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  • @SvenDettman
    @SvenDettman 3 місяці тому +15

    As he said, these wants and wishes change over time, so you cant negotiate them in advance.

  • @pavementstoneguy
    @pavementstoneguy 3 місяці тому +78

    Also, as a man, what BENEFITS do you get by marrying a woman? Just have a long-term relationship and refuse to sign any contracts. It's the same thing without the legal risks.

    • @raczyk
      @raczyk 3 місяці тому +18

      If you're living with a woman, then the same laws apply that if you would be married.

    • @eladbari
      @eladbari 3 місяці тому +17

      Basically, it's the celebration of transfer of power/leverage over.

    • @fdsm9211
      @fdsm9211 3 місяці тому +6

      Not in all countries@@raczyk

    • @_Solaris
      @_Solaris 3 місяці тому +8

      The legal risks still apply in most areas.
      Even prenup-esque contracts are like rolling the dice 🎲🎲

    • @davidallahgod3217
      @davidallahgod3217 3 місяці тому

      Benefits of marrying a woman, take a look at that football player who has millions and she divorced him expectations but paycheck and she got SWEET F/A

  • @alexleggett6270
    @alexleggett6270 3 місяці тому +11

    If genuine desire is there stay. If not then leave and find a girl who does have genuine desire for you. Negotiation over.

    • @Woofreestyle
      @Woofreestyle 3 місяці тому +3

      The only way to keep that desire is to constantly change women every so often. If you live with a woman eventually the desire will fade.

  • @defiantenergy
    @defiantenergy 3 місяці тому +20

    Its not even about sex. Men want a woman to enthusiasticly be in a relationship. If it doesnt seem like you want to be there for a long period of time... im out.

    • @brandonb7496
      @brandonb7496 3 місяці тому +3

      I'm out too

    • @Yay-hovah
      @Yay-hovah 3 місяці тому +2

      And I don’t owe you cash and prizes.

  • @WeRlostAndFound
    @WeRlostAndFound 3 місяці тому

    That's so true. It's not the act of just sexual interaction. As you stated you want your partner to desire it. What happens a lot in very long relationships is that sex become less and less overtime. This may lead to either one of the partners feeling less desirable and almost unwanted / no longer attractive to their significant other. Which hurt the other person. It's also a very difficult thing to communicate about. For most it's an awkward conversation, because ultimately you don't want your significant other to think all you care about is sex. However I do believe that sexual interaction regularly is healthy for a relationship. If your partner always had wild interactions with you and it just stops - his/her desires haven't changed. They've most likely just gotten the gratification from somewhere else.

  • @Beniamin6665
    @Beniamin6665 3 місяці тому +22

    Exactly what happened to me.. I died in her arms and didn’t leave her. Instead I chose to not give to her like she not gave to me.. She was far more powerful at not giving than I was. She destroyed me… Killed me.. It was so stupid of me to try and beat her at her own game because I needed her love. She didn’t need mine… She wanted from me what she wanted and as long as I was willing to give it to her in the intensity that she wanted she would have stayed… Where for me I was dying for it the entire time.

    • @netsherrera7193
      @netsherrera7193 3 місяці тому +15

      She was in business while you were in love. They're used to be in relationship just because at that moment is more convenient than being single. Unlike us men, they always have options, but can only fall in love with an ideal man, not the ones that are willing to be with them. They will deny it, but pay attention and find out for yourself.

    • @CR67
      @CR67 3 місяці тому

      Men want the Barbie Doll. Women don't want the Ken Doll, but rather all the stuff the Ken Doll comes with. The only way you win that is to kick her ass to the street, and the courts make that impossible to do.

    • @gibblyjones8411
      @gibblyjones8411 3 місяці тому

      Ur cringe dude

  • @amandajofisk85
    @amandajofisk85 3 місяці тому +27

    I’m going to stay single as I was born that way. that’s the easiest thing.

    • @davidallahgod3217
      @davidallahgod3217 3 місяці тому +6

      We men have already come out the box!

    • @hockeymikey
      @hockeymikey 3 місяці тому

      cats

    • @alibabarouge
      @alibabarouge 3 місяці тому +2

      It s the main theme from Men Go Their Own Way? If I am not mistaken?

