Thought this was about him being insecure about her making more. After hearing the story, her impulse spending and bad money management is the problem. Him being away in the military doesn’t help. She needs adult supervision.
He is most likely better equipped to be disciplined with money, even if he isn’t he has massive amounts of resources within the military to help with money. It’s not about him joining her team or vice versa. It’s about starting a NEW TEAM together.
My wife makes more money than me and im not jealous. We're a team, and on the same page so it doesn't matter. When she does well, we do well, and vice-versa.
@@TheMystery51 no, Special Forces is a specific US Army special operations unit. Special Operations could be SF, Rangers, MARSOC, PJ'S, SEALs and so forth.
He’s always judgemental of losers like this “couple” who have seperate finances. I’m taken back by it to. How can you possibly have a marriage without combining something so fundamental to everything
I don't see why Dave doesn't suggest that. It's clear he doesn't want her debt. If her income is so spectacular and his is so little, she could pay her own debt off. Doesn't seem like he's doing bad for someone half their income of their spouse. Interesting how she's the one throwing a fuss.
@@vrimtube I think Dave is kinda old school when it comes to men and women relationship, socially marriage. But we dealing with new savages, and yes, she has a big debt and a serious problem spending money. I don't even need to hear the other side of the story, it seems quite obvious.
@@badrhari2390 I’m older than Dave and I’m sure he’s stuck in a patriarchy mindset . This is why he pushes people into marriages and counselling by the church .
With what he has to deal with in the military and then her impulse buying played a part. She paints it as if it’s his problem but he’s just detached and reacting to her.
As a vet having worked with SF guys I can say that he is doing that cause he has absolutely no trust in her. Trust is everything for those guys. There is more to this story she didn’t tell us.
Most Special Ops soldiers once finished with selection and training are E7 with decent base pay, housing allowance and special pay, hazardous duty pay, HALO/parachute duty pay....so he has decent income. It is her who let her promotion gets over her head.
If they can’t get on the same page long term there marriage will drift apart I’ve been married for 25 years and my wife has not worked in 18 of them, it’s not my money it’s Our money
He doesn't want to combine checking accounts cause she had/has a spending problem. She obviously is trying to be better but he's not there yet with trusting her. They both have debt and they both need to come together and make a budget and pay it off.
It blows my mind that they have no clue about the others finances. So many people get married without crucial conversations and the marriage ends because of it.
Didn't take but a little digging to figure out she is the problem. Honestly as a retired member of the military myself I think best way to approach this is in terms of a mission and mission planning. Dave has a point if each month is a small mission with the goal of winning the war all the cards are on the table. That means he can see every penny she spends which sound like where his trust issues are. If having physically separated bank accounts makes him feel better that's fine but when you sit down every month to do the budget the banks statements are laid out on the table.
My sister had the same problem. Their marriage suffered. When she changed careers to lower pay, her marriage suddenly improved. He could not handle that she was primary bread winner.
I see another problem. Dave:What does your husband do? Caller: Hes in the military. Dave: But what does he do? Caller: He’s active duty in the Army. Me: BUT WHAT DOES HE DO? IS HE A MECHANIC, POLICE, COOK, WHAT DOES HE DO? She can’t answer that, she clearly doesn’t care. To me, it almost sounds like she wants to brag about her income, blame the husband for not being happy, and just...ugh. Lack of communication apparently on both sides.
This is social media, and the world is watching. If you have personal financial problems go straight to the point don't drag your spouse into it to feel good about yourself. I hate when spouses come online to spread their dirty laundry for the world to see. Let's not forget, it's always one sided situation because we didn't get to hear from the other half. That's my opinion. Spousal issue should be private. So together seek private counselling not coming to social media to make yourself feel good. Imagine the man getting a wind of this made by his wife, he's military, and uniform men don't joke with their pride. No one is perfect, at least protect his pride. What she said today is a recipe for catastrophe.
