MY BOSS DOESN’T LIKE ME | How to Improve Your Relationships with Your Boss
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- Опубліковано 5 вер 2024
- MY BOSS DOESN’T LIKE ME | How to Improve Your Relationships with Your Boss
Have you ever thought, my boss doesn’t like me? Or maybe you have a bad boss, or a toxic boss, and you need to know how to improve your relationship with your boss. In this video, I share the strategies on how to get along with your boss when your boss hates you or when you can’t help but think, I hate my boss. Instead of wondering why my boss doesnt like me, with these 7 strategies on how to make your boss like you, you will know exactly how to deal with a bad boss, how to deal with a boss that doesn't like you, and how to deal with a boss that undermines you. You’ll have everything you need to know how to handle a difficult boss, or even and incompetent boss - and instead of feeling bad that ‘my manager doesn't like me’ will know how to get along with your boss.
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What have you learned from working for a bad boss?
that bad bosses will eventually fail...
@@pennsylvanianrrfoamer And destroy their companies. Thats why most companies dont survive 20 years. See my comment above.
Depending on the situation I’ve recently learned while you have the energy you should leave as quickly as feasible. You don’t want to end up in a situation where your mental wellness becomes compromised. When it does you’ll have a difficult time getting out of an emotional self-destructive pit. I implore everyone to not stagnate, especially if you have tried many of these strategies.
Narcissists and empaths will never mix together.
These are good stop-gap measures, especially the initial self-reflection because it keeps you honest. If they’re well regarded by their superiors and peers, they have advocates and the power, so honestly just leave as soon as possible on the best terms possible. Do not waste time or energy trying, and do not burn that bridge.
If someone has decided not to like you, do nothing to impress them. There is literally nothing you can do because you never did anything to make them dislike you
Yes, because it becomes a brown nosing session. Especially if you are very hard-working. Some people are unprofessional and petty.
How do you know they didn’t nothing to dislike them?
@shawngee1
This is happening to me right now
My boss hate me for no reason
Tats a lot been telling me. Can start to resign .
I have found this to be accurate 100% of the time.
I find when a boss dislikes you, they will always continue to do so. You have to hope the boss leaves, although that rarely happens
This is true a lot of times. I was about to leave a job because a boss disliked me so much. Right before doing so he got demoted and was transferred to another location in another state lol
Yep I'm going through this right now. It's only getting worse and I'm just wearing myself out trying to satisfy a drug addicted boss.
@@kathryneprickett2083 Lucky you :) I had the same problem but how to leave the job with grace and not seeing me as their problems:(
Yep true
My co manger left I was happy lol
Bad bosses always have that one person who is their favorite, and everyone in the building resents that person.
Uggh, i know. So much I made a video about bosses who play favorites.
It's understandable for bosses to have favorites based on merits and deserving people but what I don't get are bosses that favor based more on friendship. Leadership also means communication and feedback.
Agreed my boss always stands up for the obnoxious shift manager
Yup! And that's not an accident. That's their co-conspirator. Read the Hatchet Man's Playbook if you get the chance!
That's their co-conspirator. To fully understand what's going on, read a piece titled The Hatchet Man's Playbook. Can't recommend it highly enough.
It took me a long time to realize that the way my boss was treating me was emotional abuse. I took a lot of it as a personal failure and I am still trying to get over it. I don't work with this guy anymore but I still felt myself beating myself up.
Yes my supervisor was abusive I left the company and he still abuses me by giving me bad references.
Boss compliments you on a job well done every month or two= good boss. You do a job well done and your boss says “well that’s your job that’s supposed to be done anyways”= bad boss quit fast and furious.
Actually the boss doesn’t want you to do any of these strategies, they want you to relax, quiet, keep your head down and do what you are employed to do. They want you to be the “yes” person and are offended if you dare to say otherwise. So if you follow just that, you are left alone and may think your relationship with them is ok. They don’t want you to be in the spot lights, put your hands up to take on any additional tasks and/or carry out any company’s strategy because you will look better than them. So if you meet this kind of boss, what are your strategies to deal with them?
