Also, being pretty is like you are a community property. People know your schedule, they scrutinize your body shape, your style. You can't be imperfect, you can't have a day, you must be always smiling, joyful, nice to everybody and perfect. People count on you to save them and you also have to be strong to take on all their BS and insecurities. Beautiful people should know from their birth that they don't belong to themselves. Eventually, to regain power, you have to move in silence. Being over exposed is not worth it and it makes you a moving target
Honestly, Ive been bullied my whole life no matter how much of a push over Ive been. Sucks. I always make myself small because I have thin skin and dont like to post a threat to anyone. I dont even think im that pretty, like I dont have green eyes or anything extrodionary. But the moment you have something appealin people will try to tear you down. Its disgusting, thats why when I see a beautiful girl i go out of my way to say shes pretty. Watch the movie Melena,
Spot ON yet again! So many of your examples I’m like yup check -I had someone bring up my lipstick at work and not in a complimentary way but rather out the blue explaining why SHE doesn’t wear lipstick or into makeup as if I care…she was focused on my face and couldn’t help but try to make me feel subconscious and failed miserably 😂
And in a few months or even years down the road, she's going to start wearing the same shade of lipstick as she criticized on you. I can't explain how many times I've seen it happen. "So and so thinks that red lipstick looks good?" Then they show up with red lips 😂😂😂
Exactly! It always starts with "cutting it into a style". Uh no...that's the first step to having broken off hair. End trims only and I create styles using what I have. Twist some of it, braid some pieces, tuck some behind one ear, whatever. Everyone is free to do what they want with their hair but I want to do crochets or clip-ins for fashion not out of necessity.
Tip: Never add coworkers to your work-only social media page. Just don’t participate at all lol. Email, phone and text are enough lol. Most will stalk or privately discuss your comments, even if you are commenting on food, music or just about anything! It’s ridiculous! I deleted all them fools from my work-only social media! 😂
You just made me think of something! Ive always wondered why ppl have a tendency to talk to me like im "slow". Ive always thought maybe its bc I look dumb...but now im wondering if it's actually bc im pretty and ppl try to infantilize me.
My grandma taught me to always have something beautiful or sexy that makes you feel good, even if it's something that most can't see like underwear/lingerie. I have a bra that is considered pretty sexy and my mom would tell me I need to thrown it in the trash. Mind you I'm in my thirties. Like why are you worried about what kind of bra I'm wearing underneath my clothes and why are looking if it bothers you that much?? Smh just an example of the many things I go through with ppl wanting me to hide my sexy and beauty
I’m so glad you shared this, I literally have contemplated ways to look more neutral so as to not hurt feelings but when I pop out….bahaaa it’s hilarious. You instantly know who is insecure ❤
All these movies are about jealousy and how some people see and treat beautiful women. 1. Lana Del Ray 2. Their eyes were watching God 3. Black girl 4. Feast of all saints
I remember being 19 my hair i colored it blonde professionally and another mixed girl from my high school tried to bully me by asking me about it I said Beyoncé has blonde hair she said well your not Beyoncé mind you this girls ponytail wasn’t even down her neck lol
omg yes same thing with my older female relatives are obsessed with my hair "omg if i had hair like that i would brush it more (even when its brushed they tell me this!) why don't you do this and that to your hair" Omg you're tall and skinny why don't you dress more "feminine"....like who asked you?, Then at a family get together my mom said how she didn't like her eyebrow cosmetic tattoo that she got done, my aunt out of nowhere attacked me and said something slick like "oh why don't you take her to your little places where you get stuff done to yourself?" Like i don't even have any places i get stuff done wtf was that?
Having a baby face I have really sense this for most of my adult life. Baby face women may have to try harder to get respect for their experience and wisdom, I truly get it.
I’m really glad I came across this channel because it explains a lot of my experience growing up. I couldn’t understand why I was always picked apart or told how to be or why assumptions about my character were constantly made (like being promiscuous)…my race was always called into question too, with many believing I was blasian (???) and the constant questioning on if my hair was real..either way this is enlightening and it’s definitely causing me to reflect and reframe my past experiences
Yes omg you just described my past experiences as well 😂 from assuming my hair was fake to being mistaken for blasian to stealing someone’s man lol 😂 this why we need our own communities !
Wow never noticed how OD people are with all of the comments on what and how you should be as a person…reminds me of how they treat Giselle on Real Housewives of Potomac because of her classic natural beauty and full features
I’m not sure if anyone watches Zeus network, a show called baddies East. That show displays perfect examples of pretty girls being bullied for absolutely no reason. Look up “Tee bullied on baddies”. She’s so pretty and DSBW on that show jumped her one day when she had the flu because she wasn’t talking much. They said she was acting weird so they beat her up. She told them she wasn’t feeling well. That was so triggering for me.