With him being a Green Beret, he’s got a very very high secret security clearance and he will not need college in order to get a very good civilian job when he gets out or retires. If he is an officer, he will get a nice top job in government as most Green Berets do, so he will make more money with her when he gets out as pay in the military isn’t very high and with overseas combat deployment’s being low at this point, there’s not much more money being made
He is military. She wants him to find her accountable. He doesn't want to babysit. Therr is a budget -follow it. Sounds like she has a pattern of not doing it. No one wants to raise another child. He has checked out. He doesn't need more stress. Wrong or right.
As Military closing on 20 years... "He is military" = Nothing abnormal to read into it "He is military. He does stuff" = has a job that most don't really view as impressive OR has a job and we do not discuss the details because we do not need to know, next question
Mr Dave needs to stop telling this guy to man up. He doesn't know the full story. He just immediately made an uninformed judgement call. Fully disappointed in his advice, but kudos on the gift.
Caller: my husband doesn’t want to combine finances. I’m making twice as much as a husband and he’s having a “hard time with it”. Also caller: I’ve made a lot of bad money decisions, racked up debt and am an extremely impulsive spender”. He is much better with money. To any of the men out there, if you are dating or engaged to a woman who talks like this where any criticism is boiled down to “you cannot handle a strong successful woman” run, now. You will be miserable the rest of your life. This is how they absolve themselves of fault by blaming you unable to “handle their success” My wife and I are in our mid 30s with one kid. I make twice as much as she does as an engineer and her as a teacher. She always says she wishes she made more but I always remind her there are benefits of her job that aren’t included in simple income such as great health care and her job allows her to pretty much always be home when our son is. Find a partner who recognizes the contributions you make and doesn’t constantly draw comparisons. Each partner has strengths and weaknesses, marriage is about utilizing each other’s strengths and improving on your weaknesses to win at life as a team!
is it really simping if she wants her man to hold her accountable by having them combine incomes? She wants someone to handle her and tell her when she's being bad with money. yet her husband wants the outta sight outta mind approach so that he can wash his hands clean of any of her problems. She makes twice his income and wants her man to handle it when they join finance which is what dave encourages. dont think thats simping.
@@emmarose6590 Dave can't even be a simp if he wanted to. He's worth too much, his network of men is too strong. He's on another league, but he can give simping advice.
@@SomnambulistCraze to answer question.....in "Their" case, it would be silly for a man to combine "his" money with an financially irresponsible woman....she should have her ish together from the gate
She is an impulse spender and has tons of student loan debt. He is in special forces and us probably away a lot. Her stupid pay increase is not the issue.
Her debt is my capital and I’m 26 years younger with the same degree and I mostly worked office jobs. She has an ego problem. Sounds as though thinks earning $10 and spending $11 is more of a contribution than earning $5 and spending $3.
Marriage is a team sport. Yes we both make our own money and generally keep it separate. However when it comes to bills and other financial decisions we make them together.
Dave i think the real question you shouldve asked is "how many times have you made bad decesions?". Sounds like she is a implose buyer and waste money on none necessity items over a long period of time. With her 100k new income she should show that she can take handle her own mistakes. Prove you Deserve to being equal and do the right thing.
I guess I'll make this point. If you make double the salary of an enlisted personnel, that necessarily doesn't mean you make more than them. The benefits of an enlisted personnel adds up very quickly when accounted for. For instance BAH and cola can compensate handsomely for a military personnel and virtually double the salary when accounted for. Second is the healthcare which also is worth a monetary value. I understand cash in hand is powerful, but benefits are actually very lucrative especially for a military personnel. That's my only caveat on this story. Now if he was an officer, that would be a different story.
He should still be making more than her if he is in Special Forces. Special Forces gets hazardous pay, isolation pay, tax free in combat zones, Housing allowance, food allowance. Don’t forget about free medical, dental, life insurance. If his wife had to pay for that she would be making considerably less.
Dave is so old school when it comes to marriage, but all adults should be held responsible independently..I dont believe in taking someone elses stupid..sorry!!
She’s 36, and uncooperative by the sound of it. Men making the kind of money she makes wouldn’t want to deal with her. The man she’s with is her best bet at this point but she wouldn’t see that.
Well she made more than him and she took her own student loan debt, why does he has anything to do with her loan Student loan is totally personal, never should be a responsibility of ones partner
This is more a case of her not finding him as attractive anymore as a result of her high opinion of herself. Understandable, but difficult to manage. Finding a new, even wealthier guy is her only real option.