It is really hard to recover from that moment when a boss goes... "hmm, I don't think I like them". Then gets reenforced by a co worker or some other tough interactions. Stay positive. I would say to try to have the "let's try to clear the air" talk but the last few times I have tried this it made the situation MUCH worse. When they think you are a suck up... or even say that... try not to do that. Stay positive, friendly but not gushy or over compensate. Keep interacting positive with others and really go out of your way to "get things done". Perform your work and get things done. And, thinking about it... get away from them. Really make efforts to get more skills. Get moving to new opportunities if you can. Give it a try. Stay on your toes.
When I first started my job my boss and I got along well. For three months we had a good rapport. A couple weeks ago I was out for two days. When I came back on Wednesday things had changed drastically. My boss seems to be very upset with me now. She’s always making comments regarding my performance. She’s taken me into her office twice in the past, two weeks. She finds fault in everything I do. She is constantly standing next to me so that she could scrutinize my every move. She insists on micromanaging me. Today she yelled at me in front of customers and other employees. It was very embarrassing and upsetting to me. I’m trying my best to do my job well. I don’t know what more I could do. If anyone has any advice I could sure use it. Thank you.
@ Beth Rogers
You have to wonder what transpires sometimes...could a jealous coworker color her view of you or throw you under the bus in some way? Sometimes I think the boss may trust and believe the wrong people...slander.
She's possibly angry that you took time off and has to pick up the slack.
@BethRogers just make sure you're doing the right thing at all times don't worry about why she's doing that because she might not ever tell you just do your best and come to work prepared so it won't make you nerves use your brain and not your emotions.
Leave but quietly.
Not gonna lie, it just sounds like she never liked you and only was nice because she was the manager. That happens a lot, managers not liking people but forced to be nice just because they’re the manager.
I used to have a great relationship with my boss until I had a mental health issue last year...since then they stepped back my responsibilities at my request and now they don't seem to know how to talk to me. They seem to resent me for having had to pare back my workload and consistently highlight how little work I do in team meetings. I am being micro managed and now all I get are small and menial tasks to perform which are delegated to me because it's the stuff deemed not worth doing by anyone else. I asked for my responsibilities back because I wanted to try and get back to my old self but my boss now says that I haven't been able to prove to them that I'm capable of doing the smaller tasks. They constantly tell me to consider whether I should be in the this role. It's humiliating and demotivating.
You’re not alone. Do you have the option of finding another job?
I am so sorry. That is so dehumanizing. I hope you're able to find a different job and boss that will appreciate you and your work ethic. Stay strong. Some people do not see our value.
They say their door is always open and that it's your responsibility to communicate these things to them so that they can help, that there are tools and programs in place and that it's our responsibility to take advantage of them. However, when you do, they react negatively. I hope you know you made the right decision by prioritizing your health. Your boss has definitely proven that they are not worth working yourself to the ground for. I hope you're feeling better.
Some bosses really kick you when you are already down.
Thats a tough one. The only advice I can think of is to remind your boss "it's still me" and I chose to continue working here because I want us all to succeed. We can get through this and I understand its difficult for you to work with me. Find some middle ground about taking on more of your old responsibilities as best you can manage. AKA use a safe-word system when the pressure might be building. I bet the manager is just too uncomfortable (or scared of breaking some HR rules) to bring it up, so break the ice first.
My boss don't like me because coworkers talk about me in a bad light. I literally didn't do anything thing wrong. Im just seen as an outsider new guy.
Is there anyway you could find a different job? Your boss sounds unprofessional and not a good leader, allowing your coworkers to color their lense of how they view you.
The same thing happened to me. Shit sucks but it is what it is. Just get your work done to the best of your ability, be friendly but not too personal and push through it. I believe in youuuuu
At this point you have nothing to lose. I'd ask the boss "have you noticed I'm getting treated like an outsider?" I bet they did not know, or will deny treating you differently. At least then you know they know.
