Oh I have to disagree. Living alone is horrible. At least you know someone is walking through the door.. imagine yourself sitting all night with no noise .. no one walking through that door or opening a fridge.
Our 85 year old neighbor lives alone and she loves it. We check on her every morning and she frequently goes out with her friends. My favorite though is at the end of day I see her floating on her raft in the pool with her glass of Malibu Coconut Run. She is so content.
I'm 74, and I love living alone. I don't have anyone to answer to, cook dinner for, etc. If I want conversation, I can text friends or family. It's glorious.
I’m 71 years old. My husband died. I don’t have children. I’m an introvert so it’s no problem being alone. The only thing I miss is being special to someone.
Hi Hettie . Now that you are alone you will see it as an advantage of all you care about. But at the other way is a disadvantage when you can’t help your self when you needed it most. Remember to think twice. Hettie de korte.
Hettie, I totally get you. I'm 65 and never married. I'm also an introvert and love living alone. I had 13 revolving roommates in college and will never live with someone else again.
I divorced after 31 VERY LONG years of marriage, and I absolutely ADORE living alone! I can’t image ever living with someone else again, except for my cat, of course! 🐱
@@cintiapollock2486 I felt like that in my marriage and then a miracle happening and he got the midnight shift and I got sleep alone. That got me through 5 more years. 12 long years in total. I've lived alone for 11 years now. PURE BLISS! It's better if you don't know how great it is. God bliss and stay sane. YES, it will be a blessing. Do it as soon as possible, lol.
Oh heck, no!! For me there is NO SADNESS about being alone. I absolutely LOVE being alone... ALL THE TIME. Of course I go out and do my shopping and otherwise get out of my home, but I'm always happy to come back home and be alone. I think if people are happy with themselves, they will not get lonely. I've never been lonely a day in my life and I'm 71 years only now. Been alone for many, many years.
Totally agree. I wouldn't know how to live with another person at this time in my life. Love my independence and freedom. Have a full life, seeing friends, volunteering at an art gallery, visiting my family and traveling abroad.
Divorced after 33 years of marriage and I live alone and I absolutely love it. Don’t want to pick up after a man any longer. Love doing what I want and when I want. 💝
Same for me. No kids, but my ex was an emotional child for those 33 years so I learned LONG ago to be strong and independent. Now I revel in my solitude - go out and interact when I want with who I want, take care of my dog and horse, live in a brand new travel trailer the size of a little cottage, adore my bonsai forest and have a long-distance boyfriend. We're crazy about each other, and distance keeps it that way.
Amen sister!! I don’t mind having male friends to do things with on occasions, but the thought of allowing a man to control my day, mood, money , body etc. l am delivered from that after 33 yrs. 🙌💕 Blessings to you all🙏💕
I had someone suggest I find a partner for company. I advise them that men are not company because they just sit and watch TV and are just extra work such as cooking or laundry. I had two relationships and I was extremely lonely in both of them so living alone is a blessing.
@@LCMxox : Yes, feeling lonely in the mist of your supposed loved one is the worst feeling in the world! I’ve been alone now for 21 years. I’ve never felt lonely!
Totally understand! I have a friend with benefits IF I choose to that part. He lives a 4 hour drive from me so if he decides to come up for a visit, he knows that he needs to let me know in case I'm out. He's highly intelligent, attractive to look at, sweet kind and gentle ... and 18 years younger than I at 68. I'd never consider living with someone as I have my Cavalier King Charles spaniel who keeps me smiling. Living alone was rather daunting at the beginning but I wouldn't change my idea of living alone with my pooch. I know so many women who think the same way as I. None want another man living under the same roof, but they do like having a man to go to the theatre, etc ... but apart from that they love it. However living the single life does impact financially as a couple living together seem to receive double the income more than for singles as we still have to pay the full housing costs that couples can share half of it, same for electricity, and medications as they can reach the limit of free scripts by combining their free prescription limits so receive the full costs as a single person needs to reach to be eligible for free prescriptions. I spend about $100/month, but they only have to reach the same combined spending limit as I do as a single person. They can also share the costs of living costs, and so very much more while single person has to pay double for the couple who are able to share their costs, for what the couples can share but a single still has to reach double the same cost limits that many single women have to reach before they are eligible for the same things. It seems to me that governments don't seem to comprehend .... we singles have to reach double of everything compared to couples living with the same costs. This really makes me angry because the baby boomer women always had to work harder than the men, and only the men were invited to join the superannuation fund, but they said that women don't need it to raise a family that single women did even though we had to support our children, and usually their fathers didn't do. It came a very cruel life for women just because they choose to live without a man in our lives .... and that seems very unfair to women who had to do it alone for many years. Not the right way to get the votes for politicians... in Australia I can see a lot of the pollies who won't be getting a lot of what they refer to safe seats, but unless they do something to make life easier for single women, they won't have their cushy jobs after the next election!
Wrapping up a very difficult 9-year cohabitation situation and going my own way! Just bought a house in a state far far away from this one. I've lived alone before and took my peace for granted. I'm 67 now and excited to live alone again. I can't imagine being in another relationship. Besides, the pool of men at this age is not something I want to dip my toe into. Leftovers (meaning, broken unwanted), health issues, stuff like that. Enough mistakes I've made. Clean slate, fresh start, positive energy only. Also, a friend and I have talked about the idea of community living with other ladies, as you mentioned in your video. Our thought was buying land and having tiny homes on them.
Lonely at times. But most of the time I like it. Everything is my way, lol! I am 68 and have been divorced for over 30 years. I honestly don't think I could live with someone now.
I love living alone, I like doing lots of things by myself, galleries, museums, walking, photography, etc. I like my own space, with my own things placed where I want them, watching the films I want, whatsapp video messaging is there if I want to see and speak to people just now in all this crazy world stuff
Absolutely love living alone. Raised my kids. Have enough income to pay my bills. Divorced once, widowed once. I only invite the people into my world that make life pleasant. Luckily I guess, I didn’t have the type of male partners that I got to depend on over the years. I eat what I want, when I want, I started learning about watercolor,, learning German. With Covid I am even more content in my own personal world.
poppy flower: oh yes! I most definitely have a cat! A sweet girl who doesn’t invade my space unless she’s hungry or needs a head rub. But happy to hang by my side in peace.
I'm going through a divorce after 23 years. My first husband died from cancer. I'm done with men. I'm fighting for my house on 2 acres. No neighbors. So peaceful. It's me and my furbabies from here on out. I have wonderful kids and grandkids to come over and visit if I get lonely. I can trust them.
I love living alone. I was married once for eleven years. I didn’t know how miserable I was until after my divorce. You can breathe. You can live for yourself. 🌸🦋
I like my own company and can come and go as I please. If you want to be social you can do. No cooking or cleaning up after a husband who has no interest in anything except playing games on his phone. The house just the way you want and control over your life. Unless you are lucky enough to have met the love of your life and nothing they do is a bother its better to have your own space. I am glad of the uplifting stories on this video.
After 37yr relationship ended last year, I have started living alone. I love it !! My time is my own. If I feel down on the odd day or two, I take myself out and about in the sunshine. Or go for a train ride to some place I have never been . An occasional down day on my own is 100 times better than a good day in a bad relationship. I will never give up my independence again.
Thank you for this and all the comments. I was married for 37 yrs. Sudden divorce. I am 66 yrs. All my friends want me to meet someone. My friend said but do you want to die alone. I told her the unless you plan a " Thelma and Louise" scenario, we all die alone. I love this chapter. Thank you
I'm 51 and was married for 17 years and have been living on my own for a few years now and love it!!! I plan on keeping it this way because the idea of being bothered just doesn't appeal to me.
I've lived alone for 25 years now and I love it. All my neighbours feel sorry for me thinking I must be lonely but I'm not. It's so nice being able to have a nap and not have someone demand you get out of bed, or be running around cleaning up their mess so they can make it again. I have my dog and he's enough for me, he makes a mess but doesn't expect me to clean it up for him.
It is really comforting to see how many people live alone. Sometimes it feels like there is only a few of us. I like this better than living with someone you have to cater to. Cook, clean, enduring their problems. And possibly their family problems.
Living alone is GREAT! Do it ladies! It's hard to go back to living with ANYONE once you have. Pets make wonderful guards and companions. You really don't need more than a pet.
I can't imagine ever giving up my space again. There is no way to put all this back into Pandora's Vase. Even if it was still intact, I'd crush it with a hammer to prevent it! LOL...
Since my husband died,five years ago,I am up and down. Now I am more selfconfident,because I see its possible to do a lot of things alone. But somerimes my house seems so empty and I am sad..
