@@tonyboehmer9311I love the way he does that, especially when he turns it around on people that try to gaslight other people into thinking it's their problem Yeah, whatever buddy/woman
@@Kai_sozetrue it’s hard to gauge that from a 4 minute Yt video but considering she left her job to help him and try to save the restaurant I’d say she’s a good person cuz I personally wouldn’t have done that but who knows
would u say a bad women, would leave her job to help her fiance in his buisnes? then stick around through all that verbal abuse even though shes not a owner and isnt on the hook finically? @@Kai_soze
@@thegarrison2432no you’re wrong. that’s only if you don’t have the stressors of your whole financial life crumbling if you don’t make it work. with that kind of financial stress you won’t love what you do even if you once did
Not quite. The trick is knowing two things: 1) the difference between a "job" and a "career"; and 2) the difference between a "passion" and a "hobby." Jobs are what you do to pay the bills, careers are what you do for personal fulfillment. Likewise, hobbies are what you do for fun, and passions are what you do to feel alive. The biggest mistake people make isn't turning their passions into their jobs, but turning their hobbies into their careers. If you enjoy doing something, but maybe you wouldn't enjoy doing it ten hours a day or more, then you shouldn't turn it into a job. I like cooking as a hobby, but I would NEVER want to work in the food industry. On the other hand, writing is my true passion, and I could do that ten hours a day and be willing to deal with all the pain and the bs that comes with making your way in that industry because that's what gives me a sense of personal fulfillment. Ideally, you would make a career out of your passion, but not everyone has that kind of a passion. Some people just have hobbies, and some people are fine just working a typical 9-5 in order to pay the bills and allow them the time and luxury to pursue those hobbies. The key to happiness in that case is just having the good sense not to force your hobby to become a career just because you think you MIGHT be good at it. If you don't have the drive to deal with all the stress and the hurdles that come with a career, then just do it for yourself in your off-time.
My parents owned a restaurant. Dad did not realize the big big effort it takes. Mom did. Im sure you can guess who was better under pressure and who got mad when people didn’t like the food.
You don’t yell, scream or lash out on your loved ones. Doesn’t matter the context. If you do love them, you don’t use anger. Simply walk away or think that your significant other does NOT DESERVE that.
You CAN lash out sometimes cause really it can happen in stressful moments we're human, emotional creatures, but it can be the normality and more important you dont even say you're sorry after? No no no thats a big red flag
@@crisptomato9495that’s not toxic though, that’s a competitive hard environment full of professionals who want to achieve. Shouting at your fiancé who has mental health issues is toxic.
Nahhh he certainly doesn't deserve her. If this is how he treats her in a public setting I'd hate to see what he's really like behind close doors. I wouldn't be surprised if he was abusive to her considering he's basically berating and attacking her like this in their workplace.
Sadly, some things are too far gone for anyone to salvage, as was the case for Love Bites. In the follow-up portion of the episode, we learn that Keff and Robinson sold the restaurant just two months after filming, shutting down operations before the episode aired. In an Instagram post from the restaurant's page, the caption (presumably written by Chris, states, "This has been a hard post to think about, type and even post. Let us start off like we always do by saying you guys are the best and we love you! Our customers are friends and some have become like family. We wouldn't trade these last 6 years of serving you for anything! But the time has come and We are on to our next adventure, But know we are leaving you in very good hands!" While the ownership is changing, it seems that the café with retain at least part of the Ramsay-fied menu. The caption goes on to say, "We will miss you all and even though Chris and I will no longer be apart [sic] of the business at 69 partition street our recipes and imprint will live through the new cafe! We will be transitioning ownership in the near future. Thank you all for an amazing 6 years!!! the engaged couple desperately needed time out of the restaurant and apart from each other in general. "We can't sacrifice our relationship for the restaurant. We need to heal together," Keff said in a post-filming testimonial. Ramsay ends his narration of the episode by saying that the two have decided to focus on repairing the relationship.
see a lot of ppl saying " hope he changed " bc he cried and imma be real, he's emotionally abusive so I HIGHLY doubt it. Might just being hitting me harder since im a Domestic survivor but I really hope she leaves him. After getting out of those relationships I learned even when you are ur partner are angry at each other there NO REASON to talk to one another like that. She deserves better.
Gordon's gotten older so naturally you become more softer, he didnt have to scream but his words were very heavy and we can see that they did give the cook an impact@@skippythealien9627
I think that gordon realised that the last thing he needed was a lashing, but rather to put everything into perspective. This wasnt the usual delusional and in denial owner trying to blow smoke up his backside, he was clearly spiraling out of control and needed reminding of what really mattered. I also suspect that the owner being straight with him also spared him.
