Don't give your boyfriend Husband Privileges/Don't give your girlfriend wife Privileges
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Don't give your boyfriend Husband privileges and don't give your girlfriend wife privileges. If you want your boyfriend to marry you or you want your girlfriend to marry you make sure you don't treat your boyfriend like a husband. And also, make sure you don't treat your girlfriend like a wife.
My dad also told me this! I'm waiting till marriage, no kissing etc. At the end it's a protection for me.
thank you for this Tracy so true I spent 16 years living with excuses as to why, because I thought that way.
Hi Tracy and Heath, I just saw a pro and cons of living in North Carolina vlog. I'm currently a born and raised Raleigh native, looking for a place to move with four children. I'm currently in a relationship, a baby daddy situation, no ring in the horizon for me. I've been in this relationship for 9 years and I'm 27 and he's 39 smh. I woke up a few months ago wondering where in the hell my 20s went in the mist of a bunch of crying babies, they really woke me up lol. I'm so glad I found you two. It's like I had a dream with my deceased mother and trying to find cheaper places to live with my beautiful babies on my own and I woke up and came across your vlog. Smh I feel like I want and need to be alone. Not single just alone. I have been in this half crazy, mentally and emotionally abusive relationship so long and I loved you drilling that in my head. So I'm about to end this charade and leave with my babies! I'm getting GHOST honey I'm out! Thank you so much for that Tracy and Heath and you are stuck with me💖💖💖
Essence Bostic did you leave?🧐
I hope you’re doing okay
I really appreciate this video
We’re glad you found some value Shakitha. You may like our podcast as well, “Joyfully Married After” on your favorite audio platform. Thanks for watching!
Thank you! I got it Tracy.. that’s great information. 🙌🏽
Glad you found value Courtney! Thanks for watching!
@@HeathandTracyTV thank you so much! I love your channel!
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Great point about discovering the PURPOSE of the relationship.
There is a purpose to everything you do. Why not your relationships. Thanks for watching!
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Love you guys!! such good advice from Tracy! i have a wonderful man who treats me well and loves me to the core (got very lucky with him)! but because of my childhood issues i am always scared to tell him how i feel sometimes or be vulnerable. we both love each other and want to be together, he always says what he feels and what comes to his mind immediately and is ok with sharing with me, even if its something about the relationship or about his wants and needs and problems, sometimes what he shares hurts me a lot (he has no idea!) because he doesn't think and say things, he just blabs sometimes (he can be a bit immature sometimes, doesn't think through stuff all the time) but if i say it hurts me he would understand and wouldn't do it again. i think i need to work on talking about my feelings, i get scared if i tell how i feel he might leave or feel inconvenienced or think less of me, but deep down i know he wont and that he loves me dearly . i just have to DROP that fear!! that fear cripples me sometimes! rarely when i have said that certain things hurt me before in the past, he's super understanding and wouldn't hurt me again (or anyone really), just a bit immature and can be very direct and honest about how he feels (but i guess that can also be a good thing). how can i drop this fear and tell him how i feel ?!
We love you back!💕 Try this. Make time to tell him how you feel when both of you are doing something else not during the moment. Maybe running and errand or cooking. Start the discussion with a question. “Do you know it hurts me when you…..?” It’s a passive way to push through the fear of confrontation. Good luck and stay positive and thanks for watching!
Awesome points given in this video. How long is to long when a man hasn't proposed yet? 😯
When YOU feel it’s past time. When Men know what they want, they go get it without hesitation. If he is hesitant...he doesn’t want it. Remember you only need one. Don’t waste time wondering.. Thanks for watching!
Hi Tracy and Heath, I have been in this relationship for 7 years and she jokes and plays around with everyone but me. The sex has stopped, but she still wants me to pay the bills as agreed. She tells me I never say anything right or barely do anything right. I told her that I did not want to live with her because I can hold my own financially and she said that we can't be together so I said ok. But I got to be honest I am nothing getting anything from her, I don't want to marry this woman especially since I will never measure up. I am just a beta male provider. She says that she likes and loves sex but we don't have it. we are both 41 and too grow for bs. Then she never wants to go to church with me, but one day I went to go express myself to her then she hits me with what does the bible say. She never read the bible with me or any other dude and I have begged her to read and go to church with me.
