What It's Like For One Dad Whose Son Says: 'I Want To Become A Woman'
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- Опубліковано 16 вер 2015
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It’s not even his biological son, you know how much that man loves his son.
No it’s his biological child
*daughter
@@nuclearmuscle2029 Well the closest thing to a parent biologically to a child is the siblings of the parents.
the way u still call him son is just utter ignorance!!
@@wtiy no my friend, just because you identify as ignorant doesn’t mean the rest of us have to pander to your personal beliefs or opinions
As a father I feel bad for this man
What?
@@aqammedaqammedov4179 yes.. He felt bad
As a human*
@@funnylawre what, father bro, father.
I pray you lose custody. Imagine not loving your children unconditionally.
I feel bad for the father. He is really hurt, and it's understandable for him to feel that way. I hope they can work through this.
The daughter probably went through alot for years too...
@@Cation_bibliophile son
@@harveysoulsby1221 no
@@Cation_bibliophile 🤣🤣🤣 daughter
See him handsome man in military uniform
@@harveysoulsby1221 it's just a word lol
This is... wow..., the pain this father is feeling is beyond words.
The father also needs to know the pain his son was going through.
But was too scared to tell anyone.
@@mialee857 daughter*
he is pure trash, just accept your kids as they are wtf
@@durutorun1050 son
@@sansonkrylow1997 tbh just disown, that easy. Just imagine your son died when he suddenly said he wanted to be a woman.
He can't look at his son without crying in agony, such a heartbreaker 💔
I can feel the pain in this fathers eyes ..
and what about his trans daughter?
Do you feel any compassion or empathy for transgender folks?
The comments are very anti-trans. It‘s so sad.
@@davidbak6984 nobody gives a fuxk, without him that trans dude ain't living now
@@davidbak6984 we do not care about his son its his fault
@@sobo6679 I'm on the father's side, but no one has to put the blame here. It is just very hard for a father to accept his child, the feeling of heavy burden is just dying inside.
@@davidbak6984 I believe that its not people fault for a having a certain feeling ,howfuckingever changing your gender is your resposibility and your fault if you breaks someones heart with. Remember,not all thing that people feel should be transfered to reality because it can hurt(others and potentially himself)
People don’t realize if this guy had a daughter to begin with he would love her so much and treat her normally, but when you have a daughter take the place of your son that is changing the whole way you looked at them and how you treated them
How is that the trans daughters fault in any way shape or form
@@sauri1089 why does fault have to be put on anyone, this is just the burden of the situation, not everyone is as openly accepting of the progressiveness of today's society and thats just a reality that people have to live with, different people react to change differently
This is sickening. Can't you see this man's in PAIN! His son thinks he's a girl! Heartbreaking
He doesnt have to treat her any different just refer to her with feminine pronouns like its not that hard
@@sauri1089 how is that the dads fault? Wtf you on about?
It gave me goosebumps when he said it felt like he lost him 😢
Same
*her
@@plantqueen7902 Yeah it sucks he lost his son
@@plantqueen7902lost his son
@@plantqueen7902 him
When a man cries you know it was from the very bottom of his heart
When he said ‘I don’t know who’s fault it is, I believe it’s mine,’ it shows how humble and responsible he is. My parents never ever admitted to any wrong doing even when their overly harsh parenting made me develop all sort of mental illness. To hear another parent admit to a fault that obviously isn’t his is just so profound to me. IMO It’s not his fault by the way.
What "fault"??
@j she knows what she was born as, but so what? You were born as a baby, but have now decided to act like an adult when you're older.
Is it your parents fault that you forgot how you were born and stopped pretending to be a baby?
@@hdajhdaahha3836 thats a guy
@@hdajhdaahha3836 tf are you on about, there are roles in life that's the parents job to show to the children you're either born a man or a woman.
Parents ask this silently when children gone wrong doing
"I don't understand why he wants be an ugly girl when he can be a beautifull man " That was deep !