Omg you have hit so many gems in this video . Every since i was a little girl i have been viewd as the pretty sister ..even in psychology if you have a round face or baby face people will assume you're more sensitive, or need to be protected because your face reminds them of a baby. So ADD pretty to the mix then yes ! All eyes on you ! ALL my life even at 46 i get people saying that i still look so young. The hair texture hit home ..as do have 11 biological sisters ( yeps 11 ) and was always being told i had the "good hair" all the questions..why don't you do this or thysr with your hair this might even be the subconscious reason as to why i wear wigs to hide my natural hair because growing up my hair was always on the spot light. Ironically even my youngesr son whos biracial says "mom when will i ever see you wear your natural hair " i told him its not to say i domt or womt i just don't wear my natural hair around my sisters. You have helped me so much discover and uncover so much hidden emotional damage i went through .things thst stil affect me well into ny adulthood. Yet ironically im a cam model ( fetish model ) on line ..and been in the industry for 15 years ...but what's odd is that i know im being fetishize so i figured might as well get paid for it ! I know that the men "come " to my shows because of the way i look and the #1 reason the men say they come to my broadcast is because im "exotic looking " and "fun" and that i actually easy to talk to. But thankfully i set the boundaries and limit as to the type of men I attract even in the industry no dusties are allowed 😂..im viewd as a Goddess or Empress nothing less.. Thank you once again this video wil go in my favorites and if im ever feeling down and not feeling like logging into work this will motivate me to go get my online bag 💰 ❤❤❤❤ because the truth is although I'm called a pretty girl i don't always feel that way .
Get your exotical tax girl! I am getting my exotical tax via this channel lol 😆 getting online money or free stuff via the internet is something all of us should be doing ! 😻💅🏽💅🏾💅🏿
Thank you Soo much I could just hug you so tight right now you have motivated me to log in tonight ! Ohh you covered so much in this video ...I now tell the guys they have to pay a pretty girl tax to see my face or a pretty voice tax to hear my voice 😅..I do this when I don't have my camera on my face , or when my sound is off 😂 and surprisingly enough they will tip me to hear my voice or see my face ! All credit to you though! I got the idea from your last video on pretty girl tax 😁 so between you between you , shera 7 and princella the queen maker ..😂 my whole life about to slowly but surely change for the better. Waiting on PD to join your PT ..and buy a pretty girl mug 😁
When my teacher said i was beautiful women i didnt know what to say and everyone was looking at me i just wanted to get on with class and do english and in mcdonald people stare and smile i wanted so bad to say what are you looking at because i was there to hangout with my friends like we dont have that long of a lunch and then this one time a guy in my class dark skin guy was staring at me it was weird for sure i dont know how celebrity do it i just wanted to go in a hole hide
I can only advise young women to know their worth and remember that they are the ultimate prize. Learn to protect yourself and question everyone's motives.
Omg I'm a fashion student and we have rules for using sewing machines and this older lady who was a teacher wanted me to go all the way home to change my shoes as its a clothes policy to not have open shoe toes for safety...i was wearing flats that covered my toes while wearing socks she even got another teacher to try and get her to agree with her and said this infront of the class group
You truly get it. Celebrity is the perfect term to describe daily interactions. When they are starring their ugly eyeballs at me ,I find it easier to do what a celebrity would do and not acknowledge their whole entire existence. I don’t waste my energy on them by giving them ounce of my attention. You won’t get a starring match from me. Look on, I love the validation🫦
I used to like a pretty privilege but sometimes as I get older, I feel fear or attacked verbally or physical or mentally for my looks also people would try to ready my mind and say it out loud or keep their comments too themselves
Also, being pretty is like you are a community property.
People know your schedule, they scrutinize your body shape, your style.
You can't be imperfect, you can't have a day, you must be always smiling, joyful, nice to everybody and perfect. People count on you to save them and you also have to be strong to take on all their BS and insecurities.
Beautiful people should know from their birth that they don't belong to themselves.
Eventually, to regain power, you have to move in silence.
Being over exposed is not worth it and it makes you a moving target
omg yes! people will memorize what outfits you wore that week, what color your eyeshadow was, etc.
Yes!!!!
Yes, people think they own you and are entitled to watch your every move...
Honestly, Ive been bullied my whole life no matter how much of a push over Ive been. Sucks. I always make myself small because I have thin skin and dont like to post a threat to anyone. I dont even think im that pretty, like I dont have green eyes or anything extrodionary. But the moment you have something appealin people will try to tear you down. Its disgusting, thats why when I see a beautiful girl i go out of my way to say shes pretty. Watch the movie Melena,
Yes we are like walking breathing Melina’s on a smaller scale
Don't make yourself small to make bullies feel big. Live up to your greatness and Shine!
