Note: Salam all! AN IMPORTANT REMINDER! I implied in the video a few times that this applies to a "good man". This advice would not apply to any woman with an abusive husband ever. My advice is for woman who value their husband, their husbands value them, the marriage mutually began with the intention to align with the divine nature of a marriage (mercy, love and peace aka rahma, muwada and sakeena). In those marriages, things start off well and then we don't realize we damage the strength of the marriage through the things we say/do (or don't say/do). This is a reminder of how some simple interventions can change the marriage. Most of us are not entering into unions with people who don't appreciate you trying to steal their heart. This is for women who want to increase the blessings in their marriage, who want to take accountability and do what they can because you can only control your actions. May Allah make it easy for you all!
I agree with taking care of your misery . But how do you do that when your husband is having an affair for a good three years . Making you said and depressed and losing your confidence as a wife ? How do you heal?
@@Allahaloneknows read comment about abuse. This advice doesn’t apply to women in those situations, I don’t care about a woman “stealing her man’s heart” if he’s actually truly cheating. Like that’s easily grounds for divorce, this video should be the least of anyone’s concern. Bless you baby girl, sit with a therapist, counselor, coach who can hold your hand as you figure this out because I don’t know how any person survives infidelity that isn’t stopping
@@alasryh thank you so so much. I will definitely see a therapist. I have begged for a divorce but he isn’t giving me one. I want Khula but family isn’t supporting due to societal stigma . It’s so depressing . I sometimes ask Allah if this is his Qadr? 💔🥺🥺😭but Yes , I’ll go for therapy . I am not myself at all.
For the brothers who have a stay at home wife wanting to understand how to win back love of their wife: HELP HER! She is overwhelmed with chores and duties to the point she forgot who she is, let alone having energy for you. You go to work, you go to the masjid, you go to appointments, you interact with others. Your life goes on and on. Meanwhile she feels stuck in a world that never seems to end. Surrounded with noise from kids and demands 24/7. Help her! She needs to take care of her own soul first so that she can be good to you. Let her have friends and hobbies and let her go to places and lrt her study so that she feels alive!! Men be talking about their needs while not realising their wife already had an identity crisis 10 years ago..
Let her?) Well, I think a husband either respects the wife's life goals or stays away. A woman does not need permission to do smth she has a right for.. Same vice versa. I consider being free as a mutual respect in the family.
To summarize: 1. Follow religion. 2. Look your best. 3. Make sure your mental health is in good shape . 4. Ask him what you can do for him . 5. Don’t overshare. 6. Be great full . 7. Tell him you are proud of him . 8. Get intimate. Too much work? Yes. But for the lucky one who find a real good man it’s worth it. HEADS UP! Those are rare.
He is 100 percent right. If you act like a rude teenager to your husband, you are being a disrespectful brat. It’s hard to see in it yourself, but when you see it in someone else, it is so clear. Also, if you see genuine respect between a couple, you see the beauty of it and want it out of good jealousy.
I am a muslim man who watched this video, and all I can say is that us men (good, honest men I should add), Wallahi all we want someone who takes care of themselves, the house, the kids...someone who gives us peace, my house is a going to be a place of peace. Arguments will happen here and there, of course, but all I want is peace of mind in my home..let me go out in this world and take care of all other aspects of our life, you just take care of me, the kids, and I got us, I will take care of you and love you like you deserve to be loved. it is simple, but does nit meant it is easy
Salaams brother. This is very understanding. Just remember that a man is the one who sets the tone in the house. Toget peace, you need to be peace. A woman wont nag if she says something once and you listen. When she starts nagging means, she has told you the exact same thing 1000 times and you didnt listen. So be her peace, she will give you haven. Amidst the tinny arguments that are natural when you live with anyone.
I‘d Like to add that not just your wife is supposed to Look After the Kids Both should do their Best of their ability for Everything and everyone in the household then it would be really Rare having arguments
I listened to 19 minutes of this and it broke me down... So much truths here... I just wish more Muslim ladies were taught this earlier in life... I hope I can teach these lessons to my own daughter. In Sha Allah.
After 25 years of cooking and cleaning for him raising 6 children working and providing taking care of his mother if that’s not stolen his heart then nothing else will
This was honestly so great. You’re the realest Muslimah on here and as a guy this was absolutely solid. Can you make a video on the women on how to steal their hearts?
That would be a really cool idea! Let me in sha Allah think on how to put such a video together with some solid tips for our good brothers! Thanks for the kind comment!
I'm gonna replies to you for me being pure honest direct elegant protective in a good way appreciative and saying sorry when you should say it +being a wise leader giving your woman her space to feel her femininity good words ...giving flowers ... to make sure she is safe mentally emotionally and financially+ being productive smart ambitious taking care for yourself ..... My Allah gives me the man with this traits Ameen
@@user-ef2or5sx7w let her in the comfortable mood trait her like princess dont ask her for your obligations like providing ...she has to trait you as king too ...by that we can achieve a healthy balanced relationship ... For me personally I have the intention to trait my future husb as a king but I can't if he is a passive human being who depend on me to fix things only men can fix it
I am a Muslim man working in Corporate America and I cannot agree more with everything you said on this video, especially for wives to take care of themselves and look great for their husbands. That is priceless. That is not to say the husbands shouldn’t and just become couch potatoes but there are very few things that make me happier than coming home to a beautiful, nice looking and caring wife. ❤❤❤. It makes me forget all my work-related stress and challenges and no matter where I go to work, I can’t wait to come home.
Being a woman.... I totally understand and agree with every step you emphasized upon.... But the household you live in can be toxic (saying that because our eastern culture mostly lives in joint families.... Where the in-laws are pretty interfering) so things become a challenge. They are literally competitors. This balance between the mother and the wife. The sisters and the wife. This becomes a juggling act. The husband and wife are mostly in love with each other but these toxic families make them STOP doing those things. Don't get dressed in front of the kids. Don't smile at him in front of his sisters. Why take her out and spend on her. Buying a gift for the husband means ... You spent HIS money on something he MIGHT not even like. I'm not sure what and how they should navigate their lives.
Well there are many glasses out there. It depends how u see it. if it's half full or half empty. Its mostly seen as half empty due to Today's media and programs with an agenda.
Mashallah profound advice. Glad I watched this before my marriage, Alhamdulillah. Could you please also make a video for the men on how to steal their woman's heart?