Why did he want to married her? Seems like she is walking financially disaster. It is very hard to change a personal core. Changeable but rare. I think they might have got married for the kids and her to get military benefits.
Unsurprisingly, these types of calls aren't really about money at all. There's obviously quite a bit going on in their relationship as they can't get on the same page. He has a dangerous job and is a way a lot, and perhaps her spending is a way she deals with her loneliness. Hope they work it out.
As usual, Dave is simping. She seems not honest about herself. Maybe thats why her husband wants to keep things separated because he can´t trust her fully.
What does your husband do for work? He's military What does he do for work? He's active duty What does he do for work? He's special forces But what does he do!? Something seems really fishy with how they she was being one thing is for sure that people who steal valor almost always claim they are special forces.
Sounds like she spends to much $ and wants his income to shovel out of the mess she made. Making $100k a year is nothing if your boat has a giant hole in it taking on more water.
It's easy to be "accountable" now that you have enough money to cover your habits. She needs to realize that, from his perspective, that's not accountability. That's fortunate circumstances compensating for a lack of situational awareness. Heather, you are living in different spheres of existence. Time is not progressing at the same rate for you and your husband. Before you talk about "getting him on board" now that you're in such a good position, you need to learn to communicate on his frequency. While he's down range, you've been pursuing your goals, making decisions for you, doing what feels right to you, and not really caring about the repercussions because he's not there a lot. But you've been doing that without enough consideration of the stress and burden he carries just trying to meet you half way in life. Now you've made this huge jump. And if your tone on the phone is any indication of your tone with your husband, there is a, perhaps unintentional, condescending nature that accompanies your newfound success. If you can't address recognize and resolve that within yourself, you're marriage is going to turn toxic. Even if you can't get into couples therapy right away, I recommend going therapy and conveying to your husband that while you would love to go to counseling together, you're at least going to seek counseling to address your own issues in order to be a better wife and partner to him.
I got guilt-tripped when i was younger but then I really thought about it...it's really annoying when girls use that phrase and most of them have no idea what it means to actually be a man.
@@mike112693 true ,they usually say this to force men to do their biding, but a true man would never be a doorMatt he will never be submissive to anyone .
I'm a woman and I'm going to say she spends everything she makes and then some, that's why her husband is not combining money with her. Can't blame the guy. She's only been on the straight and narrow for a year, that's not long enough to break her bad money habits. She could relapse at anytime.
As Muslims we believe the men are financially responsible and if the woman works then she gets to keep all her money to do as she wants with it. She is not responsible for any of the financial side. I hope he does take some responsibility as a husband but limits it to just what he needs to provide for basic things like food, shelter etc. Also in Islam the woman are responsible for guarding their husbands property which includes his earnings. So I hope she also starts being aware of that and respects his hard earned income. Keeping things entirely separate on his part is just as bad in my opinion as her being wasteful when they are both married.
I would love to hear the husband's side of the story. She was very quick to prop herself up and place blame on her husband, and Dave was very quick to judge.
Before they combine their money, she needs to demonstrate that she’s financially responsible by paying off her debt and saving for at least a year. Then he would probably trust her. This is a trust issue.
After listening to this video, they really titled this for click bait. This financial problem had nothing to do with her pay increase but her lack of self-responsibility
If she has 90k in student loans. Half her shovel could be going to pay off her debt. Why she is not trying to get rid of her baggage before trying to fix him?
Before her raise, she had an excuse for not paying her debts. And she could keep her big spending habits. Now she doesn’t have an excuse, so she wants to combine finances so she can use her husband’s money to pay the debts. And she could keep spending big.
It sounds like literally no part of this rested on the "fact" that her husband was jealous of her and likely was more about her husband not trusting her judgement. Now that she finally made some decent money she is just using that as a bludgeon.
Thought this was about him being insecure about her making more. After hearing the story, her impulse spending and bad money management is the problem. Him being away in the military doesn’t help. She needs adult supervision.
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Good point.
