He missed "guilt tripping" - that should be like #1. Parents do this a lot to their kids. "go ahead, skip out on the family reunion, make your mother looks stupid, or make everyone wonder where you are..." or " don't you love me? have mercy on me, can't you see I'm sick?"
Silence is a great one for haggling. I did some garage sale flipping a few years back- don’t argue against a lowball- just look at them for about 5 seconds- about half of people will make another offer to escape the tension.
This works almost perfectly if the person is purposely lowballin you. You’ll feel as if you’re onto them an may feel insulted. Thinkin your silence is you either bein courteous or holdin back your displeasure with their offer they’ll try to avoid losin you altogether by makin a more reasonable offer. Even if it’s still low at this point they’ll be more open to negotiation
i thrive off quietness i don't like getting involved with people more out of annoyance then fear or it being awkward so i would be there thinking about if someone every ate a deep fried fruit and should i be the first to do that
I use responsibility inovcation with my mother, and now I feel bad... But in my defense, she all the time promises things and never does them, so when I really want her to do something, I say that she promised to do it to make her feel bad, but it almost never works because either *I* feel bad for making her do it, or she is just like "no, I'm not 'feeling well'"
@@PS4Pat nah, she actually has a lot of health issues and always takes meds, but that still doesn't excuse the fact that she is tired all the time for me
@@Nickilob2006 which is my point. You said that she all the time promises things and never does them. But also like you said, she has health issues and takes meds, but that still doesn't excuse it. So even though she has health issues, if she can actually do something for you but claims she doesn't feel well, at least some of those times, is probably just an excuse.
Summed Up : Charm try to be loving when I ask her to do it. Coercion yell at him until he does it. Silent treatment don't respond to her until she does it. Reason explain why I want him to do it. Regression whine until she does it. Self-abasement act submissive so that he will do it. Responsibility invocation get her to make a commitment to doing it. Hardball hit him so that he will do it. Pleasure induction show her how much fun it will be to do it. Social comparison tell him that everyone else is doing it. Monetary reward offer her money so that she will do it.
ItsAmil why are you assuming I’m proud of it? I have BPD so I do it without thinking about it & it’s scary. I didn’t even know these were considered manipulative until therapy tbh
Well shit someone actually used that threat on me once after I laughed at having a knife put to my throat (I have a mental disorder that basically results in my sense of fear towards physical threats being greatly reduced. Still can't work up the balls to ask girls out tho)... it was clear I wouldn't be able to stop them and I gave them all £7.20 I had on me at the time. Long story short people give about 100x more shits about their dog's pinky toe than their own lives. Unless they're a fucking psycho.
I believe everyone uses at least one of these tactics subconsciously, but that's not manipulation. The difference comes when you do it intentionally to control others. Watching this video i realised i often use one of the tactics, which is using logical reasoning to convince someone to do something. It doesn't always result in me winning, and i'm not using it intentionally to manipulate anyone, i just do it because i'm a logical person by nature. I use logical reasoning for many things, even things that help others instead of myself. I also realised that my ex girlfriend used a couple of these tactics, and i think some of them were intentional too, because i always had the feeling that she was manipulative... she always blamed stuff on me when things went wrong. Blaming me was her backup plan when other tactics didn't work.
@@ronkus5126 what the fuck man can you speak a word of Arabic for example. Judging that you're probably English you should be grateful that these foreign people are trying to speak english. You 100% got his point, what's the problem?
I’m not at all a manipulative person. I’m just very logical. I’m only watching this video to try and avoid using manipulation. But even I fit some of the ones on this list, 6 and 7 specifically, but I will only use that knowledge to improve on myself. I encourage all of you to do the same.
I think it's important to understand that most forms of manipulations isn't necessarily unethical. A big part of managing people is getting them to do what you want and you have to determine what level of manipulation you deem ethical.
Manipulation is ALWAYS unethical. Manipulation is goal driven "no matter the cost" kind of thinking, that is based on lies or fabricated stories. Persuasion however is done with good intent, and based on facts. Persuasion is good, manipulation is not. I have ZERO tolerance for manipulation.
Yeah, there's something to think about. After the video, I realized some moments that I was being manipulated and even learned my methods 🙈 Great illustrations!
Personal Summary: 1) Being charming 2) Somewhat threatening someone to get what you want 3) Silence treatment 4) Rational Reasoning 5) Whining about something (e.g. cry of a small child) 6) Being humble (e.g. "I'm so dumb") 7) Making other people feel responsible/guilty (e.g. "But you promised...") 8) Literally torturing people 9) Assuring the other one that it will be fun 10) Benchmarking (e.g. "Steve Jobs was doing this as well...") 11) Rewarding (e.g. "Would you commit a crime for $1 million dollar")
*Tactics don’t harm people - people harm people* I don’t see why people get attached to wordings. Sometimes we have to circumvent people’s egos and lack of knowledge so that we can present the message in a way they are comfortable with.
