You should be attached, but have skills (and take the actions) to detach. But like Dr. Orion says, it’s better for most men to be the adored than the adorer
presumably you'd wish it on her though. Not that I think most women can ever feel the same pain we do when it happens. They can easily go bang someone the same day they found out.
what is wrong with you to have such reaction? what is weird? your comment is weird. to confirm if your girl was or is cheating? there is nothing wrong to check on her if your gut is saying so. do you know what a covert narc is? personal experience@@sloanmagnum5009
These are the three things you do if she cheats 1) WALK AWAY 2) WALK AWAY 3) WALK AWAY In a relationship...The one who cares the least... Has all the power. Never ever take back a cheating woman... She is NOT sorry she cheated....... She is only sorry...SHE GOT CAUGHT! She will do it again...But next time..She will be even more "Sly" and cover her tracks even better. How can you trust something that can bleed for a week non-stop..and not die! Women do NOT love men.... They love what they can GET from a man. and if the "Bigger better deal" comes along...You get dropped like a used paper tissue.
Betrayal can take many forms, it's not just stepping out on you, or cheating on you. Betrayal can mean she has ZERO RESPECT for you. Treats you as a Second Class Citizen when you are out with her friends, or over at her parents place. Betrayal could be something as simple as her throwing you under the bus, or sides with her friends or family over a serious difference of opinion. Betrayal could be something as simple as belittling you in front of friends and family, or trying to think she can put you in your place. Betrayal comes in many forms. DO NOT ACCEPT IT
Agreed . This is why MEN shouldn’t tolerate any bull of women. 99% of women are ready to leave if a better deal comes along so if they don’t respect you fully then you know eventually they will betray you.
My 7 year long relationship ended up having me walk away because she was traditional and then she went to college and got indoctrinated by feminism and made the relationship hell. She’s gonna realize if she wants to try to get me back that the standards and boundaries from the lessons that I’ve made will be much more stringent than previously. She won’t even be able to qualify!
Never thought it could/would happen to me, but guess what? After about 30 faithful yrs invested in her & building a family, my now ex f'd me & the fam over hardcore. Lied/cheated/stole & ran off w/her boss (whom was a family 'friend' for about 10 years & heir to a family business). Note: I had/have a great career that existed the entire time I was married to my ex. Never struggled paycheck-to-paycheck; we traveled all over; raised some superb kids; kept busy with varied things. Still didn't matter. You guys need to really listen to the gist of what Rich says. Hypergamy couldn't be more real. Your lady has the capability in her to do it to you, could be sooner, could be decades down the line. Doesn't matter how much wealth you have (think Bill Gates, Jeff Bezos, etc), doesn't matter how good looking you are/in shape you are... you have to come to grips with the fact it can still happen to you, yes you, and then act accordingly.
Very similar experience here, after being married over 36 years, so you're the first person I've seen so far in my journey who was married even close to how long we were. Like you, we raised three awesome adult kids and had great extended travels together as recently as a year ago. I never saw it coming.
I was common law for ten years with my ex. Best nine years of my life. Thank god no kids. A younger brother married 20 years and with three great kids, two boys and a girl all grown up now split up after she cheated. He kept trying to get her back no matter what at first and was angry and depressed for almost 20 years since then. She turned the boys against him. We thought he was finally coming to terms with it. Last June he self-deleted to get away from her. For real.
Guys please understand that you need to vet the woman prior to wanting to claim her. Never tell her I don't take women seriously who have....blah, blah, blah. just be quiet and say nothing and write her off. never try to pull rank, leverage use silly "alpha strategies". You never think you can change/modify any womans behavior or mindset. She already HAS TO BE what you want her to be. Savy women play the long game and are excellent at deception to get what they want.
you spitting gold my guy. by the age of 20 she is already formed. you can't change her. she can only get worse never better and like J Cole use to say "Don't save her she don't wanna be save..."
Coffee with her female friends in the morning rather than partying with them isn t a guarentee anymore either. I personally know of a woman constantly cheating on her bf for the last year during the "coffee session with her female friends" on Sundays. She does this on a weekly basis and may also post instagram stories to back her lies. It all comes down to the person in the end, there are still a few women around with principles. My point is if she wants to cheat, she ll do it any way
@@willruiz305Wow… Now, that’s slick. Good way to be able to come home, and jump in the shower without raising suspicion because she’s been “working out”!
Character over scenario. The safest sounding outing, if she cheats, she will. Same as men. Like a cat. Eats somewhere else and comes home like nothing happened.
Oh it’s terribly easy. You’re just doing something wrong. If you are leaning back on your salary and your house count, you are missing the point. Forget about that, it’s not working. Anyone who thinks money pulls women has nothing else compelling to put on the table. are you adventurous? Are you pleasant? Are you fun? Are you interesting? Women want feelings, but some of the trash ones will take money instead. I lived with a yoga instructing family physician that made 250,000 a year while I was making 20 bucks an hour because I’m fun. I’m 5 foot nine I weigh 140 pounds. I’ve got a two-year degree, I’m covered in tattoos. Balding and pale white. If you can’t answer the following question in complete and time tested certainty without thinking for a second, you need to reevaluate: “why should they choose me?” You gotta know what your specialty gig, schtick, or game is. Once you know that you are set.