@Johnny Five he could get over on her more than that if they divorce...she could end up like Halle Berry
Yea she is basically blaming men for her problem
He is most likely better equipped to be disciplined with money, even if he isn’t he has massive amounts of resources within the military to help with money. It’s not about him joining her team or vice versa. It’s about starting a NEW TEAM together.
Since her salary just doubled......she should be focused on paying off her student debt........not focused on her income being twice his.
Yep. She’s still in the hole, burdening him, actually.
Yeah, a good wife should focus on that.
@@Ethiodawg Yes they should. A SMART, ANYONE should focus on that. What are you implying?
My wife makes more money than me and im not jealous. We're a team, and on the same page so it doesn't matter. When she does well, we do well, and vice-versa.
My husband taught me this mindset! It’s empowering 🎉
We need more information. She hesitated when telling her side of the story but not his. I sure she is hiding a lot from Dave.
She is a major red flag, probably lying about her “husband” being SF
@USAFPenguine Nothing wrong with being a cook in the military...
"Special Forces" is a generic term also. Everyone in the military has an MOS and I find it hard to believe she does not know it.
@@TheMystery51 No, special operations is generic. Special forces are green berets
She may have been worried about sharing his status in the military, it’s not like it’s a huge secret but she may not understand that
@@TheMystery51 no, Special Forces is a specific US Army special operations unit. Special Operations could be SF, Rangers, MARSOC, PJ'S, SEALs and so forth.
Thought this was about him being insecure. But no...
Its about her being stupid.
Same
Dave likes to judge the other guy without knowing his reasoning behind keeping stuff separate.
I know right. If his income is so little and hers is so Amazing how abt she pay off the debt she got herself into instead of scape goating her husband
Exactly! For all we know this lady could have in the past had a massive spending or gambling problem
Yea I noticed he's judgemental asf
He’s always judgemental of losers like this “couple” who have seperate finances. I’m taken back by it to. How can you possibly have a marriage without combining something so fundamental to everything
@@pastqr hes only judgemental against husbands when the wife is on the phone
She needs to use her new income to paying off her own student loan.
I don't see why Dave doesn't suggest that. It's clear he doesn't want her debt. If her income is so spectacular and his is so little, she could pay her own debt off. Doesn't seem like he's doing bad for someone half their income of their spouse. Interesting how she's the one throwing a fuss.
@@vrimtube I think Dave is kinda old school when it comes to men and women relationship, socially marriage. But we dealing with new savages, and yes, she has a big debt and a serious problem spending money. I don't even need to hear the other side of the story, it seems quite obvious.
@@badrhari2390 agreed. Dave still has the ancient way of thinking This is why I'm excited that his show is going to younger folks. He can't keep up.
@@badrhari2390 I’m older than Dave and I’m sure he’s stuck in a patriarchy mindset . This is why he pushes people into marriages and counselling by the church .
@@diahill1945 What he recommends is backed by data but you cant see the forest for the trees.
Maybe he doesn't trust your for a good reason? I would like to hear his side of the story before giving advice.
Glad to hear a woman’s perspective on this.
With what he has to deal with in the military and then her impulse buying played a part. She paints it as if it’s his problem but he’s just detached and reacting to her.
As a vet having worked with SF guys I can say that he is doing that cause he has absolutely no trust in her. Trust is everything for those guys. There is more to this story she didn’t tell us.
Most Special Ops soldiers once finished with selection and training are E7 with decent base pay, housing allowance and special pay, hazardous duty pay, HALO/parachute duty pay....so he has decent income. It is her who let her promotion gets over her head.
She stopped only recently. A year ago. I think she could start by showing that she’s responsible for the next year
If they can’t get on the same page long term there marriage will drift apart I’ve been married for 25 years and my wife has not worked in 18 of them, it’s not my money it’s Our money
Thanks for simpin
@@wewhoareabouttodiesaluteyo9303 😂😂
I couldn't imagine simping that hard my friend. Sheesh.
wewhoareabouttodie saluteyou he’s not a simp he’s a real man. You clearly don’t have a father to not recognize this
@@wewhoareabouttodiesaluteyo9303 right? Simp extraordinaire.
