8 Clever Ways to Deal With Toxic People | STOIC PHILOSOPHY

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  • @marciamellow1211
    @marciamellow1211 4 дні тому +18

    At 72...what I realized is...I have me myself and I...having the time of my life❤

    • @StoicQuotes365
      @StoicQuotes365 2 дні тому +1

      Your peace was always in your hands.’ That line hit hard. Learning to limit access and refusing to engage in drama is such an empowering shift in mindset. Thanks for the eye-opener!

  • @lisanathan7336
    @lisanathan7336 3 дні тому +7

    Choose peace over chaos, clarity over confusion and power over manipulation - love it 🥰

  • @stoic-echoes-01
    @stoic-echoes-01 Місяць тому +75

    To the amazing person reading this, don’t let your struggles define you. Your dream is still alive, and you have everything within you to rise above the pain. Keep going, your future is waiting for you! Wishing you strength and success always!

  • @vaudagutu800
    @vaudagutu800 Місяць тому +32

    Cutting communication ,knowing when to walk away, and putting your point without creating unnecessary conflict

  • @StoicQuotes365
    @StoicQuotes365 2 дні тому +6

    This video is such a powerful reminder that protecting your peace isn’t selfish-it’s survival. Forgiving without forgetting and setting firm boundaries are lessons we all need to master. Truly inspiring!

  • @WisdomLife9
    @WisdomLife9 18 днів тому +13

    Forgiving someone does not mean forgetting the pain they caused or welcoming them back into your life. True forgiveness is about liberating yourself from the chains of resentment and moving forward without bitterness. Thanks!

  • @maritanell8737
    @maritanell8737 Місяць тому +20

    I had a narcissistic mother that passed away 2 years ago. 30 years ago after finishing tertiary education, I moved away from the town and province I grew up in to put some distance between us. She kept phoning me unannounced all hours of the day and night, and if I didn’t answer she would give a passive aggressive tone when we spoke again. It drove me insane. Then 10 years ago, I stopped all visits, and put her on terms. She could phone me once a month on the
    AST Sunday of every month, and I promised to answer. any other time I could not promise that I would answer. She tried a few times and then stopped as she realized I had set boundaries. After that, I found total peace and could get on with my life.

  • @AliciaHampton-s8n
    @AliciaHampton-s8n 2 дні тому +2

    Telling the truth about someone it's not gossip it's just the truth❤

  • @LiliaPICKENS
    @LiliaPICKENS 8 днів тому +9

    Narcissist and toxic people who belittle you and dragged you down in powering you of all your agony, pains, struggle, disrespect you! I feel undervalued, unworthy and a failure. My daughter is doing the manipulation despite the facts about me being disabled, suffering from massive depressive disorder, Chronic anxiety disorder, chronic massive vertigo and chronic dislocated discs degenerative. IT REALLY HURTS MY EMOTIONS AND TORTURING ME MENTALLY DRAINED, UNLOVED. Some people who are faking being with me are doing the same thing belittling and dragged me down.. thank you so much for making me RISE ABOVE!!❤

  • @howard1beale
    @howard1beale Місяць тому +23

    They thrive in the cracks in your boundaries, like bacteria feeding in food left out of the fridge.

  • @StoicNarratives_Official
    @StoicNarratives_Official Місяць тому +22

    Forgiveness liberates you from resentment but doesn’t mean excusing behavior or allowing further harm. Instead, it’s about learning from past betrayals and protecting your peace while not forgetting the lessons that keep you safe.

  • @StoicTraining
    @StoicTraining Місяць тому +21

    The part about forgiveness being a gift you give yourself, not the person who hurt you, really hit home for me. Letting go of resentment isn’t about letting them off the hook-it’s about freeing yourself to move forward. The analogy of a scar as a lesson rather than a burden is so powerful. Thank you for this empowering reminder!

  • @CarolynFloyd-lh2jg
    @CarolynFloyd-lh2jg 9 днів тому +8

    I’ve had to do this with my family. My sister and brother are mentally ill I think they got this from both parents. It has been hard on me but you must protect yourself!

    • @StoicQuotes365
      @StoicQuotes365 2 дні тому +1

      The analogy of life being a VIP club where you decide the guest list? Absolute gold! Such a clever and practical way to reframe how we manage toxic relationships.