Guy a short not good-looking heavy set guy B good-looking great body guy B is evolutionary better and more advanced than guy a women want guy be more than a
I supported my wife and family for about 28 years. Then my business failed during covid. Hers stayed stable. She was able to save some money. Then she left, had an affair, I have the kids and now she wants to cone back into the house and kick me out but get me to pay for most of it.
If you don't have kids it's easy to move on if you're not a pansy. If you're married with kids, the first time she even disrespects you, call a lawyer and prepare to be tortured. Its horrible and a real tragedy for the kids.
No where in nature is the female of the species loyal to the male of the species. You men are suffering because you're investing too much into a creature that is disloyal by nature. Yes, she's beautiful, she's fun to hang out with, & she makes you feel good but you DONT OWN HER. Just enjoy the moment & invest the minimum or nothing. It doesn't matter what you look like or how much money that you have, eventually she will desire something different. You're not less of a man & it's not your fault. It's just the way it is. Stop expecting them to value the things that we value like loyalty, honesty, & character because they don't. We're not the same just as we don't value the same things that they value. The sooner that you men accept them for who they are & deal with them accordingly, the better off you will be.
As a female I can tell you it goes both ways. I heard a criminal attorney ask someone Have you ever killed anyone? The person said no.. He replied you just haven’t met them yet….. Same with infidelity.. We are all humans and this would encourages Constantly to be self indulgent… If you find a keeper Thank God daily.🎚
@@lovewhitey4462 It shouldn’t go both ways because protecting & providing doesn’t go both ways. A man will always have an exorbitantly higher risk factor when dealing with a woman than a woman would have when dealing with a man.
I spent years trying to figure out why the betrayal was so upsetting and I think I figured it out. I pedestalized her and it really was a let down that someone I held in such high esteem was capable of something so low class. They’re all just people guys, nothing special!
Who needs em? Married for 30 years. They almost all do it. Dont trust them. Im content and do not need a womans validation anymore. Im a good man, living a good life. Getting cheated on hurts. Will not do that again. Have more money than ever. Life is good!
i just used her until she left. listen if she cheats just use her and then let her leave and keep your emotions out if it and never respond once she leaves and just dont give af. remember if she cheats she doesnt guve af so you dont give af
My wife and I are separated, but still live in the same house, with our 2 small kids. A year ago she started to go out, with her friends, so she said. One Saturday night she did not come home all night long, while I was home with the kids. I called and texted her all night long and seriously thought something had happened to her. When she returned Sunday morning and I asked her what happened, she said that was not my business and walked away. Then I knew she was cheating on me. We have been married for 12 years and it hit me like a rock. I never cheated on her, work and provide for my family, cooked and cleaned the house. What an idiot I have been. I hope my divorce will be finalized soon.
I know a women who's been bilking her ex for going on 3 decades now. She even had a full-blown (gown, guests, reception etc), but non-legal wedding with her new 'husband' about 7 years ago. Getting ex for healthcare & other benefits from the divorce. If that isn't bad enough she's the one that was stepping out on the marriage when with her first husband.
I just a strong impression the girl I've been dating 18 months was cheating. I blocked her off everything, no asking, no arguing no, no explanations. I don't need any. Not a single tear shed. I've been a simp with women in the past not again I was red pilled going into this one and I can honestly say I dealt with everything the right way.
I was that “plugged beta” when we got married. I wasn’t when we met. I had 2 other girls when we met. I was living a great life. Then I became “domesticated” and had kids. I still loved my life but I did t realize it then that I became THAT guy. Not until she left me for an alcoholic man that cheated on his wife did I realize how women really were. Our suburban life was boring to her and she craved chaos.
Not all the money, fitness, and clout can make a woman stay says divorced Scottie Pippen, Bill Gates, Johnny Depp, Tom Brady. Your money, the gym, and your fancy car don’t betray you
I got cheated on by a girl that I really liked at the time. In my opinion you move on by being able to trust your ability to recover. The more heartbreak you suffer the more valuable the recovery. I’ve had a couple of relationships since and the girl I’m with now is amazing. If I lose her I lose her … I’ll recover - that’s what we do.
Mine didn't even get a white dress. I tied a piece of licorice around her ring finger and she committed herself to me. We lasted 26 years. No papers and a simple "divorce" we split the savings and she moved out.
@beetleything1864 yeah sorry but we were much older than 3 or 4. Turns out when a woman is truly into you, nothing matters beyond you wanting to be with her. She accepted without hesitation. She asked for an actual ring about 6 years later so she had something to wear on her ring finger. She let me pick it and didn't care about price. I chose a $99 ring and she absolutely loved it. Again they won't care about how fancy or expensive it is if they're truly into you. I'd never be with a materialistic woman. I will add however that she came from a poor background and never expected a fancy life.
It never bothered me that much when my wife cheated. It was the loss of house, money and children in family court that hurt. I figured the next guy can have her. Now she is his problem
Setting boundaries 5 10 years into a relationship/marriage where the girl walks all over you and has GNOs and vacations is like putting a leash on a cat that 1 2yo -- it's just not going to work
There are only two ways a woman cheats: she fell in love with that guy and stopped loving you, or she never loved you in the first place. Neither is a situation that's recoverable.
I know a divorced woman who refuses to marry again because she gets a nice alimony payment from her ex-husband. Even though the child support will run out at some point, the alimony continues until the man dies or the woman remarries.