He doesn't want to combine checking accounts cause she had/has a spending problem. She obviously is trying to be better but he's not there yet with trusting her. They both have debt and they both need to come together and make a budget and pay it off.
It blows my mind that they have no clue about the others finances. So many people get married without crucial conversations and the marriage ends because of it.
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Didn't take but a little digging to figure out she is the problem. Honestly as a retired member of the military myself I think best way to approach this is in terms of a mission and mission planning. Dave has a point if each month is a small mission with the goal of winning the war all the cards are on the table. That means he can see every penny she spends which sound like where his trust issues are. If having physically separated bank accounts makes him feel better that's fine but when you sit down every month to do the budget the banks statements are laid out on the table.
The past decisions are causing the stress, gotta get on the same page.
This is why you combine $ from the very beginning. Then you don’t have to have arguments or resentments.
He should keep the finances separate until her debt is paid off
absolutely
I wouldnt want to combine my income with her.
My sister had the same problem. Their marriage suffered. When she changed careers to lower pay, her marriage suddenly improved. He could not handle that she was primary bread winner.
Hypergamy for ya. I'd love to hear his side. I'm sure she is sweet as pie and not a dictator what so ever.
I see another problem.
Dave:What does your husband do?
Caller: Hes in the military.
Dave: But what does he do?
Caller: He’s active duty in the Army.
Me: BUT WHAT DOES HE DO? IS HE A MECHANIC, POLICE, COOK, WHAT DOES HE DO?
She can’t answer that, she clearly doesn’t care. To me, it almost sounds like she wants to brag about her income, blame the husband for not being happy, and just...ugh. Lack of communication apparently on both sides.
So if he was just "infantry" , dave was ready to call him a goob..
Surprisingly, for dave, he turned out to be better.. lol
As soon as she said he was in the military Dave wasn't going to say anything negative about him.
I love when one calls for financial problems but it turns out to be marriage/relationship problems.
This is social media, and the world is watching. If you have personal financial problems go straight to the point don't drag your spouse into it to feel good about yourself. I hate when spouses come online to spread their dirty laundry for the world to see. Let's not forget, it's always one sided situation because we didn't get to hear from the other half. That's my opinion. Spousal issue should be private. So together seek private counselling not coming to social media to make yourself feel good. Imagine the man getting a wind of this made by his wife, he's military, and uniform men don't joke with their pride. No one is perfect, at least protect his pride. What she said today is a recipe for catastrophe.
Yeah I feel bad for her husband
i wish my wife made more money than me... all that means is more money going into our joint account
Me and my wife have separate accounts but both know exactly what each other has. It just works for us.
With him being a Green Beret, he’s got a very very high secret security clearance and he will not need college in order to get a very good civilian job when he gets out or retires. If he is an officer, he will get a nice top job in government as most Green Berets do, so he will make more money with her when he gets out as pay in the military isn’t very high and with overseas combat deployment’s being low at this point, there’s not much more money being made
She should call Kevin samuels 🤣
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He is military. She wants him to find her accountable. He doesn't want to babysit. Therr is a budget -follow it. Sounds like she has a pattern of not doing it. No one wants to raise another child. He has checked out. He doesn't need more stress. Wrong or right.
As Military closing on 20 years...
"He is military" = Nothing abnormal to read into it
"He is military. He does stuff" = has a job that most don't really view as impressive OR has a job and we do not discuss the details because we do not need to know, next question
Need his side of the story. I am sure it will be interesting. Sounds a little weird. She has her own issues.
Mr Dave needs to stop telling this guy to man up. He doesn't know the full story. He just immediately made an uninformed judgement call. Fully disappointed in his advice, but kudos on the gift.
Caller: my husband doesn’t want to combine finances. I’m making twice as much as a husband and he’s having a “hard time with it”.
Also caller: I’ve made a lot of bad money decisions, racked up debt and am an extremely impulsive spender”. He is much better with money.
