And the worst of the worst is a jealous mother who is now, due to her jealousy, unwilling to unconditional love and support her daughter. A daughter who will be confused, depressed, frustrated, and neglected for decades until she figures this horrible truth out. A daughter who then realizes her mother never loved her and has to come to terms with that. Not only that, but a daughter who will have experienced a smear campaign, backstabbing campaign, and leaving-out campaign thanks to the one woman in the world who was supposed to unconditionally love her. Those of you who identify with this, know that the scapegoat in the family is the one who resembles Christ the most! Be proud of that, leave the gossiping bunch behind and build your own family, including supportive friends and unconditionally loving pets!
@@sophial.2438 As the daughter of a jealous mother, your comment made me feel better even though it is a heartbreaking situation to be in. I can deal with acquaintances, coworkers or neighbors who are jealous of me, because they don't owe me anything after all. They don't even have to like me. But a family member is supposed to love you, and your mother is supposed to love you the most because she's the one who chose to bring you into this world. Unfortunately some mothers are unable or unwilling to give love to their children. As you said, the best thing you can do in these circumstances is to build your own family.
I agree 100%. I grew up the scapegoat, with my “mother’s” world revolving around jealousy of me, tearing me down, bullying me and even calling several of my employers in my past trying to get me fired. I’ve finally gone no-contact with her, and am seeing a therapist for c-ptsd for a lifetime of hell from a jealous, cruel and vindictive “mother”. Godspeed ladies, we are so much better than that, and deserve to be treated with kindness and respect. ❤
Very sad how women can be very jealous and dislike you for no reason!!! I have lived thru it my entire life. No matter how caring and friendly, I can be!!! Oh well, less toxic friendship is better for our soul. Greetings from Arizona ladies!!!
I agree with this, especially in a work context. It’s also a good way to know who is really a friend, as friends will be happy for your success and hype you up, not be malicious or not think you should have what you have.
Hi my sister and my friends were always jealous of me and it bother me alot it got me sick now i am 65 years and they are still this way it got me sick i let it bother me now ido not speak to them anymore and i feel much better i am not rich i live alone i live a very simple life they are just so mean the only woman that lived me and cared for me was my mother i miss her so much she passed away many years ago but i learned in life if people around you that are mean and jealous stay away and be happy any way you can life is short love yourself and stay away from people that have bad intentions and that are toxic god bless i wish all the kind woman and good woman the best !
As a successful woman in a male dominant field, jealous men like to laugh at my ideas while stealing and presenting them as theirs, they also love to talk about my appearance (how old and "off market" I am for being single and over 40s) while spreading lies about me being involved with them, even the married ones! Same behaviour as jealous women towards my appearance, my money and my independency from my also successful partners. So, I honestly think it's a matter of character, not gender. We all should accept jealousy as a normal human trait and canalize energy towards improving ourselves and not downplaying others to feel better. It's so ugly.
@@seabreeze4559 Usually I present my ideas on brainstorming meetings and they ignore it or make funny noises in front of everybody, and repeat exactly what I said. Just like that. The other men accept better, almost immediately when coming from a man, not woman. But it's really funny to see them struggling to elaborate more details about the approach, since they don't fully thought through it. Once a guy stole a woman's colleague files from her pc and built his project on top of her basis. Outrageous, I know. But plot twist, he forgot to review some mistakes she hadn't have time to fix yet. Her presentation was faultless and she ended up leading him on this specific project. Other thing they love to do is to have secret "informal meetings" without women and say it's just coffee time, hide documents and data from us to delay our outcomes, or not engage on project lead by us. And all of this just for jealousy.
I feel self absorbed people are more ego driven and they want to be the central of attention. And they want to be admired. That is why older women are jealous than younger women. People who are egotistical like to be in the superior position. And they hate that people are better than them. They love to power trip people. Either by being high and mighty. Or by being holier than thou and preaching to people about kindness. They love pretending they are perfect but lack respect.
Jealousy is a real problem when someone tries to sabotage you at work or socially. Sometimes you need to shut people down but most of the time i ignore them and the truth comes out about their lies
Jealousy is low class and not very classy.its a form of low-level mental illness, and personally, I feel sad for unhappy people. They are at war with themselves and could benefit from therapy.
Beautifully put ! be happy with yourself , work towards a cause to benefit others and feel good from within is the way to be Happiness comes from gratitude & giving back . Avoid the jealous resentful ones , a negative energy .
I have dealt with jealous women my whole life. It is very complicated and difficult to deal with.these women create so much damage in other people's lives, whether they act knowingly or not
“This is my life, and 98% of the women around me. I didn’t do anything to deserve the hate, jealousy, and competitiveness I get from them. It’s always the same with all the women I meet. I’m someone who’s very content with my life and with what I have, and I have zero jealousy towards people because I believe they work hard to get there. I just block them and move away from them because I can’t trust people with this attitude.”
Everybody needs a friend, but the time people spend with a bad friend could be invested in a better friend who would actually help them if they ever needed it.
I agree , this is also the story of my life . Everytime the same scheme. I am still single and I even have the jaleousy of tall the married women with kids. I do not even envy them but there is something in me that make them feel jaleous.
I’m the youngest in my whole family two brothers and two sisters are insanely jealous because I was very close to my parents and they weren’t. It’s something that I tried to understand as a young child. My mother told me that jealousy is just a sickness ,she tried to tell me just to be myself and ignore it. It’s very hard to ignore, but I just went on with my life. I still deal with it today.
I’ve started surrounding myself with women who are only positive about themselves because they don’t need to criticise me to feel good about themselves❤ I love seeing women who look fantastic because I take inspiration from what they are wearing or how they did their makeup or hair etc 🙏
I had an art classmate who finished my joy in the class - she saw the teacher really liked me & my work, so she acts sweet but would interrupt every time i spoke to the teacher (& doesn't to anyone else). Also, pushes me off the benches by setting her stuff up near mine, takes my equipment...& finally when she realised i stay last & have nice teacher time, she brought in work to show the teacher at class end. They also talked about me in a different language & she got the teacher to speak in that for her one on one advice, so i couldn't listen in & learn too. I was always the one who looked bad, since I would raise my voice when: she pushed me off, interrupted, & took my stuff- so it always looked like i was the one being unpleasant instead of her! Luckily, because I've had so many problems with people being jealous, this time I saw it right from the start, so i didn't waste much emotional energy on feeling hurt, sad and angry. And luckily i reached a point of wanting to pursue other goals and could just leave permanently.
Feeling jealousy for another woman can be turned into a positive. I have asked myself why am I jealous of this woman? What is it that I am jealous of? The next question is, what can I do to level up and achieve the thing I am jealous about. Do I need to take more time and effort when planning outfits? Do I need to read a book so I can understand what she was talking about so that I can join in next time? And so on. It’s an emotion that if used properly can make you level up and become your better self.
I know a singaporean lady who is very kind and invites me to networking events. She has impeccable taste. I'm jealous of outfits- they aren't my style but she always looks so polished. I'm doing the work to upgrade my wardrobe and put together better looks on a budget. I think to myself.. how would she style it? how can I style it on myself ? I use jealousy as fuel to improve myself instead of being wistfully and self defeating jealous .
You're on the right path and that's emotionally mature but also, it's not an external issue. It's an internal issue. The insecurity doesn't just disappear because you made someone change on the outside. It's being comfortable in your own skin, realizing that everyone brings something different to the table and no one is above the other.
Yeah, but you know, they're still going to think you're a creep. It's like a s- pre- using his inclinations to be motivated. Do you want that guy h--ping your leg, saying, "thanks for the inspiration!" That's your vibe. We just don't want you period. Like don't talk to your victims: leave them alone.