"Cheating" can be a whole lot more than actually having sex with some other dude. Talking on the phone with some other dude.....txting some other dude......going to lunch with some other dude.......going into some other dudes apartment......driving in the same car with some other dude....etc. Now, some of the activities I just mentioned may come off sounding petty or controlling......but those type of male relationships outside of the relationship she has with you, should be ENORMOUS red flags! Can't happen......got to put your foot down early or simply move on.
Here are my 5 steps: 1. Kick her out 2. Change the locks 3. Break-Up/Devorce as quickly as possible, as time is your most valuable asset 4. Evaluate which red flag you ignored/didn't now off and learn so you won't fall for it again 5. Get an even better women
wow! i had a prob with depression since before i arried..25 yrs into mrriage i had a severe depression attack? and my wif said to me ,,most people write a note and do it. betray # 1! i said to myselt..thats it, were done absolutly!
Never believed in tit for tat yet when it happened to me, I had enough to start over. Even when I think about it, it's definitely refreshing to have nipped it in the bud instantly. Instantly reconciled within that it was a free out. Never work long hours for short pay and have a promiscuous woman in a so-called monogamy. That's a perfect oxymoron for the moronic behavior I practiced in my 30s. Yet, with any of us, recognize instantly who isn't for you. The signs never lie. Just don't think you have someone different because anyone is capable of promiscuity. Basically our turn can run out quicker than a pet when you leave the door open too long. Smothering is a no no as well.
just found out that my girlfriend cheated on me when she was away for medicalattachments . i told her we have to break up cause i can't stay who can reach to that extent but the problem is that am not my self, am over thinking about the situation and i have an exams next week, i can't study in peace. flash backs are on my mind. and over thinking about what she was doing there
Kurt Cobain had a quote that hit me so hard from the trauma i got after finding out one of exes was doing me dirty for YEARS, tht i tattooed it on down the side of my entire lower leg...."attachment is the root of suffering" no truer words have ever been said
Fortunately enough, I haven't experienced such betrayal. I've been an active user and subscriber on the channel since January 21. Really thankful I found you Richard.
Never, never, never agree to alimony!!! This is a hill to die on. Always negotiate a payoff, even if you have to borrow the money, but her off!!! Child care is different, it’s NOT alimony and it ends….
I’ve had it once in my life in my 20’s and I vowed I’d NEVER let it happen again ( which it hasn’t ) I’ve stayed true to myself and what I offer and I’ve continued to take accountability for my imperfections. Within that time i have learnt so much about the absolute ruthlessness of female nature that I’m not really sure I want one anymore. I know there is good women out there but they ratio of good to bad ones is very small and I don’t generally step out to search for it so it’s highly unlikely most men doing the same are going to come across good women. I’ve come this far on my own and fought some demons along the way without a woman. If she ever does come along she better make sure SHE has something beneficial to my life in terms of happiness because it ain’t gonna last a month if she hasn’t
How do you do it? I’m female and I guess I’m just starting to realize there are more bad than good men It’s giving me anxiety nd fear that I will die alone. How did you develop your mindset??
@@yikes9921 Well firstly what I do is I ignore ALL the women out there that believe there’s more bad men out there than good. Because they’re the problem 😊 All the best 👍🏻
In regards to what you said, how women won’t get married to a man she currently loves, due to alimony. There should also be a common law, if the women is with the new man after X number of years, she would still lose her alimony. This is the same standard with a man and woman who has lived together for x number of years.
Old lady cheat? Instan't $h1T cannin'. No excuses. Change the locks set her stuff out on the curb with a handwritten sign "free". Great video. Good work.
Move on asap like you never met them period full stop. Take steps to protect yourself legally, forget about retribution of any kind, the greater the disparity between their actions and yours will be your only healthy revenge. The only reason you could feel pain from a person who would do that to you is because you do not understand or have enough self respect. If you have done the right thing by your partner, another person's actions can't define you, period. The pain will only end when you find self respect.
My ex "fell in love" with another guy while I was going through a depression. She abandoned me multiple times in my darkest hours. I tried to fix it in marriage counseling, but she continued to sneak around with this guy, and I divorced her. Because I lived in Virginia, she got very little alimony, and I kept the lion's share of the assets. The guy she ended up with had a stroke and now she waits on him hand and foot in exchange for a place to live.
"What's the best way to protect yourself?" Well, in a game you can't win, the only move is not to play. But then, Mother Nature has programmed the male black widow spider to go into near certain death to get some tail. Male humans have nearly the same programming.
Understand the following: A. Anything you say can and will be used against you. Therefore keep your behavior and rhetoric under control. B. Respect yourself. If you respect yourself you will find it unacceptable to be with a cheater. C. You will probably take some financial losses ending the relationship, make peace with it. D. Stop cohabitating the day you find out and do not return except in the company of neutral parties to get the items you could not take with you on that first day. E. Do not impugn your cheating ex in front of her/your children. You can mentally have a low opinion of her all you want but keep it to yourself and maybe occasional venting to YOUR (exclusively yours not mutual) closest adult friends. Running people down verbally in front of innocent people is a low rent behavior that makes nothing better. F. Reestablish yourself logistically and financially as soon as possible first. Socially second. Romantically a distant third.
If she cheats, its an opportunity. You can move on, self improve ( if you need to) get better in finance and eventually find someone better. It hurts but it's not the end for you.