That's a weird observation. I make about 2 personal calls a year. My wife (who is hispanic) calls her family/friends about 1,000 times per year. At least three per night. I've also worked at a few companies where women had to be reprimanded for excessive social calls during work hours. I've never seen that happen to men.
After 54yrs of marriage I divorced the narcissist. I love living alone…have lots of friends and great family….and my 14 yr old Lab. After many very tumultuous yrs, God prepared me for this I’m sure. Truly blessed I love myself and am grateful.
I know this video is old but I just wanted to say I divorced my narcissist husband after 45 yrs of marriage. I love living alone now….at peace…with my dog and cat❤️
Normally I don't comment but I wanted to reach out and say how much I appreciate your channel and your gentle, uplifting demeanor. I am 62 and due to circumstances, I will be beginning a new and different life alone. It's both exciting and scary for me. I hope you are doing alright today.
Hi there J Mitch ... can I suggest you use the word ‘solo’ ... instead of alone. I’m solo ... but I’m not alone even though I’m on my own. Good luck in your new life ... value every moment, and though you feel it’s scary ... shall we change the word scary to ‘exciting’ .... 🤗 I’m sure you have happy days are ahead xx
Hang in there, I live by myself for the past 33 years and love it. I'm never lonely, bored or depressed. I have a small piece of land that keeps me busy with gardening and whatnot. I vacation, go to church and share time with my church friends. I spend some time helping elderly people in need(very rewarding). Living by myself is a great learning experience. I'm very happy enjoying my life at my own pace. Notice I say living by myself, that's because I don't feel alone, so I don't use the word alone. I thank God for that.
RE: Living Alone Fabulous!!! Peaceful!!! Happy!!!! No drama!!! Freedom!!! I will be 62 years old in August 2021. I am still working full-time. I have few friends. I have 1 female cat. I like to have 1 male 🐈 to keep my baby Angel companion while I away from home for work. I love my life now. I do nit want to change my current lifestyle. I love to read, walking, and planting plants. Thank you for sharing many ideas. May GOD bless all the ALONER in this world. I will retire in 5 years and 6 months.
I enjoy living alone. It would be nice to have companionship however I can't complain. I have peace! I thank God for getting me to this point to see the goodness and blessings in my life.
sharon mardis your comment was 9 months ago, so you probably don't remember what you said, but I feel the same about "living alone". Living alone is quite selfish...ie, I eat, what, when & where I like, I make the bed, or not...everything is the painted the color I want (in my home), I go where I want, when I want & the way I way...etc. I do like living alone...someone described me as my personality being "alone in a crowd". I had never heard that before, but that is true about me. I don't like hanging out with other women & from experience, men (most men) can't be a "friend", they want more & with NO TIES. I agree with what you said!!!!!! Judie
@@jameshurst3552 I’m doing great! My wildflower garden is at full, glorious expression & I’ve just switched to a vegan diet which has me feeling inspired and lighter. Thanks for asking!
I'm 67 and love living alone. I have a caregiver furnished by my health insurance who brings my groceries, throws the trash, gets my mail and helps with whatever I need that I can't do for myself, but other than that, I'm independent. I raised three kids as a single parent, had a demanding career, and now it's Me time. I love life now. Before I retired, I was always "dancing as fast as I can." Now I enjoy doing what I want to do. All the hobbies I had to steal time to do before, now I can indulge in to my heart's content. It's great! Thanks for asking. I love your channel.
I have my own home, but rarely live there. I visit and travel, I also love being alone. I've been married three times, divorced twice and widowed once...done with marriage and men for the most part. I live for me, my kiddos and grands. I don't dislike men, but I think I pick poorly so being alone suits me fine.
Love living alone! I was a divorced, single mom who went back to college and finished my degree, had a great career, and I'm now enjoying retirement. I like my own company, love to read and learn, and doing my own thing. I am choosey about the people I invite into my little world. I certainly enjoy my freedom! I, too, am an introvert.
My husband passed away five years ago. I have been on my own ever since. i’d love it. I can eat when I want to, clean house when I want to, go to bed when I want to. I have independence, freedom, I am still working so I do have an income that supports a nice lifestyle at the moment. I don’t need anything. My granddaughter lives about an hour away. So I see family when I want to.Yes, sometimes it is lonely but I just get up and do some thing.
I love living alone. Dating overwhelms me. I need boundaries and it seems like older men think we older women want a “constant” companion. I can’t deal with the uninvited knocks on my door and too many phone calls. I try to be kind and above all honest about needing my space, but when by boundaries are ignored I get irritated. I just prefer not to date at all rather than deal with these issues. I wonder if anyone else feels this way or if I have just become a control freak loner.
I hear you too. The loneliness you feel is tough. Very tough. The older I get the more i believe that the way way you feel so alone while in company is deliberately inflicted and not just thoughtlessness. People should behave better. I’m sorry for you @dianefrangie People are mean, but not all people.
My soulmate, my husband died suddenly of a brain bleed 18 mo ago.😢 I now at age 60 live alone with my 2 beloved dogs. I am lonely for my old & wonderful life, but trying my best to adjust to this new “normal.” I stumbled upon your channel in hopes of some ideas & inspiration on living alone at 60. Thank you for this channel & May God Bless🩷🙏
I live alone & love it. My boyfriend had back surgery & stayed with me for a month or so. We got along very well but I finally had to ask him to go home that I needed my alone time
I can do whatever, whenever I want to, go wherever I want to, and be with whoever I want to. What's not to like about that? No one around to get on my nerves. If anything goes wrong it's my fault and It's pretty hard to get upset with myself. I'm comfortable being alone without feeling lonely. If I do start feeling lonely then I pick up my phone and call a friend or family member. Wouldn't have it any other way 😊
I live alone with my 19 lb. Kitty. She is so much company and yet wants her independence at times. Was married for 30 years and was abused and lonely most of the time. I love not having to ask permission and can choose my dreams and wants to my timetable now being retired. If I get lonely and reflective, I call or meet friends to create new memories. I've your channel and the positive support and encouragement you give us ladies. I hope we collectively give you the same in return.
I am alone but not by choice. My husband passed away in Switzerland while we were on a cruise. We were married almost 64 years and he was indeed the love of my life. I have quilting friends that have really helped me and a very giving Church. Going to Church is hard as we always did that together. Women who are also widows have helped me by giving me info on how they cope with the emptiness. I live in a nice house but now I have to take care of everything which at times is a big job. I have 2 boys who live far away so when they visit I have a list I need help with. I have been busy dealing with all the paperwork that has to be done but I hope I am almost finished. I am adjusting but I miss my husband terribly.
After 42 years of marriage, which I loved. Husband passed. I really am enjoying my living alone. And I thank all the ladies for there stories. I thought I was crazy, because I like being on my own. Thank you.....
I've lived by myself since I left and divorced my husband in 2016. Exactly 6 years ago!! Loving it. Sometimes I get depressed but all I have to do is remember being married and abused. Then my depression disappears!!
Married for 37yrs and now divorced. I’ve been living on my own for 3yrs now and love it. I bought a small condo and enjoy my peaceful, lovely space. ❤️
I live alone. I have never been happier. I raised my children and then a grand child, I was a hands on single, working mom for 50, yes 50 years! I cherish all the life experiences I had with my family, but feel so good, enjoying solitude. I am an artist and sewist, I enjoy reading. I enjoy the time I can spend doing what I want to do. I don’t watch tv, I like tutorials and making things. I now live in a senior apartment, this is the life I envisioned. However not everyone feels the same way. I have a neighbor who constantly complains about boredom. She says that what she envisioned moving here was visiting with neighbors, social activities, etc. so we all do not aspire for sameness.
This video is just what I needed to hear. I have to say it's been hard work building a new life after my husband passed. I'm very grateful for my life but I totally related to your comments, Margaret, about having someone in your life that cares for you. Most days are great - but - there are moments. Thank you so much for your honesty.
I am turning 87 l live alone but l am not lonely. My days are filled, l am an artist working in mixed media but recently discovered acrylic and l love the flexibility of acrylics. I also write, read a lot, l am learning so much from my computer on every subject one can think about. I must admit come early evening preparing dinner for one is not my cup of tea, l miss someone not just anyone a man with whom l can laugh with, discuss daily events, relax with, look forward to tomorrow with, to love and be loved by the sense of male security, someone not just anyone to say goodnight too. Turn to him in bed in a cuddle and off to sleep. I miss that, l miss the morning coffee he made and brought to me. I miss him.
I am dancing alone, sleeping alone, and I have a 'partner' of 10 years. I have lived alone before and I am plotting my escape. He is not abusive, just not interested or interesting. My freedom is making its way to me....
