We had been together for 19 years total, raised two amazing children and she had a life that most women dream of. She got the house worth $half million, the kids and my dog. Now I’m homeless and alone. I discovered later that she had left me for a lesbian Filipina. I understand that most Filipinas would not do what my ex did to me.
Naw. This story is extremely sketchy and stating only facts - devoid of any real details or context around what happened. Not saying you're lying technically speaking, but clearly there is more to the story here and it's all rather one sided. I wonder what your ex would have to say about you, hmm? 🤔
My fiance is from Southern leyte, she's 29 and I'm 39, so not much of a age gap by phillipines standards, but she is very conservative and from a really good family, also my house is humble but it's paid for so we won't struggle financially and she doesn't have to work if she doesn't want to, but if your finances aren't good enough for her to stay home? I say don't bring her here because nowadays times are difficult and she might have a rude awakening as to how bad america is.
@8:00 An here is the number one issue. If you go to the Philippines looking for a traditional wife, she must understand her career has already been established. Being a "Wife" is a career and needs to be treated as such. Having said that, as a man looking for a traditional wife, he must accept full responsibility for said wife. That means physically, financially, and spiritually. If said man can not afford to accept those responsibilities, then he should work exceptionally hard until he can afford all while not worry about dating or marrying for that matter. If you force your wife to have to work and didn't vet her properly, which in my opinion is not guaranteed You are playing russian roulette and it is not worth it in Western society.
One topic that is not talked about, is that you are responsible for her financially if she comes to the US. That means that even if she leaves thinking she have a better option, until you divorce her you have to take care of her. I can't imagine being in a position where she is staying with another man and I'm footing the bill. Yeah proper vetting is a must before you get married and bring her to your country.
My experience=I brought my filipina(42 year old) to the USA on an K1 visa and got married in the USA. Each filipina is different to this question. My filipina, even though she was older, fell in the trap of the easy money system of the USA. More opportunities and choices, some good, a lot of bad. She made a huge bad financial decision that effected our marriage even to this day(we have been married for 14 years). I also saw 6 older men who married younger filipinas who left them for "greener pastures". It's situational, choices, opportunities=temptations which don't exist in the Philippines. If you want that true filipina special way of life, keep them in the Philippines and don't taint them with Westernization.
Just my 2 cents, The culture shock would be great, how fast life moves here, retiring to Cebu I could live a decent life and support a wife, here it would take a bigger slice of the pie, and I ❤ a traditional Pinay, maybe for a couple years to get it out of her system. If I wanted a westernized Asawa I'd roll the dice here Looking forward to your next episode
Theres one relationship that almost guarantees divorce. Thats a retired man with a 20s filipina. Best stay in the Philippines 🇵🇭. If you bring her to the US she will inevitably search for Filipinas in her area. If they're young they could be a very bad influence on her. Telling her her husband is old and she can do much better. If shes not strong enough and determined enough she will be easily swayed. After all, in the US shes the exotic beauty young men will be throwing themselves after her. Then with the urging of other young Filipinas its almost guaranteed divorce is in your future. Except for maybe one situation, if she and her husband have a baby together. That could change that scenario.
There are many, many thousands of happy Filipina women/American men living as man and wife in the U.S., and they've made it work so far for 5, 10, 20, 30 years. Did someone not tell them how dangerous it is to bring your Pinay to the States? That was sarcasm, BTW. Of course, what you read online is the horror stories (always told by some guy) about marriages breaking up when the Filipina comes to the States. But, you know something? Men that don't have a Filipina as a wife also get divorced. Often. Lots of people get divorced these days and for lots of reasons. I've been divorced before, and I was not without blame in that marriage crashing and burning. Men that are in the U.S. with their Pinay wife for the last 5 years or 14 years or 21 years or 30 years and both she and him are content and happy, well, that guy is NOT online telling people how satisfied he is in his marriage and telling other men that they should always bring their Filipina to the States. Because he's happy with his marriage, so he doesn't need to talk about it. If you're a guy married to a Filipina and you believe that her commitment to you and your marriage is so tenuous that a change in postal code will kill it, then it might be time for an honest assessment of just what kind of relationship you have, or think you have, with her.
You didn't mention a very big influence on the Filipina. The family. I spent decades watching Fil Am relationships fall apart in the US. Over half the time the girls family was the instigator. Either constant demands for money or outright ordering her to divorce due to lack of earning and giving potential.
Yup agree with you the type of person who you married. I have a friend that her husband is 18 years gap and they been married for over 3 decades and she is the bread winner of the family and she is high school graduate in the Philippines and her husband has a multiple career and she’s making more money than her husband and they are happily their marriage. Every body have different situation. I’m glad I found my best friend when I was in Canada 3 decades ago. Is not everybody fit all in one size. I always enjoy your videos. You have common sense opinions and which I agree with you .❤🇵🇭🇺🇸🧎♀️✝️
I agree that if you’re fearful about the age difference , it’s better to be with someone who doesn’t generate that fear in you. In addition, it’s essential to have the same or similar values and mindset. That creates unity in the relationship and security in your mind!
