What Abby was trying to explain is that a woman can only have 1 baby in a year where as a man could get 100 women pregnant in 1 year. Just an example 🤷♀️
Yes, exactly, so if you want to prevent pregnancy, it would make sense to sterilize or limit the males bc they're the most fertile. It's just that women bear the "burden" of pregnancy, so the responsibility seems to fall on them for b.c. Male birth control has been in the works it's just never been put on the market and encouraged, I think. Never gets past the study phase of "men having a headache," or that's what I've heard😅 could be bias. B.c. should def be free. It's sad. Even my miscarriage without insurance would've cost $7000. To tell me I'm losing a baby. Fortunately, I did have coverage and only paid $500.
Yea health insurance and medical expenses in America makes me want to live outside of the country. I’m overseas right now and it costs like NOTHING to see a highly rated specialist. The price differences and quality of services are crazyyyyyy
I also think there needs to be more education on birth control. Yes it does prevent pregnancy but it also helps with acne, others like me who’s periods are heavy and debilitating, endometriosis, PCOS, cancer prevention, and even help with migraines. So yes, it should be free!!!
My dad got a vasectomy after my sister and I were born. Then my parents got a divorce and my dad remarried so he got it reversed. I’m not sure if he got it again after the two kids he had with my step mom 😅
“The talk” isn’t just one conversation. It’s a series of age appropriate conversations over the entire life of your child. Sexual health and relationships is a huge topic to cover in one chat. Can you imagine if you taught kids about anything else in just one conversation?
At what age do we start talking? Because I have a 5 year old and he thinks babies come from belly buttons lol. I don't feel comfortable correcting him.
They are doing such a amazing job not only the fact of doing it for the podcast but also them just being able to sit down and talk about what they have been doing in life and how there future is going to look like and the fun family things that they can do together they are honestly so good at what they do in life so huge shout out to both of them.
Every time I hear a wife say that their love language is acts of service I can’t help but imagine that it’s because she does the majority of the housework and the husband doesn’t realize this.
@@dibsdibs3495you just made my day. I’m in the hospital with a severe migraine attack (I get stroke-like symptoms that are VERY scary! Including “word salad” speech, loss of vision, confusion and at times even paralysis on one side! SCARY!). I saw this comment and wanted to reply… then I saw YOUR comment. I’m still giggling 🤭 ❤ 😂
I’m 40 years old & I STILL hide my panties 😂 I’ve dealt with endometriosis and PCOS since I was 13. Up until 4 years ago when I found out I had cervical, ovarian AND uterine cancer and had to have a radical hysterectomy. My point of the trauma dump is it doesn’t matter how close you and your dr are, how many times you’ve undressed in front of said dr, females will ALWAYS hide the panties 😂 I do the same when I get a bikini wax… I don’t know why, but I ALWAYS. HIDE. THE UNDIES! 😂 Loved this episode! ❤
I see what Matt was saying about the birth control for men. I think he was trying to say that men are constantly fertile and women aren’t. I see what he is saying, but Abby was saying that women’s bodies are constantly changing hormones for the process of being fertile which makes it difficult to control versus men’s hormones being more stable. Definitely hard to say who would be more easier to control but I love how Matt is so open to taking on male birth control responsibility! There needs to be more partners like Matt that think the responsibility should fall equally on both partners. Love your episodes!
Its actually easier to control mens hormones, but till recently there wasnt a incentive to reserch a male birth control, because doctors think its a womans problem. We tecnically would be able to already have a pill because the tech is already here, but the amount of side effects is too high (it nor even half of the ammount of side effects of the womans) for men to actually buy and use. I believe in the next 3 years we will have some other options (even some vacines are being tested)
There was a 2016 article in NPR about a men’s birth control trial that was conducted by the WHO- apparently the the trials initial results were at 96% success rate but they ended the trial in stage II because “there were too many side effects” for participants and many dropped out. The side effects were the same as women’s birth control - depression, weight gain, acne, mood swings, etc. There are a few new trials going based on a quick google search though
With sperm count going down now and more I'm not sure if it's a good idea. I know it's not right for the burden to be on women only, but it's definitely harder for many couples to get pregnant nowadays so I'm not sure what the best idea is
OH MY GOSH THAT WOULD BE AMAZING LIKE HIM EXPLAING THE BEHIND THE SCENES OF SOME OF HIS VIDEOS AND HOW HE GETS HIS VIDEO IDEAS AND WHAT HE DOES ON AND DAILY BASES AND WHAT SHE DOES ALSO THAT WOULD BE SUCH A GREAT VIDEO AND IT WOULD GET SO MANY VIEWS ALSO GREAT IDEA.
Unfortunately, there any many women becoming clinically depressed because when your body stops producing progesterone through the use of IUD’s, you become hormonally imbalanced. I know this firsthand. Pharma owns this country and pays doctors to push their agendas. Western medicine doctors treat patients, but don’t know how to heal them. Women my age (peri-menopausal), are learning these things right in the thick of it, when our bodies are going thru enormous changes, causing psychological issues. I hope the next generations learn this before it becomes incredibly hard to treat.❤
I only just even learnt the word perimenopausal as a 33 year old who has been on 10+ types of bc since 15 and often skipped breakthrough bleeding on depo or skipping sugar pills. But now I haven't had a period in 2+years at first I was happy having endo it was a nice break but now it has become worrisome. Really good point about how the lack of me producing that hormone could be contributing to my mental health issues and depression.
Anesthesia should definitely be an option and be offered! People have different pain tolerance levels. Some people barely feel it, and some pass out because it's so severe!
Anesthesia is not as safe as you think it is! It is unnecessary for that procedure! People can handle pain for a little bit of time! Did you know there is a risk of death every time someone goes under anesthesia???????
@@Spooky_G647 anesthesia comes with a risk of death, that is why they won't do it in America! It is not necessary for that procedure! Even if it is very painful, it doesn't last long, and we as a society for some reason feel we should never feel pain, and that is just not realistic.. this is life.. it comes with pain!
@@Spooky_G647 You said it's hard to get in the US, and I was addressing that! I can address part or all of your comment if I choose, but now I will address the rest of your comment! It makes no difference whether you have had Csection or vaginal birth when it comes to the pain.. it depends on how sensitive the womans cervix is! Even with having a csection, you can still have immense pain if your cervix is very sensitive! People are informed.. most of them DONT LISTEN! For example, people are told before surgery there is a chance of death with anesthesia, but I could ask numerous people who have had surgery if they know that, and they would say no! People sign paperwork without even reading it! If people want to know, THEY CAN ASK QUESTIONS! It's not up to the doctor to fully educate you! People need to research and educate themselves!
@@truthtalker4038 that’s true for general anesthesia but not local, which is what would be used in this case. Lidocaine would be injected into the cervix, which is the same thing that is used in dental procedures
I understand your point. I guess each to their own. My exprience without condoms where that all it was somehow much easier and less irritation for me. Btw i am a woman
As a women I prefer no Condoms so it's not like it's just men who aren't a fan And if you're in a committed relationship it makes even more sense, where if I was hooking up, idgaf I don't have that same level of communication and trust and then yeah, it's more likely that a man with not (much) to lose would be more willing to go without one
@@BreMue you may prefer no condoms but when you are too pospartum to take hormones and your baby is top little and you had a hernia surgery not long ago enough to have another baby it is better to use a condom than taking the risk, also, when they talked about it it was clear that it was Matt who didn't like it but sometimes you gotta take inconveniences for the sake of your wife's healing
Birth control should be “free”?! Nothing is free, Matt; you should know that being a finance major. Why should someone else pay for others reproductive choices? Should the people covering the birth control choose when and with whom the recipient of the birth control have sex with? Of course not! If people want to do the activity that makes babies, they should take the responsibility for the potential life that may be created. If there is an extenuating circumstance where pregnancy was attempted to be blocked or if there was an non-consensual encounter, then we can look at charitable help to support the child’s needs, like Crisis Pregnancy Life Centers.