If she cheats on you, is there honestly any response other than dumping her? You can't keep her for sport secks; she'll think she still 'owns' you and will do things to hurt you. She exposes you to the potential of disease. She has shown you the ultimate disrespect. You HAVE to dump her, and IMMEDIATELY. No 'couples therapy', no discussion, no negotiation. It's DONE.
There is only one thing to do when someone cheats on you...leave. Thena again I am a stoic, a woman cheating on me simply presents a binary choice, nothing personal, her issues have nothing to do with me. Have a nice day and good luck.
Well interesting...My story is different...She was 13 and I was 16 and we both made mistakes. But I have to view it as growing up and part of life. Now 60 and have battle scars but stronger than ever. Isn't mistakes how we learn and improve ourselves...A marriage is 2 people that refuse to give up and man don't it get great. The key maybe is being sorry for the mistakes one has made and honesty. Since when is there anything worth having that doesn't come at a cost.. Then before you know it your older and look back and be thankful for it all. The ride that most give up before it gets good.The toughest part is the fact it all went way to fast.. Main key is to do your best to always put them before yourself. Makes a bulletproof team. Well the world has changed and most like an easy ride. But easy never seems to last.. We watched everyone else fail and start over and they look at us like what did we do they didn't...Ummm..Learn from our mistakes and keep moving.. But we don't know anything. So we just watch..lol...One more thing is the fact I am certain we have been in and out of love at least 100 times along the journey. Mountains and valleys and high winds and cross winds. Failure is not an option. Failure is a choice to not make the finish line.. Personally I don't know anything but I sure know what won't work..All you have to do is watch others and they will teach you every way to fail possible.
Married young got her pregnant, fell apart, surprise right?! Moved out, neighbor BOY moves in "I wasn't cheating" LOL. Married him, another baby. left him 3yrs. later after not making the mortgage and hiding it for a year.( karma is a bitch.) House was my boyhood home my family sold her!!?? WAIT! 3rd husband looks exactly like me.
Just understand womens actions are based solely on emotions. They can love you one day but hate you the next. There is no rational and what you've provided in the past doesnt matter. What does matter is what they feel in the moment. That is what they act on and where the betryal lies
Absolutely never take an ex back once she cheats. She will behave for a time, treat you like gold, but she will scree you over again!! Guaranteed.
Happened to me, i had the Disney movies on replay in my head
Never take any woman back.
If you roll them in bed for a week and flush the condom.
Found that the hard way!
I've been there. You're right ✅️
The more attached you are, the more you will suffer. Don’t get attached. Follow your own path, stay in peak shape.
You can't be none attached sooner or later both or most the time a guy get attached
The Buddha?
@@eQuariuz to be fair yasodhara didn't want to be his wife either, or in better term, she didn't want the marital life.
You should be attached, but have skills (and take the actions) to detach. But like Dr. Orion says, it’s better for most men to be the adored than the adorer
Truth!! Stay detached
My ex wife cheated on me and the betrayal is what still haunts me years later. I wouldn’t wish that pain on my worst enemy
Please don't say you stayed?!
presumably you'd wish it on her though. Not that I think most women can ever feel the same pain we do when it happens. They can easily go bang someone the same day they found out.
Same here.
I can relate but I would wish it upon all of my enemies! 😂
Same here, but I survived it and my life is better without her.
Number 1 …leave her …there’s no other steps
Yes number 1...your bald ... there's no other steps 😮
Guys, you are not responsible for your woman's happiness or unhappiness. She and only she is.
There’s only one thing to do if she cheats. You disappear.
ghosted her..
This is most important, especially immediately. Total immediate, absolute silence and absence, forever.
I agree but the problem is, are you 100% she cheated? covert narcissist can be VERY TRICKY! you need to follow them UNDERCOVER...
@martinmontes6170 what's wrong with you? What weird comment
what is wrong with you to have such reaction? what is weird? your comment is weird.
to confirm if your girl was or is cheating? there is nothing wrong to check on her if your gut is saying so. do you know what a covert narc is? personal experience@@sloanmagnum5009
Cheating is a blessing. You can close the door forever on an untrustworthy woman.
These are the three things you do if she cheats
1) WALK AWAY
2) WALK AWAY
3) WALK AWAY
In a relationship...The one who cares the least... Has all the power.
Never ever take back a cheating woman... She is NOT sorry she cheated....... She is only sorry...SHE GOT CAUGHT!
She will do it again...But next time..She will be even more "Sly" and cover her tracks even better.
How can you trust something that can bleed for a week non-stop..and not die!
Women do NOT love men.... They love what they can GET from a man. and if the "Bigger better deal" comes along...You get dropped like a used paper tissue.
Or...you can o.j.
@@SpenceCurry🥶
A chad speaking facts
Betrayal can take many forms, it's not just stepping out on you, or cheating on you. Betrayal can mean she has ZERO RESPECT for you. Treats you as a Second Class Citizen when you are out with her friends, or over at her parents place. Betrayal could be something as simple as her throwing you under the bus, or sides with her friends or family over a serious difference of opinion. Betrayal could be something as simple as belittling you in front of friends and family, or trying to think she can put you in your place. Betrayal comes in many forms.
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Betrayal can also be her taking money out of your wallet when you are sleeping. Don't accept it, move on.
Agreed . This is why MEN shouldn’t tolerate any bull of women. 99% of women are ready to leave if a better deal comes along so if they don’t respect you fully then you know eventually they will betray you.