Been divorced for years, kids finally flown the nest, and living alone for the first time in my life. Mostly, I love it. I can read, or write, or whatever else I feel like doing to suit myself. If I can't sleep, and crave curry at 3am, I will cook it and really enjoy it. I don't have to worry about disturbing anyone, or neglecting them; they are all off doing their own thing and I'm free to do mine. I do still see them often - some more often than others, but that's life. I'm happy to have company when I choose to, both friends and family, I love them dearly. But this is my time now. I have so much still to learn, and see, and places I want to visit - I've waited a long time for this, I intend to make the most of my senior years. And I need to be left alone to do that.
I have been alone (divorced) for 30 years. I love every minute of it. I have a lovely wonderful family of children and grandchildren and we all keep in touch. I think one of the things that works for me is my hobbies. I am busy. I have friends, church involvement and I am a life long learner. I really try to help other people. I eat when I want to, sleep when I want to and I don’t answer to someone when I am going to be home! I have a wonderful dog and two cats. We have a great home!
Great topic! I love living alone. I raised three daughter's, I am single. I am living my best life. When I feel alone ,I just read the bible. I realize I am never really alone. I dance, I exercise, I read books, I entertain myself. I spent the first half of my adult life on others, the remaining life I have is making me happy. However, I will always engage and help others then come home alone. Yes! God bless you all.
I often joke that I can barely live with myself let alone anyone else. But it's kinda true. I am "somewhat particular" about certain things. I'm 66 and have lived quite happily with only my feline friends since I retired from the USMC in 1996 and moved back to my home state to be near family (we're close so I have not BEEN alone - a big difference there). I then took a second job as a defense contractor for the Army and retired from that in 2017. Since then I've been taking advantage of the extra time to learn new skills and increase time on my jewelry crafting. Besides giving as gifts, I also sell at consignment shops, a few Fall/Winter craft fairs, and occasionally at a large flea market near me, not as a business, just to let some of the build up go and recoup the cost of materials. When I have overstock that doesn't sell at a couple events, I donate it to the local clothes closet associated with the town food pantry. The latest adventure is learning about how to manage a construction project renovating a property I inherited from an aunt a few years ago, the house itself and the landscaping are in dire shape. This decision to renovate came about when I decided to downsize to a single level home - the other house is one level about half the size of this one. The decision to manage it myself came as result of prior experience with having construction managers and knowing the potential for miscommunication, project delays, and of course, the cost. My time is my own so I can devote as much to it as necessary. Still, it's probably a good thing I enjoy a challenge!
I live alone, was married for 7 yrs., and had a few long and short term relationships . Seems that I'm mostly alone, peoplewise, but I have 5 dogs, cats, 7 goats, and 10 horses, so I don't consider myself really alone. My animals are much easier to please than humans. :)
I have been living alone for 21 years. When I am at home it is under my control. I work two jobs and when I shut that door it is my peace and quiet. I feel safe in my home and like it that way.
i always enjoyed my own company. i was widowed 2 years ago and it is the worst, but having my privacy with my two dogs is really making me enjoy my life again.
My mom is turning 90 yrs old & lives alone & she loves it :) I am 65 yrs old & live with my husband & dog. If something was to happen to my husband , my house is very big, & I'd like to stay here. But I'd need help with yard work & maybe have someone come 2 or 3 days a week to help with housework, shopping etc. Because my husband does a lot. So my dream is.... my husband & I & our dog live 4EVER ! Hay it's my dream so it doesn't have to be realistic :) HA !
At least somebody on here sounds like a normal woman. Thank God every day your husband is still alive. I'm a widow and manage with a good, dependable yard man. And thanks to the pandemic, I've learned you can get anything delivered. Haven't been in a store in nearly 14 months.
After being burned by 2 men, at 67, I so enjoy living alone and been that way since 2003. I work full time, I am active in my church and my best friend lives next door. I am just fine!
An old study on marriage found the happiest people were married men and single women. I am 49, never married and lost a lot of my life to being in relationships where I chose the ((perceived) obligation of the relationship over what I really wanted. I don't live alone, I live with my cat (without obligation only adoration). I hope I have him for a very long time but once he is gone, I will live the nomadic life I have wanted for all my life for as long as I can.
Me either, have tried my best, and had a decent prof.working life..BUT do find seniors are overlooked and even though I try to get out, play golf..it is a challenge being alone( different from being lonely)..it is difficult to trust people anymore..sad but true!
Living alone at 67 was different than living alone at 76. Changes come in uninvited, slowly or quickly. I needed to be mindful of, say, less stamina and accept that. If I don’t keep up awareness, it can seem depressing.
I'm 74 soon and I'm living alone and I love having my space! Yes, being alone can lead to loneliness, but finding things to do such as catching up on all the books I never had time for when married or working. Plus there is that bonus of getting up whenever I want, staying up late as I want, and not having to explain myself to anyone. Love it! It is a choice: I choose to be happy.
Living with someone else is a continual source of aggravation. Live with someone, or marry someone, you lose control over everything, everything, including what the dog eats. Petty things, really big things. You lose control. "Don't sweat the small stuff!" Yeah, good advice...but the small stuff piles up. There is, indeed, positive stuff about living with someone, but don't imagine that it won't include negative stuff.
After another divorce, I look forward to living on my own again! Living with a man that rarely talks, watches TV all day long, makes a mess . . . I Am Ready!!!
I am 70 and live in a senior high-rise, each with our own apartments. People have become a good part of living here. I am an introvert, and I really also love coming home and enjoy my cat, birds and satisfaction.
I'm 62 and am so grateful that I live in a country that allows women to be free and independent because I can't imagine being able to live any other way. Also I love that floral screen in the background. It's very beautiful.
Thank you as well for making us believe in ourselves again. May we all, continue to grow from strength to strength and embrace this gift. Life in itself is a gift ! 🇿🇦💕
I separated from my husband 7 years ago, and left a huge detached rural house for a small semi in a city suburb, and I wouldn't ever swap back again. My youngest son came with me initially, then left for 3 years to go to university. In 2017 he came back to live at home with me after graduation and getting a job, and has only just left to share a flat in the town ! So now I'm alone again, but I'm content and don't mind really. I've been doing up this little house and garden in stages, and love doing most of it myself. I think it helps that although I'm a young 61, I still work part time in a medical practice, and also volunteer for the Red Cross so I go to work 5 days a week. This gets me out and about, meeting people all day, and seeing colleagues. I love the fact I can do what I want, decorate how I like, stay in and not go out if I don't feel like it etc. The only thing I miss having a man for is electrical and plumbing work on the house !😁
I'm 55 and been living alone for the past 5 years. My son got married and move to his own place. I'm still working, hope to retire by the end of this year. I do not have any social life except my very young friends/ colleagues. I am afraid of dating. I do go out by myself but not much.
I love my solo life 😌 my home, my rules! I do what I want, watch what I want, play my music as loud as I want 😌 eat what and when I want and can have as much silence as I want x
At 63, in Hawaii, I rent a room in senior group housing. 5 quiet seniors. Lived alone a lot, loved it too! At ages 20s, 30s, and my 50s, married in 30s & 40s. No kids. So happy in my perfect little room, my part time job, bussing(on purpose), and creating my next chapter 🌺🌼👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍
Alyson you have to take another chance into your life. No matter what it takes . You need a need. When you need remember to think twice. Life is too shot....-“.
I lived my life (mostly) with men. I loved the ones I just lived with, and adored my two husbands, one of twenty-five years. However, living by myself since my second husband (and soul mate) died, I have learned what it means to be truly independent. No men ever made me do anything I didn't want to do, but I have learned to relish my private life, just for me. I am a prolific artist, writer and do tarot readings for lovely clients on the phone. I have become better at handling money, and released my compulsive overeating. Now and then I get lonely, but it's rare, and loneliness happens even when one is with others. I am surviving beautifully, and meeting challenges on my own and getting stronger because of it. The men were always my rocks. I leaned on them, and am grateful for the love they gave. But now I'm happily my own rock.
I live with my two cats in an apartment in my daughters house. I have my own garden and get plenty of family time and help as needed. We have a pool. My two other daughters live near by are attentive. When I moved in after my husband died, I completely redid the apartment to age in place. This was ten years ago and I am now 69 years old. I have close friends and get out several times a week. I am very happy.
I also am an introvert. I recently lost my husband after a couple years of bad health. I am fine with my own company, but I do miss the hugs, the emotional support, the HELP! Looking at options for single travel, and maybe eventually downsizing or hiring more help with maintenance and upkeep. It's a little daunting but I'm learning so much. Taking classes online in philosophy, Spanish, and watercolor painting. Refinishing furniture too. Just have to be careful I dont get TOO much in my own head as I am want to do.