How was that deep ? Im do confused and ima boy
How was that deep that’s just ignorant and rude.
@@rockymarquez45 not rude bro he wants his son to be a man not that thing ofc
True
@@rockymarquez45 why do people just throw the word “ignorant” around. that implies that we don’t understand the other side. we understand the argument for the other side, and it’s ridiculous.
I'm on Gary's side 100%
This father did nothing wrong.. It was society that did this to his son
We live in a society - Sun Tzu
you are a true giga chad
@@king--86 Thank you Chadling. Now go, spread the word of Chad across the land
Kind of but can't be homophonic it's just that society is ruining sometimes or something his brain did.
I'm just calling a him because idc if he is transgender. There's to much genders that were made.
That’s deep. He said he doesn’t understand why he would want to be an ugly girl when he can be a beautiful man. So sad for this father. I pray he’s doing okay
What a terrible thing to say about your child, especially someone who is probably so critical of their own body and vulnerable to speculation on it. Quit sticking up for this putz. He needs to buck up and love that child, regardless of who they are.
@@sdm1568 but he lost his son
I found it funny 😂
@@autumxxleaves4186 That's probably because you're selfish, and only care about ain't nobody but yourself.
@@sdm1568 Yeah well it's not that easy raising someone to be a man to unexpectedly become a woman.
I hope that this poor man can heal. It’s apparent that he loved this child very deeply.
thats how pain looks like
I can't imagine if I'm in his position...I feel same like him...feel hurts n so sad 😢😢😢😢
It shouldn’t because it doesn’t change anything
@@mememologies7363 Changes everything if you stand for something. If you have fallen victim to the liberal indoctrination, then I suppose it means nothing to you and you continue to play your games. But for real people who still remain on this planet, this is a devastating blow to humanity.
You are a real man and great father
My heart breaks for this man. Made me cry...........
This is heartbreaking.
kudos to dr. Phil for asking the right questions to a man feeling this way. I hope for the *BEST* for the family
Let's not change the world,
Yea I wasn’t expecting that
Dr.Phil isn't asking any right kind of questions here. He's exploiting both of them for tv.
@@marksierra3522 If an 80lb adult looked in the mirror and saw theirself as obese, Dr. Philly would put them on a diet.
His license should be revoked.
"He's not a beautiful girl, HE'S A BEAUTIFUL MAN!"
Ughhhh! The pain!😢😢😢
FINALLY THEY OPEN THE COMMENT
It's sad and painful for both sides 😥 I hope they find a way to fix their relationship with each other 💔
No the farther is just transphobic
Finally a respectable positive comment
@@Noneofurbeezniss21 thank you ☺️
@@gabriellebraswell3306 your profile picture. 💀💀💀💀💀
@@Tyrannosaurus_rex. and ?
Poor man his heart is burning
God bless that father.
God bless that father
We must Pray for him and his wife and hus family and HIS SON! Jesus is King of Kings and Lord of Lords!
When you keep educating your son since grade school to respect women, then ended up being a trans. If I'm in that father's shoes, I will totally lose my mind.
so basically what you're saying is.. don't respect women ? or else you'll become trans ? that's not how it works at all
@@skaiafourthirteen what I meant of respect is to the point of idolizing them, like someone you should imitate by their grace and femininity.
Never have kids
When you"re high af, every Car looks like Cop Car!😂
@@ermacsmith3709 I definitely get what you're saying. You're right
The moment he became a "woman" his son died
God speed man. Let the lord bless you and carry you
if my child turns like this I will get a hart attack
Same
Probably best you don’t have a child then
Good
@@jadeslevin9392 nah nobody gon be trans🤢🤡
@@Jay-ll4pm you can’t stop it from happening.