You are very beautiful
Spot ON yet again! So many of your examples I’m like yup check -I had someone bring up my lipstick at work and not in a complimentary way but rather out the blue explaining why SHE doesn’t wear lipstick or into makeup as if I care…she was focused on my face and couldn’t help but try to make me feel subconscious and failed miserably 😂
Exactly! People are obsessed 😂
And in a few months or even years down the road, she's going to start wearing the same shade of lipstick as she criticized on you.
I can't explain how many times I've seen it happen. "So and so thinks that red lipstick looks good?" Then they show up with red lips 😂😂😂
I can totally Relate. 😂😂
People being obsessed with my body made me self conscious
Don’t listen to them!
You just hit it right on the nail. People are surprised when their expectations of you is not correct.
Right! They’re like omg you went through a breakup? Omg you actually ARE smart? It’s shocking to them 😂
Surprised is an understatement. I think low key mad.
"if i had your hair I'd do this and that" like omg shut up 🙄🤣
Exactly! It always starts with "cutting it into a style". Uh no...that's the first step to having broken off hair. End trims only and I create styles using what I have. Twist some of it, braid some pieces, tuck some behind one ear, whatever. Everyone is free to do what they want with their hair but I want to do crochets or clip-ins for fashion not out of necessity.
Tip: Never add coworkers to your work-only social media page. Just don’t participate at all lol. Email, phone and text are enough lol. Most will stalk or privately discuss your comments, even if you are commenting on food, music or just about anything! It’s ridiculous! I deleted all them fools from my work-only social media! 😂
Omg I blocked everyone from my old CHURCH due to obsession
I understand!
You just made me think of something! Ive always wondered why ppl have a tendency to talk to me like im "slow". Ive always thought maybe its bc I look dumb...but now im wondering if it's actually bc im pretty and ppl try to infantilize me.
Omg yes that’s very common !
I get this
My grandma taught me to always have something beautiful or sexy that makes you feel good, even if it's something that most can't see like underwear/lingerie. I have a bra that is considered pretty sexy and my mom would tell me I need to thrown it in the trash. Mind you I'm in my thirties. Like why are you worried about what kind of bra I'm wearing underneath my clothes and why are looking if it bothers you that much?? Smh just an example of the many things I go through with ppl wanting me to hide my sexy and beauty
Yeah it’s because sexiness gives you power to entice men etc. and people are threatened by that
Very true!
I’m so glad you shared this, I literally have contemplated ways to look more neutral so as to not hurt feelings but when I pop out….bahaaa it’s hilarious. You instantly know who is insecure ❤
Exactly 😂
All these movies are about jealousy and how some people see and treat beautiful women.
1. Lana Del Ray
2. Their eyes were watching God
3. Black girl
4. Feast of all saints
MELENA also is so good.
Yes !
What is the Lana del Ray movie?
I remember being 19 my hair i colored it blonde professionally and another mixed girl from my high school tried to bully me by asking me about it I said Beyoncé has blonde hair she said well your not Beyoncé mind you this girls ponytail wasn’t even down her neck lol
omg yes same thing with my older female relatives are obsessed with my hair "omg if i had hair like that i would brush it more (even when its brushed they tell me this!) why don't you do this and that to your hair" Omg you're tall and skinny why don't you dress more "feminine"....like who asked you?, Then at a family get together my mom said how she didn't like her eyebrow cosmetic tattoo that she got done, my aunt out of nowhere attacked me and said something slick like "oh why don't you take her to your little places where you get stuff done to yourself?" Like i don't even have any places i get stuff done wtf was that?
Spot on Sis! The tearing down, attacks & criticism is REAL! 🤦🏽♀️
This !
Many thanks to touching on this sick infantilization of attractive (especially) women.
Yes !
Having a baby face I have really sense this for most of my adult life. Baby face women may have to try harder to get respect for their experience and wisdom, I truly get it.
I’m really glad I came across this channel because it explains a lot of my experience growing up. I couldn’t understand why I was always picked apart or told how to be or why assumptions about my character were constantly made (like being promiscuous)…my race was always called into question too, with many believing I was blasian (???) and the constant questioning on if my hair was real..either way this is enlightening and it’s definitely causing me to reflect and reframe my past experiences
Yes omg you just described my past experiences as well 😂 from assuming my hair was fake to being mistaken for blasian to stealing someone’s man lol 😂 this why we need our own communities !