I can relate to your coments. I too miss the hugs. Have done some travelling in a motorhome on my own over the past few years. Surprised myself doing this, but you never know what you can do until you try.
After one long term marriage, one short one and a short replay of #1, lol-I’m on my own in a brand new tiny house. It’s on my daughter’s property so I have family close but also my own beautiful private space. I retired a few months ago and for the first time in my life I’m completely free. No obligations to husband or kids, just me and my sweet adorable lil pooch. I do have times where I miss the closeness of someone sharing my life, but the freedom and the happiness that brings outweigh that overall. I don’t have everything, but I have everything I need. 🙂
I love living alone two years now my daughter and boyfriend moved to Alaska and I moved to Southern Oregon we was from San Diego. I am so busy doing IG posting food clothes decorating and also on Facebook not enough hours in the day. Working out and was going to church until the pandemic now on line. And Margaret your eyeshadow looks great. ❤️
Most of the time age 75 I’m content. I love solitude and silence . I’m learning about off grid systems and each one Is deepening my understanding about being responsible for my actions. As I age I want to be a kinder wiser person .
I've lived on my own for a lot of my adult life. The independence is wonderful. I enjoy the company of my friends and family but like the flexibility of being largely self sufficient.
I am 69 years old and about to start a divorce after 30 years of frustration and unhappiness. I am in the process of building out a camper van that I plan to live in with my dog. I have already tried it for 2 months and absolutely positively loved it. Can't wait to get back to it on a permanent basis. Am so looking to being on my own, living life on my own terms. People always ask me first thing, aren't you afraid of being alone and living in a camper van? And my answer is ALWAYS a resounding NO!!! I know I am late to this video but it popped up in my suggestions and I'm so glad it did.
I been widowed 2x. Got into what I thought was a great 3rd relationship. The 3rd male… uggh was really good for about 5 yrs. but this last 4 yrs NOT so much. Then he sold his house & moved across the country. I still own my home (thankfully)….& I am Loving being able to concentrate on Me instead of caregiving a man. I have always been an artist and photographer and I am advancing in those endeavors. I have friends both single and married and do a lot with them when I feel that I need company. Life Lesson: Always be yourself ~ do not let anyone steal your personality and your purpose. Thank you for this UA-cam channel I’m loving it.
I have been a widow for over 10 years. I love being able to come and go, when I want to! Yes there are days when I just want to talk to someone! I was raised an only child, so being alone is nothing new to me!
It was very hard the first five years, but 8 years later I love living alone. Come and go as I please, spend what I want, save what I want and do what I want. No one tells me when to come and when to go. I do go out with my friends to church and to eat, but I’m happy to be home alone.
I have been a widow for over a decade and I have learned to cherish and guard my aloneness. There seems to be something very natural about living alone and the aging female brain.. Less fuss.. I live very close to my children and grandchildren and parents so I am never isolated enough to feel a great deal of loneliness. I do however occasionally miss the emotional intimacy that comes with having a good life partner....but never enough to invite someone new into my home.
I like the last line of the article... " Life on your own can be daunting. It can also be rewarding. Your choice." Being alone isn't always our choice, but hearing that we have some control (solitary confinement vs. freedom) is motivating. Thank you for sharing the great ideas to get me thinking outside of the box. Sometimes I don't realize that I'm in a box, and too lazy to move. I will say , that one of the negatives I look out for is becoming self-centered, because I am responsible for only myself. Having outside interests, that include others, helps me stay interested and interesting and hopefully well rounded.
I agree with loving oneself and be okay to be alone but the truth is it’s always better having a loving partner with you if you can have one in your life .
Volunteering is a great way to keep selfishness at bay. Choose something that helps you feel connected and useful and gives you some perspective. It's a great way to meet good people and share interests.
I want to make a general comment of thanks to Margaret. I have appreciated your channels so much and along with others I really appreciate your gentle and uplifting demeanor and encouragement. You were very real and down to earth. You have lots of topics and thoughts to bring to us and I appreciate your "ministry"❤️🌸. I started my family at 30 and had my last child at 42 so my youngest is 22. She left home to live with her sister who is eight years old or a year ago. I lived alone for a year and a half. I loved it. However, I lost my job on December 18, 2020 and couldn't financially stay in my apartment without a stressful full-time job teaching special education. I know this was a God thing! My oldest daughter really needs me now and it's time for me to spend time with her after 13 years of not spending much time with her due to her getting her doctorate etc. I am 64 and not sure that I can get my retirement right now! This arrangement is benefiting both of us because I have some time to plan without the worry of making an expensive apartment a payment and living expenses overhead. She is able to get help and companionship for a big move and to reconnect after the traumatic divorce that I went through with her dad 13 years ago. I'm trying to be a really good sport and be thankful! In the future I may have more independence again but for right now I'm just grateful to have a roof over my head and stability and less stress from a demanding and difficult job!
There is nothing lonelier than being married and alone.
Very true! But what’s worse is having to have a caretaker and knowing he’s all you have.
That’s me!
Oh I have to disagree. Living alone is horrible. At least you know someone is walking through the door.. imagine yourself sitting all night with no noise .. no one walking through that door or opening a fridge.
I luv being alone & living alone
@@nikkiturnup1688 wait till you hit 70 years old
Way better on your own than dealing with self obsessed, deceitful, toxic or crazy partners.
I'll drink to that. 😊
Mostly enjoy it. People are exhausting most of the time. I love being in a quiet space.
Wow, I didn't know that.
Me too! Love my peace!
Not used to it yet
I love it ❤
Can tolerate company for a limited time only
@@mariamunaff8880 you might always need that loving company
Whenever I'm feeling a bit vulnerable living alone, I remember the times I lived with someone else. That cures me!
This made me smile ...
@@anne-marieloughnane6775 made me grin like luna park !!!
So true
😂i heard that!
@@iveylock7982 you made me laugh!!! 😂
Our 85 year old neighbor lives alone and she loves it. We check on her every morning and she frequently goes out with her friends. My favorite though is at the end of day I see her floating on her raft in the pool with her glass of Malibu Coconut Run. She is so content.
That is a huge plug for having enough money in retirement. Nice home, pool, etc.
I love it! Where does she live?
That’s how life should be.
Give her my phone number, she sounds like a friend waiting to be found!
I'm so happy for her.
I'm 74, and I love living alone. I don't have anyone to answer to, cook dinner for, etc. If I want conversation, I can text friends or family. It's glorious.
Its true I love living alone My house stays in order I don't have to deal with medling in-laws Plus at my age you get stuck being a caretaker
Lonely sometimes but the MOST lonely I ever was was when I was married and living with the wrong person..................
@debraholland
You put into those few words what I could not. Thank you xx my experience has/was the same.
Me too...blessings
me, too! if ever i felt lonely it was during an oppressive marriage.
Hi Debra my name is grey heaveman how is everything with you
I’m 71 years old. My husband died. I don’t have children. I’m an introvert so it’s no problem being alone. The only thing I miss is being special to someone.
Hi Hettie . Now that you are alone you will see it as an advantage of all you care about. But at the other way is a disadvantage when you can’t help your self when you needed it most. Remember to think twice. Hettie de korte.
I need help. I am realizing ill be alone whole life and i am scared. How to overcome that
❤️🙏🏻
Hettie, I totally get you. I'm 65 and never married. I'm also an introvert and love living alone. I had 13 revolving roommates in college and will never live with someone else again.
@@planetag310 How do u deal with anxiety?
I divorced after 31 VERY LONG years of marriage, and I absolutely ADORE living alone! I can’t image ever living with someone else again, except for my cat, of course! 🐱
Feel this one I am way more lonely when my husband is home then when he is away lol I look forward to living alone it will be a blessing
Everyone knows cats are better;) 31 years. You did some serious jail time. I did 12 years. Felt like 100.
@@cintiapollock2486 I felt like that in my marriage and then a miracle happening and he got the midnight shift and I got sleep alone. That got me through 5 more years. 12 long years in total. I've lived alone for 11 years now. PURE BLISS! It's better if you don't know how great it is. God bliss and stay sane. YES, it will be a blessing. Do it as soon as possible, lol.
Hello pixie don't you feel lonely sometimes?
Yup ladies, start buying your cat food now, if you listen to these delusional women, you’ll be needing a lot of it 😂😂😂
Oh heck, no!! For me there is NO SADNESS about being alone. I absolutely LOVE being alone... ALL THE TIME. Of course I go out and do my shopping and otherwise get out of my home, but I'm always happy to come back home and be alone. I think if people are happy with themselves, they will not get lonely. I've never been lonely a day in my life and I'm 71 years only now. Been alone for many, many years.
I'm 76, and I have been alone for 18 years. I agree with every word you said.