That logic can be applied to anything like guns don't kill people-people kill people But I don't why the logic is used on bad situations mostly. I've never heard anyone say medicine don't cure people it's the people who make it that does.
When the other is an egocentric jerk, you have to make this person lost, at minima for others. (No doubt my twin will kill me a day... But, hey, at least, everybody see how he is really!) (And that I have lot if trust issue and hate poeple don't mean how I see this jerk is biased)
Someone told me that I’m manipulative today, they’ve only known me for a week, I’ve never been told that before, so naturally I felt that it was a very strong choice of words.
coming from someone who has manipulative tactics and is persuasive there probably tryning get into your head and inflict self doubt...if they do this it makes it easier for them to have leverage on you and get what they want. EXAMPLE: *I tell somebody there manipulative knowing there not* *Im aware they arn't, so obviously there going to think about what I told them and question there own behavior* now if you guys get in an argument or they don't get what they want they can easily bring that up again bc they have already installed that impression in your head that your manipulative..Ive done this to a couple people and it works so its pretty easy to recognize when other people do it.
@@MeganMarieMasters hey I know I'm late but can you teach me how to be excellent manipulator? I followed video but I need more I need to perfect my manipulation.
0:44 you manipulated us before starting the Video with a warning ⚠️ this is a psychological trigger by curiosity you used as your asset as well ohh man you are a nice manipulator
I love how most of their videos are “how to to spot emotional manipulators” or “how to avoid emotional manipulation” and then they just post a literal fucking tutorial video on how to manipulate someone.
10) Social comparison... Nani??? So, my parents were manipulating me since I was a lil kid. But I was so genius that I never got trapped in their manipulation and never tried to study or top in my class. Damn, I was so smart!!!!
I am a machevelic kind of personality and is kinda ingrained to me to know how to manipulate people. I didn't though realize it until a friend of mine told me that I tend to be manipulative. I felt bad, I learned for the shadow theory and I use that part of my character only for emergency encounters like : trying to avoid people I don't like or get people to want to get to know me. You know just for that first step
If there are ethical manipulations and unethical manipulations, why do you lump them both together? If it is ethical and your video vilifies it under the blanket term "manipulation" are you not gaslighting healthy group motivation?
Joseph Avery I don't see much need to classify the types of manipulations into ethical and unethical. Because *ALL* of these manipulations can be used both ethically and unethically. Hence they aren't lumped together. Some manipulations just SEEM more unethical than others. For example, the "hardball" manipulation seem criminal if you're thinking just about something like a criminal causing physical harm to a person to manipulate them into doing something (unethical). *But* it's ethical, when a parent spanks their kid so that he/she won't steal others' things anymore! (It's for the her/his own good) In short, the ethic of manipulation depends on the situation.
@@amritas2400 I like the way you think, but the channel says they're all bad and lists them so we can protect ourselves. By said understanding, am I not supposed to protect myself from your reason? You make perfect sense to me, but it is a manipulation, according to practical psychology.
When I was younger a friend gave me the silent treatment. Our friendship ended because I didn’t give in. Oh also I don’t rlly manipulate-I know I do I just can’t tell which one or what I rlly do. 😀
Im a little confused on #7. If someone makes a commitment to something and they don’t, how am I manipulating them? You said you would be there and you weren’t. I am upset with you. That is a perfectly healthy reaction. I can see that used against someone sexually, but that’s and obvious circumstance. That’s really more abuse than manipulation.
Situations can be abusive and have manipulation involved, manipulation is just getting what you want by psychologically pressing, confusing, tricking or getting submission
been watching a few videos on the subject tonight. this one feels far more educational than most and far less deceiving. subsribed and added before you even recommended it :) will need to watch again tho :D
Missed: get sympathy by telling some lie... ppl who have something common could more easily be convinced. Using my own status / telling you are an expert eg: trust me i'm an engineer Telling just a bunch of positive features = it means it has even more positive features than we would reasonably suspect. (teleshop effect) Free lunch - If i get some i'll give some: Mutuality / reciprocity Playing with others emotions: = charm
Anytime I answer a question and somebody remains silent, I take it as a free “out” of the conversation and will wonder off into imagination land long before you get more answers out of me 😂
When I use my manipulation tactics I use past times that I help them. For an example when I want my sister to come with me to tennis and she doesn’t want to come I “persuade” her to come by bringing up past times where I helped her and she’ll “feel bad” and come with me
I act dumb, I let them think their in control, but they have no clue who’s truly pulling the strings, they hurt me, but that will not be allowed again.
