The biggest barrier to happiness + success 🫠
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TIMELINE
0:00 Intro
0:43 Sabotaged
3:07 Conscious vs. unconscious
4:17 Overcoming it
8:29 Outro
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… now it’s your turn! What’s a goal you’ve had. What fear or belief is holding you back? Rewrite the narrative in a more empowering way 💪
🥅 Goal: (e.g. *I want to start exercising*)
⛔ Unconscious saboteur: (e.g. *I fear looking weak*)
👉 Conscious mind: (e.g. *I’m capable of change, and the results will come in time*)
Goal : I want better grades
Unconscious: well you can’t because you have already done what you can
Conscious: There is always room for improvement and you can achieve your goals
Goal: I want to have deeper, meaningful friendships
Unconscious saboteur: I fear rejection, and I fear the risk of revealing my flaws while connecting with another person.
Conscious: I know how good it makes me feel when another shares both their strengths and weaknesses with me. I want to be able to reciprocate that. I may feel a bit raw as I open myself more, but my growth will be just absolutely exponential.
Imagine how good it will feel to feel safer around others.
Darn, thanks for this video Sadia 🥲
🚀Goal: Grow my own UA-cam Channel from 1k subs to 10k subs in 2023.
😱Fear: Consistency & Speed might be slow.
😊Conscious Mind: I will just focus on publishing 1 long video each week and 1 Short each day and try to add impact to people's lives. Numbers will trickle as a by-product.
Goal: I will maintain contact with all my friends without excuses and shyness.
Unconscious saboteur: It's tough and I'm an introvert.
Conscious mind: I have great friends and I just need to do everything in my control.
Self-sabotage is also and unconscious way to be in control of an event and the outcome
I've suffered from clinical anxiety and depression for most of my life. One day while doing yard work I saw a tree ensnared in vines suffocating it. I realized that was me, my own growth as a person was stunted by this vine of mental illness. I realized that my depression and anxiety are not who I am and I can chop down those creeping vines when I make the conscious decision to acknowledge how I feel and choose to not let them sabotage me and my growth as a person. Thanks for making the content the world really needs! ❤
Wow, Megan - it's inspiring to hear how you were able to find a metaphor in nature that helped you see your own struggle in a new light. Thank you for sharing, your journey is truly admirable 💕
Anxiety can get bad with a lot of caffeine consumption as caffeine targets your central nervous system and also it has to do with hormones and ect. Eating and avoiding foods that make those symptoms go away helps. Also getting a test done by a doctor to see if your are deficient in something will also help and you can heal. Also a plant based diet isn’t for everyone some of us need those fats and certain food from animal products to help out. When I was on a plant based or paleo diet, I would get irritable and annoyed more often and I got a test done by a doc it had to do with HDL levels and LDL my HDL level was too low I thought I was going crazy at times when in reality my body just needed those healthy fats. Olive oil, avocado oil and nuts don’t always help.
Thank you for sharing❤
Thank you so much for sharing that 💜 it brought tears to my eyes because I've been feeling that same way.
What happened with the tree?
Sadia hits me with so many wise truths in such a gentle way I can actually comprehend!!
Yeah. Because in a women's channel...
You hit the nail on the head!
"We create obstacles to justify our poor performance or lack of effort"... you just summarized my life in one sentence.
Sadia, I have been using your clips in my classroom in Vancouver for the last two years, and you have made a difference in my student's lives. Thank you for being such an amazing role model. BTW - we love seeing images of our hometown in your videos!
Wow , I would have liked it very much when I was at school or at any time in my academic formation to had a teacher who is so conscientious and who is not limited only to what is established but also looks for another sources of infomation to improve and motivate the students, good for you!
I use the 2 minute rule from James Clear's book when I don't feel like doing something I know I should. He says that doing something for just two minutes every day is vital to forming a habit.
This is such timely advice. I have been putting off job applications for a long while now because I keep assuming I will be rejected before ever even applying. And I think this stems from a degree of imposter syndrome. I also have so many personal project ideas I’ve been sitting on for years which I’m too afraid/lazy to start. This video is an excellent reminder for me to capitalise on those waves of inspiration and just go for it. Thank you Sadia!!