Bravo.....bravo bravo.... w
Totally agree. I wouldn't know how to live with another person at this time in my life. Love my independence and freedom. Have a full life, seeing friends, volunteering at an art gallery, visiting my family and traveling abroad.
You are my shero.
My worst fear is being alone. I know ill be alone.
Divorced after 33 years of marriage and I live alone and I absolutely love it. Don’t want to pick up after a man any longer. Love doing what I want and when I want. 💝
Same for me. No kids, but my ex was an emotional child for those 33 years so I learned LONG ago to be strong and independent. Now I revel in my solitude - go out and interact when I want with who I want, take care of my dog and horse, live in a brand new travel trailer the size of a little cottage, adore my bonsai forest and have a long-distance boyfriend. We're crazy about each other, and distance keeps it that way.
Amen sister!! I don’t mind having male friends to do things with on occasions, but the thought of allowing a man to control my day, mood, money , body etc.
l am delivered from that after 33 yrs. 🙌💕
Blessings to you all🙏💕
Me too.
Haha. Good for you, I feel the same way. Divorced after 20years of marriage.
@@debbie3173 but I’m ALIVE!!!💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻🙏🏼💕
I had someone suggest I find a partner for company. I advise them that men are not company because they just sit and watch TV and are just extra work such as cooking or laundry. I had two relationships and I was extremely lonely in both of them so living alone is a blessing.
Lollll I totally agree, I experienced that same scenario. Until I lost my home of thirty years and he was untitled to half of my home.
@@LCMxox : Yes, feeling lonely in the mist of your supposed loved one is the worst feeling in the world! I’ve been alone now for 21 years. I’ve never felt lonely!
Totally understand! I have a friend with benefits IF I choose to that part. He lives a 4 hour drive from me so if he decides to come up for a visit, he knows that he needs to let me know in case I'm out. He's highly intelligent, attractive to look at, sweet kind and gentle ... and 18 years younger than I at 68. I'd never consider living with someone as I have my Cavalier King Charles spaniel who keeps me smiling. Living alone was rather daunting at the beginning but I wouldn't change my idea of living alone with my pooch. I know so many women who think the same way as I. None want another man living under the same roof, but they do like having a man to go to the theatre, etc ... but apart from that they love it. However living the single life does impact financially as a couple living together seem to receive double the income more than for singles as we still have to pay the full housing costs that couples can share half of it, same for electricity, and medications as they can reach the limit of free scripts by combining their free prescription limits so receive the full costs as a single person needs to reach to be eligible for free prescriptions. I spend about $100/month, but they only have to reach the same combined spending limit as I do as a single person. They can also share the costs of living costs, and so very much more while single person has to pay double for the couple who are able to share their costs, for what the couples can share but a single still has to reach double the same cost limits that many single women have to reach before they are eligible for the same things. It seems to me that governments don't seem to comprehend .... we singles have to reach double of everything compared to couples living with the same costs. This really makes me angry because the baby boomer women always had to work harder than the men, and only the men were invited to join the superannuation fund, but they said that women don't need it to raise a family that single women did even though we had to support our children, and usually their fathers didn't do. It came a very cruel life for women just because they choose to live without a man in our lives .... and that seems very unfair to women who had to do it alone for many years. Not the right way to get the votes for politicians... in Australia I can see a lot of the pollies who won't be getting a lot of what they refer to safe seats, but unless they do something to make life easier for single women, they won't have their cushy jobs after the next election!
No one in a marriage should have to feel lonely.
I can totally relate! I just turned 58 and have been happily single for 7 years!
Wrapping up a very difficult 9-year cohabitation situation and going my own way! Just bought a house in a state far far away from this one. I've lived alone before and took my peace for granted. I'm 67 now and excited to live alone again. I can't imagine being in another relationship. Besides, the pool of men at this age is not something I want to dip my toe into. Leftovers (meaning, broken unwanted), health issues, stuff like that. Enough mistakes I've made. Clean slate, fresh start, positive energy only. Also, a friend and I have talked about the idea of community living with other ladies, as you mentioned in your video. Our thought was buying land and having tiny homes on them.
Lonely at times. But most of the time I like it. Everything is my way, lol! I am 68 and have been divorced for over 30 years. I honestly don't think I could live with someone now.
Me, too! However, I could never live without a cat!
I love living alone I would like to have a person to go on dates with once in a while but seems impossible to meet a man that just wants that
I love living alone, I like doing lots of things by myself, galleries, museums, walking, photography, etc. I like my own space, with my own things placed where I want them, watching the films I want, whatsapp video messaging is there if I want to see and speak to people just now in all this crazy world stuff
poppy flower Me too! I have two, I’ve had cats since I was a child, I’ll always have one or two
Yep,, I have a dog and a parrot
Absolutely love living alone. Raised my kids. Have enough income to pay my bills. Divorced once, widowed once. I only invite the people into my world that make life pleasant. Luckily I guess, I didn’t have the type of male partners that I got to depend on over the years. I eat what I want, when I want, I started learning about watercolor,, learning German. With Covid I am even more content in my own personal world.
Hats off to you! Totally agree, but must have a cat or two.
poppy flower: oh yes! I most definitely have a cat! A sweet girl who doesn’t invade my space unless she’s hungry or needs a head rub. But happy to hang by my side in peace.
Amen.. alone and love it. Just me and my animals!
Same
I'm going through a divorce after 23 years. My first husband died from cancer. I'm done with men. I'm fighting for my house on 2 acres. No neighbors. So peaceful. It's me and my furbabies from here on out. I have wonderful kids and grandkids to come over and visit if I get lonely. I can trust them.
I love living alone. I was married once for eleven years. I didn’t know how miserable I was until after my divorce. You can breathe. You can live for yourself. 🌸🦋
I am delighted to hear others loving living alone.
YES! I agree with you.
I like my own company and can come and go as I please. If you want to be social you can do. No cooking or cleaning up after a husband who has no interest in anything except playing games on his phone. The house just the way you want and control over your life. Unless you are lucky enough to have met the love of your life and nothing they do is a bother its better to have your own space. I am glad of the uplifting stories on this video.
@@karenohanlon4183 I am alright with the memory of the one who I had been married with and I am perfectly alright alone now.
12 long years for me and I know how you felt. Bliss! I'm so happy for us. We are free.
After 37yr relationship ended last year, I have started living alone. I love it !! My time is my own. If I feel down on the odd day or two, I take myself out and about in the sunshine. Or go for a train ride to some place I have never been . An occasional down day on my own is 100 times better than a good day in a bad relationship. I will never give up my independence again.
Thanks for sharing!!
Exactly
Thank you for this and all the comments. I was married for 37 yrs. Sudden divorce. I am 66 yrs. All my friends want me to meet someone. My friend said but do you want to die alone. I told her the unless you plan a " Thelma and Louise" scenario, we all die alone. I love this chapter. Thank you
It's better to be happy until you die alone than live miserably every single day feeling like you're dying inside.
I'm 51 and was married for 17 years and have been living on my own for a few years now and love it!!! I plan on keeping it this way because the idea of being bothered just doesn't appeal to me.
I've lived alone for 25 years now and I love it. All my neighbours feel sorry for me thinking I must be lonely but I'm not. It's so nice being able to have a nap and not have someone demand you get out of bed, or be running around cleaning up their mess so they can make it again. I have my dog and he's enough for me, he makes a mess but doesn't expect me to clean it up for him.
It is really comforting to see how many people live alone. Sometimes it feels like there is only a few of us. I like this better than living with someone you have to cater to. Cook, clean, enduring their problems. And possibly their family problems.
Living alone is GREAT! Do it ladies! It's hard to go back to living with ANYONE once you have. Pets make wonderful guards and companions. You really don't need more than a pet.
I can't imagine ever giving up my space again. There is no way to put all this back into Pandora's Vase. Even if it was still intact, I'd crush it with a hammer to prevent it! LOL...
I totally agree! I couldn't go back to living with someone else.
Since my husband died,five years ago,I am up and down.
Now I am more selfconfident,because I see its possible to do a lot of things alone.
But somerimes my house seems so empty and I am sad..
Hi Victoria my name is grey heaveman how is everything with you
Hear hear
I have noticed that women can handle their own company a lot more than men can .
Totally agree. I am experiencing that.
Men are toooo codependent.
They have no choice alot of them
That's a weird observation. I make about 2 personal calls a year. My wife (who is hispanic) calls her family/friends about 1,000 times per year. At least three per night. I've also worked at a few companies where women had to be reprimanded for excessive social calls during work hours. I've never seen that happen to men.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Alone but never lonely! Love it!
