In 2017, the night before my surgery for a broken ankle, my husband of 27 years and my best friend in the world, had me listen to Simon Sinek. He had been reading "Leaders Eat Last." We had so many conversations about meaningful work! He had been a pilot in the Marine Corps, was an amazing husband and father, and was inspired by Simon's words. In November 2018 he tragically and suddenly died of an aortic dissection at the age of 51. During the past four years I have been working to be strong and resilient for my children. And now, I feel he is speaking to me through Simon's words, inspiring me to be more vulnerable, to really listen, to just sit in the mud, and hold space... sharing struggles... deepening relationships... thank you both.
#1. If you feel lonely and isolated it is because you do not immerse yourself (like basking in sunlight) in his love morning, noon and night every day of your life. #2. They look for love outside of themselves in all the wrong places instead of turning to the True Authentic Light of the World, Jesus The Christ. #3. God, The Holy Trinity does not isolate you. If you draw close to him, He will be your God and protector. #4. Your life path will always be harder when you don't choose Jesus. It's as simple as that. Not my words but his in the Holy Bible. It's like having a choice between two crosses. One 25 pounds and the other 5O. The larger one looks easier and lighter so most people choose it only to find out how tedious it is and regret it terribly. #5. You will never know Heavenly Peace in your life when things are up or down unless you trust in The Holy Trinity. #6. I can say this because he has been strengthening me while I'm going through a mega storm right now. I have heavenly peace in his love although all hell is breaking loose around me and threatening to drown me. I'm standing on the rock Jesus the Christ. He loves and cherishes me and I'm safe in his arms. Blessed with joy and happiness. Powerful Anointed Prayers Just For You ua-cam.com/video/3orZrYPCJpQ/v-deo.html
I am Christian and your reply is extremely self-rightious and judgmental. Next time get down from your sel-righteous pedestal and offer comfort and hope. I am convinced that would have been more helpful. 😢😊
Thank you @@soniaperez2417 for responding with such eloquence and love to the above ❤👌🏼 I’ll be honest, I was rather maddened that someone has taken such a beautiful and vulnerable comment about the positive impact Simon has had on their life, and used it to talk about religion 🤦🏻♂️ I support wholeheartedly those who have faith, but this is unhelpful. So thank you for your wonderfully measured response, I imagine you’re a pretty awesome human being 🙏🏼
Thanks a lot for sharing, it is very helpful, we have tendency to give advice, and you are right it doesn't help, until we are ready to receive it. But what we need in this moment ,just sit in the mud with friends 😊and also very important point, I like,that even we are not in service, our obligations is to care for people, who are ❤
YES that's great! The fixers tend to interrupt the sharing and get impatient and get angry with you for not adopting what for them seems the simple and obvious solution. I've been in the situation many times where there are key factors hidden to me and them and those were the keys to resolution. It's not a simple fix in any case.
I think we all just want to be 'fixed' We just want to be happy We can't figure out how to do it for ourselves, so we project onto others, by trying to fix them. Empathy for the fixers would be nice too. No one 's trying to hurt anyone. Just state your boundaries, say, you don't need help, thank you. That's what I do.
I am 69 years old and when I was in early 20’s, I experienced loneliness. I read many self help books to understand what I was feeling but still felt lonely. At night the loneliness was unbearable. I put pictures of universe on the ceiling of my bedroom and kept telling telling my self that compare to universe I am smaller than a speck of sand. Then one day I started to talk to my loneliness as if it is a human and ask to be my friend. I accepted and embraced it. As time went on I stopped being lonely. To this day I don’t feel lonely. I guess the loneliness became a part of me.
What a beautiful share...amazing...I remember feeling so distressed and alone. before an exam...my dad got me to go to the garden, look up at the evening sky....and said we are part of all this.....your beautiful example reminded me of this
The Diary of a CEO has become my best friend so far ... The guests and their vulnerability are legendary. You've restored my faith in humanity again. Thank you so much, Steve !
Same here! I struggle to create meaningful connections with my acquaintances and colleagues, I feel like they're just not that interested. This really helps, it's a surrogate of having those conversations that I'd like to be having
Simon’s authenticity and willingness to be honest about his inefficiencies… Has given me another level of respect for him. Something we should all admire
This interview made me so emotional because I am a woman in my 50s with no kids and no partner therefore I get lonely all the time. I won't say that I have a terrible life but sometimes I don't like being lonely. In these times I am so grateful to my siblings who all keep in touch with me. There are so many key takeaways in this conversation. Thanks to Simon and Steven..
That’s exactly me. I’m going 51 in Jan 24 with greying hairline. To make things worst, I work with young co workers and they have partners married or to be married . No one looks up to a single person who earns average wage . Especially so a woman. And when you get angry about some work issue due to some poor response internally, I hear people say ‘Non married woman are angry and behave differently from married ladies.. sigh 😢
I’m a therapist and if everyone had a friend like these two men, I would be out of business. Everything discussed is great therapy for self and others. Therapist sit in the mud too! Such a great description! I actually ask my clients if they are wanting to vent or want to fix. Sometimes when I’m in the mud (with my own issues), I pause, then I get up and do something even if it’s wrong, it still feels better.
But they get paid for sitting in the mud, it's very hard work and can't be expected as a free gift of everyone. It would be a relationship that has a balanced emotional bank account.
Really? I think the paid part is there for just that...$ A stranger a friend a family member a clergy etc sit in the mud w you as I do for them so no you don't sit in the mud w your clients. Unless you mean something else?
@@ishavidaayurveda it’s still not easy to sit in the mud with someone whether you get paid or not. Not everyone can be that person for even someone they love. It does take love to do it.
I'm struggling no family, lost my son, husband it's been the worse time in my life. Isolation, 100% I never go out unless it to food shop or doctors appointment. At 69yrs old it's extremely very hard. No friends here we moved and then my husband passed away. My prayers for anyone that reads this may the Lord bless you.🙏❤️
You can do this. Complete your journey of life with grace. B4 you know it- your journey will be done and you'll be reunited with your Son and Husband. It is a current trend of no friends. So it's not just you. People are so complicated now, be grateful to not be drawn into the drama of life.
Sending you heartfelt love❤and hugs and to keep reaching out just as you did here on you tube. You never know who may become a long distance friend or if you will find that one video that will help lift you up snd onto another trajectory. ❤one small step at a time and keep your heart open even if it feel’s crushed - love always wins.
I always say, "I love you," after every conversation when speaking to someone I feel that for. It's a form of gratitude for the friendship and all received through it. Even friends who felt awkward by that now are so open and return the words from such a sweet place. When I feel alone....I am single and near 60....I ask myself, "Who can i help today?" The feeling of alone begins to fade, and the gratitude of being able to help replaces it.
What an honour it was to have Simon come on the podcast and be so open and vulnerable with me, thank you Simon! If you enjoyed this conversation do me a favour and like the video, it helps us understand exactly what type of conversations you enjoy. Thanks! 🙏🏽
3:14 I'll ask you Steven, how are you doing? You are PICKING YOUR NAILS, looking at them as you phrase and deliver this question to Simon. Fidgety, distracted. What's up? xx Your viewers happy to hold space with you!
I appreciate you making me aware that there's a distinction between ADD and ADHD, i've seen high level ADHD on days when he didn't take his meds. But feel my sister and i could have ADD which seems to at least display itself quite differently externally
I was diagnosed around 9 months ago after I finally paid privately to see a psychiatrist at the age of 30 and so much of my life made sense from that diagnosis , and I also feel a sense of sadness in a way that things could have been so different had I understood what I had and had I been on meds sooner
I love this so much. I know what it is like to feel lonely at times. I would sit in the mud with you Simon. One of my favorite quotes is from A.A. Milne. Very profound. "Today was a Difficult Day," said Pooh. There was a pause. "Do you want to talk about it?" asked Piglet. "No," said Pooh after a bit. "No, I don't think I do." "That's okay," said Piglet, and he came and sat beside his friend. "What are you doing?" asked Pooh. "Nothing, really," said Piglet. "Only, I know what Difficult Days are like. I quite often don't feel like talking about it on my Difficult Days either. "But goodness," continued Piglet, "Difficult Days are so much easier when you know you've got someone there for you. And I'll always be here for you, Pooh." And as Pooh sat there, working through in his head his Difficult Day, while the solid, reliable Piglet sat next to him quietly, swinging his little legs…he thought that his best friend had never been more right." A.A. Milne
I've sat in the mud with so many. But who has ever sat in my mud just for a change? Sorry, but this is all BS. There's a lot of self important, totally selfish aholes out there and it's nearly all of you. Signed single white ageing woman, never married no kids because all males are getting boring asian females who cannot even speak english let alone engage in interesting deep and meaningful conversation, because let's face it they actually all just want a servant, and whose name is now a source of prejudice and discrimination. Money talks. The only way I will ever get a man and get married is the size of my investments. If i declared that I am worth $10000000, I guarantee not only will i get flooded with dates, they will all arrive early, dressed in a suit with a bunch of very expensive flowers and Dom Perignon, along with a dozen marriage proposals in the first week.
You possess exceptional interviewing skills, as evidenced by the way your guest opened up to you like never before. Your ability to connect with and understand people is truly remarkable.
Dear Simon, Thank you for helping me realize I’m not broken. I literally relate to 100% of everything you said in this interview. Conclusion: Surround yourself with people who make you feel heard. Remember that “wait” is not “never”. Lots of things worth waiting for, take time. ❤
....or they might not (show up). Which is ok. Don't do anything with the condition or expectation that something is going to happen. Just do it because you want to.
#1. If you feel lonely and isolated it is because you do not immerse yourself (like basking in sunlight) in his love morning, noon and night every day of your life. #2. They look for love outside of themselves in all the wrong places instead of turning to the True Authentic Light of the World, Jesus The Christ. #3. God, The Holy Trinity does not isolate you. If you draw close to him, He will be your God and protector. #4. Your life path will always be harder when you don't choose Jesus. It's as simple as that. Not my words but his in the Holy Bible. It's like having a choice between two crosses. One 25 pounds and the other 5O. The larger one looks easier and lighter so most people choose it only to find out how tedious it is and regret it terribly. #5. You will never know Heavenly Peace in your life when things are up or down unless you trust in The Holy Trinity. #6. I can say this because he has been strengthening me while I'm going through a mega storm right now. I have heavenly peace in his love although all hell is breaking loose around me and threatening to drown me. I'm standing on the rock Jesus the Christ. He loves and cherishes me and I'm safe in his arms. Blessed with joy and happiness. Powerful Anointed Prayers Just For You ua-cam.com/video/3orZrYPCJpQ/v-deo.html
It's OK to be broken as long as you don't give up on yourself and remember even the brokenness is not an everlasting state of you. Only those who have been broken can meaningfully walk with another soul that is about to break or is breaking.
This is the most powerful podcast I have listened to ever. It brought me to tears several times. The current greatest frustration in my life is that at the age of 69 and significant physical limitations, I feel I am not of service to anyone.
Simply by posting this you are of service. So many of us can relate to this feeling and by connecting with us you touch us and remove that sense of loneliness and fear. Sometimes, often, we serve others simply by being ourselves. Thank you for your post ❤❤
@@Kinsugi what you want to transmit that’s the key. But it all starts with you knowing yourself at all your ages. That’s how you can extract your true essence
I learned the "sitting in the mud" communication by just doing that with my wife and noticed that every time after this conversations she thanked me and was grateful. That was the moment I truly understood the value of just listening. It was literally a big positive shift in our marriage, when I, on a regular basis, implemented just conversation evenings. So thanks for this amazing episode.