I don't care if my boss likes me or not. As long as we both do our jobs I'm good. My last boss slandered me which I caught text messages on her phone yet she denied it. With my current boss i heard her say I don't like her. Not my problem but we have to get along.
That is extremely inappropriate that your last boss was slandering you by text - it never ceases to amaze me how some people get into management. I'm glad you got away from her.
The boss relationship is interesting, because you can have an incredibly productive relationships even if you don't like each other. One of my promotions was directly because a manager, who truly disliked me, championed it. I also think good leaders know their personal sentiment towards you is beside the point - when you're awesome and make them look good it's in their best interest to elevate you.
You should of turned it over to a labor attorney and EEOC.
Same I’m here to make money and have fun but to please people
the problem is not that your boss likes you or not, the problem is when your boss actively disrespects you.
Believe me, even if there’s UNDENIABLE RESULTS, a bad boss can easily ignore that it happened or that the person responsible gets any credit. If you have a boss who focuses on your mistakes and weaknesses, you will not receive and commendations, no matter what you do. That’s been my experience anyway. Your concept is nice, but a little pollianic.
One thing I can say, I have LEARNED more from working for this employer than any before him. Maybe cause I’m older, but I’ve come to realize that it’s a lot easier to focus and do your best to begin with, than to have to deal with correcting errors and putting up with a pissed off boss, who looks for ANY opp. To punish.
This is exactly my situation. So just wondering what is my best avenue here? Any advice is appreciate thx
@@augustin2105 You can set up a meeting with your boss and talk things out. Sometimes your boss is unaware of their behavior towards you. I did this recently and it worked well.
And if that doesn't work, upskill and switch teams or orgs.
My former boss (female) was very overweight and I was as thin as a rail. I was a very productive worker; she just hated me because I was thin. Thankfully HER boss saw the situation and I was hired in another department. :)
Man that sucks thats an irrational hatred
I wish I would get transferred Department's too! I'm in this situation now. :I
Am very prettier than my boss I think that probably why she's doesn't like me.
My boss is overweight too
This actually happens a lot. Also, if you boss is undereducated as well as overweight, bless your heart. But no one really has the same boss forever, so do your job well and build useful skills for your resume because there's light at the end of the tunnel.
I like the idea of being reflective and not bringing your boss problems, I've realised this is what I'm doing unintentionally
I'm an exemplary employee. Peers ask me how-to's. But my boss keeps pointing out my only weakness: I don't engage in personal conversations. I've tried to discuss it with him and he keeps ignoring me but, then brings it up to halt any possibility of career growth. I feel used. I'm the lowest paycheck but the higher producer. I want to get out of that department.
My big toxic boss is still bad. I'm not sure what to do. I feel the hate. I'm good at my job.
Same here …
Thank goodness I'm a Federal civil servant and have a union to strike fear into management whenever necessary!
I know why my bosses don't like me.
Because I let my work do the talking, which is better, faster and more detailed than theirs 7/10 times.
And I'm not a kiss ass.
Do I need to improve my "relationship" with my boss?
Lol, F no.
My boss needs to be more professional and keep his/her personal issues towards me to themselves, and away from the workplace.
Why should I, a hard worker and nice person, change myself into a suck-up because that's what bosses prefer?
I go to work to do my job, nothing more. And an employer shouldn't ask for more. Expecting to be "worshipped" just because you're the boss is despicable and unprofessional, imo.
Thinking you're better, and more respectable, because you're the boss is exactly the problem of this society. And has been a major part of the workplace since the dawn of civilization.
I think it's time to evolve beyond that ice age thinking.
This is spot on exactly whats happening w/ me right now.
👏🏻 👆🏻👆🏻👆🏻yes!!! All of this!! I am more experienced in my job duties than my manager and she has me on a target now because I won’t be her “flying monkey”. Her toxicity is absolutely evident and the fact that I do my job well is somehow a threat to her in some silly form I guess. I’m not sure but now I’m suspended and waiting on an investigation by the general manager based solely on her word. I’m exhausted. I’m demoralized. I’m on the chopping block for middle school type nonsense.
