Hey guys! Thanks for watching and I hope that was helpful. Be sure to check out my brand new masterclass on the 5 Proven Steps to Rebuilding Your Relationship/Marriage. (Warning: Spots are limited) 💪 Here is the link to the MASTERCLASS! -> relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass 🎁 Download the FREE GUIDE! -> relationshipsmastered.com/healing-partner-emotions 🗣 Join the FB Group! -> facebook.com/groups/1032426806961329/
Not checking my phone when I get up. Make my bed immediately, work out, then shower and put on a motivation video in the shower. Instead of instantly checking my phone first thing
I have changed my environment by making my partner feel safe. I make her feel safe by allowing her to express her emotions and address them as emotional and not logical. It takes a LOT for me to keep my defense mechanism to calm down, but I am now practicing this technique. Wish me luck. :)
My wife and I are in a weird place. She has asked me for space. I have not left the home but I’ve been in the couch for the past month. We have 2.5 year old twins and we are really struggling. These videos have been helping me though it all. I too have to adjust how I handle emotional situations. I’ve been practicing with anything in my life that would usually trigger me- when driving, when in crowded places, when speaking to people I manage at work. I sense the emotion, I acknowledge that it’s surging. I don’t ignore it. I rationalize, why am I getting annoyed or angry? What is it ? I allow it to pass and I have not allowed those emotions to control my actions. This is what I believe is one of a many issues I have brought to my relationship of 10 years. I have not allowed her to speak her mind and share her inner thoughts when they are about me. I get offended and react. That was the old me. I am working on that now. As he stated, I am addressing habits that feed that behavior. I stopped watching political news, I stopped watching violent shows. I’m reading at night. I’m not following social media. I’m meditating. It’s been a month now and I must say I’m enjoying the process. My wife is still needs her space but I think she is noticing my new demeanor. I’m not ready though. Last night I had a bad night. My mind went to places it shouldn’t. I’m still learning. I’m growing. This is a life long process. I realize that I’m “wired” like this but it’s time to rewire my brain. I hope that in the months to come, years to come I am a better version of myself and have my wife at my side, looking on proudly. That’s what I’m praying for. To be continued……
Sounds a lot like me Brotha. Stay strong focus on yourself and keep hope. One day we’ll control our emotions and our families will be restored I’m sure of it. Keep you’re head up focus on yourself and what you can control. I believe you have the strength and you’ll change for good. For yourself, your wife and your babies. God bless you and your family I’m praying Jesus heals your fam please pray for mine as well
thank you for sharing this it helped me a lot Fabian. I am in a difficult situation with my GF and although we are staying under one roof she said i had really been suppressing her for long and she does not feel safe with me and my reactions. It was heart breaking for me to hear. She says she needs space and I am desperately trying to give it to her but at the same time worry about losing her for good. She's a keeper for me. The best ever. I just cant take the cold stance of hers and how she's acting now. best of luck to you
Omg fellas I’m on the same boat, I need to learn how to control my emotions and not let my mind wander around because it gets me anxious and stressed out but watching this videos is most definitely going to help and turn negative thoughts into positive thoughts. Prayers for all your family member’s. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Dont forget to be firm but respectful about the fact that you want to save your marriage. Unfortunately women get validated by other men at work, so we dont always get a chance to fix things because some other guy has emotionally taken our job. Also start working out, but make sure she knows you are, and get back into your old hobbies, because these were the things that made you attractive to her when you met. I get how having kids makes us die to self, but dont lose what she thought was great about you. Above all, lead as the head of your house in a biblical way.
"True but fucking useless" is a mantra that has helped me avoid descending into anxiety so many times these last few months. I have also started watching this video daily because I want to get a deeper understanding of these principles. To be honest, all the 5 tips are fantastic. I have been working on changing my mental habits since June of last year. It has helped in many ways but every day i discover one or more erroneous paradigm and It feels like starting again every time. I am so happy and grateful for your help though. Keep going!