Nah you need therapy instead trying to be like someone else you need to figure out what in you makes you jealous of another woman. You doing what see does is obsession. Be your own woman. I seriously don’t get the pathology of women who are jealous of another woman
It’s called Tall Poppy syndrome. It was discussed recently when UK journalist Louise Perry interviewed top Canadian female sports coach. Many experiments were carried out where a group of girls and women were exposed to a beautiful and successful athlete that entered the room dressed in a provocative outfit. Gossiping, tearing down talk, side glances and even bursting with laughter were all captured on film by the researchers.
This experiment is ridiculous. Of course people aren’t going to like when someone is dressed provocatively, they are looking for a safe friend to share a life with, which includes access to there significant other. I absolutely refuse to allow an immodest woman around my daughters or husband. It’s a basic protective instinct.
@@seabreeze4559 I have the same body type plus 550 cc breast implants. Before Jesus saved me I was really into plastic surgery. I dress modestly. I don’t wear skin tight clothing, I don’t wear super short dresses or crazy small slivers of clothing. Try that argument with someone else.
@@SoFetch0 What argument? Also Jesus saves your soul as a possibility, you are not guaranteed to be saved. That's pride. He says many will claim to know him and he will say He never knew them. So check your conceit and as someone with a naturally superior figure, I had no say-so in being objectified at the age of 12 by creeps. It didn't matter what I was wearing. I tried everything. Nothing worked. So gaslight someone else.
I think the jealousy out there, along with insecurities, has escalated to making navigating the social world like an all out daily war. If some women have talent, beauty, feminine gentleness, feminine kindness, critical thinking abilities, anything people see as "high quality." Instead of enjoying this in a person they make reputation sabotaging comments. This is why women dim their light and hide their benefits. Men really must search to find these hidden gems.
Absolutely, I realized this last week alone. It's NOT my battle to fight, I just keep living my life and not own this Negative energy they try to put on me. Just keep loving. Love repels evil.
We’ve strayed farther and farther from being the communal creatures that we are & have adapted very masculine tendencies-competitiveness is one of them.
As much as I love social media, it is playing a big role in mental health issues IMHO. Many lies and liars around making people feel insecure and less privileged, to say the least. Everyone is “rich and pretty”. Perhaps if we try to be honest when we put ourselves out there, we would be able to help to make a better world. Great video Anna. Sending love.
People wonder why some females’ friends are nearly entirely male, forgetting that no matter how nice a girl is, others often are malevolent toward her and cannot be trusted. Not everyone has the luck/circumstances to be near ethical peaceful females. Some women have even stalked other women and started defamation campaigns against them. Trust is something that should be earned and not easily given. Better safe than sorry.
Anna, fantastic. This topic must be analyzed more. It ruins lives everyday. Im glad to work from home these days and be away from certain jealous ladies. Its sad we cannot support each other 100%.
I had a horrible issue about a year and a half ago when someone (family) got struck by jealousy towards me. I was once the solution person and then I ended up being the problem. I’ve learned a lot from that and I’m so much stronger in mind, and so much happier one year later. Thank you for this video.
I had lots of girls and even teachers in school who were jealous but I never allowed that to pull me down. My feminine and calm mature manner was what got me through just being myself. Also my long hair since I've always had long luscious hair, my hair gets tons of compliments when I'm out. It's rare to find someone especially where I live to have the length of hair that I have.
@aylaa5842 It's rare escape where I live that anyone has the length of hair that I have. I can't go anywhere without getting stopped by someone about how long it is lol
Ive been watching you since 2022 & stopped in 2023. I am back watching you again in 2024. I want to say that you have truly level up in term of contents cause at some point they were very repetitive. I am truly amazed by your perseverance & dedication. Good luck
I believe jealousy and envy are slightly different in that as a married woman, if another woman flirts with my husband, it is natural for me to have a certain feeling about that situation “ I would feel jealous.” On the other hand if I for example love handbags and I am a collector and maybe Anna has a nice rare handbag that I would love to get and I can’t obtain that bag, and I begin to have some negative emotions because I want something that belongs to someone else, then that is Envy and it’s quite dangerous.”
Exactly, I see in English the word jaelousy is much used with the meaning of "envy". Envy is always a mean feeling. Jaelousy can also be the innocent attempt to protect one's beloved from being "stolen" by someone else...
Jealousy is one of the lowest vibration emotions that people commonly experience. To me the best way to cope with jealousy is to transform it into joy & motivation An unbalanced Solar plexus chakra leads to jealousy & possessiveness ❤
I think jealousy is the reason behind everything negative in a relationship…if you’re in the shits with someone, it’s core will be jealousy….if someone is mean to you-jealousy…if someone won’t talk to you-jealousy…someone spreads rumours-jealousy…..
Anna I love the fact that you are talking about things women need to deal with, it just shows you are not a snowflake, a woman without depth, instead you are woman that is beautiful with brains, a deep thinker. Thank you for delving into deeper topics.
I understand that there will always be jealousy unfortunately as I’ve lived it frequently; but what I fail to understand is all of the advise says “focus on yourself” and/or “limit contact,” well that’s what I do and have always done…. But when these jealous women engage in what Anna mentions earlier: “smear campaign”, “sabotage”, etc and you are obviously being negatively affected despite best efforts (and maybe also forced to be around these people..) WHAT ARE YOU TO DO THEN?!!
@@nzingahoney are you dumb ? jealousy is not due to hormones . its due to immaturity insecurity and evilness of oneself . men have always had that jealousy thing . brothers kill each other for the sake of property and money . they start wars due to jealousy envy and hate for other's kingdom . jealousy has always existed since the beginning of humans . its not a woman trait . its a human trait
Thank you Anna for talking about this topic! I ve been struggling with jealousy my whole life and affected by the negative comments of other people who wanted to bring me down. As you said, the key is accepting that this kind of people will always be around and focus our energy and time on something that matters m!
I love this, you’re describing stoicism. I’ve been researching this for a while now and wow, it’s helped me with a jealous friend. Great advice, thank you!
Anna, Im very curious to know how to go grocery shopping as an elegant woman. Some do’s and dont’s would be helpful, such as some other insights on this daily moments! Love your content Anna, always very on point 🫶🏼
1.Don't block the isle, be aware of your surroundings wait for people to go past , say excuse me if you need to squeeze by in a narrow aisle, 2.Only grab what you want. some people are weird about buying things people have already just touched. 3 Be polite to the cashier, if you bring your own bags for groceries give them to the cashier bagger first so that its not a big deal for them to pull things out already bagged and firmly and gently say "please use these instead " 4.Dress nice casual in comfortable but classy shoes - do yourself up with a slicked back ponytail and natural looking makeup if your feeling a bit lazy and don't want to do full face. think "clean girl aesthetic" You never know if you could find a potential: client/ new job / spouse/ friend or run into an ex while shopping ! I will never forget how mortified I was when I saw a lady I met at my work I was hoping to catch as client shopping the same big buy store as me while looking for deals on dvds but I was dressed in my weekend grungy gardening clothes and she looked put together ! I didn't expect to see her there and it's a completely different style of neighborhood in which I work. I felt embarrassed and dowdy. You don't have to be dressed to the 9's just neat and and have your clothes in good repair , not faded and not pilly. Take it from me , nothing ruins your credibility more than looking worn out and shabby on your day off ! Best wishes in your level up endeavors 🥰
@@ah5721 I feel very honored by your helpful suggestions! I will definitely have them in consideration the next time I do grocery shopping. Wonderful your gentleness. Thank you so much! 💛
Jealousy is an emotion ( animal, human) and envy is a king of obsession where the envious person puts down or spread lies to feel better about themself .