I have an ex-best friend who manipulated me by raging at me until my friends and I complied with what he wanted. He also touched 3 of my female friends inappropriately and manipulated me into the thinking he stopped, when he didn’t, and actually started being more sneaky.
I don't see how charm is a harmful tactic. If i'm trying to get my friend to play a sport with me and I tell them they'll be good and it and I genuinely mean it, what's the harm?
You should probably be way more vary of the manipulation tactics that don’t make you feel negative emotions. Guilt tripping, peer pressuring, time pressuring or playing the victim make you less likeable. Actually time pressure not as much in some cases if you do it right (I did not test it on people. I just imagine the scenario and see how I would react.) because you don’t wanna seem judgmental or bossy.
Learning how to manipulate not to do it but prevent it by knowing what to counter with is by far the greatest dagger and shield one can have especially when manipulation became a thing for almost everyone, not just politicians
The video that you put OUT...was very tactical. For example, asking someone to have fun, or letting them know it will be fun....and you categorizing it as manipulation seems to be like your theory is Laim, what kind of fun asking is acceptable in your world? and YES your being MANIPULATED.
I use the logic manipulation tactic. Not necessarily in a negative or bad way, I don’t like to manipulate but I can change the reason to someone’s ideas by using logic. A common example of this would be where I pursued/convince someone to take a little bit more work than me by convincing them that it is logical to make the work load more ‘even’, and if I do it right instead of doing 50% of the work I do about 30%-40% of the work and be lazy. I would never make someone do something completely for me because I like doing things myself, I have a very specific way of doing things and they might mess up in the long run which can make me look bad, or make things worse. Also their are very specific conditions that half to be met in order for me to feel alright using this form of manipulation, if it will hurt someone I won’t use it and if the person is obviously tired/stressed I won’t use it. Regrettably I myself am very easily manipulated because I easily feel bad about doing things. If all else fails you can always beg your way out of going places and make the person feel bad for you by giving a genuine or well thought out excuse.
I don't really need any of these. Everyone just trusts me so much. It's one of my many privileges: being a TRUSTWORTHY and HONEST person. It's really easy. Just don't get caught lying, pin it on the black sheep of the family and live your life having everyone's trust.
0:38 - 0:53 You might have started the video with manipulation...instead of telling viewers to go and manipulate others using the tactics you told that the aim is for the viewers to spot those manipulations when they are applied to them. By doing so you feel good about putting out the video and your viewers also watch the video with an innocent mindset...Don't take this seriously. It is just about the odds.
I am unfortunately the silent treatment user, mostly because when I'm mad I know whatever will come out of my mouth will be worse. I only do it when someone upsets me and I'll drag it on for at least a half hour, I'm not one to drag it on for three days. Nonetheless it's still bad, any tips on how to stop?
I do that too, don't stop because if you stop, when you get mad, you'll say things you regret, I did it to my friends a few days ago on text, we were arguing and she used the self basement on me, so I have her the silent treatment for 3 days straight, if you start speaking when you're mad, all that's gonna come out is rude comments and that'll lose you a lot of friends
Same. I usually use this, reasoning and playing the victim. I generally use these on family and friends. With my mother, I use reasoning. She is more likely to give in. I write a lot of reasons why she should do whatever. I will compare certain thing to certain thing and then I will somehow figure out how to make it seems that what I want is better outcome compared to the other option. For my close friends, I use silent treatment. I know them quite well and so I know which is the best course of action. Most of my close friends are extremely sensitive and will give in almost immediately. Lastly, I use playing the victim on disposable people. So, teachers or associates. They mean nothing to me and if they figure out what I’m doing, it’s not that big of a problem. As long as I keep up my ‘act’, not many people will believe them. I just realised how bad this is. How do I stop?
And on my father, he abandoned me when I was a baby so he has a lot of guilt in him. I just have to whine and he will do hat I want. It’s his own mistake.
I just lost a best friend due to manipulative conversational tactics to get things she wanted; when I called it out, she multiplied it. It was awful. Like being chained and beaten.
Even he manipulate the audience at first when he says that he is not giving us all these tricks to manipulate others but it is for our own benefit to know if someone is manipulating us
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*_With great manipulating skills comes great responsibility_*
I think that only applies to super powers. ;)
Asanda Ndimande manipulating skills ARE super powers ;)
I love the way scarlett kennedy manipulate or persuade people! Truly impressive!
@@danielmarcos1465 interesting, who is she anyway? Sounds familiar...
You’re only thinking about their will, but we live in a world were free will doesn’t exist
He missed "guilt tripping" - that should be like #1. Parents do this a lot to their kids. "go ahead, skip out on the family reunion, make your mother looks stupid, or make everyone wonder where you are..." or " don't you love me? have mercy on me, can't you see I'm sick?"
Exactly that's the biggest thing missed in this video
Guilt tripping is considered a form of psychological coercion since you are forcing someone to do something by using psychological pressure.