0:28: 😔 Simon Sinek discusses his shift away from public speaking and his focus on mental fitness. 13:44: 💔 Loneliness is feeling misunderstood, not being seen or heard, and struggling to communicate or present oneself. 20:50: 💔 Loneliness and the need for companionship and empathy in times of struggle. 39:46: 💡 Building trust is essential in managing chaos and making decisions in high-pressure situations. 41:23: 🗣 Feedback and self-awareness are crucial in building healthy relationships and improving communication skills. 53:13: 😔 The design of the modern world has added a layer of complication to finding and keeping love, and dating apps have made it feel like shopping for partners. 1:01:34: 💑 Being vulnerable and sharing struggles with your partner can deepen the relationship. 1:11:12: 💑 The key to a great relationship is having intellectual, emotional, and sexual compatibility, along with favorable circumstances. 1:21:43: 💔 Heartbreak teaches us about the nature of being human and the importance of co-creation in relationships. 1:29:20: 🌟 Simon measures success by momentum, not by achievement, and feels a sense of meaning and purpose in contributing to a better world. 1:38:35: 💪 The speaker reflects on their experience in a war zone and realizes that the true purpose in life is to serve those who serve others. 1:48:38: 💪 Simon reflects on the importance of serving those who serve others and the personal cost that comes with it. Recap by Tammy AI
I feel so moved with this episode, it seemed to me it wasn't intended to get that far and deep until Simon took the courageous step to open totally and completely. Nobody is fully done with their own personal work, and yet is so inspiring to me, to see role-models of self aware men. The story of finding meaning in the middle of a panic was very powerful. Simon is a deep thinker with a great purpose and a mission. I wish more of those examples in our society.
"We live in a world where most people are not equipped on how to be there for a friend" that hit like a ton of bricks! Sadly, I am finding this out the hard way. My closest friends didn't know my mom was in the last stages of her illness. I didn't feel like reaching out. No one was really asking anyway. When I announced that my mom passed, I was so disappointed in the lack of support from my so-called best friends. A mear text, a message. I am still in shock on how unaware people are. Each person seems to be living in their own bubble. I can't wrap my head around this. Sad to say the least and feeling lonely as ever.
I have had the same and in my experience the worst are those who haven't yet lost a parent yet. A friend lost her mother and then said to me (I had lost my mother 5 years earlier) I'm so sorry I wasn't really there for you, I was so blissfully unaware of what it was like until it happened to me.
@Gastrolicious Gelayski I am so sorry for your loss. It feels very lonely. A lady told me the other day, "we are no longer who we were after losing a parent," let alone both. I feel an identity crisis of sorts. But I have to pull myself together and reinvent myself somehow. I know my parents would want me to be well. I will pray for you as well. May we find strength.
@A Beautiful Country good insight, maybe them not being able to relate to our loss makes them emotionally unavailable. But still, common sense goes a long way.
gosh it seems many of the weathiest entreprenuers in the world actually have ADHD. and so many people look down on them. these people have an extreme ability to focus on what makes them tick and just make money!
The 3+1 philosophy about partnership made me realize alot of why many of my dating experiences have failed to work. And the way he transforms the idea of meditation to train to be a better listener is just amazing. Lots of love to anyone reading this, who takes his time scrolling through the comment section and also to simon and steven for providing the content.
I’m 19 years old about to turn 20 and the part where Simon talked about just sticking with something and not worrying about arbitrary numbers really spoke with me
Absolutely love this conversation, listening to two men discussing the human condition is not only heartwarming but enormously reinforcing for those of us that battle loneliness and full understanding and integration of all of our parts.....the power of love and connection with self and others.....🙏
I absolutely love this episode with Simon. I even shed some tears when he was talking about his friend in the army being so vulnerable with him and saying "i love you".
I'm 68 with ADHD and finally just understanding how this has effected all my relationships...and yes, there is a period of mourning that I have been going through that is not easy. Not only are these feelings difficult, explaining these feelings are difficult.
#1. If you feel lonely and isolated it is because you do not immerse yourself (like basking in sunlight) in his love morning, noon and night every day of your life. #2. They look for love outside of themselves in all the wrong places instead of turning to the True Authentic Light of the World, Jesus The Christ. #3. God, The Holy Trinity does not isolate you. If you draw close to him, He will be your God and protector. #4. Your life path will always be harder when you don't choose Jesus. It's as simple as that. Not my words but his in the Holy Bible. It's like having a choice between two crosses. One 25 pounds and the other 5O. The larger one looks easier and lighter so most people choose it only to find out how tedious it is and regret it terribly. #5. You will never know Heavenly Peace in your life when things are up or down unless you trust in The Holy Trinity. #6. I can say this because he has been strengthening me while I'm going through a mega storm right now. I have heavenly peace in his love although all hell is breaking loose around me and threatening to drown me. I'm standing on the rock Jesus the Christ. He loves and cherishes me and I'm safe in his arms. Blessed with joy and happiness. Powerful Anointed Prayers Just For You ua-cam.com/video/3orZrYPCJpQ/v-deo.html
I'm almost 65 and just realised the exact same thing. At first it came as a great revelation and liberation until the sense of mourning the wasted opportunities caused by a lifetime of confusion kicked in. So, maybe I'm being unfair here but, I'm struggling to feel much sympathy for someone who has realised in their 30s when they still have more of their life ahead of them than behind them...
@@sohosteveuk I'm 49 and have nothing to show for it. I feel 38 at the most. I never really understood "reality" and how to navigate it. I wish i chose a different career path that had more opportunity. I am shifting to something much better and with no salary ceiling. I also plan to take my landscape painting father. That seems to be an old person game anyways lol. My life was ruined by caring too much what other think and limiting myself. What i went through sucked and i can't even talk about it. I mean to a therapist i could and will. I just don't want to die single. I have very few friends. Once somebody moves i lose touch with them. A good friend died recently. I've known my best friend since 4th grade, so that helps. But we don't have that many deep talks. I do have ADD, not sure about the H part. It never got diagnosed. School was a total shit show. My parents never monitored me as they were dealing with a dying marriage. After school and the Army i just bounced around......then bamm here i am. Meanwhile my bro got a sweet job right after college, then another and now has been at SAS (like Google) for 20 years as a project manager. Easy job, great pay and benefits. He chose a much better career path. I tried to be a graphic designer but it was too demanding for my brain. You create something really cool, then gotta do it again and again and again. Good luck getting past 50K for years. When i was younger the idea of marriage or a relationship made me feel smothered. I didn't have the income to support it and my mind was always daydreaming or moving onto the next thing. It really sucks. I will finally seek help soon. I've suffered enough but then i'm so used to that, that it seems like that is just how my life is. Meanwhile others just go through life like a hot knife going through butter.
@@infowazz as a person on this planet you aren't required to be something impressive or do a ton of things to show yourself as being successful. You live your life, do things you like, connect with people, work, relax and be human that's not failure.
I have been answering that question, as well as "are you okay?", with a no, nope, a side to side head shake. Everyone walks away. Leaves me ALONE! YAY!
Life changing conversation. So raw and full of another level wisdom. I believe everyone of us who has watched/listened this episode will be a better human going forward. Saying million "thank you" does not show even a fracture of my gratitude to both of these men ❤
Steven, you are amazingly skilled in creating space for guests to be truly authentic. I love your interviewing abilities and the guests that you attract. Thank you for what you do !❤
"There's no greater honour than being able to serve a friend in need." I had a close friend who needed me to just sit in the mud with her yesterday, and I went into full fixer mode.I see that I should've dialed it down a bit. I know better now. Thank you for the great conversation, as always. 🙏❤
Finally shared with friend recently and family member last year that I've had such feelings of loneliness. Family said nothing and friend told me all the reasons I shouldn't feel lonely. It helps to know that it's not that they don't care but that they don't have the skills to sit with me as a lonely person...
And opening up and making yourself vulnerable by sharing how you REALLY feel can be tough. Well done for being real. I'm sorry they reacted like that, it can hurt. I'm so glad you've seen that it's not that they don't care. I remember a few years ago, sharing with my Mum how lonely I felt...she told me to go for a run! She has Aspergers...
This is a really powerful message. I lost my sibling to suicide and I could see he was struggling but did not know how to show up for him in the ways I wish I could have. I really feel that this valuable skill could have saved him.
I watched this 4x. I have all Simon's books. I love him more now that I see this vulnerable part of him. It resonated with me. It is very difficult for me to find love as it seems there is no one I am compatible with. I understand the struggles of loneliness. Thank you for this wonderful journey.
This is a great podcast as are many on this channel. Often sitting in the mud IS the solution. Being heard can be an incredible antidote to loneliness.
This is SO RELEVANT and not addressed in a deep and meaningful way nearly as much as it should be. To truly sit in the mud with another person is one of the most beautiful and heart expanding moments available in this human experience. Thank you for this 🙏❤️
Dear Simon, This might sound hyperbolic and somewhat dramatic, but it isn’t. This was the most authentic conversation I’ve ever heard. What you said about ‘sitting in the mud’, about listening and NOT trying to ‘fix’ things, about practising meditation to empower ourselves to listen respectfully has brought about a paradigm shift in my understanding of close relationships. I couldn’t hold back my tears. It was truly cathartic. I know now what I’ve been doing wrong. Clearly, empathy works like nothing else does. Truly truly grateful for all those insights…for being brave enough to be vulnerable. My prayers for you to find happiness in your personal space. Much love and regards come your way… P.S. Thanks Steve for enabling that engaging conversation. You bring out the real person you talk to, each time.
This is one of the powerful conversations I’ve ever listened to! I hope Simon finds a loving relationship with the right woman one day! Many blessings for using your heart and mind to the work you do for people! ❤️
I love this and am reminded of when I was a teenager, and went through a series of bereavements, I wrote the words "Flowers never grow if they just have sun, they need the rain too". I forgot those words for many, may years and am grateful that you've had Simon on the show to remind me.
This is arguably the best conversation yet. The deep vulnerability and relatability on so many levels and topics is unmatched. Thank you for allowing us to partake. We are all better for it.
I have listened to this more than once. I cry every time. Such a wonderful message. Walking alongside and holding space, even sitting in the mud,, truly amazing ❤ I celebrate your tenacity
This Podcast has been the best birthday gift I received in my 47 years on this earth. You guys made me cry, you made me laugh, make me think about why I still do not trust men after my divorce. I have built a wall around me and I have my own mudhole, but know I can start working on myself so that I'm not so alone.. All the best for you from South Africa.
This is one of the most moving and influential episodes of any podcast I’ve had the privilege of hearing and sharing. Especially the last part about his experience with the military. Thank you.
I have my problems with the military. I don't believe in force and violence. I am from Europe and we have a very different relationship with the military, I guess. I found it somewhat disturbing here. However, I especially like the first part very much though. And respect what he experienced in Afghanistan.
Yep. Don’t have a soul to call. Doesn’t mean it’ll stay that way forever, though. I have chronic limiting pain so I have to stay home. Maybe it’ll change one day.
That’s not a problem with this this talk. That is a problem for you. You need to establish friend relationships in this world. It’s is a FUNDAMENTAL requirement of the human condition along with food, water, sunlight. Companionship.
I listened to this during work and there were a few times when I felt like crying. Steven was born to do this. The more guests he interviews, the more aware he becomes of himself and his thoughts and better questions to ask. What is really meaningful in life. Not to have all the money in the world, but to have enough to help yourself and others while serving those in need. I started listening to Steven in 2020. I had moved to the UK just a few months before that and I was soaking up all his knowledge through the podcast. I love the book, bought the journal too and literally can't wait to go on a live show. This has to be my favourite episode. At the end I felt like nothing can surpass this. It's like when you finish reading a good book and you don't know what to do next because it left you speechless. Well, this conversation has left me with so many emotions and thoughts. Steven and the crew are amazing for doing these episodes and I really wish this never ends, because the lessons learned here are priceless. Thank you Steven and DOAC team❤
I must start by saying that, this is a deep s**t conversation. It shows that we are human beings, no one is perfect and neither is life. Regardless of our status in life, we all share the same emotions, thoughts, feelings and mud. Why not, at the end of the day, we are human beings and we are all vulnerable. Another great conversation, Steven. 💙
I mean this with all my heart, THIS IS THE BEST PODCAST THAT I’VE EVER LISTENED TO. The openness, realness, and logic in the insights has giving me a brand new perspective. THIS WAS HELPFUL AND RELATABLE, THANK YOU❤
Noone is like Simon Sinek - ppl matter to this man! "Life is beautiful not because of the things we see or do. Life is beautiful because of the people we meet.” Simon Sinek💜
Such an authentic conversation.. thank you. I love the idea of asking my friends to just sit in the mud with me, no judgement, no solutions, just being there.
I really felt the part when he said, young people feel they're wasting their time when they take a gap or have a bad boss. It's really challenging for me not to feel I'm achieving remarkable goals, like every day I'm not giving 200% from myself, I feel like a looser.
As a Muslim I grew up learning at school that we as community in mercy and compassion are like a one body,if a brother (not actually related or gender specific) is suffering from something , then your whole community should stand by his/her in time of need.
