I’m continually shamed as my body type is slim/athletic - I will get comments like I look stressed, l’m too thin, they’re ‘real black woman’ 😂 when in reality they are obese and unfit with a plethora of health issues and have the audacity to shame me!
I just laugh when someone tries these humbling tactics on me. Cause clearly you noticed me enough to THINK you could bully me and comment on my body or looks.
1. Comparing you to other women and pretending these other women have a privilege over you. 2. Flirting with or "bigging up" celebs and women that look like you, but not complimenting you specifically. 3. Instead of saying that you're pretty, they'll be like "You look like my cousin's sister's neighbor's baby-momma." 4. Pointing out small flaws in your makeup/hair/clothes/body shape. 5. Getting you pregnant. 6. Marriage and relationship trapping (for various reasons). 7. People being mean to you for no reason. 8. Calling out when you're wearing lashes/weaves/nails/anything that draws attention to you.
Lots of pretty women are there being humble already minding their own business and someone jealous comes along feeling the need to bully them...some people are so crazy...
@@ExoticalsUnitedyea I recently found out that a guy from the hood where I grew up who had a crush for years, started making up that he had 6 kids with me. Freakin 6! We used to talk to each other and even made out from time time (teenagers), but to find this out all these years later and thousands of miles of distance between us and it’s like 🤮. Had my mother dispel the rumors for me lol. The nerve! My husband was not amused 😆. Funny thing is he was another MLS man, but mixed white and Latino.
This is a much needed video for teens and young adults imo. A lot of us who are 25+ have been through this in a time before your level of realness was easily accessible EU. It hurts when you are around people and they claim to care but seem to want to hurt you based on things you cannot control (meaning any of the features you were born with). And don’t even get me started on the baby trapping… it’s insidious and scary.
@@Sunshine_Hime I am happy for that! I want more younger ppl to see and understand that nothing is wrong with them, it’s a hate filled echo chamber. Keep growing and glowing princess!
Omg absolutely! I would always gaslight myself like “I know I’m not the prettiest girl in the work but….” especially living in SF I experienced this to a whole other level. The ONLY reason why I was able to make friends is because I had to really “humble myself” and I was in a committed relationship. So there was no competition for men because I wasn’t even playing. When I was fasting for Ramadan every women who knew would comment on how skinny I was and how God wouldn’t want me to suffer like that! Mind you these women didn’t even have a relationship with a higher power. bla bla bla! 🤡
Omg...I remember being at an event...I looked amazing...my dress...my energy...my smile was giving everything! It was an amazing night. A friend came up to me and said.. "what happened to your nose"? Really???? I had a small mark on my nose that I had to cover..not really that noticeable but she had to point that out VS saying...you look great! Smh
I am so relieved to find this channel. I am a highly Melaninated American woman with 4c hair and both my daughters are mixed race. I am divested but my struggle and issues are NOT theirs! I love hearing a perspective that fits them like a glove!Your content really will help them better than anything I could teach and you have all the nuance issues I feel comfortable giving my gorgeous girlies! I will support this channel in everyway I can. Your perspective right on the 🎯 ❤ Keep on the winning streak!
When you elaborated on young men/men bragging on their exes and being attached through the child 🤦🏽♀️ and this is why I’m an advocate for young people. My own experience has taught me so much. One good time and I’ve completely changed my life. A lot of men are lost self serving manipulators. Using pretty women in whatever way they can. Ugh, it makes me so upset.
Omg i once did this eye makeup look and everyone loved it so much except the women i worked with. One even asked me "What did you do to your face? You dont look like yourself you look different!" I was like whutttt do you mean?? 😂
This video🔥as a current engineer, I can’t stop counting the amount of times people are shocked by my profession. I started to downplay it. “Wow you’re pretty and smart?” I have also struggled w the body shaming. When I gain it goes to my ass and ppl have warned me about weight gain. I’ve also had people tell me I was too skinny. So annoying. I’d rather to just keep my hair straight. Too much obsession with hair and I’d rather focus on other qualities.
Same, I got degrees and tech skills, but still got my cosmetology and esthetician licenses and man they get mad when they find out I have education. I’m learning to just enjoy triggering people with my existence. I was trapped, but I enjoy telling people I was and that makes them not want to say they are the man because they can’t take the attention in a negative light. Keep shining ❤❤❤
I’ve experienced sooo many of these examples in the video and other instances with people being weird towards me, but I’ve been told it’s all in my head…
It’s interesting how much black women loveeee Aaliyah but if she was a regular girl they knew, they would hate on her or if she was still alive, they would be coming at her for being light skin too! She would not be as loved by the black women who have something against lighter women
Anytime I change my hair, people who are not fond me will say, "You look different." & I just say, "Thanks!" They always look so confused afterwards lol.