    • @davidallahgod3217
      @davidallahgod3217 3 місяці тому

      @@alibabarouge a lot of crap on the Internet is from somewhere or someone else, just like Andrew Tate, he uses cartoons and film quotes

    • @alibabarouge
      @alibabarouge 3 місяці тому +3

      @@davidallahgod3217 i didn’t get you

  • @lotusflower21
    @lotusflower21 3 місяці тому +4

    Guys, enthusiasm is nurtured through emotional connection for alot of us women. Won't speak for all.

  • @faijano
    @faijano 3 місяці тому

    True no one can negotiate enthusiasm.

  • @rustyshield
    @rustyshield 3 місяці тому

    ...enthusiasm that was the key word. When she starts loosing that, be weary of what she will do next.

  • @scottkribs901
    @scottkribs901 3 місяці тому

    The way relationships work is that most of the time they don't. It's rare when they do. Speaking from experience.

  • @natnaelzenebe9269
    @natnaelzenebe9269 3 місяці тому +14

    ask your self this.. would you date yourself?

    • @edheldude
      @edheldude 3 місяці тому +10

      No because I want to date women who are not like me. That's why I like them.

    • @Yay-hovah
      @Yay-hovah 3 місяці тому

      @@edheldudeLol. Dude, he meant if you were a woman, would you date you as the guy you are.

    • @esyphillis101
      @esyphillis101 3 місяці тому

      @@edheldudethe thing is we don’t look for people who are completely identical in thoughts, values, goals and personalities to us.

  • @GodLikeMike
    @GodLikeMike 3 місяці тому +1

    I wish I had discovered your channel long time ago. I absolutely love your work and what u do for (wo)men kind 💯👍 keep it up

  • @goofywill90
    @goofywill90 3 місяці тому

    0:19 It's like just put yourself out there as a solution. You can't just do that it has to be calibrated.

  • @Elle.Energy
    @Elle.Energy 3 місяці тому +7

    Oh my goodness, he is so right!!! I had to ask for sexy time with my last partner... That seems to be one of the downfalls to most of my relationships. Some guys think they want someone that is enthusiastic and then when you are it's like having it well stocked all the time. They don't care anymore or are confused why you want them😐 (I tried a gentle contract with a boyfriend and it didn't work either.) Slowly realizing I'm not a typical woman either🤷🏼‍♀️

    • @Tiosh
      @Tiosh 3 місяці тому +1

      Yeah I've heard from many friends that once sex is in plentiful amounts it becomes stale. It still feels like an alien concept to me since I've never been in a relationship long enough to get to that state.

  • @2bituser569
    @2bituser569 3 місяці тому

    Very similar to Rollo, “you can’t negotiate genuine desire”.

  • @cosmictreason2242
    @cosmictreason2242 3 місяці тому +8

    "Can't negotiate"
    Bet. 1 Corinthians 7 requires spousal blankey struggles. To deprive the other is considered sxl immorality and if it is prolonged, is grounds for divorce in the church.

  • @ChrisLee-yr7tz
    @ChrisLee-yr7tz 3 місяці тому +13

    Does the interviewer even listen? So Orion says there is an evolution of wants/needs over time. The interviewer then says so the answer is upfront negotiation. Huh?

    • @_rajat0003
      @_rajat0003 3 місяці тому

      Exactly

    • @kresovk5
      @kresovk5 3 місяці тому

      First off, a good interviewer doesn't just represent himself. He also represents others. Good interviewer will also ask questions, which some people in the audience would have also asked if they were there.
      Second, what he is asking isn't wild. He is trying to resolve chaos with (some) certainty. Some people like me crave certainty of the steel, and that's exactly what the answer says isn't possible.

  • @davidallahgod3217
    @davidallahgod3217 3 місяці тому +6

    Just be a Zombie when you first get with them, and then be a Zombie when you break up, because you will always be one step upfront, because she will always think he was a Zombie

    • @JeffersonRah
      @JeffersonRah 3 місяці тому +3

      I also came to that conclusion

    • @Yay-hovah
      @Yay-hovah 3 місяці тому

      What? 😂

    • @adrianrubin8435
      @adrianrubin8435 3 місяці тому

      Did you have a fucking brain aneurysm while writing that, genuinely what the fuck does this even mean?