Hey! I struggle with a similar situation right now. I finished my studies and now I want to get a job but I avoid to apply for it because first I don't know what I want to do and second I'm scared they will reject me and that I'm not good enough.
I feel you on this I’m so much in the same situation. I’ve been mad procrastinating on applying for new opportunities
I’m in the same situation right now - not applying so that my abilities to do things are not challenged, I’m afraid that I won’t perform as well as I thought I could. The thing is that exactly does what Saida spoke about, it’s comfortable not to have your skills challenged I think I need to focus on improving and working with what I already have to offer to build on it and grow
I used to be afraid of rejection at job interviews too. What helped me to move on was to remember that it is an *inter*view - that is to say, the conversation is (or at least should be!) a two-way street. It's your chance to find out whether the job would be good for you, as well as for the employer to find out whether you'd be good for the job. I noticed I began getting better responses when I brought that energy into the interview room. The other thing is to apply for loads of stuff so that you don't bring too much pressure on yourself about any one interview. I found it helpful to view the process as meeting new people and exploring new opportunities rather than some sort of judgement process to be suffered. Good luck with finding a great role! :)
Oh, it sounds exactly likey own story. I am right now in the same situation. Thanks for sharing. I hope you find the energy and braveness to do the first step. Just do the first step for as long as you drink your first cup of tea or coffee in the morning. It's something I promise to myself to do, too.
Our own self high expectations make us feel like we failed before we have even started. "Focus on progress not perfection" Thank you Sadia for this
Sadie, thank you. I have made a career out of self sabotage. I ballooned up to 500+pounds just by thinking I am not worthy. 6 years of this prison. I am on the road to a beautiful painless life 100 pounds down. Just by being accountable and positive. Thank you for bringing this to light and reminded me I can still do this….it is hard as Hell. ❤️
Hey Sadia, thank you for this video. I had a crippling fear of driving. At 30 I finally learned how to drive, got my license and bought a car. It’s made my life so much easier. It took so many years to change “I can’t” to “I am capable”. My life has dramatically improved because of this. Love your videos ❤
I'm happy to hear that, thanks for sharing. Had difficult experience learning how to drive, but I will do it in the future because it's a great skill to have.
The quote: "I'm going to focus on progress, not perfection" hit me deep. I've always been an anxious person. Scared of what the future brings. Thought I wasn't good enough or never will be good enough. That has stopped me from doing so many things. This year I promised myself to at least try it. And if I fail it's still progress. Maybe I wasn't perfect but I still tried and that's what makes me feel better. Thank you Sadia and the Pick up Limes Team for this inspiring video :) I would love to see more of those ;)
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Can you please make a podcast channel?? Your voice is soooo soothing to listen to. I love episodes like these ❤ Thank you!
The overthinking it part hit me. I overthink everything and maybe I just need to start and don’t worry about it being perfect, just the progress is enough
Omg am the same.. have you started?!
I needed this message today. I’ve been overthinking all night and sobbed all night. I couldn’t function at work. I came home early to take a long nap and ate. I watched this video and now have a different perspective on my situation. Thank you.
Thank you for sharing this . I just lost my job and going through similar situation. Really appreciate your comment. All the best ❤
''Don't waste time doubting yourself. Just go for it!'' Love this!
Didn't realize how much I needed this today! Thanks (as always) for the break to take a breath, slow down, and reflect. Time to get out of my way!
You feel like a breath of fresh air in a chaotic world, you’re a gift to this world, thank you for existing. ❤️
i so needed this video today. i've been putting off my uni assignment, i've convinced myself i can't do it, even thought i've been doing them for 6 years now lol. only because my last one i didn't get the score i wanted, i kind of feel i've given up, i'm really cruel with myself. i've been saying thing to myself like "i'm clearly not as smart as i thought i was" " i bet everyone else is doing well, apart from me because i'm useless" "ill never amount to anything, because i'm simply not good enough" my brain is driving me crazy with this nasty self talk, but i don't know how to stop it. noone has ever believed in me either, so i don't really have or had supportive people around me. one of the reasons i love your videos, you inspire me to do better.