I was picking up a Walmart order, because I hate going inside of a Walmart (I get followed and stared at) and the woman bringing me the order said I looked like a celebrity that I’ve never heard of lol. 😂I asked her who was that, because I’ve never heard of her. And she gave me a dirty look
I just want to know why people think a big bum automatically makes them attractive or more attractive than someone with a small butt? A big butt only distracts from a busted face
Different men are attracted to different things. Not only dusty men like a prominent butt, the difference is only dusty men like it big and SLOPPY. Big (not huge!)but tight is desirable unless it’s fake.
i always get told i looks like her 😩😍3:07 also can we talk about jealous siblings😒 me and my sister are two different skin tones and everytime she has something to say it’s always back handed like i’ll do my hair and she’ll be like “it’s not yours tho” so annoying
THIS! I hated how my sister always did me growing up, making me feel bad about how I looked & the older I got I realized I wasn’t thinking I was better than her because of my features,complexion or hair… it’s always been HER. It’s so annoying & sad🤦🏽♀️🫤
I’m a 5’9” brow skin woman. The staring is endless. There was one time I was at McDonald’s some bald headed darkskin black man saw me and started laughing out loud. He was trying to rile me up but I just ignored him because I could have said a lot about him. The most hate I get is from short, fat, darkskin men or women or the occasional blond white woman.
This guy was trying to talk to me and I wasn’t fully interested. He started showing me pics of his ex, “o, your kinda my type look”!!! What??? Then he started to act like I had a booger and literally tried to act like he was picking it out of my nose. This guy was a lawyer/ engineer. He felt the need to humble me and I was a counter clerk omg! I have so many stories!!
I have these issues so often and it's hard because I don't think I'm a supermodel I'm not conceited and I mind my business. like why are people so bent on humbling me when I'm kind as well. Ever since I was young especially once I started wearing makeup, hair getting into clothes etc. Both Men and other Women act in all the ways you mentioned.
I have had a few guys be big jerks to me. One was just yelling at me, cursing at me and making bossy remarks when he had no place to, and the other, just recently, went and snatched an item I was in the middle of purchasing and putting his arm way up telling me to get it, and then just minutes after that he started flipping me off a bunch of times for no good reason. And another put an ice cube down my shirt when I used to work at Burger King and I was in the middle of washing the dishes. So men can be cruel sometimes.
Wow, i did not know people were actually complementing me when they would say, "You look like someone i know," every time they first see me. And natively i would respond "i really dont feel like i look like other ppl 😂
The random meanness is unhinged, and it’s jarring because most of the time I deliberately try not to put much into my look. Side note: I have just subscribed to your channel, and I’m binge watching a lot of your content. I was wondering if you ever thought on the topic of how difficult it is for introverted pretty “privileged” women to have healthy friendship circles?
Also, I hate when someone tells me I look like their cousin because I almost never look like them at all! And it’s always someone who doesn’t share my phenotype or hair.
Omggg!! You just validated my feelings in so many ways. I truly thought I was crazy or just insecure thinking about peoples fav celebrities but then treating you differently (men and women) and as if they’re not around you because of their attraction for you. What’s the deal with that? They don’t even know the celebrity personally yet, give you weird as treatment while calling their celeb crush their “wife” or “sis” but barely compliment you. They know we look amazing if not even more than the celebrity. That shit is weird and I’ve always been annoyed by that.
These tactics are on point and its great how you list them all in detail. These make so much sense. People are always telling me I look like this that person and the third. People have used alot of these tactics on me but im glad you are showing us what people are secretly trying to do and showing us we evoke a reaction out of people because we are that chick. ❤ Keep these awesome vids coming
I did not expect you to go so in depth. A lot of these tactics (esp from men) I recognized as ways used to manipulate and use women but I hadn't thought of them as humbling -- that makes sense though. Once I was considered decently pretty, I got a lot of sudden positive affirmations on my looks. But I also noticed I was more likely to get random comments on my appearance that were strange if not outright negative. I didn't understand why anyone would say something insulting about how I looked when I never said anything bad about them at all. When I was younger I got very thin and while my face was nicer, my body was ridiculed -- by people who said I was pretty. It was weird. At some point people "forgot" all about the slim women they loved in the 90s and early 2000s and started comparing attractive thin women to boys lol. And yes, I used to get all types of Caribbean people saying I looked like their cousin.