Remember there is an IUD that is non hormonal, it's a GREAT option, it's the paragard and I've used it every time after my pregnancies! Never had any issues :)
Good for those who had kids before. I know Abby has had kids but I got paragard before I had kids (still don’t have kids) and it was so painful (it’s larger than hormonal and not recommended unless you have kids which of course they didn’t mention that to me) and it perforated my uterus. I almost ended up having to get a follopian tube out. Thankfully not because I do want kids and that would decrease my chances of getting pregnant.
Sometimes i think Matt just spurts out what he thinks people want to hear and not an actual opinion of his own. Then Abby will correct him. It’s not hard to do a quick google search and actually educate yourself on the female anatomy.
Can’t believe she is going to go horseback riding. It must be exhausting to live with an ADHD husband. She has two babies, is breastfeeding, and just had an IUD inserted. What on earth was he thinking when he planned that??
Your body is cramping after bcuz it's trying to reject a foreign object that doesn't belong. I got it once and my body literally pushed it out and I had to get it removed.
sorry to burst your bubbles guys but the reason men weren’t originally set up with birth control and women were is because of patriarchy, not necessarily anatomy though that might be a small part of it. men birth control was actually created but it had too many side effects so the burden was put on women.
I’m glad Abby had a good experience. Unfortunately my experience with the iud was extremely painful, I would get random stabbing pains in my uterus and bled for 2 months straight. after that I got it removed. Crazy how iud is the most polarizing experience ever
Some people have cystic pain for months. My first child was an IUD baby. Let me tell you, that was a shock. When the doctor tells you to use alternative protection until the IUD is checked, do it. Love my daughter!
My jaw hit the floor at the price of the IUD! Free for anyone under 21 in aus, or any age with a low income card and then $50 USD out of pocket for anyone else in Australia. Totally agree with Matt, should be free for everyone at anytime 😢❤ love you both so much and the pod❤
Yep totally agree. Any basic health care in the US is just unjustified price wise. Our healthcare system is set up where they don't necessarily want us getting sick, whereas the US their system is profit off of it
NOTHING is free! It is paid for by tax dollars!!! We are already way overtaxxed!!! Americans get money taken out of their checks and their money is sent to support other countries!!! NO ONE is sending AMERICANS money, but we help support everyone else!
@@teeandkids937WHAAAAT???? Are u serious? Do you have to pay for any form of contraception then?? Wow I'm I'm the UK everything is free .just hit home just how lucky I am.thats terrible 😢
I paid roughly 400€ here in Germany (we have health insurance). 200 for the IUD, 200 for the doctor to put it in place. I think in France (where I'm from) the health insurance takes care of it.
Abby thank you for saying you had light bleeding for a month after your IUD because I got mine 2 weeks ago and I’ve been stressed even though they said it’s normal.
I bled for 10 months with mine but my best friend bled for 3 weeks and never had another period while she had it. Her and I even had the same type put in. I eventually had to get mine taken out because it started to implant into my uterus and I got pregnant with my second baby. Mine was NOT the normal experience and I feel like my best friend's experience was closer to normal. I hope you feel better, honey 🫶
Highly recommend reading "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" and researching hormonal birth control more. I've used this method for a while and its helped us conceive 5 beautiful kiddos and also prevent pregnancy. I also like how it also involves my husband in the process bc we need to chat about where I'm at in my cycle! Just some thoughts. Blessings to you guys!
Highly recommend the book “E*aculate Responsibly” by Gabrielle Blair if you guys are readers. She touches on some of the things you were discussing re: birth control and male fertility, etc. in a really approachable and thought-provoking way.
Regarding Natural Family Planning, I would encourage anyone wanting to use it to look into learning a legitimate method with an instructor! And not just rely on an app. Those are useful though, and if you’re not super concerned, go for it. If used perfectly with an actual method, effectiveness rates for preventing pregnancy are around 99% for some methods and with typical use can be around 96-98% also. And it’s generally good for people to learn how their body works, imo. Can alert you to issues you might not be aware of and is much healthier in general. But yes. You do have to be disciplined! 😂
It’s so awesome to hear someone so young talk about medical bills. I was a single mom of 2 and very young. I worked my tail off and accepted all overtime because of the medical bills. I think most parents aren’t prepared for this part of parenting. I think it’s great for you guys to put it out there for people to recognize 😊❤thanks unplanned!
Birth control side effects are so bad for women and even after you no longer want to take birth control you will have a hard time getting pregnant. I know so many women who wanted to have babies after decades on birth control and it took over 5 years to get pregnant. Obviously abstinence is the best for everyone.
Loved this episode! I gotta question for you guys… you said “birth control should be free.” Although I 100% agree with you saying if it’s free that would be better because of the argument of pro choice vs pro life… however, nothing in this world is free. Who do you think would pay for that?
I got the Mirena IUD six years ago during my last year of grad school and the insertion did NOT go smoothly. The doctor couldn't get it in, and had to call for reinforcements half way through. The painful 30 seconds you experienced was more like 30 minutes for me. I also drove myself, and when I got back into my car I burst out in tears in the parking lot. I spent the rest of the day with what felt like terrible period cramps on the couch. THAT SAID - I have never looked back. No periods for years, then the lightest ones ever. I haven't bought pads or tampons in years. I have my OBGYN check for the IUD each year, and sometimes get an internal ultrasound to be SUPER sure it's where it should be. Mirena was thought to be effective for five years when I got it, but now they've proven it works for eight, which is SO nice because I thought I was going to need a new one last year. Highly recommend, ONE bad day for EIGHT YEARS of no/ light periods and effective birth control!
I 100% agree! I love having an IUD. Its literally the best. One bad day for 5 years of no period! ❤❤❤ just to clarify everyone is different and what works for one person may not work for everyone!! Please dont take any of the comments as medical advice! ^^^general message for everyone!!!
I'm glad you've had a good experience. I have not have had severe panic attacks since I've gotten it, brain fog mood swings. I just have not felt like myself and shortly after I got it
@Julia- I have had 5 Mirenas and only one was less than great going in but… I also didn’t have my . at the time and all of the other times I did. I’ve had 3 different OBGYN’s all say that it goes in easier if we have our . I would have to agree with them.
@@ashleystrand997similar here except my 3 year was just fine then after the kyleena this stuff kind of snuck up on me and spent years wondering why I was so incompetent and mentally unstable Then I realized everything started a couple months in with a slighter higher dose iud go figure Will never be anti iud but people have to know it's not one size fits all and the holy grail for some just won't be the same for others
Curious what happened? Glad she ended up okay! I would never get one either they scare me! Foreign objects should never be in your reproductive parts..
I love your sweater! I'm 31. I just had my first baby 6m ago. I've never been on birth control. I'm afraid of all that stuff. My sister has a iud in her arm and has a period for 4 weeks every two weeks! No thanks
So in NZ, birth control is the cost of a dr's visit which currently is $18. Children under 14 have free healthcare and dental care. Accidents are subsidised if not completely free. Operations are covered if you're not going private. Our healthcare providers aren't profiting off of us being unwell, whereas people are profiting off of the ill in the US
2 years into my IUD, I started having autoimmune symptoms and inflammation throughout my body. Elevated inflammation blood levels. Long story short, took my IUD out and it corrected on its own. Found research at the time to back it up but there’s something about the 2 year mark that bodies can start to reject it. Btw love following all yals success so early in adulthood!
It causes your body to be in a constant state of inflammation, hormonal ones are horrible if you have PCOS or other reproductive issues and copper ones can cause copper and heavy metal poisoning too
It’s not anatomy, the people who decide to drug women is opposed to men WAS MEN!! Abby has had to get an iud because Matt doesn’t want to wear a condom!! This just infuriates me. Why put your wife through that when she will have to go through it again when you decide you want another child. So upsetting.
