The TRUTH About TRADWIVES.
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- Опубліковано 2 кві 2024
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Today, we are talking all about TRADWIVES. What is a tradwife? Why are people talking about them? How are they considered political, and should they make stay-at-home moms feel bad about themselves? I'm sharing my commonsense cultural takes, so leave a comment down below.
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You can be a tradwife, but that doesn’t mean you’re better than women that are not tradwives.
Quite literally means exactly that. Use your head.
@@chickenman5477it doesn’t and we don’t need chicken man to try to tell us it does. 😂
Historically speaking, women have always worked. Of course, it wasn't to advance a career many times but to serve their families. I think this concept of just sit home & bake bread & garden all day is more a modern concept than traditional. Also, you don't get into heaven faster because you're a tradwife.
Baking bread and gardening is serving our family. It’s literally growing and preparing food. It is work.
True! Most women worked to feed their children or keep family businesses afloat. The SAHM didn't happen until the 50s. Then we became very corporate as a society. I don't know any girl bosses. Everyone's working to survive.
@@Hillcountry_Catholic You don't get paid for it though. In a meritocratic society that doesn't count as work.
I found you from that New Yorker article. I’m a feminist and a SAHM and this made me feel SO seen. Thank you so much. I feel like a partner with my husband but also have thrived as a mom and wife. It’s confusing!
As a feminist, I support women and what they want to do with themselves
Unfortunately your view is one that is being demonized within the feminist movement. Supporting women's choices even if it's a more traditional role or wanting to be a SAHM is being referred to as "choice feminism" which is apparently considered a negative. Very frustrating
@@user-vd2jk7dl3pI agree, this is very frustrating. I honestly don't see the big deal about this. A woman can choose the life she wants to live. Quite frankly, it's non of my business what another woman chooses to do with her life
Feminism is about women having choice . Go ahead with your choice ! Feminism wants women to just choose their own lives
As a feminist I don’t hate Trad wives and I don’t think there is anything wrong with being one.
It's just a fraud. Women pretending to live like in the american 50's raising money with social media and causally just white women. In real life trad wife concept depends on cultural and time context.
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The only issue with influencer ‘tradwives’ is that they’re selling an image that they’re not living it. They’re selling a lifestyle that they aren’t actually living, and then criticising others for not doing it that way. It’s hypocritical.
Hi Abby! I have a slightly different take on this! I LOVE when women are taking care of kids and the home. However, I think there are a few problems with it. Relying on one person for finances is a bad idea. Men can leave you. Men can die. Men can start abusing you. You never know. In addition, I think whether you would enjoy being a housewife depends on how much you lime your job. If your job is very interesting and stimulating, being at home might cause you to feel unfulfilled. Finally, in this economy, not sure how many families are in a situation where one income will be enough. Thanks for the video!
🍓thank you for this. The whole trad wife trend is mildly annoying because so much of it looks like cosplay to me, but I am a “classic mother” and like you I enjoy exploring the world with my kiddos. I also cook and clean but my world doesn’t revolve around that.
I agree with everything. But if a woman is married to a well off man, i don’t see any problem with her being a trad wife before kids if she wants to be!
This video really struck a cord with me when you got to the part about what mothers sacrifice for their children, often including their dreams. I grew up with a SAHM for most of my childhood (my dad worked abroad to provide in a foreign country since we were immigrants) and I used to feel so embarrassed about it. She was the only SAHM out of my friends and I think that was why. Everyone around me demeaned her role, even my own dad / her husband sadly.
Now I am so appreciative of my mom now as an adult. I know she gave up so much of her own dreams and wants to stay at home and raise me, I'll always be grateful for her and I have so many memories of her as my mother at a young age that are priceless and will stay with me forever. She gave her life for me and my future and she is truly my superhero. (And I love Strawberries haha!) 🍓
I agree with most of what you said. From firsthand experience, I definitely disagree with the “you don’t matter any more after you have kids.” It is so important to take care of your own physical, spiritual, and emotional needs so that you can fully invest into your children’s lives. Also, I believe that being a stay-at-home wife can be a beautiful thing, and isn’t “less than” motherhood - especially for those who long for children, but are unable to have any. Staying at home doesn’t equal laziness. You can still be occupied with worthwhile tasks, service projects, volunteering, etc. as a stay-at-home wife. Thanks for your content! I’m a happy stay-at-home wife and mother, and I enjoy listening to your videos.🫐
Of course, taking care of yourself so you can be the best person you can be for your family is paramount! You can't pour from an empty cup. But as soon as your self-care becomes a selfish pursuit of self, I think people have lost the thread of what's really important 💕
Very true! I wholeheartedly agree. ❤
Thank you for the amazing work Abby!!!🍋💛
I love how you take your kids out and about every day! I always loved to go out with my mom. It beats staying at home all the time🍎
This video is soo true, Abby! Especially as a mom of two kids.