Sadia, it's Holi today on 7th March in India when I am writing this, and there's a ritual here where we pray that all the negativity in our life burns away making room for the colours of life. I came back from the ritual and I saw this video. It honestly touched me very deeply as to all the aspects you discussed and I can really feel from within that I can really do the things I always wanted to do. So well let's go straight to the objective right!
I want to work on myself - nurturing every aspect of my existence - the physical, emotional, mental , spiritual, psychological , philosophical - every aspect of mine with utmost care. I used to care less about me. I didn't feel that I could be fit, or I should indulge in self care but now I know ! I will workout ( I have already started & I am enjoying) , elevate my diet standards ( taking help from your videos ) fix my schedule, meditate, travel, socialise, read books and learn every fine thing the world has to offer!!
I am working and I will strengthen on my career. I will always try to skill up, searching for your ways to do things , taking a sustainable yet innovative approach. Being in touch with reality yet developing it for the better is my objective!
I want to do things for my family and all the people I love and well if possible, for the world & nature as well. I deserve to and I want to be loved. I already feel fortunate that there's not too much bother in my life but yes, I want to grow more on love, I want to make the people around me feel loved.
Well , exams are coming by, I am prepping up for them, I will smash them with finesse. I will prepare well and won't be afraid on my capabilities and do great on the exams in career or life!
I feel so happy to hear your thoughts. You are Robin's love is serene and a bliss. I wish the goodness protects you.
So well , Time to enact!! See ya :)
I wish that whenever if ever I see this comment again, I am at a better place. If anyone else sees this comment, I hope they do super good! 😃💫
Happy Holi to you! I love hearing that the video resonated with you and inspired you to focus on nurturing so many aspects of your life. Wishing you all the best of luck with your exams and all your endeavours, AFA!
Thank you for Expressing..thank you for digging deep down in self.. thank you for the love and light for all..
Sadia, I really want you to make a tea time Tuesday video on Handling Criticism from yourself & those around you.
One of the things I noticed about myself after also going through a fitness/workout break and easing back into it, is that when I see my progress infront of me (seeing how many times I worked out per week) I feel more motivated and empowered to do more vs not seeing my progress. I’ve had moments where I forget I worked out three times a week till I see that I did and I suddenly feel like I got this 💪🏽
Track your progress friends! And reflect more often on it.
Hello PUL! Most often we go through these situations and tag it 'just feeling a bit low' and feeling that everything is beyond our control. Thank you for talking about this. I feel I needed to hear this.
Always looking forward to your uploads!
I haven’t lost my pregnancy weight in 15 years. I have learned that I sabotage myself my shaming myself and by placing everyone above me. I am learning to decrease my “people pleasing “ tendencies. It really saves me time and energy to know or reframe what I have done and say “That’s all I have to give, I need to save my strength and energy to love myself.”
I totally relate! It's taken me 20 years and 6 kids to realise (or admit!) that I don't have to be the one hanging back and just care-taking. A vicious cycle of tiredness, fear, shame and emotional eating isn't life for us or life-giving for those around us. It's ok to be inspirational - take a risk, follow a dream or even just some 'me-time' and personal health care. I have learned that actually it's important for our kids (whatever their age, it's never too late) to see us example a healthy balance of caring for self as well as others; trying, failing maybe, but progressing. No one learns endurance overnight and we are no good to anyone if we are 'broken'. I would not be happy with someone treating my children the way I have treated myself - was a wake-up call for me.
@@KH-rh3lr beautiful!!! 💕
Can you exaplain what exatly you did to decrease the people pleasing tendencies? I fail to do it.
@@shivaagarwal4093 . I am in counseling and she listens to me then asks questions about my choices. I have to pause and think “Why did I do that?” My answer falls under 1.) they asked me to, so I couldn’t say No. 2.) I didn’t want to disrespect them, so I compromised my own needs to not rock the boat. 3.) whatever I do is not good enough…so I give up on myself. It’s very difficult to look in the mirror 🪞 when you say “Out loud” how I speak to myself. Sometimes I have an automatic pilot behavior of sensing a need and filling that need of another person. Now… I stop and ask myself are you going to hurt yourself financially , emotionally, add stress to your day if you do the task that you and you only are holding yourself accountable for? It stops me to think and reflect prior to the choice of going above and beyond. I am a survivor of abuse as a very young child… so it’s how I protected myself. Once , I can identify the “why” then I can make a healthy choice for myself.