Walking around with wounds and bleeding on everyone - such powerful and impactful words and an important reminder. Great video sister, Ma Sha Allah May Allah swt reward your efforts for the ummah. Ameen
A lot of the time videos dealing with this topic can become haya-less or very awkward and uncomfortable, crossing islamic boundaries and noting women derogatorily. Masha’Allah sis, its refreshing to see this holistic and kind approach which still addresses everything in the bounds of Islam, in a kind manner. Jazakallahu khayran.
Hana, I am going to be 100% honest. I truly believe you are an asset to the Muslim ummah. You provide such a balance and fair approach with your advice. A lot of trauma coaches, Muslim marriage coaches, etc are full of rhetoric that is anti men or anti women and put us against each other. What I also appreciate about you is that you do not sugar coat on what us women and men to need to work on. A lot of these coaches enable our bad habits and this prevents us from progressing. Mashallah you are amazing and I’m grateful to have been watching you since a couple hundred subscribers. It’s no surprise why me and my family love watching your content 😊❤
Wallahi I couldn’t have said this more! She’s in my Dua so much Allahumma barik laha! ❤❤❤ May Allah bless your family Ameen! I’ve gotten my sisters and best friend to watch her. I forced it at first and now they do it of their own accord! Alhamdullilah!!
Great advice! I think a big, sticky spot for marriages is when there is a downward spiral of misunderstandings and lack of communication. When women arent supported with kids and home to have the time and mind to care for themselves, health even let alone beauty and so they neglect their husbands. Meanwhile men spending too much time providing and their careers too much that they dont support the wife...neither thinks how they can balance things for each other until they both deift apart and just look for some easy way out to satisfy themselves. They think that they other one has it easier staying at home, or out working not dealing with tantrums or disobedience of kids and resentment builds in both. May Allah make it easy for us to communicate, forgive and keep things in balance!
Even worst I'm stuck with either moving to another country where education is expensive n I have to homeschool and my youngest one is so well in his place in my home country which is a tropical island..so much nature and play outside..blessed climate..Alhamdoulillah..but for us to be together as a family me n z kids have to move to another country..we moved last year zn returned for school for z final trimester...now I don't want to go back because I have noticed the change in my kids as soon as we got back in our home country..they are happier and readier to continue with their studies
Insha Allah balance will resolve everything.. but if only people realise the importance of balance and satisfaction and acceptance of what Allah has decreed for us
Assalamu Alaikum sister, thank you for all this honest advice. Everything you said resonates so well. Can you please make a video about women who didn't have their dads around growing up and are just simply not used to having the role of a man fulfilled, don't know how to appreciate the role of a man .
😂😂😂 you were so funny in this video. I love this straightforward side of you😂😂😂 I’m glad you mentioned intimacy part and how it’s needed for husband and to be thankful for husband providing for wife. It’s not easy working outside. There’s no flexibility and too much demands from bosses
I am a brother, soon to be married, IA. JAK great advice and many apply to both parties too. Wish you all the success in your marriage too! - Allow your husband to take the lead and make decisions, demonstrating confidence in him. He may fail at times, but with your support, he'll be encouraged to try again. - Seek his advice, even when you think you know the best course of action (this should be reciprocal). - Engage in physical activities together, such as exercising and hiking. - Plan regular check-ins to assess how things are going and identify areas for improvement (focusing on your obligations rather than your rights). - Offer frequent compliments.
@@Islam_first wonderful advice and JAK for adding perspective! In sha Allah will try to make a video for the opposite (how to steal your lady’s heart) soon
The first sentence that really got to my heart is Marriage is a gift from Allah and not everyone will experience it. Sadly, that is true. It never quite occurred to me how privileged we are if we wish to marry (some people don’t), and we find someone to do this act of worship with. Alhamdulillah ❤❤
Thank you sister you brought up excellent points. Often times we forget these important aspects in our marriage. Correction, we don't forget but we are so caught up in taking care of the house, the kids and a job outside the house. We finish one job and come home to another never ending job. While most men come home from their work and relax the rest of the time with a hot meal, their favorite TV shows and etc. and they expect their wives to look pretty and be all smiling. Everything you said was to the point and very true. Unfortunately, marriage for most of us women is just hard labor.
Assalamualaikum. I am not married but everything you mentioned in this video are like super important and i also think that it helps to make a marraige to feel like a haven for both the husband and wife and not just a contract based partnership with no joy which especially happens between older couples.
I really appreciate advice like this but I wish there was more for men mdear learning how to steal their wife’s heart. Ultimately marriage is a 2 way street, and there’s only so much one person can do alone
Beautiful content mashallah ❤I have been doing whatever she mentioned for 13 plus years and I totally agree with her and all those tips and more that i do for my husband has been making us be in deep love as if we just got married 2 weeks ago 😊🎉. May Allah bless you sister for creating such a beneficial content for our Muslim sisters. I feel our Muslim sisters are so brainwashed by feminist movement that they arw forgetting that they are the ummah of Muhammad saw and we follow what Allah has prescribed for us and we live this life keeping akhira in our head❤ I pray all of our muslims have a very blessed marriage and they are even together in jannah ameen 😊
Appreciation and acknowledgment through words are SOO SOO IMPORTANT! It gives a men the validation they need and DESERVE. When a righteous husband is fulfilling all his duty, the wife has the duty to take care of him in a feminine way.