Happy to have your content promoting women having children. When I tell people I want to start having a family next year, I get so much push back from friends and family to wait longer or don’t have them. I’m 28, turning 29 this year and happily married with a home. It’s crazy how society wants people to be childless.
I'm sorry you're getting so much pushback. If you're ready to have kids, that's your choice. There's nothing wrong with that. I'm childfree by choice and I get the opposite response. I wish people learn to mind their own business and focus on their lives
One day I want to be a stay at home mom. Since I don't have kids I work but once I have kids I'm so excited to take them out to parks and even do mom hangouts and socialize with other moms. My mom did that with me and in fact she was an artist on the side but did it at home and was still able to be there for me. So if anything if moms still wanna work (even though being a mom is a job in itself) they should find a job they can do at home. (Obviously a job that doesn't take them away from their kids) Anyways I loved your video. I aspire to be a mom like you in the future. 🍓
I think this is a reasonable take. Just not the "you kinda don't matter anymore (after having kids)", I think there's still a very human place for individualistic expression, but becoming a parent (mom or dad) becomes the center picture.
I love staying home and raising my kids while my husband works BUT it doesn’t feel like a sacrifice because my husband takes good care of us. He doesn’t abuse us or lust over other women. I’m included in all of the finances. If I ever do work, it’s a fun little job.
I also recognize not alot of parents have the resources or money to have one parent to stay home.
I am not better than no other people. I am grateful for my role. 🖤
🍎 I'm happy you're back to making videos! I'm 36 weeks pregnant with my second, and I've enjoyed watching your motherhood content.
🍒 Love this, thank you for explaining everything so well!
So happy you’re posting again!
Abbyyyy your hair is so cute :) thank you for the video
I really like your point about how a wife should spend her time before motherhood. I've always wanted to have a kind of job that I could do even when I become a stay at home mom. Thank you for sharing Miss Abby!🍉
Abby I have been following you for a while and loooove your evolution, your tone has gotten less harsh and more articulate and thus allows even the disagreeers to get something out of your content and doesn't give them a valid reason to be vexated. This might be one of your best videos so far, I also thoroughly enjoy the videos about your experience and evolution as a mom as I myself am aspiring to start a family in next couple of years^^ Great that you have been able to combine the two genres on your channel! God bless your household x
🍓great way to put everything!
the note about semantic overload was really good. I admire how steadfast you have always been, even in light of all the vile ways the internet responds to conservative opinions and manipulates what they know about you as a public figure to claim your point is invalid.
I’m a mum of four- youngest 3 weeks old and i love being at home and can’t think of anything that I would want to do more. However I struggle daily feeling enough and that I am contributing enough to our family- even though I know that is crazy! I think it’s because the role of mother is so undervalued and dismissed by society.
who cares about your opinion. Go wash the toilet.
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Thanks for sharing Abby🍇
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Also, really interesting/good takes, Abby! As a 23-year-old, old-fashioned type gal that got pushed by hustle society into going to grad school and is so detrimentally burnt out, I haven't realized before just how disconnected I am from what allows me to thrive (before motherhood years), what it feels and looks like, and how different it is from what I'm doing now. Aside from men vs. women roles, I think hustle culture due to the economy is also adding onto all the topics you brought up. I wish to embrace my femininity/live a more calm lifestyle (even with work), but with hustle culture, I'm just in provider mindset mode, and I haven't asked myself if this kind of society has almost removed me from being a woman in this way. I would love to hear you talk more about the circus that is funneling young people into academia (of course, some are amazing researchers and meant for academia). I've found that while pushing so hard during high school, undergrad, and now grad school, I am so disconnected from what life is supposed to feel and look like, what my actual desires are, and what fulfills me. As inflation gets worse, I feel the need to push aside any last wish of living a more classic lifestyle and just dive into the deep end to keep money coming in, and (gratefully) I'm not even someone struggling in this economy (upper-middle-class). Whenever I see a video of a "trad-wife" outside in a dress, I feel a sense of jealousy and disillusionment. I want to be fulfilled internally as a woman on this planet as well, but have been so influenced into a certain lifestyle, I'm jealous of those not because they are living in such a way, but because somehow they accessed the ability. Anyway, I'm rambling, but curious to hear how you feel about young women being drained so much that actually living a traditional lifestyle almost seems like a fantasy laughing at us when it was once the norm.