@@shivaagarwal4093 this might not help for you, but it works for me: personally I remind myself that I have the right to say no to things and to people, that protecting myself and my own health should be the most important thing to me, and thirdly that while helping others is kind, often they can do these things themselves! Best of luck to you on your journey ❤
Your timing on this video was pure kismet in my life. Can’t even begin to explain. Thank you for sharing 🙏🏽
The self doubt comes up in mind so many times and procrastinate the dream. This was super helpful.
This reminder came at just the right time 💛I've definitely seen the impact this has had on my life, and it's also is one the biggest mindset shifts I see in my clients! Being able to recognize that we have it in us to transform our lives is such a powerful step towards a healthier & happier life
You sound like a poet! Love your videos.
Thank you for the warm and lovely advice! I recently started to read more about this unconscious and conscious identity which are often called ‘the ego’ and ‘the truth self’ and it really made me question which one is often on the driveseat. This time of reflection really opened a possitive chapter in my life! So thank you for starting this conversation in this open and safe space!
You are the calm in the chaos. Thank you 🙏
Tea talks is my favorite videos of your! You have so much to share, everyone has, but majority of us do not do that. Thanks for the courage! Thank you for reminding us to inspire ourself and others!
Goal:
1. I want to feel healthier (post surgeries and covid)
2. I want to be less anxious
3. I want to grow my UA-cam channel faster
Unconscious saboteur:
1. I hate feeling weak and unhealthy especially, because I used to be very active (not athletic, but effortlessly active, could play a badminton game easily after not exercising for weeks),
2. I fear that my fears keep me safe from unprecedented failures or events, and if I stop feeling anxious, I will get in trouble, I will miss some clue about an impending crisis and suffer
3. I keep thinking about videos, and then feel it might not be good enough for people to watch.
Conscious mind:
1. My body is amazing, that it has recovered so much in short span of time, it will get better slowly
2. I think my anxiety has no role in keeping me safe, I can keep myself safe without it, and in a calm and peaceful manner
3. Just put your content out there, and it doesn't matter if each and every video doesn't resonate with the audience.
Not only do I find this video helpful for myself, but I'm also realizing these ideas can make us all more empathetic to others as well. Thank you. 🌹
This video completely changed my mindset. I’ve been going through a tough time in school and my personal life, but understanding that I am self sabotaging is also empowering because this means progress is more in my control than I initially thought. Thank you!!!
I want to thank you so much Sadia for always putting out content that makes me think, introspect my fear and work on my inner self. I love how your approach to life is so holistic and through your videos, you empower by being vulnerable and relatable. I have been self-sabotaging myself for years now and this pandemic has somehow helped me to slow down and start my self-discovery journey. Being an overthinker myself, I often procrastinate with fear or get into emotional eating patterns but lately, I have been mindful of my thoughts and what I put in my body. I am not there yet but, progress is what counts... I always feel like the PUL community is intuitively connected!! whenever I feel this topic is something I want to explore, that will turn out to be your next video...looking forward to your upcoming videos and always keep smiling...your smile is contagious...
Hi Sadia! Been following and loving PUL for over 4 years but this is my first comment here (I guess I'm too lazy! ). Your self-help videos are definitely my favorite ones. The positive vibes that you radiate always inspire me so much! Wish you a Happy Birthday and a super year ahead. 😊
As for rewriting the narrative regarding one of my long-time goals, I'd like to write a fiction novel. The unconscious saboteur has been that voice telling me why waste so much time and effort when there are such slim chances of the book becoming popular. I guess I could change the narrative by just focusing on the process and believing that even if the book doesn't do well, it would still be a significant personal achievement!
I've been going through this and I found that when I caught myself in this pattern, I try to redirect my focus so that I am back on track :) being gentle to yourself is important
Sadia, this brought tears to my eyes. What you conveyed in this video hit me on so many levels. And the way you put out how to tackle the self sabotage couldn't have been more gentle. Thank you so much for this! ❤️🥺
Sadia, could you talk more about how to create an action bias. For a while I've known that self-handicaping is what I do quite often usually through overthinking and fearing rejection and judgement. Just in small daily things I tend to overthink and this can be literally anything. Since I've realised this I've gotten better at catching myself however, it takes a lot of cognitive energy to do that. So creating a bias for action sounds like a really interesting approach which I could use.