I feel for both parties. It’s clear that he is drowning and possibly having his own mental health breakdown. That last image of him kneeling in the kitchen, the very place that he has come to hate, shows how tied and trapped he feels. Unfortunately, a mentally ill man can destroy all the women attached to him.
@@JSmedic1That‘s no excuse. It’s simply stating the facts. Thing is, it’s a slippery slope. At first, it’s just: „Can you help out on Saturday night?“ and a few months later, you happen to work 6 nights each week… the mothers and his fiancée should have said „no“ long ago. Anyway, Chris seems to be one of the people who romanticise restaurants, and neglect to see how much work it is. Being a good cook at home doesn’t even come close to it.
@@quirkyblackenby He probably wasn't at one point. Hopefully he gets back to the place where he treats women respectfully, even if it's not with his fiancé
As someone who was nearly destroyed by his mental health issues and hurt others, and regrets it Thank you for understanding, so few people who watched this episode understood and as bad as he acted I felt bad for him because I could tell this restaurant was destroying his mental and physical health I hope he gets better because mental health issues deserve help even when it's not expressed in the way considered socially acceptable
SHE didn't want the restaurant, SHE had to quit HER job to help HIM out at HIS restaurant. Needs to get as far away from that guy as she can, because he's only going to get worse, he doesn't care about her AT ALL.
@akmalarifahmadzuhairi No one has to tolerate disrespect. It has very little to do with handling flames and more just being a decent human being. If one can't articulate yourself without yelling, clearly, it's a personal problem.
in multiple kitchen nightmare episodes Gordon can be seen repairing and mending relationships with people. Does Gordon have any kind of background in mental health studies or counseling? Hes really good and bringing people together.
Mental health studies or counseling?? haha really? Why do you giuys always think that therapists and their academic background are the "experts" and the moral authority when it comes to this stuff? It bows down to CHARACTER and LIFE EXPERIENCES. You can't buy or sell that in college or whatever academia nonce people think is the moral high ground
She deserve so much better and so much more. She should leave that asshat. She’s gorgeous and seems so sweet. She could find someone who treats her well
Ehlers Danlos(same condition she has)/disabled gal here again. This episode left me quite disturbed. As I’ve said before, this guy gives me bad vibes. I’m not saying he’s abusive per say, but…. If he’s willing to behave in this way on camera what else is he doing? AWhile ago I had a partner who was exactly like this. I’m not kidding when I say that my abusive ex nearly killed me. He was a very selfish & sick man. Don’t think that I didn’t notice how this gentleman tried to make his digestive issues from anxiety steam roll hers when she’s literally had surgeries removing her guts. I know you must be empathetic to both parties’ situations but c’mon! From what I saw, given that this is reality tv, he’s also quick to excuse himself too via his poor mental health. Doesn’t sound as if he has any real respect for hers! While it’s unfortunate that their source of income, their restaurant,closed I am also concerned that she might be isolated with him which can potentially make things even worse from what I have experienced. However I’m hopeful things can all end in the best case scenarios for all parties. That’s what everyone wants. Don’t want to judge too quickly
Seems like very reasonable conclusion to me. Some of us just can’t get angry like these people do, and it’s all genders (I know you know this). I have personally thought about this while living with someone who would get passive aggressive, and usually controlling people need ample communication. A lot of us read in-between the lines, but those who get upset quickly don’t fill things in as often. They need a linear pattern to grab ahold to. And if you forget about that they start to seethe and see your actions as malicious. When you stop communicating it will always build with certain types of people, even though you shouldn’t need to communicate in a rigid linear way. Guarantee he justified it as her starting the issue (well he did say that), when the reality was it was a very innocent scenario with no one at fault. It seems like a classic pattern of the inability to snap out of thinking patterns and see other perspectives when they truly need to see them.
Even if he’s not physical abusive, what he was doing is emotional abuse, he’s an abusive partner already, I think you’re absolutely right to be honest, unless they hammed it up for the camera on both sides
This was one of the first times seeing the chef didn't argue with Ramsey usually every place has stuck up owners who think Ramsey is there as the enemy rather then help
am i the only one who thinks gordon is 'softer' now compared to the early days of kitchen nightmares? i mean, yeah it's probably due to age. but i miss when he added intensity to the show.
I know two places where Gordon Ramsey would have two memorable episodes. 1. MO’s House of Axe in Los Angeles, CA. They have a toxic manager named Joshua and a horrible owner named MO. The chef, Dave, really should have Gordon Ramsey put him in his place for how he treated us. 2. Hamburger Mary’s in West Hollywood, CA. The manager Mauricio is abusive and the owner Dale is horrible. One of the most abusive work environments I worked in and I have flashbacks from it. They both deserve to be put in their place by Gordon Ramsey too.