Currently dealing with this exact same thing myself only it's that I refuse to kiss his incompetent ass and the fact that when I went through my divorce a few years ago I made it abundantly clear in a professional polite way that I was in no uncertain terms interested in anything other than a professional relationship with any of my coworkers or higher ups. I do not do that. The only person keeping him from firing me is my team leader. She says she can not run our department without me. So now it seems he's got her as his next target. Our turnover is absurd.
@@michelleshoffner7976 it was the same for me. Our teamleader was the one who hired me, needed me and wanted to keep me.
Then she took maternity leave and they (the 3 other leaders) took that opportunity to get rid of me and somehow blacklisted me. I can't even find a new job now.
All because I was originally hired as a replacement, which means I don't have the same rights as a normal employee, even after getting a normal contract. So basically they could do whatever tf they wanted to me with zero consequences for them, nor future consequences because I had no rights, so I couldn't even sue.
And now I live in poverty.
Because I refused to worship my fkn bosses, kiss their ass and most of all, because I was actually good at my job. Because everyone relied on me. Because I made the ambiance. If I was happy, everyone was. If I was quiet, the whole place was like a funeral.
And they couldn't bear that a regular employee had so much sway.
Nor did it help my case that I was trained by the manager, who hired me, to know all the jobs the leaders do. So I could assist them when needed, or jump in when someone was sick.
And they definitely did not like that.
I had to pay with my life, basically.
Lost my appartment, all my stuff, lived on the streets for 11 months.
And they even send cops after me with a warrant because of an angry email I had send.
Because making me lose everything wasn't enough for them.
But I found the strength to continue, somehow.
Got a new place, finally got some furniture recently after like two years of cold floor.
But still can't find a job.
They won't even hire me in a supermarket. A place where they literally hire anyone...
They made life unnecessary hard for me for childish reasons.
And somehow, in the eyes of society, I'm the bad guy, the lazy loser, a bag of excuses.
Because bosses have higher status, so their words ring more true.
We live in a corrupt f'd up world.
This comment is 100%! Thank you, yes yes yes!
If you notice your co-workers, a manager, or a boss doesn't like you, do not show up at the retreats and other company events outside the office environment. You'll give them more reasons to do so. Find a way to leave, and if you must remain minimize your contacts on a daily basis until you can leave.
My boss is a different case. He doesn’t like it when I perform my job well. He’s been with the company for years and has his own favorite people. If I did things well, he’ll simply brush it off and talks bad about me to people. I’ve tried couple times to ignore his favoritism and put on extra work and ensures to keep my work at the level that it has to be. Unfortunately doesn’t seems to fix the situation. I must say, it’s just too frustrating.
My situation exactly.
Same here
You need to read The Hatchet Man's Playbook - a LOT of eye-popping, non-obvious stuff!
Same here. My boss takes all the credits and want to be better than everyone. When I try to find solutions to problems she gets offended or thinks that I'm kossing ass.
Working harder is a waste of time. He's not objective nor does he care about the company. It's all about his ego & his buddies. Try to make a lateral move if theres a different in the company who likes you. Also try reading The Hatchet Man's Playbook.
I think that being proactive is super important for sure! Thanks for sharing Jennifer.
It's simple, but few people are for various reasons. Thanks for watching Makeda. I loved your new video!
I am a competent employee, my clients are happy with my performance, I'm proactive and my boss doesn't like me. I'm the only foreigner in the organisation. I am the only trainer who does not get new projects. I alrealdy asked her twice for a feedback and nothing happened... She knows I'm being excluded by the rest of trainers and she doesn't do anything about it. We cellebrated Secret Santa the other day and I made her a nice gift. When she found out her cheeks went red with embarassment...
Why is it we need to make it better with these toxic bosses? We employees matter and should stick up for ourselves and leave don't try and fix it!!!! That's nuts. You certainly can try and bring it up. But leave if it's toxic.