It is pleasure listening to you. I totally agree with you !
I really like your explanation. I don't agree 100%, but quite a bit. I love how you distinguish the negative connotation of "trad" wife with classic wife. 🍉
Moms who get to stay home with their children are truly blessed!
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Agree 100% from start to finish - I am shocked by the nasty comments I get as a WFH mom for “idealizing” my life when 1. I don’t and 2. I’m just trying to help women see that the life IS possible and enjoyable/fulfilling ♥️
What do you think about trad WIVES vs. trad MOMS? Share your thoughts here!
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Whichever gets you the clout you desperately chase, Abby.
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Yay! I'm so happy you're back Abby, love your videos. I really enjoyed this video and it gave me alot of insight to what I have felt inside for years. I wouldn't call myself traditional by any means, especially a traditional Hispanic which is what my culture is, I am very self expressing with tattoos and piercings and how I dress. But in my heart I feel more traditional as far as motherhood and being a wife, I never fit into the feminist movement, though I want women to be able to choose what's right for them, I don't want children to be the sacrificial lamb for that cause. I homestead with my husband, we are building a self sustaining life and we are creating a world where our children can grow up with nature. I come from a girl boss, career path, college/university, climb the ladder world. My family did not want me to be "just another mom and wife" so they pushed me into the career world, I wanted to be a Veterinarian but half way through college I knew in my soul it wasn't for me. When I met my husband and moved from California to Indiana to be with him, to learn all there is to know about homesteading, connecting with nature and to live in that more traditional world...I knew I was home and I'm so excited to share this sanctuary we're creating with our children. Thank you so much for this video, it was so well done! 🥰
I'm so glad to see this take, which I feel is lacking but I really resonate with. I have a 10 month old and another baby on the way and my husband is the some earner in our family. I was doing my BA in theology (biblical studies) when we met, courted, got engaged, and married. I also worked on a freelance basis for a couple of ministries. We got married just before I entered my final year and then i got pregnant with our daughter during that year, so I went straight from student to full-time mother. It's been an adjustment but so rewarding. I'm illustrating a book I wrote for the publisher on the side and I plan to use my degree to go into teaching/chaplaincy once my children are grown (I'll be homeschooling until then). There are so many ways to be a "traditional wife and mother", and although I love the aesthetics of these tradwife influencers, I wish people would understand the diversity in the role 🍓
Good stuff Abby. Keep up the great work! 👍
Your channel got a mention in a magazine.
I'm in the part of my life where my children are headed for school and I'm reentering the workforce. After 5 years of being home I have a completely different approach. I literally threw out the reading list of books completely written by men, because I'm not a man. Women can grow and do amazing things in this world by simply being a women! ❤ So here is to what we learn as a Homemaker making us stronger leaders of our community. ❤
I am discowering some sort of information, which allows me to understand the nature of my Wife: I definitely agree with all information that I heard fron You in this video. Informative and only the information about the actual topic. Thanks for Your effort. I spend my time wisely, choosing to watch your beautiful channel. And yes, my favourite fruits: 🍎🍑 (both are very good)
This is such a great video! You've really highlighted all the things i love about the "movement" and pointed out the many flaws as well! 🍉
I wished I lived in a country where one income could support a family and this was a choice for folks!
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I love that you ask for particular emojis!
It's really fun for me! 😂
I don't know why...but I do really get a kick out of it!
I’m glad you’re back. I’ve missed you so much.
Tell us where you got your top/dress please
I do really like how many trad wives don’t agree on what makes them trad
What a beautiful and elegant top! Where can one find something like this? 🌺
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Can you do a video for basic passover cooking? I'm actually trying to keep kosher for passover this year and cook! I mean I have in previous years but I just ate raw veggies, matzah, cheese, and some kosher for passover soup.
I agree that it's beneficial to the family for the wife to work before having children. However. I had the first 2 years of our marriage, where I was not allowed to work legally because I was still earning my permanent residency in Canada. I definitely kept myself busy. Especially not having a dishwasher or laundry machines in my home, and deciding to cook all from scratch... I worked hard on my home 🤣 then when i was alowed to work, i was an elementary school teacher until my first baby was born (sadly she was stillborn) :( then with my next pregnancy I couldn't teach for health reasons. so that to say, I think everyone's situation is different and the key is using our time productively no matter where we are or what season of life we are in. And now having a child makes being a homemaker the most fulfilling job ever :) and I have my little side hustle being a doula now :) As for fruit, can't decide, so: 🍍🥭 tropical!