To any of the men out there, if you are dating or engaged to a woman who talks like this where any criticism is boiled down to “you cannot handle a strong successful woman” run, now. You will be miserable the rest of your life. This is how they absolve themselves of fault by blaming you unable to “handle their success”
My wife and I are in our mid 30s with one kid. I make twice as much as she does as an engineer and her as a teacher. She always says she wishes she made more but I always remind her there are benefits of her job that aren’t included in simple income such as great health care and her job allows her to pretty much always be home when our son is. Find a partner who recognizes the contributions you make and doesn’t constantly draw comparisons. Each partner has strengths and weaknesses, marriage is about utilizing each other’s strengths and improving on your weaknesses to win at life as a team!
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I’m starting to realize Dave gives “simping ” advice
Do you have the answers? Do you have the same experience he has 🤔
is it really simping if she wants her man to hold her accountable by having them combine incomes? She wants someone to handle her and tell her when she's being bad with money. yet her husband wants the outta sight outta mind approach so that he can wash his hands clean of any of her problems. She makes twice his income and wants her man to handle it when they join finance which is what dave encourages. dont think thats simping.
If Dave is a simp than that’s the type of man I want to marry.
@@emmarose6590 Dave can't even be a simp if he wanted to. He's worth too much, his network of men is too strong. He's on another league, but he can give simping advice.
@@SomnambulistCraze to answer question.....in "Their" case, it would be silly for a man to combine "his" money with an financially irresponsible woman....she should have her ish together from the gate
Is she sure they are even married??
She is an impulse spender and has tons of student loan debt. He is in special forces and us probably away a lot. Her stupid pay increase is not the issue.
Her debt is my capital and I’m 26 years younger with the same degree and I mostly worked office jobs. She has an ego problem. Sounds as though thinks earning $10 and spending $11 is more of a contribution than earning $5 and spending $3.
100k at 35! I'm swinging at the air like cuba gooding jr!
I bet the husband doesn't care
Marriage is a team sport.
Yes we both make our own money and generally keep it separate.
However when it comes to bills and other financial decisions we make them together.
Yeah...no. The most fair way is to contribute to the sum of all expenses by percentage of each's income to the overall income.
@@wewhoareabouttodiesaluteyo9303 sounds like you are trying to keep the finances separate.
@@bindingcurve Always.
Why was every not combined just after getting married.
If her making more is a real problem then he has another problem with sharing or insecurity.
"Why was the income not combined after getting married? If her making more is a real problem, then she has another problem, sharing or an insecurity."
Dave i think the real question you shouldve asked is "how many times have you made bad decesions?". Sounds like she is a implose buyer and waste money on none necessity items over a long period of time. With her 100k new income she should show that she can take handle her own mistakes. Prove you Deserve to being equal and do the right thing.
I guess I'll make this point. If you make double the salary of an enlisted personnel, that necessarily doesn't mean you make more than them. The benefits of an enlisted personnel adds up very quickly when accounted for. For instance BAH and cola can compensate handsomely for a military personnel and virtually double the salary when accounted for. Second is the healthcare which also is worth a monetary value. I understand cash in hand is powerful, but benefits are actually very lucrative especially for a military personnel. That's my only caveat on this story. Now if he was an officer, that would be a different story.
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10 years of bad decision is not made up for in one year. Prove you’re commitment and pay off your debts.
He wants to keep things separate so why tell him about your pay increase?
"hes special forces" 😂 😂 😂
Nothing biblical about this either I'm surprised Dave didn't fire the caller.
Separate but unequal doesn't work in marriage.
He should still be making more than her if he is in Special Forces. Special Forces gets hazardous pay, isolation pay, tax free in combat zones, Housing allowance, food allowance. Don’t forget about free medical, dental, life insurance. If his wife had to pay for that she would be making considerably less.
Sounds like a marriage counselor is needed for sure! A long session...each session.
I wish them the best though. Marriage definitely takes work.
She should just keep the money separate and quiet. Pay off debts then save in to a pension by direct debits. He doesn't need the unnecessary stress.
Did I say I make twice the $$ my “yeah military” husband makes… 😉
Only one solution, you should make even more money to mess with him.
Just cause someone makes more than you doesn’t mean there more important to the relationship
Dave is so old school when it comes to marriage, but all adults should be held responsible independently..I dont believe in taking someone elses stupid..sorry!!
Sometimes some of these callers do not need to call this show.. it’s only good for money advice.