My new habit is going to be asking when a situation gets complicated, if my partner needs me to be a bucket for her to place her emotions in or if she needs me to come up solutions if the issue is logical.
To Starve the negative I have told myself that anytime I react or want to react to something someone else does around me while driving, I stop myself. I then tell myself, "Don't react to the world." This helps clear my mental state of the negative habit I have created over the years. To nurture the positive I watch a motivational video everyday like you do, something my mentor has taught me, that way I get my mind in a positive state for most of my day.
Hi Brandon Brazeau, Yes, good start. But there are also many more ways to become more emotionally bullet proof. Check out this video in case you missed it. ua-cam.com/video/tp6g9vgOiec/v-deo.html
I'm trying to watch this video every day so that it doesn't require too much executive function to internalize this. I want to make it muscle memory (so turning this lesson in mental habits into a reflexive habit!)
I’m starting this video over. Again. You’ve helped me more than you know! Thank you! I’ve watched and listened to you, for about 6 months. I love how you explain “emotions”. “Bulletproof”, once understood, and how to understand it is brilliant. Jordan Peterson type stuff 🤙🏽Thank you.
I’ve spent countless hours watching your videos. This one is brilliant. I like so many parts, how can I start commenting? To pick one, I like the ‘affect labeling’ part. To practice labeling your feelings-Say out loud, like to your partner, “I feel (blank)”. So you become aware, so you can shift, change your interpretation, and paradigms. But first you must learn to recognize,label your feelings. Am I understanding this more or less correctly?
This was so helpful. I have Aspergers so I cant understand all of these, but I was unaware that assuming my husband was emotionally unavailable or negligent was just how he was, I thought it was a trait, and I completely see that thinking differently it is hard for him to communicate with an autistic partner, and long work days wear on him and his energy and I want to make sure from now on that I dont address that as if it's a person problem. Thank you!
Glad this was valuable for you! I think that paradigm shift will begin to improve a lot of things for you both. Let me know if you have any other questions/topic you'd like me to address!
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Putting your emotions into words is so important ! Great tips !!
I love your challenge to find something to do to nurture the positive or starve the negative. I've been starting to meditate more. I've been focusing on breathing habits. There are TV episodes and movies I won't watch anymore because they remind me of a terrible situation.
Just listening to Geoffrey has brought more peace and stability to my being. It would be really nice if he could offer segments of his program as to make it more affordable, possibly as an evolving curriculum with pay as you go support?
Hi Tyson, Thank you for your support. Before you think about the financial side of things I invite you to check out my free 90 min master class. Click on the link to sign up. relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass
I totally agree he's the best hands down I've been listening to him for about a year and also a lot of other coaches and Geoffrey is leaps and bounds ahead of these other clowns thanks Jeff for the content but I agree it's would be amazing for us who can't come up with the full amount for the program don't get me wrong I feel like it's worth every red cent it's just sometimes difficult to fork out the full tuition
Thanks for watching everyone! What's the one thing you'd like to start introducing into your life to either nurture the positive, or starve the negative?
After watch your videos countless times, i now realize 1 most crucial thing about myself of being the new me...i have to kill all negativity of the old me, and reverse it while at the same time keep nurturing all the positivity of the old me into the new me. Im not really sure if i get this right, but this is what i understand for now. Hopefully u can help me to clarify this Jeff. Thx a lot, ur practical knowledge is super precious nowadays
thank you so much!!!!! this is so helpfull! what a kind gift of you sharing this insides. i deeply appreciate your thoughts and words and can see better through my behavior and conditioning 💚 lot´s of love and only the best wishes
This video is amazing, definitely on my repeat watch list. I wish I could join the program, it's just out of my reach right now. I wish there was a way it could be more affordable or pay on a monthly basis like bullet proof husband.