They were both bad for each other She needs someone who can have a work life balance and he needs someone who doesn't throw fuel on the fire even when he's trying to change
My parents almost divorced when we had our restaurant in Brooklyn NY. The first 2 years were rought but the last 3 we found success in the business but still my mom found herself doing more work than my dad plus all the things she did when she would come home late at 8 pm every night. My dad even had us open during important holidays. Many times my dad would just chill and watch tv in the restaurant and my mom had no break . It got so bad that my middle sister suggested it was ok for my mom to ask for a divorce as that’s how’s bad it was. We lived in NJ so they would have to be stuck in traffic everyday just to get home and they would have serious arguments on the drive home. Once I had to intervene because I told them I didt want to die in a car crash as they argued during the drive home. My mom would say “let a car kill me so I wouldn’t have to live this life” What’s worse is he had me and my sisters work for him and he depended on us too much. People don’t realize how miserable these things can be. Anyway my dad owns the building and decided to lease the restaurant to someone and my parents marriage was saved. My mom must have been miserable all those 5 yrs
while not perfect, this approach from gordon actually seemed a lot more mature, genuine and almost fatherly lecture like then some of his other reprimands. idk if it's because he's older and mroe mature, or maybe it's that other times he was under greater pressure, but he actually gave this guy some solid advice, didn't cuss him out, and was at least somewhat empathetic despite being mad at him, i was expecting him to fully take the woman's side and go on some rant about how he's some pos that should never treat women like that but he stayed somewhat impartial.
have you actually seen kitchen nightmares before. There isn't a single episode where Gordon isn't unreasonable. He doesn't just start cussing people for no reason. He only does it when people are absolutely delusional.
Absolutely they'll marry. The major problem here is that not one of them saw the root cause. It's typical when you are up to your neck that you don't see the wood for the trees. She has stuck by him this far, selling up and not making the same mistake again is pure cement for a solid relationship.
Bro trying to blame it on the stress of the business. Bruh you bought the restaurant despite her declines, quit her jobs to help, has medical issues, you guys don't talk about a wedding date, and is still mistreating her and his mom and mom-in-law? Nah he had issues before even starting this business. The business just shined light on it...
He is most definitely a narcissist. Not the pop culture buzzword narc but an actual narcissist. His behavior has almost the red flags of covert narcissism
As someone who had severe mental health issues, took it out on people I cared about, and regretted it, I'm nauseated Gordon Ramsay used the two words you should never use when dealing with a man dealing with mental health issues "Man up"
It depends on the person. People are very irregular creatures. I was in the same boat, mental health issues that made me lash out against loved ones. For me it was the right person, the right words before the last words spoken that were in fact "man up". Because for some the issues originated from being treated to well and wanting too much, and they like me sometimes need a slap in the face and a man up. But like i said, were all different. Whatever works for who.
I think what he means by "man up" is face the reality of your decisions and take accountability for them. In this case, he needs to recognize that how he treats his significant other and his family is not right. He needs to "man up" and face the truth.
It's men's mental health month and this episode and the reaction is a reminder of how performative men's mental health movement really is It's always the safe "men can cry too" I grew up and dealt with a lot of mental health issues from people I cared about and there was one consistency, berating them or treating the symptoms of their mental health issues as a personal failing never solved the issue. It doesn't absolve him of how he acted, but men who express symptoms of mental health in an unhealthy fashion are just as deserving of recovery as ones who deal with it in the way you deem acceptable. If that doesn't resonate with you then you should ask yourself, why do you care about mental health? Do you claim it to look good or because you believe mental health is a cross boundary issue and those afflicted deserve recovery.
1. Leave the place for two weeks and figure out, if you still want to be together. 2. If yes, sell the place, redo your private life, and work separately. 3. If no, just sell the place and each to their own.
I have a passion for cooking. I've worked in the food service industry. I wouldn't want to try owning & operating a restaurant. It's a lot to take on. So much money & management goes into staffing & inventory & then you have to keep everyone at least satisfied & still make enough to pay all the bills, which add up very quickly.
Because he manipulated her. Her family said he was a "perfect gentleman" at first. This is so common in abusive relationships its the biggest red flag that people miss. If someone seems too good to be true, they are.
I hope this girl reads this. She should immediately distance herself from that person before something really bad happens to her. He might cry and apologize, but he will never change for you. Once people reveal their hidden dark side, they don't hesitate to take things to the next level. He may change for others but not for you.