Exactly . These are all humbling tactics that people tend to do on a subconscious level. They’re not always being malicious, people just don’t even realize that they’re doing it
To be fair, in my family and tons of First gen americans with tons of Carribean family from múltiple Islands (they was Island hoppin nomads🤣) everybody got a gorgeous exotic Cousin. But yeah this video is so accurate and relatable!
Literally clicked on this video because I had to stop going to my favorite coffee shop because the old gray male cashier was nasty and creepy even though I was nice. Happens constantly
Omg absolutely! I would always gaslight myself like “I know I’m not the prettiest girl in the work but….” especially living in SF I experienced this to a whole other level. The ONLY reason why I was able to make friends is because I had to really “humble myself” and I was in a committed relationship. So there was no competition for men because I wasn’t even playing. When I was fasting for Ramadan every women who knew would comment on how skinny I was and how God wouldn’t want me to suffer like that! Mind you these women didn’t even have a relationship with a higher power. bla bla bla! 🤡
This video Is 1000% true! The look a like thing is so True it’s annoying and pregnancies with dusties happens to a lot of pretty woman! Jenna fumes, nick canon baby mamas all are pretty for sure but status is baby mamas
A discussion on the beautiful Jasmine Guy (Whitley) would be great!. She is the original “exotical” and worked with an upcoming Jada on a Different World. I always wonder why she didn’t make it farther but definitely should have been major…👀💕🤗
Just a different perspective…I don’t always tell women that I think they’re pretty because not everyone wants to hear unsolicited opinions about their looks. I’ve encountered women who have gotten irritated or uncomfortable when I told them they’re pretty.
17:15 OMG! I was texting my mom in tears about #9. I stopped going out & about alone for a while, luckily its too cold now. Around that time it was just so bad & I needed a break. Thank you!
Do you have more negative experiences with non-black people ? There are so many nasty bullies on my job. I live and work with only ww. They love to assume that I'm jealous of their hair. I literally had one woman tell me that my hair is long because I'm half white.
yes ive talked about that on this channel and have more videos coming up about that soon. i recently quit my job partially due to my jealous latina supervisor who also happened to be morbidly obese (literally like 400 lbs, no shade.) she was evil towards me.
@@ExoticalsUnitedoh man, that’s a whole other layer-the jealousy of fat women towards fit women. You can feel the venom, they stare with such hatred. Didn’t stop me from running in my crop top athletic wear with my abs, but still 😝
@@ExoticalsUnited I’ve had more negative experiences with black women, but occasionally with white or Latinas . I worked with a Latina who asked me if I wore a weave, believe it or not. She wishes she had my hair lol. Latinas can be very jealous and competitive toward mixed women and attractive black women. Even if they’re attractive themselves.
I can count on one hand how many compliments I’ve gotten from women. Most have come from family 😅 I thought for a long time that women just didn’t compliment each other. Up until I got on social media and realized that wasn’t the case. I’ve only gotten complimented by family really. But when women do refer to my appearance, they usually just compare me to who they think I look like.
Good video as usual, also i notice one particular thing when MLS/LSK famous women date black men suddenly their reputation go down (around other ethnicities ) and her image always becoming the light skin saviour ( malcom x , Rosa Park )... I hate it , they drain them , literally, bc i had similiar experiences they approched you with the tactic of " black checking " so you will feel the need to feel enough black , check beyonce music process...check Rihanna process , when Jay z or Asap Rocky has openly condem racism like Beyonce or Rihanna do ? They use them , they drain them and when is over ... They change them. Watch out , i learnt the lesson just on time! They see us as an instrument , MLS /LSK women particully ,taking this as history context pls, were " the daugthers of the white men" (was a black men who explained me that btwy) , white men used to kill their mixed sons and kept the daugthers close , in some occasions take care of them , also in many ocasions at least in latin american culture find them a white men to marry, keeping in mind white men have indeed sort of preference for MLS /LSK women is obsvious why black men marry them or want them.
