@@downthestretch85 "Why do you ask..... oh, so you can call me daddy under the bed-sheets, whilst you moan", when she persists, take her arms and say - "Old enough to know how to bring the best out of you."
Interesting move I did the other day with the woman I am in the friend zone with. We were talking and someone who joined the conversation asked if I was her husband. I said “no, I am not her husband yet.” She briefly got a look on her face but rather than get her to see me as a creep and drive her away it seemed to have the opposite effect. Following that our hugs started lasting longer. I see progress, like I am gradually winning her over.
I think you need to tweak it in your head with an affirmation, that she is winning you over - until you absolutely believe it. Something better would have been, "No, I'm her sixth ex-husband, we're discussing who keeps the cats and who takes the holiday home with the wide-screen TV."
I can say Dan is 100% correct on this. I was an introvert. A nerd. Skinny. Super tall. As a guy in my teens/earjy 20s I felt unattractive and thought I would never get a girlfriend let 23:10 alone get married. But all that changed in my mid to later 20s after graduating university and moving to Toronto. Had a bit more confidence gained from my work, and I filled out a bit. Was always a bit of a wallflower, but women would approach me from time to time which increased my confidence. Got married. She actually approached me. Lol! Fast forward 30 yrs. I’ve been widowed since 2020. Started looking into on-line dating one year ago. That’s a whole other story, but what I want to say, is that I’ve adopted the I don’t give an F attitude around women. I let my hair grow long. I can flirt effortlessly now with any women in person. Like Dan says, it is actually so easy. Even get younger women noticing me and flirting with them. I think a lot of it has to do with me be older/married/widowed/wiser, but there is no reason younger guys cannot act the same. It really comes down to being confident, not worrying about what women think, and having a bit of charm. These are things any guy can do and accomplish and it has nothing to do with looks.
I wish somebody sat me down when I was 16 and fu**** explained me all of this crap! But I am guessing the men around me in my life didn't know half of this either.
Hi Dan, whenever someone belittles me, tries to pick on me, treats me like I am nothing or is doing something wrong and unfair with me, I am not able to properly stand up for myself and confront the other person. I get angry and the emotions start controlling me and I sometimes lose my logic. I hesitate in standing up for myself maybe because I want to preserve harmony or not come in bad terms with the other person. Also, it is my nature that I look for validation from other people, try to impress them and gain their reaction and approval. How can I improve myself and handle such situations better ?
1) Understand that you will never be happy if your sense of worth is in the hands of other people. Only you can take care of that. Not even your girlfriend or wife can give you that. It's up to you. 2) Understand that the world isn't always soft, nice, gentle and reassuring. You can't expect all people to be nice, but if you do, you will be disappointed. There are a lot of nice people in this world, but even then, you can't rely on those nice people to always be nice at all time.
I'm not Dan, but maybe i could help you because i was just like you a few years ago. I would sugest to start respectfully and constantly saying what you're feeling about in almost every situation to people, even when your opinion wasn't asked. The more you do it, the more natural it gets and you don't even realize when did you actually lost your anxiety to do it. Also i would recommend to start with simple thoughts you just leave there to people hear, you'll see how people agree with you or just think you were funny, and then, it was a quite good interaction. About standing up for yourself, if the situation really requires that, you can say the best you can with the most logical line you get, but it's completely terrifying at the begining...but that doesn't really matter at all, you have to fight for yourself and say whatever the shit you want to say even tho you"re shaking or something. It's about the courage to do it, you'll get better just with practice. But if the situation isn't that serious, you can leave a joke about it and get off of unecessery drama/fight. Hope that help you man 🙏 God bless you
Dan can you please make a video for the many of us that are not attractive neither magnetic? what is left for us? are we condemned to be single as long as as we live?
I have a question, do you control the playful nature and only express it towards the girl you're interested in? I'm an older brother to two sisters I've been playful all my life, when I let loose and am myself that's pretty much my default. Will my playful nature cause confusion and should I really only be playful towards the girl I'm attracted to?
