I'm agender and bisexual, and A LOT of people have asked me if I am a boy or a girl after I come out to them and I just say "I have the same gender as a tree", that just leaves them absolutely confused while I walk away loving and at the same time questioning my life decisions. Can you tell my life is an absolute mess?
I mean, there are plants and as far as I know that includes some types of trees, that have male and female versions. But it is of course sex, not gender, since plants don't exactly have their own society (...as far as we know). Also there are gendered languages where all nouns have genders, in german, french, spanish and greek you would be male, then. And probably in a lot of other languages too. Maybe there are some that have female trees, but I don't know about any. If your gender is that of a tree, does that mean you use the same pronouns as a tree? Do you go by it/its?
@@annakilifa331 this is a very in-depth explanation, and I'm really impressed that you know so much. This line I say is only meant to confuse people, but I go by she/they(as of right now, when I made this comment I identified as they/them), but yea, the line is just meant to confuse people. Hope this helps : )
As someone who is genderfluid I can confirm that I am infact just a liquid, usually it's quite fun but when it gets too hot I have to hide in a fridge or airconditioned room else I'll boil
Me: * realizes my understanding of the LGBT Community has not grown as I have grown * Me: * starts paying more attention to a few friends on Facebook to get a better idea where to start so I don’t overwhelm myself * Friend: * posts a meme explaining different sexualities * Me: * reads said meme, learns about demisexuality * Me: That sounds like me. Me: * cries as I realize my quest to become a better ally has taught me that I’m not broken after all *
Welcome to the ace spec - you are a whole complete beautiful person, whether you like cake or not (though ace people do have a tendancy towards cake) ♠️🎂
@@Beacuzz I'm a dragon BAKER and BOTANIST! I need not choose! I CAN HAVE PLANTS, CAKE, AND DRAGONS! .... Fortunately, I dont find myself interested in space, that makes that easier.
It's always nice to be appreciated for anything that takes effort, but the end goal is for our (allies') state of mind to be something that takes no effort whatsoever.
I know I shouldn't applaud allies for doing the bare minimum, but when the average person in my area reacts to gays with disgust, I can't help but be *very* happy about someone knowing I'm not straight and being okay with it.
@@nataliaborys1554 We appreciate kindness. It's a societal problem that just acceptance of people being different **is** functionally a kindness, when it should be a given instead.
@@nataliaborys1554 True. Not saying that we need to throw a party every time allies simply exist, but when they show clear support in spite of an actively hostile environment, there is a certain courage in that and it should be applauded.
everytime i'm like "maybe im not trans" i just sit down with myself and say "do we want to stay a boy?" "..noo.." "and do we still like the sound of HRT?" "..yeaah.." "yep, still trans"
I do my research so that when people come out as LGBTQ+ to me I can say “Oh yeah I’ve heard ppl talk about that experience! I can support you better by knowing about things!”
@The Werewolf Of Scandinavia bro I encounter people in the community all the time, at my work, at school, online, and out in public. You are just not consciously aware of it. There are people that i'm friends with who "appear straight" but when you get to know them they tell you that they are not. So if you are not encountering them you either are blindly assuming they are straight or you are not creating a positive environment for them to tell you. Also even if it was "rare" you should still prepare yourself for an encounter with someone in that community
This is very relatable to me but in a different way. I have a disability that is very unpredictable so some days I basically function like an able-bodied person, and some days I can't do the most basic things. Took me a bit to accept that the days that I am functional don't mean I am not disabled.
@@laartje24 Ugh oh my God this is so real. I have definitely had this experience in the dis/ability space, too. And I know lots of trans people who’ve felt what OP is talking about.
This reminds me of how I went from straight to lesbian to Bi then to pan and then to panromantic, and now I’m starting to think I’m aroace. What an adventure my life has been
I got outed in an email by my school counselor, WHO DOESNT EVEN HELP ME! My parents told me they will never call me Evan (ik it's a male name, but it feels comfy), and it sucks.
@The Werewolf Of Scandinavia Aces are not necesarily victims of sexual assault (SA), and it's rude to assume that. While people who suffer from trauma due to SA and identify as ace because of it are valid, there are also aces who simply have never felt any sexual attraction (like me). It may be completely unrelatable to allo people (like you, I'm assuming), but that doesn't mean we dont exist.
@The Werewolf Of Scandinavia Where did you say that? Genuinely, all I see is you asking "Are you a victim?" on this thread. If you mentioned it on a different thread, then I'm sorry I didn't see it. I was just commenting based on what I saw. Plus, it was never meant as an attack to you, just wanted to spread knowledge around for those who dont know
As you are ace, I must assume you like frogs as well, so I must inform you that tarantulas like to keep frogs as pets, specifically, humming dot frogs.
"In a totally not-going-to-happen kind of way" reminds me of when I was 5 and I saw a girl I instantly fell in love with and was like "Wow! I like her! But I'm a girl, and I have to marry a boy...so I when I grow up, I'm going to marry a boy.... who's just like her!!! 😍" I didn't come out until I was 36. 😔 I got my girl, tho! 🥰
Sir I need to thank you. You were the person who introduced me to lgbtq+ and after more study, led me to confidently say that I am a Bisexual. Thank you, and I hope you have a wonderful day! Just remember that you are amazing and that we will support you no matter what! -Mark
4:10 - This identity is Genderfaun. If you don't already know what that means, basically Genderfaun changes genders, but they're never a feminine gender like demigirl or paragirl. I mainly know this because I identify as the opposite, Genderfae, which means I change genders but I'm never a masculine gender. Bull horns are very popular to represent Genderfaun (those are horns, not hair) and fairy wings are popular for Genderfae.
@@Taylor-kd9ld Dragon fire would almost certainly suffice, although I must admit that no dragon I have encountered has ever attempted to burn me, so I am not entirely sure
I work for a construction company, historically a very cishet industry, and I help support our LGBT group as an ally and DEI lead. On Transgender Day of Visibility (March 31st), we were able to bring in an external speaker, who happens to be a transgender man, to talk to our employees about Transgender 101 basics and his journey and experiences. We were worried about how the event would be received, but it truly opened up fantastic thoughtful questions and discussions, and prompted our CEO to ask what policies we need to put in place to support any employees pre/during/post transition. We are going to bring him back for a follow up session in November and I’m so hecking chuffed that they are taking action and not just paying lip service
@@maem7462 same. For many of our employees, particularly the executive board, it was the first time we spoke on the subject of transgender people. And they wanted to learn, which was wonderful
@@tashaax1993xanimalloverx as an LGBT+ person, I will not make a fuss if someone doesn't use all the letters lol I am happy to see someone being supportive and encouraging support for the community 😊
The invisibility one was my favourite; it's so relatable. I really do seem to be invisible a lot of the time. At my old job, I worked behind a bar. A customer would walk right up in front of me and then ring the bell. I would then speak, and they'd say 'oh, I didn't see you there.' Same with my family. I'll be in the room with them for some time, and then just as I go to leave, everyone else will jump out of their skin because they had not noticed I'd been sitting there. My dad says that I have my own personal invisibility cloak. I think it must be an intransvisibility cloak.
I just don't understand how people can use a lack of personal understanding as an excuse for their prejudices. I myself as a cis gay man cannot possibly understand what a trans person must feel like. I am male. I was born male. I want to be male. I am happy being male. But a lack of understanding on my part doesn't mean it's not real. It is real. I mean I along with most people don't understand quantum physics, but that doesn't stop it from being real.
Not understanding doesn't always equate with hate or prejudice. I'll admit, at very first, I didn't understand those who are non binary but present in a typical feminine or masculine way. I didn't hate, I still knew they were non binary, just I....didn't grasp it? But then, I got to thinking. Plenty of cis females present in a way that we don't typically think of as feminine. Cis males do the same. So, as do non binary people. Sorry, I know that was probably off topic and a rant, but I'm glad I gave it some deeper thought. I guess I was just trying to say not understanding isn't always akin with prejudice.
It is strange when ppl use lack of understanding as an excuse to invalidate someone. Like you’re example most ppl don’t understand quantum physics but ppl aren’t invalidating that they know it exist. Same thing with rocket science or a lot of science in general not many ppl fully understand it but that doesn’t make use be like I don’t understand rocket science so it’s invalid.
I think I understand a fair amount of physics if it’s written down in words, but don’t understand the maths equations behind it. Which is a rather apt description of my understanding of gender and sexuality who is grey-a and is genderqueer/not quite cis/questioning. Another physics analogy that I like to use is- is you can’t see air but you know it exists and need it to live.
06:32 hit really hard on me... I remember coming out to one of my friends and she excitedly told me "Why didn't you tell me sooner? I always wanted a gay friend". That day, I was relagated to the token black gay bff... Mind you, I am a bi girl.
....ugh not the tokenization. I hope you've found better friends who see you as the wonderful person you are and not the stereotype they want you to be.
THAT FIRST ONE IS SO RELATABLE! I have a non binary friend who goes by Ollie, but they’re only out to a few selective people, so on their birthday (15th of Nov, just a few days ago) me and my other friend who also knows went to sing happy birthday to them. But another friend who they weren’t out to tagged along to wish them happy birthday, so we ended up singing 🎶happy birthday dear [dead name]🎶 and I could just see in their face that they understood why, but didn’t like it. 😢
The “I don’t understand this but I respect it” is such a good mindset to have. I’m nb, and queer, and use labels some people don’t understand. (Demisexual, Demipanromantic) I have done a lot of research on labels and lgbtq to understand that I am indeed those labels. During my research, I found a lot of them that at the time seemed nonsensical, I couldn’t understand them and thought “oh who’d even be this”, but later on when needing to explain my labels to everyone who didn’t understand I realised that everyone is different, and no one is to tell you what you can and can’t be. Let’s say lunagender - I was so confused when I read that but I’ve realised that I can’t want respect from others if I don’t respect them.