  • @stoicsecrets-101
    @stoicsecrets-101 Місяць тому +18

    This video reminded me of a time when I had to set boundaries with a toxic coworker. Applying patience and focusing on what I could control made all the difference. Great advice here-thank you!

  • @ptintellectcorner
    @ptintellectcorner Місяць тому +17

    This video is really helpful in understanding how to deal with negative people in life. Forgiving, setting boundaries, and knowing when to walk away are great ways to protect yourself

  • @jamiereife5581
    @jamiereife5581 День тому +2

    This message of forgiveness is EXACTLY what we all need to do. Realize too that we are one, we are all one. Avoiding people is not the answer because you are expressing resentment. Forgive. Jesus said, pray for your enemies and bless those who persecute you, bless them. I made a list in my daily journal, I wrote, Father I love ____, I forgive him/her, please bless him/her. Now did I mean it that first day, no but I wanted it because I understood Jesus message and believed him. In time, I saw a miracle, each person I had been praying for completely changed. In time I realized their treatment of me was a gift to me because I learned the importance of forgiveness and following Jesus word, and I realized, they took on the role of my adversary in order to teach me to forgive, to have unconditional love and true joy. I have read the Bible straight through 5 times and partly hundreds. And have read ACIM 3 times and worked through the lessons once. ACIM is on audio on UA-cam . It is hard to understand but truth rings through. After doing the lessons, it is clear.

  • @SheilaKirebeda
    @SheilaKirebeda 28 днів тому +9

    This video has helped me alot

  • @jeanettehawavarney1906
    @jeanettehawavarney1906 Місяць тому +11

    Very educational for my life. Because I am from a polygamy home were they all toxic half brothers and sisters. Thanks to this inspiring words.

  • @SeniorwisdomUk
    @SeniorwisdomUk Місяць тому +16

    This video is a lifesaver! Stoic philosophy offers such a wise and calm approach to handling toxic people without losing your own peace. 🧠✨ Thanks for these 8 clever tips-truly empowering! 💪👏

  • @SindyGawu
    @SindyGawu 29 днів тому +8

    Forgiving is the best thank you sir

  • @abenaaboateng7420
    @abenaaboateng7420 28 днів тому +8

    This is an eye opener and that provides how i can take small but sure steps to address toxic people and situations. Thank you.

  • @napertandy3579
    @napertandy3579 5 днів тому +3

    Thanks for these videos. Sometimes social awkwardness exacerbated can make a person blab too much, have no boundaries which results in low esteem.
    To have these videos full of wisdom and practical explanations are like a road map.
    When you hear what you go through is the same as others, u take it less personally and then you can study what to do, how to handle yourself, and exact answers. There really are a few answers that will get you out of any awkward situation. Not over apologising is very important..
    Shyness can cause a lot of problems, but having a step by step path to follow, and red flags/scenarios spelled out is giving me bulletproof confidence.
    I used to sit at the office lunch table swinging between longing to be as vivacious & witty as one colleague, and resentful she'd talk over me. Then I'd try tell a story and my awkwardness would mean it fell flat, or I'd overshare- not good.
    Now I am cool as a cucumber, sometimes say nothing, except to inquire how a quiet colleague is. I notice if I tell one tiny story now, with a slight humour, it is much better received.
    I think social graces can be learned, and may need to be relearned returning to the office after a career break.

    • @2bNot
      @2bNot 2 години тому

      Good Luck on your journey. 😊🙋

  • @rhoni3296
    @rhoni3296 День тому +1

    Not engaging isn’t being nice it’s being strategic and prioritizing principles that empower a whole life

  • @rosaperez7428
    @rosaperez7428 7 днів тому +2

    Great video. Rich toxic family. Manipulative all for the evil of money. I no longer feel guilt. I walked away. I am so happy and at peace. I do pray for them everyday. It helps my heart and the guilt of walking away from them. Great video!