Re-watching after a year. I’d like to understand more about bias towards action as well please.
I feel so strongly EVERY word said here... Some years ago I found out that my children were not "difficult" and I was not "a bad parent", but they are autistic with adhd. Trying to understand them and myself more, I went for my own diagnosis and discovered I am autistic, with adhd. This explained my life and their lives, but gave my unconsciousness a lot of excuses and self-doubt, tons of ways of sabbotaging myself... Even after making lots of decisions for the good of my family and my own, and after I managed to find in my life things that inspire me, I was still saying to myself how much I cannot do, because... Sometimes things I would never said to myself in my 20s or even 30s... Thank you for stating it clearly and repeating that you go to therapist, because when I decided I want to leave my job, homeschool my youngest and enter doTerra business, I started my therapy. Today I chat a lot with my consciousness and unconsciousness... And here I am... managing both and still going for what's best for us... Thank you for this wonderful message... I feel that I will be coming back to this many times...
More strength and power to you! Good gut bacteria can really make difference! Try to incorporate natural pre and probiotics of various strains.. home made pickles , yogurt, kombucha, kimchi. avoid processed foods as much as possible.
Hey Sadia. I'm a Psychology student and I have been studying the concept that you have beautifully appreciated in this video for a long time. Being a student I feel that there's a lot of uncertainty about things that will be taking place in the coming future as students don't earn money or have not been financially independent. And I find that as one of the most fear-giving aspects. But over 1 year I have realised that there's so much more than what I'm doing. The continuous conflict between conscious and unconscious thoughts leads to several mental as well as health conditions. Keep making more of these videos ❤️
Thank you so much for these tea time tuesday videos. They’ve been making such a positive impact on my mental health 💕
I needed someone to talk to me about my issues like this, no better person than Sadia could do that. Thank you very much from the bottom of my heart
I have always loved tea time tuesdays for major two reasons
1. Topics that you pick up
2. Simplicity and Clarity in thoughts which is bag-packed with your experiences and/or reads
Thanks Sadia for another wonderful topic! ❤️
I absolutely loved this video and message-- calling the self "sabateur" as an old protective mechanism is spot and and what a beautiful way to become aware of it (rather than to fight it).
I have become way too lazy lately. I have become very very comfortable in where I am, inspite of knowing this isn't the place I want to be in anymore. I am always doubting myself that I will not be able to do it, and have almost stopped making any efforts with the narrative of being incapable or burnt out. The truth is, I have stopped trying. I have been self sabotaging my growth and my unconscious mind is my biggest enemy. This was the biggest reality check I needed. Thank you Sadia for making me realize that it's all in the way we think and perceive our journey.
i've been having those self sabotaging talks with myself for many years and recently i've acknowledged and changed the narrative and now my conscious and subconscious mind are fighting against each other, lol 😄
On a serious note, i've been implementing this "cognitive reframing" just like the way you mentioned in the video and my life has improved in the past few weeks.
For anyone reading this, please know that if we can perceive our fear as a positive force instead of negative, then we can stop the self sabotage and be a better human being.
I literally LOVE your channel. It’s so mindful and healthy and you’re so kind! Like you give out big sister vibes!! Haha I love it
This resonates so much with my experiences...as I am sure it does with so many others. I am starting a new journey and have nearly let fear and self confidence issues stand in my way. Trying hard not to be a self-sabotoger over here! :) Thanks for your always lovely and inspiring content!
Just finishing a book called Permission to Feel, great book for understanding emotions.
Sadia, the day/week I have had is one filled with raw emotions, anxiety and I felt myself sinking to depression. I recently applied for a job I would really love and I am qualified for. I talked myself out of applying out of fear and shame (what will people think?) mindset, but I recalled reading something about how movement helps energy flow. So I applied, interviewed and now its the waiting game. I have had a few people reach out saying if you don’t get the job, it affects us as we loose hope. This created so much pressure and triggered my own feelings and insecurities. But I opened up UA-cam and here you are with this powerful message. Thank you so much. I needed this reminder and support. ❤
That’s exactly it. I’ve been struggling with this intensely for years. This explains it. I’m self handicapping working out bc I know my performance/results are going to be judged by whatever partner I’m with. I can’t bring myself to do it. Thank you Sadia for explaining it to me you’ve really helped me out.