Ma sha ALLah sis! JazakiLLahu khyran! ALLah bless you for this great piece. I learnt a lot and i plan to put them into practice from this moment. I pray ALLah bless our marriages and grant us all goodness in this world and in the hereafter...Aameen
Sallam sister, this video gave me goosebumps throughout. Thank you for your honest and informative video. It’s like listening to a older sister. May Allah reward you for your efforts and put baraqah in your household. ♥️🤲🏻🌻
May Allah swt reward you with the best in this life and the next for these kind reminders ameen. Life has gotten in the way and I forgot to prioritze these. Thank you very much ❤
Salaaam my sister i want to thank you so much for this video im not married but learned so so much and you worded everything so perfectly mashallah thank you may allah bless you. x
Men are wired naturally to be stimulated visually and for me personally as a woman I'm more stimulated mentally and emotionally. That being said as new reverts to Islam as a married couple of 20 years we both still try to take care of ourselves and dress nice for each other even if it's just to go grocery shopping..lol. I notice he lowers his gaze and I do the same and when we are relaxing at home we thank each other for showing such a deep respect for each other. Even after all these years I still let him pick out outfits for me and I help him when he asks me if he looks good to me for me nobody else. When we met I wasn't wearing hijab yet but that day I was covered up to my neck in loose fitting clothing and zero make up. He told me that he was attracted and intrigued that I wasn't half naked and wearing a pound of make up so he wanted to get to know me because I stood out from all the others in the western culture we live in of women wearing revealing clothing. It was my modesty that was a huge part of him choosing me over so many others. And just because we are married doesn't mean we let ourselves go..no..we still take good care of our mental physical and spiritual health..it pleases Allah and it pleases us both with respect honor and gifts of joy contentment and delight.❤
@@EcoFarmFL this was all GOLD, sis. I love that part about thanking each other for showing a deep respect ❤️. May Allah protect you both and preserve this beautiful relationship
Subhanallah. What brought me to your video was a sign of Allah. I felt like it was as if you were speaking directly to me, this had me in tears but these are the tears of realization and the rawness of these topics. Thank you so so much for talking about this. This has definitely helped me understand and realize what should be done about matters like this. May Allah bless you ❤
Ma sha Allah, thank you for this beautiful advice. Jazak’Allah kheir. Healthy families = strong Ummah. May we all honour our marriages for Allah’s sake. Lots of love from Australia 🤲🏻
1. Your relationship with Allah. (Do everything marriage related for Allah's pleasure, be practicing deen and aim to become more spiritual) 2. Your physical appearance (He is the only woman he is permitted to look at) 3. Take care of your misery (fix your mental issues/trauma) 4. Ask him what he needs (what he feels both of you need to work on to strengthen the marriage) 5. Don't blurt out everything that comes to mind (every little thing he does) 6. Let things go (Pick your arguments(the ones necessary to build), don't make everything a fight) 7. Be grateful (especially for the little things he does out of his way) 8. Say to your husband: I'm proud of you 😢 9. Maintain a healthy sexual relationship
Thank you so much for this I am have been married for one year and some change and have a 6 month old. Obviously I'm giving myself grace because I am 6 months pp I had completely let myself go and I am on the journey of bringing myself back.
Mashallah so beautifully presented!! Some great points! My marriage has been amazing alhumdulillah but I do feel like I don't take care of my physical appearance, and the unnecessary comments 😬 I sometimes do say things without thinking, and then regret. Gotta fix that inshaAllah. Jazakillahu Khairun!! Allahumma barik feek❤
Brothers and sisters my name is Rahima please keep me in your Dua’s I want to move out of my in laws home but my husband doesn’t want to I believe with Dua’s Allah swt is the turner of hearts pls keep me in your Dua’s to make it possible
True until now I wasn’t able to find a husband. I am 40 and really not a bad choice. May Allah bless your marriages and help you being thankful for it. ❤️
It's not too late for you Insha'Allah. I met and married my husband at 43. May Allah SWT bless you with a husband and child who will be the comfort and coolness of your eyes and make them amongst the righteous. Ameen 🤲
JazakAllah! May Allah reward you for this wise, warm and wonderful video! And your bravery in helping women face the issues within themselves that may be detracting from their happiness in marriage!!
Subhaan Allah, I thank Allah for making me watch this video, this sense of maturity shud be needed to our generation, where marriages are breaking, just like biscuits… In Shaa Allah, I will save this video and show it to my kids , when they grow up.. I really appreciate your work, you are doing a fantastic work, I just hope through your counselling, we, women implement it ,in our lives.. May Allah reward you for your hard work In both the words.. Ameen 🙌🏻🙌🏻
I am a wife. And everything you mentioned here i actually implement it in my marriage Allahumma barik Alhamduilah. Apart from the dressing up, what i mean is the make up side of things. I always make sure I'm hygienically clean, and wear clean clothes. However i have curly hair and yes I'm into my skincare. But I'm not a make up type. My husband does prefer the natural look. I do keep my make up natural when i do apply. But most days I'm bare face, reason being ' wudu' and the fact ' consistent make up damages skin '. Consistent straightening hair will break my hair. So I'm in a dilemma. I do believe i need to work on making an effect on hair and make up.
Mashallah great true facts and advise. I relate to Everything. In Shaa Allah im able to take this information and implement more consciously into my marriage. Jazzak Allah khair. Im excited to listen to more videos now.
Why is the onus on the woman to steal her husband's heart? The man should do everything he possibly can to please his wife. That means being attentive to her needs, especially her emotional needs. Why did our prophet SAW during his last sermon say,' Do treat your women well, and be kind to them, for they are your partners & committed helpers." I truly believe that if you treat your wife with kindness, love, and patience she deserves then everything else falls into place by default.
@@HippieZippy I’m confused at the comment. Do you mean women shouldn’t put in tremendous effort to honor their husbands and build a good marriage? I think the viewpoint you share is not reflective of Islam’s view of marriage. The onus is on the woman because a man can’t steal his own heart and she’s the only woman who can (unless he’s got another wife or he is doing something haram). There is a hadith particularly about women being in jahanam because of their ingratitude to their husbands as well as the requirement of wives to honor their husband’s to a very high degree. Of course men have responsibilities too but I’m addressing women, not men. It’s usually only unmarried women who don’t understand the work it takes to build a loving marriage or women who are in an unhappy marriage & feel burdened who make comments like this. Why would we l not put in extensive effort to love our spouses? The claim that just being good to your wife means she will be good to you isn’t true and I’ve personally seen women who treat very good men horribly. Women tend to get defensive, assuming that because I’m addressing women, that men are free to do whatever, but where did anything I said imply that a man shouldn’t work to steal his wife’s heart as well? Muwada and Rahma takes work on both sides. But, as a woman, I wanted to address women on my channel because these are things I learned later that many women would benefit learning earlier on. If you’re not comfortable with the advice, that’s fine, follow your own.
@@alasryh I do not disagree with you. Women should certainly put in the effort, as should men. That's all I'm saying sis. And Allah knows best. Keep doing what you're doing. Excellent channel Allahumma barik. ❤️
Sub Han nalla. Finally a woman who makes sense in this world of feminist ideology. I love ❤️ my dear sister. I wish there were more Muslim women like you out there. I recently had a divorce after 15 years of marriage with a hejabi sister who prayed 5 times a day. All of the advice you give in this video, she did the opposite. She never appreciate anything and she always complain about everything. Her friends and family encouraged her to leave me instead of work on our differences. No one from her family ever contact me to find out what was going on and they always take her side. She only put on make up and look beautiful when she was going to work or when she was going out. She gained so much weight and she love eating junk and never exercise. I sacrifice my life for 8 years to working as an over the road trucker to provide for them. When I would come home, no one cares and no one wanted to see me or sit and have dinner with me. I’m 45 years old from New York. And she is also 45 years old. Having sex was not fun it was like a chore. I did it to save myself from ZINA. I couldn’t have a conversation with out it turning into an argument.