Yes! You’re back🎉 The drama is so entertaining 😂
🍉I’m currently a stay at home wife, but that probably won’t last much longer for the exact reasons you mentioned. This routine has worked for our marriage & family, and we really don’t care what anyone else thinks because this is between us. Unless someone’s stage in life is obviously harmful or sinful, I’m trying to not call it less valuable. We don’t know what people are going through, what their goals are, etc.
I love the thought of traditional wives and traditional mothers to tell you the truth. I wish I could be one. I wish I could be both actually, but I can be a mother because of a medical issue that I have no control over and as far as being a wife goes to get married because we’re both blind we have to help each other out and I know that’s a disgrace to the to the traditional wife because the traditional wife is supposed to serve the husband and I would love to do that, but there are certain things that I would need help with, and he said that he would help me Wicked
🥝 Loved this video! My thoughts on stay-at-home wives before motherhood: I totally agree that it's good to contribute financially to your family before having kids, but I do think there are benefits to being a stay-at-home wife for certain people. I am not naturally gifted in the domestic arts. I have had to work SUPER hard to become a good homemaker. I wish I could have had a year or even more before having kids to get better at homemaking so that it wasn't such a learning curve once I had my son. Hopefully, if I have daughters, they won't need so much time to learn in their home because I will have instilled some of these lost arts in them. But our current generation of women generally don't have the skills needed to be really amazing home makers right off the bat.
Thanks for touching on the nuances of the “trad wife” conversation. I identify with a lot of feminist beliefs, but I don’t necessarily agree with everything that people have said over the years in the name of feminism. I don’t have a husband or children yet, but I’m actively pursuing both. I intend on staying home with my future kids at least through the first few years of my future kids’ lives, as money allows.
I think the “Ballerina Farm” drama is way overblown.
I don’t have an issue with women wanting to stay home with their kids and not be in the workforce. I also acknowledge that feminists and others have put down stay-at-home moms, and I think doing so is wrong and I will call people out when I see it. So it’s not the simple fact of staying home to raise kids that bothers me and others; it’s that many “trad wives” and supporters promote this as being the only acceptable choice for women. What troubles me is the potential vulnerability this creates, especially if a woman sacrifices career development to focus solely on motherhood. This could leave her in a precarious situation in case of an abusive marriage or unforeseen circumstances regarding her husband. - And, again, there’s nothing wrong with choosing the stay-at-home mom life for yourself. It’s presenting it as the only legitimate choice that’s the problem.
You mentioned that a woman who’s a mother should only work if it’s necessary to help put food on the table (or maybe I’m misinterpreting). While I acknowledge that a woman's priorities should shift after becoming a mother, I don't believe this automatically means she must forfeit her career. Many women passionately pursue careers, and balancing motherhood with work does not equate to neglecting their roles as mothers.
You also said that a woman with children who works is “showing off how smart she is.” That kind of condescension rubs me the wrong way. I think the way you reduce a woman’s work or ambition to “showing off how smart she is” or “acting like a man” discredits the work women do. Stay-at-home mothers *are* important, but we should be able to build them up without tearing career women down. When you speak negatively like this, I’d like to assume that you’re only referring to women who neglect their children for their careers, but I’m unsure where that line is for you because you’ve never outright drawn it.
Anyway. Interesting and thought-provoking video. 🥝
As a Christian, we don’t find our fulfillment as women in things we do but in the fact that we are simply a child of God. So, when motherhood is difficult or lacks a sense of fulfillment, we don’t search or something different. We simply do it, as unto the lord. This keeps the focus off “self”. Because when the focus is on self fulfillment and not on serving others that’s not good for anyone
Off topic, but I love the blouse! Where is it from?
It's from Amazon!
The thing though, is I know few people who are working to girl boss. Most women need to keep up with the cost of living and provide for their children's futures. Some women have careers they are passionate about, but most working moms I know wish they could be home. However, they have too much student loan debt, medical debt, car debt, mortgage, etc. Also, moms do still matter outside of their role as mom. Some women are happy staying at home. Others would be depressed staying at home. Different people have different needs. Also, who helps these mothers during retirement? I have seen so many SAHMs struggle in their golden years because they stayed home during their working years, and their husband's income was not enough for them.