New belief could be “I’m taking care of my health for my future self”
your advice on overcoming self-sabotaging is so inspiring. thank you Limes!!
Oh I needed this video today. Sometimes, when I want to do something that feels scary, I rather wait to do it than just do it. I was feeling this way today. Now I know that I should try to understand what is holding me from doing my project. Thanks a lot !
Hi Sadia! PUL always a game changer! I think we all at some time or other let our self- sabotaging mindsets dictate, and keep us firmly rooted in stagnancy, denial, and distrust of ourselves, but with insightful introspection such as yours, we can at least start to put a name to the behavior, recognize its effects, and begin to formulate a plan of positive and meaningful action. Thanks for your quiet, soothing manner of speaking and presenting these insights, are wonderfully helpful and appreciated! My goal: become more open to things not always going as I think they should, and embracing the actual outcome and being ok with that, and making that my accomplishment lol.
Dear Sadia! Happy birthday, you are truly wonderful and I just wish you to continue shining and spreading heartfelt joy and beautiful wisdom through your videos! I wish I could meet you some day and give you a big hug as a small thank you for your smile and amazing things you share. I admire your natural joy of giving. Love every bit of PUL 😊🙏
This was so good. I love the bias towards action. I'm currently reading Marie Forleo's book "Everything is Figureoutable" and it has inspired me to take action...just keep trying things until they click. The momentum feels so good.
Watched this twice in a row and bookmarked to watch again. I self-sabotage in lots of ways, but one situation stands out for me. I rescued an Old English Sheepdog in Mexico City two years ago thinking I'd find her the best forever home, but I keep thinking of all the ways rehoming her could go wrong. The situation has been a significant source of stress in my life and holding me back in so many ways (even though she's an amazing dog and great company), especially now that I'm moving back to the States. I just keep making excuses, worrying, overthinking and procrastinating.
I'm hoping a lot of positive change will come with the move back to my home country. With some mindset changes, maybe I could turn the dream of finding Penelope a loving forever home into reality.
I always love videos like this!! Trust the recipes and the cooking are LITERALLY helping me to survive, and I do value videos like this too. Hope to see more.
This video is amazing guys. ❤ I am extremely grateful for the quality and inspiration that Pick Up Limes team produce and share with the worldwide community. Thank you 🙏
This came at a great time. I've been sabotaging my healthy eating. Maybe it's because I fear change it would take it become the person I'm supposed to be. I feel safe going back to a way of living I've been doing for so long, even though it makes no sense to me anymore. This video really helped, I'm definitely going to be more conscious of these moments moving forward and re-writing a new narrative!
I totally resonate with the bias towards action advice.
I have been dreaming about being a location independent yoga teacher for 5 years now, and have been holding myself back from taking my teaching online due to my insecurity of being in front of the camera and the voice that tells me I am not good enough, don’t know enough, not cool enough, look ridiculous on camera etc…..
In the last 1.5 years, thanks to outer circumstances that literally pulled the safety carpet from under my feet (e.g. I lost my „stable“ day job) I have been diving into a wave of actions. They were all super scary and I felt like I am going in blindly (filming Yoga videos, starting a UA-cam channel, creating an Online Yoga program etc) but the further I went the more I realized each scary action brings me a little closer to my authentic me.
Because once you go for it, you realize… oooh, it’s actually not as scary as I thought! Or even… I am good at this / this is fun!
Today, I am living a life that I thought is impossible to achieve for myself. I can live where I want and put my energy into sharing with others what‘s important to me.
Of course I am constantly challenged (every day 😂) by new little or big obstacles, but I now know that these kind of fears and resistances only help me to push against and superspeed me further on my way to finding my authentic lifestyle.
It never gets boring 😅
Cheers and support to anyone going through the scary phases these days and thank you Sadia for your inspiring content!
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Keep up the great work. You are one of the best channels on UA-cam. More genuine than most.