One time I walked into a family gathering and the first thing my aunt said to me after greeting everyone normally was "you look thinner" ..no hi, no nice no to see you, nothing lol. I have really long hair and they love to refer to my hair as "flat" 😅
The body build is a preference people have and what theyre attracted too,i prefer thick women or slim thick they aint have to have a hour glass but definitely gotta have thick thighs,you cant shame peoples body prefences,just associate with the right one's
I was at the pet store getting some food for my rabbit and I was minding my business when I saw some black guy staring at me from the end of the aisle, hiding in the corner of the aisle when I noticed him he started walking around the aisle and then got on the stairs above the aisle I was on pretending he was going to the 2nd floor. He kept watching me. I’m not even mixed I consider myself a brownskin girl kind of like karruche’s shade
“I got a cousin that look like you” 🤣🤣🤣🤣 MLS girl should say “mhmm I have a cousin that look like you too. She’s very dark like you… and looks like she’s from [insert randomAfrican country] and watch them get offended
LMAO SO TRUE OMG! They can say "i have a cousin who looks like you but shes even lighter than you!" but if you say "i have a cousin who looks like you but shes even darker than you" then its a problem.
@@adriennerobinson4668 it’s not us…… that’s the thing… the WORLD is in fact anti black… but black ppl further perpetuate the stigma of being dark! Especially for dark women! LSW and mixed women are NOT the enemy ! Of course some have the same toxic ideologies… let’s not be nieve…. But at the same time… whose voice screams the loudest? The dark skinned collective! The black population consists of MOSTLY dark skinned unambiguous ppl! That is the face of the community… yt who do they pedestalize?
I dicied to be one of those people..cause am tired of searching why people compete with me,mean to me ,envious...am tired of why behaviour like this.. I just mirror there behaviour...I want to say ur wig look nappy and u look like my cousin father mother ...😁 Jesus's I want to be careless for anybody to talk crazy things even if their jaw drop to the floor
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I am so tired of "oh you look like my cousin". And then proceeds to have no evidence. Bish you wish you had a cousin that looked this good.
💯💯💯💯💯
@@biggieshorty They have to go out of their way to do so..
Lol okay!!!
😂😂😂
Lmao
Male cashiers who are rude to pretty female customers even when they are nice are such an embarrassment. It's so common. And so unbelievably pathetic
Yessss
So true
I'd happily be skinny shamed any day.
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me too lmao. The benefits are more than the skinny shaming
Same, especially as you age...everyone else will suddenly gain weight and you'll be skinny.
I’m continually shamed as my body type is slim/athletic - I will get comments like I look stressed, l’m too thin, they’re ‘real black woman’ 😂 when in reality they are obese and unfit with a plethora of health issues and have the audacity to shame me!
Any Day 😂
I just laugh when someone tries these humbling tactics on me. Cause clearly you noticed me enough to THINK you could bully me and comment on my body or looks.
exactly 😂 if someone comments on my looks (negative or positive) it still tells me that theyre noticing me so....
1. Comparing you to other women and pretending these other women have a privilege over you.
2. Flirting with or "bigging up" celebs and women that look like you, but not complimenting you specifically.
3. Instead of saying that you're pretty, they'll be like "You look like my cousin's sister's neighbor's baby-momma."
4. Pointing out small flaws in your makeup/hair/clothes/body shape.
5. Getting you pregnant.
6. Marriage and relationship trapping (for various reasons).
7. People being mean to you for no reason.
8. Calling out when you're wearing lashes/weaves/nails/anything that draws attention to you.
Yes!
"You look like my..." I usually respond saying that their relative, must be beautiful. Thank you.
Exactly
Lots of pretty women are there being humble already minding their own business and someone jealous comes along feeling the need to bully them...some people are so crazy...
Omg! I’ve had mls men and black men say they want to get me pregnant ✋🏽😩 ewwwww they’re so bold.
omg yes same! 🤢 they see it as a flex to say that YOU are one of their baby mamas 😂
I want to add that mls that are more black male identified are the ones who behave this way!! I know MLS men that aren’t this way
@@ExoticalsUnitedyea I recently found out that a guy from the hood where I grew up who had a crush for years, started making up that he had 6 kids with me. Freakin 6! We used to talk to each other and even made out from time time (teenagers), but to find this out all these years later and thousands of miles of distance between us and it’s like 🤮. Had my mother dispel the rumors for me lol. The nerve! My husband was not amused 😆. Funny thing is he was another MLS man, but mixed white and Latino.
This is a much needed video for teens and young adults imo. A lot of us who are 25+ have been through this in a time before your level of realness was easily accessible EU. It hurts when you are around people and they claim to care but seem to want to hurt you based on things you cannot control (meaning any of the features you were born with). And don’t even get me started on the baby trapping… it’s insidious and scary.
I agree, I'm 22 and learning a lot from these videos
@@Sunshine_Hime I am happy for that! I want more younger ppl to see and understand that nothing is wrong with them, it’s a hate filled echo chamber. Keep growing and glowing princess!