I've been following Simon for awhile now but this was just so open and incredibly raw. Thank you both for sharing this conversation with us. Truly inspiring. In the utter chaos of the world, these two wonderful men are bringing us back to what is truly important in our lives.
Found this by chance while having a really bad day. Definitely cried my way through the entire video but what a great and insightful conversation. I feel like my entire circle of friends have been struggling with how we can show up for each other that we tend to immediately redirect each other to therapists instead of rly being a supportive presence. definitely will look into this more purposefully. thank you!
Excellent point. It’s the people that make us need therapy. Children need to be reinforced knowing that they themselves are enough, and being your own best friend allows you to befriend others ❤
This CD has three separate relaxation/meditation sessions on it ua-cam.com/users/postUgkxzpa8CIfZcihW4Z0F_ja0QF3W9KIatrsq guided by a very pleasant and direct male voice. Unlike so many other products of its type, this CD does not have bad synthesizer music, does not feature a phony or affected style of narration, and does not make any bogus claims to be subliminal or to re-train the brain or any of that balderdash. What you get is 1. a guided meditation for getting into a pleasantly relaxed state of body awareness while taking a stroll (superb for those easing back into a fitness routine slowly after an illness or injury) 2. A nice long breath-awareness relaxation session that if followed diligently can put you into very deep states of full-body relaxation and mental calmness, and 3. a buddhist-inspired meditation session designed to help you develop and maintain feelings of loving kindness toward not just yourself and your friends, but toward people you don't even like. The CD makes no claims to be designed for advanced meditators or for buddhists or hindus/yoga practitioners looking for very deep and esoteric stuff. It is geared more toward the average person who just wants to develop the habit of relaxation and stress relief through natural, healthy means. him, if you happen to be reading this, keep up the good work fella, and I love your accent. I would also like to note that I have never fallen asleep while listening to this product. I would like to kindly suggest to the reviewer who said this CD makes him fall asleep, that he might want to get checked to see if he has a sleep disorder, or if he is simply not setting aside ample time for restful sleep at night. A healthy person getting adequate rest at night should be able to go into deep states of mental relaxation without dozing off, if not all the time, then most of the time.
We need to open up and communicate our loneliness because it’s a very painful feeling. But we don’t in fear of being judged by others, and that by itself makes us feel lonely.
This feels like someone read my mind. I've watched both of Simon's previous podcasts here and came away thinking, man he struggles to be vulnerable. This must have been huge for him and I hope it served him personally and he didn't just do it to stay popular because his ability to set boundaries is equally powerful. I admire him a ton - vulnerable or not.
Just caught Simon Sinek on Steven Bartlett's podcast, and man, his honesty was a breath of fresh air. Kudos to him for opening up about feeling lonely - it takes real courage to acknowledge those emotions instead of sweeping them under the rug. We feel many of us tend to shy away from the not-so-pleasant feelings, but Simon's willingness to own it and show that it's totally okay to feel that way is truly commendable. It's a reminder that embracing our full range of emotions is all part of being human. 🎙✨ #Honesty #EmbraceYourFeelings
I relate to a lot of Simons philosophy on sitting in mud or dark tunnel but still having that positivity and know there’s light at the end of the tunnel. I relate to the loneliness because of my similar stonewalling behavior. I am direct and stoic but also very sensitive and cry alone. My last relationship ended and i just wish i wasn’t neurodivergent. I didn’t realize i wasn’t showing her how much love and enthusiasm i had internally. I know there’s a lot of benefits to having the type of brain that i have but after so much pain and love lost, i just wish i was somebody else. i feel lost and displaced. i know i’m a genuine good person and all i want is to walk this earth every single day with a heart/mind/body full of love. i’m just constantly stuck. After listening to Simon, I do feel faith in humanity. I realize right now i need to find a life coach or therapist
i just want to say you are not alone, because here I am, with the same exact situation as you, as well as the same mentality. I myself haven't sought out a life coach/therapist yet, but it is one of my next plans. Go for it and I wish that one day we can find a way around this, finding the happiness that we seek
I feel exactly the same. (Like, I even got an ADHD diagnosis at 31). This is the first thing on this topic I've managed to listen to since I finally sank in quicksand due to loneliness. Really resonates with me. Thank you
You should never cry alone?! Dude I cry when I listen to a good song. Crying is like therapy, you let it flow when it needs too. You don't ask the tears to wait while you see if your friend is available. Anyway, each to their own.
He plans when he’s going to cry.. didn’t he say he’s on the autistic spectrum Beware of who you get advice from.. just because he’s got credentials & is on a podcast does not qualify him fo this
You are not alone then. You are with the sound, the beat, lyrics, voice, tone, message and communication with the artist of that good song! Listening to music does not really make you alone. It is the best gift from God. Understand the story of the trumpets in Heaven. It is deep!
It makes me feel if fuzzy inside, proud and relief in humanity masculinity and men as partners when I hear and witness them wholeheartedly sharing about Simon’s service to the world and the reality of his devoted career and relational cost of it !
feeling lonely is top of the list for me too. I find that when you move into the loneliness and sit with it it’s not so intense and lifts slightly. We shouldn’t worry about our vulnerability. Covid has left many off us with less friends and family and the world has been turned absolutely upside down. We are raising our vibration and we are all learning that being HUMAN is key to success and vulnerability is nothing to be scared of but to know that we all feel the same things and we can celebrate that now like never before. Celebrate quietly and know you know it all already and then you have the energy to hold space for others. Im single, a middle aged woman Simon if your ever in London and fancy a date!!’ 😂❤😅😮
#1. If you feel lonely and isolated it is because you do not immerse yourself (like basking in sunlight) in his love morning, noon and night every day of your life. #2. They look for love outside of themselves in all the wrong places instead of turning to the True Authentic Light of the World, Jesus The Christ. #3. God, The Holy Trinity does not isolate you. If you draw close to him, He will be your God and protector. #4. Your life path will always be harder when you don't choose Jesus. It's as simple as that. Not my words but his in the Holy Bible. It's like having a choice between two crosses. One 25 pounds and the other 5O. The larger one looks easier and lighter so most people choose it only to find out how tedious it is and regret it terribly. #5. You will never know Heavenly Peace in your life when things are up or down unless you trust in The Holy Trinity. #6. I can say this because he has been strengthening me while I'm going through a mega storm right now. I have heavenly peace in his love although all hell is breaking loose around me and threatening to drown me. I'm standing on the rock Jesus the Christ. He loves and cherishes me and I'm safe in his arms. Blessed with joy and happiness. Powerful Anointed Prayers Just For You ua-cam.com/video/3orZrYPCJpQ/v-deo.html
Did it?? I don't know anyone dead from it not one person. I've heard of a few people been murdered in hospitals or "care homes"... Strange that 💀 lots of heart attacks as well since that injection.
Honestly - I have never dropped everything i was doing, to listen to a podcast, like i have to this. WOW. I have no words for this, Simon, you are an amazing human.
0:28: 😔 Simon Sinek discusses his shift away from public speaking and his focus on mental fitness. 0:28: Simon is going through ups and downs and is in a period of flux. 5:56: He wants to have a significant impact and affect greater change. 7:04: Simon prefers to call it mental fitness rather than mental health. 8:52: He is allowing himself to feel lonely and embracing negative feelings. 9:17: Simon shares a story about losing his train of thought during a speaking event. 13:44: 💔 Loneliness is feeling misunderstood, not being seen or heard, and struggling to communicate or present oneself. 13:44: Loneliness is a result of wanting to feel included and understood. 14:08: There is a lack of focus on helping others in society. 16:45: We need to develop the skills to help our friends and loved ones with their mental fitness. 16:49: Crying alone should be avoided; reaching out to friends is important. 17:57: We lack the skills to build deep and meaningful relationships. 19:45: ADHD can affect personal relationships and lead to unintentional stonewalling. 20:50: 💔 Loneliness and the need for companionship and empathy in times of struggle. 20:50: Loneliness and struggle are part of being human and should be acknowledged and allowed to be felt. 21:01: Being direct and asking questions can sometimes come across as aggressive, especially in personal relationships. 22:02: Mourning loss and feeling emotions is important, and friends should hold space and offer support. 23:13: Friends who try to offer advice and solutions may not fully understand the need for companionship and empathy in times of struggle. 24:23: Emotions and feelings can coexist and it's normal to experience conflicting emotions. 25:40: Calling a friend and talking about struggles can be helpful, but it's important to communicate the need for companionship rather than solutions. 28:43: Being able to hold space for someone in their struggles is a great honor and a sign of a strong friendship. 29:48: There is no one-size-fits-all plan to get out of the mud of loneliness, but offering companionship and catharsis can be a starting point. 39:46: 💡 Building trust is essential in managing chaos and making decisions in high-pressure situations. 39:46: Trust is built over time through consistent actions and communication. 41:05: Command and control is necessary in chaotic situations, but trust must be established beforehand. 41:23: 🗣 Feedback and self-awareness are crucial in building healthy relationships and improving communication skills. 41:23: Command and control is not effective all the time, but can be useful in certain situations. 42:11: Building skills and tools for healthy relationships is important before facing difficult situations. 43:03: Practicing meditation and mindfulness can help improve listening skills and presence. 45:46: Self-awareness is developed through introspection, accountability, and feedback. 49:43: Having open and honest conversations with exes can provide valuable insights and opportunities for personal growth. 53:13: 😔 The design of the modern world has added a layer of complication to finding and keeping love, and dating apps have made it feel like shopping for partners. 53:13: Love is treated like shopping on dating apps, where people scroll through profiles and make quick judgments. 53:20: Dating apps have made it easier to avoid rejection, but also foster a mentality of always looking for something better. 53:27: The ease of online dating can lead to a Grass Is Always Greener mentality, where people constantly search for someone better. 54:34: Loneliness and sexual frustration can have negative consequences, such as terrorism or mass homicide. 56:38: Dating apps don't provide the same natural progression of attraction and flirting as meeting someone in person. 57:18: Online dating lacks the balance and entertainment value of traditional in-person interactions. 58:24: Maintaining balance is important in all aspects of life, including dating and relationships. 59:56: Loneliness can be a wake-up call to reassess one's behavior and reach out to others.
