People literally think that if you are pretty, money is falling right onto you above from the sky and all of the problems just run away from you! They are absolutely sure you have no right to experience grief and your traumas never happened… They hate you if you use your beauty, but it seems like they will absolutely destroy you if you don’t!!
Don’t even get me started on being a beautiful girl and not being married yet - wooo! They will rejoice and decide that there’s something wrong with you, even though there are many reasons you may be single.
Yes I tried that route too … It doesn’t work … because being perceived as too beautiful, too smart, too athletic … AND needy (for good treatment) is a dangerous combination … If people are jealous of you, feel inferior AND they sense you’re weak … get ready for some bullying
Its a sad fact that I have come to realize , that the bullying often drive you into being the bitchy character they mistook you for initially! Its human nature to become super aggressive when feeling threatened.
I really struggle with being too introverted & humble , then when people act passive aggressive to me I really seem to surprise them with my equally passive aggressive side. I’m like who did you think you were talking to don’t try me.
The humbling strategies are real. I think visibly pretty women have to curate their life and just be around equally attractive and high minded good people otherwise this will be an every day thing. I have soo many stories. Tbh I’ve turned down friendship offers by women who aren’t as attractive as I am because I know enough to know where that May end up lol
I find that people pour into the unattractive/average girl (a bit overboard) then act like they dont see you🙄Had to learn to build myself up! Unapologetically.
My ex was mean to me and other pretty women because he felt like everyone else liked me too much. He felt like pretty women had it too easy. All of this happens
Not exactly introverted but I’m an ENTJ the most introverted extrovert and yeah, just want these dumb a*** es to leave me alone sometimes it’s a fixation
When I was around 12, I grew several inches over a matter of months. I’m the tallest woman in my family. So here I am, pretty, long hair and towering over everyone. I was still a child though, and yet it felt like everyone turned on me in one way or another. I was suddenly under so much scrutiny. My older cousins and even aunts began to treat me like a temptress. As a result, I developed body dysmorphia. I thought I was fat when I was just curvy. My long legs looked too long. I stopped trying to look cute because he made everyone lose their minds. I didn’t realize I was attractive until I was in my late 20s. And then it took until my 30s to take ownership of my looks and accept myself.
When men send their representative to get me on a date then make me have to "prove my worth" when it's already in how I carry myself, is so annoying. Like sir, you went out your way to get me here and you want me to "prove" I'm worth investing time, money and energy into when I already do that for myself?? Like UGH!!
Yeah! People don’t feel the need to pick apart every small flaw on the “ugliest” girl in their presence. Usually they’ll just treat her like she’s invisible, or they’ll think she’s “ugly” and move on. They don’t point out tiny flaws like a small mole, small pimples etc. people only do that with those they’re admiring and examining.
I hate the nitpicking and micromananging of children I believe that’s where it all starts from. When parents can’t just let a child exist. This is the case with me. My dad always had something to say about my appearance. “What’s wrong with your face? Is that a pimple?” “You’re getting too light what’s wrong? You should go outside more” Recently when he brought up that I’ve gained weight in the most humiliating way possible, I told him “if my appearance is going to be the center of our conversations I’m never going to speak to you again”. He was shocked. Couldn’t even speak.
Im almost 30 but had several glow ups and glow downs due to gaining weight and losing it. But when i looked good - NOBODY told me anything but praising everybody's beauty, so i thought I'm mediocre looking. After a traumatic heartbreak i moved to a capital city to work in hospitality business - and i couldnt save myself from people telling me how beautiful i am, getting cards from model agencies etc. I was really overwhelmed but it helped me a lot. But when i go back to my homecity people are just talking about my weightloss and not even positively - so i just learned, these people are not my friends. The other part of people I call my friends are good looking but also have a lot of enhancements and they love to project their insecurities on other people, asking why you didnt get the botox treatment already, like isnt that for older woman who like to look younger ??? ☠️☠️☠️Its hard to be pretty and natural and not let people planting sh!t in your mind.
Humbling tactics I've experienced: 1. You didn't get your daddy's hair (meaning straight. I have Type 3). 2. You're fat (I've ALWAYS been thick and was NEVER skinny). 3. You are all kinds of mixed up - said in a deragotory way. My hair can straighten easily, you could never tell it was not natural - so YEAH! My natural weight I have beautiful curves and I'm not looking like a corpse or a bus Being mixed is great IF you know your many heritages/backgrounds and don't allow others to use THAT to their benefit!
Being demonized for your beauty by your family and shamed (religious background) and being treated like the devil and called slurs (wh0re etc) before youre even at an age to hold someones hand is one of the most hurtful experiences
I’m pretty, naturally thin with large breasts and a big behind and I remember being 17 at a revival and was asked to leave the pool because of my swimsuit, it was a halter top boy short set, I was mortified I’m 42 now and a twice divorced single mom of three and I’m an extreme introvert to this day because I’m always being picked apart because I’m beautiful and I know it
if you are pretty and introverted?! holy shit now I have an 'attitude' , im too 'high class' to be interacting with everybody or wow she doesnt like us because she is pretty
This channel is really healing my inner child. My whole life I have questioned why I’m treated the way I am by (family, grandparents, strangers, teachers, etc) I eventually figured it out but hearing that others experience the same issues it helps is know we aren’t crazy. I wish my younger self had this channel. Thank you for what you are doing.
My own dad called me ugly and fat to “humble” me during a argument! Crazy! But calls me pretty everyday…which honestly at some point is not needed from your own father. Kinda weird a little bit 🥴
@@winxclubstellamusa I’m sorry to hear that! I hope you always know that you are a beautiful in every way and you can be anything you need or want in your life. 🤍
This channel has changed my life. Ms. Exotical United is changing the game. Your validating so many women issues. Being Beautiful = Being Hated on by ALL GENRE OF WOMEN. We just need to dust our shoulders off and walk with Power. We need to be friends with those who Strut through Life in the same Lane. Forget about the rest. And Laugh all the way to the Bank. Because PRETTY Pays Ladies. ❤
I agree with your comment except the part about ALL genre of women hate beautiful women. I don’t hate anyone beautiful, one of my colleagues is one of the most beautiful woman I ever seen in my life and I don’t feel threatened by her beauty. I genuinely love her because she is a good person and a good friend to me. I feel like allot of women are threatened by beautiful women and feel inferior or insecure in spaces with beautiful women.
@@lawonyinye7056 Clearly, she is referring to the COLLECTIVE of women, particularly those that are unattractive. What else would the phrase "all genres of women mean"? Surely, you're not so dense as to interpret that statement to mean every single woman on the whole entire planet.😏🙄 See, this is what we mean when we say that other women just love to try to gaslight pretty women. You and that other weird commenter knew exactly what the original commenter meant when she stated "all genres of women." Cut the crap.😒
Deedee, you stated that you didn't agree with what she said regarding all genres of women. You may be an exception, but that exception does not negate the rule. You are being asked to think about what you say before you say it. And it would be wise of you to do so.
Once I was at a party and there was a model there , she was very tall and pretty, she talked to everyone apart from me, very strange as I was not a model. She was way prettier than me so not sure why. Similar things happen, there is always this one girl in a group who will not even make eye contact but will talk to everyone else but me.
On point!! ❤it’s sad when friends try to humble you, because it comes off as trying to be helpful, but now I realize they just wanted to have control of my appearance. In college, I had a friend that would ask about how I did my hair and what lipstick I used ( I used to be big on doing the ombré lip look) literally after I told her she started doing her hair and lip like mine the next time I saw her in class! I thought it was her being cute and complimentary at first. Years later, I asked her to shoot my bridal shower. During the shower, she pulled me aside and told me that I should try to make my makeup look more natural and that I was “doing too much”, mind you, I was wearing the same red lip she asked me about and she was wearing! At the time, I was a bit embarrassed because I thought she was trying to help but really she was trying to make me feel like a clown. She took that time that was supposed to be celebratory and had me feeling self conscious. Now looking back I see what she was doing. It’s hard when you realize a friend wasn’t really being a friend.