Hi Rebecca my name is grey heaveman how is everything with you
After 54yrs of marriage I divorced the narcissist. I love living alone…have lots of friends and great family….and my 14 yr old Lab. After many very tumultuous yrs, God prepared me for this I’m sure. Truly blessed I love myself and am grateful.
You ma'am, are an inspiration to me. Thank you so much, for commenting and restoring my hope. Much respect to you.
You have had your Lab for 14 years, now that’s a true blessing and a true love. Dang the narcissist
I know this video is old but I just wanted to say I divorced my narcissist husband after 45 yrs of marriage. I love living alone now….at peace…with my dog and cat❤️
Normally I don't comment but I wanted to reach out and say how much I appreciate your channel and your gentle, uplifting demeanor. I am 62 and due to circumstances, I will be beginning a new and different life alone. It's both exciting and scary for me. I hope you are doing alright today.
Hi there J Mitch ... can I suggest you use the word ‘solo’ ... instead of alone. I’m solo ... but I’m not alone even though I’m on my own. Good luck in your new life ... value every moment, and though you feel
it’s scary ... shall we change the word scary to ‘exciting’ .... 🤗 I’m sure you have happy days are ahead xx
I hope that you end up loving it. Living alone is wonderful and you really get to know yourself
You'll do fine it's a good life
Hang in there, I live by myself for the past 33 years and love it. I'm never lonely, bored or depressed. I have a small piece of land that keeps me busy with gardening and whatnot. I vacation, go to church and share time with my church friends. I spend some time helping elderly people in need(very rewarding). Living by myself is a great learning experience. I'm very happy enjoying my life at my own pace. Notice I say living by myself, that's because I don't feel alone, so I don't use the word alone. I thank God for that.
You will love it and adapt and feel empowered. Keep us updated.
I think being able to financially live alone and having friends to do things with is the best!
RE: Living Alone
Fabulous!!!
Peaceful!!!
Happy!!!!
No drama!!!
Freedom!!!
I will be 62 years old in August 2021.
I am still working full-time.
I have few friends.
I have 1 female cat.
I like to have 1 male 🐈 to keep my baby Angel companion while I away from home for work.
I love my life now.
I do nit want to change my current lifestyle.
I love to read, walking, and planting plants.
Thank you for sharing many ideas.
May GOD bless all the ALONER in this world.
I will retire in 5 years and 6 months.
Yes, I do live alone. Wouldn't have it any other way.
I enjoy living alone. It would be nice to have companionship however I can't complain. I have peace! I thank God for getting me to this point to see the goodness and blessings in my life.
I am in my fifties I do not have children and am not married . I love it . Really enjoy my own company and my great riendship . I feel blessed .
I do live alone. Most of the time I like it. I am like you and I miss sharing at times. I miss hugs and sharing with someone.
sharon mardis your comment was 9 months ago, so you probably don't remember what you said, but I feel the same about "living alone". Living alone is quite selfish...ie, I eat, what, when & where I like, I make the bed, or not...everything is the painted the color I want (in my home), I go where I want, when I want & the way I way...etc. I do like living alone...someone described me as my personality being "alone in a crowd". I had never heard that before, but that is true about me. I don't like hanging out with other women & from experience, men (most men) can't be a "friend", they want more & with NO TIES. I agree with what you said!!!!!! Judie
I miss his presence so very much; I could cry.
get a small dog
@@judyjudyjudy1841 Living alone isn't selfish. You can't be selfish to a person who isn't there. You aren't selfish.
I’m 44 and I absolutely love living alone. I’ve never been married so for most of my life I’ve lived on my own. I really enjoy the peace & solitude.
@@jameshurst3552 She told you. Pay attention instead of assuming you know her better.
You’re a very smart young lady! 👏🏽👏🏽🙂👍🏽
@@jameshurst3552 I’m doing great! My wildflower garden is at full, glorious expression & I’ve just switched to a vegan diet which has me feeling inspired and lighter. Thanks for asking!
@@daniraestar2401 Thanks Dani! From one smart lady to another 😉💚
Hello Luna my name is grey heaveman how is everything with you
I would rather be alone than mistreated, and verbally abused
I'm 67 and love living alone. I have a caregiver furnished by my health insurance who brings my groceries, throws the trash, gets my mail and helps with whatever I need that I can't do for myself, but other than that, I'm independent. I raised three kids as a single parent, had a demanding career, and now it's Me time. I love life now.
Before I retired, I was always "dancing as fast as I can." Now I enjoy doing what I want to do. All the hobbies I had to steal time to do before, now I can indulge in to my heart's content. It's great!
Thanks for asking. I love your channel.
I lived alone for decades and loved every second of it! Three words: Peace, Privacy, and Freedom!
I have my own home, but rarely live there. I visit and travel, I also love being alone. I've been married three times, divorced twice and widowed once...done with marriage and men for the most part. I live for me, my kiddos and grands. I don't dislike men, but I think I pick poorly so being alone suits me fine.
Oh it's great if you have money . But alone with a budget isn't any fun
Love living alone! I was a divorced, single mom who went back to college and finished my degree, had a great career, and I'm now enjoying retirement. I like my own company, love to read and learn, and doing my own thing. I am choosey about the people I invite into my little world. I certainly enjoy my freedom! I, too, am an introvert.
I really enjoy living alone.
So do I. The independence and
freedom is really wonderful.
Greetings from Switzerland.
My husband passed away five years ago. I have been on my own ever since. i’d love it. I can eat when I want to, clean house when I want to, go to bed when I want to. I have independence, freedom, I am still working so I do have an income that supports a nice lifestyle at the moment. I don’t need anything. My granddaughter lives about an hour away. So I see family when I want to.Yes, sometimes it is lonely but I just get up and do some thing.
I’m 71 and have lived alone the past 12 years, after 36 years of marriage. I love it!!!
I am 63 and still work, and live alone. Love it.
I love living alone. Dating overwhelms me. I need boundaries and it seems like older men think we older women want a “constant” companion. I can’t deal with the uninvited knocks on my door and too many phone calls. I try to be kind and above all honest about needing my space, but when by boundaries are ignored I get irritated. I just prefer not to date at all rather than deal with these issues. I wonder if anyone else feels this way or if I have just become a control freak loner.
I totally get it because I feel the same! I'm not interested in dating or any of the fussing that goes with it!!!
Same here! I need my peace!
Yes boundaries
I feel exactly like you..
I agree. I may have finally found an independent man! Rarity and I'm going slowly
I find I feel lonelier with my husband and in the midst of his family. I prefer staying home alone to feeling lonely and invisible.
I hear you.
I hear you too. The loneliness you feel is tough. Very tough. The older I get the more i believe that the way way you feel so alone while in company is deliberately inflicted and not just thoughtlessness. People should behave better. I’m sorry for you @dianefrangie
People are mean, but not all people.
My soulmate, my husband died suddenly of a brain bleed 18 mo ago.😢 I now at age 60 live alone with my 2 beloved dogs. I am lonely for my old & wonderful life, but trying my best to adjust to this new “normal.” I stumbled upon your channel in hopes of some ideas & inspiration on living alone at 60. Thank you for this channel & May God Bless🩷🙏
I live alone & love it. My boyfriend had back surgery & stayed with me for a month or so. We got along very well but I finally had to ask him to go home that I needed my alone time
I love it....
I can do whatever, whenever I want to, go wherever I want to, and be with whoever I want to. What's not to like about that? No one around to get on my nerves. If anything goes wrong it's my fault and It's pretty hard to get upset with myself. I'm comfortable being alone without feeling lonely. If I do start feeling lonely then I pick up my phone and call a friend or family member. Wouldn't have it any other way 😊
@@paulohlsson27 Peachy 😊 Thanks for asking, Andre!
I live alone with my 19 lb. Kitty. She is so much company and yet wants her independence at times. Was married for 30 years and was abused and lonely most of the time. I love not having to ask permission and can choose my dreams and wants to my timetable now being retired. If I get lonely and reflective, I call or meet friends to create new memories. I've your channel and the positive support and encouragement you give us ladies. I hope we collectively give you the same in return.
Mostly like living alone. I have good friends and neighbors who care about each other. Love being free to do whatever I like on my own schedule.
I am alone but not by choice. My husband passed away in Switzerland while we were on a cruise. We were married almost 64 years and he was indeed the love of my life. I have quilting friends that have really helped me and a very giving Church. Going to Church is hard as we always did that together. Women who are also widows have helped me by giving me info on how they cope with the emptiness. I live in a nice house but now I have to take care of everything which at times is a big job. I have 2 boys who live far away so when they visit I have a list I need help with. I have been busy dealing with all the paperwork that has to be done but I hope I am almost finished. I am adjusting but I miss my husband terribly.