I am a bit in the same boat. I'm ace and homoromantic, an identity a lot of people don't understand and therefore don't respect. I really want to be a good trans ally, but I really don't understand xenogenders?? Is Lunagender a xenogender? Where can I read to understand this? How is it different from personality/interest? What makes the object their gender? I've seen kids appropriating severe mental illnesses online (I'm mentally ill and know very much about psychiatry and these kids were consciously making up alters that were not at all due to trauma) because they are ignorant, and some of these people, from what I could see, made up different genders too. They drew characters and made up different genders and pronouns like it was a game. I don't understand this, are they appropriating being trans? Have they misunderstood being trans? Or are so many, so very young people, a variety of xenogenders? Even if they don't feel dysphoria? I got very confused and always want to support trans people, but seeing them completely faking a severe mental illness (DID) I started doubting their genders too. It seemed so casual, impulsive and lacking in knowledge. Where can I read about xenogenders to understand more? If older people consistently feel they are xenogenders I want to learn more about it so I can become a better ally. These kids I don't know what to think about?? I've never come across anything like it, it seemed like a trendy game to them. If a person IRL told me they are a xenogender and use certain pronouns I'll of course respect that, but were can I get more information? And are some kids really making up genders??? I'm 34 years old, by the way.
@@SamirCCat I’m going to answer in a quite short manner, as I do believe that you can find more information from dedicated people online. I do not know if lunagender counts as a xenogender, but it’s when someone’s gender identity changes in phases, like the moon, thus it’s called lunagender. It varies from person to person but that’s the basis of it. I do also think there are people, especially uneducated, young people who make up genders for attention, to be special and different. That’s not to say though that there isn’t an infinite amount of genders out there, as many as there are people really, because gender is a concept that everyone, in my opinion, understands differently. The problem is when people start to pretend that they’re this or that or as you say, pretend they have alters and make up their names and genders etc. To me, that’s different than being nb / xenogender, using neopronouns etc. As for research, there are multiple lgbtq themed communiti wikis, like the lgbtqia+ wiki. There, people commit to doing research about all the different genders and document them, making it easier to find out and understand them. I’d suggest looking there, as you can browse through all the genders listed (and sexualities), and it’s made by people for people so it should be quite simple to understand how they work, even if it doesn’t quite make sense to you personally.
There are nonbinary identities I don't understand or think are superfluous and could easily be conflated into other similar identities (The border between demigenders and 'full' binary genders, some differences between identities like maverique, neutrois, graygender, androgyne etc. also elude me), but my base attitude shifted from, and I apologize for holding this view once, 'SOME Nonbinary people are giving actual trans people a bad name by overdoing this', to 'They're just different and currently reconstructing the system to acknowledge them better. If I am right, they'll grow out of it, if I am wrong, they have enough problems without me joining the dogpile.' I doubt the shift will stop here, I've been growing increasingly more NB-supportive over the past three years.
My partner went to an event at his college that's meant to teach you to be a good ally to the lgbtq+ community (and I'm mostly closeted so he couldn't just say "I'm already in a queer relationship"). At the end of the event they wanted him to sign a certificate to show he was a "good ally" and he refused, making some people mad. He was trying to make the point that an ally isn't a title you claim it's something shown in your actions. The community decides if you are an ally, not yourself.
@The Werewolf Of Scandinavia How long are you going to keep stalking this channel? Are there other UA-camrs you don't watch the videos of, but go into the comments anyway? Is this a cry for attention? Do you need a psychiatrist? Do you need me to hold your hand while you cry about "tHeM tRaNs PeOpLe" running your life by ignoring you? Come on. All your comments are just spam now. You're not even putting effort into the troll anymore. :)
@The Werewolf Of Scandinavia According to Wikipedia, Lia's completion time in a 500 freestyle decreased by 15 seconds, and she still loses to cis women despite being 'a guy'. She has the same hormone levels as a cis woman. And the women competing in that event didn't care that she was trans. Tell us more :)
The bar is indeed too low. But the first step to raising the bar isn't to stop spending energy praising allies. It's to start spending energy hounding homophobes, and calling them what they are - the scum of the earth. If you're going to take the carrot away, you have to start using the stick.
On one hand, this is 100% true. On the other hand, if we start doing that, homophobes will start painting themselves as the victims. Which then will lead to more prejudice. We can't keep on spreading hate, as much as they deserve it. Hate is a vicious cycle.
@@szarekhthesilentking7043 With all due respect, this is all hand-wringing, fence-sitting rubbish. This perspective is a net loss for human rights and harmonious coexistence. For example: Say we made it public policy to treat openly anti-LGBT parents as abusive parents. Say social services start taking their kids away from them whether said kids are out as LGBT or not, on the basis that there's a chance that the kids are LGBT, and if they were then they would have to hide it for safety. There would be a backlash, everyone to the right of Laura Kuenssberg would be duly whipped up into a frenzy, they'd all howl "parental rights", and there would certainly be a temporary spike in violent hate crimes. But from that point on, every queer child in this country would be able to safely show who they really are, without fear of reprisals from the people who are supposed to love them no matter what. This is just one example of the benefit that could be achieved by fearlessly and actively suppressing bigotry in our country. The mistake that you make when you equate hating anti-LGBT people with hating LGBT people is that unlike LGBT people, anti-LGBT people are: a) doing real harm to others by being that way b) choosing to be that way c) able to stop being that way whenever they want. The logical conclusion of these three facts is that measures must be taken to convince them to stop, in proportion with the harm that they are causing. Anything less is nothing short of a failure to act.
as a genderfluid person the 8:08 is sooo accurate, I'll be like "oh I think im just cis and faked it" and than 10 minutes later I just hate every inch if my boobs... also yes in winter I'm frozen
3:12 ugh this is too relatable. I started off as an ally, and after a lot of back-and-forth with myself, I'm now asexual and aromantic. I'm still looking for a label for my gender (I know I don't need one, but it would make me feel more comfortable) but for now I'm going with girlflux and she/they/xem pronouns.
I'm definetly asexual and demiromantic i think but i don't seem to care at all which pronouns people call me. I just go by she/her at the moment. Is there a name for this?
Jamie !! I have 2 more appointments (hopefully) before I start T and I just wanted to say think you !! You’ve been a huge part of that journey. I really appreciate you channel, always carried big brother vibes 🥺❤️ Update: I start this week :)) Update: I START TODAY (4/14) 😭😭😭😭😭
2:52 I’ve always just thought that telling people compliments is very nice... never labelled it as “setting the bar too low”. I kinda understand where this is coming from but still in a situation where I can chose to compliment someone I’ll 99% do it, ‘cause it just feels nice and establishes a great connection.
The sexualization of bi women is so real. When I started telling people I was bi, it was exclusively straight, cis men who were like, “ThREeSoMeS? I bet your husband loves that. Heh heh.” Could not roll my eyes harder.
We (cis straight men) also love to pretend lesbians would actually be bi or straight if they found the right guy, so... ugh. Bi people can be as polyamorous or monogamous, as promiscuous or prudish as anyone else, they just happen to potentially have intimate interests for more than one gender. It's a shame it seems to take so long to understand just that.
Same! Except I never really had a bi phase, I just sort of felt like being in a relationship with a woman would make me feel more male, but was aware that I was never actually attracted to them
How I figured out I'm ace. Except for the people trying to turn me straight when they found out about my lack of sexual desire Also, my journey regarding my gender identity got restarted after I discovered the term "trans agender" (which according to the local professionals doesn't exist.)
I used to think of myself as that ally ball, it took me until after I graduated college to figure out I'm Ace, but not aro, and probably biromantic, but it's hard to be sure when I find the very thought of sex so off-putting. (Edit for autocorrupt)
Yaaaay!! I'm very proud of biromantic aces, as my girlfriend, and I want to make sure every bi-ace know there's nothing wrong with you 💜 from a bi-arospec-nonbinary heart
Oh yeah it took me aaaaaages to figure out my orientation because I’m basically ace unless a romantic partner is being overtly sexy, and then my brain might flip the demisexual switch on. There were so few people I ever felt anything even remotely like sexual attraction for that it took me decades to figure out whether I was actually straight or not.
the type of allies we should be applauding are those who go above and beyond just accepting, but those who fight for our rights and take actions to make our lives safer
8:51 Hahaha, my friend and I make this joke all the time. We cannot physically hear the word "straight" without turning to one another knowingly, or just somehow telepathically communicating to say "haha, nope". I feel like it should have gotten old by now, but we don't really exaggerate it too much, so we'll get to enjoy it for a while longer.
Lavender360 -- For my part, I giggle like a sixth-grade boy hearing the word 'poop' whenever I hear the word 'straight', often following it up with "heh heh, you said straight" when appropriate.
@Pancakemantaray people seem to really like those. I'm allergic to pineapple so I couldn't tell you when I last had one or what they taste like. I don't really know how you make one either I just know you serve it upside-down which confused the fuck out of me as a kid. I assume the cake is fairly dense so it can have structure after soaking up the juices and so it can hold up the fruit? Is it like pound cake?
@@elix1133 I haven't had/made one in years, but I remember them being dense, just not quite as dense as a poundcake. I do remember a friend subbing peaches for the pineapple, because they weren't fond of pineapples. Said it didn't come out too bad.
As a bisexual man going through his "came out in my mid/late 20s, so i talk about cute boys like a stereotypical teenaged girl at a sleepover"... im really worried about having to hear the phrase "lgbt balls," over and over, and what it might do to my poor little heart
Lol when i read an article in a teen-magazine about a trans guy (first time for me ever legit hearing about the topic at all) I was like "Hey that sounds like my issues and oh it's pretty cool that's possible and I kind of wanna do that" but I still didn't think it actually applied to me Although I literally told my new friend in third grade I was a boy lmao
Girls in kindergarten and up until 3rd grade telling me: "You are not a real girl". They did it to bully me, because I didn't fit into the binary, but I just agreed with them. And I argued that "girl" (gender) should be able to be more than what they saw as "girl". Because at that time I didn't know anything other than the binary, so my solution was to expand on what "girl" gender meant. If only I knew then what I know now... On the other hand: We still think we totally should totally dissolve the rigid ideas of the binary. People can then define as being in a corner of a 3D gender axis. But the idea wouldn't exist that there is two basic molds and then a bunch of custom ones. No molds, just amorph fluids.