It's fucked up
Bro 🗿
It is explained too fast. As a result, it is not easy to follow
*Everyone manipulates to some degree* (even inconsciously).
Prosperity Mindset un
Agreed
Unconsciously*******
@@xavierrenegadeangel2955 Subconsciously*****
@@gano9744 Dead****
Silence is a great one for haggling. I did some garage sale flipping a few years back- don’t argue against a lowball- just look at them for about 5 seconds- about half of people will make another offer to escape the tension.
This works almost perfectly if the person is purposely lowballin you. You’ll feel as if you’re onto them an may feel insulted. Thinkin your silence is you either bein courteous or holdin back your displeasure with their offer they’ll try to avoid losin you altogether by makin a more reasonable offer. Even if it’s still low at this point they’ll be more open to negotiation
i thrive off quietness i don't like getting involved with people more out of annoyance then fear or it being awkward so i would be there thinking about if someone every ate a deep fried fruit and should i be the first to do that
I did this unintentionally in high school by buying a used yearbook with the name engraving rubbed out. I just silently looked down and got $10 off
old sales adage: after an offer is on the table, the first person to talk loses the negotiation
I work in Retentions. We use similar tactics, though guilt works best.
*I don’t really like the term manipulation. I’d rather use persuasion* 🙏
For Wrong Purpose : Manipulation
For Right Purpose : Persuasion
Potato potahto
Thank u
agreed!
I ve spotted a Machiavelli
I use responsibility inovcation with my mother, and now I feel bad...
But in my defense, she all the time promises things and never does them, so when I really want her to do something, I say that she promised to do it to make her feel bad, but it almost never works because either *I* feel bad for making her do it, or she is just like "no, I'm not 'feeling well'"
You don’t know how much I relate to this
If you ask me, 'No, I'm not feeling well' is probably just an excuse to get out of it doing something she doesn't want to.
@@PS4Pat nah, she actually has a lot of health issues and always takes meds, but that still doesn't excuse the fact that she is tired all the time for me
@@Nickilob2006 which is my point.
You said that she all the time promises things and never does them.
But also like you said, she has health issues and takes meds, but that still doesn't excuse it.
So even though she has health issues, if she can actually do something for you but claims she doesn't feel well, at least some of those times, is probably just an excuse.
Im in the same situation always have been I hope we meet sometime
Summed Up :
Charm
try to be loving when I ask her to do it.
Coercion
yell at him until he does it.
Silent treatment
don't respond to her until she does it.
Reason
explain why I want him to do it.
Regression
whine until she does it.
Self-abasement
act submissive so that he will do it.
Responsibility invocation
get her to make a commitment to doing it.
Hardball
hit him so that he will do it.
Pleasure induction
show her how much fun it will be to do it.
Social comparison
tell him that everyone else is doing it.
Monetary reward
offer her money so that she will do it.
thanks!
😂😂 Excellent.
When I do all of these
Olivia Moore wow ur so manipulative and quirky
ItsAmil why are you assuming I’m proud of it? I have BPD so I do it without thinking about it & it’s scary. I didn’t even know these were considered manipulative until therapy tbh
there are really a lot of these videos, but why isn't anyone talking about the banned book The Manipulation Enigma that appeared recently
because its a fucking scam you bot
wow great book, thanks bro
"I'll kick your dog"
@@bintangsena2249 lmfao By Girlfriend just drank Belle Delphines water
And my dog is John Wick in a BDSM Dog Collar
Well shit someone actually used that threat on me once after I laughed at having a knife put to my throat (I have a mental disorder that basically results in my sense of fear towards physical threats being greatly reduced. Still can't work up the balls to ask girls out tho)... it was clear I wouldn't be able to stop them and I gave them all £7.20 I had on me at the time.
Long story short people give about 100x more shits about their dog's pinky toe than their own lives. Unless they're a fucking psycho.
John wick wants to know your location
Dio Brando?
Bintang Sena ZAWAURDO
Yes, I'm definitely watching this video to notice when people manipulate me, and not at all to learn manipulation.
you just like me fr..
I'm surely not already manipulative and wants to expend my abilities in manipulation
I totally dont accidentally use manipulation tactics in my life already
I've been manipulated all my whole teenage life, i'm watching this video in my early 20s to recognize the pattern
Where's '' playing the victim ''?
That's not manipulating that's being a Karen
ikr smh
@@pratham080x4 it is manipulation. Guomt tripping and trying to get sympathy.
I learnt that way of manipulation- no, persuasion- from my parents
its regression
I believe everyone uses at least one of these tactics subconsciously, but that's not manipulation. The difference comes when you do it intentionally to control others.