My ex boss, who was morbidly obese and probably over 200 lbs, went out of her way to pretend I was stupid. She was hard of hearing, and she would pretend to mishear what I said, and then mock me for being stupid. She only pretended to mishear me, no one else. She pulled this stunt repeatedly, to the point that it backfired, my coworkers pointed it out to her, and made her look stupid. I absolutely believe that she could not emotionally cope with me being 115 lbs and intelligent. She felt worthless compared to me, and needed to pretend I was an imbecile. Truly sad and hilarious
21:12 I’ve always been skinny and my whole life people would call it out. It made me feel so insecure and like I wasn’t cute. I recently saw a picture of myself in middle school. I looked so miserable and I could tell I didn’t put a lot of effort into how I looked because a) I didn’t really know how to b) I just didn’t see the point. I always saw being skinny as something undesirable because people would constantly call it out and tell me I need to eat more. they always point out how “flat” and “bony” I was. I didn’t grow up with the “they’re just jealous of you” mom so I never registered it as that. I just thought I needed to be thicker only recently realized that I had the “ideal” body type at the time and people were trying to humble me and, unfortunately, succeeded. I’m glad I could see my growth when one of my coworkers randomly said to me, “You’re so skinny! Almost too skinny.” out of the blue and I just laughed and went about my day without caring because I knew I looked good.
Honey, when someone says to me ‘omg your so skinny’ I turn around and say ‘oh thank you!’ I make out as if I think it was a compliment and they get embarrassed 😅
The workplace has been so hostile toward me. Worked in HR with two mean-spirited UABW who were obsessed with my salary. The one who worked in Compensation told me that my salary was "too high". The other one was looking at my pay secretly, then in a room with the three of us said "Hmm, I wish I could put you on child support with that salary", which made me uncomfortable. I reported that to the HR Manager (an UABM) who brushed it off, telling me, "Well, look at YOU, and then look at HER." WHAT? So my looks make it ok for people to say and do inappropriate things?!? She gets pity for looking how she does, and I get penalized! Wow.
I make sure I talk to women who I can relate too. That's how my complaints get heard. I've been told I'm not black!I have very long hair and my parents are Jamaican. I've learned to be kind and a good listener. People help me more now.
I stopped being nice as a teenager. I learned early. I’ve always been the bitch cuz I’m not scared to walk in my beauty and I show the world this is what God gave me. Oh well.
I’m the introverted kind. When I treat them with kindness, they all begin to have an internal conflict of wanting to like me but their jealousy won’t let them. I had MAJOR body dysmorphia and at 31, I finally accepted my body.
That's a ridiculous sentiment because simply EXISTING in our most natural state triggers others. We are incessantly told "you think you're all that" even when we have not done anything to highlight or showcase our beauty. This idea that we are "flaunting our beauty" is all in the jealous mind of not so attractive people. Your comment makes me think you may be "one of those."🤔 Anyway.🙄😒 To all of my PRETTY Girl Club Members, if you're concerned about the potential of vi○lence against you, take self-defense classes, get a fire¤rm license, frequent the g*n ranges to learn how to use your fire¤rm proficiently, and STAY PRETTY LADIES!🥰🤩😘💫💛💫 Pretty Girls, always remember that fear is of the devil! Do not be afraid to live in your own God-given beauty!
I got singled out of my friend group at work. They had all the excuses for me, making me seem like this terrible person as if their dirt ain't way worse than mine. One of them told me straight up that it's because they're all mothers, they can trauma bond, and it's because of my age that they can't fuck with me no more. So basically, my youth, beauty, the fact that im single with no kids, and seemingly "privileged" life is what they were jealous of. I was really working on fixing my bad habits and encouraged them to do the same but they were not having it. I outgrew the group fs.
Years ago, I was shamed out of never seeing a dermatologist, optometrist and nutritionist again. Now I am starting these services back up. Sick of the “Wish I had that problem” feedback from so-called professionals lol!
I don’t try to force myself to be nice because they will just think you’re stuck up anyways. 8:49 people will make sure to announce themselves so I can say hi. If someone says I’m conceited I will say yes
I was raised in purity culture (which is no different than rape culture if you ask me), and as a result was ashamed of even existing in a female body when I was a teenager.
this was such perfect timing ive been girlrotting for 2 days bc an old friend messaged me and it brought back bad highschool memories, the entitlement people feel, if you're pretty be ready for people to invade your privacy
I literally commented this on one of troyce TVs videos about the reason why attractive people are so insecure. people point out every possible flaw you have and compare you to OTHER attractive ppl and I actually did get some positive responses. Of course there’s always gonna be people that are like “boo cry me a river.” “This happens to average looking people all the time”, no it doesn’t happen to them on the same level that it happens to attractive people. Especially not in real life. I don’t have an ass I’ve never had an ass and the way people have reminded me this my entire life for no reason “you’d be a 10 if you had an ass.” Ppl go out of their way to knock you down whenever they can. I’ve literally experienced being unattractive and good looking. It does not happen on the same level at all so please stop. Unless you have experienced both being unattractive and attractive, you can’t speak on both experiences. as sad as this sounds when I gained weight I was actually kind of happy about it because it gave me a break from constantly being compared to other beautiful women. I got to Blend in and just be average. I was able to repair my self-esteem in peace There are positives and negatives to EVERYTHING in life.
Omg yes you just reminded me I need to tell my story of going from pretty privileged to being “regular”, then glowing up again. When I became uglier people STOPPED nit picking me. In fact, people started being nicer to me because I was less of a threat. I didn’t get hate anymore. Once I recovered from looking bad and got my looks back, suddenly the hatred and copying started again .
People randomly point out how big my nose is in a joking manner LOL when it doesn't even make sense@@ExoticalsUnitedIt won't even be relevant to what we're talking about
I had a classmate I was friends with tell me I'd be ugly if I weren't light-skinned. We weren't the same after cause her hatred for me kept growing each time she saw me.
I’m not multiracial but hearing this has really validated my early 20s and teens self my body dysmorphia has been crazy I’m just now getting over it I look back and I’m like nothing was wrong I’ve had my nose size be bashed but again I look nothing was ever that bad. It’s incredibly disheartening the extreme nitpicking I’ve looked back on
One of my “best friends” would say I have no body or not much hips in HS. But i’m 5’10 with a smaller waist. I obviously have hips but not super wide hips. Meanwhile she was short and always weighted more.
I also have a narrow nose (I’m Belizean (Afro & indigenous)/ Chinese Guyanese American. ) one of my closest friends in HS as well gave me a dirty look and told me “with your white woman’s nose”. I literally never thought I was attractive. It’s so messed up.
Some one has pulled an ugly picture of me from way back when I posted a video of my hip length hair. I was shocked😮, but got over it. Now I get it. I am inviting my exotic beautiful friends over here.
i have never in my life found a channel or community where this many ppl get my lived experience 😂 this is so incredibly validating and unfortunately this is a thing many of us have had to endure since a young age. i’ve come to expect it but also learn how to navigate and transmute their bad energy into positive energy that serves me and leaves me even more blessed ❤
Went to school and work without eyeliner on one day and a handful of people went out of their way to say OMG you look so different today, are you sick!? Then came up to look at my face and say oh never mind you don’t have eyeliner on…
It’s so crazy cuz how does a black line make a difference in appearance? People are wild! I had something like that happen to me, except this guy said I only look part Asian when I have eyeliner on smh 🤦🏽♀️
Years ago, a young lady in my previous congregation was consistently rude, competitive, ridiculously sarcastic and happy when I wanted to not go in groups with her. Did not help that we later ended liking the same man, lol. He dated and married a woman from entirely different state, lol. The young woman just had it out for me in the very beginning and I did not understand why. Always competitive and acted like I had no good qualities. Exhausting person
Not gonna lie, the skin tone thing happened to me recently. There was a convo happening about looking racially ambiguous. I mentioned that because I am mixed, many people ask me what my race is. Therefore, I think I am classified as a racially ambiguous person. I’m the same color as Alicia Keys for reference. As soon as I said that I was racially ambiguous, this crazy chick started going off on me about how I’m black and I’m tryna add more mixture to myself then there is and that she has relatives who are way lighter then me so therefore I’m not ambiguous looking 😂 then she said I look like Left Eye from TLC and that Left Eye was clearly black and how dare I say I’m ambiguous…I was like girl, “get help immediately…wtf was that crazy rant.” Just me saying that people ask me my race made her soooooo triggered. She was so offended that I don’t only classify myself as black lmao it’s like “are yall ok..?”