What bothers me is when my manager talks behind my back... Pisses me off
That is exactly what I’m dealing with. I found out when she emails me she blind cc’d other coworkers...like wtf
Been there, done that. I have a highly technical background and methodology. I have been a contract engineer for many years at many companies. Sometimes you just get that type of boss that does not appreciate or understand the technical nuances. If I'm being hired for my expertise, then take my advice, work ethic and regulatory knowledge seriously (I'm not insulted if you decide no). Sometimes a third party can intercede and work out your differences, this is rare. If you cannot work out your issues: my advice to the OP, you will probably have to look for another opportunity. I understand your experiences may not be like mine, but it doesn't matter; a mismatch is a mismatch, free yourself and your boss to move on. Do not burn any bridges, and leave by wishing them the best of luck.
If the boss won’t man up and tell me why he doesn’t like me, he can go to hell as far as I’m concerned. All I require of him is to sign off on my work.
Exactly
My experience is that if you're boss is unintelligent and they do not like you, it does not matter if you are a top performer or get along with everyone or do your job well, they will will try anything to get rid of you specifically, eg lie, take credit for your work or give credit to someone else for your achievements, tell you to find another job, tell other employees to stop associating with you etc (if you dare confront them about any of it they will say you have a bad attitude or lie, especially if you involve higher ups). If you see a team with a very high turnover and the boss says they got rid of the "toxic employees" it sometimes means the boss is in fact the toxic employee
Well I’m in training and when I make a mistake he gets very angry with me but I fix it because I see what I did wrong when he brings it to my attention and I don’t make the same mistake again. My coworker makes the same mistakes but then he talks to him like he’s his buddy. So I took on a lot of work and tried to over perform and he told me I working on too much and took some work from me and I am so confused. I have been learning this position for 6 months and there are so many exceptions I am still learning. I have had the basics of this job from the very beginning. I kissed ass and agreed with him and worked hard and he still takes his anger out on me.
I have a similar situation - you are not alone.
You are lucky you have been given an opportunity. I was training for new position as well, not even 3 months and he gave me a disciplinary action for failing to meet expectations. Tho admitted I had improved. Mind you the training I received was insufficient, I was constantly overlooked compared to the ones that were hired for the position. I couldn't win
This is my situation to a tee! My boss is just a miserable ahole.
What do you do if you see issues, proactively try to fix them, but your boss just undermines your progress by taking an issue with all of your solutions even without reasonable explanation? I have been in situations where I have collaborated and spearheaded initiatives with colleagues and we have all agreed on the initiative and implemented it but are then reprimanded for doing because the boss is still not happy with anything you do. If a boss doesn’t like you - I really don’t think there is a solution other than the boss leaving or you leaving.
I was recently complimented by the higher ups for my performance. My boss is much younger, and has never told me I’m doing a good job. Since the compliments, I sense some hostility from her…. Not sure how to handle this.
I am afraid that I'm a bad employee because I have made so many mistakes because I had no experience. But now I have experience and I can hopefully move on. The only problem is, I think my bosses don't like me. 😬 Will that one bad experience ruin my career?
One of the best way you can try is to bring foods for everyone and invite your boss to have some of the food you brought.
This is great! Can you do a series on how to work with a boss with Narcissistic personality disorder? And how to recover from it afterwards?
I am working on a collaboration with an expert on emotions at work on Toxic Workplace recovery (this would cover boss + company). I'm hoping to have something in March!
Jennifer Brick 👍🏻
I love how you place personal responsibility back on the person. Yes your boss may suck, BUT what have YOU been doing or not doing? Well said. Even if you eventually leave, the practice of doing this introspection will pay off later.
Thank you for all of the great advice and hard work you put into these videos. I am neurodivergent and socially awkward so a lot of this doesn’t come naturally to me. I have been making lots of mistakes and despite my hard work and dedication have not seen great results so far so I will start implementing your brilliant advice.