My 7 year long relationship ended up having me walk away because she was traditional and then she went to college and got indoctrinated by feminism and made the relationship hell. She’s gonna realize if she wants to try to get me back that the standards and boundaries from the lessons that I’ve made will be much more stringent than previously. She won’t even be able to qualify!
Never thought it could/would happen to me, but guess what? After about 30 faithful yrs invested in her & building a family, my now ex f'd me & the fam over hardcore. Lied/cheated/stole & ran off w/her boss (whom was a family 'friend' for about 10 years & heir to a family business). Note: I had/have a great career that existed the entire time I was married to my ex. Never struggled paycheck-to-paycheck; we traveled all over; raised some superb kids; kept busy with varied things. Still didn't matter.
You guys need to really listen to the gist of what Rich says. Hypergamy couldn't be more real. Your lady has the capability in her to do it to you, could be sooner, could be decades down the line. Doesn't matter how much wealth you have (think Bill Gates, Jeff Bezos, etc), doesn't matter how good looking you are/in shape you are... you have to come to grips with the fact it can still happen to you, yes you, and then act accordingly.
Facts
Hypergamy is another word for ego, think about it.
Very similar experience here, after being married over 36 years, so you're the first person I've seen so far in my journey who was married even close to how long we were. Like you, we raised three awesome adult kids and had great extended travels together as recently as a year ago. I never saw it coming.
I was common law for ten years with my ex. Best nine years of my life. Thank god no kids. A younger brother married 20 years and with three great kids, two boys and a girl all grown up now split up after she cheated. He kept trying to get her back no matter what at first and was angry and depressed for almost 20 years since then. She turned the boys against him. We thought he was finally coming to terms with it. Last June he self-deleted to get away from her. For real.
Horrible. Sorry to hear this & other stories like it.
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Use your pain as fuel, remind yourself what they did to you whenever you feel low. Never accept 2nd place.
The greatest indicator of future behaviour, is past behaviour.
Yep, past behavior of you losing hair is your greatest indicator of future baldness. Big time.... schmuck
The past is prologue. -Wm. Shakespeare
Giving a disloyal person a second chance is flat out Ludacris
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Guys please understand that you need to vet the woman prior to wanting to claim her. Never tell her I don't take women seriously who have....blah, blah, blah. just be quiet and say nothing and write her off. never try to pull rank, leverage use silly "alpha strategies". You never think you can change/modify any womans behavior or mindset. She already HAS TO BE what you want her to be. Savy women play the long game and are excellent at deception to get what they want.
@@RodWalker-ix9mquse that emotion to motivate you to be a better man. Focus on you and make it a habit.
@@RodWalker-ix9mq because in the end of the day , its the right one - youre not a beta who can't control their emotions are you?
you spitting gold my guy. by the age of 20 she is already formed. you can't change her. she can only get worse never better and like J Cole use to say "Don't save her she don't wanna be save..."
Coffee with her female friends in the morning rather than partying with them isn t a guarentee anymore either. I personally know of a woman constantly cheating on her bf for the last year during the "coffee session with her female friends" on Sundays. She does this on a weekly basis and may also post instagram stories to back her lies. It all comes down to the person in the end, there are still a few women around with principles. My point is if she wants to cheat, she ll do it any way
I know a girl who went “running “ in the mornings but met with my man who helped her exercise in his car 🚗
@@willruiz305Wow… Now, that’s slick. Good way to be able to come home, and jump in the shower without raising suspicion because she’s been “working out”!
Character over scenario. The safest sounding outing, if she cheats, she will. Same as men. Like a cat. Eats somewhere else and comes home like nothing happened.
Like my uncle once said " U can love a woman but u don't have to put your heart all in it"
Actions > words and feelings.
If she cheats on you, there is no fix it plan. Time to move on!
Do they feel guilt?
Def not easy to get laid…. I train 4-5 days a week, make $300k a year, two homes and STILL have challenges.
It's never been easier
Oh it’s terribly easy. You’re just doing something wrong. If you are leaning back on your salary and your house count, you are missing the point. Forget about that, it’s not working. Anyone who thinks money pulls women has nothing else compelling to put on the table. are you adventurous? Are you pleasant? Are you fun? Are you interesting? Women want feelings, but some of the trash ones will take money instead. I lived with a yoga instructing family physician that made 250,000 a year while I was making 20 bucks an hour because I’m fun. I’m 5 foot nine I weigh 140 pounds. I’ve got a two-year degree, I’m covered in tattoos. Balding and pale white. If you can’t answer the following question in complete and time tested certainty without thinking for a second, you need to reevaluate: “why should they choose me?” You gotta know what your specialty gig, schtick, or game is. Once you know that you are set.
You mean with the women that you are actually attracted to? Women do the same thing, but they have far more ridiculous idea of what their level is.
Its looks and height and character traits
Guy a short not good-looking heavy set guy B good-looking great body guy B is evolutionary better and more advanced than guy a women want guy be more than a
I supported my wife and family for about 28 years. Then my business failed during covid. Hers stayed stable.
She was able to save some money. Then she left, had an affair, I have the kids and now she wants to cone back into the house and kick me out but get me to pay for most of it.
She is not yours, it was just your turn... until yesterday she doublemonkeybackflipped😂
Walk away and “be the prize”!!!
If you don't have kids it's easy to move on if you're not a pansy. If you're married with kids, the first time she even disrespects you, call a lawyer and prepare to be tortured. Its horrible and a real tragedy for the kids.