Apologies for the delayed response. This is a toxic relationship and our opinion is that you need to move on. Please start a new journey of live for yourself. It’s time to move to a SELFISH place and restore you confidence and mindset in who you are and how you should be loved. You should go on a journey of self exploration with the money you ave not paying the bills that she can. Do toro do things in Love toward her, but only focus on yourself. Try it for a day. Treat yourself to some new clothes or your favorite food-ALONE with no input from anyone else. If that feels good, do it again the next day. Continue this until you get to a place where you can SEE how much she values you( or doesn’t). THEN make a decision about the relationship. Remove ALL fear of loss or rejection from her and anything she says. Fear is not from God!!!! When fear creeps in RUN from it and say “NO FEAR HERE!” Prayers up and keep us posted at info@heathandtracy.com And go to heathandtracy.com for more advice.
That guy that kept proposing after 10 years took an L. He obviously wasn’t her first choice. I’d have been left.
We feel you Race Traitor. More relationship talk on our podcast, Joyfully Married After. Thanks for watching!
Watched it to the bone.. changed my outlook.
Awesomeness. More content on our podcast too. “Joyfully Married After “ on your favorite audio platform. All the best and thanks for watching!
wow if only I saw this before
So moving in together before marriage is frowned upon?
No. We did it. But you should do it for the right reasons. Don’t do it to “see if it’s going to work”. Do it if you have no other housing options or during the engagement to save money etc. Don’t do it as a trial run or next step in your relationship. That’s what we are saying. Thanks for watching!
Thank you for the message.
Thank you for watching!
I have to disagree about the sex working out later - tried for 4.5 years to get the bedroom chemistry to align (it was the only thing not working), we just didn't jive. We went back to being buddies though.
When the sex is off so is the spiritual aspect. Some people just don't jive. You dont' have to complete intercourse to "feel" each other out. I know if I am feeling you or not. So is it best to have sex with someone that you can't stand? Not judging.. just curious. Personally, my mind and my body connect. Thanks for watching!
But Tracy, sex IS a husband privilege. The problem is that too many don't see sex as something preserved ONLY for marriage.
I think people are full of themselves
Agreed! Selfishness is the root of most relationship issues. Thanks for watching!
I love it
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I really need your advice,I have boyfriend moe for 8 months But i sleept with him 2 times But i wanna be a Wife en not giving myself free eneymore But can i close me legs en open myn mind or is het to late 😌?
Have you had that discussion? It’s not about the s..x it’s about what is the purpose of you dating and being exclusive. Are you exclusive? So many questions.
@@HeathandTracyTV yes we are,We are good match end i know he is the Wright man for me How will i tell him or ask him when we are going to Engagement?
Sounds like you need to discuss your future together and seek pre engagement counseling. That sounds like the best next step.
Boy she yelled at you “I’m not finished” and you took that?
Aaron, if you come for your woman at every opportunity, you want be married very long man. #discernment. Thanks for watching.
Either you're married or you're single. If you're not dating with a purpose, and giving out benefits... sex, cooking, men paying your monthly rent, cleaning etc ...is giving someone hubby & wife treatment. If you're godly dating, y'all are courting & getting to know each other mentally and spiritually than sex shouldn't be no where in site. I think since y'all did it the other way around, y'all shouldn't be giving out advice on this issue. Gods way or the highway. No I'm not perfect but teach ppl the right way. If you're doing any of what I mentioned up above you're doing it wrong
Cour Frank we disagree totally. There is a better way to your union than living together. Dating with purpose is great and should be the goal. But We are all free from condemnation. When you condemn others you are not walking in love and forgiveness of Christ. We also feel if you are co-habituating without purpose you need to re think things. We are a perfect example of our Father’s love. We have been extremely blessed with 4 beautiful children, complete support from others and twenty eight years of marriage. Leave the un forgiveness and condemnation out and act like Christ is no longer on the cross. Much love and understanding that your walk is different from ours as we seek the holy spirt to engulf our lives daily. Thanks for watching!
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