Unfortunately one of my old bosses played favourites. Even when l do things that others don't do but he believes l "made it up" or "falsified the figures".
When we had an employee survey our dept had the LOWEST positive feedback of all the national operations in the country and lowest morale but he blames others NOT HIMSELF!.
There was no way l could learn from him because the organisation had a policy to move manager to different depts to "multi skill them", he focused on the petty things time keeping, spelling mistakes, how long we have our lunch break but not on improving the dept.
PS he was an ex cop that was fired!
It sounds like he was showing several toxic manager signs.
Thank you so much for this educational video. I’m struggling with this right now.
The answer is ALWAYS respect your boss and do your best to work within best practices of the organization.
I've had a boss or two were not very good at their job; Thankfully, the majority were great mentors but now? Now, I have a mean petty boss, who's threatened by any compliments I may receive.
My boss said that the shop is only big enough for 1 female so it's either me or her and should I consider changing gender to stay?? Since other than that she seems to like me.
I work in a place where management has certain people targeted to not train & try to "encourage" to leave because otherwise you wont have "ability to do the work" & will end up being out the door anyway.
I have a pension i am trying to get time in for, & great benefits & pay i cannot get anywhere else.
I have done timed tests that are designed to fail & I have been only one out of about 10 people to pass. I should have documented that in email but took 2 years to now be issue. Everyone else who was on this list that upper management wants to get rid of, except one other, has retired or union got them into another department.
I had gained "points" to complete training & performing work i was given. It was basically work that the others are too busy to do. But now those points have simply been wiped out leaving me with last 2.5 years looking like i been sitting doing nothing.
I have been getting trained on software we use from coworkers so next job when i am asked "what have you been doing ?" I dont have to say, "playing games on my phone". Right now our department very low on work, a danger sign, & those who have not been on the short list are being trained.
Its hard to explain. Who are targeted is not clear.
Stress is only tolerable because if i can get my full pension, i will not have to continue being subject to intolerable bosses, constant over 40 hr workweek, & can just leave.
Don’t want to be micromanaged by my boss-:))
The more you put yourself forward to be proactive in helping/ resolving problems, the more your boss feel insecure about your ability to resolve the problem or to create an impact to the company’s performance. Being a insecure narcissistic boss, they will cut you off from your clients, colleagues as well as removing you from the big project that you are doing.
All I do is ask questions and I get told to quit asking questions. Im not the problem.
Can you give more detail about what a productive or outcome-based relationship looks like?
If your boss doesnt like you, its prob because someone got into thier head. So its most likely. More then your boss. Someone feels threatened by you. It rarely ever works. They will do anything to make you leave.
Just change a job when a boss hates you. If you work well, learn new skills, a next job is always better. Companies that hire bad managers fail anyway. The moment when boss stresses you, immediately start doing something to get rid of that job. There are many companies, there are many jobs. Don’t try to survive this. You deserve more.
Such A class content... Thanks Jennifer...
I've learned not to make them perceive me as someone who loves making things look more difficult than they actually are. Greetings and lots of thanks from Albania!
Can we now have toxic boss tips that can protect your career? My experience has been that during a presentation, he logged into the Apple tv and drew a massive cck then tried to cancel my career through lies. Btw, he did cancel my career by not representing my efforts during my time with the business
I don’t know if I can take it or do it
You've got his Kay. What's your next step?
i guess this video is for people who are working in their dream job only and they don't wanna lose their job cz if you are working in any kind of job just to survive, then there's no reason to change yourself or try to be nice to your boss when most of them are not. In that case the best option is to get another job and leave in good terms.
Thanks Jennifer. This video helped me a lot.
So glad it helped!
Another GREAT resource is a piece titled The Hatchet Man's Playbook!
Really appreciate this!
Can you talk about setup to fail syndrome
Wallah I don’t like the director of program and he doesn’t like me either. My direct boss is super respectful and nice human being.