YOU ARE A GREAT FATHER, YOU DID YOUR PART TO RAISE HIM ONE DAY GOD WILL ANSWER YOUR PRAYER,BUT TAKE CAIR OF YOUR HEALTH 🙏🙏🙏
I wish that no one has to go through that.
i would have a heart attack right on the spot 🥲
same
same like ppl are standing with the son
@@alitarek3513 daughter
me too
@UCu88Ijf_C7XF_5taAsUNmDQ
Son * dummy
It is actually heartbreaking to see someone you've raised from childhood/birth as one gender present as something totally different. It's like your hopes and dreams for a certain future have simply died...it feels like that person has died.
So tragic. As a father this making me tear up
May God bless this father who dearly loves his son . The enemy stole his son from him with a lie and everyone wants him to except this horror .
Can u imagine that.. why can't his son accept his father's feelings...is his feelings not valid? This man was definitely expecting grandchildren...now he might probably not have them
Facts 🎉
@faviusarthum5038 you're kinda messed up
Lowkey she was a very good looking man. I feel like there’s redemption in this story I would love to see an update
*He was* a good looking man.
He*
He
I am praying for the redemption ! Dr Phil would not put that on his show because he is part of the agenda to push insanity down childrens throats .
@@DrowsyBoi wait has she said what pronouns she uses
I feel for the father. As a male, fathers want their boys to be the best they can be and seeing your son “fail” must hurt so much. People can’t judge him. Maybe he’s old school and closed minded but to him he lost a son so that’s ok he will have to mourn his son and welcome a daughter
Bruh but body Dysmorphia is a mental illness...
No. A son is a son stop defiling nature
Bro I swear these people are so dumb like your the gender that your chromosomes are
He’s not failing, he’s who he wants to be. That should be the biggest accomplishment in the world
@@Spaced_trip21 being who you want to be should not be considered the biggest accomplishment in the world.
Poor Father, a man of God... If you read this, kind sir, have no worries, you haven't failed, your son was taken by the evil one. He will be judged accordingly. Try to forget.
I wonder what happened to Zaks parents
it can feel like your mourning the child you had but hes still there the same child u always loved better too have a happy very pretty daughter then a depressed dead son it happens struggling doesnt mean u dont love your chils
He said he does love his child. And stats show trans people committed suicide at the same rate after transitioning. So "she" is still a depressed boy regardless of physical appearance. Stats are great
He will never have a happy daughter. He will have a son who has destroyed himself while society supports his decisions and encourages him.
I’d love to see an update on this family. Where are they now?
Yeah looking back on this episode I'm wondering about this too
some of these comment make me sick. you should be ashamed of yourselves.
Only parents can feel these father's pain 😢😢😢
So the kid can't identify as a woman, but the bald man can identify as the father of someone else's child? If god made the child a man for a reason, didn't he make the father childless for a reason? I'm not trying to be rude but trying to make it make sense bc i don't get it and honestly want to learn and get it.
I cant imagine you haven’t failed brother Society has failed
No has fauled but the father becuase he doesnt accept his child
@@sweetie_buns that’s what you think
@@sweetie_buns no it's not the father or the son but it is you who failed in English class
@@sweetie_buns
Are you a female? You seem very ignorant of traditional male relationships and psychology
fr society gets mad every time they hear the truth
i can see this is more pain than disappointment from this father. he isn’t ashamed of his daughter he’s jus hurt. i’d rather this than the out right hate for their kids
His daughter
@@plantqueen7902 apologies you are correct
@@MsApple0916 thank you You didn’t have to do this but thank you
@@plantqueen7902 I'm pretty sure that's a dude in a dress.
@@happy_crustacean7104 Indeed it's a guy
Imagine if it’s just a prank
?
I taught same thing !
That would be the prank to end all pranks.
I’m dead😂😂😂
I don't think it could be stretched any longer after watching him
Damn this is heavy. Hope the boy comes to he's senses
Did they just open the comments?
The father is broken a lot....looks loke he loves his son a lot
*daughter
@@Endtherinbetween Son.