No cuz at school today my teacher knows I go by Ace but a kid asked why she called me Ace and had to explain this was the conversation "Why do you keep calling [deadname] Ace?" "Because they choose to go by Ace." [Another kid] "If she goes by Ace then I go by spiderman" [Teacher]"No, they have a valid reason to go by Ace, you don't for spiderman" [Both kids] "That's not fair. [Deadname] is a girl and will always be one." My teacher tells them to be quiet, respect me, and she walks away. My heart melted at that today
1:44 as a disabled LGBTQ+ member, I can confirm that the bar is stupidly low. I've had people expect me to be overly delighted that they did the bare minimum and made required spaces accessible (classrooms, bathrooms, etc.) and then are upset when I'm not... because it's the minimum. No, you're not being an ableist jerk, but a, me not throwing you a party for not further traumatizing me isn't an excuse to become one (no kidding, that's happened) and b, you don't throw anyone cishet here a part for being an "ally". You don't deserve the same. Basic decency is what we deserve. There's no reason to act like someone is a hero, or a martyr, because they do that.
4:14 - Me, as a binary trans man, every time a cis person asks me to "Explain nonbinary." I honestly don't understand why people feel that they only have to respect identities that they "get."
I witnessed a cis woman meet a trans woman for the first time and then went on to insist that she “needed time” to get used to the correct pronouns! I pulled her aside and had a talk with her and she used the correct pronouns for the rest of the night, but I was flabbergasted that she made it all about her.
@@sweettea1193 Reading your comments makes you look like you're just being obtuse on purpose, by refusing to accept that society can make up a binary. I'm surprised Sam N. didn't think so.
Been trying to transition for several years and it seems like the closer I get the father it seems because there is always something that gets in the way or moves it out of reach. I finally found someone who could help me and they said they would send the T to my pharmacy that day or the next, that was over a week ago and I've been trying to contact them since.
Try also asking the pharmacist, sometimes you'll grab one of the ones who can go and berate the doctor for messing up your medication. (seriously, BOY can pharmacists be angry about doctors screwing up, sometimes)
@@neoqwerty The pharmacist where I live only care about giving you the medicine the doctor I'm seeing is out of town because we don't have doctors who specialize in LGBTQ care so he's the best I got XD
I'm a cishet man and if an LGBT+ person thanked me for being an ally, my reaction would be the same as the ball in that comic early on. You dont have to thank me for treating you like a human being, it truly is the bare minimum. It's the same thing as my girlfriend thanking me for listening to her and being nice to her, it's like... that is literally the least I could do.
@Dusty Ganilla Don't treat anyone badly in your daily life, yet say that the labels people use to identify themselves is BS. That shows a fundamental lack of respect for people, especially those in marginalized groups. Maybe take an introspective look about why you would say their "tags" are BS. You can say you "wouldn't do anything different" if you knew their identity, but this is hypocritical when paired with the above. You don't have to be at war to be someone's ally, so that's just an absurd question. Maybe ask yourself why people in these groups would need allies, but I can tell you it's because they face discrimination and marginalization for who they are. Everyone can do something to be a better person, to be better and more accepting of the people around us, it just begins with looking inside ourselves. That's a difficult step, and I know from experience.
@@Aleolex oh ignore Dusty. They trolled on my comment too, and many others on this video. They’re literally commenting on everyone trying to get a rise
@Dusty Ganilla People aren't putting themselves into boxes, if you'd listen you'd understand. I am a heterosexual cis man. That is who I am, my identity. It's the evolution of language. People didn't have a word to describe who they are, and now they do. It's not a box, it's a way to describe their identity. Their fundamental being. They do, literally, have meaning. Just because you don't understand it doesn't change that.
@Dusty Ganilla MAPS have nothing to do with the LGBT community, and it's dangerous to everybody to spread such terrible lies. You thinking that they're "boxes" doesn't change what they actually are. I do see what's happening. I see people like you so stuck in their ways that when they see something they don't understand they dismiss it as BS. You should take a long hard look at yourself and ask why you feel like spreading hatred and distrust in comment sections under a video about acceptance of identity is a good way to spend your life.
1:34 “is this how deep the love of cake goes?” As an asexual, I literally said out-loud “yes” and then realized that we still had cake leftover from my sibling’s birthday and got so excited that I went down and ate some so y e s, the love for cake runs deep lmfao😂
Watching this is a great way to celebrate day 5 of being on hrt. Girl patch applied and antiboyotics taken. Now just make a new one every day just for me to celebrate every other day! Thank you for these videos though.
The trans day of visibility post reminded me of my favourite teacher wishing me a happy ace day last week. As far as I know, she's cis and straight, but she's been the best ally to me being aroace simply by not reacting at all when I came out to her in an email about class and treating me with the same warmth and support that made me feel safe to come out to her in the first place
I've been using your videos to help me sleep for moths now, it just feels so safe and nice, makes it almost impossible for my chronical anxiety to pop up. Thank you so much
I went from being homophobic to being bisexual, to being pansexual, to being lesbian, to being trans, and now unlabeled. Guess i had to try the labels out before realizing i dont have any :D
4:04 : this is a genderfaun ball (in the LGBallT fandom, this one is usually drawn with horns because, you know, genderFAUN). It is a gender identity that is basically genderfluid, but doesn't encompasses female-alined genders. Therefore, a genderfaun person can identify as male (and other male-alined genders), non-binary, agender... but never on the fem side of the gender spectrum. There's also genderfaunet : people with this gender identity can as well experience female-alined genders ; however, they won't feel fully female. The female-alined counterpart is genderfae (usually drawn with wings in LGBallT). Genderfae individuals experience female-alined and nonbinary genders, but not male-alined genders. Its flag has greens and pinks/purples, with a white stripe to the middle. The counterpart for genderfaunet is genderfaer. (hope i got everything right ! i'm genderfluid myself :p)
Oooh... That's cool! I've actually been trying to figure out if I'm non-binary, since it occurred to me someone 100% at home with their assigned gender probably wouldn't have spent 2 years dithering over what pronouns to list (I didn't like leaving out "they", so ultimately didn't)...and because that mostly agender, ambisexual world depicted in 'The Left Hand of Darkness' always seemed oddly appealing. I'd always ruled it out because I definitely DON'T want to be a man or to be perceived as particularly masculine. But maybe "genderfae" is the word I'm looking for. Hmm.
There's also genderflor / gendervae, which refers to someone who is genderfluid between multiple genders, but never masculine or feminine. I'm agender and suspect I might be genderfluid in a way that oscillates between multiple undefined identities, so that's probably the term I've been looking for. I've described it as, suppose the gender bimodality is represented by two mountains with a valley in between, and I'm somewhere off in space, in a rocket that's perpetually spiraling out of control.
@@Blazingstoke A lot of the gender terminology gets very specific, so there's a lot of vocabulary that feels "weird" if you're used to thinking that it's binary. In the end, each person's experience is their own and the words are there just to help them describe that experience to other people (or themselves). It's sort of like colour; you can often get by with the "basic" colour vocabulary, but sometimes you might want to describe a very specific colour, and it helps to have a name for it.
5:13 ....god... I had the pause the video at the "Hii!! Look at my beard !!!" I had the definition of a heart squeeze.... I am just a random person, but,, I am so proud of you, Jamie...! And to anyone stuck at the egg stage .... you shall get to feel more comfortable and happy in your body one day, too...
Thanks for cheering me up. I have been getting into arguments on the internet with the most transphobic horrible people and now the US state of Alabama has made it a crime punishable by up to 10 years in prison for a doctor to provide any gender affirming treatment to anyone under 19. As a cit het female doctor. I’m just trying to do my best to understand and help people. I get so upset when I think about all the kids who can’t even get puberty blockers. Not to mention that multiple states are passing laws requiring schools to out LGBT children to their parents. This country is just so backwards. They want to ban all abortions but once the child is born they don’t care if they live or die, especially if they are a member of the LGBT community.
This made me feel amazing. Thank you. Even though I'm just in middle school, People keep telling me to kill myself because I'm pan. This lifted my spirits. Thank you again. (Btw, love your beard and glasses Jamie!)
Me last year: I hate it when people assume I'm girly just cause I'm a girl, I wish they would perceive me and treat me as a boy. But I'm not a boy, I just want to be treated as one...... This year I came out as trans
Some of these comics are so accurate it hurts lol. Like slowly discovering and rediscovering your identity and doubting yourself the entire time. Can relate.
This brought back memories of when I thought I was an Ally. After spending a lot of time with people from the LGBT+ community, I realized that I wasn't straight either. Reject heterosexuality, return to cake and garlic bread!
This is literally me- I thought I was an ally but then I realised that wishing I weren't straight so I could be in a relationship with a girl or enby person is not something straight people wish for
About praising ally-ship, my friend prompted me to come out to a school counselor and they automatically supported me. Afterwards, I was really happy and talked to a different friend about how cool it was to be accepted and they said “You realize that’s how you deserve to be treated… it’s really sad how that was so surprising.”
I recently came out as genderfluid to some of my closest friends, and that was partially because of these awesome videos that have made me feel so much more comfortable being myself. If someone reads this: You're doing great!
The little ball journey of coming out is super cute and super relatable. I was cis straight female. Then bi, then a lesbain then came out as straight transman, then realised I was demisexual ♡
On a more serious note, I'm SO SO lucky to have such supportive parents! My mom has agreed to use my name and pronouns, and my dad may slip up sometimes but he is EXTREMELY quick to correct himself and apologize even if correcting himself is all I need. My friends are really accepting too, even going as far as correcting teachers since I'm fully out as a demi-boy! If I had the chance to change them, I wouldn't change a thing. I love my friends and family
I actually came out to a couple of my friends as Non-Binary on trans visibility day without even realizing and when one of them pointed it out I was so happy.