Hey Dan.... Excellent video as usual. I'm a bit pissed off at something at the moment. I really need your advice. So I met this girl I've been talking to for sometime now and she just likes to act quite upright around me but a bit free with some of her make friends. Sometimes she comes on WhatsApp and replies with one line texts and all... And before you ask, I've been making her feel attracted and all that good stuff that you teach. So I go to her shop today and she wasn't saying much even though I could tell she was happy with my presence there. She was rambling about hanging out with her other male friends but whenever I ask her out, she comes with an excuse. How do I handle this girl? Also, how do I address an issue of a girl not being expressive over chats without coming off as needy?
Proceed as though you’re in the friend zone (hurts to hear, but based on what you’ve shared, it sounds 99% like you’re stuck in the friend zone) - usually the best way to get out of the friend zone is to largely, if not entirely, disengage. Take what you’ve learned and practice with new girls. In rare cases, it can result in a girl coming back around when she senses that you could get another girl easily, but the longer you keep giving a girl free attention who’s friend zoned you, the deeper into her friend zone you sink. That’s been my personal experience many a time in my 37 years.
1) You shouldn't be asking a girl like that out. Instead, you should invite her to a party that you're going to, or if you're going to meet up with some friends on a Friday, or Saturday night, invite her and her friends to join you and your friends to party. That way, she has more incentive because she can invite her single girlfriends who want to meet a guy. 2) Switch to voice texts, or when she replies via text to a text you've sent - call her on the spot and then attract her on a call 3) You can also playfully address the obstacle (i.e. laugh and lightheartedly say, "Hey, every time I suggest you and I catching up, you have some sort of excuse. Do you hate me that much?" and she will likely then laugh and say that she doesn't hate you and you can then suggest catching up for a drink, a coffee, or to hang out). Cheers, Dan
The way to not be needy is to not need her, don't try to pretend, be. How? Get a journal and go and meet other girls with cold approaches. Make sure you exude sex-worthyness in your dress sense, have some default openers but know the mating dance so that you can progress further. Write down your partial successes, think of it as a skill. This one is not expressive because she isn't attracted to you. Attract her and she will jump out of the friend zone. When she does, lean back. DON't tell her you like her. She will assume that other girls like you, don't dissuade her from the notion. Reward her when she does something you like, with "Good girl", or "Well done, I approve of the way you described your passion". Next time you see her, you can try, "Hey, nice shoes?", "Thanks", "Do you think they'll ever come back in style?" - do it with warmth and a slight smirk. Be slightly cocky, playful, the prize (you have to work on that). Wait for her reaction and enjoy it. Draw it out. Eventually add, "I'm just kidding. All fashion goes in a 5 year cycle, I'm sure it will hit the zeitgeist again in 2030." If she throws one back at you, laugh and agree. Visualise it in your head, with your attitude, etc. Lean back physically and psychically and emotionally. Cut the conversation one a high point. Think of her as your bratty little sister or a clingy ex-girlfriend.
Hey Dan 👋 Thank you for your videos...I m getting better...❤ I m a different person now 🙏💞 Please make a video on how to approach or what to say first time introducing yourself.
Hey Dan, how do you do brother? Puttin' MAC on a side, do you still guarantee success by purchading The Flow? Is it in your opinion the best way to go to get massive results? 🐺
It depends on what you need help with. At Master Attraction, you will learn all of the traits that make women feel sexually and romantically attracted to you, but it's not all at once - that would be too difficult for the learner because there are 124 traits. As mentioned in the video (with screenshots), members of Master Attraction have been getting amazing results with women after learning just the first 2 traits. What I teach at Master Attraction is that powerful. It's all new. It's a new level of learning and insight that I could never teach before. That said, as thousands of men around the world know, the products at The Modern Man are amazing and get you amazing results with women. However, it's important to point out that what I teach at Master Attraction has not been taught at The Modern Man and vice versa. Watch this video to learn more about how Master Attraction will help you level up and get mastery level results with women: www.masterattraction.com/lessons Cheers, Dan 👍
I'm using dating apps and at the one side I'm trying to get a gf, but on the other I'm also just looking for casual sex. Some women i match with are obviously just looking for casual sex, but with those i kinda struggle to get on a date with ( hook up ), but then the ones that are clearly looking for a relationship it's kinda easy to.. Idk how to handle the casual ones the right way and just come to the point. Often I'm able to make her agree to " let's meet" but then they take ages to reply / actually arrange a date..