I'm sorry you went through that. There are always going to be terrible and ungrateful women and men out there. That's why it's important to vet someone before marrying, which, unfortunately, we're not taught that by anyone. There are plenty of good women still out there. InshaAllah Allah will bless you with one.
May Allah bless you sis truly this is what we need to hear I am not married but I always wanted to know a little more on how to prepare myself for it in sha Allah
I'd be careful on giving the advice on appearance. I used to tell myself the same thing then got borderline obsessive about my appearance as a hijabi. Wearing makeup out, needed nicer clothes, I kept looking at myself in the mirror at home and ask if I'm good enough for a husband. No, this advice should be the least talked about and yet I see it everywhere, it should be a case by case thing and not a general view because then you will inevitably get sucked into the beauty standard. It should be something that the husband and wife talk about only. Now I'm more than happy with how I look and know my husband would be too and that's the secret. If you are unhealthy get healthy for your own sake, get clean and groomed but that's it honestly. Focusing on the makeup and the hair ESPECIALLY pre marriage is gonna lead us girls down an unhealthy spiral.
@@user-cb5qn1gm3o you confused my advice. The Advice was to beautify yourself for your husband (ie in your own home which is also the prophet’s advice SAW), not to beautify hijab which is the opposite of what I recommend (see my video after this). Often, I hear women share their experience to counter the general advice forgetting that I speak to the general population, of course there will be exceptions. That’s not who I’m addressing. Lastly, the issue is not the makeup, it’s a self-love, self-worth and self-esteem and a taqwa issue (if one isn’t wearing proper hijab) which all women should work on, married or not❤️
Outfit or prep shouldn't not be a reason to divorce, he should be tolerant & communicate more. 1400 yrs ago women looked surely less good in prep & limited accessories than today & they mostly stayed marry till depart earth. So Allah won't be happy for ppl to divorce for such reasons, ppl should take care.if something is wrong communicate it at least 3 times or 100 it's fine.
@@maysmile1272 you think the women of the prophets time didn’t take care of themselves or have a high regard for beauty in their marriages? Because you assume today’s beauty standard exceeds theirs? That’s really not true and a bit elitist when you think of it. In fact, there was a huge cultural emphasis on beautifying oneself and there are even hadith regarding it. You may not be a man to understand but even as a woman, it is easy to understand that longstanding neglect of your physical appearance can lead to your spouse losing attraction for you which damages an essential part of a healthy marriage which is intimacy. Nobody divorces just because of that, but it’s usually a single symptom of many greater issues which lead to divorce.
This is a beautiful conversation. A safe space because you can’t speak like this on say TikTok or Instagram. Can any sisters chime in on, advice if the husband is the one who isn’t trying to lose the weight or look after himself as before the nikkah? Attraction goes both ways Subhan’Allah
@@TmarieIbrahim I hopped off TikTok because the level of emotional immaturity is too much for the work I’m trying to do. Honest conversation. Also,for a lot of me , that letting go process can sometimes be depression undercover. So that’s worth exploring.
Thank you for the great content. What should a wife do if a husband wants to be intimate everyday and she doesnt want to do ghusl everyday. P.s. she prays and he doesn’t. Thank you
Note: Salam all! AN IMPORTANT REMINDER! I implied in the video a few times that this applies to a "good man". This advice would not apply to any woman with an abusive husband ever. My advice is for woman who value their husband, their husbands value them, the marriage mutually began with the intention to align with the divine nature of a marriage (mercy, love and peace aka rahma, muwada and sakeena). In those marriages, things start off well and then we don't realize we damage the strength of the marriage through the things we say/do (or don't say/do). This is a reminder of how some simple interventions can change the marriage. Most of us are not entering into unions with people who don't appreciate you trying to steal their heart.
This is for women who want to increase the blessings in their marriage, who want to take accountability and do what they can because you can only control your actions. May Allah make it easy for you all!
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I agree with taking care of your misery . But how do you do that when your husband is having an affair for a good three years . Making you said and depressed and losing your confidence as a wife ? How do you heal?
@@Allahaloneknows read comment about abuse. This advice doesn’t apply to women in those situations, I don’t care about a woman “stealing her man’s heart” if he’s actually truly cheating. Like that’s easily grounds for divorce, this video should be the least of anyone’s concern. Bless you baby girl, sit with a therapist, counselor, coach who can hold your hand as you figure this out because I don’t know how any person survives infidelity that isn’t stopping
@@alasryh thank you so so much. I will definitely see a therapist. I have begged for a divorce but he isn’t giving me one. I want Khula but family isn’t supporting due to societal stigma . It’s so depressing . I sometimes ask Allah if this is his Qadr? 💔🥺🥺😭but Yes , I’ll go for therapy . I am not myself at all.
For the brothers who have a stay at home wife wanting to understand how to win back love of their wife: HELP HER! She is overwhelmed with chores and duties to the point she forgot who she is, let alone having energy for you. You go to work, you go to the masjid, you go to appointments, you interact with others. Your life goes on and on. Meanwhile she feels stuck in a world that never seems to end. Surrounded with noise from kids and demands 24/7. Help her! She needs to take care of her own soul first so that she can be good to you. Let her have friends and hobbies and let her go to places and lrt her study so that she feels alive!! Men be talking about their needs while not realising their wife already had an identity crisis 10 years ago..
So perfectly put!
@mukICT19 come and read this
Let her?) Well, I think a husband either respects the wife's life goals or stays away. A woman does not need permission to do smth she has a right for.. Same vice versa. I consider being free as a mutual respect in the family.
100% agree
@U.S.ImmigrationLawyer your user name says everything we need to know. Load and clear!!!.
To summarize:
1. Follow religion.
2. Look your best.
3. Make sure your mental health is in good shape .
4. Ask him what you can do for him .
5. Don’t overshare.
6. Be great full .
7. Tell him you are proud of him .
8. Get intimate.
Too much work? Yes. But for the lucky one who find a real good man it’s worth it. HEADS UP! Those are rare.
As a brother watching this video, you mentioned almost all of the points except for one, Respect. Ladies, always respect your husband.
You will respect your wife too!
Respect begets respect.
He is 100 percent right. If you act like a rude teenager to your husband, you are being a disrespectful brat. It’s hard to see in it yourself, but when you see it in someone else, it is so clear. Also, if you see genuine respect between a couple, you see the beauty of it and want it out of good jealousy.