I don't think most people understand how difficult running a business is, let alone running a restaurant. Just because you like to do something, doesn't mean you should do it as a career. This is the people who like to build computers and join IT because "they work on computers" then you realize IT is not at all just working with computers.
I will never respect someone who brings their family into the business and treat them like how he does. I've seen it and experienced it. In my experience the wife would just adopt the owner's (her husband's) management style but crank it up a notch onto other employees.
Jon Taffer would make him clean the whole kitchen for being unprofessional with his staff.
Get it clean 🧼 and shut it down!!!!! I’ve seen enough!!!!!
look at the friggin place shut it down well if it was a bar
Jon would do more than just that lmao.
@@tonyboehmer9311I love the way he does that, especially when he turns it around on people that try to gaslight other people into thinking it's their problem
Yeah, whatever buddy/woman
@@tonyboehmer9311the way I can hear this in his voice 😭
That’s a good woman that deserves much better. Just horrible. I’m glad he cried at the end and I hope he changed/turned around
You can tell she’s a good woman by watching a clip on UA-cam? lol
@@Kai_sozetrue it’s hard to gauge that from a 4 minute Yt video but considering she left her job to help him and try to save the restaurant I’d say she’s a good person cuz I personally wouldn’t have done that but who knows
@@Kai_soze I watched the 40min episode
would u say a bad women, would leave her job to help her fiance in his buisnes? then stick around through all that verbal abuse even though shes not a owner and isnt on the hook finically? @@Kai_soze
where?@@Baba_Yaga_123
Turning your passion into your job literally turns your passion into your job. Just host dinner parties and stay happy.
No it doesn't
Ya no it doesn't its all on you there is a saying it goes (if you love what you do, you never work a day in your life)
I love what I do, but let me tell you, I have worked some DAYS.@@thegarrison2432
@@thegarrison2432no you’re wrong. that’s only if you don’t have the stressors of your whole financial life crumbling if you don’t make it work. with that kind of financial stress you won’t love what you do even if you once did
Not quite. The trick is knowing two things: 1) the difference between a "job" and a "career"; and 2) the difference between a "passion" and a "hobby."
Jobs are what you do to pay the bills, careers are what you do for personal fulfillment.
Likewise, hobbies are what you do for fun, and passions are what you do to feel alive.
The biggest mistake people make isn't turning their passions into their jobs, but turning their hobbies into their careers. If you enjoy doing something, but maybe you wouldn't enjoy doing it ten hours a day or more, then you shouldn't turn it into a job. I like cooking as a hobby, but I would NEVER want to work in the food industry. On the other hand, writing is my true passion, and I could do that ten hours a day and be willing to deal with all the pain and the bs that comes with making your way in that industry because that's what gives me a sense of personal fulfillment.
Ideally, you would make a career out of your passion, but not everyone has that kind of a passion. Some people just have hobbies, and some people are fine just working a typical 9-5 in order to pay the bills and allow them the time and luxury to pursue those hobbies. The key to happiness in that case is just having the good sense not to force your hobby to become a career just because you think you MIGHT be good at it. If you don't have the drive to deal with all the stress and the hurdles that come with a career, then just do it for yourself in your off-time.
My parents owned a restaurant. Dad did not realize the big big effort it takes. Mom did. Im sure you can guess who was better under pressure and who got mad when people didn’t like the food.
hey
@@EnergeticSpark63 hey
@@EnergeticSpark63hey what? Missing some brain cells
You don’t yell, scream or lash out on your loved ones.
Doesn’t matter the context. If you do love them, you don’t use anger.
Simply walk away or think that your significant other does NOT DESERVE that.
Exactly! I feel like something is very wrong here. It’s not a Sammy & Amy situation where both parties r f’d up….
Yes yes yes you sound like an old woman.
You CAN lash out sometimes cause really it can happen in stressful moments we're human, emotional creatures, but it can be the normality and more important you dont even say you're sorry after? No no no thats a big red flag
Okay Doctor Phil
Or maybe burst your anger because you yourself is the supreme. Who else matters
"Ive never been to a restaurant as toxic as this."
*Vietnam flashbacks to Amy's baking company.
He worked for Marco Pierre White ffs
@@crisptomato9495that’s not toxic though, that’s a competitive hard environment full of professionals who want to achieve. Shouting at your fiancé who has mental health issues is toxic.
My name is NINOOOO
Or that godawful burger shop in LA with the delusional British owner. The Burger Stop IIRC?
@@mattoniy2840 Marco literally chucked pans at people. Competitive doesn't negate toxic.
She deserves to be treated like a princess.
She deserves what she gets.
No one should have to work like that also the other reply here was made by a 5 year old
@@chevellebelair1402you did not just say that.. you aren’t just a clown but the whole clown car, and circus
@@mushyotaku5154 then why she take it? I'm the clown but you're clearly the fool.