I dont own a Filipina, so I would not know. And my wife, who is from the Philippines spent 10 years in the US with me. She worked at the hospital in TX and during Covid, she worked six 12 hour days every week because many nurses called in. She saved up a crap load of money, while sending money back here to take care of Lola... She did not get into clubs, drinking or any of that other young girls stuff. She honestly did not trust other Filipinas because she saw what they were doing. So she never even hung out with more than one or two of the ones she knew. BTW, she is 47 and I am 53... so age and the age gap does make a difference. She got her DL in 3 months of being there and went right to work... She got her citizenship back in 2018 and was not ready to leave until 2023. Those guys that say "don't bring take them to the US" are the ones that know that they have very little to offer the women in the US living on social security, with failing health. When a guy is in his 60s and think that a woman in her 20s is his soulmate and introduces her to an environment where there are men with better income and better health that catch their eyes and they find an immediate physical attraction. Many military retirees that marry women and not young girls, have had great marriages while in the US. Retirees with 20+ years as well as 100% VA make enough to live well in pretty much any American city. So coming here is not about the money, but more about the peace of mind and getting away from a toxic culture of hatred that seems to be growing worse and worse... I think that if a man really marries the right woman for the right reasons and she goes to the US, she will use those opportunities to build herself up in order to teach her children to desire a better life by working for it. Some guys come over here as desperate older men, looking for arm candy or caretakers and honestly never trust them to start with. Any woman that marries a man who does not or will not give her the opportunity to learn and be better than she is, have more than she has had, learn more than she has learned... is allowing herself to be treated as property and not a person deserving. I have seen so many immigrants over here that are married to Filipinas, yet are firm on not taking them away from the country nor helping them have ownership here. So basically its a lifetime benefit for the immigrant (since they will most likely die here after yeas of having a young free live in caretaker) while the Filipina has very little to show afterwards except the man's DNA and dirty socks after giving him her youthful years... Men that say "Don't take her to the US", are generalizing the entire ethnic group... But I bet they do not want to be generalized based on the bad characteristics of their own ethnic groups.... Fair is fair... World history is more accurate than a heart broken man that allowed himself to be stupid for a smile.
@senseisntcommon1776 There is no RULE... Thinking that a successful marriage after moving to the US is an exception, is the same as saying meeting a white person that is not a mass shooter, is the exception and not the rule. Would it be fair to label a good white person as an exception to the rest? Stop promoting a negative generalization of issues, or of people unless you are going to accept it being done to you and yours.... You are doing nothing but trying to increase culture of mistrust of the women here, but to what ends I do not know. Yet you think people like you are trustworthy.... It goes both ways or neither way.... I know of six other black men that have married women in their age range, moved to the US and the wives have CAREERS, making money and being WIVES...
To summarize, and regardless of age, you are in it to build a better life with another person. Holding back a Filipina from growing is not only a detriment to the individual, but to the relationship as a whole, because it is not allowed to flourish. Sadly, there's no shortage of weak, despicable men in the world who are capable of treating women like property. So the reality is, a Filipina finding an open minded US man that is interested in a relationship is truly a blessing from god to them. This will only serve to benefit the man if the woman has not been corrupted by the indignities of her past physical and emotional relationships. So, if she's of sound moral character, the likelihood of "success" is high in the States.
No. Do not do it. You will only regret it. I know plenty of guys who learned this the hard way (financial destruction) - and history is full of examples in every state, city. Learn from their examples. Learn from Calvin's example. Stay in the Philippines.
Bringing older Filipinas here should be ok, as long as her English is good, but never if she's young. They're too easy to influence. I started watching channels like yours because I was curious as how younger men could possibly find good ladies now! It seems so impossible.
Something you didn't mention, which I think is top of the list important, is religion. As you know, most Filipinos are Catholic and if you practice the religion together it will go a long way in helping to have a successful marriage with your spouse.
There’s a lot of things that I don’t know why I was so blessed. My parents, family, wife, friends and children. I do believe that God was at the center of it all. So, I have had the 30 year marriage to a conservative, Christian Filipina in the US. We have a one year age gap. She never changed except to become more convicted, if anything. So, to question if it’s possible seems crazy to me. Marry the right person for the right reasons is my advice. Likewise, we have another family that have been friends since we were married. I think they have over 40 years of marriage. However, I see the same pattern with them, the wife, husband and family. I know many durable relationships but when you look at those couples, it’s not hard to understand. A man is responsible for bringing the right influences to his wife and family and keeping bad influences out.
True dude. But I wouldn't so much say that "keeping the bad influences out" is accurate or realistic. There will be external negativity regardless of where you go or what you do. It's all about setting the right example as the man, and she'll fall in line (assuming that all the other right conditions are being met in the relationship - feeling safe, loved, respected ect..).
@@skoopiecheckecheaks You’re right. The bad influence are all around and you can’t screen them all out unless you live on an Amish farm in a remote area, maybe. That said, not hanging with a bad crowd but instead hanging with a good group, is often all it takes. You can and should shape those influences in the positive direction as much as you can. Consuming good media is another way. Garbage in, garbage out and vice versa is the point. However, you made a great point on your prior post and folks should read that. The cases that I’m taking about, the compatibility is there also. The husbands are of similar age and capable, good husbands. They do have the means for Disney Land but the wife is often the frugal one to say no, for example. I do recall a painfully, homely guy that was older than the knockout Filipina wife. He was otherwise an eligible guy but the wife was so beautiful that it was hard to look at her. If you looked at her you would get daggers in the eyes. They were married for at least 30 years the last I talked with them, had children together and were still married with no issues. She is a fantastic woman. Years later my wife and I teased her about her extreme beauty to the point of getting her laughing. I do agree that there are many qualifiers about the couple for the US environmental. It’s not impossible but not everyone would qualify.
I think that if you’re going to marry a Filipina, you should be able to trust her anywhere. Trust your gut instincts, if something seems wrong, most likely it is. But like you said, every situation is different. If I had it my way I’d would’ve preferred living in Phils, but unfortunately my job can’t be done remotely, so I’m better off bringing my wife here 🇺🇸..
I agree. You should be able to trust her regardless of where you decide to settle. Yes, it would be nice to settle in the Philippines, but not everyone can afford to do so. Lucky for those who can! 😅
Your wrong about this. The theory is correct but as we know in practice and experience when you bring them back they use you for a couple years then leave you. I’ve seen this over and over. If they don’t leave you on their own, you’ll want to leave. Materialism, and they can adopt this western mindset. The question is why would you bring someone you care about into a toxic environment and culture that is AMERICA.
Life is filled with uncertainty and risk. I've dealt with that for decades successfully, so I am eager to see anyone try to separate me from my pinay wife. That is when they will learn what a HUGE problem I can become for them. I could give examples and details, but my lawyers have advised me to keep those to myself. NO ONE messes with Danno and walks away happy. BWAhahahaha...