I find myself in this video. It came to me at the moment I needed it the most. In covid and after this period, I lost myself. I really sabotaged myself. Thank you, Sadia, for opening my eyes. It is a long road in front of me, but opening my eyes and heart to improve is essential. Thank you.
You'r so right when you say that overthinking is sometimes what holds us back. I lived the same situation with my boyfriend who no longer needs to motivate himself to go to the gym, he just does it. So one day I tried not to think too long about it and just got dressed and went to the gym. And fortunately, sport has an immediate effect so that after one or two times, it is a virtuous circle and we naturally want to go back. But this can be applied to many things in life ! Just act, you'll so proud after :)
You have no idea how much this video answers all of my feelings today.
Wow I needed to hear this!! For months I’ve been telling myself ‘I just don’t enjoy creating anymore, I don’t see the point in it’. Which is untrue, it’s me self-sabotaging. I know that my unconscious belief is that if I’m not going to be the very best at something there is no point in doing it. In which I need to remind myself that progress, like you say, is better than perfection!! 💖
You are one of those fewest of few youtubers whose promotion part , I watch sincerely. That’s the smallest way to show my gratitude for your priceless work 🙂. Thank you Sadia.
Love the message of this video, thanks Sadia, I suffer from anxiety and sometimes I limit myself by that. Self sabotage is so real. You should create a podcast, love your voice and the message you share
Thank you❤️❤️❤️!!!from Ukraine! this is very relevant to me right now… thank you! and thank you, because such open, positive, soulful people give confidence in a bright, happy future🙏❤️ thank you for sharing knowledge and Light!❤️❤️❤️
These videos are absolutely fantastic. You deserve 10M subscribers. I feel the same way after watching your videos as I do after spending time with a good friend.
This is an incredible resource. Thank you so much🙏 And exactly what I needed today as i am right in the middle of this process of understanding what is on my way (aka the saboteur). I fear the failure that comes with building my business, and most important that fear of saying something I want, that I am then not able to commit to my word. I believe in the end the root is fear of being alone for speaking one's truth, or pursuing one's dreams.
Thank you for creating room for reflection, Sadia 💛
I cried during this video. I've been feeling back at life for a long time. I remember having those sparkles but it was so long ago I can't remember how it felt like. I often find myself self-sabotaging so I'm trying this tips. Thank you so much, Sadia ❤
And this is a line for myself: I deserve to be happy.
Sadia, you are just in time. Thank you so much for helping to make important decisions. ❤️
Wow, just as I was self sabotaging by not working on my Master's Thesis and actively avoiding it because I'm scared that whatever I'm doing it won't be enough, I saw you posted this video. Thank you so much for this, I didn't realize how much I needed to hear this today! Keep up the good work, it means a lot to us! :)
A Master's thesis is a tough one to get to. I am in the same boat. Spent my whole Friday evening avoiding my next assignment.
@@Livemindfully247 I feel you! Hang in there! Wishing you all the luck with your Master's thesis :)
one of the things that got me through my masters thesis was the decision to write 15 min of utter crap per day. I found when I actually sat down and wrote, the 15 min turned into an hour or two and the crap turned into some useful stuff. You have been studying for years to get to this point... you can do this!!
@@IsidoraSage that's a good tip and definitely worth trying. Thank you very much! :)
Couldn't resonate more with this
I'm so much in love with this video. I really feel motivated after listening you. Thankyou so much for always motivating me and pushing me to do what I was holding back.
Thank you so much Sadia for existing. You are immensely inspirational. I am sitting here with so much to do and yet I can’t seem to find the energy, the drive to do it. I am 46 years old and feel completely lost. Your message has given me a small boost of energy to get up and tackle at least one thing today. Thank you and May God bless you, your family, your health and your business. Hugs to you ❤
Hi, I’ve had days like this! For the life of me I can’t remember where I heard this advice but it had helped me. What is the one thing that if you don’t do, you will beat yourself up when you lay your head on a pillow and try to sleep tonight? It can be as simple as doing the dishes, taking a shower, making a phone call. Whatever that one thing is do it and forget about everything else. Small things are empowering and make a difference. Hope it helps!
@@julietidwell4947 That is beautiful! Thank you so much. ❤️
sadie always coming to rescue with right content!
Thank you for all of the research you do in your videos. I love them! So encouraging and motivating!