Ugh I hate when people try to use that humbling tactic “. . . you still black. . .” I had a Jamaican coworker who had Brazilian ancestry so her last name is Brazilian as well. She looks unambiguous and she wasn’t bragging about anything, she was asked a question about the origin of her name, then boom. She was told “well you still black” as if she ever said she wasn’t. I get frustrated when people are ignorant and triggered about someone not being strictly black
Sorry to say but they alwaysssss do that. The women do it out of jealousy and black men do it as that would make you wanna be with them just because of that. I’m Afro Hispanic so I get that a lot. I feel I have to stay verbally ready to also tell them something intentionally rude back
I have noticed just the act of self-identifying can make certain people around you go into attack mode. like it's a betrayal to them. it happened to me, recently.
Negging and gaslighting is what I receive the most. I’m not a woman but I am a Brazilian exotica gay man who loves to embrace my dark and soft femininity while embracing my minor aspects of masculinity and I LUV your channel ! ❤
Absolutely have(and still) experience so many of those things from childhood to now. From being assumed I'm stuck up(I'm actually introverted and deal with anxiety 😅), I stole boyfriends, I never speak,etc. I've always been plus size, so I know folks try to make themselves feel better by comparing weight. My weight HAS NEVER hindered one aspect of my life. 😊
I couldn’t relate more. I usually like to relax my hair and wear clips in for length sometimes. ( I’m a light skin unambiguous and pretty lady) One day I was going out with a few friends and my friendship group is diverse. And I didn’t realise one piece of my hair extension was showing. It’s was not even obvious my own best friend didn’t even notice Lool. A dark skin unambiguous girl with small Afro hair and she’s was overweight on the bus was looking me up and down heavy from her side of the bus. I felt the stares but I ignore her. Then after few minutes left she took herself off her seat to come to where I was with my friends. To say ohh you need to fix your hair cos I see your tracks. Everyone just looked at her and one of friend said. I didn’t see that How did you see that from there. Wow. I wasn’t even embarrassed. I pulled out my mirror and said you have good eyes kinda laugh . Thought it was funny 😂 The obsession is so real 😂😅
When my mom is drunk she literally touches my stomach and pokes at it likes it big, she even jokingly said I ate good because I looked bloated when I didn’t eat at all, my brother has asked me what’s going on with my stomach and that I need to work on that. I’ve always had friends say oh you have a pimple or just picking at me for anything out of place.
All the way through school I was pretty plus naturally skinny. I got called "anorexic" by women and put down by men with more disgusting things like how they would "break" me. I went to my 10 year high school reunion only to find that all the hot guys were fat and balding and all the popular women were in unhappy marriages or divorced. Meanwhile, I hadn't gained a single pound or aged a single day-- AND had not fallen for the marriage-and-babies trap. It was vindication at its finest. 😈
PS. Kamala Harris is a genuinely awful person who has done horrible things to people in her political career. Her picture does not need to be in this mashup. People hate her for being evil, not for being pretty.
I thought i was a ugly monster! I was a straight a student very quiet.I was bullied so bad for being ugly so i thought.i h@ted myself that i literally was so d3pressed i tried to rip my face off but stop myself.i wS hurting so bad and wished i could see someone else in the mirror.come to find out i was always attractive.its crazzzzy.i have pretty straight teeth symetrical face, natural hour glass figure, acne freeskin, my eyes eyes are different and i use to have buttt length hair and i have a pecan tan.i get scrutinized for my clothes weight like some people even make up stuff!!! I was told i look like a kangaroo, my hair is a bird nests, ears to big, my legs skin has a little discoloration so im diseased they said!!!! I refused to wear mini skirts.im pretty and get called whore for having guy friends.i stayed virgin till i was 22yrs old because i thought i was to ugly to sleep with..like my life has been hard yet people are so jealous of me and i not trying to be better i was blessed better in appearance by G0d not on my own accord i didnt ask that!❤
This how I feel right now I’m 17 year old girl bout to graduate high school and I hate feeling like this so much😭 I’ve had bad depression and suicidal thoughts because of it
I love this fkn channel man!!!😂 you know EXACTLY what the hell you’re talking about! I didn’t know how beautiful I was as a young girl! Now that I’ve learned to love myself forreal I DEFINITELY experience ALL this and then some!! Please keep it coming!!🫶🏽💯💪🏾🔥
My daughter is Afro Latina and beautiful. I don’t look like that, but I say that to say I like to learn about this kind of stuff so when she’s a teenager and grown woman I can be able to understand some of things she might go thru. My whole family is light skin and beautiful, so from my perception I don’t treat ppl like shit because they are beautiful or deemed unattractive. I honestly, don’t live my life by being superficial and judgmental. It’s simple: if you treat me nice I treat you nice. I care about how you are as a person towards me and others. Not if you’re pretty or not. Everything you are talking about in this video is valid from what I see happen to beautiful ppl.
Also.. people literally watch every little thing we do. When we step out in the world we have to already know that we are hypervisualized by men and woman.. there’s no escape ladies. Wearing a hoodie sunglasses and hat works sometimes but people can still tell your a beauty underneath it all smh
27:51 this is why I stopped getting color matched at makeup stores. every time i get color matched, they will try to convince me I’m a darker foundation shade than I am and then most of the time when I go with their recommendation, I have to take the take it back or use it as contour because it’s too dark. 😭 I even had to argue with a girl one time and I just didn’t end up buying the product because I didn’t even know which shade to buy anymore.
I went to prom orange-colored thanks to a similar situation. At that time, my and was still flaring up a lot so my skin flushed red. But now, I rely on UA-camrs who are around my same shade. If you find one good foundation that can be used to find others. I bluntly refuse to be color matched in stores and I don't hesitate to tell them why.
I wish younger me would have learned this sooner. I was introverted and could never get a break. I'm resentful of how petty it was but now I just keep to myself as I did back then but with no shame.
Are U a mind reader?!? I was hoping you’d post more about this topic; currently started a new job and have been dealing with a lot of these themes. Listening to ur videos has been helping with coping with the stress. I’m going to use your advice from other videos as well and transmute the energy into a creative hobby, business, self care, and joining a gym or activity outside of work. Also some advice, usually if you’re pretty ppl won’t compliment u when you look good but they’ll make sure to when you are wearing something unflattering bc they want you to look bad.
I believe they also take unflattering pictures of you. My sister would take the most awkward pictures of me when I was relaxing at home watching tv and then laugh. I would get really annoyed & tell her that it’s not me and she would say “Of coarse it’s you.” I remember she was self conscious about how her nose was larger than her face & she had a very small chin. She would tell me that I had a beautiful nose & how my face was proportionate. I gained so much weight because of all the abuse & trauma that my family put me through. And at my heaviest my sister would call me fat every day for several years. I lost 150 pounds & then my sister says that I had my gastric bypass handed to me. The more I lose the more she ignores me. I feel like when you develop self esteem you become intolerant to poor treatment.