My oldest daughters OB pushed her IUD right through her uterine wall. Despite telling the doctor how much pain she was in, she was told it was normal for some women and that she'd be totally fine in a day or two. A little more than 24 hrs later she went to the ER because the pain was so out of control, she had a fever and was vomiting. She had to have surgery to have it removed from her abdominal cavity and repair the injury to her uterus. There was no legal recourse due to the the waiver they make you sign beforehand. Financially it cost her $24,000 between her deductable and cost shares. It was a nightmare.
Attorney here: that’s considered medical malpractice and you can always sue in those kinds of situations. *This is not legal advice and you should always consult with an attorney familiar with your situation to ensure you’re covering all your bases.
People forget 99.9% of PERFECT use (doctors put it in properly and no weird outside factors causing it to not be in place) still means out of 1000 people, 1 will get pregnant When you add up everyone on birth control.... that's still a lot of people even though it's a tiny percentage
Health share does not work the same way as regular health insurance. The money isn't there at the time of service. They choose what they'll pay after your visit. Yes, patients can end up paying more with heath share because the health share companies do not have contracts with doctors or facilities. Health share has to end up doing a single case agreement with the provider or the left over bill is patient responsibility.
If you track your cycle it’s free and it’s just as effective! Plus you don’t get pumped full of hormones! That’s what me and my husband do and I highly recommend
I am switching to that but I 100% would not be doing it if I wasn't in a committed relationship and fine if an accident were to happen Even when we were in a committed relationship years ago we could not handle the financial/etc responsibility of a kid back then so I don't regret it while I was younger as a more solid guarantee That being said i am so happy there are methods that are just about as effective because hormones did me dirty (but worth the peace of mind for the years I did have it)
Since the Affordable Care Act (ACA) was passed in 2010, most health insurance companies have been required to cover birth control at no copay in their plans. It's insane that they charged you so much!
My friends IUD got stuck and they could not get it out so they had to try multiple times to get it out. I had mine out within 3 months of getting it because the hormones were making me sick. You are very lucky to have such easy experiences 😅
Right I’m slightly jealous … I had one put in six years ago after my third baby and it was in for a year and I bled the whole time went for an ultrasound and it had grown into my cervix my ultrasound tech person was shocked I hadn’t got pregnant. My doctor yanked it out and ever since then I can’t get pregnant we’ve been trying for 5 years steady I wouldn’t recommend an iud to anyone haha
I got Depo Provera birth control shot because I didn't want the IUD and it nearly killed me. It has a risk of severe seizures as a side effect. I asked about all side effects for all options. Especially considering I have seizures as it is, they could worsen. And then I have other chronic issues to consider. So the doctor told me nothing to worry about. I go in thinking all will be great. Not having to worry about birth control daily would be great, I thought. And not having a thing put in my arm or uterus was great too. But I got lumps in my boobs, my seizures worsened to where I nearly died. Had to be put in a medically induced coma for a couple days because of it
@@meganelizabeth772I am so sorry that happened to you. From all my research I really think the depo shot is the most dangerous and affects your body the most out of any of the options. I hope you have a provider you can trust now ❤
@@meganelizabeth772 with all the information right at your fingertips, don't blame the doctor because you didn't do your due diligence and research the different types! Doctors don't need to educate you on every single thing! You need to be your own advocate!
@@truthtalker4038the truth is you can have knowledge of certain information but still usually trust your doctors recommendation because they are supposed to have your best interest.
Why is Matt talking about giving his daughters an IUD?! First of all why would you even be worried about birth control for your underaged daughters. Second if your daughters needed birth control for acne or bad periods why not a pill? An IUD is waaayyyy too invasive for an underaged girl. And third, why is does Matt say this as if it were to be HIS choice and not the child’s?! My mom asked me if I wanted birth control for my acne and I told her no. I’m so glad I did because my acne got a lot better a year later. Also why is Matt even concerned about his daughter’s fertility? That’s such a disgusting thing to think about. I would never force my child to get an IUD just because I know she’s fertile. It’s an awful thought process and I don’t know why no one is talking about it. They don’t even have a daughter so it’s alarming to know that these are the things that cross his mind…
Back home in Egypt the government is desperately trying to stop overpopulation, so every lady can go to a governmental hospital and get the regular IUD for less than 50 cents 😂I’m not even kidding 😂and the doctors there are so highly skilled -cuz they’re doing it hundreds of times- they are just *baaam* sticking it up there in a couple minutes like no problem at all😂
One of my coworkers got pregnant with an IUD and because she didn’t get periods she didn’t know she was pregnant until she started showing at 6mo! They had to go in there and remove the IUD while she was pregnant because it had gotten embedded! 😬😬😬 Her little girl is the cutest!
I didn't have periods with the depo shot and I would worry about this. I traded out buying tampons and pads, for buying a pregnancy test every month. It put my mind at ease, but I like the nuvaring so much better
The problem with birth control is that it’s way easier to control one egg cell then millions of sperm cells. Aaaaannnnddd whaaaat 800$ with insurance, we in Europe get it all for free , well it gets payed with taxes, and thats that.
Love you guys- but it's kinda frustrating to hear the IUD conversation because it doesn't mean someone isn't "tough" because their IUD insertion was rough. It all depends on how your body reacts to the hormones. I know people who had an easy insertion like you, and others who had terrible experiences. For me, I went home and threw up and had terrible cramps after insertion all night. The insertion itself was more like how Abby described, but I felt like I was going to pass out driving home and then had terrible sx for hours afterwards. Still worth it because my periods were so terrible, but the insertion isn't that easy for everyone.
Wow thats twice now that Matt has said something about stopping nursing earlier so you guys could get away more. Let me say that babyhood goes by soooo fast. Plenty of time for you guys to do things without your kids... after the 1st year. Its just a year each child to get their natural nourishment that will benefit them throughout their childhood. Not everyone is able to breastfeed for an entire year. I only made it to 6 mos and my daughter was done with it. My 2nd child I made it to 4 mos and had to stop due to my medical conditions needing their medication back. What I wouldnt have given to make it to a full yr. 💔💔 Formula is alot of chemicals made in a lab. Definition of Formula. "a list of ingredients for or constituents of something" Breast milk is liquid Gold. I feel this is such a sore topic for Matt.. He began this babys first days with getting Abby upset and pushing formula. Now sounds like he's discouraging her from nursing for a full year.... for reasons of freedom. Sorry Matt but you sound really selfish at this point now. Your kids should come first before yourself. It's just ONE YEAR each out of a long lifetime ahead. If she wants to continue to a full year you should be supporting that and not slipping in these little comments discouraging her. You've done it numerous times now. Before you know it... your kids will be grown and sitting with an empty nest asking yourself where your life went. Some people actually begin mourning for that. Sitting here at 52 wondering what to do with the rest of my life. Now I get the "Me time" and dont want it. 18 yrs is a blink of an eye. You will understand that later. 18 yrs out of avg 85 yrs is pretty short. My Gpa made it to 97. You will miss the time you had with your kids growing up. Dont rush thru it.
I am 76 years old and 48 years ago I got pregnant with an iud. It worked fine for 6 months and it disappeared. 4 years later after I had my son. I had to have a hysterectomy because they found it after having to have my uterus scraped. It was imbedded in the wall of my uterus.
Enjoy life now! Although there are people that hike and camp with their babies, toddlers. So......also enjoying each and every moment. We thought we would have another baby, we were getting our son ready(bought him a baby doll). Then my husband was diagnosed with Non-Hotchkins Lymphoma, survived a year and five days after diagnosis, passing away at 43 yrs young when our son was 4 yrs old. Each day is a gift, living in the future is surpassing the present, which is a true gift!
I would be very careful with the iud if I were you. I had two different kinds and the hormones in them (and the copper one in the other one) affected my thyroid and when I started having symptoms the doctor told me it was in my head. So be careful, if you start getting symptoms get it taken out.