I think a healthy dose of jealously is good. I grow up low middle class and I was jealous of the high-class girls in my private high-school. I tried to study them and I still do on their instagrams. What they wore, the way they moved in society, the network that they had. I decided to get inspired and not mad and that helped me a lot in life.
Sameee omg i used to be so jealous of this one instagram model’s body and seductive charm in her videos but instead of hating her I also studied her and started hitting the gym and now 7 years later I have also bodyodyody and those video skills and now girls are jealous of ME 💀💀🤣 I dont use tiktok and I remember for ex one night a girl i know asked me to do a tiktok w her and I outshined her a lot in that video. Her chin was dropping and she didnt even post it bc of that in the end 💀💀 She thought bc i dont use tiktok idk how to make those videos but nah gurl ive been practicing since before tiktok was even a thing 🤪🤪 no shade to her though at all, I was just super proud of myself in that moment bc I spent so much time on this 💀 and I realize now how much effort the influencer girl mustve put aswell.
Jealousy hurts people. It causes people to be hurtful, emotionally and/or physically. It’s so critical to. let it go and implement a positive coping skill, such as working towards the goal you want, exercising to get endorphins up etc. ❤wishing others well beings blessing to you and everyone around you.
Oh, Snap!! I needed this video because my husband's step-sister seems jealous of me because she's 3xs bigger than me. Sucks because we are family at the end of the day
Thank you for speaking on this topic! I have been reflecting on this lately on how women can be jealous of me for no reason and wen I tell pple dat it seems like I'm crazy
I feel like the most difficult thing for me is to figure out how to react to people being jealous of me because sometimes they make weird comments and I know that their intention is to bring me down slightly (and it's very subtle but very predictable because I see the pattern repeat itself over and over again with these people) and I know they do it to make themselves feel better and not inadequate in that moment but it affects me unfortunately.
Thanks for talking about this uncomfortable topic. I have been jealous due to my own insecurities and feelings of inadequacy. But, even though I used to feel like the underdog, lots of women have been extremely jealous of me. It is not a matter of self perception: Even when self perception is not adequate other people can envy certain things about you. I started been aware of external jealousy back in College. Some people even tried to harm me with character assassination and more extreme behaviors. To be in that situation is terrible, where you can't trust no one. As my self confidence grew, as I found my true self, my fear of them lessened to the level of not caring about their shortcomings. It took me years to build a strong personality, but now as an adult I live my life with a true sense of personal validation and appreciation.
I wear the pendant 🧿 on myself at all times for protection! It’s very difficult to not take it personally when it’s a family member. Divine love return to bad energy to those sending hate. 🙏
I love seeing women who are beautiful, smart, hardworking, creative or kind and joyful. I don't even them- I feel like I've found my tribe:) Like, hey, it's one of my own! I love it:)
I receive hate in my workplace all the time, and my so called friends are starting to ignore me now too. I always feel agitated and angry because I dont know what made them that way. I wish they would tell me instead. But now, I wanna handle it with class and I wanna learn to start ignoring them too. I dont need negativities in life. I dont need "friends" if they are backstabbers and childish. Id rather be alone than be with fake, miserable people
There are very few people I listen to, however, I have to say, I really value your togetherness. Jealousy towards me has been ridiculous. I suffered with shyness and low esteem when I was younger. So at the time, I did not understand why. This was a result from my abusive father which had a direct impact on my identity, as a woman. What was interesting was how some of the men I dated, some of whom were very powerful, use to delight in triggering this emotion in me. As you say, jealousy can be a natural form of defence. Looking back, I do feel however this form of manipulation was a sign of their own insecurity, from what I gleaned from their own childhood. Journaling for me has certainly helped, also removing people who manipulate is vital. Once we take control of our own stuff and understand why, its easier to separate what is theirs and what is ours. I love the positive affirmations such as the ones you suggested. I hope you don't mind me sharing this with you. Thank you.
I really appreciate the practical advices on self growth that you are giving in this new channel. I think it's very useful and needed to know how to overcome those emotional or mental behaviours that keeps us back from moving forward in our inner growth. And the practical examples you made were very relatable. Thank you for sharing your tools
I realized that jealous people tend to be the ones that are the most superficial, if she's jealous of your beauty it's because the only thing that she values in herself or in general is beauty, but people can be jealous of your career if the only thing they value in themself or general is career, etc. So let it go! On everything, you're just a human, you exist for yourself and nothing else, let it go! You are trying too hard, the moment you let it go, you will see the results, and everything will come to you. Stop trying to control, this ruins everything in your life and prevents you from being happy.
The lack of identity is the root cause of jealousy. The ability to appreciate other human beings' achievements and beauty is powerful. Ladies, this is the secret of a powerful woman.
Points for the onscreen caption for people who need accessibility assistance Anna. If that's a feature in the editing software you use, or a new feature in your preferred editing software and you know you had it enabled huge points for the in video caption. If you didn't know you had that feature enabled and, you didn't know about the feature in the first place, you unknowingly did a phenomenal job with this particular video.
Sadia Khan brushed on this. Certain female " friends" sometimes really aren't. Be your authentic self, be aware, and know when to let these " friends" distance thenselves and let them go.
I have a friend/co-worker who is jealous of me because I am working part time somewhere else so I can eventually leave the job I work at with her. I was surprised that she wasn't at all happy for me and instead started giving me the cold shoulder and making under the breath comments. Some friend. Love the advice Anna, you are an inspiration and so wise!❤
I am jealous and envious, but I believe I have worked up to control these feelings and thoughts. Self-care and focusing on "me" are some answers that helped me. And following Anna's teaching definitely contributed to this improvement ❤️
Anna, you are quite right that we cannot control how others react towards us. It took me a very long time to understand that jealousy could be at the root of other people’s animosity towards me. Initially I thought, “Oh, they must not really know me; they wouldn’t treat me so poorly if they knew how benevolent a person I am and how I want the best for them.” So I would try to make more of an effort to put my best foot forward ~ then was flummoxed when I was treated just as badly ~ or worse. What I didn’t realize was that some people will resent you regardless …because it’s their own internal demons that drive their emotions. When one reacts negatively to those jealous of you, they feel validated in their dislike and belief that you don’t deserve whatever blessing you’re enjoying. For those who struggle with jealousy: Please remember that even the most beautiful women have physical insecurities. Those with material wealth have their own life struggles, and those in happy relationships still experience worry and stress. Once you understand this, it may make it easier to quell those unpleasant emotions. Sadly, those who are most prone to malicious jealousy are the least likely to engage in introspection and pursue emotional growth. The more mature one becomes, the easier it is to assess the emotions one manifests and develop healthy, productive coping strategies. As others have commented: It’s not as though those with minimal jealous tendencies are oblivious to others, but rather we’re able to recognize things that we admire in others - and use that recognition to motivate us. 🙂
Very important message -- thank you for this vid! A jealous person has to want to become a better person. I know people (women) who have seen multiple therapists over many years and they still give into destructive jealous feelings. The best we can do is keep our distance from someone who shows this behavior.
I have found that we’re mirrors. So if we are jealous individuals, we attract that in turn. If you say, oh I’m not jealous, well if you’re in a state of lack, low self esteem, lack of self love you attract that same negativity. Change your energy, your mindset, to love. To seeing beauty in any and everything, to not being judgmental or being prideful and you attract that in turn. You attract love. You attract loving individuals who are genuinely sincere. But you must love yourself first. Treating you with pure love. Positive affirmations definitely help with this.