I'm so happy this video popped up in my feed. Currently studying for the LSATS. I have always been excited to study and do the questions. But lately am working on the Reading Comprehension section. This section is the hardest for me and I have been so hard on myself. To rewrite the narrative focus on progress vs perfection.
I have struggled with my self-confidence for as long as I can remember. I feel as though sometimes I self-sabotage by not allowing myself to actually be confident. I know how to, but I’m afraid that if I actually start to build myself up, somebody will bring me down again by judging me or making rude remarks. So I just stay self-conscious as a defense mechanism. I want to become so confident in myself that no judgements or remarks from anybody else will bring me down! This video helped me realize this so much!
I identify so much. I have been following you for years and I can relate to a lot of your content. Also the expat life and European culture. Thanks for your work
I am soo happy these videos are back! Reminds me of tea time Tuesdays!
Old follower ❤️
I have been feeling so tired and demotivated lately. Thank you for this
Sadia I love love your channel. Been following you since 2018, and you've inspired me in so many ways. Tea time Tuesdays is something I truly enjoy 😊😊😊 I always like a video even before watching a video, because I know it's going to a good video. Thank you 😊
So true, overthinking my goals and self-sabotaging!! I do that. Thank you Sadia for the wise words. I am working on myself.😁
Love you so much Sadia. You are the wind beneath my wings. Bless you dear. Keep soaring!
The video has come to me when I needed some sort of comfort. I have been dealing with some comment and ignorance from family who assume that I’m at fault always and don’t even bother to listen to my side of story or emotion. I had some hope but it was crushed. Now, I’m beginning to come to terms with the fact that you need to be there for yourself and never be dependent on others for any validation, emotional comfort. It sounds tough to accept that but it is how it is. Don’t sabotage yourself by thinking that you’re alone and no one’s there for you; you need to be there for yourself and know that the higher power is there with us.
Great timing 😊 Thank you Sadia for your peaceful, calming videos ❤
Thank you Sadia for this video. This is what I was in need today to pick myself up from sabotaging my life in recent weeks.
Great video and tip! Regarding your fitness goals - maybe the reason you’re uninspired is that you haven’t found the right activity for you? I hate regular exercises, but swing dancing and acroyoga give me so much joy!
I found this video very helpful. I’m also immensely grateful to my therapist ❤ Thank you, Sadia for the work you do.
I have had so much sabotage and resistance too, but tonight I posted my second UA-cam video and I loved the work !! One big motivation to change is that you want to create a life that you love! With that as motivation and a BELIEF that you can, obstacles dissolve much faster.
well, I was avoiding even watching this video because I was afraid of the truths I had to face. If that's not self-sabotaging what is... and I was so wrong, every video you post helps me so much. Thank you!
You hitting me with the right content at the right time, over and over again 🤭
Thanks. I really needed this one. It's almost 3 months, since I've started to look for electrician course, to change my carrier path. Nothing change, as I "never have time" to check it properly and actually committed to it 🤭 but I'm on my phone a lot, checking other things 🤦
I don't why but each and every vedio you make relate somehow to my current struggles.. I can't thank you enough for taking the effort of sharing your experience with us and showing us that we are not alone❤
Thank you for this great video, Sadia ❤️
And the reminder of rewriting your fears into what we are capable of. This video encourages me a lot
This is the stuff I already know in my mind, but it's always helpful to hear from the outside. I usually end up distracting myself or try to do too much at once to stall my progress. Challenging fears and turning them into something more motivating is great
I think my biggest fear is change, but it's also something I've recognized as something I want. I also remember relating a lot to both fear of failure and fear of success in my psychology classes. It's funny because it feels like they should be at odds, but they work together pretty well to stall me.
I'm reading "Atomic Habits". James Clear says the process is more important than the goal. When you reach a goal, you always have to set a new one. When you create a process, you become "that person" and then you're just moving forward, goal or not. I like that. My goal is to eat more plants and my underlying belief is that it's too much work. Watching your channel, I see I need to stop calling it "work". AHA! xo karen
I love these inspirational video from you (also the food videos obviously) - you're like the wise, calming sister I never had 💛
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Could relate to this video in so many ways! Thanks for making this Sadia