1:01:34: 💑 Being vulnerable and sharing struggles with your partner can deepen the relationship. 1:01:34: Narcissists are filled with self-loathing despite their bluster and power. 1:01:59: Strengths and weaknesses are contextual, and it is important to work to your strengths in the right context. 1:08:00: Shared struggle releases oxytocin and deepens relationships. 1:08:48: Leadership is about going first and taking the risk to be vulnerable. 1:09:30: Educating your partner on how you would like to be supported during difficult moments is important. 1:11:12: 💑 The key to a great relationship is having intellectual, emotional, and sexual compatibility, along with favorable circumstances. 1:11:12: Having deal breakers is important, but it's crucial to be open-minded and not limit potential partners based on a checklist. 1:11:12: The act of co-creation is important in relationships, where partners understand and accept each other's differences. 1:11:12: Great relationships require intellectual, emotional, and sexual compatibility. 1:12:36: Personal growth and improvement are important qualities to look for in a partner. 1:13:23: Passion and a love for something, regardless of its commercial success, is an attractive quality in a partner. 1:16:05: Circumstances such as timing and location also play a role in relationship success. 1:16:32: Having two out of the three components can still lead to a good relationship, but all three are needed for greatness. 1:17:39: Being honest and vulnerable about one's emotions is essential for emotional compatibility. 1:21:43: 💔 Heartbreak teaches us about the nature of being human and the importance of co-creation in relationships. 1:21:43: Heartbreak teaches us about the nature of being human. 1:23:42: The act of co-creation involves listening, volunteering information, and filling up each other's toolbox. 1:25:19: Being open to feedback and asking for help in relationships is important. 1:25:47: Successful relationships require co-creation and active work. 1:26:38: Service, not sacrifice, is the key to successful relationships. 1:27:47: Denying someone the opportunity to help is denying them the honor of being there for you. 1:28:57: Fixing problems instead of holding space can prevent people from opening up. 1:29:14: Acknowledging past mistakes in holding space can help create a better environment for opening up. 1:29:20: 🌟 Simon measures success by momentum, not by achievement, and feels a sense of meaning and purpose in contributing to a better world. 1:29:20: Simon views his career as an iceberg, with the goal of waking up every morning inspired and fulfilled by the work he does. 1:33:24: He is driven by the momentum he contributes to and is never satisfied with his achievements. 1:33:31: Simon wants to continue working until his time comes, knowing that others will carry on the work he has done. 1:34:06: He believes in leaving the world in better shape than he found it and wants others to continue the work he has started. 1:34:44: Simon finds a sense of meaning in tackling difficult and uncomfortable problems. 1:36:37: He values the gratitude and impact his work has on others, but it doesn't affect his ego. 1:37:30: Simon's work reminds him to keep going and feels like the work he should continue doing. 1:37:49: He shares a story of his experience in Afghanistan, highlighting the importance of staying calm and focused in challenging situations. 1:38:35: 💪 The speaker reflects on their experience in a war zone and realizes that true purpose in life is to serve those who serve others. 1:38:35: The speaker had a surreal experience during an airdrop mission in Afghanistan. 1:39:27: They were initially stuck in the country but eventually found a flight to leave. 1:41:13: Feeling panicked and without a sense of purpose, the speaker decided to volunteer and serve others. 1:42:54: They had a moment of realization about the importance of serving those who serve others. 1:44:29: The speaker and their colleagues were able to board a flight carrying a fallen soldier. 1:46:03: They had an emotional encounter with a wounded Marine and a doctor on the flight. 1:47:09: The doctor expressed that the feeling of working on these missions is more powerful than working in a regular ER. 1:48:01: The speaker shares their insights with military leaders upon returning home. 1:48:38: 💪 Simon reflects on the importance of serving those who serve others and the personal cost that comes with it. 1:48:38: Simon shares his experience of being choked up while telling a story and the difference between the private sector and those who understand service. 1:49:28: Simon emphasizes the importance of serving those who serve others and the unwritten rule of serving someone who serves others. 1:53:45: Simon talks about the personal cost of focusing on the movement and neglecting personal relationships. 1:53:57: Simon expresses his desire for companionship and the opportunity to share his life with someone. 1:54:03: Simon acknowledges his past mistakes in being a servant in relationships and his commitment to improve. 1:55:36: Simon reflects on the worthiness of the cost he paid for the movement and the impact of the work being done. 1:56:53: Simon highlights the importance of having conversations about the human side of success and mental fitness. 1:57:48: Simon explains his focus on mental health and struggles as the underserved foundation of being a successful individual. 1:59:04: 😊 The speaker expresses gratitude and promotes Blue Jeans and WeWork. 1:59:04: Blue Jeans is an online video conferencing tool that offers high-quality meetings and calls. 2:00:08: WeWork provides a sense of community and creativity for entrepreneurs and businesses. Recap by Tammy AI
I would like a community where I’m not told, “you should see a therapist”. I am not stuck, just lonely too. As well as an internal optimist. Wonderful podcast.
[type:] HI REN [take:] 9min20sec for viewing [try:] not being touched by it [do:] a deep dive on Ren; learn his medical history and latest treatment for misdiagnosed Lyme Disease [read:] multiple responses by thousands of people and not one of them is negative or even rude [cry:] inevitable, so let it happen [allow:] yourself to feel a shift on levels both micro +macro [know:] we will never be the same "_____" and then ... [feel:] again; finally!
28 min in and dude makes me cry.. saying there's no greater honor than serving a friend in need. Really deep talk, Great job for opening up on that level❤❤❤
What an incredible episode! Love Simon and his authenticity and vulnerability. I also love how well he can articulate and express himself. So much self awareness on his behalf its beautiful to see! Thank you 🙏
What a true & legit man!!! Being human these days is like a toll to many. Being heard by someone is so important that people have clinics opened so you visit and share your feelings with them and that too be charged for it. Most of the time their prescriptions don't help fix the problems too. But people feel relaxed much by just being heard. Lots of luv Simon for being YOU!
This entire podcast touched me and taught me. When Simon got to the part where he was talking about being on the plane when the flag draped casket was brought aboard had tears running down my face. Thank you for being open, honest and vulnerable with us. 🙏
We are sitting in the mud together. I needed to hear this podcast. Thank you for affirming that is ok to feel lonely. I love being alone but not feeling understood and mourning the past IS a certain type of lonely and being “fixed” by someone else exacerbates that loneliness like no other. Bless you my fellow mud dweller. 🙏💗😊
It feels so validating to have Simon talk about the very things that people try to do to help rather than just sit in the mud with me. Or wishing to be there for my friends hard moments. I'm quite emotional and they fear burdening me with their problems when they have no idea how much being there through it is an HONOR to experience and allows me to feel an intimacy we don't share in the good joyous moments of life.
I watched Simon Sinek....(S.S) about 8 years ago and was totally blown away with his philosophy, I could relate to everything he stated. And now I've found him again and just Love how I've grown nearly exactly as he has. Love you Simon Sinek ❤️
What an incredible conversation. I cried. I watch podcasts all the time everyday and this was so incredibly impactful, sincere, honest and raw and inspiring! Thanks guys I sat in the mud today listening to you both.
#1. If you feel lonely and isolated it is because you do not immerse yourself (like basking in sunlight) in his love morning, noon and night every day of your life. #2. They look for love outside of themselves in all the wrong places instead of turning to the True Authentic Light of the World, Jesus The Christ. #3. God, The Holy Trinity does not isolate you. If you draw close to him, He will be your God and protector. #4. Your life path will always be harder when you don't choose Jesus. It's as simple as that. Not my words but his in the Holy Bible. It's like having a choice between two crosses. One 25 pounds and the other 5O. The larger one looks easier and lighter so most people choose it only to find out how tedious it is and regret it terribly. #5. You will never know Heavenly Peace in your life when things are up or down unless you trust in The Holy Trinity. #6. I can say this because he has been strengthening me while I'm going through a mega storm right now. I have heavenly peace in his love although all hell is breaking loose around me and threatening to drown me. I'm standing on the rock Jesus the Christ. He loves and cherishes me and I'm safe in his arms. Blessed with joy and happiness. Powerful Anointed Prayers Just For You ua-cam.com/video/3orZrYPCJpQ/v-deo.html
So appreciative to you both - Steven for inviting Simon and asking the deeper questions, and Simon for being vulnerable and honest, sharing what works for you - this conversation makes so much sense! When Simon shared about being blunt with asking questions, I suddenly felt not alone in that way of communicating and it made me giggle HA! (also the eyebrow raise when Simon commented maybe he's just full of sugar and fat - LOL!!!) I love the moments of levity in this chat! We're all navigating how to be authentic, and also being kind and aware how others receive, and I love how stories have been shared here that help illustrate the real, the beauty and the mess in being human. Great stuff here. Thank you for sharing this interview 🙂
It seems most people we care about and those who reciprocate.....do try to solve or " fix" the situation, but you are right, we usually just want someone to lean on while we vent......
They should have a dating site or something for all the people like us who are working hard to know themselves and are open to change and growth. The reason most of us try to fix others could be people might not be working on themselves as much as we are or that is what we think, and we try to give them a shortcut by fixing their issues. But well, it doesn't work and now I know why.
I'm astounded with the level of vulnerability you allow your guests to have on your show Steven, truly inspiring. I also really enjoyed the sense of innocence and curiosity you express when talking to them. Really wonderful to watch, and thank you for your work in this podcast, it's so needed. 🙏🏽🙌🏽
And I just want to add this to Simon: you ARE making an impact. You are making a difference. You would be surprised with how many people still have no idea what any of the things you’re talking about. I know the western world and those that are from bigger companies or powerful people are seeking tools etc. but there are people that still have NO idea about a fraction of these things discussed. Edit: If you haven’t thought about it already while I’m sure you already have, why not start a revolution on the “HELP OTHERS”. Teaching others this needed skill.
Such an inspiring interview. Two of my favourite motivational speakers in the same place for the 3rd time. Indeed, in today's day and age, loneliness is like a cancer for Western societies. The more virtually connected we get, the more lonely we become. More needs to be done by the gov/trusted facilities to make us more attached to our communities.
The thing l love the most abt your channel is , we get to see these amazing highly successful people who seem untouchable and get insight into their real lives and then we actually see that we are all human, we suffer the same things and can also achieve great things. Truly inspiring. Thank you for giving us the opportunity to experience this Steve!
That crushed me as I didn't expect to be invited into Simons inner world. Thank you so much to letting us join that conversation which draw me to tears so that I wanted to hug to provide him comfort. you both are truly amazing in the way you talk. keep on
I was lonely in my marriage. I told my partner, and he said he can't help me. I think he could have. By simply spending time with me, asking if I'm okay. I didn't need him to fix me. I just needed him to be present.
This is a completly differnt Simon sink then we have seen on TED or other platforms. This is the most genine converstaion I have ever listened to. While listening, you may feel like you are the part of the conversation. At some points, you may feel sorry for him, sometimes you would be amazed by his thought and at some points, you feel that he is the most lonely person in the world. He says we need to make sure that our life worth living, does the cost worth what we paid for, and say "Go On" when the time is tough instead of "Take Your Time" since this is how the world functions and this what it is! Thank you both!
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Raising money for which charitable cause? Thank you.
Simon you are a good person. You don't have to over explain things. Not saying you are.
I love your intro message "keep it to yourself". Perfect. Diary of a CEO is the most personable interview online
Great conversation😊. Thank you.
We need to deal with bad exploiting employers
In 2017, the night before my surgery for a broken ankle, my husband of 27 years and my best friend in the world, had me listen to Simon Sinek. He had been reading "Leaders Eat Last." We had so many conversations about meaningful work! He had been a pilot in the Marine Corps, was an amazing husband and father, and was inspired by Simon's words. In November 2018 he tragically and suddenly died of an aortic dissection at the age of 51. During the past four years I have been working to be strong and resilient for my children. And now, I feel he is speaking to me through Simon's words, inspiring me to be more vulnerable, to really listen, to just sit in the mud, and hold space... sharing struggles... deepening relationships... thank you both.
#1. If you feel lonely and isolated it is because you do not immerse yourself (like basking in sunlight) in his love morning, noon and night every day of your life.
#2. They look for love outside of themselves in all the wrong places instead of turning to the True Authentic Light of the World, Jesus The Christ.
#3. God, The Holy Trinity does not isolate you. If you draw close to him, He will be your God and protector.
#4. Your life path will always be harder when you don't choose Jesus. It's as simple as that. Not my words but his in the Holy Bible. It's like having a choice between two crosses. One 25 pounds and the other 5O. The larger one looks easier and lighter so most people choose it only to find out how tedious it is and regret it terribly.
#5. You will never know Heavenly Peace in your life when things are up or down unless you trust in The Holy Trinity.
#6. I can say this because he has been strengthening me while I'm going through a mega storm right now. I have heavenly peace in his love although all hell is breaking loose around me and threatening to drown me. I'm standing on the rock Jesus the Christ. He loves and cherishes me and I'm safe in his arms. Blessed with joy and happiness.
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I am Christian and your reply is extremely self-rightious and judgmental. Next time get down from your sel-righteous pedestal and offer comfort and hope. I am convinced that would have been more helpful. 😢😊
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Thank you @@soniaperez2417 for responding with such eloquence and love to the above ❤👌🏼
I’ll be honest, I was rather maddened that someone has taken such a beautiful and vulnerable comment about the positive impact Simon has had on their life, and used it to talk about religion 🤦🏻♂️
I support wholeheartedly those who have faith, but this is unhelpful. So thank you for your wonderfully measured response, I imagine you’re a pretty awesome human being 🙏🏼
Thanks a lot for sharing, it is very helpful, we have tendency to give advice, and you are right it doesn't help, until we are ready to receive it. But what we need in this moment ,just sit in the mud with friends 😊and also very important point, I like,that even we are not in service, our obligations is to care for people, who are ❤
From now on I'll stop trying to fix people and be a better listener.
Such a powerful message.
exactly lol
YES that's great! The fixers tend to interrupt the sharing and get impatient and get angry with you for not adopting what for them seems the simple and obvious solution. I've been in the situation many times where there are key factors hidden to me and them and those were the keys to resolution. It's not a simple fix in any case.
Exactly, I feel like I know better and can fix all their problems and make their lives easier but now I know that is not how it works.
It might suit him ... but not most men
I think we all just want to be 'fixed'
We just want to be happy
We can't figure out how to do it for ourselves, so we project onto others, by trying to fix them.
Empathy for the fixers would be nice too.