His worried about her hypergamy kicking into action
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Which it would sooner or later.
She’s 36, and uncooperative by the sound of it. Men making the kind of money she makes wouldn’t want to deal with her. The man she’s with is her best bet at this point but she wouldn’t see that.
I dream of having a wife who makes more than me. Will never happen.
Yea, because you can’t get any wife who makes less or more than you
Well she made more than him and she took her own student loan debt, why does he has anything to do with her loan
Student loan is totally personal, never should be a responsibility of ones partner
He doesn’t trust her. Not sure I blame him.
I would love if my wife made more then me.
Why?
This is completely one sided I think he needs his side of the story told
Go hear what Suzanne Venker says about this.
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so she does not trust herself making more money and needs a babysitter
Her husband should be less of a sexist and more of a pragmatist.
This is more a case of her not finding him as attractive anymore as a result of her high opinion of herself. Understandable, but difficult to manage. Finding a new, even wealthier guy is her only real option.
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I’d be chilling with my boss 302, and all my fancy toys for the house 😂😂😂😂😂, all you need to do is have a six pack and clean house 💀💀💀💀
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Why did he want to married her? Seems like she is walking financially disaster. It is very hard to change a personal core. Changeable but rare. I think they might have got married for the kids and her to get military benefits.
Unsurprisingly, these types of calls aren't really about money at all. There's obviously quite a bit going on in their relationship as they can't get on the same page. He has a dangerous job and is a way a lot, and perhaps her spending is a way she deals with her loneliness. Hope they work it out.
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Man feels emasculated at home while he’s a big man at work in the military
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That guy is lucky . I wish I had a sugar mama.
Funny how the video title and headline in the video don't match 🤔
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awww... Ken didn't get to talk. :(
As usual, Dave is simping. She seems not honest about herself. Maybe thats why her husband wants to keep things separated because he can´t trust her fully.
What does your husband do for work?
He's military
What does he do for work?
He's active duty
What does he do for work?
He's special forces
But what does he do!?
Something seems really fishy with how they she was being one thing is for sure that people who steal valor almost always claim they are special forces.
Her husband is sf? im suprised she didn't say he was actually John Rambo
Yeah, he trains to kill people, but he is "Insecure" I wish Dave would have corrected her!
It would be great and AWESOME to be married to a woman that makes way more than me!!!! 💕
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The title is misleading. The husband doesn't care about her making more money; his problem is her mismanaging her money
He doesn't have a problem with her making more money. SHE has a problem with making more money than him.
Haven’t watched the video. BUT Facts you must be red pill af my man 🤙🏽
Yep strong independwnt women seem very unhappy
Spot on.
Sounds like she spends to much $ and wants his income to shovel out of the mess she made. Making $100k a year is nothing if your boat has a giant hole in it taking on more water.
@@FlutterSwag independent women dont want to actually be independent
It's easy to be "accountable" now that you have enough money to cover your habits. She needs to realize that, from his perspective, that's not accountability. That's fortunate circumstances compensating for a lack of situational awareness.
Heather, you are living in different spheres of existence. Time is not progressing at the same rate for you and your husband. Before you talk about "getting him on board" now that you're in such a good position, you need to learn to communicate on his frequency. While he's down range, you've been pursuing your goals, making decisions for you, doing what feels right to you, and not really caring about the repercussions because he's not there a lot. But you've been doing that without enough consideration of the stress and burden he carries just trying to meet you half way in life.
Now you've made this huge jump. And if your tone on the phone is any indication of your tone with your husband, there is a, perhaps unintentional, condescending nature that accompanies your newfound success. If you can't address recognize and resolve that within yourself, you're marriage is going to turn toxic.
Even if you can't get into couples therapy right away, I recommend going therapy and conveying to your husband that while you would love to go to counseling together, you're at least going to seek counseling to address your own issues in order to be a better wife and partner to him.
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@yamamancha
Wow!!
You worded perfectly!!
I agree with everything you said. I couldn't have worded better.
Yes, yes, and yes!!!!
Well said
"That's not manning up" I wonder how many men have been guilt triped using these words.
