Blocking is temporarily but removing yourself is permanent, that why you still have feelings for her because you still want her validation. Your afraid of being alone and starting over, because she's the one who made the first move on you (ba go shetse) into this relationship, and that's because you don't have rizz mabrada. You hoping she'll come back 🤞. SimpsTendencies
Blocking is NOT closure!!! I know first hand. Closure would involve getting proper fucking answers. It's NOT leaving you in tattered pieces, coping with a weak ass coward move just to avoid dealing with negative feelings. Ideally it includes arriving at a mutual place of peace, and an understanding that breaking up is the best decision for BOTH of you. Being blocked will NEVER provide that.
FACTS... ghosting without a conversation or just a breakup text is a cowardly way out! That's not closure. Sometimes you won't get closure. I didn't with my situation. Sometimes you just gotta take the L, accept it and move on. Keep your dignity, chasing or seeking answers only hurts you more.
How in any way is it immature if I love a women with all my damn heart and she doesn’t wanna be together anymore why wouldn’t you just never look back this whole notion of trying to get back together is not good advice if someone hurt you once they’ll do it again and again and again
Not for me. I blocked him because he reached back out to me 6-7 months ago, led me on in that amount of time, and still couldnt commit after a year. I tried walking away once with NC, so I felt I had to do it this time. Its not being malicious, its giving me peace and keeps him away.
I blocked her because I can't give for free anymore...I don't want a friend...I don't want something obscured and undefined...I want to invest the love, care and treasures within my life's experiences towards someone who will love and appreciate that...and that she reciprocates that....so that we may grow towards building a strong lifelong love.
Now I’m blocked on everything for asking too many questions. He got really ugly nasty and disrespectful then blocked me everywhere else including phone.
@@Sandrahansim a dude and did exactly what you did. I text my then gf "it was cool while it lasted, take care" i said this out of frustration. She was always so busy and got a little distant ect. I didnt mean what i said and she said are you serious? Okay. I miss this woman so much, i really did love her. I realize i have an anxious attachment style. I did everything you shouldn't do. I called and textrd her daily and she ignored me. I sent her flowers on the 6th day after thr breakup and she blocked me after that. I miss this woman.
@@Sandrahans if he was acting distant, he was most likely already wanting the breakup. And you did the hard part, even though you didn't mean it. Now he can say the, "well, you broke up with me" bs.
I blocked him because of his past manipulation and cheating. Did I mention he was married? Also he has smeared my name bc I rejected him and yet my heart was still broken. Go figure. Maybe I’m just stupid and listened to the wrong people
I’m not blocked, just ignored when I bring up the possibility to talk about his trust issues from a past relationship that he used as a reason he couldn’t commit to me. His actions were as if he was committed but his communication was in the last few months terrible all because he forgot my birthday and felt guilty. He ghosts when he feels he’s fumbled even if I’m not all that upset about things. I take silence as closure. Yeah it hurts to feel dismissed and unimportant to someone who at one time chased you for 2yrs to date them. I’d love to sort things through, we have similar trust issues. Now that I’ve done the work on myself to understand my triggers and possible his, I know we could be intentional in how we communicate with one another. But I won’t hold my breath. Fun fact, they always come back! Usually when you’ve moved on and could care less. I’m pretty much there now. Hoping to find a man that isn’t afraid of WORDS. Who wants to live a life with a guy that can’t sit in the trenches with you?? Run Forrest RUN!
He contacted few days back for few mins we were on call and yesterday he blocked without any reason. next week he moving to another city. It's situationship for him . But I love him unconditionally. Entire day I was crying and this crying will continue. Without any reason he blocked me...do I deserve this, I am being punished for loving him....karma maybe .....but suffering is for real and heartache is so horrible. Need to carry a fake smile but inside I am dying. Closure is so important. Immature behaviour from a grown up man....
@@shaharyar4093 it's love and it's Beautifully messy, pain. Everybody not that lucky where love is cake walk. I love him unconditionally but it hurts. I pray for him. And wait for his call. Praying to universe...
Blocked her on everything cause last thing she said was to not contact her again.. told her that when I remove people from my life I do it without hesitation. She said it was ok.. and she was tempted to try someone else.. took the car I bought back and let her walk and blocked her on everything.