@@happy_crustacean7104 daughter.
@@Endtherinbetween Wow what a fantasy you live in
@@happy_crustacean7104 what do you mean i just think that people should respect people’s gender identities
i dont know how to understand it. thats being honest. now that you know the right question, get the right answer. good luck. i see the love you have for your nephew. and love is always a good beginning to move forward.
he give love raised him with heart and now this guy done very bad to that old man ...😭😭😭
When he said "No...I still love him" my heart broke
Parenting is hard 💔💔💔
I feel so bad for this poor man. He clearly cares so much about his son. God love him 😢
I have no words for this man. I make fun of this show a lot but stuff like this I could never find or want to find the words to know what he wants to say.
This is a perfect example why many couples don’t have kids.
That was his adoptive son I guess
I’m happy too see comments supporting the father, I was kinda expecting a lot of hate because anything you’ll say about the transgender community is somehow bad
no its not but theres this thing where we just want acceptance and people should be thinking about the daughter instead of supporting a transphobe
@@Endtherinbetween he's not "afraid" of transgender people he just doesn't accept his son being one and that's ok, he will (tolerate) it for the rest of his life😭😭
@Anti Seed ye well we just want to live our lives in peace most of us can’t even use public toilets without being looked at funny
@@deuntaithomas4823 transphobia isn’t just the fear its also not liking trans people and he should just accept it its not a bad thing he’s probably just not properly been educated on it
@@Endtherinbetween so what you're telling me is that you don't know the definition of the word "phobia".
This is something no father should ever go through.
Seek help. Why does it matter? No human should have to fake living as something they're not. For hundreds of years, our Puritanical society has had barriers and rules that some morons made up one day and we blindly follow. If the person wants to become a man or a woman, that's absolutely their own feeling.
@@afmartin2734some morons made up? Your creator, God. Created Males and Females. Anything else that you see nowadays is the work of the devil. It's the new world order but ofcourse you'll see this as a blind conspiracy or something similar to it.
Judgment day will come.
Don't have kids then if you can't accept who they are.
No child should have to go through their father no accepting them.
Poor guy
Poor Father
He is entitled to his feelings.
She is entitled to hers as well.
Whats needed here is ownership of his own feelings and acceptance of hers.
He is entitled to his feelings
He is entitled to his as well
What’s needed here is ownership of his own feelings and acceptance of his.
There I fixed it
@@DigitalRag3X ah yes that isnt grammatically confusing at all..
>she
>Her
Oh I think me misspelled he it's not spelled she
You*
I would go to a completely new country and I would never want to see my son ever again because it feels like he isn't related to me
I SURE HOPE AND PRAY to NEVER be in this father's position. I can hear his heart break.
I wonder where Zack’s real father is.
I really pray for the father, and my advice is to let him go... Don't look back... He is the one who is falling and drowning...
Both need letting go and so much for loving an entity, and in their free will, after?
Agreed Osman
The man’s thought on this matter is good & correct. Take comfort in the fact that HE is not a woman & HE will never be a woman.
I feel so bad for the father I hope is Ok he hasn’t failed just his son has ruined his family 😢😢😢
Its hard for one and only child that you cant raise your son as you believe will be best for him
He was such a beautiful man. Eish this is hard for the father
I’m in this boat, I know exactly how he feels.
I’m broken....
@@ItsUnitedAgain be strong my brother
She*
I meant as the father🙄
@@ajwsings *HE
I see so many comments about his non-biological father's feeling. What about the boy's feeling who happens to be a transgender?
Nobody wants to know why?
He hurt himself too by hiding all his pain through the years and now he is being who he is and nobody even takes a look at him. Instead, they blamed him even cursed him for being a transgender.
That's PATHETIC!
*her
@@epic.6608 🤦♂️
I love being transphobic
@@blast2686 anime pfp 💀💀💀
@@epic.6608 I’ve been hurt
completely understand him, from a father's point of view.