Hi Dan QUESTION…. What do you say about sending a mildly flirtatious gif to a woman you have known for years and have had a playful sexual tension for many years but never spoke about it. What’s your insight? As if a playful hint. I do not ever call or text her so she’s got plenty of space.
Dan, just wondering: I’m getting old now (60’s) and have been and am still pretty successful with wooing the ladies but I find your videos very useful even at my age. I have to say your photos of women’s facial expressions are spot on for portraying the emotions you are talking about at certain points in your advice. Do you take those shots yourself or are they publisher stock videos you select from?
Hello Dan, I'm currently talking with a girl and doing a very good job. Whenever we talk, she keeps laughing and the conversations are going very well. I am satisfied with myself but she herself never initiates communication. She never initiates text or call or festival greetings or snaps on snapchat. I know it is man's responsibility to take lead and I have shown enough interest. Is it a negative sign that she is not initiating ?
Don't be a woman's texting buddy via text. The purpose of texting a woman is to attract her and arrange a meetup, not text like her girlfriend, or friend. For instructions on how to text women, watch my playlist of videos on the topic: ua-cam.com/video/spCdxFxuFIg/v-deo.html
DAN: I find many Australian women NOT Feminine! Hard for me to get that excited @ these "masculine" women: Dress trashy, talk like men, swear in public...Suggestions??? Am I too picky? Or should I just go to Russia?❤❤
I am pretty sure you will find some odd ball from Australian women who is not like what you expressed. It would be difficult, but its not impossible. I myself have been dating from outside my culture, my gf is from another country. Since last 4 years. And the reason is, I simply did not find the woman of the type and standards I had for a life partner. Until I found her. We both are religious anyways, but yeah... you do you. A lot of different things matter in this.
HOLY SHIT! THIS SHIT IS FUCKING REAL! 🤯 I just had a CRAZY better day than I've ever had! I've always been the nice guy because I can't stand the idea of being mean or putting others down, but it's always failed because I was chasing an idea of being a good person, but roller coasters that Only go up move slow like elevators. I hated the manosphere because it comes off so negative. This was the best presentation that got me to understand the funny side and let go of my head space. The funny part was that ... teasing playfully worked, but then I had no idea what to do for the follow up. 😂 I kept slumping along and the convo did keep moving. I've heard MANY other teachers. Your breakdown feels Far more on point. Not giving what to say, but why certain things work and others don't. I'm definitely gonna get this course.
My problem is somewhat bizarre. Women do not like me, like flat out dislike me- but will often sleep with me? I’m not particularly popular with men either. Has anyone else seen this pattern?
I’ve been using Dan’s techniques for years. I’m over 50. I’ve had more in my fifties than in my twenties
Cool. Are there any products?
How do you deal with the younger ones when she asks your age?
@@downthestretch85I say ‘old enough to know better and young enough to enjoy ourselves together’. And I’m older than 50’s and getting more than ever.
@@russ9921 I raise a toast to you sir. My girl is 23 and I'm not haha.
@@downthestretch85 "Why do you ask..... oh, so you can call me daddy under the bed-sheets, whilst you moan", when she persists, take her arms and say - "Old enough to know how to bring the best out of you."
This is seriously the best dating content on UA-cam 👍
Interesting move I did the other day with the woman I am in the friend zone with. We were talking and someone who joined the conversation asked if I was her husband. I said “no, I am not her husband yet.” She briefly got a look on her face but rather than get her to see me as a creep and drive her away it seemed to have the opposite effect. Following that our hugs started lasting longer. I see progress, like I am gradually winning her over.
It sounds like you are RJ! Congrats on becoming more confident. Cheers, Dan 👍
Awesome
I think you need to tweak it in your head with an affirmation, that she is winning you over - until you absolutely believe it. Something better would have been, "No, I'm her sixth ex-husband, we're discussing who keeps the cats and who takes the holiday home with the wide-screen TV."
Dan, you're the man of the era!