Its never the first time she cheated.
Its the first time shes been caught
No where in nature is the female of the species loyal to the male of the species. You men are suffering because you're investing too much into a creature that is disloyal by nature. Yes, she's beautiful, she's fun to hang out with, & she makes you feel good but you DONT OWN HER. Just enjoy the moment & invest the minimum or nothing. It doesn't matter what you look like or how much money that you have, eventually she will desire something different. You're not less of a man & it's not your fault. It's just the way it is. Stop expecting them to value the things that we value like loyalty, honesty, & character because they don't. We're not the same just as we don't value the same things that they value. The sooner that you men accept them for who they are & deal with them accordingly, the better off you will be.
As a female I can tell you it goes both ways. I heard a criminal attorney ask someone Have you ever killed anyone? The person said no.. He replied you just haven’t met them yet….. Same with infidelity.. We are all humans and this would encourages Constantly to be self indulgent… If you find a keeper Thank God daily.🎚
Thank God? Absolutely 🤔✝️🙏💪💯 however his word says that no women out of 1000 people are good not one. Maybe one man is good maybe.
Preach brother. Best comment on this video.
@@lovewhitey4462 It shouldn’t go both ways because protecting & providing doesn’t go both ways. A man will always have an exorbitantly higher risk factor when dealing with a woman than a woman would have when dealing with a man.
@@alwaysright3943 Thx a lot.
I spent years trying to figure out why the betrayal was so upsetting and I think I figured it out. I pedestalized her and it really was a let down that someone I held in such high esteem was capable of something so low class. They’re all just people guys, nothing special!
Upsetting??? It was your baldness betrayal to her. She wanted hair. She is not low class. You are low class for being bald. 🥴🥳👨🏻🦲🥴
They're not people, theyre overgrown children
Who needs em? Married for 30 years. They almost all do it. Dont trust them. Im content and do not need a womans validation anymore. Im a good man, living a good life. Getting cheated on hurts. Will not do that again. Have more money than ever. Life is good!
i just used her until she left. listen if she cheats just use her and then let her leave and keep your emotions out if it and never respond once she leaves and just dont give af. remember if she cheats she doesnt guve af so you dont give af
My wife and I are separated, but still live in the same house, with our 2 small kids. A year ago she started to go out, with her friends, so she said. One Saturday night she did not come home all night long, while I was home with the kids. I called and texted her all night long and seriously thought something had happened to her. When she returned Sunday morning and I asked her what happened, she said that was not my business and walked away. Then I knew she was cheating on me. We have been married for 12 years and it hit me like a rock. I never cheated on her, work and provide for my family, cooked and cleaned the house. What an idiot I have been. I hope my divorce will be finalized soon.
You were too good to her, that was the problem. Women don't deserve to be treated like queens. Not anymore.
Great content. I wish I would have heard this decades ago.
I know a women who's been bilking her ex for going on 3 decades now. She even had a full-blown (gown, guests, reception etc), but non-legal wedding with her new 'husband' about 7 years ago. Getting ex for healthcare & other benefits from the divorce. If that isn't bad enough she's the one that was stepping out on the marriage when with her first husband.
So all the time with her new husband she was banging husband 1?
5 things to do?! How about 1….leave
I just a strong impression the girl I've been dating 18 months was cheating. I blocked her off everything, no asking, no arguing no, no explanations. I don't need any. Not a single tear shed. I've been a simp with women in the past not again I was red pilled going into this one and I can honestly say I dealt with everything the right way.
Good for you man
Well-done, bro!
I was that “plugged beta” when we got married. I wasn’t when we met. I had 2 other girls when we met. I was living a great life. Then I became “domesticated” and had kids. I still loved my life but I did t realize it then that I became THAT guy. Not until she left me for an alcoholic man that cheated on his wife did I realize how women really were. Our suburban life was boring to her and she craved chaos.
Leave!! Because it's over once a woman cheats. Simple, or entertain another man.
Not all the money, fitness, and clout can make a woman stay says divorced Scottie Pippen, Bill Gates, Johnny Depp, Tom Brady. Your money, the gym, and your fancy car don’t betray you
I got cheated on by a girl that I really liked at the time. In my opinion you move on by being able to trust your ability to recover. The more heartbreak you suffer the more valuable the recovery.
I’ve had a couple of relationships since and the girl I’m with now is amazing. If I lose her I lose her … I’ll recover - that’s what we do.
They can have their “white dress” but I’m never signing any papers.
You're a badass)
princess for the day.
Mine didn't even get a white dress. I tied a piece of licorice around her ring finger and she committed herself to me. We lasted 26 years. No papers and a simple "divorce" we split the savings and she moved out.
@@scottverge938 well when your 3 or 4 that's all very well.......
@beetleything1864 yeah sorry but we were much older than 3 or 4.
Turns out when a woman is truly into you, nothing matters beyond you wanting to be with her. She accepted without hesitation. She asked for an actual ring about 6 years later so she had something to wear on her ring finger. She let me pick it and didn't care about price.
I chose a $99 ring and she absolutely loved it. Again they won't care about how fancy or expensive it is if they're truly into you. I'd never be with a materialistic woman.
I will add however that she came from a poor background and never expected a fancy life.