@@davidappiah223 No, not a word. I don't expect to hear from her again. Originally, she pitched friendship after she broke up with me, but I wanted to self-preserve by focusing on moving forward (even if I didn’t know what that looked like at the time) and myself. I wanted my dignity and not to cater to her. Why should she get her freedom from the relationship and still have me in her life? She chose to break us up rather than working through things, but it was my choice how I handled things. The mature thing was give her what she wanted, space and the breakup. She messaged me a few times in the weeks that followed, I politely and briefly replied but made sure she was initiating contact because it meant she was making effort. At a certain point, I realised she was triggering me because her contacting me didn’t allow either of us to process or heal; it was insensitive to me (there was also some Discord drama which may have contributed to why I haven’t heard from her we were staff members which was a highly triggering situation). I wanted to acknowledge both of our needs, so I told her that, I needed space (3-4 months), how that looked to me (figuring what I wanted, if I could accept such a low-ball offer, etc), that I hope she used her time to think things over, and I would be willing initiate contact when I was ready. After I rebuilt myself and was in a position to connect with her again 7 months later, she began to block and unfriended me on multiple platforms in the following weeks. I had discussed my plans with my therapist, whom I began seeing to help me cope with the breakup and moving on. My therapist concluded that it was because I reached out, that my ex lashed out. I do not regret keeping my distance, we could have ended up repeating our mistakes and denying each other a chance to grow. I worry that with the amount of time and space that has passed, she would have developed the mistaken belief that she didn’t matter. I view blocking as extremely immature, but for her, I also believe it was a form of self-preservation, a defence mechanism, and a way of feeling in control. What would have acknowledge both of us was if she said something simple, such as, "Hey, it's nice to hear from you, but I'm not ready to reconnect because X" or "Listen, I'm not interested in reconnecting, but I value what you brought to my life". I also believe she was ‘testing’ me (maybe to see if she meant anything to me), which I felt she had been doing throughout the relationship, I realise how unhealthy that is. When she last unfriended me around Valentine’s on Steam, I realised she is not likely going to change. She is either in a lot of pain (avoiding it) or she moved on, I doubt she took time to mourn the relationship or process to learn anything, pretty sure she avoided it. Ultimately, it doesn’t matter because she is not able to love me like I want to be loved. Life is hard; I don’t want someone who will run when it gets tough and I don’t think that she is capable of that, I want someone reliable. I realise she was doing her best and she was showing up, but she has a lot of trauma she needs to work through; I realise I have my own to face which I have been. Maybe with time, our communication skills would have matured. But, I can’t build my life on just ‘maybe’. Time will tell if we are able to reconnect, what that chapter looks like. We are different people now and I would be cautious with any interaction, so I wouldn’t jump back into a relationship with her but I would be open to it. I made a list of what I would want to see, so it doesn’t feel like the old relationship because it wasn’t working towards the end for either of us. Regardless if that ever happens, I will continue to focus on myself because I deserve to be the best version of me and I am the one constant in my life. If I become secure in myself, then I believe I will see that in my next relationship (be it with her or someone else) and improvements in other areas of my life. I believe energy I was wasting on someone who didn’t value it, is better invested in myself.
@@ImmortalChaos- well written. You've taken apart all of it and processed all the good and the bad. Now go all the way and move on and never look back. If she calls then and only then could you entertain that one day at a time.
Awww man well at least u b there for ur kids don’t care what happen to her unless ur kids are protected that all it matters relationships are hard to find and people are sad with no morals empathy this generation is gone completely gone
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I had an ex who used to make a new fake page every week watch and dm me & if she couldn’t dm bc I blocked the fake page she’d email me. They have this site where people can watch your stories anonymously I say the best bet is just private your page.
whats it mean if I am unblocked while watching TikTok videos seeing her account pop up all I was doing that moment was at lunch trying find something to watch as I ate my food
@@IamCoachCourt he did have a girlfriend, he stopped dating me to pursue her. He said she was cool with us being friends. I'm guessing after three months she wasn't cool anymore. I just never thought he would do that without saying sorry or goodbye. We got each other through hard times. I thought he respected me enough to tell me what was going on.