  • @سالييوسف-ش2و
    @سالييوسف-ش2و 14 днів тому +4

    Lovely thank you sir for your inspiring thoughts God bless you 👋🥰🙏

  • @kunezicomfortmandah88
    @kunezicomfortmandah88 26 днів тому +4

    •Toxic people thrive on tension. Stop playing their game. Just refuse to engage.
    •Refuse to give them what they crave ..... Drama!
    Their nonsense is endless; so defending yourself foil their toxicity
    •Know when silence is necessary
    •Their opinion doesn't define you
    •Stay focused on your purpose so you don't have the time for their nonsense.
    •Treat toxic people like background noise
    Do not gossip about toxic people

  • @IsemaJohnson
    @IsemaJohnson День тому +1

    Words of wisdom

  • @rosejon8245
    @rosejon8245 15 днів тому +3

    I love the series of Stoic wisdom. I only wish each recording were about 15 minutes.. As a working woman, single parent, aftervcommute from work and house work and chores, 30 min for video is luxury. But these videos are too good to pass.

  • @lynetteperry3559
    @lynetteperry3559 27 днів тому +4

    I am claiming my life back thank you for your support

  • @millicentstewart-vanriel6093
    @millicentstewart-vanriel6093 12 днів тому +4

    Wow wow it's all good learning the good things from the bad it's all true I need more and you are true montivater thanks for the good advice

  • @pamelabrown3058
    @pamelabrown3058 17 годин тому

    True forgiveness is knowing that " It Never Even Happened" 💕🙏🏽💕 ACIM Lesson 134

  • @SarahNdolo-t3e
    @SarahNdolo-t3e 27 днів тому +4

    Thanx.very efucative and inspiring video,,.keep on giving more of this

  • @HisWordStandsForever2020
    @HisWordStandsForever2020 20 днів тому +6

    This is so helpful.thank you for uploading.😢

  • @RosalindaDiaz-n9f
    @RosalindaDiaz-n9f День тому +1

    Absolutely right thank's for sharing

  • @marcusaurelius-stoicism
    @marcusaurelius-stoicism 2 дні тому +1

    Very good advice. Love the Stoics!! Great!😊😊

  • @clairebear175
    @clairebear175 Місяць тому +6

    This was actually really helpful

  • @lindashek3658
    @lindashek3658 21 день тому +3

    The most useful chapter !!!
    Let us learn how to deal with these kind of toxic people and primary schools should offer this chapter as well. For those are very easy to be hurt.

  • @triple999fruitful
    @triple999fruitful 3 години тому

    Thank you. This video was very constructive.
    I suggest always keeping your door locked. Especially at Christmas or other events. Some ignorant neighbour may try to enter your home carrying food as a gift. Weird things happen, and sometimes cultures have different expectations.

  • @pjaneheil
    @pjaneheil 5 днів тому +1

    OMG , you have touched every single thing, of the toxic person that was in my life, and I did just that, I simply walked away, and of course my life has been so much better, ❤❤❤

  • @EstherNansubuga-l3z
    @EstherNansubuga-l3z 8 днів тому +3

    Thank you for this wisdom

  • @debrabrown7334
    @debrabrown7334 29 днів тому +5

    True,amen

  • @deedeebrooks8973
    @deedeebrooks8973 27 днів тому +3

    Thank you for giving me some ideas for dealing with toxic individuals.

  • @KingStoic101
    @KingStoic101 Місяць тому +6

    Stay calm, set firm boundaries, and don't let toxic people destroy your peace. Is choosing to focus on your own growth while staying away from their negativity the best strategy?

  • @pjsparrow8641
    @pjsparrow8641 9 днів тому +5

    Some one who brags or complains is living in the past and the future. Both are EGO.
    So draining.
    Energy Vampires have no place in my space.
    Keep it up full and present or I simply walk away ❤.

  • @kunezicomfortmandah88
    @kunezicomfortmandah88 26 днів тому +4

    I allowed toxic family members in my inner cycle. Learning to outsmart them

  • @KirstenLambert-nt8iy
    @KirstenLambert-nt8iy Місяць тому +4

    I had a narcissistic mother. I couldn't get rid of her while living under her roof . She passed in 2016. My sisters still believe everything she said. My family is all about drama.

  • @MariaTuli-k4n
    @MariaTuli-k4n 16 днів тому +2

    It is helpful and inspiring.