I can say Dan is 100% correct on this. I was an introvert. A nerd. Skinny. Super tall. As a guy in my teens/earjy 20s I felt unattractive and thought I would never get a girlfriend let 23:10 alone get married. But all that changed in my mid to later 20s after graduating university and moving to Toronto. Had a bit more confidence gained from my work, and I filled out a bit. Was always a bit of a wallflower, but women would approach me from time to time which increased my confidence. Got married. She actually approached me. Lol!
Fast forward 30 yrs. I’ve been widowed since 2020. Started looking into on-line dating one year ago. That’s a whole other story, but what I want to say, is that I’ve adopted the I don’t give an F attitude around women. I let my hair grow long. I can flirt effortlessly now with any women in person. Like Dan says, it is actually so easy. Even get younger women noticing me and flirting with them. I think a lot of it has to do with me be older/married/widowed/wiser, but there is no reason younger guys cannot act the same. It really comes down to being confident, not worrying about what women think, and having a bit of charm. These are things any guy can do and accomplish and it has nothing to do with looks.
Hello Dan, you are saving my marriage. Thanks
Love your examples😂❤
I wish somebody sat me down when I was 16 and fu**** explained me all of this crap! But I am guessing the men around me in my life didn't know half of this either.
I felt that you hit it right to the point. A very good content to watch.
He is to female psychology what elon musk is to rockets
Yo 14:51 had me laughing so fuckin hard 🤣🤣🤣
Lmao! My challenging joking humor always comes off as insults.
I'm autistic.
Then say that. It shows that you can don't take yourself too seriously. It will make her laugh.
Great work Dan
Hey Dan, thanks to u I have options!
Awesome man. Glad to hear it's working for you too! 👍
Great info!!
Hi Dan, whenever someone belittles me, tries to pick on me, treats me like I am nothing or is doing something wrong and unfair with me, I am not able to properly stand up for myself and confront the other person. I get angry and the emotions start controlling me and I sometimes lose my logic. I hesitate in standing up for myself maybe because I want to preserve harmony or not come in bad terms with the other person. Also, it is my nature that I look for validation from other people, try to impress them and gain their reaction and approval. How can I improve myself and handle such situations better ?
1) Understand that you will never be happy if your sense of worth is in the hands of other people. Only you can take care of that. Not even your girlfriend or wife can give you that. It's up to you. 2) Understand that the world isn't always soft, nice, gentle and reassuring. You can't expect all people to be nice, but if you do, you will be disappointed. There are a lot of nice people in this world, but even then, you can't rely on those nice people to always be nice at all time.
I'm not Dan, but maybe i could help you because i was just like you a few years ago.
I would sugest to start respectfully and constantly saying what you're feeling about in almost every situation to people, even when your opinion wasn't asked. The more you do it, the more natural it gets and you don't even realize when did you actually lost your anxiety to do it.
Also i would recommend to start with simple thoughts you just leave there to people hear, you'll see how people agree with you or just think you were funny, and then, it was a quite good interaction.
About standing up for yourself, if the situation really requires that, you can say the best you can with the most logical line you get, but it's completely terrifying at the begining...but that doesn't really matter at all, you have to fight for yourself and say whatever the shit you want to say even tho you"re shaking or something. It's about the courage to do it, you'll get better just with practice. But if the situation isn't that serious, you can leave a joke about it and get off of unecessery drama/fight.
Hope that help you man 🙏 God bless you
Some really sage advice, Dan
🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 wow! Very excellent and incredibly thorough tutorial. Masterfully done. Thanks! Bravo Dan.
Thanks as always Stefan. Glad you enjoyed the video. Cheers, Dan
Dan can you please make a video for the many of us that are not attractive neither magnetic? what is left for us? are we condemned to be single as long as as we live?
Love your content, Dan 👌
Cheers! Glad you're enjoying it 👍
the Baconator comes through again! Thanks Dan.....
Dan you do great! Pl continue. Thank you ❤ Happy New Year 2025!!💐🎄🎁🎉🎊
Great stuff
Hope you still have the flow available for purchases
Dan you’ve been helpful for me to understand women. So I’m curious, what’s loving dominance? Like shutting her up with a kiss?
I do yoga and meditate when I'm asleep.