This woman speaking two languages English and facts. Jazakillahu khair
@@hadizasani5126 😂😂😂
I wasn’t expecting that comment to be THIS funny AND right!! 😂😂
I am a muslim man who watched this video, and all I can say is that us men (good, honest men I should add), Wallahi all we want someone who takes care of themselves, the house, the kids...someone who gives us peace, my house is a going to be a place of peace.
Arguments will happen here and there, of course, but all I want is peace of mind in my home..let me go out in this world and take care of all other aspects of our life, you just take care of me, the kids, and I got us, I will take care of you and love you like you deserve to be loved.
it is simple, but does nit meant it is easy
Salaams brother. This is very understanding. Just remember that a man is the one who sets the tone in the house. Toget peace, you need to be peace. A woman wont nag if she says something once and you listen. When she starts nagging means, she has told you the exact same thing 1000 times and you didnt listen.
So be her peace, she will give you haven. Amidst the tinny arguments that are natural when you live with anyone.
why didnt you start that in your video by your mouth?
@@itsjustsme7516 you want me to?
@@7elwababeyes!! Agree
I‘d Like to add that not just your wife is supposed to Look After the Kids Both should do their Best of their ability for Everything and everyone in the household then it would be really Rare having arguments
I listened to 19 minutes of this and it broke me down... So much truths here... I just wish more Muslim ladies were taught this earlier in life... I hope I can teach these lessons to my own daughter. In Sha Allah.
After 25 years of cooking and cleaning for him raising 6 children working and providing taking care of his mother if that’s not stolen his heart then nothing else will
Wow mashaAllah!! He is the most blessed man with a woman like you!
I’m 35 nearly 36 and struggling to get married please keep me in your dual 😔
Wa qul Rabbi anzilniy munzala mubaarakan wa Anta khayr ul munzileen ❤
May Allah bless you with a pious husband 🙏🏽
I am unmarried too
"Take care of your misery " so deep
This was honestly so great. You’re the realest Muslimah on here and as a guy this was absolutely solid. Can you make a video on the women on how to steal their hearts?
That would be a really cool idea! Let me in sha Allah think on how to put such a video together with some solid tips for our good brothers! Thanks for the kind comment!
I'm gonna replies to you for me being pure honest direct elegant protective in a good way appreciative and saying sorry when you should say it +being a wise leader giving your woman her space to feel her femininity good words ...giving flowers ... to make sure she is safe mentally emotionally and financially+ being productive smart ambitious taking care for yourself ..... My Allah gives me the man with this traits Ameen
@@SafiaSalam-to4lx JazakAllah sister, I appreciate your input. Those are great qualities you’ve mentioned that brothers should emulate!
@@SafiaSalam-to4lx wdym giving her space to feel her femininity like don't be clingy?
@@user-ef2or5sx7w let her in the comfortable mood trait her like princess dont ask her for your obligations like providing ...she has to trait you as king too ...by that we can achieve a healthy balanced relationship ... For me personally I have the intention to trait my future husb as a king but I can't if he is a passive human being who depend on me to fix things only men can fix it
I am a Muslim man working in Corporate America and I cannot agree more with everything you said on this video, especially for wives to take care of themselves and look great for their husbands. That is priceless. That is not to say the husbands shouldn’t and just become couch potatoes but there are very few things that make me happier than coming home to a beautiful, nice looking and caring wife. ❤❤❤. It makes me forget all my work-related stress and challenges and no matter where I go to work, I can’t wait to come home.
Being a woman.... I totally understand and agree with every step you emphasized upon.... But the household you live in can be toxic (saying that because our eastern culture mostly lives in joint families.... Where the in-laws are pretty interfering) so things become a challenge. They are literally competitors. This balance between the mother and the wife. The sisters and the wife. This becomes a juggling act. The husband and wife are mostly in love with each other but these toxic families make them STOP doing those things. Don't get dressed in front of the kids. Don't smile at him in front of his sisters. Why take her out and spend on her. Buying a gift for the husband means ... You spent HIS money on something he MIGHT not even like. I'm not sure what and how they should navigate their lives.
@@sarahzaminagreed 100%
Well there are many glasses out there. It depends how u see it. if it's half full or half empty. Its mostly seen as half empty due to Today's media and programs with an agenda.
Mashallah profound advice. Glad I watched this before my marriage, Alhamdulillah. Could you please also make a video for the men on how to steal their woman's heart?
Walking around with wounds and bleeding on everyone - such powerful and impactful words and an important reminder. Great video sister, Ma Sha Allah
May Allah swt reward your efforts for the ummah. Ameen
@@MsPinky095 Ameen!!! Thank you sis
I wish I got this message before I started the marriage journey. It is a very beautiful and beneficial thought full message. Jazakallah hu khiran ❤️
A lot of the time videos dealing with this topic can become haya-less or very awkward and uncomfortable, crossing islamic boundaries and noting women derogatorily. Masha’Allah sis, its refreshing to see this holistic and kind approach which still addresses everything in the bounds of Islam, in a kind manner. Jazakallahu khayran.
@@nusaibahslife wa iyaki, thank you, that’s the goal ❤️
Hana, I am going to be 100% honest. I truly believe you are an asset to the Muslim ummah. You provide such a balance and fair approach with your advice. A lot of trauma coaches, Muslim marriage coaches, etc are full of rhetoric that is anti men or anti women and put us against each other. What I also appreciate about you is that you do not sugar coat on what us women and men to need to work on. A lot of these coaches enable our bad habits and this prevents us from progressing. Mashallah you are amazing and I’m grateful to have been watching you since a couple hundred subscribers. It’s no surprise why me and my family love watching your content 😊❤
@@BlacFireSan JAK! What an honor to have an OG who supported the journey. May Allah protect you and your family
@@alasryh Ameen! To you as well😊
Wallahi I couldn’t have said this more! She’s in my Dua so much Allahumma barik laha! ❤❤❤ May Allah bless your family Ameen! I’ve gotten my sisters and best friend to watch her. I forced it at first and now they do it of their own accord! Alhamdullilah!!
Great advice! I think a big, sticky spot for marriages is when there is a downward spiral of misunderstandings and lack of communication. When women arent supported with kids and home to have the time and mind to care for themselves, health even let alone beauty and so they neglect their husbands. Meanwhile men spending too much time providing and their careers too much that they dont support the wife...neither thinks how they can balance things for each other until they both deift apart and just look for some easy way out to satisfy themselves. They think that they other one has it easier staying at home, or out working not dealing with tantrums or disobedience of kids and resentment builds in both. May Allah make it easy for us to communicate, forgive and keep things in balance!