No one 's trying to hurt anyone.
Just state your boundaries, say, you don't need help, thank you.
That's what I do.
I am 69 years old and when I was in early 20’s, I experienced loneliness. I read many self help books to understand what I was feeling but still felt lonely. At night the loneliness was unbearable. I put pictures of universe on the ceiling of my bedroom and kept telling telling my self that compare to universe I am smaller than a speck of sand. Then one day I started to talk to my loneliness as if it is a human and ask to be my friend. I accepted and embraced it. As time went on I stopped being lonely. To this day I don’t feel lonely. I guess the loneliness became a part of me.
I’m in my early 20’s and going through exactly what you went through. I guess loneliness doesn’t want to be my friend yet.
@@MdTahsinulIFayed - Getting to know is good…
Gorgeous! Thank you❤
@@MdTahsinulIFayedThank you for your vulnerability, friend. You are not alone. I hear you❤
What a beautiful share...amazing...I remember feeling so distressed and alone. before an exam...my dad got me to go to the garden, look up at the evening sky....and said we are part of all this.....your beautiful example reminded me of this
The Diary of a CEO has become my best friend so far ... The guests and their vulnerability are legendary. You've restored my faith in humanity again. Thank you so much, Steve !
same. I listen to DOAC everytime I work at home.
Same! I just discovered this last week and I feel so blessed to know this exists
Oh, OK time to settle in yourself up ! Lol
Agree. It’s such a powerful show. Not just another podcast. They’re impactful honest conversations.
Same here! I struggle to create meaningful connections with my acquaintances and colleagues, I feel like they're just not that interested. This really helps, it's a surrogate of having those conversations that I'd like to be having
Simon’s authenticity and willingness to be honest about his inefficiencies…
Has given me another level of respect for him. Something we should all admire
..You hit the nail right on the head. So few people are willing to be authentic.
Admire and imitate or adopt
This interview made me so emotional because I am a woman in my 50s with no kids and no partner therefore I get lonely all the time. I won't say that I have a terrible life but sometimes I don't like being lonely. In these times I am so grateful to my siblings who all keep in touch with me. There are so many key takeaways in this conversation. Thanks to Simon and Steven..
I am exactly in your boat...every word! We got this!
@@angonorato1770oh yes we got this. Best regards to you.
That’s exactly me. I’m going 51 in Jan 24 with greying hairline. To make things worst, I work with young co workers and they have partners married or to be married . No one looks up to a single person who earns average wage . Especially so a woman. And when you get angry about some work issue due to some poor response internally, I hear people say ‘Non married woman are angry and behave differently from married ladies.. sigh 😢
That’s exactly my life except my siblings are too busy in their own lives. My fur babies help to some degree.
And I feel just like you do in a similar situation
I’m a therapist and if everyone had a friend like these two men, I would be out of business. Everything discussed is great therapy for self and others. Therapist sit in the mud too! Such a great description! I actually ask my clients if they are wanting to vent or want to fix. Sometimes when I’m in the mud (with my own issues), I pause, then I get up and do something even if it’s wrong, it still feels better.
Thank you for sharing you insight ❤️
What are some examples of things you'd do that would be considered wrong?
But they get paid for sitting in the mud, it's very hard work and can't be expected as a free gift of everyone. It would be a relationship that has a balanced emotional bank account.
Really? I think the paid part is there for just that...$
A stranger a friend a family member a clergy etc sit in the mud w you as I do for them so no you don't sit in the mud w your clients. Unless you mean something else?
@@ishavidaayurveda it’s still not easy to sit in the mud with someone whether you get paid or not. Not everyone can be that person for even someone they love. It does take love to do it.
This interview was solid gold, wrapped in gold, shipped in a gold box, with a gold bow on it. 24K gold interview hands down.
I'm struggling no family, lost my son, husband it's been the worse time in my life. Isolation, 100% I never go out unless it to food shop or doctors appointment. At 69yrs old it's extremely very hard. No friends here we moved and then my husband passed away. My prayers for anyone that reads this may the Lord bless you.🙏❤️
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You keep it going.. even daily walks in the neighborhood seeing other people going about their stuff will help.
God bless you! I hope God sends you a friend you can enjoy your time with and share memories!! Amen!
You can do this. Complete your journey of life with grace. B4 you know it- your journey will be done and you'll be reunited with your Son and Husband. It is a current trend of no friends. So it's not just you. People are so complicated now, be grateful to not be drawn into the drama of life.
Sending you heartfelt love❤and hugs and to keep reaching out just as you did here on you tube. You never know who may become a long distance friend or if you will find that one video that will help lift you up snd onto another trajectory. ❤one small step at a time and keep your heart open even if it feel’s crushed - love always wins.
I always say, "I love you," after every conversation when speaking to someone I feel that for. It's a form of gratitude for the friendship and all received through it. Even friends who felt awkward by that now are so open and return the words from such a sweet place. When I feel alone....I am single and near 60....I ask myself, "Who can i help today?" The feeling of alone begins to fade, and the gratitude of being able to help replaces it.
Beautiful Paula. You clearly have a tender heart.
That's so kind of you Paula. I love you! :)
I love you
That is so beautiful and openly honest. Thank you.
I say this too. My cousins say it's weird. In Asian culture it's faux pas. Lol.
What an honour it was to have Simon come on the podcast and be so open and vulnerable with me, thank you Simon! If you enjoyed this conversation do me a favour and like the video, it helps us understand exactly what type of conversations you enjoy. Thanks! 🙏🏽
I do not live in London. Is there an opportunity to watch event online?
Same, would it be live online?
3:14 I'll ask you Steven, how are you doing? You are PICKING YOUR NAILS, looking at them as you phrase and deliver this question to Simon. Fidgety, distracted. What's up? xx Your viewers happy to hold space with you!
Yey, I love you both!
I would love to watch it live!! 😍🤩❤️
I experienced a very late diagnosis of ADD and ADHD at almost 40 years old. Simon’s comment about “mourning the past” really resonated with me.
Having a really hard time moving myself on. Afraid to stay and hard to go.
@@PeggyShingleton I think we have to learn from the past while enjoying the present
I appreciate you making me aware that there's a distinction between ADD and ADHD, i've seen high level ADHD on days when he didn't take his meds.
But feel my sister and i could have ADD which seems to at least display itself quite differently externally
I was diagnosed around 9 months ago after I finally paid privately to see a psychiatrist at the age of 30 and so much of my life made sense from that diagnosis , and I also feel a sense of sadness in a way that things could have been so different had I understood what I had and had I been on meds sooner
I love this so much. I know what it is like to feel lonely at times. I would sit in the mud with you Simon. One of my favorite quotes is from A.A. Milne. Very profound.
"Today was a Difficult Day," said Pooh.
There was a pause.
"Do you want to talk about it?" asked Piglet.
"No," said Pooh after a bit. "No, I don't think I do."
"That's okay," said Piglet, and he came and sat beside his friend.
"What are you doing?" asked Pooh.
"Nothing, really," said Piglet. "Only, I know what Difficult Days are like. I quite often don't feel like talking about it on my Difficult Days either.
"But goodness," continued Piglet, "Difficult Days are so much easier when you know you've got someone there for you. And I'll always be here for you, Pooh."
And as Pooh sat there, working through in his head his Difficult Day, while the solid, reliable Piglet sat next to him quietly, swinging his little legs…he thought that his best friend had never been more right."
A.A. Milne
I only knew certain parts of this. Thank you for posting more of it. It brought tears to me eyes.
@Sheila Anderson We could all use a little more Pooh & Piglet
Love that.
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I've sat in the mud with so many. But who has ever sat in my mud just for a change?
Sorry, but this is all BS. There's a lot of self important, totally selfish aholes out there and it's nearly all of you.
Signed single white ageing woman, never married no kids because all males are getting boring asian females who cannot even speak english let alone engage in interesting deep and meaningful conversation, because let's face it they actually all just want a servant, and whose name is now a source of prejudice and discrimination.
Money talks.
The only way I will ever get a man and get married is the size of my investments. If i declared that I am worth $10000000, I guarantee not only will i get flooded with dates, they will all arrive early, dressed in a suit with a bunch of very expensive flowers and Dom Perignon, along with a dozen marriage proposals in the first week.
You possess exceptional interviewing skills, as evidenced by the way your guest opened up to you like never before. Your ability to connect with and understand people is truly remarkable.
It's truly heartwarming to listen to two men openly discussing their vulnerabilities. Their courage is truly inspiring. Thank you! 🎉
Dear Simon,
Thank you for helping me realize I’m not broken. I literally relate to 100% of everything you said in this interview.
Conclusion: Surround yourself with people who make you feel heard. Remember that “wait” is not “never”. Lots of things worth waiting for, take time. ❤
Be productive while in waiting. When you get busy with you, your person will show up
....or they might not (show up).
Which is ok.
Don't do anything with the condition or expectation that something is going to happen.
Just do it because you want to.
#1. If you feel lonely and isolated it is because you do not immerse yourself (like basking in sunlight) in his love morning, noon and night every day of your life.
#2. They look for love outside of themselves in all the wrong places instead of turning to the True Authentic Light of the World, Jesus The Christ.
#3. God, The Holy Trinity does not isolate you. If you draw close to him, He will be your God and protector.
#4. Your life path will always be harder when you don't choose Jesus. It's as simple as that. Not my words but his in the Holy Bible. It's like having a choice between two crosses. One 25 pounds and the other 5O. The larger one looks easier and lighter so most people choose it only to find out how tedious it is and regret it terribly.
#5. You will never know Heavenly Peace in your life when things are up or down unless you trust in The Holy Trinity.
#6. I can say this because he has been strengthening me while I'm going through a mega storm right now. I have heavenly peace in his love although all hell is breaking loose around me and threatening to drown me. I'm standing on the rock Jesus the Christ. He loves and cherishes me and I'm safe in his arms. Blessed with joy and happiness.
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It's OK to be broken as long as you don't give up on yourself and remember even the brokenness is not an everlasting state of you.
Only those who have been broken can meaningfully walk with another soul that is about to break or is breaking.
@@nedsantos1415 That, is the sweetest thing I 've ever heard!
This is the most powerful podcast I have listened to ever. It brought me to tears several times. The current greatest frustration in my life is that at the age of 69 and significant physical limitations, I feel I am not of service to anyone.
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I'm disabled.. I feel totally worthless, but moreover invisible. I feel you 😢
Simply by posting this you are of service. So many of us can relate to this feeling and by connecting with us you touch us and remove that sense of loneliness and fear. Sometimes, often, we serve others simply by being ourselves. Thank you for your post ❤❤
I’m 60 and I understand. Your comment made me feel better. Thank you for being open and honest. 💜💫💜
"Serve those who serve others" really resonated with me, such a deep message. How I wish to get friends who feel the same.
find a real tibetan buddhist
Yes you can, teach your friend what and how you would like them to be.
And here in lies the magic of life!
"I'm struggling to communicate or present myself in a way that people will get who I'am". my life, so relatable Simon
I don't think I have had anyone who gets who I really am.
@@Kinsugi what you want to transmit that’s the key. But it all starts with you knowing yourself at all your ages. That’s how you can extract your true essence
Totally relatable
I learned the "sitting in the mud" communication by just doing that with my wife and noticed that every time after this conversations she thanked me and was grateful. That was the moment I truly understood the value of just listening. It was literally a big positive shift in our marriage, when I, on a regular basis, implemented just conversation evenings.
So thanks for this amazing episode.
0:28: 😔 Simon Sinek discusses his shift away from public speaking and his focus on mental fitness.
13:44: 💔 Loneliness is feeling misunderstood, not being seen or heard, and struggling to communicate or present oneself.
20:50: 💔 Loneliness and the need for companionship and empathy in times of struggle.
39:46: 💡 Building trust is essential in managing chaos and making decisions in high-pressure situations.
41:23: 🗣 Feedback and self-awareness are crucial in building healthy relationships and improving communication skills.
53:13: 😔 The design of the modern world has added a layer of complication to finding and keeping love, and dating apps have made it feel like shopping for partners.
1:01:34: 💑 Being vulnerable and sharing struggles with your partner can deepen the relationship.
1:11:12: 💑 The key to a great relationship is having intellectual, emotional, and sexual compatibility, along with favorable circumstances.
1:21:43: 💔 Heartbreak teaches us about the nature of being human and the importance of co-creation in relationships.
