How to become a better listener in a relationship (With ONE Powerful Technique)
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- Опубліковано 13 вер 2019
- HOW TO BECOME A BETTER LISTENER IN A RELATIONSHIP (WITH ONE POWERFUL TECHNIQUE)
How to become a better listener in a relationship (Learn the skills to be a better listener in relationships.)
Being a better listener in a relationship is crucial if you want to have better communication between the both of you. When you learn the skills to be a better listeners, relationships can flourish, and not only that, being a better listener will help you resolve conflicts much more effectively in your relationship.
If you’re wondering “How can I become a better listener for my girlfriend, boyfriend, husband or wife”, then this video will teach you the ONE power technique to becoming better listeners in your relationship.
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I do have problems with listening and i am kinda impulsive i want to work on this to get better and help her feel better and help her feel more loved do you have any videos for that do you recommend anything?
Is this applicable in a separation?
It is sometimes difficult to be a good listener to someone who always wants a one way communication or self righteous😉
Remember -- it only takes one to perpetuate or break a cycle. So if you start doing the right things -- you have the power to change the state of your relationship & your partner.
This makes a lot of sense. I do sometimes try to hold on to my responses so I won’t forget, so if I focus on repeating instead of my response I’ll actually hear what’s being said.
Yes! You got it exactly right!
I had a real eureka moment with this video, thank you so much! This makes so much sense and I'm honestly disappointed in myself for not knowing this before.
Awesome Tim! What was the eureka moment for you?
I actually tried this out with my girlfriend today and it helped me very much. i’m working on the rebuilding trust part as well and breaking a stone wall. but so far progress has been made and it’s making me and her more happy. we wanting to respond and give at the same time and got louder just trying to get a point across and I turn into the listener and she was very happy and she changed like her energy did positively. she felt like someone was listening today. thank you very much I love your advice.
Happy this video helped you! What was the most insightful part for you?
I know I’m late but me and my boyfriend has some communication issues and majority of it is my fault. I want to change and try to keep in mind that I should listen. But for some reason I keep messing up. Watching this video helped me clarify a lot of things. Thank you so much :) I’m going to try thing when he comes back from work.
Hi Athena,
You are welcome! Happy this video has helped to give you some clarity in your situation. Once you remain consistent in following the right processes to become a good listener. He will naturally feel safe to communicate over time.
Admitting an issue like this is a big actually blew my mind while ready 😮 just dropped in to say thank you for your transparency and may continue to bless your Union…
Being a great listener is extremely important!
Great tips! I agree with you, listening is very important in every relationship.
I love the point that asking for clarification and more information "gets your brain in discovery mode!" So awesome.
Yes! Glad that one resonated with you
Just want to say that your videos are the best marketing tool for your program. Not only do they make sense and give useful advice, you can also see the change in you as a person between the much older videos and the more recent ones.
MINDBLOWING!
Bruh I swear every one of your videos is like you have been spying on my marriage, I'm separated now and we still talk some , and I was angry at first but once I started therapy and my therapist recommended your videos, now I see how much of my marriage problems are actually ME!! you are helping me learn to be a better husband and just a better man , thanks Doc!
Very good information to build a good relationship. Keep it up👍
I love your content... very helpful and unique in a way that no body tells it anywhere! Stay blessed Geoffrey...feeling gratitude towards you.
Brooo i feel like you are speaking directly to me in this video. thank youu
I learned the part of u paraphrasing the statement so that u gus can be on the same page. Thanks for this
This is very helpful, similarly to what you describe I try really hard to listen but need a different practice. Repeating and paraphrasing is something I'm really excited to try.
Listening is so important----Great technique Geoffrey !
Glad you found it helpful Eli!
This video is so useful!
Great video once again. Thanks for sharing👍
Thanks Michael!
Thank YOU! Such great points
Hi Hadley,
You are welcome!
Happy these points were insightful for you.
I keep forgetting what my partner said like when he goes to work or where he's going and it makes him feel that I don't listen or don't care. I think it's just that I'm forgetful. I don't know how to fix it :/
I fully agree with your technique on listening
I would like to receive your four days of listening lessons
great points. This will help me with my hubby and listening to my kids and clients!
Thank you! Yes, this really can be applicable to absolutely any conversations :)
This hit home so hard that it made me laugh. Wow! Good stuff. All of it.😎🙏
Solid video and love the content!! This is a big issue a lot of couples have. I've spent lots of time teaching this skill as well as assertive communication. Thanks, I'm subbed. 😁
Thanks Christian! Glad you found it valuable! What niche are you in?
@@GeoffreySetiawan Look forward to watching more when I have more time. Im in mindfulness for personal development niche but working on nicheing down.
Asking questions!!
Great video Geoffrey, i love the part where you say “so I can understand you properly, what you’re saying is”
If I can add one thing- a switch to “what I’m hearing you say” or “what I understand from that is” can help reduce resistance as that can often happen with “your” language. great video looking forward to more
Love it NLP Influence, glad you are enjoying my content and thank you for your comment and support.
Hi buddy, great video really learned a thing or two I didn't know ! Keep it up
BroLessons - Personal Growth Animated thank man. I’m glad it was valuable!
Dude you're cool. I love your explanation
I really resonated with the let it land. Feel it. Sometimes ego wants to come back without even processing what was just said. I know I would get very defensive and in the last 3 year have realized anything I'm getting up set about was more like a mirror showing me what I need to work on. 💫☯️🕉
Hi Alissa Sims,
Yes, this is such an eye-opening moment when people start to realize the effect this has on conversation. Love it!