🍒 - I hate the term. People would call me one, but I have no desire to be labeled as anything. I have thought through how I want to live, and what I believe is best for my family and kids. This is based on watching others and the science of human nature. And I choose to live that way. And my life doesn't entirely revolve around 'traditional' roles. I have set up my life to do things I want to do also, that are outside the traditional role. Maybe I've just seen some bad examples of women who call themselves 'trad' wives, but I can't stand the term. I also am educated, and I have future career goals for another time in my life. :)
I’m a very liberal stay at home mother and I’ve definitely heard the classic “what about when your husband leaves you? What about if he starts abusing you?” And I hate that response because I know I picked the right man. He goes to work every day to support us while I can stay home with our son.
Since I was a little girl (I’m 27 now) I wanted to be a stay at home mom just like my mother was. I was told in school that having that goal isn’t a good idea and I had to pick a “real job”
I enjoy living a classic life as a liberal woman. I do hate the trad wife movement because it puts a lot of pressure on the woman. My husband enjoys helping with chores and taking care of our son. I don’t need to do absolutely everything to be a good wife and mother
I also hate the whole “what if he leaves you” thing. However, isn’t there something to be said about “what if something happens to him?” He could be the best man in the world and still end up in a fatal car crash or getting cancer, god forbid. You don’t want to end up in a terrible situation if something like that were to happen.
@@jennconrad6068 I have my family and his family to help me! I trust God and trust He will keep me safe and comfortable.
I really don't care for Harley shirts but I would 100% wear that dress
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Side note but Abby you look great!! Momma of 2 suits you 🤗
My wife is a stay at home mom and i remember her asking me "what's a trad wife?" and how hard i laughed when she said how cringe of a term that is 😂
The hyper capitalist structure that you and your ilk promote doesn't give many women the opportunity to be 'trad wives', house wives, stay at home moms or whatever. If you really cared about this issue and wanted to promote more active parenthood, you'd be promoting increased social services that would materially benefit the American family and allow them to live their live as they so choose.
This is what tradwives do. They say things like "women are meant to be mothers" "a mother is more valuable then a stay at home wife" "you dont exist outside of your child" "a woman is nurturing and feminine and loves having babies". Then tradwives act like, if you as a woman do not want to wholly give yourself, your dreams, and your time up to care for a child, then something is wrong with you.
Is it so mind-blowing that all women do not want this? No. But people like Abby cannot live without pushing their way of life as essential facts.
(also this is not about stay at home moms. A regular stay at home mom does not try to fit every woman into a box and shame them for having different ways of life. Stay at home moms work very hard and have an important job. As long as it was her choice than I am super happy for her.💗)
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Interesting I thought tradwife was the same as stay at home mom.
Great video, and I agree with you. :) Traditional mom is the way. But it doesn't mean they can't have their own business, work from home, etc. Favorite fruit:🍈🍈 . :) Fav drink: 🍼🍼 Cheers. =)
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🍓 Respectfully and personally. I'd rather be not in this world than not to be able to work or be a working mother. I think people should just ignore the political left + political right viewpoints in terms of how to go about motherhood because firstly not everyone wants to be a mother and second if a woman does want to become a mother. Almost every mother has a different way of approaching motherhood. So listening to outside noise isn't always helpful, but you can take things (such as advice) with a grain of salt. This is more of a centerest ideal. For me I had sex with my boyfriend and we lived together for 5 years before we eventually got eloped. We were engaged for 4 years and so far have lived a very happy marriage. Very soon we will be celebrating our 6 years together. From the start of my relationship my husband told me that he wanted a working woman because in his previous relationship she wanted to be stay-at-home. That didn't work for him nor does that work for me. In the political world I often see men get ignored when they decide for themselves that they don't want to be married to a trad wife or a stay at home. Some men genuinely want to be hands on dads as well. It also certainly doesn't mean that when a woman works then it becomes a masculine trait. I strongly believe that it's a gender-neutral trait because in our working world we have so many different opportunities in terms of job fields and we all have the freedom of choice in what works for our families plus what works for our own personal fulfillment as well. There is a balance. 🍌
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I just saw the ABC article which mentioned you and when you said “I think for a lot of women, work is not necessary. It’s a preference. Life is too short not to do the things that are going to bring you joy”.
Not necessary for a lot of women to work? Talk about being out of touch with reality. Must be nice to have your kind of life. It doesn’t surprise me that you’re a right-wing conservative.