Part 5 that last part is wat ive been doing. Telling close ppl around me wrk mates freinds etc bout all the nasty things that my x has done, which is jus building negative thougts daily bout her and not seeing past it to actually work things out. Stuck in a rut of emotions.
I find your videos incredibly insightful Geoffrey, thank you for sharing your learnings and wisdom. I'm hoping to apply these techniques each day, to better myself and to hopefully to help my partner feel safer to share, in that I won't judge anymore.
Would love to see more on both how to calm a racing heart-rate upon hearing harsh news and how to calm someone's heart rate after telling them harsh news! Working through a rapid heart rate while maintaining a safe environment is hard, but can be made simple by steps to take to internally decide not to react!
There are a few figures I find very motivating for me: 1) Christian Guzman 2) Sunny Lennarduzzi (also my mentor and coach) 3) Sam Ovens (My mentor and coach) and 4) Quazi Johir (Friend and mentor). I would check out all their youtube channels to see if they resonate with you as well!
I have not made any videos on this, but I would highly recommend 2 books: 1) The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg, 2) Thinking Fast & Slow by Daniel Kahneman
I have been working on my emotions and trying to create a safe environment with my ex for 9 months. However my partner still is not willing to speak about anything controversial, she says there is no point.
Imagine if someone says "I've been going to the gym and working out for 9 months, but I haven't even lost a pound". Is the question whether the gym/working out works in getting people to lose weight? Or is the question whether that person has the right/wrong idea/process/principles of what it means to work out and lose weight? So going back to your comment, what do you think? For thousands of my clients, creating safety always works. For you, it doesn't... Why do you think? As I say in a lot of my videos, the things a lot of people think "creates safety" actually does the opposite. e.g. Paradox of logic, high-value illusions, solutions illusions, blind spots, etc...
Hi Geoffrey. I want to start off by saying thank you for all that you do to help couples and people in general. I have issues with shutting down when something is said to me by my husband. I shut down once I think he does not care about my feelings. In turn, he senses me shutting down and shuts down himself. It has been a constant cycle we have been on for years! How can I try to reframe my mind and help to not shut down? Please help as much as you can. Thank you!!!
Hi, thank you and start here by first understanding how this start to break down over time. Join me in my free 90 min master class. relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass
@@GeoffreySetiawan hi Geoffrey. I’m happy to report after some counseling and praying, my husband has begun to change his views and feelings toward me for the better. We no longer shut down for days and are much more happier with one another. Thank you for your insight!
My problem, "starving the bad" feels disingenuous. I feel negative for a reason, pretending to be positive doesn't help when I already know that's not how I feel.
My gf asked for time and space apart for 2 months. Before we started the time and space apart we basically told each other we still loved each other, still wanted this to work out and everything. There was just some things I was doing that I wasn’t even aware of that we’re causing harm. For instance the one she told me to work on the most was me being trustworthy I guess. Example. She would go to the store or gym without me. First thing I would say is don’t talk to guys. When she wouldn’t reply to my text within an hour or so I would ask where are u. I told her I don’t like it when guys talk to u and try to come up to u and hit on u. I told her I didn’t want her going to the gym because guys talk to u there and they try to hit on u. She made me aware how I was treating her and how she felt through her perspective how she felt suffocated and everything because I didn’t let her do what she liked without me telling her don’t talk to guys and where are u all the time. I only saw it as me trying to protect her from a guy hitting on her. She wants 2 months of space. But she did say that she loves me and she wants to work this out. How would I change in order to show her I really want her and change for the better. Please help people. I really love this woman with everything I have.