Watching this video i realised i often use one of the tactics, which is using logical reasoning to convince someone to do something. It doesn't always result in me winning, and i'm not using it intentionally to manipulate anyone, i just do it because i'm a logical person by nature. I use logical reasoning for many things, even things that help others instead of myself.
I also realised that my ex girlfriend used a couple of these tactics, and i think some of them were intentional too, because i always had the feeling that she was manipulative... she always blamed stuff on me when things went wrong. Blaming me was her backup plan when other tactics didn't work.
Friend: help me Rob a bank
Me:hell no rather get shot then helping u
Friend: I'm kick your dog
Me: adding last bullet to gun , let's go
That's more likely a threat
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lol
jesus christ man go to school and learn how to write sentences what is this
@@ronkus5126 what the fuck man can you speak a word of Arabic for example. Judging that you're probably English you should be grateful that these foreign people are trying to speak english. You 100% got his point, what's the problem?
Seriously watching this not so I can manipulate others but so I will know when I am getting manipulate
When you realize that you have used multiple types of manipulation on yourself every day 😂
Dude this was the plot twist
Lol
😂😂
Yeah
😰😰😰
I’m not at all a manipulative person. I’m just very logical. I’m only watching this video to try and avoid using manipulation. But even I fit some of the ones on this list, 6 and 7 specifically, but I will only use that knowledge to improve on myself. I encourage all of you to do the same.
Logical my ass shut up you manipulate whether u want to or not its just that ur too dumb to see it cuz u look at things emotionally
Nice move ..
You are really a manipulative person .
Manipulation is not inheritly bad, that word just has a bad connotation.
Yes sir
FRR tho
I think it's important to understand that most forms of manipulations isn't necessarily unethical. A big part of managing people is getting them to do what you want and you have to determine what level of manipulation you deem ethical.
This is why I clicked on this video
Manipulation is ALWAYS unethical. Manipulation is goal driven "no matter the cost" kind of thinking, that is based on lies or fabricated stories. Persuasion however is done with good intent, and based on facts. Persuasion is good, manipulation is not. I have ZERO tolerance for manipulation.
That's why we need Religion!❤️
@@safwensnoussi9925 Religion is probably the greatest tool of mass manipulation that man has ever produced.
Bro when is manipulation ever ethical 🤔
Yeah, there's something to think about. After the video, I realized some moments that I was being manipulated and even learned my methods 🙈
Great illustrations!
Personal Summary:
1) Being charming
2) Somewhat threatening someone to get what you want
3) Silence treatment
4) Rational Reasoning
5) Whining about something (e.g. cry of a small child)
6) Being humble (e.g. "I'm so dumb")
7) Making other people feel responsible/guilty (e.g. "But you promised...")
8) Literally torturing people
9) Assuring the other one that it will be fun
10) Benchmarking (e.g. "Steve Jobs was doing this as well...")
11) Rewarding (e.g. "Would you commit a crime for $1 million dollar")
Imma leave a reply here for a bookmark
@@thecrookedone1377 me too
May thray
God he knows too much
Great
If someone says no when I want something I simply can’t be bothered to try harder.
But what if a manipulator sees this and just learns how to hide his "persuasion" tactics even better than before
Every 4 year old does these .. honestly most of these are harmless manipulation imo
The video talks about literalily about group of my friends who have ghosted me
they’re not. I use almost all of these in my everyday life. that’s how I always get what I want
@@Bratzmaniac29 what if, hypothetically and not incredibly accurately, you're the 4 year old in the family?
Thats what i am doing
*How about not manipulating people?*
I prefer "helping people to unconciously make better decisions".
Exactly..
Its the same.
A friend of mine also prefers to say that he is borrowing stuff for indefinite time. But most people would say he steals it.
The people he lends from dont know him conciously. So its hard for them to ask it back. But when they do, he give it back.
Ok GOD
Spoken like a true manipulator
You really gave an illogical and unreasonable thing as an example of reason and logical argument as a manipulation tactic
*Tactics don’t harm people - people harm people*
I don’t see why people get attached to wordings.
Sometimes we have to circumvent people’s egos and lack of knowledge so that we can present the message in a way they are comfortable with.
That logic can be applied to anything like guns don't kill people-people kill people
But I don't why the logic is used on bad situations mostly.
I've never heard anyone say medicine don't cure people it's the people who make it that does.
@@asandax6 @Asanda Ndimande I am with you on this one. Too many are sensitive. Especially in this day and age.
Hehehe. .. manipulative treats will control the world
"...we have to circumvent people's ego and lack of knowledge..." . Hmm, scary. I think you're manipulating yourself.
Tactics don't harm people - but it sure feels crushing when you overlooked them and blundered a piece / a mate.
The silent treatment works wonders because they don’t know what to expect and will fall to the pressure that’s really non existent
I just realized I’ve been using these all my life
Congrats
Ikr💀
Same
Same someone just told me i been manipulating i didnt know that word
Nice you’re a natural talent.