Omg absolutely! I would always gaslight myself like “I know I’m not the prettiest girl in the work but….” especially living in SF I experienced this to a whole other level. The ONLY reason why I was able to make friends is because I had to really “humble myself” and I was in a committed relationship. So there was no competition for men because I wasn’t even playing. When I was fasting for Ramadan every women who knew would comment on how skinny I was and how God wouldn’t want me to suffer like that! Mind you these women didn’t even have a relationship with a higher power. bla bla bla! 🤡
Beyonce definitely did upgrade Jay-Z... women are currency for sure!!
Yes! When was the last time you’ve seen jay z songs topping the charts? He is not a music and performing icon like she is .
@@ExoticalsUnited So true.
Copium-dioxide 😂😂😂😂...
In the nutshell people being a bully and mean girl toward pretty woman
Yup!
My ex got upset and told me I look like a bootleg Gabriel union lmao
😂😂😂 he was trying so hard to humble you
Omg...I remember being at an event...I looked amazing...my dress...my energy...my smile was giving everything! It was an amazing night. A friend came up to me and said.. "what happened to your nose"?
Really????
I had a small mark on my nose that I had to cover..not really that noticeable but she had to point that out VS saying...you look great! Smh
Yes, I have had a grown older black woman do this to me and someone's kid while in Walmart. It's so insane.
omg what is it with people in walmarts? ive been harassed multiple times in walmarts 😂
Mine's always in McDonald's 😂
I am so relieved to find this channel. I am a highly Melaninated American woman with 4c hair and both my daughters are mixed race. I am divested but my struggle and issues are NOT theirs! I love hearing a perspective that fits them like a glove!Your content really will help them better than anything I could teach and you have all the nuance issues I feel comfortable giving my gorgeous girlies! I will support this channel in everyway I can. Your perspective right on the 🎯 ❤ Keep on the winning streak!
yes! i have lots of UABW and men on here who have mixed relatives and want to see things from our side! thanks for watching!
When you elaborated on young men/men bragging on their exes and being attached through the child 🤦🏽♀️ and this is why I’m an advocate for young people. My own experience has taught me so much. One good time and I’ve completely changed my life. A lot of men are lost self serving manipulators. Using pretty women in whatever way they can. Ugh, it makes me so upset.
Although I'm considered dark skinned, I have definitely been the victim of these harsh "humbling" tactics especially the last one 😬
Yup anyone of any complexion can go through these humbling tactics
You’re beautiful
@@ExoticalsUnitedam I ugly?
It really wasnt until i left a toxic relationship where all these tactics were used to realize.... Its because im fine AF 😂💅
Omg i once did this eye makeup look and everyone loved it so much except the women i worked with. One even asked me "What did you do to your face? You dont look like yourself you look different!" I was like whutttt do you mean?? 😂
Right! That’s pure jealousy
This video🔥as a current engineer, I can’t stop counting the amount of times people are shocked by my profession. I started to downplay it. “Wow you’re pretty and smart?” I have also struggled w the body shaming. When I gain it goes to my ass and ppl have warned me about weight gain. I’ve also had people tell me I was too skinny. So annoying. I’d rather to just keep my hair straight. Too much obsession with hair and I’d rather focus on other qualities.
People prefer certain aesthetics to fit in with certain groups
Same, I got degrees and tech skills, but still got my cosmetology and esthetician licenses and man they get mad when they find out I have education. I’m learning to just enjoy triggering people with my existence. I was trapped, but I enjoy telling people I was and that makes them not want to say they are the man because they can’t take the attention in a negative light. Keep shining ❤❤❤
I've gotten extremely use to people being me for me existing
I’ve experienced sooo many of these examples in the video and other instances with people being weird towards me, but I’ve been told it’s all in my head…
Right. There are thousands of us at this point. We can’t all be delusional.
It’s interesting how much black women loveeee Aaliyah but if she was a regular girl they knew, they would hate on her or if she was still alive, they would be coming at her for being light skin too! She would not be as loved by the black women who have something against lighter women
Of course the dark skinned love her because she's an UNALIVE light skin woman.
can another humbling tactic be someone telling you you look older than you do even when you dont?
Yes, I’ve been told that before by an unambiguous girl unfortunately
@@ExoticalsUnited omg same thing happened to me too
I was 21 and this 18 year old girl was like "I thought you were 30" literally most people assume I'm younger than what I really am for my whole life.
Anytime I change my hair, people who are not fond me will say, "You look different." & I just say, "Thanks!" They always look so confused afterwards lol.