@@ExoticalsUnited thanks for making these videos. They’re very validating & affirming. I believe they not only can help women of all ages but they can help young girls who are still growing. ♥️♥️♥️♥️
💯, it’s like you spied on everything I’ve gone through. Every single scenario. Now my self esteem comes from God and it works, they can’t put me down. Plus , minding my pockets, and raising my standards even HIGHER coz I e already faced the worst of them so I’m not afraid to have no friends and shine. Glory be to God always
This video actually touched on a lot and helped me so much.❤ I can't help but to notice that lot of these tactices are even micro agressive towards women of color as well. 😮
I have two white women on my job that always makes it a mission to point me out. One is always bringing up my curls. Like recently she was talking about getting a haircut so in front of the office she tells me that she would go with my stylist, but my wife cut my hair. Meanwhile, it’s a white woman who literally just had a cut with the same texture as her. My friend backed me up telling her something. I said umm my wife cut my hair due to medical reasons. I reminded her that was 2 years ago. Other than that I got a trim months ago. Again, doesn’t make sense since her & I have different textures so our cuts would not be done using the same method. The other brings up my body a lot which is also weird. I don’t know if she’s questioning her sexuality or what lol but ma’am calm down. I had other crazy stuff happen to me too. In high school one black girl didn’t talk to me, because she said she thought that I wasn’t black. My friend called her out saying umm that’s racist. I had to laugh saying wait. I’ve had guys who hit on me to get upset when I rejected them too. I’m lesbian and not even girly to where you wouldn’t guess. In high school they’ll insult you even when I say it’s not you it’s me. I like women like you do too. 😂 Navigating the world can be hard as a woman.
I love your channel!! Thank you for your bravery in sharing this controversial (but true!) information! One way men have tried to humble me is by telling me that they prefer women who have “xyz” (looks that are very different from mine), when I never asked or cared!! Women have accused me of being shallow and valuing “brand names”, even though I own not one single designer piece in my entire wardrobe! 😂
As a man I can relate to this content. I’ve had friends, women and including family that would downplay my looks but I would never understand it until now. I’m a attractive man
I have natural body and I have had insecure women call out and be like that’s a bbl your boobs are fake. I have had insecure friends also isolate me invite me and then switch up on me. Now I’m not putting up with women like that anymore I refuse to be bullied once I see a sighn of that I’m out.
You guys ever experienced this from people and some of the same people that has done all of this or stood by and watched it happen, try to reappear in your life over the years repeatedly to see what you've been up to?? 😂🤣
Thank you for this! ❤ It's mind blowing how relatable and validating your content is❤ I'm still battling body dysmorphia because of all the things you mentioned but it gets better. Positive affirmations have helped me so much. And I used to try to dress down, it's crazy even the red Lipstick part I was only wearing pink because of how "too much" people said all the other colours were. But now my response will be to double down❤
Ooh I was in the military and wheeww child. The too pretty, dumb pretty girl who doesn’t know her job stereotypes all over. Just hate and bitterness for no reason. Micromanaging, it was a bunch of just mean spirited women in my group. And many microagressions from a certain collective of men. It was a horrifying experience and took me a year to realize and I’m still realizing. I went through all of that trauma simply because I’m pretty with a nice body. “She’s always in the mirror” “She has a bad attitude”(i’ve never said a single word to that person.) “her hair is ugly” ect. Ect. Ect.
The celebrity comparisons. I always got “you look like Aaliyah”. Then somehow tell me she’s was prettier though. Other thing I’ve noticed is when you’re highly beautiful(10) it intimidates other woman who are pretty (7-8)they’ll never compliment you, but will compliment an average woman. A lot of ppl won’t compliment or support you.
Wow I’m glad I watched this video! I was accused of being a whore and he kept calling me beautiful and sexy and keep in mind I was 70 pounds overweight. I thought it was because we slept with each-other on the first date. But I’ve always been called pretty since 9th grade and hung around the popular pretty girls.
Right? I'm like 40 pounds overweight but men love the curves! Never got attention when I was super skinny. Never accused of being a hoe. I'm so sorry that happened
@@carmelcutie1991 yea, because he was only my second and still is! Wanted to try something new after leaving my husband. And That’s okay love, not your fault ☺️.
Humbling tactic... OVERLY complimenting the less attractive girl next to you.
Omg yes! Then when they look at you afterwards to see your reaction 😂
This!!! I thought I was crazy when I noticed this lol 😂... Wow people suck lol 😭😭😭😭
This the oneeee😩🤣
OMG yess!! It’s so obvious!!
Yep,yep
The being pretty and quiet "stuck up" misconception is insanely ACCURATE!
Envy is evil. Be careful with ANYONE who shows you they are not for you.
People literally think that if you are pretty, money is falling right onto you above from the sky and all of the problems just run away from you! They are absolutely sure you have no right to experience grief and your traumas never happened… They hate you if you use your beauty, but it seems like they will absolutely destroy you if you don’t!!
Absolutely this! Like my life isn't great because I won a genetic lottery!
So true, once a guy told me II look like I am looked after a rich man. I wish! lol
@@exoticallyme ugh I hate this one specifically because it's always something vapid. If I had your looks/body I would (insert something stupid)
yep 😔
Don’t even get me started on being a beautiful girl and not being married yet - wooo! They will rejoice and decide that there’s something wrong with you, even though there are many reasons you may be single.
How dare you be very articulated too, the drama the hate OMG
Omg 😂facts
Can we talk about the sabotage at work? Being lied on. People not wanting to train you. Gaslighting you when you make a complaint.
Are you me?? I went thru all these things last month
Omg I'm so glad you mentioned this part!! Especially about not wanting to train you!!!
facts. An overweight MLS woman drove me out of corporate America. I was pissed, but looking back she did me a favor😆
@FoundSheep-AN As I've stated before, it's so hard to prove to HR, lawyers, etc, without sounding conceited AF. Idk what to do anymore.
She made videos about bullying the pretty girl and jealousy at work.
I’ve had people nitpick me my whole life ! Ever since elementary,middle school and high school.
Same
Yep, I became a really nice people pleaser so girls wouldn’t be jealous. That doesn’t work either. So much trauma. Still healing from all of that.
Same ❤
Yes I tried that route too … It doesn’t work … because being perceived as too beautiful, too smart, too athletic … AND needy (for good treatment) is a dangerous combination … If people are jealous of you, feel inferior AND they sense you’re weak … get ready for some bullying
Same it makes you the Ultimate target
Its a sad fact that I have come to realize , that the bullying often drive you into being the bitchy character they mistook you for initially! Its human nature to become super aggressive when feeling threatened.
same! doesnt help at all
I really struggle with being too introverted & humble , then when people act passive aggressive to me I really seem to surprise them with my equally passive aggressive side. I’m like who did you think you were talking to don’t try me.
Sending this to my daughter away at college. Unfortunately, this same nonsense is happening to her that I used to deal with when I was her age.
Omg yes please send it to her !
The humbling strategies are real. I think visibly pretty women have to curate their life and just be around equally attractive and high minded good people otherwise this will be an every day thing. I have soo many stories. Tbh I’ve turned down friendship offers by women who aren’t as attractive as I am because I know enough to know where that May end up lol
This is where I'm at now. I'll keep it cute and polite, but no one is invited to my home.
I find that people pour into the unattractive/average girl (a bit overboard) then act like they dont see you🙄Had to learn to build myself up! Unapologetically.
Yes people give “ugly” women more pity compliments and stuff
I lost too many years to forfeiting my right to be pretty. I now wear it like ARMOR! Thank you for this channel!!!!!!