Tha k you so much I love your realistic and well rounded advice
Your videos have great content. I had an experience with my boss the other day where I had physical therapy in the middle of the work day that I punched out for. It took longer than she expected. When I saw her after I came back to work she acted like I was lying to her that it took as long as it did. I explained to her why it took that long and she still didn't believe me. I went on my time not the companies and I'm a good employee. How do you handle it when the boss acts like your lying?
It's your boss mistrustful in general?
Yes
get a time chit next time
I think disliking someone at work nothing to do with performance but because they are different should be a treated as a disliking crime
What about when your boss publicly shames you over simple mistakes? In front of both customers and coworkers
Maybe you should talk to your boss about it, tbh idk how else you would solve that?
Being a supervisor myself i really try to provide a fun friendly competitive work environment yeah lets have a race, if you beat me i buy lunch if i win lets learn what i did and improve, and lets get lunch anyways so we dont hate our jobs, but given that i provide a friendly work environment negative attitude and not staying focused damages productivity so i still gotta do my job
I have a question; I sometimes have to meet with leaders who aren’t on my team or manage me in any way, and today I had 2 of such meetings where said leader was really rude to me. In both, I was constantly interrupted which was especially tough in the first because I was trying to understand that leader’s criteria for the reports I was building for her. Her interruptions made it almost impossible for me to actually reach an understanding so I could help her. In the second call, the leader made the meeting go a half hour over time so he could talk at me about a broad high level issue I repeatedly told him I find not appropriate for me to make decisions about especially in a siloed way, excluding everyone else to whom the issue is more pertinent, but me saying this repeatedly did not get him to stop talking. It took me letting him know I had to pee to get him to be okay with ending the meeting.
Sooo my question is: how do you assert yourself and ask for respect from a senior manager or leader who isn’t exactly your boss but could still wield some power over you?
I would love guidance on this as well. Deal with this frustration with three local market leaders.
You have been an inspiration. Thank you! A big hug from Puerto Rico.
Sending you a virtual hug back from NYC! 🥰
I will never be that kind of a boss … no no no
What to do if company is creating new positions and eventually take your duties to keep others buy new position busy.
What if, I am not interested to fill the gap. I believe with perfect match and I was worn out working with people who making a different version of me. What would be the practical request to release me and so I could exit with dignity and grace?
Thank you Jinnifer ..you are very realistic
I focus on my job and keep talks with them work related only is it good or bad?
That depends: do you feel liek you have positive and productive relationships with them, and would they say the same about you? Often with leadership the boundaries are much more professional for many reasons.
Jennifer Brick yes i believe and i make sure i am doing a good job
I had bosses none made efforts to get to know me its like they like everyone but Me . Even managers . I try to be nice but I feel like it back fires .
Thank you so much for your channel❤️
I have a question..... Think is a good idea to ask her why she hates You? Just curious...
The problem is when your boss is simply not performing but very good at kissing ass while treating you like shit.
This helped me alot thank you
Im not doing nothing outside of doing my job and being respectful to ppl. This work shit isnt a social experiment
Never smile at work. Only sarcastic smiles once in a while.
It sounds like common sense, but it’s not! This is so helpful!!!❤
My boss doesn’t listen to me. Working here only for 1 month and they expect me to be able to do things on my own for everything, cuz whenever I came to ask about something they are passive aggressive. For wtf’ing reason Idk. And when I tried telling them the issue they act like they don’t know anything. And when something bad happened they blamed me for not telling but I did and they didn’t pay attention. And as thailand culture, youngers can never talk back or they say we are arguing or we are hardheaded. Cuz why blame me that I didn’t do something when I brought the issue to the table and y’all ignored
I wish I could follow this advice but I'm afraid it might be too late.
Would you timeline your list ? I’ve watched a couple of your videos, I haven’t found any even under comments section.
Thanks for the suggestion! I've honestly refrained from doing so because I edit everything that I don't think it absolutely needed out.
Would this help you for reference or just to get through the video faster?