Hi Geoffrey...can suggest you mention a bit about your background in your intros..like I am Geoffrey..married or been with my beautiful partner ..X..for ...x yes.. etc is not just hearing u as an intellectual..but helps them to be very interested in your story
Hey Gerald, Master class sessions are available 3 times a day… You can get personal help by submitting your application at the end of the masterclass. If you’d like to learn more, you can join our free masterclass here. relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass At the end of this masterclass, you will also get some information on how you can submit your application for the program. And in case you’re curious as to how life-changing this program is, or how it is MILES beyond what other programs can offer, check out the links below! Client Review Videos: ua-cam.com/play/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU.html Client Review Screenshots: drive.google.com/drive/folders/1Gp8UpRV9uMlFx763BfuQnEqN930FQb7b?usp=sharing
I have a question, my partner told me before new year that she doesn't love me anymore. It was a huge bombshell, but after we spoke about what was going on (basically I've been distant over the last few months due to my mental health) and now she wants me to let go of her. We're still living together and have a 5 year old daughter together. Now here is the heartbreaking part, I feel like she is already seeing someone else, maybe it's a rebound I don't know. But how do I handle that part, do I ignor it and carry on working on myself, and do I talk to her and ask her why she's seeking attention from someone else so soon? All this time, I also had no idea things were breaking down, because her wouldn't communicate with me about any problems
My wife separated with before the end of 2021. She has started talking to this dude that she met on the vacation that I was supposed to be on but couldn’t go. She moved to a different state a few weeks after she separated with me and the the guy is basically a train ride away. I know they have been seeing each other this whole time she’s moved. She has come back now and we live in the same house. We also have a 5yo. And it’s tough. I’ve done all the wrong things even before she separated with me. And I don’t know if there’s any way to fix our marriage. But for now I’m just trying my hardest to concentrate on bettering myself not just to get her back but because I know I need to for myself, my daughter and my future partner if it does end up in divorce. She’s already told me she wants to be in a relationship with him. It’s a daily battle honestly and it can really take a toll on you. I know it did to me. But just focus on yourself rn without expecting any results good or bad. Just be open to it when the day comes. Yourself and most importantly your 5yo will thank you someday for doing it wether the relationship works out or not
Hey guys! Thanks for watching and I hope that was helpful. Be sure to check out my brand new masterclass on the 5 Proven Steps to Rebuilding Your Relationship/Marriage. (Warning: Spots are limited)
💪 Here is the link to the MASTERCLASS! -> relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass
🎁 Download the FREE GUIDE! -> relationshipsmastered.com/healing-partner-emotions
🗣 Join the FB Group! -> facebook.com/groups/1032426806961329/
Thanks for this video
Not checking my phone when I get up. Make my bed immediately, work out, then shower and put on a motivation video in the shower. Instead of instantly checking my phone first thing
I have changed my environment by making my partner feel safe. I make her feel safe by allowing her to express her emotions and address them as emotional and not logical. It takes a LOT for me to keep my defense mechanism to calm down, but I am now practicing this technique. Wish me luck. :)
So how’s it going? I’m just now beginning
Too bad women can't just be straight fucking forward.
Are you guys still together?
Good luck man. You got this!
It's too late for me. My partner wants separation I didn't learn early enough
My wife and I are in a weird place. She has asked me for space. I have not left the home but I’ve been in the couch for the past month. We have 2.5 year old twins and we are really struggling. These videos have been helping me though it all. I too have to adjust how I handle emotional situations. I’ve been practicing with anything in my life that would usually trigger me- when driving, when in crowded places, when speaking to people I manage at work. I sense the emotion, I acknowledge that it’s surging. I don’t ignore it. I rationalize, why am I getting annoyed or angry? What is it ? I allow it to pass and I have not allowed those emotions to control my actions.
This is what I believe is one of a many issues I have brought to my relationship of 10 years. I have not allowed her to speak her mind and share her inner thoughts when they are about me. I get offended and react. That was the old me.
I am working on that now. As he stated, I am addressing habits that feed that behavior. I stopped watching political news, I stopped watching violent shows. I’m reading at night. I’m not following social media. I’m meditating. It’s been a month now and I must say I’m enjoying the process. My wife is still needs her space but I think she is noticing my new demeanor. I’m not ready though. Last night I had a bad night. My mind went to places it shouldn’t. I’m still learning. I’m growing. This is a life long process. I realize that I’m “wired” like this but it’s time to rewire my brain.