I want to applaude the quality of this video image BEFORE I watch it. I’m sure I will like the video after watching but that is quite the choice image
Thanks Dan 👍
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I have a question, do you control the playful nature and only express it towards the girl you're interested in? I'm an older brother to two sisters I've been playful all my life, when I let loose and am myself that's pretty much my default. Will my playful nature cause confusion and should I really only be playful towards the girl I'm attracted to?
Hey Dan.... Excellent video as usual. I'm a bit pissed off at something at the moment. I really need your advice. So I met this girl I've been talking to for sometime now and she just likes to act quite upright around me but a bit free with some of her make friends. Sometimes she comes on WhatsApp and replies with one line texts and all... And before you ask, I've been making her feel attracted and all that good stuff that you teach. So I go to her shop today and she wasn't saying much even though I could tell she was happy with my presence there. She was rambling about hanging out with her other male friends but whenever I ask her out, she comes with an excuse. How do I handle this girl?
Also, how do I address an issue of a girl not being expressive over chats without coming off as needy?
Proceed as though you’re in the friend zone (hurts to hear, but based on what you’ve shared, it sounds 99% like you’re stuck in the friend zone) - usually the best way to get out of the friend zone is to largely, if not entirely, disengage. Take what you’ve learned and practice with new girls. In rare cases, it can result in a girl coming back around when she senses that you could get another girl easily, but the longer you keep giving a girl free attention who’s friend zoned you, the deeper into her friend zone you sink. That’s been my personal experience many a time in my 37 years.
1) You shouldn't be asking a girl like that out. Instead, you should invite her to a party that you're going to, or if you're going to meet up with some friends on a Friday, or Saturday night, invite her and her friends to join you and your friends to party. That way, she has more incentive because she can invite her single girlfriends who want to meet a guy. 2) Switch to voice texts, or when she replies via text to a text you've sent - call her on the spot and then attract her on a call 3) You can also playfully address the obstacle (i.e. laugh and lightheartedly say, "Hey, every time I suggest you and I catching up, you have some sort of excuse. Do you hate me that much?" and she will likely then laugh and say that she doesn't hate you and you can then suggest catching up for a drink, a coffee, or to hang out). Cheers, Dan
Why not just move on to another girl?
The way to not be needy is to not need her, don't try to pretend, be. How? Get a journal and go and meet other girls with cold approaches. Make sure you exude sex-worthyness in your dress sense, have some default openers but know the mating dance so that you can progress further. Write down your partial successes, think of it as a skill. This one is not expressive because she isn't attracted to you. Attract her and she will jump out of the friend zone. When she does, lean back. DON't tell her you like her. She will assume that other girls like you, don't dissuade her from the notion. Reward her when she does something you like, with "Good girl", or "Well done, I approve of the way you described your passion". Next time you see her, you can try, "Hey, nice shoes?", "Thanks", "Do you think they'll ever come back in style?" - do it with warmth and a slight smirk. Be slightly cocky, playful, the prize (you have to work on that). Wait for her reaction and enjoy it. Draw it out. Eventually add, "I'm just kidding. All fashion goes in a 5 year cycle, I'm sure it will hit the zeitgeist again in 2030." If she throws one back at you, laugh and agree. Visualise it in your head, with your attitude, etc. Lean back physically and psychically and emotionally. Cut the conversation one a high point. Think of her as your bratty little sister or a clingy ex-girlfriend.
Hey Dan 👋
Thank you for your videos...I m getting better...❤ I m a different person now 🙏💞
Please make a video on how to approach or what to say first time introducing yourself.
HES THE GOAT ♥️🧿
Hey Dan, how do you do brother?
Puttin' MAC on a side, do you still guarantee success by purchading The Flow?
Is it in your opinion the best way to go to get massive results?
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Question Dan: How to respond if the woman is trying to one up me, and playfully chalennge me?
Good sftuff, Dan!
Hey Dan , if someone has your other courses , do you think they need master attraction lessons as well?