All of the above
1,2 and 3
The whole thing was good but the way to respond is awesome because it will help me listen and understand more and I also have problems with what to say or how to say it I am a selfish person
Alfonso, am happy this video was helpful. Listening and understanding is very crucial as you mentioned.
Geoffrey is a Genius 👏🙂
Wow, such a compliment. So glad you are enjoying my content.
I've enjoyed watching your videos and the growth that the channel has had in the last year. When I discovered you, I wondered....why is Geoffrey not number 1 coach on internet! Well he will be soon....thanks Geoffrey!!!
Thanks for watching! How will this change the way you listen to your partner?
Really thorough and informative video thank you -- some great implementable tips!
Thank you Kat! Glad you found it valuable. Thank you for tuning in!
I listen to the voices
easier said than done
Hi Pranshu,
Thank you for your response. While yes I can agree with you without the right help this can feel overwhelming... kinda like where do I even start?
Many of my clients have seen massive success and found it to be easy to do once show the right process and practices combined with the right help. Take a look at few of our testimonials and see if this is kind of like how you feel? hopeless...where do I begin?
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Many times when I paraphrase, my wife says I have not been listening because I haven't repeated things word for word!
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Hi Ankit Kushpoul,
So glad you found it insightful. What did you find most eye-opening?
Currently on a trip with my ex atm and I've used alot of the tactics from the heart. She's starting to open up to ne already but still a bit to herself which I respect. She's almost told me the reason why she broke ip with me and says that we were very toxic and I agree with her and let her know that if she wants to talk about it to go ahead but doesn't completely open up yet. I think she notice a sight difference due to the fact that she looks at me weird lol but I'm completely cool with it. She possibly cheated on me which is why she left me but again that's a bad assumption on my end. Either way I admit to not being there for her and having not the right but the right to do about her buisness. Thank you sir for helping
I tried all 3.
Good, now keep trying. Trying it a few times isn't going to work.
Well I tried to solve a lot of her issues when she was telling me instead of talking hear out what the problem actually was now looking back I see all my solutions were very surface level solutions I realized that if I had used the technique of asking for clarification and to speak my opinion it would have presumptively stopped a lot of turmoil
Hi Littleshyite,
Once you follow the right processes and frameworks… you will have the power to turn every negative interaction into positive.
This ultimately builds trust and safety over time.
I keep trying to watch this video... But I repeatedly keep losing focus and stop listening. 😅😂
I have subscribed to the communication 4 day class and I never get the guide in my email…
How to do it in chat?
I’m an awkward person and my mind never stops thinking, so by the time I’m done listening in a conversation with anybody. I’m all over the place..My reactions are always off queue and so are my expressions. It makes it seem like I’m lost or not all the way there to everybody I communicate with. Or like I’m being rude but I sincerely trying to my best to engage and make sure they know I care fr…idk what’s wrong with me sometimes lol 😅
Sounds like when you pitch sales ideas
What if she refuse to hear from my perspective ?
Listing all the things that we are doesn't work... listing the reasoning that I related to.
My ex gf says i dont listen too. I do keep eye contact and respond and ask questions. Whenever i ask questions she says im interupting and she hates it so much. Whenever i just keep quiet and she will force me to say something when i really dont have anything to say. She always says i dont listen in this relationship and thats one of the reasons she wanted to breakup with me and that she needed space.
In the same boat mate .. can't win what ever we do...
I get to a point when there to much talking and info coming out of her f
Voice and forget 😭
Listening not responding
@Geoffrey Setiawan: how do I handle my wife not looking into my eyes when she is talking to me, she’s been like that all 18years together, 16yrs married.
Hi William,
Come join me in my free 90 min master class to see what I feel is the root of what is happening and what is missing in the relationship that causes your partner to not want to look into your eyes.
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What if Email is the only mode of communication available ??
Hi Bassa,
Very common question let me share with you another video that may provide you with a little more clarity. Be sure to come back to let me know what you think.
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What if she talks so much you just forget what she's taking about assheson to the 10th subject ?
I've told her to slow down and let me join in and then she tells me to stop butting in..
When she adventually finishes in literally lost
Sometimes I feel like letting it land for a longer time lol
Hi Hadley,
Letting your partners expression of her emotions land on you before you respond is crucial in showing that you are listening & understand.
I have tried tried repeat. Paraphrase and clarity ..... when this happens I'm accused of trying to change the narrative
Yolonda, resistance to your changes is completely normal. Just make it clear that's not your intention to change the conversation but actually for better understanding.🙂
When listening, he was talking so long and lecturing, I couldn't remember everything. My mind is trying not to respond at the moment and still respond to the interrogation
Hi AJ S,
Yes, there is often so much pint up emotions it comes out in an eruption. Learn to ask to break it up and then focus on what you feel was the most important topic, then ask to clarify.
... sorry what were you saying?
It's hard for me to listen and not respond. I'm too focused on all I want to say!
Hi Anon, it can be challenging at first to change but with the right skills and process you definitely can. You should join my free masterclass to see how we can help you achieve this.
My husband DOESN’T respond! I’m just talking to a wall
Should I invite my wife to watch these videos???
I can't stand when I'm talking and he talks over me. By engaging he thinks it's communication. But talking over me, he's not listening. If I was allowed to talk without interruptions, would be nice. I find it rude.
Asking Questions.... I ask but it seems to threaten.
Matthew -- Then you're asking it wrong :) Try phrasing your repeat and paraphrase like so "Okay...I'm going to repeat some stuff back to you to make sure I understand...XYZ...What do you think about that?" Watch your tone as well.
Geoffrey Setiawan my wife told me I have severe apathy issues. Well she said it differently but I adhere to UA-cam TOS.