Okay, but health care in the US is so bad. I have a friend in Korea who got her wisdom tooth surgery AND a full week of anti-biotics for $25 dollars!?? It's a little more out of pocket, but when I heard that I about fell over. Also, eye exams are sooo much cheaper as well. I know some people think price means better quality, but all of the offices she went to were very highly rated. :0 crazy!
I’m in Korea and I went to see a SPECIALIST for something that cost me thousands in the US (with no results and only gaslighting doctors). It literally cost less than $10 USD in Korea… I had an ECG and a private consultation and everything. The Korean doctor was the best doctor I’ve ever met in my life and I can’t believe it was so cheap 😭 I also finally was taken seriously and I now know I have a heart issue…. So yea. If you don’t have Korean health insurance… my whole experience would’ve been $25 USD according to the bill. So I would definitely go to the doctors in Korea if on vacation. I honestly want to live here forever 😢it’s so great
Also, for anyone interested…. I got an ECG in the US before and the doctor literally said “it looks like you had a stroke. But that’s impossible because you’re too young.” I asked him to redo the test if he thinks it was a mistake… and he said I would be charged twice and insurance probably wouldn’t cover it. The first ECG was over $1k. 💀😂 and this was a HIGHLY regarded doctor. Smh
I find losing weight while nursing so much harder! Some women lose it with the extra calories burned, but others your hormones hang on the those extra pounds. The weight fell off as I nursed less.
I had an IUD, but it was implanted during a surgery. It got implanted in my uterus and flipped upsidedown. I immediately had it removed. I have since had 2 Nexplanons and going in your arm instead of your vagina is so much easier. I have a uterus that is tilted forward, so no more IUDs.
I lived in Canada for 10 years and even then your insurance paid for your medical expenses - initially you had to pay for your prescriptions but then you would apply to get the money back!!! In the UK I pay for prescriptions! This video is so interesting and very helpful!
I'm canadian and that depends. Most insurances have a drug card that you give and the pharmacy will do the claim for you and only charge you the rest of what you owe, if anything.
I believe Matt is way you young to get a vasectomy. Life changes you. New life experiences change you. I'm 70 and I am sorry I didn't have at least 1 more . Please think more about it.
Not having a period is not normal and detrimental to your health. It's better to have self control! Or my best kind of BC is called swallowing! Hahaha specially bc he's your husband and not a random guy! IMO
Natural Family Planning is free, very effective, and natural. You’re not adjusting your hormones or negatively affecting your overall health. As a devout Catholic, it has also been beautiful for my marriage and our family. While it requires sacrifices, it’s worth it. As others have said, I would highly recommend an instructor while using a legitimate method. Not simply using an app or counting days, but actual charting. Not here to place judgement, but the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual effects of using contraception can be so damaging. I understand our medical and pharmaceutical industries as well as our secular culture have pushed a certain narrative, but I gently encourage everyone to look deeper.
I commend you both for your vulnerability in sharing your life and I hope you don’t take my comment in the wrong context. As I said, I’m not here to judge, I have just personally seen the fruits of NFP and want to spread that where I can.
It is crazy!! That in America you have to pay for health care, I’m from Northern Ireland and we are so lucky to have the NHS which is completely free health care. If I lived in America I would be afraid to get pregnant or injure myself because of all the bills
My IUD was Mirena and I had to get it taken out after a week bc my uterus was constantly cramping. Even with it out, I had a period for over 6 months straight.
I work with kids for part of my education, and we had a three year old who said "Guess what? I have a best friend, and her name is *insert twin's name*" it was so adorable.
Wanted to add an IUD story…getting mine inserted was awful, I spotted and cramped for 3 months, had my 3 month check up on it. Dr said everything was “fine” and less than a week later the IUD came out…by itself. Worst experience ever! Dr even said she’s never had a patient that and IUD has come out. It is sooo rare.
As for the medical bills, ALWAYS ask for an itemized bill to be sure to contest any strange charges. Also, if you are paying out of pocket instead of using insurance most places will give you a flat percentage discount if you ask for it, but they won't just do it themselves. If you put in the legwork and advocate for yourself you can cut thousands of dollars a year in medical bills
@@katieeliason7055 You’re not wrong… wow, medical benefits could be so much better in the U.S. … One of the richest countries in the world and the citizens are in debt over medical care meanwhile insurance and pharmaceutical companies make profit?? What an embarrassing shame..
What Abby was trying to explain is that a woman can only have 1 baby in a year where as a man could get 100 women pregnant in 1 year. Just an example 🤷♀️
Yes, exactly, so if you want to prevent pregnancy, it would make sense to sterilize or limit the males bc they're the most fertile. It's just that women bear the "burden" of pregnancy, so the responsibility seems to fall on them for b.c. Male birth control has been in the works it's just never been put on the market and encouraged, I think. Never gets past the study phase of "men having a headache," or that's what I've heard😅 could be bias. B.c. should def be free. It's sad. Even my miscarriage without insurance would've cost $7000. To tell me I'm losing a baby. Fortunately, I did have coverage and only paid $500.
I had 2 in the same year 11 months apart 😂
Yea health insurance and medical expenses in America makes me want to live outside of the country. I’m overseas right now and it costs like NOTHING to see a highly rated specialist. The price differences and quality of services are crazyyyyyy
Another amazing podcast - I can’t believe that you have to pay for birth control - we are so lucky in the UK!
Wish Matt Let guests talk more or listen to the responses-but otherwise love this podcast
Regarding the 99.9% effectiveness, that def depends on how it was placed. My son and his gf got pregnant with one bc the doctor placed it wrong🤦🏼♀️
I also think there needs to be more education on birth control. Yes it does prevent pregnancy but it also helps with acne, others like me who’s periods are heavy and debilitating, endometriosis, PCOS, cancer prevention, and even help with migraines. So yes, it should be free!!!
My dad got a vasectomy after my sister and I were born. Then my parents got a divorce and my dad remarried so he got it reversed. I’m not sure if he got it again after the two kids he had with my step mom 😅
If you go to the health department in ur local area, birth control should be completely free. That’s what I’ve always heard
“The talk” isn’t just one conversation. It’s a series of age appropriate conversations over the entire life of your child. Sexual health and relationships is a huge topic to cover in one chat. Can you imagine if you taught kids about anything else in just one conversation?
Wise words right here
At what age do we start talking? Because I have a 5 year old and he thinks babies come from belly buttons lol. I don't feel comfortable correcting him.
They are doing such a amazing job not only the fact of doing it for the podcast but also them just being able to sit down and talk about what they have been doing in life and how there future is going to look like and the fun family things that they can do together they are honestly so good at what they do in life so huge shout out to both of them.
right lmao@@xxanabananaxx
True! If you think it's a one talk and your good thing that's probably close to as bad as nothing!
Every time I hear a wife say that their love language is acts of service I can’t help but imagine that it’s because she does the majority of the housework and the husband doesn’t realize this.
Hey! It’s actually not true for me :) it’s my love language and my husband easily does 50% of the house/kids work ! 😊👍🏻
The best podcast episodes are the ones with only Matt and Abby!
Yes!!! Agreed!!!!
Agree❤love the guests but I don’t usually listen to those ones all the way through!
Agreed!
Agreed!
Agreed!!
Matt.. your thoughts about abby nursing vs. not are soley about you and her ability to do things with you ... like grow up
Love the “hide the underwear” conversation….I think all women do this. I know I do! 😂
I’m an L&D nurse. And I still even hide the underwear! Hahaha
Yeah I used to do that too but my dentist thought it was weird.