My ex was mean to me and other pretty women because he felt like everyone else liked me too much. He felt like pretty women had it too easy. All of this happens
Pretty introvert here; it’s annoying to get those projections. I just want to be quiet in peace💜
Not exactly introverted but I’m an ENTJ the most introverted extrovert and yeah, just want these dumb a*** es to leave me alone sometimes it’s a fixation
When I was around 12, I grew several inches over a matter of months. I’m the tallest woman in my family. So here I am, pretty, long hair and towering over everyone.
I was still a child though, and yet it felt like everyone turned on me in one way or another. I was suddenly under so much scrutiny. My older cousins and even aunts began to treat me like a temptress.
As a result, I developed body dysmorphia. I thought I was fat when I was just curvy. My long legs looked too long. I stopped trying to look cute because he made everyone lose their minds. I didn’t realize I was attractive until I was in my late 20s. And then it took until my 30s to take ownership of my looks and accept myself.
When men send their representative to get me on a date then make me have to "prove my worth" when it's already in how I carry myself, is so annoying. Like sir, you went out your way to get me here and you want me to "prove" I'm worth investing time, money and energy into when I already do that for myself?? Like UGH!!
Yup I would just ghost a guy at that point 😂
@@ExoticalsUnited PERIODT. My block game is 💯 I refuse to be around insecure men who think they’re the prize lol ew
INTERESTING! OMG @ nobody would point out flaws on unattractive ppl
Yeah! People don’t feel the need to pick apart every small flaw on the “ugliest” girl in their presence. Usually they’ll just treat her like she’s invisible, or they’ll think she’s “ugly” and move on. They don’t point out tiny flaws like a small mole, small pimples etc. people only do that with those they’re admiring and examining.
Sometimes they actually get the most praise by their peers n also on social media lol
I hate the nitpicking and micromananging of children I believe that’s where it all starts from. When parents can’t just let a child exist. This is the case with me. My dad always had something to say about my appearance.
“What’s wrong with your face? Is that a pimple?”
“You’re getting too light what’s wrong? You should go outside more”
Recently when he brought up that I’ve gained weight in the most humiliating way possible, I told him “if my appearance is going to be the center of our conversations I’m never going to speak to you again”.
He was shocked. Couldn’t even speak.
Im almost 30 but had several glow ups and glow downs due to gaining weight and losing it. But when i looked good - NOBODY told me anything but praising everybody's beauty, so i thought I'm mediocre looking. After a traumatic heartbreak i moved to a capital city to work in hospitality business - and i couldnt save myself from people telling me how beautiful i am, getting cards from model agencies etc. I was really overwhelmed but it helped me a lot. But when i go back to my homecity people are just talking about my weightloss and not even positively - so i just learned, these people are not my friends. The other part of people I call my friends are good looking but also have a lot of enhancements and they love to project their insecurities on other people, asking why you didnt get the botox treatment already, like isnt that for older woman who like to look younger ??? ☠️☠️☠️Its hard to be pretty and natural and not let people planting sh!t in your mind.
Humbling tactics I've experienced:
1. You didn't get your daddy's hair (meaning straight. I have Type 3).
2. You're fat (I've ALWAYS been thick and was NEVER skinny).
3. You are all kinds of mixed up - said in a deragotory way.
My hair can straighten easily, you could never tell it was not natural - so YEAH!
My natural weight I have beautiful curves and I'm not looking like a corpse or a bus
Being mixed is great IF you know your many heritages/backgrounds and don't allow others to use THAT to their benefit!
Being demonized for your beauty by your family and shamed (religious background) and being treated like the devil and called slurs (wh0re etc) before youre even at an age to hold someones hand is one of the most hurtful experiences
I’m pretty, naturally thin with large breasts and a big behind and I remember being 17 at a revival and was asked to leave the pool because of my swimsuit, it was a halter top boy short set, I was mortified I’m 42 now and a twice divorced single mom of three and I’m an extreme introvert to this day because I’m always being picked apart because I’m beautiful and I know it
I can relate! I'm finally embracing my womanhood and beauty at 42 as well. Enjoy your beauty! It's yours and only yours!
if you are pretty and introverted?! holy shit now I have an 'attitude' , im too 'high class' to be interacting with everybody or wow she doesnt like us because she is pretty
Got call that the other day
This channel is really healing my inner child. My whole life I have questioned why I’m treated the way I am by (family, grandparents, strangers, teachers, etc) I eventually figured it out but hearing that others experience the same issues it helps is know we aren’t crazy. I wish my younger self had this channel. Thank you for what you are doing.
My own dad called me ugly and fat to “humble” me during a argument! Crazy! But calls me pretty everyday…which honestly at some point is not needed from your own father. Kinda weird a little bit 🥴
Damn sorry you experienced that
@@Neecy_York that’s ok, thanks hun ☺️
@@winxclubstellamusa I’m sorry to hear that! I hope you always know that you are a beautiful in every way and you can be anything you need or want in your life. 🤍
This channel has changed my life. Ms. Exotical United is changing the game. Your validating so many women issues. Being Beautiful = Being Hated on by ALL GENRE OF WOMEN. We just need to dust our shoulders off and walk with Power. We need to be friends with those who Strut through Life in the same Lane. Forget about the rest. And Laugh all the way to the Bank. Because PRETTY Pays Ladies. ❤
I agree with your comment except the part about ALL genre of women hate beautiful women. I don’t hate anyone beautiful, one of my colleagues is one of the most beautiful woman I ever seen in my life and I don’t feel threatened by her beauty. I genuinely love her because she is a good person and a good friend to me.
I feel like allot of women are threatened by beautiful women and feel inferior or insecure in spaces with beautiful women.
@@deedeewashington6995 Why would you think she was referring to you specifically, though? 🙄 That was weird.
@@lawonyinye7056 Clearly, she is referring to the COLLECTIVE of women, particularly those that are unattractive. What else would the phrase "all genres of women mean"? Surely, you're not so dense as to interpret that statement to mean every single woman on the whole entire planet.😏🙄 See, this is what we mean when we say that other women just love to try to gaslight pretty women. You and that other weird commenter knew exactly what the original commenter meant when she stated "all genres of women." Cut the crap.😒
@@sophiam9886I don’t think she was talking about me specifically, I was just sharing my own experience.
Deedee, you stated that you didn't agree with what she said regarding all genres of women. You may be an exception, but that exception does not negate the rule.
You are being asked to think about what you say before you say it. And it would be wise of you to do so.
Once I was at a party and there was a model there , she was very tall and pretty, she talked to everyone apart from me, very strange as I was not a model. She was way prettier than me so not sure why. Similar things happen, there is always this one girl in a group who will not even make eye contact but will talk to everyone else but me.
that's really weird? why would she do that?
On point!! ❤it’s sad when friends try to humble you, because it comes off as trying to be helpful, but now I realize they just wanted to have control of my appearance. In college, I had a friend that would ask about how I did my hair and what lipstick I used ( I used to be big on doing the ombré lip look) literally after I told her she started doing her hair and lip like mine the next time I saw her in class! I thought it was her being cute and complimentary at first. Years later, I asked her to shoot my bridal shower. During the shower, she pulled me aside and told me that I should try to make my makeup look more natural and that I was “doing too much”, mind you, I was wearing the same red lip she asked me about and she was wearing! At the time, I was a bit embarrassed because I thought she was trying to help but really she was trying to make me feel like a clown. She took that time that was supposed to be celebratory and had me feeling self conscious. Now looking back I see what she was doing. It’s hard when you realize a friend wasn’t really being a friend.
