Facing Internalized Loneliness - What It Is And How To Heal It
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- Опубліковано 28 сер 2024
- Facing Internalized Loneliness - What It Is And How To Heal It
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"A desire to love, a desire to connect, a desire to contribute" summed it up to a T. Thank you again for these videos!!
This really hit home. I realize the emptiness I feel is abandonment issues stemming from childhood and from people “leaving me” as an adult but I can reframe it to have the perspective that some relationships aren’t meant to last. Working on finding connection to self.
Wow that's incredible. Thank you so much, I am so grateful for you and your work🙏🏼♥️I prayed for guidance for so long and I am so thankful! Not that anyone should feel this kind of pain but you're totally using it to save people's lives, it's real.
Thank you so much. I have had this sense of loneliness my whole life and now that I understand why, I can heal it.
Wowza! Thank you Marshall. . . What a light bulb moment. You've explained internalized loneliness in the clearest way. I feel like I have a legit map now, and I can begin to heal into that space.
You're welcome!
I love the way you explained that! I’ve subscribed!
I’ve recently drawn very deep boundaries with my abusive narcissistic parents and also my narcissistic older brother and his partner.
And I’m realizing that I’ve spent so much of my life jumping between both couples dramas….. and now not communicating with either of them… I’m sensing this deep lonely shift that’s about to start in my life! I was glad to hear you mention that there’s beauty in it…and that we should lean into it!
That’s exactly what I’m going to do! Grateful to have found your channel!
I’m not going to lie… I feel very sad realizing that I’ve wasted so much time…Trying “to be there” For two couples that make zero efforts to be close with me or involved in my life,
But I’m grateful for my husband and 9 both old… they definitely are the strength behind my boundaries!
thanks man great vid. I like how you described trauma bonding and the vide is very good landing well. And the idea of the inner child stuck in a box that no one can see or hear them.
You're welcome!
Whoa… this was really good. Really resonated with the little self feeling euphoric when someone shows up with the potential to love us and see us. And then feeling devastated when that person leaves with their love. Maybe it was an incompletion from childhood? We were never fully seen or loved then, so those parts try to complete that process? Reminds me of Dick Schwartz’s book: “you are the one you’ve been waiting for.”
Yep, they're trying to complete that process to realize themselves
The only part that’s still unclear to me is the early childhood development concept of differentiation or individuation. What does it look like when that goes right? Why/how is our Self development dependent on that?
She’s connected to me and we both have feelings for one another.
Every time I go into a live chat she feels me. It’s quite amazing to watch.
I don’t like her doing fire sign readings, her personality changes
OMG! I have to say Marshall you out did yourself in this one it completely came through, you explained it so well I had so many ahas, and now understanding of why I have felt lonely for most of my life. I was abandoned physically & emotionally as a child. I love it when you show your Marshall art, it helps me understand things so much better. I believe this one video helped me understand pretty much my entire life, and it revealed so much. Yep, trauma bonder & love addict here, but this video helped me to understand why, and now how to heal these parts of me. 🙏🪄🦋 Thank you!
I thought you explained it well. I never thought about this before and it was very eye-opening. Great work!
Thank you!
That was a wonderful insight, makes so much sense, ❤ thank you!
I wonder also if it isn’t a little part of us that saw that our early caretaker was inadequate and then transferred that to thinking our adult self is inadequate?? And constantly searching for someone who is adequate. I pick up on that sometimes in myself-not trusting my Self to be enough. Trying to outsource my wholeness.
I think that is very possible for many of us. I've had clients that felt that way, and I have too.
Great video, totally love the Marshall art & description, def Ah-ha moment!
This makes perfect sense.
A tarot reader I follow I see the Impact she takes on with other peoples emotions.
She drained at the end of a reading. The fire sign for her is a mess
SO helpful and totally clear
Good to hear this concept, thank you ❤️
Can you explain more elaborately , How to reconnect with SELF ?
Check out the "How to Know Yourself" Playlist. It will help answer this question
I looked for this playlist and don’t see it, was it renamed? Moved?
Thank you for sharing 😊
That was amazing
Hate this emptiness....I’m working really hard on finding myself again after decades of npd abuse & leaving/very low contact with narc relationships
Would love more on this topic⚡️⚡️please
it is a hard one to navigate. The loneliness is a biggie. Check out these videos I've done on the subject: ua-cam.com/users/Freetheselfcomsearch?query=loneliness
Will you be doing another video about this Marshall? I think it's a very important subject that you've hit on here ❤
Yeah, there will be more!
You are definitely clear, I totally understand but now what? I’m struggling as I am alone and lonely inside and out, if that makes sense.
it makes sense. First step is a theraputic community to connect with for support. I recommend starting with CoDa.org. Second is a therapist. Third is platonic community centered around something you care about that is not support related. It will take work, experience, and trauma healing to heal the loneliness. But resourcing the 3 things above will help you do the work, gain the experience, and have the healing.
You explained it well! However the box example works better I think :)
There's no "how" in this video. Great explanation of what internalized loneliness is, however.
Try this out: If you're struggling with this, here are some tips that can help in your journey:
1) The loneliness is the echo of being neglected in your PAIN and in your JOY. To start warming up that isolation, VALUE and care about your pain first.
This radically accelerated my sense of healing and warmth towards myself.
I did this through acknowledging and endorsing what I felt while making eye contact with myself in a mirror or a picture of my younger self.
A couple of examples I do:
"I feel my loneliness and it matters to me. I care for you (me), lonely self. I am here WITH you in this."
Then I would hug myself and rock back and forth like a loving parent would with their child.
"I feel this emptiness and I am WITH this part of me that feels so lonely. I am walking with me". Sometimes I would hold my own hand in these moments.
Caring for your pain with warmth and kindness warms and thaws that loneliness.
2) Identify and reinforce the connections you have in your life. Write it down and acknowledge it verbally to yourself. "I have so-and-so in my life. So-and-so is my friend."
You can use this tool to help:
distribution.freetheself.com/tlib/pdf/crp.pdf
3) Play. This is crucial to warming connection. Play with others. Go out and do things you enjoy. Give it time. Be persistent with it.
As you do this, explore letting yourself feel into belonging and being a part of the community. Let yourself adapt to it and experience a sense of being "here" with these people.
Do this with friends as well. This will help train your brain to identify and remember connections you have, which will soothe that internal loneliness program and build more resilience.
This exactly!!