It’s more being back to you body’s shape, pre pregnancy…fitting into clothes
@@dibsdibs3495you just made my day. I’m in the hospital with a severe migraine attack (I get stroke-like symptoms that are VERY scary! Including “word salad” speech, loss of vision, confusion and at times even paralysis on one side! SCARY!). I saw this comment and wanted to reply… then I saw YOUR comment. I’m still giggling 🤭 ❤ 😂
I’m 40 years old & I STILL hide my panties 😂
I’ve dealt with endometriosis and PCOS since I was 13. Up until 4 years ago when I found out I had cervical, ovarian AND uterine cancer and had to have a radical hysterectomy. My point of the trauma dump is it doesn’t matter how close you and your dr are, how many times you’ve undressed in front of said dr, females will ALWAYS hide the panties 😂
I do the same when I get a bikini wax… I don’t know why, but I ALWAYS. HIDE. THE UNDIES! 😂
Loved this episode! ❤
Abby you should definitely open a coffee shop! It would be incredible!
I would move there and work for her 100% 😂
Agreed!!
I see what Matt was saying about the birth control for men. I think he was trying to say that men are constantly fertile and women aren’t. I see what he is saying, but Abby was saying that women’s bodies are constantly changing hormones for the process of being fertile which makes it difficult to control versus men’s hormones being more stable. Definitely hard to say who would be more easier to control but I love how Matt is so open to taking on male birth control responsibility! There needs to be more partners like Matt that think the responsibility should fall equally on both partners. Love your episodes!
Its actually easier to control mens hormones, but till recently there wasnt a incentive to reserch a male birth control, because doctors think its a womans problem. We tecnically would be able to already have a pill because the tech is already here, but the amount of side effects is too high (it nor even half of the ammount of side effects of the womans) for men to actually buy and use. I believe in the next 3 years we will have some other options (even some vacines are being tested)
There was a 2016 article in NPR about a men’s birth control trial that was conducted by the WHO- apparently the the trials initial results were at 96% success rate but they ended the trial in stage II because “there were too many side effects” for participants and many dropped out.
The side effects were the same as women’s birth control - depression, weight gain, acne, mood swings, etc.
There are a few new trials going based on a quick google search though
With sperm count going down now and more I'm not sure if it's a good idea. I know it's not right for the burden to be on women only, but it's definitely harder for many couples to get pregnant nowadays so I'm not sure what the best idea is
@@naddee19 cuz it's easier to control one egg then there is to control millions of sperm
Birth control is evil
Matt and Abby + Ryan Trahan and Haley Pham = the most amazing podcast episode to ever happen
Omgg yessss
Yes yes yes yes yes
OH MY GOSH THAT WOULD BE AMAZING LIKE HIM EXPLAING THE BEHIND THE SCENES OF SOME OF HIS VIDEOS AND HOW HE GETS HIS VIDEO IDEAS AND WHAT HE DOES ON AND DAILY BASES AND WHAT SHE DOES ALSO THAT WOULD BE SUCH A GREAT VIDEO AND IT WOULD GET SO MANY VIEWS ALSO GREAT IDEA.
Yes❤
Unfortunately, there any many women becoming clinically depressed because when your body stops producing progesterone through the use of IUD’s, you become hormonally imbalanced. I know this firsthand. Pharma owns this country and pays doctors to push their agendas. Western medicine doctors treat patients, but don’t know how to heal them. Women my age (peri-menopausal), are learning these things right in the thick of it, when our bodies are going thru enormous changes, causing psychological issues. I hope the next generations learn this before it becomes incredibly hard to treat.❤
I only just even learnt the word perimenopausal as a 33 year old who has been on 10+ types of bc since 15 and often skipped breakthrough bleeding on depo or skipping sugar pills. But now I haven't had a period in 2+years at first I was happy having endo it was a nice break but now it has become worrisome. Really good point about how the lack of me producing that hormone could be contributing to my mental health issues and depression.
IUDs should be banned. Birth control is evil
I love how Matt’s the dreamer and Abby’s the realist. It’s cute lol
Anesthesia should definitely be an option and be offered! People have different pain tolerance levels. Some people barely feel it, and some pass out because it's so severe!
Im one of the folks who passed out for my first one lol. Luckily the 2nd one was a little easier!
Anesthesia is not as safe as you think it is! It is unnecessary for that procedure! People can handle pain for a little bit of time!
Did you know there is a risk of death every time someone goes under anesthesia???????
@@Spooky_G647 anesthesia comes with a risk of death, that is why they won't do it in America! It is not necessary for that procedure! Even if it is very painful, it doesn't last long, and we as a society for some reason feel we should never feel pain, and that is just not realistic.. this is life.. it comes with pain!
@@Spooky_G647 You said it's hard to get in the US, and I was addressing that! I can address part or all of your comment if I choose, but now I will address the rest of your comment! It makes no difference whether you have had Csection or vaginal birth when it comes to the pain.. it depends on how sensitive the womans cervix is! Even with having a csection, you can still have immense pain if your cervix is very sensitive! People are informed.. most of them DONT LISTEN! For example, people are told before surgery there is a chance of death with anesthesia, but I could ask numerous people who have had surgery if they know that, and they would say no! People sign paperwork without even reading it! If people want to know, THEY CAN ASK QUESTIONS! It's not up to the doctor to fully educate you! People need to research and educate themselves!
@@truthtalker4038 that’s true for general anesthesia but not local, which is what would be used in this case. Lidocaine would be injected into the cervix, which is the same thing that is used in dental procedures
"You can take any pain for 30 seconds ladies"...well...matt won't take the inconvenience of wearing a condom which takes two seconds to put on
I understand your point. I guess each to their own. My exprience without condoms where that all it was somehow much easier and less irritation for me. Btw i am a woman
As a women I prefer no Condoms so it's not like it's just men who aren't a fan
And if you're in a committed relationship it makes even more sense, where if I was hooking up, idgaf I don't have that same level of communication and trust and then yeah, it's more likely that a man with not (much) to lose would be more willing to go without one
@@BreMue you may prefer no condoms but when you are too pospartum to take hormones and your baby is top little and you had a hernia surgery not long ago enough to have another baby it is better to use a condom than taking the risk, also, when they talked about it it was clear that it was Matt who didn't like it but sometimes you gotta take inconveniences for the sake of your wife's healing
I had the worst experience with my IUD I was bawling. I think everyone is super different but for me personally it was terrible
birth control is evil
Birth control should be “free”?! Nothing is free, Matt; you should know that being a finance major. Why should someone else pay for others reproductive choices? Should the people covering the birth control choose when and with whom the recipient of the birth control have sex with? Of course not! If people want to do the activity that makes babies, they should take the responsibility for the potential life that may be created. If there is an extenuating circumstance where pregnancy was attempted to be blocked or if there was an non-consensual encounter, then we can look at charitable help to support the child’s needs, like Crisis Pregnancy Life Centers.
Remember there is an IUD that is non hormonal, it's a GREAT option, it's the paragard and I've used it every time after my pregnancies! Never had any issues :)
Good for those who had kids before. I know Abby has had kids but I got paragard before I had kids (still don’t have kids) and it was so painful (it’s larger than hormonal and not recommended unless you have kids which of course they didn’t mention that to me) and it perforated my uterus. I almost ended up having to get a follopian tube out. Thankfully not because I do want kids and that would decrease my chances of getting pregnant.
Paragard made me bleed for two months straight, I have the arm one now and it's great.
Does it make your period heavy? I heard it can be really heavy crampy periods
Love the copper IUD! It’s the best. There are different sizes you can get really small . Called FlexiT here in canada
@@Carla_2428mine was the same periods, not painful. Different for everyone
Sometimes i think Matt just spurts out what he thinks people want to hear and not an actual opinion of his own. Then Abby will correct him. It’s not hard to do a quick google search and actually educate yourself on the female anatomy.
Abby is sooo tired and not into it
Can’t believe she is going to go horseback riding. It must be exhausting to live with an ADHD husband. She has two babies, is breastfeeding, and just had an IUD inserted. What on earth was he thinking when he planned that??
Your body is cramping after bcuz it's trying to reject a foreign object that doesn't belong. I got it once and my body literally pushed it out and I had to get it removed.
This was cringy. Sorry guys.