U r so freaking right, potna, only the immature and those that have poor communication skills, block folks, it's especially bs to block a non threatening person.....I'll never block a woman whom I told and show that I love her
@@babyluvjrMy ex blocked me just because I called him out on his sh**. I was no threat what so ever. It has been almost 2 months and I'm still blocked. His ex had the nerve to send me a friend request on Facebook. Don't know why she's trying to be my friend. He unblocked her and had her blocked since September until a few months ago. She claim she has a man that love and don't cheat on her. She claim her and my ex are just friends now. Yeah ok! Whatever the case is, they can have each other. Then this same ex told me she used to date another ex of mines. I don't know why my name would come up in her conversations. Smh. My ex claim he haven't spoke to her in 3 years. It hurt me real bad when I found out he unblocked his ex. I'm much better than when I first found out about it. I pray he's happy whoever he's with. God bless them both.
Blocking is for immature people, I just remove myself completely. I'll find closure and heal by myself.
Blocking is temporarily but removing yourself is permanent, that why you still have feelings for her because you still want her validation. Your afraid of being alone and starting over, because she's the one who made the first move on you (ba go shetse) into this relationship, and that's because you don't have rizz mabrada. You hoping she'll come back 🤞. SimpsTendencies
@@tumelotumie4567 rizz is for 16 year olds 😂
Never go back because new is always better
Dont go back! That one of the worse things. going back it gets worse. Just let it go and let God
This! I kept going back n it just made everything the absolute WORST.
@@DeemMeBeautiful I need your contact maybe we cry together 😢I feel so hopeless happened yesterday 😢
Do that really work to let god
@@Sandrahansso how have you been since?
@@Fllangees haha thanks for asking I’m now ok new amazing relationship
Blocking is NOT closure!!! I know first hand. Closure would involve getting proper fucking answers. It's NOT leaving you in tattered pieces, coping with a weak ass coward move just to avoid dealing with negative feelings. Ideally it includes arriving at a mutual place of peace, and an understanding that breaking up is the best decision for BOTH of you. Being blocked will NEVER provide that.
“Pain is inevitably, suffering is optional”
FACTS... ghosting without a conversation or just a breakup text is a cowardly way out! That's not closure. Sometimes you won't get closure. I didn't with my situation. Sometimes you just gotta take the L, accept it and move on. Keep your dignity, chasing or seeking answers only hurts you more.
@blackmambaqc88 you're a Godsend. Thank-you for that, I really needed that validation and insight. I'm sorry you had to deal with that b.s. too.
I hate to say it but blocking is closure enough for me. It simply means I'm not interested in you or I have someone else.
Blocking is a coward and immature behavior
if someone got so abusive,manipulative and toxic he/she deserves to be blocked so speak for yourself
@@jinsepiphany did a wasp sting you 😂
How in any way is it immature if I love a women with all my damn heart and she doesn’t wanna be together anymore why wouldn’t you just never look back this whole notion of trying to get back together is not good advice if someone hurt you once they’ll do it again and again and again
“COMPLAINING” about “blocking” on social media is coward and immature behavior. Unfriend/Block options are there for a reason cry baby.
Not for me. I blocked him because he reached back out to me 6-7 months ago, led me on in that amount of time, and still couldnt commit after a year. I tried walking away once with NC, so I felt I had to do it this time. Its not being malicious, its giving me peace and keeps him away.
I blocked her because I can't give for free anymore...I don't want a friend...I don't want something obscured and undefined...I want to invest the love, care and treasures within my life's experiences towards someone who will love and appreciate that...and that she reciprocates that....so that we may grow towards building a strong lifelong love.
Now I’m blocked on everything for asking too many questions. He got really ugly nasty and disrespectful then blocked me everywhere else including phone.
@@fliphens1 😭
@@Sandrahans that’s not insulting is it
@@Sandrahansim a dude and did exactly what you did. I text my then gf "it was cool while it lasted, take care" i said this out of frustration. She was always so busy and got a little distant ect. I didnt mean what i said and she said are you serious? Okay. I miss this woman so much, i really did love her. I realize i have an anxious attachment style. I did everything you shouldn't do. I called and textrd her daily and she ignored me. I sent her flowers on the 6th day after thr breakup and she blocked me after that. I miss this woman.
@@v36vhr what happened before you texted her the breakup?
@@Sandrahans if he was acting distant, he was most likely already wanting the breakup. And you did the hard part, even though you didn't mean it. Now he can say the, "well, you broke up with me" bs.
You right im.not chasing no one that dont want me i value myself I choose prime rib over ground beef
God bless you brother, amen
I love that. Blocking really is closure. (Not saying we should do it to others unless necessary and with an explanation.)