My worst nightmare
Should teach your kids to be a man to women, not a women to women.
@@moahammad1mohammad that will never help they will be living in social environment.
I can feel his father it hurts me too
*her
@@Endtherinbetween *his
@@75_86 jerk
@@Endtherinbetween i’m a proud transphobe
@@EndtherinbetweenIdiot.
No matter where you stand on this trans/gender dysphoria issues but the Father crying was gut wrenching. :(
Wtf? Gut wrenching for his child maybe. A grown man crying because he can’t accept what his child wears 😂
@@TonyEatsBabiesIt's a serious issue, not only about his dressing.
@@TonyEatsBabiesgary looks like he’s on the older side and this was back in 2015, MONTHS after lgbt marraige was legal in all 50 states. The older generations especially back then usually (usually, but some were also pro lgbt) only tolerated gays at best, but even less respected transgenders.
It’s likely worse because this is televised in front of a huge crowd and not talked about to an actual therapist.
edit: this video is also probably recorded only around or just before gay marraige was made legal nationwide, which only further proves my point
Good guy.
Yes... This is sad. However, its also a beautiful trainwreck for us all to be entertained with.
The questions Doctor Phil is asking him is absolutely disgusting.
This is how a normal person reacts to such madness. This is the way of the world. Those who are real Christians will know what I am talking about.
A “real Christian” wud accept someone for who they r. God accepts everyone and so shud we
@@missy6379 God accepts people the way they are? Are you biblical ingorent or are u insane? Which one is it? Read the bible 1Corinthians 6:9 to 24, Galation 5:19 and few verses down and Roman's 1:29 up to the end. You clearly don't know the bible. Don't get me wrong, I believe e everyone has a right to be what they want to be. We all have a right to commit sins as long as we don't break the law. It is God who judge.
Stop bringing religion and stop speaking on all Christian's behalf
@@funnylawre don't be a fool I don't speak on the behalf of all Christians. No! But the bible does. 1st Corinthians 6:9"Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders" see also Roman 1:27 to 32. I hope you don't call yourself a Christian bcoz if u join an organization you must know about it at least. 🤷♀️ I mean even people who not Christian, who fight both God and the bible know about this. The bible/God is very clear on this issue.
@@missy6379 in the beginning God made them, male and female. And those were biological realities....not psychological.
I'm hurting, too.
I respect this man . He is honest and upfront and raised in a different era . Can't help but feel for him .
0:45 He was a very handsome man 🥺
The old man pride has already go bye2 and it hurt. The pride you hold on for many years crumble just like that n the people of the internet judge the old man for being a transphobic n that not the case in this context he just lost his pride that he build since the time he promise himself to take care of his child but alas people can change n People of the internet are scary so dont bite me
Ah yes, I know that fear. The ones I fear the most are the crowds that attack "Dangerous" individuals as if attacking them does not expose that you yourself are not dangerous. Humans are Monsters but they can only hide it physically. It is up to a person themselves to keep it in check.
I agree internet has ruined alot of people
He lost his son.
@@audreymai2773 i lost myselft
@@audreymai2773 Not just his son. He lost the ability to be a grandfather and a great grand father. His family lineage is dead now.
The father has every right to mourn.
Haters and offended people in comments should be ashamed of themselves
Again a mans pride is his son...a father looks up for his son to continue his legacy...
That’s f***ing bs
@@creedencecomet no its not
@@creedencecometit's as biological as DNA
@@prayunceasingly2029 What?!?!
@@creedencecomet sthu dirt bag
Bro his used to be son looked cute as a kid like why would did they change
@@RealMiniPKno one’s cancelling people. It’s not 2021 anymore, ya ding dong
Look at the trajectory
I don’t blame you, father.