I never understood this until I became more aware. It takes an insane amount of healing to understand why we do the things that we do. And yet I don't puty or envy jealous women because I understand that they're wounded souls. Projection is real when you understand it from that perspective
I loved that video and I really needed that type of guidance, I usually try to ignore them but it’s very important to avoid those people they really drain your soul
Some women are terrible and can be very toxic. The things that bothers me is that women trick each other into being more and more insecure and some run to plastic surgery when not needed. There are jealous women who start measuring you, pick and stare at one point on you, then they start grinning, raise their eyebrows or whisper something to each other to make you feel bad about yourself because they are jealous about your overall appearance. You start wondering what is wrong and become self-conscious, they intend to ruin your own picture about you and make your day worse. Next, there's the toxic friend who suggests you buy a top, saying, 'It would look fantastic on you; it diverts attention away from your smaller chest'. Then there are these insecure women who know are desperately trying to get your man's attention. For example, women on the beach often put their towel in front of me and my partner, and instead of crouching, they start kneeling on all 4 or bending over, spreading their legs, pointing their behind towards us, pretending to adjust the towel. How can one not be upset? Ugh!
I’m never jealous of genuinely beautiful successful women. But I am very uncomfortable around arrogant women who flaunt themselves in my face deliberately. It’s disturbing. Confident women don’t tend to project.
Yes Women are very jealous of me and hate me for not reason too and cousins too hate me for no reason mostly its competing comparison and plain insane jealousy thanks Anna for speaking on this topic very educational and my cousins hate me its beyond jealousy its plain hate.
If everyone would just mind their own business and live and let live, life would be much easier. One good thing I’ve found about getting much older is that when I wear something daring, instead of getting slut shamed, women more often compliment my outfit, or some article of clothing or say straight out that I’m beautiful and I often have been told that I look like a Barbie (yeah, if she was middle aged 🙂) Sometimes it’s older women, sometimes younger, sometimes teens and sometimes younger girls. I guess I get to finally enjoy shining later in life, and it’s so refreshing to get positive vibes around instead of all the bitchy negativity I used to get. I’m not doing anything differently than my younger self, still dressing as expressively as I can without trying too hard, the only thing that’s different is my age. Just sharing this to give some hope that it is possible for it to ease up as we get older. Yes, there are elderly jealous women, but more likely, they confess to it…say for example, because I have a much better figure (I should if I’m decades younger than them, so they’re trying to compare apples to oranges) Others who aren’t elderly but don’t have good figures need to try to realize that my better figure has nothing to do with them, nor is it my fault if they don’t look good. Don’t hate me because I’m beautiful. I put a lot of work into looking my best…especially after middle age, the metabolism slows down and I have to try harder to get and stay in shape, so others aren’t entitled to something I have because I earned it. If they want to get a better figure, they will also have to work for it, because we don’t all have model genes and natural beauty.
My coworker is jealous of me. I started to be jealous of her too because I fear she might steal my work and resources and take credit of it since I also teach her, she is also my subordinate. She started exhibiting mood swings and when I do not show all of my knowledge to her or help (since i also have tons of work to do and I state my boundaries), she gets cocky and talks behind my back. Which is why I started distancing from her.
I like the way you speak,the way you explain things that are just awesome and lovely.Along the way,as a language learner I learn new, juicy words in your every video.Thank you Ann You are one of the most my beloved you tuber.I adore you ❤❤❤❤ Love from Uzbekistan
I think the key is to not compare, no other, with your own. Never gallop with others, do the gallop for yourself. Comparing to others, is just waste of time. Why? Because, there is allways going to be some one better than me, or you. The "best" person in the world, is me, or the me in you. You´ve already won this life. Do something beutiful, ut of it. 🥰🥰🥰
Something I've experienced is being in a restaurant in the lobby waiting to be seated on a rainy day and having a very beautiful woman walk in and have the men staff push me to the side so they can run to the door with an umbrella so she doesn't get wet and to open the door for her. So, it's more of being upset at the behavior of men as a beautiful woman comes in the scene where all non-beautiful women become an obstacle or an annoyance and invisible while the beautiful one is there getting doors opened and and all the smiles.
I know what you mean. My mother was quite beautiful in her prime, and at 81, still is. But it saddens me when we're out to dinner and the male waiters treat her differently than me. Nobody wants to feel invisible just because they're elderly or plain.
@@Mmmmkaaay Men are wired to seek beauty and act weird when they see it. As women, we know this is hard-wired and hard to change and I think it explains women's reactions to have a beautiful woman around. I guess it's all about awareness and accepting of biology without letting jealousy become toxic.
What gets under my skin is when jealous people hate on you for having what you possess but refuse to do what you did to get there.
Exactly!
This!
Omg yes!
Very true!
Lazy people.
What’s the worst is jealous women who are FAMILY 😭
And the worst of the worst is a jealous mother who is now, due to her jealousy, unwilling to unconditional love and support her daughter.
A daughter who will be confused, depressed, frustrated, and neglected for decades until she figures this horrible truth out.
A daughter who then realizes her mother never loved her and has to come to terms with that.
Not only that, but a daughter who will have experienced a smear campaign, backstabbing campaign, and leaving-out campaign thanks to the one woman in the world who was supposed to unconditionally love her.
Those of you who identify with this, know that the scapegoat in the family is the one who resembles Christ the most!
Be proud of that, leave the gossiping bunch behind and build your own family, including supportive friends and unconditionally loving pets!
@@sophial.2438 As the daughter of a jealous mother, your comment made me feel better even though it is a heartbreaking situation to be in. I can deal with acquaintances, coworkers or neighbors who are jealous of me, because they don't owe me anything after all. They don't even have to like me. But a family member is supposed to love you, and your mother is supposed to love you the most because she's the one who chose to bring you into this world. Unfortunately some mothers are unable or unwilling to give love to their children. As you said, the best thing you can do in these circumstances is to build your own family.
I agree 100%. I grew up the scapegoat, with my “mother’s” world revolving around jealousy of me, tearing me down, bullying me and even calling several of my employers in my past trying to get me fired. I’ve finally gone no-contact with her, and am seeing a therapist for c-ptsd for a lifetime of hell from a jealous, cruel and vindictive “mother”. Godspeed ladies, we are so much better than that, and deserve to be treated with kindness and respect. ❤
It’s hell :(
I totally agree! So heart breaking
Very sad how women can be very jealous and dislike you for no reason!!! I have lived thru it my entire life. No matter how caring and friendly, I can be!!! Oh well, less toxic friendship is better for our soul. Greetings from Arizona ladies!!!
Yes unfortunatelly 😢 we need so much detachment, management and in general, being on constant watchout 🥲
It isn't for no reason. It is evolutionary.
@@saturdaysun10 They may feel jealous but doesn't mean they need to act on it like an animal, we are humans we can rise above feelings.
Indeed. Less toxic relationships is the best
You’re not alone. I just stay away from them because I can’t trust drinking water from their house.
I have learned not to reveal to much to certain women. Bc of the jealously. It makes life more peaceful for me. It’s sad though.
I agree with this, especially in a work context. It’s also a good way to know who is really a friend, as friends will be happy for your success and hype you up, not be malicious or not think you should have what you have.
Hi my sister and my friends were always jealous of me and it bother me alot it got me sick now i am 65 years and they are still this way it got me sick i let it bother me now ido not speak to them anymore and i feel much better i am not rich i live alone i live a very simple life they are just so mean the only woman that lived me and cared for me was my mother i miss her so much she passed away many years ago but i learned in life if people around you that are mean and jealous stay away and be happy any way you can life is short love yourself and stay away from people that have bad intentions and that are toxic god bless i wish all the kind woman and good woman the best !
I only trusted my mother in this life she loved me and cared for me ! 11:11
This🔥
No it doesn't make it sad, all it really means is that YOU are a very smart woman!!!