I’m so sorry for your loss 😔what a blessing to have had all those years together ❤️ I will pray for you🙏🏻
After 42 years of marriage, which I loved. Husband passed. I really am enjoying my living alone. And I thank all the ladies for there stories. I thought I was crazy, because I like being on my own. Thank you.....
I've lived by myself since I left and divorced my husband in 2016. Exactly 6 years ago!! Loving it.
Sometimes I get depressed but all I have to do is remember being married and abused. Then my depression disappears!!
i dont live alone. I live with 2 dogs and a cat!
Hahahaha! I have a family too! My two pups and looking for a third. We have a very simple happy life.
I don't live alone, I live in solitude 😊
Yes!!!
YES!!!
Married for 37yrs and now divorced. I’ve been living on my own for 3yrs now and love it. I bought a small condo and enjoy my peaceful, lovely space. ❤️
I live alone. I have never been happier. I raised my children and then a grand child, I was a hands on single, working mom for 50, yes 50 years! I cherish all the life experiences I had with my family, but feel so good, enjoying solitude. I am an artist and sewist, I enjoy reading. I enjoy the time I can spend doing what I want to do. I don’t watch tv, I like tutorials and making things.
I now live in a senior apartment, this is the life I envisioned. However not everyone feels the same way. I have a neighbor who constantly complains about boredom. She says that what she envisioned moving here was visiting with neighbors, social activities, etc. so we all do not aspire for sameness.
This video is just what I needed to hear. I have to say it's been hard work building a new life after my husband passed. I'm very grateful for my life but I totally related to your comments, Margaret, about having someone in your life that cares for you. Most days are great - but - there are moments. Thank you so much for your honesty.
Same circumstance, my husband suddenly passed...love living alone, have a blessed life...sometimes I miss having someone by me..
Married 40 years❤
I am turning 87 l live alone but l am not lonely.
My days are filled, l am an artist working in mixed media but recently discovered acrylic and l love the flexibility of acrylics.
I also write, read a lot, l am learning so much from my computer on every subject one can think about.
I must admit come early evening preparing dinner for one is not my cup of tea, l miss someone not just anyone a man with whom l can laugh with, discuss daily events, relax with, look forward to tomorrow with, to love and be loved by the sense of male security, someone not just anyone to say goodnight too.
Turn to him in bed in a cuddle and off to sleep.
I miss that, l miss the morning coffee he made and brought to me.
I miss him.
I am dancing alone, sleeping alone, and I have a 'partner' of 10 years. I have lived alone before and I am plotting my escape. He is not abusive, just not interested or interesting. My freedom is making its way to me....
You can do this Jackie - sending love x
Love living alone, and am part of two groups who share my passion for my craft.
Friends and family check in, so I am safe
Very happy❤
🌹
I enjoy being with friends; I treasure being “alone”
Been divorced for years, kids finally flown the nest, and living alone for the first time in my life. Mostly, I love it. I can read, or write, or whatever else I feel like doing to suit myself. If I can't sleep, and crave curry at 3am, I will cook it and really enjoy it. I don't have to worry about disturbing anyone, or neglecting them; they are all off doing their own thing and I'm free to do mine. I do still see them often - some more often than others, but that's life. I'm happy to have company when I choose to, both friends and family, I love them dearly. But this is my time now. I have so much still to learn, and see, and places I want to visit - I've waited a long time for this, I intend to make the most of my senior years. And I need to be left alone to do that.
Really I don’t think that’s is anything better than having a loving partner
Living alone is a blessing. You meet friends or relatives at your chosen time . No responsibility but to yourself.
I have been alone (divorced) for 30 years. I love every minute of it. I have a lovely wonderful family of children and grandchildren and we all keep in touch. I think one of the things that works for me is my hobbies. I am busy. I have friends, church involvement and I am a life long learner. I really try to help other people. I eat when I want to, sleep when I want to and I don’t answer to someone when I am going to be home! I have a wonderful dog and two cats. We have a great home!
Great topic! I love living alone. I raised three daughter's, I am single. I am living my best life. When I feel alone ,I just read the bible. I realize I am never really alone. I dance, I exercise, I read books, I entertain myself. I spent the first half of my adult life on others, the remaining life I have is making me happy. However, I will always engage and help others then come home alone. Yes! God bless you all.
I often joke that I can barely live with myself let alone anyone else. But it's kinda true. I am "somewhat particular" about certain things. I'm 66 and have lived quite happily with only my feline friends since I retired from the USMC in 1996 and moved back to my home state to be near family (we're close so I have not BEEN alone - a big difference there). I then took a second job as a defense contractor for the Army and retired from that in 2017.
Since then I've been taking advantage of the extra time to learn new skills and increase time on my jewelry crafting. Besides giving as gifts, I also sell at consignment shops, a few Fall/Winter craft fairs, and occasionally at a large flea market near me, not as a business, just to let some of the build up go and recoup the cost of materials. When I have overstock that doesn't sell at a couple events, I donate it to the local clothes closet associated with the town food pantry.
The latest adventure is learning about how to manage a construction project renovating a property I inherited from an aunt a few years ago, the house itself and the landscaping are in dire shape. This decision to renovate came about when I decided to downsize to a single level home - the other house is one level about half the size of this one. The decision to manage it myself came as result of prior experience with having construction managers and knowing the potential for miscommunication, project delays, and of course, the cost. My time is my own so I can devote as much to it as necessary. Still, it's probably a good thing I enjoy a challenge!
I live alone, was married for 7 yrs., and had a few long and short term relationships . Seems that I'm mostly alone, peoplewise, but I have 5 dogs, cats, 7 goats, and 10 horses, so I don't consider myself really alone. My animals are much easier to please than humans. :)
your animals sound wonderful we use to have a large farm and i soooo miss it
Hi Nancy my name is grey heaveman how is everything with you
I have been living alone for 21 years. When I am at home it is under my control. I work two jobs and when I shut that door it is my peace and quiet. I feel safe in my home and like it that way.
I’m an introvert too and love being alone. I find peace and comfort being alone.
i always enjoyed my own company. i was widowed 2 years ago and it is the worst, but having my privacy with my two dogs is really making me enjoy my life again.
My mom is turning 90 yrs old & lives alone & she loves it :) I am 65 yrs old & live with my husband & dog. If something was to happen to my husband , my house is very big, & I'd like to stay here. But I'd need help with yard work & maybe have someone come 2 or 3 days a week to help with housework, shopping etc. Because my husband does a lot. So my dream is.... my husband & I & our dog live 4EVER ! Hay it's my dream so it doesn't have to be realistic :) HA !
At least somebody on here sounds like a normal woman. Thank God every day your husband is still alive. I'm a widow and manage with a good, dependable yard man. And thanks to the pandemic, I've learned you can get anything delivered. Haven't been in a store in nearly 14 months.
After being burned by 2 men, at 67, I so enjoy living alone and been that way since 2003. I work full time, I am active in my church and my best friend lives next door. I am just fine!
You are right. I like being alone too but sometimes only afraid that what if am sick and need help of someone. Am 60
An old study on marriage found the happiest people were married men and single women. I am 49, never married and lost a lot of my life to being in relationships where I chose the ((perceived) obligation of the relationship over what I really wanted. I don't live alone, I live with my cat (without obligation only adoration). I hope I have him for a very long time but once he is gone, I will live the nomadic life I have wanted for all my life for as long as I can.
Never got married, never had kids... never found a mutual healthy loving partner.
Same
Me either, have tried my best, and had a decent prof.working life..BUT do find seniors are overlooked and even though I try to get out, play golf..it is a challenge being alone( different from being lonely)..it is difficult to trust people anymore..sad but true!
Living alone at 67 was different than living alone at 76. Changes come in uninvited, slowly or quickly. I needed to be mindful of, say, less stamina and accept that. If I don’t keep up awareness, it can seem depressing.
I love living alone I find a lot to do. I am 78 years old.
I also live alone I am 76 I have been alone for 14 years is all good
I'm 74 soon and I'm living alone and I love having my space! Yes, being alone can lead to loneliness, but finding things to do such as catching up on all the books I never had time for when married or working. Plus there is that bonus of getting up whenever I want, staying up late as I want, and not having to explain myself to anyone. Love it! It is a choice: I choose to be happy.
Living with someone else is a continual source of aggravation. Live with someone, or marry someone, you lose control over everything, everything, including what the dog eats. Petty things, really big things. You lose control. "Don't sweat the small stuff!" Yeah, good advice...but the small stuff piles up. There is, indeed, positive stuff about living with someone, but don't imagine that it won't include negative stuff.
After another divorce, I look forward to living on my own again! Living with a man that rarely talks, watches TV all day long, makes a mess . . . I Am Ready!!!