  • @catherinegauley7240
    @catherinegauley7240 Місяць тому +6

    Funny thing is toxic significant other of 21 years just came in and lay down at the bottom of our bed and started paying attention to this video. It was perfect timing. Lol He got disgusted lol and left the room.

  • @lisaleonzis5303
    @lisaleonzis5303 29 днів тому +6

    When someone wants you to talk about someone..badly.. or try n trip you into a judgment call about someone! It’s a trap! Don’t give energy!

  • @HisWordStandsForever2020
    @HisWordStandsForever2020 20 днів тому +2

    Thank you for posting,so helpful! 👌🫶

  • @shawnsalmon5653
    @shawnsalmon5653 23 дні тому +1

    I really appreciate your sharing your personal experiences and how you handled them. An inspiration to me!! Thank you for sharing your lifes experiences!! Many of them I can relate to.

  • @brucerobb500
    @brucerobb500 Місяць тому +5

    Thank you.

    • @JamesTheStoic233
      @JamesTheStoic233  Місяць тому +1

      You welcome thanks for watching my videos ❤️❤️💯 stay blessed Bruce 💪💯

  • @TimelessTeachingsss
    @TimelessTeachingsss Місяць тому +2

    Amazing! The story you shared at [8:30] is not only engaging but also helped me understand the value of Stoicism better

  • @PacoBear
    @PacoBear 22 хвилини тому

    excellent!!! thank you

  • @Zohra-b9j
    @Zohra-b9j 21 день тому +1

    Excellent !

  • @JacobPootona
    @JacobPootona Місяць тому +2

    I liked it

  • @ruthomitogun2186
    @ruthomitogun2186 26 днів тому +2

    Thank you very much.

  • @marilouancheta7173
    @marilouancheta7173 Місяць тому +2

    Thank you❤

  • @s.v.555
    @s.v.555 Місяць тому +2

    Thank you!

  • @doriscarpenter
    @doriscarpenter 4 дні тому

    Spot on! Thanks

  • @giniaRed
    @giniaRed 29 днів тому +2

    This information will help me through this 2025 election year in America

  • @carlapatrick1383
    @carlapatrick1383 3 дні тому

    Thankyou soooooooo much for this beautiful and very informative information. I will truly use this ,and definitely share this with like minded friends ❤. Again THANKYOU

  • @debrabrown7334
    @debrabrown7334 29 днів тому +2

    Amen

  • @Classicquotes_us
    @Classicquotes_us 9 днів тому +1

    Video very good ❤. 5:20 thanks you

  • @AryeeEbenezer-zl2om
    @AryeeEbenezer-zl2om 27 днів тому +1

    Gracias

  • @consorciasantiago4009
    @consorciasantiago4009 Місяць тому +3

    I have been dealing with a to xic family members. I cut off communication and never responded to their disrespect and insults. They stopped harassing me and set an off limit boundary to me as well. 😅

  • @debrabrown7334
    @debrabrown7334 29 днів тому +2

    Respect by one who vip

  • @mariselacontreras6732
    @mariselacontreras6732 28 днів тому +2

    You have to be careful in making an assessment and make sure you are not being one sided I had a friend who called only to share their problems, their pain, but was very protective of not clouding her energy with those of others. To her, others were toxic, but her situations were valid. Be honest to yourself with your assessments.

  • @KK-ri2gu
    @KK-ri2gu 28 днів тому +3

    I Wish I had known all that 😕 😪 😔 my kindness was hurting 😞 i have been used when I look back the regrets is huge 💔 i can't change it 💔 😔 😢 now way too let for me

  • @TheStoicSage365
    @TheStoicSage365 8 днів тому +1

    "Choose not to be harmed-and you won’t feel harmed. Don’t feel harmed-and you haven’t been." - Marcus Aurelius

    • @Stumpybear7640
      @Stumpybear7640 7 днів тому +1

      I wish I could have done this 10 years ago😢

    • @TheStoicSage365
      @TheStoicSage365 7 днів тому

      @@Stumpybear7640 It's never too late to start. The fact that you're reflecting on this now shows growth and self-awareness. Every step forward, no matter when it starts, is a victory. Stay strong! 💪

  • @carlportland
    @carlportland 4 дні тому

    I respect me. No mater were you go - - - There you are

  • @rwill10282
    @rwill10282 9 днів тому +1

    Kindof hard to avoid toxic people if you have to work with them

  • @joang.8735
    @joang.8735 28 днів тому +5

    Many of these responses are passive aggressive and bitter. A direct response stating what you don't like about the other's remark is better than a one-upper. The one-upper is a put-down of the other, making you playing the same game and spending time thinking of good one-liners.