@@conservativefilipina thank you. I try to put a smile on the faces of pretty pinays, but I honestly am a force to be reconned with as politicians and police in my area will testify to. I take marriage seriously, so when someone tries to disrupt mine I bring forth God's wrath. HA! I did tell my wife that if she ever desired another man I would spank her. She likes the idea!!! You pinay's are an interesting bunch. LOL!
I struggled with that decision as well. But not for the same reason as others. My Filipina and I are of the same faith, and worrying about her changing was far from my thoughts. Ultimately, I wanted my wife to have options if the Lord took me unexpectedly. As an American citizen, she would be entitled to my SSI and pension. We can always go back to the Philippines if we so choose to. For now, we'll go back and forth and decide when the time is right. She should experience your country and family to such degrees, just like you experience hers. That is just my opinion.
Most lighten idea you said was that it depends mostly of the values person you are. Great and wise answer to those important comments. Thanks and hi from Dominican Republic 🇩🇴🇺🇸🇵🇭
Real talk here, not trying to insult anyone. In the majority of these relationships the (older) US man's only quality is that he is American. They can pretend to be a rock star in the Philippines. Back in the US they are just another old man with average financial assets. Their Filipina will meet younger, more attractive, more successful guys on a daily basis. I do know two much younger couples where the guy brought her back. But in each case they have good jobs and kids together.
First, in this vast world of multicultural diversity, by what standard does anyone define a traditional wife when it is based on one's own individual perspective. I would propose that if a married couple paid close attention to the marriage vows they made in the presence of God, they would find all the answers to a happy and loving relationship, and the question "Should You Bring Your Filipina to the United States" would never be an issue because the place matters not as long as you are both together.
@@giveme5minsy Absolutely wait my friend because only fools rush in where wise men fear to tread. I met my partner over two years before we got engaged and now we have been happily married for almost 37 years which is a testament to our patience in vetting each other out. So take your time before making that life-changing decision because you will want to be with each other forever.
If you truly love each other you have nothing to worry about I wanted to bring my Filipina here to the USA so she can see how I live meet the family add next year we will retire back to the Philippines she has been here for 5 years and she never changed she is the same beautiful Filipina I fell in love with 10 years ago
you are right on this topic. but that age gap will put your relationship at risk. a have met many people with storys of wife leaving some are very bad. in age gap marriage you have to deal with family of the husband criticizing the Filipina ." Gold digger, child Bride, prostitute and the famous she waiting for to die and collect or life insurance and your Social Security and I forgotten she waisting you Money at the BINGO Hall hoping she finds you dead". only in America. but good topic only wish they educate the Filipinas that foreigner may not be the right choice. " your a wife or care giver" that's a topic.
To my future man please dont call me "my Filipina" you can call me my girl, girlfriend, wife if we're married but don't ever refer to me as my Filipina. I'm not a specific toy or item or a curiosity that my nationality is needed to introduce me to the world.
I can respect how you would like to be addressed, but I would also like to share why I sometimes refer to my wife as "My Filipina." Often, I hear horrible stories about some people who experience Filipina women. I concluded that the multicultural relationships that go well are often not discussed. So, to counter the horror story, I let it be known my wife is a Filipina, and outside of my relationship with Christ, she is the best thing to ever happen to me. She is not my possession; I am just proud to identify she is from the Philippines.
@@tonyp6474 hi,just for clarification , my statement is purely my own and I'm not speaking for others. Just an example , you were invited to a party and was told to bring as many people with you as you like. So you brought your wife, your father, your bestfriend, and a friend at work. You're now at the party and you introduced your party to the host. First your wife " this is my Filipina", then your dad "this is my American ", then your bestfriend who happens to be from Africa " this is my African", then the coworker " this is my Chinese". How do you think this will sound like to the host? Imho it is more representative of your pride and true feelings when you use the appropriate words that describe who these people are in your life like "my wife" or "my bestfriend". In any part of the world there is negativity both in real life and in people's perceptions and I believe many Filipinos are doing their part to change this , myself included. Having you in your wife's life is a blessing and her in yours is a gift, your presence in each other's lives in itself commands respect. I don't believe that calling her "my Filipina" is necessary to show people your respect and pride. Just my opinion.
@@marjorieferrer9520 I have no problem with how you would like to be addressed. Based on the scenario you gave there would be no reason to say “My Filipina”. Most guys use it in an online setting while making comments to Volggers videos. In personal meeting you introduce the person by name and relationship to the person. I don’t go around telling people I’m American. That topic is broached only when asked.
@@tonyp6474she gaslit tf out of you lol. She knows good and well no one has EVER introduced their wife or girl as “this is my Filipina”. That’s nonsense and obviously would sound weird and awkward asf for someone to do something like that. Everyone knows you’re saying this within the context of the comment section to let everyone know you’re talking about a Filipina woman.
@@dezcuts5319 you're right , this term is not used irl, but widely used online which makes it worse because it's reaching a bigger wider audience. And for people who is new and unaware to Filipino culture it's not helpful to them.
That depends on the character of the person. If they were previously arrogant then they will become woke when they get used to the western culture. You shouldn't have married the B!
Yeah, find a Filipina who will stick with you through think and thin, till at least 5-10 years in a western nation, at least! What happens from 5 years onwards, well......???
Filipina or not, marriage should be TILL DEATH DO US PART. The focus should be finding a person who will commit to that, it doesn't matter where they're from. Thank you for leaving a comment!
I really despise this "she'll become westernized" talking point. First of all, the Philippines started "Westernizing" over 400 years ago, unless you think Catholicism just fell out of the sky and onto the Philippines. Their names are all in Spanish. One of their two official languages is English. So there's a certain irony in traveling to the single most Westernized nation in Asia to find a "non-Westernized" wife. Plus all of those traditional values men are looking for in filipinas -- those were Western values until about five minutes ago. Maybe this argument seems excessively semantic, but it annoys me to no end.
You made some valuable points. However, there's still some preservations from most Filipinas in the PH. They still have some great feminine characteristics that have been pretty much evaporated in the West. So, I get both world. In that case, 2 is better than 1. In addition, Being westernized in the Philippines with limited resources, opportunities, and the freedom to fully exercise those traits is not the same as being westernized in the West itself. The amount of exposure can be overwhelmed with everything at your fingertips. You said five minutes ago. Well, that also means Five Decades ago. Don't you forget when the Feminist Movement started. With all that being said, I do believe that if the Filipina is with you for you (True/Real Love), it doesn't matter where you guys settle.