I was picking up a Walmart order, because I hate going inside of a Walmart (I get followed and stared at) and the woman bringing me the order said I looked like a celebrity that I’ve never heard of lol. 😂I asked her who was that, because I’ve never heard of her. And she gave me a dirty look
😂😂😂😂
I just want to know why people think a big bum automatically makes them attractive or more attractive than someone with a small butt? A big butt only distracts from a busted face
Yup plus when you’re pretty you don’t need to rely on your body 😅
@@cutiepiea3687 to a certain extent. It also depends on the area you live in
Different men are attracted to different things. Not only dusty men like a prominent butt, the difference is only dusty men like it big and SLOPPY. Big (not huge!)but tight is desirable unless it’s fake.
It attracts pedophiles, perverts and men who only wanna have sex.
@@dw9524 I live in London
Very true on the relationship trapping!
i feel like some men want to get with us so they can attract OTHER women to cheat on us with 😂😂😂
@@ExoticalsUnitedthank you for validating me feeling crazy because I believe it is a liquid confidence
i always get told i looks like her 😩😍3:07 also can we talk about jealous siblings😒 me and my sister are two different skin tones and everytime she has something to say it’s always back handed like i’ll do my hair and she’ll be like “it’s not yours tho” so annoying
Your Wild Pretty 💕
@@Genuinely10 and you’re gorgeous 😍😍💗
THIS! I hated how my sister always did me growing up, making me feel bad about how I looked & the older I got I realized I wasn’t thinking I was better than her because of my features,complexion or hair… it’s always been HER. It’s so annoying & sad🤦🏽♀️🫤
I’m a 5’9” brow skin woman. The staring is endless. There was one time I was at McDonald’s some bald headed darkskin black man saw me and started laughing out loud. He was trying to rile me up but I just ignored him because I could have said a lot about him. The most hate I get is from short, fat, darkskin men or women or the occasional blond white woman.
Wow I’m getting flashbacks from these humbling tactics.
Yes! You are not delusional! We have shared experiences. #prettygirlclub 💅🏽
This guy was trying to talk to me and I wasn’t fully interested. He started showing me pics of his ex, “o, your kinda my type look”!!! What??? Then he started to act like I had a booger and literally tried to act like he was picking it out of my nose. This guy was a lawyer/ engineer. He felt the need to humble me and I was a counter clerk omg! I have so many stories!!
No matter how "well-off" they are, they're still intimidated by beauty!
These visual aids have me rollingggggggg 😭😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂😂
I have these issues so often and it's hard because I don't think I'm a supermodel I'm not conceited and I mind my business. like why are people so bent on humbling me when I'm kind as well. Ever since I was young especially once I started wearing makeup, hair getting into clothes etc. Both Men and other Women act in all the ways you mentioned.
when it's your family...uh
Omg yes ! I need to talk about when your own family uses humbling tactics smh!
I have had a few guys be big jerks to me. One was just yelling at me, cursing at me and making bossy remarks when he had no place to, and the other, just recently, went and snatched an item I was in the middle of purchasing and putting his arm way up telling me to get it, and then just minutes after that he started flipping me off a bunch of times for no good reason. And another put an ice cube down my shirt when I used to work at Burger King and I was in the middle of washing the dishes. So men can be cruel sometimes.
Wow, i did not know people were actually complementing me when they would say, "You look like someone i know," every time they first see me. And natively i would respond "i really dont feel like i look like other ppl 😂
The random meanness is unhinged, and it’s jarring because most of the time I deliberately try not to put much into my look.
Side note: I have just subscribed to your channel, and I’m binge watching a lot of your content. I was wondering if you ever thought on the topic of how difficult it is for introverted pretty “privileged” women to have healthy friendship circles?
Yes I’ve got more pretty privilege videos coming up soon
This the one.
Also, I hate when someone tells me I look like their cousin because I almost never look like them at all! And it’s always someone who doesn’t share my phenotype or hair.
Same lol
Omggg!! You just validated my feelings in so many ways. I truly thought I was crazy or just insecure thinking about peoples fav celebrities but then treating you differently (men and women) and as if they’re not around you because of their attraction for you. What’s the deal with that? They don’t even know the celebrity personally yet, give you weird as treatment while calling their celeb crush their “wife” or “sis” but barely compliment you. They know we look amazing if not even more than the celebrity. That shit is weird and I’ve always been annoyed by that.
I can’t count the times dsbw or msbw have said I look like their niece or some celeb. WOW. 😩
Unfortunately, I’ve had many of these experiences. You are freaking hilarious, though lol.