My ex boss, who was morbidly obese and probably over 200 lbs, went out of her way to pretend I was stupid. She was hard of hearing, and she would pretend to mishear what I said, and then mock me for being stupid. She only pretended to mishear me, no one else. She pulled this stunt repeatedly, to the point that it backfired, my coworkers pointed it out to her, and made her look stupid. I absolutely believe that she could not emotionally cope with me being 115 lbs and intelligent. She felt worthless compared to me, and needed to pretend I was an imbecile. Truly sad and hilarious
21:12 I’ve always been skinny and my whole life people would call it out. It made me feel so insecure and like I wasn’t cute. I recently saw a picture of myself in middle school. I looked so miserable and I could tell I didn’t put a lot of effort into how I looked because a) I didn’t really know how to b) I just didn’t see the point. I always saw being skinny as something undesirable because people would constantly call it out and tell me I need to eat more. they always point out how “flat” and “bony” I was.
I didn’t grow up with the “they’re just jealous of you” mom so I never registered it as that. I just thought I needed to be thicker only recently realized that I had the “ideal” body type at the time and people were trying to humble me and, unfortunately, succeeded. I’m glad I could see my growth when one of my coworkers randomly said to me, “You’re so skinny! Almost too skinny.” out of the blue and I just laughed and went about my day without caring because I knew I looked good.
I experienced a lot of skinny shaming also im glad you overcame it beautiful !
Honey, when someone says to me ‘omg your so skinny’ I turn around and say ‘oh thank you!’ I make out as if I think it was a compliment and they get embarrassed 😅
@@caramellocs3 thank you sweetheart 🩷
@@shanicrystal8671 ooo i like this 😭
@@Subplaylist1111 literally 😭 i wasn’t even that that boney! people just wanted me to see myself that way smh
So many people at work told me I was dumb and pointed physical flaws ... Jesus! Guess I'm a Goddess!
The workplace has been so hostile toward me. Worked in HR with two mean-spirited UABW who were obsessed with my salary. The one who worked in Compensation told me that my salary was "too high". The other one was looking at my pay secretly, then in a room with the three of us said "Hmm, I wish I could put you on child support with that salary", which made me uncomfortable. I reported that to the HR Manager (an UABM) who brushed it off, telling me, "Well, look at YOU, and then look at HER." WHAT? So my looks make it ok for people to say and do inappropriate things?!? She gets pity for looking how she does, and I get penalized! Wow.
I make sure I talk to women who I can relate too. That's how my complaints get heard. I've been told I'm not black!I have very long hair and my parents are Jamaican. I've learned to be kind and a good listener. People help me more now.
I stopped being nice as a teenager. I learned early. I’ve always been the bitch cuz I’m not scared to walk in my beauty and I show the world this is what God gave me. Oh well.
I’m the introverted kind. When I treat them with kindness, they all begin to have an internal conflict of wanting to like me but their jealousy won’t let them. I had MAJOR body dysmorphia and at 31, I finally accepted my body.
I think we should be careful about flaunting around some people because there have been threats & sometimes actual violence against us occurs 😑
Just curious. Flaunting around who? What is the context?
@vwd3437
Oh, why that's quite simple: HUMANS, be they envious females or males.
That's a ridiculous sentiment because simply EXISTING in our most natural state triggers others. We are incessantly told "you think you're all that" even when we have not done anything to highlight or showcase our beauty. This idea that we are "flaunting our beauty" is all in the jealous mind of not so attractive people. Your comment makes me think you may be "one of those."🤔
Anyway.🙄😒 To all of my PRETTY Girl Club Members, if you're concerned about the potential of vi○lence against you, take self-defense classes, get a fire¤rm license, frequent the g*n ranges to learn how to use your fire¤rm proficiently, and STAY PRETTY LADIES!🥰🤩😘💫💛💫
Pretty Girls, always remember that fear is of the devil! Do not be afraid to live in your own God-given beauty!
Get a spine and be the violent one 😂 I say that with Love💕 Everyone only that the power to importance you give them.
I got singled out of my friend group at work. They had all the excuses for me, making me seem like this terrible person as if their dirt ain't way worse than mine. One of them told me straight up that it's because they're all mothers, they can trauma bond, and it's because of my age that they can't fuck with me no more. So basically, my youth, beauty, the fact that im single with no kids, and seemingly "privileged" life is what they were jealous of. I was really working on fixing my bad habits and encouraged them to do the same but they were not having it. I outgrew the group fs.
Years ago, I was shamed out of never seeing a dermatologist, optometrist and nutritionist again. Now I am starting these services back up. Sick of the “Wish I had that problem” feedback from so-called professionals lol!
I don’t try to force myself to be nice because they will just think you’re stuck up anyways.
8:49 people will make sure to announce themselves so I can say hi.
If someone says I’m conceited I will say yes
I was raised in purity culture (which is no different than rape culture if you ask me), and as a result was ashamed of even existing in a female body when I was a teenager.
this was such perfect timing ive been girlrotting for 2 days bc an old friend messaged me and it brought back bad highschool memories, the entitlement people feel, if you're pretty be ready for people to invade your privacy
Set boundaries
I literally commented this on one of troyce TVs videos about the reason why attractive people are so insecure. people point out every possible flaw you have and compare you to OTHER attractive ppl and I actually did get some positive responses. Of course there’s always gonna be people that are like “boo cry me a river.” “This happens to average looking people all the time”, no it doesn’t happen to them on the same level that it happens to attractive people. Especially not in real life. I don’t have an ass I’ve never had an ass and the way people have reminded me this my entire life for no reason “you’d be a 10 if you had an ass.”
Ppl go out of their way to knock you down whenever they can.
I’ve literally experienced being unattractive and good looking. It does not happen on the same level at all so please stop. Unless you have experienced both being unattractive and attractive, you can’t speak on both experiences.
as sad as this sounds when I gained weight I was actually kind of happy about it because it gave me a break from constantly being compared to other beautiful women. I got to Blend in and just be average.
I was able to repair my self-esteem in peace
There are positives and negatives to EVERYTHING in life.
Omg yes you just reminded me I need to tell my story of going from pretty privileged to being “regular”, then glowing up again. When I became uglier people STOPPED nit picking me. In fact, people started being nicer to me because I was less of a threat. I didn’t get hate anymore. Once I recovered from looking bad and got my looks back, suddenly the hatred and copying started again .
@@ExoticalsUnitedthank you soo much for validating this and yes please share your story bc I know so many ppl can relate !!
People randomly point out how big my nose is in a joking manner LOL when it doesn't even make sense@@ExoticalsUnitedIt won't even be relevant to what we're talking about
I had a classmate I was friends with tell me I'd be ugly if I weren't light-skinned. We weren't the same after cause her hatred for me kept growing each time she saw me.
Had this problem growing up, for some reason as we got older they started using skin lightning product guess what they are still ugly 😂
I’m not multiracial but hearing this has really validated my early 20s and teens self my body dysmorphia has been crazy I’m just now getting over it I look back and I’m like nothing was wrong I’ve had my nose size be bashed but again I look nothing was ever that bad. It’s incredibly disheartening the extreme nitpicking I’ve looked back on
Ooooo you’re gorgeous love ❤
@@caramellocs3 thank you !
@@honeydew1754 probably I was also incredibly timid before and thank you 🙏🏽
You are very pretty (:
One of my “best friends” would say I have no body or not much hips in HS. But i’m 5’10 with a smaller waist. I obviously have hips but not super wide hips. Meanwhile she was short and always weighted more.
I also have a narrow nose (I’m Belizean (Afro & indigenous)/ Chinese Guyanese American. ) one of my closest friends in HS as well gave me a dirty look and told me “with your white woman’s nose”. I literally never thought I was attractive. It’s so messed up.
Yeah that’s pure projection
Some one has pulled an ugly picture of me from way back when I posted a video of my hip length hair.
I was shocked😮, but got over it. Now I get it.