It never bothered me that much when my wife cheated. It was the loss of house, money and children in family court that hurt. I figured the next guy can have her. Now she is his problem
Setting boundaries 5 10 years into a relationship/marriage where the girl walks all over you and has GNOs and vacations is like putting a leash on a cat that 1 2yo -- it's just not going to work
I tried to get over once they stepped out and you cant look at them the same ever again.
Dump her immediately if she cheats on u period!
There are only two ways a woman cheats: she fell in love with that guy and stopped loving you, or she never loved you in the first place. Neither is a situation that's recoverable.
One if my exes cheated so I did all her mates and sister then told her ha I was ruthless back then hit me once I hit you a plenty more ...
Make loads of money and don't share it with a woman ever
I know a divorced woman who refuses to marry again because she gets a nice alimony payment from her ex-husband. Even though the child support will run out at some point, the alimony continues until the man dies or the woman remarries.
"Cheating" can be a whole lot more than actually having sex with some other dude. Talking on the phone with some other dude.....txting some other dude......going to lunch with some other dude.......going into some other dudes apartment......driving in the same car with some other dude....etc.
Now, some of the activities I just mentioned may come off sounding petty or controlling......but those type of male relationships outside of the relationship she has with you, should be ENORMOUS red flags! Can't happen......got to put your foot down early or simply move on.
Here are my 5 steps:
1. Kick her out
2. Change the locks
3. Break-Up/Devorce as quickly as possible, as time is your most valuable asset
4. Evaluate which red flag you ignored/didn't now off and learn so you won't fall for it again
5. Get an even better women
Exactly what I did. Perfect advice! 💯💪💯💪
Only one step my guy..1. stay bald...she will run...no woman likes a bald man. Those women settle for baldy
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wow! i had a prob with depression since before i arried..25 yrs into mrriage i had a severe depression attack? and my wif said to me ,,most people write a note and do it. betray # 1! i said to myselt..thats it, were done absolutly!
Rich speaks cold hard truth.
Plugs aside very insightful and necessary. Concise after ignoring the fluff. Like 👍🏾
Aa@
Never believed in tit for tat yet when it happened to me, I had enough to start over. Even when I think about it, it's definitely refreshing to have nipped it in the bud instantly. Instantly reconciled within that it was a free out. Never work long hours for short pay and have a promiscuous woman in a so-called monogamy. That's a perfect oxymoron for the moronic behavior I practiced in my 30s. Yet, with any of us, recognize instantly who isn't for you. The signs never lie. Just don't think you have someone different because anyone is capable of promiscuity. Basically our turn can run out quicker than a pet when you leave the door open too long. Smothering is a no no as well.
just found out that my girlfriend cheated on me when she was away for medicalattachments . i told her we have to break up cause i can't stay who can reach to that extent but the problem is that am not my self, am over thinking about the situation and i have an exams next week, i can't study in peace. flash backs are on my mind. and over thinking about what she was doing there
She is not yours...its just your turn..
Keep that in mind and you're good..
Never invest emotionally..
11:28 yep its the hard part even with access to kids. And mine didbnot even cheat.she just wanted out
Kurt Cobain had a quote that hit me so hard from the trauma i got after finding out one of exes was doing me dirty for YEARS, tht i tattooed it on down the side of my entire lower leg...."attachment is the root of suffering" no truer words have ever been said
Buddhism 101 .
As a guy just practice celibacy and focus on your path and forget about women. That’s my advice
This IS the WAY
Fortunately enough, I haven't experienced such betrayal. I've been an active user and subscriber on the channel since January 21.
Really thankful I found you Richard.
Fiance to be cheated on me. Never look back. Crisis averted!
Idk about yall but I personally would never pay a penny in alimony, even if court ordered. I’ll die first
My wife is the type that would do overnight girls hangout with her single friends which she thinks is fine but i struggle with that
When Tony Brady got cheated on, I knew no one was safe.
Tom Brady*
Wow, never knew that. Is it true?
Super powerful. I'll remember this comment 🤣
Straight and wise … great job Rich
Damn, he sure turned up at 4:15 😂😂😂.
Straight Up Truth here !!!!!!
Never, never, never agree to alimony!!! This is a hill to die on. Always negotiate a payoff, even if you have to borrow the money, but her off!!! Child care is different, it’s NOT alimony and it ends….
I’ve had it once in my life in my 20’s and I vowed I’d NEVER let it happen again ( which it hasn’t ) I’ve stayed true to myself and what I offer and I’ve continued to take accountability for my imperfections. Within that time i have learnt so much about the absolute ruthlessness of female nature that I’m not really sure I want one anymore. I know there is good women out there but they ratio of good to bad ones is very small and I don’t generally step out to search for it so it’s highly unlikely most men doing the same are going to come across good women. I’ve come this far on my own and fought some demons along the way without a woman. If she ever does come along she better make sure SHE has something beneficial to my life in terms of happiness because it ain’t gonna last a month if she hasn’t
How do you do it?
I’m female and I guess I’m just starting to realize there are more bad than good men
It’s giving me anxiety nd fear that I will die alone.
How did you develop your mindset??
@@yikes9921 Well firstly what I do is I ignore ALL the women out there that believe there’s more bad men out there than good. Because they’re the problem 😊
All the best 👍🏻
In regards to what you said, how women won’t get married to a man she currently loves, due to alimony. There should also be a common law, if the women is with the new man after X number of years, she would still lose her alimony. This is the same standard with a man and woman who has lived together for x number of years.