So well said... 😢 my current situation
Even worst I'm stuck with either moving to another country where education is expensive n I have to homeschool and my youngest one is so well in his place in my home country which is a tropical island..so much nature and play outside..blessed climate..Alhamdoulillah..but for us to be together as a family me n z kids have to move to another country..we moved last year zn returned for school for z final trimester...now I don't want to go back because I have noticed the change in my kids as soon as we got back in our home country..they are happier and readier to continue with their studies
Insha Allah balance will resolve everything.. but if only people realise the importance of balance and satisfaction and acceptance of what Allah has decreed for us
Assalamu Alaikum sister, thank you for all this honest advice. Everything you said resonates so well. Can you please make a video about women who didn't have their dads around growing up and are just simply not used to having the role of a man fulfilled, don't know how to appreciate the role of a man .
@@user-ek2jf7gb7i wa alaikum asalam! What a great topic! Will keep in mind
@@alasryhplease please do Insha’Allah! ❤🙏🏾
Thank you sister
Yes, please!
😂😂😂 you were so funny in this video. I love this straightforward side of you😂😂😂 I’m glad you mentioned intimacy part and how it’s needed for husband and to be thankful for husband providing for wife. It’s not easy working outside. There’s no flexibility and too much demands from bosses
I'm trying to get more comfortable showing the more authentic and straightforward Hana, glad it made people laugh haha!
I m crying , thankyou for reminding it....... really needed this....
I am a brother, soon to be married, IA. JAK great advice and many apply to both parties too. Wish you all the success in your marriage too!
- Allow your husband to take the lead and make decisions, demonstrating confidence in him. He may fail at times, but with your support, he'll be encouraged to try again.
- Seek his advice, even when you think you know the best course of action (this should be reciprocal).
- Engage in physical activities together, such as exercising and hiking.
- Plan regular check-ins to assess how things are going and identify areas for improvement (focusing on your obligations rather than your rights).
- Offer frequent compliments.
@@Islam_first wonderful advice and JAK for adding perspective! In sha Allah will try to make a video for the opposite (how to steal your lady’s heart) soon
Wooow "marriage is a blessing not every one experiences" blew me away first seconds mash...
The first sentence that really got to my heart is Marriage is a gift from Allah and not everyone will experience it. Sadly, that is true. It never quite occurred to me how privileged we are if we wish to marry (some people don’t), and we find someone to do this act of worship with. Alhamdulillah ❤❤
This gave me so much value. Didn't realise how much I needed to hear this
@@raahmed2260 yay! Alhamdulillah
Thank you sister you brought up excellent points.
Often times we forget these important aspects in our marriage. Correction, we don't forget but we are so caught up in taking care of the house, the kids and a job outside the house. We finish one job and come home to another never ending job. While most men come home from their work and relax the rest of the time with a hot meal, their favorite TV shows and etc. and they expect their wives to look pretty and be all smiling. Everything you said was to the point and very true. Unfortunately, marriage for most of us women is just hard labor.
Thank you, you hit the nail on so many topics 😊 and it made me realise I really need to sit down and start improving in a few areas 🙏
@@aishakavut8686 may Allah bless your growth and journey!
Assalamualaikum.
I am not married but everything you mentioned in this video are like super important and i also think that it helps to make a marraige to feel like a haven for both the husband and wife and not just a contract based partnership with no joy which especially happens between older couples.
I really appreciate advice like this but I wish there was more for men mdear learning how to steal their wife’s heart. Ultimately marriage is a 2 way street, and there’s only so much one person can do alone
One person shouldn't be doing it alone,
Beautiful content mashallah ❤I have been doing whatever she mentioned for 13 plus years and I totally agree with her and all those tips and more that i do for my husband has been making us be in deep love as if we just got married 2 weeks ago 😊🎉. May Allah bless you sister for creating such a beneficial content for our Muslim sisters. I feel our Muslim sisters are so brainwashed by feminist movement that they arw forgetting that they are the ummah of Muhammad saw and we follow what Allah has prescribed for us and we live this life keeping akhira in our head❤ I pray all of our muslims have a very blessed marriage and they are even together in jannah ameen 😊
Appreciation and acknowledgment through words are SOO SOO IMPORTANT! It gives a men the validation they need and DESERVE. When a righteous husband is fulfilling all his duty, the wife has the duty to take care of him in a feminine way.
Ma sha ALLah sis! JazakiLLahu khyran! ALLah bless you for this great piece. I learnt a lot and i plan to put them into practice from this moment. I pray ALLah bless our marriages and grant us all goodness in this world and in the hereafter...Aameen
Sallam sister, this video gave me goosebumps throughout. Thank you for your honest and informative video. It’s like listening to a older sister.
May Allah reward you for your efforts and put baraqah in your household. ♥️🤲🏻🌻
I was NOT prepared for "take care of your misery." SubhanaAllah.........................
@@juliayvr2015 girlll, neither was I when I realized it
May Allah swt reward you with the best in this life and the next for these kind reminders ameen. Life has gotten in the way and I forgot to prioritze these. Thank you very much ❤
Salaaam my sister i want to thank you so much for this video im not married but learned so so much and you worded everything so perfectly mashallah thank you may allah bless you. x
Thank you. I am a revert and would love to be a wife one day inshallah. I watched this with an open heart. ❤
Men are wired naturally to be stimulated visually and for me personally as a woman I'm more stimulated mentally and emotionally. That being said as new reverts to Islam as a married couple of 20 years we both still try to take care of ourselves and dress nice for each other even if it's just to go grocery shopping..lol. I notice he lowers his gaze and I do the same and when we are relaxing at home we thank each other for showing such a deep respect for each other. Even after all these years I still let him pick out outfits for me and I help him when he asks me if he looks good to me for me nobody else. When we met I wasn't wearing hijab yet but that day I was covered up to my neck in loose fitting clothing and zero make up. He told me that he was attracted and intrigued that I wasn't half naked and wearing a pound of make up so he wanted to get to know me because I stood out from all the others in the western culture we live in of women wearing revealing clothing. It was my modesty that was a huge part of him choosing me over so many others. And just because we are married doesn't mean we let ourselves go..no..we still take good care of our mental physical and spiritual health..it pleases Allah and it pleases us both with respect honor and gifts of joy contentment and delight.❤
@@EcoFarmFL this was all GOLD, sis. I love that part about thanking each other for showing a deep respect ❤️. May Allah protect you both and preserve this beautiful relationship
Subhanallah. What brought me to your video was a sign of Allah. I felt like it was as if you were speaking directly to me, this had me in tears but these are the tears of realization and the rawness of these topics. Thank you so so much for talking about this. This has definitely helped me understand and realize what should be done about matters like this. May Allah bless you ❤
Ameen, thank you for such a sweet comment sis!