Wow I've never came across an informative vedio about pretty privilege. Girl you definitely good on research. This is top notch delivery
Wow never noticed how OD people are with all of the comments on what and how you should be as a person…reminds me of how they treat Giselle on Real Housewives of Potomac because of her classic natural beauty and full features
I’m not sure if anyone watches Zeus network, a show called baddies East. That show displays perfect examples of pretty girls being bullied for absolutely no reason. Look up “Tee bullied on baddies”. She’s so pretty and DSBW on that show jumped her one day when she had the flu because she wasn’t talking much. They said she was acting weird so they beat her up. She told them she wasn’t feeling well. That was so triggering for me.
Omg you have hit so many gems in this video . Every since i was a little girl i have been viewd as the pretty sister ..even in psychology if you have a round face or baby face people will assume you're more sensitive, or need to be protected because your face reminds them of a baby. So ADD pretty to the mix then yes ! All eyes on you !
ALL my life even at 46 i get people saying that i still look so young. The hair texture hit home ..as do have 11 biological sisters ( yeps 11 ) and was always being told i had the "good hair" all the questions..why don't you do this or thysr with your hair this might even be the subconscious reason as to why i wear wigs to hide my natural hair because growing up my hair was always on the spot light. Ironically even my youngesr son whos biracial says "mom when will i ever see you wear your natural hair " i told him its not to say i domt or womt i just don't wear my natural hair around my sisters.
You have helped me so much discover and uncover so much hidden emotional damage i went through .things thst stil affect me well into ny adulthood. Yet ironically im a cam model ( fetish model ) on line ..and been in the industry for 15 years ...but what's odd is that i know im being fetishize so i figured might as well get paid for it ! I know that the men "come " to my shows because of the way i look and the #1 reason the men say they come to my broadcast is because im "exotic looking " and "fun" and that i actually easy to talk to. But thankfully i set the boundaries and limit as to the type of men I attract even in the industry no dusties are allowed 😂..im viewd as a Goddess or Empress nothing less..
Thank you once again this video wil go in my favorites and if im ever feeling down and not feeling like logging into work this will motivate me to go get my online bag 💰 ❤❤❤❤ because the truth is although I'm called a pretty girl i don't always feel that way .
Get your exotical tax girl! I am getting my exotical tax via this channel lol 😆 getting online money or free stuff via the internet is something all of us should be doing ! 😻💅🏽💅🏾💅🏿
Thank you Soo much I could just hug you so tight right now you have motivated me to log in tonight ! Ohh you covered so much in this video ...I now tell the guys they have to pay a pretty girl tax to see my face or a pretty voice tax to hear my voice 😅..I do this when I don't have my camera on my face , or when my sound is off 😂 and surprisingly enough they will tip me to hear my voice or see my face ! All credit to you though! I got the idea from your last video on pretty girl tax 😁 so between you between you , shera 7 and princella the queen maker ..😂 my whole life about to slowly but surely change for the better. Waiting on PD to join your PT ..and buy a pretty girl mug 😁
@@Exoticaworship7 omg that’s amazing! And yes I talk about pretty girl tax collecting strategies a lot on patreon! 😻
When my teacher said i was beautiful women i didnt know what to say and everyone was looking at me i just wanted to get on with class and do english and in mcdonald people stare and smile i wanted so bad to say what are you looking at because i was there to hangout with my friends like we dont have that long of a lunch and then this one time a guy in my class dark skin guy was staring at me it was weird for sure i dont know how celebrity do it i just wanted to go in a hole hide
yes omg!
I can only advise young women to know their worth and remember that they are the ultimate prize. Learn to protect yourself and question everyone's motives.
Omg I'm a fashion student and we have rules for using sewing machines and this older lady who was a teacher wanted me to go all the way home to change my shoes as its a clothes policy to not have open shoe toes for safety...i was wearing flats that covered my toes while wearing socks she even got another teacher to try and get her to agree with her and said this infront of the class group
Wow, I’m not surprised at all
Speaking a lot of facts
thank you for watching!
You truly get it. Celebrity is the perfect term to describe daily interactions. When they are starring their ugly eyeballs at me ,I find it easier to do what
a celebrity would do and not acknowledge their whole entire existence. I don’t waste my energy on them by giving them ounce of my attention. You won’t get a starring match from me. Look on, I love the validation🫦
thats exactly how i think 😂😂 its like, do you think starring is going to intimidate me? you want to stare, join the club 💅
@@officialnamerartist8445 People learned that new “narcissist” word and started applying it to any situation 🥴
Ugly eyeballs 😂😂😂 I’ve never heard that one before 😂
Oh my , I’m 5’10!
Same
This opened my eyes a bit.
Exactly my life to the T. Disgusting. 🤮
🎤💯🙌☝👍🎯
Am I ugly?
If you’re drawn to this channel you probably aren’t.
I used to like a pretty privilege but sometimes as I get older, I feel fear or attacked verbally or physical or mentally for my looks also people would try to ready my mind and say it out loud or keep their comments too themselves