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Here is what I would genuinely like to understand: does this viewpoint mean that any woman who is a doctor, engineer, astronaut, lawyer - who has a successful career and is a mother is wrong in her life choices and made a mistake? Should we not have any working women especially in fields that are impossible to be successful in unless you prioritize education and work in your younger years? If you ever see a female doctor who chose career over motherhood or being a full time stay at home mom, are you supporting something that you’re against? I’m genuinely trying to understand the pov.
And please don’t bring up the evil feminist who hate all homemakers and trad wives. Yea they exist but are a fringe movement that does not have majority support from other feminists. I do agree with the fact that women should be supported and respected for whatever choices they make regarding their life, without judgement.
You don't call yourself a trad wife because you're not lol. You're out here hustling online.
You haven't watched the video, didn't you ? She said, that she is currently working 5 hours a week! This is not what i would consider as "hustling".
@@thesimplediaryvlog Are you slow? This broad has been at it for 5 years. Spent an obscene amount on UA-cam ads to try and make this UA-cam crap happen. She's a hustler. Idgaf how much time she claims to work.
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Ahhh fan girling that you replied lol thats cool!
Keep in mind-Abby’s mom choose self fulfillment over raising her kids. Abby’s mom was a “girl boss.” She choose career over staying at home. Abby’s mom wanted to climb the career ladder and didn’t raise Abby or Ben. This is where Abby’s bitterness stems from. Her dad raised her and clearly did a poor job of it. Abby says her own mother is a selfish person and chased her own selfish pursuits career wise over children.
I’d be legitimately curious to hear Abby address how she feels about her mom’s career choices.
@@AnnSmajstrlawhat’s interesting is she slams every other woman who does exactly what her mom did, but glosses over the fact that her mom is everything Abby hates in a woman.
@@maddiesenator5491literally nowhere did I say it was a gotcha or a big secret. If it was a big secret, nobody would know. Abby takes a huge shit on any woman that chooses differently to her (if they work they don’t prioritize their kids, but says her mom was the best ever even though she was selfish, chased her own fulfillment and put career above kids etc)
@@annamolly2549 I disagree with Classically Abby on many things. She says that being a homemaker is the best choice for the child, which is mostly true depending on what kind of person the mother is. However, many women who have children have to work and I feel like many traditional or "classic people" can't wrap their heads around that. However, in her defense, Abby has said that if a woman needs to provide for her family she should.
@@annamolly2549and here you are taking a shit on yet another of her videos. Are you subscribed for that sole reason?
SAHM here. Used to be a working single mom. I'll take being a SAHM ANY DAY. Lol. Women and men were created for differing roles that COMPLEMENT one another. Women competing with men is such a waste of time. We weren't created for the same purposes. 😊 oh. And I have a graduate level education. I don't stay home because I can't earn. 😅 oh and the fad of the sourdough making in dresses lol. To each their own but I make crockpot meals and spend time homeschooling my kids and hiking etc. And yes...its idealized on social media. Being a SAHM is difficult. Harder than military service. Harder than a full-time job. Lol. Been there done that too. This isn't the 1950s. Luckily lol. Just because I live to serve my family does not mean I'm oppressed. That narrative is annoying.
There's definitely wisdom to traditional values. I agree with you there. Embracing my role as a wife and mom makes me so happy. ☺️
"TRAD wife" is comical.
"TRAD mom" should be SAHM.
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I agree that you should prioritize your children. Wholeheartedly agree. But here’s where I disagree on your presentation of it -
Sometimes you have to prioritize yourself IN ORDER TO prioritize your children. If your mental health is suffering, you won’t be able to be the best mom you can be for your kids. Take care of yourself so that you can take care of them. Sometimes this comes about in the form of self care and fulfillment, and under this scenario it is actually not selfish.
Maybe your brother can pay a bit too for women no?
Since he also want people to die working
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I think this video does a nice job of describing the difference between traditional values and traditional aesthetic... But to be hobest, I think we take social media way too seriously. It's maybe led to us missing the forest for the trees...
The tradwives are nothing more than pinup/fetish models... They're would be suicide girls models that found an untapped market of guys who donct know what traditional values are, but swear up and down they went them... Conjuring up in their imagination women from the 1950s and mistakenly believing that traditional means subserviant.
Not saying Abby is a tradwive. I think she correctly points out the difference. But the tradwife craze is all a social media hustle.
I apologize for the spelling errors... My autocorrect works when it wants to.