@@mushyotaku5154 and they still got meeried and you're still alone.
She deserves so much better.
I agree. Men like him should not be allowed to date.
@@FilmSureelist97 yea fr
The fact Gordon didn’t yell makes it 10 times more scary, that was Gordon not putting on a show just genuine disappointment and disgust.
Nahhh he certainly doesn't deserve her. If this is how he treats her in a public setting I'd hate to see what he's really like behind close doors. I wouldn't be surprised if he was abusive to her considering he's basically berating and attacking her like this in their workplace.
It's her restaurant right. She should fire the boyfriend and get new chefs
Yall dont forget: not only is Gordon a good person, but he has daughters... He probably felt pretty strongly about that lady getting abused like that
Leave him sweetheart. He is not worth your time.
hey
@@EnergeticSpark63 Hey what? Seems a bit strange you just say, hey.
@@BobLouden-r9qHow's it going?
@@friedrichnietzsche7736 lol. good comrade.
Sadly, some things are too far gone for anyone to salvage, as was the case for Love Bites. In the follow-up portion of the episode, we learn that Keff and Robinson sold the restaurant just two months after filming, shutting down operations before the episode aired. In an Instagram post from the restaurant's page, the caption (presumably written by Chris, states, "This has been a hard post to think about, type and even post. Let us start off like we always do by saying you guys are the best and we love you! Our customers are friends and some have become like family. We wouldn't trade these last 6 years of serving you for anything! But the time has come and We are on to our next adventure, But know we are leaving you in very good hands!"
While the ownership is changing, it seems that the café with retain at least part of the Ramsay-fied menu. The caption goes on to say, "We will miss you all and even though Chris and I will no longer be apart [sic] of the business at 69 partition street our recipes and imprint will live through the new cafe! We will be transitioning ownership in the near future. Thank you all for an amazing 6 years!!!
the engaged couple desperately needed time out of the restaurant and apart from each other in general. "We can't sacrifice our relationship for the restaurant. We need to heal together," Keff said in a post-filming testimonial. Ramsay ends his narration of the episode by saying that the two have decided to focus on repairing the relationship.
how she tried to repair things with such a man is beyond me, so many red flags
What episode/season is this?
The hero I don’t deserve
Life is hardship and stressful. He acts like this now, he will again
@@JC-bs5pd So mental health issues are impossible to recover from?
The way Gordan comforted her proves that there is still good in the world!
Need a show with Jon taffer n Ramsey cussing owners n chefs out😂😂
Marry??? Gurll nah call it off quickly!! u guys arent even married yet!! Yet he treats you like trash!
She deserves to be in a way better relationship. That guy does not deserve her, i hope she leaves him
see a lot of ppl saying " hope he changed " bc he cried and imma be real, he's emotionally abusive so I HIGHLY doubt it. Might just being hitting me harder since im a Domestic survivor but I really hope she leaves him.
After getting out of those relationships I learned even when you are ur partner are angry at each other there NO REASON to talk to one another like that. She deserves better.
I think he cried at the end, honestly I hope he changes his mood because I know Gordon wanted to lash him out so bad
i'm kind of surrprised Gordon didn't. he probably just didn't think it was worth the effort to get angrier and angrier lol
Gordon's gotten older so naturally you become more softer, he didnt have to scream but his words were very heavy and we can see that they did give the cook an impact@@skippythealien9627
I think that gordon realised that the last thing he needed was a lashing, but rather to put everything into perspective. This wasnt the usual delusional and in denial owner trying to blow smoke up his backside, he was clearly spiraling out of control and needed reminding of what really mattered. I also suspect that the owner being straight with him also spared him.
I feel for both parties. It’s clear that he is drowning and possibly having his own mental health breakdown. That last image of him kneeling in the kitchen, the very place that he has come to hate, shows how tied and trapped he feels. Unfortunately, a mentally ill man can destroy all the women attached to him.
Don't excuse him. He knows that he is mean and hurtful.
@@JSmedic1That‘s no excuse. It’s simply stating the facts. Thing is, it’s a slippery slope. At first, it’s just: „Can you help out on Saturday night?“ and a few months later, you happen to work 6 nights each week… the mothers and his fiancée should have said „no“ long ago.
Anyway, Chris seems to be one of the people who romanticise restaurants, and neglect to see how much work it is. Being a good cook at home doesn’t even come close to it.