  • @gregcombs4898
    @gregcombs4898 3 місяці тому

    It seems like women only marry as a precursor when marriage fails they will be financially embursed

  • @BoItzmannBrain
    @BoItzmannBrain 3 місяці тому +5

    So whats the solution?

    • @moisesbeyond
      @moisesbeyond 3 місяці тому +4

      PUMP AND DUMP

    • @IfSemper
      @IfSemper 3 місяці тому +4

      A woman who initiates fellaciOH with you in abundance is one example, 'cause you'll be able to tell it turns her on to pleasure you & that she enjoys expressing her love in various ways like that. (Not advocating it outside a committed relationship, but you get the idea.)

    • @VelvetSky1102
      @VelvetSky1102 3 місяці тому +4

      go monk

    • @cool08player
      @cool08player 3 місяці тому +5

      Passport or just don't bother. At this point, anytime I see a recently mary'd man in the West, I can't help but think he's re tar ded.

    • @eQuariuz
      @eQuariuz 3 місяці тому

      To remove all privileges and protections from women in the west. Men build and maintain basically EVERYTHING. Women are supposed to be "helpmates", not equal-access-to-everything-by-default
      partners who aren't really equal. Simply revoke her access to civilization and watch how fast they change their tune and want individual men, even on her own level, badly. Seems funny but we need to actually implement it.

  • @christianw6723
    @christianw6723 3 місяці тому

    What's the background music called?

  • @melenico4512
    @melenico4512 3 місяці тому

    You cant negotiate burning desire.

  • @sevestan
    @sevestan 3 місяці тому +18

    If women would just do what they are told we wouldn't have these messes

    • @davidallahgod3217
      @davidallahgod3217 3 місяці тому +1

      Bring back Sean Connery slapping a woman for not doing as she told!

  • @antoniademeny5026
    @antoniademeny5026 3 місяці тому +6

    Then do something that gives them the ability to be authentically enthusiastic. 😊

    • @edheldude
      @edheldude 3 місяці тому

      You can't after they have been ran through by countless men. One of my female friends said she's tired of s"x (at 29 yo).

    • @_Solaris
      @_Solaris 3 місяці тому +9

      Few men understand what a woman often _really_ wants, unfortunately.
      If he knew her deepest, darkest desires, he might feel like he doesn't have it in him to fulfill them.

    • @davidallahgod3217
      @davidallahgod3217 3 місяці тому

      I give them my spunk!

    • @edheldude
      @edheldude 3 місяці тому +4

      @@davidallahgod3217 Have some standards bro.

    • @Harvest133
      @Harvest133 3 місяці тому +2

      ​@@_Solaris what most really want isn't you. You're just the most available option at the moment. If give. Opportunities to upgrade, they will.

  • @TreeEl-gp2tx
    @TreeEl-gp2tx 3 місяці тому

    💯💯💯

  • @JaySmith-pv2mw
    @JaySmith-pv2mw 3 місяці тому

    Wish I wasn't so boring. 🤷‍♂️

  • @ericflores7189
    @ericflores7189 3 місяці тому +2

    You can negotiate poly

    • @davidallahgod3217
      @davidallahgod3217 3 місяці тому

      Don't negotiate with a woman!
      Negotiate with yourself

    • @_Solaris
      @_Solaris 3 місяці тому

      If you're okay with your wmn being a toilet for men.

  • @gregprince5283
    @gregprince5283 3 місяці тому +3

    If it's a Godly marriage, where two people are pursuing and leading a Godly Christ like life, their focus won't be on the things of this world. Setting your mind on kingdom purposes and how you can bring meaning into other people's lives by serving them and reflecting Jesus. It's all in your mindset. The book of philippians in the Bible is about changing the way you think. When you allow God to work by transforming you, the things of this world lose there value.

  • @ericjones499
    @ericjones499 3 місяці тому +3

    Solution: Polygamy.