You are saying the right thing in some cases the man causes all the problems
This is extremely difficult with a narcissist. I appreciate everything you mentioned, but narcissists reminds their favours every second.
@@Ak-qj1lf there’s a pinned comment there regarding abusive situations. Please see it.
Ma sha Allah, thank you for this beautiful advice. Jazak’Allah kheir. Healthy families = strong Ummah. May we all honour our marriages for Allah’s sake. Lots of love from Australia 🤲🏻
@@Muslimaonly exactly! Ameen! Thank you
1. Your relationship with Allah. (Do everything marriage related for Allah's pleasure, be practicing deen and aim to become more spiritual)
2. Your physical appearance (He is the only woman he is permitted to look at)
3. Take care of your misery (fix your mental issues/trauma)
4. Ask him what he needs (what he feels both of you need to work on to strengthen the marriage)
5. Don't blurt out everything that comes to mind (every little thing he does)
6. Let things go (Pick your arguments(the ones necessary to build), don't make everything a fight)
7. Be grateful (especially for the little things he does out of his way)
8. Say to your husband: I'm proud of you 😢
9. Maintain a healthy sexual relationship
This video was so incredibly insightful. Thank you Hana, Jazakallah khair ❤
Thank you so much for this I am have been married for one year and some change and have a 6 month old. Obviously I'm giving myself grace because I am 6 months pp I had completely let myself go and I am on the journey of bringing myself back.
Mashallah so beautifully presented!! Some great points! My marriage has been amazing alhumdulillah but I do feel like I don't take care of my physical appearance, and the unnecessary comments 😬 I sometimes do say things without thinking, and then regret. Gotta fix that inshaAllah. Jazakillahu Khairun!! Allahumma barik feek❤
Thank you
Jazakallah khair
Btw I'm the first viewer
Also do you have any advise on how someone can get rid of fear of marriage
may ALLAH make easy for our wives to do these
and for us to appreciate ALLAHUMAH AMIIIN
What a great video, post more videos related to this topic as an enlightenment and with a view to increasing awareness👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Salaam walaikum sister new subb here from South Africa 🇿🇦 so glad i got to see this , in the time i needed Allhamdulillah.
@@mrsamirza4392 ❤️❤️❤️
South african too
Your so real 😢 ma sha Allah going through some of these things but your right everything starts with Allah ❤swt
Brothers and sisters my name is Rahima please keep me in your Dua’s I want to move out of my in laws home but my husband doesn’t want to I believe with Dua’s Allah swt is the turner of hearts pls keep me in your Dua’s to make it possible
True until now I wasn’t able to find a husband. I am 40 and really not a bad choice. May Allah bless your marriages and help you being thankful for it. ❤️
It's not too late for you Insha'Allah. I met and married my husband at 43. May Allah SWT bless you with a husband and child who will be the comfort and coolness of your eyes and make them amongst the righteous. Ameen 🤲
@@sssppp1773 Thank you sister, for your words of hope. It is so good to hear. May Allah always protect your marriage and your family. Ameen. 🤲🏼
Great advice…difficult when your husband isn’t practicing at all…? That’s my dilemma!
It's great hearing this before getting married. Thank you for this. جزاك الله خير
You nailed it. You really said it all. I subscribe immediately because this is much needed 😢. Orientation changed. Jazakumullah khyran ❤❤❤
@@FatimahAdeniji ❤️❤️❤️wa iyaki sis
“Take care of your misery” hits hard 😢
Both people should take care of how they look. It's usually that man's looks that start going downhill. Remember ladies, you're the prize.
JazakAllah! May Allah reward you for this wise, warm and wonderful video! And your bravery in helping women face the issues within themselves that may be detracting from their happiness in marriage!!
Thank you for speaking on this sis, very valid points wallahi
Jazakallahu khayran . I just got married and this is what I needed to hear .
@@ljjones2454 wa iyaki and congrats!
Subhaan Allah, I thank Allah for making me watch this video, this sense of maturity shud be needed to our generation, where marriages are breaking, just like biscuits… In Shaa Allah, I will save this video and show it to my kids , when they grow up.. I really appreciate your work, you are doing a fantastic work, I just hope through your counselling, we, women implement it ,in our lives.. May Allah reward you for your hard work In both the words.. Ameen 🙌🏻🙌🏻
Love this advice thanks Hana ❤
Must admit, I loved your advice and tips especially the way you conveyed them. JazakAllah khair sister.
May Allah reward you, you have opened my eyes
Thank you so much sister! I have learned a lot from your video and I will implement them in my marriage inshaAllah
I’ve learnt a lot from this as a newly married. Thank you so much for helping us enlighten our marriage
The "let it go" thing is also great for familie members
Wow, what a very informative and beneficial video, may Allah reward u
I am a wife. And everything you mentioned here i actually implement it in my marriage Allahumma barik Alhamduilah. Apart from the dressing up, what i mean is the make up side of things. I always make sure I'm hygienically clean, and wear clean clothes. However i have curly hair and yes I'm into my skincare. But I'm not a make up type. My husband does prefer the natural look. I do keep my make up natural when i do apply. But most days I'm bare face, reason being ' wudu' and the fact ' consistent make up damages skin '. Consistent straightening hair will break my hair. So I'm in a dilemma.
I do believe i need to work on making an effect on hair and make up.
BarakAllah feeki Hana, as a newly wed this is amazing advice❤️
this was lovely!!! ill save this to watch it again in a month😊
BarakAllah feeki sis. Such great advice. ❤
Mashallah great true facts and advise. I relate to Everything. In Shaa Allah im able to take this information and implement more consciously into my marriage. Jazzak Allah khair. Im excited to listen to more videos now.
Everytime I am feeling This Way YOU have descreibed i am coming to video. Thank YOU ❤❤❤
Why is the onus on the woman to steal her husband's heart? The man should do everything he possibly can to please his wife. That means being attentive to her needs, especially her emotional needs. Why did our prophet SAW during his last sermon say,' Do treat your women well, and be kind to them, for they are your partners & committed helpers." I truly believe that if you treat your wife with kindness, love, and patience she deserves then everything else falls into place by default.
@@HippieZippy I’m confused at the comment. Do you mean women shouldn’t put in tremendous effort to honor their husbands and build a good marriage? I think the viewpoint you share is not reflective of Islam’s view of marriage. The onus is on the woman because a man can’t steal his own heart and she’s the only woman who can (unless he’s got another wife or he is doing something haram).