Nah he’s an abuser
@@quirkyblackenby He probably wasn't at one point. Hopefully he gets back to the place where he treats women respectfully, even if it's not with his fiancé
As someone who was nearly destroyed by his mental health issues and hurt others, and regrets it
Thank you for understanding, so few people who watched this episode understood and as bad as he acted I felt bad for him because I could tell this restaurant was destroying his mental and physical health
I hope he gets better because mental health issues deserve help even when it's not expressed in the way considered socially acceptable
Gordon Ramsay : celebrity chef part time therapist
She needa get tf outta there 😂
SHE didn't want the restaurant, SHE had to quit HER job to help HIM out at HIS restaurant. Needs to get as far away from that guy as she can, because he's only going to get worse, he doesn't care about her AT ALL.
People don't realise how tough the hospitality business. Is It really doesn't work without teamwork. And a proficient leader.
She's way too good for that dude.
Chefs/owners these days are very rude. I was abused badly by the chefs and the owners like him.
Same here. Mo’s house of axe and Hamburger Mary’s WEHO.
So many chefs I’ve worked with are dickheads
You cannot handle the heat i see
@akmalarifahmadzuhairi No one has to tolerate disrespect. It has very little to do with handling flames and more just being a decent human being. If one can't articulate yourself without yelling, clearly, it's a personal problem.
Love how he just walks away while
Making eye contact. Gordon is such a legend
What gordon does right is he confronts the owners who ALWAYS are the problem.
Dump him and quit!
in multiple kitchen nightmare episodes Gordon can be seen repairing and mending relationships with people. Does Gordon have any kind of background in mental health studies or counseling? Hes really good and bringing people together.
Mental health studies or counseling?? haha really? Why do you giuys always think that therapists and their academic background are the "experts" and the moral authority when it comes to this stuff? It bows down to CHARACTER and LIFE EXPERIENCES. You can't buy or sell that in college or whatever academia nonce people think is the moral high ground
Think about it. Amy’s baking company was so insane but at least the couple were toxic together instead of at each other. This guys is awful.
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She deserve so much better and so much more. She should leave that asshat. She’s gorgeous and seems so sweet. She could find someone who treats her well
Oh my god hearing her voice break trying to hold in tears breaks my heart.
I appreciate that Gordon seems to truly understand when to yell and when to speak emphatically.
Girl run and run far, go for happiness I divorced my toxic wife and know toxic relationships this is one. Walk away and start over
He doesn't deserve her and she deserves better.
Anyone,who caused mental toxicity in the workplace should not be there.
Ehlers Danlos(same condition she has)/disabled gal here again. This episode left me quite disturbed. As I’ve said before, this guy gives me bad vibes. I’m not saying he’s abusive per say, but…. If he’s willing to behave in this way on camera what else is he doing? AWhile ago I had a partner who was exactly like this. I’m not kidding when I say that my abusive ex nearly killed me. He was a very selfish & sick man. Don’t think that I didn’t notice how this gentleman tried to make his digestive issues from anxiety steam roll hers when she’s literally had surgeries removing her guts. I know you must be empathetic to both parties’ situations but c’mon! From what I saw, given that this is reality tv, he’s also quick to excuse himself too via his poor mental health. Doesn’t sound as if he has any real respect for hers!
While it’s unfortunate that their source of income, their restaurant,closed I am also concerned that she might be isolated with him which can potentially make things even worse from what I have experienced. However I’m hopeful things can all end in the best case scenarios for all parties. That’s what everyone wants. Don’t want to judge too quickly
Seems like very reasonable conclusion to me.
Some of us just can’t get angry like these people do, and it’s all genders (I know you know this). I have personally thought about this while living with someone who would get passive aggressive, and usually controlling people need ample communication. A lot of us read in-between the lines, but those who get upset quickly don’t fill things in as often. They need a linear pattern to grab ahold to. And if you forget about that they start to seethe and see your actions as malicious. When you stop communicating it will always build with certain types of people, even though you shouldn’t need to communicate in a rigid linear way.
Guarantee he justified it as her starting the issue (well he did say that), when the reality was it was a very innocent scenario with no one at fault.
It seems like a classic pattern of the inability to snap out of thinking patterns and see other perspectives when they truly need to see them.
Is that the thing where your skin can stretch like a rubberband?
@@fakename6658Stretchy skin is generally part of that, yes.
Even if he’s not physical abusive, what he was doing is emotional abuse, he’s an abusive partner already, I think you’re absolutely right to be honest, unless they hammed it up for the camera on both sides
@@dirtydirtyshisno7284oh I hope they are gaming it up! If not then ur totally right!
This such hard episode to watch. Seeing a abusive relationship like this is awful
Can you remember what episode it was?
I still don't know the episode
@@Nico-bs2py@profound369 Season 1, Episode 6 titled love bites
Well said Gordon.