I blocked him because of his past manipulation and cheating. Did I mention he was married? Also he has smeared my name bc I rejected him and yet my heart was still broken. Go figure. Maybe I’m just stupid and listened to the wrong people
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Amen. Amen brother. Best advice is to use it as a gift to improve yourself. God knew you weren’t ready for that relationship. Time to become better.
I’m not blocked, just ignored when I bring up the possibility to talk about his trust issues from a past relationship that he used as a reason he couldn’t commit to me. His actions were as if he was committed but his communication was in the last few months terrible all because he forgot my birthday and felt guilty. He ghosts when he feels he’s fumbled even if I’m not all that upset about things. I take silence as closure. Yeah it hurts to feel dismissed and unimportant to someone who at one time chased you for 2yrs to date them. I’d love to sort things through, we have similar trust issues. Now that I’ve done the work on myself to understand my triggers and possible his, I know we could be intentional in how we communicate with one another. But I won’t hold my breath. Fun fact, they always come back! Usually when you’ve moved on and could care less. I’m pretty much there now. Hoping to find a man that isn’t afraid of WORDS. Who wants to live a life with a guy that can’t sit in the trenches with you?? Run Forrest RUN!
They’ve made a fake profile and are watching you every day
He contacted few days back for few mins we were on call and yesterday he blocked without any reason. next week he moving to another city. It's situationship for him . But I love him unconditionally. Entire day I was crying and this crying will continue. Without any reason he blocked me...do I deserve this, I am being punished for loving him....karma maybe .....but suffering is for real and heartache is so horrible. Need to carry a fake smile but inside I am dying. Closure is so important. Immature behaviour from a grown up man....
Why cry for someone who doesn’t love you? Don’t you deserve someone who loves you unconditionally as well?
@@shaharyar4093 it's love and it's Beautifully messy, pain. Everybody not that lucky where love is cake walk. I love him unconditionally but it hurts. I pray for him. And wait for his call. Praying to universe...
Facts I needed to hear
I really needed tht😊
THANKS AGAIN
Blocked her on everything cause last thing she said was to not contact her again.. told her that when I remove people from my life I do it without hesitation. She said it was ok.. and she was tempted to try someone else.. took the car I bought back and let her walk and blocked her on everything.
I have only blocked 3 people in my life … I never even considered un-blocking .. it wasn’t about my feelings… they were really Evil spirits…😮😮😮😮
Thanks for the message
Perfect!
She blocked me on everything after a year . . . I sent her a friendly text after 7 months . . .
Did she respond?
@@davidappiah223 No, not a word. I don't expect to hear from her again.
Originally, she pitched friendship after she broke up with me, but I wanted to self-preserve by focusing on moving forward (even if I didn’t know what that looked like at the time) and myself. I wanted my dignity and not to cater to her. Why should she get her freedom from the relationship and still have me in her life? She chose to break us up rather than working through things, but it was my choice how I handled things. The mature thing was give her what she wanted, space and the breakup. She messaged me a few times in the weeks that followed, I politely and briefly replied but made sure she was initiating contact because it meant she was making effort. At a certain point, I realised she was triggering me because her contacting me didn’t allow either of us to process or heal; it was insensitive to me (there was also some Discord drama which may have contributed to why I haven’t heard from her we were staff members which was a highly triggering situation). I wanted to acknowledge both of our needs, so I told her that, I needed space (3-4 months), how that looked to me (figuring what I wanted, if I could accept such a low-ball offer, etc), that I hope she used her time to think things over, and I would be willing initiate contact when I was ready.
After I rebuilt myself and was in a position to connect with her again 7 months later, she began to block and unfriended me on multiple platforms in the following weeks. I had discussed my plans with my therapist, whom I began seeing to help me cope with the breakup and moving on. My therapist concluded that it was because I reached out, that my ex lashed out. I do not regret keeping my distance, we could have ended up repeating our mistakes and denying each other a chance to grow. I worry that with the amount of time and space that has passed, she would have developed the mistaken belief that she didn’t matter.