I took that test and it was surpisingly accurate. I'm glad I took it, for now I can see my strengths, and also what I need to work on.
Win-Lose is *NOT* the only solution. Best case will *ALWAYS* be a Win-Win.
Exactly..
Then you're a naive fuckwit
There's only one winner and one loser
@@ary.histira Really?
zero sum game
When the other is an egocentric jerk, you have to make this person lost, at minima for others.
(No doubt my twin will kill me a day... But, hey, at least, everybody see how he is really!)
(And that I have lot if trust issue and hate poeple don't mean how I see this jerk is biased)
This tactics will bring out the Narcissism in a lot of people
One of the narcissists i know used a lot of these tactics on me
Someone told me that I’m manipulative today, they’ve only known me for a week, I’ve never been told that before, so naturally I felt that it was a very strong choice of words.
coming from someone who has manipulative tactics and is persuasive there probably tryning get into your head and inflict self doubt...if they do this it makes it easier for them to have leverage on you and get what they want. EXAMPLE: *I tell somebody there manipulative knowing there not* *Im aware they arn't, so obviously there going to think about what I told them and question there own behavior* now if you guys get in an argument or they don't get what they want they can easily bring that up again bc they have already installed that impression in your head that your manipulative..Ive done this to a couple people and it works so its pretty easy to recognize when other people do it.
@@MeganMarieMasters hey I know I'm late but can you teach me how to be excellent manipulator? I followed video but I need more I need to perfect my manipulation.
0:44 you manipulated us before starting the Video with a warning ⚠️ this is a psychological trigger by curiosity you used as your asset as well ohh man you are a nice manipulator
I used to be manipulative and from my experience the reasoning tactic works best hands down, but it won’t hurt to throw some emotions in the mix haha.
Period
True. Emotions will just make it more effective
Cringe
I love how most of their videos are “how to to spot emotional manipulators” or “how to avoid emotional manipulation” and then they just post a literal fucking tutorial video on how to manipulate someone.
10) Social comparison... Nani???
So, my parents were manipulating me since I was a lil kid.
But I was so genius that I never got trapped in their manipulation and never tried to study or top in my class. Damn, I was so smart!!!!
They probably missed the chance of manipulating you by saying they'll kick your dog 😂
By the way, I love your humor
Sometimes we wish we don't know a lot of things 😉
Sounds like you might've manipulated yourself lol
I hope you comment is joking
The ending was genius!! Still watching the whole series though!!
I am a machevelic kind of personality and is kinda ingrained to me to know how to manipulate people. I didn't though realize it until a friend of mine told me that I tend to be manipulative. I felt bad, I learned for the shadow theory and I use that part of my character only for emergency encounters like : trying to avoid people I don't like or get people to want to get to know me. You know just for that first step
good man , thats the ethical way of using your gifts
people who say that they are the machiavelic kind did not even read the book
Well, I guess I'm in a way close to you but worse
@@N-Ice_ what does that mean you Hippopotamus 💀
@@btsarmy-km9uo it somewhy made You twice
Ive been manipulating my self to do stuff with some of these
Wow this really includes my manipulative choices. I always use charm, rational reasoning rewarding and benchmarking. Never remember using others.
I’m using this to help my writing
Good alibi
@@keepermovin5906 nice
Are you writing a book?
LMFAOOO ME TO
The test was real great thing I ever did, thanks at last 🙆
this is like looking at the ocean and saying i see blue - you're missing out so many details
anonkiddo How so?
Truee
I like to believe that in any human interaction you are either the manipulator or the one being manipulated
Yeah everything is black or white.
If there are ethical manipulations and unethical manipulations, why do you lump them both together?
If it is ethical and your video vilifies it under the blanket term "manipulation" are you not gaslighting healthy group motivation?
Joseph Avery I don't see much need to classify the types of manipulations into ethical and unethical. Because *ALL* of these manipulations can be used both ethically and unethically. Hence they aren't lumped together.
Some manipulations just SEEM more unethical than others.
For example, the "hardball" manipulation seem criminal if you're thinking just about something like a criminal causing physical harm to a person to manipulate them into doing something (unethical). *But* it's ethical, when a parent spanks their kid so that he/she won't steal others' things anymore! (It's for the her/his own good)
In short, the ethic of manipulation depends on the situation.
@@amritas2400 I like the way you think, but the channel says they're all bad and lists them so we can protect ourselves.
By said understanding, am I not supposed to protect myself from your reason?
You make perfect sense to me, but it is a manipulation, according to practical psychology.
@@aztlanmerlin Oh yes, you're right.
When I was younger a friend gave me the silent treatment. Our friendship ended because I didn’t give in.