Not me and my ally heart smiling and laughing at these along with Jamie. Also, love that take on us allies not being propped up and praised for just doing the bare minimum. Love ya Jamie!
Whenever I tell my story to remind people anyone can change and get better I also tend to mention "It is kind of said that 'I became a basic level decent human being' is a story"
@@kazikek2674 Yeah, it's like that should be the standard, yet some people see something that they don't understand, think it bad because they don't understand it instead of actually trying to understand, go REEEEE REEEE, and yeah. Human decency should not be a foreign concept
6:25 I feel like there is this basic difference of attitudes in regards to being LGBT based on sex more than gender AFABs get 'soft erased', told they're mistaken, told it'll pass, steered, or people accept it while quietly thinking it's just a phase, but they'd have to be pretty open and moving forward with their identity to get direct and constant criticism, often dumb or infantilizing types of it even then. AMABs get a lot more direct criticisms in the beginning and people are constantly figuring out how this or that is just a weird perversion thing and there must be 'something off with them', but if they continue persisting really hard eventually folks will realize this is what they really want and get off their back, except those who actually are crusading against LGBT people. Just my observation of course, individual experience may vary
Thanks to you ( and your previous LGBallT video) i came out as asexual a month ago. Thanks to you i started questioning myself and listening to myself and respecting my feelings. A week ago i realised i'm nonbinary and i CAN'T stop being emotional because i finally feel that i found a reason of my 2 year-long depression. You are literally saving lifes... Thank you so much. And i want more of these videos🙃
0:57 that happened in class to me when I was talking to my trans friend and referring to them by their actual name out of habits, and, you know, respect, and someone asked us why I was calling "her" his chosen name and his name was dead name, and I didn't know what to answer. My friend then said that it was just a nickname referring an inside joke. That someone (thankfully) bought it
I’m agender but one day this guy came up to me and said are you boy or a girl and I replied neither and he literal just said so your a unicorn then and it was so wholesome
@a ghost late but agender means they don't have a gender... kind of like how asexual is no sexual attraction. or aromantic being no romantic attraction. the prefix "a" means none. (im a demigirl btw so if an agender person has a better explanation lmk.) thanks for educating yourelf! :)
I am gonna come out to my friends as non-binary in a few weeks, and in a weird way can't wait to finally make some of these jokes out loud. It probably gets old fast though.
5:00 Me being pre-egg-crack theatre kid in high school: “I just want to play the male parts because they have more intriguing character arcs, and being tall and not skinny and not typical female lead body type, I’m tired of playing moms and comedic relief. If I’m ever going to be the lead, it’s going to be as a guy. Plus, it feels good to hide my hair and bind my chest and have people go ‘oh I didn’t realize that was you’ or ‘oh I couldn’t tell you were actually a girl.’ But it’s just for Theatre and because we need more diverse female characters and it’s a fun little thing. I wouldn’t, like, be a guy offstage or anything.” Me now, a more masc-leaning nonbinary: “Don’t worry, you’ll get there. You’ll understand one day.”
If Jaime has a kid, we'd never see him again. He'd become trans-parent
And then the others in their house will be like, "sometimes i bump into a window, sometimes i bump into Jamie the trans-parent."
Why do I love this joke so much? 😂😂😂
at least he will be visible every 31st of March!
Ahaha I love that :))
@Dusty Ganilla he* and biological kids and not the only kids- don’t be so disrespectful and transphobic
As an asexual aromantic, can confirm, cake is life. As well as dragons. Dragons are cool.
Have you read the wings of fire series? If you love dragons, you'll love that
I thought ace folk ARE dragons?
@@noahbutboatless2169 shhh they're not supposed to know
@@rai1879 omg yes! Read them a few years ago :)
@@rai1879 YOOO wings of fire was my childhood.
As a genderfluid person born in winter, my dad has to regularly bring out the blowtorch to unfreeze me.
I live in a hot area so winters are great but in summer i have to stay in the fridge and if its really hot then a freezer or I'll start boiling
Hey! Sorry if this comes off as rude, but could you explain what being genderfluid is? I'm a bit confused on it
@@sandcat1473 it’s when you don’t feel a connection to just one gender. So some days you can feel androgynous, female, male or multiple at once :)
@@Ya_like_jazzz So is it similar to pangender?
@@Ya_like_jazzz or am I going in the wrong direction-
I'm agender and bisexual, and A LOT of people have asked me if I am a boy or a girl after I come out to them and I just say "I have the same gender as a tree", that just leaves them absolutely confused while I walk away loving and at the same time questioning my life decisions. Can you tell my life is an absolute mess?
IDK, it sounds amazing. Congratulations.
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I mean, there are plants and as far as I know that includes some types of trees, that have male and female versions. But it is of course sex, not gender, since plants don't exactly have their own society (...as far as we know).
Also there are gendered languages where all nouns have genders, in german, french, spanish and greek you would be male, then. And probably in a lot of other languages too. Maybe there are some that have female trees, but I don't know about any.
If your gender is that of a tree, does that mean you use the same pronouns as a tree? Do you go by it/its?
@@annakilifa331 this is a very in-depth explanation, and I'm really impressed that you know so much. This line I say is only meant to confuse people, but I go by she/they(as of right now, when I made this comment I identified as they/them), but yea, the line is just meant to confuse people. Hope this helps : )
In the words of Princess bubblegum:
"People get built different. We don't need to figure it out, we just need to respect it."
She spittin‘ facts
@@themyconidwitch she do be
I love the running joke of gender fluid being a actual fluid instead of a ball like the others
"When I was your age, genderfuid was something you had to clean up afterwards."
@@grumpyoldman3458 PFFT
As someone who is genderfluid I can confirm that I am infact just a liquid, usually it's quite fun but when it gets too hot I have to hide in a fridge or airconditioned room else I'll boil
once it took my friends 3 hours to get me to thaw out, had to put me in an oven
@@grumpyoldman3458 WHOA WHOA HOLD IT-
Me: * realizes my understanding of the LGBT Community has not grown as I have grown *
Me: * starts paying more attention to a few friends on Facebook to get a better idea where to start so I don’t overwhelm myself *
Friend: * posts a meme explaining different sexualities *
Me: * reads said meme, learns about demisexuality *
Me: That sounds like me.
Me: * cries as I realize my quest to become a better ally has taught me that I’m not broken after all *
Welcome to the ace spec - you are a whole complete beautiful person, whether you like cake or not (though ace people do have a tendancy towards cake) ♠️🎂
If you don't like cake, celebrate being a dragon instead! We're all dragons on the inside!
And garlic bread! Never forget the garlic bread.
Space plants dragon or cake Aces
Pick your clan!
@@Beacuzz I'm a dragon BAKER and BOTANIST! I need not choose! I CAN HAVE PLANTS, CAKE, AND DRAGONS! .... Fortunately, I dont find myself interested in space, that makes that easier.
As an ally, I would also prefer to not be applauded. As long as there's no hostility, I'm more than satisfied.
It's always nice to be appreciated for anything that takes effort, but the end goal is for our (allies') state of mind to be something that takes no effort whatsoever.
I know I shouldn't applaud allies for doing the bare minimum, but when the average person in my area reacts to gays with disgust, I can't help but be *very* happy about someone knowing I'm not straight and being okay with it.
@@nataliaborys1554 We appreciate kindness. It's a societal problem that just acceptance of people being different **is** functionally a kindness, when it should be a given instead.
@@nataliaborys1554 True. Not saying that we need to throw a party every time allies simply exist, but when they show clear support in spite of an actively hostile environment, there is a certain courage in that and it should be applauded.
How about some bisexual 👉finger guns👉
everytime i'm like "maybe im not trans" i just sit down with myself and say "do we want to stay a boy?" "..noo.." "and do we still like the sound of HRT?" "..yeaah.." "yep, still trans"
Jaime: I have some red velvet cake downstairs
Me an asexual: I believe that cake now belongs to me
I do my research so that when people come out as LGBTQ+ to me I can say “Oh yeah I’ve heard ppl talk about that experience! I can support you better by knowing about things!”
I love you
thank you for being awesome 🥺❤
This warmed my heart, it can mean so much.
@The Werewolf Of Scandinavia Not as slim as you might think. A lot of people don't dare talk about it for fear of being ostracized.
@The Werewolf Of Scandinavia bro I encounter people in the community all the time, at my work, at school, online, and out in public. You are just not consciously aware of it. There are people that i'm friends with who "appear straight" but when you get to know them they tell you that they are not. So if you are not encountering them you either are blindly assuming they are straight or you are not creating a positive environment for them to tell you. Also even if it was "rare" you should still prepare yourself for an encounter with someone in that community
"Your mom isn't like, gay is she?"
"Which one?"
"..."
"I MEAN OF COURSE NOT- FUCK"
love this
This is great. Lemme just steal this joke and make all my friends roll their eyes
Just the way you KNOW how it has to be read makes it even more funny.
I have two modes:
*sad dysphoria noises*
and
"I'm not dysphoric right now so I must not be trans aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa"
This is very relatable to me but in a different way. I have a disability that is very unpredictable so some days I basically function like an able-bodied person, and some days I can't do the most basic things. Took me a bit to accept that the days that I am functional don't mean I am not disabled.
@@laartje24 Love this comment! Very relatable
@@laartje24 Ugh oh my God this is so real. I have definitely had this experience in the dis/ability space, too. And I know lots of trans people who’ve felt what OP is talking about.
Which is dysphoria about not having dysphoria
This reminds me of how I went from straight to lesbian to Bi then to pan and then to panromantic, and now I’m starting to think I’m aroace. What an adventure my life has been
Bruh that’s literally my identity journey 😂
Gotta love that this implies that us putting on our cis/het masks works roughly the same way as the tf2 spy's disguises lmao
or the monster masks you can get from that one guy in the Legend of Zelda Breath of the Wild
Somebody get soldier of dance up in here!