As a successful woman in a male dominant field, jealous men like to laugh at my ideas while stealing and presenting them as theirs, they also love to talk about my appearance (how old and "off market" I am for being single and over 40s) while spreading lies about me being involved with them, even the married ones! Same behaviour as jealous women towards my appearance, my money and my independency from my also successful partners. So, I honestly think it's a matter of character, not gender. We all should accept jealousy as a normal human trait and canalize energy towards improving ourselves and not downplaying others to feel better. It's so ugly.
thank you for saying this 🙌🏾
Mite effeminate and catty innit
So accurate
That's why you tell them stupid ideas that will ruin them as sabotage, ideally if you know how to fix it and look better for fixing their stupid mess.
@@seabreeze4559 Usually I present my ideas on brainstorming meetings and they ignore it or make funny noises in front of everybody, and repeat exactly what I said. Just like that. The other men accept better, almost immediately when coming from a man, not woman.
But it's really funny to see them struggling to elaborate more details about the approach, since they don't fully thought through it.
Once a guy stole a woman's colleague files from her pc and built his project on top of her basis. Outrageous, I know. But plot twist, he forgot to review some mistakes she hadn't have time to fix yet. Her presentation was faultless and she ended up leading him on this specific project.
Other thing they love to do is to have secret "informal meetings" without women and say it's just coffee time, hide documents and data from us to delay our outcomes, or not engage on project lead by us. And all of this just for jealousy.
I have lost many female “friends” due to jealousy. As a beautiful woman I’m often viewed as a competitor not a friend.
Oh please.... Maybe you are projecting jealousy on other women hysterically that's why other women give you the answer you are looking for...
Nope, I’ve been ugly and pretty and women are just childish.
Someone at the gym started something with me for literally no reason. She looked like my daughter. It made me sad.
Sorry but you’re not pretty enough to have women being jealous, sorry but it’s true
I hate to break it to youre not that beautiful LMAO probably a 6.5/10.
maybe people don’t wanna be around someone who is conceded
I’m the type of person that’s gets inspired not jealous. Thank you Anna I like your content!
I feel the same. I don’t get jealous.
this!!!
Every mentally healthy person gets jealous at some point. How you handle and deal with your jealousy is what makes you better than jealousy.
Me to. I admire and get inspired.
I feel self absorbed people are more ego driven and they want to be the central of attention. And they want to be admired. That is why older women are jealous than younger women. People who are egotistical like to be in the superior position. And they hate that people are better than them. They love to power trip people. Either by being high and mighty. Or by being holier than thou and preaching to people about kindness. They love pretending they are perfect but lack respect.
My only competition is who I was yesterday.
Yes! 👏
Jealousy is a real problem when someone tries to sabotage you at work or socially. Sometimes you need to shut people down but most of the time i ignore them and the truth comes out about their lies
Jealousy is low class and not very classy.its a form of low-level mental illness, and personally, I feel sad for unhappy people. They are at war with themselves and could benefit from therapy.
I agree. I don’t know why some try to normalise it.
100%
Beautifully put ! be happy with yourself , work towards a cause to benefit others and feel good from within is the way to be Happiness comes from gratitude & giving back . Avoid the jealous resentful ones , a negative energy .
you nailed it guurrll.
Yes, but that's harmful to other they try to destroy happy people because they can't see them happy.
"Thou shalt not covet."
Jealously is a terrible sin!
Yes, bc we dismiss our Abundant Lord.
I was just about to write that
“Jealousy can be as cruel as the grave “
I have dealt with jealous women my whole life. It is very complicated and difficult to deal with.these women create so much damage in other people's lives, whether they act knowingly or not
“This is my life, and 98% of the women around me. I didn’t do anything to deserve the hate, jealousy, and competitiveness I get from them. It’s always the same with all the women I meet. I’m someone who’s very content with my life and with what I have, and I have zero jealousy towards people because I believe they work hard to get there. I just block them and move away from them because I can’t trust people with this attitude.”
You were shining to bright! And you didn’t know it 😌
Everybody needs a friend, but the time people spend with a bad friend could be invested in a better friend who would actually help them if they ever needed it.
@@bumblebee4280 not really and I don’t think good female still exists.
I agree , this is also the story of my life . Everytime the same scheme. I am still single and I even have the jaleousy of tall the married women with kids. I do not even envy them but there is something in me that make them feel jaleous.
I’m the youngest in my whole family two brothers and two sisters are insanely jealous because I was very close to my parents and they weren’t. It’s something that I tried to understand as a young child. My mother told me that jealousy is just a sickness ,she tried to tell me just to be myself and ignore it. It’s very hard to ignore, but I just went on with my life. I still deal with it today.
I’ve started surrounding myself with women who are only positive about themselves because they don’t need to criticise me to feel good about themselves❤ I love seeing women who look fantastic because I take inspiration from what they are wearing or how they did their makeup or hair etc 🙏
You will never find haters who are doing better than you 😉
Btw I love that the timing of the video is 11:11 and there are right now 11 comments 🥰🤩
"you will never find haters who are doing better than you" o.O this. thank you.
ps. I also noticed the time 11:11 and smiled to myself :)
@@AsNatureIntended13 🌻
So true. If I pass by those who have it together, they mind their own business and don’t get rude to me.
Not true greedy people are the difference
I had an art classmate who finished my joy in the class - she saw the teacher really liked me & my work, so she acts sweet but would interrupt every time i spoke to the teacher (& doesn't to anyone else). Also, pushes me off the benches by setting her stuff up near mine, takes my equipment...& finally when she realised i stay last & have nice teacher time, she brought in work to show the teacher at class end. They also talked about me in a different language & she got the teacher to speak in that for her one on one advice, so i couldn't listen in & learn too.
I was always the one who looked bad, since I would raise my voice when: she pushed me off, interrupted, & took my stuff- so it always looked like i was the one being unpleasant instead of her!
Luckily, because I've had so many problems with people being jealous, this time I saw it right from the start, so i didn't waste much emotional energy on feeling hurt, sad and angry.
And luckily i reached a point of wanting to pursue other goals and could just leave permanently.
You could escalate physically
Jealousy = immaturity
Jealousy also equals insecurity.
@@laurawhitaker1797 also equals not being grateful for what you have, lack of ambition and lack of self worth.
@@jhalak831💯
I needed this I need to detached from a friend who is always looking for topics to disagree about and making subtle comments actually mocking me …
that's not a real friend.
Feeling jealousy for another woman can be turned into a positive. I have asked myself why am I jealous of this woman? What is it that I am jealous of? The next question is, what can I do to level up and achieve the thing I am jealous about. Do I need to take more time and effort when planning outfits? Do I need to read a book so I can understand what she was talking about so that I can join in next time? And so on. It’s an emotion that if used properly can make you level up and become your better self.
I know a singaporean lady who is very kind and invites me to networking events. She has impeccable taste. I'm jealous of outfits- they aren't my style but she always looks so polished. I'm doing the work to upgrade my wardrobe and put together better looks on a budget. I think to myself.. how would she style it? how can I style it on myself ? I use jealousy as fuel to improve myself instead of being wistfully and self defeating jealous .
Good for you! Best wishes on your leveling up journey!
You're on the right path and that's emotionally mature but also, it's not an external issue. It's an internal issue. The insecurity doesn't just disappear because you made someone change on the outside. It's being comfortable in your own skin, realizing that everyone brings something different to the table and no one is above the other.
Yeah, but you know, they're still going to think you're a creep. It's like a s- pre- using his inclinations to be motivated. Do you want that guy h--ping your leg, saying, "thanks for the inspiration!" That's your vibe. We just don't want you period. Like don't talk to your victims: leave them alone.