I hope that in the months to come, years to come I am a better version of myself and have my wife at my side, looking on proudly. That’s what I’m praying for.
To be continued……
Sounds a lot like me Brotha. Stay strong focus on yourself and keep hope. One day we’ll control our emotions and our families will be restored I’m sure of it. Keep you’re head up focus on yourself and what you can control. I believe you have the strength and you’ll change for good. For yourself, your wife and your babies. God bless you and your family I’m praying Jesus heals your fam please pray for mine as well
@@mikelike3877 Thanks for the message and the prayers. I can always use those. Praying for you as well. May Jesus heal us and our families.
thank you for sharing this it helped me a lot Fabian. I am in a difficult situation with my GF and although we are staying under one roof she said i had really been suppressing her for long and she does not feel safe with me and my reactions. It was heart breaking for me to hear. She says she needs space and I am desperately trying to give it to her but at the same time worry about losing her for good. She's a keeper for me. The best ever. I just cant take the cold stance of hers and how she's acting now. best of luck to you
Omg fellas I’m on the same boat, I need to learn how to control my emotions and not let my mind wander around because it gets me anxious and stressed out but watching this videos is most definitely going to help and turn negative thoughts into positive thoughts. Prayers for all your family member’s. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Dont forget to be firm but respectful about the fact that you want to save your marriage. Unfortunately women get validated by other men at work, so we dont always get a chance to fix things because some other guy has emotionally taken our job. Also start working out, but make sure she knows you are, and get back into your old hobbies, because these were the things that made you attractive to her when you met. I get how having kids makes us die to self, but dont lose what she thought was great about you. Above all, lead as the head of your house in a biblical way.
"True but fucking useless" is a mantra that has helped me avoid descending into anxiety so many times these last few months.
I have also started watching this video daily because I want to get a deeper understanding of these principles. To be honest, all the 5 tips are fantastic.
I have been working on changing my mental habits since June of last year. It has helped in many ways but every day i discover one or more erroneous paradigm and It feels like starting again every time.
I am so happy and grateful for your help though. Keep going!
My new habit is going to be asking when a situation gets complicated, if my partner needs me to be a bucket for her to place her emotions in or if she needs me to come up solutions if the issue is logical.
To Starve the negative I have told myself that anytime I react or want to react to something someone else does around me while driving, I stop myself. I then tell myself, "Don't react to the world." This helps clear my mental state of the negative habit I have created over the years. To nurture the positive I watch a motivational video everyday like you do, something my mentor has taught me, that way I get my mind in a positive state for most of my day.
Hi Brandon Brazeau,
Yes, good start. But there are also many more ways to become more emotionally bullet proof. Check out this video in case you missed it.
ua-cam.com/video/tp6g9vgOiec/v-deo.html
There’s a lot of mastery that can come from following these tips.
Thanks Elena! Glad you found it valuable!
I'm trying to watch this video every day so that it doesn't require too much executive function to internalize this. I want to make it muscle memory (so turning this lesson in mental habits into a reflexive habit!)
Is it helpful, how are you doing now??
I’m starting this video over. Again. You’ve helped me more than you know! Thank you! I’ve watched and listened to you, for about 6 months. I love how you explain “emotions”. “Bulletproof”, once understood, and how to understand it is brilliant. Jordan Peterson type stuff 🤙🏽Thank you.
This advise can be applied to most relationships.
Yes!
Focusing on breathing control instead of getting sucked into that inner joust is great advice
This video should have million views sooo underrated. Thanks for the secrets, what a gem!
My new habit is to let go of the anger and stay calm no matter what .
Absolutely! Take control of your emotions and don't let that dictate your actions. You got this! 🙂
The angry perpetual cycle...can be dangerous!!! I want that bullet proof vest to break the cycle!!! Thank you for this video!!! Great advice!!!