"hey spuds" is always so comforting to hear. 15 seconds of you talking is enough to put a smile on my face. Anyway, back to the video
Yep, we are a bunch of happy spuds who love our supportive little potato family.
Yes, what a beautiful family!
@@sunnyquinn3888 omg my name is Quinn too
@@certifiednerd542 We're Quinnsies!
i always thought he was saying "hey ace buds"
As someone who is gender fluid I can confirm that we do freeze in the winter
I was pretty convinced it was from being canadian
I’m a demigirlflux and do not only freeze, I hibernate and I die 33 times.
At least you don't evaporate into gender gas during the summer. I need to keep the windows down just to prevent that from happening.
im genderfluid in the winter early spring and late fall but gendergas the rest of the year
@Pancakemantaray I am starwars hun
i was lucky enough to be given a nonbinary name at birth but my heart goes out to everyone stuck in that first situation
I love your name ❤️
I got outed in an email by my school counselor, WHO DOESNT EVEN HELP ME! My parents told me they will never call me Evan (ik it's a male name, but it feels comfy), and it sucks.
@@itsemigo I’m so sorry about all of that, I think Evan is a lovely name. Hopefully things will get better for you Evan 💜
@@itsemigo evan is a great name
@@itsemigo i know both guys and girls who have the name evan. you’re fine! :)
The sheer joy with which Jamie said "look at my beard!" is adorable, you go Jamie
"You're the best thing since sliced bread!" Jamie missed a golden opportunity to say "the best thing since garlic bread."
As an asexual, I can confirm we will go to any length to get our cake. We WILL steal it from anyone we must.
@The Werewolf Of Scandinavia Aces are not necesarily victims of sexual assault (SA), and it's rude to assume that. While people who suffer from trauma due to SA and identify as ace because of it are valid, there are also aces who simply have never felt any sexual attraction (like me). It may be completely unrelatable to allo people (like you, I'm assuming), but that doesn't mean we dont exist.
@The Werewolf Of Scandinavia Where did you say that? Genuinely, all I see is you asking "Are you a victim?" on this thread. If you mentioned it on a different thread, then I'm sorry I didn't see it. I was just commenting based on what I saw.
Plus, it was never meant as an attack to you, just wanted to spread knowledge around for those who dont know
*hides fresh cake*
It is time for cake my dudes
As you are ace, I must assume you like frogs as well, so I must inform you that tarantulas like to keep frogs as pets, specifically, humming dot frogs.
As an ace I can confirm I steal everyones cake and take it to my ace cave
Same
Love cake
@@azurenight5160 cake is delicious
@@Sophie-mv7bd I know right I love cake
My favorite is chocolate with vanilla frosting
"In a totally not-going-to-happen kind of way" reminds me of when I was 5 and I saw a girl I instantly fell in love with and was like "Wow! I like her! But I'm a girl, and I have to marry a boy...so I when I grow up, I'm going to marry a boy.... who's just like her!!! 😍" I didn't come out until I was 36. 😔 I got my girl, tho! 🥰
You're a liar
Better late than never.
Heck yeah! So happy you got the girl!
that’s amazing i’m so proud of you,
That's so sweet - you got your girl in the end!
Sir I need to thank you. You were the person who introduced me to lgbtq+ and after more study, led me to confidently say that I am a Bisexual. Thank you, and I hope you have a wonderful day! Just remember that you are amazing and that we will support you no matter what!
-Mark
4:10 - This identity is Genderfaun. If you don't already know what that means, basically Genderfaun changes genders, but they're never a feminine gender like demigirl or paragirl. I mainly know this because I identify as the opposite, Genderfae, which means I change genders but I'm never a masculine gender. Bull horns are very popular to represent Genderfaun (those are horns, not hair) and fairy wings are popular for Genderfae.
Thanks for clearing things up
He'll yeah genderfae unite (ignore my user it's old)
I don't know why the gender fluid joke hit me harder than expected. Made me laugh at work
Be careful not to turn into gendergas
gendersolid
I laughed so much at "genderfluid" that now my shoulders hurt.
@@superioroakmc942 I think I already did 0_0
@@superioroakmc942 well, gas is fluid
As a genderfluid, I can confirm that we do freeze in winter. A simple fire is not strong enough to unfreeze us though. It must be a blowtorch.
Fun fact, I was the one who created the comics, and this is based after my experience with cold environments, I legit freez so bad XD
@@loonywolf_art I can relate 😅
Genderfluid is like bromine, it has a much higher freezing point than water.
Would dragon fire also suffice?
@@Taylor-kd9ld Dragon fire would almost certainly suffice, although I must admit that no dragon I have encountered has ever attempted to burn me, so I am not entirely sure
I work for a construction company, historically a very cishet industry, and I help support our LGBT group as an ally and DEI lead. On Transgender Day of Visibility (March 31st), we were able to bring in an external speaker, who happens to be a transgender man, to talk to our employees about Transgender 101 basics and his journey and experiences. We were worried about how the event would be received, but it truly opened up fantastic thoughtful questions and discussions, and prompted our CEO to ask what policies we need to put in place to support any employees pre/during/post transition. We are going to bring him back for a follow up session in November and I’m so hecking chuffed that they are taking action and not just paying lip service
That is unbelievably awesome 🥰
That’s amazing I’m glad they are working on making a change
@@maem7462 same. For many of our employees, particularly the executive board, it was the first time we spoke on the subject of transgender people. And they wanted to learn, which was wonderful
U should know the acronym then....lgbtqia+.....
@@tashaax1993xanimalloverx as an LGBT+ person, I will not make a fuss if someone doesn't use all the letters lol I am happy to see someone being supportive and encouraging support for the community 😊
The invisibility one was my favourite; it's so relatable. I really do seem to be invisible a lot of the time. At my old job, I worked behind a bar. A customer would walk right up in front of me and then ring the bell. I would then speak, and they'd say 'oh, I didn't see you there.' Same with my family. I'll be in the room with them for some time, and then just as I go to leave, everyone else will jump out of their skin because they had not noticed I'd been sitting there. My dad says that I have my own personal invisibility cloak. I think it must be an intransvisibility cloak.
As an asexual, I can confirm that I would steal the cake.
I just don't understand how people can use a lack of personal understanding as an excuse for their prejudices. I myself as a cis gay man cannot possibly understand what a trans person must feel like. I am male. I was born male. I want to be male. I am happy being male. But a lack of understanding on my part doesn't mean it's not real. It is real. I mean I along with most people don't understand quantum physics, but that doesn't stop it from being real.
Not understanding doesn't always equate with hate or prejudice. I'll admit, at very first, I didn't understand those who are non binary but present in a typical feminine or masculine way. I didn't hate, I still knew they were non binary, just I....didn't grasp it? But then, I got to thinking. Plenty of cis females present in a way that we don't typically think of as feminine. Cis males do the same. So, as do non binary people.
Sorry, I know that was probably off topic and a rant, but I'm glad I gave it some deeper thought.
I guess I was just trying to say not understanding isn't always akin with prejudice.
It is strange when ppl use lack of understanding as an excuse to invalidate someone. Like you’re example most ppl don’t understand quantum physics but ppl aren’t invalidating that they know it exist. Same thing with rocket science or a lot of science in general not many ppl fully understand it but that doesn’t make use be like I don’t understand rocket science so it’s invalid.
Right?? I don't understand Spanish but I know it's a real freaking language!
I think I understand a fair amount of physics if it’s written down in words, but don’t understand the maths equations behind it. Which is a rather apt description of my understanding of gender and sexuality who is grey-a and is genderqueer/not quite cis/questioning.
Another physics analogy that I like to use is- is you can’t see air but you know it exists and need it to live.
@@sezzac155 Omg ya idk why I didn’t think of air but that is a good one to use
It took me decades to learn that cishet people were perfectly normal and deserved respect the same as I always gave everyone else.
Wait is this a joke?
@@ElfsArt24i am just revealing the lunacy of some beliefs. Overall, it isn't something I find funny, but facetiousness works to make a point.
06:32 hit really hard on me... I remember coming out to one of my friends and she excitedly told me "Why didn't you tell me sooner? I always wanted a gay friend". That day, I was relagated to the token black gay bff...
Mind you, I am a bi girl.
Well, it was between that and 'But wait, you're not like, attracted to me, right?'
... Ouch
@@kazikek2674 I guess I was lucky she didn't say that or "blacklist" me but I still felt diminished that day 🥲
@@AmelieKaren7_13 well you’re valid fellow bi
@@kazikek2674 someone did that to my friend, luckily she isn’t someone anyone I know talks to often and we know she’s homophobic
....ugh not the tokenization. I hope you've found better friends who see you as the wonderful person you are and not the stereotype they want you to be.
THAT FIRST ONE IS SO RELATABLE! I have a non binary friend who goes by Ollie, but they’re only out to a few selective people, so on their birthday (15th of Nov, just a few days ago) me and my other friend who also knows went to sing happy birthday to them. But another friend who they weren’t out to tagged along to wish them happy birthday, so we ended up singing 🎶happy birthday dear [dead name]🎶 and I could just see in their face that they understood why, but didn’t like it. 😢
The “I don’t understand this but I respect it” is such a good mindset to have. I’m nb, and queer, and use labels some people don’t understand. (Demisexual, Demipanromantic) I have done a lot of research on labels and lgbtq to understand that I am indeed those labels. During my research, I found a lot of them that at the time seemed nonsensical, I couldn’t understand them and thought “oh who’d even be this”, but later on when needing to explain my labels to everyone who didn’t understand I realised that everyone is different, and no one is to tell you what you can and can’t be. Let’s say lunagender - I was so confused when I read that but I’ve realised that I can’t want respect from others if I don’t respect them.
I am a bit in the same boat. I'm ace and homoromantic, an identity a lot of people don't understand and therefore don't respect. I really want to be a good trans ally, but I really don't understand xenogenders?? Is Lunagender a xenogender? Where can I read to understand this? How is it different from personality/interest? What makes the object their gender?