The mansplaining in this episode is insufferable.
sorry to burst your bubbles guys but the reason men weren’t originally set up with birth control and women were is because of patriarchy, not necessarily anatomy though that might be a small part of it. men birth control was actually created but it had too many side effects so the burden was put on women.
My theory is we live in a mans 🎉world. If they wanted to make sound birth control for men they would.
Finds out you are pregnant during a unplanned Matt and Abby podcast ❤❤🎉 love that for myself
HOW EXCITING!!! Congratulations!!! So happy for you!
I’m glad Abby had a good experience. Unfortunately my experience with the iud was extremely painful, I would get random stabbing pains in my uterus and bled for 2 months straight. after that I got it removed. Crazy how iud is the most polarizing experience ever
Oh no!!
Some people have cystic pain for months. My first child was an IUD baby. Let me tell you, that was a shock. When the doctor tells you to use alternative protection until the IUD is checked, do it. Love my daughter!
Because birth control is evil
My jaw hit the floor at the price of the IUD! Free for anyone under 21 in aus, or any age with a low income card and then $50 USD out of pocket for anyone else in Australia. Totally agree with Matt, should be free for everyone at anytime 😢❤ love you both so much and the pod❤
Yep totally agree. Any basic health care in the US is just unjustified price wise.
Our healthcare system is set up where they don't necessarily want us getting sick, whereas the US their system is profit off of it
Cost me 500 bucks 5 years ago and I’m Canadian with health care …
NOTHING is free! It is paid for by tax dollars!!! We are already way overtaxxed!!! Americans get money taken out of their checks and their money is sent to support other countries!!! NO ONE is sending AMERICANS money, but we help support everyone else!
@@teeandkids937WHAAAAT???? Are u serious? Do you have to pay for any form of contraception then?? Wow I'm I'm the UK everything is free .just hit home just how lucky I am.thats terrible 😢
I paid roughly 400€ here in Germany (we have health insurance). 200 for the IUD, 200 for the doctor to put it in place. I think in France (where I'm from) the health insurance takes care of it.
Abby thank you for saying you had light bleeding for a month after your IUD because I got mine 2 weeks ago and I’ve been stressed even though they said it’s normal.
I bled for 10 months with mine but my best friend bled for 3 weeks and never had another period while she had it. Her and I even had the same type put in. I eventually had to get mine taken out because it started to implant into my uterus and I got pregnant with my second baby. Mine was NOT the normal experience and I feel like my best friend's experience was closer to normal. I hope you feel better, honey 🫶
Would you say that it was super painful? I’ve been thinking about getting one but I’m TERRIFIED of the pain that people say they have 😅
It’s not normal. Birth control is not normal but gravely evil and against both the natural law and the divine law
I am seeing shameless plugs for Matt Howard songs inside of every single podcast, now. Kinda getting old. 😒
Abby cried in pain after hernia surgery! She said it was the worst pain ever!
Am I the only who doesn’t like Matt?
Dude that is so rude
@@werweirdos5430 idk man he just made his wife who just got an IUD go horseback riding
He didn't make her!!
Highly recommend reading "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" and researching hormonal birth control more. I've used this method for a while and its helped us conceive 5 beautiful kiddos and also prevent pregnancy. I also like how it also involves my husband in the process bc we need to chat about where I'm at in my cycle! Just some thoughts. Blessings to you guys!
LOVE that book
Yes! This is the best book.
Birth control is evil
Highly recommend the book “E*aculate Responsibly” by Gabrielle Blair if you guys are readers. She touches on some of the things you were discussing re: birth control and male fertility, etc. in a really approachable and thought-provoking way.
Birth control is evil
The Marquette method is an effective way to do natural family planning. It’s worked great for my husband and me!
I agree!
their relationship is insanely passive aggressive. he’s stupid and she’s sick of it & trying to tell him without telling him
Regarding Natural Family Planning, I would encourage anyone wanting to use it to look into learning a legitimate method with an instructor! And not just rely on an app. Those are useful though, and if you’re not super concerned, go for it. If used perfectly with an actual method, effectiveness rates for preventing pregnancy are around 99% for some methods and with typical use can be around 96-98% also. And it’s generally good for people to learn how their body works, imo. Can alert you to issues you might not be aware of and is much healthier in general. But yes. You do have to be disciplined! 😂
Agree with this! If you’re a lazy instant gratification type person, this method isn’t for you
That’s a real woman right there: “I have toilet paper there” 😂
Abbys hair is so perfect for her!! Love the new cut and color 😍
It’s so awesome to hear someone so young talk about medical bills. I was a single mom of 2 and very young. I worked my tail off and accepted all overtime because of the medical bills. I think most parents aren’t prepared for this part of parenting. I think it’s great for you guys to put it out there for people to recognize 😊❤thanks unplanned!
Birth control side effects are so bad for women and even after you no longer want to take birth control you will have a hard time getting pregnant. I know so many women who wanted to have babies after decades on birth control and it took over 5 years to get pregnant. Obviously abstinence is the best for everyone.
Loved this episode! I gotta question for you guys… you said “birth control should be free.” Although I 100% agree with you saying if it’s free that would be better because of the argument of pro choice vs pro life… however, nothing in this world is free. Who do you think would pay for that?
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I got the Mirena IUD six years ago during my last year of grad school and the insertion did NOT go smoothly. The doctor couldn't get it in, and had to call for reinforcements half way through. The painful 30 seconds you experienced was more like 30 minutes for me. I also drove myself, and when I got back into my car I burst out in tears in the parking lot. I spent the rest of the day with what felt like terrible period cramps on the couch. THAT SAID - I have never looked back. No periods for years, then the lightest ones ever. I haven't bought pads or tampons in years. I have my OBGYN check for the IUD each year, and sometimes get an internal ultrasound to be SUPER sure it's where it should be. Mirena was thought to be effective for five years when I got it, but now they've proven it works for eight, which is SO nice because I thought I was going to need a new one last year. Highly recommend, ONE bad day for EIGHT YEARS of no/ light periods and effective birth control!
I 100% agree! I love having an IUD. Its literally the best. One bad day for 5 years of no period! ❤❤❤
just to clarify everyone is different and what works for one person may not work for everyone!! Please dont take any of the comments as medical advice!
^^^general message for everyone!!!
I'm glad you've had a good experience. I have not have had severe panic attacks since I've gotten it, brain fog mood swings. I just have not felt like myself and shortly after I got it
@Julia- I have had 5 Mirenas and only one was less than great going in but… I also didn’t have my . at the time and all of the other times I did. I’ve had 3 different OBGYN’s all say that it goes in easier if we have our . I would have to agree with them.
You can have anesthesia to have them inserted! Just so you know for your next one!
@@ashleystrand997similar here except my 3 year was just fine then after the kyleena this stuff kind of snuck up on me and spent years wondering why I was so incompetent and mentally unstable
Then I realized everything started a couple months in with a slighter higher dose iud go figure
Will never be anti iud but people have to know it's not one size fits all and the holy grail for some just won't be the same for others
The IUD almost killed my daughters friend. They are so scary, I would never get an IUD.
Curious what happened? Glad she ended up okay! I would never get one either they scare me! Foreign objects should never be in your reproductive parts..
I think its not normal or healthy for a you g woman not to have a period for long periods of time too.Im praying it all goes well..
@@thehammersfamily3943wait you NEVER get your period on IUD?
I wouldn’t either! Our bodies weren’t made to have foreign objects up there! Not that pills are better but we need something 🤷🏻♀️
@@nolagirl2458you don’t need anything except trust in God. Birth control is evil and BC pills can and do act as abortifacients
I love your sweater! I'm 31. I just had my first baby 6m ago. I've never been on birth control. I'm afraid of all that stuff. My sister has a iud in her arm and has a period for 4 weeks every two weeks! No thanks
An IUD in her arm. You people crack me up 😂 "IUD" stands for "intrauterine device".
IUD is free for all in the UK … That’s bonkers that you have to pay so much in the US 😅
Why does the world need to about about your contraceptive choices as a couple?