Thank you!
It is so important to manage your emotions for sure in your marriage! Great tips!
Glad you enjoyed it :) Thanks for tuning in!
I pray or I listen to something spiritual. I usually catch myself when my mind goes to a negative thought
I’ve spent countless hours watching your videos. This one is brilliant. I like so many parts, how can I start commenting? To pick one, I like the ‘affect labeling’ part. To practice labeling your feelings-Say out loud, like to your partner, “I feel (blank)”. So you become aware, so you can shift, change your interpretation, and paradigms. But first you must learn to recognize,label your feelings. Am I understanding this more or less correctly?
This was so helpful.
I have Aspergers so I cant understand all of these, but I was unaware that assuming my husband was emotionally unavailable or negligent was just how he was, I thought it was a trait, and I completely see that thinking differently it is hard for him to communicate with an autistic partner, and long work days wear on him and his energy and I want to make sure from now on that I dont address that as if it's a person problem.
Thank you!
Glad this was valuable for you! I think that paradigm shift will begin to improve a lot of things for you both. Let me know if you have any other questions/topic you'd like me to address!
Putting your emotions into words is so important ! Great tips !!
Thanks Aurelie! Glad you found some value out of it!
Great tips! Thank you. For me it's all about taking a few deep breaths before reacting :)
I love your challenge to find something to do to nurture the positive or starve the negative.
I've been starting to meditate more. I've been focusing on breathing habits.
There are TV episodes and movies I won't watch anymore because they remind me of a terrible situation.
Just listening to Geoffrey has brought more peace and stability to my being.
It would be really nice if he could offer segments of his program as to make it more affordable, possibly as an evolving curriculum with pay as you go support?
Hi Tyson,
Thank you for your support. Before you think about the financial side of things I invite you to check out my free 90 min master class. Click on the link to sign up.
relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass
I totally agree he's the best hands down I've been listening to him for about a year and also a lot of other coaches and Geoffrey is leaps and bounds ahead of these other clowns thanks Jeff for the content but I agree it's would be amazing for us who can't come up with the full amount for the program don't get me wrong I feel like it's worth every red cent it's just sometimes difficult to fork out the full tuition
These are great ideas.
Thanks Jim!
Thanks for watching everyone! What's the one thing you'd like to start introducing into your life to either nurture the positive, or starve the negative?
I watch videos on positive affirmations or theta subconscious affirmations
Meditation. And running
I'm going to start doing a short workout to start my day
After watch your videos countless times, i now realize 1 most crucial thing about myself of being the new me...i have to kill all negativity of the old me, and reverse it while at the same time keep nurturing all the positivity of the old me into the new me. Im not really sure if i get this right, but this is what i understand for now. Hopefully u can help me to clarify this Jeff. Thx a lot, ur practical knowledge is super precious nowadays
thank you so much!!!!! this is so helpfull! what a kind gift of you sharing this insides. i deeply appreciate your thoughts and words and can see better through my behavior and conditioning 💚 lot´s of love and only the best wishes
Love it!
@@GeoffreySetiawan🙃
God bless you!! This will be so helpful for me in my marriage.
Watch one of ur videos every night before I go to sleep
This video is amazing, definitely on my repeat watch list. I wish I could join the program, it's just out of my reach right now. I wish there was a way it could be more affordable or pay on a monthly basis like bullet proof husband.
I mean this from the bottom of my heart thank you so much
Jeffery you’re going to change my life dude omg I love this video
This is a good one. I needed to hear this
Part 5 that last part is wat ive been doing. Telling close ppl around me wrk mates freinds etc bout all the nasty things that my x has done, which is jus building negative thougts daily bout her and not seeing past it to actually work things out. Stuck in a rut of emotions.
I find your videos incredibly insightful Geoffrey, thank you for sharing your learnings and wisdom. I'm hoping to apply these techniques each day, to better myself and to hopefully to help my partner feel safer to share, in that I won't judge anymore.