Lol facts. They are using the grid, driving automobiles, telecommunications, fashion and so much that is Western European. Most of the world is unless you live in the mountains.
At the end of the day, traditional in this conversation really just means a lack of full and complete agency over one's own life. There is a tangible dependency within the confines of living in poverty. These various and distinct conditions dictate behavior to a large degree. The real fear of these men (and rightfully so) is not knowing whether this individual, after having been granted the blessing of FREEDOM and the ability to dictate the direction of their own life, is willing (or not) to constrain and restrict themselves to a particular lifestyle, when the shackles are removed so to speak.
In general I think it's a bad idea. It can be very hard on a Filipina. However I was watching "Pinay Trucker GIRL USA" and wow she's loving her life. She's 5' tall and driving huge trucks. I think it works so well because her American husband was a trucker and taught her to drive. The drive together, one sleeps, one drives. She cooks for him in the truck and they make a living together. Plus he has step kids who works with them so she has a family around her and they all get along. So strangely it's very much like Filipino culture. Fun videos to watch. But bringing a Filipina to the US and the man leaves her at home alone all day is going to be hard on her. If she gets a job she's likely going to be surrounded by American women telling her she can do better and many men hitting on her. So that's a risk. I wouldn't bring a woman to the US. I wouldn't see the point. Unless I was a trucker or something like that. That brings up the other side of the issue...the man. Whatever problem he was having finding an American wife is likely going to be a problem with any woman.
In most cases no, don't bring her back. I brought my teacher wife back after living there for 8 years and having a child with her. Neither of us has other kids, prior marriages, and we make a nice couple. It's gone very well back in the US. We both work and our daughter has great schooling...marriage is better than ever. It can work well if you choose a good wife.
I say definitely NOT! Women are very good actors. They will say what you want to hear. Do what you expect. Put on that act of sincerity because in their mind they have their own motives, goals and expectations when the time comes. When they're finally across the pond. Suddenly there will be "issues" with the relationship. Things will go south, things that was normal before will now become a problem (part of their plan) to end the relationship. I've witness this with quite a 'couples' in the past. My suggestions is if you want a filipina wife, find one that is already in the west who is sincerely looking for a long-term/life partner. Needle in a haystack because the age gap thing is now a deal breaker for the already 'westernized' ones. I work with a lot of them and so far none of them has proven my opinion or theory wrong.
It's not that the Filipina is not a good woman. It's that the West, especially the United States, is so toxic, so the women get intoxicated being here. For me, i am not too worried about this because both me and my Filipina are younger, and our plan is to move to the Philippines afterward. Also, the Filipinas get so much attention that they get overwhelmed.
Yes terrible idea. Western values n feminism already permitted into the ph culture. Take her out of her culture she will adapt to the new culture. Plus divorce laws in us would apply. Be smart n stay there.
It's really simple. Maybe I should make videos because I could use extra money too, huh? If there is more than a 20 year age gap between you and your Filipina do not bring her home with you UNLESS she is over 40, or if she is in her 20's to 30's you give her kids. Too many guys out kick their coverage and don't offer enough in return. Plus there is the whole spiritual - psychological component of a father who wants to BE a family man. Hes generally going to be a better person to his Filipina wife vs some foreigner that just thinks its a good idea to get a younger Filipina. That kind of man tends to be psychologically abusive and a user. My first wife only gave me one child and having more was important to me so I had to target a younger Filipina that always wanted and was capable of having children. 26 years apart, 2 kids now, living in the USA. Couldn't be happier. The real problem is we need to teach men how to be men. Guys in their 20s and 30's should be going over there and bringing young wives home and starting families, but many younger men dont know how to do it or dont have the resources TO do it.
When I started to seriously consider marrying a Filipina that I had met, I went to a Filipino pastor for counseling. After discussing it with him for some time, he told me that he had just one piece of advice for me: Don't bring her to the United States; instead, live with her in her country. He explained that in his experience, he had seen Filipinas easily become westernized and lose the characteristics that the man was attracted to in the first place. He had seen two Filipinas just in his tiny congregation of less than a dozen Filipina and Fil-Am couples, divorce their American husbands, one after five years and one after two. Marriage is of course difficult at times and if you have an escape option from it, you may be tempted to take it. But since divorces aren't legal in the Philippines, that won't happen. So, I decided to take his advice and my now wife is happy to still be near her family, which means everything to her.
My thought exactly ‼️🇨🇦❤️
If an American weds filipina they can divorce in the US. Why? Bcuz divorce is legal in the US it's possible for them to get a divorce. All the husband has to do is inform the Philippine government and the Philippines 🇵🇭 will accept the divorce. The filipina can legally remarry.
@@George-ux6zz good to know
My Filipina wants to stay in the Philippines 🙏🙏🙏🙏 im happy
Bringing a Filipina wife to the US is never a problem!
Filipinos can and will adapt better than anybody!
Other Filipinas cant wait to tell the new arrival how she can do better and younger!!!
Yes, that's why It is very important to choose your friends wisely. Thank you for watching and for leaving a comment. I appreciate it!
Honestly can they? Filipinas have a horrible rep in Europe. Unless they are really hot they will just be short brown girls who got a visa into the country via an old guy.
After living in the Philippines for 15 years and loving my Filipina faithfully, I brought my Filipina wife and our children to the USA to live. A few months after she got her US citizenship, she divorced me. We had been together for 19 years total, raised two amazing children and she had a life that most women dream of. She got the house worth $half million, the kids and my dog. Now I’m homeless and alone. I discovered later that she had left me for a lesbian Filipina. I understand that most Filipinas would not do what my ex did to me.
Exactly!!
That is a very sad story. I hope for your healing and recovery.
@@conservativefilipina it’s been one year already. I’m doing okay. Thanks.