Glad you’re back Gordan! (Sheffield love ya)
This was one of the first times seeing the chef didn't argue with Ramsey usually every place has stuck up owners who think Ramsey is there as the enemy rather then help
Funny how Gordon is telling other people to calm the eff down. Of ALL THE PEOPLE, HIM! 😂
Brah Gordon only yells and cusses for the cameras. Hes all an act
ome of the only times i appreciate gordon being angry with someone
am i the only one who thinks gordon is 'softer' now compared to the early days of kitchen nightmares? i mean, yeah it's probably due to age. but i miss when he added intensity to the show.
Yes. You are the only one, out of 7.8 billion people, that has this opinion.
It's not that he's softer; it's that he doesn't want to do the act from the earlier seasons where he dialed everything up to 11.
He also has more years under his belt as a father and husband. Life’s too short for him to be redlining the whole time
I know two places where Gordon Ramsey would have two memorable episodes.
1. MO’s House of Axe in Los Angeles, CA. They have a toxic manager named Joshua and a horrible owner named MO. The chef, Dave, really should have Gordon Ramsey put him in his place for how he treated us.
2. Hamburger Mary’s in West Hollywood, CA. The manager Mauricio is abusive and the owner Dale is horrible. One of the most abusive work environments I worked in and I have flashbacks from it. They both deserve to be put in their place by Gordon Ramsey too.
This poor woman, she deserves the world.
The fact that the Restaurant is called Love Bites when they're in such a toxic relationship is beyond ironic
When Gordon or John stop yelling at people you know it's a serious conversation.
Says the chef who once fired a kid for drinking a glass of water.
He won’t change. She’s better off without him.
He doesn’t deserve her.
They were both bad for each other
She needs someone who can have a work life balance and he needs someone who doesn't throw fuel on the fire even when he's trying to change
Chris is a narcissistic and tess need run from him,.. he never change .. she way better off by herself ..
So people with mental health issues never change
She needs to not dump him, she needs to also FIRE HIM.
When Gordon Ramsay say it’s toxic environment in restaurant - it really is 😂
Bro did anyone forget this is Gordon Ramsay talking about flying off the handle and not showing respect?!? I love the guy but bro 😂
My parents almost divorced when we had our restaurant in Brooklyn NY. The first 2 years were rought but the last 3 we found success in the business but still my mom found herself doing more work than my dad plus all the things she did when she would come home late at 8 pm every night. My dad even had us open during important holidays. Many times my dad would just chill and watch tv in the restaurant and my mom had no break . It got so bad that my middle sister suggested it was ok for my mom to ask for a divorce as that’s how’s bad it was. We lived in NJ so they would have to be stuck in traffic everyday just to get home and they would have serious arguments on the drive home. Once I had to intervene because I told them I didt want to die in a car crash as they argued during the drive home. My mom would say “let a car kill me so I wouldn’t have to live this life” What’s worse is he had me and my sisters work for him and he depended on us too much. People don’t realize how miserable these things can be. Anyway my dad owns the building and decided to lease the restaurant to someone and my parents marriage was saved. My mom must have been miserable all those 5 yrs
My husband and i can't work together because we fight so much on the line. He micromanages, I do not.
while not perfect, this approach from gordon actually seemed a lot more mature, genuine and almost fatherly lecture like then some of his other reprimands. idk if it's because he's older and mroe mature, or maybe it's that other times he was under greater pressure, but he actually gave this guy some solid advice, didn't cuss him out, and was at least somewhat empathetic despite being mad at him, i was expecting him to fully take the woman's side and go on some rant about how he's some pos that should never treat women like that but he stayed somewhat impartial.
have you actually seen kitchen nightmares before. There isn't a single episode where Gordon isn't unreasonable. He doesn't just start cussing people for no reason. He only does it when people are absolutely delusional.
Who thinks they're still gonna get married after all the drama with the restaurant and them selling it?
They're already married and run 3 new restaurants! Wait... 🤥 No, not likely
@@pondreezyI thought they already left the restaurant business after selling this one.
@@gameshowguy2000 i watched it last night it was sold if it saves the relationship we shall see
Honestly that worries me a lot. She’ll be trapped.
Absolutely they'll marry.
The major problem here is that not one of them saw the root cause. It's typical when you are up to your neck that you don't see the wood for the trees.
She has stuck by him this far, selling up and not making the same mistake again is pure cement for a solid relationship.
I would tell his girlfriend & mother-in-law to go home , then watch what happens ?
Like a gangster just walks off nice job
So after making a career out of screaming at people this guy’s going to talk to an abusive owner?
It's over between them.