I've seen kids appropriating severe mental illnesses online (I'm mentally ill and know very much about psychiatry and these kids were consciously making up alters that were not at all due to trauma) because they are ignorant, and some of these people, from what I could see, made up different genders too. They drew characters and made up different genders and pronouns like it was a game. I don't understand this, are they appropriating being trans? Have they misunderstood being trans? Or are so many, so very young people, a variety of xenogenders? Even if they don't feel dysphoria?
I got very confused and always want to support trans people, but seeing them completely faking a severe mental illness (DID) I started doubting their genders too. It seemed so casual, impulsive and lacking in knowledge.
Where can I read about xenogenders to understand more? If older people consistently feel they are xenogenders I want to learn more about it so I can become a better ally. These kids I don't know what to think about?? I've never come across anything like it, it seemed like a trendy game to them. If a person IRL told me they are a xenogender and use certain pronouns I'll of course respect that, but were can I get more information? And are some kids really making up genders???
I'm 34 years old, by the way.
@@SamirCCat I’m going to answer in a quite short manner, as I do believe that you can find more information from dedicated people online.
I do not know if lunagender counts as a xenogender, but it’s when someone’s gender identity changes in phases, like the moon, thus it’s called lunagender. It varies from person to person but that’s the basis of it.
I do also think there are people, especially uneducated, young people who make up genders for attention, to be special and different. That’s not to say though that there isn’t an infinite amount of genders out there, as many as there are people really, because gender is a concept that everyone, in my opinion, understands differently. The problem is when people start to pretend that they’re this or that or as you say, pretend they have alters and make up their names and genders etc. To me, that’s different than being nb / xenogender, using neopronouns etc.
As for research, there are multiple lgbtq themed communiti wikis, like the lgbtqia+ wiki. There, people commit to doing research about all the different genders and document them, making it easier to find out and understand them. I’d suggest looking there, as you can browse through all the genders listed (and sexualities), and it’s made by people for people so it should be quite simple to understand how they work, even if it doesn’t quite make sense to you personally.
There are nonbinary identities I don't understand or think are superfluous and could easily be conflated into other similar identities (The border between demigenders and 'full' binary genders, some differences between identities like maverique, neutrois, graygender, androgyne etc. also elude me), but my base attitude shifted from, and I apologize for holding this view once, 'SOME Nonbinary people are giving actual trans people a bad name by overdoing this', to 'They're just different and currently reconstructing the system to acknowledge them better. If I am right, they'll grow out of it, if I am wrong, they have enough problems without me joining the dogpile.' I doubt the shift will stop here, I've been growing increasingly more NB-supportive over the past three years.
jamie telling his younger self "hi, look at my beard!" has me a little emotional 😭
My partner went to an event at his college that's meant to teach you to be a good ally to the lgbtq+ community (and I'm mostly closeted so he couldn't just say "I'm already in a queer relationship"). At the end of the event they wanted him to sign a certificate to show he was a "good ally" and he refused, making some people mad. He was trying to make the point that an ally isn't a title you claim it's something shown in your actions. The community decides if you are an ally, not yourself.
@The Werewolf Of Scandinavia Please tell us how we're disrespecting women
@The Werewolf Of Scandinavia who id that
@The Werewolf Of Scandinavia How long are you going to keep stalking this channel? Are there other UA-camrs you don't watch the videos of, but go into the comments anyway? Is this a cry for attention? Do you need a psychiatrist? Do you need me to hold your hand while you cry about "tHeM tRaNs PeOpLe" running your life by ignoring you? Come on. All your comments are just spam now. You're not even putting effort into the troll anymore. :)
@The Werewolf Of Scandinavia ok but if women are just inherently bad at sports then why do we even have women's sports
@The Werewolf Of Scandinavia According to Wikipedia, Lia's completion time in a 500 freestyle decreased by 15 seconds, and she still loses to cis women despite being 'a guy'. She has the same hormone levels as a cis woman. And the women competing in that event didn't care that she was trans.
Tell us more :)
The bar is indeed too low. But the first step to raising the bar isn't to stop spending energy praising allies. It's to start spending energy hounding homophobes, and calling them what they are - the scum of the earth.
If you're going to take the carrot away, you have to start using the stick.
On one hand, this is 100% true. On the other hand, if we start doing that, homophobes will start painting themselves as the victims. Which then will lead to more prejudice. We can't keep on spreading hate, as much as they deserve it. Hate is a vicious cycle.
@@szarekhthesilentking7043 With all due respect, this is all hand-wringing, fence-sitting rubbish. This perspective is a net loss for human rights and harmonious coexistence.
For example:
Say we made it public policy to treat openly anti-LGBT parents as abusive parents.
Say social services start taking their kids away from them whether said kids are out as LGBT or not, on the basis that there's a chance that the kids are LGBT, and if they were then they would have to hide it for safety.
There would be a backlash, everyone to the right of Laura Kuenssberg would be duly whipped up into a frenzy, they'd all howl "parental rights", and there would certainly be a temporary spike in violent hate crimes.
But from that point on, every queer child in this country would be able to safely show who they really are, without fear of reprisals from the people who are supposed to love them no matter what.
This is just one example of the benefit that could be achieved by fearlessly and actively suppressing bigotry in our country.
The mistake that you make when you equate hating anti-LGBT people with hating LGBT people is that unlike LGBT people, anti-LGBT people are:
a) doing real harm to others by being that way
b) choosing to be that way
c) able to stop being that way whenever they want.
The logical conclusion of these three facts is that measures must be taken to convince them to stop, in proportion with the harm that they are causing. Anything less is nothing short of a failure to act.
@Dusty Ganila Your determination is impressive. Perhaps seek therapy?
@Dusty Ganila I truly wish you would show that love, rather than just talk about it.
@Dusty Ganila Why shame the tactics of others that you use yourself? Is "hounding" wrong, or just ineffective? If it's ineffective, why keep doing it?
as a genderfluid person the 8:08 is sooo accurate, I'll be like "oh I think im just cis and faked it" and than 10 minutes later I just hate every inch if my boobs...
also yes in winter I'm frozen
Me too •́ ‿ ,•̀
**drinks cup of genderfluid** sorry i was thirsty
@@Ashlee665 oh shit was it you?!?!?! did you take my gender?
3:12 ugh this is too relatable. I started off as an ally, and after a lot of back-and-forth with myself, I'm now asexual and aromantic. I'm still looking for a label for my gender (I know I don't need one, but it would make me feel more comfortable) but for now I'm going with girlflux and she/they/xem pronouns.
I'm definetly asexual and demiromantic i think but i don't seem to care at all which pronouns people call me. I just go by she/her at the moment. Is there a name for this?
Jamie !! I have 2 more appointments (hopefully) before I start T and I just wanted to say think you !! You’ve been a huge part of that journey. I really appreciate you channel, always carried big brother vibes 🥺❤️
Update: I start this week :))
Update: I START TODAY (4/14) 😭😭😭😭😭
Congratulations!! Woot woot!! 🌈❤🧡💚💙💛💜🖤🤍🌈
👏🎉
Hope those appointments go well and you're able to start. T rules. :)
Hope your appointment goes well !!☺️
That's amazing! Congrats
I wouldn't mind being a ball, at least they don't have to pay taxes
That's a very good point
Is it a good thing or bad thing tho?
@@かわいいてんし-m2l good you weirdo
lol
@@Sophie-mv7bd balls don't have points, they're balls
Ah yes more LGBALLT stuff. Very happy to see this. And seeing the Genderfaun ball makes me happy
Genderfaun?
_pursues knowledge_
If I understand that correctly that means "anything but woman"?
@@krimsonkatt the comment above you explains it…
@@sc2_Nightmare sorry but what do you mean anything but woman? is that like identifying as multiple genders or genderfluid but never female?
@@evilpotato1534
From what I found, yes, exactly that. Genderfluid but never female.
@@sc2_Nightmare alright thanks for telling me
Jamie: *Has cake*
Asexuals: *Breaks into Jamie’s house to steal the cake*
Is there any left??
@@GingerShellKittens The asexuals ate it all. It was a good cake too 😁🍰
@@sage.81 Aww too bad i missed it!
@@GingerShellKittens Are you asexual?
2:52 I’ve always just thought that telling people compliments is very nice... never labelled it as “setting the bar too low”. I kinda understand where this is coming from but still in a situation where I can chose to compliment someone I’ll 99% do it, ‘cause it just feels nice and establishes a great connection.
The sexualization of bi women is so real.
When I started telling people I was bi, it was exclusively straight, cis men who were like, “ThREeSoMeS? I bet your husband loves that. Heh heh.”
Could not roll my eyes harder.
We (cis straight men) also love to pretend lesbians would actually be bi or straight if they found the right guy, so... ugh.
Bi people can be as polyamorous or monogamous, as promiscuous or prudish as anyone else, they just happen to potentially have intimate interests for more than one gender. It's a shame it seems to take so long to understand just that.
The double standard is ridiculous. As a bi man, I just got, "So, Ur GaY tHeN?" It's annoying, but that sounds so much worse.
3:48 I can confirm this is the EXACT process I went through and I’m proud to be a gay trans man now (:
Similar process except I stayed at bi, and am just bi trans man
Same! Except I never really had a bi phase, I just sort of felt like being in a relationship with a woman would make me feel more male, but was aware that I was never actually attracted to them
How I figured out I'm ace. Except for the people trying to turn me straight when they found out about my lack of sexual desire
Also, my journey regarding my gender identity got restarted after I discovered the term "trans agender" (which according to the local professionals doesn't exist.)
I went through a really similar process, but without the lesbian bit, and I'm still bi.
@@v3ru586 What is Trans Agender if you don’t mind explaining. I was trying to look it up but I mostly just found agender and gender fluid
I used to think of myself as that ally ball, it took me until after I graduated college to figure out I'm Ace, but not aro, and probably biromantic, but it's hard to be sure when I find the very thought of sex so off-putting. (Edit for autocorrupt)
Omg biromantic aces uniteeee
Yes! Biromantic for the win! Piping in to celebrate!