I’m wondering this also.
So in NZ, birth control is the cost of a dr's visit which currently is $18. Children under 14 have free healthcare and dental care.
Accidents are subsidised if not completely free. Operations are covered if you're not going private.
Our healthcare providers aren't profiting off of us being unwell, whereas people are profiting off of the ill in the US
2 years into my IUD, I started having autoimmune symptoms and inflammation throughout my body. Elevated inflammation blood levels. Long story short, took my IUD out and it corrected on its own. Found research at the time to back it up but there’s something about the 2 year mark that bodies can start to reject it.
Btw love following all yals success so early in adulthood!
I also experienced this, had to take antibiotics and take out the Iud to fight the infection..
Birth control is one of the worst things for a woman’s body and hormones!
It causes your body to be in a constant state of inflammation, hormonal ones are horrible if you have PCOS or other reproductive issues and copper ones can cause copper and heavy metal poisoning too
Birth control is evil
It’s not anatomy, the people who decide to drug women is opposed to men WAS MEN!! Abby has had to get an iud because Matt doesn’t want to wear a condom!! This just infuriates me. Why put your wife through that when she will have to go through it again when you decide you want another child. So upsetting.
My oldest daughters OB pushed her IUD right through her uterine wall. Despite telling the doctor how much pain she was in, she was told it was normal for some women and that she'd be totally fine in a day or two. A little more than 24 hrs later she went to the ER because the pain was so out of control, she had a fever and was vomiting. She had to have surgery to have it removed from her abdominal cavity and repair the injury to her uterus. There was no legal recourse due to the the waiver they make you sign beforehand. Financially it cost her $24,000 between her deductable and cost shares. It was a nightmare.
Omg that is awful :(
Poor lady 😢 remember you can always sue no matter what you sign! They’re liable! Hope she’s ok now
Attorney here: that’s considered medical malpractice and you can always sue in those kinds of situations.
*This is not legal advice and you should always consult with an attorney familiar with your situation to ensure you’re covering all your bases.
That’s punishment for using birth control, an evil and gravely sinful practice
my sister got pregnant on an iud! definitely more common than we think!
was her exsperience bad or good what changes in her body and just her in general that she recognice changes alot of just some of the smallest changes
People forget 99.9% of PERFECT use (doctors put it in properly and no weird outside factors causing it to not be in place) still means out of 1000 people, 1 will get pregnant
When you add up everyone on birth control.... that's still a lot of people even though it's a tiny percentage
The risk of the ectopic pregnancy would put me off it
Health share does not work the same way as regular health insurance. The money isn't there at the time of service. They choose what they'll pay after your visit. Yes, patients can end up paying more with heath share because the health share companies do not have contracts with doctors or facilities. Health share has to end up doing a single case agreement with the provider or the left over bill is patient responsibility.
I had the most horrible experience with an IUD. It's been over two years since I took it out and I still am dealing with hormone issues.
If you track your cycle it’s free and it’s just as effective! Plus you don’t get pumped full of hormones! That’s what me and my husband do and I highly recommend
You can only do that if you have regular periods. My period is different every month. But I'm glad it works for you.
I am switching to that but I 100% would not be doing it if I wasn't in a committed relationship and fine if an accident were to happen
Even when we were in a committed relationship years ago we could not handle the financial/etc responsibility of a kid back then so I don't regret it while I was younger as a more solid guarantee
That being said i am so happy there are methods that are just about as effective because hormones did me dirty (but worth the peace of mind for the years I did have it)
Since the Affordable Care Act (ACA) was passed in 2010, most health insurance companies have been required to cover birth control at no copay in their plans. It's insane that they charged you so much!
My friends IUD got stuck and they could not get it out so they had to try multiple times to get it out. I had mine out within 3 months of getting it because the hormones were making me sick. You are very lucky to have such easy experiences 😅
Right I’m slightly jealous … I had one put in six years ago after my third baby and it was in for a year and I bled the whole time went for an ultrasound and it had grown into my cervix my ultrasound tech person was shocked I hadn’t got pregnant. My doctor yanked it out and ever since then I can’t get pregnant we’ve been trying for 5 years steady I wouldn’t recommend an iud to anyone haha
I got Depo Provera birth control shot because I didn't want the IUD and it nearly killed me. It has a risk of severe seizures as a side effect. I asked about all side effects for all options. Especially considering I have seizures as it is, they could worsen. And then I have other chronic issues to consider. So the doctor told me nothing to worry about. I go in thinking all will be great. Not having to worry about birth control daily would be great, I thought. And not having a thing put in my arm or uterus was great too. But I got lumps in my boobs, my seizures worsened to where I nearly died. Had to be put in a medically induced coma for a couple days because of it
@@meganelizabeth772I am so sorry that happened to you. From all my research I really think the depo shot is the most dangerous and affects your body the most out of any of the options. I hope you have a provider you can trust now ❤
@@meganelizabeth772 with all the information right at your fingertips, don't blame the doctor because you didn't do your due diligence and research the different types! Doctors don't need to educate you on every single thing! You need to be your own advocate!
@@truthtalker4038the truth is you can have knowledge of certain information but still usually trust your doctors recommendation because they are supposed to have your best interest.
Why is Matt talking about giving his daughters an IUD?! First of all why would you even be worried about birth control for your underaged daughters. Second if your daughters needed birth control for acne or bad periods why not a pill? An IUD is waaayyyy too invasive for an underaged girl. And third, why is does Matt say this as if it were to be HIS choice and not the child’s?! My mom asked me if I wanted birth control for my acne and I told her no. I’m so glad I did because my acne got a lot better a year later. Also why is Matt even concerned about his daughter’s fertility? That’s such a disgusting thing to think about. I would never force my child to get an IUD just because I know she’s fertile. It’s an awful thought process and I don’t know why no one is talking about it. They don’t even have a daughter so it’s alarming to know that these are the things that cross his mind…
Influencers doing ads for products the aap does not recommend and aren't considered safe sleep 😔
18:14 whattt
I hope Matt gets a vasectomy when they’re don’t having kids.
Back home in Egypt the government is desperately trying to stop overpopulation, so every lady can go to a governmental hospital and get the regular IUD for less than 50 cents 😂I’m not even kidding 😂and the doctors there are so highly skilled -cuz they’re doing it hundreds of times- they are just *baaam* sticking it up there in a couple minutes like no problem at all😂
One of my coworkers got pregnant with an IUD and because she didn’t get periods she didn’t know she was pregnant until she started showing at 6mo! They had to go in there and remove the IUD while she was pregnant because it had gotten embedded! 😬😬😬 Her little girl is the cutest!
I didn't have periods with the depo shot and I would worry about this. I traded out buying tampons and pads, for buying a pregnancy test every month. It put my mind at ease, but I like the nuvaring so much better
The problem with birth control is that it’s way easier to control one egg cell then millions of sperm cells. Aaaaannnnddd whaaaat 800$ with insurance, we in Europe get it all for free , well it gets payed with taxes, and thats that.
Love you guys- but it's kinda frustrating to hear the IUD conversation because it doesn't mean someone isn't "tough" because their IUD insertion was rough. It all depends on how your body reacts to the hormones. I know people who had an easy insertion like you, and others who had terrible experiences. For me, I went home and threw up and had terrible cramps after insertion all night. The insertion itself was more like how Abby described, but I felt like I was going to pass out driving home and then had terrible sx for hours afterwards. Still worth it because my periods were so terrible, but the insertion isn't that easy for everyone.
In my country we have free birth control for all womens under age of 25.. but we have free health care too..
The short about horseback riding was very misleading. Here we find out that Abby ok'd going horseback riding after her ob/gyn appt.
The hair suits you Abby ❤
Oral birth control is eatrogen based whereas IUD is progesteone so a lot of people have a lot less 'hormonal' side effects
Yeah, getting birth control info from my future mother in laws friend instead of my ob/gyn..... that's a goal?