It depends on what you need help with. At Master Attraction, you will learn all of the traits that make women feel sexually and romantically attracted to you, but it's not all at once - that would be too difficult for the learner because there are 124 traits. As mentioned in the video (with screenshots), members of Master Attraction have been getting amazing results with women after learning just the first 2 traits. What I teach at Master Attraction is that powerful. It's all new. It's a new level of learning and insight that I could never teach before. That said, as thousands of men around the world know, the products at The Modern Man are amazing and get you amazing results with women. However, it's important to point out that what I teach at Master Attraction has not been taught at The Modern Man and vice versa. Watch this video to learn more about how Master Attraction will help you level up and get mastery level results with women: www.masterattraction.com/lessons Cheers, Dan 👍
Thanks bro cheers 🍺
I'm using dating apps and at the one side I'm trying to get a gf, but on the other I'm also just looking for casual sex.
Some women i match with are obviously just looking for casual sex, but with those i kinda struggle to get on a date with ( hook up ), but then the ones that are clearly looking for a relationship it's kinda easy to..
Idk how to handle the casual ones the right way and just come to the point.
Often I'm able to make her agree to " let's meet" but then they take ages to reply / actually arrange a date..
If it takes "ages", you block her (in my opinion). Lack of enthusiasm is evidence.
Because she's waiting to see if you will take charge. Try telling her that you want to see her right now.
Hi Dan QUESTION…. What do you say about sending a mildly flirtatious gif to a woman you have known for years and have had a playful sexual tension for many years but never spoke about it. What’s your insight? As if a playful hint. I do not ever call or text her so she’s got plenty of space.
Dan, just wondering: I’m getting old now (60’s) and have been and am still pretty successful with wooing the ladies but I find your videos very useful even at my age. I have to say your photos of women’s facial expressions are spot on for portraying the emotions you are talking about at certain points in your advice. Do you take those shots yourself or are they publisher stock videos you select from?
Hello Dan, I'm currently talking with a girl and doing a very good job. Whenever we talk, she keeps laughing and the conversations are going very well. I am satisfied with myself but she herself never initiates communication. She never initiates text or call or festival greetings or snaps on snapchat. I know it is man's responsibility to take lead and I have shown enough interest. Is it a negative sign that she is not initiating ?
Don't be a woman's texting buddy via text. The purpose of texting a woman is to attract her and arrange a meetup, not text like her girlfriend, or friend. For instructions on how to text women, watch my playlist of videos on the topic: ua-cam.com/video/spCdxFxuFIg/v-deo.html
Hi Dan, if I meet a girl in person and intend to arrange a meetup every weekend then should we not be talking over text every day until then?
DAN: I find many Australian women NOT Feminine! Hard for me to get that excited @ these "masculine" women: Dress trashy, talk like men, swear in public...Suggestions???
Am I too picky? Or should I just go to Russia?❤❤
F-"em.
Central and Eastern European women are the hottest in the world. I like your thinking, brother.
I am pretty sure you will find some odd ball from Australian women who is not like what you expressed. It would be difficult, but its not impossible.
I myself have been dating from outside my culture, my gf is from another country. Since last 4 years. And the reason is, I simply did not find the woman of the type and standards I had for a life partner. Until I found her.
We both are religious anyways, but yeah... you do you. A lot of different things matter in this.
Danny 👍boy
Hi Dan, you are my favorite coach / youtube channel. I make progress constantly. I would like to meet you. I think you can learn from me as well.
Great to hear of your progress! It only gets better from there 👍
6:15 One of the most awful feelings you can experience in your life…
HOLY SHIT! THIS SHIT IS FUCKING REAL! 🤯 I just had a CRAZY better day than I've ever had! I've always been the nice guy because I can't stand the idea of being mean or putting others down, but it's always failed because I was chasing an idea of being a good person, but roller coasters that Only go up move slow like elevators. I hated the manosphere because it comes off so negative. This was the best presentation that got me to understand the funny side and let go of my head space. The funny part was that ... teasing playfully worked, but then I had no idea what to do for the follow up. 😂 I kept slumping along and the convo did keep moving.
I've heard MANY other teachers. Your breakdown feels Far more on point. Not giving what to say, but why certain things work and others don't. I'm definitely gonna get this course.
Is that your living room?
It's my home office
@DanBacon_ It looks great
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First! 🎉
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My problem is somewhat bizarre. Women do not like me, like flat out dislike me- but will often sleep with me? I’m not particularly popular with men either. Has anyone else seen this pattern?