I view blocking as extremely immature, but for her, I also believe it was a form of self-preservation, a defence mechanism, and a way of feeling in control. What would have acknowledge both of us was if she said something simple, such as, "Hey, it's nice to hear from you, but I'm not ready to reconnect because X" or "Listen, I'm not interested in reconnecting, but I value what you brought to my life". I also believe she was ‘testing’ me (maybe to see if she meant anything to me), which I felt she had been doing throughout the relationship, I realise how unhealthy that is. When she last unfriended me around Valentine’s on Steam, I realised she is not likely going to change. She is either in a lot of pain (avoiding it) or she moved on, I doubt she took time to mourn the relationship or process to learn anything, pretty sure she avoided it. Ultimately, it doesn’t matter because she is not able to love me like I want to be loved. Life is hard; I don’t want someone who will run when it gets tough and I don’t think that she is capable of that, I want someone reliable. I realise she was doing her best and she was showing up, but she has a lot of trauma she needs to work through; I realise I have my own to face which I have been. Maybe with time, our communication skills would have matured. But, I can’t build my life on just ‘maybe’.
Time will tell if we are able to reconnect, what that chapter looks like. We are different people now and I would be cautious with any interaction, so I wouldn’t jump back into a relationship with her but I would be open to it. I made a list of what I would want to see, so it doesn’t feel like the old relationship because it wasn’t working towards the end for either of us. Regardless if that ever happens, I will continue to focus on myself because I deserve to be the best version of me and I am the one constant in my life. If I become secure in myself, then I believe I will see that in my next relationship (be it with her or someone else) and improvements in other areas of my life. I believe energy I was wasting on someone who didn’t value it, is better invested in myself.
@@ImmortalChaos- well written. You've taken apart all of it and processed all the good and the bad. Now go all the way and move on and never look back. If she calls then and only then could you entertain that one day at a time.
I’m blocked on social media which is good. I would block her on my phone but we got kids together.
Awww man well at least u b there for ur kids don’t care what happen to her unless ur kids are protected that all it matters relationships are hard to find and people are sad with no morals empathy this generation is gone completely gone
@@yaasy77smart1 most definitely thank you
Why do I feel like she's watching me on social media I think she made a fake profile.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I had an ex who used to make a new fake page every week watch and dm me & if she couldn’t dm bc I blocked the fake page she’d email me. They have this site where people can watch your stories anonymously I say the best bet is just private your page.
One of the bad behavior that I don't want to be in again'
whats it mean if I am unblocked while watching TikTok videos seeing her account pop up all I was doing that moment was at lunch trying find something to watch as I ate my food
We were doing great as just friends for 3 months. Then with no explanation he blocked me.
Someone else in his life?
@@IamCoachCourt he did have a girlfriend, he stopped dating me to pursue her. He said she was cool with us being friends. I'm guessing after three months she wasn't cool anymore. I just never thought he would do that without saying sorry or goodbye. We got each other through hard times. I thought he respected me enough to tell me what was going on.
@@melaniemanning2462 I’m sorry 😕
@@IamCoachCourt thank you, I appreciate your personal empathy
I want my ex and only her. 😢
one thing he left out, if you were blocked because of something you did, then you do need to do everything you can to reach out and contact them.
Yea dude blocked me cause he said I was blowing up his phone
lol what in the toxic. I had to read this twice.
My ex wife blocked me on everything only times she unblocks me is when she needs something
Leave your ex wife and never look back.
Thank you
He talked to me told me have a great weekend than blocked me right after. Why?
She unblocked me already ( sudden miss calls)
I’m the blocker. I had to block for my healing process.
But she was my dream, my type...
Blocking is good for people who know that person isn’t good for them and catch on to their bs. I block people.
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It’s not easy to date women or make them happy gosh
😂little kid stuff
U r so freaking right, potna, only the immature and those that have poor communication skills, block folks, it's especially bs to block a non threatening person.....I'll never block a woman whom I told and show that I love her
@BeautyQueen2023X if they're a threat, possible harm ,then yes but other than that, why block? Just roll on....
@@babyluvjrMy ex blocked me just because I called him out on his sh**. I was no threat what so ever. It has been almost 2 months and I'm still blocked. His ex had the nerve to send me a friend request on Facebook. Don't know why she's trying to be my friend. He unblocked her and had her blocked since September until a few months ago. She claim she has a man that love and don't cheat on her. She claim her and my ex are just friends now. Yeah ok! Whatever the case is, they can have each other. Then this same ex told me she used to date another ex of mines. I don't know why my name would come up in her conversations. Smh. My ex claim he haven't spoke to her in 3 years. It hurt me real bad when I found out he unblocked his ex. I'm much better than when I first found out about it. I pray he's happy whoever he's with. God bless them both.