1:29:20: 🌟 Simon measures success by momentum, not by achievement, and feels a sense of meaning and purpose in contributing to a better world.
1:38:35: 💪 The speaker reflects on their experience in a war zone and realizes that the true purpose in life is to serve those who serve others.
1:48:38: 💪 Simon reflects on the importance of serving those who serve others and the personal cost that comes with it.
Recap by Tammy AI
Thank you for this ❤
Thanks Tammy AI
Thanks so much for this recap ❤😊
Thank you. What a friend you are. Saved me 2 hours of my life. Sounds like the same things everyone says.
@@tannwich5350The entire podcast is worth a listen. If you believe he’s spewing rhetoric, you mustn’t be paying attention.
I feel so moved with this episode, it seemed to me it wasn't intended to get that far and deep until Simon took the courageous step to open totally and completely. Nobody is fully done with their own personal work, and yet is so inspiring to me, to see role-models of self aware men. The story of finding meaning in the middle of a panic was very powerful. Simon is a deep thinker with a great purpose and a mission. I wish more of those examples in our society.
"We live in a world where most people are not equipped on how to be there for a friend" that hit like a ton of bricks! Sadly, I am finding this out the hard way. My closest friends didn't know my mom was in the last stages of her illness. I didn't feel like reaching out. No one was really asking anyway. When I announced that my mom passed, I was so disappointed in the lack of support from my so-called best friends. A mear text, a message. I am still in shock on how unaware people are. Each person seems to be living in their own bubble. I can't wrap my head around this. Sad to say the least and feeling lonely as ever.
I have had the same and in my experience the worst are those who haven't yet lost a parent yet. A friend lost her mother and then said to me (I had lost my mother 5 years earlier) I'm so sorry I wasn't really there for you, I was so blissfully unaware of what it was like until it happened to me.
I feel you Camille. I no longer have my mom and dad. Aint easy living alone… even my own siblings have no idea how lonely I am
@Gastrolicious Gelayski I am so sorry for your loss. It feels very lonely. A lady told me the other day, "we are no longer who we were after losing a parent," let alone both. I feel an identity crisis of sorts. But I have to pull myself together and reinvent myself somehow. I know my parents would want me to be well. I will pray for you as well. May we find strength.
@A Beautiful Country good insight, maybe them not being able to relate to our loss makes them emotionally unavailable. But still, common sense goes a long way.
That sounds difficult. Are you there for your friends? Is it possible to find new friends
My wise father said that loneliness was the biggest affliction in the world. He was right. Thank you for a spot on podcast.
I love Simon! Showing everyone you can be a powerhouse even with ADHD. Such a great guest.
gosh it seems many of the weathiest entreprenuers in the world actually have ADHD. and so many people look down on them. these people have an extreme ability to focus on what makes them tick and just make money!
No joke. I can connect with him
Omg i didnt know he had adhd. It makes me connect w him even more !!
Yes, amazing!!
Poor little Simon with ADHD :( those kids in Africa are such vain little shits in comparison
The 3+1 philosophy about partnership made me realize alot of why many of my dating experiences have failed to work. And the way he transforms the idea of meditation to train to be a better listener is just amazing. Lots of love to anyone reading this, who takes his time scrolling through the comment section and also to simon and steven for providing the content.
but i like to be lonley ! :))))
Hi @reazl773
Thanks for making time to comment on this.
Do you know where I can get info on what 3+1 is and get detailed info on that?
@@jean300490 01:05:20 if you listen 20 mins from there you will understand it
Get off the internet and start meeting face to face. Maybe it might work better.
I’m 19 years old about to turn 20 and the part where Simon talked about just sticking with something and not worrying about arbitrary numbers really spoke with me
I love him. He’s a genuine person. I would feel lucky to have him as a friend.
I'm not a man of many tears.. but the end story was great. "Serve those who serve others" and "go on; were with you" 🤗
Absolutely love this conversation, listening to two men discussing the human condition is not only heartwarming but enormously reinforcing for those of us that battle loneliness and full understanding and integration of all of our parts.....the power of love and connection with self and others.....🙏
I absolutely love this episode with Simon. I even shed some tears when he was talking about his friend in the army being so vulnerable with him and saying "i love you".
I'm 68 with ADHD and finally just understanding how this has effected all my relationships...and yes, there is a period of mourning that I have been going through that is not easy. Not only are these feelings difficult, explaining these feelings are difficult.
#1. If you feel lonely and isolated it is because you do not immerse yourself (like basking in sunlight) in his love morning, noon and night every day of your life.
#2. They look for love outside of themselves in all the wrong places instead of turning to the True Authentic Light of the World, Jesus The Christ.
#3. God, The Holy Trinity does not isolate you. If you draw close to him, He will be your God and protector.
#4. Your life path will always be harder when you don't choose Jesus. It's as simple as that. Not my words but his in the Holy Bible. It's like having a choice between two crosses. One 25 pounds and the other 5O. The larger one looks easier and lighter so most people choose it only to find out how tedious it is and regret it terribly.
#5. You will never know Heavenly Peace in your life when things are up or down unless you trust in The Holy Trinity.
#6. I can say this because he has been strengthening me while I'm going through a mega storm right now. I have heavenly peace in his love although all hell is breaking loose around me and threatening to drown me. I'm standing on the rock Jesus the Christ. He loves and cherishes me and I'm safe in his arms. Blessed with joy and happiness.
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I'm almost 65 and just realised the exact same thing.
At first it came as a great revelation and liberation until the sense of mourning the wasted opportunities caused by a lifetime of confusion kicked in.
So, maybe I'm being unfair here but, I'm struggling to feel much sympathy for someone who has realised in their 30s when they still have more of their life ahead of them than behind them...
@@sohosteveuk I'm 49 and have nothing to show for it. I feel 38 at the most. I never really understood "reality" and how to navigate it. I wish i chose a different career path that had more opportunity. I am shifting to something much better and with no salary ceiling. I also plan to take my landscape painting father. That seems to be an old person game anyways lol.
My life was ruined by caring too much what other think and limiting myself. What i went through sucked and i can't even talk about it. I mean to a therapist i could and will. I just don't want to die single. I have very few friends. Once somebody moves i lose touch with them. A good friend died recently. I've known my best friend since 4th grade, so that helps. But we don't have that many deep talks.
I do have ADD, not sure about the H part. It never got diagnosed. School was a total shit show. My parents never monitored me as they were dealing with a dying marriage. After school and the Army i just bounced around......then bamm here i am. Meanwhile my bro got a sweet job right after college, then another and now has been at SAS (like Google) for 20 years as a project manager. Easy job, great pay and benefits. He chose a much better career path. I tried to be a graphic designer but it was too demanding for my brain. You create something really cool, then gotta do it again and again and again. Good luck getting past 50K for years.
When i was younger the idea of marriage or a relationship made me feel smothered. I didn't have the income to support it and my mind was always daydreaming or moving onto the next thing. It really sucks. I will finally seek help soon. I've suffered enough but then i'm so used to that, that it seems like that is just how my life is. Meanwhile others just go through life like a hot knife going through butter.
@@infowazz as a person on this planet you aren't required to be something impressive or do a ton of things to show yourself as being successful. You live your life, do things you like, connect with people, work, relax and be human that's not failure.
I have been answering that question, as well as "are you okay?", with a no, nope, a side to side head shake. Everyone walks away. Leaves me ALONE! YAY!
What an overdue & emotionally supportive dialogue. Simon is a breath of fresh air! We all need this immensely!Thank you so so much Simon.
Life changing conversation. So raw and full of another level wisdom. I believe everyone of us who has watched/listened this episode will be a better human going forward. Saying million "thank you" does not show even a fracture of my gratitude to both of these men ❤
Steven, you are amazingly skilled in creating space for guests to be truly authentic. I love your interviewing abilities and the guests that you attract. Thank you for what you do !❤
"There's no greater honour than being able to serve a friend in need." I had a close friend who needed me to just sit in the mud with her yesterday, and I went into full fixer mode.I see that I should've dialed it down a bit. I know better now. Thank you for the great conversation, as always. 🙏❤
Finally shared with friend recently and family member last year that I've had such feelings of loneliness. Family said nothing and friend told me all the reasons I shouldn't feel lonely. It helps to know that it's not that they don't care but that they don't have the skills to sit with me as a lonely person...
And opening up and making yourself vulnerable by sharing how you REALLY feel can be tough. Well done for being real. I'm sorry they reacted like that, it can hurt. I'm so glad you've seen that it's not that they don't care. I remember a few years ago, sharing with my Mum how lonely I felt...she told me to go for a run! She has Aspergers...
This is a really powerful message. I lost my sibling to suicide and I could see he was struggling but did not know how to show up for him in the ways I wish I could have. I really feel that this valuable skill could have saved him.
I watched this 4x. I have all Simon's books. I love him more now that I see this vulnerable part of him. It resonated with me. It is very difficult for me to find love as it seems there is no one I am compatible with. I understand the struggles of loneliness. Thank you for this wonderful journey.
This is exactly how I feel!
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What a powerfully real and honest discussion, vulnerable, human to the core. Serving those who serve others ❤️
This is a great podcast as are many on this channel. Often sitting in the mud IS the solution. Being heard can be an incredible antidote to loneliness.
This is SO RELEVANT and not addressed in a deep and meaningful way nearly as much as it should be. To truly sit in the mud with another person is one of the most beautiful and heart expanding moments available in this human experience. Thank you for this 🙏❤️
Dear Simon,
This might sound hyperbolic and somewhat dramatic, but it isn’t. This was the most authentic conversation I’ve ever heard. What you said about ‘sitting in the mud’, about listening and NOT trying to ‘fix’ things, about practising meditation to empower ourselves to listen respectfully has brought about a paradigm shift in my understanding of close relationships. I couldn’t hold back my tears. It was truly cathartic. I know now what I’ve been doing wrong. Clearly, empathy works like nothing else does. Truly truly grateful for all those insights…for being brave enough to be vulnerable. My prayers for you to find happiness in your personal space.
Much love and regards come your way…
P.S. Thanks Steve for enabling that engaging conversation. You bring out the real person you talk to, each time.
This is one of the powerful conversations I’ve ever listened to! I hope Simon finds a loving relationship with the right woman one day! Many blessings for using your heart and mind to the work you do for people! ❤️
I love this and am reminded of when I was a teenager, and went through a series of bereavements, I wrote the words "Flowers never grow if they just have sun, they need the rain too". I forgot those words for many, may years and am grateful that you've had Simon on the show to remind me.
Sounds amazing what you wrote❤
Beautifully spoken about the flower.
This is arguably the best conversation yet. The deep vulnerability and relatability on so many levels and topics is unmatched. Thank you for allowing us to partake. We are all better for it.
I have listened to this more than once. I cry every time. Such a wonderful message. Walking alongside and holding space, even sitting in the mud,, truly amazing ❤ I celebrate your tenacity
This Podcast has been the best birthday gift I received in my 47 years on this earth. You guys made me cry, you made me laugh, make me think about why I still do not trust men after my divorce.
I have built a wall around me and I have my own mudhole, but know I can start working on myself so that I'm not so alone..
All the best for you from South Africa.
Hope u enjoy every day🎉
Happy post birthday - this podcast resonated with me as well.
@@robertpaulson6388 - oh yes, it was the right place and time for me...
This is one of the most moving and influential episodes of any podcast I’ve had the privilege of hearing and sharing. Especially the last part about his experience with the military. Thank you.
I have my problems with the military. I don't believe in force and violence. I am from Europe and we have a very different relationship with the military, I guess. I found it somewhat disturbing here. However, I especially like the first part very much though. And respect what he experienced in Afghanistan.
Any else see the BIG problem with this talk? His methods rely largely on FRIENDS... A LOT of people who are alone have NO FRIENDS.
It also focus on getting people feel your why and this also great of making comnections and selfreflection.
Yep. Don’t have a soul to call. Doesn’t mean it’ll stay that way forever, though. I have chronic limiting pain so I have to stay home. Maybe it’ll change one day.
That’s not a problem with this this talk. That is a problem for you. You need to establish friend relationships in this world. It’s is a FUNDAMENTAL requirement of the human condition along with food, water, sunlight. Companionship.
Agreed 😢
Yes. Probably Many of them don't know how to be one yet . Bless you.