Bro trying to blame it on the stress of the business. Bruh you bought the restaurant despite her declines, quit her jobs to help, has medical issues, you guys don't talk about a wedding date, and is still mistreating her and his mom and mom-in-law? Nah he had issues before even starting this business. The business just shined light on it...
He is most definitely a narcissist. Not the pop culture buzzword narc but an actual narcissist.
His behavior has almost the red flags of covert narcissism
the chef should have shouted at gordon "its you dad!!!i learnt it from watching you!!"
Respect is earnt not given
Gordon every episode: I have NEVER been…I have NEVER seen…
Financial stress ruining relationships is tale old as time and unfortunately becoming more and more commonplace
I feel like it went in one ear and out the other
Gordon??? Ramsey……??? Doesn’t like a toxic work environment…?????? WHAT???? 😂
She deserves so so soo so much better
Change of tone through the years. Ramqay won’t admit it but he was toxic 2. Effective but toxic.
POST THE NAME OF THE EPISODE!
Just with a cursory eye test, how can you trust a chef that wears a hideous fluorescent cap when he cooks?
Gordon was too nice about that, he needed Jon Taffer to set him straight first
Seeing as he wrote off serious mental health issues as "man up" I'd say he was acting like Jon Taffer to a T
The only time I would yell at her, would be when I'd tell her how amazing she is.
He just destroyed that guy and left
My lord video Quality too good to be kitchens nightmare
You know you're in for a bad time when you get in business with some named chris 😂
As someone who had severe mental health issues, took it out on people I cared about, and regretted it, I'm nauseated Gordon Ramsay used the two words you should never use when dealing with a man dealing with mental health issues "Man up"
It depends on the person. People are very irregular creatures. I was in the same boat, mental health issues that made me lash out against loved ones.
For me it was the right person, the right words before the last words spoken that were in fact "man up".
Because for some the issues originated from being treated to well and wanting too much, and they like me sometimes need a slap in the face and a man up.
But like i said, were all different. Whatever works for who.
Man up works for me
Gordon might think himself an armchair psychologist, but he's just a celebrity chef.
I think what he means by "man up" is face the reality of your decisions and take accountability for them. In this case, he needs to recognize that how he treats his significant other and his family is not right. He needs to "man up" and face the truth.
It's men's mental health month and this episode and the reaction is a reminder of how performative men's mental health movement really is
It's always the safe "men can cry too"
I grew up and dealt with a lot of mental health issues from people I cared about and there was one consistency, berating them or treating the symptoms of their mental health issues as a personal failing never solved the issue.
It doesn't absolve him of how he acted, but men who express symptoms of mental health in an unhealthy fashion are just as deserving of recovery as ones who deal with it in the way you deem acceptable.
If that doesn't resonate with you then you should ask yourself, why do you care about mental health? Do you claim it to look good or because you believe mental health is a cross boundary issue and those afflicted deserve recovery.
THIS POOR WOMAN WTF 😭😭😭
dude i feel bad for both of them
Me too, glad to see someone who sees both sides of the issue
Bruh I’m starting to think Gordon needs to be a marriage counselor 😂
1. Leave the place for two weeks and figure out, if you still want to be together.
2. If yes, sell the place, redo your private life, and work separately.
3. If no, just sell the place and each to their own.
I have a passion for cooking. I've worked in the food service industry. I wouldn't want to try owning & operating a restaurant. It's a lot to take on. So much money & management goes into staffing & inventory & then you have to keep everyone at least satisfied & still make enough to pay all the bills, which add up very quickly.
She's is so pretty,what is she doing with THAT
Because he manipulated her. Her family said he was a "perfect gentleman" at first.
This is so common in abusive relationships its the biggest red flag that people miss.
If someone seems too good to be true, they are.
She should leave him and walk away, sadly it won’t work if he allows the business to consume him
its divorce time lol wtf
Amy's baking company wasn't more toxic?
Should probably have another man take care of his fiance lol
Gordon has that dad body constitution now
I hope this girl reads this. She should immediately distance herself from that person before something really bad happens to her. He might cry and apologize, but he will never change for you. Once people reveal their hidden dark side, they don't hesitate to take things to the next level. He may change for others but not for you.
So people with mental health issues are lost causes?
I don't think most people understand how difficult running a business is, let alone running a restaurant. Just because you like to do something, doesn't mean you should do it as a career. This is the people who like to build computers and join IT because "they work on computers" then you realize IT is not at all just working with computers.
Robert Irvine would give him the old what for.
I will never respect someone who brings their family into the business and treat them like how he does. I've seen it and experienced it. In my experience the wife would just adopt the owner's (her husband's) management style but crank it up a notch onto other employees.
You deserve so much better..
Now this is tv.