  • @Brownmahfun
    @Brownmahfun Місяць тому +2

    I am 62 and I have NEVER meet these uplifting people in person.

  • @pamelaphannachitta2419
    @pamelaphannachitta2419 2 дні тому

    Hey ,Remember "The Band" People ?😊❤

  • @RiellaRose-y9f
    @RiellaRose-y9f 18 днів тому +1

    What if we are unable to go no contact or walk away due to the fact that the toxic person is my exhusband who is the father of my children? I believe he holds a lot of resentment due to me wanting the divorce, and is incredibly disrespectful and vulgar towards me, even when i am nothing but kind and understanding of his struggles.
    Edit to add--we divorced back in 2018 and it has been very difficult to coparent effectively. He blows up my phone incessantly continuously asking me about my personal life, and withholds any financial obligations he has towards our children if i ignore him.

  • @2bNot
    @2bNot 2 години тому

    Pretty funny when you said "sound familiar ?"..

  • @kristiwolfe6904
    @kristiwolfe6904 5 днів тому +1

    There he could do NO MIGHTY WORK so he shook the dust off HIS FEET❤🎉

  • @ZokaMan-uk6br
    @ZokaMan-uk6br 28 днів тому +2

    What if the toxic person is your spouse

  • @hopaideia
    @hopaideia 2 дні тому

    En el minuto -24:52 dices algo valioso, preocuparse por ser good stuff for the others. Me parece que eso viene primero, y al hacerlo e irlo siendo, se te clarifica el saber como ser y tratar a cada persona como cada persona es. La pregunta en realidad es, ¿partes de Dios o de tus criterios?

  • @karenrobinson1326
    @karenrobinson1326 11 днів тому +1

    🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉💪💪💪💪💪💪💪💪💪💪💪💪👁👁

  • @Maria-lc5iy
    @Maria-lc5iy 2 дні тому

    Stop using those bloody AI voices! It puts one off completely, no matter how interesting the subject. 🤯

  • @dis2666
    @dis2666 Місяць тому +2

    Why does it have to be the fault of someone?? Chill

  • @karenrobinson1326
    @karenrobinson1326 11 днів тому +3

    MAY THIS GODLY WISDOM MOTIVATE ALL LISTENERS AS WELL AS ALL LIVES WE ALL EXPERIENCE ON THIS PILGRAMAGE JOURNEY OF OUR LIVES THAT GOD HAS SET BEFORE US, REDEEMING THE TIMES!!!! BEING GODLY SALT OF THE EARTH AND GODLY LIGHT OF THE WORLD!!!!! HALLELUJAH AND AMEN!!!!!!!!!!!😂🎉🎉🎉😂😂🎉🎉🎉🎉😂❤❤❤❤☝☝☝☝☝☝☝💪💪💪💪💪💪💪🙏🙏🙏🙏🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙏😇😇🤗🤗🤗🤗😁😁😁😁

  • @anomalousentropy
    @anomalousentropy 11 днів тому +2

    This is bad advice. If someone treats you like that, remove them immediately from your life. If it's a coworker, ignore them and get by as best you can. Know all your enemies.

  • @StoicToolkit1
    @StoicToolkit1 Місяць тому +1

    Each of us has been a toxic person❤‍🩹

    • @CarolCote-kd2is
      @CarolCote-kd2is Місяць тому

      Toxic people choose to be toxic. Are you saying you have chosen to destroy others.
      I choose to life others up

    • @StoicToolkit1
      @StoicToolkit1 Місяць тому

      @@CarolCote-kd2is I'm not sure I'll always be nice, I think there will be moments when I'm unintentionally toxic to someone. But now I'm trying to get rid of it.

  • @annarruda2511
    @annarruda2511 7 днів тому

    Thank You !

  • @debrabrown7334
    @debrabrown7334 29 днів тому +1

    Amen