I listened to this during work and there were a few times when I felt like crying. Steven was born to do this. The more guests he interviews, the more aware he becomes of himself and his thoughts and better questions to ask. What is really meaningful in life. Not to have all the money in the world, but to have enough to help yourself and others while serving those in need.
I started listening to Steven in 2020. I had moved to the UK just a few months before that and I was soaking up all his knowledge through the podcast. I love the book, bought the journal too and literally can't wait to go on a live show.
This has to be my favourite episode. At the end I felt like nothing can surpass this. It's like when you finish reading a good book and you don't know what to do next because it left you speechless. Well, this conversation has left me with so many emotions and thoughts. Steven and the crew are amazing for doing these episodes and I really wish this never ends, because the lessons learned here are priceless. Thank you Steven and DOAC team❤
I must start by saying that, this is a deep s**t conversation. It shows that we are human beings, no one is perfect and neither is life. Regardless of our status in life, we all share the same emotions, thoughts, feelings and mud. Why not, at the end of the day, we are human beings and we are all vulnerable. Another great conversation, Steven. 💙
I mean this with all my heart, THIS IS THE BEST PODCAST THAT I’VE EVER LISTENED TO. The openness, realness, and logic in the insights has giving me a brand new perspective. THIS WAS HELPFUL AND RELATABLE, THANK YOU❤
This guy is so inspirational , so emotionally strong. What a man 💪🏻
Noone is like Simon Sinek - ppl matter to this man! "Life is beautiful not because of the things we see or do. Life is beautiful because of the people we meet.” Simon Sinek💜
11 minutes in and I am fighting tears and don’t know why. I really felt that. ❤
Same!
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Such an authentic conversation.. thank you. I love the idea of asking my friends to just sit in the mud with me, no judgement, no solutions, just being there.
It's amazing that a man with so much success and impact has the exact same problems as the rest of us. Great podcast.
I really felt the part when he said, young people feel they're wasting their time when they take a gap or have a bad boss. It's really challenging for me not to feel I'm achieving remarkable goals, like every day I'm not giving 200% from myself, I feel like a looser.
As a Muslim I grew up learning at school that we as community in mercy and compassion are like a one body,if a brother (not actually related or gender specific) is suffering from something , then your whole community should stand by his/her in time of need.
I've been following Simon for awhile now but this was just so open and incredibly raw. Thank you both for sharing this conversation with us. Truly inspiring. In the utter chaos of the world, these two wonderful men are bringing us back to what is truly important in our lives.
One of my favorite sayings I've heard- "If you cannot see the light, I will sit with you in the dark".❤
Found this by chance while having a really bad day. Definitely cried my way through the entire video but what a great and insightful conversation. I feel like my entire circle of friends have been struggling with how we can show up for each other that we tend to immediately redirect each other to therapists instead of rly being a supportive presence. definitely will look into this more purposefully. thank you!
Excellent point. It’s the people that make us need therapy. Children need to be reinforced knowing that they themselves are enough, and being your own best friend allows you to befriend others ❤
This episode made me feel less alone, knowing that someone like Simon exists, with similar values to my own and with an army feeling the same way❤
Absolutely MAGNIFICENT! Simon has an incredible way of putting feelings into words and painting a picture! Thank you for the gift of this talk!
This CD has three separate relaxation/meditation sessions on it ua-cam.com/users/postUgkxzpa8CIfZcihW4Z0F_ja0QF3W9KIatrsq guided by a very pleasant and direct male voice. Unlike so many other products of its type, this CD does not have bad synthesizer music, does not feature a phony or affected style of narration, and does not make any bogus claims to be subliminal or to re-train the brain or any of that balderdash. What you get is 1. a guided meditation for getting into a pleasantly relaxed state of body awareness while taking a stroll (superb for those easing back into a fitness routine slowly after an illness or injury) 2. A nice long breath-awareness relaxation session that if followed diligently can put you into very deep states of full-body relaxation and mental calmness, and 3. a buddhist-inspired meditation session designed to help you develop and maintain feelings of loving kindness toward not just yourself and your friends, but toward people you don't even like. The CD makes no claims to be designed for advanced meditators or for buddhists or hindus/yoga practitioners looking for very deep and esoteric stuff. It is geared more toward the average person who just wants to develop the habit of relaxation and stress relief through natural, healthy means. him, if you happen to be reading this, keep up the good work fella, and I love your accent. I would also like to note that I have never fallen asleep while listening to this product. I would like to kindly suggest to the reviewer who said this CD makes him fall asleep, that he might want to get checked to see if he has a sleep disorder, or if he is simply not setting aside ample time for restful sleep at night. A healthy person getting adequate rest at night should be able to go into deep states of mental relaxation without dozing off, if not all the time, then most of the time.
We need to open up and communicate our loneliness because it’s a very painful feeling. But we don’t in fear of being judged by others, and that by itself makes us feel lonely.
This feels like someone read my mind. I've watched both of Simon's previous podcasts here and came away thinking, man he struggles to be vulnerable. This must have been huge for him and I hope it served him personally and he didn't just do it to stay popular because his ability to set boundaries is equally powerful. I admire him a ton - vulnerable or not.
Just caught Simon Sinek on Steven Bartlett's podcast, and man, his honesty was a breath of fresh air. Kudos to him for opening up about feeling lonely - it takes real courage to acknowledge those emotions instead of sweeping them under the rug. We feel many of us tend to shy away from the not-so-pleasant feelings, but Simon's willingness to own it and show that it's totally okay to feel that way is truly commendable. It's a reminder that embracing our full range of emotions is all part of being human. 🎙✨ #Honesty #EmbraceYourFeelings
What a man, a leader, humble. Just adore him.
I relate to a lot of Simons philosophy on sitting in mud or dark tunnel but still having that positivity and know there’s light at the end of the tunnel. I relate to the loneliness because of my similar stonewalling behavior. I am direct and stoic but also very sensitive and cry alone. My last relationship ended and i just wish i wasn’t neurodivergent. I didn’t realize i wasn’t showing her how much love and enthusiasm i had internally. I know there’s a lot of benefits to having the type of brain that i have but after so much pain and love lost, i just wish i was somebody else. i feel lost and displaced. i know i’m a genuine good person and all i want is to walk this earth every single day with a heart/mind/body full of love. i’m just constantly stuck.
After listening to Simon, I do feel faith in humanity. I realize right now i need to find a life coach or therapist
I think he’s ND as well. I’m NT and hyper-emotional which isn’t fun or the answer either.
Hello, is there a test we can take to find out ?
i just want to say you are not alone, because here I am, with the same exact situation as you, as well as the same mentality. I myself haven't sought out a life coach/therapist yet, but it is one of my next plans. Go for it and I wish that one day we can find a way around this, finding the happiness that we seek
I feel exactly the same. (Like, I even got an ADHD diagnosis at 31). This is the first thing on this topic I've managed to listen to since I finally sank in quicksand due to loneliness. Really resonates with me. Thank you
You should never cry alone?! Dude I cry when I listen to a good song. Crying is like therapy, you let it flow when it needs too. You don't ask the tears to wait while you see if your friend is available. Anyway, each to their own.
He plans when he’s going to cry.. didn’t he say he’s on the autistic spectrum
Beware of who you get advice from.. just because he’s got credentials & is on a podcast does not qualify him fo this
You are not alone then. You are with the sound, the beat, lyrics, voice, tone, message and communication with the artist of that good song! Listening to music does not really make you alone. It is the best gift from God. Understand the story of the trumpets in Heaven. It is deep!
The point is that when you feel bad, you should/could call a friend. It's not only about the tears.
if missing the point was a person… 🙄
@@goodtrouble841 apparently many agree. And thankfully to the comment section I understand the point better.
It makes me feel if fuzzy inside, proud and relief in humanity masculinity and men as partners when I hear and witness them wholeheartedly sharing about Simon’s service to the world and the reality of his devoted career and relational cost of it !
Very few people understand that it’s an honour when someone trusts you and shares their feelings. Thank you Simon
feeling lonely is top of the list for me too. I find that when you move into the loneliness and sit with it it’s not so intense and lifts slightly. We shouldn’t worry about our vulnerability. Covid has left many off us with less friends and family and the world has been turned absolutely upside down. We are raising our vibration and we are all learning that being HUMAN is key to success and vulnerability is nothing to be scared of but to know that we all feel the same things and we can celebrate that now like never before. Celebrate quietly and know you know it all already and then you have the energy to hold space for others. Im single, a middle aged woman Simon if your ever in London and fancy a date!!’ 😂❤😅😮
Tkank you.
#1. If you feel lonely and isolated it is because you do not immerse yourself (like basking in sunlight) in his love morning, noon and night every day of your life.
#2. They look for love outside of themselves in all the wrong places instead of turning to the True Authentic Light of the World, Jesus The Christ.
#3. God, The Holy Trinity does not isolate you. If you draw close to him, He will be your God and protector.
#4. Your life path will always be harder when you don't choose Jesus. It's as simple as that. Not my words but his in the Holy Bible. It's like having a choice between two crosses. One 25 pounds and the other 5O. The larger one looks easier and lighter so most people choose it only to find out how tedious it is and regret it terribly.
#5. You will never know Heavenly Peace in your life when things are up or down unless you trust in The Holy Trinity.
#6. I can say this because he has been strengthening me while I'm going through a mega storm right now. I have heavenly peace in his love although all hell is breaking loose around me and threatening to drown me. I'm standing on the rock Jesus the Christ. He loves and cherishes me and I'm safe in his arms. Blessed with joy and happiness.
Powerful Anointed Prayers Just For You
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Did it?? I don't know anyone dead from it not one person. I've heard of a few people been murdered in hospitals or "care homes"... Strange that 💀 lots of heart attacks as well since that injection.
@@newhorizonsintuitiveguidance Yea okay. You still need people it's the way we were designed.
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Honestly - I have never dropped everything i was doing, to listen to a podcast, like i have to this. WOW. I have no words for this, Simon, you are an amazing human.
0:28: 😔 Simon Sinek discusses his shift away from public speaking and his focus on mental fitness.
0:28: Simon is going through ups and downs and is in a period of flux.
5:56: He wants to have a significant impact and affect greater change.
7:04: Simon prefers to call it mental fitness rather than mental health.
8:52: He is allowing himself to feel lonely and embracing negative feelings.
9:17: Simon shares a story about losing his train of thought during a speaking event.
13:44: 💔 Loneliness is feeling misunderstood, not being seen or heard, and struggling to communicate or present oneself.
13:44: Loneliness is a result of wanting to feel included and understood.
14:08: There is a lack of focus on helping others in society.
16:45: We need to develop the skills to help our friends and loved ones with their mental fitness.
16:49: Crying alone should be avoided; reaching out to friends is important.
17:57: We lack the skills to build deep and meaningful relationships.
19:45: ADHD can affect personal relationships and lead to unintentional stonewalling.
20:50: 💔 Loneliness and the need for companionship and empathy in times of struggle.
20:50: Loneliness and struggle are part of being human and should be acknowledged and allowed to be felt.
21:01: Being direct and asking questions can sometimes come across as aggressive, especially in personal relationships.
22:02: Mourning loss and feeling emotions is important, and friends should hold space and offer support.
23:13: Friends who try to offer advice and solutions may not fully understand the need for companionship and empathy in times of struggle.
24:23: Emotions and feelings can coexist and it's normal to experience conflicting emotions.
25:40: Calling a friend and talking about struggles can be helpful, but it's important to communicate the need for companionship rather than solutions.
28:43: Being able to hold space for someone in their struggles is a great honor and a sign of a strong friendship.
29:48: There is no one-size-fits-all plan to get out of the mud of loneliness, but offering companionship and catharsis can be a starting point.
39:46: 💡 Building trust is essential in managing chaos and making decisions in high-pressure situations.
39:46: Trust is built over time through consistent actions and communication.
41:05: Command and control is necessary in chaotic situations, but trust must be established beforehand.
41:23: 🗣 Feedback and self-awareness are crucial in building healthy relationships and improving communication skills.
41:23: Command and control is not effective all the time, but can be useful in certain situations.
42:11: Building skills and tools for healthy relationships is important before facing difficult situations.
43:03: Practicing meditation and mindfulness can help improve listening skills and presence.
45:46: Self-awareness is developed through introspection, accountability, and feedback.
49:43: Having open and honest conversations with exes can provide valuable insights and opportunities for personal growth.