Appreciate for who u are 🥺
Thx for 20 likes lool
No f u there is male and female
@@tjardsiemer2650 yes only 2 gender
@@kevinrosas7361 um no, biologically there are 2 sexes: male and female. but gender is a social construct and there are more than 2.
@@PunieDoll gender is different from sexuality, yes I agree there are more than 1 sexuality, but in terms of gender, only 2, pee pee and va j j
@@tjardsiemer2650 there are actually about 6 biological sexes and 70+ genders , proven by science . and gender is a social construct and you don't really need to like , HAVE a gender if you don't want to
It can be tough for family members... but in the end, it's someone's own decision.
its not a decision, you're born being attracted to other people. its not a choice
@@internetwaffless I think you refer to sexuality? This is not about that.
@@vigfhfc oh, apologies for assuming.
Why should someone be given the decision to destroy their body to follow desires caused by a mental illness
@@DARTHJETER It's not a mental illness and most people who went on hormone replacement therapy experience an increase in their quality of life. So what's the problem?
Is it strange that my old man didn't give a damn or was it because he already had 8 more sons and only two daughters?
I respect the thinker open minded FATHER
Honestly I understand his pain because the son has been Bundling that secret up for so long and is now coming out to him
I feel sad for both party....
Why do u feel sad for a bigoted transphobr
He learned to take responsibility.
He was not failed in rising him but the society😢
It's not even society, it is the lgbt-feminist soy milk agenda by US politicians that's thrown to society.
I'm Muslim @ and I feel the pain of this father @ must have limit @ at least we humans should learn from animals have they crossed the limit in their life habitats. No
The problem is that she didn’t announce that she wanted to become a woman much earlier to show her slowly transitioning. Having her come out like that with basically no warning is a huge gut punch to anyone who witnesses it out of nowhere for someone she grew up with extremely closely. This also shouldn’t have been shown publicly either, this is very much something that should’ve happened privately over the course of months until the transition is complete. It’s a very sensitive topic to people who actually care about you. Don’t make anyone think that they failed you or that you failed them, you need to let them know that it’s just simp,y what you want. That’s the key difference. Screw Dr. Phil for allowing such a personal event to be shown to everyone for monetary gain and the exposure of a persons pain forever.
And after all that surgery she still won't be a woman.
Exactly. The shock of the father, who'd obviously would react like that if someone just did a 180 on everything you held true about them. Is being cashed in on by Phil. The guy is grieving losing his 'son' or his specific reality first...THEN - he can move on to the possibility of accepting a daughter. There are many stages to this....all laden with powerfully conflicting emotions. And they're sensationalizing this very painful moment. FOR RATINGS. How very disrespectful!
Your right about this
its a he not a she bro
It's hard to come out as trans from a young age when you don't have any way of knowing what's going on. I knew from a young age that I was trans as well, but I didn't have the language. I bound my chest as it began to develop, and I dressed "like a tomboy". I was so uncomfortable in my own skin, and deep down wished I was a boy more than anything, but I thought everyone felt like that, and I should just get over it. It wasn't until I was 14 that I learned about trans men, and I finally had a word to describe what I felt: gender dysphoria. I couldn't come out. I was in the rural south, and my parents outright told me from a young age that if I was ever gay they'd disown me. I'm pretty sure if I had come out, I would've been sent to conversion therapy. When I turned 19, I left, and I haven't contacted my family since. There is no way that I would ever be accepted as a son, or a man, and I have finally reached a point where I respect myself too much to allow the constant disrespect I faced like I did growing up. I've since been able to transition in relative peace, and I am blooming as I slowly become more and more myself and become more and more comfortable with my body as I medically transition. The transition of transgender people is not about the people in our lives. It's not an attack, or a "gut punch". If you're really that upset about it, you should seek therapy, because that is not a normal reaction to someone making choices about their own body.
I feel bad for him fr!
a father will not die by anything no matter how cruel the world, he will face for the sake of his children. it's the instinct of every living being. but with this you have destroyed human life.