That's because the woman did not fear you. You have to make sure the woman knows if she leaves you that you will not tolerate that.
Naw. This story is extremely sketchy and stating only facts - devoid of any real details or context around what happened. Not saying you're lying technically speaking, but clearly there is more to the story here and it's all rather one sided. I wonder what your ex would have to say about you, hmm? 🤔
My fiance is from Southern leyte, she's 29 and I'm 39, so not much of a age gap by phillipines standards, but she is very conservative and from a really good family, also my house is humble but it's paid for so we won't struggle financially and she doesn't have to work if she doesn't want to, but if your finances aren't good enough for her to stay home? I say don't bring her here because nowadays times are difficult and she might have a rude awakening as to how bad america is.
@8:00 An here is the number one issue. If you go to the Philippines looking for a traditional wife, she must understand her career has already been established. Being a
"Wife" is a career and needs to be treated as such. Having said that, as a man looking for a traditional wife, he must accept full responsibility for said wife. That means physically, financially, and spiritually. If said man can not afford to accept those responsibilities, then he should work exceptionally hard until he can afford all while not worry about dating or marrying for that matter. If you force your wife to have to work and didn't vet her properly, which in my opinion is not guaranteed
You are playing russian roulette and it is not worth it in Western society.
One topic that is not talked about, is that you are responsible for her financially if she comes to the US. That means that even if she leaves thinking she have a better option, until you divorce her you have to take care of her. I can't imagine being in a position where she is staying with another man and I'm footing the bill. Yeah proper vetting is a must before you get married and bring her to your country.
Good point you've provided there! Thanks for adding that.
My experience=I brought my filipina(42 year old) to the USA on an K1 visa and got married in the USA. Each filipina is different to this question. My filipina, even though she was older, fell in the trap of the easy money system of the USA. More opportunities and choices, some good, a lot of bad. She made a huge bad financial decision that effected our marriage even to this day(we have been married for 14 years). I also saw 6 older men who married younger filipinas who left them for "greener pastures". It's situational, choices, opportunities=temptations which don't exist in the Philippines. If you want that true filipina special way of life, keep them in the Philippines and don't taint them with Westernization.
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just turned 62 getting social security and retired military, was stationed there, absolutely beautiful,
Just my 2 cents, The culture shock would be great, how fast life moves here, retiring to Cebu I could live a decent life and support a wife, here it would take a bigger slice of the pie, and I ❤ a traditional Pinay, maybe for a couple years to get it out of her system.
If I wanted a westernized Asawa I'd roll the dice here
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Theres one relationship that almost guarantees divorce. Thats a retired man with a 20s filipina. Best stay in the Philippines 🇵🇭. If you bring her to the US she will inevitably search for Filipinas in her area. If they're young they could be a very bad influence on her. Telling her her husband is old and she can do much better. If shes not strong enough and determined enough she will be easily swayed. After all, in the US shes the exotic beauty young men will be throwing themselves after her. Then with the urging of other young Filipinas its almost guaranteed divorce is in your future. Except for maybe one situation, if she and her husband have a baby together. That could change that scenario.
There are many, many thousands of happy Filipina women/American men living as man and wife in the U.S., and they've made it work so far for 5, 10, 20, 30 years. Did someone not tell them how dangerous it is to bring your Pinay to the States? That was sarcasm, BTW.
Of course, what you read online is the horror stories (always told by some guy) about marriages breaking up when the Filipina comes to the States. But, you know something? Men that don't have a Filipina as a wife also get divorced. Often. Lots of people get divorced these days and for lots of reasons. I've been divorced before, and I was not without blame in that marriage crashing and burning.
Men that are in the U.S. with their Pinay wife for the last 5 years or 14 years or 21 years or 30 years and both she and him are content and happy, well, that guy is NOT online telling people how satisfied he is in his marriage and telling other men that they should always bring their Filipina to the States. Because he's happy with his marriage, so he doesn't need to talk about it.
If you're a guy married to a Filipina and you believe that her commitment to you and your marriage is so tenuous that a change in postal code will kill it, then it might be time for an honest assessment of just what kind of relationship you have, or think you have, with her.
I agree 💯. Thank you for adding your insight into this video. That's exactly what I'm trying to convey!
You didn't mention a very big influence on the Filipina. The family.
I spent decades watching Fil Am relationships fall apart in the US. Over half the time the girls family was the instigator. Either constant demands for money or outright ordering her to divorce due to lack of earning and giving potential.
That is one good topic to talk about. Thank you for bringing that up. It is another issue a lot of Filipinas need to address.
Don’t do it unless it’s a short visit
Yup agree with you the type of person who you married. I have a friend that her husband is 18 years gap and they been married for over 3 decades and she is the bread winner of the family and she is high school graduate in the Philippines and her husband has a multiple career and she’s making more money than her husband and they are happily their marriage. Every body have different situation. I’m glad I found my best friend when I was in Canada 3 decades ago. Is not everybody fit all in one size. I always enjoy your videos. You have common sense opinions and which I agree with you .❤🇵🇭🇺🇸🧎♀️✝️
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I agree that if you’re fearful about the age difference , it’s better to be with someone who doesn’t generate that fear in you. In addition, it’s essential to have the same or similar values and mindset. That creates unity in the relationship and security in your mind!
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I dont own a Filipina, so I would not know. And my wife, who is from the Philippines spent 10 years in the US with me. She worked at the hospital in TX and during Covid, she worked six 12 hour days every week because many nurses called in. She saved up a crap load of money, while sending money back here to take care of Lola... She did not get into clubs, drinking or any of that other young girls stuff. She honestly did not trust other Filipinas because she saw what they were doing. So she never even hung out with more than one or two of the ones she knew. BTW, she is 47 and I am 53... so age and the age gap does make a difference. She got her DL in 3 months of being there and went right to work... She got her citizenship back in 2018 and was not ready to leave until 2023.