I get a lot of “you’re pretty for a dark skinned girl”
Girl! All of these are so true!! 🤦🏽♀️🤣😂
Yessss!
These tactics are on point and its great how you list them all in detail. These make so much sense. People are always telling me I look like this that person and the third. People have used alot of these tactics on me but im glad you are showing us what people are secretly trying to do and showing us we evoke a reaction out of people because we are that chick. ❤ Keep these awesome vids coming
I did not expect you to go so in depth. A lot of these tactics (esp from men) I recognized as ways used to manipulate and use women but I hadn't thought of them as humbling -- that makes sense though.
Once I was considered decently pretty, I got a lot of sudden positive affirmations on my looks. But I also noticed I was more likely to get random comments on my appearance that were strange if not outright negative. I didn't understand why anyone would say something insulting about how I looked when I never said anything bad about them at all. When I was younger I got very thin and while my face was nicer, my body was ridiculed -- by people who said I was pretty. It was weird. At some point people "forgot" all about the slim women they loved in the 90s and early 2000s and started comparing attractive thin women to boys lol.
And yes, I used to get all types of Caribbean people saying I looked like their cousin.
Exactly . These are all humbling tactics that people tend to do on a subconscious level. They’re not always being malicious, people just don’t even realize that they’re doing it
To be fair, in my family and tons of First gen americans with tons of Carribean family from múltiple Islands (they was Island hoppin nomads🤣) everybody got a gorgeous exotic Cousin. But yeah this video is so accurate and relatable!
i didnt even realize these people tryna compliment like this! i have been told this so many times! literal strangers have done this to me!
Literally clicked on this video because I had to stop going to my favorite coffee shop because the old gray male cashier was nasty and creepy even though I was nice. Happens constantly
i love how you have analyzed Jada Pinkette's situation
Thank you!
Omg absolutely! I would always gaslight myself like “I know I’m not the prettiest girl in the work but….” especially living in SF I experienced this to a whole other level. The ONLY reason why I was able to make friends is because I had to really “humble myself” and I was in a committed relationship. So there was no competition for men because I wasn’t even playing. When I was fasting for Ramadan every women who knew would comment on how skinny I was and how God wouldn’t want me to suffer like that! Mind you these women didn’t even have a relationship with a higher power. bla bla bla! 🤡
This video Is 1000% true! The look a like thing is so True it’s annoying and pregnancies with dusties happens to a lot of pretty woman! Jenna fumes, nick canon baby mamas all are pretty for sure but status is baby mamas
You are speaking about MY LIFE right now 😩 especially #9 and #10.. praying for all the pretty girls 🥰🙏🏽
Wow 😮 I never realized that’s what was behind the comparison what an eye opener! 🙏🏾
A discussion on the beautiful Jasmine Guy (Whitley) would be great!. She is the original “exotical” and worked with an upcoming Jada on a Different World. I always wonder why she didn’t make it farther but definitely should have been major…👀💕🤗
Just a different perspective…I don’t always tell women that I think they’re pretty because not everyone wants to hear unsolicited opinions about their looks. I’ve encountered women who have gotten irritated or uncomfortable when I told them they’re pretty.
17:15 OMG! I was texting my mom in tears about #9. I stopped going out & about alone for a while, luckily its too cold now. Around that time it was just so bad & I needed a break. Thank you!
Do you have more negative experiences with non-black people ? There are so many nasty bullies on my job. I live and work with only ww. They love to assume that I'm jealous of their hair. I literally had one woman tell me that my hair is long because I'm half white.
yes ive talked about that on this channel and have more videos coming up about that soon. i recently quit my job partially due to my jealous latina supervisor who also happened to be morbidly obese (literally like 400 lbs, no shade.) she was evil towards me.
Omg…
@@ExoticalsUnitedoh man, that’s a whole other layer-the jealousy of fat women towards fit women. You can feel the venom, they stare with such hatred. Didn’t stop me from running in my crop top athletic wear with my abs, but still 😝
@@ExoticalsUnited I’ve had more negative experiences with black women, but occasionally with white or Latinas . I worked with a Latina who asked me if I wore a weave, believe it or not. She wishes she had my hair lol. Latinas can be very jealous and competitive toward mixed women and attractive black women. Even if they’re attractive themselves.
Love your content. New sub ❤
Yay! #prettygirlclub 💅🏽
I can count on one hand how many compliments I’ve gotten from women. Most have come from family 😅 I thought for a long time that women just didn’t compliment each other. Up until I got on social media and realized that wasn’t the case. I’ve only gotten complimented by family really.