I am inviting my exotic beautiful friends over here.
every point you made, I could hear people's words echoing in my head from the past, and I didn't realize it was jealousy.
i have never in my life found a channel or community where this many ppl get my lived experience 😂 this is so incredibly validating and unfortunately this is a thing many of us have had to endure since a young age. i’ve come to expect it but also learn how to navigate and transmute their bad energy into positive energy that serves me and leaves me even more blessed ❤
Exactly. I am now getting paid off all my past haters by having this UA-cam channel 😂
Went to school and work without eyeliner on one day and a handful of people went out of their way to say OMG you look so different today, are you sick!? Then came up to look at my face and say oh never mind you don’t have eyeliner on…
It’s so crazy cuz how does a black line make a difference in appearance? People are wild! I had something like that happen to me, except this guy said I only look part Asian when I have eyeliner on smh 🤦🏽♀️
That happened to me two days ago went to work looking tired and some ugly dude made a big deal about it
Years ago, a young lady in my previous congregation was consistently rude, competitive, ridiculously sarcastic and happy when I wanted to not go in groups with her. Did not help that we later ended liking the same man, lol. He dated and married a woman from entirely different state, lol. The young woman just had it out for me in the very beginning and I did not understand why. Always competitive and acted like I had no good qualities. Exhausting person
Not gonna lie, the skin tone thing happened to me recently. There was a convo happening about looking racially ambiguous. I mentioned that because I am mixed, many people ask me what my race is. Therefore, I think I am classified as a racially ambiguous person. I’m the same color as Alicia Keys for reference.
As soon as I said that I was racially ambiguous, this crazy chick started going off on me about how I’m black and I’m tryna add more mixture to myself then there is and that she has relatives who are way lighter then me so therefore I’m not ambiguous looking 😂 then she said I look like Left Eye from TLC and that Left Eye was clearly black and how dare I say I’m ambiguous…I was like girl, “get help immediately…wtf was that crazy rant.” Just me saying that people ask me my race made her soooooo triggered. She was so offended that I don’t only classify myself as black lmao it’s like “are yall ok..?”
Lmao and left eye was mixed race 😂😂😂
Ugh I hate when people try to use that humbling tactic “. . . you still black. . .”
I had a Jamaican coworker who had Brazilian ancestry so her last name is Brazilian as well. She looks unambiguous and she wasn’t bragging about anything, she was asked a question about the origin of her name, then boom. She was told “well you still black” as if she ever said she wasn’t. I get frustrated when people are ignorant and triggered about someone not being strictly black
Sorry to say but they alwaysssss do that. The women do it out of jealousy and black men do it as that would make you wanna be with them just because of that. I’m Afro Hispanic so I get that a lot. I feel I have to stay verbally ready to also tell them something intentionally rude back
I have noticed just the act of self-identifying can make certain people around you go into attack mode. like it's a betrayal to them.
it happened to me, recently.
ALWAYS REMEMBER: from envy to homicide there is only one step:OPPORTUNITY.
Stay alert.
Yup
Your voice is so calming. Not only do I get soothed and grounded when I listen to you, but I also learn a lot. Thank you so much!
Negging and gaslighting is what I receive the most. I’m not a woman but I am a Brazilian exotica gay man who loves to embrace my dark and soft femininity while embracing my minor aspects of masculinity and I LUV your channel ! ❤
Absolutely have(and still) experience so many of those things from childhood to now. From being assumed I'm stuck up(I'm actually introverted and deal with anxiety 😅), I stole boyfriends, I never speak,etc. I've always been plus size, so I know folks try to make themselves feel better by comparing weight. My weight HAS NEVER hindered one aspect of my life. 😊
The most hate I received was from dark skinned people some even in my family .
I couldn’t relate more. I usually like to relax my hair and wear clips in for length sometimes. ( I’m a light skin unambiguous and pretty lady)
One day I was going out with a few friends and my friendship group is diverse. And I didn’t realise one piece of my hair extension was showing. It’s was not even obvious my own best friend didn’t even notice Lool.
A dark skin unambiguous girl with small Afro hair and she’s was overweight on the bus was looking me up and down heavy from her side of the bus. I felt the stares but I ignore her.
Then after few minutes left she took herself off her seat to come to where I was with my friends.
To say ohh you need to fix your hair cos I see your tracks.
Everyone just looked at her and one of friend said. I didn’t see that How did you see that from there. Wow.
I wasn’t even embarrassed. I pulled out my mirror and said you have good eyes kinda laugh . Thought it was funny 😂
The obsession is so real 😂😅
Almost at 18k🎊🎉🎊🎊
When my mom is drunk she literally touches my stomach and pokes at it likes it big, she even jokingly said I ate good because I looked bloated when I didn’t eat at all, my brother has asked me what’s going on with my stomach and that I need to work on that. I’ve always had friends say oh you have a pimple or just picking at me for anything out of place.
All the way through school I was pretty plus naturally skinny. I got called "anorexic" by women and put down by men with more disgusting things like how they would "break" me. I went to my 10 year high school reunion only to find that all the hot guys were fat and balding and all the popular women were in unhappy marriages or divorced. Meanwhile, I hadn't gained a single pound or aged a single day-- AND had not fallen for the marriage-and-babies trap. It was vindication at its finest. 😈
PS. Kamala Harris is a genuinely awful person who has done horrible things to people in her political career. Her picture does not need to be in this mashup. People hate her for being evil, not for being pretty.
I thought i was a ugly monster! I was a straight a student very quiet.I was bullied so bad for being ugly so i thought.i h@ted myself that i literally was so d3pressed i tried to rip my face off but stop myself.i wS hurting so bad and wished i could see someone else in the mirror.come to find out i was always attractive.its crazzzzy.i have pretty straight teeth symetrical face, natural hour glass figure, acne freeskin, my eyes eyes are different and i use to have buttt length hair and i have a pecan tan.i get scrutinized for my clothes weight like some people even make up stuff!!! I was told i look like a kangaroo, my hair is a bird nests, ears to big, my legs skin has a little discoloration so im diseased they said!!!! I refused to wear mini skirts.im pretty and get called whore for having guy friends.i stayed virgin till i was 22yrs old because i thought i was to ugly to sleep with..like my life has been hard yet people are so jealous of me and i not trying to be better i was blessed better in appearance by G0d not on my own accord i didnt ask that!❤
This how I feel right now I’m 17 year old girl bout to graduate high school and I hate feeling like this so much😭 I’ve had bad depression and suicidal thoughts because of it
Are we living the same lives 😭
@@Daisy.Mohajanewe might just girl!!!😢 but we will Win in the end!
I appreciate the shoutout ☺️❤️ I’m so glad this community is growing ‼️😁
Aw yay! You have an awesome channel!
@@ExoticalsUnitedthank you❗️☺️❤️❤️
I love this fkn channel man!!!😂 you know EXACTLY what the hell you’re talking about! I didn’t know how beautiful I was as a young girl! Now that I’ve learned to love myself forreal I DEFINITELY experience ALL this and then some!! Please keep it coming!!🫶🏽💯💪🏾🔥
My daughter is Afro Latina and beautiful. I don’t look like that, but I say that to say I like to learn about this kind of stuff so when she’s a teenager and grown woman I can be able to understand some of things she might go thru. My whole family is light skin and beautiful, so from my perception I don’t treat ppl like shit because they are beautiful or deemed unattractive. I honestly, don’t live my life by being superficial and judgmental.
It’s simple: if you treat me nice I treat you nice. I care about how you are as a person towards me and others. Not if you’re pretty or not.
Everything you are talking about in this video is valid from what I see happen to beautiful ppl.
Have we all been living the same life?
Unfortunately yes
this was very insightful as a pretty girl with dysmorphia (and who has been mistreated a lot for very confusing/unsaid reasons), thank you
Also.. people literally watch every little thing we do. When we step out in the world we have to already know that we are hypervisualized by men and woman.. there’s no escape ladies. Wearing a hoodie sunglasses and hat works sometimes but people can still tell your a beauty underneath it all smh
I’m introverted and I don’t care how people feel about I’m not going to be uncomfortable trying to make others comfortable…
27:51 this is why I stopped getting color matched at makeup stores. every time i get color matched, they will try to convince me I’m a darker foundation shade than I am and then most of the time when I go with their recommendation, I have to take the take it back or use it as contour because it’s too dark. 😭
I even had to argue with a girl one time and I just didn’t end up buying the product because I didn’t even know which shade to buy anymore.