Only the stupid ones. "just man up and do xyz..." thats usually when the person wanting them to do something doesn't have a logical argument.
I got guilt-tripped when i was younger but then I really thought about it...it's really annoying when girls use that phrase and most of them have no idea what it means to actually be a man.
@@mike112693 true ,they usually say this to force men to do their biding, but a true man would never be a doorMatt he will never be submissive to anyone .
@Nuclear Muscle well atleat men know what MAN UP means .
There really is no such thing as manning up anymore if everybody is suppose to be an equal.
She's crowing about $100K income meanwhile she's got $90K in student debt. She's driving a yacht with a hole in the hull.
I think this is above Dave's paygrade.
😂😂
Hahahahaha ain’t that the truth
He gets this same call almost daily. He’s got this.
@@jaye9300 You got it. Dave knows what's up.
I think you're clueless 🙄
Her husband is keeping everything separate because she has bad spending habits. She makes six figures but she probably spends five.
Sounds like she spends every penny she makes, and then some.
I'm a woman and I'm going to say she spends everything she makes and then some, that's why her husband is not combining money with her.
Can't blame the guy.
She's only been on the straight and narrow for a year, that's not long enough to break her bad money habits. She could relapse at anytime.
As Muslims we believe the men are financially responsible and if the woman works then she gets to keep all her money to do as she wants with it. She is not responsible for any of the financial side. I hope he does take some responsibility as a husband but limits it to just what he needs to provide for basic things like food, shelter etc. Also in Islam the woman are responsible for guarding their husbands property which includes his earnings. So I hope she also starts being aware of that and respects his hard earned income. Keeping things entirely separate on his part is just as bad in my opinion as her being wasteful when they are both married.
@@SummeRain783 no one cares about your nonsensical principles
The military offers marriage counseling for veterans and active. This is more than a finance problem.
So basically she wants her husband to “get on board” and help pay her debt and wonder what’s wrong with him when he say no 🤣
Yup, and then he say he's not shocked......lol, i guess he's used to this f'd up mentality.
*pay her debt
Its not her debt
They are married, its both of theirs.
@@adamsaldana5462 the debt was there before they get married, so this is her problem, not his, you simp
@@adamsaldana5462 she racked it up on her own....it's her debt.
I would love to hear the husband's side of the story. She was very quick to prop herself up and place blame on her husband, and Dave was very quick to judge.
Half way into the story she want to say she has debt and money issues.
Yeah i think it is unfair on him.
Before they combine their money, she needs to demonstrate that she’s financially responsible by paying off her debt and saving for at least a year. Then he would probably trust her. This is a trust issue.
All the people commenting about the husbands insecurity didn’t listen to the video. They titled this wrong to probably pander to a female audience.
Their good at it.
Simps gonna simp.
The always do pitch the 🐝. Women make up the majority of purchasing decision in a marriage.
After listening to this video, they really titled this for click bait. This financial problem had nothing to do with her pay increase but her lack of self-responsibility
Did she say $200 tooth paste? 🤔🤦🏽♂️
Does she have dentures?
She goes for toothpaste and then spends $200 on other things.
@@anniealexander9616 that makes more sense lol
Imagine being the husband watching this lol
If she has 90k in student loans. Half her shovel could be going to pay off her debt. Why she is not trying to get rid of her baggage before trying to fix him?
and pay off her debts.
It could be that she wants to see what his balance sheet looks like so they both can decide how to tackle their debts.
@@Shay416 call me self but I would pay off my baggage first out of guilt for bringing debt into a relationship.
Before her raise, she had an excuse for not paying her debts. And she could keep her big spending habits.
Now she doesn’t have an excuse, so she wants to combine finances so she can use her husband’s money to pay the debts. And she could keep spending big.
Having a hard time with it only because you keep reminding him...
Exactly, she sounds incredibly arrogant.
Dave you're telling a SF guy to man up?
It sounds like literally no part of this rested on the "fact" that her husband was jealous of her and likely was more about her husband not trusting her judgement. Now that she finally made some decent money she is just using that as a bludgeon.
I'm starting not to beilieve in most of Dave's titles for these videos.
The way that she talks is the biggest red flag