Nah you need therapy instead trying to be like someone else you need to figure out what in you makes you jealous of another woman. You doing what see does is obsession. Be your own woman.
I seriously don’t get the pathology of women who are jealous of another woman
It’s called Tall Poppy syndrome. It was discussed recently when UK journalist Louise Perry interviewed top Canadian female sports coach. Many experiments were carried out where a group of girls and women were exposed to a beautiful and successful athlete that entered the room dressed in a provocative outfit. Gossiping, tearing down talk, side glances and even bursting with laughter were all captured on film by the researchers.
I've been experiencing this all my life and I don't even have to wear a provocative outfit.
This experiment is ridiculous. Of course people aren’t going to like when someone is dressed provocatively, they are looking for a safe friend to share a life with, which includes access to there significant other. I absolutely refuse to allow an immodest woman around my daughters or husband. It’s a basic protective instinct.
@@SoFetch0 there are no immodest outfits, they're jealous of a natural hourglass figure. I can't help the body I've had since I was TWELVE.
@@seabreeze4559 I have the same body type plus 550 cc breast implants. Before Jesus saved me I was really into plastic surgery. I dress modestly. I don’t wear skin tight clothing, I don’t wear super short dresses or crazy small slivers of clothing. Try that argument with someone else.
@@SoFetch0 What argument? Also Jesus saves your soul as a possibility, you are not guaranteed to be saved. That's pride. He says many will claim to know him and he will say He never knew them. So check your conceit and as someone with a naturally superior figure, I had no say-so in being objectified at the age of 12 by creeps. It didn't matter what I was wearing. I tried everything. Nothing worked. So gaslight someone else.
I think the jealousy out there, along with insecurities, has escalated to making navigating the social world like an all out daily war. If some women have talent, beauty, feminine gentleness, feminine kindness, critical thinking abilities, anything people see as "high quality." Instead of enjoying this in a person they make reputation sabotaging comments. This is why women dim their light and hide their benefits. Men really must search to find these hidden gems.
"The best thing you can do is to let go, practicing letting go is a very difficult art but it's going to help you in the long run."
Absolutely, I realized this last week alone. It's NOT my battle to fight, I just keep living my life and not own this Negative energy they try to put on me. Just keep loving. Love repels evil.
We’ve strayed farther and farther from being the communal creatures that we are & have adapted very masculine tendencies-competitiveness is one of them.
Absolutely, the me me me culture and greed
@@rosyapplekitchen635 Absolutely 💯
Just from the title I'm liking this video. You are doing the Lord's work.
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As much as I love social media, it is playing a big role in mental health issues IMHO. Many lies and liars around making people feel insecure and less privileged, to say the least. Everyone is “rich and pretty”. Perhaps if we try to be honest when we put ourselves out there, we would be able to help to make a better world. Great video Anna. Sending love.
People wonder why some females’ friends are nearly entirely male, forgetting that no matter how nice a girl is, others often are malevolent toward her and cannot be trusted. Not everyone has the luck/circumstances to be near ethical peaceful females. Some women have even stalked other women and started defamation campaigns against them. Trust is something that should be earned and not easily given. Better safe than sorry.
💯 👏 Thank you for posting this. So very true!!
Anna, fantastic. This topic must be analyzed more. It ruins lives everyday. Im glad to work from home these days and be away from certain jealous ladies. Its sad we cannot support each other 100%.
I had a horrible issue about a year and a half ago when someone (family) got struck by jealousy towards me. I was once the solution person and then I ended up being the problem. I’ve learned a lot from that and I’m so much stronger in mind, and so much happier one year later. Thank you for this video.
I don’t have jealousy problems because I’m secure, healthy and happy. I have my 👑 and everything I need.
I had lots of girls and even teachers in school who were jealous but I never allowed that to pull me down.
My feminine and calm mature manner was what got me through just being myself. Also my long hair since I've always had long luscious hair, my hair gets tons of compliments when I'm out. It's rare to find someone especially where I live to have the length of hair that I have.
I don't know why but they're specially jealous about long, voluminous and precious hair
@aylaa5842
It's rare escape where I live that anyone has the length of hair that I have. I can't go anywhere without getting stopped by someone about how long it is lol
Turn the focus on yourself instead of being jealous❤
My mantra is other's people insecurity isn't my problem. I usually just smile, nod, and leave the situation 😊
I enjoyed this very much and sometimes women are their worst enemy in the work force.
Ive been watching you since 2022 & stopped in 2023. I am back watching you again in 2024.
I want to say that you have truly level up in term of contents cause at some point they were very repetitive. I am truly amazed by your perseverance & dedication. Good luck
Exactly my story.
I believe jealousy and envy are slightly different in that as a married woman, if another woman flirts with my husband, it is natural for me to have a certain feeling about that situation “ I would feel jealous.” On the other hand if I for example love handbags and I am a collector and maybe Anna has a nice rare handbag that I would love to get and I can’t obtain that bag, and I begin to have some negative emotions because I want something that belongs to someone else, then that is Envy and it’s quite dangerous.”
This! There is a proper jealousy. Best believe if someone is shamelessly flirting with my man I’m not telling myself to get over it 😂
Exactly, I see in English the word jaelousy is much used with the meaning of "envy". Envy is always a mean feeling. Jaelousy can also be the innocent attempt to protect one's beloved from being "stolen" by someone else...
Jealousy is one of the lowest vibration emotions that people commonly experience.
To me the best way to cope with jealousy is to transform it into joy & motivation
An unbalanced Solar plexus chakra leads to jealousy & possessiveness
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I think jealousy is the reason behind everything negative in a relationship…if you’re in the shits with someone, it’s core will be jealousy….if someone is mean to you-jealousy…if someone won’t talk to you-jealousy…someone spreads rumours-jealousy…..
Anna I love the fact that you are talking about things women need to deal with, it just shows you are not a snowflake, a woman without depth, instead you are woman that is beautiful with brains, a deep thinker. Thank you for delving into deeper topics.
I understand that there will always be jealousy unfortunately as I’ve lived it frequently; but what I fail to understand is all of the advise says “focus on yourself” and/or “limit contact,” well that’s what I do and have always done…. But when these jealous women engage in what Anna mentions earlier: “smear campaign”, “sabotage”, etc and you are obviously being negatively affected despite best efforts (and maybe also forced to be around these people..) WHAT ARE YOU TO DO THEN?!!
Men do that too nowadays!
YES-AND MEN TEND TO BE MORE INTENSE,WHEN JEALOUS
And towards women!!!
Estrogens in the food
@@nzingahoney are you dumb ? jealousy is not due to hormones . its due to immaturity insecurity and evilness of oneself . men have always had that jealousy thing . brothers kill each other for the sake of property and money . they start wars due to jealousy envy and hate for other's kingdom . jealousy has always existed since the beginning of humans . its not a woman trait . its a human trait
They always did.
No one is jealous of me... but I've definitely learned to get rid of it in my own life and I am glad for that.
This is the best color I have seen on you. You look so beautiful and it makes your features stand out. You're probably a light summer
Thank you Anna for talking about this topic! I ve been struggling with jealousy my whole life and affected by the negative comments of other people who wanted to bring me down. As you said, the key is accepting that this kind of people will always be around and focus our energy and time on something that matters m!
I love this, you’re describing stoicism. I’ve been researching this for a while now and wow, it’s helped me with a jealous friend. Great advice, thank you!
Greed and Envy go hand in hand and perfection doesnt exist.