Edit: sorry, I'm Panromantic but hey, we all need the support!
Omg same
Yaaaay!! I'm very proud of biromantic aces, as my girlfriend, and I want to make sure every bi-ace know there's nothing wrong with you 💜 from a bi-arospec-nonbinary heart
Oh yeah it took me aaaaaages to figure out my orientation because I’m basically ace unless a romantic partner is being overtly sexy, and then my brain might flip the demisexual switch on. There were so few people I ever felt anything even remotely like sexual attraction for that it took me decades to figure out whether I was actually straight or not.
the type of allies we should be applauding are those who go above and beyond just accepting, but those who fight for our rights and take actions to make our lives safer
yesterday i got food and while i was finishing up my order this guy said "Aaron, man i love your shirt" and as a trans guy it made me really happy
8:51 Hahaha, my friend and I make this joke all the time. We cannot physically hear the word "straight" without turning to one another knowingly, or just somehow telepathically communicating to say "haha, nope". I feel like it should have gotten old by now, but we don't really exaggerate it too much, so we'll get to enjoy it for a while longer.
Lavender360 -- For my part, I giggle like a sixth-grade boy hearing the word 'poop' whenever I hear the word 'straight', often following it up with "heh heh, you said straight" when appropriate.
@@arcanelore3791 Hahaha.
Jamie is the most pure and amazing ball of sunshine person there is
Can confirm as an ace I fucking love cake. I make a mean lemon cake.
CAKE
We love an ace who eats cake and makes it too!!
@Pancakemantaray people seem to really like those. I'm allergic to pineapple so I couldn't tell you when I last had one or what they taste like. I don't really know how you make one either I just know you serve it upside-down which confused the fuck out of me as a kid. I assume the cake is fairly dense so it can have structure after soaking up the juices and so it can hold up the fruit? Is it like pound cake?
@@elix1133 I haven't had/made one in years, but I remember them being dense, just not quite as dense as a poundcake.
I do remember a friend subbing peaches for the pineapple, because they weren't fond of pineapples. Said it didn't come out too bad.
I love lemon cake. pls share recipe sometime
As a bisexual man going through his "came out in my mid/late 20s, so i talk about cute boys like a stereotypical teenaged girl at a sleepover"... im really worried about having to hear the phrase "lgbt balls," over and over, and what it might do to my poor little heart
0:51 that’s just me and my friend. He’s trans and we often get asked why we call him (chosen name) so we always say it’s a nickname.
as an ace person who works at a cake factory, i can confirm that our love for cake does indeed go this far
Do they weigh you before/after your shift to see if you couldn't resist the ones that didn't pass QC's? 😁
How do you work there without eating it all???
"is asexuals' love for cake really that deep?" yes can confirm
I literally had a dream about cake. That was all it was about. The stereotypes may be true.
It sure is
@@CallmeOzymandias Same lol
Lol when i read an article in a teen-magazine about a trans guy (first time for me ever legit hearing about the topic at all) I was like "Hey that sounds like my issues and oh it's pretty cool that's possible and I kind of wanna do that" but I still didn't think it actually applied to me
Although I literally told my new friend in third grade I was a boy lmao
Girls in kindergarten and up until 3rd grade telling me: "You are not a real girl". They did it to bully me, because I didn't fit into the binary, but I just agreed with them.
And I argued that "girl" (gender) should be able to be more than what they saw as "girl". Because at that time I didn't know anything other than the binary, so my solution was to expand on what "girl" gender meant.
If only I knew then what I know now...
On the other hand: We still think we totally should totally dissolve the rigid ideas of the binary.
People can then define as being in a corner of a 3D gender axis. But the idea wouldn't exist that there is two basic molds and then a bunch of custom ones. No molds, just amorph fluids.
@@SIC647 I like this.
No cuz at school today my teacher knows I go by Ace but a kid asked why she called me Ace and had to explain this was the conversation
"Why do you keep calling [deadname] Ace?"
"Because they choose to go by Ace."
[Another kid] "If she goes by Ace then I go by spiderman"
[Teacher]"No, they have a valid reason to go by Ace, you don't for spiderman"
[Both kids] "That's not fair. [Deadname] is a girl and will always be one."
My teacher tells them to be quiet, respect me, and she walks away.
My heart melted at that today
1:44 as a disabled LGBTQ+ member, I can confirm that the bar is stupidly low. I've had people expect me to be overly delighted that they did the bare minimum and made required spaces accessible (classrooms, bathrooms, etc.) and then are upset when I'm not... because it's the minimum. No, you're not being an ableist jerk, but a, me not throwing you a party for not further traumatizing me isn't an excuse to become one (no kidding, that's happened) and b, you don't throw anyone cishet here a part for being an "ally". You don't deserve the same.
Basic decency is what we deserve. There's no reason to act like someone is a hero, or a martyr, because they do that.
4:14 - Me, as a binary trans man, every time a cis person asks me to "Explain nonbinary."
I honestly don't understand why people feel that they only have to respect identities that they "get."
I witnessed a cis woman meet a trans woman for the first time and then went on to insist that she “needed time” to get used to the correct pronouns! I pulled her aside and had a talk with her and she used the correct pronouns for the rest of the night, but I was flabbergasted that she made it all about her.
@@sweettea1193 they're binary in that society decided there's only two options
@@sweettea1193 Reading your comments makes you look like you're just being obtuse on purpose, by refusing to accept that society can make up a binary. I'm surprised Sam N. didn't think so.
Non-binary is really simple. "Not man or woman". If you need further explanation to respect the identity, I'm gonna identify as a problem.
@@sweettea1193 i dont think its anyone elses business what your biological sex is
Been trying to transition for several years and it seems like the closer I get the father it seems because there is always something that gets in the way or moves it out of reach. I finally found someone who could help me and they said they would send the T to my pharmacy that day or the next, that was over a week ago and I've been trying to contact them since.
Try also asking the pharmacist, sometimes you'll grab one of the ones who can go and berate the doctor for messing up your medication. (seriously, BOY can pharmacists be angry about doctors screwing up, sometimes)
@@neoqwerty The pharmacist where I live only care about giving you the medicine the doctor I'm seeing is out of town because we don't have doctors who specialize in LGBTQ care so he's the best I got XD
I’m sorry about that. I hope you get in touch with good ppl who actually give you T
💚💜💙
@@Mr.Frog24 still, try to get them to yell at the doctor for fucking shit up, it’s the doctors job to do his job, not the pharmacists
I'm a cishet man and if an LGBT+ person thanked me for being an ally, my reaction would be the same as the ball in that comic early on. You dont have to thank me for treating you like a human being, it truly is the bare minimum. It's the same thing as my girlfriend thanking me for listening to her and being nice to her, it's like... that is literally the least I could do.
@Dusty Ganilla No, it's not. Maybe if you took some time to actually try to understand, you would become a better person.
@Dusty Ganilla Don't treat anyone badly in your daily life, yet say that the labels people use to identify themselves is BS. That shows a fundamental lack of respect for people, especially those in marginalized groups. Maybe take an introspective look about why you would say their "tags" are BS. You can say you "wouldn't do anything different" if you knew their identity, but this is hypocritical when paired with the above.
You don't have to be at war to be someone's ally, so that's just an absurd question. Maybe ask yourself why people in these groups would need allies, but I can tell you it's because they face discrimination and marginalization for who they are.
Everyone can do something to be a better person, to be better and more accepting of the people around us, it just begins with looking inside ourselves. That's a difficult step, and I know from experience.
@@Aleolex oh ignore Dusty. They trolled on my comment too, and many others on this video. They’re literally commenting on everyone trying to get a rise
@Dusty Ganilla People aren't putting themselves into boxes, if you'd listen you'd understand.
I am a heterosexual cis man. That is who I am, my identity. It's the evolution of language. People didn't have a word to describe who they are, and now they do. It's not a box, it's a way to describe their identity. Their fundamental being. They do, literally, have meaning. Just because you don't understand it doesn't change that.
@Dusty Ganilla MAPS have nothing to do with the LGBT community, and it's dangerous to everybody to spread such terrible lies. You thinking that they're "boxes" doesn't change what they actually are. I do see what's happening. I see people like you so stuck in their ways that when they see something they don't understand they dismiss it as BS. You should take a long hard look at yourself and ask why you feel like spreading hatred and distrust in comment sections under a video about acceptance of identity is a good way to spend your life.
The Genderfluid being litterally fluid is the greatest running joke of all times, it never doesn't land 😂
1:34 “is this how deep the love of cake goes?”
As an asexual, I literally said out-loud “yes” and then realized that we still had cake leftover from my sibling’s birthday and got so excited that I went down and ate some so y e s, the love for cake runs deep lmfao😂
Lucky! I want cake...
Watching this is a great way to celebrate day 5 of being on hrt. Girl patch applied and antiboyotics taken.
Now just make a new one every day just for me to celebrate every other day!
Thank you for these videos though.
“Antiboyotics.”
OOF that’s a bad pun. Nice job 👍. The worse the pun, the better
"Antiboyotics"
I'm dead! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
And welcome to womanhood ❤️ Brightest of Blessings, and I hope everything goes well for you, little sister 👍😘
@@barbarawallace6890
Thanks! ❤❤❤
Those kind of comments really help especially in the early stages.
Alice -- ANTIBOYOTICS amazing
Istg we come up with the best names for HRT in the Trans community 😂
As an asexual i can verify, i go feral at the mention of cake
**gives you cake**
@@violetlover3628 NO STOP THEYLL GO FERAL
CAKECAKECAKECake
The trans day of visibility post reminded me of my favourite teacher wishing me a happy ace day last week. As far as I know, she's cis and straight, but she's been the best ally to me being aroace simply by not reacting at all when I came out to her in an email about class and treating me with the same warmth and support that made me feel safe to come out to her in the first place
I've been using your videos to help me sleep for moths now, it just feels so safe and nice, makes it almost impossible for my chronical anxiety to pop up. Thank you so much
I went from being homophobic to being bisexual, to being pansexual, to being lesbian, to being trans, and now unlabeled. Guess i had to try the labels out before realizing i dont have any :D
4:04 : this is a genderfaun ball (in the LGBallT fandom, this one is usually drawn with horns because, you know, genderFAUN).