Wow thats twice now that Matt has said something about stopping nursing earlier so you guys could get away more. Let me say that babyhood goes by soooo fast. Plenty of time for you guys to do things without your kids... after the 1st year. Its just a year each child to get their natural nourishment that will benefit them throughout their childhood. Not everyone is able to breastfeed for an entire year. I only made it to 6 mos and my daughter was done with it. My 2nd child I made it to 4 mos and had to stop due to my medical conditions needing their medication back. What I wouldnt have given to make it to a full yr. 💔💔
Formula is alot of chemicals made in a lab.
Definition of Formula. "a list of ingredients for or constituents of something"
Breast milk is liquid Gold. I feel this is such a sore topic for Matt.. He began this babys first days with getting Abby upset and pushing formula. Now sounds like he's discouraging her from nursing for a full year.... for reasons of freedom. Sorry Matt but you sound really selfish at this point now. Your kids should come first before yourself.
It's just ONE YEAR each out of a long lifetime ahead. If she wants to continue to a full year you should be supporting that and not slipping in these little comments discouraging her. You've done it numerous times now.
Before you know it... your kids will be grown and sitting with an empty nest asking yourself where your life went. Some people actually begin mourning for that. Sitting here at 52 wondering what to do with the rest of my life. Now I get the "Me time" and dont want it. 18 yrs is a blink of an eye. You will understand that later. 18 yrs out of avg 85 yrs is pretty short. My Gpa made it to 97. You will miss the time you had with your kids growing up. Dont rush thru it.
I think Matt should try a period simulator
I am 76 years old and 48 years ago I got pregnant with an iud. It worked fine for 6 months and it disappeared. 4 years later after I had my son. I had to have a hysterectomy because they found it after having to have my uterus scraped. It was imbedded in the wall of my uterus.
My mind m had to have hers surgically removed because tissue grew around it .
Wow! 😮 That's crzy.
Enjoy life now! Although there are people that hike and camp with their babies, toddlers. So......also enjoying each and every moment. We thought we would have another baby, we were getting our son ready(bought him a baby doll). Then my husband was diagnosed with Non-Hotchkins Lymphoma, survived a year and five days after diagnosis, passing away at 43 yrs young when our son was 4 yrs old. Each day is a gift, living in the future is surpassing the present, which is a true gift!
I would be very careful with the iud if I were you. I had two different kinds and the hormones in them (and the copper one in the other one) affected my thyroid and when I started having symptoms the doctor told me it was in my head. So be careful, if you start getting symptoms get it taken out.
You may want to go back and review your insurance plan. Under the ACA most BC should be covered.
Okay, but health care in the US is so bad. I have a friend in Korea who got her wisdom tooth surgery AND a full week of anti-biotics for $25 dollars!?? It's a little more out of pocket, but when I heard that I about fell over. Also, eye exams are sooo much cheaper as well.
I know some people think price means better quality, but all of the offices she went to were very highly rated. :0 crazy!
I’m in Korea and I went to see a SPECIALIST for something that cost me thousands in the US (with no results and only gaslighting doctors). It literally cost less than $10 USD in Korea… I had an ECG and a private consultation and everything. The Korean doctor was the best doctor I’ve ever met in my life and I can’t believe it was so cheap 😭 I also finally was taken seriously and I now know I have a heart issue…. So yea. If you don’t have Korean health insurance… my whole experience would’ve been $25 USD according to the bill. So I would definitely go to the doctors in Korea if on vacation. I honestly want to live here forever 😢it’s so great
Also, for anyone interested…. I got an ECG in the US before and the doctor literally said “it looks like you had a stroke. But that’s impossible because you’re too young.” I asked him to redo the test if he thinks it was a mistake… and he said I would be charged twice and insurance probably wouldn’t cover it. The first ECG was over $1k. 💀😂 and this was a HIGHLY regarded doctor. Smh
I'm from Europe and I about fall over when I hear American prices for hospital stays and interventions etc.
I find losing weight while nursing so much harder! Some women lose it with the extra calories burned, but others your hormones hang on the those extra pounds. The weight fell off as I nursed less.
Same here! It was so frustrating for people to say you'll just lose all the weight if you're breastfeeding, definitely not my experience
Seriously Matte?? Abby is always giving you words of encouragement !!!!!
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I had an IUD, but it was implanted during a surgery. It got implanted in my uterus and flipped upsidedown. I immediately had it removed. I have since had 2 Nexplanons and going in your arm instead of your vagina is so much easier. I have a uterus that is tilted forward, so no more IUDs.
I lived in Canada for 10 years and even then your insurance paid for your medical expenses - initially you had to pay for your prescriptions but then you would apply to get the money back!!! In the UK I pay for prescriptions! This video is so interesting and very helpful!
I'm canadian and that depends. Most insurances have a drug card that you give and the pharmacy will do the claim for you and only charge you the rest of what you owe, if anything.
Totally did the toilet paper thing. 😂😂😂 thought I was alone in that! ❤❤❤ that's the purpose of this type of content. Thank you. 😊
I believe Matt is way you young to get a vasectomy. Life changes you. New life experiences change you. I'm 70 and I am sorry I didn't have at least 1 more . Please think more about it.
Not having a period is not normal and detrimental to your health. It's better to have self control! Or my best kind of BC is called swallowing! Hahaha specially bc he's your husband and not a random guy! IMO
Have Brooklyn and Bailey on separately with their husbands!
Natural Family Planning is free, very effective, and natural. You’re not adjusting your hormones or negatively affecting your overall health. As a devout Catholic, it has also been beautiful for my marriage and our family. While it requires sacrifices, it’s worth it.
As others have said, I would highly recommend an instructor while using a legitimate method. Not simply using an app or counting days, but actual charting.
Not here to place judgement, but the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual effects of using contraception can be so damaging. I understand our medical and pharmaceutical industries as well as our secular culture have pushed a certain narrative, but I gently encourage everyone to look deeper.
I commend you both for your vulnerability in sharing your life and I hope you don’t take my comment in the wrong context. As I said, I’m not here to judge, I have just personally seen the fruits of NFP and want to spread that where I can.
The one wheels got RECALLED!
IUD, please do the research
It is crazy!! That in America you have to pay for health care, I’m from Northern Ireland and we are so lucky to have the NHS which is completely free health care. If I lived in America I would be afraid to get pregnant or injure myself because of all the bills
It’s awful. After giving birth I got a bill for $40,000 and I avoid the doctor at all cost because of the money. It’s terrible here
My IUD was Mirena and I had to get it taken out after a week bc my uterus was constantly cramping. Even with it out, I had a period for over 6 months straight.
You shouldn’t have used it anyways, birth control is evil
I work with kids for part of my education, and we had a three year old who said "Guess what? I have a best friend, and her name is *insert twin's name*" it was so adorable.
Have you looked into the hormone free IUD Paragard? Might be best of both worlds! ❤ great episode
Wanted to add an IUD story…getting mine inserted was awful, I spotted and cramped for 3 months, had my 3 month check up on it. Dr said everything was “fine” and less than a week later the IUD came out…by itself.
Worst experience ever!
Dr even said she’s never had a patient that and IUD has come out. It is sooo rare.
As for the medical bills, ALWAYS ask for an itemized bill to be sure to contest any strange charges. Also, if you are paying out of pocket instead of using insurance most places will give you a flat percentage discount if you ask for it, but they won't just do it themselves. If you put in the legwork and advocate for yourself you can cut thousands of dollars a year in medical bills
Pretty sucky that Americans have to go through all those steps just to receive affordable medical care… wow..
@sarahloohoo2312 very true, but I'd rather that then paying thousands of dollars for something insurance companies pay only hundreds for
@@katieeliason7055 You’re not wrong… wow, medical benefits could be so much better in the U.S. … One of the richest countries in the world and the citizens are in debt over medical care meanwhile insurance and pharmaceutical companies make profit?? What an embarrassing shame..
@@sarahloohoo2312 for sure