Love it Brendan! Keep watching and keep learning. I appreciate your comment and support.
So glad I found your channel. Good stuff. I wish I had this 25 years ago.
@Former Centrist... Thank you! Happy you enjoyed the video & this channel.🙂
Would love to see more on both how to calm a racing heart-rate upon hearing harsh news and how to calm someone's heart rate after telling them harsh news! Working through a rapid heart rate while maintaining a safe environment is hard, but can be made simple by steps to take to internally decide not to react!
Take a break and take deep breaths. Breathwork can really change emotional states and nervous system.
Great stuff Geoffrey! Very very handy tips
Thanks Scott! Glad you found it valuable.
Oh my god thanks a lot I have anger issues so I made a lot of mistake in my relationship.
Thank you for sharing this. This is so important. And you cover it great
Thanks Michael! Really appreciate you being a fan :)
Thank You, I am learning everyday that I must remain calm
Great value on video.
Thank you Lucy!
You are a godsend ♥️
Awesome value! I'll definitely rewatch this a couple more times :)
Thank you Joly! Glad you enjoyed the video :)
Thank you, this popped up on my feed today right when I needed it the most.
Excellent, sometimes we get things when we need it the most. Glad it helped.
I love your tips here, thanks for sharing!
Thanks for tuning in brother!
Amazing tips!!! Just subbed
You the man! Keep it up man
Thank you so much for sharing!!
So helpful. Thank you so much for all the tricks for mental reframing
Excellent!
Wow! I am so happy I found this. Really appreciate it. I am going to use this ASAP
Thank you.... i’m definitely trying this!
Awesome!
Thank you for these videos. Would you mind sharing what motivational videos you listen to?
There are a few figures I find very motivating for me: 1) Christian Guzman 2) Sunny Lennarduzzi (also my mentor and coach) 3) Sam Ovens (My mentor and coach) and 4) Quazi Johir (Friend and mentor). I would check out all their youtube channels to see if they resonate with you as well!
thank u for giving me hope
Definitely! It's what I do!
Really great content.
This was incredibly helpful and really really informative. Thank you for your amazing videos.
Awesome -- What resonated with you most from this video?
These videos are very helpful
amazing brilliant!!
Emotion clouds reasoning
I was broken up with for being overly emotional and I want to learn how to control myself and so I don’t spaz out as much when something goes wrong
Hi -SwissCheese,
Please check out this video and let me know what you think.
ua-cam.com/video/tp6g9vgOiec/v-deo.html
Could you please recommend some videos to develop positive habits ?
I have not made any videos on this, but I would highly recommend 2 books: 1) The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg, 2) Thinking Fast & Slow by Daniel Kahneman
I have been working on my emotions and trying to create a safe environment with my ex for 9 months. However my partner still is not willing to speak about anything controversial, she says there is no point.
Imagine if someone says "I've been going to the gym and working out for 9 months, but I haven't even lost a pound".
Is the question whether the gym/working out works in getting people to lose weight?
Or is the question whether that person has the right/wrong idea/process/principles of what it means to work out and lose weight?
So going back to your comment, what do you think?
For thousands of my clients, creating safety always works. For you, it doesn't...
Why do you think?
As I say in a lot of my videos, the things a lot of people think "creates safety" actually does the opposite.
e.g. Paradox of logic, high-value illusions, solutions illusions, blind spots, etc...
Hi Geoffrey. I want to start off by saying thank you for all that you do to help couples and people in general. I have issues with shutting down when something is said to me by my husband. I shut down once I think he does not care about my feelings. In turn, he senses me shutting down and shuts down himself. It has been a constant cycle we have been on for years! How can I try to reframe my mind and help to not shut down? Please help as much as you can. Thank you!!!
Hi, thank you and start here by first understanding how this start to break down over time. Join me in my free 90 min master class.