I went to prom orange-colored thanks to a similar situation. At that time, my and was still flaring up a lot so my skin flushed red. But now, I rely on UA-camrs who are around my same shade. If you find one good foundation that can be used to find others. I bluntly refuse to be color matched in stores and I don't hesitate to tell them why.
I wish younger me would have learned this sooner. I was introverted and could never get a break. I'm resentful of how petty it was but now I just keep to myself as I did back then but with no shame.
Are U a mind reader?!? I was hoping you’d post more about this topic; currently started a new job and have been dealing with a lot of these themes. Listening to ur videos has been helping with coping with the stress. I’m going to use your advice from other videos as well and transmute the energy into a creative hobby, business, self care, and joining a gym or activity outside of work. Also some advice, usually if you’re pretty ppl won’t compliment u when you look good but they’ll make sure to when you are wearing something unflattering bc they want you to look bad.
Update; I ended up getting a promotion above them and now the girls that have been trying to be rude to me at work are trying to suck up to me 💀
I love that I found your channel ! I was always trying to humble myself to make the others feel better about themselves. This is awesome!
I believe they also take unflattering pictures of you. My sister would take the most awkward pictures of me when I was relaxing at home watching tv and then laugh. I would get really annoyed & tell her that it’s not me and she would say “Of coarse it’s you.” I remember she was self conscious about how her nose was larger than her face & she had a very small chin. She would tell me that I had a beautiful nose & how my face was proportionate.
I gained so much weight because of all the abuse & trauma that my family put me through. And at my heaviest my sister would call me fat every day for several years. I lost 150 pounds & then my sister says that I had my gastric bypass handed to me. The more I lose the more she ignores me. I feel like when you develop self esteem you become intolerant to poor treatment.
Omg that happened to me before at church! I had a “friend” that would try to take pictures under my chin, etc . Basically all the worst angles
@@ExoticalsUnited thanks for making these videos. They’re very validating & affirming. I believe they not only can help women of all ages but they can help young girls who are still growing. ♥️♥️♥️♥️
💯, it’s like you spied on everything I’ve gone through.
Every single scenario.
Now my self esteem comes from God and it works, they can’t put me down.
Plus , minding my pockets, and raising my standards even HIGHER coz I e already faced the worst of them so I’m not afraid to have no friends and shine.
Glory be to God always
Yes , I’m currently putting in the extra work to enjoy my true pretty privilege 💕
This video actually touched on a lot and helped me so much.❤
I can't help but to notice that lot of these tactices are even micro agressive towards women of color as well. 😮
I've definitely experienced body/beauty dysmorphia! It took me so long to realize what was actually happening, I was being humbled left and right.
I have two white women on my job that always makes it a mission to point me out. One is always bringing up my curls. Like recently she was talking about getting a haircut so in front of the office she tells me that she would go with my stylist, but my wife cut my hair. Meanwhile, it’s a white woman who literally just had a cut with the same texture as her. My friend backed me up telling her something. I said umm my wife cut my hair due to medical reasons. I reminded her that was 2 years ago. Other than that I got a trim months ago. Again, doesn’t make sense since her & I have different textures so our cuts would not be done using the same method. The other brings up my body a lot which is also weird. I don’t know if she’s questioning her sexuality or what lol but ma’am calm down. I had other crazy stuff happen to me too. In high school one black girl didn’t talk to me, because she said she thought that I wasn’t black. My friend called her out saying umm that’s racist. I had to laugh saying wait. I’ve had guys who hit on me to get upset when I rejected them too. I’m lesbian and not even girly to where you wouldn’t guess. In high school they’ll insult you even when I say it’s not you it’s me. I like women like you do too. 😂 Navigating the world can be hard as a woman.
Omg I’ve experienced this coz I’m pretty and beautiful and I take care of myself a lot! Ppl have tried to humble me and doesn’t work! I value myself ❤
I’m an Unambiguous bw and I love your content forget the haters. I see nothing wrong. Everyone has their own experience.
Thanks for watching !
I love your channel!! Thank you for your bravery in sharing this controversial (but true!) information!
One way men have tried to humble me is by telling me that they prefer women who have “xyz” (looks that are very different from mine), when I never asked or cared!!
Women have accused me of being shallow and valuing “brand names”, even though I own not one single designer piece in my entire wardrobe! 😂
As a man I can relate to this content. I’ve had friends, women and including family that would downplay my looks but I would never understand it until now. I’m a attractive man
I have natural body and I have had insecure women call out and be like that’s a bbl your boobs are fake. I have had insecure friends also isolate me invite me and then switch up on me. Now I’m not putting up with women like that anymore I refuse to be bullied once I see a sighn of that I’m out.
You guys ever experienced this from people and some of the same people that has done all of this or stood by and watched it happen, try to reappear in your life over the years repeatedly to see what you've been up to?? 😂🤣
Thank you for this! ❤ It's mind blowing how relatable and validating your content is❤
I'm still battling body dysmorphia because of all the things you mentioned but it gets better. Positive affirmations have helped me so much.
And I used to try to dress down, it's crazy even the red Lipstick part I was only wearing pink because of how "too much" people said all the other colours were.
But now my response will be to double down❤
Omg yes! I didn’t feel comfortable wearing red lipstick until after 30 years old because how how much people would shame glamourous makeup
@@ExoticalsUnited yeah I feel you!❤️ I'm restocking all the Lipsticks I gave away to appease others. I can't wait! 💆🏼♀️
Happens to dudes too... Just more subtle.
When I saw the title I thought yess. This is what I need to spot head on!
Ooh I was in the military and wheeww child. The too pretty, dumb pretty girl who doesn’t know her job stereotypes all over. Just hate and bitterness for no reason. Micromanaging, it was a bunch of just mean spirited women in my group. And many microagressions from a certain collective of men. It was a horrifying experience and took me a year to realize and I’m still realizing. I went through all of that trauma simply because I’m pretty with a nice body. “She’s always in the mirror” “She has a bad attitude”(i’ve never said a single word to that person.) “her hair is ugly” ect. Ect. Ect.
The celebrity comparisons. I always got “you look like Aaliyah”. Then somehow tell me she’s was prettier though. Other thing I’ve noticed is when you’re highly beautiful(10) it intimidates other woman who are pretty (7-8)they’ll never compliment you, but will compliment an average woman. A lot of ppl won’t compliment or support you.
yes the administration at my school always tries to dress code me or get me in trouble all the time for like no reason
I think we being called mixed black people is a very good description, because we are all mixed and black.
I see myself again! Thank you EU❤
I have never felt more seen than I have from this video. THANK YOU ❤
I needed to hear this today thank you 🥰🥰🥰
Wow I’m glad I watched this video! I was accused of being a whore and he kept calling me beautiful and sexy and keep in mind I was 70 pounds overweight.
I thought it was because we slept with each-other on the first date. But I’ve always been called pretty since 9th grade and hung around the popular pretty girls.
Right? I'm like 40 pounds overweight but men love the curves! Never got attention when I was super skinny. Never accused of being a hoe. I'm so sorry that happened
@@carmelcutie1991 yea, because he was only my second and still is! Wanted to try something new after leaving my husband. And That’s okay love, not your fault ☺️.
This is too much! Very sad and frustrating!
Thank you! I needed this! ❤
Every thing is right on!
Thank you for explaining why celebs go overboard on the plastic surgery.
Facts everything you said is so true I thank God for you and your channel 💜🖤🤗