Oh also I don’t rlly manipulate-I know I do I just can’t tell which one or what I rlly do. 😀
Lol, now I get the feeling that everything I do or say is in a way manipulation😂
Technically it's kinda is
It is, that's what language is for
Im a little confused on #7.
If someone makes a commitment to something and they don’t, how am I manipulating them? You said you would be there and you weren’t. I am upset with you.
That is a perfectly healthy reaction.
I can see that used against someone sexually, but that’s and obvious circumstance. That’s really more abuse than manipulation.
Situations can be abusive and have manipulation involved, manipulation is just getting what you want by psychologically pressing, confusing, tricking or getting submission
im here cause I need to write a manipulative character for a story and have no idea how lol. This helped me a lot!
been watching a few videos on the subject tonight. this one feels far more educational than most and far less deceiving. subsribed and added before you even recommended it :)
will need to watch again tho :D
Missed: get sympathy by telling some lie... ppl who have something common could more easily be convinced.
Using my own status / telling you are an expert eg: trust me i'm an engineer
Telling just a bunch of positive features = it means it has even more positive features than we would reasonably suspect. (teleshop effect)
Free lunch - If i get some i'll give some: Mutuality / reciprocity
Playing with others emotions: = charm
Always great to know their tricks and stand your ground.
the fact that i type ,,Ayanakoji'' in the search bar and this video show up, proves this all was part from the Aizen plan
Anytime I answer a question and somebody remains silent, I take it as a free “out” of the conversation and will wonder off into imagination land long before you get more answers out of me 😂
When I use my manipulation tactics I use past times that I help them. For an example when I want my sister to come with me to tennis and she doesn’t want to come I “persuade” her to come by bringing up past times where I helped her and she’ll “feel bad” and come with me
@@oooatreyosooo4348 lol, children
When 8 out of 11 is 1 person in yo life
I love how i do some of these i didnt even know in doing this-
I act dumb, I let them think their in control, but they have no clue who’s truly pulling the strings, they hurt me, but that will not be allowed again.
nigga thinks he is the mc
Nothing wrong with being a manipulative person. It's what you do with your abilities. You can do good with being a manipulator.
I could agree with that.
And jet you only have 100 subscribers 🤔
Yep
@@sena4929 I've got no clue what you're on about
The silent treatment is the only thing i can do-
Lol I manipulate a lot
Is it bad that I do almost anything except the “I’ll kick ur dog” and the flirty one
I'm so good at this
I'm decent at charms, depends on my mood though.
I'm strangely good at charms (Depends on my mood though)
I have an ex-best friend who manipulated me by raging at me until my friends and I complied with what he wanted. He also touched 3 of my female friends inappropriately and manipulated me into the thinking he stopped, when he didn’t, and actually started being more sneaky.
im gonna use this for completely the wrong reasons
if no one get's hurt go for it.
Asanda Ndimande well obviously people would be hurt
me as well
Asanda Ndimande they said for the “wrong” reasons...
@@jejron8967 I think they read it right 👉
As a person who likes manipulation and dark psychology, this will definitely improve my skills
I don't see how charm is a harmful tactic. If i'm trying to get my friend to play a sport with me and I tell them they'll be good and it and I genuinely mean it, what's the harm?
It can be used harmfully. Some of the tactics are not harmful per se.
You could use charm to attract somebody to you, for you to later on use them and leave. That is one example.
using this information to protect myself from these people but also use it to my advantage if i have to
U know what hurts??
The fact that I'm dumb and slow.
I'm compelled to forgive you
You should probably be way more vary of the manipulation tactics that don’t make you feel negative emotions. Guilt tripping, peer pressuring, time pressuring or playing the victim make you less likeable. Actually time pressure not as much in some cases if you do it right (I did not test it on people. I just imagine the scenario and see how I would react.) because you don’t wanna seem judgmental or bossy.
Can you point out some published research on the relationship between big five and patterns of manipulation?
Learning how to manipulate not to do it but prevent it by knowing what to counter with is by far the greatest dagger and shield one can have especially when manipulation became a thing for almost everyone, not just politicians
Him -"which one is your manipulation technique? "
Silent treatment-exists
Moms -is for me?😆
4:38 yes because in one of the laws it says your not allowed to block someone’s shade in a Beach
Thanks, this helped increase my skills
My sales are through the roof after watching this.
"I'm not giving you the skills to go out and be a supervillain" Me"Thanks Chump"
this video makes even asking for something like a manipulation tactic, it makes it look like you cannot live normally without manipulating someone
I'm just so shocked to find that i do half of these on a daily basis
I can only manipulate people into calming down, thanks mum.
today i learned that i was a manipulator
Came here to finally be able to write a character for my story. Thanks 🤣
He has manipulated us into watching this video...