53:13: 😔 The design of the modern world has added a layer of complication to finding and keeping love, and dating apps have made it feel like shopping for partners.
53:13: Love is treated like shopping on dating apps, where people scroll through profiles and make quick judgments.
53:20: Dating apps have made it easier to avoid rejection, but also foster a mentality of always looking for something better.
53:27: The ease of online dating can lead to a Grass Is Always Greener mentality, where people constantly search for someone better.
54:34: Loneliness and sexual frustration can have negative consequences, such as terrorism or mass homicide.
56:38: Dating apps don't provide the same natural progression of attraction and flirting as meeting someone in person.
57:18: Online dating lacks the balance and entertainment value of traditional in-person interactions.
58:24: Maintaining balance is important in all aspects of life, including dating and relationships.
59:56: Loneliness can be a wake-up call to reassess one's behavior and reach out to others.
1:01:34: 💑 Being vulnerable and sharing struggles with your partner can deepen the relationship.
1:01:34: Narcissists are filled with self-loathing despite their bluster and power.
1:01:59: Strengths and weaknesses are contextual, and it is important to work to your strengths in the right context.
1:08:00: Shared struggle releases oxytocin and deepens relationships.
1:08:48: Leadership is about going first and taking the risk to be vulnerable.
1:09:30: Educating your partner on how you would like to be supported during difficult moments is important.
1:11:12: 💑 The key to a great relationship is having intellectual, emotional, and sexual compatibility, along with favorable circumstances.
1:11:12: Having deal breakers is important, but it's crucial to be open-minded and not limit potential partners based on a checklist.
1:11:12: The act of co-creation is important in relationships, where partners understand and accept each other's differences.
1:11:12: Great relationships require intellectual, emotional, and sexual compatibility.
1:12:36: Personal growth and improvement are important qualities to look for in a partner.
1:13:23: Passion and a love for something, regardless of its commercial success, is an attractive quality in a partner.
1:16:05: Circumstances such as timing and location also play a role in relationship success.
1:16:32: Having two out of the three components can still lead to a good relationship, but all three are needed for greatness.
1:17:39: Being honest and vulnerable about one's emotions is essential for emotional compatibility.
1:21:43: 💔 Heartbreak teaches us about the nature of being human and the importance of co-creation in relationships.
1:21:43: Heartbreak teaches us about the nature of being human.
1:23:42: The act of co-creation involves listening, volunteering information, and filling up each other's toolbox.
1:25:19: Being open to feedback and asking for help in relationships is important.
1:25:47: Successful relationships require co-creation and active work.
1:26:38: Service, not sacrifice, is the key to successful relationships.
1:27:47: Denying someone the opportunity to help is denying them the honor of being there for you.
1:28:57: Fixing problems instead of holding space can prevent people from opening up.
1:29:14: Acknowledging past mistakes in holding space can help create a better environment for opening up.
1:29:20: 🌟 Simon measures success by momentum, not by achievement, and feels a sense of meaning and purpose in contributing to a better world.
1:29:20: Simon views his career as an iceberg, with the goal of waking up every morning inspired and fulfilled by the work he does.
1:33:24: He is driven by the momentum he contributes to and is never satisfied with his achievements.
1:33:31: Simon wants to continue working until his time comes, knowing that others will carry on the work he has done.
1:34:06: He believes in leaving the world in better shape than he found it and wants others to continue the work he has started.
1:34:44: Simon finds a sense of meaning in tackling difficult and uncomfortable problems.
1:36:37: He values the gratitude and impact his work has on others, but it doesn't affect his ego.
1:37:30: Simon's work reminds him to keep going and feels like the work he should continue doing.
1:37:49: He shares a story of his experience in Afghanistan, highlighting the importance of staying calm and focused in challenging situations.
1:38:35: 💪 The speaker reflects on their experience in a war zone and realizes that true purpose in life is to serve those who serve others.
1:38:35: The speaker had a surreal experience during an airdrop mission in Afghanistan.
1:39:27: They were initially stuck in the country but eventually found a flight to leave.
1:41:13: Feeling panicked and without a sense of purpose, the speaker decided to volunteer and serve others.
1:42:54: They had a moment of realization about the importance of serving those who serve others.
1:44:29: The speaker and their colleagues were able to board a flight carrying a fallen soldier.
1:46:03: They had an emotional encounter with a wounded Marine and a doctor on the flight.
1:47:09: The doctor expressed that the feeling of working on these missions is more powerful than working in a regular ER.
1:48:01: The speaker shares their insights with military leaders upon returning home.
1:48:38: 💪 Simon reflects on the importance of serving those who serve others and the personal cost that comes with it.
1:48:38: Simon shares his experience of being choked up while telling a story and the difference between the private sector and those who understand service.
1:49:28: Simon emphasizes the importance of serving those who serve others and the unwritten rule of serving someone who serves others.
1:53:45: Simon talks about the personal cost of focusing on the movement and neglecting personal relationships.
1:53:57: Simon expresses his desire for companionship and the opportunity to share his life with someone.
1:54:03: Simon acknowledges his past mistakes in being a servant in relationships and his commitment to improve.
1:55:36: Simon reflects on the worthiness of the cost he paid for the movement and the impact of the work being done.
1:56:53: Simon highlights the importance of having conversations about the human side of success and mental fitness.
1:57:48: Simon explains his focus on mental health and struggles as the underserved foundation of being a successful individual.
1:59:04: 😊 The speaker expresses gratitude and promotes Blue Jeans and WeWork.
1:59:04: Blue Jeans is an online video conferencing tool that offers high-quality meetings and calls.
2:00:08: WeWork provides a sense of community and creativity for entrepreneurs and businesses.
Recap by Tammy AI
I didn't expect this conversation to be this enriching, real and vulnerable. It's making me cry and smile at the same time. 💖
I would like a community where I’m not told, “you should see a therapist”. I am not stuck, just lonely too. As well as an internal optimist. Wonderful podcast.
[type:] HI REN [take:] 9min20sec for viewing [try:] not being touched by it [do:] a deep dive on Ren; learn his medical history and latest treatment for misdiagnosed Lyme Disease [read:] multiple responses by thousands of people and not one of them is negative or even rude [cry:] inevitable, so let it happen [allow:] yourself to feel a shift on levels both micro +macro [know:] we will never be the same "_____" and then ...
[feel:] again; finally!
28 min in and dude makes me cry.. saying there's no greater honor than serving a friend in need. Really deep talk, Great job for opening up on that level❤❤❤
What an incredible episode! Love Simon and his authenticity and vulnerability. I also love how well he can articulate and express himself. So much self awareness on his behalf its beautiful to see! Thank you 🙏
What a true & legit man!!! Being human these days is like a toll to many. Being heard by someone is so important that people have clinics opened so you visit and share your feelings with them and that too be charged for it. Most of the time their prescriptions don't help fix the problems too. But people feel relaxed much by just being heard. Lots of luv Simon for being YOU!
This entire podcast touched me and taught me. When Simon got to the part where he was talking about being on the plane when the flag draped casket was brought aboard had tears running down my face. Thank you for being open, honest and vulnerable with us. 🙏
We are sitting in the mud together. I needed to hear this podcast. Thank you for affirming that is ok to feel lonely. I love being alone but not feeling understood and mourning the past IS a certain type of lonely and being “fixed” by someone else exacerbates that loneliness like no other. Bless you my fellow mud dweller. 🙏💗😊
It feels so validating to have Simon talk about the very things that people try to do to help rather than just sit in the mud with me. Or wishing to be there for my friends hard moments. I'm quite emotional and they fear burdening me with their problems when they have no idea how much being there through it is an HONOR to experience and allows me to feel an intimacy we don't share in the good joyous moments of life.
I watched Simon Sinek....(S.S) about 8 years ago and was totally blown away with his philosophy, I could relate to everything he stated.
And now I've found him again and just Love how I've grown nearly exactly as he has.
Love you Simon Sinek ❤️
What an incredible conversation. I cried. I watch podcasts all the time everyday and this was so incredibly impactful, sincere, honest and raw and inspiring! Thanks guys I sat in the mud today listening to you both.
#1. If you feel lonely and isolated it is because you do not immerse yourself (like basking in sunlight) in his love morning, noon and night every day of your life.
#2. They look for love outside of themselves in all the wrong places instead of turning to the True Authentic Light of the World, Jesus The Christ.
#3. God, The Holy Trinity does not isolate you. If you draw close to him, He will be your God and protector.
#4. Your life path will always be harder when you don't choose Jesus. It's as simple as that. Not my words but his in the Holy Bible. It's like having a choice between two crosses. One 25 pounds and the other 5O. The larger one looks easier and lighter so most people choose it only to find out how tedious it is and regret it terribly.
#5. You will never know Heavenly Peace in your life when things are up or down unless you trust in The Holy Trinity.
#6. I can say this because he has been strengthening me while I'm going through a mega storm right now. I have heavenly peace in his love although all hell is breaking loose around me and threatening to drown me. I'm standing on the rock Jesus the Christ. He loves and cherishes me and I'm safe in his arms. Blessed with joy and happiness.
Powerful Anointed Prayers Just For You
ua-cam.com/video/3orZrYPCJpQ/v-deo.html
So appreciative to you both - Steven for inviting Simon and asking the deeper questions, and Simon for being vulnerable and honest, sharing what works for you - this conversation makes so much sense! When Simon shared about being blunt with asking questions, I suddenly felt not alone in that way of communicating and it made me giggle HA! (also the eyebrow raise when Simon commented maybe he's just full of sugar and fat - LOL!!!) I love the moments of levity in this chat! We're all navigating how to be authentic, and also being kind and aware how others receive, and I love how stories have been shared here that help illustrate the real, the beauty and the mess in being human. Great stuff here. Thank you for sharing this interview 🙂
It seems most people we care about and those who reciprocate.....do try to solve or " fix" the situation, but you are right, we usually just want someone to lean on while we vent......
They should have a dating site or something for all the people like us who are working hard to know themselves and are open to change and growth. The reason most of us try to fix others could be people might not be working on themselves as much as we are or that is what we think, and we try to give them a shortcut by fixing their issues. But well, it doesn't work and now I know why.
@@vishalkhatri6723 agree!!
I'm astounded with the level of vulnerability you allow your guests to have on your show Steven, truly inspiring. I also really enjoyed the sense of innocence and curiosity you express when talking to them. Really wonderful to watch, and thank you for your work in this podcast, it's so needed. 🙏🏽🙌🏽
We are not loneliness. It is an emotion that is witnessed and passing by like a cloud in the sky.
He's an inspiration. So many people judge you when you're not 100%
And I just want to add this to Simon: you ARE making an impact. You are making a difference. You would be surprised with how many people still have no idea what any of the things you’re talking about. I know the western world and those that are from bigger companies or powerful people are seeking tools etc. but there are people that still have NO idea about a fraction of these things discussed.
Edit: If you haven’t thought about it already while I’m sure you already have, why not start a revolution on the “HELP OTHERS”. Teaching others this needed skill.
Such an inspiring interview. Two of my favourite motivational speakers in the same place for the 3rd time. Indeed, in today's day and age, loneliness is like a cancer for Western societies. The more virtually connected we get, the more lonely we become. More needs to be done by the gov/trusted facilities to make us more attached to our communities.
Wish there were more people like Simon in this world.
The thing l love the most abt your channel is , we get to see these amazing highly successful people who seem untouchable and get insight into their real lives and then we actually see that we are all human, we suffer the same things and can also achieve great things. Truly inspiring. Thank you for giving us the opportunity to experience this Steve!
That crushed me as I didn't expect to be invited into Simons inner world. Thank you so much to letting us join that conversation which draw me to tears so that I wanted to hug to provide him comfort. you both are truly amazing in the way you talk. keep on
I was lonely in my marriage. I told my partner, and he said he can't help me. I think he could have. By simply spending time with me, asking if I'm okay. I didn't need him to fix me. I just needed him to be present.
This is a completly differnt Simon sink then we have seen on TED or other platforms. This is the most genine converstaion I have ever listened to.
While listening, you may feel like you are the part of the conversation. At some points, you may feel sorry for him, sometimes you would be amazed by his thought and at some points, you feel that he is the most lonely person in the world.
He says we need to make sure that our life worth living, does the cost worth what we paid for, and say "Go On" when the time is tough instead of "Take Your Time" since this is how the world functions and this what it is!
Thank you both!