I am 70 and live in a senior high-rise, each with our own apartments. People have become a good part of living here. I am an introvert, and I really also love coming home and enjoy my cat, birds and satisfaction.
I'm 62 and am so grateful that I live in a country that allows women to be free and independent because I can't imagine being able to live any other way. Also I love that floral screen in the background. It's very beautiful.
I love living alone!
Thank you as well for making us believe in ourselves again. May we all, continue to grow from strength to strength and embrace this gift. Life in itself is a gift ! 🇿🇦💕
I separated from my husband 7 years ago, and left a huge detached rural house for a small semi in a city suburb, and I wouldn't ever swap back again. My youngest son came with me initially, then left for 3 years to go to university. In 2017 he came back to live at home with me after graduation and getting a job, and has only just left to share a flat in the town ! So now I'm alone again, but I'm content and don't mind really. I've been doing up this little house and garden in stages, and love doing most of it myself. I think it helps that although I'm a young 61, I still work part time in a medical practice, and also volunteer for the Red Cross so I go to work 5 days a week. This gets me out and about, meeting people all day, and seeing colleagues. I love the fact I can do what I want, decorate how I like, stay in and not go out if I don't feel like it etc. The only thing I miss having a man for is electrical and plumbing work on the house !😁
Hire for repairs. They then go home and your free
I'm 55 and been living alone for the past 5 years. My son got married and move to his own place. I'm still working, hope to retire by the end of this year. I do not have any social life except my very young friends/ colleagues. I am afraid of dating. I do go out by myself but not much.
I love my solo life 😌 my home, my rules! I do what I want, watch what I want, play my music as loud as I want 😌 eat what and when I want and can have as much silence as I want x
At 63, in Hawaii, I rent a room in senior group housing. 5 quiet seniors. Lived alone a lot, loved it too! At ages 20s, 30s, and my 50s, married in 30s & 40s. No kids. So happy in my perfect little room, my part time job, bussing(on purpose), and creating my next chapter 🌺🌼👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍
Alyson you have to take another chance into your life. No matter what it takes . You need a need. When you need remember to think twice. Life is too shot....-“.
I'm delving deeper in health & spirituality.
I lived my life (mostly) with men. I loved the ones I just lived with, and adored my two husbands, one of twenty-five years. However, living by myself since my second husband (and soul mate) died, I have learned what it means to be truly independent. No men ever made me do anything I didn't want to do, but I have learned to relish my private life, just for me. I am a prolific artist, writer and do tarot readings for lovely clients on the phone. I have become better at handling money, and released my compulsive overeating. Now and then I get lonely, but it's rare, and loneliness happens even when one is with others. I am surviving beautifully, and meeting challenges on my own and getting stronger because of it. The men were always my rocks. I leaned on them, and am grateful for the love they gave. But now I'm happily my own rock.
I live with my two cats in an apartment in my daughters house. I have my own garden and get plenty of family time and help as needed. We have a pool. My two other daughters live near by are attentive. When I moved in after my husband died, I completely redid the apartment to age in place. This was ten years ago and I am now 69 years old. I have close friends and get out several times a week. I am very happy.
56
I also am an introvert. I recently lost my husband after a couple years of bad health. I am fine with my own company, but I do miss the hugs, the emotional support, the HELP! Looking at options for single travel, and maybe eventually downsizing or hiring more help with maintenance and upkeep. It's a little daunting but I'm learning so much. Taking classes online in philosophy, Spanish, and watercolor painting. Refinishing furniture too. Just have to be careful I dont get TOO much in my own head as I am want to do.
I can relate to your coments. I too miss the hugs. Have done some travelling in a motorhome on my own over the past few years. Surprised myself doing this, but you never know what you can do until you try.
After one long term marriage, one short one and a short replay of #1, lol-I’m on my own in a brand new tiny house. It’s on my daughter’s property so I have family close but also my own beautiful private space. I retired a few months ago and for the first time in my life I’m completely free. No obligations to husband or kids, just me and my sweet adorable lil pooch. I do have times where I miss the closeness of someone sharing my life, but the freedom and the happiness that brings outweigh that overall. I don’t have everything, but I have everything I need. 🙂
Linda Russell good for you for living tiny! I now live I a single mobile home which is great but I’m yearning for a Tiny House!
Normally, I love living alone, but with Covid ruining going out to get together with others once in a while, I am feeling lonely for the first time.
I love living alone two years now my daughter and boyfriend moved to Alaska and I moved to Southern Oregon we was from San Diego. I am so busy doing IG posting food clothes decorating and also on Facebook not enough hours in the day. Working out and was going to church until the pandemic now on line. And Margaret your eyeshadow looks great. ❤️
Most of the time age 75 I’m content. I love solitude and silence . I’m learning about off grid systems and each one Is deepening my understanding about being responsible for my actions. As I age I want to be a kinder wiser person .
I've lived on my own for a lot of my adult life. The independence is wonderful. I enjoy the company of my friends and family but like the flexibility of being largely self sufficient.
I am 69 years old and about to start a divorce after 30 years of frustration and unhappiness. I am in the process of building out a camper van that I plan to live in with my dog. I have already tried it for 2 months and absolutely positively loved it. Can't wait to get back to it on a permanent basis. Am so looking to being on my own, living life on my own terms. People always ask me first thing, aren't you afraid of being alone and living in a camper van? And my answer is ALWAYS a resounding NO!!! I know I am late to this video but it popped up in my suggestions and I'm so glad it did.
I been widowed 2x. Got into what I thought was a great 3rd relationship. The 3rd male… uggh was really good for about 5 yrs. but this last 4 yrs NOT so much. Then he sold his house & moved across the country.
I still own my home (thankfully)….& I am Loving being able to concentrate on Me instead of caregiving a man. I have always been an artist and photographer and I am advancing in those endeavors.
I have friends both single and married and do a lot with them when I feel that I need company.
Life Lesson: Always be yourself ~ do not let anyone steal your personality and your purpose.
Thank you for this UA-cam channel I’m loving it.
I have been a widow for over 10 years. I love being able to come and go, when I want to! Yes there are days when I just want to talk to someone! I was raised an only child, so being alone is nothing new to me!
It was very hard the first five years, but 8 years later I love living alone. Come and go as I please, spend what I want, save what I want and do what I want. No one tells me when to come and when to go. I do go out with my friends to church and to eat, but I’m happy to be home alone.
I have been a widow for over a decade and I have learned to cherish and guard my aloneness. There seems to be something very natural about living alone and the aging female brain.. Less fuss.. I live very close to my children and grandchildren and parents so I am never isolated enough to feel a great deal of loneliness. I do however occasionally miss the emotional intimacy that comes with having a good life partner....but never enough to invite someone new into my home.
I feel the same way
You may live alone but you are not alone,
Hi Stephanie my name is grey heaveman how is everything with you
I like the last line of the article... " Life on your own can be daunting. It can also be rewarding. Your choice." Being alone isn't always our choice, but hearing that we have some control (solitary confinement vs. freedom) is motivating. Thank you for sharing the great ideas to get me thinking outside of the box. Sometimes I don't realize that I'm in a box, and too lazy to move. I will say , that one of the negatives I look out for is becoming self-centered, because I am responsible for only myself. Having outside interests, that include others, helps me stay interested and interesting and hopefully well rounded.
I agree with loving oneself and be okay to be alone but the truth is it’s always better having a loving partner with you if you can have one in your life .
Volunteering is a great way to keep selfishness at bay. Choose something that helps you feel connected and useful and gives you some perspective. It's a great way to meet good people and share interests.
I want to make a general comment of thanks to Margaret. I have appreciated your channels so much and along with others I really appreciate your gentle and uplifting demeanor and encouragement. You were very real and down to earth. You have lots of topics and thoughts to bring to us and I appreciate your "ministry"❤️🌸.
I started my family at 30 and had my last child at 42 so my youngest is 22. She left home to live with her sister who is eight years old or a year ago. I lived alone for a year and a half. I loved it. However, I lost my job on December 18, 2020 and couldn't financially stay in my apartment without a stressful full-time job teaching special education. I know this was a God thing! My oldest daughter really needs me now and it's time for me to spend time with her after 13 years of not spending much time with her due to her getting her doctorate etc. I am 64 and not sure that I can get my retirement right now! This arrangement is benefiting both of us because I have some time to plan without the worry of making an expensive apartment a payment and living expenses overhead. She is able to get help and companionship for a big move and to reconnect after the traumatic divorce that I went through with her dad 13 years ago. I'm trying to be a really good sport and be thankful! In the future I may have more independence again but for right now I'm just grateful to have a roof over my head and stability and less stress from a demanding and difficult job!