But when women do refer to my appearance, they usually just compare me to who they think I look like.
I am thankful you made this video and some of your other videos ive watched.
Good video as usual, also i notice one particular thing when MLS/LSK famous women date black men suddenly their reputation go down (around other ethnicities ) and her image always becoming the light skin saviour ( malcom x , Rosa Park )... I hate it , they drain them , literally, bc i had similiar experiences they approched you with the tactic of " black checking " so you will feel the need to feel enough black , check beyonce music process...check Rihanna process , when Jay z or Asap Rocky has openly condem racism like Beyonce or Rihanna do ? They use them , they drain them and when is over ... They change them. Watch out , i learnt the lesson just on time! They see us as an instrument , MLS /LSK women particully ,taking this as history context pls, were " the daugthers of the white men" (was a black men who explained me that btwy) , white men used to kill their mixed sons and kept the daugthers close , in some occasions take care of them , also in many ocasions at least in latin american culture find them a white men to marry, keeping in mind white men have indeed sort of preference for MLS /LSK women is obsvious why black men marry them or want them.
Omg😢you are so right!!! Exact all things happened to me😮😮😮
Wow !
Yes to all of this!
this is soo trueeeeeeeeee
8:06 plss that was me (had a r/s for a few months for this !) 😭😭😭😭 i definetly felt like a circus monkey being paraded around.
i'm East African but i have noticed how darker-skinned men always say that I should date men darker than me because light skin men are girly
One time I walked into a family gathering and the first thing my aunt said to me after greeting everyone normally was "you look thinner" ..no hi, no nice no to see you, nothing lol. I have really long hair and they love to refer to my hair as "flat" 😅
The body build is a preference people have and what theyre attracted too,i prefer thick women or slim thick they aint have to have a hour glass but definitely gotta have thick thighs,you cant shame peoples body prefences,just associate with the right one's
Lol i call em out and tell em to 🤬off
As you should! Lol
I was at the pet store getting some food for my rabbit and I was minding my business when I saw some black guy staring at me from the end of the aisle, hiding in the corner of the aisle when I noticed him he started walking around the aisle and then got on the stairs above the aisle I was on pretending he was going to the 2nd floor. He kept watching me.
I’m not even mixed I consider myself a brownskin girl kind of like karruche’s shade
Truth....
THIS🎯🎯🎯💯💯💯🎤🎤🎤
Producers used to say Jada was too short. She kind of would have had a hard time though
Well she still was in movies so…
I had a guy tell me I look like his cousin. He pulls up a pic on his phone of a 60 year old, gray haired, darker woman 🤦🏽♀️ Whet? 🤣
“I got a cousin that look like you” 🤣🤣🤣🤣 MLS girl should say “mhmm I have a cousin that look like you too. She’s very dark like you… and looks like she’s from [insert randomAfrican country] and watch them get offended
LMAO SO TRUE OMG! They can say "i have a cousin who looks like you but shes even lighter than you!" but if you say "i have a cousin who looks like you but shes even darker than you" then its a problem.
It is a problem because it's causing further division.
It's like yall make being dark a mark of death.
@@adriennerobinson4668 it’s not us…… that’s the thing… the WORLD is in fact anti black… but black ppl further perpetuate the stigma of being dark! Especially for dark women! LSW and mixed women are NOT the enemy ! Of course some have the same toxic ideologies… let’s not be nieve…. But at the same time… whose voice screams the loudest? The dark skinned collective! The black population consists of MOSTLY dark skinned unambiguous ppl! That is the face of the community… yt who do they pedestalize?
I dicied to be one of those people..cause am tired of searching
why people compete with me,mean to me ,envious...am tired of why behaviour like this..
I just mirror there behaviour...I want to say ur wig look nappy and u look like my cousin father mother ...😁
Jesus's I want to be careless for anybody to talk crazy things even if their jaw drop to the floor
Yes I might make a video on how to get revenge in these moments 😂😂😂
Farkkk I get that all the time. The older women 🤢
What is MLS?
Mixed or light skinned
What does MLS stand for?
Will Smith > Jada-Pinkett Smith 😂
he is. but jada couldve kept acting. she gave it up and decided to center her life around will which was obviously a huge mistake.
I does study get am pretty but I have no but Orr am pretty but am to thin or 🙄
One day I would love to do a live chat with you on Facebook or Instagram because there's a lot I want to get off my chest 🧰😮❤