Those guys that say "don't bring take them to the US" are the ones that know that they have very little to offer the women in the US living on social security, with failing health. When a guy is in his 60s and think that a woman in her 20s is his soulmate and introduces her to an environment where there are men with better income and better health that catch their eyes and they find an immediate physical attraction. Many military retirees that marry women and not young girls, have had great marriages while in the US. Retirees with 20+ years as well as 100% VA make enough to live well in pretty much any American city. So coming here is not about the money, but more about the peace of mind and getting away from a toxic culture of hatred that seems to be growing worse and worse... I think that if a man really marries the right woman for the right reasons and she goes to the US, she will use those opportunities to build herself up in order to teach her children to desire a better life by working for it. Some guys come over here as desperate older men, looking for arm candy or caretakers and honestly never trust them to start with. Any woman that marries a man who does not or will not give her the opportunity to learn and be better than she is, have more than she has had, learn more than she has learned... is allowing herself to be treated as property and not a person deserving.
I have seen so many immigrants over here that are married to Filipinas, yet are firm on not taking them away from the country nor helping them have ownership here. So basically its a lifetime benefit for the immigrant (since they will most likely die here after yeas of having a young free live in caretaker) while the Filipina has very little to show afterwards except the man's DNA and dirty socks after giving him her youthful years...
Men that say "Don't take her to the US", are generalizing the entire ethnic group... But I bet they do not want to be generalized based on the bad characteristics of their own ethnic groups.... Fair is fair... World history is more accurate than a heart broken man that allowed himself to be stupid for a smile.
You are the exception , not the rule
@senseisntcommon1776 There is no RULE... Thinking that a successful marriage after moving to the US is an exception, is the same as saying meeting a white person that is not a mass shooter, is the exception and not the rule. Would it be fair to label a good white person as an exception to the rest? Stop promoting a negative generalization of issues, or of people unless you are going to accept it being done to you and yours.... You are doing nothing but trying to increase culture of mistrust of the women here, but to what ends I do not know. Yet you think people like you are trustworthy.... It goes both ways or neither way.... I know of six other black men that have married women in their age range, moved to the US and the wives have CAREERS, making money and being WIVES...
@commonsenseisntcommon1776Care to explain genius?
To summarize, and regardless of age, you are in it to build a better life with another person. Holding back a Filipina from growing is not only a detriment to the individual, but to the relationship as a whole, because it is not allowed to flourish.
Sadly, there's no shortage of weak, despicable men in the world who are capable of treating women like property. So the reality is, a Filipina finding an open minded US man that is interested in a relationship is truly a blessing from god to them. This will only serve to benefit the man if the woman has not been corrupted by the indignities of her past physical and emotional relationships. So, if she's of sound moral character, the likelihood of "success" is high in the States.
@@skoopiecheckecheaks Say that last part again... make'em feel it because they act like they don't believe it...
No. Do not do it. You will only regret it. I know plenty of guys who learned this the hard way (financial destruction) - and history is full of examples in every state, city. Learn from their examples. Learn from Calvin's example. Stay in the Philippines.
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Yes,our marriage is fine,5 years in the US
Bringing older Filipinas here should be ok, as long as her English is good, but never if she's young. They're too easy to influence. I started watching channels like yours because I was curious as how younger men could possibly find good ladies now! It seems so impossible.
They have this thing called a prenup. You don’t sign then you don’t come here.
Yes, you can do that.
My friend had a prenup that didn’t work at all! Just don’t get married it’s too risky bro. Especially if your wealthy
If you start your relationship without trust, then it's not going to work.
Something you didn't mention, which I think is top of the list important, is religion. As you know, most Filipinos are Catholic and if you practice the religion together it will go a long way in helping to have a successful marriage with your spouse.
There’s a lot of things that I don’t know why I was so blessed. My parents, family, wife, friends and children. I do believe that God was at the center of it all. So, I have had the 30 year marriage to a conservative, Christian Filipina in the US. We have a one year age gap. She never changed except to become more convicted, if anything. So, to question if it’s possible seems crazy to me.
Marry the right person for the right reasons is my advice.
Likewise, we have another family that have been friends since we were married. I think they have over 40 years of marriage. However, I see the same pattern with them, the wife, husband and family.
I know many durable relationships but when you look at those couples, it’s not hard to understand. A man is responsible for bringing the right influences to his wife and family and keeping bad influences out.
True dude. But I wouldn't so much say that "keeping the bad influences out" is accurate or realistic. There will be external negativity regardless of where you go or what you do. It's all about setting the right example as the man, and she'll fall in line (assuming that all the other right conditions are being met in the relationship - feeling safe, loved, respected ect..).
@@skoopiecheckecheaks You’re right. The bad influence are all around and you can’t screen them all out unless you live on an Amish farm in a remote area, maybe. That said, not hanging with a bad crowd but instead hanging with a good group, is often all it takes. You can and should shape those influences in the positive direction as much as you can. Consuming good media is another way. Garbage in, garbage out and vice versa is the point.
However, you made a great point on your prior post and folks should read that. The cases that I’m taking about, the compatibility is there also. The husbands are of similar age and capable, good husbands. They do have the means for Disney Land but the wife is often the frugal one to say no, for example.
I do recall a painfully, homely guy that was older than the knockout Filipina wife. He was otherwise an eligible guy but the wife was so beautiful that it was hard to look at her. If you looked at her you would get daggers in the eyes. They were married for at least 30 years the last I talked with them, had children together and were still married with no issues. She is a fantastic woman. Years later my wife and I teased her about her extreme beauty to the point of getting her laughing.
I do agree that there are many qualifiers about the couple for the US environmental. It’s not impossible but not everyone would qualify.
I think that if you’re going to marry a Filipina, you should be able to trust her anywhere. Trust your gut instincts, if something seems wrong, most likely it is. But like you said, every situation is different. If I had it my way I’d would’ve preferred living in Phils, but unfortunately my job can’t be done remotely, so I’m better off bringing my wife here 🇺🇸..
I agree. You should be able to trust her regardless of where you decide to settle. Yes, it would be nice to settle in the Philippines, but not everyone can afford to do so. Lucky for those who can! 😅
Your wrong about this. The theory is correct but as we know in practice and experience when you bring them back they use you for a couple years then leave you. I’ve seen this over and over. If they don’t leave you on their own, you’ll want to leave. Materialism, and they can adopt this western mindset. The question is why would you bring someone you care about into a toxic environment and culture that is AMERICA.