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@@GeoffreySetiawan hi Geoffrey. I’m happy to report after some counseling and praying, my husband has begun to change his views and feelings toward me for the better. We no longer shut down for days and are much more happier with one another. Thank you for your insight!
It feels like I watched this video a few months too late. 😢
My problem, "starving the bad" feels disingenuous. I feel negative for a reason, pretending to be positive doesn't help when I already know that's not how I feel.
That's why identity shifting is key.
My gf asked for time and space apart for 2 months. Before we started the time and space apart we basically told each other we still loved each other, still wanted this to work out and everything. There was just some things I was doing that I wasn’t even aware of that we’re causing harm. For instance the one she told me to work on the most was me being trustworthy I guess. Example. She would go to the store or gym without me. First thing I would say is don’t talk to guys. When she wouldn’t reply to my text within an hour or so I would ask where are u. I told her I don’t like it when guys talk to u and try to come up to u and hit on u. I told her I didn’t want her going to the gym because guys talk to u there and they try to hit on u. She made me aware how I was treating her and how she felt through her perspective how she felt suffocated and everything because I didn’t let her do what she liked without me telling her don’t talk to guys and where are u all the time. I only saw it as me trying to protect her from a guy hitting on her. She wants 2 months of space. But she did say that she loves me and she wants to work this out. How would I change in order to show her I really want her and change for the better. Please help people. I really love this woman with everything I have.
I Hope things worked out for you 🙏
What does starving the negative mean. How do I do that
Hi Geoffrey...can suggest you mention a bit about your background in your intros..like I am Geoffrey..married or been with my beautiful partner ..X..for ...x yes.. etc is not just hearing u as an intellectual..but helps them to be very interested in your story
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I will release more yotube videos. That's my positive habbit
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Just make sure you are leveling up in the right and massive ways.
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Hi Raul,
Thank you brother!
Happy the content was insightful for you…
@@GeoffreySetiawan thanks so much 🙏, you are by far the must knowledgeable guy around youtube when it comes to this typo of subjects A+
Where can I join this mini course at the end? I don't see the link.
omg the TBUs is literally me last night to my friends 😅
Yup, learn to talk back to it and remind yourself of whats important.
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I think I'm lonely dont no what my purpose is or talents so when we fall out and she wants a brake I get needy and lonely
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I have a question, my partner told me before new year that she doesn't love me anymore. It was a huge bombshell, but after we spoke about what was going on (basically I've been distant over the last few months due to my mental health) and now she wants me to let go of her. We're still living together and have a 5 year old daughter together. Now here is the heartbreaking part, I feel like she is already seeing someone else, maybe it's a rebound I don't know. But how do I handle that part, do I ignor it and carry on working on myself, and do I talk to her and ask her why she's seeking attention from someone else so soon?
All this time, I also had no idea things were breaking down, because her wouldn't communicate with me about any problems
My wife separated with before the end of 2021. She has started talking to this dude that she met on the vacation that I was supposed to be on but couldn’t go. She moved to a different state a few weeks after she separated with me and the the guy is basically a train ride away. I know they have been seeing each other this whole time she’s moved. She has come back now and we live in the same house. We also have a 5yo. And it’s tough. I’ve done all the wrong things even before she separated with me. And I don’t know if there’s any way to fix our marriage. But for now I’m just trying my hardest to concentrate on bettering myself not just to get her back but because I know I need to for myself, my daughter and my future partner if it does end up in divorce. She’s already told me she wants to be in a relationship with him. It’s a daily battle honestly and it can really take a toll on you. I know it did to me. But just focus on yourself rn without expecting any results good or bad. Just be open to it when the day comes. Yourself and most importantly your 5yo will thank you someday for doing it wether the relationship works out or not
Where do you get your studies from in regards to dating, romance and saving relationships?
The person who starts the cycle is at fault, it's that simple. Too bad they *never* see it that way
Are you talking about yourself here?
How’s that way of thinking goin for you?