Thank you for reminding me 👍
Old lady cheat? Instan't $h1T cannin'. No excuses. Change the locks set her stuff out on the curb with a handwritten sign "free". Great video. Good work.
If she cheats, there is only 1 thing to do.....and that is dump that load. And move on.
Move on asap like you never met them period full stop.
Take steps to protect yourself legally, forget about retribution of any kind, the greater the disparity between their actions and yours will be your only healthy revenge.
The only reason you could feel pain from a person who would do that to you is because you do not understand or have enough self respect.
If you have done the right thing by your partner, another person's actions can't define you, period.
The pain will only end when you find self respect.
There is an answer for everything on you- tube.
If she cheat walk away.
wow! you said you really cant! you cant be more TRUE. YUP, I used to say there nothing you can do against a GOOD LIE! cheers my bro
Absolutely right. 💯
Thank you!!!
My ex "fell in love" with another guy while I was going through a depression. She abandoned me multiple times in my darkest hours. I tried to fix it in marriage counseling, but she continued to sneak around with this guy, and I divorced her. Because I lived in Virginia, she got very little alimony, and I kept the lion's share of the assets.
The guy she ended up with had a stroke and now she waits on him hand and foot in exchange for a place to live.
5 things?😮
I thought there is only one thing to do...
I'm interested in watching this video BRB.
"What's the best way to protect yourself?"
Well, in a game you can't win, the only move is not to play.
But then, Mother Nature has programmed the male black widow spider to go into near certain death to get some tail. Male humans have nearly the same programming.
Understand the following:
A. Anything you say can and will be used against you. Therefore keep your behavior and rhetoric under control.
B. Respect yourself. If you respect yourself you will find it unacceptable to be with a cheater.
C. You will probably take some financial losses ending the relationship, make peace with it.
D. Stop cohabitating the day you find out and do not return except in the company of neutral parties to get the items you could not take with you on that first day.
E. Do not impugn your cheating ex in front of her/your children. You can mentally have a low opinion of her all you want but keep it to yourself and maybe occasional venting to YOUR (exclusively yours not mutual) closest adult friends. Running people down verbally in front of innocent people is a low rent behavior that makes nothing better.
F. Reestablish yourself logistically and financially as soon as possible first. Socially second. Romantically a distant third.
Never accept cheat or disrespect from woman.
Bald men..never disrespect women...you are bald and add no value to their lives
* Good Thing re’ Social Media - We Know Now
Cat’s out of the bag.
You are better off being horribly lonely than stay with her another day . If you hope to “win” her back … never gunna happen .
Embrace uncertainty. Do this after she leaves and focus on taking care of yourself.
Only 1 thing to do…leave lol
If she cheats, its an opportunity. You can move on, self improve ( if you need to) get better in finance and eventually find someone better. It hurts but it's not the end for you.
If she cheats on you, is there honestly any response other than dumping her? You can't keep her for sport secks; she'll think she still 'owns' you and will do things to hurt you. She exposes you to the potential of disease. She has shown you the ultimate disrespect. You HAVE to dump her, and IMMEDIATELY. No 'couples therapy', no discussion, no negotiation. It's DONE.
There is only one thing to do when someone cheats on you...leave. Thena again I am a stoic, a woman cheating on me simply presents a binary choice, nothing personal, her issues have nothing to do with me. Have a nice day and good luck.
Never Simp and zero tolerance for disrespect.
5 things....just leave when they cheat...thats all you need to do.
5 things to do? I got 1 thing... leave.
Never show women your full hand play it like vegas they'll take everything the more you have!!
Well interesting...My story is different...She was 13 and I was 16 and we both made mistakes. But I have to view it as growing up and part of life. Now 60 and have battle scars but stronger than ever. Isn't mistakes how we learn and improve ourselves...A marriage is 2 people that refuse to give up and man don't it get great. The key maybe is being sorry for the mistakes one has made and honesty. Since when is there anything worth having that doesn't come at a cost.. Then before you know it your older and look back and be thankful for it all. The ride that most give up before it gets good.The toughest part is the fact it all went way to fast.. Main key is to do your best to always put them before yourself. Makes a bulletproof team. Well the world has changed and most like an easy ride. But easy never seems to last.. We watched everyone else fail and start over and they look at us like what did we do they didn't...Ummm..Learn from our mistakes and keep moving.. But we don't know anything. So we just watch..lol...One more thing is the fact I am certain we have been in and out of love at least 100 times along the journey. Mountains and valleys and high winds and cross winds. Failure is not an option. Failure is a choice to not make the finish line.. Personally I don't know anything but I sure know what won't work..All you have to do is watch others and they will teach you every way to fail possible.
Remember fellas “You’re not hers, it’s just her turn” 😉
Married young got her pregnant, fell apart, surprise right?! Moved out, neighbor BOY moves in "I wasn't cheating" LOL. Married him, another baby. left him 3yrs. later after not making the mortgage and hiding it for a year.( karma is a bitch.) House was my boyhood home my family sold her!!?? WAIT! 3rd husband looks exactly like me.
I brought her back for about 3 hours. Then she asked if I wanted to get back together and I said no.
The more I watch this kind a content, the more I want to stay single 😁
Best way to protect yourself is to live for you. She’s not your life…just an added plus
Just understand womens actions are based solely on emotions. They can love you one day but hate you the next. There is no rational and what you've provided in the past doesnt matter. What does matter is what they feel in the moment. That is what they act on and where the betryal lies