Anna, Im very curious to know how to go grocery shopping as an elegant woman. Some do’s and dont’s would be helpful, such as some other insights on this daily moments! Love your content Anna, always very on point 🫶🏼
1.Don't block the isle, be aware of your surroundings wait for people to go past , say excuse me if you need to squeeze by in a narrow aisle,
2.Only grab what you want. some people are weird about buying things people have already just touched.
3 Be polite to the cashier, if you bring your own bags for groceries give them to the cashier bagger first so that its not a big deal for them to pull things out already bagged and firmly and gently say "please use these instead "
4.Dress nice casual in comfortable but classy shoes - do yourself up with a slicked back ponytail and natural looking makeup if your feeling a bit lazy and don't want to do full face. think "clean girl aesthetic" You never know if you could find a potential: client/ new job / spouse/ friend or run into an ex while shopping !
I will never forget how mortified I was when I saw a lady I met at my work I was hoping to catch as client shopping the same big buy store as me while looking for deals on dvds but I was dressed in my weekend grungy gardening clothes and she looked put together ! I didn't expect to see her there and it's a completely different style of neighborhood in which I work. I felt embarrassed and dowdy. You don't have to be dressed to the 9's just neat and and have your clothes in good repair , not faded and not pilly. Take it from me , nothing ruins your credibility more than looking worn out and shabby on your day off ! Best wishes in your level up endeavors 🥰
@@ah5721 I feel very honored by your helpful suggestions! I will definitely have them in consideration the next time I do grocery shopping. Wonderful your gentleness. Thank you so much! 💛
This makeup looks so beautiful
I do think that there is a difference between jealousy and envy
Jealousy is an emotion ( animal, human) and envy is a king of obsession where the envious person puts down or spread lies to feel better about themself .
This is why I mind my own business
This is why I stay away from women, especially groups of them.
I think a healthy dose of jealously is good. I grow up low middle class and I was jealous of the high-class girls in my private high-school. I tried to study them and I still do on their instagrams. What they wore, the way they moved in society, the network that they had. I decided to get inspired and not mad and that helped me a lot in life.
Sameee omg i used to be so jealous of this one instagram model’s body and seductive charm in her videos but instead of hating her I also studied her and started hitting the gym and now 7 years later I have also bodyodyody and those video skills and now girls are jealous of ME 💀💀🤣 I dont use tiktok and I remember for ex one night a girl i know asked me to do a tiktok w her and I outshined her a lot in that video. Her chin was dropping and she didnt even post it bc of that in the end 💀💀 She thought bc i dont use tiktok idk how to make those videos but nah gurl ive been practicing since before tiktok was even a thing 🤪🤪 no shade to her though at all, I was just super proud of myself in that moment bc I spent so much time on this 💀 and I realize now how much effort the influencer girl mustve put aswell.
This message is right on time. Thank you!❤
Jealousy hurts people. It causes people to be hurtful, emotionally and/or physically. It’s so critical to. let it go and implement a positive coping skill, such as working towards the goal you want, exercising to get endorphins up etc. ❤wishing others well beings blessing to you and everyone around you.
Oh, Snap!! I needed this video because my husband's step-sister seems jealous of me because she's 3xs bigger than me. Sucks because we are family at the end of the day
Thank you for speaking on this topic! I have been reflecting on this lately on how women can be jealous of me for no reason and wen I tell pple dat it seems like I'm crazy
We cannot control the narrative or lower their envy by shrinking. Waste of time. Physical detachment from such energy works wonders, thank you!🙏🥰👍💯
I feel like the most difficult thing for me is to figure out how to react to people being jealous of me because sometimes they make weird comments and I know that their intention is to bring me down slightly (and it's very subtle but very predictable because I see the pattern repeat itself over and over again with these people) and I know they do it to make themselves feel better and not inadequate in that moment but it affects me unfortunately.
Thanks for talking about this uncomfortable topic. I have been jealous due to my own insecurities and feelings of inadequacy. But, even though I used to feel like the underdog, lots of women have been extremely jealous of me. It is not a matter of self perception: Even when self perception is not adequate other people can envy certain things about you. I started been aware of external jealousy back in College. Some people even tried to harm me with character assassination and more extreme behaviors. To be in that situation is terrible, where you can't trust no one. As my self confidence grew, as I found my true self, my fear of them lessened to the level of not caring about their shortcomings. It took me years to build a strong personality, but now as an adult I live my life with a true sense of personal validation and appreciation.
I wear the pendant 🧿 on myself at all times for protection! It’s very difficult to not take it personally when it’s a family member. Divine love return to bad energy to those sending hate. 🙏
I love seeing women who are beautiful, smart, hardworking, creative or kind and joyful. I don't even them- I feel like I've found my tribe:) Like, hey, it's one of my own! I love it:)
I receive hate in my workplace all the time, and my so called friends are starting to ignore me now too. I always feel agitated and angry because I dont know what made them that way. I wish they would tell me instead. But now, I wanna handle it with class and I wanna learn to start ignoring them too. I dont need negativities in life. I dont need "friends" if they are backstabbers and childish. Id rather be alone than be with fake, miserable people
Yes girl! We are all uniques, there’s no one like you! Don’t compare!
Your video length was 11:11 it is a Guardian Angel number.
There are very few people I listen to, however, I have to say, I really value your togetherness. Jealousy towards me has been ridiculous. I suffered with shyness and low esteem when I was younger. So at the time, I did not understand why. This was a result from my abusive father which had a direct impact on my identity, as a woman. What was interesting was how some of the men I dated, some of whom were very powerful, use to delight in triggering this emotion in me. As you say, jealousy can be a natural form of defence. Looking back, I do feel however this form of manipulation was a sign of their own insecurity, from what I gleaned from their own childhood. Journaling for me has certainly helped, also removing people who manipulate is vital. Once we take control of our own stuff and understand why, its easier to separate what is theirs and what is ours. I love the positive affirmations such as the ones you suggested. I hope you don't mind me sharing this with you.
Thank you.
People here are saying..."for no reason." Well, there is obviously a reason. People don't act a certain way for no reason. Look more deeply.
Anna, your makeup looks so beautiful in all your latest videos! Could you do an updated makeup routine?
Profound topic. Well articulated. Great content ❤
That's what I have to. Deal with for months,we were in many places,so I had witnesses too
I really appreciate the practical advices on self growth that you are giving in this new channel. I think it's very useful and needed to know how to overcome those emotional or mental behaviours that keeps us back from moving forward in our inner growth. And the practical examples you made were very relatable. Thank you for sharing your tools
When you are healed and in the abundance vibrancy then jealously don't impact you.
I realized that jealous people tend to be the ones that are the most superficial, if she's jealous of your beauty it's because the only thing that she values in herself or in general is beauty, but people can be jealous of your career if the only thing they value in themself or general is career, etc. So let it go! On everything, you're just a human, you exist for yourself and nothing else, let it go! You are trying too hard, the moment you let it go, you will see the results, and everything will come to you. Stop trying to control, this ruins everything in your life and prevents you from being happy.
The lack of identity is the root cause of jealousy. The ability to appreciate other human beings' achievements and beauty is powerful. Ladies, this is the secret of a powerful woman.
Points for the onscreen caption for people who need accessibility assistance Anna.
If that's a feature in the editing software you use, or a new feature in your preferred editing software and you know you had it enabled huge points for the in video caption.
If you didn't know you had that feature enabled and, you didn't know about the feature in the first place, you unknowingly did a phenomenal job with this particular video.
Sadia Khan brushed on this. Certain female " friends" sometimes really aren't. Be your authentic self, be aware, and know when to let these " friends" distance thenselves and let them go.