Trust? Lol
Life is filled with uncertainty and risk. I've dealt with that for decades successfully, so I am eager to see anyone try to separate me from my pinay wife. That is when they will learn what a HUGE problem I can become for them.
I could give examples and details, but my lawyers have advised me to keep those to myself.
NO ONE messes with Danno and walks away happy. BWAhahahaha...
You are funny lol. Thanks for the comments!
@@conservativefilipina thank you. I try to put a smile on the faces of pretty pinays, but I honestly am a force to be reconned with as politicians and police in my area will testify to.
I take marriage seriously, so when someone tries to disrupt mine I bring forth God's wrath. HA!
I did tell my wife that if she ever desired another man I would spank her. She likes the idea!!! You pinay's are an interesting bunch. LOL!
I struggled with that decision as well. But not for the same reason as others. My Filipina and I are of the same faith, and worrying about her changing was far from my thoughts. Ultimately, I wanted my wife to have options if the Lord took me unexpectedly. As an American citizen, she would be entitled to my SSI and pension. We can always go back to the Philippines if we so choose to. For now, we'll go back and forth and decide when the time is right. She should experience your country and family to such degrees, just like you experience hers. That is just my opinion.
I agree! Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I appreciate it!
Most lighten idea you said was that it depends mostly of the values person you are. Great and wise answer to those important comments. Thanks and hi from Dominican Republic 🇩🇴🇺🇸🇵🇭
Thank you for your kind comments! Our good friend and his wife are from the Dominican Republic 😊.
Real talk here, not trying to insult anyone. In the majority of these relationships the (older) US man's only quality is that he is American. They can pretend to be a rock star in the Philippines. Back in the US they are just another old man with average financial assets. Their Filipina will meet younger, more attractive, more successful guys on a daily basis.
I do know two much younger couples where the guy brought her back. But in each case they have good jobs and kids together.
Me my girl she just wants to visit ....so her and I can relate to each other .. site see travel😊
First, in this vast world of multicultural diversity, by what standard does anyone define a traditional wife when it is based on one's own individual perspective. I would propose that if a married couple paid close attention to the marriage vows they made in the presence of God, they would find all the answers to a happy and loving relationship, and the question "Should You Bring Your Filipina to the United States" would never be an issue because the place matters not as long as you are both together.
You nailed it on the head! I completely agree. Thank you for sharing your great insight!
@@giveme5minsy Absolutely wait my friend because only fools rush in where wise men fear to tread. I met my partner over two years before we got engaged and now we have been happily married for almost 37 years which is a testament to our patience in vetting each other out. So take your time before making that life-changing decision because you will want to be with each other forever.
If you truly love each other you have nothing to worry about I wanted to bring my Filipina here to the USA so she can see how I live meet the family add next year we will retire back to the Philippines she has been here for 5 years and she never changed she is the same beautiful Filipina I fell in love with 10 years ago
I'm happy for you both! Thank you for watching and for commenting!
"Should You Bring Your Filipina to the United States?"
i hope you have an ironclad prenup.
you are right on this topic. but that age gap will put your relationship at risk. a have met many people with storys of wife leaving some are very bad. in age gap marriage you have to deal with family of the husband criticizing the Filipina ." Gold digger, child Bride, prostitute and the famous she waiting for to die and collect or life insurance and your Social Security and I forgotten she waisting you Money at the BINGO Hall hoping she finds you dead". only in America. but good topic only wish they educate the Filipinas that foreigner may not be the right choice. " your a wife or care giver" that's a topic.
Great topics you're providing here. Thank you for watching and for the suggestions! It's much appreciated!
Probably better to leave her to live close to her family ❤️
To my future man please dont call me "my Filipina" you can call me my girl, girlfriend, wife if we're married but don't ever refer to me as my Filipina. I'm not a specific toy or item or a curiosity that my nationality is needed to introduce me to the world.
I can respect how you would like to be addressed, but I would also like to share why I sometimes refer to my wife as "My Filipina." Often, I hear horrible stories about some people who experience Filipina women. I concluded that the multicultural relationships that go well are often not discussed. So, to counter the horror story, I let it be known my wife is a Filipina, and outside of my relationship with Christ, she is the best thing to ever happen to me. She is not my possession; I am just proud to identify she is from the Philippines.
@@tonyp6474 hi,just for clarification , my statement is purely my own and I'm not speaking for others. Just an example , you were invited to a party and was told to bring as many people with you as you like. So you brought your wife, your father, your bestfriend, and a friend at work. You're now at the party and you introduced your party to the host. First your wife " this is my Filipina", then your dad "this is my American ", then your bestfriend who happens to be from Africa " this is my African", then the coworker " this is my Chinese". How do you think this will sound like to the host? Imho it is more representative of your pride and true feelings when you use the appropriate words that describe who these people are in your life like "my wife" or "my bestfriend". In any part of the world there is negativity both in real life and in people's perceptions and I believe many Filipinos are doing their part to change this , myself included. Having you in your wife's life is a blessing and her in yours is a gift, your presence in each other's lives in itself commands respect. I don't believe that calling her "my Filipina" is necessary to show people your respect and pride. Just my opinion.
@@marjorieferrer9520 I have no problem with how you would like to be addressed. Based on the scenario you gave there would be no reason to say “My Filipina”. Most guys use it in an online setting while making comments to Volggers videos. In personal meeting you introduce the person by name and relationship to the person. I don’t go around telling people I’m American. That topic is broached only when asked.
@@tonyp6474she gaslit tf out of you lol. She knows good and well no one has EVER introduced their wife or girl as “this is my Filipina”. That’s nonsense and obviously would sound weird and awkward asf for someone to do something like that.
Everyone knows you’re saying this within the context of the comment section to let everyone know you’re talking about a Filipina woman.
@@dezcuts5319 you're right , this term is not used irl, but widely used online which makes it worse because it's reaching a bigger wider audience. And for people who is new and unaware to Filipino culture it's not helpful to them.