It is a gender identity that is basically genderfluid, but doesn't encompasses female-alined genders. Therefore, a genderfaun person can identify as male (and other male-alined genders), non-binary, agender... but never on the fem side of the gender spectrum. There's also genderfaunet : people with this gender identity can as well experience female-alined genders ; however, they won't feel fully female.
The female-alined counterpart is genderfae (usually drawn with wings in LGBallT). Genderfae individuals experience female-alined and nonbinary genders, but not male-alined genders. Its flag has greens and pinks/purples, with a white stripe to the middle. The counterpart for genderfaunet is genderfaer.
(hope i got everything right ! i'm genderfluid myself :p)
I can't say I fully understand this, but if that's who they are, then that's totally valid and I support them.
Oooh... That's cool! I've actually been trying to figure out if I'm non-binary, since it occurred to me someone 100% at home with their assigned gender probably wouldn't have spent 2 years dithering over what pronouns to list (I didn't like leaving out "they", so ultimately didn't)...and because that mostly agender, ambisexual world depicted in 'The Left Hand of Darkness' always seemed oddly appealing. I'd always ruled it out because I definitely DON'T want to be a man or to be perceived as particularly masculine. But maybe "genderfae" is the word I'm looking for. Hmm.
There's also genderflor / gendervae, which refers to someone who is genderfluid between multiple genders, but never masculine or feminine. I'm agender and suspect I might be genderfluid in a way that oscillates between multiple undefined identities, so that's probably the term I've been looking for. I've described it as, suppose the gender bimodality is represented by two mountains with a valley in between, and I'm somewhere off in space, in a rocket that's perpetually spiraling out of control.
@@FrozEnbyWolf150 PLEASE that’s such a good description
@@Blazingstoke A lot of the gender terminology gets very specific, so there's a lot of vocabulary that feels "weird" if you're used to thinking that it's binary. In the end, each person's experience is their own and the words are there just to help them describe that experience to other people (or themselves). It's sort of like colour; you can often get by with the "basic" colour vocabulary, but sometimes you might want to describe a very specific colour, and it helps to have a name for it.
5:13
....god... I had the pause the video at the "Hii!! Look at my beard !!!"
I had the definition of a heart squeeze....
I am just a random person, but,,
I am so proud of you, Jamie...!
And to anyone stuck at the egg stage ....
you shall get to feel more comfortable and happy in your body one day, too...
I'm in the egg stage but I don't know what kind of egg I am :T
@@remy.the.rat.. me too
Thanks for cheering me up. I have been getting into arguments on the internet with the most transphobic horrible people and now the US state of Alabama has made it a crime punishable by up to 10 years in prison for a doctor to provide any gender affirming treatment to anyone under 19. As a cit het female doctor. I’m just trying to do my best to understand and help people. I get so upset when I think about all the kids who can’t even get puberty blockers. Not to mention that multiple states are passing laws requiring schools to out LGBT children to their parents. This country is just so backwards. They want to ban all abortions but once the child is born they don’t care if they live or die, especially if they are a member of the LGBT community.
I've been dealing with a lot of transphobic horrible people too. It's a shame that these people have to ruin a good day like this. Are you alright?
This made me feel amazing. Thank you. Even though I'm just in middle school, People keep telling me to kill myself because I'm pan. This lifted my spirits. Thank you again. (Btw, love your beard and glasses Jamie!)
Me last year: I hate it when people assume I'm girly just cause I'm a girl, I wish they would perceive me and treat me as a boy. But I'm not a boy, I just want to be treated as one......
This year I came out as trans
Some of these comics are so accurate it hurts lol. Like slowly discovering and rediscovering your identity and doubting yourself the entire time. Can relate.
Jamie: Is this how deep the love of cake goes for asexuals
Me an ace: *mouth full of cake* yes
This brought back memories of when I thought I was an Ally. After spending a lot of time with people from the LGBT+ community, I realized that I wasn't straight either.
Reject heterosexuality, return to cake and garlic bread!
This is literally me- I thought I was an ally but then I realised that wishing I weren't straight so I could be in a relationship with a girl or enby person is not something straight people wish for
Hell yeah
As someone on the asezual spectrum, hell yeah!
I’m AroAce and I can say- hell yeah cake is supreme
I'm aromantic and asexual
9:17 "I have some red velvet cake downstairs.."
Me: SAY NO MORE 🤩
POV: When cute cartoon balls are funnier than most comedians 😂
About praising ally-ship, my friend prompted me to come out to a school counselor and they automatically supported me. Afterwards, I was really happy and talked to a different friend about how cool it was to be accepted and they said “You realize that’s how you deserve to be treated… it’s really sad how that was so surprising.”
I recently came out as genderfluid to some of my closest friends, and that was partially because of these awesome videos that have made me feel so much more comfortable being myself. If someone reads this: You're doing great!
The little ball journey of coming out is super cute and super relatable.
I was cis straight female.
Then bi, then a lesbain then came out as straight transman, then realised I was demisexual ♡
Amazing.
1:39 as an asexual here i kindly removed the cake from my family after it only being in my presence for around an hour, so yes
On a more serious note, I'm SO SO lucky to have such supportive parents! My mom has agreed to use my name and pronouns, and my dad may slip up sometimes but he is EXTREMELY quick to correct himself and apologize even if correcting himself is all I need. My friends are really accepting too, even going as far as correcting teachers since I'm fully out as a demi-boy! If I had the chance to change them, I wouldn't change a thing. I love my friends and family
I love this subreddit so much thank you for doing another one 😁
The cutest subreddit
@@KyleRayner12 glad someone agrees
I actually came out to a couple of my friends as Non-Binary on trans visibility day without even realizing and when one of them pointed it out I was so happy.
Not me and my ally heart smiling and laughing at these along with Jamie. Also, love that take on us allies not being propped up and praised for just doing the bare minimum. Love ya Jamie!
Whenever I tell my story to remind people anyone can change and get better I also tend to mention "It is kind of said that 'I became a basic level decent human being' is a story"
@@kazikek2674 Yeah, it's like that should be the standard, yet some people see something that they don't understand, think it bad because they don't understand it instead of actually trying to understand, go REEEEE REEEE, and yeah. Human decency should not be a foreign concept
This subreddit is so freaking adorable
1:38 I can confirm, I have just robbed the local bakery.
Damnit, you beat me to it
6:25 I feel like there is this basic difference of attitudes in regards to being LGBT based on sex more than gender
AFABs get 'soft erased', told they're mistaken, told it'll pass, steered, or people accept it while quietly thinking it's just a phase, but they'd have to be pretty open and moving forward with their identity to get direct and constant criticism, often dumb or infantilizing types of it even then.
AMABs get a lot more direct criticisms in the beginning and people are constantly figuring out how this or that is just a weird perversion thing and there must be 'something off with them', but if they continue persisting really hard eventually folks will realize this is what they really want and get off their back, except those who actually are crusading against LGBT people.
Just my observation of course, individual experience may vary
"I have seen very people going into that bathroom wearing capes, I think we're all doing it wrong"
YOU WOULD BE CORRECT, LET'S ALL GET CAPES
1:24 When you’re Ace and Agender, “I will steal the cake from within!
Thanks to you ( and your previous LGBallT video) i came out as asexual a month ago. Thanks to you i started questioning myself and listening to myself and respecting my feelings.
A week ago i realised i'm nonbinary and i CAN'T stop being emotional because i finally feel that i found a reason of my 2 year-long depression.
You are literally saving lifes... Thank you so much.
And i want more of these videos🙃
I'm really proud of you! ace gang :]
As an asexual, this rep makes me so happy 😭💕also did he say he has a cake??? C’m on, aces, we’ve found a true ally!
Can we raid to get the cake... or would that be rude?
0:57 that happened in class to me when I was talking to my trans friend and referring to them by their actual name out of habits, and, you know, respect, and someone asked us why I was calling "her" his chosen name and his name was dead name, and I didn't know what to answer. My friend then said that it was just a nickname referring an inside joke. That someone (thankfully) bought it
I’m agender but one day this guy came up to me and said are you boy or a girl and I replied neither and he literal just said so your a unicorn then and it was so wholesome
@a ghost late but agender means they don't have a gender... kind of like how asexual is no sexual attraction. or aromantic being no romantic attraction. the prefix "a" means none. (im a demigirl btw so if an agender person has a better explanation lmk.) thanks for educating yourelf! :)
@@orbitch648
Demigirl?
I didn't know that "demi" could apply to gender. Could you explain that a bit further, please?
I'd also like to know.
@a ghost Ah that makes sense. Thanks :)
That's so cute
"Are you a boy or a girl?"
"No."
This is literally an exchange I had last week lol
I am gonna come out to my friends as non-binary in a few weeks, and in a weird way can't wait to finally make some of these jokes out loud. It probably gets old fast though.
@@laartje24 That sounds great, I hope it’s fun for you! And, as someone who is mostly out, the jokes never get old if you’re with the right people ^^
As an Asexual I can confirm that indeed we love cake. Cake is life. Cake is god
5:00 Me being pre-egg-crack theatre kid in high school: “I just want to play the male parts because they have more intriguing character arcs, and being tall and not skinny and not typical female lead body type, I’m tired of playing moms and comedic relief. If I’m ever going to be the lead, it’s going to be as a guy. Plus, it feels good to hide my hair and bind my chest and have people go ‘oh I didn’t realize that was you’ or ‘oh I couldn’t tell you were actually a girl.’ But it’s just for Theatre and because we need more diverse female characters and it’s a fun little thing. I wouldn’t, like, be a guy offstage or anything.”
Me now, a more masc-leaning nonbinary: “Don’t worry, you’ll get there. You’ll understand one day.”