The video that you put OUT...was very tactical. For example, asking someone to have fun, or letting them know it will be fun....and you categorizing it as manipulation seems to be like your theory is Laim, what kind of fun asking is acceptable in your world?
and YES your being MANIPULATED.
Ps: manipulation can be ethic, as marketing, persuasion, context use
Thanks to making sure nobody will tell me no gain
Watching this so I can write lore and make it seem real
After watching I might go thinking every one is manipulating me.
I use the logic manipulation tactic. Not necessarily in a negative or bad way, I don’t like to manipulate but I can change the reason to someone’s ideas by using logic. A common example of this would be where I pursued/convince someone to take a little bit more work than me by convincing them that it is logical to make the work load more ‘even’, and if I do it right instead of doing 50% of the work I do about 30%-40% of the work and be lazy. I would never make someone do something completely for me because I like doing things myself, I have a very specific way of doing things and they might mess up in the long run which can make me look bad, or make things worse. Also their are very specific conditions that half to be met in order for me to feel alright using this form of manipulation, if it will hurt someone I won’t use it and if the person is obviously tired/stressed I won’t use it. Regrettably I myself am very easily manipulated because I easily feel bad about doing things. If all else fails you can always beg your way out of going places and make the person feel bad for you by giving a genuine or well thought out excuse.
I don't really need any of these. Everyone just trusts me so much.
It's one of my many privileges: being a TRUSTWORTHY and HONEST person. It's really easy. Just don't get caught lying, pin it on the black sheep of the family and live your life having everyone's trust.
"Me realising I do 10 out of 11 of these and most of them work:My genius, it scares me."
That helped me a lot thank... Now i understand
0:38 - 0:53 You might have started the video with manipulation...instead of telling viewers to go and manipulate others using the tactics you told that the aim is for the viewers to spot those manipulations when they are applied to them. By doing so you feel good about putting out the video and your viewers also watch the video with an innocent mindset...Don't take this seriously. It is just about the odds.
Nr 3 is so true…i have done that and it helped
Isn't Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) more typically associated with neuroticism than conscientiousness in the five factor model?
OCD's use (exaggerated) orderliness to calm, soothe and keep their inner orderly, to manage and make a prop for their instable souls.
So, Ashley Graves used Pleasure Induction?
I am unfortunately the silent treatment user, mostly because when I'm mad I know whatever will come out of my mouth will be worse. I only do it when someone upsets me and I'll drag it on for at least a half hour, I'm not one to drag it on for three days.
Nonetheless it's still bad, any tips on how to stop?
I do that too, don't stop because if you stop, when you get mad, you'll say things you regret, I did it to my friends a few days ago on text, we were arguing and she used the self basement on me, so I have her the silent treatment for 3 days straight, if you start speaking when you're mad, all that's gonna come out is rude comments and that'll lose you a lot of friends
I do this, but you stop once you get what you want. An apology, sorry whatever it is and make a resolution going forward.
Same. I usually use this, reasoning and playing the victim.
I generally use these on family and friends.
With my mother, I use reasoning. She is more likely to give in. I write a lot of reasons why she should do whatever. I will compare certain thing to certain thing and then I will somehow figure out how to make it seems that what I want is better outcome compared to the other option.
For my close friends, I use silent treatment. I know them quite well and so I know which is the best course of action. Most of my close friends are extremely sensitive and will give in almost immediately.
Lastly, I use playing the victim on disposable people. So, teachers or associates. They mean nothing to me and if they figure out what I’m doing, it’s not that big of a problem. As long as I keep up my ‘act’, not many people will believe them.
I just realised how bad this is. How do I stop?
And on my father, he abandoned me when I was a baby so he has a lot of guilt in him. I just have to whine and he will do hat I want.
It’s his own mistake.
Mr. Darius
Well...he brought it onto himself
I’ve mostly stopped with other people buttttttt
My guilty conscience is dangerously low soooo yeah
I can't believe I'm doing some of this almost all the time...
I always gets manipulated through reasons.
The only person who has manipulated me was my dad but because of it now I can defend myself from those who try to manipulate me which is kinda nice
@@moka_dotz3149 yes you get used to it after some time.
I also has gotten better at cross questioning since last 11 months when I commented.
Even more sad when it’s your own friends and family members using it on you😪💯
Very useful for school
For school?
Thanks, I just learned how to manipulate people in 11 ways.
I just lost a best friend due to manipulative conversational tactics to get things she wanted; when I called it out, she multiplied it. It was awful. Like being chained and beaten.
Even he manipulate the audience at first when he says that he is not giving us all these tricks to manipulate others but it is for our own benefit to know if someone is manipulating us
As an extremely talented manipulator, and I can vouch for this video as I have been using these for years
Teach me
@@elisabethsun7059 Intergrate your shadow.
@@limitlessfelh1109 get real you don't know shit