That depends on the character of the person.
If they were previously arrogant then they will become woke when they get used to the western culture. You shouldn't have married the B!
It is the same with any woman if you can live with her in her country I would say you would have more success.
Yeah, find a Filipina who will stick with you through think and thin, till at least 5-10 years in a western nation, at least! What happens from 5 years onwards, well......???
Filipina or not, marriage should be TILL DEATH DO US PART. The focus should be finding a person who will commit to that, it doesn't matter where they're from. Thank you for leaving a comment!
I really despise this "she'll become westernized" talking point. First of all, the Philippines started "Westernizing" over 400 years ago, unless you think Catholicism just fell out of the sky and onto the Philippines. Their names are all in Spanish. One of their two official languages is English. So there's a certain irony in traveling to the single most Westernized nation in Asia to find a "non-Westernized" wife. Plus all of those traditional values men are looking for in filipinas -- those were Western values until about five minutes ago. Maybe this argument seems excessively semantic, but it annoys me to no end.
Very good points! Thank you for sharing. I appreciate your perspective on this topic!
Perfect example of a woman using a bunch of words to make an argument.... and completely missing the point.
You made some valuable points. However, there's still some preservations from most Filipinas in the PH. They still have some great feminine characteristics that have been pretty much evaporated in the West. So, I get both world. In that case, 2 is better than 1. In addition, Being westernized in the Philippines with limited resources, opportunities, and the freedom to fully exercise those traits is not the same as being westernized in the West itself. The amount of exposure can be overwhelmed with everything at your fingertips. You said five minutes ago. Well, that also means Five Decades ago. Don't you forget when the Feminist Movement started. With all that being said, I do believe that if the Filipina is with you for you (True/Real Love), it doesn't matter where you guys settle.
Lol facts. They are using the grid, driving automobiles, telecommunications, fashion and so much that is Western European. Most of the world is unless you live in the mountains.
At the end of the day, traditional in this conversation really just means a lack of full and complete agency over one's own life. There is a tangible dependency within the confines of living in poverty. These various and distinct conditions dictate behavior to a large degree.
The real fear of these men (and rightfully so) is not knowing whether this individual, after having been granted the blessing of FREEDOM and the ability to dictate the direction of their own life, is willing (or not) to constrain and restrict themselves to a particular lifestyle, when the shackles are removed so to speak.
BTW I like the new haircut.
Thank you!
100% agree that if you bought your Filipina wife you shouldnt bring her back to your country...its common sense.
In general I think it's a bad idea. It can be very hard on a Filipina. However I was watching "Pinay Trucker GIRL USA" and wow she's loving her life. She's 5' tall and driving huge trucks. I think it works so well because her American husband was a trucker and taught her to drive. The drive together, one sleeps, one drives. She cooks for him in the truck and they make a living together. Plus he has step kids who works with them so she has a family around her and they all get along. So strangely it's very much like Filipino culture. Fun videos to watch.
But bringing a Filipina to the US and the man leaves her at home alone all day is going to be hard on her. If she gets a job she's likely going to be surrounded by American women telling her she can do better and many men hitting on her. So that's a risk.
I wouldn't bring a woman to the US. I wouldn't see the point. Unless I was a trucker or something like that.
That brings up the other side of the issue...the man. Whatever problem he was having finding an American wife is likely going to be a problem with any woman.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts! I see some of your points here. Thanks for sharing those. I will check out their channel. Sounds good to watch!
In most cases no, don't bring her back. I brought my teacher wife back after living there for 8 years and having a child with her. Neither of us has other kids, prior marriages, and we make a nice couple. It's gone very well back in the US. We both work and our daughter has great schooling...marriage is better than ever. It can work well if you choose a good wife.
If she's a true filipina she won't let the American culture change her. So if you're not sure keep her in the Philippines.
I say definitely NOT! Women are very good actors. They will say what you want to hear. Do what you expect. Put on that act of sincerity because in their mind they have their own motives, goals and expectations when the time comes. When they're finally across the pond. Suddenly there will be "issues" with the relationship. Things will go south, things that was normal before will now become a problem (part of their plan) to end the relationship. I've witness this with quite a 'couples' in the past. My suggestions is if you want a filipina wife, find one that is already in the west who is sincerely looking for a long-term/life partner. Needle in a haystack because the age gap thing is now a deal breaker for the already 'westernized' ones. I work with a lot of them and so far none of them has proven my opinion or theory wrong.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts! It's appreciated. Thanks for watching!
Yep!
It's not that the Filipina is not a good woman. It's that the West, especially the United States, is so toxic, so the women get intoxicated being here. For me, i am not too worried about this because both me and my Filipina are younger, and our plan is to move to the Philippines afterward. Also, the Filipinas get so much attention that they get overwhelmed.
That bs my family members marry filpinas woman bring usa live community call little manila filpino community . Florida and California new York
Yes!
The topic should be, should you take your wife to a toxic environment? Hell no.
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Yes terrible idea. Western values n feminism already permitted into the ph culture. Take her out of her culture she will adapt to the new culture. Plus divorce laws in us would apply. Be smart n stay there.
Thanks for sharing your perspective!
It's really simple. Maybe I should make videos because I could use extra money too, huh?
If there is more than a 20 year age gap between you and your Filipina do not bring her home with you UNLESS she is over 40, or if she is in her 20's to 30's you give her kids. Too many guys out kick their coverage and don't offer enough in return. Plus there is the whole spiritual - psychological component of a father who wants to BE a family man. Hes generally going to be a better person to his Filipina wife vs some foreigner that just thinks its a good idea to get a younger Filipina. That kind of man tends to be psychologically abusive and a user. My first wife only gave me one child and having more was important to me so I had to target a younger Filipina that always wanted and was capable of having children. 26 years apart, 2 kids now, living in the USA. Couldn't be happier.
The real problem is we need to teach men how to be men. Guys in their 20s and 30's should be going over there and bringing young wives home and starting families, but many younger men dont know how to do it or dont have the resources TO do it.
Absolutely not.