All these UA-camrs talk like everyone works in a office setting 🤦♂️
I hear ya... And I do make my videos corporate centric because it's where most people who watch and most of my clients are (not all). But humans are humans and since most of my content focuses on the psychology and sociology I hope you can still use my videos to help you meet your career goals!
@@JenniferBrick I working in manufacturing in a sheet metal shop with a toxic work environment not and office but same crap goes on feel worthless
So far all of the many videos I have watched apply to my field in the medical world…to a “T”!
Every manager I've ever had hated my guts. I'm always the hardest worker on any team, physically, but I had a terrible relationship with my overly authoritarian parents who didn't let me experience life until they kicked me out at 15. Still at 50 I'm angry any time someone tries to tell me what to do in a slightly abusive way.
How do I deal with this? I'm sick to death of fighting my whole life.
"Only blind gropes in the darkeness''"be blind until u can get a free frog" "in the midst of chaos there is also opportunity"rides in the whirlwind and direct the storms"
My boss is the owner of my job ☹️🥺😖
The problems I bring my boss are outperforming him in sales. He’s lazy so he slams me to management by twisting scenarios any way he can so he’s never on the chopping block. Dude is manipulative like the type of people who secretly had 2 families etc. So bizarre to deal with when all I do is make my company money and he drags the team down.
My boss don't like me. Heres why. I lack confidence.
My boss is extremely cold and only says
Sorry X
X come into my office
Hello x
I haven't time for this x
I'm not accepting this x
Ok off you go
Watever i do or even apply leave she is super difficult n often giving me black face.I single n she will said things like oh u n Mdm A no topic to chat becos u single. Oh u dun knw gw the parent feel... i apply leave n i chk begorehand nobody is taking tat day. She give me a black face n said oh tat day...i said i have chk n she said nvm. ... haiz is so difficult.
My boss hated me don't like to give my coe ,it's because I complain in something very reasonable ,they don't like that their employees complaining
He even including my personal life issues😢
People are saying ' Start a Buisiness', is that a strategy that's important?
Those people want to sell you coaching and courses on starting a business, or they have a platform that will take a rake of your revenue.
Most businesses fail. Most businesses don't make 10s of millions of dollars a year. Most businesses require significantly more time of the owner/founder than any employee.
Not saying don't start a business (I did). But don't do it because it sounds like the easier option because the easier option is a steady paycheck.
@@JenniferBrick $4,500 for 3 days for a fundraising consultant is OUT ,then...
I feel this about my boss. Sorry to say…
Fell as though Zi’m micromanaged and this turns me off-:))
Just call the cops and have your boss arrested
Sow the seeds of hate (the truth about) regarding your boss to your coworkers and subordinates. Let the world see and know of the insecurities, assholeyness and incompetence of the boss. Including the board.
My boss hates me because I am better than her and more popular in the office.
If they have no benefit to having a positive working relationship, like you say, why on earth would they try?! I definitely disagree with this. Doesn’t having a unproductive relationship hurt them, too? Why do you say this?
Im a good person and people like me I work hard and get the job done….. but sometimes managers like to have ass kissers and I’m NOT one
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Yeah looking in the mirror I can see why my boss doesn’t like me 😂
I’m a woman and he’s stuck in a 70s mindset.
This issue was driving me to drink, but you absolutely nailed it. Thank you so much !
I feel 1000 times better about it now you’re correct on everything.
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The boss at this Collections company over loads and dumps several projects to the Team Lead. She thinks she will be a manager in the future.The team lead since the beginning did and does not like me! It’s jealousy due to my way I complete and talk to the clients. Well overtime, she has influenced the Boss and the boss went as far as insulting me and giving me nasty looks. I am currently looking for a different job. My natural talent and efficiency will be much appreciated elsewhere. When a Boss insults you, the respect is lost. It’s time to look for a different job.
Happens everywhere
If I bring to her the issues AND fill all the gaps AND take the lion’s share of her job on as my own duties, yet I’m STILL targeted for micromanagement and nitpicked with criticisms at every turn with zero acknowledgment for what I do, then what?!?