There is a hadith particularly about women being in jahanam because of their ingratitude to their husbands as well as the requirement of wives to honor their husband’s to a very high degree. Of course men have responsibilities too but I’m addressing women, not men. It’s usually only unmarried women who don’t understand the work it takes to build a loving marriage or women who are in an unhappy marriage & feel burdened who make comments like this. Why would we l not put in extensive effort to love our spouses? The claim that just being good to your wife means she will be good to you isn’t true and I’ve personally seen women who treat very good men horribly. Women tend to get defensive, assuming that because I’m addressing women, that men are free to do whatever, but where did anything I said imply that a man shouldn’t work to steal his wife’s heart as well? Muwada and Rahma takes work on both sides. But, as a woman, I wanted to address women on my channel because these are things I learned later that many women would benefit learning earlier on. If you’re not comfortable with the advice, that’s fine, follow your own.
@@alasryh I do not disagree with you. Women should certainly put in the effort, as should men. That's all I'm saying sis. And Allah knows best. Keep doing what you're doing. Excellent channel Allahumma barik. ❤️
Sub Han nalla. Finally a woman who makes sense in this world of feminist ideology.
I love ❤️ my dear sister. I wish there were more Muslim women like you out there.
I recently had a divorce after 15 years of marriage with a hejabi sister who prayed 5 times a day.
All of the advice you give in this video, she did the opposite.
She never appreciate anything and she always complain about everything.
Her friends and family encouraged her to leave me instead of work on our differences.
No one from her family ever contact me to find out what was going on and they always take her side.
She only put on make up and look beautiful when she was going to work or when she was going out.
She gained so much weight and she love eating junk and never exercise.
I sacrifice my life for 8 years to working as an over the road trucker to provide for them.
When I would come home, no one cares and no one wanted to see me or sit and have dinner with me.
I’m 45 years old from New York. And she is also 45 years old.
Having sex was not fun it was like a chore. I did it to save myself from ZINA.
I couldn’t have a conversation with out it turning into an argument.
I'm sorry you went through that. There are always going to be terrible and ungrateful women and men out there. That's why it's important to vet someone before marrying, which, unfortunately, we're not taught that by anyone. There are plenty of good women still out there. InshaAllah Allah will bless you with one.
SubhanAllah 13:17.... i need improvement. Its an honest reality that as partners in a team need to fix for marriage and next gen
May Allah bless you sis truly this is what we need to hear I am not married but I always wanted to know a little more on how to prepare myself for it in sha Allah
Jazakallahukhayr. I needed this. Just subscribed and looking forward to more of your content.
Listening is what we love please listen to us.
jazak Allaahu khayr for this wisdom!!! i needed to hear and learn this.
MashAllah, i just unstressed watching this video good advice you gave the ladies! Us men should also try to be look and smell good for our women...
I'd be careful on giving the advice on appearance. I used to tell myself the same thing then got borderline obsessive about my appearance as a hijabi. Wearing makeup out, needed nicer clothes, I kept looking at myself in the mirror at home and ask if I'm good enough for a husband. No, this advice should be the least talked about and yet I see it everywhere, it should be a case by case thing and not a general view because then you will inevitably get sucked into the beauty standard. It should be something that the husband and wife talk about only.
Now I'm more than happy with how I look and know my husband would be too and that's the secret. If you are unhealthy get healthy for your own sake, get clean and groomed but that's it honestly. Focusing on the makeup and the hair ESPECIALLY pre marriage is gonna lead us girls down an unhealthy spiral.
@@user-cb5qn1gm3o you confused my advice. The Advice was to beautify yourself for your husband (ie in your own home which is also the prophet’s advice SAW), not to beautify hijab which is the opposite of what I recommend (see my video after this).
Often, I hear women share their experience to counter the general advice forgetting that I speak to the general population, of course there will be exceptions. That’s not who I’m addressing.
Lastly, the issue is not the makeup, it’s a self-love, self-worth and self-esteem and a taqwa issue (if one isn’t wearing proper hijab) which all women should work on, married or not❤️
MashaAllah this video was really insightful. Jazaki Allahu Khairan.
I am resentful and jealous for fist time in my marriage of over 20 years , and to be honest I don't where to start.
SUBXANALLAH. For educational purposes could you elaborate why? 20 years is long time mashallah
So how do men steal their wives heart? There's enough advises for women to cater to men,its tiring already, its old school and overdone already
It's very sad when he distances himself from you.
Masha Allah, God bless your marriage.
Listening to you and applying the make up. Jazakillahu khairan❤
Outfit or prep shouldn't not be a reason to divorce, he should be tolerant & communicate more. 1400 yrs ago women looked surely less good in prep & limited accessories than today & they mostly stayed marry till depart earth. So Allah won't be happy for ppl to divorce for such reasons, ppl should take care.if something is wrong communicate it at least 3 times or 100 it's fine.
@@maysmile1272 you think the women of the prophets time didn’t take care of themselves or have a high regard for beauty in their marriages? Because you assume today’s beauty standard exceeds theirs? That’s really not true and a bit elitist when you think of it. In fact, there was a huge cultural emphasis on beautifying oneself and there are even hadith regarding it. You may not be a man to understand but even as a woman, it is easy to understand that longstanding neglect of your physical appearance can lead to your spouse losing attraction for you which damages an essential part of a healthy marriage which is intimacy. Nobody divorces just because of that, but it’s usually a single symptom of many greater issues which lead to divorce.
I’m gonna send my future wife this video InshAllah 😅
Thank you Hana
the trauma in my marriage is my toxic mother in law.
This is a beautiful conversation. A safe space because you can’t speak like this on say TikTok or Instagram. Can any sisters chime in on, advice if the husband is the one who isn’t trying to lose the weight or look after himself as before the nikkah? Attraction goes both ways Subhan’Allah
@@TmarieIbrahim I hopped off TikTok because the level of emotional immaturity is too much for the work I’m trying to do.
Honest conversation. Also,for a lot of me , that letting go process can sometimes be depression undercover. So that’s worth exploring.
Thank you for the great content. What should a wife do if a husband wants to be intimate everyday and she doesnt want to do ghusl everyday. P.s. she prays and he doesn’t. Thank you
Loved every bit of these advice! Tysm
Do you have a podcast? Like maybe spotify? I love to do things and listen to podcasts and I think many with me ❤ Jazzaka Allahoe ghairan
Not as of now, I keep getting requests to do one though, trying to figure it out timewise!
Thank you for the reminder! ❤
Just what I needed!!!