I have a friend/co-worker who is jealous of me because I am working part time somewhere else so I can eventually leave the job I work at with her. I was surprised that she wasn't at all happy for me and instead started giving me the cold shoulder and making under the breath comments. Some friend. Love the advice Anna, you are an inspiration and so wise!❤
I am jealous and envious, but I believe I have worked up to control these feelings and thoughts. Self-care and focusing on "me" are some answers that helped me. And following Anna's teaching definitely contributed to this improvement ❤️
Anna, you are quite right that we cannot control how others react towards us. It took me a very long time to understand that jealousy could be at the root of other people’s animosity towards me. Initially I thought, “Oh, they must not really know me; they wouldn’t treat me so poorly if they knew how benevolent a person I am and how I want the best for them.” So I would try to make more of an effort to put my best foot forward ~ then was flummoxed when I was treated just as badly ~ or worse.
What I didn’t realize was that some people will resent you regardless …because it’s their own internal demons that drive their emotions. When one reacts negatively to those jealous of you, they feel validated in their dislike and belief that you don’t deserve whatever blessing you’re enjoying.
For those who struggle with jealousy: Please remember that even the most beautiful women have physical insecurities. Those with material wealth have their own life struggles, and those in happy relationships still experience worry and stress. Once you understand this, it may make it easier to quell those unpleasant emotions.
Sadly, those who are most prone to malicious jealousy are the least likely to engage in introspection and pursue emotional growth. The more mature one becomes, the easier it is to assess the emotions one manifests and develop healthy, productive coping strategies. As others have commented: It’s not as though those with minimal jealous tendencies are oblivious to others, but rather we’re able to recognize things that we admire in others - and use that recognition to motivate us. 🙂
Very important message -- thank you for this vid!
A jealous person has to want to become a better person. I know people (women) who have seen multiple therapists over many years and they still give into destructive jealous feelings.
The best we can do is keep our distance from someone who shows this behavior.
We are raised and socialized to embrace a scarcity mentality and to compete, especially for male attention. This is something we must unlearn. FAST!
So true. It's very funny.. Nd sad .. Because of this jealousy you can't even become honest...
Thank you. Well said. I wish I was as wise as you are when I was as young as you are xx
Thanks for this video Anna. This is a great conversation to have. I didn’t realize how common this was for so many people.
I have found that we’re mirrors. So if we are jealous individuals, we attract that in turn. If you say, oh I’m not jealous, well if you’re in a state of lack, low self esteem, lack of self love you attract that same negativity. Change your energy, your mindset, to love. To seeing beauty in any and everything, to not being judgmental or being prideful and you attract that in turn. You attract love. You attract loving individuals who are genuinely sincere. But you must love yourself first. Treating you with pure love. Positive affirmations definitely help with this.
I never understood this until I became more aware. It takes an insane amount of healing to understand why we do the things that we do. And yet I don't puty or envy jealous women because I understand that they're wounded souls. Projection is real when you understand it from that perspective
I loved that video and I really needed that type of guidance, I usually try to ignore them but it’s very important to avoid those people they really drain your soul
Incredibly insightful, one of your best videos of all time.
Some women are terrible and can be very toxic. The things that bothers me is that women trick each other into being more and more insecure and some run to plastic surgery when not needed.
There are jealous women who start measuring you, pick and stare at one point on you, then they start grinning, raise their eyebrows or whisper something to each other to make you feel bad about yourself because they are jealous about your overall appearance. You start wondering what is wrong and become self-conscious, they intend to ruin your own picture about you and make your day worse.
Next, there's the toxic friend who suggests you buy a top, saying, 'It would look fantastic on you; it diverts attention away from your smaller chest'.
Then there are these insecure women who know are desperately trying to get your man's attention. For example, women on the beach often put their towel in front of me and my partner, and instead of crouching, they start kneeling on all 4 or bending over, spreading their legs, pointing their behind towards us, pretending to adjust the towel. How can one not be upset? Ugh!
Wise words, it would be nice to discuss how to handle with envious women as well
I’m never jealous of genuinely beautiful successful women. But I am very uncomfortable around arrogant women who flaunt themselves in my face deliberately. It’s disturbing. Confident women don’t tend to project.
Yes Women are very jealous of me and hate me for not reason too and cousins too hate me for no reason mostly its competing comparison and plain insane jealousy thanks Anna for speaking on this topic very educational and my cousins hate me its beyond jealousy its plain hate.
If everyone would just mind their own business and live and let live, life would be much easier.
One good thing I’ve found about getting much older is that when I wear something daring, instead of getting slut shamed, women more often compliment my outfit, or some article of clothing or say straight out that I’m beautiful and I often have been told that I look like a Barbie (yeah, if she was middle aged 🙂)
Sometimes it’s older women, sometimes younger, sometimes teens and sometimes younger girls. I guess I get to finally enjoy shining later in life, and it’s so refreshing to get positive vibes around instead of all the bitchy negativity I used to get.
I’m not doing anything differently than my younger self, still dressing as expressively as I can without trying too hard, the only thing that’s different is my age.
Just sharing this to give some hope that it is possible for it to ease up as we get older. Yes, there are elderly jealous women, but more likely, they confess to it…say for example, because I have a much better figure (I should if I’m decades younger than them, so they’re trying to compare apples to oranges)
Others who aren’t elderly but don’t have good figures need to try to realize that my better figure has nothing to do with them, nor is it my fault if they don’t look good. Don’t hate me because I’m beautiful. I put a lot of work into looking my best…especially after middle age, the metabolism slows down and I have to try harder to get and stay in shape, so others aren’t entitled to something I have because I earned it.
If they want to get a better figure, they will also have to work for it, because we don’t all have model genes and natural beauty.
Your words are powerful Anna, ❤I try to focus on my leveling journey too. Stay away from these bullying people online.
My coworker is jealous of me. I started to be jealous of her too because I fear she might steal my work and resources and take credit of it since I also teach her, she is also my subordinate. She started exhibiting mood swings and when I do not show all of my knowledge to her or help (since i also have tons of work to do and I state my boundaries), she gets cocky and talks behind my back. Which is why I started distancing from her.
I like the way you speak,the way you explain things that are just awesome and lovely.Along the way,as a language learner I learn new, juicy words in your every video.Thank you Ann
You are one of the most my beloved you tuber.I adore you ❤❤❤❤
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A balanced female society is what we as women should want as nurturing beings..
jealous women tried to screwed up my life ... they are a real threat.
I think the key is to not compare, no other, with your own. Never gallop with others, do the gallop for yourself. Comparing to others, is just waste of time. Why? Because, there is allways going to be some one better than me, or you. The "best" person in the world, is me, or the me in you. You´ve already won this life. Do something beutiful, ut of it. 🥰🥰🥰
I have been the target of jealousy and it is quite painful. I didn't know how to deal with it.
10:59 outstanding psychological advice and so useful to start with yourself to effect change in how others appear
You look absolutely beautiful in that shade of pink!
Something I've experienced is being in a restaurant in the lobby waiting to be seated on a rainy day and having a very beautiful woman walk in and have the men staff push me to the side so they can run to the door with an umbrella so she doesn't get wet and to open the door for her. So, it's more of being upset at the behavior of men as a beautiful woman comes in the scene where all non-beautiful women become an obstacle or an annoyance and invisible while the beautiful one is there getting doors opened and and all the smiles.
I know what you mean. My mother was quite beautiful in her prime, and at 81, still is. But it saddens me when we're out to dinner and the male waiters treat her differently than me. Nobody wants to feel invisible just because they're elderly or plain.
@@Mmmmkaaay Men are wired to seek beauty and act weird when they see it. As women, we know this is hard-wired and hard to change and I think it explains women's reactions to have a beautiful woman around. I guess it's all about awareness and accepting of biology without letting jealousy become toxic.